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Her dating Ben was the ultimate PR power move. Literally no one was talking about how her last relationship ended once she was back with Ben. She wasn’t a jilted lover. She wasn’t used goods. No one cares about her ex at all anymore. As soon as she has someone better lined up she’ll be off with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:32 PM
63

I’m not being treated like an exotic animal, more like a stupid, hostile one. Maybe it’s generational trauma coming out, but I’m feeling some type of way about this. My great-grandfather Otto was imprisoned during AND after WW1 for being from the A-H empire by the Canadian government and used as indentured labour. Our family were called the “stupid Galicians” by the English settlers who came after us. I’m angry that I’ve been thrust back into that by ignorant assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 03:30 AM
215

As someone with a stereotypical Russian first name, I feel this. If we want to split hairs, the great-grandmother I’m named after came from Austria, though that area is now part of Ukraine. She spoke Ukrainian along with 9 other languages and dialects, none of them Russian. I am in touch with my Ukrainian family. They currently live in Lviv, and are safe for now. I am 3rd generation Canadian, with other heritage mixed in, and I can’t believe I had to put “not Russian” on my social media and expl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 12:19 AM
99

I went on one date with a guy who made it pretty clear he wasn’t going to have time to actually date. He didn’t say it, but he just wanted a bed warmer for when he tumbled into bed at midnight and left it at 4 am. I laughed all the way to the block button. It’s funny because I accomplished more than him, despite being younger and, you know, actually having a life outside of my work and passions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:30 PM
109

“Men calling themselves feminists is as cringe-worthy as a white person calling themselves a Black Panther.” A comment made by another FDS-er a few months back. How men respond to this statement has been very telling in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:26 PM
56

Reading about Anna put me back on my heels a bit, because I pulled some of that kind of stuff when I was in school/interning in New York. I really needed the free food… it’s really sad that the richer you appear the more free things you are offered. Tbh, I’ve kept some of these behaviours, and can say I’ve never paid for most of my dates… in my pickme days I even offered and they said no lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 01:56 AM
1

La Vie En Rose: Cushioned Underwire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 09:40 PM
28

I discovered a style of bra that is the best of both worlds. It actually took me a few weeks to get used to my nipples being visible, but I knew I was never going back to regular bras. These are too comfortable. It wasn’t any sort of activism on my part, unless you count me tossing out all bras with padding or shaping as a statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 03:22 AM
90

Ugh, same. I get called “grandma” a lot. I just fire back with “punk rock grandma” before I next them. It’s hilarious, because other women do not think I’m girly-femme at all. The clothes I make slap you in the face, my food is bold and diverse, and my writing is suspenseful and non-romantic. There’s nothing “traditional” about me. Men who can’t or won’t see that aren’t worth my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 06:16 PM
10

The thought of having that in my space made me so anxious. Big bodies flopping about when they are frustrated or confused. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:28 PM
18

Both Barnett from S1 and Shayne could not sit properly. Weird, restless, impatient men. Such frat boy energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:51 PM
4

I completely understand this. I actually deactivated my Facebook recently because I couldn’t deal with my inbox getting filled up by randoms. I literally had only one public post, that said “If I don’t know you, a mutual friend didn’t introduce you, and I didn’t invite you to reach out to me, don’t send a friend request or messages.” I guess they all thought they should be the exception…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:36 PM
53

Cruella was a fantastic movie. I loved it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:56 PM
9

It’s extremely annoying and invasive. I hate it. It seemed easier to have those extra numbers and fake them out than put up with their hounding and potential retaliation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 01:13 AM
56

I have two, one with a different area code so I can lie and say I’m not from my city. It’s amazing how many of them insist on texting or calling immediately to see if you gave them a fake. I’ll flash my phone at them to prove it’s “real” before excusing myself and blocking them lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 09:42 PM
45

You can’t train people how you want to be treated. Men, friends, whatever. Pushing back just helps them potentially hide their true selves for longer. I just leave behind or minimize contact with anyone that doesn’t care enough about me or my actions to see what I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:18 PM
39

Takes one to know one. This prank is funnier because of that, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:33 PM
238

In my early 20’s I had a hard time articulating why men complimenting my appearance rubbed me the wrong way. It wasn’t until I’d had a few longer relationships under my belt that I realized most men don’t have the language or understanding to compliment anything else a woman does. Unless you’re the “cool girl” they’re really at a loss. I spent time learning about their hobbies and interests so I would be able to converse with them, but they never made the same effort. I absolutely hate when I’ve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:31 PM
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I appreciate this sentiment, but it’s just a slow race to nothing usually. Find someone that matches the energy you want to bring to a relationship. Otherwise, move on. You can’t train someone how you want to be treated like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:48 PM
102

The anxiety shows when I can’t seem to bring myself to interact with them anymore. I can’t send another message, answer a phone call, or plan another date. I just can’t do it. My subconscious goes into self-protect mode. I’m an exceedingly stubborn human, and I don’t respond well to being pushed. The first time it happened, the guy was essentially planning my life for me, acting like I had no idea what I wanted or needed. He told me to move with him to another city (isolation), to switch careers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 01:55 AM
176

I’ve run into a couple of these. They trigger my anxiety that something awful is up pretty hard so I run away. Trust your instincts ladies, it wasn’t until I was a few weeks out and could look back clearly that I realized what exactly was going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 11:39 PM
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I was pretty sure that’s what was happening. At least three of mine have gotten removed or flagged as a “male”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 11:37 PM
51

I relate to this. I never grew out of playing dress-up, so half the time I’m wandering around looking like a comic-book villain. I make a lot of my own clothes and accessories so I can lean even more into the costume side of dressing. If all the men suddenly disappeared I’d probably dress even wilder, tbh. Comfort is paramount for me though, I refuse to wear things that require fussy bras, thongs, boning or corsetry, etc… my lingerie drawer would be impossibly boring to the male gaze. Purely uti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:22 AM
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As far as I’m concerned, they had literal centuries when they were in power and they did nothing to help themselves. Now that women are making our own power, suddenly we have to care about and fix the men too? Yeah, no, fuck that, they’re as on their own as they left us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:50 PM
79

Aren’t women statistically better investors? My portfolio does fairly well because I only buy into what I know. I understand how the fashion industry and retail sector works, so that’s the area I stay within. I read industry newsletters and know how people respond to changes in the world so I can more accurately buy and sell to make money. I’d be a fish out of water elsewhere. So many dudes refuse to define their expertise and limitations. I horrified reading this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:25 PM
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Yes! I do this with everyone in my life, and my time has really become my own again. I pull out of group chats I’m added to, I tell men I don’t have text conversations, and I let my friends know I won’t always reply regularly to messages. The trash takes itself out so well with this method. Thank you for writing this post, it’s a great read for anyone new to our subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:19 PM
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Don’t tell men these things about yourself. Don’t tell them you’re a bitch, don’t tell them you’re stubborn, don’t tell them you’re never going to sleep with them, don’t say you’re better than them. Let them tell you about themselves, and you change your actions to suit what they say and the environment. Either grey rock (outright ignoring can be seen as a challenge) or act just psycho (not mean, unpredictable) enough they decide you aren’t a good idea or entertaining to interact with. You’re ri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:57 PM
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I don’t understand how men are so bad at giving gifts. I love all the gifts my friends make or buy for me. I have rarely liked and been downright insulted by most of what my former boyfriends have tried to pass off as gifts. Only one guy actually paid enough attention to me to get things I loved. I still have a few of them years later. There was a reason he was my longest relationship. Sorry this was so disappointing for you. Better luck next time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:02 AM
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Sounds like he was happy and their relationship was working out well for them. It’s almost like the handbook is good for everyone who wants a real relationship…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:14 AM
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That’s never happened to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 10:46 PM
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Is that how your conversations go? I’m beginning to understand your problem haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 10:34 PM
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Tbh, I just ask how their week is going.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 10:23 PM
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Like I said, I don’t remember being left hanging before. Even if they don’t use the extend.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:31 PM
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Where did I say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 07:55 PM
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I always ask why then would they want a broken sociopath around their children. I can see in their eyes as they scramble to find an acceptable answer that will keep me in their net that what they want to say is “But my PeePee!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:25 PM
2

I haven’t had this experience… if I don’t send a message right away, most of my matches use their 24hour extend. I can’t actually remember if I’ve message someone and they didn’t reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:00 PM
28

There’s always a three pack of mini henkels in my fridge!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:53 PM
176

This is 100% the biggest hurdle I run into as a childfree woman. I will never cave on this boundary, but it’s absolutely astounding how many men who have or want kids pretend not to have read it, or heard it, and see how much of my time they can take before I finally get them to admit it. It makes me FUCKING ANGRY. I want to smash their stupid time-wasting, boundary-pushing, disrespectful, deceitful, idiotic, smug, ugly ass faces. HOW FUCKING DARE THEY?!? Why do they think all women’s wants and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 03:07 PM
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I’m a gluten-free vegetarian. Men don’t want me to cook for them lol. I’m very good at it, but they just assume they won’t like it and I’m not out to change their minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 08:39 PM
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I remember the attention from men starting at 10 for me, and it always left me with a cold, sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. That feeling impacted how I dressed (no tanks, no shorts, nothing tight) for years. It never stopped the attention, but I felt I had some control over the situation. I was a late bloomer, puberty really kicked off for me at 14, so I was trapped in that state where pedos loved me for far too long. Once in high school, I realized invisibility was never going to be in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 05:43 PM
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I barely made it a month 😰 His shock when I replied at that hour was palpable through the phone. Yeah, some of us wake up naturally then, my dude 😆🤡 He’s been single for almost a decade for a lot of reasons, none of them the ones he thought either lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:01 PM
29

Uuugghhhh. This whole conversation is super triggering hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 05:20 PM
161

