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The notion of being Primarily vs Secondarily interested is rather curious. My interpretation of such an idea is that the Primary is a genuine interest in a person due to their reflection of your value, where the activity of escalation and sex is a 'celebration' of your self-esteem. A Secondary interest is born from a Machiavellian perspective whereby the target (yes, 'target', for now we shift to a Game rhetoric) is selected and primed based purely on how they may serve one's interests. Indeed, …
/r/TheRedPill17/09/19 04:38 PM
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Bruh this guy just referenced Wittgenstein. Anyone who's read the Tractatus automatically wins an argument. Logical fallacy? Nah - you're just a hater...
/r/ExRedPill13/09/19 05:14 PM
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There's a BluePill undercurrent prevalent throughout this post's entirety. Sorry dude, but it sounds like Woman still sits atop the pedestal you crafted for her back in the day - and perhaps are still crafting for her. ​ Imagine having your dream girl literally in your arms, years of blood, sweat and tears to get to that level only for YOU to lose her due to your dick. All that effort to get this Level 99 Female! Man, and you failed the level! ​ What was the point of me being alive as a man if I…
/r/TheRedPill12/09/19 04:27 PM
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Cheers for the encouragement Dad
/r/TheRedPill11/09/19 08:11 PM
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The peasant's revolt is underway... Either those running this shitshow address these re-arising issues, or "we the people" cuck them and take this site for our own. Either way, it's becoming more and more obvious that those in the driver's seat are driving with an expired licence.. or perhaps they never had a real licence in the first place.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/19 07:56 PM
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Does the form matter? Do you understand the content of what I am saying? "When a wise man points at the moon, an idiot looks at his finger "
/r/TheRedPill15/05/19 07:51 AM
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A&A requires you to listen to what libtard has to say then come up with something witty. This doesn't always work because you're trying to fuck them over although you're investing into the conversation, giving them a chance (regarding they're on the ball) to hold steady and make you look a tit for trying to provoke some reaction by amplifying so much. Sarcasm, on the other hand, is a mere stab of "you're point is insignificant", which requires little attention and scarcely any wit
/r/TheRedPill14/05/19 07:49 PM
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9cq?
/r/askTRP08/12/18 03:54 PM
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Cheers. I'm continuing with counselling and will continue to read. No quick fix tho
/r/askTRP08/12/18 03:36 PM
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Easier did than done for myself, unfortunately. I've tried in the past and end up simply questioning the authenticity of the mission. Like I'm at Uni currently finishing my final year, and only recently I had something of a breakdown where I considered quitting due to realising I've been doing the course because it's what I felt I "should" do
/r/askTRP08/12/18 03:35 PM
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22,
/r/askTRP08/12/18 03:34 PM
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Haha yes u are rite. Good words thank haha
/r/askTRP08/12/18 02:30 PM
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Cheers. It appears I've the issue of trying to seduce like every woman I come into contact with, and getting down whenever I don't, which is more often than not.
/r/askTRP08/12/18 02:00 PM
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It's a pity you're that egoistic enough that you feel the need to gloat about it.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/18 12:46 AM
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Yeah, it's sometimes difficult to remind yourself of such truths when immersed in the ongoing situation. To accept the AMOGing as it's occurring and just smiling and realizing that this is part of nature, is something that is difficult but is a mindset I wish to cultivate. Any suggestions/books (other than Meditations and the Enchiridion) you can recommend to catalyze getting through the anger phase?
/r/TheRedPill19/10/18 08:48 AM
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Approaching seems beggy for me. I hate looking like I want something. I want to look like it doesn’t matter and I can move on. How do I approach in a non beggy way? You sure you've read (and re-read if you just skimmed through it...) the entire sidebar, and the top posts..? I doubt so if you're asking questions like this. I'm not good at approaching, but "I am the prize - I am kind enough to offer this girl a chance to get to know a high-quality man" is something you could tell yourself and the …
/r/TheRedPill19/10/18 08:37 AM
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And he's explaining it in Layman's terms to help the newbs understand.
/r/TheRedPill12/10/18 08:59 PM
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An enjoyable string of comments between you and OP. What did you make of Iron John - a book worth reading?
/r/TheRedPill10/10/18 04:54 AM
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/malefashionadvice
/r/seduction06/10/18 10:53 AM
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I was reading the comments attached to the archived link and burst out laughing at "Alpha fucks, beta bucks" - fucking brilliant. Edit: I read the archived post prior to yours; I must commend your skill at translating womanese - it's like Pook himself is the author.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/18 06:11 PM
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Nice message man
/r/seduction03/10/18 06:08 PM
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Any reason why the Weekly Improvement thread was revoked? I enjoyed contributing to that shit - I found it gave me motivation toward my goals and help me accountable for improving week-in, week-out.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/18 09:05 AM
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Posts like this, as ridiculous a concept it seems, could benefit from "[NEWBIES BEWARE]" or "[FOR NON-AUTISTS ONLY]" tags to keep away those whose personalities are a million miles away from being able to implement dark-triad stratagem (and other more 'extreme' TRP-related concepts) effectively and non-autistically.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/18 04:15 PM
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Nah, I hope to restart doing them. Uni's just started so I'll start day 7 in a week or so.
/r/seduction27/09/18 07:32 AM
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Pardon the utter randomness of this, but reading your comment made me realize that I'm insecure about my low n-count. So often recently have I come into internal conflict about whether I should just try to close girls because it'll get my n-count up, versus doing what I actually want to do. I realize now that I should still strive to take action, but shouldn't just see girls - many of whom I'm not even too attracted to - as 'conquests', but should instead be honest with my intention and go for o…
/r/TheRedPill26/09/18 09:15 AM
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Fuck this shit actually made me laugh.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/18 05:44 AM
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Basic: "I thought you were a strong, independent woman?" "Some random guy off the street saying 'hello' to you apparently" "If I did, do you think I'd be here?" Intermediate: "Cool, don't get eaten by a shark though." "Cool, don't get eaten by a shark though." "You're the one with that on your mind, not me... Dirty minded female." Advanced: "Who says you get such a privilege?" "Thanks, so now it's you who thinks that as well..?" "Adios!" Bonus Round I'd make a conscious effort to go and interact…
/r/TheRedPill17/09/18 05:40 AM
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Cheers man, this advice helps me out a load. I'm going into my final year next week, and most of my headspace is taken up by "you're N-count is one and you haven't gotten laid in a year! You suck! Approach, faggit!", and it's pissing me off as I've got other things I want to focus on and I must get a 1st. After reading your post, I realize I'd otherwise be going into Freshers way too try-hard. Like, I've got my first pre-drinks -> club night tomorrow, and my ego's been all "YOU BETTER GET SOME P…
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 06:04 PM
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Calm down Jordan, calm down. Nah but I get you.
/r/askTRP11/09/18 09:32 PM
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Cheers for the proper tl;dr. Literally skipped the post to find this.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/18 08:10 PM
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Yeah, and a lot of people will mentally masturbate and want the 'perfect' solution, when there isn't such one. They might end up trying some shit out, but most of the time will waste their time indoors due to the lack of complete certainty that what they want to try succeed - they're petrified of rejection/'failure'. A mindset shift of seeing 'failure' as simply a statement of "try it a bit differently next time" or "try another technique that's more suited to your personality" is helpful to est…
/r/TheRedPill10/09/18 01:58 PM
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I was going to mentioned incels even more proof, but you mentioned those lot in your response to OP. From your response, I guess a model for most newbies (myself along with most on this sub) would be to focus on practising game until you're able to get your primal, biological imperative's need met (sex), and expend your other energy on shit like the gym, studying, your mission, etc.. So once my innate need for sex is met, I imagine I'll stop feeling that persisting underlying sense of anxiety. A…
/r/TheRedPill10/09/18 12:43 PM
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I'm glad we both have the understanding regarding a lack of satisfaction long-term for PUA focus. I almost find PUA and the like cringy and needy, for they seem to be focused solely on picking up women and I think many men who practise PUA simply end up just as insecure and under-developed men as when they first started out. Many believe women will fill that void that was created throughout childhood, only to find, years later after hundreds of lays, that that void still persists. Indeed, the me…
/r/TheRedPill10/09/18 09:07 AM
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I have little experience, but from what I have I can say that I feel less joyous and successful now than 18 months ago when I was in a relationship. Back then the relationship was healthy and I felt completely in control. Now, however, although I've progressed in other facets of life, I simply feel a pressure each and every day to get laid. One realization I had yesterday was to just choose a mission. So long have I been frustrated for not having a proper life mission, that I believe it's probab…
/r/TheRedPill10/09/18 09:00 AM
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Thanks for this post. I recently posted in AskTRP because I am experiencing pretty much what you described you once suffered. This post has helped me understand how to resolve my problem: Get a fucking mission. Developing a mission is going to take some trial and error I reckon, but at least that's action-taking.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/18 04:12 PM
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My 'recluse' statement was a summary of the last X amount of months, in comparison to that of someone with a large social circle. I lift, but it's not like I'm going for a pint with the guys at the gym. I cold approach, but they don't usually end up going anywhere. The boxing I've only recently started and am working on building relationships. You think my problem is that I'm frustrated that girls won't 'lower their standards'? You think I'm delusional from the text you've read? Such words offer…
/r/askTRP09/09/18 12:41 PM
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I didn't mean for it to sound like entitlement, but more confusion at why I'm not achieving success in an area I assumed I would after work on myself. I think, considering my life, it's primarily because I'm something of a recluse at the moment and rarely socially interact (travelling and a software dev job in small town). My point is that I think I'll be better off when I'm back at Uni and will be able to better gauge my progress. > If it wasn't beneath Chad to do this I don't think it would be…
/r/askTRP09/09/18 11:51 AM
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Thanks for the response. I appreciate that my path should be on me, but for whatever reason there's a voice saying I should expand my experiences with women. Even when I'm at the gym, travelling my continent, reading books, there's some internal dialogue pressuring me to get better with girls and concentrate my efforts toward them. It's frustrating, because I'd like nothing more than to find some passion and not feel guilty for not approaching and feeling I have to be constantly approaching attr…
/r/askTRP09/09/18 11:18 AM
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And this slander seems unnecessary. So your genuine advice is to scrape the barrel for HB2s huh? I've approached very attractive women and have gotten numbers and a date or two. My point being that this doesn't seem 'fulfilling' and I'm confused at whether my concentrated efforts on women (and the other things I do to increase SMV for the sake of women) are healthy and will resolve internal issues. Your comment is little other than a statement of keyboard slander that provides no value for someb…
/r/askTRP09/09/18 11:16 AM
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If she wants your dick, she'll make - most likely somewhat overt - indications of such interest, and it's then your job to escalate and fuck. Don't rationalize her lack of putting out by 'oh, she probably is conservative' because guess what: she'll be getting rammed by other guys. Maybe she is a virgin and is apprehensive, but her natural hypergamous nature will help her make her natural intentions obvious.
/r/askTRP08/09/18 10:06 AM
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If she needs to vet you before sleeping with you, fine, but let her vet you on her own time and her own dime. Sometimes I wonder how many of the authors of posts on here have actually read the sidebar and extended reading... Apart from discussion/criticism in the comments, I struggle to see what value posts like this bring to this community.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/18 10:03 AM
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NEWBIE FINDS TRP - PRINCIPLES APPLIED! - FR (GONE SEXUAL) *fire emoji*
/r/TheRedPill08/09/18 09:52 AM
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I will. I've only one bollock so that might have something to do with my 'lagging behind' (each time I meet a new person they're often quick to point out "you're not really that old?!", which I now see as a welcomed shit-test that I always pass. So yeah, I'll be interested to see what my T-levels are at. I read through your long comments containing how you got that bird in order and the one containing the recording. I honestly feel somewhat inspired. I'm too young to feel bad for not having the …
/r/TheRedPill06/09/18 12:54 PM
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As /u/ThrowFader put, that part was particularly chord-striking for me. It could be tempting to use this post as a poor attempt at rationalizing not taking action, and I won't use it as such, but, what struck a chord for me (this is some introspective drivel, so pardon me): The biggest pressure I feel everyday is that of feeling I need to be doing better with girls. I feel my frame is quite strong, yet I feel some anxiety gap, for my n-count is one. I'm getting into cold-approaching in my countr…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 01:03 PM
