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quit playing video games and become the guy that she wouldn't want to ignore. I don't know any of your story, and it doesn't look like you've posted here recently, but a likely scenario here is: You're not acting attractive, wife pulls away to do something more interesting that isn't you, you get butthurt and pull away yourself, death spiral. What are you doing to create excitement and attraction in your marriage? Denying her access to resources (within reasonable budgets) is going to make thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 05:40 AM
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Nicely written....I'll be forwarding this to other men. There are a lot of marriages that need saved and God wants them to hear this message for sure. (I'm not LDS but it applies to all christian/catholic/muslim/jewish/etc men who have been raised to live a certain set of morals/rules)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 09:56 PM
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It happens. Life gets routine or tough and it sucks your creativity away. Have fun with it. Make it YOUR game.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 04:33 PM
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Seriously the best push/pull is when you keep it light/fun and don't even make it sexual. Then she's the dirty little whore if she turns your games sexual right? (and if she does you get to blame her which is a game on its own). Basically leave a little plausible deniability for the pull to exist. -Bring her in for a hug and then before she gets a chance to pull away say something like "ok that's enough" -After she does something you like... "you're so cute....(chuckle, pause) you know - like a …
/r/askMRP29/08/18 04:27 PM
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All decently good ideas.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 04:03 PM
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+1 Point for giving an example. -1 Point for being a bit cringeworthy.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 04:00 PM
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Best honest answer I should have given my wife when she was curious about all my reading. Going through MMSLP, NMMNG, and other books/forums - there is some talk about involving your spouse - but that is BP advise. She will be attracted to you when you fix yourself and become the best version of you through the process....the hamster won't care about how you got there, nor will she help you.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 03:49 PM
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Yeah this is exactly what I saw.... "anything you say, can and will be used against you in a court of law by your wife whenever it is convenient for her." Basically any ammo I gave her came out when she needed to reframe things her way. If I were to do this whole thing over again, I would remain STFU about my journey, but be remain open/direct about my goals and desires.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 03:46 PM
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I've been there...my wife would pretty much say no to me for anything back in the day - but now she will follow me off a cliff. You will make some mistakes along the road so just plan for that and hold frame. It does work best though to pick something that you want to do (be exciting), and do it (have fun), inviting or telling them to come along with you (not asking for their input). Your wife WILL shit test the hell out of you at first and possibly forever each and every time that you decide so…
/r/askMRP15/08/18 02:35 PM
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So sorry I must have triggered you. Your therapist owes me a thank you and I didn't even try hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 05:58 PM
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groupon type activities (wine tours, wine and painting classes, sunset cruises, concerts, segway tours, progressive dinner tours, etc - usually have couples). Church (if you go). PTO and kids sport involvement (if you have kids). Lead your wife and demonstrate your high value by being the one who introduces yourself to the other people in the group and introducing them to her. Raise your "hang out value" by doing exciting things often and inviting others to join often. (also wearing deodorant he…
/r/askMRP13/08/18 04:28 PM
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white knighting for rulezerodad? You heard what I said - now don't be judgey bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/18 03:36 PM
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I believe that It is NOT required of Christians and your post is baiting Christians in this forum to argue with you. But rather than arguing with you - maybe we can agree that we find it very un-attractive of Christians who push their beliefs and judge others openly - that isn't inviting, it actually pushes people away. But let's also make an agreement - I won't "prescribe behavior" or "moralize" some of your tools (i.e. plates/cheating if those are tools you use) - and I would appreciate in kin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/18 06:10 PM
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I agree with you whole-heartedly, except for one thing - they do hang out on girls nights in our homes for a "movie night" or "book club night" or "bunco night" and inevitably (as it should with friends) turns into drinking and having a good time and they start music and dance with no guys around. Usually the husband/dad of the host gets himself out of the house or hides upstairs with the kids (confirmed I do this, and the other dads I am tight with so we usually hang out for a beer somewhere no…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/18 08:50 PM
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iloveairplane This thread is timely. Wife went out with some friends (all married moms) for a dinner event a while back and then they all ended up afterward going to a sleazy bar that is pretty much loud dance music, drinks, and guys picking up girls. She got home about 1am and the next day I told her that I really don't give a shit what she does with her girlfriends as long as it isn't that sort of "dance club" type of environment that singles go to..... We have been to those type of places tog…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/18 07:04 PM
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There are a lot of inconsistencies in your post. Time for you to define what you want in a marriage and re-communicate that with your wife. You started marriage with vows, then you changed them around apparently....what is sacred to you? What should your marriage look like? Decide, Communicate/Set Boundaries, Accept nothing less.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 11:29 PM
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Stone - you hypocrite! But let's let the past be the past.... Thank you for saying this. It is easy for guys to pile on without giving advice - but it is more important (as you have said here) to build up after tearing down.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 11:21 PM
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EVERYONE can enforce a boundary within their own life. In fact - re-communicating and expressing the consequences if either of you cross the boundary again, MIGHT SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE. OOOPS, you're not married. what the hell are you worried about? Is there something we don't know here? Is her SMV so super high that you are afraid of losing her and you are willing to be a cuckold? Is she wealthier than you and paying all the bills and you'd rather be her bitch than speak up? Time to get your balls…
/r/askMRP10/02/17 03:30 PM
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You obviously haven't read MMSLP and the story of the princess and the donkey. Go read all the sidebar material. Why spend time with a woman you aren't fucking?
/r/askMRP09/02/17 06:11 AM
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Her: "it was just a blowjob honey, lighten up!" Sounds like you need to communicate what is inappropriate interaction with the opposite sex if you intend to be in an LTR/Marriage. Otherwise you could think lunch with a female one-on-one is ok and she doesn't, or she could think kissing or blowjobs is ok but you don't. Personally I think one-on-one coffee or lunch with the opposite sex opens up to EA and PA possibilities and it doesn't "look" good either. Go with a group unless you absolutely can…
/r/askMRP08/02/17 05:44 PM
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I think rather than "cheat", do the following: 1. Always be a self improver. 2. Follow the 12 step dread program 3. Amp it up if the wife doesn't get on board so that she is the one that is making the decision to stay and get with the program OR leave. (by withdrawing attention and resources that you would normally be providing in a healthy marriage...but not cheating on her). Then you've taken the high-ground.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/17 04:27 PM
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Don't shit where you eat.
/r/askMRP02/02/17 08:21 AM
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Anger phase? Just look on the bright side - you didn't find this at 40. There is always a bright side. You can't give any fucks about what you could have done or who you could have done....that is in the past. All you have to look forward to is your glorious future now! Get out of the anger phase, learn to respect yourself and like who you are. Be attractive, don't be unattractive.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 05:31 PM
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Neither u/weakandsensitive or I are saying that isn't possible, we're just saying that the probability depends on factors.....some factors making it nearly impossible. Let's say you are already the charismatic dude with common interests and she is already having enjoyable sex with you several times a week and on top of that there is 20 years of kids, shared social network, business relationships, etc, then add on top of that she is serious about her faith and highly invested in that (church stuf…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 08:41 PM
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You've summed up something I was going to post. I immediately thought - "my wife wouldn't dare hand out her number even to big bucks chad" But then I thought "at what level of chad would she hand out the number????" I think the SMV and other factors comes into play here. For example - my wife is way too concerned about her own reputation and the FEAR she has of breaking any rules whatsoever is heavy on her. The thought that she MIGHT get caught somehow, thereby causing our relationship to be des…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 05:50 PM
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Are you speaking with your wife with such outcome independence and IDNGAF? Maybe she would open up more if you grabbed her with the kids to do a bunch of stuff instead of just grabbing the kids and not remembering if you spoke to her? Not criticizing, just speculating.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 05:44 PM
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Down voted for inaccuracy. While men are always looking at hot chicks, they aren't always on the prowl for better. I think that is more likely a female hypergamy, not a men's sexual strategy. Also what you will find here is men improving themselves to be the best they can be, many of whom are here because they are hoping to improve their marriage in the process. And finally - the men here are smart enough to decide which side we'd be on. I for one am not on the side of a cheater whether man or w…
/r/askMRP14/01/17 08:55 PM
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Honestly look back at your eve - do you really think you were in tune with her? You went in for a kiss on a cold dead fish I don't see how kino was working for you. Too much responding to her verbally and huge DEER. I think OI, STFU, get up and make yourself a sandwich or drink then check her temperature later might have been a better plan. Heck maybe it was a really good spot in the book!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 11:37 AM
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Hard no means no and you go on to do something else. Pushing through a hard no means you are pressuring her, acting needy, borderline raping your wife. Soft no (last minute resistance, playfully pushing you back, etc) you can work with and try to close, but once she gives you a serious no you need to be cool about it and carry on with something else. This is in the sidebar and described various other places as Outcome Independence. You say you read MMSL, but you must have missed that part. Re-re…
/r/askMRP10/01/17 01:45 AM
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I think that would seem beta / creepy if in fact she has never gave him photos before and didn't this time around. Maybe playing it down instead of playing it up would be best?
/r/askMRP08/01/17 06:35 PM
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edit - wait, you say she TOLD you that she was taking sexy pictures of herself a long while back and this was just confirmation of her taking said photos? You mean you were not surprised to find these photos because you knew about her taking them in the first place - it wasn't just DEERed when you found out about said photos?
/r/askMRP08/01/17 06:23 PM
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What you're giving up? Are you imposing a 2 day sex hiatus because you don't think you can close your wife? Don't give up, don't go jerk off - own that desire and let it fuel you in the right way. Be attractive, don't be unattractive. It is good that you are stepping back and reflecting, now plan out the next two days like a man in charge, provide excitement at every turn, give her solid eye contact and demonstrate your masculinity in a good / sexy way. ass slaps and a little innuendo with an ID…
/r/askMRP08/01/17 06:11 PM
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I think you misunderstood - I was saying your response was a perfect example of fogging - very appropriate given this thread, but you are so used to doing it - that it has become second nature.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 05:53 PM
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but she's my soul-mate, she cares about my inner being, I'm supposed to share EVERYTHING with her! biggest lie to mankind.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 05:48 PM
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I see how you fogged stone there.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 05:36 PM
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So you do understand that if it's her actions that make you feel like a man then you're doomed right? If that is the case right now then you are dependent on her, much like you and your umbilical cord were depedant on your mom while you were in the womb. So step one for you, as you read the sidebar and lift, is to develop your own reliance and confidence in yourself, and step two would be to spend some non sexual time with your LTR and really determine if you like her for more than her tits and …
/r/askMRP07/01/17 10:32 PM
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Dogs are gonna chase cars and howl when sirens can be heard. Women are gonna swoon over bulging muscles, social proof, and big bank accounts. Operate accordingly. If you call her on it she will deny it and make you look like the crazy person. Find a way to deal with your insecurity. Find your own confidence, abundance mentality, and demonstrate your own awesomeness.
/r/askMRP07/01/17 05:00 PM
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I've fucked my wife without kissing.
/r/askMRP07/01/17 03:15 AM
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Practice makes perfect though - I remember being where you are - I was not outcome independent and when my wife said no to me I would get angry, pout, manipulate her, guilt her, and threaten her with leaving. You can't just learn how to be outcome independent overnight or by taking sex off the table in my opinion. For me - it took changing the way I initiated sex, changing the way I responded, and conditioning myself. Maybe this is just one of many ways though. If you decide to keep sex off the …
/r/askMRP06/01/17 06:38 PM
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right on. He needs to re-read nmmng, own his shit, get his act together, look and act like a man with a plan, then he can start seeing some respect from his wife and others around him.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 05:31 PM
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I agree - I remember being in this phase he is going through and it sucks - I actually cried uncontrollably off and on for a couple of days because I thought I was such a failure and thoughts of divorce were on my mind. Then I just started taking drives by myself and shutting the noise out for a bit and meditating and praying - I was such a pent up ball of anxiety during that time - of course I was going to fail shit tests! It will come together prarrott....have a nice drink tonight, get some sl…
/r/askMRP05/01/17 05:37 AM
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So it seems she doesn't feel you as OI, she feels (correctly so) that you are passively aggressively saying no to helping her with kids shit because she won't have sex with you. You have to disconnect the two in her mind ok??? If tension is high then just go in another room until you can handle a conversation with her, but when you can just try this: "hey babe, I made a mistake. That's going to happen. But you know what? I'm trying to make things better for our family so let's talk about how we …
/r/askMRP05/01/17 05:22 AM
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Ok - I'll bite a little, but how about some respect for alternative points of view instead of saying my comments suck and calling me a pussy....that is where you'll loose me because I will think you aren't being respectful of any posters other than those you agree with ok? I've read all his posts on MRP. Him saying he can't handle the kids as fast as she can is a sign of weakness. I don't think she is asking for anything unreasonable. And I definitely don't think he is ready to add more alpha wi…
/r/askMRP05/01/17 04:50 AM
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Now imagine you've got your shit together because you wake up early everyday, stay up late, putting in the hours it takes to read the material that has been laid out before you, posted to the OYS threads, taken advice and criticism from guys here and have passed through to the other side. That's the future you. Now quit talking like a faggot who cant handle working a 12 hour shift and dealing with 3 very young kids and a bitchy wife. ITS beneath you now - get it? You have to own that shit and pu…
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:57 AM
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I personally think it is more about leadership, getting your shit together, and creating an atmosphere of attraction and enjoyment before you get to complain about the lack of sex. Sure you've been a pushover for a long while, but you can't all of a sudden start being a hard ass when you haven't done the work to establish yourself as a trustworthy leader deserving of respect. If you force the respect then it will be mutiny....she will rebel and your relationship will be done.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:43 AM
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OK, so you made a mistake, so what, pick yourself up don't beat yourself up too bad, tomorrow's a new day. The reason the guys give you such a hard time here is to wake you up.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:27 AM
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You can help when you quit shit-testing me like a woman. Let people disagree with you in a polite way. Share your experience, quit trying to put people down - it makes you look bad.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:11 AM
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Your drawing a line in the sand but I think you were in the wrong here....you have a lot to learn. Still, pick your battles. One of the things a lot of guys forget here is you can't be the hard ass all the time, you have to be fun exciting and someone that people generally want to be around. Maybe take a moment tonight and break the ice with a joke, then say "I know things didn't work out exactly the way we hoped tonight but maybe we could work out a good plan that will work better for the famil…
/r/askMRP05/01/17 02:55 AM
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I personally think you should have said "sure babe, I'll take him, go get your shit done" then gave her a pat on the ass. You already had 2 kids with you what's another one? I'm not advocating you be a pushover and take the kids more than you should - it just sounds like you haven't struck a balance yet with her and you need to have solid communication and a real plan in place...then you can start taking some next steps. Maybe I'm wrong though - do you feel like you really have your shit togethe…
/r/askMRP05/01/17 02:42 AM
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The only thing my comment sucked is your moms balls. Man people get weird on the internet when you disagree with them.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 02:28 AM
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I've got 5 very young kids and I can bathe and feed them all on my own, I can do anything my woman can do and more, she knows I can handle ANYTHING and she puts her trust in that...it shows strength. 5 kids is the cross I bear, OP has 3.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 02:22 AM
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His wife can handle all 3 kids by herself but he can only handle 2 by himself? Yeah I want him to do more.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 02:19 AM
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She can handle all three kids at a time, he's just admitting to being able to handle only 2 of them and then telling her that as a SAHM she has to handle all 3 of them when he isn't even able to handle that load....he is showing he isn't able to be the captain of the whole ship - just part of it. Don't call me a pussy like you're trying to make a point or something.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 02:14 AM
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Women are also not happy doing kids 24x7....they are our kids too. Its acceptable leadership to purposely handle the kids from time to time and give your wife a break from them....she needs to get shit done too.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 02:04 AM
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Dude - do you expect her to be a slave to the kids 24x7? Sounds like you haven't sat her down and had the conversation about how you both should handle he responsibilities and the she needs a break from the kids just like you need a break from work. You have to be able to find time for errands, fun, relax time, alone time, together time etc. part of that is she needs some time away from the kids just to run some errands and get her head straight. Once you two have sat down and discussed this you…
/r/askMRP05/01/17 01:52 AM
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Exactly - right now he can't say no and own that mother fucking no. He has to explain to his wife why he said no - but partially because his no is not a good answer and his wife knows it. Her: Hey honey, can you act like an adult today? Him: no
/r/askMRP05/01/17 01:45 AM
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Short Answer - read No More Mr. Nice Guy and don't fake who you are. If you are faking then that means you are AFRAID of who you really are and how people will react to who you really are - and is total blue pill and only will result people around you not trusting you. Be a man who isn't afraid, define who you are, be a man of values and principle, live your code, and invite people to be in your frame - not placating to others frame.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/17 08:44 PM
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Ok - I'll bite - without getting into a debate consider this: You believe in a creator, but you've read the bible and you feel that all the parts about a person named Jesus is all man made up and there is no proof of it, but did you know He showed up to hundreds of people several days after his very public crucifixion and historical figures wrote similar documentaries of their experience of Jesus life (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John) and all of the 12 apostles who witnessed his miracles were there…
/r/TheRedPill03/01/17 06:14 PM
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Here's a few more questions: -Why are you living together not married and what has been the communication about that (i.e. do either of you want to get married)? -are you done with porn and video games? -you said she has a lot on her plate, do you think she views that she is the responsible adult in the relationship and you just another child? -your earlier post mentioned you were in a "heated" argument but she was being ridiculous and you then gave her a smart-ass response....what was the heate…
/r/askMRP03/01/17 05:46 PM
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I could understand if there was some rational reason that she lost her shit (In my case we have a child under two that acts like a Tasmanian devil and can literally test our limits all day and all night to no end - so we were on tilt and I lost frame leading to her lashing out in utter disparate frustration), and afterward she is totally remorseful and then doesn't act like that in an ongoing way.... however your wife does this often from what you're describing...so you need to decide - Are YOU …
/r/askMRP03/01/17 08:03 AM
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I'm guessing one of his next posts will be an advertisement for a hotwifing website.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 05:10 AM
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If my wife fucked a guy just one time i would dump her ass. That's enforcing boundaries bro. Guess I'm just not cut out to be in the "sharing/cucking" lifestyle. Sounds like you are ok with your boundary being crossed and then letting her hamster why she wouldn't think it crossed your boundary or something, or why it wasn't a pattern, or why it was only one guy in one hole and you knew him but she hadn't had a chance to introduce you to the other two because you were doing dishes or something (o…
/r/askMRP03/01/17 05:10 AM
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If my wife fucked a guy just one time i would dump her ass. That's enforcing boundaries bro. Guess I'm just not cut out to be in the "sharing/cucking" lifestyle. Sounds like you are ok with your boundary being crossed and then letting her hamster why she wouldn't think it crossed your boundary or something, or why it wasn't a pattern, or why it was only one guy in one hole and you knew him but she hadn't had a chance to introduce you to the other two because you were doing dishes or something (o…
/r/askMRP03/01/17 05:06 AM
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troll - making shit up
/r/askMRP03/01/17 05:01 AM
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is there a definition of marriage in your relationship? I mean, even if you aren't a troll, AND you are sharing your wife, there has to be some sort of definition of marriage for the two of you right?
/r/askMRP02/01/17 10:25 PM
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Right.
/r/askMRP02/01/17 09:54 PM
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Thanks for making this post, i'll definitely be using your line on the next groping shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/17 09:50 PM
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troll
/r/askMRP02/01/17 09:42 PM
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What kind of door do you have to your bedroom that doesn't take a fucking toothpick or paperclip to open anyway? Fix that pronto. Or did you forget that and decide kick first pick the lock second?
/r/askMRP02/01/17 05:55 PM
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Ball busting, calling a guy a faggot, pointing out how he is a pussy - All good so long as you offer him a hand up out of the mud with it (i.e. link to a sidebar article/book/page number, advice of some sort). Don't just call guys faggots and say your job is done. If you want to build better men by your comments then share something you picked up by reading the sidebar or putting something to practice. Consider that everyone comes here with different perspectives, experiences, history, education…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 06:18 PM
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distract her with your awesomeness. She didn't request porn to distract her from the dishes - she requested it to get aroused by someone other than you. and she is lying when she says that she's prevented from getting into you because the kitchen is dirty bro. YOU can take her mind off of the dirty kitchen without chores and porn. YOU need to create better feelz in her by yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 04:59 PM
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Well shit - I mean, we can only go off of what you write in your post man....I guess you need to be a little more clear. If you TRULY didn't ask mommy for permission, then really you just have to OWN whatever it is you did for right or wrong. Your woman can nit-pick on just about anything - so just OWN it, whatever you do! You are who you are, are you going to let her opinions of you affect you? Why get all affected by her and "go ballistic"? What good does that do? Her: you are a faggot because…
/r/askMRP13/12/16 12:35 AM
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Bro - did you tell us what kind of soup it was? That could be an important part of this story.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 04:54 AM
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Edit - I was looking at your second update while posting - my bad.
/r/askMRP11/12/16 07:14 PM
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yeah, but if she's read SGM she'll be in a dominant position to say "who tells you to throw the soup out? That's right Mommy you bitch!" might have unintended consequences.
/r/askMRP11/12/16 06:32 PM
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YES. you ASKED her if you should throw the soup out, she told you like a mommy needs to tell her elementary school child who asks what the fuck to do with soup. Hence you are treating your wife like a mom....NEVER put her in that position. you are a big man now, make little decisions like a big man does. Little things: no need for input from his wife. Man makes decisions and acts. Big things: Man asks his wife for input because he cares about being married to her and values her in his life and h…
/r/askMRP11/12/16 06:27 PM
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well, also your mistake was ASKING her if you should throw the soup away. Be a big boy and decide little things like "soup or no soup" for yourself.
/r/askMRP11/12/16 06:21 PM
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Honestly this all sounds like you are still in the drunk-captain / anger phase. drunk-captain: you still don't know what the hell you are and aren't doing for Christmas (biggest family event time of the year that should have been figured out like a month ago!) anger phase: trying to blame your faults on the fact that your wife is overweight and isn't sexually attracted to you. 1st step is to get control of yourself and act like a man who has his shit together. KNOW what it is that you want and b…
/r/askMRP11/12/16 06:10 PM
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Anger phase? If you want you could cut off your penis - heard about a guy who did that recently, really showed her. OR you could work on acting and being more attractive, give less concern about her and what kind of panties she's wearing, initiate sex like a sexy beast, and follow the 12 step dread program - she'll either get on board or move on.
/r/askMRP10/12/16 09:32 AM
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LTR, wife, plate, sister, tomato, tomotto, you're acting like a woman pulling the silent treatment shit the way you are....and your acting like a shit testing woman pointing out that I assumed you were married posting in a married guys forum - how dare I. Quit acting like a woman.
/r/askMRP10/12/16 05:43 AM
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and your text messages are better? Seriously. The reason your communication (both face to face and texting) gets fucked up (as you have characterized) is because of you! SPT is right - you're scared of your wife, but also you can't handle a conversation with her without getting defensive, loosing frame, or letting your ego get in the way. Another reason your conversation didn't go well is that she doesn't trust your leadership (from past experiences you've shared it sounds like she's already emb…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 10:39 AM
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If he hasnt had sex with her in 10 years, I wonder who's 6 year old is in the picture with his wife.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 01:24 AM
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Nah, he's the one asking for advice, I'll let him do the work.... but your welcome to answer for him if you'd prefer.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 09:22 PM
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Tell us more about your wife's affair, what do you know happened and upon discovery did she profusely apologize and promise it would never happen again? Did you tell her that you accept her apology but that if it happened again you would kick her out? What happened? How do YOU feel about remaining married to a woman who cheated on you, is bossing you around, expecting you to do dishes instead of more masculine work, and not having sex with you as often as you'd like? Is she working outside the h…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 07:13 PM
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A lot of guys here including me have been where you are currently. Hindsight being 20/20 if I were back in that situation with NO KIDS I would make sure birth control was in check and get this RP stuff sorted out quick - because if sex is a drip now then just add kids and see what happens. I would also become very active outside the home in some very exciting SOCIAL groups.....fun runs, sports, concerts, food/drink events, networking, etc. I would be getting plugged in and having fun with some o…
/r/askMRP06/12/16 06:02 PM
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The movie "The Family Man" with Nicholas Cage - sums it up. Guy starts off bachelor living the life, rich, lots of time on his hands, best things money can buy, hot chicks. Somehow over night wakes up in a family life (doesn't hurt that his wife is Tea Leoni) and sees that he would rather give up all the bachelor living to be the family man. not a bad family movie.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 12:31 AM
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Sounds like passive aggressive shit my 8 year old daughter pulls. Your wife isn't using tinder as a threat....you are acting like a woman and so she is looking for a man to branch swing to. Sounds like she won't have a problem doing that. I guess you are taking a gamble in this situation if you think you are so hawt or high smv. My suggestion would be to break the ice in a funny way "hey hon, I don't know what's come over us but whatever this thing we have going is weird - why don't we go do xyz…
/r/askMRP05/12/16 05:23 PM
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Do you understand exactly WHY she felt compelled to pack her shit? I would want to be clear on that. I haven't come across one instance of a married woman packing her shit to leave unless she had another man she was already interested in or it was an abusive relationship. Nevertheless: Drama followed by you getting sucked in and losing frame = deadbedroom/divorce. Drama followed by you holding frame and passing comfort test = tingles generator. Good job holding frame and passing the comfort test…
/r/askMRP05/12/16 05:16 PM
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bro - I know it is easy to get defensive on this sub, first thing the guys do is jump on the weak-sauce guy who opened himself up and posted all his problems....they call you faggot and that you are shit. Well, the thing is - look at you, they are right currently....but don't get defensive and argue or fight back with them yet. Just sift through the name calling and put-downs and see the value they bring. You bring nothing currently. You've done some amazingly wrong things - lets get to work to …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 05:45 PM
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In other words - it produces tingles for them.
/r/askMRP07/11/16 07:27 AM
1

