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the stay plan is the go plan
/r/askMRP06/12/23 11:07 PM
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Yeah, the freeze out is good sign that your escalating.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 04:05 PM
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I imagine you, OP, reading Steel’s comment and a million other questions forming in your mind. What Steel says is true. Now, you will have to start small to form and establish your boundaries. 1). Lawyer up. Establish what you want with the boy, custody, childcare etc. 2). Shut the fuck up. You don’t discuss the above process with anyone. You design the separation you want. 3).The above 2 steps will give you some areas you will have to stand firm on. These are your first boundaries. Practice art…
/r/askMRP29/11/22 01:34 PM
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Yeah, sounds like Rick Astley x Lil Wayne
/r/askMRP28/11/22 08:42 PM
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1). Lawyer up 2). Shut the fuck up 3). Wrap it up (control the birth control from now on. 4). Level up. You are 33 years old. You’ve know idea how easy poon is for a 35 + man. Get your son into him into full contact sports. He will be able to easily process the divorce. The marriage is long dead. You look like you’ve a very easy exit here. Lucky bastard.
/r/askMRP28/11/22 08:39 PM
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You’re wife needs a full time job. You need to see a solicitor to establish what divorce/custody will look like for you. Concentrate on the Stay Plan is the Go Plan. Even beginning the process above will help you to STFU.
/r/askMRP27/11/22 02:19 PM
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Now you’re talking!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/22 06:07 PM
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if you look at the root meaning of the word and it’s usage that refers to infidelity in that particular scripture you’ll see that you are opting for a particular interpretation of that word, by the church, of that scripture. I recommend you don’t use the church as buffer because if you do, you will also use it as an excuse.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 06:18 PM
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Talk about what you have done. Forget context, you are in your own context and will morph all inputs to suit your own interpretation. Everyone does this. Instead, try writing it like: I did X, then DEERed, wife lost her shit, DEERed again and got angry. Done. Then we can tell you: okay you caught yourself after you blew. Next you’ll catch yourself as you blow it. This way you can calibrate. That been said. I am right aren’t I? You have consulted a solicitor yet have you?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 01:41 PM
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Your frame is how you see the world. Saying it’s weak just means you don’t like it. Keep doing what you are doing with the gym and meeting new people. This will crowd out what you call “being in other people’s frame”. You are only beginning to get a sense of your preferences. The more that sense develops the less time you’ll have for other people’s preferences.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 11:34 AM
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Tell me more about what you said to your wife and what she said to you. It’s riveting. I am certain you haven’t consulted a lawyer about what the terms of your divorce would be. Therefore you can’t run the STAY PLAN IS THE GO PLAN.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 11:28 AM
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As per SBIII’s post: use the Clue app to track her period & the Stool App for bowel movements. I have noticed that after she has had a big poo she’s more likely to let me see my children.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/22 12:09 PM
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I'll add in a dick pic too!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/21 09:44 AM
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If by dropping off you mean not posting recently. Yes. However, I have not dropped off the RP wagon. Just not posting. Doing the 60DOD again to dial in over Christmas. On the abs shit, I was looking for a role model like SK suggested. I could recalibrate my diet again for sure. I wasn't as strict during a house move.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/21 09:43 AM
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On a serious note. Any pointers? I'v added 100 crunches on my 3 x visits per week and vacuums on the off day. I was gonna throw in some intermittent fasting to speed up the cut.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/21 01:15 AM
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Yeah. I'll show you a one pack the likes you've never seen early 22!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/21 01:11 AM
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I'm in. Abdominals are the focus. And learning a more about form in the DoggCrapp cycle.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 11:09 AM
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"...why I would do it differently?" Because you have not given yourself the space to want because you were consumed with wanting your wife to want you. "lack of frame is by definition changing your behaviour to adjust to those around you." Nope. That's a symptom. Frame is a having the strongest identification with yourself first and foremost and everything else being a satellite to that. That's the red terror.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 10:20 PM
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Big time. I heard your feed back in the order place too. I was in the gym and cheering you along as listened. I think I am turning a similar corner in mindset. I kept thinking I had shed the covert contract that one day... However, a lot of the shit I had been putting together is now together and so pennies are dropping. I am going to start to ramp up the approaches and figure out the logistics when I het there.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 01:33 PM
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Doing 1 - 4 is not postponing. That's doing the work. Postponing was you're constant running to the back of the ship to see if the 1000ft rope had paid out. And then watching the surface of the water to see if you were getting a tug. Note how she ran in after of you. Not to interact with you but to present herself to you to pull you back in and give you nothing. She is all about her and all about hers. She willingly take your future in exchange for nothing. To date, you've been willing to give i…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 09:15 PM
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I think putting you energy into organising this and leaning into holding your boundaries will be transformational for you. And I mean you, and not, by proxy her. It's clear you still want a marriage with this woman to work and you should accept that. While at the same time accepting all the other things you desire in life. You won't be able to let it go until you accept how much you still want it and that you can't control that or the outcome. I have this question in my head for you. See if it's…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 02:11 PM
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You haven't seen a new lawyer yet have you?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 05:56 PM
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Now that's what I call frame.
/r/askMRP13/09/21 12:22 PM
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Are you considering speaking to the same lawyer again? "Everyone should have papers drawn up." Yes, they should. The stay plan is the go plan. You've missed a big part of your journey leaving this undone. Correct that. Now, your attitude of 'promptly' serving papers reeks of Rambo. You go on in your reply to describe your involved financial situation. Does it not occur to you that being prepared and having the papers in drawer gives you options. That's the whole point: cutting your cloth to suit…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/21 06:53 AM
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refresh my memory you have spoken to a solicitor already right?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 06:00 PM
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"She needs to sell me..." Great sales pitch... "Wish I was capable of finding..." ...but you don't believe in what your product.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 10:32 AM
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I’m ready to take the next step here and really dig in, if that means I piss my wife off, all the better to get some practice. My goal this week is to really focus on using AM, A&A, Pressure Flip, and possibly even using the nuke option on anything resembling a shit test. Brush up on the fogging too. And broken record. And negative inquiry: "I don't understand, what is wrong about me not doing [insert expectation] here". It's all about holding your boundary and staying on point. And never forget…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 09:20 PM
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yeah, stone's channel is excellent.
/r/askMRP19/08/21 03:51 PM
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Yes. I mean actual 'game'. Tell me about tripping into abundance. I didn't see it in OYS #77. I'm intrigued to hear about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/21 08:04 AM
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Thanks UW, One of the things that really hit me in your comment was the 'chunks falling off' piece. There has been an OCD compulsion to keep things together that had been a dampener on momentum. Great catch! I remember as kid playing video games and if I got a set back I always wanted to restart. I wanted to get a pure perfect run. It's an excellent visual picture you paint. Particularly the detail about the holes getting filled in and that my cohones getting bigger. But will my Tool get bigger,…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 09:16 PM
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That's a great point about the grudges. I certainly don't want to become embittered and hope that I am on my guard for it. Accepting my own mistakes and processing them is the best way forward. That being said accepting my own agency means I accept the agency of others too. I think of it as related to the dynamic that Tolle describes in PON. Where he talks about not being trapped by the mind. He warns against not 'going under thought'. This is what I am thinking about with regard to 'acquiescenc…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 01:06 PM
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Grounded, okay. However, sometimes I think it's possible that we confuse grounded with being locked in. I have been revisiting PON since you mentioned it. And though I deeply appreciated it's grounding aspects, I sometimes worry that it's promotes acquiescence. And personally, I am already tilted to far in that direction I fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 09:34 PM
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"jab your frame around" I am not. You're wrong Horns. I have a an ongoing conversation with Nuke. I am not here for schoolboy hazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 06:09 PM
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I hear you. I was concerned about that too for a while. No history of an affair as far as I know. In the end, my kids look like me too and well, I have raised them this far anyways. The reason I bring it up using the term cuckholded towards yourself seems counterproductive. Would you agree?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 03:03 PM
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Did you raise someone else's kids for 40 years?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 12:31 PM
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Oys_38 Age: 43(m), 44(F)Married: 16 years. 3 kids 14(m), 10(f), 7(f)Height: 6', Weight: 14st 4.5Diet Mode: Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal. Workout days 2280Kcal 40/45/15% C/P/F. Other days: 1757Kcal = 20/55/25% C/P/F Body Fat: 23 % Photo method. Weight Change: last 7 days: 1 pound down Overview of the week: 60 Days of Dread take 2 Done! A lot of shit, happened and a lot of stuff got done. At the start of this I thought I looked more like Sean Penn here, when in fact I looked more like Chris Pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 11:55 AM
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Hey, so you guys have thought this stuff through already? Who would have thought that autists would be so interested in interpreting the field notes of retards. Oh, yeah, that's the world.
/r/askMRP12/08/21 07:47 PM
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I am with you. If you add the fact that memory is most likely inflated and deflated on specific details, you are always dealing with a partially false memory. After that, the awareness of the source is useful to create a pause. As in, 'ah, I am doing X behaviour again because of Y'. After that, it's up to the individual to choose technique to overcome it: releasing, panic management, CBT, working out or working. Whatever has the greatest utility is all that matters. The rest is victim mythologis…
/r/askMRP12/08/21 07:42 PM
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There are a lot of things dissolving on front of me. I am leaning into it. There is trepidation because in the past I would swing in extremes. I am trying to hold the course by being focused on structuring. However, it feels like the changes I have set in motion are overtaking me and I am going with it. To be clear, I consciously set these things in motion, I am not a victim of circumstances. I am referring to the momentum and psychological changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 05:03 PM
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A couple of my friends went into medicine. When we were kids, all the parents would praise them. All I could think was "I can't look at that shit". The money, the career path, the prestige, I thought 'yeah, give them that and some more, I couldn't do it and if something gross pops up on my blob I want the best human working on it''. That been said, I have been thinking about something in the last few weeks. And I don't think we talk about it too much around here. Let's play with it. Just for kic…
/r/askMRP10/08/21 02:31 PM
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Oys_37 Age: 43(m), 44(F) Married: 16 years. 3 kids 14(m), 10(f), 7(f) Height: 6', Weight: 14st 5.5 Diet Mode: Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal. Workout days 2280Kcal 40/45/15% C/P/F. Other days: 1757Kcal = 20/55/25% C/P/F Body Fat: 23 % Photo method. Weight Change: last 7 days: 1/2 a pound down 60 Days of Dread Take 2 /Final Week Overview of the week: I realised how I employ self deception to misdirect when I am building up to my moves. Rpeeing recommended the book, The Elephant in the Brain, ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 11:26 AM
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'Crusty pussies and babies having babies.' You're on the frontline and you see the edge cases. 'Divorced in your mid-fifties after being a good man.' You're on the frontline and have experienced an edge case. You're viewing the world through Rage tinted glasses. There is a lot more women between 20 and widow and you are still looking for the 'one'. The one in your case may not be one individual although it may be one type of individual. On the upside you may have contributed to our list of dysfu…
/r/askMRP10/08/21 09:26 AM
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Thanks for Deering dear.
/r/askMRP08/08/21 10:06 PM
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Ha! Man, I've proven I can't lead my wife out of anything. However, your "even if it's your fault" bit. I choke on that. Because... heal the world n'all that
/r/askMRP08/08/21 09:56 PM