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God, you remind me of how I talk - surely you're English... Nice bitesize chunk of reality though and an enjoyable read. I say 'keep it up' or anything as that's just condescending coming from me, but it's nice to hear you've experienced such a turnaround.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 11:30 AM
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Moral of the story she had her mind made up in the first 5 minute of meeting you that she was going to sleep with you. It was just up to you not to fuck it up. This should help take the load of many people's backs (mine included) when it comes to 'running game'. If you've developed yourself enough and have a solid enough frame, you shouldn't have to worry about these million-and-one 'pickup techniques', as she can already tell what an attractive man you are - and knows she wants to fuck you - al…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 08:15 AM
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I'll make a more conscious, determined effort in practising affirmations. I repeated a paragraph of them today over for a couple of minutes. I imagine I'll start 'feeling something' in regard to temporary mental rewiring if I practise them enough; I'll therefore persist and do them prior to going out. I'll also look into sleeping in a healthier position. Cheers.
/r/seduction01/09/18 02:29 PM
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Cheers - that song made my day.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/18 09:32 AM
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Cheers man, the support's appreciated.
/r/seduction31/08/18 08:26 PM
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I am man. Feel free to message me.
/r/seduction31/08/18 11:02 AM
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This is the book I'm reading these challenges from. The DocDroid link is just for those that don't have it.
/r/seduction31/08/18 07:58 AM
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And now you responded to my comment in a rational manner, and now my front hole glistens.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/18 11:57 AM
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I guess you failed his shit-test.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/18 10:55 AM
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The Power of Now No More Mr. Nice Guy How to Win Friends and Influence People The Charisma Myth The Rational Male Meditations
/r/TheRedPill20/08/18 05:25 PM
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she constantly is trying to argue against whatever he says and make him look foolish. Make him look foolish, but why? To me, it sounds like she's trying to cause conflict to use as a rationalization for her cheating and the - potential - end of their relationship. "I've been waiting this long to see you and within days of being here you're already doing things you piss me off and cause conflict with me? I can't take this.. we're over" or something along those lines, is the rationalization she wo…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/18 05:55 PM
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Thanks man, that'd be appreciated; I've been looking for a fart guide for a while.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/18 04:57 AM
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Fuck man, shit like this gives me a nice slap of "what you complaining about pussy?" Congratulations on your growth man; continue your journey to greatness.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 10:27 AM
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The one controlling husband was extremely beta, not alpha Good observation: he was mate-guarding by the sounds of it.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/18 11:55 AM
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The Purple Pill. Here I'll make an assumption about the readers, so the following may not apply to yourself.. I believe many of us readers here are purple pill: we read and read and read (you better have read that sidebar..), but the information we consume isn't fully internalised. This is due to two reasons: Our blue-pill conditioning is so deep and our Disneyesque idealisations so 'beautiful' that we resist, resist, and resist some more, all unconsciously. Our ego-investment is deep and we won…
/r/TheRedPill02/07/18 03:35 PM
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Very true. Hence women's covert communication methods in comparison to our more overt methods.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/18 03:19 PM
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Do it. And when she opens her mouth in utter shock and horror, you know what to put in there..
/r/askTRP02/07/18 12:49 PM
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"Your sister's tits are better"
/r/askTRP01/07/18 08:40 PM
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Okay, fair enough.
/r/askTRP01/07/18 03:22 AM
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Is this honestly not a humblebrag..? I imagine it'd be common sense on what to do if a woman pretty much overtly communicates her intention toward you?
/r/askTRP01/07/18 03:05 AM
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That's a fantastic belief to internalise to help whenever dealing with an extreme feminist; you can basically see every interaction as a more extreme test of your frame
/r/TheRedPill30/06/18 03:34 PM
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You bring them into your frame. You're the higher value man and they mean nothing to you. They are simply pests. If they completely block your way to the bird and aren't worth dealing with, then be abundant and she should see your value as high and flock over to you, rousing envy in the orbiters. Wish I had the experience, but go read that 'How To Get Laid Like A Warlord'; there are some fantastic tips in there. The points about 'passive shit-tests' are fantastic.
/r/askTRP30/06/18 09:58 AM
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Emotionally. I most definitely was putting off a negative vibe due to internal preoccupations. I feel pushing through mental blocks after facing multiple rejections is just something I'll develop the more I put myself out in the field.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/18 08:39 PM
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I get what you mean regarding your ex. My example would be last night: I was in a club feeling totally isolated and I recall thinking back to the comfort of being with someone whom I shared a strong emotional connection with. I think this could be your case also. Oneitis? Yeah, probably. There's no concrete definition, but I'd still say I've got oneitis for my ex, even though we split 10 months ago and I have absolutely no desire to fuck or see her again. Don't give up hope. You know, I think it…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/18 06:41 PM
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I'm not trying to suck my own cock here, but I've been meditating for a couple of years. Currently part of my morning routine is 20 minutes every morning. I feel I don't see the effects because it's just 'part of what I do', if you get me? It's like going to the gym.. It feels weird to not go to the gym, although you can see the physical effect of not going to the gym. I think I'll just try different types of meditation, for what I currently do is just focus on my senses (observe sounds, pay att…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/18 05:37 PM
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Thanks for the response man, seriously. I have few people to talk to and the guy I was with was rather inclined to gloat about his past experiences with ONS' and all his closes and shit, so that wasn't helping. Even some fucking internet motivation like your comment helped me out. I'll look into that form of meditation. I do journal each day but I sometimes find it difficult to scrutinize each part of the past night, so doing it meditatively could prove helpful.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/18 04:37 PM
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Positive: Went out last Saturday and last night for night-game. Last Saturday I met with 3 lads from an RSD page, meaning we actually pushed eachother to approach and shit. Met with one guy last night and that was a tough night man... Only faced rejection but I believe nights like that are important. Went down to London to meet these two guys, one of whom I met through the /seduction sub. Did some comfort zone challenges including dancing in front of a busker right outside St. Pancras station. S…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/18 03:21 PM
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I used to be total nice-guy and now I sometimes feel I've turned into 'too much' of an asshole when with girls. I feel I 'push' too much. Like, the other day this bird said I was the cockiest English guy she's come across. Last night I went out and was met with only rejections. Perhaps my looks aren't developed enough to pull-off this game? Or maybe because I was in a poor state, my frame was weak and this was obvious? Like, I know these weren't shit-tests and were rejections (read How To Get La…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/18 01:11 PM
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If you're on about the 'I've made my decision', that 'decision' was 'I'm not going to do it.' My intention was not to argue with others, but I tried to lay out logical reasons for and against it. I read your original post, and I appreciate those thoughts, and I agree. My final decision is simply: "This is not financially viable for me. Considering I want to travel after Uni and partake in trips and classes throughout my last year, spending so much money on something that isn't guaranteed to brin…
/r/askTRP29/06/18 11:58 AM
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The resistance is purely egoistic. It's just negative thoughts and me having some issues with identity in regard to not seeing myself who can do well with girls and shit. I agree, for less than 10k these issues could probably be resolved through long-term persistence and - potentially - therapy, if need be. Yeah, and that was one of my apprehensions regarding this: Not seeing long-term change. The premise is to 'shock you' into changing your mindset by exposing you to so much action over a short…
/r/askTRP29/06/18 11:53 AM
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It's a risk for sure, and I agree that 50% of my wealth (especially as a student) is too much to risk for something that isn't guaranteed and is simply a means of getting something I want NOW because I'm too impatient for.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 09:14 PM
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Yeah, I like your point regarding wanting significant change 'overnight' and can appreciate the truth this bears. The point the coach made (in attempt to counter this argument) was essentially 'we give you so many reference experiences that this change is made to be permanent.' How much truth this holds, I don't know... I wouldn't say I'm entirely lazy (although I completely appreciate the amount of 'Armchair Alphas' there are on here), but I definitely believe I'm impatient. I'm 21 and often do…
/r/askTRP27/06/18 09:12 PM
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I understand it's not a spectator sport, hence the bootcamp. Too often have I been guilty of this. The attraction (and why I even bothered filling out an application form) of it was how this bootcamp would consist of 6 hours a day, for 2 weeks, of people pushing you out of your comfort zone and building these reference experiences and helping morph your perspective.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 09:05 PM
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The idea is to shift your perspective through a multitude of reference experiences and understanding of your ability to achieve such things, not just pay a few birds to fuck you...
/r/askTRP27/06/18 09:03 PM
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I agree with most of what you say here. Indeed, I knew the salesperson's sole intention was to sell a product to me. The part that got me was 'put your self out there and go wild': I've solo-traveled a bit this year and, I find myself dealing with so much resistance regarding throwing myself into situations. My argument FOR purchasing this bootcamp was simply: What if someone can basically force you to take action, for 6 hours a day, for 2 weeks straight, while simultaneously helping you improve…
/r/askTRP27/06/18 09:02 PM
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Personally, the main attraction is being around people with so much experience who will push me to broke through all my personal barriers and help disidentify from this self that has spent so much time mentally masturbating but applied so little of what I've learned to this is association with a past self
/r/askTRP27/06/18 05:08 PM
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Yeah, I answered my own question after finishing the chapter. I've playfully self-deprecated for a good amount of time, and I know it's essentially A&A. I was just confused at Rollo's use of 'never', however it's obvious that I'm not painting 'myself as pathetic' since the sarcastic tone makes it obvious I'm sure of myself.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 11:17 AM
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The latter part regarding identity must strike hard for many on here, I believe. I've almost become subject to this temptation... Why..? Because it's the easy way out. It's much easier to (most probably) exaggerate an encounter and turn it into a glamorous infield and get upvoted by other crabs, than it is to take consistent, reflected-upon action and keeping your mouth shut about it. It's why I respect those with great status/success (whether in this sub or not) who are so humble; humility real…
/r/TheRedPill27/06/18 12:52 AM
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May just be how I interpreted this, but what you've said here makes no sense to me.
/r/askTRP26/06/18 07:59 PM
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Completely agree, and this is how I feel I handle the situation. It's interesting how, once you develop self-confidence, self-deprecation sub-communicates something much more attractive, completely naturally.
/r/askTRP26/06/18 07:58 PM
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Ain't it sad that shit like this happens... What a fucking insane world we live in...
/r/TheRedPill24/06/18 11:44 PM
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Bullshit or not, it's fucking inspiring. As /u/Marsupian said, it's more about the perspective you have on the infield - what you can take from it - rather than it's legitimacy. Be it bullshit, this shit is still fucking possible for the average Joe that spends his Friday's 'with the lads' watching 'the game' at the local bar 'having a few.' Being a man means there's no fucking excuses to not take action and mold your life to be exactly how you want it. The problem is that there's too many of us…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/18 09:20 AM
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Prior to my morning meditation I have a cold shower and drink a coffee whilst filling out The Daily Stoic and making my today's plan. The cold shower instantly wakes you the fuck up, and the latter gets my brain going. Perhaps I could try swapping meditation to be done prior to this, but this is what currently works for me.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/18 09:17 AM
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mobile furniture Made my day..
/r/askTRP22/06/18 08:56 PM
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I know. That wasn't my point. My point was that they sell the skinniest fit I know of, and I class such fit as 'too skinny' even on the 'right body'.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/18 06:37 PM
40

