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| 4 | What is the best plan of action when someone comes at you overly angry and tries to force their agenda on you?Seems pretty defensive and reactional though | /r/askTRP | 05/02/20 11:24 AM |
| 1 | How do you react to someone who calls you out when you're somewhat wrong in a situation, but they try to use that mistake as leverage as a way to be entitled and commanding over you and push their agenda on you?How would you have responded in a situation with a person with clearly violent-tendencies and bulging red eyes staring at you expectantly while posing accusatory questions. It seems like disengaging them or actively ignoring them poses more immediate danger because they're on edge. Better to de-escalate, then move on afterwards. | /r/askTRP | 04/02/20 09:19 AM |
| 1 | How do you react to someone who calls you out when you're somewhat wrong in a situation, but they try to use that mistake as leverage as a way to be entitled and commanding over you and push their agenda on you?How did you come to that conclusion? | /r/askTRP | 04/02/20 08:47 AM |
| 1 | How do you tactfully indicate for someone not to touch you with your body language?So you think the manly and socially calibrated thing to do in this situation is for him to yell "don't touch me!" when she does this? https://youtu.be/eoJ7Zk9SIqM?t=31 | /r/askTRP | 27/01/20 04:47 PM |
| 1 | How do you tactfully indicate for someone not to touch you with your body language?So you think the manly and socially calibrated thing to do in this situation is for him to yell "don't touch me!" when she does this? https://youtu.be/eoJ7Zk9SIqM?t=31 | /r/askTRP | 27/01/20 04:47 PM |
| 1 | How do you tactfully indicate for someone not to touch you with your body language?I'm thinking of a situation where you're in a classroom and someone is patting you on the back or touching you before you set a boundary, and you're not cool with it because you don't know them like that. Saying "stop" is always an option, but doing a shoulder roll and showing disinterest or whatever else to indicate "fuck off" indirectly in that situation is likely more tactful. So I'm looking for other ways to be subtle with it unless it's absolutely necessary not to be. | /r/askTRP | 27/01/20 03:12 AM |
| 1 | How do you realistically create your own reality for someone to come into and find value in, if you already have a mission and you lift, but outside of that, it's pretty bland?looks like you have it all figured out | /r/askTRP | 21/01/20 03:31 PM |
| 0 | How do you realistically create your own reality for someone to come into and find value in, if you already have a mission and you lift, but outside of that, it's pretty bland?what was the point of this? | /r/askTRP | 21/01/20 03:30 PM |
| – | Leading the conversation to a topic you dominate on your first approach. Have any of you guys tried this?Interesting. Do you have an example? I worry that having the same tone constantly would come off as needy & tryhard. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 01:55 AM |
| 3 | Have you guys found that going on a date with someone who has a crush on you is literally 10x easier?Fair point | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 09:42 AM |
| – | Have you guys found that going on a date with someone who has a crush on you is literally 10x easier?I'm surprised you know my name. Well then where I can find the shit I'm looking for? | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 05:05 AM |
| – | If you can't do social circle game as an introvert, is it possible to get status by being friends with extroverts with connections?Thanks for the advice. Unfortunately, the issue is that I've tested the "hard way" over a long time and nothing's worked. Either (1) I fade out OR to compensate and play the game after fading out (2) I force it and become the follower who mimicks everyone and plays the clown, which is even worse. Neither is authentic, enjoyable, or ideal. So that's why I'm in this situation. Like with the amount of attempts, self-work, and real life experiences I feel qualified enough to say that some people are… | /r/seduction | 25/12/19 12:27 PM |
| 1 | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".I've been on that to get better but so far the best I managed was to be myself, which means my pool of friends is limited, and social hierarchy applies less because your personality provides a value of its own and you say whatever you want and even if its some weird shit, the other person is a weirdo too because they're being vulnerable, so fuck it. For flirting I'm in the middle of trying to do the same shit too. It's basically knowing what stupidity you can get away with when pushing someones'… | /r/seduction | 23/12/19 05:29 AM |
| – | Continuously work to be the best version of yourself. That way, if a chick or a guy are being stuck-up to you for broadcasting the best version of yourself of today, you'll know it's their problem and not yours. Fuck'em. Keep doing you and improving and building your world.You're right. Calibration is important. Just because those people don't matter to your goals, you can still give the baseline level of empathy | /r/seduction | 19/12/19 03:43 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".While on LSD, you're better off using it to just feel out your emotions, read your friends, and think about your life and purpose. If you want, when you're coming down from the trip, take a car to a restaurant in the area and go out to eat and observe the people there. When I was coming down from my trip, I literally gave zero fucks and could read everyone intuitively. Someone who's stressed or hiding sadness, someone who's innocent, someone who's empathetic etc. While high though, you can go ou… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Continuously work to be the best version of yourself. That way, if a chick or a guy are being stuck-up to you for broadcasting the best version of yourself of today, you'll know it's their problem and not yours. Fuck'em. Keep doing you and improving and building your world.Improve what you can and accept what you're dealt with. Life isn't fair unfortunately. You could still get with ugly chicks as a basic ugly dude, or better options if you have HIGH value in other aspects. Cosmetic surgery is an option, but more of a last resort. You also need to be really self-aware to know if you're doing it for success in life or just to get ass. There's a big difference. | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 09:52 PM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".A cabin in a secluded place with nature and maybe netflix just in case you're feeling overwhelmed and want to laugh and chill out, preferably with a group of friends you trust. That's the ideal. You could try an airbnb trip with friends. | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 09:00 PM |
| 2 | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".You pretty much summarized models by Mark Manson. Improve your value continuously (looks, money, status). Looks aren't just the face, it could be your style and body. Money is self-evident but it's more about the experiences you offer and the natural confidence and freedom that comes with it. Status is just about being known in a social group, your city, or just about anywhere else that's relevant to your target market. This is done by increasing your social skills, and also by increase your soc… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 12:21 PM |
| 3 | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Odds of a fuck up are low with a good surgeon. There's retouching or possible complications with a 5-10% chance of happening. But these are the minor ones which are reversible. The bad ones are like 0.1% chance. Really low. That's why you save up enough money just in case. Everything you do in life has a minor risk. Are you going to avoid everything? Also a genioplasty and rhinoplasty done reasonably aren't noticeable that you did work. It's fillers and tons of botches surgeries and body dismorp… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 12:03 PM |
| 5 | Dancing with girls at clubs then hooking upOverthinking it will kill shit. You can try it, but it's not worth it if you want to permanently be successful. You can approach if you don't get an IOI, but your odds are WAY lower. It's better to do this only if you're already experienced, because you don't want to build a negative rejection loop. If a girl is attracted to your NGAF attitude, she'll make it known. She'll either get within a few m of you without any context for why she'd do that, she'll smile at you, or she hold eye contact wit… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 10:04 AM |
| 1 | It's Not What You Say It's Where You're Coming FromThis is very important. Saved | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Seducing an older guyThis is the wrong subreddit and so much context is missing from this. He might be a single dad, but the dude might want someone his age or who might be more mature to take care of his kids. People are different and value different things though, guys and girls included. He might want a younger chick, who knows. If you just want to smash though, that shouldn't be impossible, but nothing's guaranteed. Just make it REALLY obvious that you want to smash and dress really slutty. But it would be stran… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 09:34 AM |
| – | Dancing with girls at clubs then hooking upStep 1: Dress well to feel well. Step 2: Go to club. Step 3: Speak to random people. Charge up your social engine. Step 4: You're now warmed up. Go dance you sexy beast. Have fun. You're the MC in a VR dance room. Step 5: You're pumped, socially charged, and feel sexy. You're also giving less of a fuck what people think. Step 6: Do a quick look around. If a chick makes eye contact for more than 2 seconds or smiles at you, don't think. Move your feet towards them and improvise. Step 7: If you get… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 09:25 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".(3) If a girl you're on a date with says something really disrespectful in a serious tone like "this is why I fucking hate black guys. you must have a single mom. do you even know your dad's name?". Are you going to tolerate that bs for sex and continue trying to "game her", or are you going to respect yourself and set a boundary and/or excuse yourself and remove yourself from the toxic situation? (4) Approaching more women means more chances of success and also improves your level of comfort ar… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 05:54 AM |
| 2 | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Here are some outlets that helped me cope with reality: making music, writing novels, exercising, showering and blasting music, going for a walk outside and thinking about your situation and your purpose, writing improv or comedy, a blog etc. They can also help you with money too possibly. If the issue is REALLY bad, therapy can help, but nothing's guaranteed. If the loneliness is crushing af, then it's fine to cave a bit and smoke some weed and go for a walk and listen to music and just think a… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 05:33 AM |
| 3 | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".You're not going to build a connection with every woman, and not every woman is going to be a sexually attracted to you, regardless of what you do. And that's fine. Once again it depends on what success means to you. If you want to have sex once a month, or get into a relationship, then go for it. If you want it regularly, then you won't be satisfied. And if once a year is enough for you, then you'll feel like you have plenty. Everyone has a different sex drive and different wants/needs. You hav… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 05:26 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".It's not going to make life all sunshine and rainbows, but it's not like you can change your situation. Might as well accept it and do what you can with what you've got. It's not productive at all. Just coping. If complaining about it online helps you, I mean go for it. But, if you bring that energy to your actual relationships with people where it matters, no one's going to want to be around you. It'll become a self-hate self-fulfilling cycle. | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 05:04 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".I'm curious why it's so intriguing to you. I agree, you can definitely increase your success rate over time, but if you're talking about day game, 80/95% success rates is unheard of, even by the best PUAs. Even Mystery wasn't getting success rates like that, and he's considered one of the most successful PUAs, who was also mainly doing night game. If a success for you is a date or a number, then maybe. But if you're talking about a lay, then anything above 50% is really pushing it and likely bs … | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 05:01 AM |
