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Thx. Makes sense. The consult fees add up quickly. That's the difficulty, the conversations seem good with the attorneys but getting a gut feel that they are the right man for the job.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 04:59 AM
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Why did you consult with so many, it appears 3 attorneys?
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 08:27 PM
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Personal growth, you nailed it. Recently she said something, like, now is not the time to work on improving myself. Unfortunately due to all her mental issues, etc, she's got so much work she's doing, asking her to work on something else just seems like too much. She'll put all her focus on issues with her family and I'm just left by the way side. I don't know why she doesn't see who's standing by her side taking care of her. She told our therapist last week, that she figured out what my problem…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 09:59 PM
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Well, the issues is, she doesn't give a fuck about not talking. So nothing is learned here. In fact, not talking is the best answer as she will go on for hours. She never backs down.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 09:02 PM
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Been there.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 04:11 AM
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As far as preparing papers, most attorneys I've talked to want a $5-7.5k retainer to get started. Steep investment.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 04:09 AM
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Daily, it's so unhealthy. Consumes me. Playing with my kid, driving, mowing the lawn, etc. Overwhelming
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 01:52 AM
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This is it for me,.kids.... I just keep dragging it on. Initially it was.money and kids, I can rebuild. I'm sure I'll get 50% but the thought of breaking it up. I know the turmoil.is just as bad or worse. I have a history of dragging out unwanted relationships.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 11:43 PM
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She's highly qualified in the medical field. Mental health issues have caused her to step back and focus on the kid. Full time, she's easily making $115k. I'm just trying to help build the case or show that she can support herself and 50% of the kid. She refuses to put her in child care is her other argument for not going to work. Any courts will poo poo all over that and we'll have to find child care so we can both work full time.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 06:38 PM
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Washington
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 06:35 PM
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7 years with a 5yr old.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 05:26 PM
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I'm wfh, she just wandered around the house complaining to one of her friends about all the things I've recently done to her. I could hear out loud or over the camera we have in our daughter's room. I didn't have a hot meal waiting for her after work, she worked 3 hours and I was putting our kid down for bed. She fell in the tub cause we didn't rinse the bubbles off, it turned into a fight cause she repeated herself for 30 minutes, I was going to wash my daughter with dial soap and ruin her vagi…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 06:20 PM
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Bingo. When we were last in couples therapy, she would leave almost every session crying. She hates that therapist. Then she went to some strong feminist therapist who she loved, and for a long time believes what the professional was feeding her, she eventually realized she was bad for her. In therapy, she only focuses on herself, how to get thru daily life with all the mental issues, and how to be a good mother. There is never a focus on her marital relationship. In fast, when she had her menta…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 03:58 PM
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She is a good mother (responsible, in the sense of taking care of a child), however controlling, angry, emotional and verbally abusive. I take the brunt of it, but our child gets it and witnesses what she does to me. I generally try to walk away or get out of it so it stops, but as you know it's hard not to fight back. If she warned she was going to slap me, what would she do if I'm not around and our daughter was inconsolable. I'm always the one misstepping, she's never wrong. In fact, she's to…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 03:24 PM
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I was waiting at the advice of my attorney. Obviously if it gets bad, which it is, that might change the direction.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 04:47 PM
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SHe is SAHM.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 04:47 PM
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Which county? Anyone in WA stay away from that judge.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 01:57 PM
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Yes, that's understood.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 05:23 PM
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Hits home. The amount of trash talking done to friends and family. She's ruined our relationships, 2 sides to every story. Strong mental health issues. Everything is my fault. She has no self reflection, always projecting.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 06:18 AM
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Sorry to hear you are in the same predicament as I, it is really sad to have these illnesses ruin lives and relationships. I asked for her FICO, but never thought to ask about mental illnesses in the family. Her sister said she tricked me. She's accused me of cheating, or stepping out, she just throws things out there. I travel for work, so while its very easily possible I could have cheated, I've never nor have I given any indicator I did. It is often like having another child in the house. I t…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 04:22 AM
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Thank you for your reply. Things are only calm if I'm silent and do what is expected.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 04:11 AM
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This hits home, and its the truth. I have been listening to the NMMNG audio. I have also found reading thru this forum and a couple others to be helping. Also, researching and understanding the mental illness is giving me some peace that this isn't something I have done, and there is nothing I can do to really solve it. It is really a bad environment, it has just become the norm and I've accepted it. My family is also subject to it to a degree, and they've opened up lately, its hard to hear.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 04:10 AM
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