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Since I was summoned from the grave, I will chime in here. That post was a long time ago for me, 6 years to be exact. Fuck, thanks for luring me back here. Looking back on that post and honestly all of them from then, I was a spineless fuck through and through. My wife always knew I could get shit done, but the one thing I didnt realize that I do now is that I enabled her bullshit by getting shit done. I would get shit done to keep her in a good mood. Sure, it was all shit that needed to be done…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/25 06:43 PM
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You know you've arrived when you don't even need to respond to the shit tests. You just do the slow head turn and eyebrow raise and then she apologizes.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 07:03 PM
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I told my wife about a boundary I have and now she’s sad. What do I do?
/r/askMRP18/12/21 01:03 AM
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It's amazing freedom when you realize EVERYTHING is your fault. Including this dumpster fire.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 01:43 PM
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At the end of the day, women could give two fucks how much you can lift but, guys do. My take on powerlifting at the beginner level is this. Most guys getting into lifting go the "powerlifting" route simply because it still lets them shove the wrong food in their fat fucking gobs and soothes their ego into proclaiming that they are fueling up for that next PR.
/r/askMRP13/08/20 12:29 PM
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I suppose it's like anything in life that needs honing and refinement. First reason, sometimes you simply need a refresher and a reminder of things. Many aspects of RP are second nature now but there are some that are not and I still have tendencies. I think this is how a lot of men on here are who arent natural "alphas". This is a life long process and you have to reach a point where you are either comfortable with who you've become or you continue to improve. I find when I stay away I start to…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 07:03 PM
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So I haven't been on MRP since about a week into "quarantine". I was busy handling work, kids, their school etc. and the transition. I had always felt MRP became a routine for me on some level. Reading the forums, following the handbook, making progress, and enjoying life but it never quite felt like it was exactly my own path. So I decided to stop and figure out my path with the things I learned. Sure as shit, taking the lessons from here and making them mine and using them to truly forge my ow…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 01:06 PM
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tl:dr - I know I am fat, lazy and stupid. I know how to fix all three but am torn between the low hanging fruit of an equally fat, lazy and stupid wife or actually becoming a fucking man. By all means, continue to be who you are and this time maybe you will get a DV charge. Kudos.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 12:08 PM
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Great post. This is an area I tend to backslide on when I start to get comfortable. My personality and speech is drastically different from where I started but there are traits in here I can identify doing form time to time still.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 12:32 PM
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Something I never shared is I am intrigued by homesteading. That's the non-obsessive term for prepping. I have a beehive and chickens. Nothing crazy but enough for me and my family. I also currently have 100 bars of soap and shampoo bars curing in a rack that I made over the past three weeks out of tallow, olive oil and castor oil. I stocked the fridge up with meat and got the wife a month's worth of baking supplies. The entrepreneur in me couldn't resist making a couple bucks in all of this eit…
/r/askMRP13/03/20 08:12 PM
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Maybe throw her in the lion's cage at the zoo next time and she'll give you anal.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 01:17 PM
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More to the point, even if he could she’s at the point where she wishes he would to justify her getting railed by Chad.
/r/askMRP30/01/20 05:11 PM
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TL;DR - ILYBINILWYAM FYI, I have seen this a million times. Whenever a woman says I don't care if you fuck other chicks its because she's a chick fucking other dudes. Get your shit in order and get the fuck out.
/r/askMRP30/01/20 12:52 PM
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Slow Clap!! Spot on, you hit every nail on the head with this guy.
/r/askMRP27/01/20 04:56 PM
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Test injections aren't a magic bullet. You still have to do all the work. I can say for me the best thing has been the muscle gain and muscle retention while cutting. I do 48 hour fasts to cut and experience no muscle loss.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 05:13 PM
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Great book to read is “Never Split The Difference” by Chris Voss. Talks about pressure flipping but doesn’t call it that and asking questions to essentially guide people to your conclusion without them even realizing it.
/r/askMRP20/12/19 03:49 PM
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Most people in a conversation/argument don't actually listen, they just wait for their turn to talk. STFU and listen and then think about what was said. That doesn't mean you have to have a debate or "talk" but you can quickly diagnose through shutting the fuck up if the other person is trying to manipulate you into agreeing with them and change your mind or if they are open to dialog. This applies to your wife, kids, co-workers you name it. If it seems like manipulation to me I have gotten to t…
/r/askMRP20/12/19 02:11 PM
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Marriage today is a sham and completely unnecessary. There is no benefit in it for men at all. I will use myself and my friends as an example. My wife and I have 4 couples we have been friends with for over 20 years. I found out yesterday the final one who was still together out of all of us are getting a divorce. That is 4 couples in less than 3 years who got divorced. All of them were at or near the 10-year mark. My wife and I are the only ones still together and truthfully if it wasn't for RP…
/r/askMRP13/12/19 01:19 PM
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RP is about you, not anyone else. Sure there are guidelines but they are only that, guidelines to show you the road, the destination is up to you. Be the best version of yourself. As you lift and if you take it seriously you will figure out where you want to end up.
/r/askMRP06/12/19 06:59 PM
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My questions to you gentlemen are these. Do you think I took the correct route and stayed in a broken marriage to protect my son or should I set a good example by removing myself from this situation. In your opinion is it possible for a person to make up for infidelity and change their ways. Or os the old adage once a cheater always a cheater usually the case. Am I a selfish husband for being upset that my wife refuses to take personal responsibility for her health and in turn our future quality…
/r/askMRP03/12/19 06:29 PM
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Fuck, she would probably thank him at this point.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 08:50 PM
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This is what I love about this place. Most new guys come in here and see something like what SBIII posts and immediately go on defense, not realizing that sting they feel is their fragile pride and ego being challenged. Mother fuckers look for the easy button. They want to come in here and cry the blues and have someone DM them a link to a checklist to solve all their problems. None of them realize the answers they are getting are pure gold and are gift wrapped in the tough love they never recei…
/r/askMRP02/12/19 08:49 PM
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Everything in this post disgusts me. I can tell just from this post without looking at your post history that you are a fat, immature, fuck up who couldn't own his own shit if his life depended on it because it does. I can handle some pretty serious levels of fucking retardedness around here but when faggots like you make kids and then regret them I literally want to curb stomp you. Quit your fucking bellyaching and realize that this is all your fault. Your sexless marriage, the "stress" of havi…
/r/askMRP22/11/19 08:41 PM
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Yup, same issue here. My wife loves ass play but I've never been able to go to pound town. She lets me put it in and go very slow with lots of lube. It took exactly what red is saying in this post to even get it to this point. Just keep increasing the size of anal plugs and lots of positive reinforcement, particularly me telling her how much it turns me on to watch her take things in her ass, etc. Then when it got to actual penis insertion we just started with the head and I made a big deal out …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 07:15 PM
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It may not be real...yet, but you should always be prepared. Expect the best but prepare for the worst.
/r/askMRP11/11/19 04:45 PM
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* Slow Clap* Keep it up!!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 04:23 PM
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Do not make a temporary problem a permanent one by killing yourself. Get help now. The first step is to call a suicide prevention hotline. 1-800-273-8255 Get into therapy, exercise your body and your demons in your head and start to lead.
/r/askMRP29/10/19 12:17 PM
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Does your wifes boyfriend know you have internet access again?
/r/askMRP25/10/19 05:33 PM
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This! My wife is the same, she cums much harder by clit stimulation but can cum vaginally. It always plays out by usually being a quickie or just a dominant caveman. It always ends with her cumming and asking me to cum in her as she cums. If I manage to time it right its a leg shaker on her end.
/r/askMRP14/10/19 02:56 PM
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My next decision will be how long to wait before filing for divorce. How long does it take you to drive to your lawyers?
/r/askMRP10/10/19 12:34 PM
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Welcome to the anger phase. Its a great place to visit and god will it help you get some PRs in the gym, but only visit it until you get your mind right. Once you realize women are fucked but its how they were designed you can move on. Its like getting mad at the sky for being blue or the grass for being green. Science...
/r/askMRP08/10/19 07:29 PM
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Look it sounds like you are headed in the right direction but slow the role Rambo. I am not saying don't divorce her but how about you start with getting your shit in order and becoming an attractive man before you decide to live out this grandiose divorce fantasy, that FYI will not play out the way you think it will. she is not doing it out of a place of attraction, perhaps a desire to keep me around, not desire for me. Watch Rians video here if you want a great break down of what desire is or …
/r/askMRP08/10/19 07:26 PM
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So wait, instead of growing balls and pulling the plug so she can go out and actually get some dick while she is still good looking you would rather hold her hostage in a relationship where you aren't attracted to her?? ** cough - bullshit - cough** Well then at least have the balls to tell her you want an open marriage so you both can go out and fuck strange. Oh wait, I bet you are afraid she would get laid before you??
/r/askMRP01/10/19 04:19 PM
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This post is why I don't respond on this board all that much. There is literally nothing I could add that 10 people haven't said already. This is some ass backwards full retard level shit here man. Never go full retard!!
/r/askMRP30/09/19 05:40 PM
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Men sharing notes. Nothing more, nothing less. Listen or don't, doesn't matter either way. The hard part is unfucking yourself and your mental models. You can lie to everyone on this page and no one will ever know, but you can't lie to yourself. The mirror never lies.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 06:21 PM
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Haha my bad you were being serious about crashing your T levels pre-lab. You aren’t wrong, all that shit will do it but fuck the consequences of that nonsense.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 07:08 PM
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That works?? I usually just go to Costco and buy an economy tub of KY and Kleenex and max out my bandwidth at Pornhub the day before I get labs!! I learn something new here everyday!!
/r/askMRP16/09/19 06:53 PM
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Pills dont work. They are all a scam. At 49 years old just give a place like Defy Medical a call and get your shit straight. Your levels are low, don't believe the range bullshit. You won't get help from your regular doc because you are in that range. I stit at around 900-1k ng/dl on trough days. I will be 45 this week and haven't felt this good since my 20s.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 06:50 PM
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One thing you told me long ago that I always remembered and carried into this was when you said, (not an exact quote) It's not the sex that hurts when you cheat, its the lying. In the past before RP I was a nice guy to the core, I would lie to get out of trouble etc. Since I found RP I haven't lied once to her and wasn't going to start. The fact that I owned what I did to the end shocked her more than anything. She knew I was owning it and was more than willing to accept either outcome without a…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 02:07 PM
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44yrs, 6'6", 270.8 lbs, 15.2% BF Lifts: BP - 300 / OHP - 190 / Dead - 375 / Squat - 350 Its been a while since I have posted here and the results show the lack. Physical - Still going at it in the weight room for maintenance. This is going well. No new changes here. Mental - Have actively been getting back on track this past week. I will explain below but really seeing all the RP dominoes fall in line here and in my relationship has really solidified that this shit works if you do the work. I am…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 03:31 PM
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AM the fuck out of that. "Get a trolley" - Fuck no, Imma make you carry this shit and earn your keep. Wink and slap ass.
/r/askMRP05/09/19 07:20 PM
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Thanks for the solid input and advice as always. This talk need to happen sooner then later. She is currently riding the go girl listening to Lizzo and change her hair style phase of this heart break right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 05:26 PM
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Being away from her is probably not the right wording. I am just carrying on as usual. In the past I would have sulked and been all sullen. I am acting no different today as I was the day before shit happened. She is choosing not to talk to me and I am not going out of my way to engage with her. I think my non-reaction is throwing her off a bit as she muttered something about lack of remorse yesterday. I do see the teachable moment here and thats all I can do is present that vision and narrative…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 02:02 PM
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Do not fall into the trap of her being your bounce back chick. It happens a lot because you are comfortable and it's accessible. She's keeping you on the hook while seeing if her new Mr. Right pans out. Go out and get laid.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 01:35 PM
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What did you expect would happen? You don't go around getting sexts >thinking -- hey this is all cool -- unless you're a moron. I'm guessing >you're ready to go. One of the things she said was, "Are you committed to this marriage?" Looking back on it the past day if I am giving an honest assessment. I spent this entire time mentally prepping for an exit. I don't think I ever wanted to save my marriage, sure I told myself I did but in reality I just wanted to break the codependency and oneitis. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 01:26 PM
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If I ever meet you in person, I will buy you the finest scotch available.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 01:18 PM
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The caretaker line was a reference to her not having or wanting to police what I do on my phone and that I should have enough control not to step out of line. Out of all my comments back this was probably the only one that was butt hurt since I implied that she was absolutely right in not telling me what to do. “As much as you are” wasn’t butthurt at all. It was said calm and cool. I definitely don’t have an air of butt hurt around me. In fact probably the opposite as I’ve felt guilty lately not…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 02:12 AM
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44yrs, 6'6", 270.8 lbs, 15.2% BF Lifts: BP - 300 / OHP - 190 / Dead - 375 / Squat - 350 Its been a while since I have posted here and the results show the lack. Physical - Not lifting for new PRs anymore, just for maintenance as it is causing a shit load of wear and tear on my body. TRT has easily help me stay with the same mass and losing weight. Currently cutting doing the Snake Diet (basically prolonged IF). Fuck the weight loss the mental clarity not eating for 72 hours gives is amazing and …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 08:23 PM
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Do you actually like your wife? What I am reading is someone sorta got HIS shit together but said fuck it all or at the least is putting in half-hearted effort into anything else in his household. Keep your house clean because you like a clean fucking house not because it's her job or you are trying to get pussy. Discipline your kids and set boundaries with them because you want them to grow up to be decent humans and not entitled fuckwads. This list goes on. If you do these things CONSISTENTLY …
/r/askMRP27/08/19 12:49 PM
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tl:dr - Be an oak. Be attractive, don't be unattractive.
/r/askMRP21/08/19 02:38 PM
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You can't change anyone but yourself. Also, why the fuck would you want too? Its a waste of time and effort when all of that could be spent on you. If you become high value your wife/LTR should aspire to fall in line with you...or not. At that point, you need to decide if she's worth keeping around.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 08:18 PM
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But all those who tell you to vet well - it's because they got lucky. Spot on. I have been married 20 years and together with my wife 25 total. Met young and unintentionally "vetted" for 5 years before I got married. Had no clue about red flags, what to look for etc. I flat out got lucky with my choice, thats it. Guess what, shit still went south...because I got fat, lazy and became a drunk captain. It was simply because I got lucky with my choice that she jumped back on board the boat once I go…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 02:44 PM
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This reply says it all. Either start or get the fuck out. You or your marriage aren't special. ​ Go look in the mirror and ask yourself if you would fuck you? If the answer is no, then why should your wife?
/r/askMRP12/07/19 03:23 PM
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says she’s been in a “cocoon of love and support” spun by well-wishers ​ She’s also coming off a kind of man cleanse. In 2017, she went on a road trip across the country, stopping only in towns named after women (example: Pearl, Mississippi), listening only to music by women, eating only in cafés with women’s names, even feeding her dog only Rachael Ray dog food. Along the way, she asked women a question: “What do we need men for?” ​ Ah, what it must be like to live in a cocoon of love and suppo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 02:58 PM
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Excellent and honest report!! I will never understand why guys never get on board with lifting. There is literally nothing that makes your wife's hamster go into overdrive more than one or more of her friends telling her that her husband is looking jacked. This is about as simple dread as it gets.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 02:51 PM
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Fuck off Red!!
/r/askMRP01/07/19 10:01 PM
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Somehow I knew you were gonna flip this around with this old trope. God forbid we ask our wives for something and all women are sluts blah blah blah. Yeah I get it. I’ve been here long enough to know this by now. I also know what turns my wife on at this point as well. I’m usually saying all this to her as I’m fucking her in the ass and bashing her head through the plaster wall from my cave man pounding. Is that the answer you were looking for?
/r/askMRP01/07/19 09:45 PM
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I’ll mix it up with “asking her who’s pussy this is?” and “are you a dirty slut?” Shit like that.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 09:05 PM
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I have an inside joke with my wife. She is on the feminism train, however, she will do things around the house and when she cant (usually physical) she will come looking for my help. I will always look at her and joke and one of us will always say, "You're/I'm a strong independent woman, you/I don't need no man!" and laugh. She's not coming to me to shit test me, she's coming to me because she knows she can trust me to get shit done when she can't. She understands masculine energy and it turns h…
/r/askMRP01/07/19 08:15 PM
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"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than speak and remove all doubt."
/r/askMRP26/06/19 07:01 PM
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I come home from work every day with a smile on my face. I walk in the door, my wife smiles, gives me a kiss and asks me how my day was? I say "good". Even if it was total shit I say good because she doesn't fucking care or understand the shit I do and go through at work. After I finish doing what I need to do when I get home I will ask her how her day was. Typically this leads to her "venting" about dumb shit that happened. The horrible life and times of a middle-class white woman. I will nod a…
/r/askMRP24/06/19 01:00 PM
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This is the rare occasion. Fill in any random activity. It’s just an example. I’ve coached all my kids football since they were in pee wee. You are 100 percent correct about fucking the moms after practice. Fish. In. A. Barrel.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 03:27 AM
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My wife went from: 1) Oh nice, you are going to the gym. to 2) Oh, you are going to the gym again?? to 3) God forbid you miss gym time. to finally 4) I'll take the kids to "sports" so you can go lift. As I get a tricep squeeze and a kiss.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 08:28 PM
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This right here. The day I let this go was the day I made serious progress. You can't control anyone else and I don't want to. I can only adjust myself according to their behavior to stay on my own path towards my goals.
/r/askMRP17/06/19 07:04 PM
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Congrats, here's a Scooby Snack. ​ Noob gains, keep working, reading and lifting. Start on OYS and come back in 6 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 04:31 PM
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I have openly started calling my wife "The oldest teenager in the house." to her face and she laughingly agrees with me and says yeah sometimes I need help adulting. I just think to myself jesus christ.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 07:44 PM
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Can confirm. I went to Puerto Rico last week for business and didn't even get past take off with my wife sending me texts non-stop like, "You are sitting next to some girl talking aren't you?" "She probably thinks you are cute." etc. All ignored by me. The stories they make up in their head. I mean shit I was sitting next to some fat ass in cargo shorts going on vacation there cause he was too lazy to get his passport.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 07:06 PM
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Good point. I’ve done this in the past but haven’t really told her where I see her in my life any time recently.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 11:51 AM
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This was totally on me and my lack of confidence in starting a business. Total pussy shit on my part. I just assumed since the cousin had money and several businesses she would be an asset. It was a leap of faith issue. Guess the rule, “if it’s not a hell yeah, it’s a no” really does apply to everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 11:50 AM
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Girls only give a fuck about arms, chest and abs. You could tell a woman your lifts and she could give 2 shits but rock the lower ab cum gutters and its panty dropping time.
/r/askMRP15/05/19 12:25 PM
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I don't think anyone gives a shit how you get jacked. Most people who come in here don't know dick about lifting or physical fitness at all. Most of them are craft beer drinking, Cheeto dust finger having slobs. So making it easy by saying 1RM or getting them to do SL 5x5 is the easy push to get a guy down that road. Try explaining Gironda 8x8 or nSuns to someone who has no clue what their actual 1 RM is is futile at best. So most guys starting in here need to actually figure out their 1 RM befo…
/r/askMRP14/05/19 08:04 PM
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OK I can give you the standard keep lifting and read the sidebar but first lets address the elephant in the room. drinking and then driving children to buy more to drink This is a hard fucking no man. You have the singular job of protecting your kids from this negligent level of fuckery!! Seriously if you do nothing else you need to nip this shit in the bud immediately. Let's just say hypothetically your peach of a wife slams into another car on her way to get more booze and kills either your ki…
/r/askMRP14/05/19 05:23 PM
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Burn it to the ground. The only thing calling her out did was show her that she needed to be more careful. Get a lawyer ASAP and get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 04:52 PM
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44yrs, 6'6", 278.8 lbs, 15.7% BF Lifts: BP - 300 / OHP - 190 / Dead - 375 / Squat - 350 So I have not posted an OYS in a while so I am going to write one up and jump on the two year anniversary train that seems to be going on around here lately. I will just try to flesh out a summary of changes and what I still am failing at. Physical - On point with this. Hit the 1000lb club a couple of weeks ago. All of this was done in my basement gym using a squat rack I got on clearance, a barbell, and weig…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 03:49 PM
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Glad to see the progress. Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 07:05 PM
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You sir are a full retard. Your wife not only doesn't think you are "gaming" her but she thinks you are a passive aggressive man boy.
/r/askMRP08/05/19 12:30 PM
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Also remember that just flirting with chicks doesn’t mean shit unless your wife perceives them to be higher SMV. Chatting up a land whale to create dread is just gonna get you eye rolled.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 08:28 PM
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Story time. One of my best friends is a natural alpha. He gets laid at will and has options and IDGAF in spades. All of the married guys in our friends circles wives hate him. Let me rephrase, they actually love him and wish their husbands were him but what they hate is when their husbands go out with him. Since I have discovered RP and reconnected with a lot of friends I lost because I gave up my hobbies and social circle, this buddy is one of them. My wife gives me zero shit for going out now …
/r/askMRP29/04/19 07:29 PM
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This right here. Mother fuckers around here take things so fucking literal all the time. I did it also. They hear cave man and go Hulk Smash on their wifes pussy like a jack rabbit. It has its place but isn't what you aspire too. You need to be able to read a womans body queues in bed while also being in charge and dominant. ​ Like when I am going too deep in my wife I can feel her thighs press out against me. When she wants me to fuck her harder and deeper I can feel her legs open up more and t…
/r/askMRP25/04/19 01:41 PM
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Great post. Set the ego aside and realize the tough love is just that. Its to separate the men who are sick and tired of being sick and tired and the kids who want a shoulder to cry on and the internet to fix their problems. ​ Also, to the new guys, when a flared mod takes the time to respond to your shit, read and re-read it because it is usually a golden nugget.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 07:27 PM
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Is this the time where I rehash the ball shaving discussion from last year?? ​ **cough** CREMO **cough**
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 05:42 PM
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Every year my brother and I take my 3 boys on a 4-day canoe/hike trip. We canoe 40 miles total and then end the last day with a 5-mile hike in the mountains. All our food, shelter, fishing gear, etc. is taken with us. My boys pack their own packs and help cook all the meals, set up camp, tear down camp, wash dishes, etc. Before we go every year they lay out the route, look up water levels, etc. We do this trip every year without fail. Nothing stops this trip from happening. My boys talk about th…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 05:39 PM
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I think Jack Donovan explains it expertly in "The Way of Men". Men need to feel like part of a tribe. We need to fight an enemy or we end up fighting ourselves. This will happen whether its organic or manufactured by sports.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/19 07:47 PM
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I love football, I played football, I coach football and my kids play football. Make no delusions however that football and pro sports are nothing more than modern day gladiator games used to placate and dull the senses of the masses. Men especially buy into this because they need manufactured tribe mentality to feel like men because 90% of rabid football fans are fat fuck coach potatoes who get winded walking up the steps to go to bed at night. What irks me more than those guys are their harpy …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/19 07:44 PM
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This is normal behavior. She is trying to figure out what the fuck is going on. My wife did the same thing. Now however everything filters through me. An example being, "RPWolf I have this work thing, I would like you to come with me, unless you had somethign planned thats not on the calendar." or "I'll go pick up the kids so you can lift." etc. When you start putting yourself first and she sees you won't bend on it, it becomes the new norm.
