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There still aren’t even equal marriage rights for disabled people. Getting married in the US can cause loss of benefits if you’re disabled. Intersectional feminism looks at equality for all women, regardless of sexuality, race, or ability. If it ain’t doing that it’s not doing the complete job.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/26 02:03 AM
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Women want to feel like they specifically are the one you’re interested in. Not because they are a woman but because of who they are. What we don’t want is that desperate “any woman will do” feeling. I want to be attractive because of who I am just as much as for how I look. The problem is a lot of men just see boobs and that’s enough to shoot their shot. No one wants to feel like a piece of meat. In fact a lot of red pill rhetoric talks about male value like they have to bring something tangibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 06:27 PM
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So we can wear what we like only if it’s not revealing in any way? My frumpy around the house clothes in summer are a tank top and booty shorts. I run errands like that. Because it’s comfy. It’s also not particularly sexy to me but apparently my partner loves it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 07:30 PM
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I think you’ve gotta stop seeing women as something separate. Women are normal ass people just like men. It sounds like you still think of them as different from you. Figure out why you can’t just see women as another person before you see them as women. Some women are great, some are terrible, most are average. Same as men. It may be tied to your porn addiction - in porn women are generally objects rather than people. It’s not a loving romance in porn it’s men doing things to a woman.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/25 04:32 AM
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When you are made to feel shitty follow the money. I’m a woman, the profits of my misery went to makeup and diets and all kinds of stupid fucking shit. For men the grifters profit, gyms, supplements, etc. basically you need to figure out who is profiting from your low self worth and you’ll usually find out it’s someone trying to sell you something.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/25 08:19 PM
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That’s the thing. Ask women you vibe with. Cold opens are stupid and it means you don’t give a shit about them as a person. Fuck man, even if it’s someone you don’t know, have a genuine conversation first, find out if they’re someone you actually get along with and then if they are that’s when you ask for their socials or number. It’s really not complicated. And if it’s someone you know decently well and like shoot your shot and be a grown up about being rejected.
/r/ExRedPill07/08/25 02:56 AM
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You need to seek therapy for your anxiety. You should have on campus counselling. Use the fuck out of it. Try to figure out what’s stopping you from acting a little more impulsively and soothe that a bit. I’m a high anxiety autistic person who eventually learned not to give a fuck. I don’t have super wild stories but as I’ve aged my levels of Give a Fuck have dropped significantly because if people are gonna be shitty that’s on them. It might be different for you but I’ve tried so hard to take t…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/25 04:33 PM
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I’d be resentful too. But the women didn’t choose how the draft works. For what it’s worth I think the draft is terrible. It puts people on the front lines who don’t even want to be there. No one should be drafted. If there is a draft women should not be exempt just because they are women. But they didn’t decide how this works. The source of your resentment seems to be jealousy that they dont have to do what you do. Think about that and try to flip it: they thankfully dont have to do what you ar…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/25 11:33 PM
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Except if you’re trying to deprogram yourself you wanna make sure you’re not missing the point. There’s definitely misandrist bullshit out there and it is toxic. Make sure you are not too quick to dismiss. This isn’t a place for people who are always able to see your own shortcomings. I for one actually understand what is enticing about certain philosophies I hate. I actually tried to help my ex for two years to steer away from the rabbit hole (I still don’t think he was initially that kind of p…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/25 03:41 PM
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I’m gonna give you some info as a woman here. Make sure it’s actually toxic. You should be able to recognize the signs. Watch the content, figure out the arguments. And don’t just react on feelings. Listen to what’s being said, try and understand where it’s coming from. Also listen to your partner about why she watches it. Make sure to listen to her in good faith. Some of the content labeled as “femcel” and whatever is literally just women complaining about what men in general bring into their l…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/25 03:42 PM
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Dating the minimum legal age is like paying minimum wage. It says “id go lower if i could”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:23 PM
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You are a loser if you’re in your 30s and that fucking directionless. Regardless of who you date. I say this as an underemployed cat lady with very little aspirations beyond a quiet home. And you can absolutely find women closer in age who aren’t parents. There are many women who don’t ever want kids. The men you’re describing sound like perpetual children. I watch cartoons for fun but I still participate in adult life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:21 PM
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Thanks, I guess. I didn’t even proof read it
/r/ExRedPill26/05/24 07:07 PM
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Okay so I’m gonna approach this from the perspective of a woman. When I was a kid (back when dinosaurs roamed the earth) I was told I had to be so many things. There were so many lies, I had to be skinny, I had to be sexually appealing, I had to dress a certain way, so my makeup a certain way, behave so many particular ways. I was supposed to be submissive and let men do things for me. Before the internet there were still dating rules about playing hard to get and not seeming “too eager”. Don’t …
/r/ExRedPill26/05/24 05:19 PM
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Holy shit dude. It’s not your face. It’s your super hostile personality. Every single post you’ve made on Reddit has been antagonistic and, honestly, whiney. If it’s not bitching about how hard it is being ugly (which no one said it wasn’t but I know a lot of happy ugly people), you also went to be antagonistic in the socialist subreddit and also want to bitch about how women would pick running into a random bear over a random man. While the bear is more likely to leave me alone than a random ma…
/r/ExRedPill05/05/24 02:27 AM
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Ugly people get married and find love all of the time. Letting it rule your life and live rent free in your head and suck the joy out of it is not going to help. PS: I believed I was ugly well into my late 20s because of bullying, being asked out as a joke once and a bunch of other things. Turns out I was autistic so a little weird and my peers could tell and I couldn’t. I’m uglier now than I was then and I’m fucking over the moon with myself.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/24 02:23 AM
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You may want to try therapy. I’m a woman but got that “old soul” bullshit. Being forced to grow up too fast can actually really negatively impact you in ways other people don’t see but you feel heavily. Nurturing my inner child and choosing to soothe those feelings in a way that feels appropriate to the age I was really helped. Because I was just a child caring for my own mother’s emotional needs at the cost of my own. I was just a child who needed love and never received it. I had to choose to …
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 11:26 PM
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This is true. It’s not like I ever wanted to date an abusive douchebag or a misogynistic idiot. I just couldn’t tell right away. Even now because I’m autistic it’s hard for me to really be able to tell without a conversation.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/24 04:44 PM
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That’s the message you got out of that?
/r/ExRedPill26/04/24 05:52 AM
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I can smell it a mile away now but in my 20s? Couldn’t tell for shit. What women can tell is if you resent them and if you don’t have confidence. We don’t necessarily find ourselves aware of it but something will twig in our brains. And to be fair not all misogynists are malevolent. I might come to emotional harm but no physical harm. It’s the physical danger that we can sense subconsciously a lot better at any age.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/24 01:55 AM
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Yes but that’s children. Shy adults should be able to handle a little more than shy teenagers.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:46 PM
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Shy doesn’t mean social anxiety. I’ve been both. I’m still shy AF but social anxiety isn’t shyness. And I say this as a “blue pill” woman - social anxiety to that extent is a (small) red flag. It means that she won’t be capable of handling any important conversations either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 07:53 PM
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Shy girls can be gung-ho about dating. Quick response to texts. Fuck yes to dates or actually rescheduling if there are conflicts. We might blush like mad but we’ll do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 06:59 PM
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What the fuck man. The 5% of weirdos are not all men. Men are not bad except for the men who are bad. You’re acting like I can’t criticise men who are creepy weirdos in certain communities without me meaning “all men”. FFS.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 04:37 PM
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No I used to love it. The bad faith actors are the men that turn stalkerish in the comic book stores when they do Friday night magic and booster drafts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:30 PM
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We have an all women’s one in town and the only reason I don’t go is there’s too many players already.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:29 PM
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More women would enjoy nerd shit if the shitty men didn’t fucking wreck it for us. That’s all I’m saying. I never said men are bad. I said that some of the men who gravitate toward those interests make it goddamn unbearable. Your flowchart isn’t exactly a solid source either fam.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 11:25 PM
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Did you ever think that the kinds of interests we keep quiet are because of the men who share those interests having a heavy overlap of no concept of boundaries? Former anime convention goer, art seller, DnD player and MtG fan. The kinds of men I met during these passions of mine (not even remotely all of them but enough of them) ruined them for me. I just enjoy this shit with people I know aren’t gonna make me feel uncomfortable rather than risk it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 11:17 PM
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My partner does not do sword & sorcery. He’s a sci-fi guy. Very sad for me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 10:50 PM
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Yeah I basically keep my interests to close friends because I just got tired of the unhealthy weirdos making it uncomfortable when I went to things like Friday night magic. I won a booster draft once a million years ago and the dude was salty AF when I beat him in a way that made me quit playing with the general public. DND also is so creepy for a girl sometimes. Like I just wanna have fun and play pretend stop making it weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 10:25 PM
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We just do it more quietly, fam. I do DnD and MtG with people I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 10:09 PM
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There aren’t fewer female nerds. We just fuckin hide it because nerdy dudes are cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 08:59 PM
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There was a guy I thought was cute. After a week of getting to know him casually I thought he was a dick and wanted nothing to do with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 04:34 PM
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Run. It doesn’t get better.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/23 08:37 PM
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Hey. So like join a yoga class. If you’re fit you should also make sure you’re flexible. Make sure goal number one is to enjoy yoga. Goal number two is gonna be practice socializing in a woman dominated environment. You’re there to socialize not to flirt. This is going to get you the social practice that you need.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/23 08:35 PM
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Well no because that’s not really a living. Depends on age tho. Like if I was 19 I wouldn’t have cared. Still doing it at 30? Bit yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:20 PM
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I just want my partner to also have a stable income. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:45 PM
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Or has there ever been a man you weren’t initially physically attracted to but getting to know him made him beautiful? Because I’ve had that happen a handful of times. Didn’t really look his way but the more we talked and the more we got on the more I realized how amazing he was and he started looking like a snack. There was also a really cute guy at one of my first jobs that I handed in my resume to. A week of working with him and I was absolutely grossed out and annoyed by him. Sure some women…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:58 PM
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You think it’s income? I’m not dating a doctor, their hours suck. I’m not dating a police officer because they’re almost always dicks. I’m also not dating most lawyers because they also seem to have that “winning” personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:53 PM
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Right? The MRA sub is mostly complaining about women and also whining about things that are caused by a patriarchal male-values society (as in we value what we consider masculine: eg, emotions aren’t valued so women get to have them, except anger, men can be angry, so men don’t share feelings because “that’s for women” - not like we always say that out loud but that’s kind of the implication). And I’ll admit there’s some very staunch and angry feminists too but I’ve yet to meet someone who calls…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 12:39 PM
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“Leftoid”? You are a rational sounding person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 12:33 PM
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Friend, I am a woman. I’ve been through so much abuse that it’s not even worth talking about. Why externalize it? I don’t blame myself for the shitty situations I’ve been in. Nor do I blame men as a whole. I do enjoy “sipping male tears” memes because the amount of shitty men out there absolutely justify being bitter. Most people are shitty. But I haven’t closed my heart and I’m still friends with men and also respect men as individuals even if I’m jaded. Don’t let bad experiences fester into un…
/r/ExRedPill14/09/23 03:22 AM
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It’s less like a 401k and more like a risky stock option. A shitty parent is gonna be abandoned anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 05:52 PM
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There’s often articles about it to remind women that they have a choice. There’s still pressure to have kids and stuff. It wasn’t until I told my parents my partner had a vasectomy that they realized I wasn’t having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 05:50 PM
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Unstable people shouldn’t reproduce either tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 05:48 PM
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Men don’t come in bright colours when they’re toxic AF like some dart frog or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 08:39 PM
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Lol. Yes. It was. The feels
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:49 AM
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To wit - “incel” comes from “involuntary celibate” and men who can’t get laid, while not following the ideology also fit the bill for the origin of the term.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 01:46 AM
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I’ve heard that a good relationship is still work but work you’re more than happy to do rather than a chore
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 02:15 AM
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Not necessarily. I’m CF but not totally opposed to someone who already has kids. I just don’t wanna be pregnant and deal with exhaustion and sleep loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:54 AM
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Hi. Woman who has a high libido and seems to always end up with low libido partners: it happens and still feels shitty. I am pretty sure at least a third of the dead bedrooms sub is women. It sucks, a lot. However my libido may be high but feeling like nothing but a sex object feels shitty for anyone. I like sex to be fun. Not a chore or obligation
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:00 AM
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I hate everyone. I’m old and crotchety. I think on mobile you just click your username to edit flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:12 AM
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NP. It’s a major sticking point. My sister is trans and I’m friends with no less than 4 trans persons. I’m also sorta nonbinary.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:54 PM
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Trans-exclusionary radfem and sex-work exclusionary radfem. All work should protect its workers and trans people have a right to exist. That’s all I’ll say in this sub on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:34 PM
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Oh fuck off and read the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:33 PM
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It’s like us ladies just don’t exist on the internet. Edit: tho I do gotta ask, do you like cranking your neck at men? I don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 10:20 PM
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Hey, my partner got mad at me for calling myself a left-libertarian because the right-libertarians have ruined the name. I said fuck that, they don’t get to keep it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 10:19 PM
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ETA: am woman. Hair color/s don’t care Eye color/s don’t care Height/s within 5” of my own height, either direction Build/s anything but massively overweight or massively jacked. I’m fine with dad boss, slim builds, etc. I guess slight dad bod is ideal for cuddling but it’s not remotely a requirement. Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you. As long as we have enough to live on I’m cool. I’m trying to go minimalist with my life. Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you. Don’t ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 10:18 PM
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Holeee fuck just don’t be a pickup artist. My lesbian coworker got hit on in the nicest way possible. Dude tells her he really enjoyed talking to her at work (that’s the trick, find some common ground). She said “I’m really sorry. I’m gay. But that’s the sweetest way anyone has asked me out” Dont just ask for a number. See if you vibe first. Then shoot your shot. Be prepared for rejection and take it nicely “oh, I’m sorry. I will leave you alone. Have a nice day” The failures and the irritations…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 01:04 AM
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My trusty vibrator is here to help. And I’ve gone years while in relationships and I have a high libido. I just take care of myself. I get kinda pushy and borderline rapey if I don’t do something about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:39 PM
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Like how can we connect or have a conversation or ever be truly intimate if you won’t tell me what’s going on in your head?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:53 PM
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I got the ick because my former fiancé kept his trauma away from me and was gonna marry me without the raw honesty we needed to move forward. People who don’t like honest feelings give me the ick. Edit: and he also does cry during movies. I’ve caught him doing it and would playfully tease him. Mostly because I was bawling my eyes out and his were just pretty wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:31 PM
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No, at the time I wanted FWB I liked to be around because I was just out of a serious relationship and not ready for that again yet. Now I just want to be loved and love someone back.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:24 PM
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“Please accept my boundaries when I say no and don’t get to sex before I at least have some idea of who you are and if I know we are compatible enough to be around each other” - I even gave them a get outta jail free card. For example I was messaging a guy, seemed normal. Was texting on my phone because I was pretty sure. Well I told him I was at work and he asks what colour my underwear are. “Bro you wanna walk that back a bit? I’m at work and not cool with that yet.” He’s cool for two messages…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:23 PM
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That might be true. I’m old and like a dad bod now though…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 04:08 AM
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I just wanna have a lot of sex with someone I love. Seems like a large ask these days lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 04:07 AM
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Bruh I couldn’t even find some dudes who didn’t seem rapey. It was exhausting. I wanted a FWB I could also spend time with. Nothing serious but a woman has neeeeeds.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 02:45 AM
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Like if sugaring works for you all the power to you I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 02:44 AM
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So my dataset shows that 2/3 nerds/geeks/betas are abusive, 1/3 are rapists, 3/3 are not interested in their partner’s well-being at all. Goth boys is where it’s at apparently?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:16 AM
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Yeah but the water can look clear and still be contaminated.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:14 AM
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A little bit of danger is exciting (roller coasters, scary movies, etc) but as a woman who’s actively tried to avoid violent men (guess what? Nerds can be insecure and abusive too - if not more so) and to always “give the nice guy a chance” I seem to have been beaten and raped a lot anyway. Overall women don’t know what red flags look like until they’ve seen them before. I’ve always wanted a partner in life and yet it seems so fucking hard to find. I do like men with a little bit of edge - dark …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:13 AM
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No, if men were less controlled by their sex drive. They just need some self control. And some men could stand to be more horny. -HLF whose been stuck with LLM.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:39 PM
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But they can. I think wishing for it both ways would be good.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:38 PM
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It’s included in my country. Hasn’t stopped me being stalked, harassed, cussed out, belittled etc. My very first tinder match took my “I’m sorry I think we are looking for different things” personally. I asked him what he likes to do for fun, he said “read my bio” and it just said like “books”. I said what kind of books? Literature, he tells me. I say that’s broad. He got mad. Threw a hissy fit because I said it was broad. Then he also said “no one says honestly what they’re looking for on this …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:33 PM
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/r/wheneomenrefuse is an extreme example.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:27 PM
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Dating someone to get away from a bad situation or score cash when you’re poor is a almost coercion.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 03:57 AM
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Why would I want someone who doesn’t think I’m worth his time?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 03:56 AM
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That’s some nice white saviour complex. They want rich husbands so they don’t have to be poor. Which is basically somewhere between a sugar daddy and sex trafficking. And I’m not American and I sure don’t want American men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 02:23 AM
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You know what? If all the men the women didn’t want would leave that would be okay with me. I just feel sorry for the women in other countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 01:54 AM
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I wouldn’t GAF
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 06:42 PM
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Ugly kid who had a glow up: I hated the attention. I’m glad I’m post-wall and now seen as just a person not a sex object.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:31 PM
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It’s called emotional maturity. Yes we desire these things but don’t require them. I think confusing needs with wants is such a sad way to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:29 PM
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Meh. If they don’t like me then we aren’t compatible. Kinda sucks I guess but I’m tired of men. Y’all are exhausting. If someone is genuinely interested in me I’ll be happy. But if not I’d rather just be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:22 PM
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20 year reunion is coming up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 04:07 PM
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I’m 36. The wall is a lie. I have tons of interest but I stopped giving a fuck. Relationships are work. Cats are easy. If I wanna get laid I can I suppose but it’s just too much to figure out who’s gonna be able to find the clitoris.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 12:51 AM
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I’m 36. My classmate who was alphabetically always next to me for 12 years came into my work last week (he’s one of our delivery guys). Couldn’t recognize him for shit. He knew me right away. It’s because I look mid-20s and he looks hard 45. Like I’m a tad overweight now (15 lbs. I can lose it but it always sneaks back) but I’ve only just started looking different than when I was in school. He is grey with a sunken face and just… he looked rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 12:49 AM
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The problem is that no one teaches autistic men how to behave socially because no one teaches anyone that shit. I’m a woman and my peers browbeat me into being “normal” whereas the toxic traits of men seem to be ramped up to 11 in some spectrum men. I’ve seen it a lot when I worked at a game store. They would talk my ear off with no consideration, no one teaches them that other people have needs and the entitlement isn’t couched by any social awareness. I watched love on the spectrum (one whole …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 12:17 AM
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What would you pick in a woman? It’s a no-brainer. Unless moneybags is an overspender. I’d go with whoever is smarter with their money.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:20 PM
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Still personality dependent. Are they equal in personality? Like that’s what I’d put it on. And is the high earner money conscious? Or does he just blow it all? What’s the student studying? Does he make enough to get by? Like there’s so much here. Who’s a more attentive partner? Assuming everything else is exactly the same (they’re twins. IDK) then the money for sure. But that’s not gonna happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:58 PM
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Depends on who isn’t an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:48 PM
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Is it betting on the wrong horse if money isn’t a huge priority? Like I just don’t wanna be broke AF. That’s my goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:46 PM
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Bro anyway my point is that I like discussing a lot of topics and don’t just wanna talk sports or mundane shit like my dad does if you want me to sum it up. He talks about people and what they’re doing or just chores or racist bullshit. I don’t want a man like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 12:48 PM
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What? I don’t even understand. A lot of blue and white collar men are intelligent and can talk about these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 12:45 PM
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It’s not even addressing the actual points. I don’t wanna just be eye candy. I want to be able to discuss philosophical and scientific things with. I want to be able to turn to my partner and say “did you know that they can tell the colour of a dinosaur with feathers by looking at the shape of certain aspects of the filament? But there’s also a discourse around that and whether the shapes are the same post-fossilization that they were before?” And delve into something like that. I’m not there to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:01 AM
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So I’ve read post after post in AITA and Relationships etc. where a woman has been paying the bills for unemployed men to stay at home and game. Women do genuinely worry about being a caretaker and bang maid just as much as men worry about women using them for money. The financial game is a little different but it’s the same idea. I want an equal partner not a dependent and not a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:01 PM
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Because most people don’t understand what makes a relationship work until they’ve been in one. Does anyone know what they’re looking for at first if they have no experience? I never really went just for looks but connection but even then the learning curve on how to actually be a partner is fucking steep and what you actually need and want from a partner isn’t something you innately know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:58 PM
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No but some people are just fat. Let her be happy. Why does her size have anything to do with this conversation? I’d say she’s probably fitter than I am though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 05:07 PM
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Idk about you but there’s no way I could perform like she does without getting winded
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:47 PM
2

