I've been on seddit for the past week. I've been tired of staying home living a private life and wanted to get out there. I've always been outgoing but definitely had some AA around women I found attractive. Went to the bar tonight, a couple bars actually. I decided to dress up a bit, set myself apart from everyone else there. I may have been a bit overdressed but I've been on the men's fashion subreddit and I was feeling very confident. So I made some conversations with some dudes at bar 1 to warm myself up. At bar 2 I ran into a girl I liked in high school so I chatted her up. I don't know how you guys remember all these specifics about your conversations, especially when alcohol was involved but it went something like: Her: hey whats up with the jacket? Me: I've been trying this new thing, its called looking good. Her: Yeah you definitely aren't the same nerd you were in high school. Me: I'm a changed man (initiate some kino) I'm a little drunk I dont remember the specifics but somehow we got on the topic of her ass: Her: I think its pretty nice... me: I dont know (so so hand jesture) Her: (turns around and shows me) Me: (sneaks a grab)... its allright.... Her: whatever! Me: you can't even see it how would you know?.. Her: I just model for myself in the mirror. Me: some teasing about that...

Later her friend walks up ( a dude) and starts talking about how they're basically bf and gf, and she tells me its "an emotional relationship" (as opposed to physical). I decided not to take him too seriously and basically ignored him.

Eventually, she buys me a drink. I'm feeling pretty good, lots of kino, but then she asks if I'm a virgin and I kind of freeze because I am. At this point I couldnt lie to her she would have read right through me so I confess and she tells me well now we can't do anything because she would feel guilty or some shit. So she says I should first have some kind of sex spree and she says she's gonna take a walk and I say "see ya I'm gonna get started on that spree".

Anyway here I am tonight, no spree, but I did talk to a lot more people than I usually do at the bar and my confidence was higher than its ever been. I feel like I could have closed with the girl if it wasn't for the virgin thing. I'm still a little tipsy, the end.

Edit: Now that I'm sobered up a little bit more details are returning to me: Some things I found effective: When she said I was not the same nerd I was in high school I said "I'm a changed man" winked at her, touched her arm, and walked away to her giggling. The next time she saw, about an hour later, me she was calling me over to her, not the other way around. After the whole virgin thing she seemed very disappointed and said " aw now I can't take advantage of you" and I replied "I dont think you understand what's going on here... I am the one seducing YOU". Not sure if this is the right reply, suggestions? Anyway I think walking away and letting her do the pursuing really changed the dynamic in my favor. Now I didn't need her and she desperately wanted me. The whole virgin thing really killed the vibe.