NAWALT (not all wingmen are like that) haha. Hey Daniel Craig never had a problem going alone...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 07:15 AM
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Maybe you haven't read the 12 step plan of dread, but if he is talking about level 7, then she isn't fucking him like he would like....and since you are a woman you won't consciously know that it doesn't just work the way you described.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 07:08 AM
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not a judgement - observation. relevant only if he thinks so, disposable if not. I agree with you about level 6-7 practicing gaming solo, gives a boost of confidence and prevents rationalizing failure. I just think he might have missed developing his social network in levels 1-5.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 03:38 AM
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No, I'm meaning do you a decent sized social network that you get out with and do things? A guy with a high-value is usually surrounded by men who desire to be part of his inner circle. He gets invited to things often and is busy being social. It might not be explicitly written in the 12 step plan of dread, but during level 1-5 you are building your SMV, building your social circle and getting out more is part of that. I'm not saying this all to pick something with you - just suggesting that wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 03:16 AM
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why do you not have a wingman? better yet a crew? Do you have social proof of your SMV? I don't frequent clubs, but if we ever went as a group I always thought it a bit creepy the solo guy looking for tail.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/16 04:14 PM
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good point.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/16 04:08 PM
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From what I've read and seen in real life - a woman will act panicky or tell you she feels pressure if she knows you expect sex from her when she isn't "feeling" it (i.e. - not attracted, not feeling the tingles, maybe your not acting manly and triggering her female response, maybe you're failing shit-tests terribly, etc). It is clear you haven't internalized the reading - or you would know that the talking about it with her after the post was not the right approach....yes you did get some negot…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 04:51 PM
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thats what I was wondering. I don't remember an MRP technique named "talk talk talk".
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 04:30 PM
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there's too many pens on that desk on the right.....and they aren't labeled.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 04:23 PM
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Yeah - I think I said it was due to me asking her to do a job and then not trusting her to do it, then acting frustrated about it, and combined with the kid screaming and kicking, in the middle of the night, and the fear of the other kids waking and then ultimately her fear is she won't get sleep which is hugely important to her.... so I think the fear and frustration welled up inside her..... she probably felt I didn't have her back on top of that. Let me know if I missed something....throw me …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 04:02 PM
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Yeah - I get all of that. But I think it is more beneficial for a faggot bitch when he comes in for advice to hear "stop being a faggot bitch, here are a few ideas that come to mind for your scenario, here are a few good links, here are some suggestions, here is some direction" Just saying "don't be a faggot bitch" means NOTHING and adds ZERO value.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 03:52 PM
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I personally couldn't tolerate an affair....but I know men who have. I think these sorts of personal boundaries are custom. for example, if my wife came home from a girls trip and said she got drunk and started dancing with a guy, I'd probably equate that to the hitting...I'd be serious, tell her it will never happen again, then forgive and move forward... But if she said she kissed him I'd drop her. I have a zero toleration for that sort of stuff.....but some people might have a zero toleration…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 06:58 PM
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I see what you're saying... for me - I have a healthy level of confidence that things would turn out fine for me in either situation.... and also a good amount of Outcome Independence. I do have a faith in Christ that my blessings are not only here on earth as well....that puts things in perspective for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 06:51 PM
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It only bothers me as it relates to the forum and its decorum. I can understand that a drill instructor would use that with recruits during PT. But when an officer is giving a bad sit rep and asking about a situation he hasn't dealt with before - well then that sort of talk is just immature. Now - people here might not think of me or respect me as an officer vs recruit in this analogy (and how would they if I am not well known here) .... so theres that.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 06:45 PM
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Yeah. I never ever thought a woman would hit me for any reason....guess I just never planned for that....and you don't start your marriage vows with details like "and you wife will not hit your husband or it is grounds for divorce" so it isn't on your mind. Up until today there was only one reason I would leave my wife - if she cheated on me there wouldn't be a seconds wait before I am out of the house and filing. But now I can add hitting to that list.....and she knows those are my boundaries f…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 01:29 PM
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yeah. and who knows maybe i deserved it.... moving right along, nothing to see here folks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 01:12 PM
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I get how you feel and I thought that....but the thing is I've done things in our relationship that I wasn't proud of, I'm glad she didn't use a recorder and get a deposition then. But if there should be a next time, I won't need documentation....I'll just leave her....and considering how high-quality a man I actually am - I won't have a problem in that situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 01:10 PM
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actually spexer - I did follow your advice (sorry for some reason I didn't include that). On the day that I was cold-shoulder and told her I had much to think about, she texted me that we should talk and I told her I wanted to process things so I needed her to put her thoughts in writing. She didn't literally say she hit me, but in my email I used the phrase punch in the face and she replied with how sorry she was and doesn't realize what came over her and things got out of control very quickly …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 01:04 PM
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thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 12:35 AM
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I'll look at every interaction here as an opportunity to lean, grow, improve. thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 12:34 AM
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OK.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 12:33 AM
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I think your just jealous because people really do want to see how I fared from my last thread.....
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 12:33 AM
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I've been sparring with a Tasmanian devil of a 2 year old multiple times a day....I'm getting pretty quick....its the double fist o furry to the nuts that I'm still struggling with (his striking level right now).
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 12:30 AM
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"I'm not going to punch you." ha. you never know - that might be good for your heath more than mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 12:28 AM
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thank you for putting some time into posting first of all. I guess I am just miscommunicating. The only reason I mentioned we are well rounded good people - and that we have 4 other kids that are doing great - is to make a point that just because I have a crazy toddler who seems to be on a path to prison some day, isn't 100% reflection on us. Now - it is a phase he is going through I am sure...but we will do our best with him just as we did with our other kids and then send him off into the worl…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 05:35 PM
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wow - that's encouraging. guess theres no point in going on with life...shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 05:20 PM
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I'll be the first to admit that I broke frame - I thought that I said so in the first post of the thread. read it again bro. Announcing that I have read the sidebar and that I lift is only to provide the necessary detail of my backstory so as to not waste peoples time firing off low-value comments......I guess that backfired.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 05:19 PM
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"I'm pretty sure OP posted to the wrong sub. That post is crazy. A 2yo "bottle fed baby" that is running OPs house, lol." i missed any "advice" in your post.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 04:55 PM
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synthetic ingredients aren't good for your body. watching a movie until midnight (not 2am) or working out or surfing if it is during the day, takes my mind off of some of the stress at work.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 04:53 PM
2