It feels like a troll post. That or I’m really out of touch with what some women think. I’ve done this because it’s a decent human thing to do. Men are not walking wallets.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 12:20 PM
5

You realize those things are popular because women like them and not the other way around?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:07 PM
2

Hot take: women haven’t had a choice until the last few years. You couldn’t get a credit card without a husband until like the 80s. Women are finally getting a say in what they want from a partner. And spoiler: while tall dark and handsome is in fact a thing, many women like slender men, shorter men etc. Its you’re god damn personalities and entitlement that make so many men unappealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:05 PM
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It’s a click-bait title I swear.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:14 PM
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The golf course seems to be predominantly male for this reason. It’s not like men are forbidden to spend time without women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 04:47 PM
4

IDGAF about looking virtuous but the most attractive marvel men to me are Doctor Strange and Loki. Like I know what gets my panties wet and it isn’t Thor.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 10:12 PM
3

Joseph Gordon Leavitt
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 10:08 PM
11

Most women I know think Loki is the most attractive marvel dude and I don’t disagree…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 10:08 PM
2

It was stargate Atlantis where I fell in love. He was not as huge then.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 10:03 PM
2

I don’t agree with you but also got a real hearty laugh out of that so thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:54 AM
2

You have to be open to love. It’s something that you can’t cling to or grasp at but it’s also something you can’t let pass you by.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:53 AM
3

And pretty female leads to boot…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:34 PM
1

He was spendier than me. So he’d overspend and I’d be trying to keep up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:30 PM
6

He’s not just demonized. We scream from the top of our lungs why “nice guys” are terrible. There’s a laundry list of behaviours that we loathe. But since you’re so upset about being “attacked” y’all won’t look inward and instead blame women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:49 PM
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Cellulite shows up on skinny women too. It’s not just fat. And body hair isn’t gross but that’s individual taste. It’s just a thing. Heaven forbid I don’t shave my legs every day. I have stretch marks from puberty. They’re going nowhere. And men can be a huge financial drain. My last relationship left me worse off even though he made more money than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:40 AM
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And what do men offer? Shit stained underpants, no skin care regimen so they have huge pores and never taking care of their appearance? The bar is so low for men to just be clean and wear nice fitting clothes. That’s all we want and you want gotdamn Farrah Fawcett in her prime.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:36 AM
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It’s really in the way I’m being looked at and it’s hard to describe. It’s like a hungry dog looking at a steak rather than someone who seems to just be interested in what they’re looking at. Thankfully I’m getting old and no longer have that feeling very often. Though it definitely still happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 03:48 AM
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You need to ask to switch therapists.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 09:36 PM
3

Okay blah blah blah. Accountability sucks. Deal with it. Only one of us can get pregnant. Be responsible. IDFK. Men suck. Goodbye.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:39 AM
2

Okay. But it’s an important question for people
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:27 AM
1

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:14 AM
1

Spouses also aren’t substitutes for friends, therapists, and all kinds of things. Men especially expect women to feed them, clean the house, and take over social expectations such as buying their friends and family gifts, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 11:21 PM
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Well that’s dumb. I long ago realized I can have a fulfilling life on my own. Having someone to share it with enhances things for sure but it’s not the be all and end all. If I never get married? Okay. That’s fine. I still have friends and other connections to keep me going. I’m not desperately holding out that someone will love me in the way I want to be loved. I’d rather be happy on my own than settle just to not be lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 10:44 PM
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Firstly, there is an absolute important distinction between want and need. No body should ever tie their happiness to another person. It’s unhealthy and unfair to the person. The only people who should need another person to fulfill them is children who can’t do it on their own. Everyone should be able to soothe themselves on their own and enjoy themselves on their own. By being able to provide your emotional, mental and physical needs to yourself you suddenly be able to garner healthy attachmen…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 10:42 PM
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Honestly? The problem is average men and their living habits. They’re on average really horrendous about cleaning themselves and their living situation. They don’t care about how their clothes fit or look. They just don’t care about things women put work into. I’m a slob of a woman and I can’t slum it with some of the men out there. It’s just too stressful. I don’t mind messy but fucking dirty is too much. I just care about things a lot of men seem not to. That’s really the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:07 AM
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I like it when men get giddy enough to giggle like a little girl. They usually only do that when they’re comfortable and happy I also have never, not once, paid attention to the way a man sits unless he’s manspreading like he’s got two bowling balls between his legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:46 PM
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The opposite mistake men make of pedestalizing women is also a huge ick. Men who think I’m the greatest thing ever with no flaws are in for a nasty surprise and shock when they find out I’m human. Less of a problem now but in my 20s they’d treat me like I was some kind of Angel. First time was kinda nice until I realized it meant I had to live up to some perfect ideal in their head and they would get really angry when I wasn’t that thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:40 PM
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Just like if the absurd comments here were things I applied to all men I’d never date again. This sub is such a fucking cesspool of misogyny at this point. It used to be at least a discussion group but the sane people are tired of it leaving it to basically be a women-bashing sub. I don’t even know why I’m here anymore. Men: if a woman is put off by mundane stupid shit like this just break up or move on or whatever. My icks: Not showering Eating with your mouth open Dressing like a slob Being a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:38 PM
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God. I’m a woman and I basically feel like a deranged teenager at 36 even. The worst part is finding someone who can keep up with me.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/23 06:14 PM
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Lol. I just wanna know what unreasonable is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 04:47 PM
3

…I’m going to use redpill terminology and not like it but: frame. Just for gods sake men need to get over their “oneitis” and just find someone who is “hell yes” interested in them. If men as a whole started just dropping women who don’t give clear hints women would have to up their game and actually be straightforward.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:48 PM
3

Speak for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:46 PM
3

That’s unhealthy. Find some male friends to fucking talk to. It’s unbearable being the only emotional support a partner has.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:45 PM
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Explain unreasonable. Because my bar is super low at this point and it’s still not enough. I am not your mommy, maid, or masturbation aid I want to be able to turn you on If you have an interest I’m not interested in be okay with that. Stop showing me your guns. I don’t make you sit through Love Is Blind marathon watches so why do you expect me to like every TV show you watch? Have friends other than me for emotional support understand your emotions at a base level so you can communicate them to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:42 PM
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I don’t want a traditional man. Do you know how hard it is to find a man who actually understands his own thoughts and feelings? It’s fucking impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:37 PM
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Because pursuing someone who isn’t interested is a waste of fucking time and energy? Just let it go.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:35 PM
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I like that I can stealth that feeling as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:34 PM
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Not a saint. I got sick of seeing my friends whine about their prospects. I’d rather not beat around the bush, it’s a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 06:50 PM
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Okay. That’s a little weird. But you’re doing all of the right things. Meeting people who are single is the hard part.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:20 PM
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Are you only using dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:29 PM
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I think you really don’t know how many women are considered ugly and overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 02:19 AM
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Which is why I said women should actually just take some initiative. Also unattractive women experience it a lot. Y’all wanna talk about looks privilege but ugly women are invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:06 PM
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Fuck off. I’ve been rejected plenty of times. Probably because I realized young that if you don’t ask you don’t get an answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:46 PM
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Well then whatever. Just as long as you’re letting them come and go as they please then I don’t care half as much. It’s the arm-candy soldiers that want to have a young girl to keep under their thumb. It gets abusive so fast. I’m old enough to understand there’s a difference. You’ve got to use your experience to be kind and empathetic. I see no problem with that. It’s the men who want to capitalize on naivety I hate. Which is common among the actual age gap relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:26 PM
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Is it casual dating? Are you looking for a life partner? What do you find interesting about younger women as companions? There’s nothing inherently predatory about age gaps but there is a trend and that’s why some women are concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:54 PM
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I’ve seen some insanely predatory women in my days too. Or stupid ones. I knew a girl 30+ who kept dating early 20s men expecting them to be able to be serious about her. I straight up told her you can’t date men fresh out of high school/still in college and expect them to want a life with you. And there’s a difference between casual hookups and relationships as well. If a 22 year old wants to hook up at a bar with a 35 year old and neither are super drunk then whatever. It’s the long term relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:52 PM
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I’ve been screaming about age gaps since I was groomed once at 17. Men somehow seem to think we’re jealous of the kind of men who use younger women to be controlling. I don’t wanna be controlled. The kind of man who wants to use a younger woman to mould her into what he wants is an absolute ick factor to a grown woman. Can age gaps work? Absolutely. The people in them have to be at similar life stages or have similar values goals and wants. Also as far as casual goes IDGAF as long as it’s all co…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:49 PM
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Honestly men and women both need to be more bold and less afraid of rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:39 PM
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I just want to point out that modern love and relationships are often looking for something unattainable: we want our partners to be our best friend and the person we have sex with and our support and therapist and a roommate to help with a household and we want to love them too. Pick the things that you actually want. To me sex is the most important thing in a romantic relationship (and all that it entails, foreplay, flirting etc). Without it I’m just a roommate. I want to love them too but I a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:13 PM
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No one is forcing you to “settle”. Women are becoming more and more fine with being alone. Men should too. Take what you think you’re worth or take nothing. I’m fine with it, why aren’t you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:54 AM
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It’s not mostly men. It’s mostly men being diagnosed because women hide it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:53 AM
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I get stuck with the chores and the emotional labour.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:51 AM
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Oh my god the amount of men that wear clothes one size too big and think it looks good… But also so many men want mommy bang-maids. It’s a turn off. Be a functional adult, you’ll be surprised how well it fucking works. Things that have ended my relationships: Dirty house, lack of motivation to be healthy, sabotaging my diet and my quitting smoking, spending more on stupid shit he doesn’t need than on saving for our future, no long term goals, etc. These are the things that break me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:50 AM
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I am too awkward, clumsy and not feminine enough for most. Are you spending time with the right people? All of my friends and partners find me charming instead of special. I’d also maybe get screened for autism or ADHD because neurotypicals find us off-putting. We don’t react in ways that are expected. It doesn’t mean you’re broken if you have it but it might change your whole approach to life in general.
/r/ExRedPill22/06/23 08:53 PM
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Haha right? It’s dumb. IDK. I was trying to make a funny based on modern slang.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 07:19 AM
1

Nah it’s more like a gay twink thing I think?
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:38 AM
1

Boy+pussy=bussy
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:33 AM
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Yeah. We call it “bussy” now
/r/ExRedPill15/06/23 02:00 AM
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It’s not “no means no” so much as only “yes means yes” ffs. How hard is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:29 AM
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There are two kinds of ways to react to pain. You can make other people hurt like you, lashing out like a trapped animal, or you can take that pain and do your best to prevent others from feeling it. The first reaction is natural and the second one is something you don’t always succeed at. I have chosen a very pacifistic role toward other people. It’s a choice you have to make. None of it really hurts me now. I wouldn’t want it to happen again and if it did I’d probably handle things differently…
/r/ExRedPill11/06/23 02:20 AM
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⁠Almost all abusers have some form of dissonance. It was never his fault when he did some of the vile things he did to me. Including raping me. Even most rapists don’t see what they did as rape most of the time. Understanding consent is key and they often do the “she liked it so it’s okay” even if she didn’t. ⁠And the complaint of “women say “no” when they really want it. Well that’s too bad for the woman. Have some self respect. Maybe if everyone stopped playing mind games then everyone would b…
/r/ExRedPill10/06/23 10:57 PM
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Like I don’t get why it’s so hard for people to grasp that sex is important
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:06 PM
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Well for a romantic partner sex is super important. Let’s not lie to ourselves. I don’t want a kind and loving roommate that I don’t bang. I mean it’s nice to have that too but sex is like a bathroom: a bathroom is not a house but a house without a bathroom is a pretty shitty house. It’s a very important pillar of romantic relationships. Otherwise we are just friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 12:10 PM
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First off I have never seen the movies mentioned. But Big is an extra creepy example. Secondly I have no interest in a man who thinks dating a 19 year old is some kind of achievement. It’s creepy as fuck. Man this subreddit is old. It’s really just a bunch of dudes trying to justify their shitty/creepy behaviour and complain about how hard their lives are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:05 AM
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They’re not the typical look. They’re never gonna be the hot guy to most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:02 AM
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And that’s really a problem. You shouldn’t be able to hold money, health, experience… anything over someone’s head.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:01 AM
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Bro… the point is I don’t really find the typical Hollywood look attractive. Give me goth boys and metal heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 11:14 PM
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There’s general attractiveness for both men and women. There are outliers as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 11:12 PM
1

Your brain is developed yes but you don’t have experience to back your decisions. Can you honestly tell me that every decision you made at 18 was completely responsible and not short sighted?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:07 PM
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Okay but explain why I find Adrian Brody and David Tennant far more attractive than Brad Pitt or… whatever hot dudes are out there? And I’m a woman who prefers men close to my own height.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:46 PM
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Wtf is with people on here? The issue is the experience gap. There’s an inherent issue with someone with significantly more life experience picking up someone who doesn’t have that same experience. It’s a power imbalance. The age gap itself isn’t a problem necessarily. It’s when a dude who probably wants to settle down and have a family is choosing an 18 year old who doesn’t even really know what they want out of life yet. Same with a woman doing that. Pressuring young people to skip out on larg…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:38 PM
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Or it’s women who’ve been seriously fucked up by men using their youth and naivety to treat them like shit. It’s happened to me and an alarming amount of my friends from 17-19. I just don’t see what grown men find so appealing about teenagers other than sex appeal. Relationships based solely on sex are not healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:29 PM
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Straight girl: I’ve been with men with anxiety induced performance issues before. It’s really not that off-putting. Especially if you still want to put effort into getting me off, but it’s not necessary. The right thing to say is “Im having a really great time but I guess I’m not cooperating. Let’s try something different for a minute” or something to that effect. Go into a favourite go-to action that might amp you back up again. I usually offer to do a BJ when that happens as sometimes it works…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 02:05 AM
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Isn’t Pierce Brosnan still married and people like this shit on his wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 01:06 AM
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….I used to do them but the quality of sex sucked. And it’s not risk/reward of child rearing. IDGAF I take preventative measures and have no problems with the yeetus fetus deletus spell. If anything it’s a safety standpoint. And I’ve still made shitty decisions because I was horny and just been lucky that bad/painful sex was the worst outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 11:53 PM
4

Wasps can die in a fire. They’re just evil. But you should see me with butterflies and moths. I will release them. Screaming and crying as they’re my phobia. But I can’t kill them just for being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 05:40 PM
1

That’s a depressing way to look at it. It’s fair. But depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:36 PM
2

Yea. A lot of guys don’t care or don’t listen. But that’s common in LTR too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 12:21 PM
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If I could guarantee a ONS would actually care about getting me off I’d be down. So many guys are just in to use me as a human flesh light. Feels bad, man. I love sex. I love being with another human. But FFS put some emphasis on my body.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 02:14 AM
2

I don’t use anti-aging creams and I still get IDed at 35. It’s really not that weird for some people. Genetics play a huge role.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 04:01 PM
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Bruh, I wish the men in my life would at least make a half hearted attempt at a skin care routine. At least cleanse and moisturize.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 03:55 PM
1

Maybe you are only kind to people to get something. Kindness and generosity are often very low cost. It’s an easy choice to make. We are pro-social creatures too. But if someone in passing is grouchy to me I can choose to be snippy back or be nice back. Not to get anything. Not because I’ll ever even see that person again. But just to be nice. I can be generous with compliments and gratitude. Not to get anything - dude has a nicely groomed mustache? Let him know. Woman has a fabulous dress on? L…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:57 PM
1

I’m a person not a coin machine that you put kindness tokens into and eventually win pussy. The dude who shoots his shot and takes it gracefully instead of like a toddler is the best. But if only getting laid is the goal and being nice is only a means to an end then it’s not just nice. Maybe I’m crazy but kindness should be a thing you do because you just do it. Not to get something.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:32 PM
0

In person? Usually it’s just a muttered “bitch” or whinging “but why nooooot?” On tinder or via dms, especially when I was in university: you don’t understand! I’m a nice guy. I could treat you good! Whatever. You’re a fat slut anyway. Its predictable at this point: I’m a good guy, give me a chance > rejection > vile insults no nice person would say. Im a little old so now it doesn’t happen as much but it still does every once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:26 PM
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Maybe… just maybe… if more men were honest with women about their feelings they wouldn’t be so weird about it. Also maybe, just maybe, if women act like you grew a third head if you share insecurities with her, then maybe she’s a shit person. Some people are so whiny like dogs begging to table scraps. Accept respect and nothing less. If people don’t show that to you when you are your most vulnerable they are crappy people. I made a conscious choice: be alone or be with someone who doesn’t do thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 04:49 AM
6

There’s nice guys and then there’s Nice Guys. And everyone has to bring something to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 04:31 AM
1

Elliot Rodger was good looking. He still was a toxic asshole and women knew it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 03:52 AM
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“Nice guys” are the guys being nice to get in your pants, proclaiming niceness, and then take rejection like a grade-A asshole. An actual nice guy doesn’t call you a names when you’re rejected. A lot of these people self proclaim they’re so nice when they really aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 03:51 AM
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You can either be a “nice guy” - or feminine, or a “bossy bitch” - assertive/masculine. That’s the gender role. But to be fair a lot of “nice guys” are just playing at it and not genuine in their niceness. Remember kids: nice is different than good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 03:49 AM
2

Yes. A psych with a PhD specializing in autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:35 AM
6

Other methods like meeting people outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:50 PM
1

Bruh, I’m autistic as fuck and even I can make friends. I’ve met all of my partners through friends or work. Just talk to people. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:48 PM
1

He told someone to kill themselves on Twitter. Not in those words but the implication was strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 07:41 PM
3

Guys, the difference between assertiveness and aggression is something y’all seem to be missing in this comment thread. I like a man who knows what he wants. I tell men what I want. Men will often say that they want the same thing as me to hook me. It’s really annoying. It’s okay to like different things or want different things out of life. Be straightforward. Also have a spine and a vision for your life please. For the love of god don’t put up a pre-tense that you’re her dream man just to get …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:46 AM
2

TBF I like the really obviously terrible pickup lines. Like a dude knows it’s cringey and says it with a goofy grin. But they’ve gotta be really really bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:44 AM
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Oh buddy…. No man is my boss. We are 50/50 partners in this business. My dude, you’re so close yet not quite there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:41 AM
2

Money should be important at least at a self-sufficient level. Anyone who says it’s not has not financially struggled with a partner in a very imbalanced way. Ie, my partner made more than me and I could take care of myself and didn’t see him as a walking wallet but he also wasn’t saving money for future expenses instead blowing it on fun stuff and also dragging me down by wanting to do expensive stuff I could sort of afford but would’ve rather not spend money on. Looks? They do matter. More so …
/r/ExRedPill12/05/23 03:59 AM
2

I’ve never heard it put so well before. And honestly we all get it framed that way as we grow up even a little bit. Thanks for this thought.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 09:26 PM
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I’m a woman. That sub made me hate myself and feel like I couldn’t trust any man. I started to feel like all men thought that way about me. It made me feel gross. I had to stop reading. I’m subbed here to restore some faith in humanity.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/23 10:54 PM
8

Not to mention it makes women antagonists. Women are to be conquered or defeated. Women don’t deserve truth. They are children. It’s this “I know best” ideology. It puts them constantly on the defensive and makes things really unstable.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/23 12:17 PM
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just dropping some statistics
/r/MensRights22/04/23 07:45 AM
2

What the fuck do men bring to the table in sex? That’s the fucking problem. There’s absolutely no desire for most men to bother to get their partner off. I’d rather just have 5 minutes with a vibrator than someone who doesn’t bother to touch me in a way that I like. My sex drive isn’t lower. Most of you just suck in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 05:08 AM
1

But seriously. I’m not actually a RPW so take me with a grain of salt. There are ace men. But be careful, if it’s trauma based if you get your sex drive back ever you’re dragging a man who just doesn’t like sex into it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 07:27 PM
1

Asexual men exist. Not sure if you’re gonna find one that fits your bill though.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 07:15 PM
1

They never do this until I move in. And suddenly there’s no time or money. I don’t understand it. Then we’ve got combined living situations. I’ve been engaged twice now and had to break it off because they turn into knob heads once they think I’m locked down.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 07:48 PM
1

Lol the men always make me put my career on hold for their dreams. “We don’t have the money” and “I’ll get around to it” have been what they make me wait on. You’re acting like I don’t approach men. I absolutely pursue and put in effort. Every time. And men try to suck the life out of me and I end up leaving worse off than entering the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 07:31 PM
2

