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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 02:30 PM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 02:30 PM
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I have asked why and he said he was being selfish and didn't think it was a big deal at the time. Once he made a "real" commitment (in his mind) he stopped. Although he did lead me to believe we were in a monogamous relationship the entire time he was sleeping with other women. edited to remove my hamstering
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 11:12 PM
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There isn't really a disconnect. The reality is all of the things you mentioned, it's the great parts of your relationship and of him but it's also the fact that he cheated and threw your world into chaos. There is no way to rationalize away the feelings that that created. You have a new relationship now. In this relationship, your husband cheated on you in the past. He covered it up to protect you but now you know. Your feelings and relationship with this man developed over time. Now with this …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 10:56 PM
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He said he was sorry for hurting me and lying to me. He has also said he stopped when he knew he wanted to get married and he didn't think there was any reason to tell me because it would only hurt me. I probably would have broken up with him had I known, and in that case I would have missed out on an otherwise happy marriage. I was young when we got married (four months before I turned 22) and I credit him with helping me grow into a better person than I ever thought I would be. I'm not sure I'…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 07:44 PM
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It seems like you just want reassurance that he is not cheating on you more than anything. Yes, I really want some reassurance. I'm not sure how I can ask for it without being needy or demanding. I have a hard time being assertive and I worry about sounding rude. I'm pretty good at letting things go so it usually isn't a problem but I can't seem to move on here. I think I'm so insecure because I'm pregnant. Women flirt with him (or get nervous around him) and he tends to flirt back, it didn't re…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 07:37 PM
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But you're acting like your feelings are a problem here. It didn't occur to me that my feelings might not be a problem. I think I'm trying to stay focused on what I can control about the situation. I really want to feel better too. But your feelings will be there and are so natural. You can use them to come even closer to your husband and improve your relationship. That's a good point. I think I try to keep certain things to myself so I don't come across as being too needy. My husband is really …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 07:21 PM
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And I respect your thoughts about not getting divorced over this. If you trust and love him and believe he is sorry and regrets what he has done, I don't see why you should leave. Thank you. I love him very much. He makes me and everything about my life better, I can't imagine life without him. Without knowing more, it is going to be hard for us to give you advice. I didn't include a lot of details about him or our relationship because I want to stay focused on the things I can do to move on. I'…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 04:52 PM
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It might help to remind yourself of everything he does for you and the family when you start to feel angry or resentful. It's probably easy to lose sight of his contributions because you don't see him working all day. Ultimately it's your job to keep the house in order and you want to provide him (and the kids) with a clean home, there's no reason to feel resentment. It sounds like you have different standards for cleanliness too. Take a deep breath and put things into perspective when you notic…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 10:04 PM
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We haven't been fighting today, do you think he's mad? I don't know but I wouldn't assume he's angry based on this alone. Should I just accept this? Or should I tell him how humiliated and hurt this made me? If you mention it make sure to do it privately and at home (not in the car while one of you is trying to drive). Don't be accusatory, watch your tone, don't expect to have a long discussion about it. I would probably say something like, "Hey, that hurt my feelings a little in the salon earli…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 09:42 PM
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We have discussed it before to some degree, but it's not like an ongoing dialogue or something we sat down and figured out together (like "you're in charge of this or that"). It's understood he has the final say in everything and he's somewhat superior to me. We were also raised like this which might be why it works for us. I don't think you need to talk about it much unless you want him to have more control or feel like you need to for some reason. There are a lot of different types of relation…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/18 08:11 PM
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Don't worry too much about whether or not your SO follows The Red Pill. My husband isn't familiar with it and he leads in our relationship. I've mentioned this in other comments but we don't really talk about our dynamic in a formal way and I don't think it's necessary unless you really want to for some reason. I think you can start by doing things the way he likes. If you know he has a preference about something then do it that way. Ask his for his help and opinions. Defer to him on decisions. …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/18 01:55 AM
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Other people have already given good advice about love. I'm married and very much in love but my relationship is far from perfect, just like everybody else. You can have a happy life and marriage but you need to be realistic, nobody is out here living a fairy tale and we need challenges in life in order to grow. I think you're setting yourself up to feel depressed all the time with your current mindset about relationships. I think you might feel better about yourself if you decide to focus on se…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 09:05 PM
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The date you planned sounds really sweet! I love the forest idea with the notes. I love holidays (or any excuse to celebrate), including Valentine's, but we're pretty low key about it and we don't exchange gifts. I'm leaving a sweet handwritten card in his car Wednesday morning with a little treat. After work I'm making dinner and setting the patio up with candles, giving him a love letter (just telling him how much I love him and how grateful I am to have him in my life), and we'll do some othe…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 03:23 PM
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I'm 27 (husband is 32) and my first baby is due in April. I'm the first of my friends close to my age to have a baby. I have a few friends in their early to mid-30's who already have kids. It isn't common to have babies before 30 in our circle and I've dealt with some criticism about my age (as well as not working) but I'm positive we made the right decision for us/our family. I originally wanted to wait until ~30 but that would have put my husband at 35 when we had our first child (assuming I g…
/r/RedPillWives05/02/18 09:40 PM
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Thank you. I've had some problems with low blood pressure and fainting. It isn't safe for me to drive because I have lost consciousness. I'm following a high sodium diet, so if that helps to keep my blood pressure up and I don't faint again I should be okay to drive (but it's possible I will have to wait until the baby is born). My OB also said my bp might rise naturally now that I'm in my third trimester. I'm pretty sure it's contributing to my anxiety on some level. I feel stuck and I don't li…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 09:15 PM
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I dated someone before I met my husband who was just as hot (as my husband), from a good family, and going to earn a lot of money after he finished school. But he catered to me and gave me whatever I wanted, absolutely no challenge whatsoever, and was mentally weak in a lot of ways. I was never really attracted to him and I'm pretty sure it's why we never had sex. Having grown up surrounded by masculine men it was very weird to me and I always felt a little uncomfortable around him. I never real…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 08:15 PM
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Don't try to understand and analyze other couples too much. It's completely impossible to see the relationship from the inside, and from the perspective of other people with values different from yours. Good point. My husband works in healthcare and his colleagues (as well as their spouses) are diverse in both appearance and personalities. I've made plenty of observations but it's impossible to fully understand what makes someone "high value" to their husband or wife. Some of the pharmacists he …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 12:20 AM
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Thank you for sharing this post and your thoughts, I needed this reminder today. I might read Fascinating Womanhood again too. I have been really anxious lately and I thought I was hiding it well, but after talking to my husband I became aware I wasn't (at all). I need to do a better job of reminding myself these feelings are temporary and everything is going to be fine. I'm not capable of doing as much right now and that's okay, the world isn't going to end and my husband understands my limitat…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/18 11:33 PM
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I want to get out of my head and improve the way I communicate with him about how I'm feeling. My husband is a really confident and strong person, sometimes I feel intimidated about talking to him about certain things but he expects (and wants) me to be open with him. I need to get over my insecurities about coming across as weak or needy and talk to him. I've had some anxiety lately about how things will change after the baby is born. I don't want to turn into a different person, I want to be j…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/18 08:50 PM