Even with the right body, go and put on some Topman 'spray-on' skinny jeans and you'll understand 'too slim'.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/18 06:27 PM
2

I'll give the book a go. Seen the film, but wasn't aware of the book's existence
/r/TheRedPill15/06/18 06:03 PM
3

Positive: Personal site almost complete. Got a few blog posts done. Will have been to the gym 4 times this week since moving back home. Have to bike a few miles each way to the gym, which has been good for my cardio. Completely booked my solo travelling holiday for a few weeks time. Finished reading my first fiction book (A Clockwork Orange) in years. Signed up for volunteering at a charity shop, which starts next week. Still getting up early. This is now becoming habit, I believe. Selling shit …
/r/TheRedPill15/06/18 02:24 PM
1

There's probably a long, very interesting discussion to be had regarding this. I understand your point, but there are negative effects to having too many children, of course, as we have learned throughout history (look at China, for example). We do learn to fuck at school, but we also learn a lot of other things (some can be coined futile) which serve as skills/wisdom to help further you in life. Also remember that people want to use you to further themselves. So they might sell you some shit wh…
/r/askTRP14/06/18 08:03 PM
3

Exactly as u/fashfront said, we are here simply to further our species; we do this exclusively through reproduction. We strive to become 'the best version of ourselves, for it increases the possibility of producing stronger, more able offspring, thus serving our nature, and that's probably why it feels so good to do well in life.
/r/askTRP14/06/18 08:00 PM
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Man's purpose is to continue his genetic line, which can only be done by having children. I understand the resistance to having kids, and I still feel this resistance. However, I feel that, once a man reaches near his full potential, he'll want to have kids so he can bring up children with a wealth of knowledge.
/r/askTRP14/06/18 07:15 PM
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I couldn't agree more with what is said here, and this this is pretty much comment gold. However, due to my lack to sexual experience, I feel so pressured to talk to women, try and get a good tinder profile, etc.. No matter how I lift, progress my life (I'm still pretty life-i experienced and young), I still feel I'm not making progress due to having no success with women.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/18 02:51 PM
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Thanks for this post. The last point regarding the building of fucking lower-quality women to boost self-esteem stood out to me. I get the conflict of "I'm not getting any and frustrated, but think I'm 'too good' for lower quality." I think I'm just rationalising my way out of not getting out of my comfort zone or, as Rollo puts it, I'm using this excuse as a buffer.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/18 12:33 PM
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Man, I thought you'd be referencing Body Count somewhere. Go listen to that shit.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 04:12 PM
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Neutral: Went to a crack den last Friday after the pub. A mate was on mandy and wanted coke. I basically escorted him. It was fucked up man. Like, these poor bastards all in a room together. I was speaking to one of them who was pretty self-aware, saying how you never want to get there, what mistakes he's made, etc.. It was pretty eye-opening, and rather sad in honesty. Some of them had been made redundant and had nobody and nowhere to turn to. It showed me how when shit hits the fan, you better…
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 04:09 PM
3

Never overtly communicate sex, especially if you're yet to fuck her.
/r/seduction08/06/18 11:07 AM
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That video you linked of that bird saving ~$1200 a month on dinners sickened me a little. Every now-and-again it's healthy to see the insane double-standard of women out there. Fuck me.. Her and the reporter are having a laugh about how she'd go on dates with guys she wasn't even attracted to, just so she could get free food. 30 dates in 1.5 months..? And I bet she'd fuck the guy if he took her somewhere fancy, just so she could rinse him again. Probably fucked a good 15 out of those 30, and tha…
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 09:05 AM
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No problem man; good luck and keep enjoying your journey.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 07:38 PM
1

Currently in the process of building my own site to try and get some personal brand thing going. I appreciate the pointer; website building is something that can more easily be freelanced so this is definitely a candidate. Mind PM'ing me your IG and I'll give you a follow; quite intrigued as per your FR.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 07:12 PM
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Computer science. I finished an internship last week. It made me realize I no longer want to work for somebody else, so my intention is to somehow work for myself and build something as I travel.. that's my current dream anyways.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 06:16 PM
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Sounds like you're completely living for yourself man; more power to you. I aim to finish Uni and find some way of sustaining myself so I can just fuck off, travel, meet people and overcome fears/grow. This story was something of an inspiration, cheers.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 05:17 PM
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Interesting concept. Regularly do I doubt myself because I may be doing things that aren't 'true' to my values and what I find enjoyable. What I take-away from this post is: Instead of whinging about something and not fully applying yourself because you don't enjoy it, say 'fuck it' and go along with it. Yes, it may be incongruent with your nature, but knowing that you're doing it from a place of satire will allow you to fully embody that 'persona' needed to get the most out of the situation.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 04:55 PM
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It remains true that a bee must be the active agent in the spreading of pollen, as it remains true that a flower is passive in receipt of the pollen. But still a bee cannot pollinate a flower until a flower opens herself for pollination. Great analogy man. Will look into the Udemy course and that's also a book I want to read.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 10:35 AM
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What do you want me to do write out a list of 100 specific ass steps so you can know exactly what to do because youre incapable? Please do, I'm sure we'd all really appreciate that.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/18 11:51 AM
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I thought we were pretty alright. Well, 'alright' in comparison to the US, anyways.. Apparently not..
/r/TheRedPill03/06/18 07:46 PM
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Imagine being such a cunt that you are willing to attempt to nuke your own fathers political career Reminds me of Mr. Orwell's 1984.. More shit coming to light huh?
/r/TheRedPill03/06/18 07:41 PM
1

What fucks me off is the hamster telling me "you're just making excuses" if I don't do all of X, Y, and Z. This just adds to fucking anxiety as I'm out. "See that girl you really dig? So what if she's with a bunch of friends and you haven't socialized in a couple of weeks and feel anxious, go hit on her!".
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 09:08 PM
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Positive: Solo trip to London this weekend to see a band and attend a festival. Definitely enjoying this workout routine. A couple more PRs on some accessories and mains, although I must ensure I control my caloric intake more. Really got into a solo coding project at work for my last two weeks, and busted the prototype out in 2 days. Taught me how much more I enjoy working on my own thing rather than on something someone else made. Negative: That voice at the back of my head is being a bitch. R…
/r/TheRedPill26/05/18 10:38 AM
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who I've been hooking up with haven't had sex with This is where I stopped reading. Edit: Okay, I read it. This bitch sounds BPD, don't entangle your life with hers. Also, ask questions on AskTRP and read the sidebar.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/18 11:51 PM
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wamen *wahmen - FTFY. Remember to respect them. You have to take the lead. She's sub-communicating "Hey, I find you attractive. See that couple over there tonguing eachother? Yeah, I want that.. With you. Now stop being a pussy and come and take the lead."
/r/askTRP18/05/18 07:34 PM
3

Great perspective to have man.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 06:44 PM
3

The point is that - from what you've communicated here - is that you have the mindset of someone who (if not already) has internalized that they are the prize.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 06:33 PM
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Neutral: Began looking into salsa classes and other meetup groups I can begin attending when I finish my placement. I must not try and 'do everything', and must instead select a few I can dedicate myself to. It's important I form a few friendships and actually begin cold approaching and getting exposure with women when I get home. It's cool to talk about women with select people and read shit on TRP, but I really want much more real-world exposure/reference experience as there's definitely a hug…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/18 01:40 PM
1

Thanks for putting out this concise list, some great stuff on here
/r/TheRedPill16/05/18 09:34 AM
2

Good idea about the jokes: it's said watching/listening comedy is a great way to uplift your mood. About to masturbation thing: if you're just wanting to cut out porn, try just going to your imagination, using one of your plates (or girls you want to fuck) as your 'material'.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 03:48 PM
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Neutral: NoFap (PMO) I feel is causing me to look at women in a more 'realistic' manner instead of just sexualizing them. I believe this reduces anxiety regarding escalation due to not pedestalizing them so much. I cannot say I have found 'my mission', but I've finally got a project I can be creative with and could bare some fruit in the mid-/long-run. Just having this 'mission' is allowing thoughts to bounce around my mind now-and-again, and I've found that, if I ever find myself dwelling on my…
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 01:43 PM
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Good article. I think with younger guys (such as myself), there's great temptation to LTR a girl after forming an emotional connection. The challenge is to resist that natural urge and keep growing I guess, until you get 'sufficient' experience and an LTR is appropriate.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 01:51 PM
1

So basically this?
/r/seduction06/05/18 10:30 PM
2

All of it.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 04:17 PM
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Neutral: I feel that, at work, I speak more controversially/openly than I perhaps normally would. I watched a JP clip last week about Ying and Yang, and it made me realize perhaps why I act more provocatively: I desire a mix of Order and Chaos, and I'm currently living a life of Order, which has become mundane and repetitive. I notice I'm more reactive to others and will bring up somewhat controversial things, just to try and add some more Chaos into my life. I also observe that I'm more needy t…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 02:27 PM
1

Shit man, congrats. In what sport?
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 02:19 PM
1

