Regarding pornography

2020-06-19T09:29:04+00:00

Lol who cares if a girl watches

Dodechaedron · 2020-06-19T10:10:10+00:00

In sincerity, I find it funny how we (myself included) are aroused by watching other people having sex ... It's like starving and being hypnotized by watching other people stuffing their faces with huge dinners.

Women's "porn" is more like literary fiction & tv series (especially those with complicated family sagas, psychological abuse, infidelity, intrigue, etc.). They are much less stimulated than us by visualizing sex acts, at least most of them. If you want to be the equivalent of a pornstar to them, you have to be handsome first but also unpredictable, misterious, etc, etc. The main character of the Poldark series could be an archetype.

Ever experienced being attractive to women when meeting new people (e.g. in a new workplaces) and getting lots of signs interest that die out as soon as you become "known", "customary" and no longer "new" & "misterious"?

zachthrowaway300 · 2020-06-19T08:49:34+00:00

i dated a girl who watched porn, imo it's a bit of a red flag.

monky-loves-you · 2020-06-19T08:49:17+00:00

I've known a few girls, but I only knew one girl that liked to watch porn, she was fucking crazy.

VidyaForLife · 2020-06-19T08:49:46+00:00

Personally, it’s a huge problem for me and I’m a full blown addict who is trying to recover.

As for girls, porn = immediate disqualification for LTR and idgaf about plates and their porn habits

mikrodizels · 2020-06-19T08:02:59+00:00

Good question, I wonder if any EC's will chip in on this one.

IMHO, as long as you get what you want out of your relationship, who cares? It's only a problem, if it messes with your boundaries.

tessadoesreddit · 2020-06-19T11:34:00+00:00

Their life, not yours. Don't even talk to them about it. Being so insecure about something as dumb as porn is some beta shit.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-06-19T23:52:32+00:00

You have to ask yourself a couple questions first.

1) Are you the Masturbation Police?

2) Are you getting paid cash for being the masturbation police?

If not, focus on things that are actually getting you paid and getting your dick wet.

Now, if your LTR is actually making excuses and turning you down for sex multiple times in a row, then you might have a bigger problem.

day2right · 2020-06-19T14:51:19+00:00

Had an LTR that would watch porn when we she visited her family one summer. To be fair she did want to cam first but that's the equivalent of porn in my eyes so I'd refuse. Only let slide if it's when you are seperated for whatever reason for a couple weeks, even then I expect her to keep her pants about her now. If I can control my urges as a higher libido person then she should too.

Porn use in a LTR relationship is a Redflag, man or woman.

I wouldn't tolerate this anymore, worst case just let one out without porn. But again you wouldn't know if she did or not. Best way is to be casual about it and not make it a big deal, if she does use it then mentally disqualify her.

Title	Regarding pornography
Author	VidyaForLife
Upvotes	0
Comments	20
Date	June 19, 2020 7:49 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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