Bruh, I have done nothing but lay all my cards on the table to find out the men have lied to me for years and not been honest with themselves or me. I have picked up yoga, I continue my hobbies like painting and art. I have done therapy (something more men should really consider for themselves considering the shit I’ve been through). I don’t know what else to do. I have never not dated with the intention of the long haul.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 07:20 PM
1

I have been in 3 long term relationships. The men have wasted my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 04:30 PM
5

What if I’ve been trying to get married since my mid 20s and men keep fucking that up for themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 03:41 AM
1

Anytime I read redpill content I just get depressed. I should be at the wall and unattractive and unwanted. Knowing some men think this way is disheartening to be honest.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 02:10 AM
1

You are being obtuse. “Wamen interests make me mad because wamen are liars”. Explain how makeup is the only thing that does this masking thing. Do you think there aren’t guys that don’t go plucking their unibrows or doing certain hairstyles to mask their hairline? Again, BEARDS TOTALLY CHANGE THE SHAPE AND LOOK OF A PERSON’S FACE.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 08:01 AM
2

Sorry I meant to just laugh at OP not comment. But yeah men do all kinds of things too. Calling makeup a “lie” is like calling my bras a lie or flattering clothes a lie. Let’s just all wear spandex and have our bank accounts visible so no one can second guess us.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:50 AM
2

Yeah but one of them looks a lot less obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:48 AM
2

….why is it makeup specifically that offends you if not it being something typically only women do? There are many ways we achieve similar things via clothes and jewelry and hairstyles that do the same thing. But it’s just makeup. And for you it’s any makeup. Not even just a little eyeliner because that’s a lie but men can grow beards to disguise their jawlines. Also no stylish glasses for anyone ever because they can disguise your face shape. Can’t have hair in your eyes or shaping your face, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:47 AM
1

How dare some women want to look nice out in public or for their partners. Hahaha. The AUDACITY.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:47 AM
3

Also holy fuck if we could get the world changing to make us be less tired maybe we wouldn’t spend so much time trying to look less tired.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:44 AM
1

Wow I’m glad mines not that bad. But I almost died in GotG 2 because Groot’s speech about hats was too relatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:41 AM
5

Because the way you dress isn’t also about making yourself look the best you can. Do you groom? Go get a specific haircut? Grow your facial hair a certain way? This is splitting so many hairs it’s basically coming up misogyny. You don’t want any makeup ever. Good for you. Die alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:40 AM
2

I do it because it makes me feel more confident. I feel fine without it but it’s fun to do sometimes. I wear it about 15% of the time and it’s usually just some eyeliner/mascara and a little bit of slightly tinted lip. Fucks sakes next I’m gonna hear that bras are deceptive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:39 AM
2

https://youtu.be/2q9ugg9i0cQ
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:35 AM
2

We can all dream haha. (I don’t actually want that)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:08 AM
3

Lord help me. I have a bachelors in psychology and you’re the ones trying to psychoanalyze my flaws under a microscope. You’re all very sad bitter men here. Couldn’t possibly be that I just had a rough go with low self esteem. Which is what the OP wants. Women to feel ashamed. I’m done with being shamed for who I am or what I do or who I do or don’t fuck. All of this bullshit is just sad little men upset that women don’t behave the way they want and treating us all like some monolith while screa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 07:51 AM
3

I’m comfortable alone. And it hasn’t been boring for me. I know what I want and what I don’t want. It’s nice to have the strength to say “nah I’m just not feeling it” and not see someone again.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 07:10 AM
2

Lol mostly friend hangouts with extended friends. By parties I mean board games and drinking. It’s where I met the last one who was all around a good guy (we actually clicked really good). Just… not the right fit I guess. It’s very sad to be in the midst of ending it. But sadder still is the thought of settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 07:08 AM
3

Dating apps, mostly, but also social settings and parties. I was looking for my second ever FWB scenario. I just wanted someone tolerable who might actually bother to give me an orgasm. I don’t think every guy that approached me wants to hurt me but a damn good number of men don’t understand personal boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:56 AM
3

What. In my 20s I didn’t even know who I was. Bruh, you really need to think about how people grow and change - it’s not always together. Every LTR I have had has been for keeps initially but we’ve grown apart for one reason or another. Didn’t help that some of the first ones were physically abusive. Then I almost DID settle for the first guy that didn’t hit me. A lot of my single 30s friends, men and women are finally getting their shit together enough to pursue something “forever”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:54 AM
9

I always love the analogies men come up with comparing people to objects.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:44 AM
3

Don’t settle for someone who is settling for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:43 AM
2

Tell that to the men I’ve been with. Sex turns off after a year or two. Absolutely not a thing only with women. Also the caveat being that they were things a partner enjoyed rather than things that they did out of pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:42 AM
3

Are their standards lower? My standards were, last time I was single, “respect boundaries, don’t have rapist red flags” and it was almost impossible to find someone that wasn’t in that set up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:20 AM
3

Heck, I’m probably leaving a man that I like and respect because our relationship has come to its end.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:17 AM
5

Lol. Career woman. I wish I was. I’m soon to be a single poor woman. I want my SAH hubby to cook and clean for me so I can just do the work outside of the house. Can’t get by on a single income family though, so he’d have to work part time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:14 AM
3

Or… maybe most people don’t understand boundaries, how to respect them and enforce them. I know I suck at boundaries and I ended up not doing anything for myself and everything for my male partners. Edit: also my brain stops caring much what anyone has to say when it comes to hypergamy. It’s stupid. Everyone wants to date “up” men just consider “up” younger and hotter and women just consider that to be more stable and financially secure, on the whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:10 AM
7

Because this sub isn’t all about mocking women or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:09 AM
5

Bruh, I’m 35 and I’ve been with men long term before. I always sign up for the long haul yet things change. I will never settle. The man that I’m probably on the outs with is even a wonderful person and yet not a good fit. I’d rather die alone than be with the wrong person. Also you say that settling is okay. I don’t work my dream job but I still haven’t settled permanently. I’m going back to school in the fall. Settling is for people who have given up. Sure I won’t be an astronaut married to a …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:08 AM
9

Lol. Cool. I’d rather not have someone who thinks I’m a dried up cunt. You realize that any woman will eventually be in her 30s? You want a life partner then you have a life partner. If you think us 30s women are crusty and damaged then you have no business looking for a long term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:04 AM
9

Lol 100k. I’m not turning to a gold digger for anything less than a millionaire. If I can’t have love at least I can live in style.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 05:59 AM
4

Run. Girl. It’s not your job to parent him on top of future kids. I ran from one of these guys right after trump got elected and he started the red pill and Q-style rabbit hole.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 01:18 AM
3

Bruh, it’s cool to chuckle and own it and say “that’s because I am, haha” and move on. I’m a girl. I like when boys get nervous around me.
/r/ExRedPill11/01/23 01:18 AM
1

I’m a HL woman. The problem is that we aren’t as comfortable throwing our sexuality and desires around. I got used for sex a lot. Now I’m just circling the dead bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:37 AM
3

BMI would say she’s a healthy weight. I’m 5’6 and have 20 lbs on her (if she’s not lying) and I am in a healthy bmi.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:39 PM
1

Lol the downvotes. I dunno what y’all are getting so worked up over women thinking they don’t need a man as a romantic partner. MGTOW sure care a lot about women for people going their own way. Do men need a woman as a partner? Like seriously. I’ll get downvoted into oblivion for responding but this is such a childish post. This is OP looking to be offended instead of worrying about real mens issues.
/r/MensRights30/12/22 09:09 PM
1

V-shaped torso: this is the masculine equivalent to the waist to hip ratio in women. That’s what even the curvy girls have going for them. Some people find skinny weirdos like David Tennant attractive. Some people find guys older like Ben Affleck in Gone Girl attractive. Some girls like Adam Driver or Adrian Brody. Heck some girls like Jack Black. It’s me, I’m some girls. I have a crush on all of them. This is seriously the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read TBH.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 11:43 PM
5

Did she say it was good?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 05:37 AM
0

It depends. There are two types: sensitive to my own issues and then the “WHAT THE FUCK ARE BOUNDARIES?” Type
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:32 AM
6

It is a thing to think about. Relationships are work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:02 PM
10

If you don’t have time and energy to go out then maybe you don’t have time and energy to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:58 PM
1

I think this is supposed to prevent terrified teens who make freak out dumpster baby decisions from being totally fucked. I bet when they first came about it was helpful due to abortion laws. But it’s antiquated now.
/r/MensRights03/12/22 12:04 AM
-2

It’s not just men. Jesus. The older person has power in this dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:16 PM
-1

Manipulation due to the large gap in life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:20 PM
3

I’m a woman. My friend makes all of her partner choices like this. I wanna shake her sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 04:30 AM
0

Okay but thinking women just get laid easily and without effort is not true. We have to worry about a lot and screen for a lot more potential dangers. As well my vibrator does better work than a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 02:16 PM
1

Yeah ruling out the “is he a potential rapist” question it’s super easy. Oh and also the “is he gonna want a bang maid?” Question. And the “does he see me as a person?” Question.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 05:47 AM
2

Marriage benefits men. Divorce doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:33 AM
2

With 100% certainty? Yes. Abstinence is literally the only way to prevent pregnancy. And some people like myself have been so terrified of pregnancy that I still freaked out about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:35 PM
3

Yeah, dawg, there are still hundreds of thousands of birth control babies out there, even doubling up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:32 PM
5

I can’t even take care of myself. I should not have a child haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:28 PM
1

Living 2-3 hours away from the nearest abortion clinic and I’m just damn glad I’ve never needed one. I’ve helped other people get to the clinic though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:19 PM
7

I’m 35 and still don’t wanna get pregnant. I’ve had too many friends get pregnant and thought “this is horrifying in like a John carpenter way”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:16 PM
3

I’m 35 and still panic if my periods are lighter than usual. Fiancé has a tested vasectomy. But even now…. Even in a dry spell.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:15 PM
2

Condoms have up to a 10% failure rate within first year of use. Pulling out isn’t reliable either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:14 PM
4

I’ve been concerned when I’ve been abstinent for months and it’s late. What if it was breakthrough bleeding before? My last two periods were really light????? I’ve already had one early miscarriage (imagine period cramps from hell with extra attitude)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:13 PM
2

I think being on the spectrum gave me a more grounded approach to things. A lot of social norms confuse me. I also mostly make friends with people who don’t really adhere to dumb norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 10:04 PM
3

Maybe young girls do with each other? I haven’t done that in a very long time and neither have my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 01:57 PM
1

I personally think if it’s not a human connection you’re looking for them just masturbate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 02:54 PM
1

Uh… what?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 02:54 PM
0

It’s nice to have someone to come home to. But I can also cover that with pets and house plants. I also like sex on tap, so to speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:11 AM
8

It’s the thing I hear the most. Honestly it’s always something something womens fault I swear.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:10 AM
10

Y’all call that the wall. When women realize they need to cast a wider net they’re just “used up” and the stupid “alpha fucks, beta bucks” analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 01:50 AM
5

You don’t need a partner. You desire a partner. Men should take this attitude more as well. It’s better to be lonely than miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 01:49 AM
1

Well I try to think better of men than all of y’all being more depraved and degenerate than myself. But okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 01:46 AM
7

We also are trying to screen out rapists, selfish lovers and people who are gonna treat us like trash. I was dying for a FWB five years ago and tinder was full of pushy red flags. I just wanted to be able to stand being around a guy for some cartoons and BJs without worrying I was gonna end up in the ER.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 01:44 AM
1

Lol. Get fucked. Seriously. “Women won’t date me so I’ll let them get beaten” I think they just smell the hate on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:15 PM
1

If men can’t rise to basic standards of hygiene and proper behaviour then they deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:14 PM
52

Average is “what most people are like” and speaking as an adult… most fucking people are train wrecks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 06:44 PM
14

So speaking from experience as a woman being rejected regularly takes its toll. I love giving head, I love making out, I love rubbing up against him randomly. The frustrating part is if I try any of these things in a LTR (and the one I’m in included even though he’s much better) men just wanna skip straight to sex and they ruin the magic. To top it all off I’m tired. I manage the household, again this relationship I’m in is better but I am a manager at work and then become a managers at home for…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:45 PM
1

I was attracted to him. He did not seem to enjoy sex with me. And I did leave. That’s why he’s an ex, genius.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 04:00 PM
4

As a woman who had an ex who literally starfished it felt so fucking rapey. It fucked me up so much and my sexuality is so cautious now. Like I’m working on it and am in therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 11:43 PM
1

So here’s the kicker, since I am a woman. I’d love a ONS if I was still single but I can’t trust a strange man not to be a rapist. Hell I couldn’t even trust my past partners to not be rapey entitled cunts who don’t understand foreplay and I’ve been put in very uncomfortable positions including actually being raped by a partner. The problem isn’t that I don’t like casual sex the problem is trust. I need to be able to be naked with you in the most vulnerable way possible and know you’re not gonna…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:27 PM
1

To add bad sex for a man is boring, by and large, bad sex for a woman is painful (and that’s ruling out rape). I was on tinder a few years back looking for a FWB. Too many men did not respect my basic boundaries. Absolutely nobody passed the “will I be comfortable around you and can we hold a conversation?” Test. That’s it. That’s all I was looking for. Someone to casually maybe eat breakfast with if I slept over or watch a tv show with. I didn’t want anything serious but I didn’t wanna have to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:23 PM
2

A lot of this is poor nurturing by parents in the west. If we wanna take a long historical stance a lot of men in WWII ended up dying, coming back with PTSD and shell-shock, and creating a ton of generational trauma. A lot of people grew up with some really weird norms. We also raise boys in a culture holding them less responsible for certain behaviours of “boys will be boys” when they’re actually being dicks or being entitled. Boys don’t grow up with good emotional support or boundaries. The wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 02:49 PM
2

I’d slept with 2, maybe 3 at that age
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 05:21 PM
2

This is why there is a rise in polyamory. Not my thing at all. But I get why some people want to live a poly lifestyle. Pros and cons to it. I hate managing relationships, they’re hard. Monogamy is enough complication for me thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 08:59 PM
1

Finding quality is hard. Set your standards where you want them to be. Don’t settle for less, you’ve got the best years of your life ahead of you. Source: 35 and now engaged because I knew what I wanted and only accepted that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:14 PM
3

High population, lots of interaction on public transit. My old fast food job was the worst. 5/day average, usually men 10+ years older than I was and 20+ years older than they thought I looked (mistaken for a teenager way too often) or obnoxious frat boys. They’re always impersonal cold opens when I’ve got shit to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 10:59 AM
13

Bad sex for a woman is painful or violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:40 PM
23

More like r/atetheonion
/r/AntiFeminists23/02/21 11:32 AM
2

Something I’ve noticed about some of these communities... there’s so much good advice but just riddled with misogyny in between. When the good advice works the misogyny and wrong conclusions feel right too. I’ve been to these pages. There’s so much good self improvement advice and other really healthy bits. Too bad the rampant bad advice and toxicity are like mould on bread: throw the whole loaf away.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/20 08:34 PM
8

Men and women are equally capable of being rapists. A large man does it the simplest way possible: violence and threat of violence is generally the simplest road (though men take advantage of drunk girls and drug them too - these rapists think if it’s not violent it’s not rape). Women, generally being less physically intimidating use drugging, alcohol, sleeping partners etc with more frequency. Also it’s easier for anyone to say to themselves “it wasn’t violent and therefore not rape”. Which is …
/r/MensRights20/02/19 06:25 PM
3

Think about reasons why women might become bored quicker. What’s the focus in relationships? I have spent many relationships mothering my partner. Being a caretaker. It gets fucking tired and I’m pretty sure it’s often the case for many women. It’s anecdotal but there’s just so many women who have to parent their boyfriends and husbands in my personal experience. Even if it’s statistically true it’s not a biological fact. As a woman I’m expected to be sexy, cook meals, do laundry, housekeep in g…
/r/ExRedPill05/09/18 04:41 AM
1

I mean it’d be nice to cover actual men’s issues.
/r/MensRights06/06/18 05:38 AM
2

Low key I hate most of the content here. It’s 90% bitching about feminists.
/r/MensRights06/06/18 05:28 AM
6

Literally... people splitting hairs on whether it’s child molestation or not. This is the kind of bullshit that makes this sub look bad. And overall the comments here have been stellar aside from nitpicking which flavour of “taking advantage of a child” this is. For fucks sake it’s ethically questionable when a university professor or supervisor in a job setting takes advantage of a student or employee - and they’re consenting adults in this scenario. A child and an authority figure is no bueno.…
/r/MensRights31/05/18 03:42 AM
35

“Child molester” is a good catch all.
/r/MensRights30/05/18 11:50 PM
11

Why do rapists have to have the shit beaten out of them? I’ve already been the victim of a heinous crime. Why would I want to perpetuate that to someone else, even my rapist? I will forever hate him but I can’t really say I’d ever feel good about him being beaten to a pulp. Vengeance is made up of empty calories. Edit: higher conviction rates and more sympathetic behaviours for victims would make things a lot better. Reporting what happened to me as a woman was horrific enough. I can’t imagine t…
/r/MensRights30/05/18 11:49 PM
-22

Do they really?
/r/MensRights30/05/18 01:43 AM
6

Her husband is even telling her to leave according to OPs comments in the original thread (someone else here linked it). She’s still very torn even at his urging. Honestly in the husbands shoes I wouldnt wanna be that burden to someone I loved either. I saved my spouse’s life and would want them to live it. Not spend it whiling away after me. I’d love for them to come and visit and see that they are happy.
/r/MensRights20/04/18 07:08 AM
2

I mean but if women get sole custody that just makes sense that they’d see higher numbers.
/r/MensRights27/03/18 11:23 PM
2

And that’s fucked up. If you have the draft every able bodied person should be eligible. But that’s not my point: the draft is horrifying. Vietnam out of everything proves just how messed up it gets. Young men were dying for no reason.
/r/MensRights28/01/18 07:28 PM
8

I get tired that the most upvoted posts are just “feminism is awful”. This is the men’s rights sub. I wanna see what men’s rights issues there are. Even when it’s an issue that in context is “feminism is terrible” it should be rights that feminism is ignoring or trampling on. Not just shitting on feminism for the sake of it. It’s unproductive.
/r/MensRights28/01/18 07:27 PM
3

But if it’s a necessary war the draft isn’t a horror show. See: Vietnam. If it’s something people have to fight in they’ll understand that signing up is important. Like how many people lied about their age in WWII to get in?
/r/MensRights28/01/18 07:23 PM
5

Buzzwords sell articles and these issues are marketable. Same thing as major men’s rights issues not making headlines: the market doesn’t want it. It’s infuriating.
/r/MensRights28/01/18 07:22 PM
8

The issues not getting traction are not being helped by this post. This sub is supposed to be about men’s issues. Not bitching about feminism for the sake of it.
/r/MensRights28/01/18 07:16 PM
9

Fuck man, no one should be drafted. That one bothers me so much. The draft is a horrific violation of rights.
/r/MensRights28/01/18 07:14 PM
143

Look, at risk of getting downvoted to hell, I am a feminist and generally lurk this sub because I like getting fresh viewpoints. Which two years ago I got to see some really interesting subjects and things that didn’t go around in my typical social circle. The last year or two it’s just mostly been bitching about how awful feminists are (at least the most upvoted posts) and I’m not getting any men’s issues at the top. Just angry “feminism sucks” material. Like there are real men’s issues. Can we…
/r/MensRights28/01/18 07:12 PM
3

It sure does!
/r/MensRights22/01/18 01:30 AM
2

Quoting murder statistics is kinda misleading too. Seeing as 90% of murderers are men The trouble is, it’s men murdering other men. Edit: I’m just saying it’s a lot less powerful of an argument. Not trying to actually imply anything but I think it changes interpretation.
/r/MensRights21/01/18 11:10 AM
6

No it’s not just me. Sleeping with a twenty year old and expecting them to be more mature is completely fucking retarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/17 05:45 PM
6

If it is a woman she’s a gross ass creep. I had a friend who constantly went for people in their early 20s and she was 29. She took advantage of them and it bothered me. I’m 30 and the thought of being with a guy who is 20 is gross and would feel like I’m closer to his mom than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/17 09:06 AM
3

Have you ever taken a photo of your own legs while pointing the camera at your feet? It’s the most unflattering angle possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/17 09:03 AM
3

This AWALT bullshit drives me insane. Of course, life, and female sexuality in particular, is not fair. I have a higher sex drive than my male partners. I want it more frequently than any man I’ve been with. I left a man who was totally getting his, told me he was %100 satisfied with the relationship where we had sex 10 times in 2 years. Some women don’t understand the value of sex in a relationship but some men sure as fuck don’t either. The issue of transactional sex is not exactly gendered. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/17 07:44 AM
3

