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I think this is just how life works unfortunately. Congrats on your glow up.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/25 06:14 AM
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At your age if you want kids I think you know what you need to do asap. This is not a sustainable rship.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/25 12:07 AM
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The same values and goals in life. I always thought the trend of valuing “chemistry” above all else was very unwise. There’s plenty of charismatic men who have mastered the art of creating this. Likewise there’s plenty of lovely men who are easy to talk to and get along with, it doesn’t mean they are husband material. What really matters is that you share the same core values and goals in life.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 09:48 PM
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Stop driving to his place all the time and see how quickly the rship fizzles. I’m sorry, I don’t see this going anywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 08:07 PM
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Lol! Yes but I don’t say it out loud.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/25 07:22 AM
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Yes I agree with your interpretation. You should not feel bad, your interests should lie with yourself and you are not a well of empathy for him at the expense of your own emotional needs being met. You sound like a caring and empathetic person. In terms of talking to him, I wouldn’t be overly specific, but perhaps say something like based on his behaviours he doesn’t seem emotionally ready for a relationship, and a proper relationship is what you’re looking for. That addresses both (1)his emoti…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 11:54 PM
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I’m sorry I really don’t like that he brought that up and in the manner he did ie. place, timing etc. I wonder if he’s not over her and he mentioned it on the last night to “keep you in your place” as such ie, don’t get too attached kinda thing. Like that could have been such a nice moment for you two and he actively chose to round your holiday off with that?! It’s also three months and non exclusive so I think it’s prime time to discuss what you’re doing anyway. If you really like him, have the…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 03:17 AM
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Agree with this. She’s an influencer and that comes with projecting an image or lifestyle to stay relevant. It’s a shelf life that’s for sure. OP don’t compare yourself too much.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/24 05:32 AM
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In my opinion definitely old money behave like this, and some new money. It’s no different to other classes or subsets of society marrying people mostly similar to themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/24 02:03 AM
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Is he really your boyfriend? Are you in a proper committed relationship and have you had that discussion? I’m sorry OP.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/24 08:25 PM
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Just try to always look classy and mostly covered imo. It’s hard developing your sense of style but keep an eye out for well dressed women when you’re out or style icons you like on instagram or whatever. Men of certain social standing do not want a partner who “shows it all” for various reasons, including how it makes him look to friends/family/collegues. How you dress for him at home and during intimacy is a completely different matter lol.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 10:48 PM
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This. OP acted unhinged and he backed away.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 10:44 PM
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I think they probably do, but that’s because they’re more attractive to women. IMO Personality type is most important, followed by opportunity and access which have changed massively in recent times and become less relevant for reasons I mention below. Being married to a high earning man is not for the faint hearted, because naturally other women will find them attractive and will make passes at them. The big mistake, is marrying a low earning man or a man with little access to women and thinkin…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/24 06:54 PM
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Some people are late bloomers, it’s okay. Sounds like you’re in a better place mentally now which is great. Time to get physically healthier. I will say that time is slightly against you, so you will need to prioritise dating and meeting potential partners. Maybe Freeze your eggs but also know they’re not a sure fire insurance policy. Good luck! x
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/24 05:39 PM
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Please leave me alone
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/24 09:25 AM
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You literally DM me too. I don’t appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/24 06:14 AM
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Sure, if you say so sweetheart. Also please be mindful how much you reply to me every time I post. You did this last time I posted something and then you randomly DM me and it’s honestly a bit much tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/24 04:48 AM
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What does your husband do? That gives us the true indication of the league of man you can get.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/24 11:41 PM
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Good points I agree. Also the journal is of such poor quality that it has been de listed and doesn’t even have an impact factor. They are a definitely decent and relatively safe option for women looking to settle down although they are typically on the more conservative side and will expect the same of their partner. Also they get snatched up early. I like a previous posters idea about listing different professions and their positives and negatives. @throwaway talks you’re reaching. Male doctors…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/24 07:03 PM
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I disagree with you.. You speak with such authority for someone I assume is not a doctor. There is a lot about our physician culture that outsiders don’t know or understand.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/24 09:51 AM
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Doctors are conservative and are a safer bet than other high earning men such as those in finance or media etc. (source: I am a doctor). But of course all high earning men are attractive to many women so you must pick carefully x
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/24 01:33 AM
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100% agree with all of this. Thanks for the post x
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/24 01:31 AM
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Yes but OP is a normal weight. If she wasn’t then that’s different.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/24 10:17 AM
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The real answer is to go to his “notifications” section on his iPhone and scroll through the apps there. Whatever app it is, has notifications turned on. Figure it out and work backwards from that. What you do with the information you find there is up to you. My hubbys never done anything but the scientist in me is always a proponent of getting my own objective info. Good luck x
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 05:10 AM
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Are you underweight? If not, then I honestly think just ignore it. Imagine a man asking you to lose some weight and the reaction most women would have. My husband doesn’t comment on my weight at all, aside from one time I was extremely underweight and he started making dinner for us and gently suggested once I needed to eat more. I really don’t think it’s a man’s place to be dictating your body size or shape, unless you’re one of the unhealthy extremes. Your body your life.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 05:06 AM
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He’s not your friend. He’s your ex. If he wants the emotional support that a girlfriend would offer then he needs a girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 10:13 PM
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This is such solid advice. I do struggle with being able to stfu at times
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 05:45 AM
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Does he not respect your input/experience/knowledge as a designer? That’s my only concern from your post x
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 05:43 AM
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It’s exactly as I said. Other posters have mentioned it too perhaps read theirs as well.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 07:18 PM
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Where did I say it was? I said the denial of male sexuality as it exists is possibly just another form of emasculation. It’s the denial by the women, of his visuality, that is emasculating.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 06:59 PM
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You really don’t seem to understand the concepts discussed here and I suggest you read the side bar.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 10:21 AM
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Men have been trying to not hurt our feelings since the beginning of time. Pretending they don’t notice attractive women or our weight or whatever else is just a part of life that keeps the sexes happy together.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 08:58 AM
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It’s the same as asking my husband if I look fat when I know damn well I’ve put on pregnancy weight and he says no. It’s not true but makes me happy. Bless him but it’s still not true and we both know it haha.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 07:39 AM
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I know the wife goggles concept but never thought of it as “immunising” men hehe which I find funny but also I agree with you. Yeah I agree, I have several older brothers and the one that’s nerdy and quiet with a controlling wife is the only one I’ve seen be mesmerised by beautiful women (not around his wife), it wasn’t obvious but I’ve known him my whole life so I saw what was happening and said something to him about it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 08:13 PM
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Thanks for the reply. Yes the latter behaviour is gross. A man who respects and loves his partner will reign it in to the point where it’s a non issue.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 08:10 PM
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Thanks for the reply. I don’t think it’s healthy to live in denial, and a quiet acceptance of how things are (of course with your own boundaries in place) is better for everyone. I suppose I’m also interested in the ongoing emasculation of men I’ve noticed in society and I see this as part of it. Perhaps being the “thought police” gives these women a false sense of control and I think that could backfire for them.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:55 PM
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Yes this makes sense. Thanks for the reply. I just think men are more visual/sexual by nature and variably learn to control it as per their experience as you say. A woman claiming her man never notices attractive women is kinda denying reality.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:40 PM
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Such a solid response thanks for the reply and thought put into it. I really appreciate it. Yes I’m surprised on a subreddit that a few women in here are in denial and maybe haven’t read the pre reading. These women I’ve met in real life it def seemed like a bragging thing and it’s like “aaaah….whose gunna tell them” kinda thing.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:30 PM
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This is very interesting reply and thank you. I agree, I have personally seen some of the quieter/nerdier/not seen many beautiful women be the ones who act weird when eventually exposed to them. Super interesting idea re the wife goggles.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:23 PM
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That’s interesting thanks you. I find evolutionary psychology very interesting. Also helps me feel more at ease in accepting differences between men and women.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:19 PM
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Thanks for the reply. I agree. Men are delicate in the topic and are careful to make their us feel special, and that’s the right thing to do. Yesssss Rihanna
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:16 PM
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Thanks for reply. Yes I agree. What’s that saying “I’m married, not dead”! His commitment love and attraction to you are the most important things. Not trying to be a man’s thought police.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:12 PM
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Thanks for the reply. Ooh I haven’t been to that subreddit, I might check it out!
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:11 PM
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Thanks for your reply. I’m assuming you’re a guy? I was interested for a guys opinion on the matter. Hmm you’re right it does come across as bragging. Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m certainly no expert but have several older brothers all married happily and parents happily married for forty years and I feel I have some understanding and acceptance of male differences.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:10 PM
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Yes I agree with this. Thanks for the reply.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 07:07 PM
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I respectfully disagree. You’re confusing “genuine interest” with “oh she’s pretty” then moving on with his day.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 11:01 AM
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Oh my goodness. You’ve avoided my content completely. All the best.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 10:36 AM
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I’m not sure why you’re so fixated on my delivery rather than the content. People can believe what they want, but I think in the interest of male and female relations we should (1) not deny differences between men and women and (2) not try pretend men aren’t more visual than we are. I think it’s far more classy and traditional to accept the differences, and not try change the facts because we feel uncomfortable with them. It’s controlling.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 10:16 AM
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That’s such a high level and interesting analysis thank you. I don’t get jealous either! That’s actually one of my main points that I didn’t really get across at all. I know that emotional and mental attraction are so strong and I feel comfortable with my hubby, and also that he thinks I’m a babe. But I accept that’s separate to pure physical attraction which for men I think they probably see fleeting beauty everywhere because they’re visual then probably forget. Lol that’s funny about you guys …
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 10:12 AM
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Yes this is what I thought when I read this.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 10:00 AM
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Also love for the word “copium” hehe
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 09:51 AM
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But Heterosexual men are attracted to women? Hmm yes there are women in real life too. I’ve met several recently with this sentiment and they seem rather forceful about it. I actually have no evidence that my husband is attracted to other women but I’m sure he is and I don’t try and fight it. It is what it is and men are by nature rather visual.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 09:44 AM
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That’s rather high for your age but I’m a bit of an old fashioned millennial. I think the lying was the main issue. You’ve recognised this as an issue though and that’s great. Perhaps take some time to yourself to work on yourself and think about the sort of young woman you want to be, and what kind of relationships you would like. You’re young and can make so much progress, just try be a little more purposeful xo
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 09:41 AM
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Agreed and thanks for the reply. Sounds like you have good open communication with your partner. Yes perhaps I was too bold about the flirting part, some men might not notice but also they have form for thinking women are flirting when really they are just being a friendly waitress or whatever so I have no idea lol. xo
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 09:38 AM
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Yes I agree. I would not tolerate ogling or comments personally. Some women seem to have happy relationships and they comment with their partner on attractive women passing by, not for me but if it works for them then great. I think perhaps it’s a need to control and potentially further emasculate men by denying that they are more visual than us. Is the average man going to notice a billboard in passing that has a Victoria’s Secret model or similar of his physical preference on it? Yes. It doesn…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 09:35 AM
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I don’t believe that’s what he means but happy to be corrected
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 09:23 AM
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Exactly. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 09:19 AM
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Oh honey no.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 09:15 AM
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My husband is like what exactly? I explicitly stated that we don’t discuss it. We husband is actually neurodivergent himself. It’s the pretence that their partner doesn’t notice attractive women that I find to be odd and indeed just straight up false. The lady doth protest too much! I am comfortable enough within myself to accept this fact. Are women “dogs” for finding an attractive man attractive? Weird angle to take.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 09:04 AM
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His chat sounds ordinary to me and I don’t the sexua innuendo. Good work in weeding him out.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/24 09:48 PM
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I agree. This is an extremely common pairing.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 09:28 PM
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Absolutely. The blanket terms are important too. But for some reason in recent generations we have chosen to pretend class “doesn’t exist” whilst the above knowledge was accepted etc by our grandmothers. It still exists.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 09:27 PM
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I can see how that match would work. She probably has interesting social connections too if she frequents venues like that
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 09:25 PM
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Take him up on his offer to tag out
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 11:57 PM
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This is what I observed at college in the mid to late 2000s too
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 07:28 AM
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Husband is a Lawyer. My brother had a business and economics degree though and he works at a bank.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/24 01:14 AM
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I’m sorry to stereotype but the age difference, thus maturity difference, is largely at play here imo.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/24 01:14 AM
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Sounds like he wants out and is just finding random faults.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/24 09:50 PM
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Yes this sounds very hard and you’re a better woman than I am if you can pull this off. Like he’s openly disrespecting you and your family unit. Regardless of what happens I think you need to refocus back on yourself. I know it’s hard but try stop focusing on him and revisit your own hobbies and self interests. I feel for you. This sounds very tough xo
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 10:50 PM
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While you’re sleeping? With the kids in the house? Omg hell no. It sounds like you want to keep this marriage am I correct? In which case my only advice would be to just ignore his behaviour and concentrate on yourself and your self esteem. Don’t rely on him for anything. Don’t argue. Just start being your own person. I’ve heard of men getting bored and coming back when you stop caring and arguing with them. For me personally, infidelity is a deal breaker and I would calmly leave this situation …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 10:28 PM
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First of all he needs to stop reaching out to his affair partner. That’s an ultimatum I would be willing to make if I were you. How can you work on yourself when your self esteem is shot and he keeps in contact with her and making direct comparisons. If you want to continue this marriage, then you both need to want it. Secondly you don’t want to be like this girl. Someone who knowingly entertains a married man. Eye roll. I know the type. I think at very least you should focus on yourself and you…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 09:43 PM
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I think you need to meet him in person, then go from there. Don’t get too invested when you haven’t even met him yet.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 04:29 AM
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You’re missing the point and I feel you’re a tad naive. My husband and I share the same values re porn and sexuality but at the end of the day he’s his own person and if he were to look it up on his phone then I wouldn’t even know and it’s his life. It’s not a hill worth dying on. Modern women are becoming far too meddling and controlling imo.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 04:22 AM
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I mean sure. Men are also very good at telling women what they want to hear too. I just think an ultimatum of no porn is a tough sell these days unforts. It’s not like you can enforce it anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 04:12 AM
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All straight men like images of beautiful women in suggestive positions. Morally? Perhaps not. But physically yes. My point to OP is to really not focus on it unless it’s causing issues in her relationship. With the use of iPhones etc the horse has already bolted and beyond having a discussion with your partner about it you can’t control what someone else thinks or does.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/24 08:59 PM
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Hmm. Is it you, or him making you feel this way? Like does he make comments? There will always be other attractive women, especially with the right makeup and lighting and AI and filters the whole thing is ridiculous now.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/24 01:43 AM
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Trying to ban a modern man from porn is almost a futile exercise imo. Don’t bother. The rest of your post sounds like you’re trying very hard to be a certain way. It’s okay to not be happy and bright and cheerful. It would be weird if you were that way all the time. May I ask how old you are? You sound quite young for and it can be normal to spend years figuring out who you are and what your identity is. Don’t be too hard on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/24 12:06 AM
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I’m a doctor so understand the struggles of med school and honestly I think you’ve done so well to get this far! Congrats! Most guys I knew at the time didn’t want the hassle or the stress and then kind of tried to aggressively come back into my life when I was a qualified doctor. lol nope. I was happily engaged to supportive hubby by then. Anyway enough about me. Basically I think you just need to accept that he will never understand how shit it is. Just accept the support you do get and don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 10:52 PM
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Good points by everyone else. Capacity to provide is the most obvious. Also don’t be fooled by trust fund types as they can be the most cheapass in my experience. Secondary, actions speak louder than words. Does he provide? Does he pay for dates? Listen to how he speaks about his parents and their dynamic. What are his values? (Married six years. Together ten).
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 09:27 PM
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Thanks lovely!! xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/24 09:37 AM
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Thanks for the reply. Okay my best friend might be good for it (she’s a lawyer too actually, I noticed your username lol!). I think that sounds reasonable and like a polite redirection.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 07:22 AM
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I’m wanting to redirect but not in a rude way if possible. So my question is really about etiquette and I don’t believe that’s always so black and white. Yeah the car situation definitely sound weird which I can appreciate, there are some women from out of town and also toddlers and car seats to be considered which is how it’s turned out like this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 07:21 AM
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Agree re the poor boundaries. I’ve been working on this recently. I mean others are free to conduct themselves how they want but I feel that I’m going to have to say something to her for my own sanity at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 06:57 AM
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I’m friends with her because it’s been a long term friendship, and I just feel that she creates these issues for attention because she’s unhappy with her marriage. It’s a cry for attention which has really only surfaced in recent years. Honestly at this point I would prefer she not come but she’s giving a lift to some others who can’t make it otherwise. I do really want to see my other friends.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 06:18 AM
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Thanks for the reply! Yes I’ve told one friend and as a greater group we are aware that this woman does this but everyone feels bad for her so we do honestly just enable it a bit. What exactly could be said to redirect? If you redirect her from one thing she just goes to another. It’s relentless.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 04:28 AM
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Mutual friend organising event is the best idea here. OP can suss things out and get to know him better. I’m married to a lawyer and they seem fairly confident and pushy when they know what they want LOL so I would try get to know him first and speak his interest. Good luck OP! x
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/24 03:04 AM
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I’ve seen men get older and suddenly want their partner to have a job. I don’t even think it’s about the finances, maybe it’s more they want you to have something/an interest to talk about? I don’t know. Anyway either way the way he speaks to you is not appropriate and you need to set boundaries as others have stated. Good luck x
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/24 03:01 AM
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He should know by now. I would say, casually but firmly, that you would think he would know by now and would expect proposal by the end of the year. Then never mention it again. That’s the important bit, like it’s then never mentioned as you’ve said your piece. I’ve seen this work many times. Good luck x
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/24 02:57 AM
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I think these are separate questions. Should you be healthier and lose some kilos? Sure. As to him, it sounds like he’s on the way out anyway so it’s not really a decision to make there.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/24 03:39 AM
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Why do you need to? It’s not your job to be baited into easing his anxieties, ie. he transfers all his negative energy onto. I’m not trying to be harsh, having dealt with guys like this before it’s just so easy to get caught up in their negativity which they dump on you and then they go about their day happy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 05:41 AM
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Number 2 was the time to bail. He wasn’t into you and told you. I’m sorry. Heal and move on gal xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/24 09:44 PM
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I’m married so long out of the dating game lol. But yes, given the ease of texting etc I would expect at least quick daily communication.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/24 09:37 PM
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Productive to him would mean feeding his negative unnecessary spiral. You don’t have to take part in a conversation that makes yourself uncomfortable just because someone else demands you do.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/24 08:52 PM
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I don’t believe this is an example of STFU at all. This is refusing to engage with someone who is trying to pull you into their deregulated negative spiral. Notice he gets annoyed when you won’t engage? Red flag
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/24 11:29 PM
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He said she’s attractive? He’s enjoying the attention of two women. It’s really up to you whether you tolerate this or not tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 05:24 AM
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He needs to want to improve the way he speaks to you, otherwise this will not change and will continue to erode your relationship. I agree with continuing to disengage when he gets angry, I wouldn’t even explain, just walk off and do something else. It’s not your job to be his outlet for irritation.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 10:22 PM
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Thanks! I appreciate it
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 01:10 PM
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He’s quite a bit older than you so you immediately have a lot of value to him. He should be pursuing you, you’re the one with options.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 09:08 PM
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Maybe you’re asexual? Perhaps go chat to your GP/Family Physician about what you’re experiencing and make sure there’s nothing else causing this.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 07:05 AM
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Def dress nicely. Seems an American thing to wear tracksuits around. I don’t think it’s very flattering.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 09:08 PM
5

If you’re attractive you have to be super nice to women so they aren’t threatened by you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 07:05 AM
1

I think you should use your skillset (ie. education degree) rather than start at the bottom with something else. Wealthy families will pay a lot for private tutoring for their kids? Good option if you want to avoid schools. My mum is a seniors English teacher and did this for a while.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 09:14 PM
1

I agree with this. Hubby and I have stopped giving eachother blow by blow accounts of our days at work. Just summary. Then we enjoy eachothers company.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 09:13 PM
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What’s his motive for lying? Basically nobody lies without motive so try consider that (eg. You wouldn’t like the event, he went with/caught up with someone else there).
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 09:10 PM
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4 years is too long and don’t question the validity of your desire to settle down. I broke up with a boyfriend in my early twenties (I would have married him but he wanted to play the field- same age), then another mid twenties after 2 years together, then my next boyfriend I told after a year that he should know after another year. Now married! Honestly don’t be passive with your life. I’ve seen women give ultimatums with varied success, if you’re on the way out anyway then you may as well if y…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 04:21 AM
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It’s hard but these are the facts of life. Men will always admire younger women, but they also love their wives in a deep and genuine way and quite honestly I don’t see women loving men back that deeply. Take the wins you can and try not to focus on the rest. Also some women seem to have such good style and zest and beautiful personalities etc that men will always fall over their feet for them. People always remember how you make them feel.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 08:46 AM
1

This is so true. I’ve posted about this before. It’s 2023 not the 1950s. Men’s expectations and society had changed. Even trad men mostly expect a woman to have a college degree or some kind of earning power or interests of her own. It’s kind of the benchmark norm now. Once they see what a woman is capable of they respect her, and want to support her. A woman who rolls up with no job or education or ability to make any money is really at a disadvantage. Even in our mother’s era it was quite usua…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 10:08 PM
1

He wrote this to make himself feel better. I would block and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 10:12 PM
2

Gal you’re an engineer (nearly). He’s a…nothing. Not being rude just pointing out the obvious disparity here. He’s your first love, it’s fine, don’t be too hard on yourself. But I would seriously be considering moving on.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 11:19 PM
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Congrats on your bubba! Our experience sounds similar to yours. I actually think it is RPW, it’s just the practical way of establishing the dynamic you want in modern times. Most high earning men in 2023 are at least slightly distrustful of a woman who has no job when they meet them. I do have a friend who managed this dynamic but now that the kids are a bit older etc her husband keeps asking her “when are you going to get a job” ie. it wasn’t his idea for her to be at home. He’s never seen her …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 10:08 PM
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I say this with love, pull yourself together woman! lol. Everyone has a past, and there’s no good day dreaming about the past or hypothetical situations. Invest in your present.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 02:06 AM
1

You don’t know if you like it until you try it! I think it’s good to keep an open mind about hobbies. I had a long term relationship before my husband, and he was really into boating and scuba diving. Def not my hobbies at the time, but I let him lead and I showed and interest and got my scuba licence etc. Push yourself! You might find yourself enjoying new things x
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 01:49 AM
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I think the only thing here that is actually helpful and a teaching point is that men are often attracted to women who work, but they see them struggle and get stressed with it all, thus their desire to be a provider kicks in. My husband makes 700k (AUD tho lol) and I’m a physician, I now only work part time but he was there to live through all the night shifts and stress and everything else that came with my job. If he hadn’t witnessed that then he wouldn’t have been keen to just support me I b…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 01:04 AM
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Unless the guy is religious they genuinely do not expect you to have zero partners. Smaller number preferred, ideally in the context of a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 11:46 PM
1

I would agree with this.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 01:04 AM
3

I didn’t understand this joke until I read the comments. Seems kind of trashy to me and I would just ignore it. If he keeps doing it I would say “as your wife I would prefer you didn’t speak like that to me”. Tell him it’s a turn off, and if he’s got any smarts about him he will stop.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 01:04 AM
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I think you should be exclusive before sleeping together.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 01:02 AM
3

Troll
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:45 PM
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I suspect it’s a guy tbh
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:42 PM
2

If you’re late twenties then go for 28-34 ideally imo.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/24 08:22 PM
2

Such great advice, thankyou. Learning to STFU is an ongoing journey for me.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/24 01:48 AM
1

