I've been following seddit, and I've been following the PUA scene for a while, read The Game, watched various videos and I'm trying to integrate some techniques into my game. But I'm creating some self-defeating obstacles, maybe I can get some help and some perspective on them.

First off, I never had too much trouble with the ladies. But I'm in sort of a jam. I spent about 10 years hiding away from the world while I took care of a dying parent. I barely left the house for 10 years, I became desocialized. Now I'm re-emerging back into the world, but I have a couple of primary problems.

  1. I have no social circle whatsoever. I don't know anyone in this town. Don't have a wing, I have to sarge solo.

  2. This is a college town. It's a small town so college kids dominate the city. Almost everyone here is 18-22, and I'm 52.

Now I am a fairly young-looking 52, I could easily pass for maybe 42, I have a little grey hair at the temples but I'm fairly good looking. I'm active, not decrepit in the way I see the other 52 year old men are. But when I go out into the social scene here, it's all targeted at young kids. I've been at bars where they won't even serve me, I'm just not their market, so I've been left sitting at the bar for 30 minutes being passed over for service. Yeah, I get the message, you're making sure I get the ultimate DLV so everyone can see.

Now I personally don't have any problems with age differences, it doesn't bother me. When I was 23, my first LTGF was 42. More recently, my last LTGF was 16 years younger than me (and a hot ex-stripper too). But apparently it bothers everyone else. In this town, I just cannot penetrate the scene. I'm obviously considered the creepy old guy lurking around by himself.

Someone suggested I find the "townie" hangout bars, where the permanent residents hang out, the older non-college crowd places. So I go to these places, and they're basically hangouts for a few old burnout alcoholics. These are not people I want to meet, let alone date.

So I'm listening to a few of the recently posted materials, one audio file says, you don't like hanging out in bars to do pickup? Then don't hang out in bars doing pickup. You have to enjoy what you're doing or it isn't worthwhile. Okay, so there are other social scenes, like weekly free concerts. The locals hang out, they're all elderly couples, like in their 70s, sitting there sedentarily. Hell, I'm trying to restart my life, not retire and become a crotchety old fart like them. I have to start living to make up for lost time.

Now there are other problems. Maybe I'm being picky, but the women even close to my age have all gone to hell. They're divorcees with too much excess baggage and a bunch of kids or they're antisocial college professor types, or they're just plain fat and unattractive. I keep thinking of that old saying, "Beautiful, Intelligent, Emotionally Stable: pick any two." Hell, lately I'm lucky to find even one.

Now the other problem is, I just don't have much of a life. I am pretty poor, and it's obvious. I can't afford nice new clothes, I can't afford to go out to expensive clubs. Then I figure it doesn't matter so much, I know homeless alcoholics with hot girlfriends, so I must be doing something wrong. Yeah, I have done some amazing things in my life, I have more than enough personality to attract a woman, but I am just not doing anything NOW that gets me out into the circles of women in my class.

So I am wondering if anyone has some suggestions for me. I'm not just an AFC, I am an Extraordinarily FC. I need a reframe, I need a way to approach this set of obvious problems. I am wondering what to do in a local scene that is set up to exclude people my age. This gives me a self-defeating attitude, which makes it harder for me to be upbeat and seek out the scene I need, hell, to create the scene I need.

Any ideas?