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It's an automatic response for you to empathise and then create comfort. Great, you can develop that and use it rather than be used by it. Over time. In terms of beginning to establish frame, generalisations are helpful. As a capable man you will generally view situations through a lense of self sacrifice. On the other hand, your wife is hardwired to view the same situations through a lense of self interest. Ergo, when you walk through the door, so does the solution to her immediate problem. You…
/r/askMRP08/08/21 03:51 PM
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This is outrageous. 5x5 is the most Powerful programme. My cancer of the aids is fully in remission now. And Keto and butter coffee cured me of the autisms.
/r/askMRP06/08/21 08:13 PM
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How’s your social life?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/21 08:10 PM
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ha
/r/askMRP05/08/21 05:51 PM
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that you already technically abandoned you child on legal terms. 4 days: Fuck that. Postpone it for 28 days. I look like Brad Pitt, but he’s not my Da.
/r/askMRP04/08/21 10:54 PM
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This comment should be on the sidebar.
/r/askMRP04/08/21 09:15 PM
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OP, you probably can’t see it now, but this is the truth. Even if this seems drastic to you, you should calmly float this one to her. If your heart is pounding and you’re freaking out because… like…everything. Still just do this and count to 28 days. Simple, do it while practicing de-escalation. At the same time talk to a lawyer about the abandonment thing and how he would recommend you get a paternity test for the child. Stealthily. you do not want the mother to know about the test. There’s som…
/r/askMRP04/08/21 09:11 PM
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BTW, forget the question at the end of my reply. I downloaded Models and where I had left off had the answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 05:06 PM
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Yep, a pound a week it is. Are there other men in the mix you can onboard? Her father, close male friends, cousins or the like? Not directly. He is a bit of a black sheep but also tyhe smart one. I expect him to leak my strategic confidences which will probably lead to the opportunity of developing other men. There is one friend and he's a leaker and that would be useful to cultivate. I'll get on that. Fucks sake dude, you are doing it again. Taking the women that fall in your lap, in stead of a…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 03:57 PM
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You can see this is all about her right?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 09:57 PM
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I did not see that. I saw at as a statement of fact. But it's not, the language is depersonalised and it reeks of victim of circumstance.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 06:30 PM
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So what did you do last week exactly? And what are you going to do this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 04:00 PM
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It is strange that you said this. I woke up the other morning and had a waking dream where I was approaching women and getting knocked back. I could feel the feelings of rejection from way in the past. As, I was coming to, I was thinking, "I don't want this?". How much of my decisions in life have been insulating me from the rejection wobbles? ​ That is an identity you choose and it's ego protection. Fear of rejection means you only go after the absolutely sure things. This really strikes a chor…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 02:06 PM
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​ and overlooks getting getting jacked and developing alpha behaviours in order to have wet pussy on tap. True. No fucking way am I going to do that... again. I can see how my conceptualisations have caused me to to think I can manipulate the Red Pill to my purple pill fantasies. One step forward and two steps back. Also, I would fail to recognise a wet pussy until it slid right past me. ​ RP gives you the tools to fuck someone hotter and more enthusiastic - maybe a better certain of her, maybe …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 11:46 AM
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Oys_36: Taming, Tweaking & Timing Age: 43(m), 44(F)Married: 15 years. 3 kids 14(m), 10(f), 7(f) Height: 6',Weight: 14st 6 Diet Mode: Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal. Workout days 2280Kcal 40/45/15% C/P/F. Other days: 1757Kcal = 20/55/25% C/P/F Body Fat: 23 % Photo method.Weight Change: last 7 days: 1 pound down Context: 60 Days of Dread Take 2Overview of the week: This is the last week end of my 60 DoD take 2 because I fucked up the first one.My previous week was wave after wave of realisations…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 11:20 AM
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Read in the voice of Jules from Pulp fiction Though a righteous man falls 7 times, 7 times he rises.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/21 01:11 PM
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12 hours later: Reflecting on what I wrote to IZ, this what I have realised is about my mode of operation: 1). I’m indifferent, living in my own bubble 2). Then I want something 3). I make some effort 4). Then I get an above average result 5). Then I decide ‘this must be what I want’ 6). I get fixated on what I got 7). Projection begins 8). Start to identify aspects I am not into 9). Begin working to fix and maintain the status quo 10). Resent that I have to work for what came easy 11). All the …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/21 07:45 AM
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It's true. However, it can't go on forever. And realising that there is an end has been an existential shock. "Slowest," i have always been aware of this. Even when I speed things up and get a result I would filed it into the broken mental model I outlined in response to IZ. Even before MRP I was trying to figure out how to STFU. I could do it over the last few years but I am only inhabiting it now. To the extent that I am watching the dynamics play out on front of me rather than doing the pract…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/21 08:36 PM
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In the interest of men exchanging notes my story shows how long a guy can be at this and still not get it. It seems to have gone like this for me. First I got red pilled to intersexual dynamics, then to the nature of women, then to the nature of men, then to the nature of work/society and finally to myself. That’s now. Early in this process I realised how retarded I was. However, small tweaks have produced big results relatively to my state. There was a distortion field that MRP truths passed th…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/21 08:25 PM
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You’re right. She fucks the man she thinks you’ll become. “As you drift from that mold the attraction drops.” The other side of this, as you start to stand in your own frame the attraction may also drop. And, as you said a elsewhere this week, if you can stop labelling the shifts as good or bad you can progress faster. On another note, The Elephant is the Brain was an excellent recommendation. I am looking forward to Factfulness too. The hyper-realistic approach you advocate certainly shortens d…
/r/askMRP31/07/21 01:02 PM
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At the start of my 60 DoD rerun this year a keystone popped up. RPeeing was advising me on DoggCrapp. I found the programme really engaged me because it pushes me to my limits. He use a term “assumed effort”. That often we assume that the effort is being put in when in fact it’s not and many don’t know what it feels like. Each time I go to the gym and find the point of strenuous exertion it reminds me that’s how I am supposed to do life. I used to side eye people grunting in the gym. Now, the od…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/21 10:06 AM
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Sure did. Embrace the cycle and release on the personal details. See the personal details as side tasks, not the main mission. I had occasion this morning to watch it work. There was another escalation and my mind went to a narrative I had. "Everytime I am getting a little bit ahead 'she' sabotages". There is some truth to this. A while back I would have thought about this as an obstacle to what I was striving for. I took a breathe, did a quick evaluation of what I need to take on and saw it as …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 12:26 PM
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No.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 12:16 PM
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There is something about 'not willing to be duped', 'not asking for help' and 'not networking' that is a denial of reality. There is an unwillingness to accept reality as it is. In short, I'm drowning. I don't want to ask for a rope. However, a rope would be really cool and hey, thanks for thinking of me! I relate to your words here. It keeps in a silo with yourself. And in there, you might be your own worse enemy.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 11:00 AM
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Many times the thing that your most resistant to is where the work needs to be done. And where the breakthrough lies.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 08:31 AM
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Ah, I wasn’t seeing the wood for the trees. It’s more about the cycle than the spot that I’m in.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 08:12 AM
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Sorry for your loss Horns. "It doesn't matter. Whatever gets you to the top of the mountain gets you there." I have been thinking about this. And realising that 'fitness' and adaptability are more important than 'facts'. This is compelling and strikes deeply at being the ultimate judge of yourself. And on this point I have enormous resistance. It could be religious upbringing, it could be a fear of self deception. There is something here that I am wrestling with. The fact that you put in terms o…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 08:38 PM
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Since you "made it" and also have no clear greater purpose, you're going to start to question if all that stuff you wanted (and achieved) was really what you wanted. Because you know, easy mode. Oh that's here. That hit this week. A big part of the person I was back then really did think that "I made it". Another part of me knew I was conceding but I didn't know what I was conceding or why or how to access an awareness of what I was surrendering. It is possible that I couldn't access it because …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 05:31 PM
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Oys_34 Age: 43(m), 44(F)Married: 15 years. 3 kids 14(m), 10(f), 7(f) Height: 6',Weight: 14st 8. Diet Mode: Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal. Workout days 2280Kcal 40/45/15% C/P/F. Other days: 1757Kcal = 20/55/25% C/P/F Body Fat: 23- 25% Photo method. Weight Change: last 7 days: 1 pound down Context: 60 Days of Dread Take 2 Overview of the week: This week I thought I might be having a nervous breakdown. It hit me when I was sitting on the mats across from my sparring partner and felt like I was g…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 09:52 AM
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Ah, I thought this was ‘praying’ for sex. Which I do. But ‘paying’ for sex that might work better for me too.
/r/askMRP24/07/21 10:42 PM
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That linked website is great.
/r/askMRP23/07/21 08:37 PM
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Like a good lawyer, never ask a question you don't know the answer to. This is up there with the Flywheel post.
/r/askMRP23/07/21 07:44 PM
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And it moves us all
/r/askMRP23/07/21 07:23 PM
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I don’t see any OYS from you. This all comes from your scarcity mentality. If you follow the path for long enough a day will come when it won’t even matter to you because you’ll be a man with abundance who does what he wants. Or… You could ask her. Which she’ll deny. And then you can AskMrp how to verify. And then worry about that. And then get banned. And on and on and on it will go.
/r/askMRP23/07/21 05:58 PM
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That’s the truth. Ah, I get it. This is why the weight loss is so key. It can’t be fudged with one of my ‘ideas’, process narratives or a longer time line. It’s how I tunnel out of the prisons I’ve built for myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 01:10 PM
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It has been the entire marriage when I think about it. It quietened down over quarantine and then sparked up again. And no, she hasn’t left, she wants me to.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 11:24 AM
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I think I get what your mean about quality However, when I look at PD Mangan I feel creeped out. Was that the point?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 12:25 AM
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Allow me to take the spoon out of my Ben & Jerry’s and offer it to you for the task at hand.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 12:10 AM
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And to make it worse… Yeah, as an ex butter in my coffee guy… I totally thought the ‘quality’ and type of food mattered. I still don’t get how it doesn’t. However, that’s irrelevant because the other shit you said works. I’ll find out the ‘why’ later.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 10:38 PM
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Well… C. U. N.ext T.uesday, then.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 10:31 PM
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‘Weightloss is way more important to your success than anything else”. I hear you and I’m bought in. I am monitoring for success in other areas too. What is it you’re seeing for me here in particular?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 04:08 PM
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Strange. I didn’t get a notification that you commented here. Stalled. I posted it like that because on the morning I weighed myself before posting was static. RPeeing says to track over 2 weeks, I think it’s to do with water or something. It is on 2 weeks that I do the adjustment on cals. however that been said, my weight did drop down another pound this week on a few of the days. But, I believe it on the 2 week mark. Also, it’s definitely coming off the waist because I can see it clearly on th…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 04:03 PM
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What did DirtyNukes girl do again? On another note, I thought you might have some insights on this. Perhaps, it's just normal. But I guess as what normal is. The more I face into what's coming in my life. Both small things and bigger things I get a nervous queasiness Dr. Blarg. I am doing the "letting go" technique to process the 'feeling' and then proceeding to the next action I can execute on. However, I see that I have buried and repressed a lot of shit. What I am seeking to avoid is a flare …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 10:11 AM
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Sure is.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 06:39 AM
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“ enormous need for honesty and authenticity” when you read it back, it sounds pretty idealistic, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 10:54 PM
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There are no babies in this story, right? If so, it just another case of oneititis, yeah.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 10:51 PM