Looking back after I cut him off I noticed he had been mirroring some of my behaviours back at me, not in a flirty way, but a retaliatory one. I really dodged that bullet. Examples: I asked him not to text after 9, so he texted at 5am instead. I also hinted at a story I wanted to tell him but that I was saving it for a date because it would be too long to text. He tried the same back in a “see how annoying this is” way. I was excited for a split second because I thought he was finally seeing thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:36 PM
125

Also when they compare you to someone you know they view unfavourably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:33 PM
282

I didn’t communicate with him any further. Men that unable to give an inch with someone are dangerous to be involved with. Strong “my way or the highway” vibes. I do like an open road…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:26 PM
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I think a dude tried this with me when he complained about my “negative energy” when I stated my preference for phone calls over texting conversations a few times. Didn’t make me behave better lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 01:53 PM
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Blocking him is encouraging him at this point. Don’t block, just put him on mute and change your voicemail to let people know not to leave one because a stalker has filled it up. Then let it fill up. He’ll get bored when he finds a new victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 06:53 PM
109

I lean pretty hard into the “I hate kids” life. I just agree emphatically with whatever character degradation these types of people subject me to. “Why yes, I am a stone-cold psychopath with no understanding of the true joys in life!” Then I stare through them like the bitch they assume I am until they back away slowly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 05:06 PM
62

I just really, really like glitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:33 PM
44

No no, it’s a grotty bar with crud embedded in it, leaving residue and gunk all over the counter and bath ledge. Hurk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:11 PM
0

Marriage? You misunderstood. I’m only talking about not wanting kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 01:21 AM
0

It’s on my dating profile. And yes, I will find a way to work it in again during the first date. Being on the same page about kids is an extremely important part of compatibility. These men will read my profile, hear my statement, and still hide that they aren’t childfree in the hopes I’ll still sleep with them. It’s just plain rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:59 PM
227

You’re scary. Let’s be friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:04 PM
8

If it wasn’t so concerning, it would be hilarious. That’s exactly what happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:46 PM
15

I wandered over a couple days ago out of sheer curiosity. I’m fascinated by how their minds work and reject any and all data/studies that don’t align with their bizzaro worldview that “womenz are bad m’kay”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:13 PM
53

Well, according to the debate I’m currently having on PPD, we should not be dating older men, or the top 20-30% of men at all if we don’t want kids. Because they all want kids. Apparently it’s my fault men keep lying to me about their non-childfree status because I keep trying to date top men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:22 PM
2

Why do men lie about their desire to have children, or hide children they already have?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 02:56 PM
2

All the women I know, including me, read profiles extremely carefully, especially what is being said between the lines. Not reading is definitely more of a male behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:15 AM
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I am trying to find one of those men. It’s much harder when so many men are willing to LIE and HIDE their kids or want of them. I’m not going after older men, nothing there I want. My comment was about all the guys who don’t tell me they have or want children until after I have gone on dates with them. That doesn’t seem like “top men” behaviour, hiding who they really are, now does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:59 PM
3

Yup. Definitely had a guy hide a whole 12 year old from me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 10:21 PM
5

Or they think that once I’ve invested some time in them, after a few dates, that I will accept a casual relationship over the committed long-term one I’m actually looking for. That’s usually what it is. Sometimes they are hoping they or their kids are special enough I’ll still commit to a serious relationship, but those are more rare. I hate both experiences rather equally.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:59 PM
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I never did coffee and walk dates before the pandemic. I tried it 3 times once lockdown was lifted, and then I found this subreddit because the experiences were so sub-par I had to figure out why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:06 PM
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I do. Of course I do. They then lie and wait until after the first or first few dates to tell me that they aren’t childfree themselves. I write it in multiple places on my dating profile, and I’m upfront with that info if I meet them in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:41 PM
2

Is English a second language for you? Edit: because you obviously didn’t understand my comment and I can barely understand yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:07 PM
21

All I want is for guys that have or want kids to leave me alone. You’re not gonna change my mind. I’m tired of that information being hidden from me until we go on dates. It’s extremely discouraging that this keeps happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:29 PM
220

We love our FDS superfans!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:50 PM
1

I’m fascinated by the fantasy world some of these guys live in. No wonder they are so miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:44 AM
14

Now that I’m thinking about it, something similar has happened to me. We had been friends, then we started working together a couple times a week as colleagues as well. I didn’t let it go on very long because he started playing hot and cold with me romantically pretty quickly and I iced him out forever. Honestly I’m still kinda pissed about the whole situation. I’d really been looking forward to building a creative entrepreneur group to work with in my field and this seemed like a good place to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:32 AM
2

I dunno, lots of us avoid a community dick. I certainly avoid anyone with fuckboy energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 05:32 PM
14

Fuck. I can’t. I’m going back to bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 07:59 AM
186

Spot on with your last point. OP is also missing that we aren’t comparing women to each other when we are giving compliments. When I say a woman is looking great, I don’t mean she looked better than other people, I mean she looks great for her. We know that not everyone is Angelina Jolie, but we also know that doesn’t really matter. If you’ve taken the time to care for yourself and like how you look, that’s all that matters, and I’m going to compliment that energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:46 PM
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It’s honestly shameful how often I’ve ended up looking down on someone who said they were 5’11+. If they tell me they are 6’ I also show up as 6’. I was set up on a double date by a friend and her boyfriend once where the guy asked them to downplay his size. Big man from a bigger family, I guess he hated being intimidating when it came to women. I should have not dated him, the ability to downplay things severely was a feature in our brief relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:09 PM
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Oh yeah, the embarrassing nickname thing is so shitty. I told a guy I’d busted a heel popping balloons one New Year’s Eve, and from then on I was Balloons. He didn’t get a second date for many, many reasons, but that was one of them. I’m almost at the point where I’ll yell IM NOT YOUR BABE before hightailing it away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 11:52 PM
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It’s 5 syllables long. 3 too many apparently for these fools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 11:21 PM
286

Struggling to say/use my full first name; or giving me and exclusively using a nickname too early just to get out of using my name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 09:24 PM
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This crap was what brought me to this subreddit a year ago. I was trying to figure out why a seemingly normal get-to-know-you texting situation felt so off. I cut him off before I even finished reading the handbook because I could finally see how it had gotten off the rails, and his red flags became obvious. Because of all of you, I listened to my anxiety, opened my eyes, and saved myself so much bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:53 AM
82

I can smell this room and I’m unhappy about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 01:35 PM
1

Sooo many misunderstandings about the female orgasm here wow. Please look this shit up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 02:00 PM
21

Let’s make an FDS anthology
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:54 PM
1

Ok, look up those statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 07:52 PM
1

Because the person you were condescending towards is right. Good luck getting a woman to orgasm from g-spot stimulation. Really. Very few can, even when it’s done right. Good luck doing it. Bringing this up on a thread regarding FGM is really fucking shitty of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 07:06 PM
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I was at a small show a couple months back, and we had a giant daddy gay in the crowd running interference on any dude that started making girls uncomfortable. All he would do is exactly what the guy had done to a girl. I was heaving with laughter watching these little dramas unfold. He just went about gleefully grinding, grabbing flirtatiously, dogging their every step until they left. He gave them the true equivalent of what we experience regularly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:45 PM
1

Imagine forgetting that the g-spot was considered a myth for decades and that most men still don’t know where to find it or how to stimulate it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 04:27 PM
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I didn’t meet a single guy on Hinge actually there for a relationship. I did end up asking them how they managed to hold and maintain jobs with such poor reading comprehension when they claimed not to know Hinge was only for relationships… lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 12:28 PM
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Yea. Yes they do. I’d say most of the ones on Hinge certainly are. Really the only way to see if a man is honest is time. And to never tell them your expectations. Let him be himself, and then you decide if you want to date him after many, many dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:52 AM
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I’ve only had one guy try this seriously on me. I think he was genuinely shocked when I cut him out of my life so quickly and so hard and to this day I’m cold as ice to him. Part of me felt I overreacted because I slammed the door on a few mutual friends to make sure I was never around him again. But now I figure that they know what he’s like, and if they accept it they’re shitty too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 02:54 AM
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I HATE THIS I HATE THIS I HATE THIS I HATE THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 05:57 PM
81

I legit have a semen allergy and the conversations I have regarding this are equally hilarious and frustrating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:37 AM
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I’m saving your comment, don’t delete it lol. So many good points here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:16 AM
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I’m all for diversity in characters and stories. I’m just not here for policing illustration styles. Why can’t characters have exaggerated features? Why does everything have to look perfectly realistic? Cartoons have bigger eyes so that we can clearly see they emotions they are projecting, that has almost nothing to do with a beauty ideal. What about anthropomorphized animal characters? How human do we have to make those look? What if artists include features from the animals that fall under a b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 10:47 PM
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What do you propose then? Do networks build guidelines for the content so only cartoons with realistic depictions get shown? Do we put warning labels on toys? How do we get artists worldwide to change styles they’ve been developing for decades? Or is this a classic chicken/egg scenario… if you’ve dabbled in art theory, you’ll be familiar with the idea that illustrators document the zeitgeist rather than create it. We didn’t make these ideals, we are just putting pen to paper to record them. And …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:07 PM
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There are all kinds of body types and metabolisms in the world. It’s only problematic when the women that naturally fall into whatever the current trend is start saying Shit like “It’s easy to look like me! Here’s how!” I fit the current trend. I frequently tell people not to do what I do because they will get very different results. I don’t know many western people who can consume the amount of dairy fat I do and come out the other side intact lol. Lactaid sales would go right up if I was an in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:58 PM
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I watched a few videos of Matthews a few years back and I was actually floored by how much labour he was expecting women to do for men. Training these asshats was their parents job, not ours ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:41 PM
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I’m just wondering what you think the solution is? Do all artists and illustrators need to depict strict reality just in case someone decides they want to look like a cartoon character? Where is artistic license allowed to come in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 02:47 PM
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I’m sure this is a great video, but I tapped out pretty quickly when she started spewing tired old misinformation about corsetry. She was so close to the truth there, the photos of “tightlacers” were altered to look like that. The photo was the illusion, not a tight laced corset. I’m also a little frustrated that she’s coming after illustrations? Are they a bit problematic? Yeah, I guess, but does anyone really compare themselves to drawings? Maybe I’m not the one to comment on this because I’ve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 04:14 AM
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It started around then for me too, seems like a post was made on some pick-up forum and they all bumbled forward without thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 09:04 PM
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Part of the reason I use a different spelling for my first AND a different last name than my legal one online. It’s also the name of a prolific pornstar, so I’m hoping that all those links distract them from looking for me lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 08:30 PM
71