May I ask why you were surprised? One of the mistakes I think women make is looking dishevelled, because it is literally SO EASY to make yourself look polished within a minute. I know this because I’ve done it myself and had comments on how put together I look which is hilar because I just rolled out of bed just before. A clean face is crucial, and at bare minimum hair brushed either back into a ballerina bun or pony tail or out (whatever suits you). I then do tinted lip balm and mascara. You ca…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/24 01:44 AM
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Women like to pretend they are stronger than they are. The amount of “leave him girl!!!!” posts does not reflect the ammt of women who stay with their husband after he cheated and are hurting in private.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/24 01:38 AM
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I agree 100%. Bitch to your female friends about this, not to husband directly.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 09:51 AM
1

I personally know women who have done very well for themselves in the dating market in their mid thirties but they certainly have a “way” with men. They aren’t even the prettiest tbh. So yes it can be done. But it’s definitely harder and I’m worried that you say you never had much luck with men in the past, and I worry and agree with you that why would you suddenly now. Do you live in a large metropolitan area with many men? Do you live somewhere with more men than women? Like what would your da…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 09:47 AM
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I’ve seen some men believe what they want to believe with regards to attractive women. I know a very attractive girl, good family, studying accounting. She had SO MANY serial monogamy situations that her count was really very high. Men interestingly turned a blind eye to this and she married well and now has kids.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 09:39 AM
1

Sex work is the easy way out for women. Unless you’re on the streets and have no other options then I really think it’s a tacky and easy cop out.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 07:55 AM
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You’re young and probably incompatible. Reassess when you have an actual job and have been working for a bit.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 11:03 PM
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You need to stop dilly dallying around and pick someone and try see if it will work properly. Guy A? Try be exclusive and make it work. If not, you can move on. I think your tendency to keep “back ups” is holding you back.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 10:01 PM
1

Yes I agree with this. I can understand why OP is upset. In fact I personally feel that hubby should have gone on the roof himself, regardless of weight.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 03:27 AM
1

If only men you consider low value approach you then you are also low value. Men are shooting their shot, I wouldn’t care too much.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 11:28 PM
2

Yes, this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 11:28 PM
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He spends all his money on luxury items for his mum? Sorry I stopped reading after that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 11:25 PM
2

Agree, some mystery is good
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 04:03 AM
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I always pay for my own glow up stuff. Hubby pays for pretty much everything else. I don’t want him knowing the specifics of my treatments tbh lol.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/23 03:12 AM
1

I love fiction and grew up with having story time a big part of my home. Thanks for the suggestions that’s great xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 09:19 PM
1

Amazing! Nice choices. I was born in the UK but came to australia when quite young. I agree re the importance of the educational setting.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 05:40 AM
2

I do understand that. I was specifically asking for educational books though.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 01:17 AM
1

Those are some good tips thanks. I know it’s so different nowdays! With social media etc. I’m looking now at Waldorf and other schools thanks x
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/23 10:55 PM
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That’s a really good point Thankyou. I love browsing second hand stores so will try find a few older books. That’s really interesting about the vocabulary xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/23 10:53 PM
2

Thanks for that important reminder. xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/23 10:52 PM
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You would need to find a childfree-by-choice man. I think there’s more of them these days, so keep it in mind whilst vetting.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/23 06:23 AM
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It’s as ridiculous as if they made one for men. Imagine, all men want slim 5’8 nice natural long thick hair, low body count, never married, no kids, under 28, eats a lot but never puts on weight, a good cook, and has a college degree, fertile, smart but not smarter than them. LOL. What percentage of the population is that.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/23 10:34 AM
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Everybody is attracted to the top % of people. It doesn’t mean you will get them though. I would concentrate on dating within your league and also focusing on non-physical attributes too.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 11:49 PM
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I think they’re bigger in the US and I’m not overly familiar with them or how they’re viewed, but if you’re looking for a conservative man than I would be careful. Most certainly not any with a swimsuit section.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 11:40 PM
3

Depends where you live but yes I have noticed this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 07:19 AM
1

The whole point here is though that your sex drive matches your husbands, which is unusual tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 07:15 AM
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Agree with this. These days western men expect you to have some sort of job or vocation, and it’s easier to discuss that then describe how ideally you would like to go part time or drop that work when having children or family or other marriage commitments.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 08:01 AM
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This is exactly what I thought. If he’s married and that powerful, he isn’t going to bring his side girl into his literal place of work.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 01:11 AM
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My flaws: Not knowing when to STFU. I’ve worked really hard on this and from observing my Mum who is really good at it, and taking three deep breaths before speaking when triggered, and choosing my battles, I have become waaaaaay better at this. It’s taken years though. “Going with the flow” too much in friendships and not making conscious decisions about who to surround myself with. I’m trying to become more aware of dynamics and whether I’m happy with them and how my friendships make me feel.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 04:40 AM
1

Depends on the society and the type of circles. Some families are very insular and judgemental about those who “aren’t like them”. If you’re in the USA you’re likely to have a better chance than in say, the UK which has a very rigid class system. It def helps that you’re a med student! That increases your social value. I’m a physician and as you know us doctors sort of have our own little clique so don’t worry too much, hopefully his parents will see you as one of them. Try not to worry too much…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 11:10 PM
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Def agree. Although he be careful to not create a sense of “competition”, men can sense this and it strokes their ego and therefore they keep repeating such behaviours. I keep being my fabulous self but mostly ignore issues re other women unless they really cross the line.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 11:06 PM
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This is normal and if you can’t get interested then at least just pretend to be interested. Trust me lol. My mum always says “listen to his work stories otherwise he will find some other female colleague who finds his stories fascinating, and do you want that?”.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 02:49 AM
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You’re definitely making it too easy for him. If he had to meet you half way, would he? Or is it you just driving the entire relationship? Have you spoken about what will happen next once youve finished college? xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/23 03:00 AM
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Yes that’s an interesting observation! I’ve lived in the UK as well for years as was considered “very sporty” by everyone because I would casually jog once a week. In Australia I’m considered very un-sporty and the culture of athleticism here is very strong. The fitness influencers are def capitalising on that! Other places that I’ve had personal experience of men expecting thinness is France and Sweden. So yes in my experience it’s kind of location-dependant but being within the healthy range o…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 10:45 PM
2

I can only speak for my country (Australia) but I feel that here men are very focused on weight. They want women to ideally be slim and with some athletic tone. I got a lot of attention when my BMI was 17 (I’m tall so it was still healthy) and certainly get less now that I’m about 23, which is still healthy range but yeah I’ve def noticed the difference. I think it depends where you hold your weight too. Mine goes to my bust and butt first which I don’t mind too much, then to my face which I don…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 12:44 PM
2

I’m married for six years! Such an interesting dilemma, because you obviously need to put your best foot forward and give him a taste of what married life with you is like, but not too much so that he gets comfortable and can’t be bothered proposing, which seems an all too common occurrence these days. After dating for a year I agreed to move in with him at his request, but I made it clear it would be with the view to trialling marriage and by the end of that year we should both know what we wan…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 03:12 AM
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Wowsers I appreciate the sophisticated analysis! Interested to know what do you think Allan represented?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 11:31 AM
3

Oh yeah that was weird. The daughter had a bad attitude all round imo.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 04:37 AM
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Yes that’s some good points. Like if men weren’t the focus of the film, which is fine, why even attempt to make a half assed storyline about ken/men’s roles? It just seemed so half baked. Some healthy masculinity in the real world would have been a great well rounded addition.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 03:07 AM
2

That’s so true. They only had the weird corporate stereotyped crowd.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 03:04 AM
2

Yes that’s a good interpretation. They were kind of just portrayed as jokes. Definitely growing up with the dolls it was like barbie was the main character, and ken was a bit of an afterthought, and they really extrapolated that to real life. I def found the overall message a bit confusing. Thanks for the reply xo
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 11:56 PM
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So true about the ending with the Kens. It just fizzled out and they had no definitive ending as such as far as I could see anyway. They fought amongst each other and then…nothing. First half was strong with Ken being resentful and trying to gain back some power and autonomy but nothing eventuated. Thanks for the reply! xo
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 09:42 PM
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Oh okay sorry I missed that thread. Yes I agree about the big ideas that just fizzled out. It’s like they wanted to touch on them but didn’t want to follow through. They could have shown a more harmonious ending between the barbies and kens but that didn’t happen either. xo
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 09:37 PM
3

Yes to the clothes!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 09:35 PM
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Great work! My hubby is always happy when I bring him morning coffee and homemade smoothie. I think it’s the consistency of the routine they appreciate as well. xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 06:40 AM
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Of course it’s okay to leave a relationship if it’s unhealthy or genuinely not working after genuine effort being made to try. My husbands parents married young, quite frankly shouldn’t have, and it took them 30 years to divorce and they should have done it a lot sooner. My poor hubby and his siblings have a lot of trauma and dysfunction they’ve had to work through because they grew up in such a dysfunctional household. From my perspective this sub is more about encouraging women to try make the…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 05:22 AM
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I agree with you unfortunately. It’s just so available easily on their phones etc.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 12:35 PM
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Financially: 80% hubby. Chores: we have help 80%, and remainder me. Cooking: 90% me. No kids yet.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 07:24 AM
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This is at best, the honest truth of what happened and a big red flag. Maybe he wanted something to happen but she rejected him, maybe they kissed, it’s hard to know. Also you only found out because you checked his tracker. You need more information. Who is she? How did he meet her? Ie. If he went seeking online or apps to find someone (pre-meditated) I see that as worse than opportunistically just driving a coworker home because she needed a lift. I’m sorry this is happening xox
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 12:36 AM
2

I agree. Twenties is the new teenager-hood. Traditional or religious gals on here shouldn’t be discouraged though and should still aim for a similarly aged guy (with same values) imo, instead of immediately going older. It’s def doable, just need to look in the right places.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 11:44 PM
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The more traditional model like my parents marrying at 20yo (they met at University, married for 47 years!) seems less common nowdays but is still a nice option if both parties are ready.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 09:37 PM
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I agree. Most high value men will go for younger but not too much younger. That’s at least what I’ve seen. The only exception is when they’re slightly more traditional and met youngish and stayed together in which case often similar age.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 07:48 AM
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I’ve been around here for 5+ years and only noticed a slight change. It would probably be more helpful if you gave some specific examples? Either way I still find it a lovely place and most topics up for respectful discussion.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 08:39 AM
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Hmm I don’t think they prefer them as such? I think they just find it easier on the basis of averages to “date down” because someone average will be wowed by someone giving them attention. It’s no different to hot girls using average guys to do things for them or be in their friend zone.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 08:32 AM
1

You’re basically the same age!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 08:28 AM
1

I agree they on average women peak earlier than men. Some men of course never peak, and the act of being older doesn’t guarantee anything, whereas pretty much most women are high value when they’re young. All young women seem gorgeous! Some men are born into money etc and peak early, they were the guys all the girls wanted at my school and university. Some of them settled down, but a lot enjoyed their status and took their sweet time lol. Congrats on your marriage! xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 08:23 AM
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It’s a risk but unless you’re extremely high value enough to get a successful and high value man whilst competing with basically every other woman, it’s not a bad strategy to consider. Just make sure he commits properly (eg. before graduating and becoming a doctor lol) and keep up with your own appearance and attributes etc so he doesn’t become like a “why is he with HER?” type situation when people meet you. Just my 2c.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 08:04 AM
1

I personally would not be trying a new recipe first go in this instance. If he enjoys meat, then do an Italian dish like lasagne or bolagnase with mince. A meaty casserole also sounds fine if you’re comfy with that. He will appreciate the effort and you will be less stressed as it’s a dish you’re confident with. You can say brightly “next time we can do steak etc”. Good luck! x
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 05:52 AM
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This guy is not worth your time and please leave him be and do I on yourself xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 05:49 AM
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So they have the power imo
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 11:56 PM
1

Interesting, thanks for the field report!
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 11:52 PM
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It’s illegal in Australia so I’m not sure how you/he envisions working around that
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 03:20 AM
1

They wanted the job that you have, and failed. I’m sure there’s men out there whose ego can handle that but I have not met any.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/23 01:20 AM
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Act like they are richer than they are
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 08:56 AM
1

You keep asking if you are ugly and this is not something we can answer or offer insight into. Older men sometimes do try for “low hanging fruit” and I’m sorry if that sounds offensive but yes that might include girls who are overweight etc. If you ONLY attracting older men, and not younger ones, then something is up. I think ask a trusted friend. Good luck! xo
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 04:43 AM
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Men from family money are always like this I find. They’ve had it drilled into them by their parents and sisters etc to not pick up any “users” along the way. I personally paid about 30% of the time with my partner before we were engaged. Like he’s just your boyfriend, not your husband, don’t get too offended he’s testing you out probably. I would also tone down on all the “wife” type chores you’re doing for him xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 12:53 AM
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In some circles, yes. Also University/college is a good place to meet men.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 12:49 AM
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Yes that’s a good option! You will both be time poor and likely not see much of eachother, so make sure you carve out time for connection. Also make sure you get commitment sooner rather than later xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 09:12 PM
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I agree in that I think men generally prefer women slightly more conservative than themselves. Men left to their own devices are a bit hedonistic.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 09:36 PM
1

I love this post!
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 09:34 PM
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Men don’t have a wall imo, but most of them just never reach HVM status. They just potter along with their life as it is, and that’s fine as long as they’re happy. They might pair up with a woman of similar value who as long as she can keep her hypergamy in check, things will be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/23 10:11 PM
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I’m not sure. But I remember reading and also what I’ve observed in life men seem to believe more in love at first sight than women do xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 11:40 PM
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I met my husband in my twenties but you’re only 30 and that is not old, and I have friends who met great husbands who were older than you. So don’t lose hope! I think firstly you need to make a genuine assessment of yourself and your life. (If you have barriers to be able to honestly do that then some therapy could be a good start). If you want a healthy relationship with a good partner and you’ve been trying for ages and not succeeding then something needs to change. You say you never find men …
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 09:55 PM
1

Yes me too! I just had this convo with my hubby yesterday. He has been away a lot for work recently due to his new job, and I really miss our routine and knowing I will see him every night and wake up together in the morning. I just feel less happy when he’s away. Are we needy or are we just normal? I don’t know lol xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 09:44 PM
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Oh thanks 😊
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 09:36 PM
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Not in a woman’s best interest. Clearly of benefit to the male. xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 04:02 AM
2

Agree with all of this. This is me and hubby’s situation too xo
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 10:29 PM
2

I think the ideal is to be closish in age, within five years or so. Xo
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 10:28 PM
1

We don’t have this in Australia. Anyone can leave at any time for any reason which seems the most fair to me. I’m not sure xo
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 04:37 AM
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You’ve got a random guy you don’t really know who made you pay for everything up on a pedestal. Gal I’m sorry, you are living with the fantasy and potential of a future-faker. I’m sensing some desperation in your post like you feel you can’t do better? Sorry if that’s incorrect but just what I’m sensing and that could be what’s behind why you’re idolising someone like this? Feelings of desperation and low self esteem are very real and make us make questionable decisions. Is there a friend it fam…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 08:11 PM
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The world is a VERY friendly place when you are a young attractive female. Thanks to my RP mother I was aware that this doesn’t last, but I can see how tempting it is to think that’s how the world just is. I’m still good for my age and I’m married so I don’t care as long as hubby loves me, but I reflect on how when I was (particularly in my early and mid twenties) men hung on my every word, fell over themselves to talk to me, became nervous and bumbling in my presence, I never waited in lines an…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 10:53 PM
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Do pharmacy or dentistry. If you’re mathematically/biochem minded you should get a qualification in that field. Make sure you’re also developing as a woman and looking for a partner too during this time. You’re a 19yo girl the world is your oyster xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 09:24 PM
1

Use this time to do one of those degrees, immerse yourself in University life and clubs and it’s the perfect place to meet a husband! good luck x
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 09:19 PM
1