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Oys_33 Age: 43(m), 44(F)Married: 15 years. 3 kids 14(m), 10(f), 7(f) Height: 6', Weight: 14st 9. Diet Mode: Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal. Workout days 2280Kcal 40/45/15% C/P/F. Other days: 1757Kcal = 20/55/25% C/P/F Body Fat: 23- 25% Photo method. Weight Change: last 7 days: static Context: 60 Days of Dread Take 2 Overview of the week: The stay plan is the go plan. However, the wife spouting on about separation gives me the speed wobbles. It is not that I want to save it. Rather, I wanted to…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 11:46 AM
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is 300mg the same as 3g? Never done straight lsd, but i just dropped 3g of dried mushies. But, I don’t feel gay yet. Except for Ryan Gosling. He’s like WAS and Blarg had baby. And you’re the baby’s mean, but well intentioned, older brother. kinda.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/21 11:17 PM
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Love it!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/21 09:56 AM
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Yeah, I fancy that! I’ll book one in the morning.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 11:10 PM
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that did the trick
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 09:12 PM
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Hey Cam, Give me an anecdote of your experience. I am looking forward to the experience you describe and because I could use the hopium today.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 05:53 PM
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I’ve been struggling to identify any shit tests and I’ve realised that I do get them but they’re not overt. Rule of thumb: When she saying "you are x,y,z" that's a shit test. When she saying " I feel x,y,z" that's a comfort test. When she is saying "I feel x,y,z because you're such a x,y,z." That's a shitty comfort text. Don't worry about them for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 05:00 PM
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Keeping me honest Zen! One llb down this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 12:25 PM
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Oys_32 Age: 43(m), 44(F)Married: 15 years. 3 kids 14(m), 10(f), 7(f) Height: 6', Weight: 14st 9. Diet Mode: Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal.Workout days 2280Kcal 40/45/15% C/P/F. Other days: 1757Kcal = 20/55/25% C/P/F Body Fat: 23- 25% Photo method. Weight Change last 7 days: 1llb down Context: 60 Days of Dread Take 2 Overview of the week: Took a day of work and drove up the coast on a rainy day. It was good to think through things and have some down time. Wife took off with the kids for 2 week…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 12:23 PM
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Nice one
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 05:18 PM
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"being happy" with a lack of situational awareness that leads to "missing clues" I find it useful to remind myself to "schedule my happiness because pain schedules itself". No matter how man clues we find we can stop that which is outside of our control as you point out. On another note: what is PON?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 02:55 PM
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If your not signing papers or sitting in court, consider it a last ditch effort to whip you into shape (ie: her Frame). see: https://archive.is/bAidd Section: Addressing some specific common scenarios
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 01:36 PM
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Your wife has put you to work. You should return the favour. Tell her she needs to contribute the financial future of the household. I’ll bet you see the mother of all shit storms.
/r/askMRP10/07/21 08:50 AM
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I second that. I also give you permission Dave, go out and play with your friends… Dave, You’re my wife now! https://youtu.be/OIrTTv_Isho
/r/askMRP08/07/21 07:02 PM
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I have my own reasons. And you're right they could be justifications. However, the most important reason is that one of the guys on MRP who has shared his notes with me recommended it. His advice in other areas was impactful. I should have listened closer sooner but our style of communication is different and I'm slow to catch on. That's the main reason I have committed to TSM. I am accountable to see it through.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 04:16 PM
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The stacking of good decisions leads to early celebrations for me and slowing down. There is something where if I can't see the ending I wait a little for things to become clearer before continuing with pace. It's weakness.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 12:04 PM
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This is extremely useful. How far back in your OYS should I search to read up on: I had a few cases of having to shut down unacceptable shit rather hard (involving the kid, hinting at a DV charge, shit like that) to get the bitch to calm the fuck down and not sabotage her own and everyone else's happiness. I have many questions to ask. However, rather than take up too much of your time. I need to do this first: Looked at my needs/wants list (thanks, ICM) as well as what was legally feasible and …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 10:37 AM
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Hmmm, there appears to be a theme between us here. It’s showed up in our past DMs. It’s kinda like you’re doing a Jack Ten with more RSD, so less world weary. And I’m in the back seat shouting “We’re not there yet.”
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 01:19 AM
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by staring at them thinking how to calibrate to their mood, you just... go. I've tried it. A lot. The Man who Stared at Goats
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 07:09 PM
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Ha, Experience: Smooth Operator!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 06:14 PM
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Yeah, I didn't go crazy. However I lost 1/2 a pound last week and nothing this week so I thought I'd make the adjustment to reduce by 5% anyway. I did do some fasting up to it as well. So, it could be water retention because there is changes in the clothes. Drink liquor.Tada. There you go. I had been drinking beer rather than liquor because I didn't factor in the Naltrexone. That would have made an impact. Because I retain water on beer. Eat all your protein, with low to zero fat, at it or right…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 06:12 PM
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Hey Ryan, Thanks for the note. I have done the cold turkey thing for long periods. I believe it is the endorphins aspect for me. I have previously been so focused on others that "a drink, a joint, a pill' were my only allowances. Everything else has been knocked on the head for value reasons. The drinking because I went cold turkey always had an outsider appeal. breaking the operating condition is crucial for me. For example, I'd like to have some grass. But I gave up smoking so I don't. I could…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 12:50 PM
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OYS_ 31 Cont'd 2 of 2 Career Finalising all the company formation details, contracts and legal conditions. From a learning and management experience this has been great. I also know all governance and power dynamics across the group of companies. I know where each jurisdiction takes precedence. What contract impacts another. I know where all the levers are. Where the fulcrums of leverage sit and how to use them discreetly. This will be a powerful position to be in. I have majored in Law 24: Play…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 11:55 AM
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Oys_31 1 of 2 Age: 43(m), 44(F)Married: 15 years. 3 kids 14(m), 10(f), 7(f) Height: 6', Weight: 93.4kg - static for 1 week.Diet Mode: Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal. 5% reduction = Workout days 2280Kcal 40/45/15% C/P/F. Other days: 1757Kcal = 20/55/25% C/P/FBody Fat: 23- 25% Photo method. Context: 60 Days of Dread Take 2 Acceptance this week 1). I have lived in a trances. I see my broken mental models. These are improved in direct proportion to my dropping of dancing monkey performances. 2). S…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 11:54 AM
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That was a great post you wrote
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 09:02 AM
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Man, I need the practice.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 06:18 PM
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You put yourself through the shitter. Congrats on 1 year sober. I can do total abstinence. I can go totally clean but it fuel by rejecting drink, drugs whatever. But then I wrap my identity around not doing something. I have done clean for 7 years at one stretch. The underlying issue for me is that I find it difficult to associate 'endorphins' with things thing that aren't altered states. Be it drugs, drink, risk, martial arts etc etc. So, I will break up my operant conditioning and change how I…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 04:50 PM
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Glad to hear that my OYS had some use. The process that RPeeing describes is safe if you're not retarded. You warm up and then go for it. Don't fuck around in the gym. You're justing leaving money on the table.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 02:46 PM
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Have you read Day Bang? His thing about setting feet in concrete and just rambling is a good challenge. Also, having 3 scripted anecdotes that allow the 'cat' to ask questions is great. I am working on this. He also has a point about standing about 2 metres away and talking so as not to intimidate and also you can see if they walk towards you and show interest. I am a novice at this and just learning but there's alot of tips that help a novice not come off creepy. Loads of stuff in there. When I…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 02:11 PM
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Go to my OYS: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/o5i5ir/own_your_shit_weekly_june_22_2021/ In the comments read everything u/Rpeeing said to do and the see u/rocknrollchuck 's comment on food and protein amounts. Do that. Then go to my previous weeks OYS and read u/Rpeeing direction to me on Doggcrapp training. Here is an article with a printable guide: https://muscleandbrawn.com/workouts/a-concise-guide-to-doggcrapp-training/ Do that and don't stop. I have don the Keto & IF stuff.…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 01:35 PM
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That’s a great point on the success. It has given me an edge. But where I fuck up is think I can guide them to a different path rather than acting in line with my best interests based on their likely behavior. The exact opposite of STFUing. “Why don’t I have them worked out?” It’s not that important to me at the moment. I want to apply my energies elsewhere. If it were to ‘just happen’ I have those logistics worked out but it’s not a priority. Improving my game situationally is more of a priorit…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 12:45 PM
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I don't give a fuck about her and what is in her head. Neither should you, there be dragons. What's interesting is you. I tend to try to predict people behaviours. Which I believed gave me an edge. It sunk me into their frames. In particular, why you are not out sourcing new bitches. I am opening up girls I meet. I am not dating, why? Because a date equals guaranteed sex! And I don't have the logistics worked out! There's my stupid reason. that was unconscious until I wrote it there. It makes no…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 12:23 PM
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I'm also the result of being poured into a container that I made. Its limits and restrictions are those I've placed on myself. Yes. I notice this too with myself. My OYS with this is missed opportunities. Crossing a parking lot to my car a woman called out a greeting. A simple exchange of pleasantries and then on my way. No escalation or polarization on my part, no "close", etc. You've made observations like this before. I found them useful. What would your ideal outcome be?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 11:14 AM
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The layers do keep peeling back. And there's alway something behind the thing you uncover. If you are doing NMMNG, you could just run the exercises and comeback to reflection in a few weeks. Just major on the basics for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 11:09 AM
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I'll (still) recommend leading with weight loss progress in every OYS if I were you. Yep. That was an error on my part. I get that into the next one. "Is it a conscious decision and if yes, why?" It was in the past. I have taken it back. I haven't been with anyone yet. But I would say my faithfulness is something she thinks she can count on because she sees me as her mark. ​ She gets to mention divorce once, next time, you file. I used this tactic of a single warning and never heard of it again …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 10:36 AM
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Intermittent fasting most days but blowing out Friday and Saturday night. This is holding me back. I overthink things and just need some grind to develop discipline at this stage to ensure I really focus on my mission and not self sabotage by saying but not doing. This creates a brain loop. I punish myself and then reward myself with a blow out at the weekend. So all the work is to 'buy' you the reward which is 'eating'. You need to be getting your kicks from something else. Excercise, comedy, m…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 10:17 AM
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The TWOTSM thing is a real trap for certain guys. It certainly played into my own tendency to noodle.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 10:13 AM
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Half a pound. I took note of your point from last week. And appreciate you checking in. I am running the program RPeeing gave me. That's on a 2 week cycle. So if it's static next Tuesday I drop cals for training and non training by 5%.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 10:03 AM
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Oys_30 The 7 discoveries this week were: 1). My piecemeal approach to MRP process led to what I thought I wanted but not what I needed. 2). Incongruence: I have acted in anger because I thought it made me stronger. My anger is from misattributions, blaming and regrets, see point 1. 3). I take everyone and everything too seriously and turn every project into an epic. 4). I have been detaching from people ( I was setting myself on fire for) to become more appropriately selfish. I can remain playfu…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 09:33 AM
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Sweet Jesus, help him!
/r/askMRP25/06/21 07:51 PM
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I suppose at a certain level Mrp looks like askmrp to some. I hope it will look like that to me one day. If not, there's always the next life. Namaste
/r/askMRP25/06/21 06:09 PM
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My form is not pristine because I am looking up videos to refine my form and adjusting each workout. I am conscious of it. The last rep usually goes to 75% the way and I know I am gonna fail so I reset it to the rack. Rest Pause and go again. U/Rpeeing adjusted some of the exercises for me to reduce the risk of injuring myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/21 03:39 PM
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PSA: MRPers: OP is copying and pasting his same response to multiple replies. Time to bounce. He’s unlocked a new level of retardation. u/weakandsensitive, I hear you’re on duty this week. Or is that only over at main shop?