I'm sure I've seen this response on many other hamstering AskTRP posts. Simple yet very accurate.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 07:06 PM
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Either accept this inconvenience and rock it, using it as (perhaps) an expression of your masculinity, or don't wear garments that expose an insecurity and go with an alternative. A standard longsleeve tee or Oxford cloth button-down are great starting points in regard to style and flaunting your body shape.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 04:24 PM
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To begin with, yeah, get some great fitting, easy-to-wear shit like slim-fit jeans, a blazer, some henleys/v-necks and bam, you're golden. However, as you 'progress' stylistically, you want to aim to wear things you're comfortable in that represent your personality. What I find is that, if I'm wearing something that may look good to a bird, but isn't 'me', then I'm not as confident as if I were wearing something a little baggier and more coherent with my personality.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/18 06:59 PM
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It's good you can see yourself this honestly without at all being blinded by emotion; shows you're pretty self-aware.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/18 03:39 PM
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"I'm good at sex" Nah, for real though, props on the approaching. It is a fucking long and painful journey, yet I believe it to be incredibly rewarding and worthwhile. I'm 21 and from England; drop me a message if you'd be interested in day-gaming if you're relatively close by. I've actually met another guy from this forum; can be quite interesting to meet people from forums such as this.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/18 09:46 PM
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Nah, I'm English, and it wasn't an impression of being cockney, although that would've worked out better. Cheers for the comment; if you don't subscribe, do you just lurk?
/r/TheRedPill29/04/18 11:23 AM
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"because I don't wanna fuck them yet".. this is no excuse. "Yeah, I took her back to mine, but like, we didn't fuck coz, ya know, just gotta get her begging for it ygm haha so alpha" Going up to girls and giving them a compliment is fine as a means to desensitize you, but let it just be for that reason. "If you put a girl on a pedestal, she's forced to look down on you." - Chad.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/18 04:23 PM
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I'll really try and use your idea of turning off electronic devices an hour before bed. Great progress: keep up with the meditation man.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/18 03:00 PM
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Neutral: Went to London at the weekend. Really felt the contrast between where I currently live and a city in regard to the pace of things. Felt a decent amount of anxiety just walking around the place. Managed one approach in a store. Got her giggling and minor kino, but got rejected when going for the number. Beat myself up afterward; it more felt like the pressure on myself was eased. Managed another approach that day in a store, and the bird seemed pretty excited to give me her number. She w…
/r/TheRedPill27/04/18 02:48 PM
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..cus some dude fell off the building and died. Well..
/r/TheRedPill23/04/18 03:34 PM
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I think the lesson here is that you shouldn't be going against what you want and disrespecting yourself for the sake of 'getting experience.' I'm very inexperienced myself, and recently went on a date with a pretty fat girl. I don't find her attractive, but observed the temptation in myself to pursue her for sex for that 'experience'. A rule of thumb: If you don't truly want it, don't go after it. People on here have advised a "any hole's a goal" mentality, which I don't support, since I believe…
/r/askTRP23/04/18 03:21 PM
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That analogy and explanation was beautiful.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/18 09:58 PM
3

My first approach was direct, and I've not done one since. I believe you need to exert a lot of confidence for the girl to be receptive to such an approach. The intention is clear, but if you're not totally comfortable with your sexuality/testosterone/being a man, then that'll be sub-communicated and she'll think you're a little autistic. That's fine, as long as you can accept it. A couple of weeks ago I went on an instant-date for commenting on this girl's drawing then just teasing her about it…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 11:33 PM
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Keep fucking going man. One baby step at a time. After reading The Book Of Pook, I thought it'd be all so easy and fun, since that's how it is reading that book. What I found is that you'll get so fucking angry at yourself, so anxious and self-berating, that you'll end up just having to do something that gets you out of your comfort zone, and you'll suddenly feel a little bit of pressure lifted. The thing is to actually take baby steps with women. Maybe it's holding eye-contact with one girl unt…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 06:37 PM
1

Good job on the weight loss, it sounds you're being consistent in this area. Don't burden yourself with too much (if you are), and, as your parents have probably told you a million and one times: focus on your studies more than anything currently.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 04:14 PM
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Good on you for rebuilding yourself man, it sounds like you've come very, very far. It's worth writing down each insecurity you believe you have an really introspecting on where this insecurity may derive from. Find the roots, and you may find a recurring theme. This may reflect something about your personality that you can then address. Self-acceptance isn't easy, and putting theory into practise is difficult.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 04:13 PM
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It sounds like you're doing very well considering you've not been long out of an LTR, so good job there. I imagine there's quite a bit of emotion you've still got post-LTR. You may already be doing this, but don't suppress your emotion, learn to dissolve it and reflect on things that may be causing you mental strain. There's a great part of The Power Of Now regarding the dissolution of past pain, so I recommend this if you feel it could help you.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 04:10 PM
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I appreciate you reading through my post and taking the time to respond. To extend on your point: It's not even delusion when it becomes your reality. Everyone's reality is their own, and perception is everything. It's funny how you can reframe something from being terrible to being a learning experience. Overally I'm much 'happier' than I used to ever be, and am somewhat adept at reframing any 'negative' situation into a learning opportunity. Your example helped snap be back into realizing that…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 04:06 PM
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Neutral: Looked into the Law of Attraction. Interpreted it as: Positive thought inspires positive action, which inspires positive results. I don't think there's any hoodoo-voodoo bullshit, just the realization that positive thought usually provokes action toward your goals. I've always had trouble thinking I'm 'lying to myself', instead of just trying to see the good in things. For example, I'm not living in a place I like and don't have a fun job, and have tried just seeing the good in every da…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 01:18 PM
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Sounds like you've got a case of oneitis... Re-read posts regarding oneitis and next time, post over at AskTRP. If you're a casual reader and 'know most of the sidebar', I'd have thought you'd have more initiative.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 01:06 PM
1

Fuck. This just made me recall when I was in an LTR and she had a 'heavy period' and I realized she had been pregnant for a month or so... Only after reading through some of the comments here do I realize how fucking lucky I was and the sheer magnitude of how that could have otherwise affected my life... Christ...
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 12:32 PM
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My point is not that testosterone has no effect on performance (otherwise why would there be so much talk of it on here?), but that a lack of it should not be used as an excuse for a lack of trying.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 01:35 PM
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"I'm not alpha. Damn, must be that lack of testosterone in me. Oh well, now I know why I 'can't' approach or lift as much as I should be." Hamstering...
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 12:39 PM
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And that's why most men are sane and seemingly happy, isn't it: because they have their family and day-to-day responsibilities to keep their family living and growing? Most men find their meaning in their families. When I question why men at my workplace work under so much stress and pressure, showing so little joy at work, it's perhaps because their main mission is to cultivate a "family environment" for their spouse and their children. If you ask them if they're happy and, if so, why, then the…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/18 07:20 PM
2

And before you know it, you're being bombarded by AFCs asking "but how do I become alpha?" You're right, give her little attention and just focus on yourself, and her hamster will take care of the rest. In other words, your strong demeanor and initial game plants the seed, and she herself cultivates its growth until she's already decided she wants to fuck you.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/18 06:07 PM
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The amount of girls the select few guys fuck is mind-boggling for me. I think one of the things I most look forward to on this journey is going through stages of improvement and further uncovering my potential and the true nature of women. It must be such a perspective-shift: Going from wondering how you can 'win the affection' of even an 'meh' girl, to having multiple model-worthy girls competing for your attention and cock. I think that's what's so fantastic about TRP: It's lifted the veil of …
/r/askTRP16/04/18 05:27 PM
2

Bruh.. What the fuck.. If you've read books regarding Stoicism, personal mastery, etc., then you'd not at all feel inclined to boast about it on an online forum.
/r/seduction16/04/18 03:24 PM
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You don't buy something for the external validation, but you take into consideration the external benefits. If I'm going to buy a new jacket, yeah, I buy it because I like how it looks on me, but there may also be a thought of "girls will find me more attractive in this." I don't believe there's any harm in considering the external benefits, as long as the action your taking is primarily because you're doing it to bring you closer to your personal goals.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/18 12:17 PM
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What..? How the fuck did you come to that conclusions - that disregards so much... Maybe you buy a Ferrari because you were surrounded by them as a kid and are fascinated by their inner-workings, and you also appreciate the kick in SMV it will give you. You're assuming that a person who buys such a car has just seen an advert with a fit bird humping the bonnet, telling you "get this and I'll spread my legs for you", without considering anything else.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/18 12:00 PM
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I'm definitely yet to reach this point, and it would be nice to have this mindset. At the moment, whenever I go out, I'm usually always anxious as I feel I must approach people and must converse with random people whenever I can, or else the anxiety gets greater and I begin to feel bad about myself. I guess it's because I know I want to grow and it's just a pressure to help me reach my goals, but God does the anxiety get bad sometimes.
/r/seduction15/04/18 08:37 PM
1

Cheers for the well-written response. Everything's relative, I see that now. When I wonder why workmate is happy with his unemployed wife, dead-end job, and his lacking of bodily care, it's because he must still have a mission. But that mission may be "to afford this week's shopping" or "to clean the spare bedroom this weekend", and that's sufficient to keep him going happily..? What I can really extract from this is (as I didn't regard in my post): If you're successful (in your own eyes, of cou…
/r/askTRP15/04/18 10:16 AM
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Take into great consideration u/ronmexico8's advice of being surprised if she flakes. This is practising abundance mentality, which is key regarding success with women. See her as an opportunity to better yourself, nothing more. Don't invest more into her than she is into you. If she ghosts, think: "well it would have only ended up going southerly anyways" or whatever.
/r/askTRP15/04/18 09:58 AM
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Hah, I can relate to this. "Yeah, I'll just have her as a plate then go out and fuck other girls" was my naive intention, not taking into consideration that she was - and still is - the only girl I've fucked. Don't be naive enough to believe that you can just click your fingers and the emotion you have toward her will dissipate. You're human. To cut/diminish that connection you need to cut her from your life. I did the same and fucked her now-and-again, and it wasn't until she uncovered her true…
/r/TheRedPill15/04/18 09:54 AM
1

It's as easy as men to get pussy as it is for women to get cock if you're chad. Consider the 80/20 rule in this context: 20% of men get 80% of the pussy.
/r/askTRP15/04/18 09:07 AM
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As would I, for I would struggle to find the courage to do something so ballsy. However, you do not hamster away, justifying your lack of trying. Instead, I'd say "not now, but one day I'll have the bollocks to approach a bird in front of her mother." and then go do something else within my reach that still gets me out of my comfort zone.
/r/seduction15/04/18 09:04 AM
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This is no justification on doing nothing. Better to go over, introduce yourself and get shit on by the Mum, rather than do nothing. Rejection is always better than regret - le Pook
/r/seduction14/04/18 09:54 PM
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How have you gone in gaining back that momentum and getting back on the road of self-improvement? It's funny how the laziness can slowly chip away at you once you've hit goals that you once set out for yourself. I believe that's one of the reasons why it's important to keep your mouth shut. If you go flaunting (even mildly) your achievements, you're bound to get externally-gratifying shit from others, which makes you feel satisfied and only provokes stagnation.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/18 08:58 AM
1

