Between like 19-22, everything seemed so easy. I’d be able to hook up with girls on tinder on the first date. we’d smoke, talk, put on a movie on and just have a good time.

But for the last 3 years it feels like I’ve had to put so much effort in to get a lick of attention from girls I’m into on tinder and just in general. I definitely have the physical attractiveness part as I do get glances from girls. And I know I’m not terrible in bed. But it’s the in between phase that I’m bad at.

I realized I never actually knew how to escalate or polarize as mentioned in the thread. Maybe I did it naturally back then idk. I just want to know how to build that attraction mentally. I don’t know if it’s fear or what.

Any advice is appreciated.