/r/askMRP24/06/21 08:38 PM
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Don’t do this.
/r/askMRP24/06/21 07:52 PM
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Here is the starting point. You will be kept busy: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/askMRP24/06/21 07:47 PM
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You have to quickly stop talking about her. When you move over to the main sub you be banned for talking about her. Steels Guide to MRP is in the main sub gives you a guide to everything you need to know. A quick tip. You’re anger is going to go up. You must keep your mouth shut. You are going to see these letters everywhere STFU = Shut the fuck up. You shut the fuck up to wife, mom, sisters whoever. Keep your mouth shut. When your anger is uncontrollable. Get in the car, grab a pillow and screa…
/r/askMRP24/06/21 07:44 PM
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We also say, their not ‘your’ kids their ‘her’ kids. She’s not yours it’s just your turn. Put the oxygen mask on yourself first. Your can’t help anyone until you help yourself. Keep you mouth shut and get lawyered up. This is gonna hurt but there is nothing new in your story. Lots of guys have had shit like this. You’ll discover those stories around the sub over time. Those men are not unhappy. They are way happier and a lot have cool relationships with their kids. You have to take care of yours…
/r/askMRP24/06/21 07:36 PM
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We have a term for this around here “Captain Save a Ho’”
/r/askMRP24/06/21 07:30 PM
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The 'assumed' intensity is a real trap. In my gym none of the PTs look like they could help me with this type of program. So, there is no way to navigate to max intensity. Stronglifts, helped me understand warm up and some basic principles. However, the app would deload me for failures. Doggcrapp rewards me for failure. Huge differential there and all round mindset shifter, Today, after the gym and with all the eating, I felt great. Grounded with an elevation in mood. I was very motivated around…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 05:40 PM
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Yep, he came back on that. I mist have missed it in the Op
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 03:16 PM
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I see.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 01:46 PM
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So what are you guys saying? Is it: if your wife miscarries you will need to get her pregnant again because…? Am I picking you up right?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 01:10 PM
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Nice one RocknRoll. That’s gone into my grub file.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 01:08 PM
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Really relevant.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 01:07 PM
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Right so.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 09:31 PM
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I forget exactly how fat you are but I’d do something like: 23-25% 2,400kcal 40/45/15% (C/P/F) workout days I'm guessing I don't near those Kcals until I'm down around 91Kg?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 08:52 PM
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I'll focus on dialling that in for the week. You’ll likely find that a lot of food, which is great: no reason you shouldn’t get lean af on that diet. Finding it a lot already. But I got some wild deer in the fridge.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 08:50 PM
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Not great but it is my cross to bear. Nope, Jesus carried the cross. You're just not getting your end away. Bit of a difference. I have put my wife pussy on such a high pedestal. I mention that because divorce is only an option in the event of infidelity. Really? Is that what the Bible says or is that what a translation interpreted by culture and pastors says? Ever studied the Greek, I'm guessing you're an NT kinda guy. I try to remove myself when I feel the inner bitch come out. STFU has been t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 08:43 PM
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Mistake: Carbs/Fats wrong way around in OP. 47% Protein = 180g 24% Carbs = 110g 29% Fat = 40g Still an issue?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 08:29 PM
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Say we asked them to rate how hard they worked out. I think most people, including you, are going to say “7/10” (And probably believe it’s 8/10). Here's the odd thing. I don't know. And I know I don't know. This is the amazing thing about DoggCrapp. Sometimes, I think I picked the weight that would get me to a 10 rep max. I do 10, go again and do 7, and then 7 and then 7 and then 6... So I am a bad judge of effort. I then translate this across my life. That I am doing that in other area. Probabl…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 08:12 PM
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OTOH, success compounds so quickly that what seems far fetched now can soon be routine and it is staggering what operating at an honest 50% looks like. This is the most encouraging thing I have read lately. One of the big things that I have become aware of is that I withdrew in so many areas of my life. Kept working away at things but way too detached from the social milieu. And when I stepped into the arena it was alway with this mono focus and trying to read the outcome early.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 08:02 PM
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I don't need to take in all those fats. What would you opt for as a split?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 07:56 PM
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Yeah, it looks like water. A lot off the face. I'll do that on the OYS. But if I am putting on muscle should I not expect a stall? I don't think I ever even indicated my loyalty was transactional. Too much of a nice guy. Same in my marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 07:55 PM
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I'll check that out. I bought the book but skimmed through just a few sections. The mini series will cover some drive time.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 07:52 PM
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I am open to the idea that I'm autistic. I do bring it up a lot, you're right. I suppose I see it as a major issue. Where I went a'squandering. I can say that cultivating the “hyper realistic” perspective in alluding to in other comments has helped me. I've being paying attention to this. I am concentrating on bring that into my decision. Previously, I thought it would spoil the magic but I am finding it a relief.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 06:13 PM
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But hold on. u/RPeeing, am I right in saying you would not agree with this?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 05:56 PM
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What about fats and carbs?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 05:51 PM
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Ah thank goodness, that was hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 05:50 PM
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I get you now. I was referring more to a lax approach where I avoided what was on front of me and was slow to nuke bad habits. That been said I totally agree with: anyway I've always experienced that the harder you chase things, the more they pull away. I was thinking about this when I was writing my OYS. When I am relaxed and working through my tasks without too much 'eagerness' things tend to go far better for me. I have swung from pole to pole in the past. Swinging from being "away with the f…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 04:34 PM
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Yeah, I recall your comment a few weeks back. I was fucking around in the reply "yeah, what is another year?" But in my heart of hearts, I thought "you know, it could take sometime, but I'll get there in the end." My head is not in that place anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 01:54 PM
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What's BW? If it Body weight I came in at 93.4kg. Basically what I mean was that rather than 'skirting' the issue. I went for it. A few friends counselled me not to. In DoggCrapp you push to failure when lifting. I just applied this to the negotiation. In terms, of ambivalence rather than asserting 'continued' loyalty I chose to talk in a way where I was keeping my options open. Like the way they talk about female sub-communication in Practical Female Psychology. I am usually so upfront. I just …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 01:47 PM
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Ouch, My feefees tell me I'm a cocktail of all 3. I call it the Beta Bellini.
/r/askMRP22/06/21 12:47 PM
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Oys_29 Discovery: The 3 main discoveries of the week were: 1). I am angry and everyone seems to be aware of it but me, until it's too late. It would have created more resentment if it was left unattended. I now, let it wash over me. I turn it into action, not complaints or rationalisations or wishing the world was different. 2). I have believed that words and loyalty would pay off for me in the long term. Deep covert contract. I now ask myself "what's in it for me?" and choose based on cost/bene…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 12:29 PM
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Your linked post, I have been thinking about this. Would you say this applicable to 'beta's in general ? Or would you say it's a specific type of 'beta'? It rings very true to me on a personal level. I wonder have you noticed a type. i.e artists, high in openness or another shared characteristic, theme?
/r/askMRP22/06/21 12:11 AM
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Alternatively, put a baby in your oul' wan. YMMV. Whoops, you already did that. Twice.
/r/askMRP22/06/21 12:02 AM
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No, you totally give too many fucks. Read what u/man_in_the_world just wrote to you. Then OYS.
/r/askMRP22/06/21 12:00 AM
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Anger has to go into discipline and turn into a constructive emotion at some point IMO. "Discipline is the tool to get to a point of control so I can manipulate more" This is not something I want to drive me but this is likely what is driving me. Discipline solely for the purpose of more self mastery is something I pay lip service to. This is why thing seem so foggy to me and my energy dissipates. I want the manipulate the circumstances and people around me through just enough personal change an…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 08:43 AM
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Fuck. That's it right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 08:35 AM
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No I cannot look in the mirror and say that. That’s why I dance. To distract.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 06:45 AM
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Got it. I will do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 06:14 PM
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Also, I would appreciate any specific areas you see I am fucking up. What's obvious to you is not obvious to me given that I legitimately feel less anger than before. You see that it's sliding towards resentment.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 05:41 PM
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I hear what you are saying. But I don't know what to do with it. I'll go back over the Anger Phase posts. Anger had utility in the past. To get things done. It devolving into resentment is something I won't permit.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 05:35 PM
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2/2 However, I would say that in relative terms I give way less fucks. I measure this by the amount of time and mental energy I would have put into this same scenario at any other time. It's helpful to hear how obviously I do give so many fucks from what you read. And how angry and resentful I seem to Horns. Firstly, because to me it's so much less than before. And it shows me how stuck I was before and for the longest time. It fuels me to keep pushing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 03:32 PM
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Yikes, how?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 02:56 PM
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1/2 Yeah. You’re probably right. I haven’t been able to shake the anger phase. I don’t want to look like a monkey and I don’t want to be a monkey either. And I do give a fuck everywhere else. I wish I didn’t. I don’t think there is anything that I don’t give way too many fucks about.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 02:49 PM
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Yes. It builds a different shape. And psychologically, the progressively heavy lifting mutes my emotionalism. That’s from testosterone increase. Look at RPeeings comments to me last week. It’s the best program for me. It may work for you to. I like the variety and speed of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 02:14 PM
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Yeah, I did that kettlebell dumbbell thing. It didn't go anywhere really. Is there no other gym you can go to? One of the old guys, I think it was bogey6 said you solve 95% of your problems by lifting. This is not getting fit we're talking about. You need it, man. I fucked around so much on it. That was a bad move.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 12:34 PM
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I was worried that TWOTSM was too advanced for me just yet so have gone back to MAP and focussing on that with the aim to increase polarity as I develop. Is this too much overthinking? Overthinking could be a danger because polarity is in relation to your wife not yourself. You are using another's response to measure your progress. I'd drop that as an aim and focus on other areas if I were you. I did it the way you are doing it now and I don't recommend it. It takes too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 11:30 AM
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Fair enough. Sounds like a plan. I'll do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 11:12 AM
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TWOTSM Too advanced. Drop it. Circle back to it later. It will have you 'reading in' to your relationship too much. It's not helpful to you at this stage. Look at your post, it's all about Mental. Ask yourself this: Is your Stay Plan the Go Plan? If not you are building up a huge covert contract with your wife and wrapping it in M/F polarity as a rationalisation.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 10:37 AM
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Good progress on the openers and Divorce prep. Are you lifing heavy weights? If not, check out the advice u/Rpeeing gave me in my last OYS in the comments. Lifting will mute your emotionalism which is what you really mean when you write about 'thinking'.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 10:31 AM
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OYS_28 Age: 43(m), 44(F)Married: 15 years. 3 kids 13(m), 10(f), 7(f) Height: 6', Weight: 95.25kg Diet Mode: Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal - sub 1600 cals per day Body Fat: 23- 25% Photo method. Started a cut. **Discovery:*\* In the past, I thought that there was something different about my MRP journey. I am in no way different. This week was filled with wake up calls. My marriage and our relationship that proceeded it ran along the MRP beta-timeline with precision. My role in the marriage ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 10:13 AM