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I think you meant this a reply to me (?). If not, sorry for the confusion. I tend to ramble on here but to summarize my opinion the matter, I think she should strive to do things the way he prefers and defer to him on major decisions rather than formally say "you have control over x y z." About her weight though. She should be taking the initiative there instead of waiting on him to speak up. Some men won't say anything to a woman about her weight but it's no secret most would prefer a wife who …
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 06:57 PM
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I think it depends on the people. I know several strict Catholics who follow very formal rules in their marriages. Like the wives don't speak unless they're spoken to, that type of thing. They aren't ugly either. It wouldn't work for me but to each their own.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 06:45 PM
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In my relationship my husband decides what he's going to control. I'm comfortable with that because we knew each other well when we got married and I trusted him completely. I know he isn't going to do anything abusive and he wouldn't expect me to do something immoral or illegal or anything really crazy. We aren't "tradcon" (not entirely sure what that is tbh) or typical conservatives but we were both raised with traditional gender roles/male-led marriages, so it comes naturally to us. He's alwa…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 06:34 PM
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You're welcome. I'm sorry if I sounded harsh in response to the idea of sex with someone random. It just worries me that a lot of girls are sacrificing their long term happiness and well-being because they think they need to be good at sex or else no man will want them. I have a lot of friends who had casual sex and thought it was a good thing. Now that we're approaching 30 the only women I know who don't deeply regret sleeping with random guys are still doing it. It was hard to wait until I was…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 01:06 PM
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I've only had sex with my husband I don't regret it at all. (edit: I did not wait for marriage, I don't think that's a good idea for most people and it's unrealistic to expect most men to wait) It isn't rocket science. If you're excited about being sexual with him, open minded, enthusiastic, and capable of following directions you will be just fine. Don't overthink it. Tell him you're a virgin and nervous but excited to share this with him. I don’t want to compromise my morals and dignity practi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 03:05 AM
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To be fair, there isn't any way he could already be aware. I keep it to myself because I don't want him to feel like he has to 'fix' my feelings.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/18 12:07 AM
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Thank you :) I am still working out and doing yoga, so that really helps. I also write in a journal almost daily. I saw someone here mentioned she keeps a note in her phone for random vents, I might try that. Walking outside is a good idea too. I want to tell him just to keep him aware of how I'm feeling (hopefully that makes sense). I feel like he should know but you're right about balance and I will keep that in mind when I talk to him. I don't want to make him feel responsible for managing my…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/18 12:06 AM
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Question related to pregnancy: I'm 28 weeks pregnant and I've noticed I'm beginning to really feel the effects of the hormonal changes. I've felt different all along (of course) and I think I've manged it well so far; I remind myself it's the hormones and I haven't lashed out at my husband or done anything crazy (thank god). However, I'm finding as time goes on the feelings of irrational anger or overwhelming sadness (out of nowhere) are becoming more intense and harder to control. I feel like I…
/r/RedPillWives31/01/18 05:24 AM
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Personally, I love the idea that men are stronger and smarter than me. I could never be attracted to a man who wasn’t stronger and smarter than me. I mostly agree with this, my husband is both smarter and stronger than I am and I wouldn't want it any other way, but I don't assume all men are automatically smarter than me. The OP has some valid points but he's coming off very rude and condescending here. He sounds angry and insecure, and he probably needs to improve his social skills before he tr…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 09:18 PM
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My original reply had links but it wasn't showing up here. You should be able to find all of these if you copy and paste the titles into Google. Sorry, it would have been much easier with links. The Time Warp Wife blog has a series of posts, The Ultimate Marriage Vow – 21 Days to a Stronger Marriage that you might like. Each post includes a challenge at the bottom. The Best Thing a Wife Can Do For Her Husband is another post I have saved from the same blog. This is important (and I have the quot…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/18 05:50 AM
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I love candles and fresh air too! :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/18 03:56 AM
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It's hard (for me) to give specific examples on how to speak to him because you want be genuine. Make sure he knows you believe in him and it's important that he feels respected and appreciated. Beyond that, back/neck rubs, lots of good sex/oral sex, keeping your interactions lighthearted and fun when you can. I don't know that any of this can directly help him to make more money but it should make him feel good in general, which can't hurt.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/18 03:55 AM
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Sometimes I'll do a deep cleaning task like scrubbing the floors by hand or cleaning all of the baseboards. It's a great way to work out my anxiety and I feel so much better once I'm finished.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/18 05:48 AM
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Being able to be happy and content with a hobby that you truly enjoy is wonderful, especially if it is yours and yours alone. Your man will be grateful he doesn't feel like he has to provide 100% of your entertainment and fulfillment. Great point you made here. In addition to maintaining a happy relationship and personal fulfillment, having hobbies kept me out of trouble when I was a teenager and I think it helped me develop into a fairly well rounded person. I'll add that volunteering is a grea…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/18 05:38 AM
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I was thinking the same thing. It can be therapeutic for some people. I clean to relieve anxiety, so I can relate to the boyfriend. I think you should just let him do it, OP. No need to take it personally (or try to take over and do it yourself). :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/18 06:47 PM
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In addition to the advice from /u/Cardiscappa you might want to look into the book Strong Curves. There is also a subreddit, /r/StrongCurves. I like /r/bodyweightfitness too. Strong Curves is intended for people who go to the gym but don't let that intimidate you. I work out at home mostly and still found it useful. I've found /r/bodyweightfitness really helpful over the years. They have a really thorough training guide you might want to read sometime. Hope this helps.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 02:09 AM
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My attitude and personality make me feminine, not my interests. This is so true. I have a lot of typically feminine interests and there are still women involved in nearly all of them who come across as very masculine in their attitudes and personalities. My husband has enjoyed teaching me about some of his interests, like weight lifting (and it did not result in gaining weight or becoming muscular like a man). If anything it brought us closer and I don't see how that can be negative.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 07:28 PM
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I don't think I have anything to offer but these posts might be helpful for you: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7gqsmu/for_single_ladies_late_to_the_red_pill_part_i/ https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7j5g00/for_single_ladies_late_to_the_red_pill_part_ii/
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/18 01:49 AM
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I had full Brazilian hair removal almost 4 years ago. I highly recommend it! I have no regrets. It's important to do your research and choose a place with a good reputation. I would avoid the really low cost offers on sites like Groupon. If your town has a local subreddit or Facebook group it might be worth asking for recommendations there. I'm still pretty much completely smooth years later with the exception of some fine ("baby") hair that's really easy to shave and doesn't cause razor burn. I…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 10:51 PM
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Thank you. I called SIL today and she's going to leave some of his favorite treats at the house tonight while he's here with me. I think he will appreciate having them there when he gets home. The baby's (and my) health are the most important things right now but I like making him feel good too. I always want him to know that he's on my mind. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 10:44 PM
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Good idea, thank you. And I'm sorry you had to experience miscarriage.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 10:38 PM
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He's been good to me :) He stayed here until I fell asleep on Wednesday night. I know it's pathetic but I was nervous about staying here by myself so that was really nice of him. He visited yesterday twice (he works here) and he's spending time with me after work today.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 10:37 PM
