What is wrong with women these days?

SouthTippBass · 2025-11-11T21:20:03+00:00

Get off the apps.

mighty3mperor · 2025-11-12T03:49:57+00:00

Been on dating apps since years.

Step 1: get off the dating apps.

Their business model is closer to the gambling industry than a matchmaking one. They dangle the chance of a better prize in front of you that is just out of your reach. They do that because they rely on the bulk of the users staying subscribed for long periods of time and the best way to do that is to keep people restless, always chasing the big win

This will lead to the kind of behaviour you describe - you'll get an interesting match, chat for a bit, then they get a new match, ghost you and the cycle repeats itself. No-one ends up happy, except the shareholders - the house always wins.

fullsends · 2025-11-11T20:38:53+00:00

Accuracy by volume. If i couldn't get a date scheduled in the first 10 messages I moved on. If that's too fast, they're probably not that interested and like to flirt for their ego. Keep trying, there are diamonds in the rough. Also, don't be the nice guy just to avoid conflict. If they're acting inconsistent call them out or move on. If they look like they go to nightclubs they are highly likely to exhibit the behavior you described.

Silly-Product6304 · 2025-11-12T02:01:45+00:00

As crazy as it sounds, give up on online dating go out more maybe meet someone at work( I know it’s taboo) but it’s easier to get along with someone who had the same lifestyle and way easier to talk to them. I live in a city and have never had a problem getting dates

Veqa · 2025-11-12T01:08:39+00:00

It's called disney princess syndrome

bigbear7898 · 2025-11-12T10:59:22+00:00

“I answer fast and try to give long answers”

Well there’s your problem. You’ve gotta learn to play the game, replying like that makes you look desperate and will get you ghosted every single time.

ThrowthisawayPA · 2025-11-11T20:57:19+00:00

Social media has created simps which in turn will worship any woman. So some women have a huge ego now. The standards for both genders are very unrealistic.

Early_Magician1412 · 2025-11-11T20:50:32+00:00

It’s because they for the last decade+ have grown up on social media, YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, tictok. These sites feed into people’s perception of the world. Also most women can get a hot rich guy for a night, slipping into the life they want to live. Even though it’s only for a short while and it’s a complete fantasy. They’d rather live that dream than face an ever shittier world.

Also as a dude your perception of the world has also been affected by these sites, maybe less so Instagram and Facebook but more so porn hub and video games. There are lots of people who spend their entire life playing video games ( RuneScape, cod, Skyrim, etc ) they’d rather live in a fantasy world than face an ever shittier reality.

Like as a guy myself I get it, it’s hard. Because if they would only act the way you just want them to then your life would be fulfilled. But you can’t force it to happen. It’s a symptom of a very sick society right now, but idk if there’s a real cure for our disease of addiction.

sirdkuyp · 2025-11-11T21:44:45+00:00

It's our society as whole not just women. The first "red flag" and people bail simply because there are so many options. No one has the patience to work through problems anymore. I'm glad I've been with my wife for 18 years and have never had to resort to tinder etc. I'm sure it's a bloodbath nightmare to try to meet new people.

Boomerang_Lizard · 2025-11-11T21:41:24+00:00

This subreddit is more for posting videos were a female fails to use her gender to get special treatment, but yeah she blew you off. Move on and don't fall for games.

Netvision9 · 2025-11-11T20:55:51+00:00

She’s just not that into you

mmonzeob · 2025-11-12T04:19:17+00:00

So all those girls are wrong, but you’re the only one who’s right? Maybe try meeting a different kind of girl, one who’s beautiful on the inside, not just the outside. You might be surprised how much better things go when you stop chasing a look and start appreciating character.

youcantdenythat · 2025-11-12T14:00:51+00:00

Dude, you're literally in the wrong subreddit.

That said, dating apps are a total shit show for guys. Learn to meet women IRL.

Malak__ch · 2025-11-11T21:34:52+00:00

Im not saying there's something wrong with you but I think you need to change the way you view this. You're thinking "all women are treating me this way therefore all women are the same." When you should be thinking "all women are treating me this way and im the common denominator, therefore I should self-reflect and find out what im doing to scare them off".

Are there women who want the world and have nothing to contribute as you say, one hundred percent but you cant generalize. How do you know the women you spoke to a couple of times on a dating app are like that?

Alexchii · 2025-11-11T20:36:25+00:00

People (not only women) will adjust their expectations when they grow up. Some do so faster than others.

MamaBella · 2025-11-12T01:20:52+00:00

r/lostredditors

TheCrazyEnglish · 2025-11-12T01:09:38+00:00

Don’t need to read this post to already know what’s going on.

Everyone is a cunt in their own right, move on, they have no right to fuck up the feeling of the moment and that’s it.

Enough of these Gender War bullshit. It’s never gonna end of we keep going on about it

sjbluebirds · 2025-11-12T08:37:16+00:00

TL;DR

For someone with a long-winded opinion about anything, you have a tenuous grasp on the phrase " humble opinion ".

crbsideprophet13 · 2025-11-11T20:45:39+00:00

Have you met real women before? Some are shit, some are great, like all other humans!