I’m pissed that Trudeau held an election, but mostly I’m pissed that literally nothing changed because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 08:26 PM
27

I had to make a public post on my Facebook recently (everything else on my page is totally private) just to call out the fuckers that have been randomly adding and messaging me. Surprisingly, it was effective. They felt called out enough before they even did it, like I was reading their mind or some shit and they just decided to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 01:04 AM
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I actually dream of a world where the majority of men have locked themselves away with a fancy sex toy, an AI companion, and fully immersive online lives. We can have all the fun we want in the real then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 12:51 AM
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In my area it’s hitting young professional and entrepreneurship groups. I only ever talk to groups of women at those now. It’s like a plague. Truly. A fucking plague. Robot sex dolls can’t come soon enough, where do I invest?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 10:13 PM
23

Equal force is a big part of Canadian law. You can’t bring a gun to a knife fight, and you can’t bring a fist to a slap fight. I feel like a lot of American dudes would have a problem up here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:03 PM
44

Oh hey! I dated a “oh you’re fashionable, let me buy you knockoffs”. He was shocked I could tell… A child could tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:04 PM
68

A lot of guys can’t seem to accept that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. If you’re building muscle to be more attractive, there is a point where they will get diminishing returns for their efforts. Chris Hemsworth is hot, but so is Tom Hiddleston. Most men could get Tom’s physique.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:25 PM
31

Going full crazy is remarkably effective. Saved me this summer when a guy chased me down during a late evening walk. After he spit at me, I pretty much just saw red and was fully prepared to throw down with that shitstain. I guess he saw it in my eyes that I was about to rain down decades of pent up rage towards the male species on his skinny ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 01:05 PM
59

You know, I have an acquaintance that calls her husband her king. I super cringed until I met him, and now I get it. She nabbed one of the few HVM out there still. I love this tiktok account. She’s always right on the money. Kings sacrifice and work hard, they worry and fix things, they stay level headed and can be relied upon. They pick sides and defend their families.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:33 PM
34

Fuck ‘em, I’m Batman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:27 PM
83

Lol truth. I’m actually a cohost for a fashion/tech panel on clubhouse, and really know my stuff because if it. Guys HATE that I can speak above their level on those subject. But first they are very, very surprised and it pissed me off on behalf of all women they’ve ever interacted with and minimized in their minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:25 PM
17

Im an adult and I avoid those sorts of shaping garments. Usually just means the jeans are going to be extra uncomfortable lol. Jeez, can’t believe they are making tweens suffer through this Shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 11:59 PM
105

Wealthy and famous women should not get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 02:42 AM
454

I miss just making out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 07:35 PM
88

I’m just so confused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 03:10 AM
7

Hey now, the Canadian tuxedo usually means they have money. Ranching, oilfield, mining, retired with assets, etc… common misconception that we only call it a tuxedo because it matches. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 10:14 AM
50

I don’t know about all of you, but I’m quite happy just having house parties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:38 PM
2

They did patch things up after Selena realized she was running off a cliff. But it took a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:30 AM
37

I think I stroked out trying to reach this. Honestly, I’m deeply concerned by how many illiterate men there are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:52 PM
20

It really is bold. I cackled when she hauled a costume change out in the middle of her birthday party a few weeks back. Extroverts, I tell ya. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 05:32 PM
59

It took me an embarrassingly long time to realize that this is why I was “treated better” by guys than most girls around me. I was lucky to be very well adorned as a child and continue to be as an adult. Everything you wrote has been my experience. This post is gospel truth, live it ladies. Also, I thought I had this down until I met my friend M. That gal brings new levels to this game. My favourite part is how she’s so against cooking and being domestic that she filled her kitchen drawers with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:33 PM
104

Same situation here. Turned 30 this year, and I still steadfastly will not dad a single dad or any guy who’s on the fence about kids. They’ve been snipped, or no dip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 03:16 PM
19

Making me want to rewatch Crimson Peak
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 04:05 AM
6

Can the misanthropes throw themselves out now, k thanks. Ew ew ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:53 PM
23

Alternatively “you’re so ugly when you cry”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:32 PM
143

Oh yeah. OP, don’t feel bad for a second. This man needs your attention and validation. That means you hold the power here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:24 AM
3

I got chills picturing your reaction. Hell yes! The only people who deserve to be in your life are the ones that are more excited for your success than you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 07:03 PM
615

As a child-free woman living in Canada, this is an unfortunately large portion of my available dating pool. Forest Jesus, living in a car, waxing philosophical about the evils of modern life into his smartphone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 06:49 PM
84

And if he throws his controller in rage, RUN. Run like the fucking wind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 07:58 PM
24

I was this girl very very briefly in a new relationship. I cleaned up a couple times, and got a lot if appreciation for it so that felt nice. The third time, it’s like no one noticed I’d done anything, and even when I found a way to casually bring it up, there was not a single thanks uttered. That was the last time lol. I’m generous, not stupid, thank goodness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 10:21 PM
2

Now you’re adding points I didn’t say to my post. Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:13 PM
2

Are you sure you replied to the right comment? Because this seems unrelated to the point I made.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 02:19 AM
31

I laughed so hard at the blowjob scene too. The first time I tried watching it I didn’t get passed the airplane scene, they made that deliberately ambiguous regarding consent and… just… gross. I’m following the actor on Instagram because he’s fascinatingly stupid. Like, so hot, but so so dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 04:07 PM
4

You know, I thought I did at one point. Then he told me AND my mother it was ok to wash dishes in cold water…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 12:20 PM
83

This man is literally a porcupine full of red flags lol. They rustle impressively as he (probably) waddles around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 11:51 AM
50

“Nerd nice” really says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 11:48 AM
57

Oh? It took you till there to finally gag? Impressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 11:48 AM
22

I’m going to try the ol’ noodle arm next time this happens to me. Leave them hanging on to a limp appendage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:12 PM
3

So many guys like to overlook this part. It’s not about the money they make, it’s the culture of where they work and how they bring that home. I’ve tried to date guys without post-secondary education, and even if they are nice enough, all their friends were crude and sexist, inundated with bad habits like smoking, general mischief, etc… the vast majority of male-dominated trades/sales careers are in that sort of environment and I honestly just can’t deal anymore. There are a lot of types of care…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 05:20 PM
22

Oh yeah. Mr. Too Busy, posting on his Insta all day but not replying to texts lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 05:08 PM
85

The hand holding this has happened to me multiple times. It’s fucking weird as hell. This time I wasn’t in any danger, he was a teeny tiny little man and I had someone upstairs. I really don’t get this move though. Why do they think holding on to me like that is charming? Are they attempting to kiss my hand? All it makes me want to do is ram my forehead into their nose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 03:34 PM
375

My mom couldn’t figure out why I hated always being the one that had to open the door to service people (she was never ready on time). Thought I was just being shy or awkward. Eventually she figured out that it’s because literally every single one of them hit on me. Even as a young teen. They wasted our time and money trying to flirt with me. I almost fucking head butted the last guy who came to put in my new internet service. When we shook hands as he was leaving, he kept hold on it. Like, woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:31 PM
28

I wanna water board them for as long as they abused those girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:15 PM
26

Yes! Yes! Make sure your daughter really internalizes this one. My mom drove this one home early and it kept me from a lot of crap. And honestly, being on Reddit, and you all know exactly what stories I’m referencing don’t make me say them… has well, provided colourful examples.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 01:56 PM
10

They all fail to realize the only reason they’re allowed to be ‘fun’ is because the wife is doing everything. All of them. It’s pathological.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 07:24 PM
44

I promise it will actually feel more freeing than you anticipate. We all have to do this eventually to a handful of people in our lives, doing it gracefully now with a slow fade rather than a big blowup down the line is how you preserve the good memories and feelings you had with this person. For both of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:19 PM
71

As someone with a longer name, pronounced a bit differently than most people who have it, I pay very close attention to how people refer to me. It’s amazing how some people will go to extreme efforts to get my attention via all other methods than my name, similar to what you describe. It’s bizarre. Stonewalling them is the only thing that eventually works. Also, how fast a guy I’m dating stops saying my name and starts referring to me as “babe” is directly related to how long I will date him. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 09:43 PM
550

Man: does idiotic confusing thing “yeah, she’s totally going to want me now.” Woman: treats idiotic man as idiotic Man: “why is she treating me like this, all women are BITCHES.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 05:47 PM
268

Another vote for the married camp. I’d bet my chequing account. No pictures, spotty communication, emphasis on fun because his wife isn’t anymore, etc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 08:19 AM
23

Knowing me I’d follow it up with thuds and claps for the start of a rousing rendition of We Will Rock You And then end up punched in the face. Probably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 06:23 PM
20

Pre FDS I went on a date with a guy from Hinge. (Which, as we know, is the app for finding a relationship that shitty men have coopted as a manipulation tactic). After said mediocre date (revealed he was a former gambling… and now chess? Addict) I got a message about him just being out of a relationship and how he want anything serious but wanted to keep seeing me so he could… “Fuck my brains out”. Yes. That’s a direct quote. It happened as out of the blue as I described. He tried apologizing la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:55 PM
40

They really tell on themselves with their generic male-gazey tastes and hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:20 PM
3