Ok - after a LOT of reflection....and reading his posts like a 100 times.... I'm still not seeing the value that you think I should see. 1) I already lift, I already have been around the RP block and read the entire sidebar of TRP and MRP and been involved in forums and private coaching back in my bluepill days, and that has been about 6 years. My marriage is 10 times better than it was, perfect? no but much better. 2) I’m not expecting others to solve this for me. I am seeking advice related to…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 02:59 AM
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the point I was trying to make is - even people who generally have their shit together can go freakin nuts and loose frame when they have a toddler that is out of control....no excuse but it happens....nobody is perfect. is that it? otherwise I don't see a covert contract in my post - point it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 01:50 AM
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i think I do. there is little respect from her. I make it look easy though so maybe she doesn't realize....but for the last 6 years since being introduced to RP concepts I have kept my work to myself and I don't ever share my stress with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 01:04 AM
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I'll take a look. I definitely considered that with her. I was woken by my 8 year old one night and I was in the middle of some dream and I nearly pushed her.....I can see my wife waking up in the middle of some REM cycle and coming in to me holding a screaming child and thinking I am a burglar.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 01:03 AM
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first 4 kids...this one is 5. no, we are actually very involved parents and by observation he is just at an extreme. Wife and I are both in agreement that he is difficult on the family right now....of course we are hoping it is a phase that he will grow through by a combination of learning how to talk, learning better manners and establishing self-control....but for heavens sake he is still in diapers. If things go much longer then we might have some testing done.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 01:01 AM
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Not sure how you got any of that from my post.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 12:57 AM
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I thought I did comment on UEMmcgill's post. It was insightful...and many of these posts are... I am taking it all in and you can bet I will be providing feedback on what I did and how and what the result is. BUT - I do lift, I have read the sidebar (AND MORE and OFTEN), and I am not playing a victim or looking for sympathy. I'm taking responsibility for my actions and putting the work in. I won't be deleting. I came her to be open, vulnerable, and learn....might not agree with everyone but heck…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 09:23 PM
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NO - NO - and NO. I did NOT come in here for validation. I did not want anyone to call my wife a cunt. I actually like my wife and I have put in work - this is why I posted at the end of my thread - I lift, and I've read sidebar. I've actually been reading this stuff every day for about 6 years now....and I have done the fucking work and I have turned my marriage around quite a bit.... Is my marriage completely perfect and turned around to where I want it to be? no - obvious from the fact that I…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:57 PM
1