/r/askMRP02/04/19 01:03 PM
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...and we have a winner!! All of this OP. Read it one more time for the cheap seats.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 08:26 PM
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It's like this man, you can bang low value tinderellas all you want but at the end of the day like anything else that shit will get old and you will actually have to talk to them. You sound like an absolute shit leader and do nothing but chase pussy for validation. Honestly, it sounds like your wife is the hero here for putting up with your dumb ass considering from your own words she is dong all the shit you should. everything that I’m not –responsible, organized, emotionally stable ​ Get your …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 08:23 PM
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I agree with that. T in and of itself is an amazing anti-depressant. My personal take is the pharmaceutical industry and insurance companies dont want men on T because its cheap and is most likely the cure for many many ailments that a lot of men are taking 5 and 6 separate drugs for.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 12:40 PM
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Couldn't agree more. You want DNGAF and asshole game in spades, get that T above 800!!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/19 01:34 PM
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Absolutely, I would also be more then happy to do a write up on my treatment from beginning to current, pros/cons, what to look for and overall info for a 60 DoD write up if there is interest. The cost structure FOR ME for my initial beginning to end diagnosis, order and delivery: Initial consult for 60 min. (Required) - 250.00 Initial Blood Panel prior to consult (Required) - 250.00 Initial Physical (Required) (Local Physician) - 30.00 Copay Testosterone Cypionate 200mg/mL, 10mL (Compounded) - …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/19 01:45 AM
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I use Defy Medical as well and couldn't be happier. Fuck jumping through all the hoops and go with a place like Defy or Entourage. I started at 226 and am now sitting in my trough days at 800 and peak days over 1k and I couldn't be happier. My biggest worry when I wake up in the morning is how I am going to pee out of that flag pole!! Spot on about the HcG as well. I had a vasectomy in 2013 but the doc at Defy insisted I go on HcG because it backfills so many other hormones needed in the chain.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 08:05 PM
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Is there a place side plates are covered any where in the reading material If you actually read all the side material you would know. Theres your answer faggot. ​
/r/askMRP21/03/19 01:09 PM
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So I recognize a lot of what you are saying here with all the plating philosophy. You are riding the hamster train into the sunset with this. Men are as loyal as their options. You wanted to fuck those chick but you didnt for some reason that made them not an option, so here you are back home with your wife and kids. Does your wife add value you to your life right now? Do you actually like her? Is that value more with her in your life then not? If so then stop hamstering over the plating and jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 05:37 PM
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Great Post and honestly makes me appreciate my wife just a bit more. She is adopted as well but not once has ever played the victim card. She was raised by great trad-con adoptive parents. She always wondered about her real parents and at times I think I was more curious then her just for medical reason with our boys. Welp, ancestry.com opened up that can of worms. It put her in touch with other siblings she never knew about. She went form an only child to 1 of 10 siblings. The entire time she n…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/19 04:53 PM
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But why not just ask me? This is the hamster game all women play. You have to act like you don't care even though you do. As much as women say marriage isnt about power, it is. My wife did this exact scenario this weekend. I made plans with my brother this weekend. My brother is older, single, doctor etc. He is a natural alpha. My wife always goes full hamster when I hang out with him. I met him for his birthday. I get home late and the next day no questions about the night before, until there w…
/r/askMRP18/03/19 12:42 PM
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Chase excellence not pussy and the right girl will find you...or she won't but that won't matter because you will be living your life on your terms.
/r/askMRP15/03/19 02:46 PM
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You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. Buy him a copy of all 3 Rational Male books, hand them to him and say, "I would appreciate it if you read these, I think you will find them helpful." and leave it at that. He has to want to change, you can't make him.
/r/askMRP13/03/19 01:41 PM
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I take offense to that. My wife doesn't have to stop giving me a BJ now to take pubes off her tongue. Total value add.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 03:22 PM
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I’m constantly Trying to keep things perfect. Stop it. I did this for years and you know what, the harder you try the worse things get or at least the harder you try the bigger the impact to your ego when shit goes south. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. The biggest thing that helped me the most was the day I realized I can't control anything other than myself and my emotions. ​
/r/askMRP20/02/19 01:42 PM
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I have a Deer Hunter, Apocalypse Now and Full Metal Jacket marathon while eating rare steaks.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/19 01:35 AM
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Got a gym membership, but need to find a workout buddy for accountability and spotter for free weights. 5' 10" 209 lbs. 22% bf 34 yo got a gym membership, go twice per week, mostly swim laps. Stop the excuse making for christs sake. You are fat, make no mistake. I make 1/3 of what you do and I converted a portion of my basement into a gym with a power cage, bought rubber horse mats from Tractor Supply to line it and all the weights needed to start 5x5 Stronglifts. Everything you say is an excuse…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 07:36 PM
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Gave her a piece of roller derby equipment she needed and was stressing over affording. She gave me a 3 course dinner of soup, hand made gnocchi in vodka sauce with fresh grated Parmesan cheese and baked Italian bread with a home made apple pie for dessert. Then at bed time she gave me a gift bag filled with bottles of cold relief, allergy relief, pain relief and a bag of beef jerky. If you saw the documentary Abducted in Plain Sight on Netflix you get the joke. This was followed by an epic BJ a…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 01:54 PM
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Welcome to another edition of Thunderdome mother fucker!!
/r/askMRP14/02/19 05:03 PM
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2/13/2019 - 275.2lbs., 15.5%BF (pic/navy method), 44yo Its been a bit since my last OYS. Things have been going well in all areas until last week. Still on course but a rough week. Physical- TRT doasge got upped to 180mg spaced out into 3 shots a week with 2 500iu shots of HcG a week. I am going to talk to a couple people and the doc about this but I actually feel this is counter productive and I am having some off symptoms. I will say for sure I could literally eat all day if I didn't restrain …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 08:03 PM
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Point is if you think age matters it doesn’t...at all.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 06:06 PM
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He’s an old dude. I’m her alpha and she’s totally not attracted to this guy. I saw a picture. But I didn’t know this reading the text I am 44 and have gotten numbers from girls half my age. Whats your point? Game is game.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:06 PM
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I know all my wifes passwords etc. If I demanded them she would give them to me as well. But I dont demand them and I don't check. First and foremost its mate guarding and you look like a bitch. Second and more importantly OPSEC is a slippery slope. You constantly question everything. Every little detail comes into question and there arent many answers. Even if you don't find an answer you assume you arent asking the right questions or looking in the proper place. You are literally living in her…
/r/askMRP05/02/19 06:09 PM
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Good luck man!! I personally have taken great value out of your posts. I appreciate your journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 05:59 PM
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This reply is bullshit. You are working two jobs as a pizza delivery guy and your SAHM snowflake can't be bothered to get a job, even if its part time to help make ends meet?? GTFO!! You are a fucking plow horse period and you have a lost cost fallacy and oneitis. Do not buy the fucking house man!! Keep working and ignore her attempt sot put her beta back in the box!!
/r/askMRP04/02/19 03:11 PM
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There are no issues in the relationship with frequency or intensity Then just fuck your girl more. Problem solved. I call bullshit. Why? Been on TRT for a month now I have been on TRT for 8 months and last bloods were 1000ng/dL and I suddenly didnt want to fuck hookers and get rub and tugs at the local massage parlor. Just OYS and don't blame your cheating on the TRT. How do you stick to value based decision making when opportunity is so abundant? Paying for pussy isnt abundance. You are trying …
/r/askMRP01/02/19 06:50 PM
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What I am saying is if I knew then what I know now I would have walked yes. Do I regret the work I have put in and where I am at now, not at all.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 07:48 PM
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I am tons of fun. Until I am a complete asshole at the drop of a hat. Im making sure she knows I am the man, and you don't run your mouth to the man. You need to read about being the benevolent king. You sound like a fucking tyrant. This woman runs her mouth to EVERYONE. She has no filter and gives no fucks. Have you ever met a HSE/HD woman? Yeah my sister is one and she is on her 3rd marriage and miserable as fuck because she is a fucked up cunt. Her current husband is exactly like you to a T. …
/r/askMRP29/01/19 04:39 PM
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Noob pointer here... Shit tests never end...EVER. You dont pass them by being a fucking dick. You pass them by completely ignoring them in the beginning or using AM or AA for Christs sake. I am going based on what you wrote here but you sound like masculinity's drunk, retarded brother machismo. You sound like exactly zero fucking fun and your wife is right, no one wants to be around a hot bag of dicks. ​
/r/askMRP29/01/19 04:05 PM
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Do you actually like your wife and want to be married to her? You sound like a complete douche and someone no one would want to be around. Stop going Rambo, she isn't a prisoner.
/r/askMRP28/01/19 05:58 PM
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OK I will come at you from a different angle and not directly call you a cuck because I was in your shoes. Similar situation but my wife and I were cheating on each other and I was a shit bag verbally abusive shit bag nice guy before MRP. She cheated to get back at me. I decided to stay with her after our last round of shit well before finding MRP. I will just give you my take. You have a long hard road ahead of you. You need to unfuck yourself as well as maintain this shitty marriage. My wife d…
/r/askMRP25/01/19 03:50 PM
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Instead of playing Xbox, go lift or run or something other then sitting on your ass. Instead of watching TV with you wife, how about you read one of the countless books on the sidebar. Instead of smoking weed or drinking to numb the giant void inside of you cause you know you are a fuck up go better yourself. Your wife has you wrapped around her finger and needs to medicate to fuck you. End of story. STFU, get reading, lift
/r/askMRP22/01/19 01:14 AM
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You sound like a dumb fuck.
/r/askMRP15/01/19 01:43 PM
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Plausible deniability is key. Women can rationalize any situation into not having anything or everything to do with them.
/r/askMRP13/01/19 12:06 AM
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Her sleeping with a taken man in no way shape or form will make her feel like a slut. People that matter finding out she is sleeping with a taken man is the problem. There are two things that women hate being called: 1) A bad mom. 2) A home wrecker.
/r/askMRP11/01/19 09:04 PM
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Well from what I am reading you are shooting for a unic.
/r/askMRP09/01/19 09:30 PM
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This has more red flags then a communist parade!! Seriously if you are with a woman whose first response to you going out with your friends is to imply on FB that she wants a divorce then you need to give her what she wants with a quickness. If nothing else, I wouldnt have said shit in person and just responded to the post with, "Jacoby, Jacoby and Jones are good. Thats who I use." and leave it at that. May be a little passive aggressive but it gets the point across in an AM way.
/r/askMRP09/01/19 06:44 PM
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1/8/2019 - 275.2lbs., 15.5%BF (pic/navy method), 44yo Its been a couple weeks since my last OYS. Took a break over the holidays from MRP just because of everything I had going on in life. I wont recite it all but just the highlights. Physical- Didnt get more then 3 days a week in lifting the past couple of weeks. Not my best effort but did squeeze in cardio on the off days to help compensate for the shit eating and extra booze. Extra booze for me really consists of actually having a couple beers…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 08:56 PM
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Lets be real though, its never about the sex, its about the lies.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/19 05:53 PM
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Spot on man!! Have an upvote!!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 10:27 PM
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I’m 6’6”. Lifts are Bench 270, OHP 190, Squat 310, Dead 360
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 05:40 PM
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12/19/2018 - 275.2lbs., 15.5%BF (pic/navy method), 44yo **Physical**- Just got back in the gym this week. Got sidelined with an entire house of stomach flu including myself. Took me down 3 days last week. Still mobile as I could be and getting stuff done but no lifting. **Mental**- Worked on the business while I was down and out. Got some more things in order. Took care of the family even though I was sick myself. Spent a lot of time reading while down and out and listening to podcasts. Spent th…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 04:20 PM
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Tl;dr - You can’t negotiate desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/18 12:16 AM
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Thanks for this advice. I’ll look at it now. I did 5x5 for about 18 months till I plateaued then switched to an nSuns 4 day program that does a pyramid style with the last set as AMRAP. Lifts are Bench/OHP, Back Squat/Sumo Dead, Bench/Close Grip Bench, Dead/Front Squat. I add in Hammer Curls, Concentration Curls, Tricep Pushdowns and Facepulls on Bench days.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/18 10:50 PM
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i call bullshit on she tricked you. you wanted to say it and you did Not so much wanted to say it but just own my thinking now. She is very good at turning arbitrary conversations into getting information. that conversation was a train wreck Agree with this completely. Sometimes I overlook the less is more principal with the hamster. I try to push that sexual innuendo envelope when its better left alone. One thing I am noticing is that with her new change in attitude and accepting my leadership …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 08:42 PM
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12/11/2018 - 275.2lbs., 15.5%BF (pic/navy method), 44yo **Physical**- Still lifting but way unmotivated with my current program. Its getting boring and I am having serious issues breaking my bench plateau of 270. Not really sure how to handle this. Any advice would be great. Switched to squatting only 1 time a week. My knees are starting to hurt like a fucker when I squat more then once a week. I vary between front and back squats. My goal is to have abs for the the summer 2019. **Mental**- Holi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 07:32 PM
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I told you last week and now, this bitch is crazy. Maybe too crazy to live with forever. Next weeks OYS better have a story about how you went and talked to at least three lawyers and started laying out an escape route. As far as shit tests go, they are forever man and at this stage her hamster is flying off the wheel. If she is truly BPD and I think she is if everything is true that you say she will do everything in her power to kick you back in line. It is also why I told you earlier this week…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 06:35 PM
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Sounds like you are just making excuses for not resetting. Yup, you are correct. This is just stubborn bitchness plain and simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 07:51 PM
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First thing, you need to consistently be lifting and eating. I mean really really get that shit dialed in and make it a priority. My 13 yo weighs 148 lbs. You need to figure this out ASAP and get to work. Get a trainer...something. I think this alone would be night and day for you. Second, your wife sounds like a BPD cunt rag. This level of crazy may not be salvageable but you are here so my advice is do you, STFU and Lift. I know that sounds like all the advice given in this place but seriously…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 07:08 PM
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Why the fuck would you stop initiating??!! Your wife will never initiate, it is your job to take the lead. As far as kino and game, just start small and go from there. Dont be needy and groping with it. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 06:11 PM
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11/27/2018 6'6", 275.3 lbs., 15.2% BF, 44 yo **Physical**- Still lifting, still physically improving slowly but surely. This is the one constant in my life all the time. Lift a minimum of 3 times a week no matter what. Not much else to report here. **Mental**- I decided I wasnt going to wait for the wife and cousin to move forward with the business. The wife is still completely on board and willing to help but she needs lead and flounders when left to her own devices. With the latest horse shit …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 05:07 PM
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Welcome to my hell. So many meetings about communication and how our end users will feel if we do x,y or z.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/18 08:55 PM
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A second wave of improvement will occur once you can lose the anger. Reset each day. Remember you're not enemies. It will happen. Or not. This!! I didn't have that major turning point with my wife until I realized that shes not mine, its only my turn and why was I with her if I wasn't actually going to enjoy my turn.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 01:41 PM
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I think you are starting to identify it yes. If you handle it properly is a whole other ball game you need to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 09:07 PM
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Three minutes later she said, "I'm sorry. I do care." I was so past the conversation I legitimately didn't know what she was talking about, and asked "care what?" She said, "I told you that I didn't care. That's not true. I do care." WTF is that? please someone shed some light on this for me. This was her feeling guilty because she said no. Read what MitW wrote above and the links. Believe it or not your wife actually likes you, shes just not attracted to you yet. My game was better today. Littl…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 06:28 PM
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So I can see what you mean and in context would come across as much. In the moment though it really boiled down to me being overly aggressive but no more then other times. It was bad timing. She came several times during foreplay and in that moment it was midnight and I really didnt feel like starting over at ground zero again. I could tell there was something wrong and knew it would be a conversation that I didnt want to have then.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 03:57 PM
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Continued... **Relationship-** This has been an interesting two weeks in the relationship. The anniversary consisted of us getting each other nothing (saving money) except some Chinese food and playing a board game. Before the board game I told her I wanted her to go upstairs and change into a pair of blue thongs that I like so I could look at them as they stuck out of the back of her yoga pants while we played the game. Afterward, we hung with the kids, went to bed where I had her bend over the…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 03:07 AM
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11/27/201- Stick with me on the wall of text but a lots happened. Its been a crazy two weeks. So much so I missed last weeks OYS. I am not proud of that but fuck it. **Physical**- Despite the insanity of the past two weeks I managed to get in 3 lifting sessions and cardio in per week. Ate like a fuckhead over Thanksgiving and from running all over but the scale hasnt moved either way so I call it a win. I am back on track now that shit has settled down. Plateaued on Bench and cant progress past …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 03:07 AM
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Fucking completely noted!!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/18 06:01 PM
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Man, that’s an anniversary I never want to remember again but will also never forget!! Thanks for the reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/18 05:15 PM
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You're right about all of this. But to be clear, the "no initiating in November" plan is to help me reset my own thinking around sex and the pressure I put on myself and my wife around initiating, and help me avoid and reduce in the future my needy, hovering behavior and this kind of shit: Do what you want but I did it and all it did was make me even more resentful and frustrated. It sounds like the #nonutnovember nonsense. I mean come on man, you say this: and I’m also going to take care of thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 01:32 PM
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OK, so when I was a kid my mom always got me to put together everything for her. You know why because she said, "I could follow instructions like a pro". To this day if I have shit written down in a list I know it will produce a result. When I have to free lance it, it makes me uncomfortable because it requires more work, more brain power. Most guys are like this. You are definitely like this. Stop looking for the correct steps!! This new modified monk mode is you trying new steps. Stop!!! Just …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/18 05:13 PM
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I found MRP and went 6 months without sex after the initial 3 I did myself because of that dumb shit activity in NMMNG. So yes, YES it absolutely can get worse before it gets better.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/18 04:38 PM
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11/13/2018 6'6", 275.3 lbs., 15.2% BF, 44 yo ​Physical- Looking better daily, slowly but surely. Still need to reign the diet in more with the holidays approaching. I am still making gains but I know they would be faster if I would watch what I eat a little more. Just need to shut up about it and do it. Lifting is still progressing but noticing the last couple weeks a lot of joint pain. Just overall stiff and achy in the joints. Chalking it up to being older and the weather getting colder but I …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 07:14 PM
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i think it has more to do with social proof - she doesn't want to fail at >marriage right out of the gate and look like a cheating whore The two things a woman never wants to be called: 1) A bad mother. 2) A home wrecker.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 06:52 PM
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Jesus fucking christ man. Where is your self respect??!! Seriously, she is crying because she doesnt want to lose her little beta provider. At some point you have to stand on your own two feet The nightmare part is over. Everything is out in the open. Bullshit. This nightmare will repeat itself until she gets you back off your guard and compliant again. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 04:17 PM
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Thank you. You saved me the trouble of replying to his reply with exactly this. I am fairly certain I said stop DEERing. Stop trying to convince us all why or why not you shouldnt do something. We don't fucking care. We want you to succeed or else I wouldnt have bothered replying but for fucks sake kill your ego and stop with the excuses already.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 03:39 PM
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OK, I went back through and read all your OYS and comments. My eyes are bleeding now. My take aways from all 9 of them. 1) There are only fucking 9 of them and you have been here for 10 months. Come on man, are you in this or not?? 1a) I could have read the first one and then the ninth and been fine. They all literally read and for the most part say the same exact thing. I am attempting to lift, I am attempting to do my OYS, I am attempting to fuck my wife, I am attempting to unfuck myself. Yet …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/18 09:18 PM
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I will come up with a more detailed reply when I can and after I read over your other OYS posts. In the meantime I am going to tell you a couple things that hopefully will give you a wake up call or at the very least start to get your head in the right spot. 1) Listen and I mean read and then re fucking read everything MitW tells you. I absolutely appreciate everyones advice on here but he took the time to get shit through my thick fucking skull. 2) You are approaching everything the same way I …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/18 03:20 AM
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11/6/2018 6'6", 275.3 lbs., 15.2% BF, 44 yo ​Physical- Lifting but need to get my diet back in check. I am still losing fat but just not being consistent with my macros and eating variety. I need to mix up my foods. I have never been a picky eater so eating the same meal over and over for me hasnt usually bothered me until lately. I just need to find some new items to work into my rotation. I have noticed now that the bigger I get and with TRT I am hungry ALL THE TIME. I am cognoscente of what I…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 05:13 PM
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Ultimatums are for faggots without frame. Good job starting back at zero if you don't go through with it.
