toxic ex and a nice guy

muricanwerewolf1 · 2021-02-14T04:37:44+00:00

What the fuck? Nobody's tore this simp shit down yet?

So X was pretty toxic, did the push pull and ghost thing, used her for nudes, you know how it is.

Yeah, that's called game.

And she's still very attached to him, like obviously she wouldn't date him again but she's really attached.

Yeah, you believe that? Hahaha

Should I ghost for a week and then come back and then repeat?

Weird bro, that sounds like the push pull thing you were just saying was so shitty for the other guy to do.

You're an emotional crutch while she pines for another guy, a guy who she would slit your throat to get to commit to her. Knock it off. This is some oneitis bullshit.

ChadCyrus · 2021-02-14T04:16:13+00:00

Wtf is this thread. Make a move next time you see her, if it fails, hard next. You're supreme orbiter at the moment, giving off empty validation for nothing in return. The way this is going it will not end well for you. She will keep you waiting until she finds a real man that gives her tingles. Also read the side bar.

TheRedPillKing · 2021-02-14T07:09:31+00:00

Saw all your comments. She's using you as emotional pillow. Of course she's gonna double text when you ghost her. You are her best girl friend who wants to hear about her ex and get nothing in return. Read the sidebar dude and you'll realise you are wasting time.

Jet0703 · 2021-02-14T03:14:59+00:00

You won’t cut her off why?

themostgianthorse · 2021-02-14T13:36:16+00:00

Op, two options here -

1 - For some unfathomable reason, you still haven’t read no more mr nice guy or any of the sidebar for that matter. Read it. Lift heavy weights. Understand that you are an emotional tampon and an orbiter. Next this girl and make your life better. Get your own woman(en).

2 - Keep doing exactly what you’re doing. Soon, she’ll be fucking this guy again. It it’ll sting the first time you hear about it. She’ll keep doing it all the while telling you how great you are. You’ll build up resentment and your self confidence will get even lower than it is now. They’ll fuck several more times and then he’ll cut her loose. You’ll finally get the balls to make a move and she’ll say “I’m just not ready for anything right now”. She’ll hook up with randoms and you’ll hear about it.

I was in your shoes in my late teens/early 20s. I really wish that there had been someone to spell this out to me. I went with option 2. If you don’t want to be miserable, go with option 1.

someguy32323 · 2021-02-14T03:29:22+00:00

Every woman is different. Some women are attracted to dark triad traits more than others. This one is a lot. It sounds like she hasn't gotten over her ex and may not be ready to date right now.

Watch out if you are texting her for months only because you are opening to be with her some day. That is simp behavior. You should ask her out, and if not, she will probably never be interested in you. Shot your shot now rather than be her long-term simp friend.

TheSolarPillMod · 2021-02-14T03:40:25+00:00

What do you even want here, dude? Do you want a relationship with this chick? Then I think you should be more direct. Talk to her about this shit.

Guys being afraid "becoming the nice guy" is such weak shit. Don't be afraid of anything, dude. You ancestors went into war and died for their tribe.

You are obviously at the point where you can talk to her more deeply.

What is your end goal? What do you want?

LongTimeFaps · 2021-02-14T08:46:35+00:00

But I've grown really close to her, I'm essentially the boy best friend at this point.

Being the boy best friend is not going to get you anywhere but down, this isn't fucking Netflix that shit doesn't work in real life. I know from experience trust me, you need to pull away.

Sad_Sleeper · 2021-02-14T11:13:17+00:00

Now the queation is what did you do from August til now? You should have fucked her long time ago...

319Skew · 2021-02-14T14:50:26+00:00

I thought this was a troll post but then realized OP was a teen.

OP, you're not red pill. She's using you for attention. You can stop her and other women from doing this by reading the side bar.

Until you get a handle on it, you're just wasting time.

ay-fuh-q · 2021-02-14T18:13:57+00:00

"Toxic ex" is a term women use because the ex wouldn't give in to her bullshit. If she was sucking him dry throughout the relationship and even occasionally after the break up, he wasn't toxic. She was. She had demands he wouldn't give into.

And she's still very attached to him, like obviously she wouldn't date him again but she's really attached.

Still in denial, aren't you. Yes. She would. And she'd still do the dirtiest of sex for him.

She sometimes complains to me about him, and a few nights ago she said "OP you're so good to me".

If you're the guy she complains TO, you're not the guy she'll ever suck off. Girls ALWAYS say "you're so/too good to me" to the guy they don't want and wouldn't suck off. Sorry.

I am 99 percent sure I'm becoming the nice guy in this situation. What can I do to, not be the nice guy anymore.

Nothing you can do in this case with her. You've already gone out of your way to be her BFF. You're a girlfriend to her now. You can either be the guy whose lap she wants her head in, or the guy whose shoulder she wants to cry on. You've chosen the latter.

jjj2576 · 2021-02-15T02:12:46+00:00

Sidebar. Lift. STFU.

Title	toxic ex and a nice guy
Author	someguy32323
Upvotes	4
Comments	33
Date	February 14, 2021 3:08 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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