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Most of my books are on my kindle too. I only have the printed version because I received it as a gift at my bridal shower but seeing it on my bookshelf inspires me to read certain parts again every so often.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 03:08 AM
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Well said. :) I thought of a quote from Fascinating Womanhood as I read your post: "A man appreciates a clean, orderly home, made comfortable and homey by the touch of a woman’s hand. He would consider it a miserable disadvantage if his wife were to fail in this important duty. However, he doesn’t want her homemaking to become more important than he is. The house is made to serve the family, not the family to serve the house. He wants his wife’s efforts to be mostly for his sake and the children…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 02:05 AM
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I'm sorry if my reply was harsh or sounded insensitive. I could have made my point in a nicer way. I think /u/yamaholo gave good advice that addresses the root cause of the issue here. It seems as though you have different values and priorities. I wouldn't suggest getting married with the expectation he will change. People shouldn't have to pay for their mistakes indefinitely but that doesn't mean you have to accept them. It doesn't make you a bad person to decide you can't respect a man or trus…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 07:19 PM
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I also don't see where OP I'd subsidizing him, those were just her intentions if they do marry. It's at the very end of the post: Live together. Split expenses somewhat equally, I subsidize. She's already helping him to some extent. It might cause resentment eventually. I just don't think the boyfriend is 100% wrong and evil in this case. I agree. People are more than their mistakes. :) I think sometimes certain mistakes might be too much for some people to handle. It would be hard for me to res…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 05:18 PM
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It's definitely could make the situation worse. Which is why I recommended speaking to a professional. I guess that's the only way to know for sure. It probably varies depending on the specific types of loans, where they live, and his income (among other things). He does have a plan. He is paying it off at his own pace, it doesn't seem like he is having trouble making payments or that the payments are impacting his quality of life. He's just not paying it off as fast as OP would like. Which, is …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 05:00 PM
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Couldn't defaulting on his loans negatively impact his credit? Is it possible his wages could be garnished? I'm genuinely curious, not asking to be rude. I would be concerned defaulting on the loans might make the situation worse. Yes, it will feel like you are retroactively subsidizing his ex wife - but well, we were all young once and made stupid mistakes. A good partner helps us recover. :) Different qualities make men and women good partners. Based on what she shared about their dynamic I do…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 04:30 PM
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It's concerning that you're coming up with the solutions here, but it's understandable in this case because he's demonstrated bad judgment. I don't blame you for being anxious. It wouldn't occur to me question my husband (especially about where to get coffee) but that only works because I know I can trust him based on a history of good financial decisions. Does he want or expect you to assist him with his debt? It's hard to believe he's serious about paying it off ASAP while spending $12 on coff…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 04:13 PM
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You don't need to be really sappy, just tell him how it makes you feel and express gratitude. Try not to overthink it too much. and happy birthday!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/18 12:03 AM
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It's hard to feel judged but all that really matters is that you and your husband are happy with your arrangement. Other people don't have to live your life and you don't need their approval. I hope your health improves and you feel better soon. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 04:40 AM
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I haven't worked in a few years and we don't have kids yet (our first baby is due in April). I babysit our nieces (BIL's daughters) regularly and watch my friend's boys as needed but otherwise I don't work. My "job" is to serve my husband and our family. I take care of the house, errands, cooking, shopping, and do whatever he needs me to do. I'm happy and fulfilled with my life but I realize other women might need to do things differently. He was fine with me teaching for a few years after colle…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 02:54 AM
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It must be really hard on both of you for him to be bedridden for two weeks. I hope he's feeling better soon. Feel free not to answer this but does he have the flu? I've heard there's a really bad strain this year that isn't covered by the vaccine. And it's great that you have taken something positive from this experience. We don't really understand what our husbands do at work on a daily basis. I know I couldn't do my husband's job but to be in a position where I could actually experience it wo…
/r/RedPillWives11/01/18 09:43 PM
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Well said. I need to remember this so I can use it when he's making of fun of me for being caught up in my feelings. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 09:28 PM
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I was raised this way as well. Most of our relatives have traditional marriages. I like to treat my husband like a man and I'm thankful he treats me like a woman. It works for us and we're both happy in our marriage. I wish more people would be open to a traditional marriage because we have very a good life together with very little conflict.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/18 09:15 PM
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This post made me laugh. Just last night I said to my husband "you know logic is only one part of a situation for me." The cards are a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 04:44 PM
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In 2016 my cousin (also one of my best friends) committed suicide. I realize the circumstances are different but I hope my insight can help in some way. In the beginning I needed my husband to be supportive by letting me cry, listening (without offering advice or suggestions), and just being patient and understanding in general. I wasn't myself for awhile and he never pressured me to get over it or made me feel bad about how I was grieving. After some time passed (about a month) he gently encour…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 02:26 PM
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Caprese salads are so good! I've made caprese chicken served over lettuce that we both really liked. I'm sure it would be even better with fresh tomatoes and basil.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 01:07 AM
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I don't eat a lot of pasta but your recipe sounds really good. I love cooking and look forward to making it soon. Thank you for sharing! One of the recipes I make a lot (about once a month) that he really likes is Garlic Rosemary Chicken. It's simple and easy to prepare but also healthy and it tastes good. I like to save the bones (in the freezer) and once there are enough I use them to make chicken stock for other recipes. Pulled Pork is another recipe he loves. It takes awhile but it's worth t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/18 09:04 PM
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INFJ The first time I took the test it was administered by a psychologist (years ago) and every time I've taken it online since the results are the same, so I think it's accurate. I think mbti types can help me understand myself (and others) a little better :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/18 03:54 PM
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My husband needs time and space to unwind after work too. I can share what I've learned works for us but it might be different for you and your boyfriend. I have dinner ready (and mostly cleaned up) by the time he gets home but I wait until he's here before eating. Do you think your bf might appreciate if you waited for him? When he arrives I stop whatever I'm doing to greet him, ask how his day was, and go from there. If he needs space we usually eat together with minimal talking and then go ou…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 03:27 AM
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I think this is a really good response and something everybody should keep in mind. I don't support 'fat acceptance' but I don't think strangers are deserving of a lot of negative judgment from me either. I believe this is especially true for younger people who have grown up with a lot of misconceptions about obesity.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 02:52 PM
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I grew up in a somewhat unique family but my parents (and most close relatives) followed traditional roles. My opportunities weren't limited because I was a girl or anything but I was encouraged to be feminine. I think the most controversial thing my parents did was placing me on independent studies from 7th grade until I completed high school. I believe it was good for me, it helped with avoiding peer pressure and I had more time to dedicate to hobbies and interests. I helped take care of my si…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 12:10 AM
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My best friend is an ER nurse, it's hard but rewarding work. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 10:10 PM