/r/askMRP06/11/18 02:25 PM
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I like that answer a lot. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/18 05:42 PM
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11/1/2018 6'6", 275.3 lbs., 15.2% BF, 44 yo ​Physical- Lifting slipped the past week. didn't get all my days in I wanted. Should have gotten up earlier and squeezed it in but I made excuses. I was sick, my mom was in the hospital etc. Its a priority therefore it needed done and it didn't get done. I am back on track this week. Trying to take a look at what my longer range goal for lifting is now that I have put on muscle and am approaching respectable lifts. My main goal is to stay in the gym an…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/18 04:47 PM
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I don’t hold her blameless at all. However, how I handled it was all on me. She completely cussed out the employer and was absolutely backing me saying they don’t know what they are thinking etc. Hell I had a new job within two months making more money. The point is that in a complete moment of crisis I essentially proved and executed in one swoop that not only couldn’t I lead, but I also couldn’t handle a crisis. I also handed the captains hat over to her without saying as much and forced her i…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/18 02:36 AM
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I went 9 months with no sex at the beginning of my RP journey. Its in my history. It will NEVER happen again. That said, it was my fault for multiple reasons and I will list them. 1) When I thought I was attractive, I was still a fat fuck and physically weak. 2) My initiations were shit and it took me a long time to get out of my BP conditioning back rub initiations. 3) I wasnt resetting every morning. 4) I gave ultimatums and threats about sex. Ultimatums are for faggots. 5) My wife could smell…
/r/askMRP26/10/18 05:14 PM
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She is my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/18 09:08 PM
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I see the value in whatever works. If you can pay 40 bucks a month then pay it. I think its insane but thats me. All that shit reminds me of someone going on a diet and saying, "I will start on Monday and then eat like shit all weekend." Why? If you want to change then fucking start right away. I am glad I found MRP first. I like to go all in if I am going to do it. If you can survive the fire of MRP then those clubs are actually a put off. Hats off though to TFA and Richard Cooper etc. Regardle…
/r/askMRP24/10/18 07:00 PM
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This pains me to write and is one of the most cringe worthy moments of my blue pill self that I will share. I know the exact moment, the Exact. Fucking. Moment. my marriage went south and my wife lost all respect for me. It was years and years ago but as I have reflected on my marriage during my RP transformation this one moment I feel was the catalyst for everything after. ​ My wife and kids were at the beach with my parents and I didn't have the days off so I had to stay home and work. About 4…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 06:03 PM
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10/23/2018 6'6", 275.3 lbs., 15.2% BF, 44 yo ​Physical- Upped my Test dosage to 180mg per my doc. Still not completely optimized according to the doc. I can tell I am not either based on my symptoms. Lifting however is off the charts. I have not plateaued at all but not making huge gains, just slowly and surely. Again, my priority is to stay in the gym first and gains second. I have had multiple people ask me what I am doing and one of my buddies ask me if I was juicing. I just laughed and said,…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 06:25 PM
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Of course, it just happened!
/r/askMRP19/10/18 07:48 PM
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I read that shit show and I will be slightly nicer then everyone here and try to give you some advice while throwing up in my mouth because I empathize with you on this shit. 1) Lawyer the fuck up now and be prepared. 2) Lift!! Fuck your spin classes. Lift like your god damn life depends on it. 3) You will never out fuck or out lift the ghost of this guy. You need to let the past go as soon as possible and take care of yourself. Fuck your whore wife and her telling you about his donkey dick. 4) …
/r/askMRP19/10/18 06:40 PM
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Sweet mother of God!! You are seriously analyzing BJ frequency and contemplating turning it down?? For what? I swear to fuck, some of you new guys bitch about the stupidest shit ever. Do you like your wife? If so, take the fucking BJ and cum down her throat. Also, don't fucking hold on to a bullshit argument and throw it in her face 4 days later, thats horse shit that you even thought about it again.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 02:25 PM
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I agree with this completely. One thing you say about judgement is big. Due to my covert contracts in the past she has always felt like I was juding her sexually. She made comments in years past about me thinking sex wasnt long enough, good enough, the right position etc. So she felt judged when in reality it was a mix of my nice guy pleasing, looking for validation, etc. A big thing I have been doing now is, we fuck, I let her make the comments, I give her the cuddles and move on without anothe…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 05:53 PM
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10/16/2018 6'6", 275.3 lbs., 15.2% BF, 44 yo ​Physical- Still lifting and getting better. TRT still going well and doc wants to do labs again in January to possible adjust my dosage one more time. My Free T isnt as high as he would like. Mental- Got out of my funk from last week and had a great mental week this week. Decided to replace my patio sliding door with a new one. I grew up working construction and have always been good with tools and grew up working for my fathers construction company.…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 04:53 PM
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Wash your dick after a workout.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 01:53 PM
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Wow that video. You're right, that's me. I need to stop kissing her ass and realize this relationship is likely temporary over and that there are plenty of girls in the sea. Lol damn that video is spot on. FTFY
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:51 PM
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10/9/2018 6'6", 275.3 lbs., 15.2% BF, 44 yo ​Physical- Still lifting, still pushing, adding more cardio. Haven't felt overly motivated to workout this week. Maybe the change int he weather, who knows. It's getting done but the motivation just wasn't there this week. Mental- Overall an uninspiring week, I feel mentally great but just uninspired this week. Probably stressing myself out as my oldest is starting to look at colleges and I see the financial impact this will entail. We have money set a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 07:12 PM
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OK, this explanation is great!! Get an up vote!
/r/askMRP08/10/18 02:56 PM
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The medium is the message. You aren't wrong, she is not attracted to you. This is her overt way of calling you out and shit testing you and you are eating it hook, line and sinker. She doesn't want to tell you directly you are a faggot and she loathes you. She wants you to "just get it".
/r/askMRP08/10/18 02:42 PM
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You know how man prisons have alphas in them? All of them and lots of them. You haven't read any of the sidebar or even the suggested posts here. Do the work and your questions will be answered.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 02:26 PM
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A woman gets off on the fact that you get off. Why do you think it stings them so much more if you were to reject sex?
/r/askMRP06/10/18 10:44 PM
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10/3/2018 6'6", 275.3 lbs., 15.4% BF, 44 yo ​Physical- Nothing here new. Still lifting 4 days a week, watching my food, loosing fat slowly but surely. I feel really good about my body and the way I am looking. Want to lose all the belly fat. I have never had abs in my life. Its in my MAP. Mental- Still working on business. The process of waiting on people is painful. The issue is that the investor has the money and its just a matter of waiting on that to move forward with things. The investor is…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 04:56 PM
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I like this post a lot. One thing I never realized in this whole journey until recently was the need for my wife to get comfort. Most mother fuckers find the red pill and go balls to the wall lifting, doing all the shit around the house, trying to take control etc. waiting for the sex to fall out of the sky checking off their alpha traits check boxes. Many more go around all autistic going out of the house, not telling their wife shit cause its none of her fucking business thinking I am an alpha…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 04:26 PM
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I honestly don't care what her friends think of me, but she does. Social validation is that bullshit you get from Facebook and other social media. Its the likes and the kudos that come from having or doing something that others aren't. My wife is on Facebook a lot but rarely posts anything like that, which has always been something that I found telling about her. Either shes not into humble bragging or we arent doing enough fun shit. This doesnt mean she doesnt like it though. AWALT, women love …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 12:21 PM
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So a couple things I didn’t write because I didn’t want to write a wall like usual were two things. I think there was a lot of dread built up in her. However, because of past hurt, issues about sex and the fact that she’s a “strong independent woman” she was very stubborn in giving in to that dread. She was also stubborn about looking for comfort. She didn’t trust taking that wall down. By me throwing a surprise party I think It showed her that I wasn’t afraid to admit that I am past everything …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 10:38 PM
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9/25/2018 6'6", 275.3 lbs., 15.4% BF, 44 yo ​Physical- Shoulder feels good again. Keeping at it. Still gaining muscle and losing fat. The over 40 belly fat is a dick to come off but it is slowly but surely. TRT protocol is pretty dialed in at this point. I feel better now then I have since I was in my 20s. Mental- Business is still going well. Labeling is solidified and I found a printer. Things arent progressing as fast as I'd like but its all waiting on others. Reading and listening non-stop s…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 03:33 PM
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Good point and I suppose I always thought that was the section I should be talking about what’s going on with her and I and our relationship. I see how it’s really just me talking about her though. Never wanted to express “feelings” about it because a lot of my old behavior was me having diarrhea of the mouth to her about my feels all the time. How’s do I feel about our relationship? I feel good about it. She provides what I need for myself and my family. She checks off all the boxes I need for …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/18 01:58 PM
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Same here, she called me Satan incarnate.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 06:10 PM
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Right now I am just doing small long term investing. I do not know enough to day trade and imo day trading is simply legalized gambling. I am dealing more with swing trading and long term investing based on news. Regardless of crypto being anti-establishment etc. it still follows the basic principles of any market and its cycles.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 11:54 AM
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9/19/2018 6'6", 275.3 lbs., 15.4% BF, 44 yo ​ Physical- Shoulder tweek feels 75% better. Ditched the standard bench until fully healed and just jumped to dumbbell press, etc until I am fully recovered. Diagnosis is a shoulder impingement. Essentially the same issue I had before with it. Just need to keep an eye on it and go lighter until it is healed. I am going to transition to a higher reps, lower volume routine shortly. TRT is going well still. 3 times a week injections subQ is the way to go …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 01:55 PM
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The main advantage with respect to your wife of making yourself >awesome and achieving abundance is not to make it less likely she'll >cheat, leave, or exploit you; those are secondary benefits. The >primary advantage comes from limiting or removing the downside to >you of her bad behavior: if she cheats, I think I have gotten this point or am headed in that direction. Like I said to WaS, I could walk away form this marriage if I needed to. Do I want to, no and I won't kid myself that it would b…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 03:43 PM
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Wait... what? How exactly does her story line up exactly with the dudes story and THEN you get >butthurt? You think they coordinated that? Or the dude had his kid call to try to set something >up? I wasn't butthurt about the stories lining up. I didn't actually think they did anything or it was a setup. It was butthurt at having to deal with this again. The fact that its been two years and out of the blue it hits me in the face. The fact that I was even having the conversation. I am putting in t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 03:36 PM
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So here's the dilemma on this. DO I think she did anything? Honest answer is no. Not no me trying to talk my self out of something but actual no I don't. The bigger question is do I want to live like this with her? Do I want to go along my path and have this bullshit pop its head up every once and a while? Am I ok with that in my life? Is my wife value enough to have that keep happening? I know I can't control anyone and everyone else is going to do what they are going to do but do I want to liv…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 08:01 PM
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Thank you, I will absolutely give it a read. I am in the trust my gut club also and my gut tells me she’s telling the truth. Nothing else seemed out of line. If we hadn’t had the mini event last week with her falling in line I may have a different take on that but not with the way everything has played out.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:19 PM
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9/11/2018 6'6", 267.3 lbs., 15.4% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing nSuns but havent moved my bench and actually deloaded a bit. Having shoulder pains from an old injury and I want to make sure it isnt something bigger. If it gets worse I will be hitting up the doc just ot be sure. I am keeping a solid eye on form and not going to heavy at this point. Ripping my body up in its youth is starting to show but no regrets. I still have a little over 40 belly fat going on and its getting nipped in the b…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 02:38 PM
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Took me long enough but I finally am starting to see what you were saying. It really was like watching it unfold in slow motion.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/18 09:54 PM
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Well, I guess you had a good time at Burning Man then? ​ Great post and I found so much value from you under both handles. Good luck!!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/18 12:54 PM
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Then let me revise my original statement. If not, get in shape, go fuck something even if its a hooker and go have fun with your kids and don’t deal with your wife and her fucking hypochondria.
/r/askMRP06/09/18 09:49 PM
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Do you have kids? If not, get in shape, go fuck something even if its a hooker and go do everything else besides deal with your wife and her fucking hypochondria.
/r/askMRP06/09/18 06:21 PM
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Yup, exactly. Her lack of feels is simply her conditioning herself to not be hurt by the old reactive me. Part of this is her waiting for the other shoe to drop like it always has in the past. Shes conditioned herself not to "show" feels but she still has them.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 02:49 PM
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Until she started yelling, screaming, and then crying, sure. Exactly. Let me rephrase, she doesn't do it as often as I see or hear of other women do it. She has openly said yuck, feelings regularly and it is a running joke with her friends. They get all gushy and sappy over shit and she could care less. It was always something I admired in her. She always reserved feels for what she deemed worth feeling. So I guess I am pretty important then.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 02:19 PM
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My pet theory is this -- cheating isn't an issue because of the fucking. >It's an issue because of the breach of trust. Everyone understands >wanting to fuck other women - and that primal lust. It's the lying, >deception, and misaligned expectations that kill the trust.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 02:00 PM
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when she cries, do you have to fight the urge to console her, or are >you >past that, and have a slight annoyed reaction to it? Then, I would have had two outcomes. I would have either instantly consoled, apologized and spent days being overly nice if it was something I did that made her cry. Or, I would get frustrated, defensive and flip out asking why the fuck she was crying. Then it would escalate into a, I am just trying to express my feelings blow up. And then I would spend days apologizing…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 01:55 PM
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Probably because it's the first time the root cause of all your issues was >ever addressed? We both knew it was the reason, but addressed it outright, yes. She isn't a girlie girl and she doesnt like to get in her feels. She isnt overly emotional or reactive. She is walled off but when things are addressed properly in a strong frame instead of a reactive, mean one she responds accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 12:59 PM
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One huge change for me and a reason that came up in our “talk” was this and the fact that shit doesn’t seem to phase me like it used to. She stated it was selfish, I see it as not needing to fix her emotions. In the past I’d have apologized for making her “feel” upset and would have skulked around the house, then got resentful for having done that and this would have been a 3 to 4 day ordeal.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 11:17 AM
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Yeah there was a lot going on and honestly it would have been a wall of text twice the size of this had I summed up everything that happened last week. I can say that this was truly the first time that I got everything on the table and could actually see, hear and god forbid feel her slide into my frame. She completely agreed with everything I said including what you had said. In fact that line alone caused her to pause and start crying.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 11:58 PM
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9/4/2018 6'6", 266.3 lbs., 15.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Lifting still, still making progress and it feels great. Had to slow down a bit and really pay attention to my form. The heavier I get on my bench I can feel my left shoulder tweeking at an old injury with my rotator cuff. I need to warm up much more then previously to prevent injury. I am still sticking with nSuns till I plateau. Once there I will most likely be switching over to a more volume based lighter weight to positive failure routine.…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 07:40 PM
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I read this book Pre-RP and have actually spoke with Dr. Glover about this specific part and the sex moratorium. Both of those I unfortunately followed. The sex moratorium simply gave her a break from me autisticlly initiating every day. The talk about it she used as ammo to say our entire marriage felt like a lie and that I never did anything genuine in our entire marriage towards her. It was all to get sex. Dr. Glover has stated he was not RP when he wrote the book and was actually in the moti…
/r/askMRP30/08/18 06:03 PM
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I like this. Those cry times and frustration were a common occurrence about 2 years ago. She is loath to let it happen now. She is not an emotional person. Only watches comedies, wont talk about feelings ever. Isn't overly emotional towards our kids. She is very logical for a woman but still a woman in a very AWALT sense. None of this is new however. Shes always been like this. When she does cry its usually out of frustration and typically not feels and its never an out of control hysterical thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 02:35 PM
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Actual time? Probably a month ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 02:00 PM
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Literally every time we have a "talk". I typically say something she labels as "fucked up" or "inconsiderate".
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 01:31 PM
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I think so. This is a lot of behavior I am trying to unlearn. My wife is stubborn, strong willed, temperamental and very opinionated. However, in the bedroom she is extremely submissive. To the extent of choking, ass smacking etc. I am trying to unlearn that nice guy bullshit of being respectful, gentle, attend to the needs of the lady first. All the shit I see as cringy now but still sometimes fall back on because it goes against "what I am supposed to do." I can see the opposite in my wife als…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 12:18 PM
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Rapa Scrapple , don’t read the ingredients list. Basically pig assholes but hey there’s a shit load of protein in pig assholes apparently.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 01:54 AM
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I have consciously gone into the bathroom and put a quarter on the floor next to her vanity. I’ll wait till she’s in there with no bottoms on or out of the shower and walk in and and stare at her ass but also the floor and go “ohhhhh shit girl!!” And she will smirk and I’ll walk in the bathroom like I’m going to grab her ass, walk past her and go “I found a quarter!!” Pick it up, flip it, smack ass, walk out and wait for the “you’re such an asshole!!”
/r/askMRP29/08/18 01:52 AM
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Country Pate Where I am from we call that Scrapple!! Those recipes are on point. The Jello is a great idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 07:02 PM
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I'm struggling so hard, I'm so fucking hungry. I wasn't like this before going on TRT. Black Coffee in the morning, lots of water and I try to fast for 20 hours one day a week. The simple obvious answer is dont eat shit. I dont mind being hugry because of TRT. I recognize it and eat stuff like avacado, hard boiled eggs or a protein shake.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 06:52 PM
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8/21/2018 6'6", 266.3 lbs., 15.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still lifting. Still physically improving. Tweaked my shoulder by breaking form a bit and now watching my bench. Still seeing results and my upper body is getting big. I am dropping belt notches but a lot of the shirts I updated my wardrobe with don't fit in the shoulders and arms anymore. My wife watches Game of Thrones and commented that I am going to end up looking like The Mountain if I keep it up. I just looked at her and said, "Lets hop…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 03:59 PM
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I don’t barf it out every week but I did go into it a few times a while back. I know for sure many reds including BPP have brought up the fact that cheating is a huge issue in my relationship and it’s the main reason I haven’t fucked someone else yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/18 12:52 AM
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You aren't wrong. A quick back story on me. My wife never cared if I fucked other women. In fact she said it was her biggest turn on and she would actively try and think of friends for me to fuck back in the day while she would watch and get off. I would even ask her to join in and she would say no and just watch. The way she selected them would be her friends who were in a relationship because she felt there wouldnt be a branch swing to me. She was ok with this until her one divorced friend att…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 08:28 PM
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I answered this on WAS comment. The thing with LoA from what I see is that it is great in theory but I believe like most new age things is completely misinterpreted and just lets the lazy and unmotivated have rationale for not doing the work. If I think about being a millionaire long enough, the universe will make me one. My wife has used this rationale to avoid many of her problems. Mainly saying that giving problems attention only makes them stronger.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 07:38 PM
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I can only do me. I have to work on my MAP and my frame. I can't control her and honestly don't want to. I spent years trying to keep my life and everyone in it in a box. I think the main issues right now is my congruency and letting go of my resentment. Not letting her denials send me down a rabbit hole and having me dive in her frame. At some point the ship has to burn on the beach but first I have to make sure I am not the problem and right now I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 07:33 PM
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This is most likely it. She has stated in the past she feels guilty when she tells me no but also resents being pressured into doing things so she looks at it as sticking up for herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 07:29 PM
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Absolutely 100%, no question.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 06:40 PM
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Thanks. This is my autistic side over analyzing things. Quite honestly I feel like an ass pushing more then once but I would get into an inner dialog that it was just LMR because on a few occasions the second or third attempt we would actually fuck. But now thinking back on it the sex that came form those second and third attempts was lack luster. What throws me off is the lack of conviction behind the denial. Its more of a weak willed not now or nope. Like she is saying no because its expected.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 06:34 PM
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8/21/2018 6'6", 266.3 lbs., 15.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Slowly got back in the weight room. Very sluggish getting back into it but got in there 3 times last week. I need to get back into my full routine again. Started off this week on schedule. TRT is going well still. I feel a lot better with my current protocol of injecting 3x a week with the supps I am on as well. Have been listening to Jay Campbells podcast TOT Revolution and will be giving the Metabolic Blowtorch Diet a try. Basically form wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 04:19 PM
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Haha, you are an ass but you always give me the necessary call out. So in this instance I wasn't angry at the lack of sex or the denial. What I was angry at was the attack on my libido and the insinuation as if I should be ashamed of it like I am a perv. That coupled with mixed signals of waking her up with sex. The fact that she uses it as a weapon when she needs something to attack me with. I honestly didnt expect her to be open to sex that evening. I just knew I was horny and she was looking …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/18 05:55 PM
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Point taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 07:58 PM
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all the more reason she should have been DTF I would agree with this but she is stubborn as fuck and hard headed. She would rather not fuck out of spite then succumb to the hamster. Also, some back info on her. In the past she has overtly told me and actively set shit up with other women because it turns her on to think about me with another chick. Not sure how this pertains but some days I think her hamster spins for other reasons then the typical woman. This adds to the confusion because she h…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 07:08 PM
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Well my wife is on Marina and her sex drive hasnt been controlled by this much. She definitely gets hornier a couple days before her period starts but ovulation doesn't really apply. I can say that in our entire relationship she has maybe initiated twice so I do realize I need ot be the one doing this all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 06:56 PM
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have you fucked since you got back? Nope, got back Friday night was exhausted and crashed, woke up Saturday, worked on one of the cars and talked to my buddy and then bounced to the concert. Saturday night shit went down, woke up Sunday, wife wasn't home, had the "talk" and I bounced to the concert solo Sunday night. The rest of the week honestly I really didn't want to initiate. Havent made any attempt with going back to work, football starting up (I coach) and honestly just not giving a shit. …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 06:53 PM
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I agree with you completely. The hot and cold of this issue is what gets to me. Literally 3 months ago, same situation, end result is her pulling her shorts down and telling me to fuck her hard. This time its a "boundary" I clearly have no respect for. I almost laughed in her face when she jumped out of bed and started bitching. This shit did come on the back end of me going to the concert alone and having a great time. She knew I did as well because all my friends are Facebook whores and posted…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 06:31 PM
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you do you, but i would have nuked that shit. "no, you need to do >something about. the door is right there. leave, and don't come back if >you can't figure it out" I am reaching that point and honestly, I think she thought I was going to go thermo nuclear from the look on my face. There wasnt a lick of complacency in it. It was simple controlled fury. The look on her face was "oh shit I did it now". I thought I got my point across. I didnt want to overtly tell her its her problem to figure out …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 05:55 PM
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8/15/2018 6'6", 266.3 lbs., 15.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Out of the weight room for the past week and it feels like it. Went on the annual canoe/camping trip with the boys and my brother the past week. Got great workouts rowing and hiking but nothing weight related. Got back in the weight room last night and could still put up my last set that I left on but it was a fight. So an even wash is fine with me at this point. TRT is going great and I feel much bette ron the new regimen. Still feel I shoul…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 03:04 PM
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I will share some of my back story which put this into perspective for me when I discovered RP and looked back at my wifes behavior. Years ago a couple my wife and I used to hang around were swingers. We were not. The wife would always come on to me. Being the beta dipshit I was I never read the signs but my wife did. After they would leave every time my wife would fuck the shit out of me porn star style. Still clueless I would ask her why this made her so horny. She flat out would say its hot b…
/r/askMRP02/08/18 03:40 PM
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Dealing with the parenting angle. I don't have daughters, I have 3 boys. All three have completely different personalities. My middle son is your stereotypical middle kid in every way. His older brother is the consummate over achiever and has drive and determination beyond his years. His younger brother sees this and feels he can't compete therefor he carves his own niche for attention out. It seems to be by pushing my buttons and picking fights with everyone. Bad attention is as good as no atte…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 02:47 PM
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Needed to read this.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 02:38 PM
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i've come to the realization (DUH) that i should not do or say anything that makes my wife feel bad because of decisions she makes. This is a big one. She has a major hang up that anything she does or says isnt enough or good enough for me. I don't know ever in my BP history have I ever said she did anything wrong or not good enough. In fact I probably disgustingly praised her for everything. Yet somehow based on my amount of bitching about lack of sex this turned into nothing is good enough. A …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 04:39 PM
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You aren't wrong. I realized it after the fact.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 04:21 PM
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7/31/2018 6'6", 265.3 lbs., 16.1% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still lifting, Starting to plateu on nSuns program. I can say that I like the results more from higher vaolume till failure then sets of as heavy as possible. 5x5 had its place in getting me stronger but nSuns has helped me progress by leaps and bounds from where I was. I will be adding a fifth day to my workout and take rest days on Wednesdays and Sundays. i will also be adding 2 30 min sessions of HIIT to m y regimen. The fat loss isnt wher…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 03:54 PM
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Its just like choking. The object isnt to crush the larynx, its to controllingly cut off air supply so the other person starts to feel light headed and intensify sex. Do some research. I prefer to put pressure on the sides of the neck and slide the web in between my thumb and pointer finger into the area above the larynx. Apply pressure and for gods sake read facial queues.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/18 06:15 PM
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Clearly I am an idiot when it comes to letting go of the resentment. Thanks once more for the call out.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 07:01 PM
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The issue I run into is my wife suffers from ADHD. I do not have to ask her to do things, she does them for multiple reasons mainly numbers 1 and 2. The issue at hand is that once the initial dopamine hit of feeling good about doing said task wears off or in her case it wearing off in the middle of doing the task, the task gets left unfinished. It will stay that way until I either say something which comes off as being the unappreciative dictator or I finish it myself. I have tried the approach …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 03:55 PM
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If you were referring to just light talk, that is a yes also. I have nipped that in the past year also because I am typically to busy at work to have conversations. In the past it was typical BP, respond right away texting at work.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 05:44 PM
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Oh yes its how she prefers to communicate. I've said before that in the past "talks" would typically end with me blowing up so at some point she simply stopped communicating face to face. She ignores things unless it gets to a point where she has to talk and then her go to is through text because it takes that face to face interaction out of the equation. She has gotten better at this as she has seen that I don't blow up anymore and actually communicate but the PTSD of it is still there.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 05:40 PM
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So I did do something along those lines. What I was ignoring was the 12 other texts surrounding that. I wasn't trying to go into her head to try and figure out what she is thinking. She was trying to start full blown conversations while I am at the concert and with my buddy at the bar. It felt like she was untrusting of what I was doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 04:45 PM
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7/25/2018 6'6", 265.3 lbs., 16.1% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still lifting, I am hitting PRs in everything except squat. Have been sitting at 300 x 3 for 2 weeks now. It takes me a very long time to loosen my knees and lower back up to do squats. I have just been sitting aside more time for this. I try to roll out my back nightly. Got my TRT blood work back and not what I expected. Day before injection I am sitting at 610 Total T with 19.9 Free T. Both numbers are too low imo. I would like to sit aroun…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 02:56 PM
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7/10/2018 6'6", 265.5 lbs., 16.2% BF, 43 yo Physical- Lifting is going very well. I am gaining significant mass while being on TRT and my weights are going up. Still fatigued a good bit even with a good diet, enough sleep and exercise. I know dialing TRT in properly takes a good bit of time. I walked into my moms house the other day and she said, "Jesus, your shoulders are huge!!" My mother in law called me skinny and muscular in front of my wife the other day also. People are noticing and it fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 05:06 PM
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You sound like my fucking wife!!! She goes in the gym and does random shit for a week and then wonders why she isnt stronger and why its so hard. Then she quits!! 1) Find a workout plan and stick to it. Start with Stronglifts 5x5. Seriously if you have to dump the bar while its empty then so be it. Pick the thing back up the next day and do it again. You wont eventually. It is really that simple. 2) Follow a proper bulking plan. There are tons of them out there, find one. 3) Get your blood labs …
/r/askMRP16/07/18 04:58 PM
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She doesn’t respect your time so don’t give her yours.