What about me leaving an LTR as a woman because I wasn’t getting sex? I wanna get rewarded with sex. I like sex for the sake of sex. If sex is a chore then I don’t wanna do it. Sex isn’t a thing I give in exchange for anything. If I get gifts I wanna give gifts. If I have friendship I want to give it. This uneven idea totally confuses the fuck outta me. Like if you hate sex and use it as a reward for someone that’s just fucking weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/17 07:36 AM
3

Wtf You are horrible people. Sincerely, A chick who sincerely doesn’t care The only short dudes I won’t date are the ones who are insecure about it. Thanks for making those men insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/17 06:49 AM
1

Lilith the strangler of babies formed of filth and totally repulsed by Adam. You’re welcome.
/r/MensRights30/10/17 10:00 AM
-4

Try the menslib subreddit. I prefer it to this one but I doubt the user base overlaps much
/r/MensRights30/10/17 09:48 AM
11

The lack of self awareness in some of the responses to this comment is kind of laughable.
/r/MensRights30/10/17 09:47 AM
1

I shouldn’t have commented because now we’re having a debate. If your job entails looking good then that’s your job. Stripping and modelling are things where objectification is the point. It’s a lot different than walking up to a random person and describing their body on lewd detail. I think both have issues but one is at least transactional and expected.
/r/MensRights30/10/17 12:56 AM
1

It has been a thing in the past. There is definitely a double standard calling men’s sexuality lewd any time it’s just a sexuality thing
/r/MensRights28/10/17 06:08 AM
5

It’s very frustrating. But I acknowledge as humans we are visual creatures. You just can’t ever reasonably remove that entirely from a person
/r/MensRights28/10/17 06:07 AM
91

I usually lurk here because I’m a feminist and we don’t often get along. But it grinds my gears when other feminist women don’t like it when people admire attractive people. I check out men. I think lewd thoughts. Objectifying people isn’t inherently bad. I was happy to see the comments on an article where someone mentioned how physically attractive a man was. Because people were like “how is that relevant to this mans thoughts on the Weinstein scandal? When it’s relevant and wanted objectificat…
/r/MensRights28/10/17 02:35 AM
1

Colleges have ridiculous authority to operate outside the law.
/r/MensRights07/09/17 12:00 AM
10

It's what happens when colleges operate outside the legal system.
/r/MensRights06/09/17 11:59 PM
10

That sounds like an appropriate response. Giving an award to a rapist would have as much outrage as not giving it to an innocent person. Why does anyone find it unreasonable to investigate first?
/r/MensRights06/09/17 11:58 PM
11

What people need to realize is that it's possible to support a potential victim without assuming guilt in the other party. You don't have to treat the accuser like a liar anymore than you have to treat the accused as guilty. Both parties should be presumed innocent of wrongdoing until proven otherwise because that's how the legal system works. It's not actually as difficult as it might sound.
/r/MensRights06/09/17 11:56 PM
2

I used to collect bugs as a kid and would keep "pet" earthworms in a bucket. I love fishing for pond bugs like dragonfly nymphs and whirligig beetles. I won the belching contest in grade 6 And according to my roommates 6 year old son I wear "boy clothes" (overalls)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/17 04:35 PM
18

No. Women are twice as likely to seek help and be diagnosed with anxiety. Men have a stigma around seeking help which is a huge contributor to the high male suicide rates.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 07:14 AM
4

When you acknowledge that rape isn't being held face down you recognize that most female rapists can't rely on brute force but if rapists wanna rape they will.
/r/MensRights31/07/17 02:41 AM
8

Or you are getting older and the dating pool is shrinking...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/17 02:27 AM
1

Holy fuck was my dating pool sad at that age. Asked every SO I had out first. I was 5'5" and 120 lbs and no one approached me besides creepy strangers twice my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 07:59 AM
1

I have this conversation regularly with some of my male friends. Its impossible to explain that not liking something and thinking its inappropriate or rude is not the same as making it illegal. Like they think because I condemn certain behaviours that I want them banned. No. I just want people to act respectfully. If we have to legislate manners we have a bigger problem than I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 08:00 AM
1

Using cosmo here is like using the incels subreddit on niceguys. Shooting fish in a barrel.
/r/MensRights15/07/17 07:25 AM
1

Male homophobia is a contribuing but declining factor. Don't forget men don't just have to be emotionally connected to women and aren't defined by their interactions with women alone.
/r/MensRights11/07/17 08:54 PM
17

Part of it is the lack of social support for men and willingness of men to seek out help. Unlike women, men are generally discouraged from talking about feelings and this leads to a lack of emotional support. Men are also more likely to own guns and statistically if you own a gun you're more likely to die due to self inflicted gunshots than be killed by one (most gun related deaths in the US are suicide). By and large the fact that men are much more disparaged for seeking mental and emotional he…
/r/MensRights11/07/17 05:32 AM
6

You sound like you are part of a cult. Wait a minute.... Please stop and think about it. There are good parts to TRP. You are in the honeymoon phase, just like a cult. They've given you what you desperately needed/wanted. This is thr principle behind ISIS and gangs and Scientology. You have a place to belong that makes you feel better about yourself so you are taking everything in as gospel.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/17 05:51 PM
1

I'm almost 30. I have slowly leaned away from my desire to spawn and still have no idea if it's what I want. I've never been a particularly maternal person though.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 04:47 AM
1

It depends on the root cause. Did he cheat because he was missing something I wasn't providing? Can we learn to communicate our needs better in the future? Or did he cheat because he is the problem?
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 08:35 AM
4

I've said it before but I don't think women and the feminine have equal value in society. Legally sure. But things like medical care, drug trials being only done on men (not knowing how medication acts with female biochemistry can be disastrous), subconscious hiring practices in regards to women and minorities (repeated studies have been done on this), etc. I'm also a believer that while fewer women can accomplish the physical demands of certain careers that if a woman can meet them she should b…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 11:34 PM
1

Because it was posted late and it's anecdotal?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/17 05:55 PM
3

Thank you! I also love the female-female support system.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 05:54 PM
1

It's very interesting for sure and I'm genuinely interested in this sub and whether I can make it a home. I generally avoid posting here because I'm not sure if it's welcome or if I am messing up the ecology of the sub.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 05:52 PM
3

Thank you. Again most posts have been welcoming. I am not appreciating the posts telling me what I am or am not. My identity is mine and everyone else's belongs to them. I'm not going to spend every post going "I'm a feminist/as a feminist" and I just feel unsure because some of the posts are vehemently against feminism as a blanket statement. I will graciously try to fit in here.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 05:51 PM
3

I don't think of myself as a victim. Tumblr feminism has no place in my life lol.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 05:46 PM
2

Ah sorry. I can't see the sidebar on mobile. I'm terribly sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 05:42 PM
2

Discussion rarely changes the beliefs of the person you are debating with but actually does lots to sway people who are listening. The label is important to me. So far the response is welcoming. I just didn't want to be forcing my way into a sub that doesn't want me around. I have decided to become more active here, which is all I wanted some input for.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 12:19 PM
-1

Of course you need both. Been in a relationship where I just gave unconditionally. If you're a total jerk you're not gonna get laid either. My point is those things don't necessarily come more or less naturally just because they're the things espoused by the subs in question.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 12:03 PM
1

Kindness and compassion and all that is needed to sustain a relationship and build a family. TRP is about sex and distancing yourself from feeling connected to someone to maximize sexual conquest.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 11:50 AM
2

I am not sure I understand entirely what you are asking here. I did however just work a 10 hour day and come to reddit so maybe I'll get back to you when I'm less tired.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 11:42 AM
2

Oh god no. My weakness... the male gaze. I really don't want to have a huge debate. Film portrayals drive me nuts and assuming it was just a male audience they're pandering to they really aren't looking at who is actually going to these movies then.... same with video games (which yes I mentioned them but I hate Anita Sarkeesian with a passion and think she's also way out to lunch). Long story short the product/consumer relationship is not so simple either. PM me maybe. I'm a woman but I hate mo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 11:39 AM
3

Feel free to PM me. I also think that society is really letting male victims down more than female victims. I don't generally like to debate it with people too much because it takes a lot out of me. I left my last relationship and a mitigating factor (not even a nail in the coffin, just extra stress) was he started watching anti feminist videos for fun and they were all people just being cruel. Every conversation turned into a debate even when I wasn't trying because he kept watching the videos …
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 11:31 AM
7

I don't think I'd be considering taking a more active role in this sub if I was that out there.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 11:23 AM
9

Feminism is supposed to be about choice, regardless of the idiots who think they get to decide what women do. Just as most Christians miss out on what the core of Christianity is so too do most feminists lose sight of the forest for the trees. Any movement large enough frequently loses its way to people with a personal agenda or ax to grind.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 11:21 AM
6

1 in 5 women experience sexual assault or rape, well it depends on what your definitions are. Anecdotally this is even true just talking to my friends. The thing is...and I don't have the study on hand... but one sample of about 1000 men had something like 4% of men committing most of the assaults. Like 75%+. The untested rape kits leading to 5 serial rapists connected to hundreds of cases. But if I talk to other women about what happened to me I get a gut churningly high number of women who hav…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 11:17 AM
2

Clearly I'm not coming here for the whole thing. But I do want a family. I have for a long time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 10:55 AM
2

I actually come from a very similar place mentally when it comes to my preferred dynamic. It's part of why I'm here :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 10:36 AM
3

I just refuse to let horrible people take the word and what it means to me away from me. I hate the "you're really a feminist" argument against women who don't consider themselves feminists. If you're not you're not. I don't think I could ever put a man's needs before my own needs as a rule but I would definitely prioritize his needs on a case by case basis. I would only worry you might be a doormat if you don't practice self care.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 10:18 AM
2

I'd love a PM to get started. I do genuinely have a soft spot for this sub. And honestly I'm generalizing a little bit in my post. I've built up a lot of beliefs from loads of sources and I think where most feminists fall into a trap is when they try and make issues black and white. I think men will generally just have more masculine traits and women more feminine ones. The broad trends are there. I just hope for a world where no one is shamed or ridiculed when they exist as an outlier.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 10:00 AM
6

See I like the idea of both the yin and yang being held at equal value. The manosphere has been the more valued one. If it wasn't then more men would take on "pink collar" jobs and you'd see men portraying more traditionally feminine traits. But everyone wants to be masculine because society still tells us that it's best (and feminism now adds to this detriment). I absolutely believe in freedom of choice but until we truly value both halves equally we will not really have an equal society. And I…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 09:40 AM
7

I am mostly just unapologetic when it comes to the reasoned and we'll thought out beliefs I have. I don't just blindly follow other feminists and constantly view everything from a skeptics perspective. I clearly subscribe to this sub and I also follow TRP and MensRights because I absolutely do not want to narrow my information pool. I usually gain new perspective from subs I generally don't agree with. Also my personal brand of feminism is generally centered around the idea that society just gen…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 09:13 AM
1

It really depends on if it's a request or a demand. I do my hair the way my current SO likes (when I have one) and I make sure to do my makeup and wear the outfits he likes. If he's been fine with the way you are up until this point and suddenly expects a change for marriage that's the biggest red flag: does he expect you to be someone different entirely after marriage? If it's just clothes sure, do your thing. The odd thing is he's asking you to change now after a period of time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 08:32 AM
2

Just because TRP advocates becoming less of a nice guy and RPW advocates being softer and kinder does not mean that men and women aren't already leaning in that direction. This logic is just a bit wonky for me. I honestly think these are just the two traits that generally get us what we are looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 08:18 AM
1

Speaking as the person who has given enough nice guys a chance to write a fucking book some people are really good and sincere in their actions at first. Then they find out relationships are hard work and turn into almighty douchebags. And we don't have supernatural abilities for everything. Sometimes someone is "off" and we don't know why and sometimes they are not. The best manipulators don't set off your detectors until it's too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/17 06:28 AM
1

Sometime you do everything right and it still fails.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 03:25 PM
5

But he was not treating you with trust and respect. I'm in a different boat just out of a LTR and it's hard to balance the sense of loss with the knowledge that you made the right choice. And you might have though everything was good but I bet in a few months you'll realize his crappy attitude was permeating other aspects of your relationship. You do not ever need that much crazy in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 08:16 PM
8

The caveat is when a partner chooses porn over sex an overwhelming amount of the time then it is unhealthy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 08:09 PM
11

If he didn't trust you after all of that this situation has the red flags of a controlling and manipulative partner. Glad you're out.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 08:06 PM
3

Some of this probably has to do with unemployed men being lazy and not contributing even in a SAH parent sort of way. A lot is from societal and person expectations and loss of respect (self or wife) too.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 08:04 PM
5

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/17 03:09 AM
7

This kind of post with total lack of self awareness and no trace of irony is one of my major points of contention with TRP. It's beautiful in its own way though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/17 09:33 PM
2

Not always SOs. It's a horrible flirting technique and I hate it. Never enjoyed it but it's gone from annoying to terrifying because I am watching for doorframes and paranoid of him tripping and us both going down. I just don't like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/17 01:48 AM
5

I hate being lifted. I have been dropped and he's tripped and it's awful. I find it terrifying and it makes me really uncomfortable to be carried. If he couldn't lift me I couldn't possibly care less. Edit: Someone responded and the comment was deleted but this was my reply: Multiple incidents with multiple men. At the lightest I was dropped at 110 lbs and it's various things from tripping to just general carelessness that I've been dumped on my head. I never really understood the appeal but sin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/17 01:02 AM
1

My anti depressants and mood stabilizers made me stop eating (I wouldn't get hungry). Anti psychotics are more universally correlated with weight gain. Anti depressants have different drug classes and have an insanely wide range of side effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 01:14 AM
1

I guess we are going to go out and give a bunch of women cancer and depression to sort this out instead of answering hypothetical on reddit then.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 01:06 AM
2

I did that yesterday. This thread is super old. But thanks
/r/ExRedPill30/03/17 03:57 AM
1

Does it feel good to be assumed to be a bad parent or even pedophile because of your gender? Women don't like that kind of shit happening to them, hence feminism being relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/17 12:41 AM
6

I feel ignored and unimportant in all aspects. I'm in /r/deadbedrooms as well. We are currently separated and I left because he doesn't understand that looking at porn when I am around and not having sex with me hurts. He's acting like I left the house to punish him and not because I was hurt too much. He seems to not care about my feelings at all.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/17 04:41 AM
3

I'm not going to call anything off until the next counselling session. I want to do it with a sane mediator.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/17 12:34 AM
3

Nope. He is not. He is a "why me" and "is this to punish me?" and "I'm going to kill myself" melodrama fest. It's not a surprise. I've talked about how I feel. The fact that he is surprised by the separation just baffles me.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/17 05:58 PM
6

I think the time I said I believe in the patriarchy when he forced me to talk about it for four hours and wouldn't let me sleep despite not feeling strongly about the patriarchy and he wanted to fight me and say it didn't exist until the wee hours of the morning while I kept saying "I don't feel strongly about this can we drop it and go to sleep?" tells anyone what they need to know. And he says he respects my views mostly and that makes me "not a feminist" won't bring him over to the side of fe…
/r/ExRedPill07/03/17 03:52 PM
3

Thank you. This is very hard. We have known each other for a decade and even the proposal came with a caveat of things needing to change and they didn't. And nine years is not something I want to lose lightly. I am heartbroken watching the man I love becoming radicalized as my polar opposite. I've accepted differences for a long time but the core values he holds have either shifted or not been obvious until now. I still love him now but I doubt his ability to work toward being a better partner.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/17 12:39 PM
1

Relationship counselling is happening. He's been reluctant for years and I finally forced his hand. I'm really heartbroken by everything.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/17 04:33 AM
5

We are in counselling. I'm giving it one last shot. I feel so lost. I was hoping to get advice on how to turn him around. But the writing is on the wall. You can't change someone who doesn't want to change.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/17 04:28 AM
5

I have been struggling with this. We've been together a long time. I feel like I don't know him at all.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/17 04:27 AM
9

He is getting radicalized. I've been comfortable with his right leaning politics for a long time. This is new and he's starting down the rabbit hole. He also doesn't respect my views anymore. I mentioned wanting to get into more active feminism again and he said he would not like that. He doesn't respect my identity. He rejects everything I believe in at this point. It's not like these are discussions anymore and that's what they used to be. Edit: to add to it I am lacking comfort, sex and accep…
/r/ExRedPill07/03/17 12:38 AM
4

Yeah.... this is the realization I am coming to.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/17 12:32 AM
8

Yeah when I talk about how it personally upsets me nothing changes. I talk about how watching videos that make fun of other people isn't something I like and that it hurts. I've said that his opinions on trans people are something I feel strongly about especially with trans friends. I bring up certain gender issues and how I'd feel about a child and raising them fairly gender neutral. I bring up my core values and why it hurts when he reacts the way he does. What it really comes down to is the l…
/r/ExRedPill07/03/17 12:31 AM
1

Body size is a similar way of saying body mass. Chill out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/17 10:08 PM
1

No they are not even close to horses or donkeys when it comes to body size. What the hell? Humans are the largest in penis size out of the four ape species of gorilla, bonobo and chimpanzee. We also have smaller testes than bonobos and chimps. It's a myth and I'm trying to track down the correct chart.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/17 09:38 PM
1

This is not true. We're pretty average length to body size. The girth is more because our babies have massive heads. If the vagina is more widset then the penis will be selected for girth. We fit within a normal range. https://goo.gl/images/shKphG
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/17 07:43 AM
1

I am a woman so that's okay. I fall into the trap that all MRAs are men and that's wrong too. My goal here is to learn and remain grounded in all issues. Coming here to finger wag at people is what's known in bird culture as "a dick move".
/r/MensRights01/03/17 01:00 AM
1

I'm a feminist (yes I just outed myself -- I read this sub and I don't comment like an asshat because I'm capable of treating others with respect) and /r/feminism banned me for having a sense of humour and completely ignored my plea against the ban. They are humourless and petty there. So for the record I respect you guys a lot more than /r/feminism
/r/MensRights01/03/17 12:21 AM
13

Buzzfeed is like shooting fish in a barrel.
/r/MensRights28/02/17 04:49 PM
1

My favourite is when they take studies and come to the opposite conclusion than what the data supports. Or don't include cross cultural data to decide what is or isn't a woman's nature vs. what is cultural/learned behaviour. The most distressing is the self-selection bias of their anecdotal evidence. Personally I find the bad science far more offensive than the misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 06:36 AM
6

As a former academic research student their methods are garbage and would never make peer review.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 02:22 AM
5

I'm most bothered by the piss poor interpretation of scientific studies. The false conclusions and self-selection bias and anecdotal evidence drives me mental.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 07:26 AM
1

I don't know if you saw my other response.
/r/MensRights20/02/17 03:00 PM
7

Look, anything either of us says is over simplifying. It's almost as though gender inequity works on a weird scale where there are shit ends of the stick everywhere and a lot of slack that needs picking up. The misogynistic approach is no more helpful than the misandristic approach.
/r/MensRights20/02/17 02:41 AM
16

Adding rights: giving men those same benefits.
/r/MensRights19/02/17 11:23 PM
2

I definitely don't come here to brigade or fuck with you guys. I can't stand anyone who is hate filled and I do my best to not be that way. Radicalization scares me more than anything in this world.
/r/MensRights19/02/17 02:46 AM
1

Yeah. I lost weight, started dressing better, doing more chores, stopped nagging, let him do what he wants. Try to initiate sex in between the snacking and gaming and all that shit. I went full RPW for a bit just to see if that works. Some men are man children who need to be nagged into getting healthy and having sex. They want mothers. So fuck your blaming it on the woman for not doing her job.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/17 01:25 PM
-1

I never said it was a simple issue. A lot of it has to do with women dropping out to have families. But some of it does have to do with the more positive responses that white and male sounding names get when submitted. Universities are really bad for this trend of better email and grad study responses, and feminists are the worst for the bias (because they think they're above it and not guarding against their cognitive bias).
/r/MensRights12/02/17 12:12 PM
-6

My BFF is almost done her PhD in mathematics. She is a strong voice for getting women into math. A lot of it has to do with grade school teachers treating girls like fucking idiots and nothing to do with post-secondary. This myth that women aren't good at math is ridiculous. I'm good at it but my teachers made me hate it (and that goes for boys too). The myth of math being hard ruins it for so many kids. She's done work with high school kids to get them invested. And the problem with post-second…
/r/MensRights12/02/17 08:03 AM
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I'd gild you if I knew how on mobile. I'm a feminist and I read this sub to remind myself to stay sane and balanced. I promote reasonable thinking no matter what side of the argument. In a toxic society full of radicalized and insular views this is the most important way to live. Thank you.
/r/MensRights12/02/17 07:59 AM
3