| 2 | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".For sure. That's what I did. I advise against getting lost in it though. Like maybe dedicate a month to theory, then 3 months to not giving a fuck and just existing and action. From personal experience at least, over-focusing on theory literally made me insecure about things I was never insecure about before. It also made me more aware of things too. Insecurity and awareness vs. NGAF and less awareness. It's like pick your poison. If you can spare giving a fuck about something for a period of ti… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 04:53 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".I said I'd stop answering, but I relate too much to your plight. If you have free time, look into stoicism. It should help you a lot. | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 04:50 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Exactly. That's why it's so fun to smoke a joint, listen to music, and just walking around downtown and observe people. It sounds simple as hell and a bit risky, but it helps so much in terms of learning how to notice subtle things and also how to be your own parent. It's like that sort of treatment method where you give small doses of poison to increase your resistance, except in this case it's getting out of your comfort zone so that you can learn to let go and be present. | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 04:01 AM |
| 1 | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Good luck man. Literally you're only competing with yourself. | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 03:56 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".And why does someone else's higher success rate bother you? They're them and you're you. | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 03:52 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Jeez, man. Shit's looking tough. Yeah I'm not going to act like your situation is going to get any better. On the bright side though, it can't get any worse than where you're at. All you have is up. Personally, I'm okay with necking at 60, so that gives me the cope to try shit out and do whatever the fuck I want. If I don't accomplish anything, whether I neck now, or in 40 years, it's the same end result anyways. Might as well take the risk. Plus, we really don't know what happens after death. N… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 03:48 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".That's a tough question because it comes from experience. The best thing you can do is find an empath. Their EQ is high AF. They literally can feel your emotions because of their mirror neurons and can intuitively know what you actually need or might be thinking. This makes them confident in their actions socially. This literally is the peak of "game". They're the perfect marker of a highly socially calibrated person. First, observe them for a while and see how they treat others before mimicking… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 03:43 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".When you take LSD, it makes you super present to the moment and heightens your senses and how deeply you experience emotions. Everything is amplified. Your intuition is heightened. Fuck all that woo-woo "enlightenment" bullshit. What's great about it (and shrooms does this too), is that it makes you see the world the same way an animal would in the wild. You become hyper-aware of danger, your surroundings, and what's going on in your body. So if you weren't someone with high EQ and you took LSD … | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 03:31 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Do you bro. I've wasted enough energy. | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 03:27 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Maybe I’m the one who lives in a suburb 1.5hrs from downtown core each way to save on rent, have nothing going on around me, and when I asked my city’s subreddit what can I do to start enjoying any nightlife, they overwhelmingly told me to move downtown. I'm only saying this out of having been in this position before. What you're doing right now is rationalizing why it's hard to get laid by blaming your circumstances and playing victim. Okay, you're short. Okay, you live in the sub-urbs. Now wha… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 03:23 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Well that's what you're dealt with. Sales 101. If you have an arguably inferior product, you learn how to market it better, and it will take more effort and more attempts to make a sale. Other than maximizing looks, you'll have to approach more. Life isn't fair. Is approaching 50 women to get 1 lay worth it to you? That's up to you. Personally, the rush from taking the risk and putting myself in a situation to approach makes me so confident, even if I get blown out. I feel pumped to do shit for … | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 03:14 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Pretty much. Most of the shit I've learned that actually was useful was from CharismaOnCommand (even though he does those weird expressive gestures, he gives solid advice), a few book summaries on youtube, and then taking LSD and just observing people. Reading people gets easy the more you do it and becomes natural, but people get lost in the sauce. Like some idiots giving creepy stare downs thinking they're holding frame. Or others will try to over-read things and become insecure and uncomforta… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 03:05 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Of course looks matter. But once you've maximized your looks, it is a numbers game. What are you disagreeing with? | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 02:56 AM |
| – | After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach".Of course. It depends what type of chick you want. Average looking guys can pull good quality girls in terms of character, but it'll likely be average looking chicks. If an average looking guy pulls a hot chick, either the guy has something big going on for them in terms of status in the group or in general, or she's just insecure and you happened to take the risk. From experience, that's at least been the case for me. In terms of body, it's actually not that hard to maximize it with lifting 3 t… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 02:53 AM |
| 2 | I'm a dick now, but I don't know if it's the good kind from a place of self-respect and authenticity or the bad kind from a place of being blunt to the point of being mean.I appreciate the suggestion. Seems a bit overt though and lacking in social EQ. Like if someone said that I still would respect what they're asking for, but I'd also know that they suck at conveying information through action and that they need to vocalize everything so I can't trust their non-verbals. | /r/seduction | 15/12/19 03:39 AM |
| – | I'm a dick now, but I don't know if it's the good kind from a place of self-respect and authenticity or the bad kind from a place of being blunt to the point of being mean.Would you want a friend who is inconsiderate enough to always complain every time you meet up? | /r/seduction | 13/12/19 10:17 PM |
| 1 | I'm a dick now, but I don't know if it's the good kind from a place of self-respect and authenticity or the bad kind from a place of being blunt to the point of being mean.This makes things more clear actually. Thanks | /r/seduction | 13/12/19 10:16 PM |
| – | I'm a dick now, but I don't know if it's the good kind from a place of self-respect and authenticity or the bad kind from a place of being blunt to the point of being mean.Do you have an example of a better way I could have worded that? | /r/seduction | 13/12/19 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Is there such thing as permanent inner high self-esteem and confidence, or is confidence/self-esteem always based on consistent actions & circumstances that renew your levels and boost them back up (and if you stop them, they'll go back down)?So let's say you have an injury and are bedridden for months. You can't lift anymore, and you can't maintain your same old social life. Will you lose your confidence and have a lower self-esteem? | /r/askTRP | 11/12/19 05:39 AM |
| 3 | Girlfriend told me she doesn't like sex.Good point. If he tries doing that it'll just be him waiting it out for sex with her, which is still toxic. Honestly though, he just needs to see that there are better options, so he'll come around to realizing it's a waste of time | /r/askTRP | 09/12/19 05:13 PM |
| 1 | The line between "alpha" and "beta": Ultimatum vs. Boundary. Being Sensitive vs. Being Assertive. How do you guys tell the difference?This was really helpful. Thank you | /r/askTRP | 09/12/19 07:01 AM |
| 1 | When you improve yourself so much, do your standards get unrealistically high?6'0 | /r/askTRP | 09/12/19 06:58 AM |
| 9 | Girlfriend told me she doesn't like sex.The logical answer here would be plate or hard next, and is probably what most are going to say here, but what do YOU want? Do you want sex? You have to be honest with yourself. This chick seems either batshit crazy or is just genuinely asexual. Did you last those 5 months without sex because you were waiting until you could get it, or did you actually not care about sex in the first place? I think that's important to ask. Who knows, maybe you're asexual too. Assuming that you're a male with a h… | /r/askTRP | 09/12/19 12:33 AM |
| 3 | When you improve yourself so much, do your standards get unrealistically high?I wonder if it's still possible to do now with the age of the internet and social media, but I wish you the best. | /r/askTRP | 09/12/19 12:19 AM |
| 21 | When you improve yourself so much, do your standards get unrealistically high?I'm wondering if marrying a chick who is 18-20 would ever be a good idea though, just based on priorities. Unless you guys were Muslim and your entire community, environment, and way of life was based around that since birth. I could be wrong here, but Christianity doesn't seem as tight-knit when it comes to dealing with that. If they settle at that age, they'll either hold resentment in their later 20s, or have a mid-life crisis and sleep around and completely switch their personality. Guys can… | /r/askTRP | 08/12/19 11:52 PM |
| 6 | When you improve yourself so much, do your standards get unrealistically high?Before: Not too long ago I was 260 pounds and was okay with losing a bit of weight by eating less, so I could be around 220-230. I was okay with settling for some ugly fat chick and have sex once in a while here or there. I also didn't know what was attractive in girls and guys. I just followed what people said. At my peak shape, I'm an average looking dude, so when I was fat, it was way below average. I straight up looked like a potato. I also had high prescription glasses that made my eyes loo… | /r/askTRP | 08/12/19 11:45 PM |
| 2 | The line between "alpha" and "beta": Ultimatum vs. Boundary. Being Sensitive vs. Being Assertive. How do you guys tell the difference?This was genuinely great advice. I appreciate it | /r/askTRP | 08/12/19 09:30 PM |
| 1 | What underlying behaviors do you guys use to calibrate to a socially natural level or handle attacks to your frame using mainly body language? I know about A&A and all those other tricks, and already use them, but I'm seeing a lot of potential with body language.Unfortunately there's no one perfect attempt to come out on top. Sometimes, you'll get fucked. But here's what you can do. The first example was just the guy being a straight up idiot and pissing someone off. That's more a matter of you making sure your friend group and people you hang out with aren't full on cockblocks or will drag you down. You mentioned it being in a line so you came with them, it's not like it's someone you just met at the club. Sometimes, you're going to be around shitty pe… | /r/askTRP | 08/12/19 07:27 PM |
| 4 | What underlying behaviors do you guys use to calibrate to a socially natural level or handle attacks to your frame using mainly body language? I know about A&A and all those other tricks, and already use them, but I'm seeing a lot of potential with body language.Gelatin -> Pork -> Islam | /r/askTRP | 08/12/19 06:57 PM |
| 1 | I've been doing really well in the sense that I've been in my own lane & doing my own thing but now as I'm getting better at interacting, I'm noticing more & more how fucking clueless & manipulative people are, and I'm starting to get resentful, defensive, & not want to fuck with people. Any advice?Been there, done that. I know in my post I mentioned being drained and resentful, but I still meet up with people and stay positive. What's pretty aids is how my therapist literally just encouraged me to continue meditating and practice using emotional outlets and indicated that all the issues I mentioned are issues everyone faces and that I've been going above and beyond most people in tackling them. He didn't even know the grey rock method that you're supposed to use with narcissists. A lot of… | /r/askTRP | 08/12/19 05:36 AM |
| 6 | What underlying behaviors do you guys use to calibrate to a socially natural level or handle attacks to your frame using mainly body language? I know about A&A and all those other tricks, and already use them, but I'm seeing a lot of potential with body language.Lmao don't read into it too much, I'm genuinely curious about why he thinks that | /r/askTRP | 08/12/19 05:30 AM |
