It seems my wife and I are in a deadlock at playing a game of chicken.

I won't initiate - actually, I won't regard her as anything but acquaintance, unless she fucking starts to wear sexy stuff for me and flirts with me.

She won't do that unless... Well I'm not sure what her conditions would be. If I'd ask her about it (I don't), she would reply with the usual crap how she wants me to be gentle and nice and other crap. I believe her only goal is to force me back into blue pill behavior, to worship her, do just about anything for her and beg her for crappy sex.

Well, guess what's not gonna happen. I honestly rather live in a sexless arrangement in which we raise our kids than ever submit to her and the blue pill again.

It seems she plays the same game. As an example: she won't even wear thongs, not to mention any kind of lingerie. A few days ago I was hinting what she should wear, I even replaced her really boring undies with thongs when she was taking a shower, but she ignored them and put on the passion killing undies. When I teased her about it she angrily said "thongs are uncomfortable and hurt". Guess who wear thongs a few weeks ago on a girls night out though?

Of course I don't argue, try to use logic or persuade her on anything. I might as well talk to the wind. In fact, a tactic which is keeping me sane when she does something really stupid is to think to myself "well, if a 'wind' (or any other natural force) would knock x out of y, you wouldn't argue with it, it's wind." So literally, to me she is like the wind.

There are many aspects of red pill I don't apply. I find the whole applying threats kinda weak and boring, and most of all, I'm just not all that outgoing. I do however flirt with the girls at a sport I do and I fucking like it. I don't kino her, because.. would I go out and kino a girl which shows no sexuality? Well fuck, no. You want me to kino you, show some effort, at least wear fucking thongs. I find no joy or motivation in kinoing a fucking log.

The weird part which is really puzzling me is that months ago we had time of our lives. She was really, really into me. She was hot, laughing, everything. It came out of nowhere and vanished within a month. Which is making me angry, because I know the potential is there.

And no, I won't do "next". There's more than my life at stake. Two kids do at least live with a father. That's a weak negotiating position, I know, probably she knows to. But it doesn't mean I can't have sex outside of that arrangement should I choose so.

TLDR: wife won't be sex for me, I won't approach her unless she is. How does one break this deadlock?