The people around me at the time were those I'd met at the hostel, so had only known for a day or two. The only time I'm hit with the amount I've changed is when I'm with a group of old school friends, of which I was the least popular one and one that got bullied. The contrast between then and now is something I appreciate. I'm 21.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 05:29 PM
1

There aren't many negative things regarding your workouts are very productive, and working out is one of your priorities at the moment, which I imagine it is. Try to change one or two habits to reduce the negative things; don't expect to fix everything in an instant.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 02:41 PM
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That 10lbs is not pure muscle, not at all. I've yet to hear of anyone who can put on 8lbs of lean muscle in 2 weeks. A lot of this will be water weight and some fat, depending on what your diet is looking like. Also, appreciate the newbie gains, but don't think they'll be there forever.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 02:40 PM
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If getting a job will negatively affect your studies, and getting into college (whatever/wherever) is of utmost importance (as I imagine it is, and probably should be), then make your spending a priority for the time being. Also try just talking to other girls. It will make you realize there's more than one vagina out there and will subdue your oneitis.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 02:38 PM
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Completely extract yourself from that give. Withdraw all attention and let her message you first, then strictly follow the 2/3rds rule, perhaps even less than that, ignoring her at points. Also, don't ramp things up to 100 straight away. Perhaps you failed keto because you went from high carb -> keto, rather than allowing for a period of transition.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 02:36 PM
1

Good progress. It is always worth giving some attention to what could be improved, and what you could have done in situation X to increase the possibility of outcome Y. For example, what could you have done at the party to further your lay-potential? Yes, they were trying to hook you up with each other, but could you have further gamed one to covertly communicate your interest in her in particular, and therefore gotten with her? Have you told the bird at school that she should meet you at this c…
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 02:35 PM
2

All of what I wrote above are things that I'd read about and often gone "yeah, no shit" at when reading online. It was pretty relieving and satisfying to actually experience this shit 'in the field' and appreciate how different it is from being behind a desk, mentally masturbating and being a keyboard warrior. I also experienced 'Cal-girl entitlement'. I got slapped in the eye and punched in the bollocks twice for taking the piss out of this Cali-girl's accent. She did it 'jokingly', which is ev…
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 01:29 PM
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Neutral: Got back from a trip away on Sunday, so most of this update will be regarding that. Although I only went to one country for a week, in comparison to like 7 countries for 3 weeks at Christmas, I feel like I might have actually gotten more out of this trip. I put myself out of my comfort zone more, but more on that below. Handed in my notice for my internship today. I'm cutting it 2 months short because my family's a mess and I'd like to go back and try provide some support. I don't want …
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 01:15 PM
2

Damn, I always knew I was doing something wrong, and now I've finally managed to put my finger on it.. Gotta change that Lynx deoderant for Old Spice. "Hey girls, give these pits a sniff." panties moisten indefinitely
/r/TheRedPill11/04/18 10:11 PM
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How much have you guys traveled and, more importantly, what effect has it had on you? I'm finding that travelling helps broaden your perspective: it has helped me realize/understand that there are many paths to life; that one needn't jump into a 9-5 after Uni and, if living frugally, has the ability to travel the world on the cheap and experience so many things other people "wish they could", if it weren't for their responsibilities (kids, marriage, mortgages, most commonly). Furthermore, I've f…
/r/TheRedPill11/04/18 04:11 PM
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"Just want to have a girl at my place with as little effort as possible." Dude.. You gotta go out. Apply principles. Fail. Reflect. Try again. Fail. Reflect. Try again. Succeed. Reflect. Keep this cycle going. There is no shortcut to this shit. If you want an easy lay then go fuck a hooker or wait outside a run-down bar at 3am for some fat slob to fuck anyone with meat between his legs. It's more rewarding once you've failed over and over, then finally succeed, rather than trying to shortcut it.…
/r/seduction10/04/18 08:00 PM
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Neutral: Today I left for my trip. I took the last two days off work due to feeling completely overwhelmed and anxious. I didn't want to go away feeling like utter shit as I have been recently. The two days helped clear my mind and get everything sorted prior to departure. My parents both seem to be living with the fairies somewhat, where me and my sister can clearly see the ridiculousness going on. It's difficult to support people who say everything's alright, especially when you don't live nea…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/18 04:02 PM
1

Can you share any resources for this, especially for SMV-boosting purposes etc. I'm currently just looking at a few generic "boost IG followers" YouTube videos. The aim isn't to utilize IG to boost SMV (although this will most likely be an indirect result), but to instead be an outlet for one of my passions and also as a means to help break into an industry I'm interested in. I will head back into BJJ. I aim to spend a few weeks, up to to months, organising and getting my shit together then will…
/r/TheRedPill24/03/18 01:26 PM
2

I actually forgot about this, so thanks for the reminder. There's a leisure centre close-by, but all classes require membership (cannot afford this), but I believe you can do the rock-climbing separately.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 06:57 PM
1

I agree for sure regarding winging online vs actually taking action. I do try and make the most of my weekends and have used all my holiday time for travelling. I feel I ramble online as an extension of my journalling, and I also believe it's because I sub-consciously desire engaging in dialogue with others due to being quite isolated at the moment.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 06:56 PM
1

Mind explaining "peddaling some g"? As in dealing weed?
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 06:00 PM
1

I believe what put me off BJJ was that I was the least-experienced one there and didn't feel I was learning anything since all the moves being taught were very complex and didn't include any submissions. Thus, when we rolled, all I was doing was 'resisting' and using my strength to not get isntantly submitted. Of course, it takes time and discipline to learn such moves. I did feel good while at BJJ and got on with everyone, and always felt better after going. I think being in such a calorie defi…
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 04:08 PM
13

Neutral/Reflection: I have this idea that, after I finish my placement, going be to Uni will be 'Valhalla'. I should readjust this expectation, as I could be setting myself up for disappointment. I feel I'm kinda 'coping'/stagnating at the moment due to how my family's a mess, am pretty much friendless and on an internship I don't really enjoy. I want to shift my perspective to see the good in every day, and I think I could do. My problem is my lack of direction - I'm not sure where I'm heading …
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 01:22 PM
1

I'd go for a lean bulk. If you feel you've got a few pounds to shed, then cut for a few weeks, then head into the bulk, but you need a solid foundation before you're able to reap the rewards from a cut.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/18 01:58 PM
1

Good to hear such an event hasn't put you out the gym. That clearly demonstrates your will and determination. Keep up the lifting man, solid progress.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/18 01:55 PM
7

Don't outright tell others what you're learning. It's fine to drop the odd pill here and there, but I find it more entertaining and rewarding to just observe the truths happening around me, and smile to myself. Yes, help ones you care about where you can, just don't flaunt your newfound knowledge.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/18 01:53 PM
14

Neutral/Observations: After I approached this HB8 in the gym, I felt fucking great for like 2 hours. I feel I have (to an extent) re-identified with the self that had the belief that I was unable to get laid, hence why I've been getting sexually frustrated and still have my ex on my mind. This cold approach was basically a "fuck you, negative self-talk, I do have the capability to talk to girls I deem sexually attractive." So the feeling of joy was more proving my ego wrong (disidentification, t…
/r/TheRedPill16/03/18 01:22 PM
7

Again, I'm young so perhaps don't get it. However, am I incorrect in saying a man can continue to build his empire up into his 50's and 60's? That, it is at this point where is perhaps more likely to capitalize on what he's been building throughout his life. On the contrary, women thrive throughout their 20's, and it is very rare to find one that is 'living in her hay-day' when in her 50's, like a man is able to in regards to his job/mission/SMV.
/r/TheRedPill12/03/18 02:17 PM
1

It's something I want to get back into in the future. I enjoyed it alright, and the people there were sound. I believe once I'm able to manage my time better, organized my life, and get some things off my plate that are already making my a little anxious, I'll start it up again, mainly since it's the only time in the week I can actually be around non-beta males.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/18 12:04 PM
9

Positive: NoFap 3 weeks. No edging, porn etc.. Spoke for my team in the company's Employee of The Month meeting. It felt fucking good to have that ball of anxiety back again. Public speaking is something I'd like to take classes for when back at Uni, as doing these speeches is a great way to get out of my comfort zone. During the EoTM meeting, I wasn't clapping when everyone else was. Doesn't sound like much, but when the CEO would start clapping, so would everyone else (sheep much, huh?), yet I…
/r/TheRedPill09/03/18 01:13 PM
1

Thanks for the well thought-out response man. You're definitely right man, like, I see my biggest 'area to work on' is women, yet this is very difficult to work on atm due to my life situation and lack of bollocks. Thus, I seem to be trying to do so much every night after work. I had a mini-breakdown sort thing recently and, from today, am focusing on one large-ish task per night. I've definitely experienced that negative feedback loop, and that irony of "trying to work harder and harder, that r…
/r/TheRedPill08/03/18 04:19 PM
1

What difficulties are you having with your diet?
/r/TheRedPill02/03/18 04:20 PM
2

2lbs a week is a great average. I assume a lot of that was in the first few weeks due to water weight. Keep at the gym man, and try channelling your anger toward lifting up heavy shit and putting it back down again.
/r/TheRedPill02/03/18 04:19 PM
14

Positive: Finally realized that the only reason my ex still plays on my mind is because I haven't fucked anyone since - thus sexual frustration has kicked in nicely. Gotta aim to do something about this for sure. I cannot say "oh yeah, I'll tackle my 'issue' with girls when I'm back at Uni", because that's over 6 fucking months away. Keeping low carb. Finally seeing some loss in weight. Back at my desired level of consistency regarding the gym. Habits such as playing guitar and dev'ing in Unity …
/r/TheRedPill02/03/18 01:20 PM
1

TRP Weekly Improvement: Good: Started low-carb/keto. My cut ain't going fantastic (hence introduction of stricter carb-intake), however I've hit PRs in my compound lifts over the last couple of weeks. Acquaintences have been unreceptive to any attempt I've made to socialize, even though these attempts have just been grabbing a pint. Usually, this would bring me down, however my attitude toward this has been "they're missing out, fuck 'em, I got plenty of my own shit to get on with", which I thin…
/r/TheRedPill24/02/18 02:02 AM
4

No.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 09:15 PM
7

I remember from HTWFAIP the "use what instead of why", which has helped me develope deeper conversations much more successfully
/r/seduction16/02/18 02:20 PM
1

What was the comment?
/r/askTRP09/02/18 08:23 PM
-1

"Nah, I've got an Xbox for that."
/r/seduction09/02/18 08:07 PM
2

"Are you saying I haven't already?"
/r/seduction07/02/18 08:14 PM
8

"Yeah, I got it from my Grandma." "Not all of us can afford shitty iPhones ya know" smirking "Nah, I found it earlier on. There's some great midget porn on it though"
/r/seduction06/02/18 09:44 PM
1

"Damn, I'd fuck him" - already taken I see. "I would. Ever been in a spit-roast?"
/r/seduction06/02/18 09:42 PM
1