I truly encourage every women reading this to act like they are 200% confident at all times. If you don’t regularly have scrotes telling you to eat some humble pie you’re doing it wrong. I promise, it’s not too much, it’s still probably not enough. I’ve been getting those comments since I was a little girl. Somehow I escaped imposter syndrome, false humility, minimizing myself to make others comfortable, etc… I have always been a curious, engaged, focused individual and it set me apart early. Te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 12:35 PM
25

I really feel this too. Sometimes if I’m having trouble sewing or making something I imagine my grandma or great grandmas hands over mine and it’s like I suddenly know what to do next. I know they come to see my finished pieces and admire pretty fabric, I feel them as if they walked through the door and said hi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:38 PM
115

The “I love you so much more than Emily.” line sent me. Is he saying he loves Emily too? What a wild thing to say in a Take Me Back text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:24 PM
58

I’m stealing that last sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:23 PM
82

This was the first thread outside of FDS that I tried to dive into. Seemed like it was going to go terribly at first, but the tide turned just enough that I have a smidge of hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:30 AM
40

Yeah, it was definitely in the 140,000 range when I joined last November.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:56 PM
7

This song still slaps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:19 PM
223

Like goddamn, they make fun of girls for writing fan-fiction but then put forth this crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:18 AM
240

I don’t have much to add to your very insightful post except that I’m genuinely floored by how many poly people I have been encountering out in the world lately. I’m child-free and my options seem to be limited to basement gamer nerds, poly couples, and forest Jesus/vanlife types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 03:00 AM
42

I’ve never dated anyone like this. But I had a friend I thought I was close to that behaved this way. The final straw was her dumping a huge glass of water all over my iPhone. I couldn’t deny any longer that the bitch actually hated me, hated that I grew up with more than her. Didn’t matter how generous and supportive I was. This is real and it is abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:04 PM
3

Oof
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:44 PM
23

What do you mean by voicemail tab? Edit: I don’t have this feature it seems. Only thing in my voicemail tab is a button that says “call voicemail” lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 05:01 AM
139

Oh look, another husband training his wife to be able to live without him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 08:41 AM
13

I imagine introducing them to my salty best friends. If I get the “wtf were you thinking” look from them in my minds eye I know it’s time to scram.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:50 PM
79

I pray constantly to be granted the self confidence of a mediocre white man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 10:17 PM
83

💀💀💀😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 10:16 PM
263

“If I’m ugly and won’t sleep with you, what does that say about you?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 09:54 PM
9

Telling guys that I’m extremely stubborn has been a fantastic vetting strategy. Most of them take that as a challenge to break me. I date the ones that don’t pull that crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:16 PM
88

I straight up put this on my Hinge profile because the reactions are HILARIOUS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:16 AM
56

Any Greene book, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:13 AM
30

I actually managed to do this once. Guy was standing far too close, directly behind me in a totally empty baggage claim area in an airport. I let a massive one rip, sighed for effect after, and then somehow had to not laugh when he scurried away disgusted. I don’t care what dudes like that think of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 02:54 PM
40

That works right up until you find the guys who are into that 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 07:55 PM
40

“… Also could you bring the wine?” 🥺👉🏻👈🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:18 PM
209

They don’t even lovebomb anymore. It’s like bare minimum friendbomb, hoping they’re hot enough for you to let them tie you up and jizz in your eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:18 PM
52

... huh. Brilliantly, simply put.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:53 AM
4

Huh. Yeah I’ve heard pretty much this exact one a couple times too... didn’t work obvi, I was just pissed they wasted my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:24 PM
6

If you spend a little time hanging out online where me do, that’s where most of their ideas and conversations come from. It’s like repeating Facebook jokes as your own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:20 PM
59

I actually asked a guy who tried to do this to me what my last name was because I was pretty sure he didn’t know. He didn’t. I laughed. We did not have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:02 AM
80

I went on a date with a guy who has been on the bachelorette... moral of the story, don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:57 AM
128

They got married because she got pregnant. It was doomed from the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:06 AM
17

Why can’t I get this luck? I gotta go through a whole first date before they start telling on themselves 😑😑😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:44 AM
58

Dude: negs Me: “You’re not one of those put down artists are you?” 😂 Me: quietly shows myself out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:08 AM
85

I really gotta give more credit to these PUA gurus... not only are they taking money from losers, they are programming them so they are kept out of the competition pool. It’s a win win if you’re a sociopath lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:05 AM
27

All his designs are fucking tacky as hell. So much animal print, excessive cutouts, weird hanks of fabrics and trims. I wouldnt be surprised if this was from the RTW line lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:34 PM
43

I dated a thespian/swimmer a few years back, and occasionally the dark haired gent of polish ancestry I was used to would disappear and be replaced by this white blond and totally hairless boy. I found it deeply disconcerting and even though I knew intellectually this was my 2 years older than me boyfriend, he looked super young and I felt icky touching him. How men can openly pursue the reverse of this blows my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:28 PM
17

Wait till you turn 29. That last bump of brain development is crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:56 PM
3

David Gandy is just perfection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:11 AM
12

I’m still upset I know this reference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:31 PM
33

Probably because he starts and funds projects like this: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Satellite_Sentinel_Project For someone as involved in human rights as she is, this match actually makes some sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:22 PM
24

Hahah right?!? I’ve dated guys in trades before and they always talked about how hard their training was and how I wouldn’t be able to do it. Guess who helped them with their math classes when they went back for journeymen... because I took these classes in high school... lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:18 AM
2

I’m really glad there were comments here to warn me before before I watched that. I’m presuming she’s giving a nasty man a pedicure... so much nope. Nope nope all the way to the nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:04 PM
58

This is how I feel about OLD. I joined because I thought being able to filter for men who don’t want kids would save me time. But what those filters don’t keep away are the guys who didn’t list that info anywhere in their profile. I made the mistake of assuming these men were reading my profile when we matched and that they also didn’t want children and were looking for a long term relationship, because why swipe on someone that isn’t looking for the same thing you are... my assumption turned ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:52 PM
251

I had this happen to me when I was around 20. Did not pause to see what he wanted, I just straight up fucking sprinted to the nearest store. Same when a truck screeched to a halt and started backing towards me. Or honestly any time a man in a vehicle notices me and starts driving the faintest bit odd I just run away. I’ve had garbage and drinks thrown on me if I ignore guys in vehicles, so I honestly have to leave situations as quickly as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:46 PM
3

Toronto is very, very kink oriented. Like, almost obsessively so. It’s weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:54 PM
158

“Why are you single Ana?” “Because I can no longer reconcile the knowledge that men’s dicks give us cancer, their hands take our lives, and their minds keep us from personhood...”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:33 PM
76

This is why I wear heels on dates, 6’ in my favourite pairs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:51 PM
11

Absolutely it hits different. Thank you for sharing, the more we are exposed to these sorts of stories the better we can prepare ourselves in our minds for when/if it happens to any of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:14 AM
97

Word. I’ve had lots of guys call me ugly after I reject them. “Well, if I’m ugly and still won’t date you, what does that say about you?” 🤪🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 08:54 PM
142

I’m prepared. I’m fully prepared to bite off noses and stab out eyes, crush testicles, break fingers. I’m not a tiny, timid woman and I will permanently fuck their shit up if they touch me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:07 PM
19

OMG right?!? I’m like, have you looked in a mirror lately?! to most guys who reached out to me there. When I was PMSing I would match back just ask them why they thought that was a good idea lolol. Same with guys who listed they wanted kids when I spelled out, literally in full capital letters, that I don’t. Invariably it was “oh, I just thought you were pretty...” and I’d reply something like “do you think I enjoy having my inboxed filled up with guys who look like you?” I deleted the apps last…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:37 PM
57

Hinge in somewhat similar. They can just like a photo and you get a message “___ has invited you to start a chat!” I just deleted those. This ain’t Instagram, lads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:03 PM
20

I laughed out loud at this one. Thank you. I’m just ramping up my mean to men phase and it feels too good. Disrespectful, deceitful little shits are getting the beat down they deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:28 AM
34

Not who you asked, but keeping your legs straight and down, rather than bent up keeps your hips in a better position for gspot or cspot stimulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 10:31 PM
68

I felt personally called out by the popular memes one. I genuinely can’t remember sometimes if I came up with something or if I read it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:49 AM
15

I gagged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:52 PM
134

While I do agree with many of your points, I feel I should point out that these “doing makeup while talking” videos are a trend in general right now. Everything from murder mysteries to bad teen movies are being discussed. The makeup application is largely irrelevant to the popularity of the videos, and in a lot of cases it seems to be used to keep male audiences away. Which is how I use makeup myself. Glitter and bold, glossy lips are abhorrent to most straight men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:02 PM
41

Oh yes, they do abuse its philosophies. “Oh hey man, that thing you just did was really hurtful and upsetting...” “Have you tried just not being angry? You can’t let other people control your reactions.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:07 AM
93

They aren’t even trying to hide it anymore. Multiple men I’ve known publish their booklists and favourite podcasts on their social media. Like they are uniquely enlightened or some shit lol I’ve read them all, they are interesting afternoon pseudo-scientific snacks to people like us, but they make up the worldview of these poor, stupid, lost souls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:45 AM
43

My mother raised me on the line “men will do it to mud”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:11 PM
20

I hope this gal figured him out and runs away. Male ‘friends’ have hurt me far more than any boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:50 PM
2

This is usually at the heart of that behaviour. Once in a while they talk like that because they have disordered eating themselves. I swear most male and female body builders have real issues with food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:25 PM
19

My absolute favourite thing is to block someone while they are in the middle of typing me a message. Immensely satisfying and hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:12 PM
43

This is why I cut men out the second they make a comment about my body or eating habits. I’ve never had disordered eating and I’ve always been pretty comfortable with how my body looks, but even with that self confidence I won’t put it even for a second. I hate the “wow, I love a woman who can eat” bullshit too. Where do you think this booty came from Frank? Butter and deadlifts tyvm. I beat the patriarchy in the diet department and I will die on this hill if I need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:15 PM
17

