Let's say you are gorgeous. Clever. Handsome. Funny. Educated. Stylish. Situated.

You are going to have a harder time getting what you want from a woman than the average guy.

Why?

Because she is eyeing you as a potential provider. She sees you as a solution to her problems.

This is wired genetically into a woman.

She wants to get married and have children.

This is problematic because you can't have a healthy long lasting relationship without a strong sexual connection.

First you have to be the lover.

But if you are an exceptional individual, odds are she will flag you as the provider.

For women sex is easy. She doesn't have to like you.

But you. You are a special target. She wants to build something much more serious with you. She will give you a harder time because of this.

Insist on being the lover before escalating the relationship. Or screen her out of your life.

You have to win the small battles early. This means not taking the affection before the sexual is solidified.

Let's go for a walk and hold hands.

Nah, come to my place. And bring a bottle of wine.

You might not get your way. But it's better to lose this girl than cave in.

It is for your both own good.