/r/askMRP15/07/18 08:51 PM
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Short story about when my wife and I were first dating. She called me up and we were chatting. I remember saying something to the affect of wanting to fuck her. Her response was mmmm that sounds nice, but I just got my period today, but if you want to come by I can give you a blowjob. I wasn't even gaming her. Shit, I didn't even know what game was but being attractive and being the man she desires is how you get spontaneous unsolicited BJs.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 12:19 PM
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In the 20 years my wife and I have had a relationship she has never insulted me, told me to shut up or talked shit behind my back, Even when I gave her every reason to do so. Even when we were cheating on each other she wouldn't bad mouth me to anyone. Its part of the reason why I am still around. It would be so so much easier to walk away from a shrill fucking cunt like your girlfriend.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 03:04 PM
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I agree about the date nights and foot rubs shit. The advice for dealing with your wife is straight shit. He advises to be vulnerable 24/7, setup date nights and use your phone to send appreciation texts. Garbage but I get what he was saying as far as dealing with other relationships and the way I read it was like having OI and playing your nice card. I think he was badly explaining don’t let other people fuck you up, Don’t give people the power of affecting your emotions and you holding on to r…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 11:56 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I will give it a shot. The phone is her buffer and shield to initiation.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 05:54 PM
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7/10/2018 6'6", 265.5 lbs., 16.2% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still lifting nSuns and going to be switching that up as soon as I plateau on most of the lifts. Struggling with finishing reps on Bench and Squat so I imagine I will hit a wall here shortly and adjust. I will say that I have gone down a belt notch but gained about 5lbs in the past 3 weeks while on TRT. I would guess its mostly water weight but I came upstairs yesterday and my wife looked at me and said "Jesus Christ, you are massive!!!", I p…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 04:42 PM
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Well to be fair, I’ve had threesomes with her back in the day with other girls and it’s part of the reason why the relationship became a dumpster fire. BP self got wrapped up in the other girl and the other girl was BPD and looking for a new provider.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 04:14 PM
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This isn’t anything new for her and it was said completely joking. In our best sexual times she’d make comments like this. She used to be a very sexually open person with me. My positive reaction to it is her opening the door to sexual conversation again. I don’t think for one second she’d actually do anything with this girl. For the record the low libido comment she made is a crock of shit. I don’t believe it for a second but it’s her rationalization. Who knows, maybe she is prepping herself to…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 03:06 PM
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7/3/2018 6'6", 260.5 lbs., 16.2% BF, 43 yo Physical- Lifting with nSuns still and its still working. Doing cardio for 30 min 2x a week in addition to lifting 4x a week. Looking much better overall and feeling better now that I am on TRT. Need to get things dialed in as I am not feeling like I am optimized yet. Not feeling the benefits that others have touted in the energy department. I am not on a very high dose right now and I am having labs done on Thursday. Once I get those labs back I will t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 05:28 PM
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You are right. I never truly knew what I wanted till I started to look at everything this past 1.5 years. I figured out what I wanted for every aspect of my life but not my marriage. I was so shell shocked by what has happened to me the past 5 years that I didn't really understand what a good marriage was or what I wanted in one. At this point I think all I need to be happy in my marriage is sex, loyalty, some food and some appreciation from time to time. Other then that I can take care of mysel…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 08:19 PM
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You forgot faggot.
/r/askMRP28/06/18 01:55 AM
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This is one of my biggest obstacles. Subcommunication with my wife. I completely understand it, execution however is my issue. I lead a team of guys at work, in other relationships and am looked up to in many many areas. My wife however is the sphinx for me sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 02:14 PM
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You have a burden of performance, but she can't just get a participation trophy for being basic wife. She has that "can't trust you" crutch that she can lean on that prevents growth. This is something I think about a lot and this looks like this is her MO. MITW linked the trifecta idea from weakandsensitive and this was a spot on example of what I think is going on. Shes a great mother and wife but not a girlfriend. On the flip side also, I have been improving as a boyfriend but not completely t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 02:02 PM
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Thanks for the example and taking the time to dig it up. Vision and narrative with sex between us is off the rails. I try to logic and problem solve and shit just gets shut down. This is a slow slow change for me. I am past the point of letting myself get frustrated and flustered and explode but still find myself not being succinct and STFU in this regard. This narrative happened way to soon and came form a place of frustration not of me wanting to genuinely share my vision. The edit link was sp…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 01:56 PM
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The link you posted was a good read. I have eluded to this sort of thing in the past to her. The "I understand you arent in the mood this exact second but when you let yourself its always a good time." narrative. I've stated this before in my posts. When it gets to the point of sex it is great. She lets me do whatever I want, its dirty talk etc. Its getting it there is the problem. I look on that site also and this was a good article which seems to be more along the lines of what is happening. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 01:42 PM
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Yeah, I was responsive during her texts but just logistical and short. At this point I’m not even angry or upset. I’m just completely apathetic to it all right now. She did elaborate more this evening and said that she just has no libido. I responded with, let’s be clear about that. You don’t have any libido for me, but I’m glad you know what the problem is. Maybe you should start by getting rid of your Mirana and took my son to football. And you are spot on about her talking about the business.…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 02:24 AM
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Man, you really wrote some shit I needed to hear. I am in that boat now and the past three weeks I have been really questioning if its worth it.
/r/askMRP26/06/18 08:24 PM
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I want to chime in here. I wasn't involved in the PUA stuff, it was completely new to me when I found MRP. The little I learned has helped me catch and release when I want. Thats great for building abundance mentality and OI with my wife. The thing is I came here to save my marriage and found out how to save myself. RZD is spot on, I know for a fact I could go out right now and fuck someone but I choose not to for multiple reasons, one of which is I want to be a better man. I don't give two fuck…
/r/askMRP26/06/18 08:04 PM
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6/22/2018 6'6", 263.5 lbs., 16.8% BF, 43 yo Short week since I posted late last week. Physical- Started back on nSuns and have added some accessory work to the normal program. Not seeing the huge enrgy gains I expected with TRT but in the grand scheme of things I am on a pretty tame dosage to start with at only 140mg split to 70mg every 3 to 4 days. I will most likely bump up to 200mg after my next labs come back. I am making gains in the gym as all my weights have been upped in recent weeks and…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 03:40 PM
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but come'on how many dudes are going to drive away from a threesome? Exactly, I remember my wife bringing it up and thinking wtf, women shouldn't be like this but at the same time thinking that I was literally walking into every Hustler mag story I ever read. It is crazy though thinking back on it all and looking at it through an RP lens and seeing everything for what it was and the outcomes. I am not dwelling in the past at all. The past is the past but man there are a lot of kick myself in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/18 06:08 PM
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with the history of cheating, this is not too surprising. if you think it would do any good (i have my doubts) you could always go in with some power talk stating that you're not fucking anyone else YET. in other words, FMoFY I think this is solid advice but I think it will be better received stating how MITW put it and with a MAP in place to really make sure I am not the issue before it gets to that next level. never "normal" is no good at all. you sound like captain save a ho . . . sorry but t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/18 04:53 PM
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I have to agree with you also. I do not have a plan or a MAP to resolve this. I have other aspects of myself and my family laid out and on the right track but this area is definitely just flapping in the wind. I appreciate you taking the time to put those steps in and I have to say they I agree with them completely. I thing between what you and RDZ and Perseus have said really is the path I should be following on this. I think there is a lot of damage here between the 2 of us that needs put in t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/18 02:52 PM
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I have to agree with you. I don’t really get it either. It seemed things started going south again around January and have really tanked in the past two months. I haven’t left anything out of my OYS. The only thing that seems reoccurring from her side that she has overtly stated and which still seems to hurt her is the texts I received from the girl at work which she saw and my nonchalant attitude about her feelings toward it. Second, my OPSEC in the past. She has brought this back up several ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/18 09:20 PM
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6/22/2018 6'6", 263.5 lbs., 16.8% BF, 43 yo Late on this OYS but wanted to get one in. Was on vacation all week and disconnected from the internet. Wanted to get out some observations form this week. Physical- Skipped my usual nSuns routine this week just because of a beach vacation. Stayed at a pretty decent resort and found the gym immediately after checking in and getting settled. It was a nice gym with dumbells and an Cybex universal machine which allowed me to do everything I need but legs.…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/18 04:48 PM
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I try, my windows of opportunity are small. I usually get a shot at some point when I get home from work and then the other opportunity is bedtime which is hit or miss and I have stayed away from that just because there is zero chance of bouncing at that point without screaming butthurt. I dont initiate outside of bed time just for the sake of doing it but if I truly want sex. Typically we are both busy as shit and really going out of my way to initiate feels really forced.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 07:02 PM
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One thing I have seen here time and time again is that anyone who says that they have no butthurt at all over a sexual rejection is absolutely projecting butthurt. It may not be mental - you may not be thinking butthurt thoughts. But women can sense it in your body language and the tone of your voice, even if (especially if) you're consciously avoiding it. You may be right on this. My wife has overtly stated on more then one occasion how she has been conditioned for me to immediately get butthur…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 06:39 PM
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I appreciate you digging this up. I needed to read this!! This really put some things in perspective. I actually liked this comment more then anything on the post. I wrote it as someone who has had a lot of experience with DL4 ( meaning I had a lot of trial and error, which inspired this post). It is also where I struggled the most so I wanted to impart my thoughts for those who are just starting to dabble here. For me, proper implementation of DL4 does two things that enable you to develop true…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 05:07 PM
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lack of subconscious butthurt and passive-aggressive retaliation if you threw off the usual family schedule. The dinner schedule didn't get messed up. I typically make dinner or delegate what I had planned. This was a grasp at straws to make me feel guilty about leaving. Sounds a bit forced, like living a sit-com script. Are you trying too hard, so that it comes across as forced, unnatural, desperate, or as some kind of inauthentic game just to get into her pants? Sure sounds like it, the way yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 02:29 PM
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I want to clarify some things simply because this is a huge sticking point for me obviously and I want to get the proper advice. I will give an example of one initiation. I get home from work, wife is on the computer. I let her talk about her day for 20 min. I tease her during, she calls me an asshole adn we laugh. I give her a kiss, do some kino etc. and go talk to the kids some and change. Come back down, kino some more and the kids go outside to play. Kids go out and I kiss her neck and tell …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 12:28 PM
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I would say I am definitely the idea guy and I initially delegated until my wife got traction. I want to stay involved in the business simply because if this takes off it could eventually be a replacement to my current job. I have the knowledge to start and maintain the business but would like to see my wife handle most of it since I have a primary job plus side business 1 taking off. Absolutely agree about the agreements. No question those will be drawn up. Right now we are in the development p…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 12:10 PM
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6/13/2018 6'6", 263.5 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- 3.5 weeks into TRT and starting to feel some benefits. From the physical aspect I am starting to have more energy although I do find myself sluggish at times. Doc wanted me to take .125mg AI twice a week to counter e2 production. I found that when I really supress my e2 my moods are all over the place. I asked about halfing that weekly dosage to once and the doc that should be fine till my next blood work. Still lifting at least 5 times a wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 06:21 PM
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No we arent going to BWCA. I live on the East Coast and we go in the Shenandoah National Park. This trip has been a tradition of my brother and I for nearly 20 years. It used to be him and I and all our friends and has evolved into a trip with my boys. He only has a daughter who he brought in the past but she is older now. I love the trip and allow my boys to do what they want and be boys. They love to say "what happens on the canoe trip stays on the canoe trip." It is a solid 30 mile trip, load…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 07:20 PM
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I agree with you. This is a tough one for me. My father never talked about his feelings. He was a nice guy through and through. My grandfather was alpha as fuck and never expressed any emotion other then furious retribution. My mother is a highly unaffectionate woman who was bitter that kids wrecked her body until she found Jesus and then beat me over the head with religion. Expressing feelings is a hard thing for me. None of that means I can’t or won’t change just that this is a tougher thing t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 11:26 PM
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6/5/2018 6'6", 263.5 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Lifting is still going. 2.5 weeks into TRT and I can see a change in energy and mood. Added a 5th day of lifting to my regimen. I need to start getting more specific in areas of my upper body. It was clearly the weakest from the beginning and I am getting the raw strength where i want. Now I want to start working on specific muscle groups. I am still make small gains on nSuns but I can see I am about to get to a plateau spot and will be workin…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 08:25 PM
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Be careful with this thought process. Own YOUR Shit not her shit. Do the dishes, the laundry etc. because it needs done, not because you might get laid. Also, for shits sake don’t tell your wife about it looking for a gold star.
/r/askMRP04/06/18 01:34 AM
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Again do whatever you want. Fuck a fleet of hookers if that’s what you need. Just do it for you and not validation and neediness. Flirting, catchy and release all builds OI and confidence. When you see that you can get the number of a girl twice as hot as your wife it takes the sting out of that no a lot more. Don’t fucking be overt about this shit either. Women aren’t dumb they can see when another girl is giving you IOIs. They also see you becoming a better man also. Don’t be overt about flirt…
/r/askMRP03/06/18 09:40 PM
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MRP is amoral. Do what you want. The meaning behind it at least for here is to be the type of man that has options all the time. Don’t settle, and be the type of man that if you had to burn your shit to the ground tomorrow you could go fuck someone else that day.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 09:22 PM
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Spot on man, spot on. Back to work I go. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/18 06:35 PM
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One of the things I am lacking and am trying to get over is that constant comparison of myself and the other guy. Sometimes I feel like I have a covert contract with myself that I need to become better then him and honestly I have never even met him.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/18 06:18 PM
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Thanks for this response. I have read FA but did not know that back ground on his relationship. I feel the same way about him being naive but have always appreciated his optimism. You are spot on about the over thinking, lack of irrational self confidence etc. with me. I have always been this way and old habits die hard. I can list a hundred reasons why I am/was that way but they don't matter, what matters is getting out of that mindset and developing myself. Just a little audacity (both definit…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/18 06:16 PM
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I agree completely with this assessment. One of the biggest issues I have been carrying around is my insecurity and trust issues. She’s done nothing since then to even hint at a repeat. The ego and insecurity is completely what is at play here. She knows cheating again is a deal breaker and I am fully in the mind set to walk if that’s what happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 11:20 PM
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5/30/2018 6'6", 263.5 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Lifting is still going. I need to do a good bit of stretching beforehand just to get warmed up. TRT is 3 shots in and no issues. Haven't felt any benefits yet but I also know it takes a few weeks before the benefits start kicking in. I will say that my hormones are all over the place. Memorial Day I ate way to much shit. Need to get back on track this week. Mental- Still have anxiety and it is impacting my frame. Total bullshit and I have to …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 07:01 PM
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You can't control what other people do, only how you react to them. Fix what is in your power to fix...yourself.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 05:48 PM
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5/23/2018 6'6", 263.5 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Lifting is still going. Nothing new to report except I am doing a PR every time I step in the rack now. My stats are Squat - 310, Dead - 325, OHP - 160, Bench - 230 . Still low numbers for someone my size but I can't rush this. I have too many injuries and am 43. I need to stay lifting not blow out an O ring and lose progress. Started TRT yesterday. I am on TRT and HCG with an AI after the Clomid experiment. Shots are split up TRT/HCG twice p…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 07:25 PM
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It's like there is this mental block that she has, or she feels compelled to control SOME dynamic of our relationship. Either that, or she truly does not desire me the way that I feel is worthy of my commitment. The mental block is you doing this for all the wrong reasons. I can smell the covert contract through my monitor. You don't deserve anything. If you want her to fuck you like that then read SMG and DEVI her. If its always been this way since you first met then why the fuck would you thin…
/r/askMRP18/05/18 08:28 PM
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Look man, you get into a relationship with anyone and you have to ask yourself and know what your non-negotiable items are and then dont fucking negotiate them. As soon as you do those goal posts get moved back and the other person knows they can keep moving them back because you wont do a fucking thing about it. I realized this after a lot of my boundaries had been crossed with no repercussions. If she brings this up again your only statement should be, " OK have fun, imma call Dave?", "Whos Da…
/r/askMRP18/05/18 08:06 PM
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again, nothing but feelz. don't read anything into. besides, why do you >even care. Good point. It is all ego here. I lied alot to her and it was a major part of my unattractiveness with her. Lots of hurt. This is a total covert contract. I want her to see me as someone who tells the truth and that statement hit me as knowing she still doesn't. I shouldn't care cause she may never see me as that person or attractive and that isn't my problem anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/18 02:41 PM
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Agree completely, I think back to times when I stammered and apologized for my actions even when they weren't malicious and I didn't do anything wrong. Fucking pathetic and even when you aren't guilty it makes you look guilty.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/18 12:29 PM
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5/17/2018 6'6", 263.5 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still lifting minimum of 4 times a week using nSuns. I am seeing good progress and I reserve two of the three rest days for HIIT on the treadmill. Stopped using Clomid and my T took a shit and kind of sent me into an anxiety spiral this week. I will touch more on that below. I had the consult with my doc and got TRT setup. I will be doing 70mg Cyp twice a week with 400 iu of HCG at the same time. Blood work done 60 days later to check levels,…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 06:22 PM
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The foyer and hallway in our house is empty except one painting. My wife has been saying she wants the kids sports photos hung in the foyer for over a year now but she cant make a decision to save her life. My wife also plays roller derby and recently made the All Star team. I had prints made of her in her first bout, had the kids frame them, then had prints made of all the kids doing their sports and framed those. Wife had practice Sunday morning. The kids and I hung all the framed pics while s…
/r/askMRP14/05/18 02:32 PM
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That's what I was thinking also but this is new territory for me at this point. There is so much disinformation our there in the health industry. Sometimes I think the scale is a bigger enemy then anything else.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/18 06:40 PM
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One of the biggest things I have learned through all of this is that I can’t control anyone else except me. Upset is optional.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 09:16 PM
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5/8/2018 6'6", 264.5 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Making good gains on the nSuns program. I am going to stick with this until the gains stop. The weight loss is a sticking point for me though. I am clearly gaining muscle and definition in my arms, legs, shoulders and chest. I finally have veins pop in my lower bicep and elbow area. However my weight isnt going down or up. It is complete flatline which could mean a body recomp, which I am ok with. I am more concerned with fat %. I havent had a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 04:20 PM
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5/1/2018 6'6", 264.2 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Righted the lifting ship this past week only to pull my abductor doing deadlifts and had to stop. Very frustrating and lesson learned. I lifted to heave on squats two days prior and was very sore.Combine that with an unusual early morning lifting session and not enouh stretching and boom. I know better and was in a a hurry. Never again. Its fine now but had to rest for a couple days. Had a consult with a urologist to go over TRT stuff and he b…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 03:46 PM
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This is a tough topic for me as I have greatly upgraded my style in the past year. My issue is my size. I am a big mother fucker and always have been. 6'6" and 255. Wide shoulders, barrel chest and no ass and huge muscular thighs. Brick and mortar stores don't carry anything that fits except for the Big and Tall Shops and those are shit styles in there for the most part. I would love to know of any online stores that the bigger guys on here shop at.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/18 08:36 PM
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Agree completely and thanks for the analysis. I do appreciate the insight you give me even though you have to beat me over the head with the truth a couple times before it sinks in.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/18 12:29 PM
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I can agree with that. In the past I would barf out any feeling that came into my head and try to talk things out and go in circles and get frustrated that she wouldn't see my side etc. This is a large change in dynamic for her and me for that matter. Its a changed mindset for me that I am still trying to get used to.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 08:00 PM
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I guess this is the problem I am trying to tackle. I thought my narrative was clear and she was all on board with her role and still is. I think the narrative is clear to her but she cant get past her hesitations and trust my changes. I am comforting her but what /u/RuleZeroDAD said is spot on though. I get in my head and dwell on the past to define my present. I have this covert contract (maybe expectation is a better word) I need to kill with how I want my future to look and if it doesnt look …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 04:42 PM
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Awesome analysis. Thanks you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 04:18 PM
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4/24/2018 6'6", 264.2 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Slacked off on lifting last week. Just an insanely busy week at my job, side business starting up and extra curriculars. Got back into it this week already and won't let it happen any time soon again. Still seeing progress lifting. Still waiting on Clomid test results and future course of action. Mental- Still working on the side business and moving forward. Received the sample products and so far like what I see. I will be moving forward wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 04:00 PM
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If you need to read some whores post on why she fucked Kevin in accounting to stay motivated, there are bigger issues to tackle.