I wish this worked for me. They still approach because I swish around like some sort of Gotham/Batman villainess and they want me to save them from their sad, boring little lives. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:07 PM
49

“Is retroactive abortion illegal?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 03:34 PM
49

“What a relief...”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:26 PM
31

I know FDS is super against this sort of thing, but I learned a long time ago if I want a guy to never contact me again sending him paragraphs is the most effective method. Blocking just makes certain guys more determined. Making yourself seem a tad unhinged works 100% of the time 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:15 PM
20

By the end of the first episode I knew this had to have been written and directed by a man. Worse than any hallmark movie I’ve seen by far. I legit gagged when Vanessa went after this dudes brother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:31 AM
19

A perfect ending to a story about her swave and debonner hubby 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:57 PM
89

I called out a dude on his poor communication and he said he didn’t like the “negative energy vibe” that brought into his life. Neither did I. Boy bye lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:54 PM
4

This is the theme song: Special K by Jeff Straker https://youtu.be/jQVNEHQQkn8 “I remember the angels, I remember the choir, first time you kissed me in the grocery aisle. Under my feet the earth crumbled away, my hands gripping boxes of Special K... ...and he burps and he farts and grumbles and walks down the aisle.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:25 PM
52

Whyyy do they need to interrupt us all the time? What you described above, and the number of times I’ve been told to stop “daydreaming” by guys is enraging, honestly. It’s not daydreaming, it’s called thinking. Maybe if more of them tried it once in a while they’d recognize it in action...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:03 PM
28

Egg donations too. The hormones that need to be pumped into a body to make that happen can’t be good. And as far as I’m aware, there have been no long term studies on the effects. Do they cause cancer? Who knows. Do they cause infertility down the road? Who knows!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:28 AM
3

He brought up the Karezza or whatever sex method, essentially a couple gives up orgasming to focus on ‘intimacy’ during sex. I was all BOY GET OUT OF HERE. Way to tell me you don’t care about giving a woman orgasms lololol. Trying to wrap that up and sell it to me as a good thing 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 08:48 PM
4

Let’s add Arete Syndicate to that list. I went on a date with a guy into that stuff, luckily only the one. He made some post on his insta about how he doesn’t share many of his ideas because he doesn’t think he’ll be understood. He’s not wrong. But it’s because he’s genuinely unintelligible... gotta love a pseudo intellectual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:42 PM
7

My mother was born in a mining town, and her mother always used to say how strange it was for her to watch all the other women from town go streaming up the mountain on payday. They had to get their husbands pay before it was drunk away at the bar later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:19 PM
55

Unless someone tailor made for me literally lands in front of my face and is willing to wait a very long time for me to trust them, I’m out of the game for good. It’s just not worth the cost to me. I never wanted kids or a typical nuclear family so it’s not like I’m giving up some dream of mine because men are shitty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:46 PM
78

Somehow I lucked out with my group. I had to prune quite a few over the years, but I’ve been left with a core group of talented, brilliant, no-nonsense ladies, more focused on saving the world than marrying a prince. It’s truly a blessing, and made leaving dating behind me so much easier. It’s worth the work to find people like that. Really, good women friends are priceless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:45 PM
0

Except I believed this too. In high school we had teachers stretch condoms over their arms to prove how stretchy they were and made fun of guys who claimed that they were too small. Why would any of us believe that wasn’t true when it was repeatedly taught?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:46 PM
0

I was 19 🤷🏻‍♀️ Learned a lot from that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:37 AM
0

I figured it was worth trying. He bought all other boxes and paid for my bc pills. He had much worse qualities that I dumped him for lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:23 AM
0

Because he believed this tidbit that was just posted. Which is why I feel the need to point out it’s not always correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:21 AM
-5

Eh, there’s a little merit to this. My first boyfriend and I ended up breaking a few before I bought a box of bigger ones. Never a problem after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:44 AM
21

Lumberjack TikTok is life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:56 PM
141

I’m this meticulous. I really, really don’t want children. I don’t even want to be pregnant for the short time before I could get an abortion. I also cannot be on other forms of birth control. I check that the condom is still on and unbroken a couple times during sex too. It doesn’t matter how much I trust the guy, Shit happens. And until very recently, where I live, in order to get the plan B pill I had to go through a super invasive interview with a pharmacist to receive my dose and I refused …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:43 AM
11

Men have a wider spread on the intelligence bell curve than women. Which means that there are more of us of above average intelligence. Males are nature’s experiment, but we have to be consistently good to keep the species going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:31 AM
2

The only datable guys in Toronto are the ones that didn’t grow up there...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:20 AM
240

They know it’s the only way they’ll have a ‘legacy’. Any other kind they’d have to actually work for. Bonus that it keeps a woman down at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:17 PM
24

I thought online dating would help me filter through and have an easier time finding child free guys but that was decidedly not the case. Mostly what I encountered were guys who lied by omission and hoped I wouldn’t ask too many questions before we had sex. I haven’t had sex in years because I happen to like asking questions, and long ago stopped assuming that guys read my profile/cared what was in it. So I’m just out here building my best life with similarly unburdened women, trying to decide i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:22 PM
24

I haven’t had sex in years because so many men are just casually deceitful. I’ve heard so much bullshit that I honestly can’t trust a word out of their mouths anymore, and some of them seem so damn sincere but if you give it enough time it’s always fake. Always. I just can’t with them anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:20 PM
27

Oh hey, are you me?!? Being able to flip between the two is so useful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:17 AM
29

One of those travel size aerosol cans of Axe body spray has exactly the same effect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 11:57 PM
5

I did a big project in university around this very topic about 8 years ago. Defending it against my peers was tragically eye opening, the guys didn’t see any issues with it at all and the girls were all brainwashed still. I finished that class with a very different view of the people around me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:56 PM
75

I can’t stop laughing at this logic. Fucking wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:53 PM
51

Protective Tony is such a vibe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:52 PM
84

Like you, I’m a musician. I’ve come across so many ‘guitar players’ who think I will be impressed by their abilities. They’ll play me a song on their badly tuned instruments (they all try doing it by ear in front of me, but seem unaware of their own inaccuracy) half out of tempo with no dynamic variance. I’d rather listen to cats in heat at 3am. Also, one time I was at a friends party and this little muscle bound goblin was part of a conversation circle I was in. I can’t really remember what we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:59 PM
2

Oh look, a true case of irony found in the wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:13 PM
4

Yeah I bet it sucked, but I bet the stories are hilarious at parties. Silver lining?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:09 PM
15

Bumble gave me premium a few times during my tenure with them, and I was always appalled when I could check who had swiped on me. Like, do these men know what they and their lives look like? All I hear in my head is that song “look at you, now look at me...” The audacity is real, ladies. And like, 90% of them don’t even read profiles. I had to point out regularly to men who said they wanted kids that I’d listed I don’t in my profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:39 PM
3

I really like the one from the Ordinary. A few of their serums have a high concentration of it as well. Pro-tip: blend the HA and your facial oil together in the palm of your hand, it has ingredients that actually help the oils penetrate the surface of your skin rather than just sit on top.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 09:06 PM
7

Just a note for anyone in a dry climate, HA will pull moisture from your skin if it can’t get it from the air around you. I can only use it outside of our nasty, dry as hell winters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:01 PM
29

This is so fucking true. Probably 80% of the dates I’ve been on happened because the guy didn’t bother to read or cared about what was on my dating profile. Literally from the very second our interaction started, they dismissed what I wanted and asked for. They decided to take my time and attention and then made it my responsibility to check that they did their homework and cut off our interactions when they didn’t. It’s selfish and I’m fucking sick of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:36 PM
80

A guy once asked if he could fuck my brains out everyone once in a while. I left him on read lol. Do they think we are turned on by that kind of talk? Just the heights of seduction, that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:50 AM
26

I feel like Im missing context here, what is the alternative option that he’s against? Women being able to live autonomously without a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 06:34 PM
80

If the only time a guy wears a suit is to weddings, he’s gonna have a bad time dating me. I have a very formal lifestyle, and I’m long since done teaching men how to dress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:30 PM
27

Thanks for triggering my rage again at all the guys I tried to date pre-lockdown from Hinge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:00 AM
203

Men truly do not understand the toll that children take on women’s bodies and lives. I’ve met significantly more child free women than men, because they don’t have to take on nearly the responsibility we do in order to have them. It’s easy for them to say they want kids. I’m childfree for a number of reasons, and it’s actually the main reason I’m still single. I just can’t seem to meet a man who also doesn’t want them. I just wish those that do would have read my profile and stayed away, but no,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:01 AM
64

I wish more dating apps have the option of not using your real name. As the bearer of a unique first name this happens a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:45 PM
20

I was supposed to move in with him, and I got a text right before I drove over for the agreed upon time I’d arrive, that he was going out with the roommates for a celebratory dinner and I’d have to move in by myself and could meet them at the restaurant. I called it off immediately. Found out he hadn’t even told the roommates when I was coming, they totally would have waited for me because at least they weren’t inconsiderate jerks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:20 PM
7

When I was in my early 20’s I thought I’d have more of an issue with aging. I’m loving these grey streaks that are coming in though. I don’t want to look like a girl forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:27 PM
12

I wish I knew how I ended up not giving a crap about what other people thought about my looks so I could help other women. I made my peace with not being everyone’s cup of tea a very long time ago, and focused on being awesome rather than hot. It’s worked out rather well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:48 PM
82

The number of times I have been called rude by the actual rude party is truly astounding. Hell, even a prof in university tried to say I was distracting the class because I was sitting quietly doodling after I’d finished the reading and assignment. I was like “no, sir, your yelling at me is what’s currently disrupting the class. Perhaps you should apologize to me and the rest of the people here who are paying for this...” He tried to kick me out. But I kept coming back out of spite lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:01 PM
13

Ok, but who would want to have sex with that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:55 PM
36

Plot twist: he’s not 5’11
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:28 PM
60

