How to talk better?

HomelessMilkman · 2024-09-25T10:31:34+00:00

You feel how you want them to feel, then you inject that vibe into whatever you're saying.

The fundamental issue is that you're questioning what you say, you're waiting for feedback or approval to feel good about what you're saying. From that mindset, you're not in control of how you're presenting yourself.

You want to be able to take a 'boring', 'mundane' topic and present it as if you got 'abducted by an alien'. Some energy, some urgency, some passion, some dynamic range, etc. Use your voice, project, speak slow, speak fast, change pitch, change inflection, etc. Have fun expressing yourself. Present yourself.

It's okay to like nerdy things, I like nerdy things. I'm just not apologetic and meek about it, I don't present it like it's 'bad' and should be looked down upon. I present it, I present myself as if what I'm showing you is 'THE CRAZIEST SHIT YOU CAN IMAGINE'. I choose how I want to come across. You choose how you want to come across - the issue is obviously the self-sabotage going on - you need to buy into yourself.

Dandys3107 · 2024-09-25T11:25:42+00:00

Practice makes perfect, attend social meetings, watch podcasts or more serious talk shows. In terms of tips, I would suggest to be more expressive in your conversations, use proper intonation and gesticulation, many guys talk with girls like they would be tested in school by a blackboard. Choose topics that bring positive emotions, pass on topics that are common, boring or unpleasant. Focus on your dynamics, having more of back to back conversation and finding connection, not about passing non relatable information. Pay attention to girl, your surroundings and general mood to get lead how to proceed with your interaction. Remember that your words should be congruent with your body language. In general, there are plenty of techniques how to properly tell stories, extract emotions and make fun about almost everything, but these are things that are best learnt from examples, you should therefore put yourself frequently among different groups of people.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-09-25T13:54:10+00:00

Don't worry about talking better when it comes to words say what you want, not doing so is not being genuine. You don't want a woman who isn't ok with what u like to talk about.

You talk better by behaving better.

My girl talks nerd stuff with me all day we assess our Pokemon go crawls all the time🤣.

Even when I was single and playing pool with girls I would start talking about how Im leveraging plane geometry to whoop their ass

I talk nerd words and subject matter if I feel like it...but I don't talk like a nerd. If talking about quantum physics...I'm not talking like Steve erckle; I keep my tone, cadence, and mannerisms as if im some kind of handsome secret agent, it's the non verbal behaviors that do most of the communicating

nycfunn420 · 2024-09-26T00:10:39+00:00

So it's basically practice being social in general. You're smart, other people aren't. Different things like reading and writing can work out your brain. Reading textbooks and learning certain maths is more like weightlifting. Talking is more like cardio or yoga. It's less about "strength" And more about "agility or flexibility".

So don't think harder. You have to let your mind relax. A lot of good talkers aren't educated because talking or "cardio" is easier than studying or "heavy weightlifting". So if dumb people can be social and talk well then you should be more than fine.

So 1. don't think hard.

2 It's not about you or your opinions. your logic and knowledge means nothing if it's going to clash with the other person or disrupt the convo. It's about the other person. Put them first.

3 continuing from 2, you might have to be fake. You're going to come across people who are wrong about things. Learn how to go along with what other people are saying. What's the point of correcting someone if you're just going to make them feel bad or not good about themselves or possibly stupid. What are you or they gaining from being corrected? This isn't a class where accuracy matters. This is talking.

Read and understand old school poetry. Poetry has double, triple, quadruple meaning sometimes. Some conversations go that way. Especially with girls.
This isn't like a computer or math or chemistry. There is no clear directions of how to do things. There is no scientific breakdown with a step by step procedure or formula to follow. (There is but then you need some experience to understand the context of what the scientific breakdown is) You have to have your wits about you. Thinking on the fly is a separate skill.
Journalism, curiosity .. reporters have to ask questions and sift through half truths and full on lies. Have to understand when people are giving bullshit answers. But curiosity needs to be there. Remember, every single person on this planet knows at least one thing you don't. Be curious to find out what it is.
Practice. You need to practice being social and understand social norms and social opinions. Don't assume they align with your own. You're going to end up saying lots of things that you don't mean or agree with and you have to sell it. Meaning the listener has to believe you. This isn't class or your job where accuracy and being right and having the most perfect morals matter.

epimpstyle · 2024-09-25T19:58:07+00:00

How to make talks interesting?

By telling interesting stories. If you don't have any experience, create such stories, memorize them and use them whenever you need to.

How to improve sense of humor?

Watch someone tell jokes, the easiest way is to search for stand-up comedy on youtube.

How to keep talk engaging?

Here you need routines/scripts/gambits because you will use them whenever there is an awkward moment of silence in the conversation. Such routines/scripts will make the other person talk because you will give them an interesting subject to talk about, you will say a story that will engage them in the conversation. Is that easy.

berzerker5000 · 2024-09-25T12:31:39+00:00

Start killing some brain cells through partying and drugs. It’s the only way to disrupt your nerd virus and be cool. You been safe and logical your whole life. It will take more than books. You need cognitive reprogramming. Trust me. I am a sort of nerd too, but started drug therapy (weed, LSD, Molly, mushrooms) early in HS so the virus didn’t take hold like it did my dad. It helped my social skills: free association, humor, non/linear thinking, and being in the moment. I mean watch the fucking movie NERDS and it’s about just that! Anyone that downvotes or says this is terrible advice is a nerd so warning in advance. Don’t listen to the echo chamber of nerds on this sub. Listen to former drug addicts haha. Once you kill the requisite number of brain cells you can transition to low level alcoholism. Gl.

Title	How to talk better?
Author	Excellent_Tie_5604
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Date	September 25, 2024 9:07 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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