Is this a lifestyle that is common around your area? If not you may need to move somewhere else where there are more men into the sustainable living off some land lifestyle. Are you religious at all? I went to University with what I would consider some very high quality men who were Christian, and they all got married around 23 to women with similar values and mindsets. The obvious answer is to just go older but I would advise against that until you’ve considered some younger guys with similar l…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 09:00 PM
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I think there’s an increasing ammt of men who don’t want kids? I’m not sure. But I’ve heard of it. If he’s high earning himself and you’re attractive enough and bring enough joy and other things to his life I’m not sure why such an arrangement might not work. Just make sure he’s not using you for “fun”.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 07:21 AM
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I wouldn’t overthink it. Your reaction to things doesn’t have to always outwardly be a certain way. Everyone processes in their own way. xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 12:48 AM
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We agree about the fertility stuff. Your mum obviously was successful and had children so I’m not sure why you’re pushing the point. The point has been firmly made.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 10:51 PM
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Make sure you have your degree because nobody can take that away from you and it secures some form of independence and identity and income should it be required. If you wish to get married and start a family then you may have to date a little bit older? Or maybe a religious man (if you are that way yourself?). Focus on building your identity and your personal life skills such that you will attract a decent man who shares your traditional vision. Good luck! xo
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 10:38 PM
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You’re not a medical student or a doctor, you’ve taken a very different path in life and that’s great for you, but some of us (for whom this post was directed) are focused on balancing the two. But Thankyou for highlighting the point that a few of us have also made about fertility planning, def an important one.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 10:28 PM
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Thanks for the reply! Hehe yes I finally did it! (Love that you remembered). Amazing points thanks. Point 3 is so important, it’s a workplace that can have such an odd and harsh energy at times and it’s so important to leave this at work and not being it home. Great re your fertility planning! Totally your body and your choice and you should take whatever path suits you best Xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 10:20 PM
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Thanks for sharing your experience. The two aren’t mutually exclusive though, and your mother wouldn’t have had access to diagnostics and technology today for fertility and family planning. Definitely agree re having a plan though, because med school and residency take up such a chunk of your life!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 10:16 PM
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Hmm okay. The timing seems okay (ie. not 3am lol) but the impulsivity indicates to me that he isn’t taking this seriously? I’m not sure. I think just tell him you need more notice to hang out and would like to see him, then see what happens after that. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 11:54 PM
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My husband is a babe, objectively speaking, 6’3 with a lean build and twinkly blue eyes and thick brown hair with a boyishly handsome face. Yum haha. Women do flirt with him and that probably creates some risk for infidelity, but you have to be confident within yourself and your marriage to accept that. I do not agree with the “purposely marry the ugly guy as he will be so thankful for you and never cheat” as I have seen that backfire MANY times, with the woman left shell shocked thinking she ha…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 11:50 PM
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Gosh thank you! ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 11:28 PM
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Thanks for your reply and sharing your thoughts and experience. It’s so important to step out when you have reached your threshold, that takes so much wisdom. I also found paediatrics/OG experiences very difficult and moved away from that area as I recognised the limit of my emotional capabilities. xox
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 11:28 PM
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Thank you!!!! Wow I’ve never had a star or anything before! I love this subreddit. Sorry for the long reply but I wanted to try answer your question properly. I agree this is an important concept and absolutely can relate to women in a range of experiences including the police force, military, paramedics, social work etc. I was actually warned about this by a wise older female mentor who told me that the profession is difficult, you will see some horrific things, and not in an abstract sense but…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 11:24 PM
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Thanks for the reply and for explaining it better than I could! It’s def a mindset I saw in female medical students who were a bit shocked to start work and realise it wouldn’t be that easy. I met my hubby in medical school (he was an attorney) but even I had that view too before that too. Something to be mindful of. Xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 11:03 PM
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Thanks for the reply! Absolutely this can apply to other fields too. Good tip too, actions are always louder than words xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 10:31 PM
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Thanks for the reply! Absolutely this may also be relevant to those on other fields like the military, police force, paramedics etc. My hubby also says what you pointed out, he likes that I can look after him (especially when he’s sick) and make sure he has all his tablets and things. xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 10:21 PM
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Thanks for the reply! Absolutely a man who is comfortable within himself is essential. Thanks for the successful examples x
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 09:53 PM
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Oh what a coincidence! Hehe. I enjoy being married to someone who understands hard work but in a very different field. Thanks for the tips, agree re the small things like self care etc too. That’s great about the life coach, I’ve considered that but haven’t gone ahead with it. It’s def hard trying to manage all the competing desires in your life but I think with a bit of planning and daily attention to it, it is doable xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 09:52 PM
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Glad you found it of some help! You can most def have a somewhat traditional life and marriage while being a doctor, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 09:47 PM
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What time did he send this text?
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 04:00 AM
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I’m Australian! The allure of being a “future doctor” attracts some very beautiful girls, and if the girls are smart they will lock them into marriage and have some kids before they graduate. Otherwise, as far as I’ve seen, it’s mostly guys just using their newfound status for a bit of fun with women previously out of their league. Edited to add, I’ve also seen a lot of male doctors disproportionately married to female teachers.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 02:31 AM
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That’s college dating. Unless those girls are smart and lock it in early, they get dumped. Source. I’m a physician.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 01:52 AM
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You’ve mentioned a neurosurgeon so I will comment on this as I’m a physician and therefore have spent a lot of time around male surgeons and physicians. Nowadays, yes, to some degree. The days of the rich successful neurosurgeon having a pretty but uneducated wife to manage the home seem to be dying out. Most high earning doctors I know are with other doctors, or other educated women. Part of that is def proximity, but also societal attitudes about “trophy wives”. Eg it’s not enough to be pretty…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 01:50 AM
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I’m a physician and I’m always surprised by how insecure some women seem about it. Science and science-based fields aren’t all that tbh!!! They’re not “better” than the humanities or creative fields. If you’re not interested in it or not good at it then it really doesn’t matter. Given my time again I would be an interior designer!! I think the grass is always greener. Don’t worry about other people and just do what you’re into. Law is probably the highest paid humanities degree so if finances ar…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 10:53 PM
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I always suggest a two year maximum dating at your age. Start some discussions about where he sees this heading to get an idea. I cut exes off after two years if we weren’t engaged hehe (I only had two). Age 27 I started with my boyfriend, after a year I agreed to move in together but also said it would be a trial for marriage and I wanted to progress, and he should know by the end of the year what he wants. He proposed in October. So it worked for me, and other women I know too. Don’t waste tim…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 06:52 AM
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Men will always look/fantasise about other women. I wouldn’t let it bother me.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 04:15 AM
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Ugh men have it too easy nowdays. Like I genuinely think MOST men don’t want to get married in their twenties.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/23 06:45 AM
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I grew up strict Catholic and have since relaxed my views on the matter, so I’m always interested why someone who didn’t grow up with those values picks them up later in life and what their motivation for it is.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 05:05 AM
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Being hot is great, but you need a backup plan. Make sure you have some kind of degree or qualification. It will enrich not just your mind but also your attractiveness.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 01:54 AM
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Girl no. You can def do better and he knows it. I’m a physician so feel qualified to comment on this and I get that you’re at work all the time so dating options can be limited. Your value is high and you can do better, even consider non doctors. I married a lawyer for example, same age as me, makes 5x more, no kids. I am not an unusual example, this is easily done as long as you keep up your appearance and make time for dating. Try other professionals like engineers. xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 08:32 AM
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I agree. I’m 5’9 and prefer tall men (married to 6’3 man) but I had a five year relationship with a man the same height as me. He was attractive and great and honestly the height thing wasn’t an issue. So OP I get the height thing, probably like most men prefer a tiny waist, but do try open your mind a bit. Average or even shortish guys can be hot!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 08:25 AM
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I think it’s important I have genuine honest insight into your value so I applaud you for seeking this. I don’t think you need others opinions, your friends will say you’re hotter than you are, men will feel too bad and say you’re hotter than you are. My friends tell me I’m a 10 and obviously I’m not or I wouldn’t be working my job and I would be a Victoria’s Secret model relaxing on a yacht somewhere lol. Have a good hard look at yourself compared to other women your age. Consider the value of …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 08:19 AM
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Good idea! My husband asked our mutual friend if I was single and she said I was, then she checked with me if I wanted my number passed on. Married five years now! Good luck xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 08:14 AM
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Rude af! This is a women’s supportive space.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 08:11 AM
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Mostly if not all fixable gal. Trust me. Focus on this rather than getting the guy back and it will serve you better in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 08:01 AM
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Do you act like a “friend” with men? Or do you act like a romantic interest? Are you engaging? Do you ask thoughtful questions about them and listen properly. Are you fun to be around? You sound like you’ve covered a lot of bases so it could be good to consider the softer skills and ask a good male friend who knows you IRL? xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 06:51 AM
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You want a good Christian man but are you Christian yourself? Just trying to clarify why you want a Christian man specifically. Honestly most men just want a woman who is less experienced than themselves imo. So if your count is relatively high then you may need to accept a man who has more than you (ie. probably not Christian). I haven’t discussed specifics with my husband but his count is most def higher than mine, and I believe he’s had short term casual type things whereas I haven’t.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 11:15 PM
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Lots of casual encounters and a lack of self control.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 09:25 PM
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Gal. You are def beating yourself up over this unnecessarily. You’re 18 and had one dodgy relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 03:32 AM
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I think you’re incompatible. It is what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 12:44 PM
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I agree. But could you support yourself if you relationship broke up? For context I live in a country they doesn’t really do spousal support etc like the US so my view might be different.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 06:27 AM
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I think the real argument is that times have changed, it’s not 1950 anymore, most women have some sort of skills or qualification. These things can only empower you. If you actively choose to go against the grain and not do this, you’re putting yourself at risk. Why would anyone do that? Finish high school, get your qualification or whatever, then proceed with whatever lifestyle works for you and your partner. Deliberately disempowering yourself is slightly odd imo. (For context I’m a physician …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:46 AM
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It depends how attractive you are tbh. I’ve seen beautiful women basically get a away with murder lol. If you’re just average, then you need go work on your other date-able qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:37 AM
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I budgeted and prioritised my appearance, also worked as a tutor. You might not need facials! It’s just an example as I had very bad skin that needed it. I scrimped on other things and had DIY beauty stuff at home.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:33 AM
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I set out a schedule and made sure I included regular exercise and facials etc in the regime. Basically I kept my appearance as good as I could to make up for the fact that I was getting older and also incredibly time-poor. I told friends I was single and looking, and ended up meeting my husband through a friend! So my suggestion is to work on everything simultaneously. Also men like to see a bit of passion for something, find a job or degree you are really interested in and enjoy and go for it.…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:19 AM
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This reads like you want to do one thing at a time. Work on yourself. Then a degree. Then a husband. Honestly you have to do it all at once. I did my undergrad bachelors then I did medicine, and as I was mid to late twenties I had to manage finding a husband alongside my demanding study schedule. It’s not easy, but it can be done. You need to multitask. In terms of what to study, only you can decide that based on your interests. My mum was a teacher and that always seemed a nice stable flexible …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 12:40 AM
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You’re not worthless. You made a decision and your life has now changed. You have a beautiful baby and that in itself is a blessing. In terms of meeting men, sure, your pool is narrowed now. But that’s okay. Other people’s pools are narrowed for other reasons. Try maximise your other qualities, and be upfront with guys about having a baby. I would also try work towards a degree or career at this stage too so being “a single mum” doesn’t become your whole identity. xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 11:54 PM
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That’s so great! My mum taught PT at my school (a bit awkward at times but oh well lol) and my brothers and I got reduced tuition fees too. I think teaching seems a great career! I personally went into healthcare but it was def a consideration for me.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 11:54 PM
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Yes my mum did this too. After we all left home she went back full time and became a school principal lol!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 09:30 PM
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Something that is a recognised qualification that you can pick up and do whenever you want/need. I’m all for SAHM-life, but don’t put yourself behind the eight ball. Should something happen, husband gets sick, you get bored and want to work a bit, or god forbid marriage breakdown, you need something to fall back on. For context I’m happily married lol. Anyway I would suggest teaching, librarian, something in healthcare, accounting if you’re into numbers/maths. Just needs to be something you’re i…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 09:29 PM
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Like let’s be honest he probably thinks she’s hot, because she is. He went for a little look. I wouldn’t like seeing this kind of thing but o accept my husband maybe does it too I dunno.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 08:11 AM
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Gal you need to go on dates before you’re officialLH together! I’m not sure if there’s some cultural thing I’m missing here but dating can be just a casual daytime event in a public place with the goal of getting to know each other a little better. Think of it as lunch with a friend if that helps you reduce the pressure and expectations for it. You can’t enter a relationship without even knowing someone. Good luck xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 07:59 PM
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Around this age I started using prescription retinol, getting regular facials, and exercising a lot more. I know some women who started Botox this early too so it’s really up to the individual.Axum use your appearance if it’s making you feel sad xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 07:55 PM
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I’m a physician. My husband respects my work, I can work part time and still make a great salary, I find my work meaningful and I enjoy helping people. Hubby loves it when he’s sick and I look after him lol hehe xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 10:09 AM
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Yes I agree with the above post. OP I wouldn’t overthink this, the older guys are trying for you simply because they want someone younger. You’re in your prime so men of all ages will be interested.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 10:02 AM
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Have you always felt like this? Or have you become like this? If you always felt this way and married him anyway then I’m sorry gal that’s on you. If it’s become this way then I think it’s def worth working on and trying to rekindle that desire and spark. xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/23 09:54 PM
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I agree
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 02:19 AM
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If you’re not his exclusive partner then you’re a plate.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 02:18 AM
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Don’t. The dynamic works for us! You can find a gal to chase you if thats your thing.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 11:27 PM
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Thanks for still opening doors for women. Men still seem to open doors for me and I’m always polite and thankful for the gesture.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/23 11:34 PM
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Ugh. This makes me so glad I’m married. I just simply can’t and won’t chase a man!! It’s not in my nature. My only advice would be give indications of your interest, so eventually guys ask you out or make a move. That way the traditional dynamic is kind of maintained.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/23 11:31 PM
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He doesn’t sound comfortable within himself if he needs to lecture you all the time. Also sorry but what business does he have telling you about skincare or haircare?! Lol. The thing that stands out in your list to me is the enabling comment. This needs proper examining.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 10:26 PM
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Men low of lower status change their location such that they are of immediate higher status (white man, US citizenship etc etc). I mean I can see why they might do it, but it seems the lazy option and not the sort of high quality behaviour that I would be attracted to. FWIW the female equivalent may be older white women going to some of the African coastal locations for holidays/relationships (I saw a doco about this). Old white women feel ignored by men their own age in their countries and ther…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 02:18 AM
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Thanks for explaining that. I would find it a turn off too. Sometimes men collect these random female friends when they are single that once they get into a serious relationship they eventually drop off. If you like him otherwise maybe see how you go as it’s still early days xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 07:31 AM
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I can’t comment on dating a man with children because I have zero experience of that, but I’m wondering if you are suspicious of this platonic friend? Have you met her? Do you feel threatened by her? Just trying to figure out exactly what is going on here xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 09:00 PM
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It def dwindles your dating pool, and it’s bad for your lungs. Honestly like PP have said, quit and see if your chances improve. Worth a shot! x
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 10:38 AM
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Are you on metformin for your PCOS? xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 10:36 AM
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This sounds weird but honestly record yourself, then sit back and have a listen to what you actually sound like. For me, I realised how much i said “like” and “literally” and other immature filler words. I was surprised! Ask a friend you trust for feedback too. Good luck x
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 10:35 AM
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You have no trouble getting dates, then what happens? Do they fizzle out? Do they not seem serious? Do you not like them? What is it that happens after these dates. I think that’s an important factor. You also point out that you’re aiming to date to sort of men that are highly coveted by other women. Once you get up to those top percentages, lots of other things start to come in to play. Things like what private school did you go to? Is your job prestigious or respectable? What do you parents do…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 10:30 AM
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Many women, and men, turn a blind eye to this stuff as long as everything else is going well. That’s the honest truth of it. It would be a hard no for me but that’s just me and I respect that it’s not for you (or it at least isn’t atm). Can you really live with this constant worrying though? There’s only so much you can change your values.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 07:00 AM
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I agree with you and my observations match yours. Before I moved in with my husband, then-boyfriend, we had a talk and I asked him what it meant to move in with me, was it just a practical thing or did he see it as an escalation of our relationship. I also said that he should know within a year if he wants to marry me. We moved in together in Jan and he proposed in October. If he hadn’t, I would have walked lol. But I def suggest against long term living arrangements because it creates a false s…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 09:55 AM
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I think the sort of people who choose to not live together first probably differ from those who do
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 09:09 PM
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I would decline to answer if I was you or just answer within the area of what’s true without giving an exact number. If you’re similar just say “similar to me” or if you’re less then say “mine is less”. If you’re more, or wildly more, I’m not sure maybe just say you had some “experience” and he will get it. I advise against any woman giving an exact number or even getting into these sorts of conversations if if can be helped. Good luck! xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 10:12 AM
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My husband and I never asked eachother directly and I think it’s so unnecessary and not sure why you Gen Z people do it. I think his is probably moderate, and mine is comparatively low. That’s pretty evident in our discussions about our past.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 04:39 AM
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I’m Australian (grew up in England) and happily married, but I had a midwestern boyfriend when he was on exchange for University and he was by far the most polite and gentlemanly guy I’ve dated lol xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 05:11 AM
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Absolutely. Agree with all of the above. I think OP means though like some men prefer curvy brunettes, others prefer waif blondes etc etc xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/22 03:01 AM
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Some men do seem to have strong physical preferences, others less so. Whether it matters in real life is different? Honestly I don’t know x
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/22 12:29 PM
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Yes but the more concerning thing is that he proudly told you this story. Why do you need to know this? He’s still hung up on her or your friend or whoever, honestly distance yourself from both.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/22 12:02 AM
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My hubby is an attorney and I appreciate this analogy! xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 06:20 AM
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They def matter in terms of making yourself more palatable to a wide range of men. And for first impressions. I’m not sure in terms of the breast implants etc but if you make such a massive change then it needs to be for YOU, not for anyone else. A lot of men don’t like implants either, it’s personal taste. So it’s a personal decision for you xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 06:18 AM
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Some men like a bit of sass but it sounds like your ex-friend was more like just demeaning? I’m not sure. Hard to apply to your own situation but I would ask a friend that you trust who has a healthy relationship for some feedback about your dating etc xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 10:56 PM
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All my friends are female. I’m just saying we all have a right to take ourselves seriously, but we can’t force others to. He clearly doesn’t take her “born again virginity” seriously because he keeps trying physical things. She should move on and try find someone who does, I just think it’s going to be a hard sell.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 10:38 PM
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I agree. OP neither of you are virgins, like you’ve literally had sex multiple times, and now you won’t even kiss him, under the guise of some Christian values. That’s fine and that’s your choice, I’m just not sure men would take this or you seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 09:34 AM
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Just concentrate on being feminine and stop worrying about others.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 01:27 AM
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He’s too old for this kind of nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/22 10:43 PM
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Personally not for me but I’m quite conservative.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/22 10:41 PM
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IMO this is the age when slight age differences really come into play. Most 27yo guys don’t want to settle down yet. Three years to think about moving in together? That would be a nope from me. I broke up with my long term boyfriend aged 26 because he wanted “more time” and I didn’t want to give it to him. You could stick around but it’s risky, what if he turns around and says actually no I changed my mind and you’re 33?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/22 10:40 PM
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I can understand where you are coming from and I agree that marriage involves ongoing negotiations. I just wonder how he feels though? You want the dynamic to change, but how does he feel about that? Does he want to work more? Does he share your views? Not sure if his field but my Dad is a tenured professor and has quite a good salary with a lot of perks, but aside from writing some textbooks and getting royalties from that it seemed his scope to make more was a bit limited.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 11:44 PM
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I get the sentiment behind it but what’s the logistics of this? If you earn more and suddenly stop working how and CAN he even make that up? Does he even want to do this?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 09:44 PM
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Are they somewhat paired up with the girls that are coming? If so that’s a problem. If it’s just a group trip then I would t be too bothered. Where is the trip to? x
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 05:07 AM
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Lol fair enough. He probably doesn’t think you’re 18 tbh, but maybe thinks you’re younger than you are. Just bite the bullet and pop it into conversation if you’re that worried. If he’s like “wow okay I thought you were younger” don’t make it a big thing, just be like nope I’m 29, then move the convo onwards.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 11:10 PM
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You’re fixated on age because your ex was a creep (sorry but him going for 18yo sounds predatory). Can I ask how his age came up in convo but yours didn’t? Just bring it up naturally in convo and see how he reacts
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 07:31 PM
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Men are really good at talking about serious things (marriage, kids etc) in a jokey, positive and seemingly genuine way. It doesn’t mean anything aside from the fact they are trying to not be a red flag by saying straight up no. The real test is whether they will talk about it in concrete rather than abstract terms. It’s disappointing your partner won’t but you need to think of yourself. Get your health on track and start some prenatal supps x
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 07:28 PM
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I’m married but I met my hubby through a friend. Utilise your like minded friends and let them know you’re looking! xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 02:35 AM
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Thanks for sharing your story! I def might start Pilates classes etc again. That’s cool that you did MMA, my brother is big into it but I never thought to try xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 03:20 AM
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Keep strong and know your worth! I know it’s hard when you’re really into someone but if he won’t give you a proper relationship then what’s in it for you? If he tries anything say sorry you don’t do that stuff outside of a relationship. You sound sensible and like you’ve got your head screwed on Xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 10:58 PM
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I think having a Plan B is important though? And probably a Plan C and Plan D? Just give it a shot OP, work for what you want then make the best with what you get. I also have a history of anxiety so I feel I can understand some of what you’re saying. Hang in there.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 10:54 PM
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He sounds young and immature. Hot and cold. He probably likes you but if he won’t commit then what’s the point. Absolutely DO NOT sleep with an ex, I think this is so important. I’ve never seen it go well. They don’t respect you and sex is a boyfriend privilege that he no longer has access to. I wouldn’t kiss him either tbh unless you can do it without it messing with your feelings. xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 11:46 PM
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That’s a good idea. How fun is Zumba! I forget why I stopped. Okay thanks I will look into some local interest groups xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 09:00 PM
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True, thanks. My mum always says that, friendships are like a garden you need to water and maintain them lol. xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 08:58 PM
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That’s so insightful Thankyou. I’ve found through difficult times I’ve def become closer to some friends. Also very important about not putting all your eggs in one basket with your hubby. Thanks for your wise insight! xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 08:57 PM
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Transplants! Lol love it. Good point, I went to school and University in a different state so I would be considered a transplant too. Some groups do seem rather cliquey, my husband seems to have made friends through work etc but they’re all men xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 11:19 AM
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I think it’s rare to find a sub that meets your every need. If you feel it’s still benefiting you then you should keep coming! Just take out the bits that you find helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 10:38 AM
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Okay that’s a good idea thanks. x
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 10:07 AM
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Some babies maybe do view their nanny as a primary attachment? Does it really matter? As long as they feel loved and they are cared for that’s the most important thing. Some women quite simply have to work, and they do the best they can when they’re home. I do agree there is way too much mummy guilt that society puts onto women.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 11:45 AM
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Thanks for your reply I appreciate your info. I had a Singaporean friend who told me of a similar situation in her home country. I suppose I just found the post a bit defeatist and wondered about the validity of the claim. In reading further I see that OP has social anxiety and perhaps this is the root of the problem.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 02:46 AM
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I am familiar with attachment theories. Unless you’re with the baby 24/7, they will become attached in some way with whoever is around them. To what degree who knows? There’s no point fretting about something that can’t be proven or disproven.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 02:44 AM
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Of course the child will be attached to the nanny. Does it really matter? Working mothers have to accept that and just make the most of their time with their child.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 01:02 AM
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I question what exam you sit that a fail would mean you’re banned from doing anything in your country?! Are you talking about final year high school?
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 10:18 PM
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Replying to myself but literally just triggered thinking about this now lol. One job I had, the two junior doctors were myself (I would say conventionally attractive in terms of western views) and my collegue who was undisputedly extremely attractive, especially her pretty face. Straight away the nurses made fictitious complaint after complaint about us, to the point where we got called in for a meeting. My colleague asked for examples of events, and HR couldn’t really give any. It was so toxic …
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 02:48 AM
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Yup. I’m a female physician (now in private practice in the community) but in my hospital years the only bullying I got was from women, mainly nurses.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 08:35 PM
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How much is “a lot” of drinking? Honestly substance use that is excessive is a hard no for me.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 04:38 AM
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Substitute teacher is a good idea! My mum is a teacher and lives a very traditional lifestyle with my dad. xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 08:56 PM
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I’m personally not a fan of such arrangements because you will completely deskill and find yourself in trouble should things not work. At least work one day a week! xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 10:18 AM
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I’m millennial not Gen Z, and not sure how old you are, but honestly just let him pay. If he asks you in the date, and he should imo, then he pays. You reciprocate by showing your appreciation and thanking him genuinely. Then you pay for the ice cream afterwards or something else. I feel like feminism has forced things to be “equal” too much. The dynamics of dating should be that he asks, and suggests a venue/restaurant, you make an effort with your appearance and be good company, you both get t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 03:12 AM
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Was it progesterone or copper? I mean maybe it had some effect, and I sense you’re desperately looking for an “answer”, but don’t be surprised if she reverts.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 03:06 AM
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You’re late to the game and I dare say this seems more motivated by age and biological clock than anything else. Men are attune to this “switch” that occurs at this age. However, you’ve changed your tune and you have a right to take charge of how your life will look moving forwards. IMO you need to communicate with him, not all at once because that will seems a bit extreme, but just simply and factually how you feel about marriage etc. If he’s not on board with fertility then I suggest freezing …
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 10:31 PM
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I have some from school and college and work etc, and I’ve found myself closer to them as I’ve gotten older compared to my friends who took a more feminist path.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 09:29 PM
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Whatever you do make sure you don’t have a Resting Bitch Face. It’s beyond me how that even became something to be proud of.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 09:27 PM
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This is such good intel! Thanks for sharing x
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 08:58 PM
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We met through a friend! He saw some pics posted of me by a mutual friend and asked her about me. Then he organised to be at an event we were both at. The rest is history! It seems old fashioned but I totally suggest this method. Let friends who you trust know that you’re single and looking xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 08:56 PM
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I agree re a grace period. This “epiphany” all sounds good on paper, but you’re not out of the woods yet. Watch his behaviour closely in terms of him making short and long term plans he actually sticks to. Good luck xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 08:53 PM
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The whole thing sounds like too much drama for so early on. Disappearing for two weeks without so much as a text is weird imo. I would keep your options open.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/22 10:52 PM
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I hope you recover from your burns. I don’t think the breakup is related to that. Take some time to heal and move on xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 01:20 AM
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Straight up facts. Be careful who you keep in your inner circle. I’ve found that surrounding myself with similar value women is better, not because I’m shallow, but because I got sick of the BS lowkey cut downs and snide remarks xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 10:31 PM
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Sounds like a shit day. I wouldn’t even bother with him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 10:29 PM
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Thanks for sharing. I appreciate a males perspective on this topic.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 10:25 PM
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Why has he “ruined” anything? Sounds like he set a good example for you. Now if you want to attract a high value man then you have to be high value yourself, so focus your efforts on that. I have huge respect for my father and was very picky with my dating and married a man with similarities to my dad actually lol. xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 10:24 PM
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Lots of men date for fun. He probably enjoys your company, perks of having a gf, and regular sex. But he’s made himself clear and I think you need to process this and move on xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 10:20 PM
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Wth. “How to deal with being sidelined?”. Umm…stop being the sort of woman who gets sidelined. You can’t bully your way into not being sidelined lol. That post has real Female Incel vibes to me
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 10:19 PM
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Some men, especially assertive ones, can border on being controlling at times. Its okay you just need to set boundaries xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 10:15 PM
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Interesting post. My partner and I would both be self sufficient, with outsourcing as required, but we would struggle more. For example my husband doesn’t cook, but of course he can feed himself if I wasn’t around. I struggle with doing paperwork and finances, but I did somehow do this stuff before I met him. I think it’s normal in a partnership to slot into your niche xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 10:14 PM
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I personally never liked large age gap relationships and I see them as a good plan b option for women who can’t get a high quality man in their own age bracket.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 11:43 PM
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I’m a millennial and assuming OP is Gen Z and wow things have changed a lot just in my time! OP I really think you need to have your own job and interests, for yourself but also he will respect you more. Don’t be a housewife until you’re an actual wife. If you don’t want to work then something at university so you have a qualification. xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 10:34 PM
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Thanks for the advice! Sounds like you handed that well, congrats! I guess I just want to avoid being one of those “young acting” immature women, but keep myself with a fresh and open demeanour. My outward appearance and clothing style has always been age appropriate, so I feel like it must be my demeanour or speech.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 01:13 AM
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Thanks for the tips! Yes I’m really looking forward to motherhood, have some severe male infertility issues so could be a whole yet sadly. That’s a good point about being “fresh”! I want to be fresh and optimistic but not immature.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 01:08 AM