it actually was a sip cup - i just used the word bottle...not a big part of the story here.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:34 PM
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everyone was asleep after I had put them all to bed...I was never shaking responsibility...I kissed my wife goodnight after everyone was already asleep to go have some alone time - it was after I came to bed that the child woke.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:33 PM
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since he is barely 2, he doesn't communicate well yet, so I thought I would pull out anything and everything to sooth...who knows what was wrong? nightmare? sick? teething? If he could just fucking talk it would be another ballgame, but it was a just plain shitty night.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:25 PM
1

I have, and I think if it weren't 3am with a screaming toddler (not sexy at all) I would have like to take it there.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:24 PM
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I didn't come here for parenting advice... I know that this child is out of control and we need to re-evaluate - but I would assume that I have more 2yo parenting experience than most of the guys on her having this being the 5th one and the other 4 are all doing well. I came for advice on the wife hitting me - this is something I have never dealt with.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:22 PM
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why don't you shed some light on why you don't think his post was reasonable so I can have some discernment and opposing thought?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:07 PM
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i never edited my post - what are you talking about?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:05 PM
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good point.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:04 PM
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because low-quality posters typically just reply with "do you lift bro?" or "do you read sidebar bro?" so I thought I would get that out of the way. That and I think the insults in this community get to be a little distracting...I've been here long enough to have read the insults and instructions to lift and read side bar....what I need now is some real advice. give thoughtful real advice or gtfo.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 07:59 PM
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I don't know where you get that I won't take responsibility, or playing a victim whatsoever.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 07:55 PM
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i know this....anything else you want to contribute?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 07:52 PM
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not advice I would agree with. You can't take that kind of comment back and she will feel insecure when around those friends for the rest of her life. either I will take her back with a remorseful apology and a plan to move forward or I won't....but either way I will not tear her down in public....only if i am deposed, otherwise I'll take the high road.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 07:52 PM
1

this worked we'll with our first 4 children. yes this is number 5.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 07:47 PM
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I'm giving that some thought.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 07:47 PM
1

