Met up with a girl on Tinder. TBH I was in a dry spell so even though she didn't seem that attractive, I still set up a date for Saturday night. The basics: 32yo black girl, around 5'4" in height, average weight. We had maybe 20 messages in total back and forth. I set up the date in my town downtown. Gave her a firm time but left some mystery as to where we would be going ("meet me at the square"). Complete radio silence for the next ~10 hours.

I arrived on time at the designated location and greeted her with a hug and kiss on the cheek, which she was receptive to which was a good sign. First impressions? I was pleasantly surprised to find she was more attractive in person than in her photos (how often does that happen?). She had flawless skin and clearly worked out. She was nicely lean with good definition in her arms (crossfit).

For the next ~4.5 hours I bounced her around 3 bars around town she had never been to. Here and there I made conversation with the bartenders and other dudes and girls around the bar just for fun (and to display my social skills!). We alternated paying for rounds (another good sign). I found out that she was actually a new professor in the law department at the university in my town and was more accomplished than I realized from her Tinder profile. We hit it off well - she was quite adept at carrying on conversations, unlike many girls who expect a man just to entertain her for the night. A BIG positive signal for me was that she only checked her phone maybe 2 times throughout the night.

I kino'ed hard throughout the night, touching her back and arms, and had my arm around her waist while walking in between bars. She didn't kino back at all except towards the end when she put her arm around my waist as well. Eventually around 2AM we walk downtown to the town square, find a secluded bench, and I go for the k-close. She reciprocates and it's ON! I've got my hands all up and down her tits, biting her neck HARD and she's absolutely loving it.

Eventually we go to her car in the nearby garage. I pull her in for another kiss and heat her up enough so that she jumps over the console and straddles me. At this point I get her bra off but she refuses to let me take her shirt off. I suck/bite on her nipples and neck and she's loving it. We move into the back seat for more heavy making out. She's sucking on my fingers and I find out that she likes a bit of pressure on her neck (freak alert!). Since things aren't really progressing further, I go for the nuclear option and put her hand on my crotch. She finds her way to my dick and strokes it and opens up my jeans. I tell her to suck my dick but she gives the usual excuse of having just met me so I say OK and keep making out and playing with her tits. Still resisting my attempts to take off her shirt or pants. I meet her protests of "I think we should leave" and "You're trouble" with the usual "yes, we should". If a girl's having a good time, her protests mean nothing. Don't use logic, just agree with her and keep on trucking.

Eventually, since she's not receptive to having sex, a BJ, or even a full handjob ("Something to look forward to next time" is what she said), we get out of her car and I pull my dick out again and put her hand on it. We make out a bit more, she strokes it a bit but then decides she's had enough and says something like "put your penis away" since we're standing out in public. At this point I'm tired and frustrated so we part ways. I think she's interested in meeting up again though we haven't messaged since.

Summary:

  • Every text should have a purpose - don't do a lot of meaningless chit chat. Keep an air of mystery and set up the date. Then radio silence.

  • Our conversation wasn't sexual, but I kino'ed hard and that's all that matters. Sexuality is more strongly communicated through actions.

  • Sit at the bar for easier kino. Always go for the k-close on a first date. Always.

  • I'm not sure if I should've just left soon after she refused to give me a BJ. I feel like I put in a lot of work for little reward. Needless to say, I will be expecting a lot more on our second date.