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Just do it. Get everything prepared. There’s plenty to do. Keep chipping away at. And… Start conversations with every one you meet. Gorgeous girls, granny, workers, shop assistants, men, women, children and the elderly. Look at videos about day game and practice. Day Bang is a good audio book. From a man’s perspective: a deadroom is a dead marriage. The stay plan is the go plan.
/r/askMRP12/06/21 08:51 PM
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It doesn’t sound like you’ve done your divorce prep or started catch and release. Would that be correct?
/r/askMRP12/06/21 05:36 PM
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Girl, you know it’s business time because I got my business boxers on
/r/askMRP11/06/21 11:34 PM
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f you are an inevitable product of this trauma, and can't go back to change it, how does this help you change the mental model? Yes, I am coming to this conclusion. ​ or it could be that you have the goal to subvert yourself (this is my opinion). Would you elaborate on this?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 06:16 PM
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The mental image comes up. It's not a choice. The image is one where the choices I make as I implement RP create a series of negative events. I would trace this to a series of traumas I experienced. However, it may just be something everyone here experiences. What do you think?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 05:41 PM
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It has to do with the 4 stages of competence. Ignorance, idiocy, active, afterthought. Staying in the zone of conscious competence/active phase creates a mental image of a future where I regret the choices I make from going Red. This comes out of trauma baked in, not chosen. What is chosen, unconsciously, is the dithering. Because that avoids doing the legitimate work of a cost benefit analysis. And then squaring up to the range of consequences and conditions be they rational or irrational. And …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 10:34 AM
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“How do you make meaningful change in mental models?” Trauma seems to be a part of it. Either triggered by external events or self created for the purpose of changing a behavior or thought pattern. Trauma also has a compulsive, repetitive dimension. Bringing the person back to trauma over and over. This has a + side when it leads to new positive models and behavior. The - side is that you are in that orbit of that trauma. This fits in with why after my time here I am still a purplish hue. Specif…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 08:25 AM
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I can see how the side piece could distract. I was more thinking that if I get some success with game when away from my hometown.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 08:29 AM
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Lost sight of weight and training completely. Goals, I think I got done what I wanted. Sliwer than I would have like though.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 08:26 AM
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Okay, I get it. It’s not about Nuke. It’s about you and your words. Fuck that. This is his Oys. And that old cunt won’t come back with one example of how he has ever stood up to a strong woman. Why, ‘cause he’s his own MOP, no, because he wants to waffle on. Indirectly, he is telling us he’s self absorbed. Ouch, I hurt my triceps, but I’m 65 amn’t I great. Ouch, I’ve been married for ages, amn’t I great. Ouch, I thought about topping myself all week but I still posted a banal shitty post to make…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 01:47 AM
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What's this? An example of straw manning and projection? Labelling and switching? What has a man in the latter years of his life to do? More philosophy, that's a luxury. What's Nuke to do? Yes, think less. Do more. You want a why? Because he doesn't have the time you or I have Blarg. Should I expect a response from you akin to "well, we all only have today?" I expect it after your last reply. Nuke, a strong tower? Why is he strong moaning, on here about "Queen Bees" who he works for and suicide …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 11:07 PM
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Damn you are old. How dare you! meme programs LMFAO fucked up joints and no upper body development wittering on about “deloading to work on form”. Fuck off. That's exactly what I worry about everytime I squat. And, it's the last thing I want. You are going to fuck your shit up or even worse: not get jacked. Fucking horror show! I have had so much of this shit in my life. I just need to know the end from the beginning. This is the context I need. I always commit, but usually end up with 'teachers…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 10:51 PM
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Maybe, it wasn't as systematic as this though. I did a lot of OMAD and keto and fasted all day and ate only after training late at night. But I wasn't counting calories at the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 10:35 PM
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Yep, tracking pretty tightly. If I'm doing it right, coming from low carb, I'm struggling to get the protein up. I was eating chicken all day an it wasn't enough. I have have never felt I have had enough food but today I was like "a ffs do I need to buy protein?" Does this sound true to you or could I be missing something? Even on carbs, when I toted it up in myfitnesspal I didn't want anymore. This is not something I've experienced before. That's why I am say that post on diet was so impactful.…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 10:33 PM
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Only the what.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 10:20 PM
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Cool. 10 kg sounds good. I was there before but mostly from Bjj and keto so I looked lean grappler/yoga body. When I got under that it still looked athletic and trim but not as big as I would have liked. Some IOIs but not enough for me now. But enough to be worried that I'd ride it. 'Cause I was gayer. ​ I feel you on going full Red. I'll be interested to see if you really do. Yeah, I want the truth but being redish purple has its appeal too. Satisfied, not harming others, coddled but a little b…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 10:15 PM
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And yes, old demons are old. Why would you return to it? As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool returns to his folly.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 09:45 PM
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I wonder what he's afraid of after 47 years?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 09:42 PM
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I assume you’re still eating 10g of protein a day but whatever. Nah, I took that post you sent seriously. My target is 180grams of protein. I am not getting that in yet. My macros goals on the cut are: Carbs 80g, Protein: 180g, Fat 60g. I am enjoying it way more than the Keto. I will say that the keto was transformational on inflammation and chronic pain I was living in. With that under control the balance diet is much more enjoyable. And I’d eat at maintenance calories on training days Maintena…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 04:28 PM
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1st goal is look good naked and get bigger. 2nd goal would be a compliment to BJJ. Realistically, if I have to do a rest day in between training days it’s 3 days. How long, 60 mins. I was going to add in kettlebells for light flows on the rest days if that isn’t counter productive. If i get an office near the gym I can extend the sessions.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 01:17 PM
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I'll check the TSM sub. What are you referring to with dogma? The 5x5? Okay, so what's the problem with the 5X5? Dude, don't leave me hanging here. It took fucking years to switch from low carb. You know I'm a tortoise. And stubborn.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 12:56 PM
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This sounds like self indulgent naval gazing. What do you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 12:50 PM
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OYS_27 Age: 43(m), 44(F)Married: 15 years. 3 kids 13(m), 10(f), 7(f) Height: 6', Weight: 95.25kgDiet Mode: Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal - sub 1600 cals per day Body Fat: 23- 25% Photo method. Started a cut. Context: 60 Days of Dread Take 2 The Plan: A year ago I left the sub under the recommendation of some of the veterans here. To stop using here as a validation centre. Prior to this and during it, I was formulating a plan to give myself the tools to be mission ready and set my life up for …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 12:20 PM
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I fucked up so bad that I have restarted the 60 DOD again for myself now. 2nd time and I will post weekly in OYS. I said I was in. However, I barely posted in OYS. There are 2 reasons for this. 1). I didn't make progress I was proud of on a couple of items I was called out on. 2). Ego and deferring to tomorrow, I proceeded to fuck up every week for the whole 60 days. I definitely do a spaghetti at the wall approach. It's messy and I don't build up the momentum the little wins provide. In fact, I…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/21 02:08 PM
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Push further with the track I'm on. Routinise and automate as much as I can - to clarify what I actually prefer. Rank them. And then go for those things and not look back.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 11:09 AM
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I used to know a son of a bitch that sounded just like you. fat alcoholic We're body positive around here now. I'll report you for fat shaming. Fat, to be sure. Alcoholic? I'll know in a month. low carb, grains Yeah, that SOB gave me shit like that too. Didn't get it. Read the post book marked it. I get it now. Yes, it takes me that long. That's how slow I am. There’s always next year. That's what I was thinking!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 11:07 AM
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WTF is going on with you? I ask myself this a lot. I am doing mostly what I am interested in and experimenting to see what really works for me. Putting a routine assists me with dropping certain projects and focusing on others. ​ I think we hammer out life according to logic and structure all day in our day jobs, that we just want to let go to (bounded) chaos to counter that. Mostly, I create all day long but it has to have the logic and structure elements you mentioned. I had the 2 types of cre…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 10:51 AM
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The Way of the Super Man is too advanced for you. Drop it. It will lead to mental masturbation in guy at your stage and fuck up your non-progress. Read When I Say Know I Feel Guilty. "Exactly 2 weeks ago she went for a 3 day trip by herself and when she came back I asked her if she'd missed me, and she said: "No". Fuck that hurt. So I went full autistic and didn't talk to her for almost 2 days." Okay, I am not going to say the obvious one here. I'll let the other animals tell you about what else…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 11:00 AM
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OYS 26: 60DOD 2021 Age: 43(m), 44(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 13(m), 10(f), 7(f) Height: 6', Weight: 95.25kg Diet Mode: Low Carb. Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal - sub 1900cals per day Body Fat: 20 - 25% Photo method. Started a cut. ​ Overall: ​ Last time I wrote, I spoke about simplifying my life. The 2 ways I have done this are getting up at 5am and following the routine that goes with the 5am Club book. Secondly, I have cut out many of the daily 'resources' that I read. This was political, …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 10:10 AM
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True. I’ve been putting in work. I’ll do an OYS Sunday. Here’s a quick summary: Man neglects to shave his balls. Man starts shaving balls again. Things are looking good.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 07:32 AM
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Wishing you and your whole family all the best during this time.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 07:19 AM
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To clarify, if you were looking at me online you wouldn’t see what I can do professionally. Upgrading this could lead to higher paying clients. I am thinking of an upgrade that creates an inbound funnel to be precise.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 07:14 AM
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2 kids 3,5 and 1 Intrigued. What's the one, let me guess a SpiderBaby - A baby with the head of a spider. No... a baby with a spidery legs.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:09 PM
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Am i missing something? This child has no children right? He's not an 'Actual Cuck' correct? He's a hand-me-down dildo.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:03 PM
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I felt a lump in my throat. Perhaps you've repressed it. Perhaps your son is bringing it up for himself and you at a critical juncture in both your lives. Maybe you achieved the repression by fixing stuff and transforming yourself at turning points? If you're son is 14 and you are 40 they are end phases in a boy/man's life. Nothing repressed stays buried.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 08:56 PM
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OYS 25: 60DOD 2021 Age: 43(m), 43(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 13(m), 10(f), 7(f) Height: 6', Weight: 95.25kg Diet Mode: Low Carb. Calorie Counting on MyFitnessPal - sub 1900cals per day Body Fat: 20 - 25% Photo method. Started a cut. I took a break from the sub. I was seeking validation from the sub rather than my wife. I have now reversed that ; ) I fell out of my fitness routine for a while. I substituted it with day drinking and selfishness where the opportunities arose. I enjoyed it quiet a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 08:24 PM
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In.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 05:36 PM
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u/persaeus said something a while back like “if you’re angry you’re not OI if you’re sullen you’re grieving when you’re apathetic you’re ready for divorce. He also said something about ‘ I don’t know how some of you guys fuck chubbers’ which I am and I didn’t get back then (oneitis), but I’m getting now. There’s a certain poundage which just switched me off my wife. Some guys here would say I should control the diet, i am bit like fuck that. Should I wipe her fat ass after she shits too?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 08:28 PM
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This seems to be at the heart of what you’re saying. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ge79vq/why_you_must_be_willing_to_nuke_your_nuclear/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 11:52 AM
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I have been getting better at recognizing the stressors and the conditions that create them for me. However, my coping is either push through or flake out. I’ve no real concept of limits. One point thing that’s helping me is thinking of everything as a game and playing one of my cards at a time. I have noticed when I play one card at a time, I always think it’s too little. If I can avoid getting overexcited and playing my whole hand, things work out better. And what I do is received much better.…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/21 09:59 AM
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Yeah, but it may not be due to Mom. Mom is not an omnipotent force. All boys have to make a choice. Go under the waves or die trying to swim over them. Or clear them. There is no other way. Chicks don't set the course. The waves come.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/21 11:21 PM