Don’t just meet women, meet people in real life. Go to clubs, hiking meetups, something you are interested in and meet real people. Ditch the apps. Make relationships. Lose the anger and the disappointment. People can feel that energy and will continue to ghost you.

It’s not easy getting out of that funk but it takes a lot of effort and energy. Start saying yes to everything that comes your way. In time, you’ll understand most people are “normal” and they are dealing with the same anxieties as you.

dimmidummy · 2025-11-11T21:14:57+00:00

Homie the first step is to not generalize 50% of the population.

The second step is to do some self-reflection. Are you maybe going after people who aren’t interested in serious relationships? Maybe you’re unintentionally coming on too strong and it freaked them out - in which case, focus on building a connection over text or phone call or video chat first before trying to meet in person (remember that meeting strangers can be extra risky for women). Maybe it simply just wasn’t a good match and it is what it is. If something doesn’t work out, well now you have experience for next time.

Don’t take these dating flops as personal attacks. Everyone goes through it. Do you know how many guys waste my time after I put effort? Do you know how many people lie to my face even if their lies are easily verifiable? Do you know how many people ghost and block me after realizing that I’m not an easy hook up and want a serious relationship? Can you imagine the amount of men who feel like they have the right to critique my appearance and figure despite being total strangers? Is the answer to assume all men are like that? No, because then I’d be lying to myself.

The dating pool is full of snobs, rude people, and weirdos. You just gotta brush yourself off and keep going.

6Rainbowpuke9 · 2025-11-12T02:20:15+00:00

Bro just ugly.

captainkaiju · 2025-11-11T21:33:58+00:00

Generalizing women as being ridiculous based off of your few experiences and treating us as a monolith will not help you.

GoHardForLife · 2025-11-12T00:46:59+00:00

Just try to find a woman you have things in common with OP. Don't waste your head space on women that aren't interested in you. Find a woman that has hobbies that you like

eightbic · 2025-11-12T04:15:58+00:00

Short answer: you’re dating on apps. You’re not going to find quality on the apps. You can’t doordash a quality meal.

They’re also on the apps looking for instant gratification. It’s only a cesspool.

twoIQ · 2025-11-13T17:24:02+00:00

you'll learn one day that every woman is like that if given the opportunity

BaseballFuryThurman · 2025-11-11T21:30:52+00:00

Holy shit this subreddit really has become r/incels. Wtf does this have to do with someone not being able to use a "pussy pass"? This is literally just complaining and broadly generalising women.

Downvote this comment if you've never seen the inside of a bra.

lovesickjones · 2025-11-11T21:44:55+00:00

"never try to understand women. Women understand, women, and they hate each other." -Al Bundy

spicysenpai6 · 2025-11-12T14:06:28+00:00

I really wouldn’t even dwell on it dude. Seems to me that you’re talking to the wrong women.

tater08 · 2025-11-12T17:05:48+00:00

She probably met someone else. She just wasn’t that into you

KamilleIsAVegetable · 2025-11-12T19:20:01+00:00

Been on dating apps since years

ESL hands typed this

surfinsmiley · 2025-11-12T22:44:11+00:00

Population decline is worldwide. Why is that?

What has stopped us from doing the one thing that's programmed into our DNA, to reproduce, multiply, procreate!

What is wrong with humans these days?

NatsuD99 · 2025-11-13T01:44:37+00:00

Just do the opposite

thinsoldier · 2025-11-13T03:04:23+00:00

A man whore I know, in his 40s, went from a body count of almost 200 to well over 1,000 in recent years since he started using apps. The filthy apartments and questionable personal hygiene of damn near everyone he's fucked combined with the fact that they'd fuck him based on a single photo and a bullshit text conversation makes HIM SAY that these new generation women are worthless.

NotMeUsee · 2025-11-13T17:28:13+00:00

So much

sidefect · 2025-11-14T06:23:02+00:00

You’re not describing “women”, this is people in general. Everyone wants everything for themselves with minimal to none effort put in.

You’re just heterosexual and mad that is hard to get laid, so you notice it the most with women.

kemando · 2025-11-14T08:35:08+00:00

Learn what you can about frame testing and text game.

A lot of the things women text you, especially when you haven't dated or only been on 3-4 dates are tests.

Sometimes they don't even do this consciously.

And most women don't even know they fundamentally don't want what they say they do, hell, what they might even THINK they do.

They're testing. Testing for compliance. Testing for validation. Testing to see if you'll chase. Testing to see if you'll fold your plans for minor things she wants. Testing fucking everything all the time.

But the more you pass, the less she'll do and the more interest and respect she'll have.

The more you fail? They distance, they makes excuses, they reply slower... Eventually ghosting.

Ok-Load7563 · 2025-11-14T09:15:49+00:00

The biggest red flags of a girl. Keeping you on the hook. They will keep talking to you, appreciate every romantic gesture you do, be over the moon on them and when it's time for commitment, they'll say they never saw you that way.

Girl what is wrong with you? Say so on the first romantic gesture ffs. Don't waste everyone's time!!

cflbc · 2025-11-15T17:48:56+00:00

Unfortunately you care too much. Ya gotta focus on building yourself into the best you and you’ll find the one that’s enamored with you.

capt_broderick · 2025-11-16T16:46:58+00:00

You should try dating women instead.

