Hey guys,

This is the first time I've posted and it's also the first time I've been out after learning about /r/seduction. I've learned so much in such a short time, but on with the FR.

A couple of friends and myself went to a club without much expectation except to listen to one of the DJs and have fun. I'm hoping to put some of the things I've learned from here to use, but probably just talk with a girl, maybe do some dancing.

We all start dancing right away, but not wildly nor very loosened up. I notice that while I'm around my friends, I'm more reserved and it looks weird to have a bunch of awkward guys dancing in a circle, so I break away to do my own thing. Shortly thereafter, I notice this girl (HB 6) dancing by herself and seeming to have a good time. I decide to dance in her direction and boom, we end up dancing for about 30 seconds before she giggles and dances away. This may not seem like a lot, but I never go to clubs and never dance with random girls.

This leaves me feeling pretty good, so I go out to find some more girls to dance with. It turns out there are a trio of girls (HB9, HB7, HB6) dancing with hula hoops. As they left the area, I made a comment about how they need the hula hoops to keep guys away, HB9 smiled and said "sometimes". Later in the evening, I ended up dancing with HB9 and HB6. I chatted with each of them, but it was loud, so it's difficult to hear. At one point with HB6, I asked if she wanted to come to a different dancing area (I was hot and needed to go to the cooler area) but she said she would hold the fort (drat).

Up until this point, I had just been dancing face-to-face with the girls, trying to take up as much space as I could with how I was dancing. I wanted to try to grind a little, so I went to a more crowded area of the dance floor.

It took a lot of effort for me (dance beside girl -> slowly dance behind girl -> slowly dance closer to girl -> if girl doesn't object, attempt slight brushes of hip with hand -> if girl doesn't object, put hand on hip and gauge reaction -> grind or abort), but I eventually put a hand on a girl's hip and she went with it. That was awesome, I felt like I had broken a barrier. The night had already produced more than enough results for what I was expecting, so from there on, I just danced around until my friends and I left.

Now for the questions:

  1. I felt like I wasn't initiating dancing very well. If anyone has ideas on how to start a grinding session without making a girl feel threatened, please enlighten me.

  2. Once I finally started grinding, I have no idea what to do next. I feel like the couple times this happened, it ended because she could tell I have no idea what I'm doing.

  3. Any other feedback or ideas for the future would be more than welcome.

Thanks for reading!

EDIT: grammar and formatting