I realized something today. As much as I do crazy shit I still do the following.

I play it safe when it doesn't fucking matter all that much or at all. I don't play it safe when I should and it matters a fuckload.

Let me explain a few situations.

  • Could have had super dirty awesome sex with a previous female friends sister that really wanted it. I had one chance only and now it's gone.

  • Passed up a 3some because I was tired

  • Never asked a girl to marry me when I could have changed my entire life

  • Never just said fuck it and banged this girl because my exwife was being crazy and I thought me not doing anything would help. I could have had fun and still had the same end result. (we had a threesome and she got upset because of an assumption so I stopped and she ended up upset anyhow so I should have just kept going)

  • Never bought flowers or did anything too special for babies mother because my previous relationship I had done tons of stuff and got burned. It isn't every woman that is going to burn you. Just act awesome and those that are awesome will stick around otherwise you are just being an idiot.

When I acted stupid and should have played it safe?

  • I said way too fucking much when I was trying to get my babies mother back and should just have played it cool and safe but instead got anxious

  • Should have just been friends and stopped pushing it with my previous chick friend. I can't save people from their own stupidity. I can only save myself from mine. I have to let others make their mistakes otherwise they just resent me for pushing the help.

  • Got overly upset during previous relationship when I could have kept my cool. It was dumb and never helped

So basically...

  • Keep your cool because freaking out doesn't help
  • Take chances for good things because you want life to be awesome and you can't win if you don't play
  • If you are anxious and overzealous you will lose
  • Be zealous but not overly

An alpha is confident enough to go for what he wants but confident enough to be patient if needed and not over react. People are emotional and whims come often.