Thank you for your post. I agree. now - would you mind clarifying the withdrawing. I definitely do not want to make it look like I am punishing her, but I am for sure busy at work. I can stay at work longer tonight, but we usually communicate about taking kids to practice and she would probably view that as punishing....any other suggestions?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 07:38 PM
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I think you are right with this post. btw my reaction was that I said "you hit me?" and then walked down and made my thread on this sub. I haven't talked to her or looked at her since, and I am waiting for things to calm down and sifting through the good advice here (and ignoring the bad advice from low-quality posters). She has already apologized verbally and with a text.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 07:35 PM
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Thank you - good advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:53 PM
1

Thanks - good advice. although sometimes it is good for a husband and wife to have a common enemy so they aren't enemies to each other....maybe making my son's behavior the enemy rather than making him the enemy would have been better. but honestly anyone who wakes me up in the middle of the night and acts the way he did - I call asshole. maybe I use the term too loosely.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:52 PM
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I feel our relationship is pretty good, but you never know right? women are crazy. I will think about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:49 PM
1

definitely something for me to think about. Thanks for bringing it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:48 PM
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again, another shit post. just take whatever someone says about their real-world situation, then don't give them anything constructive to do about it...just tell them they are a dumbass and they deserve it. well done bro....well done. you get an A.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:46 PM
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he is kid number 5. check my other responses. shit is real....and we have to rewire our thinking and way of life to hunker down and deal with it because it is so difficult with him right now. and I can say this because I have already had FOUR, which is probably more than you've had....and then add one. Now are you going to spend your time deciding whether a post is a troll or are you going to spend your time creating quality responses and helping people?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:45 PM
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Your response seems to be the most valuable and thoughtful to my situation....thank you. I am thinking of also adding that we are on the same team and neither of us wants to go through a night like that again so we need a better game plan and here is what I propose (xyz) and then let her respond with her thoughts. for now though I am letting things settle and I have no contact with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:39 PM
0

this isn't the first time I've seen kek in this forum - I had to look it up... unless I found the wrong answer it is like LOL for world of war crafters....but I thought video games were blue-pill? Are you going to share some wisdom here or just laugh at my situation?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:37 PM
1

actually I meant to post to askmrp, but it was 3am. I wouldn't say that the 2yo is running our house....more like he's too young for me to put in handcuffs. how many kids you have?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:35 PM
1

are you taking bets?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:32 PM
1

Thank you. I think your words have wisdom behind them and I appreciate that. I have been reflecting and I do thing that my stress at work, combined with baby in the middle of the night, and my wife not taking care of it (as a SAHM should), did create an element of frustration in the air....it could have come off to her much stronger than I thought It was (sometimes your inside voice doesn't stay inside voice and you don't realize it). After I made my post I went up and my baby was still crying, …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:31 PM
1

I can agree with you that if my REAL opinion was the he is only an asshole then you'd be correct....however, he is my son and my wife knows I care very deeply for him....but at 2-4am pulling the shit that he was pulling last night? He was an asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:25 PM
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that response is just idiotic....and misspelled.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:23 PM
1

I'm not a man-child, so it isn't that. mama grizzly mode maybe. we are both at our wits-end about this child affecting our lives negatively so bad compared to our other 4 that we are just exhausted. She and I both know we need extra patience and energy to deal with him and I already know that I need to sit down with her and re-group on how we can more effectively manage this child. But Now that she got physical - what to do with the her? It isn't acceptable....but what are some good options on h…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:23 PM
1

Thanks for your reply. Can you expand more on your thoughts about the conversation and reaction to the wife? I'm trying to let things simmer down and have some alone time before I sit down with her and give her a well thought out reply.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:16 PM
2

I hope you stick around. I'd like this sub to be quality and useful. Building better men and having real thoughtful answers to sincere questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:13 PM
1

that must have sucked. any situation can be viewed more positively when you look at someone else's situation.....thanks for putting mine in perspective
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:12 PM
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damn straight. I've said before "I love my kids and I'll do anything for them within reason and if it is good and right - but that won't stop them from making their own mistakes - even ones that could land them in prison"
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:09 PM
2

not crying, just calling it what it is. suck it up and do something about it right? asshole is waking me up and then playing tantrum games with me in the middle of the night - ugh, lets hold him and work through the issues.....for hours. it is what it is. But what I really came her for was advice on how to deal with the wife getting out of control from all of the events of the evening. It is not acceptable.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:07 PM
1

you missed it big time - I didn't foist the kid off on the wife and go watch a movie....I put ALL the kids to bed, then went to my wife (who was in bed reading) gave her a kiss and told her I was stressed about work and I wanted to run downstairs and watch a movie to distract. Then about 2 hours later after my movie was over and I had just fallen asleep....terrorist woke. She is a SAHM, I had communicated I had a stressful day ahead of me, she needed to get up with the screaming child.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:04 PM
1

yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:02 PM
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Of course I'm compelled to help him....but my wife is a SAHM and it is her job.... mine is to get some rest and slay some fucking dragons the next day so the family can eat and have a roof over their head. Notice how my wife said no (total insubordination) and so I got up and took care of him myself. I didn't call her back in, she came in, and I told her to leave the room or take him. This isn't my first rodeo.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:01 PM
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not following you.....can you clarify?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 05:56 PM
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Thank you for this....I am hoping that people will step up in MRP to make this a more quality forum with REAL suggestions and help. I had to re-read that u/saint_chalet actually agreed that my wife should have punched me.....and that he wants to punch me. bro doesn't even know me....and what does that say to other people that might want to post when they have a problem?? It was 3am when I wrote my post after my wife punched me in the head which was the result of a build up of frustrations from t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 05:55 PM
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I appreciate your response, sounds like you can empathize with the crappy evening, I agree that she is stressed about her SAHM job with this little asshole. He needs a lot of parenting and we give it to him, you'll see from one of my other posts that we have 5 kids and all are very well rounded and this one is a work in progress....but I think that experience of 4 well rounded kids, a pretty good marriage for 20 years, and one work-in-progress child that I am extremely well qualified to identify…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 05:50 PM
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Actually I came here looking for advice on the wife hitting, and how I should deal with that. I appreciate your feedback and you are correct in how to deal with children as you've posted, I won't argue that, it is the norm around my house, but sometimes you can't let a 2yo scream for an hour straight and wake the rest of the family up. Older kids can use words....the younger ones require a little trial and error to find out what they need to get back to a state that they can reasonably fall asle…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 05:35 PM
1

not f-ing with you....look up virgo woman and sex. AVALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 01:23 AM
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I personally don't think the thread should be pulled, but the thought of "what is this forum about after all?" came to my mind. TRP is clearly for amoral sexual strategy for men, MRP is a married forum applying RP to improve or destroy the marriage.....maybe there is a version of WITH or WITHOUT monogamy that is acceptable in the forum... in the hypothetical you present...I think a lot of guys if they were on the short end of that stick would want to blow up your marriage in the off-chance that …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 01:10 AM
1

I think this is why I am not worried about my woman running off to a conference by herself....the thought of strange dick not only doesn't give her tingles, but is actually vulgar to her - BECAUSE she has a high value guy. That and because she is a virgo.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 05:06 PM
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A few things hit me with your post. 1) This is one of the reasons I posted my question at r/askmrp - about joining my wife at a conference. It isn't because I think my wife is not a good wife, and I don't know I am the prize and she would be really really stupid to blow our shit up, but it is because of the likes of your statement backing up your FR "on the right day of the month a guy with a guy running the right game....awalt". 2) I like this site for the fact that it is the MARRIED version of…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 02:35 PM
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Something about this response strikes me in a weird way....maybe I'm wrong. A woman chimes in with her legitimate feedback, you respond, she agrees and shows some vulnerability, then you immediately make a comment (gaming her or flirting with her - I don't know, maybe you know her already so that could be a factor) and it just seems like you can't turn off the flirt to be serious. I guess that could get you into trouble if you allow it to.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 02:10 PM
1

haha. Ok I won't. Never been that guy before, not going to start now after reading RP.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 04:47 PM
1

k thanks.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 04:46 PM
1

definitely my first thought when she mentioned it.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 04:46 PM
1

yeah, this is what I was looking for. I would normally not second guess and she would be on her way and I wouldn't even worry about it, but I've read some crazy shit on this site....just wanted to make sure I wasn't missing something. I'm not jealous or insecure about it.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 04:46 PM
1

that sounds very similar to how it goes around here. thx for the feedback.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 04:31 PM
1

this is usually what happens. I am not the clingy one, she will be calling me like crazy or texting pictures of what she is doing - seeking my approval. I'll most likely be at multiple social engagements with all of the kids having a good time. Sounds good.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 04:29 PM
1

ok thanks. thats my plan.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 04:27 PM
2

that sounds stalker-creepy man. I definitely won't be doing that.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 04:26 PM
1