| 3 | What underlying behaviors do you guys use to calibrate to a socially natural level or handle attacks to your frame using mainly body language? I know about A&A and all those other tricks, and already use them, but I'm seeing a lot of potential with body language.I see. Would you mind explaining why you think that's the case? | /r/askTRP | 08/12/19 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Day 5 of approaching: finally did it boys!I feel like having good past experiences and awareness of what not to do in real-time probably helps, but it's good to hear that the satisfaction will always be there | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Day 5 of approaching: finally did it boys!Thanks, I'll give that a shot | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 04:50 AM |
| – | Day 5 of approaching: finally did it boys!That might be the case. I'm thinking of starting off the interaction offering value and THEN pushing her to continue the interaction. Dude I don't fucking understand though. Like I pussied out from telling her I was attracted to her, but the eye contact was on point and she was literally shy while I was leading. Like it's so fucking shocking to see this in person. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 04:24 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys incorporate approaching into your daily schedule? I literally feel like I need one "off day" from socialising in general, every other day. Like one day for hard-core work without distractions, and then another day for more laid back work, along with tons of socialising.I get your point but I'm asking more about being balanced. Wouldn't it be better to do a balance of these things regularly? I feel like it might be unhealthy to be on and off every other day. Thought it'd be good to get insight from other people | /r/askTRP | 29/11/19 11:06 PM |
| 1 | I have a dorky teasing comedy that isn't typical of the "mysterious introverted type" or any high smv type in general. But it's my natural state when I'm at home, allows me to self-amuse, and gets me and others in a fun/happy mood. Is it worth it to let that out?Nice. Now would you mind answering the question? | /r/askTRP | 27/11/19 06:11 AM |
| 1 | So I'm exchanging advice with some chicks about something, and if they're being selfish af once they get their help and try ghosting, I send them this. 80% of the time, they respond back with a hurried "sorry", and give back detailed advice because I put their ego on display.So if someone is being a POS you just ignore/dread them? Like what if your best friend was being a dickhead? Would this same logic apply? Wouldn't you want to check them first | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 03:18 PM |
| 0 | So I'm exchanging advice with some chicks about something, and if they're being selfish af once they get their help and try ghosting, I send them this. 80% of the time, they respond back with a hurried "sorry", and give back detailed advice because I put their ego on display.There's missing context here but I can see how it'd look that way. Looks like I need to be less wordy with my boundaries. I usually don't help others with expectations of anything in return, but in this scenario it was transactional. People can't be trusted though it seems, so it's all good | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 03:15 PM |
| 1 | So I'm exchanging advice with some chicks about something, and if they're being selfish af once they get their help and try ghosting, I send them this. 80% of the time, they respond back with a hurried "sorry", and give back detailed advice because I put their ego on display.I appreciate this. This isn't for some relationship shit. Just scummy behaviour from someone online who I was trying to put in check. But it looks like the same shit applies when you're helping people in general. I won't help others or put myself in a situation of wasting my time on people until they help first because I can only trust myself not to be the POS in the situation. | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 03:15 PM |
| 1 | So I'm exchanging advice with some chicks about something, and if they're being selfish af once they get their help and try ghosting, I send them this. 80% of the time, they respond back with a hurried "sorry", and give back detailed advice because I put their ego on display.This is actually really good advice. I treated them like dudes because I don't care to do shit online. I was just calling out scummy behavior. But it looks like next time I'll get them to help first because I can trust myself not to be the POS in the situation. They're definitely not worth that much writing | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 03:13 PM |
| 1 | So I'm exchanging advice with some chicks about something, and if they're being selfish af once they get their help and try ghosting, I send them this. 80% of the time, they respond back with a hurried "sorry", and give back detailed advice because I put their ego on display.It was advice for something online. It wasn't about them being chicks, it could have been a dude. There's no business trying to get into a long distance relationship online. It's the most autistic shit, personally. I sent her that in the same way I would have sent that to a guy who was being a dickhead. What do you send your guy friends who do some scummy shit? That's why I sent that. Do you not call out a guy being a dickhead online? | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 03:11 PM |
| – | I've been learning about non-verbals but this specific one just rubs me the wrong way. People who do this shit automatically get on my "tryhard with ulterior motives" list. Because who's raised doing this? Eye contact & crossing legs has open deniability, but this is OBVIOUS. Is it even worth doing?The question is about the picture attached below. The fingers connected together and palms open to signal power. Or the palms open with fingers out on a table for dominance when you're trying to lead (ex. in a meeting). I see this when I network pretty regularly, and it gives me red flags. I was wondering if others get the same vibe from this specific type of non-verbal. That way I can decide whether to adopt it or ignore it. | /r/seduction | 18/11/19 09:13 AM |
| 1 | I Don't Know What To Make of This. Some Beta Male ShitDo you bro | /r/askTRP | 17/11/19 12:30 PM |
| 6 | Besides lifting, what tips do you have for a guy that has an unimaginably low self-esteem?lmao take my upvote | /r/askTRP | 17/11/19 08:56 AM |
| 4 | I Don't Know What To Make of This. Some Beta Male ShitLife isn't a a constant 1 v. 1 with everyone. "Losing your girl?". Seriously? Talk about attaching to the outcome. This is the opposite of being outcome independent. Doing this will make you ego driven and lose sight of who you are. Just because a chick wants to fuck (in this case it was just a flirty comment so not even an indication of much) doesn't mean you have to oblige if it doesn't match with your values or if you don't want to. Not fucking her doesn't make you "beta" or gay. It just mean… | /r/askTRP | 17/11/19 08:46 AM |
| 1 | When it comes to frame, when is it necessary to be angry? I have a BPD sister and I'm starting to understand why I've developed such a lack of self-respect and had to work so hard to get to this point.I've exploded at her before back in the day (rare but happened) and that's feeding into what she wants. She wants to mess with your ego. You literally can't win with these people. Soul sucking zombies man. I've trying the grey rock method and just flipping things onto her using frame. | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 12:00 AM |
| – | I will give myself 2-3 hours, 3 times a week to approach. Whatever happens, happens but I will push myself to my limits little by little. I will sit in the discomfort.That could be the case but so what? You're literally a consciousness projecting a reality. You follow your own path and make the best of what you got. So what if someone else has it better? Should the people who lived as peasants 2000 years ago kill themselves because we have it 100x better than they ever did? So I don't see the point of your comment. With all due respect, it just sounds like you're trying to project negative vibes to others as a way to feel better about yourself and cope with y… | /r/seduction | 07/11/19 05:12 AM |
| – | Day 2: I'm going to do my first 3 legit approaches, wish me luckMakes sense. I'm just going to keep putting in the work and seeing what happens. Thanks for this | /r/seduction | 07/11/19 05:08 AM |
| 3 | Should I use my feminine energy to get over my approach anxiety before incorporating the more masculine aspects? I'll still have confidence and boundaries and self-respect, I just mean coming from a more empathetic angle. Because the forced approach has been flopping a lot.I appreciate the advice but I'm not doing it back to back. 2 hours, 3 times a week. Treating it like a muscle I'm exercising for the first time. I'm doing it to get rid of parts of my social anxiety when it comes to women and dudes with high SMV. Anyone else? No issue. I'm trying to fine-tune myself and evolve past my anxieties and accept discomfort. | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Should I use my feminine energy to get over my approach anxiety before incorporating the more masculine aspects? I'll still have confidence and boundaries and self-respect, I just mean coming from a more empathetic angle. Because the forced approach has been flopping a lot.Good point. Guess I just need to give it a shot. Better than where I'm at now. I'm doing my 3rd day of approaching tomorrow and I didn't want to go in incorrectly. But better incorrect than not go at all | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 07:54 AM |
| 2 | Tomorrow is my 3rd day cold approaching. The first two days were flops. Any suggestions to do it naturally without being creepy? I've watched some vids, but as someone who already has to use all his inner power to get a semi-loud voice in a moment of pressure like that, I'm at a loss.I appreciate this. I've been over-thinking it a lot. I'll just keep the conversation genuine and express some sort of interest and see how that goes. My fear of over-playing the genuine game is that I'm empathetic and so I feel like I'll be a light post for broken women. I'm average looking so I see that being my biggest value for now, until my SMV and social skills increase. The empathetic game is also longer and more for relationships but it looks like those are the chips I'm dealt | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 06:20 AM |
| 2 | Tomorrow is my 3rd day cold approaching. The first two days were flops. Any suggestions to do it naturally without being creepy? I've watched some vids, but as someone who already has to use all his inner power to get a semi-loud voice in a moment of pressure like that, I'm at a loss.Already on it. I'll give that throat clearing thing a shot though, thanks | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 04:45 AM |
| – | Day 2: I'm going to do my first 3 legit approaches, wish me luckSo the goal is to get rid of that first | /r/seduction | 05/11/19 08:48 AM |
| 2 | I will give myself 2-3 hours, 3 times a week to approach. Whatever happens, happens but I will push myself to my limits little by little. I will sit in the discomfort.I'll check it out, thanks | /r/seduction | 05/11/19 04:25 AM |
| 2 | Mentally and theoretically I have abundance, but my body hasn't adapted to all my knowledge. The anxiety is the issue.That's the thing. With tinder when I used it two months ago, I actually got a few matches within the week that I used it, and talked to two chicks consistently where the convos went allright, but I pussied out to escalate into a date (at that period in time). I don't want to keep making excuses to face my fears by hiding behind social media or booze. But it's like I can't believe that as an average-looking dude that I'll get any success, even though there's evidence to the contrary (from back in… | /r/askTRP | 05/11/19 03:40 AM |
| 1 | Day 2 of approaching: Flop of a day, failed at approaching, lessons learnedThese make sense. I've had in the back of the mind to do these but I was trying to go extreme in directness because I push myself in the shy zone and fake it to avoid tension which is retarded so I thought I'd go direct mode and be open with my sexuality without being TOO open about it. But at this point, baby steps. It might be easier to do a simple approach about the current circumstances and go from there, even if it puts me in the "shy" position. The less discomfort, the more I can tweak mys… | /r/seduction | 05/11/19 02:42 AM |
| – | Day 2 of approaching: Flop of a day, failed at approaching, lessons learnedHere's an issue I have. For example, if I drop a water bottle or trip over myself in public, I no longer feel awkward about it like I used to when I was younger (I'm 21M). I can let it happen without getting embarrassed about it or feeling awkward. Totally cool. But even if I count to 3 and go approach the girl, I'll say hey, and then my mind just goes fucking blank. All the knowledge, normal way I speak to family and everything else goes out the door. It's like my English translator in my brain… | /r/seduction | 05/11/19 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Day 2 of approaching: Flop of a day, failed at approaching, lessons learnedBonus ego crusher because why not: In high school I had girls ask me out (5 years ago) but I was too much of a pussy to accept or if we went on a date I'd just be anxious the whole time so I cockblocked myself non-stop. One girl literally told me in person: "I like you a lot. You want to go somewhere alone?" and I pussied out. I'm still beating myself up for it now because I just need to throw myself into the water and learn to swim. But the jump is killing me dude. Now it's no opportunities com… | /r/seduction | 05/11/19 02:11 AM |