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You show such insight! Good for you. It’s good to reflect that your female may appear harsh and angry, and consider what kind of people want to be around that? xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 03:53 AM
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Limits your pool of available men, but some guys will be into it for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 03:51 AM
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Absolutely. Men open doors for you etc and are very respectful.xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 06:58 AM
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This is what I thought too
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 04:25 AM
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Agreed! Of course men look at it. On their smart phones or whatever.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 12:42 AM
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If you try “ban” your husband from porn I think most modern men will just look at it behind your back. We need to pick our battles and honestly this is one my husband and I just don’t discuss xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 12:39 AM
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I think men watch it online and their friends seem to be having it so they want it so they don’t feel like they are missing out. I’m not sure they’re that keen though? I don’t know. My hubby made me try once and we were both like meh and didn’t again xo
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 10:56 PM
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Honestly go see a personal stylist and a makeup consultant who picks your colour pallete. Best money I ever spent! Now I know how to dress and apply makeup in a way that flatters me xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 10:14 PM
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Have you seen a dermatologist? You might have rosacea. Go see a MD specialising in skin. I had to do a course of roacc and laser treatments and now I don’t even have to wear makeup. Trust me there’s light at the end of the tunnel. I can relate to the skin issues it’s hard on the self esteem and not feeling pretty xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 11:58 PM
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“Traumatised”?!?! as he saw you with glasses? Sorry but what a pussy, needs to man tf up tbh. Onto your self esteem, is there something in particular about your appearance that bothers you? I used to feel the same without makeup but really it was because my skin was bad, so then I fixed my skin and therefore needed less makeup then my anxiety went away. xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 10:16 PM
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Honestly just act as “normal” as you can on a first date tbh. Drinking loads of sugary liquids does not give off a good first impression. It’s not stifling who you are, example I love chewing gum and sometimes I even blow bubbles lol but I would certainly not do that on a date because it’s just weird. If you need to be hydrated as you put it then drink before you arrive. Also if he’s paying then any kind of “over ordering” is rude.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 10:10 PM
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Peter Alexander (Australian brand) is always cute and good quality xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 10:06 PM
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I honestly think this is a very difficult dynamic to manage long term as I’ve seen men become resentful and feel emasculated, aside from some “modern” men who seem to get a kick out of being taken care of. As long as it’s short term, go for it. Don’t overcompensate and praise and give encouragement about every single he does because that seems like he’s a child. Talk about his day, what he did, admire his handwork. Keep your talk about finances as limited as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 02:59 AM
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I wouldn’t overthink it. Of course women (and most men) lose their looks as they age. All you can do is maximise your appearance and focus on being a well rounded and interesting person with hobbies and a fulfilling life.Xo
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 10:34 PM
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It will def increase the pool of men who are attracted to you! Congrats on getting out of that relationship xo
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 05:53 AM
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It’s true. Until they get a bit older. I was considered boring and nerdy and quiet in my teens, also I was stick thin. Surprised as I got older and remained the same, suddenly men were throwing themselves at me. They got tired of “easy” women and apparently having a gf or wife who is studious, polite and quiet, suitable to meet the parents, and a willowy figure is now suddenly wife material lol. You’re just underrated like I was imo xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 05:31 AM
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I think you have identified you have “daddy issues” and that needs to be addressed rather than just blindly letting it affect your dating choices. Ideally a man of similar age or up to five years older is the healthiest imo. xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 09:29 PM
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Through a friend! I totally recommend this approach, tell your friends that you’re actively single and looking. My friend mentioned me to her colleague and showed me a photo, and the rest is history lol. It feels weird at first but don’t be shy is all I can suggest! xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 11:21 PM
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I met my now hubby in my late twenties! It’s a different dating field and if you want a similar aged man then you’re competing with all the 24 year olds. My only advice is, it’s completely doable, you just need to date with purpose, and maximise your appearance etc. You literally have to be the best version of yourself physically you can be. xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 05:47 AM
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I think it depends how “slutty” we are talking. If you genuinely were pretty bad, then that’s not something you can just turn off overnight. You really need to examine why you were like that, and work on yourself. xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 05:23 AM
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I respectfully disagree with this. I see many women try marry a guy they think is, and try keep, “down” in a sense. Like “oh he’s shy and never goes out and never even notices other women lololol”…I’ve seen it backfire. Once they do get access to a beautiful woman, and it will happen in some way shape or form, they’re like a kid in a candy store and can’t control themselves because they aren’t used to it. Need a man who is more worldly imo.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 01:48 AM
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Are you attracted to him? It doesn’t sound like you are. You’re so young honestly I would find someone else you are a better match with xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 01:41 AM
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I think you’ve identified your problem. You’re reaching too high, and also you need to work on your self esteem. I’ve seen women pair up with and indeed marry men outside of their league, but these women are very agreeable, pleasant, kind, maximised their appearance, and consciously make up for their “deficiency” by improving themselves. So you can do that or you can lower your expectations xox
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 09:21 PM
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My husband is a lawyer and very opinionated lol. Not to stereotype but it’s true. He’s toned it down over the years and learning that he can’t negotiate people out of their feelings or opinions. It’s just a certian personality type tbh xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 09:08 PM
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I mean you can stay with him, but you have a preview of what your life will be like. Are you willing to accept that?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 10:55 PM
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Wow. So true actually.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 10:05 AM
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Yes. I was brought up very strict Catholic which I have mixed feelings about, and my husband is Protestant. He goes to church and I go with him sometimes. I am happy for him to lead in this regard and also with our future children xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 10:03 AM
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It’s never been my cup of tea. A few women seem to have had casual things and not care at all, enjoy themselves, and then have serious boyfriends and husbands. Other women seem to become jaded and I can tell it’s affected their whole view of relationships and themselves. I like to sleep with people I’m in love with and I’ve only loved a couple of people so that’s been it for me and I’m happy with that xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 09:48 AM
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Another doctor post!!! I can’t cope with this. I’m def going to compile an advice post on the topic as a female physician I feel it’s my duty lol. Girl honestly, he doesn’t even have a career. Why are you with him? First red flag. Let alone all the others. Ditch him and find someone more compatible xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 02:51 AM
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It’s just a lifestyle ideology. I personally think feminism has come so far that many women have forgotten common sense. Abstract ideas about things don’t change the biological reality of life. I think RPW is for women who enjoy the traditional dual gender roles (and in this I would include trans women etc or indeed anyone who identifies as a woman). If women are happy behaving like men then all the more power to them and good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 10:39 PM
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Lol maybe there is! I think there’s a few physicians on here, maybe we should band together and write a post on the topic.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 10:05 PM
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100% agree with all of this! Thanks for sharing. Honestly I’m disheartened by the amount of posts about girls wanting to do medicine but feeling hesitant. I can relate to some of the hesitation (time commitment etc) but finding a husband and suitable partners I have actually found easier because I’m a doctor!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 07:12 PM
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Completely agree. I’m a female physician and married to a HVM, I’ve had no trouble attracting high quality men who are attracted to the empathy within the profession. My hubby loves having me looking after him when he’s sick. I now choose my own hours which is very family friendly.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 11:18 PM
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Why must it be one or the other? I did graduate medical school and found a husband whilst at uni. You can def do both. Studying is no different to having a job. xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 03:25 AM
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Sarcasm is pretty low brow humour and anyone can do it. Being witty is great, keep that up xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 10:58 AM
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I agree. In what world do men prefer overweight women with short hair?! Makes me wonder whether he’s trolling her in which case what’s wrong with him
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 09:52 PM
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This is verbal abuse. Not appropriate.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 11:40 AM
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A better appearance isn’t just about sex, it’s also about being more presentable to his friends and collegues and boss and family. It presents him in a better light that he can get a nice looking woman. So I think yes you should see some improvement in that regard.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/22 09:29 PM
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Absolutely!!! I’m married now but I had a LT relationship at college and when I was getting ready to go visit him for a date or whatever (he lived at a nearby dorm) I would usually put a skirt and top and do my hair etc, nothing special honestly would take 15mins, but I would obvi change out of my ugly shorts or tracksuit I was wearing to study haha, and I got so many comments in my dorms like I was doing something wrong!? “It’s so weird you always DRESS UP to go see him” like wtf I just wanna l…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/22 05:24 AM
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I dislike the notion that women are allowed to have choices, but men seemingly aren’t. A man doesn’t want to date you and politely indicates this? Obviously now he’s a man baby, commitment phobe, arsehole, probably gay, clearly something wrong with him, total loser. A woman doesn’t want to date a guy cos he’s short? lol fair enough kween you deserve the best.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/22 05:20 AM
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You’re the third wheel here.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/22 05:17 AM
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This!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/22 05:13 AM
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Just pick a guy who is smarter than you are. That’s what I did. I am not attracted to men less intelligent than myself xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/22 05:12 AM
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I used to but when I got serious with my now hubby our relationships became way less close. I CBF putting energy into men that aren’t my husband or family lol! I’m friends with my girlfriends partners. I have gay male friends. I dunno it just turned out this way xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/22 06:46 AM
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I think four months in is most certainly acceptable time to assess your exclusivity. I’m out of the dating game (lol I met my husband 8 years ago) but I’m surprised that women are willing to be intimate with a man for four months without even knowing if he sleeps with other women!!!! He’s out out some good signs but also maybe he just likes having you around. It’s hard to say. In my previous relationships it has been the man who has brought up the exclusivity of us and they just said it in a sim…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/22 03:52 AM
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Thanks for the reply. Such good points Thankyou! xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 12:07 AM
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Thank for your reply! Can you extrapolate further about the things that aren’t physical traits?
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 12:06 AM
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As a former very slim person (BMI 17), it doesn’t look cute once you’re over 30 (my BMI now is 22). When you’re young the baby fat in your face hides the gauntness and looks great with a slim body. I think she’s a little underweight and might look younger with a bit more weight on her face. There’s a famous quote about choosing your “fanny or your face” but I forget who said that!
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 06:27 AM
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I’m maybe 60-70% trad. I grew up in a very trad Catholic family with parents who are still together and have traditional roles (I went to a strict Catholic school for girls). It’s worked well for them and so that’s been something I’ve internalised. I respect men, I’m happy being a woman. I’m also used to men and understand them, in that I have three older brothers and a dad I have a good relationship with. My friends are all women, my interests are feminine. I don’t smoke or take drugs or anythi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 06:21 AM
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You realise many women lie about their sexual past right? I always find it amusing when men think they have outright access to this information and that a woman who has a “past” will live a lonely and rejected life. I personally grew up Catholic in a very strict household and have lived a very trad life. I am married. But I have girlfriends from college who have married and I’m almost 100% certain the men don’t know every detail about their sexual past.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 06:13 AM
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Love goggles are def a thing. Get a man to love you when you’re young and beautiful and he will always see you that way. I personally feel like men struggle to fall in love when you’re older because they never knew you/saw you at your best. Just my opinion/ observation xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 06:07 AM
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Damn you said it. Ive thought this for a long time but hubby and I don’t have kids yet (currently TTC) so I feel like I’m not allowed to say it lololol xo
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 02:48 AM
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I don’t think so? Although the “sugar baby” movement seems to have become a thing which I personally find quite gross!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 02:46 AM
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I agree. I’ve seen some men marry for what seems like convenience but also many men who are hopeless romantics long beyond when a woman would have given up. Some men are totally hung up on their first gf for example xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 07:14 AM
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If you’re both working full time then get a cleaner. Honestly we have one every two weeks for a big clean and we just tidy in between. Saved our marriage xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 12:29 AM
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I think you need to figure out exactly what you want from him and let that inform your behaviour. You want to be his girlfriend? Start acting like a girlfriend and have higher expectations for yourself including not just overnight stays etc. If he doesn’t respond then that’s your answer. Ps. Also sorry to sound cynical but I would verify that he is actually a doctor, I’m a physician myself and there are apparently a lot of men out there pretending to be doctors to pick up women and excuse their …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/22 09:17 PM
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Oh I completely agree, don’t get me wrong! I think you are doing a lot. Which is why I’m wondering why it is he has this idea that he’s “financially supporting” you? That’s only something you can discuss with him. xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 08:17 AM
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Have you asked him how it is that he perceives he is “financially supporting” you? Like does he have concrete examples? Because it sounds like go me that you earn a lot less, but you do all of the chores etc. Do you sense that he’s resentful of your lower income? I’m sorry this is happening, it could be a good opportunity to talk about where things are going etc though xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 02:37 AM
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Good comment, I agree. I’m a physician and the amount of women I see who blame their weight on some sort of “hormonal imbalance” or “thyroid problem” is disheartening, even when I turn my computer and literally show them their bloodwork and say here’s the proof it’s not. I do find male patients far more realistic eg. “Yeah I drink too much beer” and “Yeah I eat fish and chips like every second day lol” but of course society doesn’t judge men for obesity so there is more freedom to be real xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 01:21 AM
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No but my parents marriage is very RP and they still have their problems. Everyone has their own struggles xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 01:17 AM
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How much would rent be if you weren’t living with him? You gotta pay rent either way so I think a fair amount is reasonable. The separate question is whether you want to pay above that, and be named on the mortgage? That’s something you need to discuss with him in the context of where your relationship is going xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 01:15 AM
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Do yo have an idea of his finances? Or is this just some unilateral interest he has going on? From what you’ve said it sounds like he’s uncomfortable with your modelling work and also wondering whether it extends to “extras” like being a sugar baby etc. Are you studying at uni? Perhaps focus on that a bit more and your plans for the future when talking with him xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 09:49 PM
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If all the men commenting are genuinely, and I mean really sincerely genuinely happy having their women look like slobs, even when they try plan a nice date night for them, then all the more power to them. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 06:04 AM
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You sound burnt out. The question is whether you have low stress tolerance and will be burnt out in any scenario or job you take on. Having said that, something needs to change and I think you should start considering your interests and talents and making a plan to move elsewhere xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/22 11:53 PM
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Yes so true. My mum was an English teacher and my grandmother a nurse in the war. They were both very traditional. My other grandmother didn’t work but she was a pianist and had musical interests, and was very good at single handedly running a household xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 11:04 PM
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Good question! I have no idea. I’ve just never heard men compliment each other unless maybe it’s a sporting achievement or a promotion and that’s more of a “congrats” type comment. I agree I don’t compliment men who aren’t family or my partner xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 11:01 PM
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I agree with this. I feel like there’s an increasing movement of young women who “want something for nothing” rather than realising that taking on such a traditional role is actually hard work. I also find that modern men are happier with a woman who works at least somewhat, then maybe stops when they have kids xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/22 12:02 AM
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Context please OP!
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 12:06 AM
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I think men are generally starved of compliments. As women we compliment eachother all the time and men compliment us. Who is complimenting the men? Nobody. xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 12:06 AM
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I think some volunteer and charity work is good. I lived a very sheltered life and was the only girl and the youngest in my family, also had a strict religious school upbringing so it’s fair to say there were a lot of things I didn’t know lol. Becoming more worldly fosters empathy and the skills needed to care for others xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 11:33 PM
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Not foolproof but find out what their mother did/does. I find men with mums who stayed at home are much more option to it, especially if their family is still intact and worked well. Also men with money are a good bet as they don’t need your money and also don’t want ghe added stress of two jobs in their life xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 04:17 AM
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You haven’t spoken in a couple of weeks? Coincides with your first intimacy? I think you need to speak with him and assess where this is at and if you guys are on the same page. Good luck xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 08:56 PM
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I agree re Aussie female fashion! I’m always a little surprised to see American girls wearing baggy tracksuits or tights with baggy shirts etc. we def wear more form fitting clothes here including lots of dresses and skirts, and pastel colours. Source: been to east and west coast several times and also the Deep South. Also the US exchange students at my university seemed to dress similar to the boys in tracksuit sets etc. nothing wrong with that of course just way less feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 11:30 PM
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I agree re this. I can’t imagine what body type looks better naked/tight clothing than in well fitted/tailored clothes. The only exception might be those very hourglass shapes (Christina Hendricks, Kim K) who if they don’t cinch in at the waist they just look “bigger” overall. I also feel like tight clothing can actually make bigger girls look bigger. Either way OP you have identified you need to lose weight and ultimately that’s the answer to your problems. xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 10:57 PM
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Thanks for the reply and insightful thoughts! Yes I agree I do think some of it is personal preference though. I would be fine with a low income man if he was studying hard in a degree that eventually pays well because I find that ambitious and sexy, yet I know some women who def aren’t ok with that and don’t want to play the long game. I also don’t mind kids. I find divorce and much older men to not be my preference but that’s just me! (I did grow up in a fairly strict religious household and I…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 08:28 AM
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Agreed but surely it’s def an orange flag, something that needs to be investigated further. Is the man impulsive, ie. did they marry on a whim? If his ex was so horrible then why is he attracted to toxic women? Is he even telling the truth about the demise of his marriage? In your twenties you can afford to be more picky. If I was early thirties and still single then I would have accepted divorced men. Later in my thirties I would accept men with kids. Luckily for me I met my hubby in my mid to …
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 05:58 AM
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Maximise what you have and just accept that’s how the cookie crumbles. Men aren’t complete ogres, if you have a good loving relationship with your partner and treat him well and look after yourself, the wall is irrelevant. Of course men notice attractive younger women but who cares honestly Xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 01:35 AM
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Hmm sounds like you just aren’t meeting men. I assume your line of work is female dominated? Have you considered dating apps? I’m married so no idea but most of my girlfriends who have met good men in recent years have met them on apps so it does seem the way to go. Make sure you get some nice flattering photos and ask someone who you trust for their feedback xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 01:31 AM
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There’s a difference between (1)not meeting appropriate men and (2)meeting them but they aren’t interested, and you allude to both in your post. If your appearance is on point and you’re meeting men you would like to proceed with, but they aren’t interested, there might be something off putting or awkward or u pleasant about your personality or behaviours. It’s hard to say. Do you have a friend or family member you trust who would give you real feedback? xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 10:48 PM
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You sound insecure about her long term history with a man and preoccupied with declaring it was “nothing”. I’m heterosexual so I don’t propose to comment with any authority on these matters but I think the less we know about our partners history the better xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 07:30 AM
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I had one serious long term relationship and I think it helped me with relationship skills etc. Ps. You seem to really be downgrading your wife’s previous relationship, she probably liked him way more than she lets on to you, and that’s okay. We don’t need to know or care about our partners previous relationships, only that they are invested in us xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 01:26 AM
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Make big batches and freeze some, eg spag bol. Don’t go overboard tho, but make sure you cook more than is needed xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 01:23 AM
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Ambitious, good work ethic, intelligent, more “worldly” than me”, helps me and gives advice, open to accepting advice and guidance from me, acknowledges that women and men are different and doesn’t try fight it, owns his issues and works on his previous trauma from growing up in a dysfunctional family so it doesn’t affect us. xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 01:21 AM
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This is so true. I’ve noticed men can cling on to whatever has worked for them in the past and develop oddly-specific types on that basis. xo Source: I have three older brothers and a husband lol.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 01:13 AM
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No because I only dated men smarter than me and I purposely married a very clever guy. I recommended it, because then you can rely on him to explain things or help you with things and you increase your knowledge too. I am genuinely not attracted to men who are less intelligent than me, massive turn off xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 05:33 AM
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Me too!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 05:30 AM
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I’ve never been the type to hook up with male friends because I’ve seen this happen so many times. It ruins the friendship. How can it not be awkward when you’ve been so intimate? I think it’s best to just move on xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 02:16 AM
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I feel like you need to consider whether you deserve better. Sorry that’s all I have to say re this xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 10:55 PM
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Sorry but what
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 07:48 AM
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Is easily manipulated and basically has little direction and just goes with the flow. That’s what I think anyway. xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 07:46 AM
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We bring each other coffee and toast in the morning, whoever is up first. I give my hubby massages, send him cute emails when he’s at work, I cook his favourite foods and bring him snacks when he’s working xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 07:43 AM
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Lol. Just as I suspected.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/22 01:50 AM
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Do you have any proof of this? I’ve worked as an MD for eight years and never saw any “hooking up on night shift” lol. I can’t speak for what the nurses do as they are very different to female doctors but this is certainly not something that happens (except for on Scrubs!)
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 08:55 PM
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I’m an MD too and I refrained from writing more because you’ve covered it perfectly here!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 08:48 PM
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I’m an MD! I’m surprised to see this question on here semi-regularly (I’ve been wondering whether I should write a post with general advice about it). Different specialties require different time commitment so that is worth considering. I work part time now which has been a great help to my marriage. In terms of dating, that’s a whole other post in itself, but aim for other high earning and high educated men. The issue is that every other woman is after them too so you need to keep yourself comp…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 08:42 PM
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I would be a little suspicious of any man in this day and age who “demands” that you have zero financial income to yourself. It’s not even like you’re married or have kids yet!!! xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 01:45 AM
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They aren’t big in my country but I can see their fairness when one party brings a large ammt of wealth to a situation, eg. inheritance or properties or whatever. I get the impression in the US men can get quite screwed over by “alimony” and other expenses etc so not sure how it works over there but it does seem different to UK and Aus experience. xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 01:41 AM
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So much of it depends on your industry, flexibility, salary, partners job, family support, child factors (some kids need extra help etc). We don’t have kids yet, currently TTC, but we are def keeping an open mind about how things will unfold. I’ve worked too hard to be where I am professionally to completely give it up, so I think I will always be doing some level of work probably just part time or casual. You have to do what works for you xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 06:19 AM
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Hmm. It does sound like his mood and morale are low. Have you been having much quality time? Can you take some time off and have a weekend away just the two of you? Nothing fancy but to get outdoors and go for some walks etc? It might be a nice circuit breaker. I would just focus on trying to create a positive time and help energise him a bit. xo ps. I used to work hospital shift work too so can relate to how tired and disjointed you must feel at times. I think some quality time outdoors away fr…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 11:17 AM
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Is he depressed? That was my first thought and that needs to be considered. Having said that, it’s important to consider his history. What sort of seasonal work? Is it something you would be happy him continuing indefinitely? Does it have any long term career prospects? These are all things that need to be considered. Also I’m happy to be corrected, but I wonder if men want us “helping” them with their resumé etc, or whether it makes them feel emasculated. Like i get why you would do it but I ju…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 09:02 AM
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Some guys are so clingy imo. Like men go on about the clingyness of women but let’s talk about the stage five clinger that is an orbiter man who won’t accept you are in a new relationship!!!! I learnt this the hard way so all I can suggest is making it clear to them that you see them only platonically. Talk about men you are interested in and going on a date with. He will get the message and if he doesn’t then just do a respectful fade away. Invest more in your female friendships. xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 11:35 PM
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Either or. I just think there’s a cycle that feedback loops itself between him being passive IRL and being a porn addict. I didn’t state my opinion was the only one so settle down lol.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 09:40 AM
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Addictions are problematic and will end up affecting your relationship in ways you haven’t even imagined. The fact that he’s so shy and timid is likely fueled by the fact that he’s so addicted to porn, ie. porn makes him feel manly so he doesn’t have to be IRL because he’s already satiated elsewhere. Honestly you’re young and I would just move on xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 04:10 AM
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I LOLed out loud at the sheer accuracy of this comment! xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 04:09 AM
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I posted about a friendship loss here recently so I can somewhat relate. She’s probably jealous, ie. you have a partner and you still attract the guys she wants, and it doesn’t sound like you have much in common anymore anyway. It’s so hard though…people talk about breakups all the time and nobody mentions breaking up with your friends! It’s pretty poor form that the other girls have gone silent too, like what’s their horse in the race? Hugs xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 03:58 AM
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There definitely are but times have changed and most of them want you to have a proper career when they meet you. Then they are happy for you to step it down to SAHW or SAHM, but I think in some circles it’s become a bit awkward to not have any interest or education (I’m not saying that’s right I’m just saying that’s what I’ve noticed). I’ve noticed a lot of men say proudly “my wife used to be a physiotherapist (or whatever) but now she takes care of the kids”, like societal expectations have de…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 12:41 AM
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You need a degree or your own skills or qualifications, not just to protect yourself, but for your own self development and identity. xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/22 07:56 AM
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“Working to apply to more prestigious schools”. What does that even mean? Girl he’s a University drop-out and very happy to bludge off you. I wouldnt be happy with this at all. Also sounds like he’s “future faking” with you. Don’t buy into the future that doesn’t exist yet. You have to work with the present. My husband is a successful lawyer and if for some reason he got struck off or couldnt work he would literally pack shelves at a supermarket until he got another job. I think you need to aim …
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/22 11:43 PM
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But he’s straight up told you he doesn’t like your goth clothes? I’m pretty sure most guys don’t like goth style, which is their right, and you also have your right to dress however you want. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. I personally dress in a way that my husband likes but also that is my style, but I’m also not a fan of really “out there” styles because I feel like often the person lacks personality/identity and is trying to make up for it through their clothing. Not saying that’s …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 04:15 AM
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I 100% agree.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 04:01 AM
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I might be in the minority here but I don’t think straight up giving a guy your number is a good move. He will be flattered and will text you, because who wouldn’t, and he might even go on some dates with you or whatever but for all you know he’s just responding to your very obvious interest. Men aren’t like women, they aren’t picky. If a girl gives them their number they will text them and see where they go with it even if they aren’t overly interested. BUT, I think it’s a good idea to get him …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 04:00 AM
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I’m not sure on the statistics but I feel like this is less of a thing in my country (Australia). I feel like people are very fit and health conscious here, with a focus on athleticism. I would def be on the lower end of the sporty scale here but when I lived in the UK people praised me for being “super sporty” and fit etc lol so the standards were very different. In my travels in the US I’ve seen people range in sizes, but def more an acceptance of larger bodies. Men in Australia generally don’…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 02:22 AM
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Great idea! xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 09:49 PM
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Sounds like you’re doing so well! I’m impressed. It’s just me and hubby at the moment (currently TTC). I also have the issue of no leftovers because hubby has the metabolism of a teenage boy lol but I light make extra and set it aside from the start xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 09:49 PM
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You sound very organised! Awesome thanks for the tips xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 09:40 PM
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Sounds like you have a good routine! Do you mind me asking if you do a cooked breakfast in the morning? Sometimes i do toast for bfast but that’s it xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 11:49 AM
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Hmm does he end up buying it or something? Have you talked to him about it? It’s nice of you to make it every morning xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 11:47 AM
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Haha love it! My hubby has clients lunches too so it’s hard to pick when he might want/need a meal. Sounds like you have some specialties and your hubby loves them xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 11:46 AM
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Thanks for the reply! That’s a good idea. I had never heard of a food thermos but just googled them and they look pretty good xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 11:45 AM
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Thanks for the reply. Love it! How often do you meal prep? And how do you keep things fresh? I’ve always been interested in meal prepping but not sure how to make it last xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 09:29 AM
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I make a lot of quiche because it’s easy and hubby likes it, and I can pair it with a salad. I don’t use any pastry so really is quite easy. Tonight we had a oyster soy beef with bok choy sesame and rice, I enjoy cooking but have no experience with Asian style cooking at all so this is new for me xox
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 09:13 AM
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It’s 2022 and you should be contributing sometimes imo
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 09:09 AM
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Have you sought individual therapy to help deal with and move on from your family difficulties? It might be a good idea. Also remember, you’re not engaged until the ring is on your finger. xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 09:08 AM
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There’s always going to be more beautiful women than you. You just need to accept it xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 01:36 AM
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Are you physically not attracted to him? Or are you mentally/emotionally not aroused by him? I personally found myself to be able to grow attraction to my ex despite him not being my usual physical “type”, because I was emotionally and mentally attracted to him. So I think it can happen in that way. Otherwise with my husband I was like “YUM!!!” when I saw him and also I love him and am emotionally and mentally attracted to him so that’s another level of deeper attraction there. If you’re neither…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 01:32 AM
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You bought a cute outfit and tried to initiate sex and he noped you? Move on. Honestly not worth your time or self esteem xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 01:30 AM
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I agree. Self love is great, but it shouldn’t be at the expense of facing reality.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 01:29 AM
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A grown man uses the word “retard”!? Abundance of red flags aside, he does not sound like a quality person and you’re young so just move on imo xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 09:34 PM
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You and your partner should be doing things for eachother. It’s not a good dynamic to feel like someone is keeping receipts or tabs on what they do for you. Do you feel that he reciprocates? I pack my hubby’s lunch and organise many of his appointments etc, while he often brings me food or picks up things from the store he knows I need or gives me/books me massages when I’m stressed. It’s all about reciprocating xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 09:32 PM
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Take him at his word and cut him off. Simply say you thought it was evolving into something more and you’re sorry he doesn’t feel the same. Then heal and work on yourself. Don’t catch up with him and don’t be any kind of emotional support to him. He doesn’t deserve “girlfriend” or “friend” privileges xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 09:27 PM
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Forget about what you “should” do and focus on what feels right to you. If you want a partner who is completely heterosexual, that’s okay, and that’s your answer. xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 09:00 PM
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This is my husband!!!! If I go to leave the house though he’s all like “oh, where are you going without me?” Lololol. He def wants me around but just not as into talking as much as I am xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 06:15 AM
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What are you doing for work or study? These places and associated events would be a good start. xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 06:14 AM
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I think it’s fine i just think the question is WHY you have never had a relationship? I think you need to examine that. Also just be careful because relationships take skill, including communication skills, compromising, conflict resolution, etc etc. I find that some people who haven’t had relationships lack these skills through lack of experience thus making it harder to get and keep a relationship xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 06:10 AM
