After a kiss-close

2013-01-04T19:25:16+00:00

I see 2 problems here:

female psychology
alcohol

Flirtatious texts will come and go with inebriation or sobriety, changes in environment, etc. I know I'm a lot more likely to drop a flirty text in the evening than in the morning.

I think you're overanalyzing and you should just quit worrying about it. Just stay in it and keep her attracted. You have proof that she is so you can run with it. If a girl pretended nothing happened with me, I probably just wouldn't text her again to be honest, and if she decided to chase a bit I may say be down.

If you turn the tables, girls are usually the ones asking these kind of questions; "why didn't this guy text me back, etc"... so if it 'didn't happen' or if she's being distant, show her what distant really is.

2013-01-04T19:26:45+00:00

As a guy, I could have fallen in love with a girl one day and been to hungover to even text her the next day. Im waitin to meet the one bird who can get a response out of me the next day

dimonk · 2013-01-04T20:42:47+00:00

I think you have to connect with her more than just sexually. I think many girls will see guys they hook up with at night as a one time thing. For her to see you again, she needs to feel you are good for more than just sex. For instance, you could have a conversation about emotional experiences both of you have shared and referred back to that in your texts. That will get her going even after the moon sets and the sun rises.

the_grim_CREEPER · 2013-01-04T22:50:44+00:00

It is a response drawn in the moment. If you are serious about setting the date the next day, set it while you are there. Don't leave it open ended as this breeds flakiness.

People generally will illogical in emotional situations. She liked you enough to k-close so she is somewhat interested, but the emotional part disappears when she wakes up the next morning. The trick is to be unforgettable. Make her wake up thinking about that mysterious guy she was with.

How do you do this?

Well, you said you are a good closer so it likely isn't your game. Perhaps you are not making the date memorable enough. Keep her on the edge of her seat. Just when she thinks she knows what's up throw a curveball in there. Make her want more. If you do this and set the date she will wake up anxious to see you again. You don't need to do anything outlandish, just focus on her queues and what makes tick. Hit those points throughout the date and make her swoon.

JackGibbons · 2013-01-04T18:46:11+00:00

Emotions change. One day she's your biggest fan, the next she wants to kill and rape your hole family. Someone might have just hurt her best friend the same day you called, so naturally she would then associate those negative feelings towards you. I just try to empathize, assume something happened, and don't give it a second thought. GET MOAR GIRLS!

yorex · 2013-01-05T00:15:27+00:00

As someone who have read Magnetic Messaging and have a lot of messaging experience; this sounds completely normal. It's pretty much all about emotions and the second she feels something else it can (and usually does) turn her off towards you.

Usually this is because of a flaw in a guys phone game where you don't spark an emotion within her when you text, and she doesn't remember the spark from the day before (or the day before that, you get the point). Sometimes you cannot salvage it, as people already has commented in this thread: something might have happened in her life that very same day which makes her unable to date/meet up (at the moment usually, if you have a strong phone game you can suggest a date later on when you spark an emotion again)

Sometimes they just see it as a flirt while on alcohol, which isn't uncommon either, but this is salvageable with resonable phone game, don't start conversations with boring/something everyone would write. Go over the top and try to be funny, and after a short conversation about your wierd topic, she should see you as someone different and agree to a meetup. Never start a conversation by asking her out!

I will add that there are some girls that just won't meet you again, and it's just something to accept. It was something she decided even before she gave you her number.

It's all about emotions and psycology the day after the fact so either you adapt, or you delete the number and get on with your life.

tl;dr: Phone game is important

Sorry if my English isn't the best, not my first language.

salem2474 · 2013-01-05T04:32:18+00:00

I've had this happen a few times. Here's the pattern:

We have fun, but there's not a ton in common and I didn't succeed in creating a connection.
I used progressive Kino to get her aroused

Later, once the moment is over, she's left wondering why she was so attracted in the moment. I'm no longer there to touch her, and the underlying connection was pretty weak.

Captain_French · 2013-01-05T17:30:29+00:00

I've read every answer and it all makes sens.. I am over-analyzing that sort of things..

In fact, the girl called me yesterday to invite me again at another party but I already had a date.

I found out that when it happens I may just connect sexually with the girl and my phone/text game is really bad at the moment.. Need to work on that.

Thanks for the insight it helped a lot!

bluehat9 · 2013-01-04T19:34:29+00:00

Well, you're a guy, so you're supposed to want to fuck her (in her mind), so the fact that you drop her off, give her a kiss, and don't try to fuck her might make her feel unattractive, or like you just aren't into her. Just an idea, by no means am I saying that this is what's going on in your situation.

Title	After a kiss-close
Author	Captain_French
Upvotes	10
Comments	14
Date	January 4, 2013 5:56 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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