| – | Day 2: I'm going to do my first 3 legit approaches, wish me luckWell jeez thanks. How motivational. As an average looking guy, I'm going to delete this comment from my mind and approach anyways lmao | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 09:48 PM |
| – | Day 2: I'm going to do my first 3 legit approaches, wish me luckGood shit. Ngl I'm pussying out rn but I'm forcing myself to do this so I can get rid of my social anxiety. Just pumping myself up and staying in the tension. My biggest issue is facing tension | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 09:21 PM |
| 1 | I feel like a schedule like this would be realistic and challenging enough to allow me to improve, while focusing on the most important aspects. Thoughts or insights? Overwhelming? Underwhelming?I appreciate this but yeah I'm not thinking to do that. Basically gym 3 times a week, meditate regularly when I wake up (same time as when I shower), and then focus on classes, projects, and approaching. Everything else is if I can do it, and if it benefits those other things. How did you crash? | /r/askTRP | 04/11/19 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Did you guys actually benefit from cold-approaching (in terms of confidence, or how you approach other aspects of your life)? Like be 100% honestIt's the fear of having to consistently face that feeling of being at the top of roller-coaster right before it drops, except you have to keep talking while feeling it. No excuses left, I'm doing it | /r/askTRP | 04/11/19 10:51 AM |
| 3 | Did you guys actually benefit from cold-approaching (in terms of confidence, or how you approach other aspects of your life)? Like be 100% honestI'm saving this thank you. I'm going to start approaching to get rid of my social anxiety with women for myself and I've been trying to rationalise my way out of it, but no more | /r/askTRP | 04/11/19 01:57 AM |
| 2 | Did you guys actually benefit from cold-approaching (in terms of confidence, or how you approach other aspects of your life)? Like be 100% honestI appreciate this. Where I'm at, most chicks here are white with the other majority being indian/asian/black. I wouldn't be worried if I was attractive, but I'm honestly average looking. Did you find it harder to approach white girls? | /r/askTRP | 03/11/19 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Did you guys actually benefit from cold-approaching (in terms of confidence, or how you approach other aspects of your life)? Like be 100% honestI wanted to go MGTOW, but it'll be a mental demon if I always get nervous around attractive women and don't deal with this aspect of my life. I want to go MGTOW while knowing what I'm capable of. There's a difference between someone relaxing on a bench in the hood with no awareness of how to defend myself, and someone chilling with a gun in their pocket. How could I run a business and push myself to take risks if I can't even talk to a girl and escalate? Business is ruthless. Life is ruthless. | /r/askTRP | 03/11/19 11:51 PM |
| 1 | I feel like a schedule like this would be realistic and challenging enough to allow me to improve, while focusing on the most important aspects. Thoughts or insights? Overwhelming? Underwhelming?I used to lift every day back in HS, and didn't pull. Even with the opportunities, I didn't know how to pull and didn't have the confidence. So I appreciate the advice, but from having executed it in the past, it won't work. You need recovery time as well. | /r/askTRP | 03/11/19 05:03 PM |
| 1 | I feel like a schedule like this would be realistic and challenging enough to allow me to improve, while focusing on the most important aspects. Thoughts or insights? Overwhelming? Underwhelming?DUDE. I did the concentrating on food flavors thing after my first LSD trip. Lost 80 pounds since then. That shit works | /r/askTRP | 03/11/19 05:01 PM |
| 1 | I feel like a schedule like this would be realistic and challenging enough to allow me to improve, while focusing on the most important aspects. Thoughts or insights? Overwhelming? Underwhelming?Thanks for this. 3 things from that list of 10? I mean couldn't meditation + lifting fit into one? | /r/askTRP | 02/11/19 08:07 PM |
| 1 | I feel like a schedule like this would be realistic and challenging enough to allow me to improve, while focusing on the most important aspects. Thoughts or insights? Overwhelming? Underwhelming?I appreciate this. Hmmm it's between mindfulness or meditation, eh? How about hacking the system and just doing mindfulness meditation? | /r/askTRP | 02/11/19 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Shrooms shut off all the noise. You feel like you're radiating out presence. Is this the goal of frame?Looks like I need to give this a shot. Did it help your game at all? | /r/askTRP | 02/11/19 05:28 AM |
| 2 | I'd like you guys' opinions on ghosting someone who friend-zones you and also provides no benefit to you as a friend either. Is this an emotionally immature way of doing it? What would you older guys say?Exactly. I did ask a bluepilled subreddit so what do you expect lmao I just want to make sure that I'm respecting myself while knowing how to still be empathetic. If you've ever read the Book of Pook, it mentions how you want to be the empathetic leader. You don't want to become a nice guy or a narcissist. It's the people that know how to be masculine with a value system that go the farthest in self-actualizing themselves | /r/askTRP | 30/10/19 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Would the ultimate frame be "this is my reality and this is how I operate, if someone is going to come into my life, this is going to be what they follow"? And then having the empathy to listen to others and the self-belief that your presence is a god-send to them, with the SMV to match?That's the recurring idea I'm getting from frame control. Abundance mentality (having options), not giving a fuck (doing what you want regardless of consequence), confidence/resilience (delusional self-belief in your ability to succeed and not letting it get you down if you do fail), awareness (reading non-verbals, knowing what's wrong, communicating the right way without seeking validation), and then going out and gaining experience and as those things I mentioned keep improving you'll have acc… | /r/askTRP | 28/10/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | How effective is seduction/frame/trp on a chick who's confident and straightforward?In the face, but she was fit af. Well-paying government job, good social circle, set path for life. I'm just trying to understand what's going on in someone's head who's like that, I know that you're supposed to be "the prize". She mentioned how all the dudes she's dated were computer guys and logical thinkers or some shit like that | /r/askTRP | 28/10/19 12:33 AM |
| 1 | What's the difference between dgaf mentality and not being socially calibrated? Does the fine line just come from experience?Then what response in your POV would be not giving a fuck | /r/askTRP | 27/10/19 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Is there any place online or on reddit that you can go to where you can have frame battles with other people for fun?Are you asking to be my friend? I'll add you to my waiting list | /r/askTRP | 26/10/19 07:25 PM |
| 14 | How to respond if a girl disrespects your dick?I feel like frame control solves all of this as long as you're delusionally confident. If you got your frame to a god-like state I feel like you could literally frame any reality any way you want. A comment below yours even showed a great example for when a chick calls the dude's dick small during sex. He could just say " Great. Why don't you bend over now, and find a bigger one after." and then dump her afterwards or do whatever. Anything said at that point would dismiss her completely or flip … | /r/askTRP | 26/10/19 08:57 AM |
| 1 | For you guys who've peaked SMV and who've developed outcome independence do you still have those moments of being lost in checking chicks out? How do you zoom in and focus on your own approaches and build your own abundance with all those "missed opportunities"?I've looked online and done research into this but I want advice from someone with first hand experience no other incentives. How do you do your kino and what works for you? As an introvert, I can approach a girl but the thing that paralyses me is kino. I have no fucking clue how to escalate. I know the "theory" but irl it's an easy hesitation or fuck up that will catch me case lmao. Is there any ways to mitigate this? Strong eye contact, getting close into personal space slowly, and then banter… | /r/askTRP | 25/10/19 06:18 AM |
| 1 | When woman leave LTR,does she always has another man?Two chicks said they had a crush on me and asked me out back in high school. For the first one that I rejected, she was literally dating my close friend within the next day. The second one I rejected also ended up dating my close friend within less than the next week. I'll trust people but no way in fucking hell am I going to rely on someone else for my happiness. I don't think it's good to paint one group of people with one brush stroke but honestly fuck putting all your eggs and emotional happ… | /r/askTRP | 25/10/19 04:20 AM |
| 4 | Learning Frame ControlFrame huh. I've been studying this myself for a while. I'll try to give you some insights but in no way am I super successful. I just feel more socially aware of it and my interactions with the people I know are now 2-3x easier. Theres at least 2 charisma on command videos about frame on youtube and from there check the recommended list. The more you learn about it and look for it IRL the more aware youll become. Its like someone who know nonverbals vs. someone completely socially clueless. Fram… | /r/askTRP | 24/10/19 09:02 AM |
| 1 | How do you apply abundance mentality and frame into social interactions in general besides dating? In other words, is there anything different in how you apply it, and if so how?I seriously appreciate this. I had one close friend who tried to make me feel bad about my inability to connect with people on deeper level and how I am in the sense that I don't really seek to have lots of close friends. At one point he questioned if I was a sociopath and honestly I questioned it too. Psychedelics made me realize that I'm actually capable of being really empathetic but I'm just a lone wolf. Like when that close friend and I had an argument and stopped being friends, I bounced b… | /r/askTRP | 24/10/19 06:03 AM |
| 1 | How do you apply abundance mentality and frame into social interactions in general besides dating? In other words, is there anything different in how you apply it, and if so how?So you're saying that even if me doing my own thing means having maybe one close friend and just getting laid or networking on the side, that's more than enough? I'll be honest with you I don't particularly care to have a lot of friends. The issue is that you can go to events alone, but at some point, won't there be issues? Knowing people gives you access to special events. What if you always hang out with one friend or your girl only when you guys are alone? What if she asks to see your friends… | /r/askTRP | 24/10/19 05:12 AM |
| 1 | How naturally does frame come to you? I'm starting to see opportunities to play with framing in every interaction that I have. The biggest issue I'm having right now is slowly developing the confidence to naturally incorporate it into conversation with everyone.I don't have any plates this all hypothetical but I appreciate the suggestion | /r/askTRP | 24/10/19 02:22 AM |
| 1 | How naturally does frame come to you? I'm starting to see opportunities to play with framing in every interaction that I have. The biggest issue I'm having right now is slowly developing the confidence to naturally incorporate it into conversation with everyone.I agree with regards to the girl aspect of it. What I'm referring to is that the guy will keep bothering you guys the whole night if he wants to because he'll think that you're okay with having your girl hit on. It's cool to not be reactive and do your own thing, but it's important to tell someone to stop bothering you guys if they keep persisting. I read what you said again and it seems we're on the same page actually. "You take her and move somewhere else". Exactly | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 11:38 PM |
| 1 | How naturally does frame come to you? I'm starting to see opportunities to play with framing in every interaction that I have. The biggest issue I'm having right now is slowly developing the confidence to naturally incorporate it into conversation with everyone.As much as I love taking advice, I'd have to disagree with you on this one. I feel like there's a difference between not giving a fuck and not having boundaries. If the girl is being receptive to him, you can handle the situation without caring, and then drop her because she was being disrespectful to you. But if she wasn't receptive to his advances, I think just watching and "not giving a fuck" is you being too scared to enforce boundaries with others. It's possible to not be affected while sti… | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 10:37 PM |
