What's wrong with me?

Kino_PuA · 2012-02-15T03:47:56+00:00

Abundance mentality and outcome independence.

B-Cera · 2012-02-15T04:05:26+00:00

Its hard not to get attached when you've been out of it for so long. i was in a similar position, and the way I got through it was I knew that even if I crashed and burned (which I did, spectacularly), I knew that this one woman wasn't going to be the last one I ever went on a date with. There are plenty of women out there, getting rejected by one isn't going to hurt your chances with the other 3.5 billion.

As for how exactly you back off right now, keep in mind that women are turned off by needy, clingy guys, and if you act that way you are going to blow it. Forget her number for the rest of the week, talk to her then. And when you do, remember to relax! You'll do fine.

Good luck man!

EricDisco · 2012-02-15T12:18:25+00:00

Firstly, there's nothing wrong with you. When you're into a girl, you'll feel a little off balance. And since you haven't been on a date in a while, you are investing a lot into this.

You want to limit the amount of contact you have with her. When texting and calling, let her take initiative as much as you do. For the first few weeks, only see her once a week.

In terms of dealing with your feelings, I like to use affirmations. This article talks about that in detail. You took a risk. You put yourself out there. So no matter how it turns out, you've done a good thing so far. Keep reminding yourself of that using affirmations.

atypicaltool · 2012-02-15T19:37:56+00:00

For someone like me attachment is always lurking. If I go out with ten girls in a month (abundance) I will get attached to the one I liked best and so on. BUT over time it's more controlable and you rather enjoy it as it's not over bearing like your first few times.

arkitip · 2012-02-16T06:57:34+00:00

There is nothing wrong with you. I just got mega attached to this girl a week ago. Ended up in a fucking shit show mess-o-rama. It is easy for men to fall in love.

Title	What's wrong with me?
Author	B-Cera
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	February 15, 2012 3:28 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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