/r/askMRP21/04/18 01:37 PM
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I am going to respond to the snooping aspect of this. I was going to write in the other thread on snooping but here is as good as any. This is coming from my own experience. You can read my back story if you want but plain and simply before MRP my wife cheated on me. I am still with her for several reasons. Let me tell you I had no clue it was happening. In hindsight I should have and all the signs were there but I was too beta to see them. I snooped, boy did I snoop and I tell you right now it …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 07:21 PM
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But you cannot control (or be responsible for) someone else's emotions or actions. Those are on them. This was a huge turning point for me. The day I realized that I can voice my opinion in a civilized manner and she doesn't have to like it and I don't have to give a fuck that she doesn't like it. In the past I was afraid of my wifes emotions and how she would react. That would then lead to me not doing what I wanted, getting resentful and eventually blowing up the place with pent up frustration…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 06:53 PM
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To be fair and play Devil's Advocate here, you would be surprised how hard it is for a lot of guys on here to say no to shit. I know I was in that boat. The "nice guy" has this driving urge to keep the water calm, not make waves and keep everyone happy at the expensive of his wants and needs. Learning to say no to shit I actually didn't want to do was a very big point in my journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 02:49 PM
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4/18/2018 6'6", 264.2 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing nSuns and making great progress. I really enjoy this program. Got my follow up blood work done for Clomid and waiting on the results. Regardless of results I am not happy with what I am seeing. Generally a better mood but I can't tell if thats the Clomid or just the new normal for me. My energy is definitely up. My libido however is in the shitter and all over the place. Theres been 1 day I could fuck like a jack rabbit and then a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 01:17 PM
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I second this whole heartedly. Use a product called Cremo, far superior to regular shaving cream. Yes there is a world of difference. They all are not the same. Don't skimp.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 05:25 PM
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Side note on Number 5. If your teeth are to sensitive for whitening strips use coconut husk charcoal powder. You can buy it on amazon for dirt cheap and it works just as well as the strips with out the bleach sensitivity and burn. The stuff is amazing. Just a word of caution that it is messy and looks like you ate a shit sandwich while you are using it. Make sure you brush over the sink.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 05:22 PM
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To be completely honest no but on the same token I really haven’t initiated much at all. The Clomid has really tanked my libido. My energy is great and I am doing a million different things but I haven’t had a real strong desire to fuck. I’m still kinoing and gaming and but I’ve probably only initiated 2 times in the past two weeks which were both successful.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 03:28 AM
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Thanks, pants are still good to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 05:24 PM
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4/11/2018 6'6", 265.2 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing nSuns and making great progress. Still gianing weight but fat% has not gone up. Can't tell if this is water retention from Clomid or Creatine or actual muscle gain. Probably some muscle and a lot of water. Added Tabata treadmill work to my lifting. I wake up at 6 do cardio and then lift after work. Wife is at a solid point where she knows lifting doesnt get interrupted unless the house is burning down. Surprisingly she is still li…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 05:18 PM
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I will chime in with my 2 cents but you have already gotten an earful here. I used to smoke weed all through my 20s and early 30s. I still smoke it occasionally now. By occasionally I mean 1 or 2 times a month. I liked it but it was never my thing. I liked uppers way more. I don't have anything negative to say about weed but this. Weed makes it ok to be bored. My motivation was sucked dry every time I smoked weed. If you are looking for the beneficial side effects of weed then check out CBD oil.…
/r/askMRP10/04/18 01:27 PM
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This is really where I struggle some days. I have always been a big mother fucker and I use the formula of .75g of protein per pound of LEAN body mass to calculate my protein intake. For me that comes out to between 180-190g of protein a day. When I eat, everything I put in my mouth has protein in it and is usually low on carbs. I have learned to love a lot of foods that I never would have thought about eating previously and I have learned to get creative in the kitchen with others. My lunch wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 06:20 PM
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I am doing 16:8 seven days a week. I eat from noon until 8PM everyday. I eat roughly 30% of my calories at noon and then the remainder after I lift. I typically lift around 5PM. I try to eat at least 200g of protein but this fluctuates. It really was a no brainer for me since I usually skipped breakfast anyway. The biggest issue I had was not putting creamer in my coffee but in the grand scheme of things who fucking cares.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 03:45 PM
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I have lost weight (but still dad bod) and built a life for myself. Ignored the rest of the post. Seriously get rid of the dad bod and I am willing to bet sex during the week suddenly exists. This is Dread Level 1 shit man, come on. Shit or get off the pot.
/r/askMRP03/04/18 08:01 PM
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4/03/2018 6'6", 263.2 lbs., 16.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing nSuns 5/3/1 4 days a week and really like it still. Much more involved and less standing around then SL 5x5. Started Clomid last week and don't really feel any different in the fatigue, energy area. I have read mixed reviews on Clomid and most of them have been negative. I can't say that I feel either way yet but again I am only 1 week in. Still doing IF and keeping my calories in a 500-600 calorie deficit. Eating close to 200g of…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 07:10 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. Hindsight is always 20/20. This breakdown put the interaction in perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 11:20 AM
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3/27/2018 6'6", 257.7 lbs., 17.0% BF, 43 yo Physical- Started nSuns last week and love it. Way more of a cardio heart pumping workout the SL. I have discovered that I love lifting but really need to sweat to feel accomplished in my workout. Starting Clomid for one month and getting my blood work done 4 weeks from now while still on Clomid. Not entirely expecting any results from it but not staying close minded. If this does not work I will be going to TRT regardless of what my GP says or does wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 06:25 PM
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Yeah You’re right. One of the hardest things I had to learn so far is that there isn’t a magic bullet for any of this. There’s no if I say this at this exact time it will fix everything and I’ll never have to deal with that particular problem again. That one comment I made was a result of me pushing the boundary and building my frame nail by nail. By me building my IDGAF and OI. I didn’t wake up one day and decided welp today’s the day I have frame. I woke up and said today’s the day I start bui…
/r/askMRP26/03/18 09:28 PM
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You need to figure out an AM to this. Is she hotter then me? Yeah, but I bet she can't do that thing with her tongue. Fill in with whatever inside joke you guys might have. This weekend my wife was putting on a sweatshirt and it shrunk in the dryer. I see her stretching it out as shes putting it on and I am laughing at her cause shes getting stuck etc. She looks at me and says, "I wouldn't have this trouble if someone hadn't put this in the dryer", immediately followed by "I am also getting fat.…
/r/askMRP26/03/18 08:09 PM
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3/20/2018 6'6", 257.7 lbs., 17.0% BF, 43 yo Physical- Switched to n Suns 4 day 531 LP lifting program this week. I want to see how it goes simply because I needed to do something without as many squats and is a change of scenery but still has all the big 4 lifts in it. Met with my GP and she was willing to sign off on my TRT script but only after the protocol for insurance is followed first. She wants me to see a urologist and get a sleep study done and try Clomid first. At this point I am thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 03:45 PM
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Understood
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 04:49 PM
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OK I see what you are saying and I can see your point. Since this is an OYS and I am being truthful, yeah old habits die hard but they are dying none the less. Just not as fast as I would like. I still find myself doing beta shit sometimes to get the validation from her especially since she has shut down, etc. I went into the double down on the plow horse beta behavior prior to MRP. I realize that was the entirely wrong approach and I would say 75% of the time now I catch myself as or before I a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 04:46 PM
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Afterward, my wife thanked me for handling everything and said she >appreciated it all. This line was meant about the talk with my son. I personally think this is the responsibility of the father to do and truthfully I wouldn't want my wife to talk to him about it. She can chime in but I do not want her leading that conversation. The work issue is going to get resolved period. This is a boundary at this point. I can visibly see her stressing about it and I know why she hasnt told me until now. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 04:11 PM
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Not saying this is it but something to look at is your Sciatic nerve. I say this because you were seated in a car for such a long time and this happens to me a lot. The pressure from the edge of the seat into the back of your leg in the hamstring area combined with the lack of lumbar support is a recipe for Sciatic issues. Dont rule it out.
/r/askMRP13/03/18 06:37 PM
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3/13/2018 6'6", 257.7 lbs., 17.0% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing SL 5x5 but seriosuly considering switching it an SNUNS program at this point. Mainly because I really feel the pressure from doing squats every other day even with rest. My goal is to get strong and look strong but to do that i need to be lifting. I dont want to gring my body down. Any intermediate program suggestions? Consult with my GP on Thursday this week to see if they will get on board. I am being optimistic but will be goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:12 PM
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I am currently working with Defy Medical and they are amazing. What I am trying to do is get my GP to prescribe the scrips and labs and use Defy for the actual consults and refining. If I can get insurance to pay for it I will. That’s the only reason I am getting GP involved.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/18 06:30 PM
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On it now, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 09:17 PM
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Yeah you can read my reply below on what I used to do. Formula for skinny fat. I still like to run but not at the expense of lifting. Cardio has its place. I realized the comfort test as soon as the words were coming out of her mouth and I kind of suspected this was the reasoning for her lack of sex for some time. I made sure I rewarded and comforted her for this without going overboard like I absolutely would have in the past. The compliments from the friends wives was a shock for me and I have…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 09:08 PM
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haha this is great. It was a mind fuck for me because one of the biggest things she bitched about during our time with a counselor was how she doesnt have say and how I ignore what she wants and how I invade her boundaries. Lose 60lbs., flirt with other girls and get compliments from friends wives and suddenly its not so big of an issue. Hmmmm
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 09:03 PM
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I have been lifting off and on for years since college so I have a good base but got fat and lazy in all ways. 4 years ago I decided to get back in shape and started running and lifting with dumbbells. I was too scared to really up my weights. I lost about 60lbs. from that and then got lazy again when I moved into my new house. I achieved the BP dream and ate as celebration. So currently doing 5x5 SL and these are my lifts that I have completed 5 reps on. I have been doing this for a year as of …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 09:00 PM
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3/6/2018 6'6", 257.7 lbs., 17.1% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing SL 5x5 and progressing. Having some failures in area but still breaking through now that my form is solid. Keeping an eye on lower back pain and knowing my limits. Consult with my GP next week on TRT. I am hoping to get scrips and labs through my GP and consults with my clinic. I am fully prepared to do some arm twisting to make this happen, as I intend to go forward with it regardless. I want to make sure all my options and avenue…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 05:07 PM
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Both. I’d ideally like to fuck her. I’m certainly giving her first crack. I’ve cheated on her, I’ve been down that road. I’d like to think I’m in a completely different mind set to cheat now then the other times I have. It’s not my plan at this point anyway. Why am I letting it affect my situation? Good question. The sexual bipolar bullshit is what throws me off. She will literally be a slut for me in bed and let me do anything and then nada for weeks. It’s almost like she reels me in and then g…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 02:12 AM
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Not making it a thing? It isn't. /u/man_in_the_world hit on a couple things last week that are true though but also have me confused. I am initiating because I want to fuck not for validation but at the same time I am fixated on regular sex being the goal line to success because thats really the only thing lacking in our relationship at this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 09:16 PM
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That was this week, not the past 3 before that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 09:04 PM
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fuck your wife ffs Would love too!! What I am getting hung up on is not making it a "thing". Her words not mine. At this point she is the one making it a thing and she has admitted she feels guilty when she doesn't give me sex but yet continues to withhold it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 09:00 PM
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Noted, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 08:55 PM
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2/27/2018 6'6", 257.6 lbs., 17.0% BF, 43 yo Physical- Heavily leaning on starting TRT and skipping Clomid. I have been talking to several people about my options and have been getting generally good advice. This may be irrational but I have this long term thought that I will get locked into a clinic and not be able to get Test Cyp down the road if it gets banned. I realize this is just me overthinking. Lifting is still going well. The sports league I was in is over as of last week. Came in 3rd o…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 07:45 PM
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Sting ring
/r/askMRP25/02/18 03:24 PM
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My wife does the same thing to an extent. She is all into the Law of Attraction shit and it makes me want to puke. She sends me videos all the time about this and that which usually has to do with relationship things. I watch them for a couple reasons. One, I am open minded regardless and am always willing to learn or see someone elses side. Two, I am still interested in knowing what my wife is into even if I dont participate, care or otherwise GAF. Third, I like to see what she sends me or says…
/r/askMRP22/02/18 09:05 PM
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2/13/2018 6'6", 257.6 lbs., 17.0% BF, 43 yo Physical- Consult with the doc for TRT went well. I am a candidate but was given many options that I am trying to decide on. My 3 options are Clomid and an AI(if needed), Tamoxifen or TRT with an HCG. I am not looking for an easy button here and want to make sure I am exhausting other options before I decide to go on a life long regiment. I do not have full blown HG but have low T and low E2. Mental- Still working on passive income ideas and found an a…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 03:40 PM
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Touché
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 10:22 PM
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2/13/2018 6'6", 257.6 lbs., 17.0% BF, 43 yo Physical- This is going well and cruising along. I am going with Defy Medical for my TRT consult. I have done my research and have a few concerns that I will address during the consult. Mainly, getting my GP on board to fill the scrips for me and saving some money. Another concern of my is my sex drive going up. I am getting the quality of sex I want but nothing near the quantity I want. I have never had an issue with sex drive so a concern if that I a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 08:37 PM
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Look at her and say, "Oh good it's just you. I thought this sushi went bad. Hi."
/r/askMRP13/02/18 06:33 PM
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So this is one of a few concerns I have about starting TRT. I went to a GP (female) and was told you’re getting old, it’s part of the process. There aren’t many outlets for TRT where I live and did a lot of research on my own. Finally found a specialist who would treat symptoms and not just sex drive (that’s fine and has never been an issue). Got my blood panel done and while I know there are many variables in having low T which were part of the panel, my free T came back 380 which isn’t conside…
/r/askMRP11/02/18 04:16 PM
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This right here. I was listening to JBP on Joe Rogans podcast and my wife listened in. She is a Law of Attraction believer. Shit makes me want to puke honestly. She said why is he always talking about life being hard and suffering, its so depressing. I said you are missing the point. No one is handed anything and humans are a giant ball of need. Life is hard, it is hard to do anything worth while in life, the joy needs to come from the process because there will always be another goal after you …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 02:41 PM
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This is more of questions by doctors etc. she is always covered in bruises. However more to the point of my demeanor. Yes I am the quiet type and introverted. Making strides to break out of that and change my personality. That’s a tough mental shift to make.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 10:44 PM
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She will make the team, she’s good enough. However she is 39 going on 40 and derby is not kind to the body at all. She’s gotten asked on more then one occasion if she feels safe at home. Especially when people see my size. I think more-so the issue with her is what’s her plan when she needs to step away from derby. This will be an interesting thing for her to sort out because when I was at my worst of being a useless drunk Captain was when she found derby and if you know nothing else about it ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 10:30 PM
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2/6/2018 6'6", 257.7 lbs., 17.1% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing SL 5x5 and finally got back to the weight on squats I was at when my knee went south, 285 lbs. Taking it slow, improving my form and listening to my body have all really helped me feel great and I am pushing on. I am beginning to embrace the fact that I am a fucking giant and can command the room. One comment I got from my wife this week was after lifting one night she looked at me and said "Jesus, if you get really ripped you will…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 09:06 PM
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I understand completely what you are saying. This is the balance I am trying to find between jumping up right away because I am afraid of a bad mood and missing my captains duties.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 06:53 PM
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I am going to just say that this is truth. /u/man_in_the_world has told me a lot of harsh realities in the past 10 months I have been here. Hear what he is saying! I did the beta dread bullshit and it dug me in a further hole and made her hate me more. It looks and is immature. One of the first things as a newbie I and now you need to realize is NO ONE GIVES A FUCK about you but you. Control your butthurt!!
/r/askMRP31/01/18 01:11 PM
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Absolutely used the wrong wording there. I cringed as soon as I reread it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 12:27 AM
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1/30/2018 6'6", 257.7 lbs., 17.1% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing SL 5x5 and improving. Nothing crazy in this area this week. Slowly losing weight still. Getting a little discouraged at the pace of it but its still steps in the right direction. I still catch myself eating like a dick on the weekends and stop. Its easy to stay in a routine but the real work is adapting when that routine is broken and you have to plan ahead and think on the fly about not putting shit in your face. Mental- So one t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 08:46 PM
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Haha thanks for the laugh. I have been told I am girthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 04:33 PM
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Haha thanks for the laugh. I have been told I am girthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 04:30 PM
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I am situationaly autistic still but getting better daily at not being a retard. It actually amazes me now that I used to be afraid of my wifes emotions. I can tell when I am feeling confident and DGAF that my game is better and I interact with people well and stand tall. Problem with me is still that it isnt all the time. It hasn't become internalized completely yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 01:55 PM
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This is hilarious and the answer to everything in your comment is just recently. I realized about 6 months ago after just starting MRP that I was coasting at work. Sure I knock work out of the park and always have. I am loved by my directors but never became one. I manage a team of guys that constantly kills it but I was never assertive enough to ask for what I wanted. That changed in a meeting with my boss one day when he told me “I wasn’t living up to expectations”. This was a new boss from a …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 01:08 AM
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1/23/2018 6'6", 257.9 lbs., 17.2% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing SL 5x5 and improving. Nothing crazy in this area this week. Waiting on lab work for T blood test and chiro is scheduled and treatment starts this week. I will say that my middle son has started lifting with me since we got a Precor S3.21 machine (free from lazy cousin). Encouraging him to come with me and bonding. Wife has started buying healther items now when she goes to the store and was very excited to show me all th healthy s…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 08:13 PM
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I used to think her snooping on my phone was some kind of transgression. Its not a boundary I set and me getting shitty about it is me diving into her frame. Escalating just makes you look guilty. Now I look at it as a barometer of where I am. I honestly don't care, I have nothing to hide. Its dread and her hamster and it makes me smile.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 03:53 PM
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Update: I was going to save this for next week but since it is in the context of these comments I will update. So it turns out the unusual behavior was due to some dread combined with a feeling of being disrespected. Trying to keep it short, rare occasion kids weren't home yesterday. We were having a great talk, there was a pause and a great opportunity to initiate so I did. I immediately got the stop, get off of me. It stung, but I smiled and stayed for a minute and talked to her and then went …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 06:21 PM
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Thanks and I think you are right. We are married 18 years and together 23. For a short while we were going to marriage counseling (Pre-RP) and this was the most she ever opened up about anything that had happened between us. She isnt a talker at all. She doesnt engage in talks. This i feel she has learned from relational PTSD from how I used to act. When she would try to talk to me about things I would go on the defensive and get angry etc. So she just completely shut down.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 07:41 PM
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I would think the first statement you made to probably be it. I have told her she has a phat ass many many times. She actually is proud of it and its her "thing" especially when having sex I will tell her to stick that phat ass up in the air and she complies with a smile. This is what is confusing to me. Is there such a think as being sexually bipolar? I get having to warm a girl up with kino and game etc. but sometimes I feel like she is all over the map as to what she wants to hear and do at t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 06:56 PM
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1/16/2018 6'6", 258.2 lbs., 17.7% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing SL 5x5 and improving. I am starting to see definition in my arms again after 20 years. It feels good. Went and had some blood work done for my doctor to have my T levels checked and waiting on the results. It feels good to get that ball rolling. I dont suspect low T but wanted to get it checked regardless. Started treatment with the chiropractor as well to deal with the leg issues. Chrio assures me I dont have anything that he can…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 04:03 PM
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This is what I have been doing. I don't go on the feels rant anymore. I just STFU and keep working. What I am running into is this stalemate between us. There is this underlying tension. When I get hit with the "whats wrong?" my typical response is simply, "Nothing, you ok?" to which I usually get an exasperated "Yup, I am good." but the body language reads anything but. Now I am not going to guess whats wrong and I have told her on more then one occasion that if she wants to talk I will listen.…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 02:06 PM
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I can see this now. In the past I was all over the place and was told she had to walk on eggshells around me for fear of me blowing up or that something was wrong that I wasn't expressing. She was always waiting for the other show to drop. Now, I do not act like that anymore but I think she still has PTSD from that, which I can understand and she has overtly told me. SO when I go in the other room to read etc. it is usually just me tapering my time and attention at a rejection or I just wanted t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 02:01 PM
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I can not escape you and your fucking insight. Again you are exactly right except for one thing. It wasn't lack of sex that jolted me out of it, it was her cheating and the realization that I was sleep walking through life. You are right about the path. I know what direction I want to go in but I don't know exactly what I want. I know how I want my family to be but I am lacking my vision for the future long term. I like to think I am breaking my mold and starting to forge my own path but even do…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 06:56 PM
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1/9/2018 6'6", 259.2 lbs., 17.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Back on track with the holidays in the rear view mirror. Back to lifting and running and diet. Now that the new year is over and my FSA has reset I made several appointments to get some items looked at. First was to the chiropractor. Turns out that my knee on the right side was causing severe pelvic tilt and compression in my lower spine. Also have neck issues as well that I didn't even know about. Getting these fixed will be a huge help to my…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 03:36 PM
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You have to lead to the minx. She isn't going to wake up a porn star one morning and ask you to fuck her in the ass. Well maybe one day but today isn't that day. Read SGM, use the shit out of DEVI and you will get the minx. You have to be the man she wants to not give starfish to. Starfish is allocated to the provider who she needs to give the bare minimum to keep around.