| 9 | Real talk, does anybody else feel like a fish out of water trying to approach girls in person?Fuck all that PUA bullshit. I have the same issue. I found these and I'm going to try them and I think they might help you too. I've watched a fuck ton of videos on theory and inner game and honestly fuck the sidebar. Read these two things and imo these will be basic enough for you to figure out the rest of the shit on your own or become pro if you want later once you get your feet wet and see success. To summarize it you need to reach the state of not giving a fuck to the point where there is n… | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 09:58 PM |
| 1 | What am I doing wrong here? I don't get it. I feel like something is severely lacking on my end and I have no clue what it is. I've been putting in the work with nothing to show for it on a social front.This actually makes a lot of sense. Reminds of some days where I was like that. Thank you. From your experience: do you care when you're alone to learn the tricks of the trade, then when you're out you just make it so that you don't give a fuck but have that new muscle memory or conditioning? How do you incorporate knowledge about frame and other aspects if you're too busy not giving a fuck 24/7. Hopefully this is translating. | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 04:58 AM |
| 1 | What am I doing wrong here? I don't get it. I feel like something is severely lacking on my end and I have no clue what it is. I've been putting in the work with nothing to show for it on a social front.What are you on about. You're aware that I'm a dude right? This whole time you've literally been having a conversation with yourself and bringing up what I'm assuming is past emotional baggage into a reddit post that is completely unrelated to anything that you're writing about. I'd assume you're a troll but what you're writing is too pitiful to have been done purposefully. I don't even feel like having a back and forth with you because I feel bad for you and it's making me cringe internally. Ha… | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 03:11 AM |
| 2 | What am I doing wrong here? I don't get it. I feel like something is severely lacking on my end and I have no clue what it is. I've been putting in the work with nothing to show for it on a social front.You happen to know an awful lot about mental disorders. Projection perhaps? | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 03:06 AM |
| 1 | What am I doing wrong here? I don't get it. I feel like something is severely lacking on my end and I have no clue what it is. I've been putting in the work with nothing to show for it on a social front.Time to take your meds | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 02:56 AM |
| 1 | What am I doing wrong here? I don't get it. I feel like something is severely lacking on my end and I have no clue what it is. I've been putting in the work with nothing to show for it on a social front.It looks like I'll have to go the common interest route. The issue with that though is once the common interest or "glue" is gone, so do 95% of the people there. In most cases, maybe even 100%. Lots of close friends that I've had in the past were from a common goal or purpose. But as soon as anything deviates, there's literally nothing else to make things sticks. I'll give it a shot though. With regards to chicks, I know how to read non-verbals, concepts of frame and all that, but obviously ther… | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 02:47 AM |
| 3 | What am I doing wrong here? I don't get it. I feel like something is severely lacking on my end and I have no clue what it is. I've been putting in the work with nothing to show for it on a social front.Thanks for this. It looks I still have a lot to work on. Girls and attractive guys just bring out shame in me or feelings of insecurity that I never act on, but they're just stay there and fuck with me mentally. Outwardly I just stay neutral and if I do anything, I try pushing others up but the thoughts stick. I want to accept that the thoughts don't define me but it creates cognitive dissonance. Even when I'm walking and girls pass by and laugh. I know they're likely not laughing at me but my m… | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 02:33 AM |
| 2 | What am I doing wrong here? I don't get it. I feel like something is severely lacking on my end and I have no clue what it is. I've been putting in the work with nothing to show for it on a social front.I'd appreciate it if you could expand on this | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 02:10 AM |
| – | I've realized that I never took the time to screen for what I would personally like so I would end up indecisive when it comes time to try to pick up because I would either go for someone way out of my league AND of a different ethnicity, or miss approaching those who I'd have better chances withI appreciate this. Would you mind linking the specific video? I watch Tyler a lot and I find that he's one of the few people that I seriously resonate with in terms of social growth because he's about authenticity. | /r/seduction | 21/10/19 02:56 PM |
| 0 | I'm overstimulated by too much different advice. Here's where I am, and here's what I'm thinking of doing. For those who genuinely incorporate the TRP growth mindset and actually are succeeding IRL and are average-looking & introverted, where would you suggest going from here for better results?lmao | /r/askTRP | 18/10/19 09:34 PM |
| 1 | I'm overstimulated by too much different advice. Here's where I am, and here's what I'm thinking of doing. For those who genuinely incorporate the TRP growth mindset and actually are succeeding IRL and are average-looking & introverted, where would you suggest going from here for better results?Perceived value (looks, social status), someone to ground emotional vomit, offering excitement/adventure or experiences, creating a system of validation where they go to you for dopamine etc. 90% of the times you'll find guys and girls actually in a relationship or fwb is through tinder or social circles which aren't my fortes though so that leaves the last 10% which is approaching, unless I turn my weakness into my forte. | /r/askTRP | 18/10/19 09:32 PM |
| 0 | I'm overstimulated by too much different advice. Here's where I am, and here's what I'm thinking of doing. For those who genuinely incorporate the TRP growth mindset and actually are succeeding IRL and are average-looking & introverted, where would you suggest going from here for better results?I read Book of Pook half-way. I realised I was using the book as an escape instead of actually going and approaching or working on myself. I read NMMG and Models by Mark Manson. The first thing I ever read was the TRP handbook. These are all 200+ pages of pure information being repeated in different ways with tons of cross-overs. I haven't re-read them again in all honestly because it takes time which should be spent on actually improving. Once you "understand how it works" you need to make it w… | /r/askTRP | 18/10/19 09:24 PM |
| 1 | For someone who has succeeded with day approaching and used to be completely trash at it, how did you incrementally improve (outside of SMV)?At this point I'm just looking for a bit of re-assurance honestly. I'll keep in mind what you've suggested. Would you mind sharing briefly how you improved when you first started to now and maybe what you noticed differently in yourself? | /r/askTRP | 18/10/19 08:57 PM |
| 1 | For someone who has succeeded with day approaching and used to be completely trash at it, how did you incrementally improve (outside of SMV)?I appreciate this. I have this sort of thing where I can come off as too strong or too uncalibrated if I turn off my "nervous" filters so it's like I fear putting another girl in that situation because I can't imagine it going in any other way because of my looks. I missed lots of opportunities in the past, so it's become a self-fulfilling prophecy since I've never succeeded from A-Z. Could you give me an outsider's perspective on if this is too uncalibrated because this is what I'd do if I turn… | /r/askTRP | 18/10/19 07:47 AM |
| 1 | I have issues with being in power in social situations because of how differently I react to things than normal people, and not wanting to hurt the other person from me reacting naturally. Here are some good examples of this. I'd appreciate your insight on them because this applies with chicks too.They're a good friend. It's fun being with them and they're genuine. It's just that I don't really need them or their validation, whereas in most friendships in the past I did, so my lack of need for them makes it so that I'm the one "needed more" and as a result I enjoy being around them but I don't crave their attention. | /r/askTRP | 17/10/19 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Is it a good thing that my gf tells me all the time they I remind her of her father?Fuck. This is what I fear's going to happen. When you're not raised to have a framework of what it means to be in a healthy relationship (either narcissistic/abusive/insecure/religious parents or no good father figure), you start manifesting your childhood as either of these two extremes: you want to keep all the control in your relationships, or you want to give it all to someone else. The thing about being raised as a natural is that you can find a balance in between. On the other hand all thi… | /r/askTRP | 17/10/19 05:01 AM |
| 1 | Need some adviceShe's seeking your validation because you've already created investment in her and the dynamic is now tilted in your direction. As long as you keep doing your own thing, you'll be good. As a partner you should stay as far as you can from someone like that because their insecurity will manifest in every single part of their life and you'll have to constantly babysit them. If you're not on your A-game always (like in a relationship) it's like being throw to a pack of hyenas. They'll do whatever th… | /r/askTRP | 17/10/19 04:54 AM |
| 1 | I have issues with being in power in social situations because of how differently I react to things than normal people, and not wanting to hurt the other person from me reacting naturally. Here are some good examples of this. I'd appreciate your insight on them because this applies with chicks too.It's been a few weeks since I've smoked anything other than today. I hit the gym, drink water, and I'm about to start meditation. Besides some help with grounding me, it hasn't solved all the fundamental issues. Those 5 examples I posted are all issues that I have constantly. I'm just able to break them down now because I'm more aware of what I'm doing wrong and what's going on. I just don't know how to fix the specific issues because I never had that framework of normalcy set from childhood. Th… | /r/askTRP | 17/10/19 04:19 AM |
| 1 | I can't get out of my head. It's always fucking running. I fucking hate it. So then even if I don't think like a BP or if I try to be present in the moment it's like as soon as a thought comes in, like Pavlov's dog, I cave in. Has anyone had this issue and permanently solved it?This might be what I'm looking for. I see a lot of similarities in myself. Thanks for the suggestions | /r/askTRP | 16/10/19 03:34 PM |
| 1 | I can't get out of my head. It's always fucking running. I fucking hate it. So then even if I don't think like a BP or if I try to be present in the moment it's like as soon as a thought comes in, like Pavlov's dog, I cave in. Has anyone had this issue and permanently solved it?Thanks | /r/askTRP | 16/10/19 04:32 AM |
| 7 | How the fuck do you get grounded to the point where you stop caring about anything happening outside of your control without coming off as autistic or too disruptive?With all due respect, I wouldn't be making this post if I could already do that | /r/askTRP | 16/10/19 04:31 AM |
| 2 | I can't get out of my head. It's always fucking running. I fucking hate it. So then even if I don't think like a BP or if I try to be present in the moment it's like as soon as a thought comes in, like Pavlov's dog, I cave in. Has anyone had this issue and permanently solved it?I appreciate this. I want to get a better idea of this being used in action. I did the breathing thing today, but it fades after like 10s before my brain runs again so maybe you have more in depth knowledge. Let's say that EVERY time I run into either a high SMV guy or 80% of girls, it's like my natural state suffers a pause and I can't function normally. This is likely insecurity and I want to fix it but no thoughts appear its just pure reaction. I just see them and then my actions flinch or sl… | /r/askTRP | 16/10/19 04:04 AM |
| 1 | [20M] Starting to see what you guys meanFuck that sounds brutal man. I wish you the best on improving | /r/askTRP | 16/10/19 02:47 AM |
| 3 | How the fuck do you get grounded to the point where you stop caring about anything happening outside of your control without coming off as autistic or too disruptive?Thanks. This was helpful | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 11:34 PM |