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My suggestion (based on what you're shared) is to put your ego aside, go apologize and take accountability for your role in the argument. There's a chance he's still angry but you have to be willing to be vulnerable in order to move forward. Once you've both calmed down I think it might be helpful to ask what you can do to make him feel loved (because everyone is different). He can't admit fault for anything (I'm pretty bad too but he's shocking) Rigid thinking is common among people with autism…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 01:01 AM
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I'm not really into politics. I just think it's interesting how we all interpret the same world so differently. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 12:31 AM
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I never mentioned being an anti feminist to the woman who was angry at me. She saw that I started the group before I changed the setting to secret. I've never dealt with outright anger but I have encountered women who lose respect for me and/or treat me like I'm not as smart as they are once they know I'm not into feminism. It's hard when we feel judged but there isn't much we can do other than to distance ourselves from those people and give our attention to more supportive friends. I think I n…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 07:19 PM
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She was also mad at me because I started an anti feminist group for traditional housewives on Facebook. I've found I'm happiest when I try to stay focused on the things I have in common with people. It might help to look for other traditional housewives and leave the more negative (anti-feminist) stuff out of your interactions. Most women in traditional relationships aren't going to be feminists anyway. As for your current (former?) friends, it's okay to acknowledge you've outgrown those relatio…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 04:35 PM
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I'm not the most educated person on this issue but I read the blog post and the story he linked. I've actually had a therapist tell me there were "red flags" for emotional abuse in my relationship. It was confusing because I have never felt abused and I love my husband very much. Apparently my feelings on the matter are irrelevant. She basically said there is no way a non-egalitarian/patriarchal marriage could be healthy. She also wanted my husband to attend one of my sessions and when I decline…
/r/RedPillWives14/12/17 06:07 AM
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It took time for me to enjoy/accept BDSM but once I did, I discovered I really liked it (we aren't into anything really severe). It can be a big turn on to take your dynamic to that extreme and the trust involved also makes it a highly intimate experience. Some of the information out there can be really intimidating and even off putting for a person who isn't familiar with it. I suggest reading up on the subject outside of reddit: A Loving Introduction to BDSM Not explicit porn but still very NS…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 03:01 AM
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Consider looking up Emily Post. She wrote books about etiquette and now her family advises and writes on the subject. Emily McCarthy has helpful etiquette tips too.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 02:13 AM
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Lastly – they have a saying about not showing TRP to those who are still Blue Pill or don’t want to really know how bad a relationship can get, but this may be an exception if you really want your brother to see his future and stop him from buying a house for this woman, assuming it's in a few months. She will push or outright demand marriage and want her name on the lease as well. I was thinking she should direct him to some of the blogs they have linked. This situation sounds like a nightmare …
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 08:09 PM
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It was mostly positive (my mom is probably a little too concerned with physical appearance but that's an entirely different topic). /u/Laceandsilks pretty much covered it. My parents are health conscious and made sure to set a good example and provide us with healthy food. I started dance at age three and gymnastics at five. Just be positive and lead by example. Model the behavior you want to see in your kids and you'll likely have good results. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 06:49 PM
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This is based on my personal experience so take it with a grain of salt but I think it's best to continue setting a good example while ignoring negativity. You should tell your fiance about the text and let him handle it how he sees fit. When you see her in person be polite and friendly- pretend she never sent the text and act like nothing happened. I've never dealt with this to the same extent but I do have two younger BILs who've brought girls around that didn't fit in. They don't like being h…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 03:45 PM
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My mom used to tell me how it was important to be a good person but most people won't get the chance to know someone if they're put off by their appearance. Perhaps it isn't "nice" but it's true. People who put effort into themselves generally have an easier time with everything.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 12:11 PM
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Being raised with traditional gender roles prepared me to be submissive to my husband and to not only accept his leadership but to be thankful for it. It's one of the ways men express love and show they care about you. I think people are taught this is controlling and made to believe it has to be negative and always stems from a bad place. I'm pregnant with my first baby and I'm grateful he will be raised with healthy male role models. I don't want him growing up thinking he's inherently evil or…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/17 10:50 PM
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I'm glad I could help. :) I don't think you need to change anything about your personality or anything (just to be clear). It's fine to communicate about your day, good or bad, but balance is important. He doesn't need to know every detail all of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/17 02:53 AM
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This is a good way to handle light teasing from a guy. You can't go wrong being lighthearted and fun about things that aren't too serious anyway. The other night my husband walked in on me exfoliating my lips and then a little later he saw me combing my eyelashes. He mostly makes inappropriate jokes but he makes the princess comments too. I just laugh with him because it is pretty ridiculous. I also know he secretly likes that about me so it's all in good fun.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/17 01:58 AM
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So with that little blurb I have a heap of questions; should things like hair dye dramas and the like be something I only talk to girlfriends about? “Petty” things should I just not bother my SO with? It's a good idea to think before speaking instead of talking/texting whatever comes to mind. Quality over quantity, right? :) How do you stay calm and logical? Do you mean in general or regarding communication specifically? If it's the latter: listening with the intention of understanding him, aski…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 11:47 PM
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Maybe it's evil or bitter, but after years of being concern trolled over my supposed anorexia (unequivocally untrue) - it makes me happy to know that men don't buy into the these tactics no matter how hard they are pushed. It's so frustrating. One of the teachers I used to work with felt the need to constantly express concern about my health, diet, and weight. I'm petite and naturally small but also choose to eat healthy, which she interpreted to mean I had body image issues and/or an eating dis…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 06:29 PM
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This is a really good post. :) I agree with you. My husband and I were both raised in 'traditional' families. I know a lot of strong and healthy men who want to lead their own families someday (or are already doing so) but they aren't involved in RP (and would be totally unfamiliar if someone brought it up).
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 05:26 PM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 03:11 PM
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I made this honey, lemon, and ginger tea last night. I like to be prepared so it's ready when/if we happen to get sick. Someone sent me the recipe last year and it was really nice when we had colds. I like it when I'm not sick too. :)
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 03:10 PM
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But how strong are you really is you listen to "everyone" and break up your marriage (not that you are thinking of doing this)? Good point. Thank you. I'm not considering divorce. That makes it hard to open to up to anyone about this and contributes to the lonely, sad, and slightly depressed feelings I've had lately. I love my husband more than anything and I wouldn't leave him over something like this.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 03:00 PM
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Thank you so much for this response. it seems counterintuitive wanting your man to lie to you about these things, but maybe try looking at it this way. he held an awful secret on his own for years and years, quite possibly because he knew it wouldn't happen again and he didn't want to hurt his wife. This is similar to what he has said and how I've interpreted his decision not to tell me. I believe he thought I was better off not knowing about it (and he was right). It's hard because everyone say…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 12:20 AM
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I think my husband and our marriage are worth dealing with whatever I'm going through now. I'm not considering divorce. I just need to find a better way to deal with it. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/17 01:41 PM
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She lives in another state now so I doubt he's had contact with her recently. The pictures were old/low quality but I recognized what I could see of the room (and him).