/r/askMRP04/01/18 03:48 PM
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My wife is the same way. She is a complete slob. She also has ADHD and leaves everything half done. I used to get resentful at it and pissy. As I improve and OMS and just do things without pointing it out to her she has gotten on board around the house more. I never point out that I did anything. She does not see 7 out of 10 of the things and even when she acknowledges them you just say thanks and go about your day. Sometimes I will fuck with her and use some AM with it. Example, she is notoriou…
/r/askMRP03/01/18 07:26 PM
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1/3/2018 6'6", 259.2 lbs., 17.9% BF, 43 yo Physical- Well I am an undisciplined fuck and let the holiday week derail me a bit. Only lifted once this week. I would say I didnt have time cause I was running around but thats just an excuse. Anyone can find an hour. I got caught up in the holiday good times and got lazy. This has been corrected already and I am pissed at myself for even letting it happen. Started getting up an hour early to run and clear my head for the day. Feels great to have gott…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 02:39 PM
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The Family Alphas program 30 Days to Masculinity. Check out his site it’s great stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 03:24 PM
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Enough said!!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 04:56 PM
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12/26/2017 6'6", 256.0 lbs., 17.7% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still improving on 5x5. Doing that 3x days a week and running when I need to pull time and attention from the wife. Adds some additional calorie burn and clears my head a bit from the rejection. I want to start FA's 30 DTM in January but I know one of the tasks is to add 100 push ups daily to your routine. I am wondering how that will impact lifts. I am going to do it anyway. Starting to see some progress in the weight loss. Very slowly but …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 04:00 PM
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Thanks for the raw truth. I can always count on you to give it straight.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 02:50 PM
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You know I didn’t think there was until screech pointed it out in his comment. The more I really think about it, I say to myself I am doing this for me and have been saying that all along, but there is still a little part of me that wants it to work and save my marriage almost out of spite. Like a chip on my shoulder of I’ll show her and honestly I really shouldnt give a fuck.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 01:55 AM
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Fuck man. Spot on as usual. Thanks.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 11:43 PM
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I think you are spot on. Over-analysis is my middle name.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 08:22 PM
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Thanks for the inspiration!
/r/askMRP21/12/17 08:16 PM
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Great point about joking about sex. There is definitely some PTSD on that front for her and I think this may be a much better approach.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 08:07 PM
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Thanks man, these are great points. A lot to chew on.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 08:05 PM
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Those are good points, thanks. I would say that my initiation game needs some work. What I have noticed is that the times she is really into it are the times when I genuinely DGAF what her answer is or when I initiate quickly without giving her time to think about it in sort of a nonchalant move. Example being laying in bed and she complained of her hands being cold. Without even thinking I simply said warm them up on this then and put her hand on my dick. Sex ensued. A big problem also which I …
/r/askMRP21/12/17 07:51 PM
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Just read this gem again it is an eye opener for me every time.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/17 06:00 PM
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Thanks brother, this is very helpful. I really thought the anger phase was behind me. Honestly, I never had much of one. I think why it crept back this time was that sex was getting back on track for the most part. Not a lot of frequency but the quality was there. Then all of a sudden nothing and also her back to giving me side ways glances and shitty hard nos when I initiate. I thought we had started to move past all that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/17 02:09 PM
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I have always read mixed studies of some people saying it doesnt cause sex drive issues and other saying it does. Most however say that ovulation is a non-factor in sex drive on a hormonal IUD. I have been trying to talk my wife into having it taken out just to see what the change is but its a no go and not really an issue since it all but slows her periods down to nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 07:58 PM
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Yeah, I am tracking my wifes cycle but she is on a hormonal IUD so her ovulation time is hit or miss as far as initiations and rejections. I do notice that she is way more open to sex the day or two before she gets her period and all during her period.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 06:14 PM
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I get the Lebowski quote from the wife now, "You're not wrong...you're just an asshole!"
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 03:42 PM
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12/19/2017 6'6", 256.2 lbs., 17.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing 5x5 and still making gains. I am probably a week or two away from the weight I was previously. This feels great and is a great confidence booster knowing I am putting up the weight even with a damaged knee. I have also added running into the mix on my off days. I simply cannot sit on rest days anymore since I work at a desk job during the day. I need to do something when I get off work. I am keeping the running light for now and …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 04:02 PM
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Thanks brother, needed to read those this morning. are you worried about appearing butthurt? Or getting to a place where you are no longer butthurt? There are times when I truly don't give a fuck and other times when it's an act. I can not wait to get to that place where I am completely unphased by it at all times. Knowing my girl for as long as I have, the only reason I haven't tried this is because I really don't think she would give a shit either way. That phone isn't gonna finger fuck itself…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/17 02:19 PM
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I am not a mod so take this for what its worth but I did what you are wanting to state. She won't care. She doesn't want to see how the sausage is made. She will either see the change in you or she won't. There is no amount of talking that will change that. I look at it this way with my wife in this aspect. When I was a drunk captain I would yell and get defensive when my wife would try to talk to me about anything that pointed out a flaw of mine. So she simply shut down and stopped talking to m…
/r/askMRP13/12/17 08:03 PM
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OK, that I understand, thanks for clarifying.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 12:39 PM
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I see what you are saying. Can you give a little more detail of "right now"? I am interpreting it as coming in fast to not give her time to think about saying no.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 12:20 PM
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Yeah, we can opt in for an Ergodesk. I’m on the list for the next round. Never thought I’d need or want it months ago but Christ you are right about a slow death. I used to send emails and phone calls to avoid getting up. Now I go make visits to desks just to get the hell up. Also, helps with social interactions.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 04:14 AM
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12/12/2017 6'6", 256.4 lbs., 17.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Lifts are still improving and have not plateaued on 5x5. I am going to start adding 30-45 min of moderate cardio on my off days just to burn some extra calories. I have a desk job and the fitter I get, the harder I find it is to sit at my desk all day and I really get restless on my rest days. Weight is still plateaued. I am tracking everything in MFP and if everything is correct I am averaging between a 5-600 calorie deficit daily. I am loo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 08:08 PM
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Hilarious response and I have actually thought about doing this a couple times. Two things though from my newbie perspective. 1) I constantly see hear never beat off in front of or let your SO know you are beating off because it shows lack of options, 2) Wouldn't that come across as butt hurt? I know its all in the tone and if its said with AM and a your loss frame but still,
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/17 07:13 PM
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Fucking hell, I am only eating 2100-2200 cal a day now. My TDEE is 2939 cals. This is why I am stuck, I can't eat much less. Even now I am fatigued a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 04:53 PM
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Yes I have heard of BP. I have gotten through the first 4 episodes and they are great. Beige Phillip is a great show and entertaining but definitely not full RP. Some episodes are a fountain of info and a great perspective from Dantes view but other episodes they just derail into politics and the guests lives etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 06:26 PM
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Step one...cut a hole in the box.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 06:20 PM
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God damn, I needed to read that right now. Social game is my biggest weakness.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 06:04 PM
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12/5/2017 6'6", 256.6 lbs., 17.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Lifts are getting better and heavier and it feels great. I have been working on flexibility as well. Being such a huge guy, flexibility has never been my strong suite. The older I get however and with lifting I am realizing how important it is. I take the time to stretch before, after and in the evening when I lift. Worked out at a gym for the first time since starting to lift again. What a clear difference in attitudes and motivation. I will…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 08:37 PM
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Yeah it wasn't a covert contract, it was transactional sex and shitty sex at that. Let it go and learn from it.
/r/askMRP30/11/17 08:37 PM
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Thanks for replying and I would agree with what you are saying. Just a couple things to add. 1) I don't drink anymore except once in a blue moon and if I do its a Mic Ultra. 2) I was using 2 lbs per week and sedentary as the modifier simply because that kept the calories down. 3) The macros number look pretty spot on to me that you posted. Perhaps I am not actually eating enough calories at this point. I know the fatigue is a huge symptom of activity and carb/calorie intake. I am not sure how dr…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 06:34 PM
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So my stats are right. I weigh myself every day and average my weight and BF% for the week. I try to do calipers for BF% but I mainly use BEI. My current routine is I do 5x5 SL on Thur, Saturday and Mon. I hate standing around between sets so I will do 20 crunches in between to keep the heart pumping. On Tuesdays I do heavy cardio for a little more then an hour. My job is pretty sedentary since I am behind a desk 75% of the day. Also, my lifts for squat and dead are no where near where they were…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 04:56 PM
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Good point and thanks for showing this to me again.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 04:21 PM
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Yup, I use MFP and either go by portion size or by weight using a digital scale.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 08:28 PM
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11/28/2017 6'6", 256.4 lbs., 17.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing 5x5 and seeing results. Slowly but surely moving back up the weights. It feels good to start pushing myself again in the rack. I am noticing that when my knee starts to hurt its due to bad form, which honestly is a good indicator. I correct my form and kneed stops hurting. Also finally getting used to the Tuesday night league. It was impacting my lifting and throwing me off since for the first couple weeks I could barely walk or …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 06:07 PM
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This right here!! This is the biggest thing I have been aware of in my own journey recently. Recognizing when I am being a bitch, recognizing why I got that way and fucking straightening my spine out about it and resetting myself before the day derails.
/r/askMRP27/11/17 07:57 PM
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If you don't really care then why stay with her at all? Go find someone who at least doesn't look at you as a paycheck and a visa.
/r/askMRP27/11/17 07:49 PM
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Excellent point about the threesome. I am speaking from experience here and I looked back in retrospect over shit I have done in my marriage over the years in order to learn but not dwell. How things played out and how I should have handled things differently. One thing I can say is that my wife and I had a reoccurring threesome with a friend of hers, MFF. My wife loved it and still talks about it to this day. However, given the opportunity and setting, she tried to use that on me to set up a MM…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 04:01 PM
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I agree with what you are saying. Honestly I have noticed in the past month or so I get extremely tired mid day and its almost a fight to stay awake come 7-8 at night. I have doing some research and pullin gout my old notes from when I was lifting in college for sports and it almost seems like I am not eating enough and enough of the correct food at this point. Obviously, I cant use this as a license to pig out but I need to get my macros in check also. I am more worried about keeping my calorie…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 07:23 PM
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So my maintenance calories calculate out to roughly 2850 to maintain. I am staying at or in between 2100-2200 while lifting 3x a week and a solid 1 hour of hard cardio twice a week playing on a sports team. Note that the 2850 number came from using the sedentary lifestyle multiplier.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 06:23 PM
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11/21/2017 6'6", 256.2 lbs., 17.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still lifting, still making progress back to where I was. Its slow and sometimes unmotivating but I am seeing results and getting compliments from people. Guys at work I used to strictly run with who quit and are back to their old dad bods are asking me what I am doing. As soon as I say lifting it is immediately rebutted with "oh, you are going to hurt yourself", "thats too hard", etc. Crabs in a bucket. My wife came down and worked out with…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 05:21 PM
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Well, do you reward good behavior? I don’t mean get all gushy and puke feels on her but genuinely thank her when she does cool shit? That’s appreciation. “I appreciate dat ass!!” Smack ass, walk away.
/r/askMRP19/11/17 01:19 PM
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OK a question for you. When you used to initiate was it a weak ass rub on the back and a timid "wanna do it?" or something to that effect? Also did you ever actually touch your wife prior to learning about what kino even was? I am willing to bet no, not at all. I was in the same boat as you. Your wife right now associates your touch with initiation of sex because thats the only time she ever got it previously. She is thinking that when you kino you only want sex. Kino even when its not possible …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 09:20 PM
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11/16/2017 6'6", 256.8 lbs., 17.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Adjusting to the sports league I am is fucking up my lifting. Have to find a balance or a way at least to loosen up better prior. Also need to work on my flexibility. Its shit. I have never been overly flexible. I may start taking yoga and invite the wife along. Lower back is impacting my knees and hamstrings. This has always been an issue with me since college and injuries. My age just requires more warming up. I will work on a better stret…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 03:53 PM
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11/8/2017 6'6", 256.8 lbs., 17.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- Still doing SL 5x5 3 times a week and my sports leagues on Tuesday nights. Now that football is over I can get back on a normal schedule. Weight has hit a plateau and I have really started watching my carb intake. I cut out refined sugar and a majority of grains. When I lost a good bit of weight years ago I plateaued around this weight last time until I made some diet changes similar to what I am doing now. I am at a point now where I want to…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 09:21 PM
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I mad the mistake of doing this and also including her in some of the exercises in the book like the 90 days of no initiation shit. While I wont completely dismiss the 90 days of no initiation and porn. That did help me break a bad cycle, telling my wife about any of it was the mistake. If your wife thinks you need to read a book to be a better man then it will just add to the disdain shit heap she already has for you. Plus, we don't talk about Fight Club!!
/r/askMRP03/11/17 01:45 PM
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Didn't see it posted yet but this is worth a read.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 03:30 PM
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10/31/2017 6'6", 256.8 lbs., 17.8% BF, 43 yo Physical- I am consistently lifting 3x a week. Still working my squats and deadlifts back up to prior weights. The leg with a torn meniscus feels a little weak but that may be due to starting my winter sports league and going all out. I was sore from head to toe after the first night back in 3 years. It felt great to get out there and play again not to mention socializing with everyone. Got stricter with my diet and watching the little things and tryi…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 06:49 PM
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Use an app called Cozi. Create a family account and set each family member up. We use that religiously. I no longer have to ask her when anything is going on and when I plan stuff I can see when/if other things are going on and plan accordingly. I just throw my stuff on the calendar so she knows not to schedule things during that time and vice versa.
/r/askMRP27/10/17 07:21 PM
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Yeah, I have talked to a lawyer a couple times just to understand the procedure and what the damage will be.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/17 05:58 PM
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Read the link if you want. i explain it in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/17 05:41 PM
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Yup
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/17 05:15 PM
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I use calipers and BEI. BMI is a crock of shit in my opinion. It’s outdated and nonsensical. I won’t sit here for a second and say I’m where I need to be and that I’m not overweight. However, even when I was in my athletic prime playing college sports I was listed as overweight/obese on the BMI chart.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 01:20 AM
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Solid advice again man, thank you!! I think that is her biggest issue with me is that I don't "listen" to her, I just try to fix or talk her out of feeling a certain way. I can see exactly what you are talking about in your advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 04:03 PM
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10/24/2017 6'6", 257.0 lbs., 18.0% BF, 43 yo I am going to start doing my OYS in a new format. I need to start moving away from the she,she,she and focus on myself. I still want to post on questions and significant issues in my relationship but I need ot focus more on myself. I like the three pillars of masculinity (Physical, Emotional, Spiritual) concept that I have read about and that TFA wrote about, so I will be using that format. Physical- Started lifting regularly again. I am still doing S…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 04:23 PM
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Lifting slowed to a crawl between my torn meniscus and football. All excuses and all now taken care of. Lifting started back up full swing this week, football ends next week and my winter sports team begins next week. Diet is now back on point as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 03:28 AM
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Ok so some clarification. The sneers come from initiation. Day to day interactions are pleasant. She isn’t a harpy shrill bitch. If I try to initiate when she isn’t into it (which is most of the time with me) I get the “what are you doing?” With the added uncomfortable giggle and sneer. Every other aspect in the house is pleasant, minus shit tests here and there. She defers to me on all decisions etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 03:25 AM
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Seratonin and dopamine are huge to me as well. At one point in my life I was lumped into that group of people who were prescribed anti-depressants like PEZ just because I was feeling "blue". In retrospect it was the void of not living up to being a man. I was given Zoloft and what a cluster fuck that was. Hair started thinning, sex drive completely went away and I never was happy, just numb. Then coming off of it was a roller coaster of mood swings and depression. I started looking into serotoni…
/r/askMRP18/10/17 02:54 PM
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I would be interested to read some findings on this. I cut out porn completely since I started to realize it was causing me to fixate on specific body parts etc. I also realized it was a reaction to rejection and I was using it to get a dopamine hit. I also realize that around 4-7 days without getting sex or fapping I get shitty and find it very hard to stay focused and present.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 01:45 PM
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Christ if that video isn't spot on I don't know what is!!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 06:59 PM
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10/17/2017 43 yo, 6'6", 256.2 lbs., 17.9%BF The Good- Lifting regularly again at least 4 days a week. Getting back my gains in my legs from having to deload and work on my form. Feels amazing to lift full time again. I am keeping a much more watchful eye on my form during squats and dead lifts. Its been a pretty introspective week for me after getting everything out about my wife. One of the main things I am trying to work on is building my frame and not letting people take me out of it especial…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 02:39 PM
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I haven’t but that might be something to look into.
/r/askMRP14/10/17 10:17 PM
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Actually yeah there is a lot of reasons why I continue to stay with her. If she was a harpy shrill bitch and a condescending cunt to me it would make things oh so much easier. I would already be gone. Shes not though, at all, shes actually extremely nice to me, makes me laugh, is an outstanding mother, house keeper, provides substantial income to the family from her own business and the list goes on. She is not some BPD party girl. One of the things I struggle with in MRP is the whole she cheate…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 03:31 PM
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She was in different to it in the moment. When she’s turned on and ready to have sex I could ask her to do anything I want and she’d comply. However “groping” in this case is me initiating when she isn’t ready. Sex is on her terms. She’s referring to something as simple as me coming up behind her and kissing her neck and giving her ass a squeeze. Agree with you on letting it go. That’s the main reason why I wrote this post. Get it out there as a means of therapy and letting it go and moving on. …
/r/askMRP13/10/17 01:13 AM
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Agree completely with you. I am a mountain of a man and always have been. I am striving to be that beast in the gym again. It’s amazing how soft and pliable you get living the Disney dream for damn near 20 years.