Honestly I’m just too petty to be a wife and mother. I would spend one week adding up the hours my partner did this sort of thing, then the next week I would steadfastly insist I got the same number of hobby hours and refuse to budge. Force them to step up or move out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:00 PM
393

Married men live longer than their unmarried counterparts, but the reverse is true for women. We gotta stop caring for sick old men when statistically they do not do the same for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:27 PM
82

Happy New Year! What’s everyone doing tonight? I’m rolling up a 14k gold paper J and dancing my ass off with my BFF via zoom. Maybe I’ll post a thirst trap for all the boys I rejected this year in celebration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:12 PM
6

I spy a michaels bag, what are you planning on making?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:28 PM
188

Working in fashion has made me immune to good looking men. I’m around them a lot, have to interact with them professionally no matter how hot they are, and came to realize that most of them really aren’t worth knowing. There’s no spell anymore and I evaluate based on their actions not their 8packs lol I recommend volunteering for some of your local fashion shows if you can. It’s super fun, and maybe you’ll break the spell too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:27 PM
16

I have a guard cat too. She punches literally any male including my father when he’s over if they get to close. Loves women though. I’ve always wondered if she was abused before being taken to the shelter I got her from. Yours are very handsome fellows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:14 PM
55

I get straight up savage about men who religiously watch sports. They get levelled with “I don’t understand why you run around wearing another mans name on your back... isn’t that emasculating? Being a poster board for someone else’s accomplishments...” and then I watch their whole sense of self wither away. I’m a fashion designer, and you will never catch me wearing a visible brand name. Why would I promote a huge company that already makes millions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:06 PM
28

All women who do this are accomplishing is training their guy badly for the next woman, who definitely won’t appreciate it. I’ve had to train boyfriends out of bad habits because of this shit. They thought they were much better than they were and couldn’t understand why it didn’t work just as well on me as their previous partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:01 PM
28

Can we also talk about how daphne essentially raped Simon too? That disturbed me in a show pretending to be woke. She should have picked the Prince. Siena was the only character I liked by the end of the show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:11 PM
52

So far even the lowest value guys that have been allowed in have realized they don’t belong (boyfriends of my friends) and stand awkwardly until I direct them where to sit and how to act. I honestly recommend decorating this way. I’ve actually only had trouble from a couple girls I used to be friends with who were proudly classless and seemed to want to take me down a notch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 08:06 PM
96

I filled my condo with delicate antique furniture that has weight limits. Men feel excruciatingly uncomfortable in my space and that’s how I like it. This dude expecting his girl to host his boys too would run far far away from my place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:19 PM
173

Men’s group chats are just cesspools. Awful. I peeped one boyfriends and while he didn’t talk that way, he still put up with his friends doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:57 AM
6

Even the ones that say they aren’t competitive at everything turn out to be when they realize I’m actually better at most things than they are. This has become a big part of my vetting process now, how they handle losing to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:47 PM
66

I mean, he’s not wrong. Some guys will rape you at that point. Maybe he should make videos educating guys not to do that, rather than blaming women for “putting themselves in that situation”. Just a thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:30 PM
75

My one of my favourite activities is crushing scrotes dreams of being a bachelor into their 40’s and then settling down. The patriarchy is bad for everyone. They literally don’t know these facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:23 PM
5

Oh god yes. I went on a couple dates with a dude and somehow found out he only fed his girl Burger King. She’s a dancer, already slightly overweight, and is going to hate him for that in a couple years. I noped outta there real fast. Mostly because of the love bombing. He showed up 45 minutes early to a date because he was so eager to see me. I sent him home 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:38 AM
7

So far my favourite group hasn’t had any issues. I’m keeping my fingers crossed. But so many others I used to listen to have been cancelled over sexual assault and rape allegations and convictions it’s just so stupid. Why do they get famous and then decide it’s ok to hurt women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:54 AM
40

My favourite boyfriend was basically a germophobe. I recommend if you can find one in the wild. Fewest uti’s of all my relationships. I just happen to be very prone to them, unfortunately. Get them even when single 😭 But, all the others were totally fine too. I genuinely don’t know how women date dirty men. I’m legit gagging right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 09:17 PM
43

I ran into one of those this year. He knew exactly what he was doing. Autistics his age have definitely learned what no means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:15 PM
50

A family friend had a husband like this (she’s upgraded since). She’d ask him to put the clothes from the wash into the dryer. So he did, but he didn’t start the machine... My mother made sure I heard all these stories young so I wouldn’t put up with this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:43 PM
21

I love making and giving gifts, even more than getting them. If a guy asks, this is definitely my love language. It’s amazing how they tell on themselves when they have an issue with that 😂 and it’s always one of those guys who can only show affection during sex (physical touch). They’re such a type. I think guys have a hard time thinking of what to get me because I come from an obviously privileged background and they assume it has to be expensive for me to like it. Except, my girl friends have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:31 PM
7

100% Computer science guy, so I can honestly guarantee he has this point of view.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:38 PM
11

There were a lot of red flags. I ran screaming away from this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:57 PM
35

I got a message after a date in January that was similarly honest. He revealed he was just out of a serious relationship, not looking to start another one (thanks for wasting my time douche), but would be happy to “fuck my brains out once in a while.” I thanked him for his honesty, said I wasn’t interested and he replied “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean it, I was just in a mood” They’ll try anything lol. Edit: screen caps for the lols https://imgur.com/gallery/ftVeyny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:54 AM
53

If a guy really likes you, they find your little quirks endearing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:46 AM
54

Please do this next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:45 AM
36

I always lay out a deal within the first couple dates to see how they respond: you want me to watch important sportsball games with you, I want the same number of hours watching operas together. Then I watch them shrivel into themselves when they realize I’m serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:15 PM
32

I discovered I had scoliosis when I was around 12, and while I have a moderate case, the curvature is progressing with age and my rib cage and hips are already somewhat compromised. Carrying a child would spell the end of my reasonably comfortable existence. I won’t do it. And as far as I’m concerned, no man who really loves me would ever ask me to sacrifice my body that way. I do ruthlessly cut matches who want, or are on the fence about, children. Also, anyone else find it telling that more me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:22 PM
3

I took private lessons for about 6 months to get the technique down properly, but I also came into those lessons a fully trained musician. I strongly recommend having a teacher as poor technique leads to injury and prohibits moving into difficult repertoire. I started on a loaner 26 string, which I found too small and saved up to buy my 34 string lever harp. That handles most of what I like to play, but requires some transposition skill. In a few years I’ll have enough saved to get an electroaco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:10 PM
51

My mother has been cracking this joke forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:20 PM
8

My instrument is super sexy, black lacquer 34 string. It is hard, I have completely lost the ability to sightread bass clef lines while I’m playing 😂. I’ve been transcribing alternative rock songs for it and I feel like some sort of dark fae jamming out. NaNo was actually really hard this year, lots of work to finish in the editing stage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:02 AM
65

I contributed 5 months of research to my network that is now being used to revamp university programs for fashion students across Canada. By March I’ll be publishing a sustainability manifesto for designers. Oh, and I wrote a novel in a month. I’m mastering the harp, coding, French, and I bought a fancy knitting machine which has been super fun. Easily one of my most productive years. I’m having a blast decorating the condo I own (outright, no mortgage!) And I did not gain weight. I’m turning 30…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:25 PM
42

The more time I spend here, the more grateful I am to have grown up with the girls and women I now call friends. Most of them I met in the classical music community, and they are truly remarkable ladies. Brilliantly educated, dripping talent, classy, and refusing to settle for anyone who doesn’t see their worth. I miss singing with them so damn much. COVID can go home now, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:46 PM
158

As a fashion designer who dabbles in wearable tech, I have been sorely tempted on more than one occasion to make clothes with proximity alarms and the ability to shock anyone who touches me. Edit: clearly I’ve found my winter quarantine project 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:02 PM
3

Sign me up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:33 AM
22

Can confirm, not shy or unconfident but very much an introvert. I think I’m more confident than extroverts because I don’t need a scrap of external validation to enjoy my life and accomplishments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:01 PM
23

Your point about the truly powerful, high achieving guys is true. There’s a reason they want to date someone like me... I’ve topped (never hurt though) more than one guy who everyone would have been surprised to learn their preferences. Dudes just wanna let go for a time. I’ve actually started to expect that’s what they’re after when guys like that chase me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 02:04 PM
74

The last guy I talked to who was like this I finally got to admit he was interested in being a dom because he’d been bullied as a kid and liked the sense of control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:59 PM
10

I just ran away from one of these. He posted this a few hours after I sent the texts to cut him off. https://i.imgur.com/FXhvISm.jpg Translation: “I offer nothing of value to a relationship but a warm body and some pillow talk. Please look at me with admiring eyes now thnkx” It’s funny, because I’ve accomplished more than him, and do more in a day, but somehow I have time to connect with people who are important to me. Ah well, at least I know this is how he treats everyone. Also lied about livi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:42 PM
43

Drives me nuts. I can’t stand guys who keep trying to escalate when I move their hands away from areas I don’t want touched. Like, what do you think changed from two minutes ago, when I took your hands off my boobs, and from two minutes before that, etc... just fucking stop and kiss me. I leave now, when they repeat an action like that. They always look so confused, like, do you understand body language?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:12 PM
89

Very few men are worth adding in all the worry and emotions sex brings to my life. I feel you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:03 PM
45

Do it! I’m finally getting solid streaks of white around my face and I’m living for them. Granted, I have dark ash blonde hair and they still look like highlights, but I know they’re white and love them and that’s what matters. We need more women to embrace silver hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:46 AM
41

I deleted all the apps a month or so ago, and I’m never downloading them again. I thought they would be a better option to find guys who don’t want children, but I was very wrong. Going back to the old fashioned way, find a man who has the balls to approach someone like me in public or via my network.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 08:12 PM
27

Funny, I ended up here because I’m attractive and accomplished to the point where so many men are willing to lie and deceive in order to get even a taste of being with me. If they really thought they were above me that wouldn’t need to happen. FDS is the bat I needed to keep them all away. No more nice girl until they’ve earned her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 08:06 PM
44