Are you cool with her playing tennis with another dude one on one?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/16 05:11 PM
0

If she doesn't take your plate, there is absolutely ZERO chance she is going to be up for a "you can't say no day". compliance test like "hey honey, take my plate to the kitchen for me" results in success = reward with more of your time, compliments, blessings, positive reward, etc.... and if it results in a "fuck you take your own damn plate" then a removal of those positive rewards going straight to the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/16 03:42 PM
5

Thank you for writing this. Early in my RP Process I was told to start with some small compliance testing and those actions were some of the best recommendations...and I saw huge gains in rebuilding trust and leadership. So for some of the guys working up to the medium level stuff that is in this post - you can try these noob/amature moves to start with and ramp up to the "you can't say no day" because face it, she will probably say no if you are early on. -Tell her to get you a drink -Tell her …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/16 07:34 PM
1

Man that was some bad cucking....but I've heard worse. The moment you tell yourself that you are at fault for what happened, and that you let it happen, that is when you can really start working on fixing the problem....you. I was there a few years ago, nearly 20 years married, low attraction, trickle sex, me not having my shit together and being a whiner....but we had several young kids and she wasn't having an EA or PA (yours really was PA man, you know this deep down). So for me the decision …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/16 05:11 PM
-1

financial stability? why is she your sugar mama? You can't create financial stability on your own? Seems to me that marriage just brings a greater risk of divorce rape if she decides she wants to go 100% lez. and what exactly does "emotional stability that a marriage provides" mean? You provide. Marriage is just a piece of paper. Are you planning on having kids with this woman?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/16 05:47 PM
2

why did you even get married if you desire threesomes?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/16 04:28 PM
4

I am hearing a lot of "I don't ask permission, I just do whatever I want and that's that" in this thread...... now, I also cringe when I hear about guys letting their wives own their balls like that...but there is an element of consideration and appropriateness that can be applied here without being too soft or too asshole and not asking permission but CO-ORDINATING. If you were to think of the captain / first officer scenario - the captain would never just run off and go drinking without "check…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 04:59 PM
1

Maybe I wasn't clear - I know this already....it's pretty obvious and that is why I said no I won't tell you I love you right to her face. Just wondering what other actions men have taken when that happens so I have some fresh ideas.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 03:04 PM
1

BJs aren't part of our vocabulary right now, and she knows...that I KNOW they should be (working things in slowly, but I've read SGM). I think if I were to say BJs give me tingles in response to her saying "I love you's give me tingles" then it would make a direct overt confrontation with her hamster. Even though I am IDGAF, would that be advisable? Regarding your question - I know she is trying to get me to say it as a comfort test and a test of her control over me. I have read Rollo and I do t…
/r/askMRP24/08/16 08:18 PM
1

yes, deflect and fog, Agree and Amplify type. I'll work on that.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 08:02 PM
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Personally, I would rather she leave if she thinks she can do better, than stick around while thinking she could do better! So I guess I would thank her for packing her bags.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 04:57 AM
1

I get friends and family to babysit all day long....all night even. So I guess she showed you huh? What SHOULD you tell her about your thoughts on baby sitting and boundaries?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/16 04:51 PM
1

If you read the sidebar, and browse this sub enough you'll see a lot of the same responses. Many of them are here replying to your post. So, if Wife is LMR (Last Minute Resisting) then turn on the sexiness and charm and attractiveness and get through that LMR! But if the Wife at anytime goes "hard-no" to sex the key is to not be butt-hurt, and to practice GOOD OI (Outcome Independence)...meaning you wanted Chinese take out, but you aren't going to act like a whiney 3 year old if you didn't get s…
/r/askMRP01/08/16 04:46 PM
1

but there's no reason to moderate some tongue-n-cheek. I've been looking for somewhere to sprinkle the action verb "corpse" into one of my posts.
/r/askMRP31/07/16 11:14 PM
1

you could use a little sarcasm in your life - laugh much?
/r/askMRP31/07/16 02:00 PM
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sarcasm alert - wait until she's asleep and corpse her. She'll never know what happened but she'll wonder why her ovaries hurt in the morning.
/r/askMRP30/07/16 04:30 PM
3

What exactly have you TOLD her about your thoughts on her baby sitting? What BOUNDARIES have actually been set?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/16 09:16 PM
1

yes but I wasn't. You bring up a good point and that article you linked is a good one I have read before. I think any guy new to TRP/MRP or in the middle of "MAPPING" can see their wife is saving the best....either for their current husband as he becomes more attractive and follows the tenants of TRP/MRP or a new guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 01:17 PM
1

Even better than that - I said nothing and went about my awesome day like it didn't even happen....women's feelings change up and down as quickly as the wind shifts...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 04:12 PM
1

hindsight is 20/20, I just wanted to see what was so funny.....but I digress, I deserve the punishment.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/16 08:44 PM
2

Yes - This over and over! What I think separates me from a lot of guys who are new to this is that I actually LIKE my wife. Not oneitis, no pedestal, I just like hanging out with her and I enjoy my life. There is no shortage of fun and funny and teasing in our lives. I'm definitely the fun-loving guy who brings her along for the ride. This once incident was just a glitch in the matrix.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/16 08:42 PM
2

Thanks - I plan on it. Also - I plan on laughing while on my phone (guaranteed to get her to come over and see what is going on) and show her a kitten video - when she punches my arm I'll say "what? I like pussy"
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/16 05:12 PM
2

I like her playing the pure card - just like you wish your woman was low N-count....mine is 1. This boy has been married 19 years and is getting as much sex as he wants, that takes a lot more than STFU, Lift, and Read....check yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/16 05:10 PM
1

I think you're the most right here - Normally I am too caught up in my own shit that I don't care what she is up to......so the mere fact that I cared what she was laughing at gave her an invitation to read into it.....even if I wasn't insecure, it may have come across that way to her hamster brain.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/16 05:05 PM
1

I only mentioned insecurity and jealousy to provide more detail for the thread. I'm neither. Honestly just thought she saw something funny and I wanted to see it. I normally don't analyze my actions/reactions but there was a glitch in the matrix when she didn't automatically show me. I do what I want in my house, including grab my wife and do what I want with her or her phone.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/16 05:00 PM
1

Yeah I agree about not bringing it up again - moving along. I'm not worried.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/16 04:57 PM
3

You've officially over-reacted to my over-reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/16 04:40 PM
1

I agree. Right now I'm looking at how I communicate that without looking DLV. She "shy's away" from explicit things - doesn't even like to be naked in front of me unless it is within certain constraints. She gets awkward when there is a sex scene on TV or in Movies. I guess I am at a loss right now for how to broach the subject without it coming across as needy/insecure....which I am not but she could hamster it that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/16 07:21 PM
3

on reflection - the order was that 1) she pulled away, 2)I said "I want to see", 3) she said "I don't want you to see", and then 4) I just grabbed the phone. It was somewhat playful, but I think the reason I wrote this thread was exactly what you exposed - I wasn't acting like an adult by grabbing, but I felt that if I asked her why she didn't want me to see it would be showing insecurity and jealousy - DLV. You're right I should have asked her why but then teased her.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/16 07:16 PM
1

You describe a bottomless pit feeling of being unloved, some describe filling that void with a love they feel from God, thoughts on this topic are full spectrum, so your post piqued my curiosity. I'd appreciate to hear your answer if you were to oblige.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/16 06:23 PM
1

Good post. I'm curious - what if any "religious" experience did you have growing up? What is your impression of what God is?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/16 04:22 PM
3

You threw a plate at her? Sounds like first step is to fix your crazy side. Is this the first time you flew off the handle "snapped" because you couldn't handle having a woman yell at you? Have you hit her or threw things at her before? Learn how to maintain frame and be a man. A man doesn't "snap" when a woman has a fit.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 03:48 PM
2

It's not about me. If you don't think the point of this would hold it's own then fine keep it deleted. I'm married to the same woman for 20 years with 5 kids and I turned a DB into a solid sex life after 4 years of hard work....reading lots of posts.....LOTS of content. My opinion is that BP married guys actually struggle with the thought that their wife won't get them a gift and this post would give them something to think about all weekend - whether it looks like an essay or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 02:35 PM
1

That's what I'm talking about. Do something awesome just you and the bros - no wife and kids for at least a day.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 02:24 PM
1

Ha. The real value is in the thought process. My wife is super busy this week and I thought for a moment "I doubt she is going to get something for me this sunday". Then I punched myself in the face and posted.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 02:14 PM
1

Is there not a Redpill forum that is between TRP and MRP? I tried to search for "Ex-LTR and I both have kids and maybe getting back together but definitely shacking up Redpill" and it didn't come up with anything but Jerry Springer.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 09:39 PM
5

