I have been married going on 12 years now. Almost 2 years TRP. (Recently made a new username due to it being way to easy to find me IRL through the old).

My wife cracks me up because every month, like clockwork, she has the same argument/conversations with herself. It normally coincides with her period.

Every month, she re-evaluates every aspect of her life in the exact same way. Once a month. For almost 12 years.

Normal topics she always brings up:

Lack of friends
Lack of purpose in life
Our relationship is bad in some way
We are not good enough parents
Should I give up my business?

Now, taking time every month to evaluate your life is not bad. I self-reflect a lot. Try to take in what I need to improve, make a plan, and improve.

But 12 years in, almost every month, without fail, the same conversations. No matter what the REALITY of her situation is. The conversations are the exact same. Therefore, I can assume, her cyclical nature is based in some fantasy land where only women exist.

I used to engage, help, try and gauge what she needs to improve and help her...

Post TRP? I realize she is just a woman. Every month things bubble to the surface when her body is wacky. Her life is pretty dang good. Some good friendships. A PT job she enjoys mostly, a few interesting hobbies she pursues, kids she can raise up, etc.

But every month her life is a failure in her eyes. Like clockwork. After a few days of this, she snaps out of it and is 100% fine.

I have tried a million different things. From my blue pill engagement pre-TRP, to mocking her, to just letting her talk and wait it out.

I even tried asking "Oh, is it your period now? Okay. So your life is falling apart again. Got it."

Sometimes that worked.

Now? I just try to schedule work travel around her period. She wont be putting out. She is a mess to be around... might as well just skip town. Avoid the cycle and preserve my sanity.

Anyone else experience something similar with their wife?

I do what I can to mentally prepare myself, hold frame like a champ, and knock away shit tests/deal with comfort tests. Step up for game time.

A few days later? Her life is a-ok.