Hair transplants aren’t even that expensive anymore and are getting more and more natural looking. And there’s preventative measures they could take when it starts to thin. But no, they slap on a ball cap and pretend it’s not happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:48 PM
20

I can’t with the sunglasses, the stupid 1000 fap stare is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:46 PM
11

I found out a guy I just cut off only reads one book over and over and over again. Just the one self help book, 10 pages a day, for years. It would never occur to him to expand into maybe creative non-fiction (biographies, history, etc...) that would be helpful to his “career”. He was hot but my vagina clamped closed after I found that out. He also would draw himself up a fake cheque on days when he didn’t have actual money coming in so he could feel paid. And spend like half an hour rewriting t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:27 PM
26

You’re right that I had grown up around that behaviour. My older brothers friends all did stuff like this (my bro would never, tho) and I thought it was pretty normal and expected it. Sports and video games turned gentle boys into fighters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:39 PM
42

More than ok :) it pushed me to make a major career risk. I had flashbacks for about a year, but something about living my dream life in NYC far away from him and his asswipe friends made it all better. Every man I’ve dated after, while not perfect, were teddy bears and wouldn’t have hurt me even if I’d asked them to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:07 PM
184

This was the massive red flag I was dumb enough to laugh off in my first relationship. Yes, I thought it was hilarious that he smashed his gaming controllers into the wall after I beat him, and slammed doors when he questioned something that I turned out to be right about. I also laughed off the red flag of him asking to be tied up and wanting me to peg and hurt him. Totally fucked up dude, and I ended up bloody in a foreign country, terrified and alone. God I was so stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:53 PM
1358

I’ve stepped up in situations like this before. The worst was watching THREE men get a girl (legal age is 18 here) shitfaced at a bar. They were practically pouring it down her throat, passing her increasingly limp body from lap to lap. I grabbed a bouncer and the bar manager to observe this with me and the men were grabbed by their shirts and tossed on their asses. My boyfriend and I stayed with her till her mother came to take her home. I have hauled girls out of back rooms and bathroom stalls…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:04 AM
201

All my mothers divorced friends have found they have so much more time and money since their husbands left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:08 PM
50

I’m sending you a friend request
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:32 PM
12

I’d just start singing “I wear my sunglasses at night...” under my breath if I encountered someone like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:59 PM
31

It’s SO fun, I recommend. I list that I’m a fashion designer with my own company numerous times in my profile, but mostly include photos where I look like I’m modelling just to weed out the dudes who swipe without reading. And I never verify my profiles because I wanna see how many will risk being catfished.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:56 PM
7

I’m asking a friend who does embroidery samplers to maybe make this one into something for my birthday 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:11 PM
6

Shhh. I wanna pretend this negative energy has a positive outcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:29 PM
112

Ngl, I make all my profile photos scream high-maintenance because the reactions from low effort dudes are hilarious. They know the scent of my expensive perfume will never grace the inside of their deer/fish blood stained trucks they’ve lifted to compensate for the lack of... well, everything. Please, keep trying to hide your receding hairline with a grimy ball cap and the lack of intelligence in your eyes with white-frame Oakley knockoff shades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:23 PM
13

I wouldn’t have done it just on my behalf, but I’d been listening to how he talked about the women he encountered in his life (crazy got thrown around a few times), and fuck that shit. It’s so gratifying that I’m finally at a point in my life where I can exercise this kind of power. I almost feel bad sending him on to another city that’s unaware of his Shit, but maybe after being run out of town once he’ll have a wake up call and get therapy for his sadism and sexism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:52 PM
130

I’m still embarrassed by every Wall o’ Text I’ve ever sent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:19 PM
691

“Just be yourself, and I’ll decide if you’re it” 😊 Then watch their brains explode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:28 PM
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Nah, I gave him an existential crisis and then told him he should move away because I was going to tell everyone I knew. That’s why he wanted to be my friend, my connections, so that was a serious threat to him. His exit plan is well under way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:59 PM
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The last one I tried to be friends came at me a few months after we met with “hey, would you be into benefits? But can those benefits be me tying you up and jerking off in your face?” He also asked if I’d bring a friend We hadn’t even hugged... and that’s what he led with? What the actual mother effing fuck. Porn sick prick. I felt so gross knowing that he’d thought about me that way, that there was an image of me helpless and covered in jizz in his mind. They can violate you without even touchi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:54 AM
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Is he dating that person mostly just to be able to see you? Find out who they are and share this with them. After you get a restraining order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:11 PM
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It brings me immense pleasure to know how much time this person wasted sending these messages to all of us. Please. Do more. Every second of your life that you flush down the drain doing this makes me happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 10:48 PM
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I’m one of the lucky few women that both doesn’t want children, and can’t have them. I’m thankful regularly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:39 PM
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It’s actually amazing how often I’ve lost a best friend and a boyfriend in one fell swoop. Fucking rough man. Poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:22 PM
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I will actually never forget what my first tank top looked like because I was almost kidnapped right off my family’s driveway the first time I wore it outside of the house. Soft mossy green with little pink butterflies. It was years before I could bring myself to wear revealing clothes after that, every time I tried some on in my room I’d get a cold, sick feeling in the pit of my stomach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:10 PM
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And all he had to do was put on a Phantom mask, and rock that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:19 PM
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I am SO sick of this! This is literally the main reason I’m still single. 90% of the dates I’ve been on in the last three years have screeched to a halt over a serious omission or outright lie. These men are DELIBERATELY wasting my time, the selfish motherfucking scrotes. They KNOW I wouldn’t give them the time of day if they were honest upfront, and hoped (I assume) that they are hot/charming/wealthy enough to get me to at least agree to keep their dicks wet if not a relationship. They’re all w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:56 PM
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That’s a solid analysis. I tried not to think too hard about the whole thing. The “I’d love to fuck your brains out” part was a direct quote and I literally felt my vagina snap shut and recoil into my chest 😂. I had to let him down nicely too, because I was a little afraid of his obsessive personality and unfortunately I’m not an anonymous person in my city. I’m still a little salty about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:00 AM
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I went on a date last year before lockdown with a dude who told me he was into having a woman next to him that dressed super well while he was in his athletic clothes. I wish that was the worst thing about him. Ex gambling addict, just out of a serious relationship and looking for casual (deliberately wasted my time), and hit me up with the “hey I know I’m selfish and wasted your time but I’d love to fuck your brains out once in a while”. GAG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:57 PM
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“I don’t have time to have conversations to establish our long-term compatibility, but please, keep giving me your attention anyways.” Lol nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:16 PM
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Literally going through this right now, it’s the worst and I know it’s fucking stupid as hell. I know we aren’t compatible, I think most of what he does is ridiculous, half the shit he says is stupid and sanctimonious. But he was outrageously good looking and I haven’t had sex in three years. But I put myself back on the diet, disabled all social media so I couldn’t snoop on him, then sent the “let’s not do this anymore” messages. I can’t bring myself to listen to his voice message replies becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:36 AM
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Your first point, I had to finally admit was true after my experiences this year. I don’t know why it was so hard for me to wrap my head around it. I guess I just didn’t want to infantilise men by starting our first conversations with “now children, did we do our homework?” But I do need to do that. I actually really do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:33 PM
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I’m pretty sure the a spot is real, at least for me. I had a rabbit vibe where the shaft was flexible and swirled around inside. Absolutely mind blowing feeling. But it was a gentle rub not a damn pounding, jeez what’s wrong with dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:24 PM
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He died in surgery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:06 AM
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Fat, slovenly, crude, were the three I noticed. We would only ever interact in person a few times during the summer, really didn’t know them well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:36 PM
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Yes, the phone calls are better. Texting too much, with anyone, makes me feel like my brain is melting. I got rid of a guy a month ago because he just seemed... determined to not call me even after I asked a few times. Didn’t ask again, unfollowed him and went back to writing my novel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:32 AM
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Right? It’s such a low effort, underwhelming compliment. Like, my dude, all these awesome things about me, and that’s what you fixate on? Ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:29 AM
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An acquaintance of my family went through something similar. This is one hell of a story, buckle up: After decades of marriage, the wife discovers secret email and banking accounts which he had been using to send money to child prostitutes in Nicaragua. They travelled there together regularly for holidays and this fat slovenly shitstain of a man would leave her alone to have sex with little girls. It had been going on for years and she had no idea. Just weeks after she kicked him out, he flies d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:07 PM
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I absolutely love taking myself out. I travelled for work a fair bit so I was often alone in other cities and just kept that fun seeking solo adventure feeling when I was back home. I’ll eat at the bar top of restaurants to chat with the servers and bartenders, and others around me. Then off to dance, sometimes with the group I’ve made at the restaurant. I play a game at clubs where I try and see how many people I can get onto the dance floor with me. When almost everyone in the venue is raging …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:01 AM
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Also, if any female relative or close friend of theirs says anything like “so why are you with him?” In a joking way implying you’re too good for them, run. They aren’t joking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:19 PM
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My best advice is to fill your time with stuff you enjoy doing. Sitting and waiting is far worse and you’re more likely to crack and ask for more of his attention than he may be willing to give. Get busy, and you’ll have more to talk about when you chat and get together!
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 08:15 PM
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29, and same. The idea of pregnancy has always terrified me, it was pathological long before it even needed to be. Then when I was 12 my spine decided to do all sorts of fucked up things and now it’s recommended that I don’t have my own children. It’s like I knew from birth it was a bad idea for me. Now to find a man on the same page... glad you found yours :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 09:39 PM
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Walking one foot in front of the other the way you describe isn’t good long term. I love to break out that gait every once in a while, but our bodies weren’t designed to do that as our regular walk. It also makes you more prone to falling as it throws off your balance.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 02:29 AM
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Block him again, love. This is bad new bears.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 05:24 AM
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I’ve worn heels almost religiously for over a decade and have none of these issues. Yoga is a heel-wearers’ best friend.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 05:31 PM
2