/r/askMRP13/10/17 12:46 AM
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You are right, this is OYS and others have been all about her. Thats why I just wrote this post earlier to hash all this out and move from it being about her and the past to me and my future.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 07:01 PM
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Good point but I am choosing not to cheat. I have been successfully doing catch and release with women at or a point below my wifes SMV. I do not want to nuke the marriage yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 06:44 PM
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Great point, I was looking at it wrong. When explained like that it makes more sense about why we develop the social life away from our wives.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 06:03 PM
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I am 43, 6'6", 257.2 lbs. and 17.9%BF, still have a ways to go which is why I said I am probably not attractive enough. Lifts are Squat 285lbs. (currently deloaded to 200 due to torn meniscus), Deadlift 295 lbs. (currently deloaded to 200 because of meniscus), Bench 170 lbs., Row 165 lbs., OHS 140 lbs.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 05:09 PM
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Nope, I am sure she didn't and that thought has crossed my mind many times and I have actually thrown that in her face. It doesn't help me become any better however. That just leads to more anger. I chose to stick with this for the 18 months. Thats one month for every year of marriage. I agree she is hamstering all of this at this point and scared cause she can see the changes and isn't sure what to do. She's told me several times she likes the changes but doesnt trust that I wont snap at someth…
/r/askMRP12/10/17 04:39 PM
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So the quantity is a tough one for me and where there is a massive sticking point. Sex is the elephant in the room for us ever since I cheated. I used to pout and talk about sex all the time to her in the past. It was a source of constant argument for us. It got to the point where if there was even a hint that the conversation would lead to tlaking about sex it would get shut down immediately. I have been kinoing, gaming and DEVI. I think I may be pushing to hard in this aspect however. She is a…
/r/askMRP12/10/17 04:30 PM
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She is having sex with me now. The quality is there but the quantity is not. I am choosing not to cheat at this time. I did it before for all the wrong reasons. I am flirting with girls and doing catch and release and working on my abundance mentality but I do not want to cheat at this time. I gave myself 18 months to improve and then reevaluate, after that we will see.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 04:18 PM
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I am not sure when to act as if nothing happened or when to withdraw attention and support. After a sex rejection I feel like withdrawing but have been faking OI. I think I should withdraw only after a large issue, or many rejections but in general the plan is to >act like you don't care. This grinds on me that she gets her fun, happy, husband and snuggling, jokes, kino etc, while I do not get any sex. What is her motivation to ever have sex again? I struggle with this as well. I feel like I am …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 06:02 PM
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10/10/2017 6'6", 43 yo, 257.7lbs., 18.0% BF The Good- Finally started lifting again full time. Back in the rack 4 days a week. Had to completely deload 100 lbs off my squat and deadlift so that I dont push my knee and ease back into it. I am using MAVA sleeves now and they work amazingly well. Thanks for the advice on that guys. I am in full stride with work and OYS around the house. Other then huge projects around the house such as renovations I am actually trying to find things to get done so …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 02:50 PM
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10/4/2017 43 yo, 260.0 lbs, 18.1% BF, 6'6" The Good- Not a whole lot in this category this week. I have been doing a lot on introspection and thinking about ways to improve my frame and maintain my cool and be more stoic. Meditation is something that I have been reading more about and wanting to incorporate into my life. I have also taken a step back and looked at the bigger picture of how I have implemented dread in my marriage and also re-read alot of comments by users on my posts and realized…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 05:03 PM
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I hear what you are saying. It certainly wasnt said in an air of me being a Hero or superior. It was more along the lines of being sick of his shit and his wifes comment was the final straw. Fight Club was never mentioned. That I have understood loud and clear. Thanks for clarifying this for me. A lot of this is happening faster then I wanted it to and sometimes I feel like I am playing catch up instead of things taking their natural course.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 01:10 PM
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9/26/17 43yo, 257.6lbs., 18.0%BF, 6'6" The Good and The Bad- Very weird week for me. I got hit with a lot of things all at once this week and I handled most of it well. tl;dr - This week was my wifes birthday, the vision talk and a date filled with feels. In a previous OYS I noted that my wife got upset when she found out a monthly gathering I go to with friends included their spouses and she didnt come. Better yet she stated I never invited her which isnt true. This time I made sure I invited h…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 07:47 PM
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Love the post on agency. It is spot on. The ending is what I liked the most and really made me see my SO recent behavior and how she is handling dread and changes. She has really ramped up the house work and goes out of her way to have dinner made, laundry done, cleaning etc. Far more then she has in recent months. Sex is starting to come back but as I said not even close to the frequency and level I would like. The house work aspect was never actually an issue though, it was the sex that was. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 02:59 PM
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Mate Guarding is unattractive as fuck. Don't do it. Keep an eye on it covertly but ultimately you can't stop her from fucking someone else. Be the guy she wants to fuck instead of Chad. Be attractive don't be unattractive.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 07:47 PM
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9/19/2017 43yo, 6'6", 258.2lbs., 18.0%BF The Good - Started back on squats this week. It felt good with minimal pain in my knee. Deloaded by almost 100lbs and was surprisingly sore. It is amazing how fast you lose strength when you neglect a muscle. I am remembering this goes for all areas of my life, not just physical but mental as well. I need to keep up on reading the sidebar as well. I just finished everything in Prereques and 101. I am going to start reading Rollos new book as I am interest…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 05:08 PM
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Excellent post for me. I was called out recently that I am all push and no pull. I spent so much time being beta and care taking that when I found MRP I spent too much time focusing on punishment. After being called out I did almost verbatim what you described above yesterday. Came home and was extremely playful, grabbed my wife as she walked by in the kitchen and kissed her for 10 seconds and slapped her ass. As I was getting ready to go to football practice I called her upstairs. When she came…
/r/askMRP13/09/17 05:29 PM
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9/12/2017 6'6", 256.1 lbs., 18.1%BF, 42yo The Good - Knee is feeling alot better. Going to get a second opinion on it however. Doc says it is a minor meniscus tear and arthritis. I am not really buying the arthritis diagnosis. I have been extremely hard on my body, having played collegiate sports. I would like to just have my bases covered and make sure. Life in general is going great. I am OMS at home and with my kids, my job, finances, etc. I then posted twice on askMRP this past week. The fir…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 05:29 PM
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Thank you for the advice. It is appreciated. This has been one of the things I have been tossing around in my head through all of this. Obviously I want more sex, who doesnt? That is just a side effect of the end goal. I have thought many times that more sex is well and good but I want someone by my side who wants to be there not just someone who is there for lack of options. I want to be the best option.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 04:12 PM
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Thanks for this.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 02:26 PM
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Excellent man, thank you for that. I tend ot overthink everything. I needed ot hear that.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 01:04 PM
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Regardless of the label it was better then how scenarios like this were handled in the past. I do not want to get complacent just because I got a BJ. Part of me thinks this was simply a strategy on her part to get me back in my beta box.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 12:52 PM
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Yeah, I am just really amazed at the 180 she did. I want to make sure I keep the pedal floored and continue improving.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 01:22 AM
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I discovered NMMNG about a year ago but just found MRP about 5 months ago.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 01:04 AM
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This. and this whole thread is an eye opener for me. I spent my entire marriage since our first kid was born being a beta, care taking, not getting my needs met and being a yes man that when I realized I can say no to her and nothing happens I ran with it. I was never mean or angry but it was liberating and I can see how I am pushing her away. I was spending so much time working on myself that I left her completely out in the cold. TFAs comments and these made me think. I am being the fun guy bu…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 08:08 PM
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Nope, this would imply that she actually wants cuddles also. She is not a touchy person. Feels don't come easy by her either. This statement was aimed I believe at her implying I am trying to manipulate her. However, this is what she believes but what isn't true. I am nice to her, in fact being too nice to her is what got me to this point to begin with. She more frequently throws out the comment, "all you ever want is sex" which in the past I would get pissed over but now when I hear that I try …
/r/askMRP06/09/17 07:28 PM
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Honest answer, I was never an asshole but I also wasnt a nice guy. I didnt meet her with covert contracts and resentment. So yeah I guess it does all stem from that. I was the definition of AF/BB
/r/askMRP06/09/17 07:07 PM
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In the past my consistency was shit. She is conditioned to this without a doubt. She is looking for any angered response at this point to tell me, "see you havent changed a thing". The Jekyll and Hyde statement was geared more towards her being able to trust me from shit done in the past. She has made a previous statement of "you are only nice because you want something" meaning sex. Yeah the speech was shit. I regret it being said. The resentment is even worse. I had thought I had let go of mos…
/r/askMRP06/09/17 06:40 PM
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The statements weren't as cyborg as they are written out. Her and I have always had good dialog. Fuck it all with communication of whats important in our relationship but we can talk to each other all day long. When we were first married it was always us vs the world. Everyone used to tell us thats what they admired about our marriage. I became the drunk captain and forced her to take over. I am trying to lead and get control back. She is stubborn as fuck and is fighting the whole way to the gro…
/r/askMRP06/09/17 06:30 PM
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9/5/2017 42yo, 6'6". 260.0 lbs, 18.1%BF The Good - Finally got the knee on the right track. Minor meniscus tear and arthritis. Got a cortisone shot and need to wait a week or two before I can start lifting lower body again with a leg wrap. Any suggestions? I am looking and feeling incredible. My moods are great and it shows. I have been non-engaging with the SO and batting her shit tests away left and right. I think I may actually be seeing some comfort test. More on that in a minute. I have not…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 07:25 PM
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This. This was a big one for me. I had to step back and ask myself what was I doing the day before I met my wife, do that. Obviously, that's a figure of speech but it's the mindset you want. As fathers and husbands we get so engrained in a routine and a lifestyle we forget what it was like to be single and have a life besides our wives. I held on to that and still do sometimes. It's a hard dynamic to break.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:33 PM
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Why let it bother you at all? You cannot control her emotions. She is doing it because thats what worked in the past. She will ramp it up the more you change simply because thats her go to and it worked before so her thought is if I do more and harder it should work again. Will she change, I dont know but when you get to a place wher you dont give a fuck then it won't matter. Go do something else and let her hamster it out.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 06:52 PM
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Agree 100% with this. There have been very few times I've had to actually yell at my kids. They respect my time and how I coach and what I have to say so they listen. I can tell immediately the kids who have the type of dads you are talking about. The kid will be playing great and the. The dad shows up and the kid starts making mistakes and the dad starts yelling.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 08:30 PM
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Just posted on this in my OYS this week. I coach and am the director of my districts youth football program. There is a level of OYS running a football program and coaching football that forces anyone to be rock solid with frame. The parents are the worst possible factor in youth sports. Every parent thinks their kid is the next Peyton Manning and you have to be unwavering when you tell them sorry but your kid is a lineman, period. I also find that the other coaches test your frame and your asse…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:04 PM
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8/29/17 6'6", 261.2 lbs., 18.4% BF, 42 YO The Good - Business is at an all time high. Kids are back in school, football season is in full swing, work is full tilt, etc. I am initiating more. Trying to initiate daily that isnt at bedtime is next to zero. When the oppurtunity is there I am initiating but still receiving hard no. I go do other things and joke with my kids etc. I don't let it change my mood. I am hanging with the other coaches in football more and creating a circle of guys outside o…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 01:36 PM
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Hell no my kids don't sleep in my room. We just had a camp out in there while watching a movie and that's where they passed out. I'll keep the couch arm in mind though!!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 01:41 AM
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100% on point. I think this is actually why I got laid after the trip with my boys when I came back. I initiated without thinking. I was just bold, went for it and let her know what I wanted. There was no hesitation or time to think about the rejection. It's almost as if the hesitation is blood in the water for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 07:44 PM
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Well since this is OYS then I would say rejection is what I am afraid of. She knows its the only power she has in our relationship and she weilds it like a hammer. She has even overtly said this to me. I am slowly breaking out of it the further down the MRP road I go but its a very hard mental condition to break. My thought process last night was simply I would rather accept the fun that was had and not spoil it by initiating because the kids were sleeping in the room (higher likelihood of a har…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 06:09 PM
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From one newb to another. You are in the wrong place if you want shit to happen soon!! This is a marathon not a sprint. You need to read and re-read the sidebar, learn to deal with shit tests by STFU until you can figure out how to not sound like an idiot otherwise. Also, lift the shit out of weights!! If you lift regularly for 3 years and arent ripped then you are doing it wrong. Get your diet in check and lift like your life depends on it cause it does. Rule number one however is dont tell you…
/r/askMRP22/08/17 03:09 PM
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8/22/17 6'6", 261.0, 18.7% BF, 42yo Reading - Book of Pook and listening to Bang The Good - Finding it difficult to talk about new things that are good. I have a tendency to get in routines, even good ones. Football season is in full swing and as the director of the league and head coach of my sons team it is a lot going on right now. First game is this weekend, back to school this week, etc. I look at this as opportunities to lead, delegate and make decisive decisions which get things done. I a…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 02:42 PM
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The sex was conveniently followed by shark week two days later. Double shit tests ensued.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 05:33 PM
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OK I will speak on OPSEC. I didn't have any reason to check up on my wife but I did. I put a GPS in her car, check the phone bill, check the internet usage etc. This was partly due to reading some of the horror stories on this sub and partly because of events in my marriage that happened years ago between us. Seeing the stuff on here caused that to resurface but at the same time it has allowed me to deal with it and come to terms with things that I previously have brushed under the rug. I was li…
/r/askMRP18/08/17 03:14 PM
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Before finding MRP I read NMMNG and did the monk mode exercise for 90 days. I had issues with porn and had my wifes pussy on a pedestal. During those 90 days I didnt initiate sex but I did kino my wife. Up until then I would give my wife hugs and kisses but never any kino unless it was an attempt at a weak ass initiation. That led to her being disgusted at my touch because she knew what it meant. Gradually over the 90 days me touching my wife changed the dynamic to her not thinking I was initiat…
/r/askMRP17/08/17 04:07 PM
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I read the book and then purchased the audio book on Audible for the exact reason of hearing voice actors run the scenarios. It was extremely helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:14 PM
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I can see that side but I don't think thats it at all. In my past posts I talked about getting to wrapped up in OPSEC that it was detracting from my mission and actually working on me. During that time there was never even a hint of a cheating red flag. Doesnt mean she couldnt but not likely at all. Also, we both cheated on each other in the past and she also knows that if she does I won't hesitate to help her pack. Lastly, from that past experience I have witnessed what she does when she cheats…
/r/askMRP15/08/17 04:11 PM
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8/15/17 6'6". 261.0, 18.9%BF, 42yo The Good - Missed my OYS post from last week since I was out of town on a camping trip with my boys which resulted in a FR over at askMRP here. This hands down is really one of the major highlights of my year, especially as my boys get older. The also obvious upside is that I finally fucked my wife after 9 months of dead bedroom the day I returned from the trip. Was it worth the 9 month wait? Absolutely not, but I was told that from jump anyway. The timing of t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 02:39 PM
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I got a vasectomy 3 years ago after we decided we didn't want any more kids. I however was to much of a slack ass drunk captain to get the follow up checkups to see if it actually took. My wife didn't trust it so she got a hormonal IUD put in. It all but stopped her periods and cramps so she has left it in even after I went back for the follow up exams to prove the vasectomy took.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 02:30 AM
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Not every day but most days I will try to initiate at least once. After 9 months I was always expecting a no. I try to game and always use kino. I am still very clumsy at not sounding autistic when gaming my wife. The months of rejection piled up the awkwardness for me. Trust me absolutely still have a sex drive. I have just suppressed it to avoid the rejection until recently.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 08:04 PM
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No this theory isn't it. I am not saying I never fap but it is very few and far between and never to porn. I made the mistake of doing the 90 days of no fap, no porn, no sex activity in NMMNG. The upside was it helped me remove porn from my life and also remove the pussy form the pedestal. The down side was my wife latched onto that as 3 easy months without having to worry about me bugging her for sex.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 07:46 PM
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Spot on. Thank you!!
/r/askMRP14/08/17 05:32 PM
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Since you've read my OYS, I think a lot of my surprise and confusion was that my SO never even confronted me about the flirting texts with the co-worker or the OPSEC stuff. I have been waiting for that "talk" for a while now but don't ever think its coming, which is fine by me.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 05:17 PM
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getting laid once in 9 months is hardly a humble brag. I was more curious at the timing of it happening and the onslaught of shit tests following seeing how I was barely even being shit tested up until now. Yes, texts were ignored.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 05:13 PM
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I've experienced the hysterical bonding years ago when we both cheated on each other. This isn't that. This was I don't know what. I do know it wasn't worth the 9 month wait but I guess I have been told that the whole time huh? I do know I am not taking my foot off the gas pedal, thats for sure.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 04:57 PM
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Look at what she does, not what she says.
/r/askMRP13/08/17 12:29 AM
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I understand the leadership statement and I have no issues backing her up and taking care of the situation once I get home. My issue is what am I supposed to do at work and why the videos and texts about it? I would agree with the authoritarian statement. I was raised in a house where something was said once and it was followed. I do not undermine her in a parenting aspect. We both have a very unified front when it comes to parenting and backing each other up. As far as books goes, we haven't re…
/r/askMRP07/08/17 04:14 PM
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8/1/2017 32YO, 265.2 lbs., 19.2%BF Lifting - Lifting came to a stand still last week. Tore a meniscus in my right knee doing squats. I had even deloaded to work on form more when it happened. Regardless I have been doing upper body in the meantime and watching my diet even closer. Its a minor tear with about 4-6 weeks recovery time. Social - Working on eye contact and starting conversations with people. This is completely unlike the old me. I am finding it easier as time goes on but the initial …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 03:13 PM
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An alert text was buried in my phone. She saw the text. She never actually found the GPS.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 02:28 AM
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I will own both and I realize it's highly unattractive and will be taking it out regardless. Would you initiate the conversation first or let her bring it up? My thought is that she won't simply because she'd have to admit to going through my phone. My inclination is to simply get rid of the GPS and STFU.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 02:20 AM
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Thanks for the assessment. I will take it all to heart. As for the fourth point, that is spot on about being chastised. Basically her bff told her about a guy she wanted to cheat on her husband with.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 09:54 PM
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7/26/17 6'6", 264.4 lbs, 19.2%BF, 42yo The Good - Still losing weight and watching my diet. This is consistent and become easier and more habit like as I continually make conscious decisions not to eat shit. Even though I am not doing it for them, the more people who compliment me, the more it adds to the fuel of working harder to look even better. My relationship with my kids is stronger now then it ever has been. I am really focusing on bonding with my kids and showing them how to act and beco…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 06:09 PM
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Two words, abundance mentality. When you know that you could go out and get the number of a girl comparable or hotter then your wife or have gotten one, it makes the sting of your wife's rejection almost laughable at times.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 02:02 PM
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Just my .02 but body augmentation can become an addiction once started. Glad you stuck to your guns but your girl may be in that situation.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 08:58 PM
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Do. Not. Talk. About. Fight. Club. Also from a personal perspective. Don't do the 90 day moratorium suggested. Keep initiating. I made the mistake of doing this. I read NMMNG before discovering RP and all it did was make her not have to listen to me badger her for sex for 3 months. On the flip side however it did help me remove the pussy from a pedestal and work through a lot of the butt hurt I experienced from rejection. It allowed me to consciously know that I was approaching my wife without t…
/r/askMRP21/07/17 12:18 PM
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I didnt get mad over the sex. That I actually didnt care about, finally. It was seeing the conversation in real time of her and her BFF talking about her BFF cheating. I fucking snapped and all this shit resentment from years ago came out. I was furious. Still doesnt prove anything other then me losing frame like a mother fucker, but for once it wasnt about getting shut down for sex. The rest of your analysis is spot on. I am not a mean guy typically but I was that night and my wife doesnt cry a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 07:01 PM
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Next her. Lift. STFU. You have no kids or options at this point. It is going to hurt like hell but enjoy your new free after divorce life.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 04:13 PM
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I do kino and a good bit at this point without the expectation of sex. It isnt full Chad but i will always walk up behind her and wrap my arm around her collar bone, kiss her neck and then walk away. Stuff like that. In the past the only time I would make contact was for the typical beta initiation of sex. I no longer get butthurt when denied sex. Its been 8 months so my expectation is a no at all times. At this point I think the bigger issue is my lack of frame and my current explosion.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 05:23 PM
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6/18/17 42yo, 6'6", 265.3lbs, 19.2%BF All of It - Not splitting it up since this weekend sums up this week. Still lifting, watching my diet, losing weight and BF slowly but surely. Job is great and finances are sound still. Owning shit around the house and getting things done. Shark week was last week and I took that as an opportunity to begin really using kino and walking away so that I could really start initiating once it was over. I wanted ot keep it in her mind that I was pursuing this, it …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:23 PM
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Great take. Thank you!! I've always disliked her BFF for exact reasons like this. It isn't hard to determine she's an ex-party girl and I do know that she's cheated on him before. My inclination is to keep my cards to my chest. This was more then a "hey Chad is hawt!!" This was her actively setting herself up to get fucked and not doing anything to stop it except waiting for my wife's reply. It just sat bad with me, like I owed it to this guy to tell him cause I'd want someone to tell me. He how…
/r/askMRP16/07/17 12:41 PM
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No that's not his actual name. I knew to change it. Yes I instantly thought of this and was what I was eluding to by saying this is my wife's BFF and her influence.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 12:33 PM
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I couldn't agree more about the frame. I am not anywhere near my goal for fitness yet thats for sure. I have lost a good bit of weight and I can see definition in my arms and legs, my mid section is still the a typical over 40 chewed bubble gum look. Albeit it is now a couple sticks of gum instead of the whole pack. I know this isnt an over night thing and I am not stopping the work. As far as rejections goes, you are right. In the past I was a carbon copy of everyone on here. Rejection = butthu…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 01:35 PM
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6/12/2017 - 42YO, 6'6", 19.6%BF, 269lbs Lifting - Still lifting regularly with 5x5 and running. Hit a plateu on my weight and BF. I am currently researching Keto and other diets. I absolutely feel stronger and better then ever. Even better then when I was running marathons and weighed sub 240. Overall strength is an amazing confidence booster. Reading - Currently reading Book of Pook and BPPs book. Home Life - I am always busy now. I never sit down to watch TV. In fact I canceled our TV service.…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 05:22 PM
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I am not hamstering it at all. I am making no excuses. I think /u/resolution316 hit it on the head with avoiding rejection. It definitely isn't a fetish.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 01:50 PM
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I agree with you 100%. I think where I got confused was the mixed signals that were being sent. I assumed that because she was into it sometimes it was ok and she would just tell me no if she really wasn't into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 03:35 PM
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7/5/17 The Good - 6'6", 268.3lbs, 19.5%BF - Still in the gym 3-5 times per week. It is my therapy at this point. I need to be in there just to sort through my thoughts. Wife is still lifting after I showed her how to setup the app, form etc. I honestly thought it would be a one and done. She surprised me, however shes only on week 2. So I have really been working on being fun and thinking about how women work on feels and react to a guy who gives them feels. My wife is very unemotional and unaff…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 02:11 PM
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Excellent response. Thank you for clarifying that. Make much more sense to me now.
/r/askMRP04/07/17 02:23 AM
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OK, so this right here is where I get confused on some points. I am still learning but I always hear set your boundaries but at the same time I hear DNGAF. Yes she would get the point but at the same time didn't it seem like you were butthurt about it all and giving too many shits? I suppose it comes down to the dynamic of the relationship.