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What’s the rush?
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 06:04 AM
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Just tell him your financial situation. He sounds stingy, I’m getting the sense that younger men are becoming more like this though? For reference I’m only a few years older than him though lol xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/22 11:02 AM
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Yes some things that my girlfriends tell me about their marriages or whatever I consider “women’s business” and he doesn’t need to know xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/22 12:46 AM
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Some men who are busy with work etc want a woman to organise things for them in their personal life and that is quite normal. Just be careful it’s not a dynamic that you fall into all the time, and make sure you give him opportunities to demonstrate he’s actually interested xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/22 12:46 AM
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Yes. The most attention I got was when my BMI was around 18 xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/22 12:43 AM
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Has he previously gotten you presents? I’m side eyeing this a little bit, birthday presents are like a standard part of life, even if it’s small or just a nice card xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/22 12:40 AM
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100% agree haha.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 07:14 AM
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Yes I agree that doesn’t seem right. I mean who do all the good looking men date?!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 07:12 AM
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Having a good looking wife probably makes men happy but may also cause issues or jealousy if the man is not secure imo xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 07:11 AM
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I mean, I did it. It definitely can be done. You just have to keep up your A-game with your fitness and appearance etc and accept that other women will always throw themselves at your husband xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 07:09 AM
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Some women date down because they think the man will forever pander to them and love them and never leave, and from what I’ve seen it never works out because the man becomes resentful and feels insecure. Date at your own level, or above xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 07:07 AM
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If you’re also working full time then I honestly recommended getting a cleaner if you can afford it. I still enjoy cooking and decorating and tidying etc but now hubby and I spend time to whether instead of cleaning on our time off. xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 08:20 AM
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Then keep applying until you get it approved, the answer is not to get an old man to pay for your life.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 08:55 AM
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If you have a genuine disability then why was your application denied?
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 11:26 PM
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Such inspo reading this thread. I struggle with STFU. xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 08:47 PM
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This. I grew out my hair really long before my wedding when I was 29 and men couldn’t stop staring at it. I even had a few interstate colleagues I hadn’t seen in about a year say oh you’ve grown your hair! and gaze at it admiringly. Good luck with your newfound dating success! xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 08:41 PM
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Hubby and I might mention attractive celebrities but that’s about it. Anyone in “real life” seems a bit close to home for me haha xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/21 09:30 AM
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If you’re a high quality woman I find only high quality men assume that you’re in their league. The others get scared and leave you alone lol. xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/21 07:20 AM
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I stress eat so can completely relate to what you’re saying! Have you seen a dietician? There’s a lot of psychology behind eating styles and I find input from a good dietician to be invaluable xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/21 01:57 AM
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Honestly there’s a lot of middle ground between private school and homeschooling, I kind of got whiplash reading that. In my opinion, just find a nice local state school. I am personally against the idea of a parent playing too many roles for their child “parent”, “teacher”, “friend”. I don’t think it’s healthy for them xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/21 01:54 AM
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I think you need therapy to examine why your relationship with the truth is on such shaky ground
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 11:41 PM
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People are saying get off social media but that’s ignoring the fact that he wilfully won’t put her in his profile pic. Why won’t he? xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 11:38 PM
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Being efficient and having some practicality about you. These aren’t totally “masculine” as such but I think can get overlooked when considering femininity. For example my grandmother could fix anything with her sewing kit and machine. Shirt got a rip? No problem hand it over and it’s fixed right there. I recently fixed some buttons (easy I know lol) on my husbands fave shirt before work and he was so happy and admiring. xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/21 11:29 AM
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Yes. I’ve fluctuated between weights and so has my best friend. The attention, admiration, and general happiness that men have around you when you’re slimmer and looking good is actually alarming. But it is what it is, that’s how the world works and it took me a long time to accept that xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/21 11:24 AM
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Just give positive feedback when he acts manly, and neutral or ignore when he’s being feminine. He will figure it out xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/21 11:18 AM
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Wow. Great analysis, thanks xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/21 11:17 AM
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Thanks for your advice and for taking the time to reply. Some solid gems there. Perhaps I have omitted too many details but she really is a bully and I don’t think finally standing up to her and asking her to be more reflective of how she speaks to me is out of line.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 07:39 PM
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That’s solid advice Thankyou. It’s too late though as I already asked her to be a little more mindful of how she speaks to me and she completely blew up and we haven’t spoken since. xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 12:31 PM
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Thanks for the reply. Yeah she is a bit of a party girl and I feel like she resents those of us who have moved on and have relationships and babies etc. I will make more proactive effort with my friends thanks for the tip xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 09:13 AM
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Thanks for your reply and sharing your story. How did you feel afterwards? That’s solid advice thanks. I have been doing that, and all the other women have been actively reaching out to me to organise things etc so I feel quite supported in that way. I def need to be more active about it though. I’ve probably been too passive in the past, and I wondered if me not saying anything about the situation will work against me. xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 09:54 PM
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Thanks for the reply! I agree it is a toxic friendship. At this point, and in recent times, I don’t think I’ve gotten anything from the friendship. In the past, when we were younger and life was easier, we probably connected more on a “fun” level. I’m not sure why I’ve allowed her, and potentially others in my life, to treat me like this but that’s something I’m working on xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 09:33 PM
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I think this is an interesting question. I grew up with only older brothers so I feel quite comfortable in male company, but mostly all my friends are female. I think making male friends is very “easy” especially if you’re a good looking female lol. It doesn’t require a lot of social skills. Navigating female friendships is much more complex but can also be much more rewarding. I think it’s good to expand your circle to include both men and women. I can’t speak for men’s views on the topic, but …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 09:01 PM
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The era of the hot dumb trophy wife has long passed. Well educated and successful men these days expect a woman to have some credentials behind her imo.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 12:23 AM
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I’m a female physician too. Thanks for your post, I totally agree. My husband likely isn’t “turned on” by my job lol but it’s more like he respects my work and the study and effort I’ve put into it. He’s a partner at his law firm and his previous girlfriends were also similarly educated xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 12:18 AM
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Kinda dodgy.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 12:14 AM
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I think women should be able to do whatever they want re work/homemaking and that’s what the essentially message behind feminism should be. It’s about women having choices and others respecting that. I have NEVER heard a man say something negative about a woman being a homemaker, it’s is only from other women. Pretty sad tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 12:12 AM
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What has he done/what is he doing that makes you lose respect?
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 11:11 PM
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In all honesty, some men will filter you out on that basis. Men of particular standing in society and men who have a very functional and close relationship with their family in particular might take issue with it. All you can do is focus on being your best self and learning from your past situation and how it may have shaped and affected you so that you don’t make the same decisions. That shows good insight and strength of character and that’s an attractive thing xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 06:03 AM
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I’m a millennial and I am beginning to wonder what on earth is wrong with Gen Z tbh. Do Gen Z guys even like femininity!?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 11:21 PM
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Why are you still with this guy? You deserve to be his number one.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 11:13 PM
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I think the majority of men don’t like them, but there will be guys who are into it (potentially men with lots of tatts) so that might be the sorts of guys to concentrate on xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 10:55 PM
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Women have strength! You can be strongly and gentle at the same time. My grandmother was the perfect English rose, very gentle and feminine, kind and warm. But also had a steady sense of strength and reserve about her. She didn’t lose her cool and she didn’t yell at my granddad or her kids. She was a nurse in WW2 and saw a lot of terrible things but still remained nurturing and gentle. So don’t discount “strength”! xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/21 03:20 AM
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Are you overweight now? If you’re genuinely overweight and unhealthy and he’s expressing a preference for this then I would be a bit suspicious. If you’re just curvier and he’s expressing a preference then that’s good xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/21 03:14 AM
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Men deny this but so much of when and who they settle down with is timing in my opinion. If everyone else is settling down and they’ve had their fun etc then they will often marry the girl they’re with then. So where do you think he is in terms of his timing? xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 03:59 AM
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Don’t take this the wrong way, but if what you say is correct and he really is out of your league, I’ve noticed that some men prefer such a pairing. Just accept that he’s chosen you and focus on yourself and your relationship xoxo
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 02:41 AM
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It’s hard to say but there must be something about you in person that is either off-putting to men or just completely lacking in charm/allure. Do you have a good friend or family member you could ask for genuine feedback? xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 02:37 AM
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Cool it with guy 1 for a while and concentrate on guy 2. xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 11:03 PM
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I’m a physician and you need to remember that the first step is actually getting into med school. It’s not even an option until you have an offer. As for your age? I think it’s totally okay, you’re still in your twenties and that’s the time to make decisions and changes! xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 08:04 AM
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I’m a physician. What sort of profession was your partner in if you don’t mind me asking? Honestly just go for men who “out rank” you in terms of career and earnings in my opinion. My husband is partner of a law firm and because we are in different fields there’s no sense of “competition” as such and he absolutely outearns me. I also only work four days a week which is great for mine and his work/life balance. Hang in there, residency is tough xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 11:40 PM
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I really enjoyed reading this, thanks. I text my partner way too much with just constant ramblings and you’ve described my experience really well. I’m going to try be more conscious if this habit. xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 12:13 PM
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Love it! -Daily exercise, even just for 20mins. -Wear cute pyjamas to bed instead of the old baggy stuff I’ve been wearing lately out of laziness lol. -Keep a better shopping list so we don’t run out of things. xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 12:11 PM
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Mine is Queen and Lover which makes me feel like maybe I’m a bit of a high maintenance diva eeeek lol xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 11:00 PM
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I would never ask a man his sexual partner count, and I don’t know my husbands. But there’s been a handful of extremely promiscuous men in my social circles over the years and I’ve never been attracted to them. I prefer men who seek out more meaningful connections I guess, as it’s more similar to my own values. A guy who spent his entire twenties picking up two different girls each weekend doesn’t differ from me just in sexuality, but likely other values and outlook too xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 10:30 PM
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Does he have family money? How does he fund his lifestyle? xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 02:09 AM
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OP how long until you graduate? If you were to move out could your parents support your studies etc? xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 08:52 PM
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I don’t think anybody should fake anything, but I do think it’s worth trying to be as “well rounded” a person as possible and exploring all aspects of your personality. I also dislike this trend of people feeling they have to be an introvert or an extrovert, like honestly most people have a bit of both in them. Try not to limit yourself by labels xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 10:01 PM
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Agree with above suggestions about how to approach this. But I think you also need to consider why he has the views he does? Does he get on with your family? Is he threatened by their normalacy compared to his own? If you genuinely feel that being closer to them would bring you happiness and support, especially if you or when you have children then this is really worth exploring. Re the second issue, my husband also has a dysfunctional family and he used to get very anxious and irritated around …
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 09:58 PM
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I honestly think as women we overthink things too much. There’s nothing to decode here, he wants something casual but also senses that you want something more serious. Those two views are obviously incompatible so he’s leaving the door open for you to say so and bail, or to keep things going in the hope he might get something casual.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 04:50 AM
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I don’t think we need to over-intellectualise it, you just get what’s called oneitis for these guys. It’s normal, but something to try and be aware of so you don’t smother them xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 08:45 PM
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I find that diet is like 80% of weight loss. Take stock of what you’re eating and portion control, go see your doctor and dietician for help if need be xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 08:34 PM
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I think your message is good. But don’t be defeatist! OP maximise your happiness, appearance and lifestyle and get out there dating. My best friend met and moved in with her beautiful partner and she’s 36 (35 when they met). You’re still within the fertility window. Good luck xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 08:30 PM
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You’re still working in the sex industry but want him to be monogamous to you and no other sex workers. Girl I think you’re going to have a very hard time demanding monogamy given your current line of work. IMO quit your job cos this is just a double standard otherwise xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 08:48 PM
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I think love bombing and dread are techniques that work on the deep down fears of women, which is dysfunctional. I believe the female alternative is is the “damsel in distress”, woman who needs “saving” trope which I’ve seen women use before to try snare a man xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 10:18 PM
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I think it’s okay, but cleaning his apartment that you don’t live in might be a bit much (a bit of tidying is fine). You want him to see your place and enjoy how lovely and tidy and nice it is by comparison so he can compare it to his in his mind xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 10:16 PM
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Living my life with a more “traditional” dynamic with my husband which is more about the qualities and energy we bring to the table. It’s about recognising that men and women are different, and being complementary to eachother in that regard. For me it’s about enjoying being a woman. I personally don’t think career has anything to do with it, although it’s brought up a lot on this sub. xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 10:13 PM
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I agree! I think this is a modern concept that your husband has to be your best friend xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 08:03 AM
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I’m a dermatologic surgeon and I consider myself very feminine thankyou very much lol! I’m not sure I agree with your conception of male and female energy. Some modern men have become quite feminine, and they might pair well with a masculine woman. Good for them, someone has to wear the pants in the relationship. It’s not my personal preference nor that of the people on this subgroup.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 07:56 AM
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I have long medium thickness straight hair. I wear updos for work and I blow dry it and curl it under when I’m wearing it out. I use olaplex products. I’ve been eyeing off the Dyson air wrap kit for ages drool but wondering if it’s worth it. Anyone here have it? xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/21 10:32 PM
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100% yes! Society respects a well-put together woman and I def notice men opening doors etc more.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/21 09:12 PM
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Obviously my husband is going to appreciate beautiful women, but I would feel disrespected if he felt the need to publicly like their pictures etc. I think it’s tacky and lacks class xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/21 10:29 PM
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It wouldn’t work for me. I’m quite independent and have my own career and money, but I want a man who can lead and I have found it cringey when I’ve met me. who want to be bossed around and dominated. Not for me! My grandmother was the perfect example of how to be strong and gentle at the same time. She was a very well to do “English rose” type and very feminine and fairly quiet, always well put together and never without her lipstick, but she served as a nurse in WW2 and was basically very stro…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/21 10:12 PM
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Please be safe and don’t get so blackout drunk when out on dates. First and foremost it’s for your safety. Secondly it may sabotage anything new you have growing xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/21 10:10 PM
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Depends what you mean by alpha, I’m going to assume you mean tall, good looking, smart, wealthy, confident, ie. has a lot of options when it comes to women. My husband is like this and it has many advantages of course, but you’ve asked specifically for issues with it so here’s my experience: -other women will flirt with them/want them. you can’t hate them for it. It is what it is and you can only care about your mans behaviour (if he reciprocates it’s an issue but if he doesn’t it’s fine). if yo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 09:34 PM
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Great reply, thanks lovely xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 09:10 PM
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Great post. Serious question...how can I be “cute” when I’m like 5’9-5’10? My hubby is 6’3 and I’m slender so do you think that’s smaller enough to trigger the protective response? xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 07:31 AM
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There’s no harm in being sensible about things, ie. don’t hire a young live-in au pair who looks like a supermodel lol, but to actively have to mate guard your partner signifies to me that potentially there’s a lack of boundaries with the mans behaviour xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 04:30 AM
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I agree with your post thanks for sharing xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 04:20 AM
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You’re so right! It makes me feel better too xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 04:46 AM
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Ooh I’m not? I just googled her though, she sounds like a very wise woman. Thanks for the reply xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 04:45 AM
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Can you go chat to your GP about your libido? There’s lots of things that can cause this. You mention stress which is a huge factor I think xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 08:44 PM
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Awww don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s really hard to pick your degree when you’re still a school student because you’re still finding out your interests. Can you change your degree to something more aligned with what your interested in? If you’re going to be studying (and paying for) a degree the next few years it should be something you’re genuinely interested in and helpful for your future career path. FWIW I started out studying psychology and after a year realised (1)I hated it and (2)I wa…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 08:38 PM
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He needs to be around other men. I actually encourage my husband to go on golf days and take boys trips xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 07:26 AM
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I think it totally depends on the person and your “weakness” as such with food. Some people over eat, so portion control is good for them. I tend to snack, like if I actually add up my usual meals PLUS all the snacks I have I’m really surprised, so I made a no snacking rule for myself. I don’t calorie count but if I eat something very heavy one day I will consciously eat light the next day. Seems to work for me. I’ve also tried intermittent fasting as someone mentioned above and this worked quit…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 05:25 AM
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I agree. I don’t think anything unhealthy should be celebrated, that includes smoking, drugs, anorexia/bulimia, and obesity.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 09:56 PM
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Love this! Thanks for sharing xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 09:46 PM
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When I’ve been thinner men used to fall over themselves to talk to me. It’s annoying, but it is what it is! xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 02:54 AM
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One been here for a couple of years and I felt there’s a lot more combative comments and sarcasm lately. I also agree there’s been more women with a career focus, which I think is fine, RPW is for all women who aspire to traditional values and having a proper degree/career is not at odds with that in 2021. Indeed most high value men want and expect a woman to at least have a bachelors degree these days I find xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 12:00 AM
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I find these older people, especially men, have the luxury of giving advice in a way that’s never going to affect them. Meaning they can give out advice on the basis of whimsical ideas they have but they don’t have to live through it and also it’s not the choices they made for themselves. So I don’t think your experience is unusual, I think just be aware of it. Like you’re an adult now, you make your own decisions xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 09:23 PM
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It’s rare that I don’t put a little bit of makeup on, even if I’m home alone. I make much more effort for my husband or if we are going out etc xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 08:20 AM
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Do you go on dates? Do you meet any guys at social events or study or work that you like? Stem also opens you up to a lot of guys so when you start working you might meet some xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 08:19 AM
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Ugh. Men and women are DIFFERENT. Equal, but different. It’s just wilful ignorance to pretend otherwise imo xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 08:16 AM
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OP we need more info. What did you write back and what was his subsequent replies? If he was just trying to gauge a general idea then followed up with a specific suggestion then I literally see zero problem with that xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 02:36 AM
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Yeah that’s true. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 12:58 AM
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I think we will have to agree to disagree about the humour factor of people’s accents. But thanks for your advice about letting my hubby take the lead, I agree. Oh and if you’re insecure about your education then perhaps you should work towards improving that. All the best.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 11:30 AM
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Oooh, yes this wedding was in Victoria! (Well right on the border with NSW), the town that has two names if thats a clue hehe! It just seemed like a really “off” comment, and not a joke.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 11:19 AM
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I think it’s time for some therapy, it will be the best money you ever spent. Take care xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 08:16 AM
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I’m in Australia! Sorry I should have clarified.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 08:14 AM
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Yes I agree. But isn’t it kind of something we just don’t talk about? Like it’s not polite to mention? Obviously my response probably wasn’t polite either hehe.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 05:32 AM
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Do you think classism is funny? Genuine question. My husband grew up very poor and low SES and I kinda felt bad for him standing there.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 05:30 AM
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I acknowledge that I should have handled it differently, I do feel something should have been said though. Classism and making fun of uneducated accents isn’t really funny. I just wish I had said it slightly differently.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 05:26 AM
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That’s great advice Thankyou! xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 05:23 AM
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I should add that she slowed her voice down and mimicked the accent when she said it. I’m quite sure it was a slight against the people.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 03:08 AM
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I think most men would be fine with it as long as you contribute in other positive ways to your life together xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 03:01 AM
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I’m horrified that an 18yo is stressed about this. At this age you should be making friends, working on your studies or career, and focusing on yourself. Of course there is a time when your appearance or desirability will decrease but it’s very much in the future. Focus on yourself, find out who you are, surround yourself with good female friends. Only date men who you could see yourself marrying and whom are committed to you. xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/21 08:57 PM
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I’ve 100% noticed men treat you like a lady when you’re dressed like one!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/21 10:59 AM
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I think you need to chat to him about this. He’s probably feeling the shock, and like he can’t trust you now. It’s time to have an honest chat and lay down some ground rules, but he also will need time to recover from this xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 07:33 AM
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Honestly, just get quicker. Prioritise what counts and get faster at your makeup routine. I used to take 45mins to get ready and now I pride myself in being able to do my hair and makeup in 10mins flat in the morning nowadays lol, and people always comment on how “polished” I look. Always have your clothes clean and iron/press them every Sunday for the week ahead to save time. I wash my hair at night and let it air dry, then the next morning I quickly straighten/curl it or put it up (I have fine…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 07:54 AM
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I think ranking highly in one of the departments, ie. face or body, gives you a bit of leeway in the other department. Increasing your body desirability is pretty easy so basically everyone should do that! xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 09:03 PM
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Awesome! Maybe if you work in a hospital you can meet some nice doctors (I’m a physician, and a few of my male colleagues are married to dieticians/healthadministrators). Congrats on nearly finishing xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 07:45 AM
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I never had sex early and it seemed to work well for me. It weeds out the time wasters and players and guys who just aren’t that into you. Also I never understood, like what’s the rush!? (TMI but get a vibrator if you have strong urges). When you’ve spent ages getting to know someone, when you do have sex it’s absolutely amazing. So not really speaking from personal experience, but I’ve seen friends sleep with men really early, then feeling immediately attached afterwards and highly anxious and …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 03:37 AM
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Finances, kids, religion, work-life balance.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 08:25 AM
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Some guys just want to be babied! Like it’s not that uncommon I find. However, do try have a think back to your relationship and whether you didn’t set enough boundaries and what you might be able to learn from this situation. Left to their own devices I find that lot of guys live fairly wayward lives and rely on a woman for structure. xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 08:24 AM
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Hi there! Just a question, what are you graduating from? Is it something you’re passionate about? Even the most traditional men want you to have an interest in something. I would say work/University/through friends is the best way to meet guys (if can be hard if your work is female dominated though). I think University is super h a great time to meet guys so I would try be as social as possible for the rest of the year until you graduate xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 08:21 AM
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That’s great advice thanks! I had a read of your link. I will have a chat to them and suss it out. xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 03:04 AM
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Thanks for that advice! :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 03:03 AM
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I just like that it’s a female space and it seems to be quite traditional. Hoping to make some new friends! Thanks for your reply :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 09:38 AM
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Thanks that’s a good idea. I do chat to them occasionally on social media. I guess I’m just paranoid about appearing “social climbery” but maybe I’m overthinking it! xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 06:29 AM
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I’m married and out of the dating game lol but honestly a first date is kind of like a job interview. I think it’s a bad sign if a guy turns up looking sloppy. I think just keep doing what you’re doing, dress for the venue and time of day and in something you feel confident in, and you will be fine! xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 11:35 PM
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It depends what YOU want. I would personally never have children unless I was married and being married was always a priority to me. It’s brought stability and many other good things to my relationship. I have a theory that marriage can change men, they subconsciously become more responsible and stable and committed. (I’m no expert, just from observing my older brothers and my husband etc). His reasons against it are kinda irrelevant if your personal value is to be married, and I think that’s a …
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 11:33 PM
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Totally agree with all of this! It’s important to surround yourself with friends of similar positive energy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 11:27 PM
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Hmm depends where you live and if there are any lockdowns? I went to a lovely baby shower via zoom recently which is always an option. Otherwise if restrictions in your area permit I would have a small dinner party at home xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 11:25 PM
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Your husband is too old for you and you’re experiencing the effects of that. That’s the reality, but it’s too late now and you are where you are. Try give your marriage a go and invest more effort and energy. Maybe start doing exercise together? Try rekindle something. At least regardless of what happens in the future you will know you have it your best shot xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 02:36 AM
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When a man is totally committed to you, oneitis is good. Ie. when you both have oneitis for each other. Until a man is committed to you, don’t put him on a pedestal. He’s just an option. xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 01:16 AM
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A few years is okay, just don’t go too much older. Once you’ve been with much older men, HVM of similar age to you (ie. the guys we all want) will look down on you xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 10:31 PM
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I survived girls school and lived on female dorms and what you’re saying is straight up facts. Women can be brutal to eachother, especially at that age. Just keep your head high and cherish the good connections you do have with people. xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 10:28 PM
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Most men only speak this way with their mates, respectful men don’t verbalise it it at all. He’s in neither of those categories, so I think you have your answer x
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 10:00 PM
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Modern skills needed I would say are cooking, very basic sewing (eg. Being able to fix clothes), general running of the household skills, and social/professional skills in settings that require it (eg. Being a good hostess and being appropriate in front of his boss etc). xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 06:21 AM
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Being with a HVM comes with some challenges but it’s totally worth it. First of all, accept that women will throw themselves at them. It just is what it is. Just be the best version of yourself. There’s obviously something he likes about you, try learn what that is and make sure you keep giving it to him. HVM deep down are just like other men except that they have more options xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 06:17 AM
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Sounds like she was making a joke right? I wouldn’t overthink it. xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 06:14 AM
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I see male flirting as being active and female flirting as being more passive. I could be wrong and old fashioned and out of the dating game as I’m married lol but I think it’s important to not try emulate a man. Men are naturally more aggressive and flirt more outwardly. I think being friendly and interested and receptive is important. I’ve also found that men are starved of compliments lol! As women we are always complimenting each other and men compliment us too. I told a male friend I liked …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/20 07:16 AM
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I’ve never been called cute! Damn lol haha. I’ve been called “elegant” a lot by men of various ages so I hope that’s good too xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/20 07:11 AM
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I’m 5’10 and I’ve gotten the most attention at about 54kg. BMI around 18 seems to get me the most attention, this is in Australia and the UK. Here in Australia I feel like men definetly prefer thin women, sometimes extremely thin. The “curvy” or “thick” trend doesn’t seem to be a thing here as much xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 05:43 AM
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Get a megaphone! It would drive me crazy to have to shout constantly like that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/20 07:58 AM
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Some people are just haters. I ignore it but it’s taken me a long time to get to that approach xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 08:36 PM
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There’s always going to be prettier girls than you and some of them will likely be your friends. You just need to make the most of what you’ve got, and aim for men who reciprocate in their interest. xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 08:32 PM
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All very good points. Thank you! xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 08:30 PM
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That’s a good point. We do have a new bbq but I’m struggling to think how that fits the Christmas theme for foods. Maybe hubby can roast some vegetables in there and I can do the oven roast meat and salads. Thanks for the tip! xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 08:29 PM
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Duly noted! Drinks on arrival for all lol. I love edemame but have found it hard to get fresh. Do you just buy it in a packet? Yes I edited to add I’m in Australia and in a state that’s shut it’s borders and life is essentially back to normal xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 08:14 PM
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Wow you sound like a much more talented cook than I am! My oven is relatively small which worries me, but will cook at the same time and just do some fresh salads. Thanks for the ideas xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 08:23 AM
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I think we have the potential to connect immediately with others sometimes. If we end up marrying that person then there’s a bias when looking back and it seems like they’re a “soulmate”. Maybe I’m cynical lol! I love my hubby dearly and we are so close and have so many uncanny similarities. But I feel there are others on this earth we could have loved too xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 10:16 AM
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I seem to be attractive to some men (I’m tall and willowy and blonde and pale) but def not to others (men who like curves etc). I actually have found that women find me more attractive than men do! I’ve been very appropriate with him so I honestly don’t feel I’ve done anything that could even be interpreted as suspicious. Hmm I considered avoiding him but I take your point that it might look suspicious. FWIW She’s also a physician, and she is like the physical opposite of me. I don’t know what h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 09:01 AM
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Very interesting and thoughtful reply thank you. She did strike me as an insecure sort of woman, like she got a look of literal fear on her face when we ran into them whilst going for a walk. Maybe they’ve had issues in the past with other women or something and I’m triggering for her.xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 02:27 AM
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Yes that’s my thinking too. Thanks for your reply! xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 11:44 PM
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That makes sense. Thanks! I will just keep it cordial at work. xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 11:43 PM
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Yes I suppose so. I had hoped all four of us could be friends and hang out but it doesn’t appear that will be the case.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 10:56 PM
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I suppose you’re right. Although we do have lunches together and chat about lots of things not related to work.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 10:43 PM
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Agree with above comments. It’s also a slap in the face to call you wife when you’re not. This is textbook fukboi behaviour and you were right to be upset xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 03:59 PM
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Umm this sounds amazing hehe! Seriously though, just look for unique ways you can be a value add. It’s very hard for someone to provide themselves with emotional support for example which is where you step in xo
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 05:52 PM
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You need to get out of this situation honey. He sounds dangerous and like he can’t control himself. Please stay safe and don’t be in contact with him, expect he might try get you back but just ignore him xo
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 09:14 AM
4