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 10:44 PM
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He cheated before we were married. It was the first year of our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 09:43 PM
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I didn't reply to the email or attempt to contact her (and don't plan to) so I don't know her exact motivation. She contacted me on Facebook once right after we were married but she didn't make specific claims, she just wrote "don't trust him," which only creeped me out, it didn't make me deeply suspicious. I asked him about it and showed him the message, he told me she was an ex FWB but wanted more and had trouble moving on. He had me block her and I thought that was the end of it. I'm wonderin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 08:48 PM
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I agree, it would have been better coming from him, but I would still feel the way I do. I'm trying to avoid over analyzing the past because there's nothing we can do to change anything. Also did you say other women? Yes, there was a total of 3 women he slept with during our first year together. One contacted me, he told me about the others.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 08:37 PM
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Last year I did a RAoK Advent Calendar similar to this. It was really fun to do some of the things with our nieces and I think it's good for kids to learn there's more to Christmas than just presents. We're doing it again this year :) This is a great post, by the way. I love the jar idea!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 08:24 PM
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Do you think it's possible he could have been remorseful without telling me? I want to believe he kept this to himself because he decided to stop when he started taking our relationship more seriously. That's essentially what he's told me during our conversations about it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 08:13 PM
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We've talked about it a few times and he's said he considered telling me but he thought I was better off not knowing. I realize that sounds bad but I tend to believe that was why he kept this from me (which might also sound bad). I feel like he deserves some credit for being honest when I asked him about it and he also shared more information with me (about other women). He's willing to talk to me and he's answered my questions too. It doesn't excuse his dishonesty but I believe he's trying to m…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 08:10 PM
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I think it depends on his personality and preferences. My husband usually likes his space when he has a lot going or he's under stress for some reason. Last week I ordered food he liked, left him a sweet note, then went out for a few hours so he had the house to himself to relax. Later on he fell asleep while I gave him a back rub. Simple stuff but I think he appreciated it. Sometimes I will ask directly if there's anything I can do to help or how I can make his day better too.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 07:06 PM
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I make sure the house is generally clean/picked up everyday. I also thoroughly clean one room or do laundry every day, then I have one deep cleaning task on the weekend. I do a little extra in the evenings on days I watch my nieces and/or friend's sons. It always helps me to start the day with a clean house, so I try to get everything in order at night before I go to bed. Think about what's important to you and how you want to feel (and others to feel) in your home. I think a home should be peac…
/r/RedPillWives27/11/17 03:51 PM
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I felt my baby move for the first time yesterday! It was the sweetest thing, I actually teared up a little. We find out if it's a girl or a boy today. I'm so excited! My husband is coming to the ultrasound too, so I'm really happy about that. What were/are your favorite books to read during pregnancy?
/r/RedPillWives27/11/17 03:33 PM
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This post made me cry. I'm pregnant (with my first baby) and I really appreciate your openness and honesty here. I hope you're feeling better soon. Hang in there mama <3
/r/RedPillWives22/11/17 02:34 PM
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I've seen him cry, and I was not disgusted -- on the contrary I was touched. I think this would be my reaction too. :) My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married 5, and I have never seen him cry. If he were to become emotional I wouldn't acknowledge it directly because that would probably make him uncomfortable. I think I would give him a hug, listen if he needed me to, and then just let it be. I don't find it repulsive, I don't resent him for some kind of "weakness" -- instead I a…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 01:04 PM
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He gave me a very nice and genuine compliment this morning. I appreciated that more than he knows. I needed it too- I'm almost 16 weeks pregnant and I'm beginning to feel insecure about my body now that I'm gaining weight and have a belly.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/17 04:48 AM
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I've always felt a little strange about elaborating on my feelings for my husband with him directly. He's not the sentimental type and he doesn't talk about feelings very much. My approach has been telling him how I feel without going on and on in an effort to keep our time together comfortable. I still kind of like elaborating on my feelings, so I started writing him letters years ago and just kept them to myself until recently. One day I mentioned I had something for him, gave him a letter and…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 07:25 PM
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Don't take it personally. His sex drive isn't about you- remind yourself of this when you're feeling bitter or resentful. He's attracted to you and this is probably causing him some confusion, maybe embarrassment too. Make sure you're communicating how good he makes you feel and how you'd love to do the same for him. Flirt with him outside the bedroom, let him know he turns you on, make him feel comfortable and confident. Be sweet and fun about it so he doesn't feel pressured. When he gets anxio…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 04:35 PM
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Gender roles can help you bring harmony into your home. It works for us. My husband and I are good at different things. He takes care of his responsibilities and I take care of mine. Our time together is peaceful and (usually) fun as a result. I'm happy in my marriage and I'm thankful my husband doesn't want or expect me to think or act like a man.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:31 PM
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We've stayed with family on vacations and I wear a robe in common areas or get dressed before leaving the room.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 12:03 AM
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Great post. I think being pregnant has made me even more interested in this topic. It's really important to me to create a happy life for our family and I know that requires mindfulness and effort on a daily basis. Leading a joyful life begins with having a positive attitude and a gentle spirit in my opinion. Being grateful, mindful, and thoughtful help contribute to my personal happiness, which puts me in the position to genuinely share joy with my friends and family. My goal is to be a source …
/r/RedPillWives28/09/17 09:02 PM
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lol! I sent this to my cousin the other day when she asked for marriage advice (she's getting married soon). My husband wants me to keep his house, make his food, have his babies and give him lots of good sex. He expects me to be happy and look pretty too. It isn't complicated. :)
/r/RedPillWives23/09/17 07:35 AM
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Congratulations! I've only been married for 5 years but our relationship has always worked this way and we're happy, so I think we're on the right path. It's important to understand and accept submission in order to be a good (and happy) submissive wife. We're helpers, we support, serve, and complement our husbands and in doing so we become the best versions of ourselves.