I feel like the more permanent cosmetic procedures are only false advertising if you’re not upfront about it and you’re planning on having children. I’d want to know what I’m potentially signing a future child up for. If I wanted to have a kid with someone, I’d tell them I had braces for 5 years and it’s likely our child will need that too. That’s important for a future father to know. But I don’t want kids, so I don’t think it’s false advertising to not fill a guy in on the severity of what I w…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 04:53 PM
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I went on a date with someone like this back in January. I showed up to the coffee shop and he was sitting there doing NYT crosswords. Except it was a brand new book and he was on the first page... at least flip to the middle if you’re going to pretend to be pretentious! The rest of the evening was spent with me listening to pure bullshit about how he was almost a chess grandmaster and yada yada yada. Finally came out at the end of the date he was actually a barely recovered gambling addict and …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 06:20 PM
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This IS rpw, you are correct. We don’t believe everything that comes out of the red pill subreddit, or care about certain things because they don’t apply to our strategies for finding quality men.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 01:44 PM
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That apparently dozens of other people, also on this sub, realize is bullshit. Read the room, look at the other comments in this thread, and observe the upvotes.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 01:36 PM
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Somehow I ended up working in the fashion industry, mostly as a designer. I am regularly around the most beautiful people my area has to offer so my self confidence had to be ironclad to love this career. That confidence came from a realization as a teenager that I, even if I had been beautiful, didn’t want to be known for my looks. So I armed myself with a well-rounded education, multiple talents, and a zest for living that not even a decade of bullying could snuff out. Think about what you rea…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 02:36 PM
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You’re really trying to cling to the tiny bit of ground you think you have here, huh. Anecdotal evidence like you describe above doesn’t negate the larger trends represented in the statistics I mentioned. I think you would benefit more from further research rather than us continuing this discussion. Also, I never said I wouldn’t date anyone older than me, I said I couldn’t date someone who finds it acceptable to date women “so much” younger than him. While that statement was vague, it does imply…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 03:20 PM
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Again I ask, if divorce rates for large age gaps are so high, how are they safer? They are statistically more likely to end sooner too. There are so many reasons for that. Dating within 5 (maybe up to 8) years of your age is going to end better for everyone involved. That’s what the women here who want a forever relationship and families need to be working towards, not internalizing fear over losing attractiveness as they age and fretting away said youth. I’ve read so many posts on here from you…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 01:59 PM
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Do you have any statistics to back any of this up? You’re the one telling me that all men would sleep with young women if they could. I’m actually trying to convince the women here that’s not the case: a significant majority of relationships are between similar age people and there are many reasons for that. Also, large age gaps end more frequently in divorce than similar age. How is that safer or more stable? Also, my dude, you need to read the room. My comments have as many upvotes as they do …
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 01:28 PM
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I think you need to examine why you’re so determined to defend this behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 12:32 PM
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I agree with a previous commenter, you have to learn to appreciate the spectrum of women around yourself and where you fit on it. I love having female friends of all kinds, it’s a good way to have an interesting life. Once you embrace that you can just be you. I know ridding yourself on the lingering effects of bad friends can be so tough, had a couple myself. But the biggest step is recognizing it and you’re already there!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 07:57 AM
4

Having age of consent laws at all suggests that there were enough older people preying on youths that it was deemed legally necessary to stop them. Take them away and we get child brides, and even one of those is unacceptable. I truly cannot trust a 40 year old man who would sleep with an 18 year old, because they are also notoriously bad at guessing women’s ages. So many women I know have had bad encounters with older men starting at 10. 10! All those women experiencing it that young should be …
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 07:36 AM
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Except a significant majority of relationships are similar age couples. That suggests most people want shared experiences, which is more important than just youth.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 07:17 AM
1

And 17 is better how?
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 07:15 AM
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Good thing we enacted laws to protect girls from ‘evolution’.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 05:33 AM
10

I 100% would not date Leo because he groomed his best friends child whom he’d known since she was little and started dating her when it was legal to do so. That’s creepy pedo behaviour and I don’t watch any of his new movies. What men don’t understand when they say they are more attracted to 18 yo than 30 is the only reason they say 18 is because it’s legal. What’s the difference really between 18, 17, 16? We had to enact laws to protect girls from older men. Multiple countries the world over ha…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 05:30 AM
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I wouldn’t want to date a man who finds it acceptable to date someone so much younger than him. That’s why I don’t need to care about the wall. There are so many more important things to build a relationship on than looks and anyone who only cares about how attractive someone is not a high quality person. End of. Edit: though we share the title Red Pill, our subreddit for women has different goals and values than the men’s side. I strongly recommend you lurk here before commenting again so you u…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 03:50 AM
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Most of my catcalling (and that of most women I know) happened when I was clearly a child and teenager. If the wall is aging out of that creepiness I will happily hit it 100km/hr. Edit: everyone finds ‘youth’ hot, but not all of us want to sleep with or partner up with someone that much younger than us. I can recognize someone is attractive and not want to fuck them, that’s being a reasonable adult. The wall is systemic gaslighting. We shouldn’t care about it because the kind of men we want don’…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 07:49 PM
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No exes, I keep them blocked, but lots of guys are reaching out for me to do their emotional labour right now. Most of them I barely know. I genuinely feel for them, because if you have no hobbies or coping skills this is a rough time, but it’s not my job to soothe and entertain all of them. Then there’s the one I went on a single date with who keeps asking for a hookup. I haven’t blocked him because he’s an obsessive personality and I think I need to know where his heads at for safety. I don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 07:46 PM
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I prefer the sugar wax, because it dissolves away if you get yourself in too deep. Start with small strips and work up as you discover your tolerance/sensitive areas. Exfoliate the day before, and regularly from the day after. Make sure your skin is cleansed, an alcohol wipe or something similar that won’t saturate the top layers of skin. The first two times suck, I did mine over a couple of days in the beginning. But as long as you stick with the schedule, it gets so much easier. Most places ju…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 05:05 AM
2

Just looked up stomach vacuums... that terminology threw me for a loop lol. I’ve always wondered if being a trained singer contributed to my small waist (same with my singer/wind instrument friends), and the theory behind this exercise kinda confirms that. Who knew I was snatching my waistline trying to squeak out the last notes in a long phrase... all women should give this exercise a try.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/20 03:55 PM
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Your friends and family need to shut up. You don’t need to lose weight. At all. Your bones aren’t big either. If your having trouble with a little belly pudge (we all do at some point) it’s probably stress related. That’s where fat gets stored with higher levels of cortisol. Take a look at your lifestyle and type of workouts and see if you’re being stressed unnecessarily. I’m thinking that having relationships where people tell you that your thin and healthy and attractive body needs to be thinn…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/20 01:39 PM
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You don’t even need a tape! A string and a ruler will get you started.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 07:56 PM
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I want to get back into daily journaling, at least 3 pages. Tidying my desk today so I’m more inclined to sit and write.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 04:16 PM
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I wonder when it will stop being jarring to read that some people can go out to eat right now. Any ideas for how you’ll achieve this? Freezer meals or a binder of quick recipes?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 04:10 PM
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My mother gave me a book about skincare that I had to read before she would allow me to wear makeup as a teen. That has served me very well apparently, and at 29 I’m still ID’d regularly and I live in a country with a lower drinking age than the US... It’s weird because I actually don’t think I look younger than my friends, but I’m the one that’s stopped when we go to concerts or bars together. I also have a very obvious streak of white hair near my face but I guess people think it’s bleached? B…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 05:04 PM
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I feel like a bunch of mine seem shallow when written out like this... are they wearing a baseball cap in every photo mirror pics in a messy room the ubiquitous wearing sunglasses in the truck pic anything obsessively sports related (face paint, weird hats, I dunno...) if it seems obvious the only time they wear a suit is for weddings only travel pictures or talking about wanting to travel more. A lot of guys think that makes them more interesting and it usually means there’s some deficit in the…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/20 05:57 PM
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This only sort of answers your question, but I’ve been focusing on seeing how many ways I can use an ingredient to help narrow down recipes. Saves money, uses every scrap of something, and forces creativity. I roasted two chickens on March 20th, covered in a paste of garlic, anchovy, and mustard. Those were worth a couple hot meals with rice, sandwiches with spicy/sweet pickles, part of a salad, then drippings and bones for ramen broth and the base of a tomato soup (with Parmesan rinds simmered …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 12:32 AM
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Read widely and interact with a variety of people. It will happen naturally that way. I’ve found daily journaling to be helpful as well. Being able to raise or drop the formality of your language is an important part of making those around you feel comfortable. If you listen more than you speak, humans have an innate mimic response, let that help you out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 04:00 AM
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I think the point is more to have a strong grasp of the full breadth of your language, from formal to casual, and be able to use that variety to display intelligence and humour. It’s the whole “I’m smart but don’t take myself too seriously” approach. It won’t be contrived if you have an apt sense of comedic timing.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 11:31 PM
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There is a lot of great advice here on moving forward and working to improve your mindset. My advice is more of a last resort if she makes herself impossible to ignore and work around: Give her stuff to be petty about that you don’t care about. Drop a fake thing that annoys you into a conversation with a coworker so she overhears. Watch in amusement as she tries to bug you with it. Switch it up once in a while. This flips the script so you’re making her dance to your tune and completely zeros he…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 05:16 AM
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5’8 and 170 is absolutely not obese. I’m your height and was 160ish for a while, not a soul would have even described me as chubby (and I work in fashion, if I had been chubby, I’d have been told 🤣). Not sure where this person got her numbers and attitude from. To answer your heel question, I’d start with boots. They’re typically more comfortable and draw a little less attention to the fact that they have heels than a pump. By spring you’ll be ready to rock wedges and block heels. I happen to lo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 04:23 PM
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All of my friends with fat parents gained weight when their parents decided to lose. It was very strange to watch, as you would think healthier food finally being readily available in the house would be good for everyone involved.
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