I actually think a large part of it is we've totally reworked how women fit into the world and left men behind to figure it out on their own. And the feminine traits of seeking support are what keep women diagnosed and treated. It's not so simple as "Men are men"
/r/MensRights07/02/17 07:41 AM
2

I'm a feminist and I totally understand female privilege All gender roles have propensity to be toxic. I come here to remember that there are two sides to things and I'm not always right. This post was horrific. If I ever saw shit like this in my feed I'd flip out. Thankfully I surround myself with sane people.
/r/MensRights05/02/17 08:01 AM
4

I prefer men around my own height. I'm 5'6" and like my men at least 5'4" and 6 feet or less. I would not rule out anyone significantly shorter if I was dating though because it's not that important. I prefer dark hair over blond too but it's hardly a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 07:27 AM
3

Pretty sure female celebs do fuck groupies. There is nothing to be gained from bragging but I doubt that they never do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/17 12:27 AM
1

If you break it down by crime I'm sure there are gender differences still. Absolutely by and large men get the worst part of it.
/r/MensRights25/01/17 04:33 AM
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Men who kill their partners serve less than one-third the prison time of women who kill their partners: two to six years, compared with an average of 15 years for women. Eighty percent of women convicted for murdering a man state that they have been physically and/or sexually abused by that man. Hylton fits that profile only loosely--she may have been physically and sexually abused, but not by the man she helped kidnap and who died in her presence. https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199507…
/r/MensRights24/01/17 03:22 PM
2

Brigading is something that really needs to be accounted for by law. Usually violating someone's privacy is a legal issue. I think I count as an SJW to most but honestly vigilanteism and brigading freak me out. It feels dirty and underhanded whether it's 4chan brigading a teen girl or feminists calling out a man for wearing the wrong shirt on television.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/17 09:47 PM
8

Enjoy your fascist regime. If anything it's going to polarize gender issues further and you're going to have gender and racial tensions the like you haven't seen in some time. Polarized politics are bad. End of story. -sincerely almost every other human being in the world
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/17 01:47 PM
13

Freedom of speech applies directly to the press and the right to criticize government. Libel laws against critical citizens and media is exactly the wrong thing. Hillary wanting shut down info Wars was wrong as fuck too. I hate info Wars and I can't really justify any proposed action to shut them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/17 01:44 PM
1

The idea that the world is just full of suck and you just have to suck it up is incredibly cynical.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/17 10:02 PM
17

Honestly it's a clash of cynicism and idealism.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/17 04:00 AM
5

I was 25 and had to pull out my ID to get a 16 year old to quit harassing me for my number. Wouldn't believe I was a decade older. That was the day I realized why dating men my own age was hard: I looked like jailbait. At least at 29 I'm clearly of age but guys are not cool approaching someone they think is a decade younger than they are. Yeah, it's good I look young for my age but the complicates dating quite a bit. And younger men just are clueless about women. Men my age are even. I've dated …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/16 08:19 AM
6