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Truth
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/21 11:15 PM
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Man, I feel it's risky to say this. Please take it with a grain of salt. I know you will but... OI Being engaged in your son's mental health is not a game, I agree with you. It's your responsibility to be there. But you can't control all the variables. Or control the parameters that you are discovering. Some bio-chemicals conditions are preset or pre-conditioned. Follow your course. You may influence the outcome. And I know you will give your all to that. But you can't predetermine the outcome. …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/21 11:13 PM
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This is an intriguing one and that post you wrote about a guy who 'fucks' added much needed nuance. I was fucking to keep the flywheel going for a while. Then I started to catch and release. Abundance went up and I became clearer on my 'preferences'. My attraction to my wife is diminishing so if I fuck when I want to it's only when I have blue balls at the moment. This did lead me to go and get T levels checked at the same time. The shit thing about the moratorium notion is that many guys use at…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/21 11:18 AM
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Oh shit, as long term married man, that’s what i fear might happen. So, they will legit jump your bones! Whenever you remember that post link me. ‘Cause i’m working through that at the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 10:23 PM
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Catch and release is great. I’m gonna do this grocery tag game. You know your tags are unlikely to jump your bones in the shop right? And even with your elbow pain, I believe in you, you could fight them off.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 09:07 AM
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Nah, not possible, don’t look at the sidebar either.
/r/askMRP15/03/21 05:59 PM
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OP: get ready for 60DOD on the 31st of March.
/r/askMRP14/03/21 04:04 PM
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Paging MRP: Ready made trainwreck incoming!
/r/askMRP14/03/21 04:03 PM
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Very interesting thoughts. I was having a chat with UsefulWalk the other day. I was saying i was going to be more ‘retarded’. Tell myself the basics task I was going to do and then just do it. I am usually given complex problems to solve in work and life and it’s overwhelming in terms of bodily stimulation. But if it’s easy I’m bored, totally checked out. The more I dial back to basics, the better the rewards I get. Further, it’s digestable to others and i don’t have that horrible feeling of say…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 10:36 AM
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Your point on above average skills links with that fact that rewards have been giving for this behaviour. But no training on how to cope with the overloading is given.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 10:28 AM
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The hypersensitivity is an interesting one as hypersensitivity and overexcitabilty connect to creativity/giftedness. You can also see how that could be considered ‘spergie’ because of how it might relate to stimming.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 10:24 AM
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In terms of mission just remember that not to over think it. Set one, go for it and realize you will most likely find a real ‘mission’ when you are in pursuit of one you just picked to get yourself going.
/r/askMRP12/03/21 10:19 AM
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Neither am I. I am guided by feelings. Specifically, girl feelings.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 10:11 PM
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Ha, tugboat. Sounds like you've seen my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 04:40 PM
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I asked her “why would you offer that, I didn’t say I’d go there. There's your key. I asked her 'why'. Why would her answer matter to you? Do you see how 'why' works? It's nearly always accusatory. When I use it, when you used it, when she uses it. It only counts when you're in a learning environment trying to discover. And I'm pretty sure you don't need your wife's insight. When all the well reasoned 'whys' in the world don't matter to you (MOP), you'll stop pulling at that rope, endlessly chec…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 03:30 PM
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FYI: I avoid reading what you write because it hurts my wife's feelings.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 03:23 PM
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> I dont know where this demon came from. How about from having a deep internal monologue with parts of yourself that was a rich tapestry of shades and colours, from an early age. External conversations excited you because you were stimulated inwardly. And you might over-share or invest in those circumstances. You learnt that you could create those feelings in others when you used those insights while avoiding sounding or acting like an idiot. Hence, the fear of not being clued in. How does that…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 03:15 PM
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Tha is the most sobering consideration. What am I modeling to my son? Right now, I’d have to say for myself, a cocktail of fomo and quiet desperation. Gonna get my T levels checked this week. Let’s see where that goes.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 10:58 PM
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I hear you. However, that’s the red pill. Would you rather stay in the Matrix or get on the Nebuchadnezzar? Have you ever noticed that the blue pill provides you with just enough comfort. Well, just a little bit less than is required to keep you unconsciously plugged in. Let’s play a game: Your handle is UsefulWalk4. Who, as a man, is your walk meant to be useful for? And if it’s your children, would you feel you had succeeded if they ensured your fulfillment at the expense of their own? Would t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 08:51 PM
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One thing that is really focusing me is "am I really willing to spend the rest of my life in a relationship I am not enjoying?." Then the kids come to mind. And I back away. I have never laid out in full detail what my life would be like with my children I divorced. I heard Rollo refer to this book. In the article, it lays out a good set of questions for thinking through divorce. https://www.samuelthomasdavies.com/book-summaries/self-help/too-good-to-leave-too-bad-to-stay/
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 06:19 PM
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I've got some ideas That was my point. It was a 'sense' I had connected to the general vibe of wishful thinking in your post.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 05:08 PM
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"My only remaining concern regarding fallout is the kids." I am with you on this and ...https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ge79vq/why_you_must_be_willing_to_nuke_your_nuclear/
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 05:06 PM
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Perhaps this will be useful for you When I read your post. I am hearing a covert contract. Specifically, a covert contract with yourself. It seems like in the contracts terms you have a clause that you will do some Herculean feat and finally the 1000 foot rope will go taut. And then your wife will sexually desire you. Have you considered that this may never happen? And that at some point it may just be a deal breaker for you? And in the right circumstances, you might act on desire have sex with …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 01:32 PM
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Today, a man is a luxury item, not a necessity. There are no absolutes here. The final outcome isn't an RP marriage. The final outcome is Outcome Independence. The stay plan is the go plan. Circumstances change. Man adapts.
/r/askMRP03/03/21 11:01 AM
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Just about to post u/resolutions316’s post. Very applicable framework he lays out.
/r/askMRP01/03/21 09:56 PM
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Spot on, “what’s in it for me and is this working for me or am I working for it?”
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/21 08:46 PM
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Yo! Fucker, you’re in the wrong place. Head over to r/deadbedrooms, and check out your future.
/r/askMRP27/02/21 03:27 PM
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It’s an alright process. Have used it. However, being ‘mission ready’ is more important than a mission. When you’re ‘mission ready’ you realize all missions are arbitrary. You can pick and choose. A man’s power in all circumstances is his commitment. All the guilt and shame, needing to be right, is others trying to get a man to do their bidding.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/21 03:24 PM
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You’re equivocating. Pick a purpose. Change it if you don’t like it. Who gives a fuck? You’re hedging. This is not ‘find a your pot of purpose gold at the end of the rainbow’. Make a choice. Live with the consequences of being wrong. Even if you fuck up. Set up some little boundaries and induce micro traumas if you want to force change in your mindset. Make small bets, and roll the dice already.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/21 03:18 PM
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You know how when you're nervous in a situation, such as having to make a presentation at work, and you find yourself speaking quickly, flailing limbs... That's the feeling you're unconsciously trying to get rid of when you go fast. You're trying to move fast enough to not allow the universe to inject any negative feeling or reality into your situation.... Bathe in that chaos... Sage words Blarg. I started a second job as a lecturer at 3rd level the other day. I was good at it. But, I wanted it …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 09:29 AM
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Enjoying the process. I have heard this so many times. "Of everything you do". I get so busy trying to stave off the chaos and fear that it still alludes me. No longer. I am hold onto this.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 09:14 AM
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Yo! i see you’re still putting in the true work. And you’re a youtube pro now too.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/20 10:33 PM
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I thought he was reading “Woman thou art loosed” by Bishop Jakes.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 04:45 PM
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I wouldn't let my day be impacted by a bad attitude from one of my kids, why should it be different for my wife or anyone else? I take adults too seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/20 07:44 AM
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I hear you, but having that STFU in the bag when you get that sneak attack after a few drinks is the right tool for the right job.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/20 07:41 AM
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So what are you hanging around for princess?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/20 09:08 PM
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No babies? Do not get this woman pregnant!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/20 08:42 PM
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You just don’t get it do you? Here is a Superior Man. Seriously, I can’t believe you missed that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/20 08:37 PM
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Do you realise you are totally in her frame? And the oneitis you think you’ve cured is actually that you’ve just clawed back some of your preferences?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/20 08:35 PM
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“The manosphere is full of blind men trying to lead the blind. It really doesn't need another one.” Shit, I heard there was an opening for blind men and was prepping my CV.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 10:49 AM
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The 'stay plan' is not the same as the 'go plan' for you. You'll keep dancing until they are one and the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/20 03:47 PM
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So, you mentioned something about maybe having to do clickbait! ( re: utility, Tomassi,, Will Smith) on your channel in the future. Don’t. Well, wait. What you’re doing combines the archivist with, I’m not sure what the other facility is, but it contains self-awareness. I work with guys who game systems. If i find out, I let you know. Rollo and Rich are pure savages but your tip is next gen. The other bloke, who could be that, is too naive and still suffering, you know what I mean. And the other…
/r/askMRP23/07/20 08:36 PM
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Savage post on Negative Inquiry btw. It’s the way you tell’em.
/r/askMRP16/07/20 11:01 PM
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It’s 99% more fun than Netflix though.
/r/askMRP16/07/20 10:56 PM
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How dare you! Show some kindness. Think of his feelings you internet demagogue.
/r/askMRP16/07/20 10:54 PM
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“Spergy spergy spergy sperg sperg...top notch red pill education...” FTFY
/r/askMRP16/07/20 10:46 PM
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He said he has read the sidebar but he clearly missed Steel’s Guide on How to Kill Your Wife.
/r/askMRP16/07/20 10:24 PM
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Ha, bang on.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/20 10:33 PM
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What the fuck, read your own timeline Red. That’s no fucking time, especially when you factor in the shit you went through.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/20 10:30 PM
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Haha, first Male Hate, anything, to be banned, ever, at anytime in the Multiverse. Gentlemen, we stand on the threshold of history.
/r/askMRP28/06/20 08:00 PM
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Set the bar low enough and you probably won’t even try to clear it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 09:00 PM
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"you don't expect it to lead anywhere." It does lead somewhere. First, it leads you directly to your next point of action: "gym, hobby, a task you set yourself...anything but choreplay." You remember we talked about this, right? Second: it leads you to a version of yourself where you're not crying into the Cheeto dust on your shirt because wife won't play with your Peepee. Third: it leads to you NGAF and to start finding your life and your harpy bitch of a wife...kinda amusing.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 04:01 PM
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Kino, and initiate several times a week day. FTFY Always have something else lined up, in case of a Hard No. Gym, hobby, a task you set yourself...anything but choreplay.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 12:38 PM
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Very interested in the response to this.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 12:40 PM
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It’s as if by magic, when a man stops bitching about women, they become fun again... notwithstanding the lag.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/20 11:53 PM
1