/r/askMRP03/07/17 12:33 PM
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I will be honest and say she is not attracted to me physically. She feels checked out. I mean a blind person can see that. She overtly admitted to the pussy tingles comment. At this point and really for most of our marriage she defers to me, looks to me to lead, discipline the kids, the finances, etc. Part of the talk I didnt elaborate on is that this whole thing of her realizing sex is what she can control was some grand epiphany for her. I was thinking shit, I've known this for the past 10 yea…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 07:31 PM
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What she means by bites me in the ass is that I did some serious damage to her previously in our marriage when I cheated. I lied alot, hid stupid little shit and basically broke her trust and acted like I didn't give a shit when I did. So little things that even seem a little dishonest or shady throw her into a spiral of mistrust. So she is very guarded, very unaffectionate etc. She doesnt trust me. So as in my previous OYS where I ran into the girl I cheated with and now with the thought of me …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 06:59 PM
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I will throw this out there for what its worth and hopefully it will help. I am new here and only 2-3 months in but my marriage is on the verge of what you described above. I used to run marathons and lift and owned my shit about 5 years ago. Then I got my dream house and I was proud I was a good provider. It has a pool and a two car garage and was everything my wife wanted...for about a year. Well during that time while we were settling on that house I decided to run a marathon with the flu and…
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:47 PM
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6/28/17 The Good - 6'6" - 42YO - 268lbs. - 19,7%BF - Still lifting and making progress. I am rock solid on this as it is the best way to take out frustration and anger. I am handling my career well also. Lots of projects happening which I am in control of and hammering down. Career has never been an issue so not much new here. This weekend and last evening was a bit of an eye opener for me both good and bad. I will explain the good here. Went to a wedding on Saturday (I know I have a thing with …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:18 PM
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This.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 12:31 PM
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I don't take 75% of what she says anymore personally but I suppose thats what I mean about finding it hard to be the fun guy with her. I do find myself standing back going why the fuck am I trying to be fun with her when she will just ignore me, not fuck me and go finger fuck her phone the entire night. This is when I find myself doing the majority of the stuff around the house, lifting or running errands outside of the house. I love her and care for her but it is becoming increasingly harder by…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 06:21 PM
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Thanks for the analysis. I am still taking baby steps on all this. The body language and tone was not indifference but just short and sweet and to the point. In the past I would have buckled and been like, "Baby, you can count on me and tell me everything. I love you, blah, blah, blah." ad nauseum.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 12:42 PM
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Newb here so take this with a grain of salt. I did do a 3 month moratorium before finding MRP. I found MRP about 1.5 months into it. There are a couple take aways I got from it both good and bad. These were my take aways in my situation so mileage may vary. Good * Removed the pussy from the pedestal. I was using sex as validation and it helped break that. * Helped me stop loking at porn. I wouldnt say I had an addiction but I used that energy to lift and focus on other tasks. It allowed me to be…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 06:56 PM
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6/22/2017 The Good - 6'6" - 42YO - 19.2%BF - Came back from a small beach vacation with the wife, kids and my mother. Handled everything well imo. Had a lot of fun with the boys and spent a lot of time with just them and I. Normally I am not a beach person and typically hide under an umbrella afraid to take my shirt off. This time I was the first one out on the beach with the boys digging holes etc. While I am no where near my goal and still at 19% BF I didnt care about taking the shirt off and …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 04:58 PM
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thanks for clarifying, point taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/17 07:32 PM
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Yes, I am a mountain of a man and always have been. Its amazing what the self image hamster will do to a person. People have always been intimidated of me, but sticking out in a crowd all the time makes you feel self conscious. Instead of embracing it like I am learning to do now, I tried to hide it by slouching, etc. growing up. Thanks for pointing this out though. I have been lifting and seeing results and already had a couple people tell me I would be a fucking destroyer once I pack on more m…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/17 12:31 PM
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Honestly at this point I was referring to any woman and not just my wife. I am not attractive yet and I realize that but nothing in 7 months is really starting to grind me down. As far as answering the texts I actually probably looked like a retard standing in my front yard with my phone in my hand milling over whether to hit send or not. I regretted it as soon as I hit send. The win I see in this is my old self would have written a 1000 word essay over text where I was explaining my trajectory …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 08:18 PM
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6/13/17 The Good - 6'6" - 268lbs. - 19.9%BF - Haven't missed lifting at all. I am feeling physically much better as I progress. A couple people have noticed I am losing weight and adding muscle. Still advancing in 5x5 without plateau in all lifts except OHS. I am slowly starting to pick up shit tests and handle with STFU or AM. Mainly go to STFU since I am working on AM. Feeling good about my internal reflection and realizing my shitty behaviors that I have to break. I have been handling my shit…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 01:57 PM
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Can we build it,yes we can!!! I am listed as an employee for the reasons you state. Maybe I'll stick to IKEA though. The directions are just pictures, so it helps.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 05:44 PM
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I am in this situation as well. My wife owns a small construction company. I grew up doing construction in my dads business so I know a little bit about a lot of things. This is hers though and I support her but its hers. If I know she is on a big job and there is a time crunch I will take care of the kids, delegate the oldest to babysit and show up without notice to work. Personally I think this shows leadership, some of you may think differently. The way I look at it is, she is providing incom…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 04:10 PM
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This was an instant game changer for me when I started MRP. One of the first things I did was to go to only logistics texting or if I had to say something that needed a response immediately. A couple things hit me when I started doing this. The first being how much my wife and I talked over text. All the fucking time!! The second thing I learned was how butthurt I got and always took the worst meaning in every text because there is no emotion, facial expression, body language etc. Third, I was o…
/r/askMRP09/06/17 02:50 PM
2

He's a fucking chiwawa. Make him 3.0.
/r/askMRP07/06/17 10:18 PM
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I remember so many neglectful moments where my parents dismissed me, shamed me, and attacked my character. I never really grew up into a man who had confidence in himself because of this. Most things I did were doubted, questioned, or mocked, so my internal dialogue was one of self-doubt. I was also brainwashed with religion a lot and developed an entirely BP view of the world and women. Felt like I was reading an autobiography. Thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 07:09 PM
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I got an attorney a couple years ago when everything went nuclear then. At that time he setup a separation agreement since I live in an at fault state. I have since updated it. My goal is to do MRP for 6 months without any major changes so that I can start to get myself in order mentally and physically. After that I will give it another year. That would be a little over 1 month for each year of marriage. By that point I want to be at a point where I have enough OI and IDGAF to be able to walk aw…
/r/askMRP07/06/17 04:32 PM
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Correct
/r/askMRP07/06/17 04:11 PM
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This is kind of the place where I am coming from. Reading some of the stories on here and also being in a dead bedroom for almost 7 months now got my hamster to start running a little. I think some of that is just me projecting my mistrust and insecurities. I don't think she is cheating but I also know from past experience that OPSEC can get obsessive and unhealthy. Also, I know that I am my own final judge but it would seem that shitty OPSEC would lead to more damage if your goal is to try to k…
/r/askMRP07/06/17 03:25 PM
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Good Point and noted. Let me edit. She was very loving up until about two years ago when we had a nuclear event about sex. It was ugly and really thought it would end in divorce. I went beta as fuck afterward, which in hindsight probably did more damage and repulsion then fixing anything. Since then its been a roller coaster of here gaining trust back in me and then me doing autistic shit which proves that she can't trust me and just makes her draw back more. I think shes at the "I love you but …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 12:28 PM
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I don't think the RP aspect of this is causing the turmoil. The RP part has actually created stability where there used to be chaos. Since I am a very analytical person I tend to over think a lot and give myself information overload. Having clear or at least actionable tactics to use to communicate with my wife has helped me tremendously. The problem I have is this subconscious need to throw a wrench in the works. I act before I think. Quick Scenario - I have stated before we both cheated. My pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 12:26 AM
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tl;dr - She didnt show me a whole lot but to her she felt like she was showing me love all the time but in her way. I lost her love about 2 years ago. She was very loving up until about two years ago when we had a nuclear event about sex. It was ugly and really thought it would end in divorce. I went beta as fuck afterward, which in hindsight probably did more damage and repulsion then fixing anything. Since then its been a roller coaster of here gaining trust back in me and then me doing autist…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 12:05 AM
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OYS - 6/6/17 I am switching my format up this week because this week hit me like a ton of bricks and I am not going to pretend to pat myself on the back in each category. The Good - Consistently lifting and havent missed a day. I lift every other day regardless of whats going on. Broke through the OHP plateau on 5x5 which felt good. Successfully replumbed the intake valves on my pool and got it back up and running without having to pay anyone a ridiculous amount. Handling the house work well. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 03:57 PM
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I am in the same boat on this just with different BC. My wife uses Mirena which is a hormonal IUD. Her periods are basically non-existent and if they occur are only a day or two and extremely light. However, she still gets PMS and I have been able to track slightly based on that. I use Flo to track her periods. I would imagine a hormonal IUD would work to the same degree as any other hormonal BC.
/r/askMRP30/05/17 05:26 PM
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Exactly. I am struggling with finding a balance that is giving her comfort but at the same time I do not want to reward her with affection for all the hard no's and ignoring. In a way, as much as dealing with 6 months no sex is frustrating it has helped me remove the pussy form the pedestal and forced me to start looking at myself. I think a lot of the Rambo shit I have done has come from frustration over not having sex and that needs to stop. I am largely at this point focusing on myself and mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 05:07 PM
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I see what you are saying as far as abundance goes. I guess I was looking at it as just having other options in life not just for sex that she would want to come along for the ride. I see what you are saying though about it being my choice and if she comes along great if not thats ok also. Yeah, I definitely don't want her to be "afraid" to have sex. That seems like an alternate form of negotiated desire to me. Honestly, At this point I am not trying to activate slut mode. I am simply trying to …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 03:54 PM
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Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Sixteen Commandments of Poon, The Rational Male, Way of the Superior Man, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, Saving a Low Sex Marriage, 48 Laws of Power, Sex God Method Physical - M42, 6'6", 269lbs, 20% BF - Doing Stronglifts 5x5 and running 3-5 miles on active rest days. I take a full Sunday off. Failed OH Press on Stronglifts at 100lbs. Finances - Put a large chunk of money towards the CC to cut the balance down significantly. Should have it paid off by the end of the summer. …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 03:01 PM
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I know that I have beaten my wife down to a point where she has "shut off" emotionally towards me. I have always been in control of our finances, parenting our kids, respect from her etc. I have however always looked at sex as a form of validation in our marriage and even when I cheated. It was never sex for sexs sake. It was always this bar of it was never good enough for me regardless of what amazing sex acts were performed. I think that has worn my wife down over the years to the point where …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 03:02 PM
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Well, I am already on that. I am the head coach for my sons 6th grade football team and assistant director for our school districts 4th-8th grade teams. I have a heavy hand in logistics as this is my strong suit. I have ALWAYS been the one in all areas that has organized trips, getting events going and planning parties. I was talking more of a social fun aspect. I have a great repport with the parents as a coach and get shit done kind of guy but not in a social party kind of way since I have int…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 01:31 PM
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Changed My Mind by E-Dubble. - RP song. EVERY. SINGLE. WORD. After that just add every song by Slayer, Lamb of God, Behemoth
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 09:02 PM
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OP called me out on it in my most recent post. I was internally angry at my wife for giving me a hard no. I still do not have an attitude of abundance and still look to sex as a form of validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 04:46 PM
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My Goals - Physical - Drop to 15% BF and get back to college lifting weight levels. Social - Interact more with all my kids sports teams parents and make connections since this is where I spend a good bit of my time out of work. Family - Lead my boys on more adventures. They all play sports that eat up a lot of time. I want to do more combined activities with all of us interacting. Financial - Pay off the one and only CC we have. Marriage - Resolve 6 month dead bedroom and clear co-dependency is…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 02:14 PM
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That is one of the many things I am struggling with. Yes my wife is stubborn and strong willed and as fuck you as it gets but she has never directed any of that towards me. I wont sit here and say she doesnt shit test because AWALT. However, she always respected my decisions, has NEVER talked bad about me to anyone, has never cursed at me. Shit she has never even said she hated me when I cheated on her twice. Literally sex is what is broken in our relationship. Seeing some of the posts on here I…
/r/askMRP24/05/17 07:06 PM
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Thanks for putting it that way. I obviously wasn't looking at it like that.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 10:53 PM
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I'm not going to try and say my frame is solid. I know I have work to do. I know my wife will be harder to hold frame with then most which is what got me to this point. I was extremely alpha at one point in my life. Complacency and fuck up after fuck up made me a beta.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 07:22 PM
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Reverse that. First 3 months was her and was pre-RP. So I would try and initiate in my typical blue pill ways and get met with "it's always about sex" or some excuse. I was reading NMMNG at the time and figured what the hell. If anything it will help me remove her and the pussy from the pedestal and squash some of the excuses. Now the entire 90 days I was flirting with her etc. but never trying to close. Now the 90 days is up but I feel I created a norm in the house with no sex.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 07:19 PM
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I would agree with this. I am having a hard time figuring out who I am. I realize now that I have lost myself in the process of being with my wife for 22 years. At some point everything became homogenized together and I dumped it all into her and my boys and lost my identity in the process. This has been something that has been on my mind a lot lately. Simply trying to figure out who I am now and what I want to do and focus on.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 06:26 PM
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Yes I do.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 05:53 PM
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Absolutely agree on this point. When I realized this it felt like a weight lifted off my back.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 05:51 PM
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So are you saying that a stubborn, confident woman is impossible to deal with? This is what attracted me to her and continues to do so. I can't stand the basic bitch model of women nowadays. I like a woman with tattoos who I can have an actual conversation with. Call me picky, I dont know. At the end of the day she's still a woman, AWALT.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 05:38 PM
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Yes, we both have an healthy lifestyle. In my OYS I said 3 of the 6 months were my fault since I had read NMMNG prior to red pill and did the moratorium activity to try and squash the "its always all about sex" comments from her.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 04:59 PM
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Elaborate on what you think is off? I will be happy to share. For brevitys sake I didn't include every little detail. I completely understand I have a long long way to go and I am only at the beginning. I know I should be at it at least a year before I move on to other levels of dread. My confusion was simply at how dramatic her reaction was to my initiating. Just because I am at levels 1-2 of dread doesnt mean I shouldnt be initiating with my wife. I have never had issues talking to other women…
/r/askMRP22/05/17 04:09 PM
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Yeah at this point I told her I have no issues with her going to see the counselor but I wouldn't be going back. If you get anything out of RP at all, you need to KNOW that you are not responsible for the feelings or actions of other people. This was the first thing I internalized so far with RP. I was guilty of this with myself and with my wife. I made her responsible for my happiness and was an emotional tampon for her. I still catch myself doing it from time to time but I have gotten to a poi…
/r/askMRP22/05/17 03:50 PM
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This is a good question. If you read my history in OYS then you would have seen we are in marriage counseling. My idea prior to red pill. I just recently stated I wouldn't go back and canceled the rest of our appointments. Basically, the MC started pinning everything on me that was wrong. My wife jumped on it as easy rationalization and excuses not to have sex with me. After our second session sex ended. Now she wants to work through all her issues with me and figure herself out. She is pissed a…
/r/askMRP22/05/17 02:10 PM
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This is a great point and I will take this to heart. You are spot on.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 02:07 PM
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Good question. I do know that I had oneitis bad and probably do but I also know that I am getting out of having it also. The further out of it I get the more I see that maybe I shouldnt be wasting my resources on it. All I know is that I wasnt the best man I could be leading up to this moment. I will be eventually, but I am not right now. I am going to do me and be a better father to my kids, then I will reassess and walk away if need be.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 01:54 PM
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I posted a lot of background in OYS over at marriedredpill. Basically, married 17 years, cheated on her twice. The last time I cheated on her 5 years ago she cheated on me with the husband of the girl I fucked. Its a lot of past drama and trust issues in this marriage.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 01:42 PM
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The only reason I am doing the forehead kisses is my history with my wife is loaded with beta butt hurt and stomping off. I am using the forehead kisses as a way to show her I am not pissed. If I just walk out she is going to see that as butt hurt even if it isnt.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 01:38 PM
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Thanks for the advice and yeah I know there is a long road ahead of me. It was just an opportunity to have fun with just us and I was at least going to try. To be honest I did have a great time. It felt great talking to other women and getting a genuine response back.
/r/askMRP22/05/17 01:36 PM
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I am initiating regularly but getting hard no every time. So one issue I am having is that my wife claims feeling uncomfortable with me and doesn't trust that I won't become an asshole again. I know that I am not attractive enough to her yet. I also know that these statements are just her hamster rationalizing this unattractiveness. There have been a couple times where the hard no seems like a soft no but when I try to push through it I get a very clear "get away from me" hard no.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/17 03:30 PM
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This is great advice. Thanks!! I am a very logical and black and white thinking person. My wife is not. AWALT. When she has "the talk" with me it instantly turns me into the scene from the movie Scanners when the guys face melts off. I am slowly getting better but need to let go of that need to prove a point and hold frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 12:57 AM
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Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Sixteen Commandments of Poon, The Rational Male, Way of the Superior Man, WISNIFG, Book of Pook, Saving a Low Sex Marriage, 48 Laws of Power, Sex God Method Physical - Still lifting every other day (5x5) and running on days in between. Lifting and running are different kinds of exhaustion and I need both. Cut down on grains but still need to cut out sugar. Finances - Pretty solid here except for one credit card that needs paid off. Have been going through the house t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 06:13 PM
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This rings true. I am only a couple months into MRP and my wife has told me she likes my changes but still doesnt trust that I won't "change back" 6 months down the road. I told her I am not going to promise her that I won't but I did promise myself I won't and that's going to have to be good enough for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 05:54 PM
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I am new to MRP as well. The first thing I internalized is doing everything the best you can and not look for short cuts. It is a complete mental shift. This includes not only your day to day routine things but EVERYTHING you do. It means don't just do something without thinking about the best way of doing it. For example, seeing everywhere that the first rule of Fight Club is not to talk about it and then using the same account you post on every other reddit sub. If you thought for a second you…
/r/askMRP15/05/17 05:00 PM
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You need to tell your son This was something instilled in my boys early. This is why the threat of "wait till your father gets home" is the go to threat for mothers. My boys test her constantly and she becomes frustrated. I follow through on punishment and my boys know it. My wife makes idle threats that she backs down or "forgets" about. he is going to be eating ALOT This is an understatement of monumental proportions. We go through 4 gallons of milk per week in my house!! I have given my boys …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 02:49 PM
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It is some serious drama and I have moved on from it. This is why RP hit a cord with me. I had Oneitis and was grinding simply trying to find the magic formula to make my wife forget everything and move on. Unfortunately BP me was doing everything that pushed her further away. Now I see that it isn't about fixing her or us, its about fixing me and hoping she follows. If she can not get over it then then thats ok but I will be a better man in the long run. I make no illusions that it won't suck o…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 01:18 PM
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Cheating happened because the opportunity presented itself. I was far too Beta to actually communicate clearly she wasn't cutting it. Short story is sex slowed after second kid, I got laid off and cried about it which nuked our relationship. She took the opportunity of me being home looking for work to get a break from being a SAHM. As beta as I had been with her I never was with others. I took the opportunity to cheat with a friend of hers. This all is the first incident which was 10 years ago.…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 12:27 AM
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Trust issues on her side of the aisle was after the second time I cheated she spite fucked the girls husband and then flew across country to a friends for a week. By owning cheating I apologized, groveled, etc when I was BP. Since swallowing RP I have stated to her that I realized I wasnt the best man I could have been during that time and I am trying to improve myself and my integrity. That is a good point about comfort vs being fun. I can see where that would relate. Always about sex comments …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 09:41 PM
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Yeah I will own the fact that I was a shit head and may have ruined the relationship beyond repair. I have owned the cheating and we are in counseling now. However, the cheating happened 5 years ago and we are just now in counseling. So the wife has been internalizing this for a while. I try to say as little as possible in counseling and just let my wife puke out the feels to the counselor. I have felt that she probably suspects that I am cheating again with my change in behavior but I am not su…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 05:14 PM
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Background - First OYS. M42 W38 with 3 boys, married 17 years. Found MRP by reading NMMNG. I always knew something was off in my life after our second kid but could never figure out what. Same story as everyone else. Dead bedroom and utility sex sometimes twice a month. Lied alot and cheated twice on my wife. Major trust issues on both sides of the aisle in our marriage. Overall, I put the pussy on a pedestal and had Oneitis bad. Reading - NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, Sixteen Commandments of Poon, The Rat…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 01:44 PM
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Physical - Lifting every other day and running on days in between. Lifting and running are different kinds of exhaustion and I need both. Need to work on cutting down on carbs/sugar more. Cut about half out of my diet and upped protein intake. Finances - Pretty solid here except for one credit card that needs paid off. Budget is sound and I am working on cutting out extra expenses. DHV - This is where I am struggling the most. I am having a hard time identifying shit/comfort tests and am using A…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 01:34 PM
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No she wasn't being bitch or rude. I was being autistic.
/r/askMRP08/05/17 04:03 PM
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Good point and a great way to look at it. One of my bad habits I am trying to fix is over thinking everything. This is what I am doing in situations like this.
/r/askMRP08/05/17 03:08 PM
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Thanks for the advice.
/r/askMRP08/05/17 02:51 PM
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Yeah, this is where I struggle. Sometimes I feel like she is just digging at things that shouldn't matter. She knows I am at work that day, does it matter what I am doing at work. I said I can't take off, end of discussion. She was probably just being curious but I was looking at it as DEERing.
/r/askMRP08/05/17 02:46 PM
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Thanks for the reminder.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 05:51 PM
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Thanks for the solid advice. I won't lie, I initially got into this because of a low sex marriage. Quickly however like many on here I realized it is much much more then that and I wasn't living up to my potential as a man. I started realizing all the things I was doing wrong and that it requires an entire mental shift. I keep waiting for the excitement of becoming better to wear off but it doesn't. The more I do, the more excited I get to do more. I think my main issue is I tend to become focus…
/r/askMRP02/05/17 05:42 PM
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This is where I am still very green. I felt as if any explanation of how I am doing anythign is DEERing. I see now that explaining logistics isn't that case in this circumstance. As far as dread is concerned, this is where I am not trying to go overboard right now. I don't want to fry her circuits and I know even if she hasnt said anything out loud this is hamstering in her brain.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 05:34 PM
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I read the whole light issue wrong and did miss a big opportunity. In the past, exchanges like this would instantly escalate into arguments that lasted hours and sometimes days because she is very stubborn. This is her nature with everyone, not just me. When she feels she is in the right on something it takes almost an act of God to change her mind. So her saying fine and walking away was a huge step in my book. Even if it was heated. There was clearly room for improvement and I know I could hav…
/r/askMRP02/05/17 05:31 PM
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