/r/RedPillWives23/09/17 06:04 AM
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I was in gymnastics too and I am so thankful for it now that I'm an adult. I tell my cousins and friends to get their kids involved in gym, dance, sports- any physical activity because the benefits last forever.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 12:35 AM
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I grew up with health conscious parents so I've always followed a healthy diet and I think that's really important for fitness and your overall health. Most of my diet consists of green vegetables and lean protein with things like yogurt and fruit in smaller amounts so I don't go into ketosis or lose weight (and now that I'm pregnant I'm careful to eat a little more of those things). As far as exercise, I was in dance for nearly 20 years and gymnastics for 12. Both were a lot of fun and kept me …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 12:26 AM
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My husband has a somewhat high N-count (I think?) but he's my only partner. It doesn't bother me because I understand his reasoning. He slept around when he wanted to and when he was ready to grow up, he stopped. I think men can enjoy both casual sex and monogamy if that's something they want. My husband is also lucky to come from a family full of strong male role models. I wasn't willing to have sex unless we were in a monogamous relationship and he knew I was the kind of person he wanted for a…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 12:29 PM
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My mother is extremely superficial and put a huge emphasis on physical attractiveness. She actually told my sister and I we didn't need to try so hard in school once. It's messed with me a little (and I'm working on being less judgmental and superficial myself) but I'm thankful someone taught me about hygiene, grooming, beauty, etc. Some women don't have anyone to teach them about those things. For example, I met a friend in college who didn't know she was supposed to scrub the bottom of her fee…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 05:23 AM
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Timely too, some of the stuff lately has been eyebrow raising, so a window to normal is great. It was refreshing to read today. This is more similar to how my marriage works compared to others I've read about recently. My husband is the leader and he makes the decisions but he isn't a sociopath or complete a**hole.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 12:57 AM
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There will be times when you disagree with your husband's decisions. State your opinion calmly and pleasantly. Provide any additional info that you feel he needs to help him make his decision. If the two of you still disagree, let it go. I don't just mean let the conversation go, I mean trust in your husband that he has your family's best interests at heart, and that he has thought it through and is making the best decision he can for your family, and understand that he will be responsible for t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 12:49 AM
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I love the animal subs too. /r/babyelephantgifs is really cute
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 04:27 PM
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In addition to others listed: /r/happy /r/talesfromretail /r/randomkindness /r/food_bank
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 02:05 AM
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Good idea. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 01:40 AM
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I meant to edit my post yesterday. If this is too graphic for this sub I apologize. :) It isn't weird at all in my opinion. I don't like the feeling but I understand what you're saying about the dynamic and pressure too. If you're feeling pressured to come and/or ready to move on you can tell him how much you want him inside of you or just beg him to f--- you. I think you might enjoy it if he had more control too. Maybe consider some light bondage? Like having your hands tied above your head whi…
/r/RedPillWives04/09/17 07:27 PM
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I don't like it, specifically the feeling of his tongue there. It's just highly unpleasant for me for some reason. He found some ways around it that have worked out well for us.
/r/RedPillWives04/09/17 12:01 AM
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This made me laugh. I think you should try to focus on his intentions. He was just trying to cheer you up. :) I'm sensitive too and sometimes I take my husband's jokes the wrong way. I usually apologize and do something nice for him when I realize I overreacted. I don't think these two things alone are enough evidence to prove he doesn't respect you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/17 09:41 PM
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Dread as a thing. I'm not sure if I don't understand it, I don't think I understand it, personally. It makes me anxious and sad to think about my husband doing some of the things I've read on TRP. He doesn't use Reddit but still, they claim all men like that do those things. I think the world of him and try my best to be a good wife, so I hope he wouldn't play games with me like that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/17 08:51 PM
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Moreover, I'm sure the majority of guys who claim the girl's low N-count is important, would pick a decent woman who knows how to properly please them in ways they've never imagined over the inexperienced (and up to a point, uninterested) one who thinks her low N-count is some bargaining chip. Another argument would be that the transition from 'sex outside a committed relationship is bad' and the fear of being 'taken advantage of by players' to being your man's personal whore is VERY difficult t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 11:51 PM
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I keep a journal (and a bullet journal) but I avoid things that make me anxious (in an effort to be less affected by them). I know I need to try harder to confront those thoughts, however, and writing is something I can do on my own. Thanks for this.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 11:46 PM
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Thank you, you've given me more to think about (and I really appreciate it). I like the CBT approach and I actually listened to the CBT course on Audible. My old therapist wasn't enthusiastic about it and basically wanted me to talk or vent a lot. She also really wanted to talk to my husband and that isn't going to happen. It was weird because she'd tell me to be more direct with people and when I took that approach with her she did exactly what I feel everybody else does: kept pushing and would…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/17 05:22 PM
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That makes sense. He gets a little irritated if I don't say anything, so I try to let him know I'm feeling anxious (when it's bad) without going on and on about it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 09:39 PM
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Thank you for posting this, it's very helpful. I have some anxiety surrounding my pregnancy- specifically how it will affect my marriage. I'm actually considering returning to therapy to sort myself out but I need to find the right person. I felt like my old therapist was good but she really wanted to talk to my husband and discuss our marriage. I was developing anxiety about going to therapy because my husband will not go (fine with me) and I wasn't there to talk about our relationship. I went …
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 03:20 PM
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We know somebody who refused ADHD meds for their child for years. Her father actually had to threaten her mother with court before she agreed. This was about two years ago and the medication has changed this child's life- her grades improved, she doesn't struggle with learning in general as much, she's made friends, her behavior (especially impulse control) is better, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 03:06 PM
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Thank for sharing this. I'm struggling with some anxious thoughts at the moment and trying to figure out what (if anything) to share with my husband. I think I'm going to continue following the advice from the other sub and keep it to myself for now. I hope your wife (and you) feel better soon.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 02:57 PM
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It helps me to focus on the things I have in common with people. I have a lot of "feminist" friends and (politely) change the subject or redirect our conversations often. that me being submissive (a seriously important coping tactic + my natural disposition) or being feminine or being conservative will get me hurt more because i'm apparently a victim of misogyny and that it's my job to become a super strong oppression combating feminist superhero. This can be extremely frustrating but please don…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 09:06 PM
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That is so cute! We're going to do a gnome theme garden for the fall. Thank you. It is our first baby. We're really excited. :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 01:18 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 01:17 AM
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Congratulations on your new job! :) I've been feeling a little strange lately, so I took a pregnancy test (about a week early) yesterday and it was positive! I'm so excited, especially after telling my husband last night (I cried like a baby). My goals this week: I want to do something to make my husband feel really special. I want him to know how important he is to me and make sure he knows he's still my biggest priority. transition to pregnancy yoga and workout routines collate, print, assembl…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/17 12:42 PM
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My mother isn't exactly 'warm and fuzzy' but she cares about her appearance and (thankfully) taught my sister and I a lot about fashion, skincare, beauty, etc. It's important to dress for your shape/body type and according to your own style and preferences as opposed to whatever's trendy at the moment. I'm petite and look ridiculous in long/tunic tops, tea length skirts, anything excessively baggy or flowy, lots of layers, chunky sweaters, etc. I actually look my best in simple, fitted, clothing…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 07:06 PM