| 1 | How the fuck do you get grounded to the point where you stop caring about anything happening outside of your control without coming off as autistic or too disruptive?I get that you're joking but would you mind giving some actual actionable advice? I've taken psychedelics and smoked a shit ton of weed but that hasn't solved much. I'm more genuine but still can't not give a fuck without having to give a fuck about not giving a fuck | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 09:57 PM |
| 3 | How the fuck do you get grounded to the point where you stop caring about anything happening outside of your control without coming off as autistic or too disruptive?How do you not try naturally then? Because you have to try to not try. It's like a loop. I'm trying to get this shit to work but I don't know how to. | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 09:47 PM |
| 1 | What's a realistic way to stop giving a fuck about expressing my sexuality? It's ingrained in EVERYTHING I do. I don't care about talking to randoms. This just has to do with me being male. I fucking hate it.I appreciate the explanation. I'll be honest, it's a bit frustrating because when I do that, it's like I subconsciously still have the same BP tendencies. Then when I try to self-regulate consciously it's even worse, like you see in my post. Looks like I need to try more and more uncomfortable situations where I'm willing to come off as an autist and not cave in because even with family I tend to have some of the same tendencies even though I "feel safe" and am not nervous, unless I actively sel… | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 07:47 AM |
| 1 | What's a realistic way to stop giving a fuck about expressing my sexuality? It's ingrained in EVERYTHING I do. I don't care about talking to randoms. This just has to do with me being male. I fucking hate it.You're right. So how would someone go about developing frame without having to constantly be aware of their frame so they can fix it? What's a go-to method to build it naturally? I've read some posts but they tend to lead to even more overthinking. | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 07:27 AM |
| 2 | I feel like my personality is so different in specific scenarios (without the influence of others) that it might create confusion in others and make it hard for them to classify me and build interest. This is especially the case for groups who want to force a role on you. How to improve from here?I used to do that and it killed my confidence and sense of self. I probably became even more BP from doing that. This was back in HS, though I'll admit I actually got way more opportunities by using social media to create a boosted SMV. Maybe you've encountered this, but groups either expect you to act similar in some ways, or dress in certain ways or not over-step your bounds in other ways. It's like a chain to your authentic self and in my case, that's probably my biggest strength | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 05:33 AM |
| 5 | I feel like my personality is so different in specific scenarios (without the influence of others) that it might create confusion in others and make it hard for them to classify me and build interest. This is especially the case for groups who want to force a role on you. How to improve from here?lmao if being the one to invite the other people counts then yea. The issue is that when you don't fit into any group, you can't capitalize on any social circle. You're on your own when it comes to gaming chicks and you have to single out people from groups to make any connection. In my case, most of my closest friends are introverts, and I can count them on my fingers. I can't use "status game". So I have to up my inner game which I want to do anyways but is 10x harder | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 05:31 AM |
| 3 | What's a realistic way to stop giving a fuck about expressing my sexuality? It's ingrained in EVERYTHING I do. I don't care about talking to randoms. This just has to do with me being male. I fucking hate it.I fuckin love this. Thanks man | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 05:02 AM |
| 2 | I'm starting to realize that my approaches so far aren't working because I'm being inauthentic about my intentions.Thanks bro. I wish you the best as well | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 02:48 AM |
| 2 | How to stop being a massive pussy with girls?I have the same issue and have been working on it. It's a conditioned fear of vulnerability and fear of expressing yourself sexually. It looks like we all just have to swallow the embarrassment and go for it. The imaginary power is all in your head and you're trying to keep it because you can't control the outcome. In reality, the physical shit is all in physical reality. Instead, force yourself to meet up with her and set up the conditions to have sex. If it happens,cool. If it doesn't then fuc… | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 02:39 AM |
| 3 | How to deal with annoying sibling?holy fuck some of these comments make following this subreddit so worth it lmao | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 01:58 AM |
| 4 | What's a realistic way to stop giving a fuck about expressing my sexuality? It's ingrained in EVERYTHING I do. I don't care about talking to randoms. This just has to do with me being male. I fucking hate it.Thanks. For me it's like what if the lion is too intimidating by being themselves and the sheep start to react negatively and so they gather in hordes and counterattack? Because that's how it feels. It's like I have a gun to my head every time someone sees me being confident or sexually expressive. And then I justify it by saying that if I was more attractive then I'd be less embarrassed about it | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 01:34 AM |
| 13 | The women in my office found my TRP-inspired private journal ramblings. How do I recover my dignity?lmfao | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 01:28 AM |
| 3 | I'm starting to realize that my approaches so far aren't working because I'm being inauthentic about my intentions.It's been a while probably half a year but I've never wanted to get married or believed the hype of relationships. I was close to MGTOW but realized that I was using it as an escape from my fears. If I ever decide to go MGTOW I want to do it from a position of power rather than a position of giving up. I could never see myself sacrificing too much of my time for a relationship. I remember one girl I was texting back in HS had to literally beg me for phone sex and to go on a date. I'm only averag… | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 01:19 AM |
| 6 | I'm starting to realize that my approaches so far aren't working because I'm being inauthentic about my intentions.That's obvious. Everyone has a peak limit though | /r/askTRP | 14/10/19 06:41 PM |
| 21 | I'm starting to realize that my approaches so far aren't working because I'm being inauthentic about my intentions.Everyone keeps saying that but I've been doing those things. In fact, if you read my post, you'd see that when I was back at my peak SMV with status, being in my best shape, and all that other good stuff, I couldn't do anything with the opportunities that I had because I feared expressing myself sexually. I know that you have good intentions, but telling people "just lift bro" or "just looksmax bro" isn't the solution to everything. Yeah, they help in all areas of life and I'm doing those things… | /r/askTRP | 14/10/19 06:12 PM |
| 3 | What did you guys notice about other people after increasing your SMV?You're right. The awareness of it though leads to me making sure that I give to the person at least an equal level of what they give to me as I give to them. Or at least that I vocalize if I I'm busy or planning on ghosting them because we have conflicting schedules/interests. I allow the other person to have closure. There's a difference in how you have the transaction. But people are just like that so it's w.e, I'm not going to expect people to all have empathy. Which is why I said I'd be caut… | /r/askTRP | 14/10/19 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone tried approaching much lower SMV chicks? Has this helped your approach anxiety?Holy shit, I just realised. At some point, I went from outcome independence to giving up because of fear of outcome. This seems like it'd be useful. Flirting for the fuck of it and fuck expectation or fear of expressing sexuality | /r/askTRP | 14/10/19 05:05 AM |
| 2 | Has anyone tried approaching much lower SMV chicks? Has this helped your approach anxiety?Fuck it, it looks more approaching from now on until I get this right then. I'm already feeling the fear that comes from feeling like I'm coming off as a thirsty dude. Fuck. it. I'll do it. This is probably that nice guy shit | /r/askTRP | 14/10/19 02:42 AM |
| 2 | Has anyone tried approaching much lower SMV chicks? Has this helped your approach anxiety?I'm taking your advice seriously, so take my questioning as more of me trying to get a full perspective here. Let's say that you compliment her. Isn't that what everyone else is doing? If I go up to her and be like, hey I like your shirt/dress or w.e else, isn't that what literally 10 dudes are doing every day? It feels like the anti-thesis of redpill because it's like you're complimenting them for being a woman rather than them having to deserve the compliment. Like if a chick is reading a book… | /r/askTRP | 14/10/19 02:27 AM |
| 5 | Has anyone tried approaching much lower SMV chicks? Has this helped your approach anxiety?Even with the lowered chances of success with higher SMV? I'm all for taking chances, which is what I've done with my approaches this month, but man I got fucking curved hard every time. Either deadpan text replies after I get their number, or being nice through text when I make plans but ghosting afterwards. The killer was one of the chicks texting and saying she wouldn't be at the uni on the day that I set-up and saying she'd make it up which is like yeah okay I get the message, but then to ma… | /r/askTRP | 14/10/19 02:16 AM |
| 1 | As an introvert, what are ways that you managed to approach that are actually realistic?That sounds like a good idea. It's said that you should only expect out of a women what you already do/have yourself. That actually makes sense, even with friends. People usually won't stick around you for long unless they feel like your presence provides some sort of value to their lives. Anyways, it looks like low SMV is the way to go. And when it comes to girls, low SMV means REALLY low SMV when you have the power of make-up. I just hope this low SMV thing doesn't become a crutch. Just imagin… | /r/askTRP | 14/10/19 01:57 AM |
| 1 | As an introvert, what are ways that you managed to approach that are actually realistic?I appreciate the advice. So basically I'm fucked if I'm trying it out alone? Does he have success on his own? And holy shit, now that I think about it, all my past girlfriends were literally freebies from an extrovert wing-manning me or getting to know them through text first before meeting them irl. This was ages ago though | /r/askTRP | 14/10/19 01:05 AM |
| 1 | I've noticed that when I choose to be myself and do w.e the fuck I want for too long, it's like I get a voice in my head that fucks it up and either I turn into even more of an asshole, or too nice. Where does this come from?More optimistic. I like it | /r/askTRP | 13/10/19 08:37 PM |
| 3 | I suck at small talkCalibrate your energy to the other person. If they're high energy, then match that. If they're low energy, also match that. If you make a social mistake, don't react awkwardly to it. Other people react to what you say 90% of the time based on how you react to it. So pretty much, you just don't be awkward and say whatever comes to mind while jumping from topic to topic. | /r/askTRP | 13/10/19 02:39 PM |
| 1 | The way my brain processes the world feels like the biggest road-block that I have. That doesn't seem like something I can change. Is there any way to fix that?Interesting. I remember my therapist suggesting something like this a few days ago, but he hasn't sent me the link to it yet. It might actually be this exact book. Looks like I should give it a try | /r/askTRP | 13/10/19 03:29 AM |
| 1 | The way my brain processes the world feels like the biggest road-block that I have. That doesn't seem like something I can change. Is there any way to fix that?What if the source isn't an emotion but instead your mental hardware? That's what my research lead to. I even talked to a therapist and he was stumped even though he gave suggestions which I've already been trying. Guess I gotta wait it out and see if we end up anywhere else or if I can figure some other shit | /r/askTRP | 13/10/19 01:54 AM |
| 2 | The way my brain processes the world feels like the biggest road-block that I have. That doesn't seem like something I can change. Is there any way to fix that?I appreciate the encouragement and definitely a good idea to tackle one at a time. But when you see the same negative problems occurring over and over and have no clue how to solve them, it fucks you up. | /r/askTRP | 13/10/19 01:51 AM |
| 1 | The way my brain processes the world feels like the biggest road-block that I have. That doesn't seem like something I can change. Is there any way to fix that?Nice assumption. Yes I lift. 3 times a week. For reference though, I used to lift every day 3 hours+ a day and even though I got attention, I couldn't do anything with it. I appreciate the suggestion but that's not the solution. | /r/askTRP | 13/10/19 01:50 AM |