Yeah, I find myself too caught up in comparing myself to the people who write the FRs sometimes due to my lack of appreciating the struggle they must have been through to actually get there. It reminds me of Kai Greene's speech where he basically says how people only see the highlight reel, but not the hundreds/thousands of hours of blood, sweat and tears it took to create those few seconds/minutes of glory..
/r/TheRedPill04/02/18 10:21 PM
2

Your "P.S." part regarding the lack of coding some side-project is something I resonate with, and makes me doubt the path of being a software engineer after Uni. Being a software dev in a tech company that only has 4 women, being surrounded by people who won't even go for a pint with me on a Friday night, and don't see the point in working out, definitely puts a downer on me sometime. Fuck going straight into a 9-5 after Uni, I'm planning on saving and just fucking travelling for a year or two. …
/r/TheRedPill04/02/18 10:15 PM
2

I'm 21 and am currently doing a year out of Uni working as a 'technical intern' (software developer basically) in a small town. The 'problem' is that I don't see myself doing this after I finish Uni, so I see some futility in my 9-5, which has caused me to feel like I've lost my sense of direction. A passion would be clothing/fashion and guitar. A couple of months ago I headed to my Uni town with just a rucksack and a sleeping bag, with the intention of sleeping on a bench if I didn't pull. Fort…
/r/TheRedPill04/02/18 07:17 PM
2

"When you stop believing you need women they start believing they need you." Nicely said. I've recently gotten out of an LTR and am in the best shape of my life. My question: I still have trouble with sexual expression. I've only been with one girl so, although I want to continue working on myself, I find that I still feel my weakness is with girls. I live in a small town and work with only males, so it's not all the opportunistic. Monk mode until back at Uni while only gaming at weekends..?
/r/TheRedPill04/02/18 02:28 PM
7

She wants to chase you. Once she knows she's gotten you, and you almost succumb to her, then the excitement she gets from the partnership/relationship/whatever-the-fuck is gone.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/18 02:25 PM
1

The response to "I was her first" made me laugh, although it's a sad truth.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 12:30 AM
1

It's still his responsibility to take that challenge and save as much possible. She has no money? Then he gives an excuse as to why he's spending less on shit and on her (the transition to living on fuck all to save is gonna be apparent) so she doesn't go into super-hamster-overdrive mode and questions his every move.
/r/askTRP03/02/18 06:57 PM
2

Positives: Got myself to BJJ this week. It's been since before Christmas since I last went, and have been skipping it due to anxiety and laziness. Felt fucking ace to be back, and it almost felt like I was missed by the guys, even though this was only my third session. Positive sign for my charisma. First week of properly cutting. Binged about 1000 calories this evening. I'm using the same caloric intake as my cut from last year, and today I just felt weak as fuck. I feel I binged because I've j…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/18 08:47 PM
9

"Yeah, I'm the complete embodiment of a living, breathing vagina." Then just laugh to yourself then get on with whatever you were doing before being called a pussy.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/18 01:28 PM
40

For readers, this response shouldn't be seen as a "Ha! I counter your Law 35 card with my Law 28 card!" It should instead be "Indeed, patience is key, for to constantly try and force things would convey neediness and my results will plummet. Instead, I should be patient if the girl becomes unreceptive, but should Enter Action with Boldness whenever I commit"
/r/TheRedPill24/01/18 10:43 PM
2

Looks like you missed the "(and then burn it)" part.
/r/seduction23/01/18 03:37 PM
2

It feels pretty good reading a post like this. I find this as well: When I go out, I go out to just have fun. The times that are shitty are when I'm constantly beating myself up for not doing x or not succeeding as much as I'd hoped with interaction y. Being in your head like this shows neediness anyways, and a lack of humility. The nights you go out with no expectations result in the most fun, and usually yield the best results anyways.
/r/TheRedPill22/01/18 11:02 PM
1

"For the next 3 months I tried to get her to come out on a date." Yeah.. It sounds like you're a little far from being that 'other Mike'. Carry on progressing.
/r/seduction21/01/18 08:16 PM
49

"Shouldn't have done that shit at work" You shouldn't have done it because you don't shit where you eat, not because you were of low SMV. If you were big dick Chad, this wouldn't be the same story, of course. Her not turning up for work numerous times a week is her responsibility, not yours.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/18 04:57 PM
137

"I've been reported at work before asking a girl for coffee" What in the fuck has this world come too..
/r/TheRedPill01/01/18 02:19 PM
1

I definitely think there's a point where it stops becoming constructive and starts becoming PDD. There MUST be resistance against such 'facts' and viewpoints, to allow for people to solidify such beliefs and develop their own. Questions like those in the original post, for example, develop my understanding of Briffault's Law, it's applicability/relevance in the world, and most importantly help me grasp the concept. If I read something and it 'clicks', then cool, but if that concept/fundamental i…
/r/askTRP21/12/17 11:16 PM
5

I have a friend of a friend who (apparently) slept with 5 guys in one night - she literally went from lad to lad over the course of the evening, getting fucked. I mean, how in the fuck.. And the next day she'll go out and people will probably just see her as a normal girl.
/r/TheRedPill21/12/17 08:55 AM
7

Yet betas will still date those chicks who have an incredibly high n-count. Women who've been on the CC for a decade or so always seem to end up settling for a beta-provider, and it's then common for that provider to be cheated and wonder "I did everything for her, and she repays me with this?!".
/r/TheRedPill20/12/17 10:53 PM
2

Cheers man, this whole thing's one big fucking journey for each and every one of us on here.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/17 08:21 PM
-29

I didn't think I'd have to reiterate, but: That's my opinion. For your sake, I should've prefixed that with "I believe"..
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 03:22 PM
11

Positive: NoFap for 1 month as of today. Still reading Meditations every day. Meditating is still habitual. Persistent gym-going. Best shape I've been in. I'm beginning to really 'get over' my ex. It's been difficult, since I talk to no other women (hoping to change this), however I had my first day off work on Monday and had a complete breakdown in the morning. I journalled >6000 words of introspection and reflection, and the conclusion of it all was how I'm now able to look to the future and a…
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 01:15 PM
-58

I don't decide, I just left what I believe to be true. I left the comment as I don't believe posts like this should at all be encouraged on a place where they're not welcome.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 01:10 PM
-80

This isn't even a FR. Please post this elsewhere, or not at all. This subreddit is not the place for posts such as this..
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 12:37 PM
8

I don't really understand the state of TRP at the moment. I'm positive it would be a sorry state if all posts on here were like this one. It's nice to see young people are being redpilled and are slowly reaping the rewards, but doesn't this circle-jerking have room elsewhere? The high-quality, eye-opening posts are still here, and still come in, but the "I've finally swallowed the pill" posts seem pretty unnecessary and don't benefit the community, other than the one posting. I dunno, I just thi…
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 11:52 AM
9

Many look at all posts here as an extension to their Bible. Everything really should be looked at from a perspective of neutrality and suspicion, so as not to take everything you read right on board, but to look at it, process it, then make an informed judgement on it's quality/applicability.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/17 11:59 AM
49

Not really, since he recognised his beta attributes rather than neglecting them. The only thing cringe was referring to her as 'my one'.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/17 07:40 PM
1

She's probably got so many orbiters, and she's probably presumed you're already in that orbit zone as well. You have to show high SMV if she really is a HB9 and is showing you attention, as she's got dozens of guys who've already fucked up. Chat up other girls, be nonreactive, agree and amplify, flirt and touch her when you fell like it and it feels 'right', and do so unapologetically.
/r/seduction13/12/17 04:39 PM
1

I reckon I really got into the heavier shit when I realized I could use it to help vent out my anger. After a night out having been rejected, or just not made any moves, I'd come home, plug my earphones in on full blast and just stick on some grindcore for a while.
/r/askTRP09/12/17 05:27 PM
4

That's a fucking neat and simply way of looking at the journey.
/r/askTRP09/12/17 05:23 PM
1

Great advice, and I've tried looking for them as dancing in a class is something I've wanted to do for a number of months, however there's only a dance school in my small town. Gotta keep at it with other things.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/17 09:47 PM
1

"TRP Endorsed" I assumed this flair meant something along the lines of "I'm pretty mature and have internalized a lot on this subreddit", however you seem to have just been triggered like a feminist. Unless your angsty responses are pure satire..?
/r/TheRedPill07/12/17 06:44 PM
2

Just cut communication and move on. If she pops up to you again and doesn't fuck you about, then by all means go for it without expecting anything. There's no point trying to save a sunken ship.
/r/seduction07/12/17 06:38 PM
2

Read up on IOIs.
/r/seduction07/12/17 06:37 PM
1

Dating girls can be part of focusing on yourself, as long as you're doing it for self-development rather than hoping to get in a girl's pants. Just don't get oneitis.
/r/seduction07/12/17 06:36 PM
1

Jordan B Peterson, https://www.trp.red/podcasts, Tom Torero (episode #98, for example)
/r/TheRedPill07/12/17 06:32 PM
1

I'm kinda in a similar predicament: I've improved myself drastically over the last 18 months, have a wealth of experience in my field, going travelling soon, various hobbies and interests, lift plenty, eat well, etc.. However, I still feel fucking lost and in my head every single day.. I'm also struggling to find the answer, but I find that journaling your thoughts, emotions, and interactions of that day helps somewhat. I also believe you need some goal: something to work towards every single da…
/r/seduction07/12/17 06:29 PM
1

It depends if you're making small-talk out of neediness and from fear of being awkward. The truth is: the girl's most likely feeling just as awkward as you are, so keep her emotions from flatlining by inducing this awkwardness.
/r/seduction06/12/17 07:19 PM
22

That's interesting, because I don't believe I'd ever get back in a relationship with my past ltr, however the thought of different guys fucking her does stir some anger. I think it's useful to introspect on why that is. I guess there has to still be some emotion there. It must be comparison, I reckon. It's a lose-lose comparison: If the guys are of higher SMV than me, then I'm thinking "I wasn't good enough so she's found somebody (should be plural actually) better", and if they're of lower SMV,…
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 06:55 PM
4

But it's true that women will go for a guy whom they believe has that potential, that driving force. If a guy's 'made-it' but has plateaued, he's (generally) going to have less success than a guy who's only half-way there, but is quickly making progress. That's a 'general rule', but if you've read about I think you know what I mean. McGregor's bird saw that potential and his dedication towards his ambitious goals he set for himself, and therefore stuck by. He was/is probably selfish and was focu…
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 06:46 PM
3

I can appreciate that developing yourself for the hope of attracting a unicorn would prove dissatisfying, however there are reasons why people go through the - often painful - journey. Having the side effect of attracting beautiful women definitely contributes motivation towards increasing SMV, I believe.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 05:37 PM
25

And what would make it not worth it? If your life situation bears few opportunities, surely it's worth either changing your environment, or working towards the future, knowing you'll sometime be in a place where you'll be able to reap the rewards you've earned due to putting in the work from less-opportunistic times?
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 02:18 PM
3

