I've quit drinking 2 months ago and I feel that my flirting is not fully there where it was when I was still drinking. Alcohol made me happy and careless so I always naturally moved conversations away from logic and more to interpersonal tension, flirting etc. Now I sometimes realize that I'm either building too much connection with a girl (which is necessary but should be mixed with flirting) or I'm discussing some random topics that I don't even care about.

I even had a date this week where I brought the girl home but she was explaining her interactions with other people and I could tell she's quite a mean bitch sometimes. But instead of changing topics or just teasing her about I tried to convince her that being a bitch is not the most fun way to move through life lol. Obviously not a smart move when I want to get intimate with her.

Any tips on how to sexualize conversations more? When I'm tipsy this stuff is second nature but it seems hard to access now sober. (I can't go back to drinking, see my last post here in this sub for a reference).

Anyway on the plus side I'm getting quite comfortable being sober at parties. I'm approaching morw actually, can get to the hook point, but afterwards I'm missing the "getting girls excited" part. Being sober is great so far, but I have to learn how to do excite girls again. My confidence is way up actually since I'm actually tackling my anxieties now and not masking them with booze.