It's some millennial slang I haven't quite gotten the hang of. As far as I can gather it's a more derogatory term for a "player" - someone shallow and non-committal who doesn't give two shits about anyone. It's not quite analogous to "slut" from what I understand but it's close.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/16 08:16 AM
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I wish more men would do this. They set me up for false expectations and I get hurt. If you want FWB just say so. I'll keep looking for something permanent and not put my life on hold for you but we can still have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/16 08:14 AM
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Sometimes I feel like I'm crazy for being a feminist with the constant gaslighting by anti-feminists and idiots who call themselves feminists and really don't think critically about things. I will never pretend that I don't have areas of female privilege but fuck if I could just once meet a girl or woman that doesn't have a stalking story, assault story or abuse story they they themselves minimize the crap out of I would be a happy lady. And since I'm on the sub I also desperately tried to convi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/16 08:13 AM
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It's a two way street. The burden isn't solely on women to be more straightforward. You can encourage proper behaviour if men also ignore wishy-washy behaviour from women. Women do like sex and dating and if we are forced to change our tactics it will work out a whole lot better. You're trying to make a complex problem of gender relations a simple "it's women's fault" when it's just everyone complicit in the behaviour's fault. If you are met with anything but enthusiasm misinterpretation should …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/16 05:49 PM
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This is a complicated issue. I am frank and honest and the violent reactions from some men make me hesitate. I looked an ex-con straight in the eye while stuck interacting at work and told him that no, I would not give him my number and no I would not take his because I was just not interested. He was not aggressive, thankfully but many men are. But to count the number of times I have been called a whore who leads people on if I don't bring up a boyfriend right away and am being nice. If I do br…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/16 03:39 PM
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Am also woman. Depends on what he's crying about. I get told I'm stupid for crying for certain things and so it follows just any old tears will do. When one of my boyfriends cried about his grandma who passed I respected him more. When he cried during sad parts in movies I loved him more. When a man cries because he doesn't get his way it's not any more respectable when a woman does the same. Because I once dated a man who cried because he couldn't get what he wanted. Yeah, that didn't last. I d…
/r/MensRights12/12/16 09:04 PM
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Honestly I think self-selection bias is one of the biggest issues. Anecdotal evidence is the weakest kind. Expectation bias doesn't help and the use of scientific research doesn't really understand psychology. My classic example is "women don't negotiate salary, therefore women just aren't capable of doing it" instead of going, "why is that?" (The answer is complicated but has been researched). One of the sidebar links is a century old. It predates Freudian psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/16 01:54 AM
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As a woman it's garbage. I bet she didn't even track her own enjoyment. Not going to name names or rank it but generally the more attentive someone is the better the sex. It has little to do with penis size and more to do with enthusiasm. I will never understand size queens. If your sole focus is penetration you're also doing it wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/16 09:12 PM
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When even Jezebel is pointing out that it's crass you definitely done fucked up. No, it's not okay. Even as friends. It's one thing to dish on one night stand details to your buds. It's another to write and entire essay about it. She at least had the decency to be ashamed. Or at least ashamed she got caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/16 08:00 AM
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16 is the age of consent here. And honestly it all depends on the relationship too. I've seen 22 year olds date 16 year olds with respect, absolutely no sexual activity beyond kissing and making out until the younger turned 18. I've seen far more cases where the men are just unable to form relationships with people their own age for various reasons and take advantage of the naivety of younger people. The power imbalance is what always makes it shady. As soon as one person is exercising power ove…
/r/MensRights24/09/16 01:44 AM
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The fact that it's legal doesn't make it not shady. I'm going nowhere near anyone <17 because ew... /u/Rolten A 6 year age gap at that point is kind of weird. The details are hard to get thanks go it being just Google Translate but I work with teenagers all of the time and the thought of someone over 20 with some of these kids feels weird. They're kids still.
/r/MensRights23/09/16 02:24 AM
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Yeah, honestly I had to really think about what they were trying to say. Which is the lamest kind of trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 02:07 AM
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I'm so confused as to what a "boy chore" is. Girls should be able to take out the trash, clean the garage and definitely be able to deal with their own basic car issues just as much as boys should be able to perform basic cooking and cleaning tasks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 12:59 AM
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I think what OP is trying to say is that TRP is all about "special snowflaking" men - the argument made against TBP. Or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 12:47 AM
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My friend is a woman. She identifies as a woman. However she is genderfluid and considers herself a "dad" while using female pronouns. She dresses masculine, has her hair styled masculine, she is dating a man. She just feels masculine even if she has a female identity. I don't fully get why but she just exists as a masculine personality. Hanging out with her isn't "girl talk" or anything like that. I feel like I'm hanging out with a guy. It's really hard to explain. You kind of have to experienc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 12:44 AM
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I'm the one who had it when I was 9 and I was miserable because I grew up Catholic and hating myself for my sexuality and because they only talked about puberty until I was 12. If I knew why I was masturbating at 10 I'd probably have felt a whole lot better.
/r/MensRights13/09/16 05:24 AM
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beyond intelligent capable teachers Our city had a teacher specifically trained in sex ed. Not your regular teacher but a nice lady who came in and was unruffled by even the most awkward of questions. You specifically train people for sex ed and that's their whole job. Once a week she came in to talk to us during health class.
/r/MensRights13/09/16 05:23 AM
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However, those doing it to younger kids below age 10 I got sex ed starting at 9. Mostly just puberty stuff. Kids as early as 7 are getting periods. And honestly as young as ten I was already figuring out masturbating and sexual urges. I went to a Catholic school and if I had gotten a more frank and honest talk about sex I probably would have less issues around sex today. 13 is way too late to avoid hangups. I would have been happier all around knowing more about sex sooner. I still think taking …
/r/MensRights12/09/16 10:55 PM
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I think this gets on his nerves sometimes. Someone else made this point: lease stop making excuses for his behaviour, because it's shitty any way you look at it. You do not deserve to be treated with no respect. So really think about this. I guess it's something I need to work on. That's something you need to do for you. It honestly sounds like you could bend over backwards, lose twenty pounds, change your hair and eye colour, be the most amazing woman in bed exuding confidence and he still woul…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/16 10:40 AM
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If women are the gatekeepers to sex then men definitely are the ones who have to please women, not the other way around. The rhetoric doesn't work only on occasions that suit you.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/16 06:45 AM
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It's even more useless when you don't know how much of the userbase is female. Twitter and Facebook both have the same gender distribution, with 40 percent of their users being make and 60 percent female. http://www.adweek.com/socialtimes/twitter-age-gender-2012/469369 Basically we have a graph showing that distribution.
/r/MensRights09/07/16 09:23 AM
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Maybe I'm wrong here, but rape is about the impact on the individual involved, is it not? The physical impact of a broom handle, per say, can be the same if not worse damage. Rationally speaking what makes specific organs and orifices more worthy of a higher charge than an object? If it's about the violation of another person then any penetration should count, no?
/r/MensRights23/06/16 10:17 PM
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And it is feminist nonsense that true victims wouldn't come forward. They aren't lying and they know they aren't. I've yet to hear an actual rape victim make this claim. I make this claim all of the time. I also truly believe that the way the system is set up, the hell of going through legal processes is completely against legitimate claims as is. I was too scared to report my abusive ex when it happened. There was no evidence left months down the road other than one message exchange that allude…
/r/MensRights23/06/16 10:06 PM
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A judge still has final say. A recommendation is just that.
/r/MensRights23/06/16 09:55 PM
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You realise that by broadening the definition of rape to penetration by any foreign object is one of the best ways to start convicting rapists of men right? Pretty sure if someone jammed something in your asshole, like a beer bottle or a broom you'd feel just as raped as if it was a penis. Maybe it feels disingenuous to you to call it rape because it wasn't penetration by a penis but you really should think about it in broader terms.
/r/MensRights23/06/16 09:50 PM
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I prefer "confirmation bias" when I think of TRP. The two things that drive me insane are the confirmation bias attitudes and the cherry-picking of scientific articles and questionable interpretation of statistics (or sometimes lack thereof).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/16 04:10 PM
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This was, I believe, the expected answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/16 04:02 PM
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No. It used to be legal for women to rape men - or at least not legally rape and the law is still dodgy in that regard. I still agree that being in a public place or anywhere without "reasonable expectation of privacy" should allow filming. But just because something is legal doesn't mean it's okay.
/r/MensRights18/06/16 07:41 AM
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I think honestly the legitimate complaints fall by the wayside way before trial. I was talked out of going to trial by a police officer. Then the dude tried to pick up what he thought was a 13 year old girl using Whisper about 4 years later (we are both currently 28) but it was actually some dude with a camera. I called to remind them I had this statement on file that he had raped me because I found out about his chat with a 13 y/o via fucking facebook (the video in town was shared by many conce…
/r/MensRights05/06/16 11:36 AM
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Statistically speaking the numbers of men "dying from prostate cancer" are possibly inflated. If a man dies and has an enlarged prostate they sometimes attribute it to prostate cancer even if its not what actually killed him. Many men get prostate cancer in their lives but it never progresses to a dangerous or threatening point. Not saying it's not a problem we should be treating but the statistics may not be as accurate as it seems.
/r/MensRights03/06/16 07:11 PM
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I'm a feminist (outing myself for relevance) and I mostly sub to mensrights because I need to keep myself sane and not lose touch with reality (thanks guys). Reading this all that I could think was "revenge porn and male doxxing of women isn't okay, why the hell would this be?" The hypocrisy and just overall slimy nature of this project is overwhelming.
/r/MensRights18/04/16 09:38 AM
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The man has admitted to rape on several occasions, varying degrees of negating consent. He blatantly admits to breaking Icelandic and Polish law in terms of legal definitions of consent. Any country trying to bar someone who has admitted to these crimes is attempting to protect their citizens. Free speech does not guarantee you a venue. And in Canada we have anti-hate speech laws. The man's supposedly satirical article is still pretty galling even if it's "satire" - though honestly I couldn't fi…
/r/MensRights05/02/16 03:09 AM
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Gonadal = phenotypic Gonadal and phenotypic are not the same - just ask individuals with AIS (androgen insensitivity syndrome). They usually have no idea they've got testes sitting inside of them until they don't get their periods or even longer. Sexual dimorphic features in our neurological systems present as prevalence, not presence. You can't determine sex this way, at best you can claim one functions, in general, more like a specific sex. Meaningless. Except expression of sex/gender does hav…
/r/MensRights31/01/16 10:51 AM
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"biologically" - gonadal, chromosomal, phenoypical or sexually dimorphic brain structures?
/r/MensRights31/01/16 03:41 AM
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There are many types of Christians and as such many types of feminists. I've had time to study feminist theory and think there is some truth to some of it but other things are just out there. Kind of like cherry picking what bible quotes make sense... Metaphorically speaking I wear blended fabrics and am okay with being gay but I still love Jesus.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 11:54 PM
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How many generations has it been for the Koreans in Japan?
/r/MensRights27/01/16 01:48 PM
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Due process is neglected at every single university given authority over their own cases. They'll expel students to prevent lawsuits and bad press. This set-up is harmful for legitimate victims and falsely accused because there isn't a legal standard or precedent and it can swing wildly in any direction. It's not okay and the police should be handling these cases with evidence and not just letting it go to some woefully under-equipped college staff who have no idea what they are doing.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 01:47 PM
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I would rather just integrate them fully, its cheaper in the end because you have them learning laws and becoming citizens who are accountable instead of house guests overstaying their welcome.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 01:44 PM
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But you are kicking out a trans woman for some unreasonable women. I had a non-passing trans woman at work and when the old lady who lost her shit at a man being in the bathroom started freaking out I told her to leave her alone or just leave. Same would go for a trans man. But I guess in my country we're a little ahead of that and this whole trans bathroom issue is a non-issue relatively speaking.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 01:36 PM
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As a lady I straight up do not give a flying fuck if a guy is going at the urinal. I would still use those stalls. There'd be a normalcy to it after a while and no one would care.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 01:30 PM
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I've never had any trouble reminding my fellow feminists when they are being sexist or hateful. Somehow I've only had one person delete me from facebook out of my hundreds of friends whom I seem to aggravate on the daily for doing so. I'm derailing the conversation though so unless it's about the original topic I'm going to stop responding.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 01:14 PM
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Jocular text doesn't always work so well I suppose. Thanks for clarifying, I appreciate it.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 01:11 PM
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Just like I've never told a single one of my "anti-feminist" friends that they are really just a feminist because they are what I think a feminist should be (since they are adults capable of their own decisions) I'd really appreciate you not telling me what to label myself. Seriously. I should have never said anything on this sub, I wasn't trying to spark debate but just to share my reasoning.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 11:46 AM
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textbook example I see what you did there. And yes, the dictionary does not exist to uphold gender stereotypes. I tried some typically gendered words on the Oxford dictionary website such as "boorish" which had some gendered sentences but the examples were just of male persons being boorish. One example was a little on the nose: He's been given a priceless chance to put a positive spin on the events of his life, but still manages to come off as boorish, sexist and vulgar. "Loutish" had no gender…
/r/MensRights27/01/16 10:38 AM
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What about after a decade and the children don't speak the language of their "home" country and they've made a life and grown up here? As a Canadian as well I think the road to citizenship is grand, particularly in a country with such a low birth rate. We've got a much more successful integration record than most other countries out there too.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 10:23 AM
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Hey, I welcome criticism as long as it's rational and well thought out. It's half of why I'm here. I can't learn if I stay in my little bubble now, can I?
/r/MensRights27/01/16 10:19 AM
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I try to be vocal and remind others in my community about rational and fair thinking. It's part of why I retain the label because it does some good.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 10:09 AM
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Feminism is a difficult and unwieldy construct with as many followers as it has but please don't tell me I'm not a feminist just because my brand of feminism isn't the same as the interest groups and agenda pushers out there. I'm an adult and can choose my own identity. How would you feel if I told you that you weren't really a men's rights activist because you aren't a selfish misogynist? Not good right?
/r/MensRights27/01/16 10:08 AM
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As I replied to someone else, I think the problem is that any label you use has problems. I use feminist because my main focus is on gender issues pertaining to women but you should never have an effect on one side of things without thinking how it changes the other side. As a group we're often leaving men in the cold by not thinking about how what we do effects men. My standpoint is that if I maintain the label that I have maybe I can change the way other people sharing the feminist label think…
/r/MensRights27/01/16 10:04 AM
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I think the problem is that any label you use has problems. I use feminist because my main focus is on gender issues pertaining to women but you should never have an effect on one side of things without thinking how it changes the other side. As a group we're often leaving men in the cold by not thinking about how what we do effects men. My standpoint is that if I maintain the label that I have maybe I can change the way other people sharing the feminist label think about things.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 10:03 AM
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Guys... I'll probably get downvoted to hell for saying this out loud... but I consider myself a feminist and when other feminists do shit like this it makes me sad. Feminists want to fundamentally change the male-female dynamic and then leave men out in the cold with no resources to cope with how to be male in a completely difference society than what it was even when they were kids. And that is fucking bullshit. I visit this sub all of the time because there are good, well-sourced things that t…
/r/MensRights27/01/16 03:33 AM
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Holy crap. That's fucked up, man. I accidentally hit a male friend once because he flicked me in the face (something my abuser also did) and I'd always try and hit him back but he'd already have my wrists locked and stuff so I never got away with it... of course my friend was just joking but out of habit I just wound up and slapped the poor guy before I even thought about it. I felt so awful I started crying and apologizing and didn't know what to do at all aside from explaining where the hell i…
/r/MensRights27/01/16 12:12 AM
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I definitely didn't mean to imply men wouldn't act in self-defence, I just meant the unwillingness of men to do so would likely skew the numbers. I have to come back to this when I'm clear-headed for sure. Overall, the #1 reason women listed for escalating to physical violence was "in response to a verbal attack." The #1 reason men listed for escalating to physical violence was "in response to a physical attack." See, I know anecdotal evidence is not the strongest but the only time I've ever see…
/r/MensRights26/01/16 11:14 AM
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Thank you. I can't read very well right now, I'm high as a kite on prescription pain meds. Half the reason I'm being beligerent is that I get better answers being a moron than trying to comb through it all when I'm not all here.
/r/MensRights26/01/16 02:24 AM
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Yes there is, because men are scared to get arrested for defending themselves from women, I just discussed that with you. My self-defence, while also violent, was rather impotent also. I'm just saying these numbers could be skewed in any number of ways without factoring in self-defence scenarios for both genders and on what level both genders are comfortable using them. Do I think we need to speak up for male abuse victims? Absolutely, but using faulty statistics only hurts the cause, that's all…
/r/MensRights26/01/16 01:03 AM
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Er... sorry, that question was rhetorical, moreso. Women probably feel much more free getting violent back against a man getting violent toward them is the case I was making so the statistics for "reciprocal" violence just bother me as the definitions are not clear. And I do know that men who call the police on their abuser will get arrested a terrifying amount of the time. Sorry, again, I'm on heavy meds while posting today... thank you for trying to correct misconceptions I may have had.
/r/MensRights26/01/16 12:11 AM
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Just gonna play devil's advocate as a a woman who was in a DV relationship... are men afraid to fight back? Because I was in what you could call a "reciprocal" abuse relationship because I'd try and fight back any time the bastard would grab me. I never initiated but I definitely wouldn't sit there and take it (took me a while to be smart enough to just leave but for anyone abuse is complicated). I am skeptical of all studies and how the researchers define their terms, jumping on this one becaus…
/r/MensRights25/01/16 11:52 PM
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As an identical twin with a perfectly functional brother I'm sure it's just a decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 09:19 PM
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I don't see anything wrong with prioritizing a PhD over dating. But okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 06:42 AM
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Dude has girls all over him and has had tons of opportunities. Doesn't give them the time of day, he finds it an "annoyance".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 06:29 AM
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I got to watch an abusive girlfriend and her treatment of her boyfriend at work. I couldn't do shit all about it - it was manipulation, he couldn't talk to other girls but of course she could talk to whoever. I hated it. I wanted it to stop and I wanted it to not happen. I tried to stop her from treating him like garbage but at least I convinced her to break up with him... He's free but Jesus everyone at work could see it and as someone who's been in an abusive relationship I couldn't cope. I kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:22 AM
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I just said "shitty reason," simmer down there big gunner. Peer pressure is rarely a good reason to do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:05 AM
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It's not my job as a woman to stroke a man's ego and honestly all I care is that a man treats me like a person. Confidence comes from not treating a woman like a prize and being confident enough to just fucking talk to her. Do that successfully instead of throwing out a line or a poorly executed tactic and you get more confidence. It's definitely not my job as a woman to give a man confidence and IDGAF how attractive a man is as long as he doesn't look like a potato if he makes me smile and is i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 05:03 AM
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The comments from the other bluepillers are fucking sad. You guys are putting too much value and pressure on virginity. Seriously.... The "why" is more telling than the "how long". I've dated virgins and men with high partner count and those things matter little unless the high partner count is because he doesn't value women (turns out one of them just couldn't find the right girl and the other is a sexual predator) and the virginity is only a red flag if he's awkward for a reason (resentful tow…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 04:59 AM
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What a shitty reason to have sex...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 04:51 AM
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My brother is 25 and doesn't prioritize women or dating at all. He can't stand being around women who can't match him intellectually and would rather work on his degree and his career than concern himself with sex and dating. There's nothing wrong with him or his choosing to prioritize other things over sex. Same goes for a woman who is not married who doesn't want to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 04:49 AM
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I need to get my hands on the original series, I've seen bits of it. Honestly out of the new series I didn't mind the Rose arc as a one-off but the constant pining of Martha and Amy and Clara drove me mental. Donna is my favourite because it was true friendship and they need to keep that going with Capaldi and go back to the roots of the program.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 04:44 AM
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It's a feedback loop. It goes both ways. Rejection hurts your confidence and attraction can bolster it. That said confidence can still increase or decrease your attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 04:42 AM
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It's not clear if OP is talking about the new series or the original run. I'm pretty sure the original run is described perfectly by OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 04:37 AM
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Dude, some guy hits you at a bar what's going to go over better? Not retaliating and letting security throw him out or going blow for blow and getting both of you thrown out? Yeah there's some times retaliating is worth it, like if you're in real danger but that's it. Some woman's whaling on you and nothing else stops her? Sure, take her down. Same with a dude. If it's not going to do anything other than escalate worse than it would without another solution then it's just unbecoming. Seriously, …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/15 01:02 PM
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I don't think people should hit people back, I don't believe in retaliation really. Escalating violence is ridiculous and unnecessary. "Accepting" things is how you don't bother to change them. I'm not accepting either double standard, I enforce a workplace where the girls can't hit the guys either. I had a girl think it was funny to hit the boys and I shut her down so hard she almost cried.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/15 11:56 AM
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Murder rates per 10,000 people have dropped as low and lower than the 60s. Violent crime may be up simply because of changing definition in violent crime or increased conviction rates - as in "hate crimes" are now mostly punished and it's not okay to beat some random black person. If murder is going down but violent crime is higher then I would think there's something more going on than violence being more frequent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/15 11:36 AM
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Iceland is rated the most gender equal country in the world and has some of the lowest crime rates ever, not just low murder rates. Same with Norway, Finland, Denmark, and Sweden. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/15 11:02 AM
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Let's throw a different analogy on here, see if this still holds water. It's not a double standard for women to hit men but men to not be allowed to hit women. After all, on average women are much smaller with less muscle mass than men so they just can't hurt them as easily. But men are much bigger than women on average and testosterone makes them stronger so for a man to hit a woman it's definitely a bad thing. Let's break it down into sports: a woman hitting a man is like a martial arts tourna…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/15 10:50 AM
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Seriously? Most of the lesbians I know are in a normal bmi range for one and also estrogen makes women put weight on easier than men and makes it harder for them to lose it. Making up statistics is kind of tragic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/15 07:49 AM
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Except is treating women like children incapable of making decisions and "coddling" them (as one poster said) the reason women aren't able to function like adults? If men want to treat women like they're incapable and never let them learn and we baby women and reward them for being drama-ridden then why would they be any other way?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/15 11:13 AM
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She didn't but I've seen what happens to someone when they are divorced with no options and how it affects the kids, cheating is not punishable to that extent. Not ever, in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/15 08:33 PM
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I watched a SAHM after 20+ years get divorced from her husband. He was a dentist, they had 4 kids together and a huge house. She hadn't worked in two decades and he withheld child support and any money to them. Her teenage children ended up having to work to help support a house with 3 kids still at home and she ended up struggling financially through school to get a job decent enough to maintain a small condo. This is in Canada where social support such as welfare is better than the US. I serio…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/15 08:14 PM
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I'm saying that I could do it. This isnt the middle ages and adultery isn't a crime. I'd be hurt and heartbroken but again financial and emotional business are two different things. The marriage ended but I'm not going to take away my child's father's future just because he hurt me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/15 08:08 PM
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I pay for the father of my child not to go bankrupt. Makes sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/15 09:05 PM
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Yes. See my other response. Also cheating has nothing to do with monetary arrangements.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/15 09:05 PM
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If my dad could repeatedly cheat on my higher wage earning mother and they can have an amicable divorce that didn't financially ruin anyone or turn us children into pawns and have holidays where both of my parents are still there then I think that it's not as impossible as you are making it sound.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/15 09:04 PM
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1) Violence against women - Fair enough. I'll admit women are at greater risk to rape than men. However, Feminists wildly exaggerate this claim and so discredit themselves. I imagine sexual harassment is an issue women face since a lot of men can be straight up dickheads. Overall, this is the foundation of Feminism. Man, if you knew the crap I've been through and the crap my friends have been through you'd know the exaggerations aren't as high as some men want to believe they are. I tell other w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 10:18 AM
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Except if someone is conversing about something where gender is relevant (and it comes up enough where if I reply and say I'm female some smartass commenter wants to say "of course, Larry-Man) the instant response even on reddit is a watered down tits or GTFO in some cases. Tits or GTFO is degrading and really doesn't do much at all to further conversations. I just want to share my thoughts and opinions and honestly people who think I'm a dude respond to me far differently than people who think …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 09:53 AM
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What's going on is women are remembering individuals and forgetting some leading to a low ball estimate and men are ballparking and overestimating slightly. Women think of all of the actual people they slept with and actually counting, normally, men tend to just estimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 09:26 AM
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It's not about paying for college but making sure they can afford to do it (even with loans any extra money helps). Yes they made that choice but they made that choice on the promise that you would remain in the marriage arrangement together.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 09:22 AM
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Given that psychologically speaking, for the child and the adult, equal parenting is the best option. What's best for the kid isn't to have a weekend parent to spoil them and then a parent who has to take care of all of the discipline. I would possibly still pay child support, at least while my jobless ex is still job hunting. What I am responsible for is the fact that my husband has no job skills or history because he was stay at home. I think that the assets would be something we should work o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 09:21 AM
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Irrelevant: that wouldn't actually tell you the size is different just that some women bleed more than others.
/r/TheRedPill06/04/15 10:28 AM
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The fa'afafine are not looked down on at all, nor the muxe
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/15 12:03 AM
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There are more people, populationwise, outside of Western culture than within it. That's beside the point though. This is your main issue. You want to appear informed on the biology driving our nature, but you, like many other BP'ers are trying to impose your cozy, comfortable, and extremely idealistic view onto something as staunch and uncaring as the universe. The universe is uncaring but people don't have to be. Empathy is a strong human trait. The absolute main difference between RPers and B…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 09:05 PM
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I have a vibrator. It does the job more quickly than interperson sex but there's a lot more touching and intimacy. I'd take a real man over a vibrator any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 10:56 AM
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Polygamy would only be great for an alpha male. Competition for mates becomes even more extreme in polygynist societies and the same crisis that is happening in China due to sex selective abortion rears its ugly head.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 10:54 AM
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Vervet monkeys mate face to face like humans and are monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 10:52 AM
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Except the female genes that were there the whole time hadn't changed. And new baboons who moved into the troop ended up adopting the culture of the more peaceful troop. So your interpretation doesn't really work.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 10:51 AM
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You are speaking of Sapolsky's Baboons
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 10:49 AM
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Men have a much harder time getting over breakups than women. There's no real solid theory on why this is but I'm sure RP and BP will disagree with the reasons. Either way this seems like more of a male problem than a female one. Though I think that any mature person realises that you can date other people with other qualities that are great. I could spend forever looking for a new "A-rod" or I could realise that all men are different and someone else might be super wonderful in other ways. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 10:45 AM
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It hasn't fully hit them yet how harsh this world is, how pretty much every culture in the world has contributed to a vague consensus of how men and women act. Except that a lot of the things expected of women are not cross-cultural at all. Other cultures allow women more or less freedom. And average tendencies of one gender over the other are not rigid roles. Some women are more masculine, some men more feminine. There is population variance. The feelings you are describing are mostly exaggerat…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 10:37 AM
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I believe the experiment found the same result regardless of gender. Edit: Found more about the study: the particular one from the video did not seem to have anything stating the genders of the kids but two other studies included slightly more girls than boys. I seriously think it's just a straight up human nature kind of deal, not a gendered one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 10:20 AM
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Food for thought here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 09:10 AM
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Thank God this is something BPers and RPers can agree on. It sounds awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 08:59 AM
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Robots can't simulate the thrill of sex with another human being. Not at all and not any time soon, if at all. I think that relationships have a lot more value than just sex but sex and pair bonding is natural human instinct, even if it's a serial monogamy tendency. Long term couples actually experience anguish in the same are of the brain as physical pain when separated for long periods of time. There's so much more to relationships than just sex or just friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 08:59 AM
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most romantic relationships fail nowadays This is a very vague statement. Most relationships fail because most people don't date just one person in their life. If you mean marriages that's still not even a "most" if you factor in the re-marriages (if you get remarried once you're likely to do it again and again, inflating the numbers).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 08:57 AM
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Think critically about everything. Red pill, blue pill, green pill, whatever. Critical thinking skills are seriously lacking in society and if you learn to really think in ways that are skeptical of everything you can come to stronger conclusions. Finding answers on your own is best.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 08:54 AM
