TL;DR Wife implies that I am a cheater (false) declares that I only use her for sex and basically acts as though she can't stand the sight of me.

I moved to a new city about a year and a half ago. My employer offered me a wonderful opportunity to return to university on their dime in order to complete my undergrad. This offer was not without strings, I now owe some obligatory service once I have earned my degree and I took a modest pay cut to the tune of $8,000 per year. I am a married father of two, head of a single income family and have been taking the "red pill" for about two years now. At first I made huge progress. I had never been happy in my marriage, except for a few short occasions. I started working out like a fiend, gaining 15 pounds of muscle in two years. I dress much sharper, read more books, watch less sports, and have cut porn out of my life. (occasionally I fall off the wagon). About a month ago I received a smaller pay cheque than normal. It wasn't due to any over sight on the part of my employer but due to tax reasons. Ever since then my wife has been quite chilly towards me and I'm not sure how to resurrect the spark we had managed to create. For weeks she remained chilly towards me and when I finally confronted her she implied that she suspected me of having an affair. (not true though I get way more IOIs than I was accustomed to- I also spend hours a day at a university) She also told me that she believes that I only use her for sex. The intimacy was never great in our relationship. I am unable to share with her my failures, sadnesses or depression as she simply wants me to deal with those things on my own. Despite that, the sex was good. Now it is non-existent since she told me that I use her for sex. Being accused of simply using her makes it hard for me to approach now, I always wonder whether or not she thinks I am just using her. My confidence in initiating sex has vanished. So double whammy, no emotional intimacy, no physical intimacy. In addition, she is very distant, rarely making eye contact, no kino touching, nada! She gives me the impression that she despises me and can't stand being under the same roof as me. Where did this all come from? Have I slipped back into comfortable beta mode? Is she not in love with me any more? I don't know what to do and am starting to despair. Sometimes it seems as though gaming one's wife is simply more work than is worth it.