| 1 | The way my brain processes the world feels like the biggest road-block that I have. That doesn't seem like something I can change. Is there any way to fix that?I hope so man, because right now it feels like an invisible barrier is in front of me for the major issues I'm facing atm. All the things that I'm doing to improve aren't solving those fundamental issues, though they have gains of their own. | /r/askTRP | 13/10/19 01:35 AM |
| 1 | The way my brain processes the world feels like the biggest road-block that I have. That doesn't seem like something I can change. Is there any way to fix that?Those three and more. By brain I mean the fundamental process at which your brain runs. It's not even the lens that you use to view the world. It's the process that creates that lens in the first place. The processor. The hardware basically. The video looks promising, I'll check it out. Thanks | /r/askTRP | 13/10/19 01:20 AM |
| 4 | I suck at small talkHoly shit I'm the exact same. I fade out in groups. One-on-one I'm the man and people get a really good impression, but as soon as one person comes in, it gets fucked up. I joined so many group convos and did as much as I could to try and get better, but I still have the same issue. It's like there's a barrier blocking me in how I communicate. I've always felt like it's because we're wired differently. It's fucked. If someone gives you good advice, I'd appreciate it if you'd share it with me. | /r/askTRP | 13/10/19 12:52 AM |
| 1 | The way my brain processes the world feels like the biggest road-block that I have. That doesn't seem like something I can change. Is there any way to fix that?The longer version for context (you don't have to read this): I've been trying things non-stop. From reading books/theory (literally 100s) to trying to just live life positively, to trying psyches, to meditating, to reading books again, to not reading books and going out more and living life, to facing hardship, to trying to change my habits, to gaining hobbies, to self-expressing, to creating, to meeting new people, to being more vulnerable, to going through suffering, to being more empathetic,… | /r/askTRP | 13/10/19 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Being in groups kills any game that I have. It's only when I isolate people that I can put in work. How do I up my group game?That's not my domain. It ends up as me being controlling or attention-whoring. I remember being the one to create a group and leading it on the first day, and then falling back into fading out from the second day onwards. It's easy when you follow the script when you first meet people, but afterwards, you can't put on the mask. I just don't connect with people in groups easily. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/19 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Being in groups kills any game that I have. It's only when I isolate people that I can put in work. How do I up my group game?Very often nowadays. The same situations happen, and this has been the case since I was young. I tried different things, and the best I can manage now without actually pissing people off is 80% quiet and listening and looking at everyone, and 20% interjecting (which still gets me to fade out). It's even more noticeable when the group instead of being a circle where the people talking are looking at everyone, the person doesn't realize it and everyone is facing each other in such a way that I'm e… | /r/askTRP | 12/10/19 02:31 PM |
| 1 | I experienced something that changed my perspective on what is confidence. Could someone explain what happened here?That might have been the case now that I think about it. I don't consider myself special or anything though, but I did walk into the room pretty confidently and I'm 6'0. It felt like I was on a different frequency of life experience and social awareness than the group, not to toot my own horn. Like they were pretty nervous/anti-social. That's why I was caught off guard by their stand-offishness. But I also felt confused about the situation. It reminds me of when I'm in a club and the leader asks… | /r/askTRP | 12/10/19 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Are most girls just lacking in personality, or do I just attract shit girls?The ones I'm thinking of are the less basic ones (ex. at libraries, bus station, work etc.). But even then it seems to get back to that same issue eventually. They'll stimulate me mentally at the start, then once we get closer, it's like the mask is off and they're back into their habits. The one girl I really clicked it off with just happened to be long-distance and online, which isn't my cup of tea. She said she wanted to fuck my brain and was hyper-sexual and kept trying to video chat sex wit… | /r/askTRP | 12/10/19 02:39 AM |
| 1 | I'm thinking of sending this to a chick I've been talking to, but I stopped myself right when I was about to send it. Is this too harsh?Exactly my point. The interaction needs to bring some sort of value in my life. Mental stimulation, sharing common interests, working on something together etc. | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Are most girls just lacking in personality, or do I just attract shit girls?That's not a bad suggestion actually. Honestly, I would probably do it if I wasn't too busy liking all of these instagram pictures and taking snaps... on a serious note though, it gets complicated when you get into clubs because you want to focus on something that you enjoy, but you also don't want to fuck up that environment with a relationship. It's a worth a shot though | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 03:09 PM |
| 2 | I'm thinking of sending this to a chick I've been talking to, but I stopped myself right when I was about to send it. Is this too harsh?It's pretty equal. At first, I was using her as a way to practice opening up and to kind of psychoanalyze myself, but now all we do is flirt a bit, we might talk about our day, maybe talk a bit about our opinion about something barely, share a picture or audio or something, then rinse and repeat. I mean it's all right, but it just feels like a time waste. I could probably escalate to nudes and video sex and all that but fuck nudes and fuck that online shit. I'm at a cross-roads of either friend-… | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 02:56 PM |
| 1 | I'm thinking of sending this to a chick I've been talking to, but I stopped myself right when I was about to send it. Is this too harsh?What if it's long distance and you're not going to get the chance to meet them in person again? | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 02:52 PM |
| -3 | I'm thinking of sending this to a chick I've been talking to, but I stopped myself right when I was about to send it. Is this too harsh?I don't have time to spend just skirting around talking about basic shit and flirting. Like they're well-intended and all, but it's been getting boring. We don't even live close to each other, so it's not like I'm really getting anything physical from it, or that we can meet up and actually go out. Even with my close friends, we push each other up. I have limited time in my day | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 02:47 PM |
| -3 | I'm thinking of sending this to a chick I've been talking to, but I stopped myself right when I was about to send it. Is this too harsh?No, I'm planning to send it. | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 02:44 PM |
| 34 | Are most girls just lacking in personality, or do I just attract shit girls?I admire you forwardness but unfortunately, I'm straight. I'm asking because it's not that the girls don't have hobbies, it's that it's so clouded by insecurity and a need for validation that once you get to really know them, it kills any attraction | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 01:56 PM |
| -1 | Are most girls just lacking in personality, or do I just attract shit girls?Ones that don't use instagram and snapchat filters? | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Could DeepFake technology enable fake social proof like never beforeYou don't need to rationalize why you're doing it. If you think you'd benefit from something like that, go for it. I just have too much self-respect to play in a game where I'm putting myself down just to get some. To me, there's learning social skills which you apply to everything in your life, and also happens to help your game, and then doing something JUST to get some. There's also different levels of what each person is willing to tolerate. | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 11:29 AM |
| 9 | Could DeepFake technology enable fake social proof like never beforeIt's one thing to improve yourself and get sex as a byproduct. It's another to create the illusion of social proof on social media and tinder to get laid. But paying for deepfakes and wasting your time editing pictures so you can pretend like you have shit going on in your life? That's a whole new level of simping ngl | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 10:16 AM |
| 1 | Why do some girls like to bluff so much when they can't back it up? Do older ones still do this? How do you deal with it?Only one way to find out | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Why do girls show visible signs of flirtation and interest, while mentioning the fact that they have boyfriends, yet still choosing to be flirtatious?I'm neutral about it. I just like learning about people and gaining new perspectives so I ask a lot of questions and try figuring them out which comes off as interest unfortunately. In both cases, I was using my interactions with them to brush off on my skills. I also have this weird thing where I'm on two extremes of either not wanting to talk to anyone, or being really up close and eyeing someone down and just looking at their face the whole interaction (obviously while keeping up a smile and … | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 07:03 AM |
| 2 | Why do girls show visible signs of flirtation and interest, while mentioning the fact that they have boyfriends, yet still choosing to be flirtatious?That section was a great read. I appreciate the suggestion. As I've been working on my EQ, I can see how it all fits in together. | /r/askTRP | 10/10/19 09:48 PM |
| 1 | I'm starting to slowly understand and solidify my frame, but I lack a connection with most people on such a fundamental level that I feel like I use my frame control to compensate for that lack of connection. Has anyone gone through this and if so, how do you work on this?My best friend is an empath and he has another friend who's a sociopath and he mentioned that me and that other guy had a lot of similar characteristics. The only difference is that if someone slighted me, I wouldn't lash out. I'd just cut them off. Also, I don't lie for no reason and I have my own principles. If you're into MBTI, I'm an INTP. I thought I had asbergers but compared to a really sperg, I'm far from that level. I just think I have really low natural empathy, but really high cogniti… | /r/askTRP | 10/10/19 08:57 PM |
| 2 | What's the difference between frame and gas-lighting?The example helped a lot. Thank you | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 04:33 PM |
| -3 | What's the difference between frame and gas-lighting?Thanks for clarifying. I find that there's a grey area though. Here's a harmless example of this. Let's say you randomly send someone a picture of yourself mid-conversation. And then they say something like "that was weird/random". You can be nonreactive to it and use something you guys previously discussed from the conversation as a joke to make it seem like they asked you for the picture. They know that you're teasing them, but you're also lying and re-writing reality in a sense. Is this trans… | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 01:32 PM |
| -1 | What's the difference between frame and gas-lighting?You can't forget Models by Mark Manson. Or would you rather I gaslight you into thinking that I read No More Mr. Nice Guy? There's just too many options here | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 01:27 PM |
| 1 | I'm starting to slowly understand and solidify my frame, but I lack a connection with most people on such a fundamental level that I feel like I use my frame control to compensate for that lack of connection. Has anyone gone through this and if so, how do you work on this?This reply actually helped me see things in a new light. I appreciate that man. That's true. You don't need to fit THE PATH of what being social is. Other than the basics, it's all about riding with what you've got and following your own path, even if that path has a bit of weird shit in it. At least it can be a quirk. " Even if they do, you just become the dude who is into some weird shit but is also jacked and kinda fun to be around." I fuckin love that. Wow | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?The way you describe it reminds me of a friend of mine who also trips a lot. I do agree though. It's like a "spiritual cleanse" where you center yourself again and it allows you to get back into positive habits and free-flowing as yourself without the constant junk you're getting every day. I'm reminded now how different I was since my last trip and now. Might be about that time. It's definitely a blessing. I'd say that as long as you notice frame in social interactions and keep putting yourself… | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 01:13 PM |