I understand that but damn he literally broke the pool pump yesterday which is 2grand! We both work and combine all finances so it’s our money.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 07:05 AM
1

Let him help and proof read etc but you should do the task yourself otherwise it’s plagiarism!
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 11:52 PM
2

Haha me too! I can reach a full octave on the piano.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 06:25 AM
1

I think you need to focus on yourself and your own happiness and health, everything will comes easily if those throngs are in order xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 01:37 AM
2

Hmm. I’m not the best person to comment on this probably as I’ve always had this problem too! I’m married now but I never quite understood flirting. I think if you’re uncomfortable with it then the best approach is to just appear interested and happy and receptive. Eye contact, smiling. Laugh at his jokes. Ask questions, follow up on things he says. Showing a genuine interest is more important, and I think some men are actually actively turned off by overt flirting (touching etc). xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 01:34 AM
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Yasss I have largish hands and actually an ex boyfriend commented on it lol. They’re not super big, I just have really long fingers and overall my palm is like large. I’m 5’10 tall so it kinda “fits” with the rest of me but I wish I had pretty little dainty hands xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 09:02 AM
1

Girl get threading or waxing or laser! x
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 11:05 PM
2

I live in Australia. This is true, and it’s especially bad in the southern states xo
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 10:51 PM
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Because there’s no coming back from that. It will harm you mentally and emotionally. xo
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 10:50 PM
2

Obviously he’s going to notice attractive women but it’s highly disrespectful to do this in front of you. Have a talk to him about it and seek counselling if need be xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 11:01 PM
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You have to own it. I dress up more than other women at my work etc and you just have to be confident and own it. If you’re not confident in what you’re wearing then it defeats the purpose. Some people are bizarrely practical in their fashion choices, like I wore a light silk scarf the other day and a colleague was like “are you cold!?” and I’m like “no I just like the pop of colour” lol xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 07:37 PM
3

Nobody “has” to do anything. It’s my personality to check in if people need anything, but it’s not a necessity. I would be more likely to schedule myself to go out with my friends or go shopping if my hubby had friends over, but if I was there then I would check in, as I would with any guests in my home xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 07:30 PM
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Depends on definition of playing hard to get. I always think women should never pursue a man, let him pursue and don’t make yourself too available. If that’s “hard to get” then yes I have done that and found it to be successful xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 01:10 AM
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Create snacks and put the drinks somewhere cold and available to them, then leave them to it. Pop in like once or twice to see if anyone needs anything but leave it at that. xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 01:04 AM
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Make it clear you’re interested and be receptive, but I don’t believe in approaching men. xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 08:16 PM
3

Awesome! My hubby also plays mine craft, my brother is into gaming and I think he plays like COD mainly. I will have a look at overwatch! xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 08:17 AM
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Second date.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 08:14 AM
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This was/is me (although I’m married now). I think I come across as a bit aloof and high maintenance which many men would think “nope too hard work”. I have always have had a lot of female friends and some gay male friends too. I don’t care as I’m married now but it really is worth considering how you appear to men...especially ones you are looking to date. If you’re extreme in any area then try tone it down. You can’t totally change yourself though, my hubby likes my high maintenance outfits et…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 08:13 AM
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Thanks for the reply! I do actually have to exist in some social circles that is BS, mainly due to my husbands work and his clients where the client/friendship like is always blurred. I find I have little tolerance for some of those people. Genuine friends and family it’s like I love them so they don’t annoy me. Thanks for the reading tip! xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 04:39 AM
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Not totally, but hubby and I have been playing old school games like Donkey Kong and Mario World obsessively this year. He plays Warcraft on the computer too. What do you play? xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 04:13 AM
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I need your level of chill. Maybe I’m just a bit “bitchy” xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 04:05 AM
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That’s a good point. Like if it doesn’t matter who cares? xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 03:56 AM
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True. I should be just think like “ugh” then move on xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 03:55 AM
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True. Lol xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 03:53 AM
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That’s a good point. I do get impatient sometimes. xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 03:53 AM
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Good advice! These are mainly clients of my husband etc and we are sort of “forced” to socialise with them if that makes sense. My genuine friends rarely bother me, and even if they did I ignore it cos I love them hehe!
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 03:52 AM
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One simple tip is not doing anything to excess. For example, not drinking to excess, not over-eating, not drinking five cups of coffee a day, not doing huge spending sprees. This could even apply to positive behaviours, like going to the gym or exercising is great, but don’t go for four hours. As a general concept, try be a lady does everything in moderation and who has control over herself xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 09:35 PM
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I wear dark colours! Agree with above posters about different textures etc. I also wear fresh makeup and make sure my hair style is soft and flowing and not too severe. Dark colours can be very slimming too xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 09:07 PM
2

Does he have a job? Not having a job or at least being motivated and applying for jobs would be a deal breaker for me. Help him with his CV etc xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 09:06 PM
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I’ve learnt the hard way, always date someone smarter and more ambitious and more worldly than you. Otherwise men get weird about it xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 09:57 PM
1

No advice but I grew up with only older brothers and I also swear too much too! Ugh I hate it. I’m trying to be more mindful xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 09:47 PM
2