Sounds like your pastor suffers from low PMV (pastoral marketplace value), and you are about to cheat on him. My pastor wouldn't spout blue-pill shit like that and so I attend his services weekly.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/16 09:18 PM
1

I read a number of books about climbing everest - zero from a person who didn't do it themselves before writing the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 10:13 PM
0

This being the more appropriate response...possibly with a "yes sir" to boot. Would have resulted in 90% less back and forth on this thread if it was the first response.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/16 05:35 PM
1

Yes. on an LHA
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 10:16 PM
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1) baby-gates. clear room of FOD (foreign object debris), open a bag of duplo legos, go do what the f you want. 2) baby sitter on call for $12/hr This coming from a man with 5 kids. You can still be a good dad and not spend every waking minute holding them.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 05:16 PM
1

"She better back off or I'm going to kick her in the lady-balls."
/r/TheRedPill25/01/16 02:32 PM
1

How do you know the up or down votes are from users of this forum, is there a way to see who did the vote?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 05:24 PM
2

Your making a quiet call for people to tell you "you're doing it wrong and here is what you need to do" Honestly if you are being an "asswhole" (your typo), it is either in a good way (i.e. stirring her to want you more) or a bad way (i.e. stirring her to actually hate you and want to leave your ass!). If you are doing it wrong then you are causing her to hate you and I can see why you would want to do something different. So why not stick around and figure out the RIGHT way to do it. I have 5 y…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 05:20 PM
1

dude - I was being sarcastic.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 06:20 PM
3

I give her too much non-sexual touch
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 09:15 AM
4

shoot - that is a great idea, i really never though of that
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 08:53 AM
3

Fancy nights out are going to happen. That is because I enjoy going out with the other couples. Guys nights out happen as well. I'm not going to change my going out to nice places and fun activities because my wife isn't having sex with me. (and I am not going to be inviting anyone else in her place).
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 05:57 AM
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like? I don't feel I was acting butt-hurt. I hit the pillow hard with no tossing and turning or long conversations about not getting what I wanted..... Then I woke up and went to work, slow to reply to texts, not very available. I thought the consequence is that she doesn't get access to me as easily and freely. But also - this is a NATURAL consequence. I was not feeling very amorous toward her after her hard-no.....I felt better about dealing with work and completing tasks than giving her atten…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 05:50 AM
1

Done nursing. I don't want to give myself away with the ages, but they are all under 11 and two of them are in diapers. You know me Dan, check your email - haha.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 05:38 AM
1

Thanks, read your submission and I think we are on the same page. I have been on this roller coaster enough now that I am good at it and I really don't GAF. She can say that my pulling back is passive aggressive all she wants....but honestly it is me becoming disgusted with her that she would think I am ok with her turning me down sexually. I'll let others hyper analyze what I just said....but I agree with your characterization of the scenario: 1)Things going good, I don't say no to her desires …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 05:35 AM
2

I think you are right. My SMV is improving so she is taking her testing up a level. The force is strong in this one. I missed genuine opportunities to Agree/Amplify or Amused Mastery. I think that because I have been pushing through LMR, and using the tools and putting the work in, I got a little jaded and felt like she should give it up a little easier for me by now. I'll quit feeling sorry for myself, I realize I don't "deserve" sex just for being her husband.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 05:15 AM
1

Massaging a woman when your Perceived SMV is higher than hers is going to cause those feelings, but if your perceived SMV is lower then massaging her feet is just creepy. fine line between sexy and creepy.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 05:11 AM
1

exactly. Thing is, I am Chad T to some chicks but my wife doesn't see me as Chad, and maybe she never will.... AWALT but they still have preferences. Some chicks like Black Chads and Some chicks like White Chads (as a stupid example). So maybe her preferences changed over our marriage? Maybe I did something that permanently decreased my perceived SMV with her? I don't know....but I don't feel like waiting around for a decent sex life from her.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 05:08 AM
0

With our kid situation we rarely get out and have a good time because of baby sitter constraints....so when we do it is a big deal. Dressed nice, nice restaurant, going and doing something fun with friends, laughing, connecting, etc. The climax for me on those kind of nights of connecting is having sex afterward. Otherwise our schedule is work/kids, then getting them to bed on time, then unwinding, then go upstairs and having vanilla sex without much connecting time before hand.....just the real…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 05:03 AM
1

I like what you wrote, and I am definitely going to employ the FEELZ response. I agree that my statement before hitting the pillow opened it up as sex/negotiating and I definitely don't want that. I think I might be having my fuck me or fuck you moment, and it came out a little. I feel slightly different about OI. I don't really think you can be fully OI unless you have abundance mentality first...I think of it as more of a "sure I have other things to do, I wanted to have sex but you don't so I…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 04:58 AM
1

I'm not sure exactly what you mean by this....can you explain?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 04:50 AM
0

I disagree slightly with you here....all that matters is not whether I give her tingles, it is whether I am awesome and always improving. I'm good with where my SMV is at and I am always improving....but I'm not going to wait around until my SMV is Brad Pitt level before I have a decent sex life. I have plenty of chicks hitting on me now and she sees it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 04:49 AM
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I don't disagree with anything you wrote here, good stuff. Covert contract? Yeah maybe - let's say a guy likes BJs and every time he goes for one she says no, even though his SMV is raised, he's improved his game, he feels he is firing on all cylinders, eventually he needs to move on right? next level in the dread steps? Flirting - I used humor with the reply to her comment, something to the effect of what you listed...I've done this before. LMR - possibly, I've been in a lot of LMR situations w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/15 11:43 PM
2

Here's something for you to think about for this thread (and your book): Example is a Married Christian woman is unfaithful to her husband, not in a sexual way or outside of the marriage, but by ignoring him. She rejects his sexual advances most of the time, she doesn't put any effort into sex with him, her face is buried into Facebook and internet on her phone, she spends time pursuing hobbies/activities outside of the marriage to the detriment of the family. I spent a lot of time thinking abou…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/15 04:33 AM
1

that's a good analogy right there.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 07:41 AM
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"If there’s no god, everything is permitted. And we all know, that God is dead." Well, good luck with that. We don't all know that God is dead, I for one believe in God and I think there are a lot of RP principles in the bible. I'm not judging you - I'm just challenging your frame a little and hopefully causing you to revisit your value system so you aren't bouncing it off of us for validation. Maybe you should start thinking "what if there WERE a God? What does he want out of my life?" I went t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 07:30 AM
1

nah, real OI is not sulking. Real OI is going off to do something equally or more awesome. Some nights I want chinese food but the place is closed, so I have to run off to the mexican taco shop that stays open later...... I didn't cry about it and still enjoyed my dinner. OI.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 06:40 AM
2

Hey, not to distract from a very nice FR, (and it is very encouraging and I hope to hear more) but am I the only one who's curious as to which half was naked and what the other half had on?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 10:34 PM
2

Echo.....echo....down vote in 3....2.....1........
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 08:24 PM
1

Guys get over Buuurrnns, Women don't. Get over it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 12:25 AM
2

he must be using iPhone autocorrect.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 12:06 AM
-1

I love how humor is down voted.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 12:05 AM
-2

she obviously didn't initiate for your spelling skills ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 03:41 PM
2

So what's the verdict? Did things get worked out or are you still at it?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 08:54 AM
0

Just thought of something. I personally have never paid or will pay for a woman's illicit services, but I have been thinking about paying a woman to sit at a bar and play out an act while I am on a date with the wife. Like chatting me up at the bar while I'm getting drinks, bumping into me when I head to the restroom, trying to give me her number on the way out to be car, etc. I get quite a bit of normal IOI from women, and my wife has had to fight off two women and has told me she doesn't want …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 04:06 PM
0

Is the "plate" married also?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 03:50 PM
0

The hate is swelling in you now. Take your Jedi weapon. Give into your anger!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 01:37 PM
0

Yeah - week past period should be game on. You must have broken her some how - haha. My wife's spidey senses are pretty good, she knows when I'm only wanting to hang out with her if sex is on the table, and dials it back accordingly. Are you really acting OI or are you slightly punishing her....does you attempt to instill dread look more passive aggressive than real dread? I am kinda feeling it leans that way. This may be backfiring a bit. Since this is a game - maybe try another play...spontane…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 01:20 PM
0

1) where is she in her monthly hormonal cycle? 2) texting "are you up for sex" - basically what you sent her... is weaksauce - you know better 3) any chance she is cheating also?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 07:49 AM
1

Ok - I'm going to start from your first post and work from there, provide me answers as best and honest as you can, and email me anything that happens during the day that might be good to know about. "Eg last night my wife told me to go away when all i was doing was leaning on the door frame admiring my wife bend over as she plugged in a cord. She has said this a lot in the past uses words like you're weird or go away. So i set a clear boundary that she should not use that term when referring to…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/15 03:38 PM
1

also - when you say that you are all that (and a bag of chips), in shape, dress well, attractive, funny, etc, etc. I've been there also. I knew I was attractive, why was my wife not finding me attractive like the other chicks that I could just go pickup if I felt like it.....the problem was my wife wasn't attracted TO ME. There were things I did that caused a loss of attraction, but WOW when I found out what I was doing to cause a loss of attraction and how to turn it around - that was the turni…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/15 05:45 AM
1

not starting a fight here - please, Respectfully I don't think you are hearing ME. I was EXACTLY where you were. Let's not get hung up on symantics...if you want, drop the lingo of "dread" and "pick up artistry". I have ideas that you might find work for your situation and don't come across as douchey. I am here commenting with you because I feel exactly where you were and I want to help. I read your last post, and hooray for that...but I have also been there and you might find yourself in the s…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/15 05:39 AM
1