Since she got you over to her bar, and got you to wait outside for 10 minutes in the cold, you appear to have fallen into her frame. Sounds like an instant red-flag when she brings up the bouncer. I feel a more optimal response to that situation would be to say something like "I'm headed to bar x, meet me there. Will let you know if I dip" or something. You could even keep it to "Headed off to bar x" and not respond unless she was asking "In bar x, where are you" or something.
/r/askTRP05/12/17 07:10 PM
1

I don't agree that the women should 'stay home and raise children' if you're implying that you shouldn't be raising children as much as your partner/ex partner is. A sidebar post discusses how 90% of divorces are initiated by women, and I assume you have some appreciation of the detrimental effects divorce can have on children, especially when it results in the 'fighting' over the child(ren). I'd conclude in saying that women are naturally hypergamous and selfish (no shit, right?), and will ther…
/r/askTRP05/12/17 07:04 PM
0

When in a set, don't focus on when to smile, or if 'this' or 'that' should have been responded to with a smile, as you'll end up getting caught up in your head and will have a higher chance of losing frame and presence. K.I.S.S. Smile when you're genuinely happy; don't try and hide a smile, as that sub-communicates neediness. Don't smile to try and defuse a situation with a girl, as it's better to make her feel awkward, because she's feeling something. A smirk however, when passing a shit-test, …
/r/askTRP05/12/17 06:58 PM
3

Just be blunt. There's no point beating around the bush when re-opening, or else you'll give off neediness. The last think you want to communicate is "hey, I have no options, so am desperate and am making an attempt to get you into my life." Who gives a fuck if she does/doesn't remember you? If you've come across as having a high SMV, she'll want to get to know you.
/r/seduction05/12/17 06:54 PM
3

Time, effort and money are all things you choose to invest, and you also choose how much of each you invest. Is there a net positive? As in, will spending 10-20 minutes swiping each day, and sending a copy/pasted message to each match be worth it if one or two turn into potential plates? If so, then you have your answer.
/r/askTRP04/12/17 07:04 PM
7

"Choose other things to invest your ego in" To newcomers (like myself), I would like some expansion on ways to do this. My input would be: To find and completely hone in on what's recommended here on TRP: your job, your passion, your hobbies, the gym, eating clean, travelling. However, for people like myself, I seem to identify with my past and how I've never had much success with women, and there's my ego constantly niggling each day at me, and I feel I 'need' to resolve this. I don't believe I…
/r/TheRedPill04/12/17 06:59 PM
2

Whereabouts in the UK are you from? I ask since I travel relatively frequently and could do with someone to go out on the field with. Anyways, my advice would be to focus on the now. To focus on the "hello, I'm Burrows", and that's it. By no means am I any good at approaching, and I should therefore try taking my own advice, but honestly, if you can observe your thoughts and realize their futility and how they only serve to restrict you, then you will feel some liberation. Lying to yourself won'…
/r/seduction04/12/17 06:17 PM
2

My problem-solution may help you out: I have an inherent problem with sexual expression. Therefore, when I see a girl I find attractive, my thought pattern generally runs along the lines of: "Damn, she's attractive, but if I approach her and it goes well, it may lead to sex and me having to escalate, which is scary as fuck. Also, she'll know what I want, and because I don't have enough self-confidence, she'll be unnatracted as she won't find me attractive enough to want to fuck". See the problem…
/r/seduction04/12/17 06:14 PM
2

I'm okay with small talk, and even okay with doing some kino. But when things start to get sexual, or even if it's just making the initial 'hey', I just freeze up. I can usually only small talk or kino if we're in the same social group or if a friend opens a set, and that's very rare since I have no social circle where I currently live. great name btw
/r/TheRedPill03/12/17 10:27 PM
2

Yeah, it's a sad/funny irony really. I recall when I used to crave a relationship. Eventually, when I met my first ltr, it was when I was invested in myself and wasn't bothered about a relationship, but it was convenient at the time, so I formed one with her. After a while, I didn't want to be in the relationship, and showed weakness, thus the relationship ended. I'm completely self-motivated (I believe?), but I've re-gained the bad habit of comparing myself to others, and not knowing which way …
/r/TheRedPill03/12/17 05:28 PM
1

That's something I could do sometime. Doing shit which forces you out of your comfort zone is a good way to get out of it.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/17 01:59 PM
7

Good call. My fear is that of sexual expression. If I'm able to get the "holy shit this girl might realize I want to fuck her" mentality out of my head, perhaps my anxiety won't be so acute.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/17 01:58 PM
0

That disconnection is vital, yet difficult achieve due to my inherent neediness. I'd like to just approach and get a positive response. I've done three, two of which were 'poor', and one was a number which ended up in a flake. The point is that even on the more negative ones, I felt great after the rejection. I just have the problem of setting so high expectations on myself; I feel as if I'm "late to the game", and should suddenly be able to be fluent with girls and have a decent n-count.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/17 01:57 PM
11

I find it incredibly daunting to even talk to a girl in a bar/club. Have you any 'way smaller' tasks that I could use as goals day by day?
/r/TheRedPill03/12/17 10:45 AM
1

I'm also off to those exact places this December. I'm solo travelling so, if you're there and local, how'd you like a pint with a randomer? If so, what dates are you there?
/r/askTRP29/11/17 08:32 PM
4

Yes, I imagine it will mentally harm you. I'm in a very similar situation with you, and I continued fucking my ex until I moved out, then fucked her some more thereafter. She texted/snapchatted me every day and I thought all was gravy. This was until she told me how big this guy's cock was and how she was hurting after getting fucked by him. That woke me up a little. Since then I've pretty much gone cold turkey. I've seen her twice since, and showed much neediness once and considered trying to f…
/r/askTRP29/11/17 08:27 PM
13

Agreed. Ensure to bring roses and bend the knee when you first see her.
/r/askTRP29/11/17 08:22 PM
2

"Yeah, same here. Fuck those on here for an easy fuck. Want to get coffee (as friends, of course)?" When you meet, just kino her and build attraction as you would normally. If you get: "Hey! I'm here to make friends, remember..?" as you touch her thigh, just agree and amplify: "Yeah, I do this to all my female friends?" "What? Just checking if you lift. I need a new lifting buddy" "That's my friendship-initiation gesture; consider yourself a friend"
/r/askTRP29/11/17 08:20 PM
-1

NoFap's no miracle, but hone your attention on things other than sex, and you'll find that, once you get over the first few weeks (or mont(s)) of not splurging, you'll find yourself (most probably) better off. I say 'most probably' as NoFap's no miracle, as stated by atticus, however it can help in developing discipline and it's (apparently) been proven to increase T-levels and some other good shit. Just don't use masturbation as a means to not go out and approach or escalate when on a date, and…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 08:17 PM
1