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Here's a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 06:27 AM
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Respectfully my boyfriend is more into tarot and craps than I am. I'm a psychology major and had to learn much later in life than a man is forced to learn that actions have consequences and relationships are work, compromise and consideration of someone else's needs over your own. I had to get over the Disney princess shit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 05:25 AM
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I have two major problems with current feminism: one is the idea that the feminine is bad. Men and women alike have a tendency to devalue the feminine. We now have action hero girls but fictional women like Sansa Stark who play the Game of Thrones like "ladies" instead of playing a boy most of the way through are more reviled than the villains in the show. We love our Katniss Everdeen's and our Buffy the vampire slayers. Everyone shits on the feminine. I hate it. It's not productive and it's har…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 02:54 PM
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Canada too. Marriage in the courts isn't really all that special, it's the ceremonies that are all pomp and circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 02:38 PM
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First off, a taller male generally means that he has a healthy amount of testosterone. Women also do not like men who are too tall. Testosterone levels trigger the body into stopping growing. That's why steroids stunt your growth. Women don't like short men because it means too much T and tall men means not enough (as in they kept growing past the point they should have stopped). Height in a man is much more triggered by hormonal health and is a clue to health. It's the same reason women's waist…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 02:25 PM
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This is why TRP and I will never be friends. I love some of the things from the site, hands down. But I can't bring myself to see the world as an ugly place because I love life. I've had some awful experiences but some wonderful ones as well. And my religion is human beings and the overall goodness of them. Kids are born pretty helpful and selfless so it's clear that human nature tends toward kindness (tons of studies show this, I can find some video if you're curious) and I hang my deepest of f…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 02:17 PM
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AWALT is literally part of the TRP golden rules. Most feminists do not think this way and it is not a commonplace rhetoric amongst feminists. I have never met a person or even spoken to one who thinks this way, the only things I see that fit the view that men are scum are from the really wacko feminists (the same trans hating feminists most other feminists avoid) or from tumblr. I have yet to converse with someone of this opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 02:10 PM
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Except TRP uses AWALT logic. And I'm a feminist and I am horrified that some men get sent to jail when they are in fact the abuse victims. It's obscene.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 02:06 PM
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Your birth control statement is a faulty statement. Birth control is never 100% effective and men are perfectly capable of putting on condoms too. I have no respect for women who don't responsibly use birth control and end up getting abortions but things happen such as condoms breaking, pills not working, ectopic pregnancies, etc. And I for one only think that something is rape if one party is fucking shitfaced drunk and the other person is sober or nearly sober - that is knowingly taking advant…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 01:43 PM
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This video was posted in twox and the women just ripped it to shreds there. There's really not much to say other than she wants to be a trophy wife and that's fucking retarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 01:35 PM
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Please, men and friends do shit tests all of the time too. Friends do it when they want something. Men do this with sex. A lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 01:28 PM
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Okay, so a number of things are at play here. One, girls are socialized to realize that they can get out of shit by crying and so they choose to do it because it's easier. If you had an easy out all of the time and it worked regularly would you take it? I would (and have, but I try to avoid it because it feels so dirty). Secondly, judging by my own experiences men can be just as awful at taking criticism. I had a relationship where my reaction to issues was to say "okay, so I fucked up here but …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 01:23 PM
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TRP is cynical, AWALT is a cynical viewpoint. I'm a rape victim, former domestic violence victim, and have even been randomly sexually assaulted on the street. The "theoretical rapist" even with my heightened paranoia only exists in strangers I walk past after dark when I am alone. And even then I tame the fears with a conscious mind of "seriously, most men are good people, simmer down". My daily interactions with men are not informed by my experience unless a man has given me reason to distrust…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 01:16 PM
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I gave them logical reasons to be against polygamy but they aren't listening.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/15 09:09 PM
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Except there isn't real evidence that those things are harmful. The government of Canada commissioned this study to find out if it should be legal or not. I was blown away by the findings.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/15 07:57 PM
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You are a bit of black and white aren't you? Yes, it's all or nothing. No restrictions or all of them. Equity and eequality are important and like it or not sometimes free love can in fact be harmful in the bigger picture. I'm all for having as much sex as you want, polyamory, open marriages and all sorts of nontraditional relationships but polygamy is harmful to society (this is proven to a fairly strong degree by Heinrich and others) so sure ride the polygamy train to a worse place to live. Wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/15 04:59 AM
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Women are allowed to be more emotional but I doubt it hurts any less for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/15 12:30 AM
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Dude, Joseph Heinrich did a massive cross cultural study. It's not about happiness, it's about equality. polygamy is incredibly negative for society on the whole. I never said it causes rape but the inequity breeds a societal climate where violent crime goes up. No wonder some MRAs and RPers are so fucking bitter, some feminists are completely divorced from reality. I'm a feminist and I have to say your unwillingness to think about the big picture concerns me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 10:46 PM
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Happens to women too. Less frequent but I have the higher libido and it's brutal to feel rejected by the one person you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 07:45 PM
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Here's what I don't get as someone who subs to both twox and row: both groups spend an inordinate amount of time pitying the other. TRP has lots of issues with agency but straight up RPW and twox only differ on the kinds of relationships that they value. There is nothing inherently wrong with their viewpoints and by subbing both groups I have a much stronger understanding of what it means for me to be a woman as well as realising that 90% of the advice in the subs is similar if not the same and …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 07:42 PM
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Men are bigger risk takers. That doesn't mean women are risk averse but men are competitive and the male sex is one that does have to compete for a mate, biologically sand historically speaking. As a blue piller (i hate that term though because tbp is a terrible sub) I believe that humans are more than their biology. Society is far from natural and culture plays a bigger role than some people want to admit but less than others. Straight up all of the sex differences are just tendencies and avera…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 07:37 PM
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I am unsure of the history outside of the USA, which is sad because I'm Canadian. But women have been fighting since the Carter administration so I doubt the other countries are that far behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 06:59 PM
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I'm pragmatic. Love isn't all about feelings, the real world still exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 06:56 PM
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Polygamy is horrible and undemocratic. A cross cultural study by Joseph Heinrich discovered that it is strongly correlated with lower GDP, increased rape and violent crime, lower education and marriage age of women and increased sexual and physical abuse in relationships. It's the same thing that happens in places of sex selective abortion against women: men outnumber women and some men will have all of the women in polygamist states. The rest of the men are competing for fewer females and more …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 04:30 PM
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Saying that men kill women because they can't get enough sex sells men extremely short. Seriously, I have way more faith in men than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 04:16 PM
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Yes it is mysogynistic not just because it is an object but because it paints all women as cum dumpsters. That's like saying "natives are drunks" or "men are assholes"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 04:14 PM
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Generally RP theory applies mostly to the Western world and is a North American philosophy but if you'd like to stretch feminist theory beyond the West go for it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 03:55 PM
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The vocal idiots do this too much. Drives me mad. Feminism has fought to end the male only draft for decades in the US but all you hear is about gamer gate and comic book covers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 11:05 PM
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I think it's a childish outlook. I am a feminist (well, I call myself a feminist but I find I sometimes piss the other ones off) but I really think that we need to stop molly-coddling women and giving the impression that rights don't come with responsibilities. The "have your cake and eat it too" attitude is a damaging one, something millenials of both genders are getting way too much of. But I digress... TRP exists because of a serious gap in logical attitudes toward relationships and insisting…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 11:35 AM
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"YOU THINK WE'RE GONNA BREAK UP!???" or "YOU DON'T TRUST ME????" It's idiotic. Emotions are a grand reason to get married but it doesn't mean you can't also think logically.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 10:25 AM
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I think it would be awesome if men were allowed to express their feelings more (culturally) without having so much backlash against it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 10:23 AM
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This study seems fairly solid information on why being a yes-man is also bad: http://healthland.time.com/2013/12/17/extreme-marriage-experiment-suggests-its-better-to-be-right-than-happy/ I think it's a give and take, you want to be receptive to your partner's ideas but not just sit back and take it. It's kind of common courtesy in my opinion and just a general way to be well liked to be nice about things. Listening to people's problems and acknowledging them first before shooting them down is j…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 10:22 AM
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Marriage is about having legal rights to visit your spouse in the hospital, make medical decisions and funeral arrangements for them, and many other things that the gay community can tell you loads about seeing as they have had relationships torn apart and children taken away due to no legal standing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 10:15 AM
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Can I just say that as a woman I would not be offended one bit at a man suggesting a pre-nup? I am absolutely not the kind of person who wants to take someone else's money and achievements for my own. I'd like to make sure that if I'm a housewife I'm not completely screwed financially if things fall apart since I gave up financial independence for the marriage - something like some rent agreement for a new place if I move out and only for a period of time to ensure I can become re-employed. That…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 10:13 AM
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If you find a woman who you want companionship with whom you might actually like to visit in the hospital, make medical decisions for, or get some of the very real benefits of marriage for then it can be somewhat practical. It's not like gay marriage would be as big of a deal if people were being banned from visiting SO's in the hospital or making funeral arrangements for their loved ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 10:07 AM
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I absolutely disagree with everything said here. TRP and feminism are polar opposites and don't always work in a progression - TRP is incredibly cynical and all about functioning in a "this is how it is so that's it" view of the world - which I disagree with fundamentally because I am a "the world could be better" type of person. These are two completely different groups of people and while I vehemently disagree with the general TRP view of the world and think it's not a good way to think that d…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 10:04 AM
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I can't imagine always getting sex when you want it. That seems a little unfair. Some consideration to her not always feeling up to it seems decent to me. "I'm horny, we're having sex now" is good with me most of the time but if I feel cranky or unsexy or just won't be into it I'd prefer not to be expected to have sex anyway. I'm not sure if you actually mean every time you are aroused you get sex or just most times, but it seems disrespectful, particularly if you're aroused while she's got some…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 09:53 AM
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If sexual assault becomes qualified as rape, what happens next? This statement needs expansion. Rape is often defined solely by penetration, if things that constitute "sexual assault" currently are changed to classification as rape it will include men as rape victims. Legally in many places men can't get raped.
/r/MensRights20/03/15 12:34 PM
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More. I am talking about perceived threat. Oppression is partly about feelings and keeping people living in fear. Women are generally socialised to be afraid. As stated elsewhere people are afraid of flying more frequently than dying in a car wreck even though the opposite is statistical my true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 02:32 PM
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Perceived threat and actual threat are two different things, as I've stated. It's similar to more people having a fear of flying when statistically cars are more dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 02:31 PM
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Any scientific study will tell you the average. Most don't tell you the full spectrum. People are different and going on just the general statistic is foolish. I never said that it wasn't partly due to feminism and not all men want feminine women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 02:29 PM
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It's nothing blatant but things like being a white or Asian male in computer field people frequently falsely assume competence where there is none. (i will attempt some links once off mobile). There is the media desire to ask women what they're wearing, what their husbands think of their career, how they balance a family... These are questions professional women have to face at a frequency men do not have to answer to. There is the assumption that hiring a woman will lead to maternity leave. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 12:03 PM
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And again, the police made me feel like I did something wrong choosing to walk alone. That is not okay at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 10:39 AM
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I used to walk around after dark without this fear. Then I got assaulted. It's not like it's some imaginary boogeyman. It really happens, even in safe neighbourhoods.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 10:31 AM
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There's something specific about rape threats that makes you feel a special kind of powerless. I've spoken to a few men who've been sexually assaulted or a straight guy who went as support for his recently out friend at a gay bar who was molested and perved on by another man. Living with constant guard up against sexual assault from not only strangers on the street but people that you know is exhausting. Men should really think about it too because it does happen to them too. Women are raised wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 10:07 AM
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I think in certain areas women are oppressed. I don't think you can say it's an overarching theme, but in general women just have more problems, it gets more noticeable in certain fields of work and other areas. Just because you've never experienced it for yourself doesn't mean it's not happening to other women simply because they are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 06:56 AM
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I got assaulted in a safe neighbourhood just walking alone after dark. Residential, two schools within a stone's throw of where I was. My male coworker who makes the same walk home doesn't have that problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 06:54 AM
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PPD works in generalized nebulous construct though. On an individual level statistics are not as meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/15 09:57 PM
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OP said all when "vast majority" or "all heterosexual" would have been clearer. Linguistically it's an incredibly false statement and any scientific journal or form of academic would find it unacceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/15 10:52 AM
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Except male homosexuality does help with reproduction. There is a genetic component and the leading theory is that women who get the gene are exceptionally attracted to men so the men who get the genes are also attracted to men. There's also some real evidence of avuncular tendencies in gay males. http://people.uleth.ca/~paul.vasey/PLV/Evolution_Androphilia.html
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/15 10:50 AM
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I think you are making the assumption that TRP is all or nothing. You are asking people to disprove the whole of TRP when there are tons of aspects to it. I'm "BP" for all intents and purposes but I feel like I have a better respect for the complexity of the ideas contained in the system than you OP. So I will take your post at face value. My main reason for not buying into it is that the "biological truths" are often flawed interpretations of statistics and really ignores the fact that we reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/15 10:47 AM
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So, doing my best to avoid plagiarism laws, basically for Experiment 1 they had four identical resumes, same gender neutral name on all of them. Participants acted as someone evaluating the candidate for a job. 4 different conditions were applied, a resume with notes referring to the candidate as male or note referring to them as female, and the other two conditions were the same resume with a male or female modifier in the notes but also a note that they had asked for additional benefits (gym p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/15 08:10 AM
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I've always known I wanted kids in the nebulous "some day" sense but now it's just getting a timeline. I've always discussed kids and thought about my SO as a father. I actually have more so changed how I organise my life. Kids have a real tangible timeline in my life now. I'm changing my own life to prepare for them more than thinkjng differently about my SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 08:31 PM
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Weird. I got to the whole thing through my phone no problem. I'll see what details I can glean more clearly for you when I am at a computer again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 06:07 PM
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It worked for me. it's the study linked in the article previous. I might have automatic access through my university but from mobile that's unlikely. Edit: auto correct
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 06:04 PM
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The candidate’s resume was identical across conditions. We gave the candidate a gender-neutral first name and then referred to the candidate in the interview notes as either a man or a woman and with gender-appropriate pronouns. Source: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0749597806000884
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 05:05 PM
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I'd have to see the details of the study but it was viewers rating negotiators so it might have been scripted negotiations with gender as the variable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 04:59 PM
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https://hbr.org/2014/06/why-women-dont-negotiate-their-job-offers/
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 04:28 PM
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We covered it in one of my courses and I haven't got a solid source on hand. I know the US pays about the same for nursing homes as it does for obesity related health issues (1.5 billion each - out of a 2 trillion dollar budget) but as a Canadian things are different and I imagine Sweden also plays out differently as well. Generally though dying before you can no longer be productive for society is economically not so bad. The same goes for smokers - particularly in Canada, they contribute to mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 02:21 PM
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The aged after a certain point are no longer earning. The tax dollars flowing in do not amount to those flowing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 02:13 PM
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Actually fat people dying sooner than healthy people are cheaper in the long run. The real drain on health care is the healthy but decrepit aged population who can't contribute to society nor get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 02:10 PM
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Actually fat people dying sooner than healthy people are cheaper in the long run. The real drain on health care is the healthy but decrepit aged population who can't contribute to society nor get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 02:09 PM
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The amount of kids people have is generally correlated with both the survival rate of offspring and the cost of raising a child. In places with below-replacement birthrates children are expensive as hell and not likely to die so people have very few vs. "third world" countries where they have 20 kids, half of which die before age 5 and the other half are put to work to earn money.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 02:05 PM
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My biggest problem with it is the misuse of statistics all over the place. I remember reading about one of the reasons women aren't paid as much as men being that women don't negotiate for salaries as frequently. They never stop to ask why that is what it is and assume that it's because women aren't smart enough or something. Turns out that when women negotiate salary the social costs are much higher than those for men and women are likely just reading the room around them when negotiating. Stat…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 01:40 PM
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Mostly bluish I guess but not a definitive blue, but I'm quickly encroaching 30. My mom had me at 35 so it's not like I feel super pressured but I'm having baby fever and I've never been a kid person before. Which is fine, I'm in a long term relationship where I am happy so I'm sure it will come eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 01:37 PM
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I think it's mostly in the attitude toward sex. I don't care if he doesn't wanna get down and dirty right away but a lack of enthusiasm about sex is such a turn off. My boyfriend is not a high earner nor is he someone anyone but me finds attractive but I seriously dig it when he's all into sex too. So maybe the alpha/beta dynamic is at play in the bedroom but outside of it I could seriously care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 01:30 PM
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There's a lot of shows that feature characters like Meg from Family Guy who are constantly the butt of all of the jokes too. Personally I prefer shows about intelligent male or female characters but I can't speak for all women on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 08:03 AM
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I think it entirely depends on the woman in question. TRP tactics tend to focus on one type of woman and BP on an entirely different type. Personally I think I'd be pretty disgusted by a RP man but I think in the grand scheme of things the redpiller would get laid more often and the bluepiller would cultivate more meaningful relationships all around (not necessarily dating relationships). It really depends on what kind of life you want to live, I don't think it would be worse for one or the othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 07:03 PM
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This was kind of the argument I made against the "pussy pass". For crying out loud if men didn't give women the easy "out" for being good looking they'd never try it. And even though I think it's absolutely vile to use an accident of chromosomes to get something because you can I can't conscionably say that I've never used the fact that I'm a woman to get out of something by crying. It's there, it's easier than taking the high road. I can't say that if men had an easy out like that they'd never …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 06:58 PM
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I don't mean fight it to win it. Men and women who blindly accept it as the way it is with a sigh will never change anything. Why do you think feminists are so bloody vocal? Clearly it's doing something because we at least have "action hero girl" in the film trope repertoire (which is a start but also sets up a whole other giant laundry list of problems that I won't get into). The threat of violence keeps most men in check. "I've seen some men advocating for a full on take down of a woman who is…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 05:10 PM
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I think there will always be some biological bias toward the traditional but I don't think that things as they are really hinge on that particularly. It's hard to look at without looking cross-culturally at what men and women do across the world to determine what really is "natural" for humans or not. Definitely a lot of the defined roles have some basis in biology but not nearly to the degree some people think and far more than other people think. Women are attracted, cross culturally, to men w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 05:07 PM
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It looks like you did not read the rest of what I said. I've seen some men advocating for a full on take down of a woman who is being a nuisance. Now society shouldn't tell women that it's okay to be physical to men because it hurts less but it does. Do I think that's right? No. I went around high school kicking boys in the shins if they were slightly annoying and that wasn't right. I had to learn that on my own because absolutely none of the teachers did anything at all about it. The education …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 04:31 PM
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My experience is that they don't want to get involved whatsoever. And I definitely don't think that's right, what happened to your uncle. Any person should be able to defend themselves with reasonable force against an attack. That doesn't mean some wimpy kid taking a swing at a stacked 6 foot tall man means he should deck him right back but it does mean that he should be able to stop the kid with reasonable force. Same goes with a man hitting a woman in response to irritating whacks - if it does…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 04:10 PM
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I think part of it is representation again. We get our parents who grew up in a different time as one model and the archaic models we see on Television. A major issue is that women in the workplace are still expected to be mothers at home too. It's in all of the questions high-powered women get - How does your husband feel about your career? How do you make time for your family? The kinds of women and men I surround myself with who are having children right now don't conform to this traditionali…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 04:07 PM
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Yes. It's so very easy to charge a man with assault. Look at all the assault charges I have against the man who grabbed my wrists so hard they hurt or covered my mouth so that I couldn't breathe because he didn't like what I was saying. He is just swimming in assault charges. Those two are married by the sound of the video and guess what? The police have very little interest in a dispute between two people who are in a relationship, man or woman. At least where I'm from.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 03:55 PM
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The dating world is all about what you can bring to the table. Any attractive and (arguably depending on what show you analyse) intelligent person being with someone who doesn't bring either looks or brains or even thoughtfulness to the table is nobody's dream partner. I consider myself a feminist but dear God some people honestly have their heads up their asses if they think that a 4 dating an 8 on the attractiveness scale happens when there are no other desirable qualities to make up for the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 12:56 PM
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I think the problem is the strategy doesn't necessarily call for paying attention to all kinds of cues. I mean, sometimes "no" really does mean yes, especially in a society that shames women for wanting sex. I've done it when I really wanted to have sex but didn't want to seem "easy". If a woman's entire body language screams "yes" then maybe the "no" is not really a "no." However, there are lots of reasons for LMR, not just a supposed internal struggle on not wanting to be "easy" or a "slut". T…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 12:38 PM
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Being a woman who has been on the receiving end of ineffectual violence probably try to grab her and stop her. If it's an assault I can defend against without escalating then why would I escalate?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 12:25 PM
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They sound Native to me... which is a whole other issue. I'd guess this was in Edmonton or Calgary by the look of things. Honestly it sounds like both of them are probably a piece of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 12:24 PM
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I'm mostly "BP" I guess by the definitions but I can't say I have agreed with anyone more than you so far in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 12:15 PM
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I can tell you right now that some of the things I've done I feel horrendously ashamed of and/or were things I was pressured into. What I'm honestly afraid of is feeling like shit. I want to feel loved by the person I'm with, not used. I don't think it's a hard concept. I mean it doesn't apply to all women, some are just being cold bitches.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 12:10 PM
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One of my problems with this dynamic in Television is that it's still a male-bound fantasy. Do you really think that attractive women really want to be stuck to an idiot fat slob of a husband? I read on TRP once that women get warnings about all the kinds of bad men that are out there. It's part of our education. Men don't get that and I think it makes the pedestal fallacy of TRP one of the more strengthened arguments. I think this is a large problem with the "empathy gap" The problem is that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 12:07 PM
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Visitation rights for your kids. Also legal say for you and your spouse in case of accident or illness. One of the reasons gay couples fight so hard for marriage is that they are unable to visit their SO in the hospital if they are sick or dying and if the one who passes away is not the biological parent the kids are taken away.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 11:58 AM
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I'm a woman, for one. For two experience can lie to you about how the world works.chance can really fuck things up. bluepill women at the very least sometimes project their experiences too much and that is a problem too - being assaulted shouldn't ruin your trust of an entire gender because one guy was an asshole. Or even two or three. I have been in two abusive relationships and that means that something about me was contiributing - turns out depressed people are easy to manipulate. I got bette…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 10:29 PM
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If I lived my life by my experiences I should hate and mistrust men immensely. I don't because I understand some bad luck doesn't mean every man is a douchebag.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 10:23 PM
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I think that wanting a long term relationship with someone who has traits that make a good relationship partner just makes sense. Red pill women is all about being that kind of woman for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 10:22 PM
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based on his experience Anecdotal evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 09:33 AM
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Well there is somewhat of a genetic component to cheating, supposedly. This probably fits in with the above theory but maybe not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 09:21 AM
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I think that the number of notches is not a signifier of actual attraction beyond one night stands. It's not like women aren't capable of plate spinning. Dark triad traits might be fun for a night but they make for a terrible partner and are not something I would love to be around for the rest of my life. It's just like TRP advocates spinning plates there are women who like to see their options but rarely pick the ones with no long term viability. I'd rather have trust and great sex instead of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 09:18 AM
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Anecdotal evidence is the least empirical evidence you can have for something though. Statistical data needs to be used and correctly. I am most bothered by the piss-poor handling of statistics on TRP than I am by other statements made. Seriously, if you want to prove a point then at least understand what the numbers actually mean without jumping to conclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 09:14 AM
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A lot of the purported "biotruths" I've read there are not cross-cultural and therefore are socio-cultural truths until proven ultimately cross-cultural. There's a lot of fudging of data that goes on or just assumptions about statistics that drives me mental about TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 09:12 AM
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I think the most important thing I read about men was on TRP. It was someone's comment about how women get warned about all of the bad men. We get told to look out for people taking advantage of us or just wanting to use us or abuse us. Men do not get these warnings, they just get told to respect women. Men go in blind with no one to tell them that there are bad people out there and some of them are women who will take advantage of that. So men get disillusioned. It made me kind of sad to read t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 09:11 AM
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I did gild you, you deserved it. And I'm comfortable using the "f-word" - I like what it means to me probably just the way "red pill" is perceived by some but means a lot to those who identify with the ideology. There's a lot of really great information and points of view out there and I just think that limiting yourself to one box, even if it's one you don't identify with is hazardous. I love the ladies at RPW - the posts truly brighten my day sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/15 01:03 AM
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I'm a lurker here, seeing as I'm not really a RPW (I'm a feminist, so sue me) but the truth in these words is something a lot of people in general forget. I've been cooking for my SO lately and cleaning his house and taking care of his dog (his brother is in the hospital). He seems more relaxed and it's just nice to do nice things for your SO - if it's someone you love why would you not do nice gestures? The thing is too, he does these things for me if I do them for him. While I don't follow wit…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/15 05:52 AM
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Hey, if you think he's a talentless hack then that's fine. I think what they were doing at the time was awesome but have zero interest in their art. I was just explaining that the art world isn't all about what you like or don't like. EDIT: Also, the fact that they were both talentless hacks but one of them was lauded and the other mostly ignored should say something too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 05:28 AM
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The problem is that some "nice guys" are entitled. The catch all has come from some super bitterness in both parties. "Nice is different than good" to quote Into the Woods. People claiming to be "nice" are just really frustrating. Husband material is someone who acts like a partner, not like some bitter person for getting rejected. If you are constantly rejected the problem may be you. And the feminists who state that are probable right. The "decent human being" thing means that men who display …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 05:17 AM
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The problem is that the masses are fed a style, they want it more, the supply and demand chain messes things up. If you show beautiful people doing good things a person is more likely to associate beauty with goodness (which is not true, clearly). Audiences have actually walked out during trailers for films featuring unnamed black leading actors. The masses now identify with white males as "good" and masculine traits as "good" which makes them as a whole less able to empathize with non-white sce…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 05:08 AM
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Look, I get that abstraction isn't something people always understand. What they were doing at the time was groundbreaking. After Picasso defied depth people like Krasner and Pollock were defying form. It's a push against the status quo of the current state of the art world. I can't give you the entirety of art history on reddit unless you really want to know (if you're actually interested I will definitely try my best). Pollock was famous because during the Cold War there was in fact a propagan…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 04:51 AM