| 1 | I'm starting to slowly understand and solidify my frame, but I lack a connection with most people on such a fundamental level that I feel like I use my frame control to compensate for that lack of connection. Has anyone gone through this and if so, how do you work on this?I seriously appreciate the advice. I'm going to look into these. I'm definitely not socially calibrated but in terms of self-awareness it's on the extreme end where I'm too self-aware which recently I've been working on to be present and tone down. With regards to adding value how do you do that without coming off as a try-hard? I've looked into this and am still trying to find a solution, because it can become to the level attention-whoring and this causes other problems. At best, now I'm worki… | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 01:06 PM |
| 1 | I'm starting to slowly understand and solidify my frame, but I lack a connection with most people on such a fundamental level that I feel like I use my frame control to compensate for that lack of connection. Has anyone gone through this and if so, how do you work on this?I don't really know how to interpret this. In what sense? | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 10:48 AM |
| 1 | I'm starting to slowly understand and solidify my frame, but I lack a connection with most people on such a fundamental level that I feel like I use my frame control to compensate for that lack of connection. Has anyone gone through this and if so, how do you work on this?That's what I meant with frame. It's become my social lubricant and in one-on-one situations, it works pretty well. Even someone I have nothing in relation with, I can usually get something going. It doesn't work in groups though, so I've been planning on working on my story-telling skills and comedy and seeing where that takes me, as long as I don't push it into becoming the clown of a group because that's worse than fading out. I don't want to become the leader of a group either because that's… | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 10:33 AM |
| 1 | I'm starting to slowly understand and solidify my frame, but I lack a connection with most people on such a fundamental level that I feel like I use my frame control to compensate for that lack of connection. Has anyone gone through this and if so, how do you work on this?I'll take your word for it and I appreciate the insight. I was referring more to your social programming. How you you communicate based on the fundamental way in which you perceive the world. How you intake sensory stimulus, process emotions, and sift through thoughts. The things that bring rise to emotions in you in social settings. Those are what I mean when I say I can't connect with most people without frame. Because on a fundamental level, from conscious effort, and tons of experience, expe… | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?So far, I've just been testing what works while still allowing myself to be my real self around people without being too nonreactive. I'm hoping that by being aware of it and putting myself in tons of different situations, I'll be able to develop a sweet spot eventually. Could you expand on what you mean by reaching your filling point? | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 07:47 AM |
| 1 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?Being selfish, insecure to the detriment of the friendship, jealous, controlling etc. | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 07:47 AM |
| 13 | Lifelong crush who always rejected me for a thug, now wants to start a relationship with me. I need advice on what to doFuck I feel for you man. I've had a crush before, and I get how you would be indecisive if an opportunity presented itself. What I'd say is if you accept, you're basically sacrificing your self-respect for the fantasy/ideal of what a woman is for you. All the time she wasn't there, you've fabricated a world in your mind where she was the person who gave you that sense of hope and you denied the reality in front of you in exchange for a fantasy to cope with the harsher realities of life. This is … | /r/MGTOW | 09/10/19 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?That reminds me of my first LSD trip when I experienced frame on an extreme level. That's probably the first time I "developed a spine" of sorts. Like you explained in your example, I went to the deep end for a good week where I was just nonreactive to everything. Someone would say a joke and then I'd just look at them and shrug instead of pretending it was funny. It was an extreme. I then ended up back to how I was before the trip, and ever since then I've been slowly calibrating myself to just… | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?If it helps, my friend tested as INTJ, but I think his personality traits and maybe some of the narcissism got in the way. All the signs point to an INFP who's super assertive. If you have trauma, the test gets a bit tricky because the traits from the trauma mess with the results | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?It depends on the specific scenario. If it's a shit test, being nonreactive, dismissive, or down-playing it. If it's a personality default, calling out their action, but if it continues, literally roasting their default and confronting them to their face without a care for if that person will like them or not after the interaction | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?The part where he goes from "rejoice" to "more evolved" always gets me. From demented crazy liberated laughter to breaking down through the cracking in his voice whilst still trying to hide the pain from his memories through his expression. Fucking amazing acting | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?Have you ever looked into the INFP personality type? This sort of thing isn't to box you in. It's more of a tool to find habits/patterns that you have and solutions that seem to work for others with those same issues/strengths. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?Yeah it does. It's a private one that he shows when he opens up. It's related to his dreams with regards to creativity and a grandiose view of his creative abilities, along with his interpretation of the universe and peoples' place in it. In a way also romanticizing his trauma but grounded and knowing that he's romanticizing it but not caring. If you're into MBTI, he'd be an INFP if they were assertive. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 05:14 PM |
| 5 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?To add to that, the dark triad traits that he tends to lean into the most when he does show them are probably narcissism (as a result of extreme self-love to cope) and Machiavellianism (because of a distrust of everyone and viewing interactions as a game of power). I remember he shared the 48 laws of power with me and he said something along the lines of "you need to know how the world works, and then it's on you to be responsible in how you use that knowledge" | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?You're right. I like looking into personality archetypes and pretty much everyone I meet tends to fit into one of them to varying degrees. Abuse victims seem to either become "the fixer" archetype or "the victim". | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?That's a great question. Well, considering that's he's never made any errors in his story-line (I'm hyper-cautious about gas-lighting), he's bisexual and uncomfortable about his sexuality (also seen proof of it) and been going to therapy to deal with the trauma (which he also showed proof of), and that he's empathetic and consistent in his personality (from knowing him for 10 years now), it's pretty safe to assume that he's very likely not bullshitting. Also, the fact that he was willing to tole… | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 03:44 PM |
| 6 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?You become your own mental point of origin. You go through enough adversity and push through to develop self-respect & personal boundaries (without over-compensating), know yourself (your strengths/weaknesses), and know what your needs are. You live for the sole sake of impressing yourself (ex. following your own value system), catering to your needs, and/or following your purpose. As a result, you no longer need to cave in to the desires of others because you know how to meet your own needs and… | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?Nothing sad about it man. It's not your fault for how you are when you don't know that it's happening. It only becomes an issue when you recognize it and aren't putting in the work to improve, though it seems like you've done that. If you ever have the time, I recommend you google an archetype called "The Victim". It might be helpful to you. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?This sounds like the friendship I have with the guy I mentioned in the post. Literally word for word. I don't know if you'd call it PTSD, but I've had long-lasting issues from bullying that still affect me now and he's gone through the same type of abuse. We also have that thing where we pay attention to everything. I'm just not naturally good at it and I over-think instead. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 12:34 PM |
| 7 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?From observation and the past experiences he had that I know of, these are some details that might be useful. He's an empath as a result of all of the suffering that he went through. Really good at understanding peoples' suffering. He can easily get people to open up, and he's also easily able to be vulnerable. He's an introvert, but get him alone with someone and they'll give him their life story. Each day he'd come with something new. He's able to be assertive because of a developed sense of s… | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 12:13 PM |
| 6 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?Yes and no. It's hard to put forth an entire friendship through a few sentences. We all have our issues and he had to deal with a lot of my bullshit too. There's things he's stubborn about, and things I'm stubborn about. I get wary when someone tries to put people/relationships into boxes. I'm not trying to romanticize his situation. It's more of an appreciation for one aspect that he's very skilled at and that I've used as an example for my post. Even in this reply, I was mentioning one pattern… | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 12:04 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?This is a great perspective. In this scenario though, I'd have to disagree with you. He's able to be really vulnerable and he regularly shares how he feels. I have a suspicion that he's an empath. He's very self-aware of his emotions from my talks with him, and I'd say the one negative trait he developed is that he's a bit of a fixer. He likes fixing peoples' problems. It seems like the assertiveness he has developed afterwards. He's also pretty driven and independent. But I'll admit, it's hard … | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 11:54 AM |
| 6 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?She was a party girl, we weren't at a party. It's a girl he met at a part-time job that he ended up quitting. Your interpretation of the situation makes a lot of sense though. There are difficulties that come with emotional unavailability. It seemed like he was down to have sex though. It was her urgency and narcissism that turned him off from the way he explained it. The friend is social and really empathetic. He just is REALLY good at de-escalating and confronting people on their bs, so basica… | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 11:44 AM |
| 4 | Why is it that abuse victims tend to be really good at shit tests and maintaining frame?Damn, I noticed something interesting with the friend I mentioned in the post where in the beginning of our friendship I was distant and overall a shitty person/friend, and they were always reaching out to me, but then from being around them I changed as a person became more empathetic and vulnerable as I matured as a person, and then this put them in an uncomfortable position where they were still being empathetic, but they were acting more rude and distant because they were no longer in that "… | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 11:15 AM |
| 2 | I can relate to this so muchCould one of you guys expand on this? At a surface-level I feel like it's talking about self-sufficiency, frame, self-peace, and self-confidence. Being your own mental point of origin. But I'd like to really understand this without the fluff that comes with throwing out surface-level quotes. When you have "nothing" outside of yourself, personally, I feel like it's easier to be peaceful. No distractions, just you and nature. Introspection and purpose. I've had this, and it took little work. I fin… | /r/MGTOW | 04/10/19 03:55 AM |
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