Switching to sober game

ntipz011 · 2020-01-31T05:04:05+00:00

My game went from amazingly bold to crippling anxiety at the beginning of the night.

Then you learn to deal with the first few approaches and build momentum. Then you are able to structure your game because your mind is clear.

And after some time of practice you don't need alcohol anymore at all and your game is extra tight even at 2am when everyone is wasted.

No alcohol is really just you raising the skill floor and skill ceiling of your game.

supremelyparanoid · 2020-01-29T23:45:39+00:00

Have you got a routine to pump yourself up before a date or social occasion? Often I’ll buy a new outfit or put an outfit together from my existing wardrobe. I’ll style myself different / listen to really positive party music and try to feel really good about myself before going out. Do you surround yourself with friends who make you feel comfortable / big you up too?

Edit: one more thing, can you have say one or two drinks without going overboard? Or have you decided to cut it out completely?

smoothmax · 2020-01-30T00:23:12+00:00

I haven't made that switch but if it helps you to hear it, sober game works just fine.

Sober you may feel very different but remember it's the woman's impression of you that counts not your impression of how you're doing. Sober game might feel too boring and chill. But in my experience, if you can act cool and laid back you're already a standout compared to most guys. You don't have to be the life of the party. You should try to be the funnest guy in the room ... but you can do that in a relaxed and laid back way.

In terms of brain chemistry, my non-scientific take on it is, you need to learn to manufacture endorphins (pleasure hormones) naturally from just being healthy, well rested and by getting pleasure from simple human interactions like saying "hi" and chatting in a sociable way. When you can get pleasure in that way, you will be fun to be around and being fun is attractive to people.

Hubblenobbin · 2020-02-02T12:21:01+00:00

Memory is state dependent. It will take practice to connect all that skill to your sober self. Try a couple warm up approaches. Make small chat or flirt with some dudes or wags you're not interested in then go about your night.

Nervous-Ticket · 2020-02-15T03:13:25+00:00

Quick update: warm up approaches are the way to go. Feels super awkward at first but if you talk to dudes or girls you're not interested in it works pretty well as you don't want to fuck them.

Getting more comfortable chatting up girls and the reactions are way better than when I do it drunk. I also do it more. Next step is upping the flirtation again, Cuz I'm too nice in the start and in nightlife you have a very short window to make an attractive impression. Can get numbers pretty easily now, but numbers are crap from nightgame.

Overall I'm moving in the direction I want to. Still gonna take work but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. 😎

Title	Switching to sober game
Author	Nervous-Ticket
Upvotes	9
Comments	21
Date	January 29, 2020 7:57 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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