Is he also okay with you seeking sexual gratification elsewhere? I think you can do better tbh. Unless you’re okay with the open lifestyle which is doesn’t sound like you are. Some people are and that’s fine. But I just feel like if you “let” him do this then he will begin to do other things too.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 09:44 PM
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When I was younger I noticed a real increase in (quality) male attention when I focused on myself instead of guys. I used to go out of my way to be really nice and available and impress guys, and I really think they can sense that and it turns them off. When I started my post grad degree and decided to focus on that and also my fitness and my own life, became less available, was pleasant and polite but left it at that, it was like men kept falling over themselves to try and date me. So every gir…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 09:39 PM
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Men can be quite judgemental about these things I find. They despise married women who cheat (even if it’s with them), and women who act immorally. xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 09:34 PM
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Sure. Men can love their mistress but not respect/want to actually be with them xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 11:35 PM
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I always think a woman should have a back up plan financially in case things go south! So it’s good to have a passion and a career/qualification outside of the marriage. Just my 2c xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 11:34 PM
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Hi OP I’m similar age to you and a doctor and my husband is a litigation lawyer who works all the time and can get quite stressed. My hubby used to deal with his stress badly but over time he’s stopped the drinking etc. Feel free to PM me about this, he and I had some really hard discussions about it xoxo
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 11:14 PM
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Keeping up your appearance is a constant commitment I agree. It’s easy to become lazy and forget. Sometimes at night I just want to flop into bed but I make sure I do my skincare routine and eyelash serum etc. An average looking woman can increase her appearance greatly by making consistent effort xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 09:48 PM
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Yes. Some men have an absent or dysfunction mother and that affects them greatly. My ex on the other hand was borderline obsessed with his mother and bought her flowers constantly like he was “courting” her and it was like every woman including me was compared to her and never measured up. xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 09:44 PM
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They have huge fights!? Super weird. Almost sounds like they’re dating. And he doesn’t have other friends? OP I think you’ve dodged a bullet here.xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 01:49 AM
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My husband knows I’ve had a couple of LT boyfriends, and he asked if I had any one night stands once early on in dating when we were playing a drinking game lol (I haven’t) and that’s the extent of our discussion. I would never ask him his “count” or details but I assume it’s much higher than mine.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 08:59 PM
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This! Men think a smile or even flirting means women actually want them. I’m not much of a flirty type (married anyway lol) but many women often just flirt with men out of boredom or attention. Men overthink it xo
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 08:08 AM
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Men aren’t aliens. They like companionship and sex, just like we do. I just think they compartmentalise more. Men will happily string a woman long for years because he simply enjoys her company, just not enough to marry her. Keep your wits about you girls! xo
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 08:03 AM
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I 100% agree. I’ve only ever dated 2 years older max lol. When I was 20, like 30yo guys used to creep onto me and I just never felt the vibe. I wanted the attention of the best value guys I could get in my own age group. Also in my social circle, dating older guys was considered weird and creepy. My husband is the same age as me xox
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 10:54 PM
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I’m married and over thirty now, but I remember wasting at least six years being obsessed with my first boyfriend who (1)didn’t want to settle down and (2)always had excuses for things. We really did love eachother I believe, but if the timing isn’t right then just move on. Some men in their early twenties really do not want to settle down properly and love isn’t enough to keep things together. So in summary, I guess knowing when to cut your losses and move on xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 09:39 PM
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Get a good Dermatologist and take their advice re skin care and anti aging procedures. Aside from that, it really is just a part of being a woman I suppose. I’m over 30 now and still look pretty good I think, but I’ve definitely noticed society changing in their attitude towards me. I’ve written a post in this topic here before actually lol. I think the goal is to be as attractive and healthy and happy as you can be, and part of that is transitioning from “the hot chick” to the elegant woman. Ye…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 09:30 PM
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He’s got you wrapped around his little finger. Absolutely do not waste any more of your time any longer with this guy. Also stay away from married men
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 09:23 PM
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Can I suggest asking a friend or family member who you trust for feedback? People who know you IRL might have a better idea xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 07:25 AM
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Chewing gum, smoking or swearing.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 07:21 AM
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Kinda misleading title OP!
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 09:23 PM
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I actually think it’s kinda true for both genders, if it’s extreme. Loads of meaningless sex kinda numbs people imo xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 09:35 PM
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I don’t know what advice to give but I do not like the way he is speaking to you. Who says hurtful things to their spouse like that!? xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 02:28 AM
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There will always be a percentage of trolls on pretty much every board I think. Try not to worry about it xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 02:24 AM
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You need to date with purpose. When my age began to creep into my late twenties I made a conscious decision to only date with the intention of settling down. You don’t need to stress but you also don’t have a lot of time to waste. Take some time and look back at your past and what you’ve learnt from previous relationships, about yourself, and what you want moving forward xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 02:23 AM
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Generally speaking, no. If you’re married then your attention should be on your husband. xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 02:20 AM
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This. I’m a physician (hubby is a lawyer) and my medical colleagues are mostly paired with women of similar education but whom work part time or not at all. xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 11:04 PM
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Yessss. I love them!
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 02:59 AM
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What about teaching? I always thought that was quite family friendly (my mum was a librarian then an English teacher, she has a literature degree but of course you could pick any area you’re interested in or do early childhood teaching) xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 02:50 AM
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Unless he was a dick beforehand, then I wouldn’t have an issue with it. I put on a lot of weight once and noticed the male attention I got lessened. Then I lost it again and it increased. It made me salty for a while but lol such is life 🤷🏼‍♀️ xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 11:11 PM
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I agree! Surprised to see OPs question. I have dead straight hair and would love to have curls. I suppose the grass is always greener! xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 11:09 PM
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I’m a physician but my undergrad was in psychological science and I did an honours research year in cognitive neuroscience. Not totally relevant to your question, but sort of. I’m very accepting that there are inherent differences between men and women xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 11:08 PM
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I literally just LOLed! So funny.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:11 PM
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Thanks! IKR, I don’t know why I’m overthinking this so much. That’s a great script example thanks xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:11 PM
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That’s a good point thanks. My area is pretty safe at the moment but it’s good to be aware and people are quite nervous (rightfully so). Masks and/or standing back from the door is a good idea if we do it in person. xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:10 PM
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Thanks for the healthy caution. Also that’s a good idea re the email address, we had one for our wedding planning but just a general one to share going onwards would be good xoxo
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:08 PM
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That’s for the suggestions re timing. I think after dinner might be a good idea as I some of them on their balcony at that time. Loving the idea of bringing a little gift xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:07 PM
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That’s super cute. xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:05 PM
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Thanks for the reply and examples! I’m def getting the idea that a little gift is a good idea xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:04 PM
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I’m living the muffins idea. Thinking of you guys in Melbourne! xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:03 PM
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That’s a cute idea. I’m kind of inclined to bring something little with me when we go as a gift xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 05:06 AM
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Omg that’s awesome! I would love that but also I would feel so awkward if nobody came! Love that your parents had such a nice experience xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 04:50 AM
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Cultural differences can be so funny! My best friend is married to a Swedish man and she says similar things lol. Yes we are Aussie I think we might just have to pop over. I feel so nervous but I’m not sure why haha. We bought the house from a family who had been there for twenty years and the area seems all quite well established families so I feel a bit nervous. Thanks for the reply xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 04:50 AM
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That sounds really nice. What sort of stuff did you put in your letter? Was it long? Lol sorry for the questions I’m obviously feeling shy and awkward about the whole thing xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 04:41 AM
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Haha yasssss. Love it. I really enjoy fashion and picking a few trends every season to incorporate. My husband appreciates it but i do it for ME. 💃🏼
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 10:12 PM
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That’s a good response! Thanks xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 08:16 AM
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Oh dear. I’m so dreading this already haha. It really is sad that the worst judgement of women comes not from men but from other women xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 03:14 AM
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You notice it too? It just seems so lame and a bit sad tbh xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 02:43 AM
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Yes definitely! I think that’s a healthy approach. Like my house will probably never be as fabulous as my friends but I enjoy the aesthetic and looking around at things she’s changed since I’ve been there last. I also steal ideas sometimes hehe like I use it as inspo. xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 02:39 AM
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Yup this is exactly what I’m talking about! Just the constant little comments. Good point though, it could just be from insecurity, like I honestly do not mind what other women’s choices are or how they live their life. Do you think maybe your SMIL is insecure that you’re setting a standard that she thinks her own husband will come to want or something?! Thanks for the reply xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 02:36 AM
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My main tip is to always do little things as you go. An example is to never walk between rooms with empty hands eg. if you’re walking back to the kitchen then take mugs or a plate or some rubbish with you. When you’re finished your meal or when you see something spilt or where it’s not supposed to be then fix it as soon as you notice it. Otherwise things pile up and become overwhelming. Doing a little bit consistently makes a big difference. Then have a planner as previous posters suggest to org…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 01:51 AM
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A good body and a good attitude goes a long way! xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 01:48 AM
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Ugh that’s awful that they said such things to her! I agree that is often said like a “joke” but it’s not really. Like you I also enjoy putting on makeup and effort into my clothes, I do it for myself and I don’t see how that could ever be conceived as a “bad” thing or even how it’s anyone else’s business tbh. Thanks for the reply xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 01:39 AM
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I agree with this. I’m sorry this happened to your mum. I’m a physician and I saw this A LOT with my male students/colleagues. xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 01:02 AM
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Hmm interesting concept. I’ve heard this too. But I’ve also heard that men always love and respect the loyalty of a woman who helped them “build”. I think there’s probably an element of truth in both xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 12:59 AM
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I’m personally more for the natural look, but I don’t think there’s any “right” answer. Men differ in their tastes which is a good thing because women differ in their style xox
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/20 12:38 AM
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I agree. This whole story is just so strange.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/20 12:33 AM
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Totally agree with this! My hubby does things around the house etc too. It’s good to have different strengths xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/20 07:19 AM
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Hi again lovely! Residency is hard (as you know!) and depending on your consultant/attending job afterwards your hours and life could continue to be difficult and your job time-consuming. I think that leaves two options, one, marry a guy in a similar “league” (ugh sorry I hate using that word but cannot think of another), or find someone totally opposite who finds what you do interesting. It sounds like that’s what you want, and that’s great but you will have to sift through a lot of guys who fe…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/20 07:18 AM
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Hi there! I’m a physician, and I married a lawyer who makes more than I do. All I can suggest is to only look for men in your own income/status bracket. Don’t even consider looking elsewhere as they display the issues that you mention. Also remember that because you’re competing for highly sought after men then you need to keep your appearance A+. xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 01:28 AM
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Thanks for the reply! Will they though? I feel like people, especially men, don’t see this sort of thing? I will try kill her with kindness though hehe thanks for the tips xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/20 10:40 PM
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Why did he pass this info onto you!?! I’m sorry but that’s what I’m most concerned about. xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 01:24 AM
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I have some very attractive friends, and they are just normal women with hang ups like the rest of us. I would hate to deny myself friendships with people because I’m so jealous of them that I can’t stand being around them. Maybe just remind yourself that when you start to feel envious! x
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 01:19 AM
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Hi OP! You sound like an insightful and kind girl. I know it’s hard but I think acceptance is really important. It will just take time. Okay so you’re super tall, there ain’t nothing you can do about that fact. It is what it is and your energy is better focused on other aspects of yourself and working on your other attributes that are attractive to a relationship. Some men I think quite like the gangly long-limbed look and I really don’t think you should feel like who have no chance whatsoever. …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 01:14 AM
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Hi OP! I don’t know the answer to this but my best friend is exactly the same. She goes on a date or two with a guy and is immediately obsessed and feels like she’s “in love” with the guy and I have to tell her to calm down and take a step back. Ultimately she comes across as a bit clingy and desperate and men seem to sense this from a mile away and stop seeing her. All I can suggest is to busy yourself with other things/hobbies and let the guy chase you a bit. Men like a bit of mystery. Don’t p…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 11:52 PM
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How happy he is to come home. He works so hard and when he comes home at night he looks utterly exhausted but beaming and happy to see me and give me a cuddle xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 06:15 AM
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OP could probably speak more about this but from what I gather religious circles absolutely do use these sorts of events to actively find partners.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 10:14 PM
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Nope!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 10:02 PM
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I think men compartmentalise better than women. So they are married and love their wife, but would totally want to have sex with the hot young thing at work. I also feel that men are secretly particularly sentimental, like they love their wife for their long term loyalty and companionship and are actually way more sentimental than women xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 10:01 PM
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To be fair, I think different women have different charms and they should just work with that. I’m married now, but I never approached men or showed overt interest in them. I think it’s important to be “receptive” to them, and that can mean just smiling, making eye contact, and giving them attention when they’re around. I actually have a theory that whilst most men find it amusing to be perused, they don’t respect it, and especially if they’re a high value man they’re used to women throwing them…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 09:59 PM
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Agree! Social class is certainly a factor!
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 11:21 AM
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I think it really depends on the man. I’m a physician and my husband is a lawyer. About half of my physician male colleagues are with women who are doctors or teachers or some such, and the other half (generally older generation) have stay at home wives/mothers. I think good quality men want you to have interests/hobbies etc but they might not necessarily mind what exactly. Intellectual men often also like to have deep conversations with their partner so I suppose a poorly-read woman might not b…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 11:16 AM
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I said something to show “outside of the home”. No need to be defensive. You obviously are in social circles where this is fine and acceptable and that’s a great thing. All the more power to you! Pretty hard to deny that times/expectations are changing though.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/19 02:56 AM
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Just make sure you’re eating enough! Especially if you exercise. Gaining muscle may help your aesthetic too xo
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/19 01:21 AM
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Start by accepting that you’re not a victim. My real issue with modern feminism is the constant “victim complex”, like everything is interpreted with a lens as to how women are victims in society xo
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/19 01:16 AM
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Hmm yes but did you used to do something? Or train as something in the past? I’m only speaking from my own experience but answers like “oh she’s a teacher but we’ve decided it’s best to have her home with the kids for now” is perceived completely differently to “no she’s a SAHM”. Once again I’m only speaking from my experience and the social circles I’m in, where men’s wives seem to now be expected to at least have something to show for themselves outside of the home xo
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/19 01:10 AM
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My hubby is partner of a law firm and he makes time for me and always did. Sorry but keep your guard up. xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 11:57 PM
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From what I’ve seen, modern men want their wives to do something, they don’t care what it is, as long as it’s SOMETHING. Maybe it’s from societal pressure I’m not sure. But I have friends who were always SAHMs and their husbands who were cool with it randomly turn around later and ask when they are going to start doing some work again. Unfortunately I think times have changed somewhat and perhaps men don’t like the comments or judgement by others. People constantly ask my husband now “so what do…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 11:53 PM
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I made a big quiche and a side salad! I had lots of bacon and mushrooms left over from something else and I’m trying to be lest wasteful and use things in the fridge. I added cheese, tomatoes, onion, spinach, eggs and just let it bake. Hubby loved it. It’s actually quite easy and you can just leave it in the fridge or even freeze portions for later! 10/10 recommend xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 11:44 PM
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Great advice by everyone else. Just popping in to say you need to start becoming emotionally and mentally more independent. Then you need to leave. He might come crawling back after this, but don’t just take him at his word (and it sounds like he has a lot of words) but rather at his actions. Good luck! xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 11:40 PM
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I haven’t changed a lot, but I feel that the decline has begun lol. I used to be baby faced all my twenties but now I look “mature”. I realise I’m being vain xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 08:51 AM
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That’s so sweet. Thanks for the reply xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 08:48 AM
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I think I still look good for my age but when I look at old photos I notice a change starting around 29, like my looks are slowly on the decline xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 08:47 AM
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Yeah I’m a size zero too! Always have been. I’m wondering if a bit of facial plumpness might help.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 08:44 AM
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Interesting point! Hmm I’ve always been thin and that’s been my “good point” as it were lol so it would suck if I had to lose that. I agree that Kaye Middleton needs a little bit more weight on her! I’m just struggling with facial wrinkles and other things I’m noticing on my face mainly. Just less youthful looking.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 08:43 AM
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Ugh some women are so transparent! It’s great your husband sees right through it though. And he’s chosen YOU so that’s all that matters. It is hard ageing as a woman. My aunt was a successful model in the 80s and incredibly beautiful and she essentially had a mental breakdown and never recovered after ageing and losing her looks and career. Obvs that’s an extreme example but yeah I think we all struggle. Thanks for the reply! xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 08:39 AM
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Such a beautiful reply thankyou. I was very close to my deceased grandma too and I always admired her kindness and compassion and elegance xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 08:37 AM
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Hehe! I’m sure you aren’t ugly tho. Love the sentiment of your reply, like it’s just acceptance xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 08:36 AM
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Going against the grain, but I have no issue with what OP has posted. I know it’s 2019 but can we all stop the facade that a mans wealth/financial stability is not an important factor!? OP all I can say is that best of luck to you, try be as attractive and high value as you can. Trophy wives are “out” and educated but good looking women are “in” as far as modern marriage material goes, so you need to be able to bring something to the table too. As others have said, if you marry purely for money …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 07:29 AM
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When I wear clothes that accentuate my small waist! My hubby and other men treat me much more like a lady I find haha. xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/19 12:48 AM
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I’m an MD and I see my male colleagues pulling the “I don’t have time” card all the time to avoid commitment. If I were you, go and listen to him and be sweet and charming etc, but don’t give him an answer yet. See what he’s offering, if he’s offering a proper relationship, great. If he’s offering vague promises of something more but not in clear terms, then no. He’s probably used to women throwing themselves at him and is just lazy about putting effort into a real relationship. xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/19 12:45 AM
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Improve your appearance and also don’t look for men out at bars xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/19 12:40 AM
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I had s friend who did this and successfully turned it into a LTR. (However, she was very good looking and from a nice family etc and men always seemed to view her as classy despite her behaviour). What she did was acknowledge what happened, but don’t escalate the contact or texting etc. that’s what he will expect. Essentially it’s still up to him whether he wants to commit. xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/19 12:38 AM
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I feel like women make a huge distinction between sex and other sexual behaviours. You’re actually not withholding at all, you’ve had oral intimacy with him, so the withholding sex seems inconsistent to me. Like if you’re willing to do that then why not sex? I would suggest in future that kissing is fine, but if you’re truly withholding or waiting until you’re ready then draw the line at that. Not sure about this guy, but it does seem he’s cooled off immediately after your sex refusal. I think y…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 10:30 PM
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I personally feel that good flirting is different for men and women. I’m married now lol, but I consider feminine flirting to being “receptive” rather than overt. I don’t think touching men you don’t really know is a good idea ever! I think being cute and coy, being a great listener and responsive to what they’re saying, is far better and more effective than proactive flirting which I consider more masculine. Laugh at their jokes, give a nice smile, just simple small things like that. xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 10:50 PM
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How sad and embarrassing for her! Some women have no sense of decorum. I agree with other posters to just take the high road and be gentle but firm, and feminine. xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 10:43 PM
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Women are intimidated by other women who look better than them. That’s all there is to it, so you either play along and fit in or you do your own thing and don’t care. xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 10:39 PM
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I find it’s the highly accomplished people who are the most humble. Men can get away with being braggarts but women can’t xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 10:32 PM
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It’s a no from me, but I feel like this may be highly situation and location-dependant xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 07:19 AM
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I really don’t think so. I think being RECEPTIVE to his interest is enough/more alluring xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 12:28 AM
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Such a great post, I’m married now but this is something I used to think about and still do. I feel like men really value loyalty, understanding and support. Knowing that he can always turn to you to talk about his work stresses or thoughts is invaluable. My husband always says that he’s a much better man because of me and he beams happily when he says it which makes me feel great! Other than that, my draw cards would be my appearance and that I’m generally a happy person. I work hard to maintai…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 11:28 PM
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Love this! I feel more accountable if I write it down. I also like reading others posts for inspiration. (1) Start doing yoga again, at least second daily. (2)Completely STOP snacking on food in the tearoom at work. Ugh it all adds up so easily! (3)Be more sexual with hubby. I will be receptive every time he initiates unless I have a very good reason otherwise.Also I’m going to wear my nicer sleepwear to bed. (4)Keep up my nightly skincare routine.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/19 11:02 PM
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Maybe I’m old fashioned but I don’t feel that commenting on the sexiness of bikini-clad women is appropriate or respectful! Especially as he then chose to comment on your bikini rather than your sexiness. Boundaries girl! xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 10:36 PM
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I think you handled this well darling. High chance of him coming crawling back though I bet! Go on a date with the new guy if you like him xo
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/19 08:05 AM
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Technically, you can do whatever you want. BUT, and there is a big but, men seem to have their preferences. If you choose to stray outside your mans prefererence and also without consulting him, then it’s kind of at your own risk. I think you should get a toner or dye to make it back to its original colour, and just learn from the experience xo
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/19 08:03 AM
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My hair is very pale but I get it waxed anyway. I don’t know how men feel about it, but I saw a pretty girl at work the other day and was talking to her and all of a sudden I noticed her dark hairy arms and I immediately thought “eww”. Then I felt bad for thinking that, but I wonder if men feel the same xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 01:03 AM
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I went to a girls school and dorms and can totally relate to this fact of life. All my friends are basically female, and I feel like there’s so many factors that go into whether you “gel” with another woman or not. There’s mean girls at my current work and I just have to remind myself to stay classy and and above their immature behaviour. xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 12:57 AM
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Vetting is so important! I think some women get caught up in the “chemistry” and feel that they can change their mans mind. Cue five years later and they are in the exact same situation except older and more jaded and bitter xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 12:54 AM
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I agree with other posters that men are probably always open to the idea of sex if they find you attractive. When you think of it that way, it becomes kind of irrelevant. Just keep your boundaries in place and know how to avoid scenarios that suggest you’re down for that kind of thing xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 12:51 AM
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Hi OP! I’ve never done the personality test thing but I’m also very analytical and logical. I’m a physician so I constantly have to separate myself from my emotions at work and sometimes this can make me a bit cold and aloof. I think the most important thing is self awareness. I also recognise that there’s more to me than my work. I try to nourish the other aspects of my personality too, so that I don’t become too “one sided” or too “masculine” I suppose. I try switch off from work when I come h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 11:55 PM
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There will always be women like this. The important thing is to never sink to their level. In a work setting, remain professional. I think sometimes women struggle with “professionalism” because it’s traditionally more from a mans world. We have a tendency to try be friendly and chatty. Remain professional and civil with haters and don’t let them bring you down. In social settings, I know it can be hard but try remain positive and classy. Don’t engage with negative behaviours and don’t stoop to …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/19 12:38 AM
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I think it depends what your goals are long term. This is about more than just where you go to University. My husband is in litigation at a magic circle firm and he works literally ALL THE TIME. And in the weekends he works from home. If this is your goal and part of your motivating factor for going to one of the best schools then I would think seriously about what life you realistically want for yourself and your husband. I don’t think it would be wise to do any long distance at this stage, you…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 10:04 PM
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Yeah that’s a good way to view it. Handsome men also tend to have standards so it’s a good incentive to keep healthy and fit xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 11:58 PM
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Such an insightful and intelligent post. Thanks so much for sharing. xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 01:36 PM
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It was used as an example for the greater message of what I wrote. But I see your point! xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 09:27 AM
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Hehe love your post. I think my husband is the most delicious man in the world. I would say he’s objectively handsome, but if I think about it honestly I guess part of it is also just because I love him? I don’t know haha! I think as women we are strongly attracted to the man we love. xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 07:22 AM
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Thanks for your reply, such interesting points. I really agree that we were told by society etc that acting like men would make us happy, but I don’t think it’s true. Also I’m sure your dad just wants the best for you, and he probably thought that would be via an ideology similar to his own. If you don’t mind me asking, was your mother the stronger one in their relationship? Perhaps they had yin and yang in their own way which worked for them. My parents are painfully traditional in their gender…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 07:18 AM
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Thanks for your considered reply! I agree, and its really sad. I feel like things have changed really quickly in the past 5-8 years or so, and not for the better xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 06:54 AM
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Thanks so much for your comment, I really resonate with what you’ve said. Tv adverts annoy me too, like men have become a joke of sorts. So emasculating for them! Also great points about the shift in focus from romance and personal ambitions, to the celebration of mental illness/instability/chaos and promiscuity. I watched You on Netflix as I heard it was popular and I couldn’t believe the main female character!!! Why are these people the new idols! xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 06:49 AM
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Sounds amazing, I’m going to look into Alita! I just feel like I don’t identify with really any of the women I’ve seen on Netflix or the movies recently. Captain marvel, gender aside, was just plain rude to other characters. It made me cringe. I’m not surpired what you’re saying about it not doing well, what demographic are they going for!? My husband was really disappointed in Samuel Jackson because he said acted like a “pussy” the whole movie, and usually he’s a “total badass” in hubbys words …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 06:40 AM
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I completely agree with you. Differences are to be celebrated, not steamrolled over in an attempt to try emulate men. The qualities you mention are so important xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 06:36 AM
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That’s a great idea! I would love some ideas of things to watch. Everything recently just seems to follow the same feminist script xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 06:30 AM
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I agree, women have their own strengths and these should be celebrated. xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 06:29 AM
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Thanks for the comment. They really do! Always showing some harmless well-meaning but bumbling and clumsy man. It’s embarassing. Or some evil deviant who needs to be crushed. I agree it’s so worrying for young boys growing up xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 06:26 AM
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Thanks for sharing your story. Love what you say about combining perfect feminity and effortless and masculinity, and how that’s totally unrealistic. Nobody can be everything. I can totally see that society would give you so much praise and “you go girl” for having your experience, but it’s great that you’ve found some balance and peace in living as a SAHM. xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 06:24 AM
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Thanks for the comment! So true. I’m a 90s kid and Girl Power back then just meant girls studying science/maths, being sporty, or not feeling too shy to just “have a go” at things. Now apparently it’s punching men in the face, belittling them and cheating on them!!! Gross. xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 05:52 AM
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Love the salad bar suggestion! We eat a lot of salad and I never thought to do that xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 11:19 PM
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I love baking! Hubby loves baked meals, and I just put meat/salmon and vegetables in the oven and then go about my other chores. It’s suoer easy and yet he’s always so impressed hehe. Slow cookers are perfect for the same reason. As other posters have said, having things prepped and ready to go is crucial xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 11:13 PM
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I wouldn’t have dated anyone that I didn’t think I would marry. I had a couple of boyfriends before my husband, and when they weren’t working out or progressing in commitment, I ended them. I don’t really understand why a woman would date “for fun”, just seems a waste of time to me. Just try meet your perfect hubby and have fun with them! xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 11:14 PM
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I do not feel that there is a RPW angle on race. My husband and I are both of anglo saxon heritage so I don’t have personal experience with this though xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 11:12 PM
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Sounds like you gave her good advice! Well done. She can only change herself and she sounds like one of those women who is preoccupied with controlling everything around them but not their own behaviour. I have friends like this and it’s such a common theme, “competing” with their partner and then wondering why he turns cold. xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 11:08 PM
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I think this is me a bit too. It helps to read more about it and reflect about scenarios in your life that it’s affecting. I keep busy and make plans to see my girlfriends and go shopping etc, and have activities outside of my husband! Start slowly, and you will start to feel more secure xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 03:17 AM
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I have daily skincare routine, and facials every two weeks. I try to keep my waxing and hair appointments regular. I do yoga every day. And I’ve also recently had some Botox hehe! x
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 03:07 AM
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I know a few women like that and they literally all ended up divorced. Look, what was forgivable or even “cute” when you were a teenager certainly does not work when you’re older. Im a similar age to you and you can definitely be playful and fun, without being a brat. I also personally feel like social media and popular media really glorifies the “crazy but cute”, “sassy” or “broken” woman, and whilst that might garner initial attention from men, less so when we are older and definitely not for …
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 03:03 AM
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+1 this! OP I cringe when people describe themselves as “smart”. It has nothing to do with RPW, I just don’t think it shows humility, and the smartest people I know are by far the most humble.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 08:55 AM
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Hi there. Please don’t despair! I think what you are going through is normal. It’s hard when you’ve been brought up a certain way and then make the transition into growing into yourself and figuring out your own values. I’m a physician and honestly I do feel that you can be feminine and involved in STEM. If it’s what you find interesting and exciting, then stick with it. Regarding the other things you mention, don’t be too hard on yourself. Change is a process/journey. Discovering your feminist …
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 03:22 AM
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Darling, first of all everyone looks awkward at 15. It’s almost like a rite of passage! Also, I know women who are quite simply, ugly. And they have decent boyfriends and husbands because they are sweet, kind, and a pleasure to be around. Everyone is looks-obsessed as teens, just work on yourself and cultivate your other charms and you will be fine I promise xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 03:17 AM
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Daytime dates are great for avoiding these situations. I used to completely avoid casual sex when I was living on college dorms and I had no qualms about it at all. Sometimes on early dates I would just make things up, like say off-handedly that my parents were visiting me early the next morning etc. Lol! Guys know what you’re doing but at the end of the day does it even matter? It’s only awkward if you make it awkward. Most men aren’t pushy, they look for invitations or indicators from you, so …
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 02:53 AM
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Such a good post! And totally true. All we can hope for is to look the absolute best we can for our age. I spend a lot of time and money and energy on my appearance and health, but I sure as hell don’t look like I did when I was 19yo. Also many people, particularly men, have asked and guessed my age at work and they always say about 6-8 years younger, but I’m not stupid and I know that this is people trying to be polite and flatter me.xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 02:43 AM
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Hi there! Just checking into say that I have Bavarian grandparents and therefore have spent a lot of time there, and I would live there in a heartbeat if my husband agreed to! Such a good quality of life and so many opportunities. Regarding your husband, is he the sort of man who is happy to learn new things? Is he willing to pick up the language? I think things will be fine, I’m (secretly) better at lots of things compared to my husband and it’s never a problem because I don’t make it obvious t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 04:26 AM