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I'm not really "RP" either but I like this sub and have things in common with the women who post here. I'm more like a traditional/submissive wife, I guess. I find TRP sub overwhelming and generally avoid it. I don't think all women secretly hate each other, maybe toxic women feel that way but a normal healthy person doesn't have hatred or ill will towards anyone. I love and appreciate the women in my life and want the best for all women (which is why certain aspects of feminism concern me so mu…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 05:09 PM
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Yuck. That's the kind of stuff I was referring to in my other post (apparently it's fairly common for the women to give them oral sex). I personally believe receiving a hickey from another guy is cheating. I mean, we all know what it takes to get/make one, it isn't like he lightly kissed her cheek and she didn't have time to react. How gross. I don't think I could keep a straight face if a man gave me a lap dance.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 08:40 PM
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I agree about waiting patiently. My husband doesn't like talking/questions or a lot of interaction in general immediately after work. I stop what I'm doing and greet him (at the door, if possible) when he arrives home, offer a drink, ask if he needs anything, etc. then give him his space. Once he's relaxed, showered, etc. I like to give massages and backrubs. He works (mostly on his feet) for about 12 hours, so I learned how to give really nice foot massages (there are helpful videos on YouTube …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 08:18 PM
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Okay. Thank you for explaining. It sounds like a pretty trashy experience all around. Giving a lap dance to another man would feel so wrong and sleazy. I'm having a hard time wrapping my mind around a married/committed woman enjoying something like that but to each their own.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:05 PM
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Do women go to those places just to hang out? Like on a random Saturday night they meet up at the (male) strip club? Maybe I'm just really out of touch. I don't think we even have those in my area.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 03:53 PM
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I've only been to female strip clubs on two occasions and don't feel compelled to go again (both were clean, upscale places with very talented dancers, it just isn't for me). I have no desire to see male strippers; it doesn't sound exciting, remotely sexy, or even funny/entertaining. It sounds like a really gross experience, actually. And good for you for hiding out. I've heard some bizarre stories about male strippers. Things are known to escalate quickly and I've been told certain sex acts are…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 10:24 AM
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I'm laughing right now. I once received a nasty PM for telling someone on /r/sex to worship her boyfriend's dick (and this post reminded me of it). No more alcohol + reddit for me. I avoid /r/sex too. :) And you make a good point about feeling sexy. It makes it easier to be sexual when you feel like a sexual person.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/17 04:30 PM
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You've explained this so well. Great post! I really like the way you've emphasized the importance of having a genuinely positive attitude about sex. I was an inexperienced virgin when I met my husband/then boyfriend (he wasn't) and some of the "advice" I found online was really intimidating. Basically, lists of tricks, horror stories and posts claiming it's impossible to have 'good' sex as a virgin/until you've had multiple partners. Friends shared some helpful knowledge but it more about techni…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/17 04:18 PM
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I found out I actually can stand up to people, it's just the people who don't expect it. I have a hard time with this. I'm still figuring out how to be assertive and less self-sacrificing. Figure out how to cut people out who don't add to your life, it makes room for those who do. Good advice. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/17 12:32 AM
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Thank you for this comment, it puts things into perspective. I edited my post because I do not want to contribute to stereotypes about certain diagnoses. M's issues are manageable but she's pretty irresponsible about her mental health. Her dad and I spoke briefly last night and he wanted to know how much she'd had to drink at my house. I thought it over and realized she consumed an entire bottle of wine. He was annoyed because she's not supposed to drink at all on a specific medication apparentl…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/17 12:13 AM
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I haven't considered this. Thank you for the advice (and video- I'll watch it tonight). I might have a hard time saying/texting exactly what you wrote here but I am going to talk to her about the things she said. She phrases a lot of it as a "joke." She says negative things in an almost nonthreatening way- it's hard to tell if I should be taking it seriously. I will now (of course) but in the past I wasn't sure how to interpret some of it or what motivated the comments. I should have phrased my …
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/17 11:54 PM
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It's so weird. I eat low(ish) carb (mostly) because it seems to keep my blood sugar steady and prevents it from dropping in the mornings. I've explained this to tons of people after they seem genuinely confused and even concerned about my food choices because I'm not overweight.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/17 08:42 PM
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Well, this turned into a full blown tangent. I'm deep in my feelings today. Shaming women who are fit and healthy, saying they're probably unhappy because they need to control their weight so much. I've experienced this myself and it's incredibly frustrating, not to mention rude and often hurtful too. However, saying so is considered disingenuous and even offensive to bigger women (by some standards). I've never been overweight. It's just genetics, nothing special on my part, women on both sides…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 05:21 PM
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I moved in with my husband (then fiance) after my college graduation and about two months before our wedding. It was a chaotic period in our lives and we didn't spend a lot of down time together. It didn't feel like we really lived together most of the time tbh. I don't feel like it had much of an impact either way. We're still happily married after five years.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 03:03 PM
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I do these (in varying sequence) and gradually increase the time/breaths I hold each pose. http://imgur.com/a/BR01t
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 04:18 AM
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This might be a little graphic (for this sub). When I first became sexually active my husband (then boyfriend) would put his hands on my hips and practically move them for me to show me how to do it/what he wanted. It helped me learn, build my confidence, and he was getting it the way he liked. It was hot and fun and he definitely enjoyed teaching me (his attitude really helped). It helps to be in shape (for all sex positions and life in general). I do strength training and yoga mostly, includin…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 09:51 PM
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I'm an INFJ too. We are the 1% :) I feel like it's generally accurate and somewhat helpful in understanding certain aspects of my personality. I'm not sure about my husband but he's definitely more of the extroverted type.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 08:54 PM
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What do you like to do during a long drive with your SO/husband? We're about two hours into a five hour drive and I'm listening to my audio book (on headphones), he's listening to music (and driving). We've talked a little and stopped once too. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 07:57 PM
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I think some people take it literally and others don't. I like your interpretation.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 01:32 AM
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I use Facebook to stay up to date with certain people but rarely post or comment on anything. My husband doesn't use any social media and prefers the same for me (with the exception of Facebook). So, I don't use Twitter and Instagram (or anything else). It's not a big deal to me.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 01:28 AM
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Right? One reason I'm secure in my marriage is because I know my husband wants to be married.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 11:03 PM
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I thought about this massage while reading your post and wanted to share. My husband really likes this, especially the pulling/stretching motion on his neck and shoulders. Head and scalp massages are nice too.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 09:45 PM
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but 70% of men said they would have been psyched for their girlfriend to propose. I hate to be mean but my first thought upon reading this was only lazy, unmotivated, men with poor leadership skills (and no desire to improve) would actually want the woman to propose. It's sad (and a little scary) to think about younger women in my family dating or potentially marrying guys with that mentality. I legitimately worry about them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 09:21 PM
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I'm having a hard time imagining myself proposing to my husband. It would have felt so unnatural considering our personalities and beliefs about marriage. I think I might have started laughing or done something else to mess it up, so that too. I'm not qualified to tell anyone else what to do but we're happy following traditional gender roles. Generally speaking, my husband initiates, I respond. It helps maintain balance in our relationship because he needs to lead and I need to trust his decisio…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 09:13 PM
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I've read this book with my students too. It's definitely a favorite! I actually read the title of this post hoping it was about the book. It has a great message and you've adapted it for women/adults here really well.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 06:52 PM
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I love mine! They're kind of fun to fill in too. FYI- Pinterest has lots of cute ideas :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 04:21 PM