NotDanish1960 · 2025-11-19T03:35:42+00:00

If you are on an app, you are most likely talking with a guy.

hondas3xual · 2025-11-19T19:08:31+00:00

"They expect the world, want a man with money, extremely handsome, extremely loyal, the best of all in one person."

That's literally what the "empowerment" movements have been about.

GilderonPaladin · 2025-11-11T22:02:08+00:00

Social media shows everyone the top 1% of the top 1% across any metric and they begin to believe that that’s attainable or even possible in their small town. Go to Wal-mart and look around. That population is the majority. They are out of touch and their standards are skewed.

ireallylike808s · 2025-11-12T07:06:15+00:00

Women on social media are like what you describe to a T. But there are quiet, reserved, traditional women out there, you’re just not going to find them so easily.

duckythegunner · 2025-11-11T23:31:43+00:00

I think social media changed people's expectations and standards in almost everything, I wasn't an adult before social media became a thing but I guess people back then were much happier with their choices and partners, nowadays we always see something or someone better than what we have, like they say "grass is always greener on the other side", I don't blame girls for having higher standards because everyone have higher standards now. And about your situation, if some girl behaved with me the way she did with you, I wouldn't waste my time and just move on, if they're into you they'll find a way to reach you.

SpaghettiTrombone · 2025-11-13T18:48:04+00:00

In my experience as a young man I think this sentiment is pretty overblown. I’ve dated several women, some of whom I’ve met on apps. Most of these people seem perfectly realistic and average. I mean most people are average by definition. If it helps, I’m a short, relatively skinny guy so it’s not even like I have it “easy” in the dating market so to speak. There are definitely outliers, and I’ve met them. On average women do tend to want more from men than the other way around, but that’s always how it’s been. I mean women are selective by nature, since guys are way more thirsty

mistermuttley2 · 2025-11-11T22:43:57+00:00

The sad reality is, women get a LOT more interest on dating sites than men. Also women would rather go out with men who might also be dating other women, if they are good looking. (read about this data on the internet, it's actually factual)

So you have say 80% of these women, dating 20% of the men on these sites. So the dating game for men is much harder on these websites.

Don't know what age you are, but you have to give yourself an edge if you want to find a decent woman nowadays. Women say they are all about personality, but surveys say otherwise. In blind tests, women always pick the athletic/jacked guy, over other body types.

So while you aren't currently dating, get SERIOUS about fitness and build muscle and shape. This also gives you more confidence, and boosts your positivity. Which again helps in finding/keeping a partner. Good luck pal, hit the gym hard and be consistent! 💪 It will pay off.

enter_yourname · 2025-11-11T20:54:50+00:00

Man why is incel shit on my feed

SuperJonesy408 · 2025-11-11T20:35:22+00:00

Big incel vibes here

AmatureProgrammer · 2025-11-11T22:39:23+00:00

Because most of them aren't feminine.

walkth3earth · 2025-11-11T22:01:42+00:00

Bro they are at their prime, they can kind of demand what they want lol

Boyz4jesuszeus · 2025-11-12T23:27:46+00:00

Go outside and actually talk to real people. I promise 90% are not like the fantasy you described

ClickKlockTickTock · 2025-11-13T00:18:10+00:00

What are you smokin bro do you live in the real world

thinsoldier · 2025-11-13T01:46:07+00:00

Don't waste time with apps. Go outside and look at the real world. Your attraction to a doctored photo is completely different to your attraction to a woman sitting on the other end of a bench. You get to actually see them from every angle, hear their voice, experience their personality, maybe even smell their personal hygiene.

hey_guys_its_ellis · 2025-11-13T02:56:11+00:00

get off tinder!!

GotsTheBeetus · 2025-11-15T02:19:14+00:00

Christ, take a look at yourself man

Golf4funky · 2025-11-12T05:45:09+00:00

Diamonds in the rough = traditional (values) women. Take your time. At 30y they hit the wall, but you’d still have to root the bad weeds out. Keep looking, you’ll find the one.

p4p4shili · 2025-11-12T09:00:17+00:00

Stop wasting time energy and money on women, not worth it. Invest in yourself

91_til_infinity · 2025-11-12T14:49:50+00:00

They honestly just want someone with a bit of charm. That's it. You don't seem very charming if I'm honest.

makip · 2025-11-13T12:20:36+00:00

Law of demand and supply. Not new for women to expect to be impressed, we just see it more thanks to social media.

Respectfully, with posts like these, I understand why you’re having a hard time getting a woman.

PanarinBagel · 2025-11-16T13:35:49+00:00

What are you on a scale from 1-10 be honest

UWontHearMeAnyway · 2025-11-12T02:41:17+00:00

Not just 20s. It's that way for most women these days. Across several generations

ogx2og · 2025-11-12T02:50:12+00:00

Dude... There is no happy ending to any marriage story. Run don't hide was invented for marriage. Don't.

Title	What is wrong with women these days?
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Date	November 11, 2025 8:30 PM UTC (8 months ago)
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