We’re the real trannies. Once we were shamcocks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/20 11:45 PM
1

Talking is nearly always not the answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/20 07:27 PM
1

More Context: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWvIZ9Dcyb8&t=1s
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 02:58 PM
1

Maybe as material for novel. Are you writing a novel?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 12:55 PM
2

The simplest explanation I could find of the Letting Go technique: https://youtu.be/7VeqjUrPw7M. The book Letting Go, by David R Hawkins is a good elaboration: https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/Letting-Go-Audiobook/B00ZJGGQXU?source_code=M2M14DFT1BkSH082015011R&&ipRedirectOverride=true The technique can take seconds. But may need to be used in quick succession for persistent chronic anxiety. It is wise to keep a note of where it is most troublesome because in a short time you will be shocked that you…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 10:58 AM
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This is something that only guys who have been through the mill can teach us. It is a key step to mentally divorcing your wife as prerequisite to becoming one's own mental point of origin. It reminds me to have a quarterly review of the "go" part of the "Stay Plan is the same as the Go Plan" Great reminder Biggums.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 12:22 PM
2

TWOTSM, like 48 Laws of Power, is nuanced and really benefits men who have a developed mission and frame. Concentrate on basics, particularly the techniques in WISNIFG, NMMNG and MAP and you’ll find yourself looking less at your wife’s responses as indicator of your progress. Instead, you’ll see action and increasing mastery leading you to being your own Mental Point of Origin.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 08:13 PM
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Worse. OP is a ‘cum on your face and then terrify you with dread’ fuckwad. Not a fucking notion about aftercare. This fat fuck thinks the siderbar is the condiment section of an all ‘You can Eat’ buffet.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 12:45 PM
1

Got a go to resource?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 11:44 AM
1

Hmmm, this reads as submissive/passive. It’s not fogging. It’s not labelling. You’re reaffirming the negative. Don’t. Postpone negative enquiry right until you get a handle on the above. The way your doing it lacks nuance. You are frustrating her. This is pointless. You want more time to plot your next move. It’s coming across as passive aggressive.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 11:42 AM
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I’ve been trying to work on my self-image by visualisation exercises and repeating mantras. I’ve realised that self-image is probably the main issue that is holding me back. All self image is a cover for fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 10:45 AM
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TWOTSM It's advanced. Have you done the basics. NMMNG, WISNIFG etc? On Sunday I took advantage of a last minute invite from a friend to get out on the river in his boat for a bit of fishing for a couple of hours. Always do this. You're wife wasn't happy 'after dealing with the chores', she was happy with a hint of what it might be like to have a husband whose mission wasn't his family.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 10:43 AM
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This is my main focus this week. Both dealing with work and preparing to be out of work. Thanks to WISNIFG I used fogging and negative acceptance during a chewing out by the queen bee. I'm interested to see how your implementation of WISNIFG works out in relation to this. Have you used it previously in this work context?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 10:38 AM
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I planned a run with a (single) female friend on the weekend. Knowing my wife would react. 12 levels of Dread, you buttsucking blow fish. Glad to see your ban.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 10:36 AM
2