You can't negotiate desire....cannot. End of story. Go ahead, tell a woman who isn't sexually attracted to you that you'll divirce Her if she doesn't start fucking you - see how long it takes before she draws up papers herself.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/15 04:50 AM
0

Dude, you haven't had sex with your wife in over a year....she gets creeped out at you looking at her ass, and you want to shut someone up because they tell you to dress nicer, learn how to be sexy, read some books, and allow yourself to be flirted with by other women in front of your wife? Really read what I'm saying....I was exactly where you are 5 years ago and now I'm having good sex 3 times a week and my wife is a happy little minx instead of the cold harpy bitch she was turning into. Talk …
/r/ExRedPill23/10/15 04:47 AM
1

i can see how some would see it as a man vs woman shitfest - but I think that the rp theory has been hijacked a bit honestly and now there is a lot of young men with low value spewing thier anger at the feminization or emasculation of their world. Real maturity shows indifference and an understanding of the world we live in and how biology, psychology, and spirituality work together. The fact is - men love feminine women, and women love masculine men - the real trp shows men how to get that mutu…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/15 04:25 AM
1

Sounds like you weren't doing it right. There ARE a lot of douchbags in there, but they are probably in the anger phase of understanding that the way they were supposed to relate with women (that they wanted a sexual relationship with) was wrong. Anyway, doing it right would mean that you have a very well balanced relationship with a woman AND she is continually attracted and sexual with you. If you don't have that now then let me show you how to get it without being a douchbag. I've been marrie…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/15 04:13 AM
2

And many are neither sexist nor mysoginist....they are indifferent. Most of the TRP men I communicate with are married, love their wives, and just want the best sex they can have in their marriage with the least amount of drama and shit-testing.....this gets done by being a strong, dominant, successful, attractive, popular, sociable, exciting, man that doesn't take shit from his wife (which we have come to believe is a woman's biological design to test the strength of their man in order to be se…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/15 05:29 PM
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1) get YOUR shit together. You don't get control of a relationship, you earn it. A woman is designed to respond to a real man...she will naturally become submissive and fall in line when you have proven that you are that man. 2) Move back into YOUR house and stay there. If she needs to leave then fine. But as long as you are acting like you have your shit together and you aren't an asshole then chances are she will stick around (unless she already has someone on the side). 3) Continue improving,…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/15 03:22 PM
2

Ha! I read "you will still be fucking her butt, this time on your term."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/15 08:48 PM
1

Thanks for the responses. First off - I am one of the best "beta" caretaker/providers out there, that is how I got into this marital rut in the first place. However - I never concerned myself with covert contracts from the beginning - I've always been upfront about my sexuality and nearly "nexted" my wife in the past because she was turning me down. I have read NMMNG, MMSL, and other books as well as read the entire side bar and SGM and I've been a member of multiple forums related to Redpill. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/15 10:41 PM
1

Good summary.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/15 03:32 PM
1

How about this one: Woman cheats with Alpha while married to a Beta, then divorces Beta and marries the Alpha and tells her kids to call him "step-dad". What should that father's day card read like?
/r/TheRedPill22/06/15 03:36 PM
1

Sources for 289? Almost everyone I know that has children finds joy in having had their children, not only while they were young - but in their relationships with them as adults and having a family. Of course - they are a lot of work, but the reward outweighs the work in my mind and those I share with. Maybe you should ask your mom if she is happier that she had you vs not?
/r/TheRedPill06/06/15 04:51 PM
1

I don't know a good leader that didn't communicate with his troops what the game plan was ahead of time and give times. I put things in the calendar, I share it, I tell her hours in advance what is going to happen, even if that is "going to work late - you'll need to be on your own for dinner"
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/15 12:22 PM
1

"I'm the dude, PLAYIN the dude, DISGUISED as another dude!" (TROPIC THUNDER)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 01:31 PM
1

I disagree. Attractive men are flirted with, but the attractive man doesn't necessarily flirt back. He is selective...he knows he is the prize. When I am with my woman I am often flirted with, but I give it very little attention and I can tell my wife knows that I have the abundance mentality and I have options. She sees that I don't chase and that is highly attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 01:22 PM
2

Step one get his T levels checked.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 12:59 PM
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You gave the IOI too much attention, so it backfired. She doesn't want a man who is weak and can stray so easily (random chick gives IOI - you start giving it attention and start walking faster to catch up to her), she only wants to know that you HAVE options but that you are hard to catch. Next time play off the IOI as no big deal - don't react so excited about it.....SHE knows you got the IOI.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/15 04:39 PM
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I coordinate the kids making breakfast for her, then take them for the day so she can relax or do whatever the heck she wants to do without the responsibility of kids....after all, she is a stay at home mom and she doesn't get the luxury of not being responsible for the kids very often....I think that is something I take for granted that I can make my own work schedule and grab lunch wherever I want or go play golf in the afternoon etc....she has to make all those decisions with the kids in mind…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/15 09:20 PM
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link to the 12 steps of dread?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 03:05 PM
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Here's another thought: Have an attitude that you are never "stuck" in anything. You choose your path in life. You make a commitment (i.e. marriage), that is your choice. You want out of your commitment then you negotiate out just like any other commitment. Keeping in mind that you now have 2 daughters that you would preferably like to raise in a solid, stable family with a mother and a father who are committed to each other and place a high value on their children's needs. Boring? only if you m…
/r/TheRedPill22/02/15 12:58 PM
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fnordsnord - this is a good explanation. Guys on here need to determine for themselves "what they want in life". If the poster decides he wants a committed marriage - then look for a like minded woman, exchange sex for commitment. Minimize the amount of "notches" you have up til that point in life and MAXIMIZE the amount of sex you have with the woman you are committed to in marriage.
/r/askTRP22/02/15 02:06 AM
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so if a gal holds out sex for commitment - she is a commitment whore, but you aren't willing to give commitment without sex - would that make you a sex whore? How do you feel knowing that your future wife is getting porked right now by someone else? Ah - maybe a high quality woman holds out sex for commitment, just like a high quality man holds out commitment for sex (i.e. married woman who gives herself completely to her husband). What do you want when you grow up? slutting around for years and…
/r/TheRedPill22/02/15 01:58 AM
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but are you a man of value? neither one of those speaks value or solid moral direction to me.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/14 06:14 PM
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http://creation.com/monogamy-bible-one-man-woman Seems to answer your question... "The 10th Commandment “You shall not covet your neighbour’s wife [singular] … ” (Exodus 20:17) also presupposes the ideal that there is only one wife. Polygamy is expressly forbidden for church elders (1 Timothy 3:2). And this is not just for elders, because Paul also wrote: “each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband” (1 Corinthians 7:2). Paul goes on to explain marital responsibilities in t…
/r/TheRedPill08/12/14 06:13 PM
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Legally you are correct. It's too bad isn't it?
/r/TheRedPill08/12/14 06:02 PM
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I say two wrongs don't make right. She's going to fail you so you are going to go out and fail her? wrong. TRP is about living your values, being unshakable against all odds, and striving to being the best you can be. cheating and divorcing aren't good values....personally I don't think plate spinning is either....but this sub-reddit isn't a bible study so I digress. I personally add to that - that I live out God's standards and will for my life. He has set the bar. He is the Creator of perfect …
/r/TheRedPill08/12/14 04:56 PM
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I agree with you - but I need advice....not people that agree with me. Definitely "outcome independent" about whether she says no or not at the time. But the big problem is that she introduced this "invitation only" communication to me and is seeking me to AGREE with her. When she looks me in the eye and says "these are invitation only do you understand?" what should I do? I have been trying to duck and dodge - I don't want to actually agree with her. I have mentioned something like "your invita…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/14 03:08 PM
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btw - no we are not having sex right now - waiting for 6 weeks. It is not our first child - so in the past we have had sex right on the 6 week mark after she gets the ok from the doc. I am definitely not doing anything to harm her or cause her pain. She is giving me a line (truth or just hamster bs?) that she doesn't like the changes in her body and is not comfortable with her nursing breasts. Fine with me, she doesn't have to look at them or touch them. I would like to look at them and touch th…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/14 06:55 PM
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I don't consider "mate-guarding" as controlling your woman or policing her behavior - yes that would be controlling/needy. I consider "mate-guarding" as noticing a guy moving in on your woman and telling him: "hey, I see what you're doing here you sneaky bastard - now back off my woman or I'll punch you in the face".
/r/TheRedPill18/11/14 08:01 PM
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they need to add an "average wage" column to show women CHOOSE the lower paying easier jobs.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/14 04:17 PM
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