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I doubt he cares that much at all. His ego was probably slightly bruised but I dare say he’s onto the next girl/girls now
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 04:21 AM
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Hmm I would see your doctor for some help or a referral to someone to deal with the underlying anxiety. Lots of people “emotionally eat” so don’t be too hard on yourself, and it’s great that you recognise the problem and want to change it! xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 04:19 AM
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I think that men like sexual women, but women who are sexual ONLY for them, and also that they sort of like to “discover” your sexuality rather than having it handed to them on a plate. Perhaps you are being too overt about your desires? Guys will pick up on this because they are basically programmed to identify willing women lol. Can you try be more subtle in your speech, mannerisms and dress? xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 06:00 AM
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Yup, been there. OP I can totally relate to people changing their behaviour around your partner once they gain success, and girls you thought were friends acting like anything but. At first it’s confusing, upsetting and frustrating, then you just realise that’s what life is like. As long as he’s trustworthy and has his head screwed on, things will be fine. You will experience women throwing themselves at him, throwing dirty looks at you, trying to undercut you to him, sucking up to you to get cl…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 05:43 AM
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When I first started dating my husband and we were still in the process of learning about each other, he asked me how I felt about one night stands. I’ve never had sex outside a relationship so I told him that, (and he also knows how many relationships I’ve had which is 2 apart from him), and he seemed okay with that answer. So I guess in my experience at least, he cared more about ONS than anything else? Just my experience though. I used to go on a lot of dates though, and he knows that lol. Li…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 10:30 PM
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I personally haven’t asked my husband for a “number” and I don’t think it’s necessary for me to know. I would suggest being more interested in their relationship history. I would consider a man having zero proper relationships by late twenties to be a red flag xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 10:25 PM
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Issues of life expectancy and prognosis depends on so much. I do unfortunately sometimes see people who use their illness as an excuse for bad behaviour, or exaggerate how bad things are to their family and partners. I don’t know your husband at all obviously, nor his clinical situation, and things are probably as he says they are, but in looking out for yourself and getting all the information I would suggest perhaps attend his next medical consult and ask the doctor some questions. Sorry if I …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 05:12 AM
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This whole thing sounds unnecessarily chaotic. There are much smoother ways to manage these things. For now, learn from it and move on. xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 04:51 AM
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Hang in there! For me, little things like putting mascara on or taking a deep breathe or listening to a song I like all seem to work well when I need to put my “big girl pants” on and deal xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 01:01 AM
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Im sorry this is happening. It sounds like you both could work on communicating better? Have you tried therapy? My husband and I went to it before we got married and it really helped our communication to be more healthy xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 12:55 AM
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I understand what you’re saying, but many women do worry about these things and I think that’s natural. Nobody can ultimately control their partner, and all we can do is work on our marriage and hope that things work out. No marriage is 100% safe from cheating, and whilst it’s not healthy to focus on that, it’s also just a reality that should be accepted in my opinion. We can only pick a decent man, do our best, and trust him xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 12:50 AM
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Through a friend! I went to college with her and she worked with him xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 12:45 AM
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What is the point of this relationship? Seems a bit messy OP. Also, as a physician, I’m interested to know that this disorder is that requires monthly blood transfusions and is associated with a lower life expectancy, particularly as he’s using it as a justification for wanting to see other women. xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 12:40 AM
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There’s nothing wrong with finding them attractive, it just depends what you want out of your life at this point moving forwards. These young men are highly unlikely to commit to you, so if that’s what you’re looking for then I would avoid them at all costs. xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 01:27 AM
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In my humble opinion, based on the way you have spoken on here, you most certainly do come across as a “tough girl”. Perhaps give this some thought if you want to attract a more traditionally minded man. There’s plenty of women in male dominated professions (myself included) who are able to keep this in check, and I agree with previous posters that men may not be as much “intimidated” as just put off.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 01:14 AM
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I daresay he likes the attention. You’ve told him how you feel, not much more you can do now but observe what happens. xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 01:04 AM
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If you really want one then go for it. However, I’ve been surprised by the majority of men who explicitly do not like tattoos on women. Perhaps they have bad connotations? I’m not sure. Re the scarring. You 100% need to look into laser treatment! I had surgical scars on my ankle from a bad break, I eventually got laser treatment and now they are completely invisible. Worth a thought. (Works best on pale skin, but definitely go see a doctor if you’re interested). xo
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 01:02 AM
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With a bit of practice tall women can give off a graceful and elegant vibe! Posture is so important, as is dressing for your body type. When I lived in the UK I actually got a personal shopper once and she really opened my eyes to what shapes and cuts and colours I should be wearing, I highly recommend it if you can get someone in your area. Also try to stay healthy and slim and don’t cut your hair short! x
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 11:26 PM
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My husband loves that I understand social situations and group dynamics at a level that seems completely foreign to him. He’s very clever and good at what he does, but sometimes he tells me about problems at work and how annoying/frustrating/obtuse someone is being, and I gently point out their possible point of view and how the situation can be fixed. This has helped his career progression and life in so many ways and he always thanks me deeply for my inputs. I think overall he loves that I am …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 11:17 PM
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I had always been surrounded by rich boys from nice families who didn’t do much with their lives (probably because they didn’t have to). Apart from my now hubby being tall and delicious with smiley blue eyes, he’s worked really hard for everything he’s ever had and I found his ambition and work ethic really sexy. I had never met anyone like him before, and immediately felt like our lives were meant to be entwined. I’m not the romantic type at all so this overpowering feeling was completely out o…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 05:58 AM
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Great points! I totally agree about the consistency of exercise. I used to do it sporadically but it’s much better when you just set a schedule and stick to it. This sounds random but also I occasionally look at old photos of myself. Obvs I will never look 19 again, and this isn’t for the faint hearted, but it’s to remind myself how much effort I used to put into my appearance and to inspire me to keep up that effort. I find that some ladies stop making as much effort after marriage and I don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 09:31 PM
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Yeah that’s fair enough. I try not to care about Valentine’s Day but then I get excited every year when it rolls around lol. Enjoy your dinner! xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 05:19 AM
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That sounds really sweet, there’s something so special about homemade cards I think xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 05:18 AM
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That sounds amazing, my hubby likes practical presents too xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 05:17 AM
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That sounds really thoughtful and sweet. Love it! xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 05:16 AM
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That’s hilarious. You sound like a fun couple! xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 05:16 AM
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Aquarium with champagne? Sign me up! Your plans sound so fun xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 05:15 AM
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Hehe! That sounds so lovely. Sometimes it’s just the small things that really bring you together isn’t it xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 05:14 AM
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Fair enough! Congratulations xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 05:14 AM
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Totally agree. It’s this weird societal expectation that people have nowadays where everyone SHOULD achieve as much professionally as they can. Alongside the (largely false) belief that you can “have it all”, I think both these things promote negativity towards a more traditional family unit style. I work only part time as a physician which is an agreement between me and my husband, and people have literally said to me “what a waste”, which I find incredibly rude and dismissive. I genuinely feel…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 05:45 AM
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It’s so true, and happening worldwide. I went to a liberal city in Australia (I won’t name it) recently for a week for a wedding, and the men we met were so feminine that I really just felt uncomfortable around them. Their topics of conversation, mannerisms, and general lack of strength or masculinity was horrifying. I know that some women like this and each to their own, but honestly I was pretty shocked. xo
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 05:37 AM
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I cook my husband his favourite meals and that always makes him happy and rush home from work xo
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 05:32 AM
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Hmm. He hasn’t explicitly said so, but he does have some views that are consistent with it. Like he complains about the quota of female positions at his work and the #metoo movement in general. Do you think he’s trying to make me jealous? Maybe I should ask him to just not tell me about this stuff xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 03:51 AM
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Hmmm. I’m not sure actually because I always had the opposite “problem”. To be honest though, and I could be wrong, I don’t feel like men actually respect really flirty women. They assume “well she’s flirty with me then she’s flirty with every guy” which is a turn off for them. It may also come across as you being desperate for men’s approval/attention which is a turn of for relationship minded men. I would try being friendly and happy but without the overt flirtyness, and see if that helps. xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 02:21 AM
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So interesting! I agree I really think much of it is biological impulses. And so true about “operating as a unit” within a marriage xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 05:42 AM
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I think the most important thing is that as you say he’s interested and supportive about it xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 05:35 AM
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Hmm I think some overlap is necessary. My husband is more left wing than I am, but we are both fairly moderate and agree on most political things. Shared values is important xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 05:33 AM
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What a lovely post. Thankyou. I love learning about different religions and expressions of spirituality xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 03:24 AM
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Your “real experience as a feminist” as you call it, isn’t more important than anyone here’s opinion of or experience with modern feminism.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 03:15 AM
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So many good posts here. My mum always taught me that men and women are DIFFERENT, but EQUAL. Which means that men and women have different strengths and weaknesses and these are to be understood and celebrated. I love being a woman, I don’t want to be a man and never have. I also think that feminism is supposed to be about choices, and yet I seem to cop so much criticism from women for only working part time (I’m a physician) and also for cooking for my husband and doing the tidying etc. xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 12:47 AM
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He tells me because I asked him to. Not sure if this is a good approach but he started telling me everything after some work events when I would be like whoa who is that woman acting in appropriately!? Like so now he just tells me when women try it on with him etc xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 10:33 PM
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Why did you break up? Who broke it off? It’s hard to say without knowing him but some guys do like to keep women around that they like and are attracted to, for company and other benefits. I think as women we immediately assume they want to get back together because that’s what WE might want. But don’t fall into that trap. More importantly, what do you want? It sounds like you want to get back with him? Once you identify what you want then you can tailor your interactions accordingly. If he keep…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 10:18 PM
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Hehe! Sounds like your fiancé is tuned in to your emotional state which is great. My hubby can tell straight away when a woman is being suss, and he ignores them and turns his attention back on me. If I get annoyed about it later he’s understanding and is like ugh they were so tacky, occasionally he gets a bit frustrated because this is his work environment and there’s not a lot he can do about it xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 10:13 PM
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I do try. I’m just weary of it that’s all! xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 10:10 PM
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I do need to. Thanks. xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 10:09 PM
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That’s good advice thankyou. I like the distinction between it happening in front of me and not in front of me. It’s mostly when I’m not around but also when I have to go to work things etc. I try be nice but even that doesn’t stop them and I admit it’s hard when sometimes its like walking into a snake pit! I also get territorial lol xo
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 10:09 PM
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Married, I refer to him as my husband in my post.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 09:58 PM
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I love a soothing face mask! Great idea thanks. Umm yes he definitely knows how I feel about it. I need to learn to STFU xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 11:22 AM
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This is great advice thanks. I feel like this would be a common issue for a lot of women and knew I would get good advice on here! I’m just shocked at how some women behave but I guess I need to get over that. I had a very catholic upbringing and my profession is pretty conservative and sciencey so I just can’t relate to how some of his colleagues act. You’re right though, I need to just ignore it and focus on myself and my marriage xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 11:10 AM
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Thanks for the good advice. I’m usually okay I just have peaks of feeling totally over it! Like now obviously hehe. It’s just tiring I suppose, but I don’t want to lose my cool over it xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 11:03 AM
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I wish I could, I can’t say that when it’s his clients though because it would affect him professionally! xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 10:58 AM
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Hi OP! I’m not as tall as you, but I can relate a little. I’m 5’10 and there were definitely times when I felt uncomfortable about my height and felt sad that I wasn’t small and dainty and petite. However, you’ve got to work with what you’ve got! Firstly, many men do like tall women, especially if they are tall themselves. I do agree with a previous poster who says it’s inportent to keep your weight in check. I’m naturally slim but I’ve worked very hard to maintain that, and the result is that I…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 03:47 AM
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He probably just needs confidence. I’ve gently encouraged my hubby to fix things around the house and he really enjoys the experience and glows happily when he solves/fixes things. He’s corporate so it’s good for him to have physical tasks to do. Could I fix some things better than him? Yeah probably. But the fact that I see him really taking pride in fixing things has allowed me to step back and let him do it instead xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 08:09 AM
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I agree with this post so much! It seems to be a modern trend to consider/tell people that your husband is your best friend xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 07:58 AM
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Hi OP! I am a physician and I met my husband when I was 26. It’s definitely doable, but I really only recommend it if you feel that you wouldn’t be happy doing anything else. I personally couldn’t see myself having done anything else. My husband is the primary career as a corporate lawyer and I only work part time which is something we decided when we became engaged. Residency sucks, but you will get through it (especially if your future husband-to-be is a doctor too he will understand). I have …
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 08:03 AM
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OP you sound like a really sweet and caring girl. A “giving” type of person. Which is great, and very feminine. BUT...and there is a big but, I think people with these traits tend to get used by people, and you end up putting others needs above your own. I think this is what’s happening here. You’re making yourself too convenient. What does your boyfriend do for you? Would he even still be your boyfriend if you cut back on doing things for him and started to focus on your own life more? What are…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 09:43 PM
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Great reccomendations by everyone! My family loves playing board games too. The only issue is regarding food, because the games take up the table etc. Snack foods as others have suggested could be good, just make sure there’s some substantial stuff there too if it’s at lunch time or dinner time. Some examples might be mini hamburgers or little hot dogs or sausage rolls. Have fun! xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 04:19 AM
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I’m not sure. In my country (Australia) left wing women are mostly very aggressive and opinionated xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 04:17 AM
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I totally agree. Intelligent men are amazing and well-placed to lead a marriage!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 01:08 AM
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Great advice from everyone! Just want to add, my grandmother told me to “always protect your reputation”. When you’re a young and attractive woman people will notice you and talk about you. So always behave like a lady, and be sure to defend and correct gossip as it occurs. A decent man doesn’t want a woman with a bad reputation, regardless or whether it’s true or not. xo
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 04:10 AM
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That’s great! It can be hard to keep weight under control when you have chronic health problems but it sounds like you are. I got married this year and my husband is 6’4, he has a lot of very tall cousins and friends and they mostly seem to be with taller girls too. You will be fine darling! x
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 08:08 PM
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Tall women can definitely be feminine! I’m not as tall as you, I’m only 5’10, but I was much taller than all the girls at my school. I felt so awkward and to make matters worse I was very thin and had no curves whatsoever lol. Boys didn’t like me at all. Some tips: (1)Do not worry about high school boys. (2)Unfortunately as a tall girl, you can’t afford to get fat as if you do you just look imposing. (3) Keep your hair long. (4) Do you have long legs? Awesome! I bet you look great in jeans and l…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 08:49 AM
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I don’t know personally, although I have seen many women date down, presumably it makes them feel safer and like the guy will never leave or cheat. Then that’s exactly what happens! I think a woman should aim to dat equally or up, not down, because it creates a power imbalance and the man slowly builds resentment then tried to act out xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 08:43 AM
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My husband is more emotional than I would like sometimes. But I grew up in a very emotionally repressed household and I suspect my father might even be on the spectrum, so I try to shift my expectations a bit xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 01:11 AM
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I was brought up in a strict catholic household and attended Catholic girls schools. It definitely shaped my values, and my husband sometimes teases me about my “catholic guilt” I feel about things lol. Nowadays, I consider myself Christian but I rarely go to church. Hubby is Anglican, and we have decided that our kids will be brought up Anglican too xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 11:47 PM
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My hubby is a very hard worker, and has a great career at age 32 without any help whatsoever from his parents. He literally grew up in poverty. He worked three jobs throughout university on top of his double degree, slaved away throughout his twenties and was made the youngest partner ever at his law firm. His family are totally dysfunctional, uneducated and jealous of him. Everything he’s achieved he’s done completely by himself and I really respect and admire that. I worked and studied hard to…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 04:36 AM
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My parents have been married for 43 years and are still so in love it’s adorable (and a bit gross when they kiss etc lol). Some things I’ve noticed: (1) Mum does all the cooking and organises the cleaning. I’ve literally never seen my dad clean anything. He does basically all the outdoors chores on their property which he enjoys. (2) Mum never raises her voice at him and never swears or says offensive “mannish” things. (3) She really has mastered the art of STFU. She gracefully leaves situations…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 05:18 AM
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I have so many dresses it’s ridiculous, and I love wearing them around at home because they are so easy to throw on. It’s really hot where I live so I just wear cute little floral or summery dresses, barefoot and a bit of makeup at home usually. Even if I’ve finished all my stuff for the day, I do try to keep my outfit on until hubby comes home because otherwise he would just see me in my nighttime pyjamas etc lol xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 11:36 AM
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I was a bit like this at college too. I had friends, but felt really shy and awkward around people I didn’t know! For me personally, I overcame this by consciously always making an effort with others. Start small, like literally smile at people you recognise from class or wherever. Then start saying hi. Then when you get more confident you can ask people small questions about things, whether it’s something you have in common like an assignment, or complimenting a girl on her jacket or dress (onl…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 12:37 AM
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I honestly do not know why women have casual sexual relationships with their exes!!!! It’s not in your interest at all, and he will lose respect for you (subconsciously or otherwise) because you’ve allowed yourself to be downgraded to a plate. I would seriously recommend cutting this off. I know it’s hard to cut your losses and move on but sometimes you just have to. Otherwise in six or twelve months time you could still be in this same situation. On the very slim chance that he does change his …
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 10:11 PM
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Are you angry in other areas of your life or just with him? xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 12:47 AM
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Congrats OP! It sounds like your man is happy and content with you, which is great news. Interestingly, I live in Australia which has a very “blokey” culture and I do feel like men complain about their wives/SO in a joking way as a way of bonding with eachother. So it’s less about actual dissatisfaction with their wife, but rather some sort of ritual where they laugh about how much money their wife spends or how their wife wants them to come home early etc. Conversely I think if the men had actu…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 12:43 AM
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My mum always tells me that the first rule of having a stressed husband is to not do anything that will make it worse. That little problem you wanted to bring up? Pick another time. His shirts are all piling up? Take them to the dry cleaners so he doesn’t end up shirtless one morning. Feel bitchy and naggy? STFU!!!! Once you’ve mastered this you can add all the other great points that posters have made xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 10:50 PM
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I don’t know the answer to this, except for reflecting on your previous experiences of obsessing and how it affected your choices might help. Heightened emotions about a man you barely know can cloud your judgement and lead you to make terrible decisions. Perhaps you could write it all down in a journal? Ask a friend or family member who you trust for their opinions about your previous behaviour? I don’t know, I’m a fairly logical/scientific sort of person and when I get overwhelmed by irrationa…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 10:42 PM
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Nope! You’re better than that xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 10:33 PM
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He’s the only one benefiting from this situation, not you. It’s not appropriate or productive to spend so much time with a man that you are not in a proper relationship with. I think you should get some distance, explain that this “arrangement” no longer suits you, and go concentrate on yourself xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 10:30 PM
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I think being alpha widowed relates to women who have had a relatively casual experience with a high value man, and then are too deluded to see that such a man is not within their actual dating/marriage league. I don’t think they are really “judged” as such, beyond any judgement about being deluded and also allowing a casual relationship and expecting more xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 10:21 PM
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I’m sure there will be men willing to indulge these fantasies of yours, I just worry that it will attract the wrong sort of man if you’re too open about it xo
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 03:05 AM
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School is for studying, cultivating interests and for making good girl friends! Don’t get distracted by boys or drama or parties or whatever else is going on. Do you plan to go to university? If so, start working towards this. Perhaps you could volunteer or get some work experience in different things you’re interested in? I also agree that dance is great! I did ballet for 14 years and people still comment on my great posture and poise etc lol xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 10:25 PM
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You haven’t even met in person yet! Save the subtle flirting for when you are in person. Also, you kind of have to gauge the response you get from the guy. Some men really dont like flirty women I’ve noticed, probably because they think you must do it with everyone. Good luck for your date! xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 10:18 PM
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A pretty face is a great asset, but it’s definitely not the only asset. I think it’s important to assess yourself honestly, and try maximise your weak points and highlight your strong points. Also, a woman who has kind eyes and is smiley and happy can never be “ugly” as far as I’m concerned anyway xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 11:34 PM
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He called your butt cottage cheese?!? Damn, he really does not know how to talk to women. I’m sorry OP, I would be hurt too xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 07:19 AM
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I know plenty of trust fund ladies who easily get married, and men don’t seem to mind that they don’t work. You need to do something with your time though, whether it’s study or interest of charity work. Some men WILL mind though, not all will accept this situation. I barely work now, which my husband prefers, but when he met me I was a junior doctor slaving away every weekend and night at the hospital. I think he liked my work ethic, and it was good for him to see that side of me so he knew I w…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 05:39 AM
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I think give it a bit of time to see if attraction grows. Although a 2/10 in your eyes does sound rather dire xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 05:37 AM
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I think there are a few key components: (1) don’t be fat (2) clear skin (3) white teeth other additional things like hair and makeup and clothes can then be added to this. xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 05:25 AM
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I so agree OP! I encourage my hubby to play golf and other pursuits, because he works so hard and I think his relax and unwind time is important. I always try to schedule my own things to do when I know he’s busy, so we can spend as much time together as possible when he’s free. I had to explain to an incredulous friend recently that I work off his schedule because otherwise we just would never see each other, and also that I can’t do “girls only” things all the time because when hubby isn’t at …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 04:58 AM
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You straight up describe yourself as a feminist and state your political views. That’s fine, but to think that’s going to easily attract a more traditionally minded man is a mistake. It’s fine to have these dimensions of your personality, but make sure you also cultivate and project your other facets too xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 11:30 PM
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How absurd! This subreddit is so positive, uplifting and supportive xo
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 09:25 PM
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I think perhaps your dates are too long. Shorter dates in public places over a period of time makes it better to connect and to weed out any guys who just want causal physical stuff. Try daytime dates like going for a walk together, lunch, movie...I think do “something” rather than just hanging out alone, which leads to risky situations. I agree that when the time comes just be direct but casual about how you state your expectations. He might ghost, that’s just the way it is. xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 10:58 PM
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Cheating in an agreed monogamous relationship is dishonest. If my husband cheated on me, depending on the circumstances, I would be devastated but likely to attempt to keep the marriage through counselling etc. I’m not sure it would work but I would give it a try xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 10:19 PM
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Yes I agree that generally surgical fields are less flexible! I guess it’s all about priorities, and some ladies just prioritise family life less than their career, which can make a traditional dynamic of a marriage more difficult. Ps. My mum is a librarian with a masters degree too! :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 02:22 AM
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Hmm, it sounds like you’re stuck in a bad emotional and mental rut about this guy. Don’t be too hard on yourself, I think it’s quite common. Warning, some tough love is incoming....the reality is, you don’t belong to him, and you never did. In fact he’s probably sleeping with and wooing other women right now, in the same manner he did with you. If he wanted to be with you then he would have made it happen...and yet he just strung you along. I’m sure you had some nice times and memories together,…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 12:11 AM
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Can you go to bed earlier? That will make a big difference. Also learn how to put on makeup quickly, and I agree I have seen ladies doing mascara etc on the train/bus if you’re pressed for time. Wash and lay your dresses/outfits out on Sundays, so that you don’t have to think about what to wear. xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 11:42 PM
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Read what you’ve written, and imagine it’s a good friend telling you this. What would you advise them? I think cut your losses while they remain small OP. This just sounds like a mess xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 11:37 PM
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Make an effort to make HIM feel special and important. He will notice your value, you don’t need to concentrate on projecting this onto him. xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 11:00 PM
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There’s a few negative comments about female doctors on this post. I’m a physician which allows me to only work part time which means I can take care of the house and my husband too! Healthcare does have the added benefit of the “caring” and “empathy” factor that men seem to like, in my experience at least. I feel that men also like nurses for similar reasons. My husband likes that I cook nutritious meals and know how to handle paediatric emergencies etc because he knows nothing about these fiel…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 10:33 PM
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I wouldn’t suggest firing out questions interview style (not that you would), but rather just trying to subtly gauge things via what he says and does, and what he doesn’t say and do. I tried to ask about important things, but also show a genuine interest in the topic. So instead of just “what do you do for work?” you might say: -What is your job? That’s really interesting. Did you always want to do that? Aaah so was XYZ your favourite subject at school? That’s amazing, I was never that great at …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 08:21 AM
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This sounds terrible, but I care more about my future daughters beauty than sons! (We are currently trying to conceive, no children yet). xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 10:40 PM
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Great points by everyone else! I think trying to anticipate his needs is important, practice until it becomes second nature. I grew up with a mother who was very good at this, she always seemed to appear at the right time with our favourite food, a hug, a nice cool drink or whatever. It’s really second nature to me to consider what my husband might want or need, for example if he’s working from home and already had dinner, I know that he likes something sweet and light like an apple cut up to sn…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 10:31 PM
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My husband seems to get really happy/aroused when he can see that I’m trying to save us money too!!! It’s so funny, I guess it’s because , like you say, he feels I’m on his team.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 10:26 PM
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Thanks for the post, I really wish I could show this to one of my friends who has set her relationship bar at the height that reflects the men she’s had casual sex with. I really think women do themselves zero favours by taking part in the whole casual sex scene xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 10:18 PM
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Congrats on your positive changes. The only thing that stands out here as a problem to me is that you are interested in some of these men. This in itself, excludes these guys from the category of “friends” and any man you date will pick up on this. xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 10:15 PM
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100% agree. I would probably be considered attractive by conventional standards (nice face, slim body) and my husband and I find it hilarious that women seem to stare at me before turning their attention on him with renewed vigour! I’ve noticed this since I became slim. I’ve lost ten kg in recent years and it’s really helped my SMV! xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 08:39 AM
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I’m sorry OP. The age difference at this age is a big red flag for me. I know there’s exceptions but I’ve never seen it work out xoxo
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 11:39 PM
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First of all there’s your appearance, you can make effort every day to appear more feminine. A little goes a long way! My absolute minimum is mascara, concelear under my eyes, a dab of blush and lipgloss before leaving the house. It takes 2mins max and makes such a difference! Secondly I suppose is your attitude/approach. Perhaps always remember to be polite, don’t raise your voice, don’t swear, and to smile and be kind to others. Just little things, like if you’re going to make a cup of tea/cof…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 11:36 PM
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Hi OP! Good advice from others, all I would like to add is that male physicians/surgeons are used to having women throwing themselves at them. I’m a physician and I find it so funny to watch the way women act around my colleagues. From this, and the amount of friends I’ve had ask me to set them up with a doctor, I’ve realised that male doctors are viewed as having extremely high value on the dating/marriage market. My point is, don’t be one of those women, show interest without pestering him, an…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 11:29 PM
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Nora Jones!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 11:22 PM
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I’m not sure if this is neediness (which I think generally men don’t mind so much), or just brattiness. If you keep demanding and asking for things from your husband then he may begin to feel as if his efforts aren’t appreciated, and nothing is ever good enough. Perhaps practice some mindfulness meditation and concentrate on the idea of “gratitude” and what you are thankful for xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 11:21 PM
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I believe that in most cases it is not beneficial for men to be down “the business end” during childbirth. xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/18 07:10 AM
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Great link thanks @ellewoodsy !! Personally, I also think to not be afraid to ask a non-lame question, just make sure it’s an interesting concept or something they brought up earlier in the group conversation, and ask them to explain it to you. Then be cute and alluring and show that you are impressed when they explain it xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/18 06:55 AM
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You’re tired! You poor thing that sounds like a lot of work. However, like anything, a pleasant expression can be learned. Think of it like posture, if someone has a bad slouching posture, constant attention to it and reminding yourself to correct it consistently and over time it will be fixed. I really can’t stand the “resting bitch face” trend of today (I know you don’t have that) it’s so unpleasant and unfeminine, I think it’s so important to appear happy and approachable. When I make a speci…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/18 06:48 AM
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Who broke up with who? And why? xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 11:03 PM
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Didn’t you already post about this? Stop associating with this group of people, your reputation is irreparable with them and this man will never commit to you. Please distance yourself and work on your own development and self esteem xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 10:40 PM
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Just be cute and interesting and alluring, if they are interested they will ask xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 10:34 PM
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Yes you should pursue things that interest you. I would recommend, that you put extra effort into your other domains of feminity though, and to also remain open to new hobbies or ideas that your partner might want to share with you. xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 10:33 PM
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These aren’t the values you would want to transfer into your own family. I’m sure he’s a “nice” guy, but he’s not for you honey. Leave him xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 10:27 PM
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I’m a physician and I assure we we know more than “zero” about the topics you list ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/18 08:43 AM
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I have a friend who talks incessantly about her job, and also seems very “competitive” with men when talking about it. It’s almost like she’s forgotten that there’s many other aspects to her personality and life. She’s also 33 and unhappily single. I’m sure there’s more to it than that but I really do think this is a contributing factor. xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/18 10:18 PM
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I think it’s best to find a balance honey. I stuck my head in textbooks for most of my twenties, definitely to the detriment of everything else. It made me a better physician (which was always my dream), but in hindsight I’m not sure it was worth it. I consider myself very lucky to have met my darling husband in my mid-late 20s. It’s a risky strategy, and I would highly recommend trying to achieve some balance instead xo
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/18 02:44 AM
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Great post! I grew up in a rural god-fearing catholic town and if any of the girls played up then everyone knew about it. Reputation is so important, and your post highlights this so well xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 10:59 PM
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I met my husband through a friend, he was her colleague. I highly recommend telling good friends who you trust, who have access to good quality men, that you are single and looking! I’ve also had friends meet great men online and get married, but it has to be one of those proper sites, not tinder etc xo
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 10:37 PM
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Great observation OP! I think that my cooking obsession is probably one of the reasons my husband married me! Lol! Apart from the obvious enjoyment of food that men have, he also said once that he “really values it because he knows I will cook good healthy food for our kids one day” xo
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/18 11:19 PM
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I almost stopped reading when I saw their ages! Never works xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 12:29 AM
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I think your BPD remains untreated and that’s why you find yourself in this situation, i also suspect you enjoy posting about such a shocking topic on a public forum. Therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/18 04:11 AM
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