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I'm expanding my habit tracker journal too. I feel like it's helped me to stay on top of certain things and it's become part of my nightly routine (because filling it in helps me relax). In addition to a few more habits (and goals) I'm adding a 'gratitude calendar' page. I think this type of thing can be really helpful. http://imgur.com/a/xXAg1
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 02:43 AM
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I love this! Great post. One of my goals is to write/journal at least twice a week this month. It's great for introspection and helps me organize my thoughts or feelings. I'm using lists I found on Pinterest for ideas and inspiration. If anyone is interested: http://imgur.com/a/nfrwH
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 12:38 AM
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Of course. :) edit: I understand why people feel this way and agree that the idea of marriage can seem really negative for men.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:55 AM
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We aren't religious but Christianity was present in both of our lives growing up (mine more so than his) and probably helped shape our beliefs about marriage. the happy marriages you are surrounded by are apart of your church community? I was referring to my husband's family, mostly. I'm pretty sure most would identify as 'Christian' but some take it more seriously than others. :) His family is really close (and big!) and we spend a lot of time with them. They have traditional values and take fa…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:48 AM
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I'm happily married and while I understand why this attitude exists, it makes me a little sad. Happy marriages between mentally healthy and physically attractive people exist. I'm in one and surrounded by them on a regular basis. Marriage has so much potential; it's people who make it negative. My husband is the most important person in the world to me, even on our "bad" days. Marriage can be hard but the challenges it's presented have helped me grow into a better person than I ever thought I co…
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What advice would you give a younger RPW who is in a relationship in terms of how to keep your man happy & loyal and also in terms of how to inspire him to stay committed to you long-term? I think it's important to feel secure in your relationship. I know my husband loves me and wants to be married. He takes marriage and commitment in general very seriously. He grew up surrounded by happy, healthy marriages and believes a good marriage can elevate every aspect of your life. He was also ready to …
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 02:28 AM
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I love my crochet group for the same reason. It's nice (and kind of refreshing) to be among such polite, selfless people who share many of the same values. We're currently working on hats for cancer patients (to donate this fall/winter) and it's really inspiring to be surrounded by people who take joy in serving others. I've met some great women through my volunteer "job" at the food bank too. It's funny because I was sure I wouldn't fit in at either initially. It's served as a good reminder to …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 12:24 PM
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We're currently trying and I'm definitely guilty of falling into this! It's all so overwhelming. I'm drowning in information about diets, parenting philosophies, pregnancy routines, breastfeeding, birthing methods... and so much more. How did babies survive before the internet?! ;)
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 08:23 AM
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I just watched Father Of The Bride 2 tonight and your comment reminded me of George's breakdown over having a baby so late in life :) Now, at least going to the movies, that'll be economical. "One child, two seniors. Thanks." I think you make good points about waiting. We have a lot of control over preventing pregnancy with plenty of readily available options for contraception. Maybe it gives us a false sense of security to think we have so much control. If a woman wants to become pregnant and e…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 07:49 AM
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Wear clothes or lingerie he really likes Start his shower after work, join him (when possible), wash his hair, scratch his head, rub his back, etc. Wearing only lingerie (or nothing) when he arrives home from work (if I know his mood and/or plans) Sing love songs to him, he really likes my voice and always rewards me with kisses and cuddles :) Remember which items/brands he likes (food, household items, personal care products, etc.) Keep a list (on my phone) of things he needs replaced or repair…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 05:52 AM
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We like that one too. Good stuff :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 09:42 PM
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Men typicially need sex to give and receive love. It might be helpful to keep that in mind. You might benefit from reading up on his sexual needs too. I actually thought of this article as I read your post (but I'm sure there are others if this doesn't appeal to you). http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2011/01/wifey-wednesday-post-you-wont-want-to/ I think you should try being receptive to him. Let him get you in the mood. If I waited until my husband and I were in that mindset at the same time we'…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 09:30 AM
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I know, I'm over thinking. Realistically, everything is more likely to work out than not. We're healthy, happy, stable, and in a strong marriage. I'm grateful to be where I am in life (and trying to be mindful about that). My husband actually made the same point about teaching. He's open to the idea of me working (when our child is older), which was somewhat of a relief to hear. Thank you for the reply. I appreciate your perspective. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 09:53 PM
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Agreed. I'm usually opposed to posting (negatively) about relationships on social media but this meme my (newly single) cousin shared recently made me laugh :) http://imgur.com/mFl0aRk
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 09:58 PM
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I'm taking a sociology elective course and the teacher is very much a feminist. If she knew how I'm being inspired by what she expects to appall us she'd probably give me an F. Anyways, I thought to share some of the material that you guys might like. :) This brings back memories. I took Gender & Society a few semesters before my husband and I met. He found a bunch of my stuff (notes, text, a few papers) when I moved in with him. That was funny :) FWIW, I'm pretty emotional but my husband doesn'…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 08:11 PM
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This was very reassuring. Thank you :) I agree, worrying about things beyond my control isn't helpful. I'm working on stopping myself and redirecting my thoughts when my mind wanders. Also- It makes me feel so much better to know there are small women who've successfully delivered bigger babies. I've been really caught up on that. I've felt so bad for being anxious while my husband seems totally confident and excited. We both want a baby, he's just so confident- it's reassuring and intimidating …
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 07:50 PM
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Thank you for the reassurance. I'm taking my niece to the library next week and I'll be looking for the author you mentioned. I really need to immerse myself in healthy, positive pregnancy/birth experiences.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 11:43 PM
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I agree, having babies (especially in your 20s) is made to seem like something negative that should be avoided. It's assumed all women take hormonal birth control too. Nothing wrong with BC but there are alternatives. We follow F.A.M. and it's worked out well I appreciate you sharing your experience. I hope the best for you and your wife :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 09:08 PM
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Thank you. I will definitely look for more opportunities to practice with other people's kids. I babysit my nieces on a regular basis, so I have some experience but more couldn't hurt. I think I'm ready, just anxious about such a major life change and the responsibility that comes with it. Of course the changes to my body are a concern too. I know my husband is very attracted to me now and I don't want that to change. I think being a teacher scared me a little too. When I imagine having a baby, …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 08:52 PM
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Haha! Thankfully I really like sex, so it's been fun to say the least :) I needed the reminder to stop over thinking, thank you for that.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 05:41 AM
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I don't think we're waiting but this is good advice. I had some testing done last year and the only thing my doctor mentioned was a gene mutation called MTHFR.
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You were exactly right. We talked tonight and it went really well :)
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I'm anxious when it comes to parenting. I don't take that as criticism, it's just a fact. I look forward to being a mom but I can't deny I'm nervous about it too. I think I feel somewhat responsible for my sister's "issues" as well. It's illogical but I feel like I failed her. Thank you for this response, you made great points to think and/or talk about. I hate to sound insecure but I'm going to talk to him about my concerns regarding my body. I think I need that reassurance. I'm going to bring …
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Thank you. I think you're right about fearing the unknown more than anything. I definitely want kids, I'm just anxious about it.
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Thank you. You make a good point about relating to our child. I hadn't thought of that but it's important.
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You make great points. Thank you. I haven't put as much time or thought into the positive aspects of pregnancy now that I think about it. I've sought out the horror stories, which make me more anxious and overwhelmed. My poor SIL had a difficult time with her last pregnancy, which might be fueling some of my fears. She has some different circumstances than I do, also like you said, most pregnancies aren't complicated. It makes sense to have a baby now while we're young and physically fit. Plus, …
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