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it's a cyclical problem. The market wants what is familiar. Mass effect was still a game about shooting aliens with optional relationship side quests. Innovative games don't sell welk and that is on society as a whole. I absolutely think that more interpersonal games like visual novels and other games like Ookami would be great and they are what I like to play. It's not like corporations or the buyers are the whole problem and it's on everyone to push for change.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 02:56 AM
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The problem is socio cultural. The industry is both a symptom and a perpetuator. It's not some simple "this is who is at fault" and I'm not only placing blame on game companies. I am an activist who just thinks and speaks critically and hopes that I can inspire others to do the same. It's not like I believe the bechdel test is a real marker or that all female characters need to be strong and we'll written. I just think that the consumer base and corporate cycle is problematic but societal push c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 02:54 AM
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That's a pathetic outcome. There are amazing female artists, including Jackson Pollock's wife, Lee Krasner, who didn't even disclose her gender for a long time. She was doing this while Pollock was still doing this. His later works, while not explicitly stated, were likely influenced by the work of Krasner. Things to note is that while male artists are referred to by last name (Pollock, Van Gogh, Picasso) many people refer to female artists by first name. There is no reason to do that. Most damn…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/15 07:08 AM
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I'm going to add to /u/ms_kittyfantastico And list a few more examples of institutionalized sexism. Stories like film and novels, at least the popular ones are far most frequently from the point of view of a white male protagonist. The assumption when talking to an online stranger is often that they are a white man because of this standard "male gaze" The problem is that anyone who is not a white male doesn't have a lot to identify with sometimes. A compelling character is a compelling character…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/15 06:31 AM
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Social inequity is different than rights and privileges. The under representation of women and minorities in media is staggering. Even in the art world the statistics for artist's featured in the Metropolitan Museum of Art hovers around 3-7% female while at last count 76% of the nudes were female. I advocate for social change and real recognition of problems that stem from inequitable treatment of genders in social settings as well as legal ones. More lenient prison sentences for women is garbag…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/15 06:20 AM
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I think a lot of the new misogyny we’re seeing wouldn’t happen if society and parents were as comfortable educating boys about the dark side of women as they are educating women about the dark side of men. I'm a feminist (I sub here to round out my views) and I agree with this statement 100%. Not sure how I feel about OP, I agreed with some bits, disagreed with others, but this post here is one of the greatest things I have read in a long time. Even though I'm a woman and generally take this sub…
/r/TheRedPill20/12/14 09:56 AM
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I'm a person who is mostly BP in ideology but respects TRP and values certain aspects of it even. However, I actually hate TBP sub and something I posted got shared there to mock me. My one run-in with TBP sub was far more negative than any experience with TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 02:27 PM
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I thought Evita was a terrible movie with catchy songs. Eva Peron was a terrible human being in that movie - they hardly focused on her charity works or anything. It's been a while since I've seen it but all I remember is thinking "Wow, that's it?" I found her unlikeable. I also really don't see how a movie (a musical of all things) can prove any points about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 02:10 PM
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You should be able to see what I asked by going into my "submitted" history if you're curious. I went in, said I don't necessarily agree but that I respected them and wanted to know what RPW and RP ideologies meant to them. I've actually been treated nicer by TRP and related groups than my feminist ones.... soooo they've got that going for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/14 12:14 AM
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I did think I was being clear. I didn't mean to misdirect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 11:50 PM
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I'm coming to discover there is very little difference between RP and BP individuals. The similarities are far more prevalent than the differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 11:50 PM
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I've actually asked them questions before. They're a nice bunch of ladies overall. Most of the RP men commenting here have been too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 11:49 PM
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Most of the things you listrf are already WIP. The cheating was 4 years ago and I definitely took some time off dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 01:23 PM
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When did I say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 01:20 PM
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Your interpretation of it. The captain/first mate dynamic described is fantastic. I once dated a man who got laid off and was resentful when I stepped up to pay for dates in the interim.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 07:06 AM
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I thought the RP view was that a woman should have to rely on her man for decision making. I generally really like the view on nagging. I have gotten much better about it, but my mother is such a nag it just happens without even thinking about it so much of the time. EDIT: As for the tattoo it is small and behind my ear. I still don't regret it but I know it's apparently frowned upon by lots of men. It matches one my best friend has.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 06:56 AM
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Again, I was just curious what the RP perspective was overall. I actually have gotten some of the answers I was hoping for and some of the answers I was expecting. Which is actually sadly disappointing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 05:51 AM
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I just want a legitimate RP stance on this though. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 05:37 AM
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Prove it to who?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 05:34 AM
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I just want to be a better person. What can I do if I can't have had less sex. What I want to know is even if I stop certain negative behaviours is it possible for me to ever be "quality" by RP standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 05:27 AM
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I actually have been a defender of TRP even though I'm also a feminist. I recognise that you can't get all the facts by sticking to the side that agrees with you most and you can't always blindly agree to things. My current boyfriend is politically conservative and I love it when we have debates about things. I just want to be a better girlfriend and wondered what TRP view was on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 05:25 AM
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I feel like a horrible human being. In the last two years I've gotten over some serious depression and other issues and thinking about it lately I've really fit the chuck and fuck type before. I would never cheat again, it was the worst thing I've ever done and have never spent so much time feeling guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 05:23 AM
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It's true about me though. I've got to change. I am just wondering what the RP stance on it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 05:10 AM
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Fuck, I'm a woman and would find a man with that much experience intimidating.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 04:54 AM
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Well I have been working on fixing things anyway. I don't intend to stay a terrible person. I'm not sure how serious I am about TRP but I am sitting with a foot in both camps (RP and feninism - don't ask how that works). I did shave my head to donate my hair for cancer so it wasn't solely a fashion choice. I am glad you think there is hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 04:52 AM
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Because I just want to know if TRP believes in change through self awareness but am not entirely serious about becoming "quality" by RP standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/14 04:49 AM
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The average age of a male victim is around the same, if not lower (according to this source in Honolulu the average age is 10 for males) so why aren't old men a hot commodity? Rape of women seems to be highest in places where women are less available, either in a polygynous society where some men get all of the women or in areas like Alaska where the male-to-female ratio is ridiculously out of whack. I imagine in China, where sex-selective abortion is causing a skew of an excess of men rape is h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/14 10:12 AM
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As far as I know it happens at party settings or at a friend's house. But I don't know the statistics on it. EDIT: Nearly 6 out of 10 sexual assault incidents were reported by victims to have occurred in their own home or at the home of a friend, relative, or neighbor
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/14 09:58 AM
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I am dying for a RPer to answer this directly. Why demand that women don't get automatic custody but search for women who won't have any life skills if divorce happens and then want to kick them to the curb without anything at all? This is what I want answered and no one is directly tackling why this descrepancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/14 09:55 AM
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Ooh, I forgot about that fact. Though I've had one night stands with better communication than whole relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/14 08:22 AM
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Women also have to worry about getting pregnant. I think this is the biggest difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/14 02:17 PM
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I figure the reason that it's not so effective on men is because we're rational and immediately put it together what you're doing. That technique likely doesn't have any positive effects for men because we would rather talk like adults to solve problems. Unless you want to just admit your exes were all manchildren. I extremely disagree with your opinion that men are more rational, at least by some biological imperative. If there is anything going on it's the fact that girls are allowed to get aw…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/14 02:16 PM
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I'm not fat and ugly! The patriarchy just has you thinking I am. It's all an illusion created by the illuminati.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/14 10:05 AM
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I've learned that there is much to be gleaned from TRP and from feminism (so blue pill I guess?). I struggle with feminism all of the time, but the red pill has so much wrong with it that I don't even know where to begin. I will never think the red pill is right. So here I am, some weird feminist reject for actually respecting some aspects of TRP (and I strangely respect red pillers too, it's stupid to be in a feminist sub and hear nothing but "blahblahblah people hate on us as soon as we say th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/14 10:01 AM
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But you just mentioned it and now I have a raging sad D: I wish it never existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/14 09:50 AM
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I'm not a redpiller so I guess ipso facto I am a bluepiller. But... I agree there should be at-birth paternity tests. I think any man paying for a child that he doesn't know isn't his is fucking brutal. Seriously... no. It's even worse when a man finds out years down the road after forming a bond with the kid. Then it's not just unfair to the man but the kid too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/14 09:48 AM
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As a woman, when I cry because I'm a big fat baby I get comforted like it's okay to be crying over some stupid-ass thing. No. I should man the fuck up and you should tell me I'm fucking retarded for crying because I dropped the fucking milk carton and spilled it all over the floor. Maybe if people didn't coddle me so much because I have a pair of tits I'd actually be forced to learn to control my God-damned emotions. ...that's not what you wanted at all, is it OP?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/14 09:33 AM
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Lotta women take big offense to this part of the theory. Basically, I think the amused mastery comes into play when women are actually behaving childishly. If you're behaving like an adult, I'm going to treat you like one, and if you become irrational and childish, then that's what you're gonna get back from me, too. On the flip side of this, if my boyfriend was acting childish and I started patronizing him by treating him like a kid he wouldn't talk to me for weeks. This applies to every man I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/14 09:27 AM
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Society generally polices things. Racism used to be cool, now it's not. Homophobia used to be okay, now it's not. Generally treating other people like people seems to be the fad. I'm okay with that and I'm okay that society is moving toward that as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/14 03:37 AM
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No one is really censoring anyone. Businesses can fire people who say racist, homophobic, or misogynistic things because public image is important with running a business. Free speech doesn't guarantee anyone a venue.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/14 03:32 AM
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Some things are frowned on socially because they're just wrong. However, if they were truly frowned upon socially then it wouldn't be such a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/14 03:25 AM
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Imagine if talking badly about the sport of baseball was frowned severely upon by nearly all of society. Except it's not baseball, it's people. This is the kind of logic that gay-bashers and racists use. By completely dismissing what are sometimes legitimate issues as whining it completely proves a point: things that women say are not important, it's just whining.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/14 03:15 AM
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We have to be able to talk about things that are important to us that we may disagree on without it turning into an argument. He has to at least be somewhat attractive (I don't really care about this that much, as long as he's not a total slob). Mostly I want someone who's going to treat me like another human being instead of a 12 year old. I got this far on my own, I don't suddenly need someone thinking they know better than me all of the time (though advice is always welcome!). Mostly I just w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/14 01:54 AM
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It's one of those things where what's natural may not be good. That's just my opinion on it. Sex selective abortion in favour of males has similar effects on society/the economy due to female scarcity.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/14 01:10 AM
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I'm personally fond of singing "pregnant women are smug" with my very preggers friend. She gets a kick out of it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/14 12:08 PM
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Joseph Henrich did cross-cultural research after the Bountiful, BC polygamist community went to court. Canada determined that it should remain illegal based on his findings. This is the affidavit and report that the Canadian Supreme Court received The absolute gist of the report is on page 25 of the pdf. Here's Canada's well-cited rulings Aritcle quoting Joseph Henrich and other research Again, I'm not claiming it's not natural (polygyny is far more frequent than polyandry) but there are several…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/14 11:54 AM
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Except how many of those are single right now? How many of those will you meet in the next month even?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/14 12:40 PM
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I'm sure there are many other things you can do for him. I like to give back and foot rubs after a long day or running him a hot bath. I do things like take the dog out when he is at work. Try and find out what it is of that stuff that he likes doing. Even if he likes cooking I'm sure he doesn't mind having a night off and such. Tell him you like to do these things and that it's not a problem for you to do them. My bf is often overworked and doesn't get as much housework done as he would like bu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/14 05:53 AM
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They didn't mention that men prefer youth because it means they have more reproductive potential - a 20-something has way more baby-making years in her than a 30-something. Also, humans may be naturally polygynous but polygyny is also fairly strongly linked to some pretty bad societal problems (increased crime, teen weddings, higher incidences of rape, lower GDP, lower education among women). I can find the researcher who did the cross-cultural study for those interested. It sort of goes with th…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/14 03:27 AM
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I'd imagine it would have to do with hormone detection. It would probably be boy-baby milk because of the presence of higher levels of testosterone.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/14 01:33 PM
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We will see. I still self-identify as feminist even after all of the information I'be received. I am not sure if I will ever be a RPW but I definitely don't think less of you because of it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/14 11:10 PM
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First off, I am skeptical of statistics that don't have satisfactory research into explanations for the statistics since correlation does not equal causation. Secondly I've encouraged him to be dominant in the bedroom but he really likes it when I do the work. Which is fine by me.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/14 06:13 AM
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I will look into them, I'm very interested in evolutionary psych (the human sexuality prof is on sabbatical and I've extended my degree just to take his higher level courses).
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/14 06:11 AM
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If it's important he will tell me. I encourage him to tell me if I'm doing something he really doesn't like but mostly I do think he just doesn't care. It might be that he deals with so much conflict resolution in his job that he just doesn't want to bother at home, which is something that never occurred to me. I will maybe ask him if that's why he's so relaxed... because if this is the case I may have to be a little more considerate in the case of disagreements.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 09:56 PM
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We've never had a major disagreement in our 6 years together. Generally I guess he submits more rather than even ask to get his way if I even propose something to him. He's very easy going but I like to think that I respect him enough if he said "no" - usually I make requests to him rather than telling him to do something and he just says "yes"
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 07:42 PM
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I personally think that there's less biology to it than some people think though and is also very much a cultural phenomenon. I've taken quite a few university courses on human sexuality and they aren't such stark of differences that all women will be feminine or men masculine. That said, we are different in how we are raised and some very clear physiological differences. That information on Dutch women makes me want to do more research myself. I know Sweden has reached sexual equality of gender…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 07:39 PM
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Academically I am much better off than he is. However he has a much better business sense than I do and has far better interpersonal skills. I constantly defer to his advice even on how to do my current job well. He also asks me for advice when it relates more to my skills and I proofread for him when necessary. And I have been with plenty of men who have wanted to be dominant and I am a naturally submissive person in many ways. All of my relationships with a man who wants to take care of me hav…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 03:54 PM
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I like that you encourage feminine traits. Its nice to hear they are appreciated here. I think I struggle with the demonisation of what are still positive traits in some of the standard feminist discourse.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 03:46 PM
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We go back and forth. We both hild supervisory positions so it's nice to have days where one person can check out of that role and be taken care of.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 03:43 PM
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He does reddit. Partly because he has a learning disability and can't read or write very well. He's embarrassed enough as it is without reddit shaming him some more. However we do discuss articles and stuff from TRP sometimes too.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 11:02 AM
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Her facebook is full of rants, sometimes really judgemental ones, for example.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 11:00 AM
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I hate the pity party train so much! Why care what consenting adults do of their own accord? It screams insecurity when feminists can support gay marriage, trans awareness and anything else except, heaven forbid, a woman who chooses to have the kind of marriage other women don't want.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 10:59 AM
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I can sew well enough to mend and we are both active in the steampunk community so even though it's not an important skill in day-to-day life it's an activity that is useful for our hobbies. I know that I try to give him foot rubs and be sympathetic to his needs whether it's down time gaming after work or just being considerate and running the dishwasher when it's full.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 05:31 AM
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My friend just does it in a very pushy way and gets very rude very fast with little provocation (she is much respected as a friend for other reasons though). This is also helping me understand her as well, so this will be a bonus to our friendship since I will have a better idea where she is coming from and perhaps avoid some of the more tense moments we've come across.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 05:28 AM
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It's a good one and definitely makes sense. I think I might even use it when some of my more intense feminist friends get on their high horses.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:38 AM
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I have been trying to keep the focus on a good explanation of RP ideals. I most definitely was not intending to bring a bunch of that in here if I have inadvertently done that. I definitely don't want to hijack you guys with silly questions all of the time but you've all got me convinced that there's definitely a lot of thought and worth to what you have to say to better myself and my relationship so I'm going to stay subbed so I can keep up with relevant information. I have an anti-feminist fri…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:37 AM
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Abusing medication isn't the best way to get through life? You learn something new every day, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:26 AM
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I think that adopting "niches" in the relationship as a more conscious thing may help our relationship a bit. Things aren't particularly traditionalist for the two of us in that I'm the domestic partner, we kind of have our own mix of different feminine and masculine traits with some overlap and also an array of varied skills we don't share. Thanks again for both your patience and your help!
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:22 AM
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Ah, I understand! Thanks for clarifying.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:17 AM
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I like the idea of sharing leadership myself - if someone has more experience with something they get a more weighted say in things or the leadership position. I think I do probably need to start being more encouraging though, your words and the other posters here have made me realise I need to reflect on this more.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:15 AM
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I really appreciate this post for so many reasons. I'm going to be a subscriber here just because of this post.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:12 AM
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I wish his kitchen was big enough for two people to be in there at once! I guess part of the thing is that my boyfriend has more interest and desire for feminine skills than I do. He is fine with that, he does sewing and gardening and cooking. I help him with these things and he's taught me a lot about most of them. He seems to like doing these things around the house so I leave him to them. I am very career oriented myself and our relationship is has the potential for me to end up in a higher p…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:09 AM
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I totally do attempt to cook. I'm more of a foot-rub-after-a-long-day kind of partner.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:06 AM
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So if I am in a relationship where my boyfriend has more traditionally feminine skills and I have some more traditionally masculine skills would that still work under RP ideology? We bring a vast array of things to the relationship and most definitely aren't striving to be equal when it comes to our goals or interests but he's a sewer and I'm more scholarly/career oriented than he is. Would this mean that he is not quality if I am the career person and he is the more home oriented one or does th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:06 AM
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So if I wanted to take this value and incorporate it into my life it would just be making sure that I have something to offer in the relationship? I like this. I need to work on some more skills (he's better at sewing than me too), though I love cleaning for my boyfriend so there's a start. I've also got some artsy skills, which he encourages and likes when I gift him artwork. I like this tip very much.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 04:02 AM
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I think that this situation would not ever work the same for me (or my boyfriend - I asked him what he thought about something like this once and he said he wouldn't like that), but it sounds like a totally valid one. This was a great explanation.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 03:59 AM
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Does being a RPW mean that each other has equal say in things or does the man automatically get the final say (obviously a respectful partner wouldn't exercise this often)? I guess I'm asking what "second-in-command" entails in a bit more detail. Thanks for your help!
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 03:47 AM
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That does sound like something I can get behind. I'm now subscribed, though I don't know if I will ever buy in completely (obviously I'm looking to be convinced). I do have a follow up: does RPW actively encourage cooking skills? My boyfriend is a former chef and loads better in the kitchen than me (not for lack of trying). That said I've at least tried to learn how to make a few decent dishes so he's not cooking all of the time. How does that fit in with RPW ideals? Thanks again for your help.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 03:13 AM
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Thank you very much for responding. I agree that most (or at least the loudest) feminists tend to want to be glass house/stone-throwing types.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 03:07 AM
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Oh, no problem at all! I am most definitely not here with any ill intent. It would be difficult for me to explain all the nuances of reasons, but I think of it as an analogy like this: BDSM is about trust and is a crazy extreme trustfall example of things. That is also something I totally respect without being something that works for me. That said, there are definitely things I learn here that do work for me, others definitely do not. Long story short, people are beautifully different and I see…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/14 02:30 PM
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MrsKittenHeel... I am sad that you feel sorry for me as a "blue piller" because I definitely respect and appreciate the ladies here of /r/redpillwomen even if I don't always agree with you on everything. I check out this sub from time to time and think it's absolutely amazing that there are so many ways to find happiness in this world. The way of the red pill doesn't work for me as it does people like you and OP (I really like what OP has to say) but doesn't make you wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/14 05:27 PM
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I don't have Target in Canada.
/r/MensRights01/06/13 09:01 PM
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That's a terribly laid out chart, but otherwise good data, thanks.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 10:19 PM
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I agree that they are mostly shallow. I get my nails done but it's because I bite my nails really something awful and when I get gel nails done I can't bite them and destroy them. Bras and boobs are kind of like when your junk gets into a weird position and you have to readjust, if you want a decent example. Even without a bra I sometimes have to readjust my ladies. And the tampon thing? Girls have to get over it. Roughly 50% of the population bleeds from their vagina every month and if you're e…
/r/MensRights31/05/13 10:18 PM
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I wouldn't even know where to find those.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 10:12 PM
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No, that would defeat the purpose. They exist solely to keep your boobs flattened to your chest so they don't bounce around and hurt when exercising but they show through a shirt like nobody's business and usually the straps hang right around your neck so anything with even a slightly open neckline looks really stupid.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 10:12 PM
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I'm honestly not seeing what you're seeing. I see a bunch of women saying that they'd prefer to switch-off from date to date but just basically reminding you that all feminists will have a slightly different viewpoint on it and that they can't speak for everyone (which is annoying) but I feel like you and I might be reading two different things. I've always just switched off. I personally do not want for a man to pay for me on a first date. Later dates? Sure, as long as I can pay sometimes and i…
/r/MensRights31/05/13 10:09 PM
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Again, your mom is a woman. She only deals with the problems from the perspective of a woman. You will only ever deal with them as a man. This is, of course, unless one of you decides to live in drag to see how that works out. You will never really be able to change her mind that your own issues are important too. I think maybe she feels that your own personal activism is something that is intended to undermine what she feels is important. Honestly, when it comes to MRA and feminists neither iss…
/r/MensRights31/05/13 07:26 AM
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I guess I'm not in the majority of women. It's kind of a stupid social custom and I don't abide by it. I've also asked out almost every single man I've dated so it's really something quite foreign to me to have to worry about who asked who.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 06:48 AM
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I read that post and she was saying "I've also heard the argument that because women spend more money on cosmetics etc." not that she personally thinks that way - regardless it's a stupid comment. That said, your sample size is 7, 2 of them said somewhat sexist things (one of whom was downvoted so hard the comment is not visible) and it looks like fishing for a confirmation bias to me. Not cool.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 06:28 AM
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Your link leads to a specific comment. Hence my reply.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 06:12 AM
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Of course it is and I never said I believed there was one. I've seen no real evidence of anything more than the consequences of women choosing being stay-at-home moms or working fewer hours instead of careers and then crying "foul" when that affects the average salary and number of women in positions. Certain careers do have problems getting women in them, but that's not a wage-gap issue in the least. Hence why, even as a feminist I am skeptical of any real assumptions until a statistically rela…
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:57 AM
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I do often stick to those built-in tank tops in the summer time. Thanks again for your help :)
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:39 AM
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I simply just want to see some statistics before I make a snap-judgement one way or the other. To make an uninformed decision either way kind of makes you look like a rash idiot, IMO.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:36 AM
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It's kind of where I end up being the most successful with clothes that don't suffer from the lack of pockets and still fit my WHR correctly. I do find it really irritating that I have to look that much harder for them, but I generally succeed and I don't clothes shop very frequently anyway so it's not like it's a major thing beyond slightly annoying.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:31 AM
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Thanks for the info though. I generally only wear bras out of the house and ditch them whenever I'm at home but personally I feel wicked uncomfortable without them. Maybe it's more psychological than I realised.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:30 AM
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You're basing this off of one comment that's already been downvoted into oblivion?
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:26 AM
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Oh Gods no! Mostly I'm talking about half-decent dress pants for work with pockets I can keep my pens in. I prefer my pants to sit above my hips just below the belly-button. I don't have a Walmart that I can easily access but I do have some luck at thrift shops.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:23 AM
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I can't imagine doing that. She really has no problems when walking, biking or working out?
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:21 AM
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I think that the thing that would most get the point across to someone would be to say "So you're saying that suffering/oppression/inequality is not something to be worried about when it concerns a smaller minority?" To me that's like saying before we can handle racism against Germans we have to address that against Africans, Latinos and Native Americans. To sideline a single issue is ludicrous.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:19 AM
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I think the biggest challenge between feminists and MRA (the sane ones on both sides) is that MRA are generally men and feminists are generally women and we can best see what directly affects ourselves. The problem comes into play when we forget that there are other groups out there that still suffer. And to me any kind of oppression is a bad thing and should be stopped.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:15 AM
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Bras for women with bigger boobs (like myself) are somewhat not a choice. I get severe jogger's nipple if I am doing anything for more than a few hours without one and I would much rather wear a bra than deal with that business. Not to mention they really start to hurt all around when I go for prolonged periods without one. I avoid underwires as much as possible but they still poke and itch in ways that I would rather they did not.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:11 AM
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When I buy men's pants and that's okay too but they generally aren't designed to be comfortable with my hip to waist ratio. I'm just saying it's annoying to have to either sacrifice comfort, functionality or time for such a simple thing. Key word being "annoyance" not something that makes my life a miserable hell or anything.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:09 AM
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I've struggled to find them at a good price and find a pair that fits properly at the same time. When I do find a pair I buy them right away and most of my pants have reasonable pockets but it's a legitimate complaint because they take some serious hunting to find. However, there are 3 complaints about bras so I'm assuming those ones are meant to be choices. Is it the tampon and the "sup-ing" that are not choices? I'm just trying to puzzle this out from an outsider perspective.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:00 AM
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Just because it happens with less frequency does not mean it it is not a concern. That's a silly way to deal with something. I think it depends on if you agree that both things are a problem. One of the things that I found most difficult to come to terms with (as a feminist, I'm browsing here and not a subscriber so feel free to disregard this post) was how horrifying it is when any injustice is swept under the rug. I have no idea how to suggest responding to people other than saying something a…
/r/MensRights31/05/13 04:56 AM
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Does anyone have any information anywhere on hourly wages compared? I don't know why this is never brought up anywhere online and honestly whether the pay-gap truly exists depends entirely on whether the hourly wage is affected or just the overall yearly income.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 04:49 AM
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I think this is the same as male sex-offenders in Canada. Not sure though, I've never heard it before and I'm Canadian.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 04:46 AM
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As a feminist (please don't shoot me, I'm hear to learn) I also think that most of these are absolutely ridiculous and are mostly self-inflicted annoyances. I do have to ask though, which ones are supposedly the choices? My list of annoyances would simply be the two-fold help/hindrance dilemma of bras and shallow or fake pockets in the majority of women's pants. Again, I'm asking because I want answers, not because I want to argue.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 04:43 AM
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