21, only kissed two girls (sober), had one ltr (and overall one partner). My 'desire' to improve with women is greater than most of my other desires, and I don't enjoy it being that way. I live in a small town few opportunities, however I go out every weekend and attempt to get out of my comfort zone. My place of work is a SME software company, and nobody parties (50 people work there, most 30+ with kids), so I have only a small social group there. Recently broke up with ltr, only have a few acq…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 08:05 PM
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Look on MaleFashionAdvice and check out the WAYWT threads. Also, search 'inspo' or 'inspiration' on the search bar and limit it to MaleFashionAdvice, MaleFashion, or Streetwear (depending on how you like to dress). The journey for finding your style may be a long one, but I just advise going to shops, trying shit on, and slowly figuring out/developing what you genuinely enjoy wearing.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 07:59 PM
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There's a funny irony to this: The 7-8 guys get rejected by the 5-6 girls: The guys fear the rejection from the 7-8 girls, yet get rejected by the 5-6 girls as pre-preemptive defence, as described in other's comments. This is a confidence hit to the man, since "how can I attract a 7-8, if I keep getting rejected by the manatee?". Of course, it depends on the man, and this is never always the case, but it's sickeningly humorous when it is.
/r/askTRP29/11/17 07:51 PM
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Give Sylosis - Teras a listen. Also, Jungle Rot are pretty good, if not a little repetitive. Also, Cattle Decap, if you like the grind sorta shit. I struggle finding post-90s bands as well tbh, but perhaps I'm not looking hard enough.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 04:21 PM
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Thanks for this post, it's done me some good. Taken from today's journal entry: "It's also important that I take baby steps with regards to approaching/talking to women. Taken from 'Talk to Everyone', a post submitted today on Seddit: "If you're trying to talk to the hot blonde, but you can't even open up a conversation with a random stranger during a queue, then you have already failed my friend." Do I expect to just 'pull' at weekends..? Really man? I expect myself to just be able to go up and…
/r/seduction28/11/17 11:07 PM
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"gently touching her ass against my penis... Was she flirting?" Come on man..
/r/seduction28/11/17 12:11 PM
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I agree, and learning such a thing is what I have been learning for since I found this place last year. It's a process, and seeing small improvements and making mistakes and learning from them is what gets me out of bed each day. I've just come out of my first ltr, so learning and internalizing that I'm doing all of this for ME right now is something I'm finding difficult, as she regularly takes up headspace, but am progressing towards.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/17 08:37 AM
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You can get girls sitting next to you in lectures..? Damn, we have 4 girls in a group of 280, hence why it's vital to look everywhere but my course for girls.
/r/seduction28/11/17 12:11 AM
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Also doing CompSci. In my second year I volunteered, was a software developer for the Uni, was part of multiple societies, maintained an ltr, went to the gym 5 times a week, never ate ready meals, and still got a 1st. Oh, and I still had time for myself, pretty much every day. No excuses.
/r/seduction27/11/17 11:04 PM
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From your waking hour to your sleeping one, are you busy with 'life'; is every minute consumed by something, or are you making excuses?
/r/seduction27/11/17 08:03 PM
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cheers
/r/seduction27/11/17 07:05 PM
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What do you do with your spare time? You do have spare time. Do you watch Netflix/game because "I'm too tired from all this work", or do you pursue hobbies and interests? If it's the latter, then you're constituting an interesting life. If it's the former, then it sounds like you're rationalising.
/r/seduction27/11/17 04:21 PM
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I've experienced this over Tinder, and it's been pretty de-motivating. "Am I that unnatractive that I'm getting rejected by these manatees?" are some thoughts that come in time to time. This sheds some light on the issue, and it makes a lot of sense. Logic guys, logic.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/17 09:18 AM
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21 here and am glad I found this place when I did. Yeah, I still suck ass with women and expressing my sexuality, but I've made progress. Now, I can only really do shit with women at the weekends due to my awkward life situation at the moment. I'm currently stuck as I'm on an internship but don't feel I have any goals, other than those gym-related. I don't speak to any women other than at weekends, and even then I struggle due to my intense fear of rejection (excuses, I know, but it is difficult…
/r/TheRedPill27/11/17 09:13 AM
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I'd just fucking withdraw attention, entirely. I've had problems where I've felt sympathy, and then have turned into an emotional tampon as I became manipulated into feeling bad for the interaction.
/r/askTRP25/11/17 12:46 AM
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Having those end goals concrete in your mind, fully internalized, is vital, but so is the knowledge that you're doing it ENTIRELY for yourself. Currently fresh out an ltr, I still have thoughts that I'm lifting for her, that starting up BJJ would impress her. These thoughts are shaken off after trying to observe why they're present. Time's a healer, but so is getting out there and trying to be more social - so I think I'll focus on the latter
/r/TheRedPill25/11/17 12:39 AM
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First one of these. All criticism/advice is appreciated. Postive Blocked past LTR on everything. Started BJJ yesterday. Gym 3-4 times a week for the last couple of months (2 weeks were 3 times, the rest 4 times). Started 5-a-side football 3 weeks back. Began getting my head into drawing and designing a garment now and again. Meditation everyday. Reading something self-development related every day. Keeping on top of my macros - my cut is going smoothly and I'm probably the most aesthetically ple…
/r/TheRedPill24/11/17 07:26 PM
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I'm on my internship until July, so that isn't an option. As soon as this is done I'm outta here - I've been taught a lesson: not to live in a small town at this age when trying to grow as I am. Any other advice, with the knowledge that moving isn't an option?
/r/seduction23/11/17 06:08 PM
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Thanks for your words man, all what you've said will be read over and taken into consideration, especially regarding getting something on the side and about learning something. I guess I'm just barely satisfied with the progress I make because I'm too used to comparing myself to others and feeling inferior, which I know is a little crazy, especially because the only people I subconsciously compare myself to are those on TRP.
/r/askTRP22/11/17 07:51 AM
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I greatly look forward to next September when I'll be back at Uni, however I'm here in this town until then.
/r/seduction22/11/17 07:48 AM
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I'm on this internship until July, so I'm here until then. I didn't, no, as I should have done.
/r/seduction22/11/17 07:48 AM
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I appreciate the feedback man. My only cause for concern is 'where my heart lies', and by that I mean: 'will I be in the field of CompSci for the remainder of my life, or is fashion something I should follow, since that's the only thing I've ever been passionate about' (got into it 18 months ago, hooked on since). I'll definitely look into investing, since I've always been curious about that, yet it's always intimidated me. I also think you're correct about learning - this is probably what I mis…
/r/askTRP21/11/17 11:38 PM
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And a good random list at that. Cheers.
/r/seduction09/11/17 04:05 PM
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Great reminder man, thanks for this post.
/r/seduction26/10/17 12:54 PM
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Aka non-neediness - Manson's preferred term. Getting there is a difficult fucking journey for many, myself included.
/r/seduction20/10/17 03:53 PM
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I can empathise. I recently ended it with my LTR - there was a point where she was seeing this orbiter, and I can pathetically jealous. From that point the relationship was dead, perhaps it was dead before to be honest, and this was just some overt evidence of such. "She should know how to behave". Yes. If you're going to 'commit' (temporarily) to a girl, meaning that she is the girl you fuck exclusively (we all have different morals, I know, but that's one of mine), then she should be of high v…
/r/askTRP01/10/17 07:12 PM
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Interesting response. Personally, I'd go with option 3, as I've a lot to learn and probably still possess an amount of naivety. Let's say I was in OP's situation, and took option 3. Would you remain with her, constantly holding a grudge against her? Or would you try to accept that she is as she is. To me, both sound like bad ideas, and, if staying with her, the only real option seems to just work on yourself as much as ever, so she makes the decision FOR HERSELF to not see other guys as she know…
/r/askTRP01/10/17 01:48 PM
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I interpreted it as "you can sort it out with your ex", hence why I asked as your words didn't make much sense. I'm plateless atm, however this is something I strive towards, as I've not had a plate before. What I get from your words are "get her out of your life, then get your plates to replace her ASAP". Now that's all well and good if you're prepared and have kept frame and continued developing your social circle. That was my pitfall, and has served as a great lesson.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 12:45 PM
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By sparring partner do you mean the girl I was in the relationship? If so, how could I have used her to sort it out? I quit because it's what I wanted to do. However, your point about not planning and waking up thinking "well, now what?", is entirely true and I was naive.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 11:27 AM
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Great response. Procrastination and making excuses is a way to hide the real reason behind not doing shit - fear.
/r/askTRP30/09/17 08:02 PM
1

I wish
/r/askTRP01/04/17 09:52 PM
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How do you handle your girl having close male friends though? Dropping her after having a conversation like that with a guy seems a little irrational.
/r/askTRP01/04/17 04:28 PM
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Fuck. It's not even for the sex, I know I can get that elsewhere. It's that I'm too scared to cut things off for what could be 'petty reasons', but aren't petty in the world of the red pill. It's gone downhill, but I've hit her hard with 'I'll leave if you disrespect me again' in hope to 'make things better' instead of just giving up right off the bat. Is that what's 'right' to do? To just leave straight away when my gut tells me to? Was I in the wrong to strongly voice my opinions, demand respe…
/r/askTRP01/04/17 04:07 PM
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Thanks for the detailed, explanatory response. Her reaction to my "we're on a break" has told me she's still invested an attracted to an extent. I'm looking to show needlessness and a lack of investment to try and 'save' what could be lost. However I'm also prepared to learn a harsh lesson if this 'being a bitch' comes to bite me in the ass.
/r/askTRP01/04/17 12:16 PM
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Jesus Christ it hurts that I believe every word you say. It's like I'm too much of a bitch to induce this much pain. The fact she's reacting like this (constant calls, crying, texts looking for answers) shows she wants to save the relationship. So she does care. I just want to induce a lot of dread to make her realize what she could be losing, to try and straighten her up. Yes, this is the bitch move I see..
/r/askTRP01/04/17 12:02 PM
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I completely agree, and it's kinda like I'm just not going through with the break-up because I'm scared, and honestly, I am. I'm sat here getting a shit-tonne of texts about her crying and stuff because I said we're having a break. Fuck. Shit's hard.
/r/askTRP01/04/17 11:06 AM
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I've told her we're having a break until Thursday and am rejecting any incoming calls and pleads for an explanation. Urgh, I'm just not strong enough to throw away such a relationship in an instance.
/r/askTRP01/04/17 11:02 AM
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I've run that scenario through: I break-up with her. She proceeds to defend herself and try and 'save' the relationship and make me her bitch. I stand ground. She gets with this guy and disregards me.
/r/askTRP01/04/17 10:46 AM
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Originally I wanted her as a plate. She was the first girl I ever went on a date with, the first girl I properly kissed and all that shit. So I guess there's some oneitis present.
/r/askTRP01/04/17 10:44 AM
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I guess I'm just having a hard time even accepting this truth. I don't believe in fairytale shit, but I guess I just 'want it to work'. I guess that's just me being a bitch, since I'm not accepting these blatant truths.
/r/askTRP01/04/17 10:43 AM
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Work on yourself. I'm unaware of your appearance, demeanor etc, so it could be helpful to find a friend - whom you trust - to give you an honest assessment of yourself. If you feel you do not like who you are, then the best thing you can do is to work on yourself, then you will begin noticing others becoming slowly attracted towards you. That doesn't mean you don't have to work for what you want, as that is never the case.
/r/seduction21/09/16 08:27 PM
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Tell her you're not interested. You can be blunt about it or a bit more vague, but just let her know you have no intention to go with her "as a friend". Seddit
/r/seduction30/04/16 08:45 PM
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Finished that book for the first time last week. Can honestly say my level of happiness has increased and, in conjunction with practicing mindfulness, I'm not stuck in my head nearly as much.
/r/seduction25/04/16 07:46 PM
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Great post, one of the best on here for me because it resonated so well with me and my current life situation. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction24/04/16 07:20 PM
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I found this guy a few weeks ago, he deserves so many more viewers for the amount of effort he puts into his videos. His Q&A's are great as well.
/r/seduction23/04/16 10:04 AM
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Damn this shit is inspiring me to copy you! Setting goals on social media and writing daily reports for others to see and comment on would give a lot of motivation/pressure to reach your goals. I wish you look on your journey!
/r/seduction13/04/16 10:45 PM
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Awesome post man, I know a lot of this since I'm subscribed to your newsletter which is really helpful.
/r/seduction11/04/16 08:09 PM
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There's a girl in the flat next to me who I've been close to for a while but never dared make a move out of fear of rejection. We had a 2-week break for Easter and I told myself I'd grow a pair and overcome my fear. When we got back I asked if she wanted to watch a movie, we cuddled for a bit then I went in to kiss her after the movie finished. Was absolutely shitting myself.
/r/seduction09/04/16 09:08 PM
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This was a great read for me. I'm currently in my first year at Uni and can definitely relate to you in terms of how inexperienced you were, I was a kissless virgin until 2 nights ago, now just a virgin haha. Really inspirational post man, awesome to see what you can achieve if you face your fears and do things that will help you grow and develip.
/r/seduction08/04/16 08:13 PM
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Brilliant response. The "101011..." got me good.
/r/seduction17/03/16 08:40 PM
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Yeah, was a poor response but it was spontaneous. Didn't really evaluate what she she could say after that as it was said so fast.
/r/seduction09/03/16 02:48 AM
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What made you cringe? The way I set out the post and how I wrote or the actual interaction itself?
/r/seduction08/03/16 03:58 PM
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Thanks mate, that means a lot to me, much appreciated.
/r/seduction07/03/16 11:14 PM
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Thanks. I'm more than happy to post updates as I continue approaching girls, if that's something that would be appreciated/welcomed on this sub.
/r/seduction07/03/16 11:07 AM
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Sound advice, cheers. Next time I guess I'll be much more aware of any girls looking at me. So if I retain eye-contact for a few seconds, I go up and get her attention open. Would I approach from behind/the side? I mean, if we've made eye-contact whilst walking past each other, I approach from the side/behind?
/r/seduction07/03/16 11:05 AM
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That's genuinely helpful, thanks for that advice. However, what if you're walking down a busy street, or the girl is naturally shy or you only get a glance? I guess a lot of this is situational but how would you go about approaching a girl in one of these situations?
/r/seduction07/03/16 03:30 AM
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I understand what you're saying, but she was bitchy about it, I could have been stunning and she'd probably have said the same thing. I was nice and she was very negative towards me. I'm not saying I found a pattern or anything, I never said that. I did learn something, it may not have been much, but it was something, and I'll learn more the more I approach.
/r/seduction07/03/16 12:07 AM
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Compliment her, get into some small talk, ask for her number, make a bit more small talk, then leave. It was spontaneous, the object of the approach WAS to make the approach, the outcome didn't matter to me.
/r/seduction06/03/16 11:32 PM
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Thanks. I mentioned RSD videos in the "For the Future" part. I agree, I think they're great. The hotseats are extremely informative.
/r/seduction06/03/16 07:59 PM
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