Solid advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 10:33 AM
1

Everyman has his own kryptonite.
/r/askMRP24/05/20 04:39 PM
1

Everyman has his own kryptonite.
/r/askMRP24/05/20 04:39 PM
1

Ha, I was paging WAS on homo-kundalini epiphanies over here a few weeks back. Found out that the his Soy Boy hammer and anvil don’t work over here too.
/r/askMRP24/05/20 01:59 PM
1

Indeed. The relationship certainly works better when she’s asking herself that question too.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/20 08:09 PM
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I can’t see where you picked it up in the thread. Why I ask is because I just ran the 101 version and it had great results and literally my wife keeps going on about her weight now. I was intrigued to know how up picked it up. BTW, you recommended I take a break from the sub a while back. I did. It was very beneficial in lot ways. I appreciate that. Again, don’t know how spot things and why it worked so well.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/20 03:24 PM
1

How would you rate yourself at DEERing and STFU?
/r/askMRP23/05/20 03:14 PM
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Totally far off. Struggling to even grasp what your on about. I know your speaking plainly. It’s not my range at the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/20 03:30 AM
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I agree with you. No point stepping on your own dick either though.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 08:28 PM
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It seems WAS maybe implying that because you assert ‘morals’ you’re defeating the role of dread. Because in effect you’re saying ‘don’t fear because I have a code’. And your saying “I have a morals, but my morals are subject to me, if I change it, I’ll announce it.” Am catching your drift?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 03:53 PM
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Are you say she’s feeling dread. she stepped on the scale Meaning she’s aware she needs to drop some pounds and up her her game?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 03:46 PM
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I’ll play. Declaration of parity/mutuality in WAS’ 101. Declaration of self only in ICM’s statement.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 09:28 PM
1

101 has served me well! You planning to be on Red Morning again soon?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 09:16 PM
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you can’t live your life concerned about whether or not a certain interaction is going to create tingles. My bad, I thought this sub was about sexual strategy for men in LTRs.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 04:36 PM
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That’s tough man. What is been said here is that you say things clearly but also with a subtext. It’s also not ‘Ah well, hamsters are gonna run”, it’s much more, I am going to use the hamster. We engage subtext. Have a read of the comments in the 101 version. You’ll see how open wording is reinforcing the boundary. And inferring consequence and declaring OI. “If you cheat it’s over” is kinda like a preemptive ultimatum which is a communication of powerlessness, no tingles. “I’m not fucking aroun…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 04:09 PM
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Sounds aggro: "I don't tolerate cheating period, and the one thing that's stopping me from fucking around is the fact that you haven't fucked up"
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 03:27 PM
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Mrp helps you to start winning. Then she starts behaving and a lot of guys infer, ‘ah, she was cunt because I was a fag’. Which is true but partial. There are dangers in a positive feedback loop. They start crediting her with unicorn points and leech validation off her. It’s too painful for many men to let go of ‘specialness’ and realise “she’s not yours” (and in fact nothing is yours) - you’re just leasing. Leasing punani, property and pelf. Who wants to kill ego when you can fluff it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 03:25 PM
2

Sidebar?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 01:17 PM
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I was looking forward to this week. The brevity and utility of your post are exactly what I need.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 10:39 AM
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Live in Girl's Frames much?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 10:08 AM
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The invocation of your personal code at the start is powerful. Juxataposing that with playful ending and declaration of being in charge sounds like catnip for hamsters.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 10:07 AM
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I used the 101 version again this week and referred to it in my OYS . I didn't employ the comfort you gave at the start of the response because it was a shitty comfort test. Instead, I threw in some kino a little while later. Works like a dream. As to V2, well, I'll just have to look forward to that level of frame in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 10:05 AM
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You are creepy bastard Beaufort! Is this the 'generous tit for tat' game theory idea? e.g. generally respond tit for tat, but occasionally respond nice anyway, even if she is being horrible... Nope, it is not that idea at all. Never reward bad behavior. Do you want a total basketcase on your hands, you mad fucker? Keep it simple. Ignore bad behavior (within reason) and reward good behavior. It goes like this: You play Great Guy Card until she plays her Mean Card. Note: your mean card is you with…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 02:18 PM
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Blurter! So gay isn't it! Reset everyday. You get this, right? Yesterday is in the tomb, tomorrow is in the womb. Reset. You're gonna blurt again. You'll have to reset again. It will stop if you continue to practice STFU. I dig Horn's suggestions but ending the sequence with BJ command only works if you have an 'iron frame' of a real air of cocky funny. You have neither. The Broken Record is key and Fogging. Rehearse that. I've done WISNIFG reading and audio x 2. I had to use it like a fucking u…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 10:44 AM
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OYS 23 DEERing, DGAF and DTF Age: 42(m), 43(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 9(f), 6(f) Height: 6', Weight: 196lbs Diet Mode: HFLC Quarantine: Workout 4/5 times a week. 24kg and 16kg kettlebells. Full body workout. 60/80 minutes. 90sec on 90sec off. Swings, Cleans, Bicep Workout, OHP, Squats, Body Fat: 18% Bullshitting Yourself Method (i.e Photo method with Professional Lighting) Read: MRP sidebar Reading: Saved MRP Posts, Writing Without Bullshit, I will Teach You to Be Rich Good Shit: I too…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 07:47 PM
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This is what we do here: https://youtu.be/vj2fqNKwFkE
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/20 06:49 PM
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But did you keep your socks on?
/r/askMRP14/05/20 07:34 AM
1

I get your point. However, your comment is way after the fact.
/r/askMRP13/05/20 08:45 AM
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It's sounds like your suggesting that we need to have our own frame, be aware of context and calibrate decisions that move us towards greater personal agency. This is way too hard.
/r/askMRP13/05/20 08:42 AM
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Okay, so this isn't a current situation. Great catch.
/r/askMRP13/05/20 08:36 AM
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Savage.
/r/askMRP12/05/20 10:18 PM
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Realize that your wife will do exactly what she wants to do, even if it’s irrational and your entire world hinges on it. Hint: becoming an Evangelist for Stoicism isn’t the answer. Ryan Holiday already has that job.
/r/askMRP12/05/20 10:14 PM
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Blarg, you reread it?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 09:39 PM
1

You sound gorgeous.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 09:29 PM
1

Same here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 09:29 PM
1

It’s the bullshit method.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 06:28 PM
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Seriously! Thanks but no thanks for the psychological analysis of your cunt wife. I hope WAS finds your little 'she' fuelled dumpster fire and bans you for Rule 9 violations. It baffles me that 2 quality MRPer are giving you their time. Because of that and before you're found and banned, I'll chime in: 'Come Close Retardo, DO NOT GET THIS WOMAN PREGNANT.' Super Glue your Japs Eye Shut.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 05:42 PM
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Oh for fucks sake. WAS should have banned you for Rule 9 violation. There's so much 'she' in this OYS. You actually, gave us a formatted script of what your wife said. No one, no one, NO ONE on this sub wants to read about you orbiting your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 05:30 PM
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"One thing though, doesn't the selfishness of it all seem a bit depressing sometimes ?" You are confusing selfishness with competence. If I put the oxygen mask on myself first and you call me selfish you're a retard. Letting go of one's need for family and relationship kills neediness not love. In fact, it is only when you don't need another person that you can love them. Strange isn't that I just wrote a sentence that, without knowing your religion, I know you're religion agrees with. Prove me …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 02:38 PM
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The drink and the vaping are doing nothing. That’s all you. You need to do a quarter of a year clean. Stop rationalizing your bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 12:15 PM
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You miss the story of your ex girlfriend. You’re malignering. Replace it with a new story. ‘At 19 I joined MRP, i used every mistake the older guys made to avoid the same pitfalls and enlarge my advantage. I used my 20’s to forge my future unlike my waster friends. I give my gifts to world at my own discretion.”
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 12:00 PM
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You stop it by stopping making excuses. You don’t DEER to yourself, you STFU to yourself. You run OODA loops rather than rationalisation loops. Accept that a micro step in the right direction is better than no steps. This humbles you. You realise the fact the people overestimate what they can achieve in 1 year and massively underestimate what they can achieve in 10 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 11:49 AM
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Now you’re talking.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 11:43 AM
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“More importantly, trying to avoid being fired in this current work climate.” I know this feeling. It is toxic. Don’t play defense. Always assume your worth.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 09:42 AM
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The fact that you can only do it for internet strangers means it can only last for a limited time. Also, declaring yourself a weakling here is a catharsis only for you. You’re giving yourself a pass by doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 09:05 AM
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OYS 22: Covid Coasting, Quarantine and Calibration Age: 42(m), 43(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 9(f), 6(f) Height: 6', Weight: 196lbs Diet Mode: HFLC Quarantine: Workout 4/5 times a week. 24kg and 16kg kettlebells. Full body workout. 60/80 minutes. 90sec on 90sec off. Swings, Cleans, Bicep Workout, OHP, Squats, Body Fat: 18% Photo method Read: MRP sidebar Reading: Saved MRP Posts The Break: I took a break from the sub for a while. It was recommended by more experienced guys. I couldn't see…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 08:30 AM
1

Ha
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/20 02:02 PM
1

LMFAO
/r/askMRP10/05/20 07:53 PM
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X 2. I’m giving odds that he ends up 3 for 3 and is back in 54 months thinking he has equity on the sub... no, wait, is this Daddy_thunderflunk or Alex_j_AnyBumWillDo? Nah, it is ImSteveMcQueen
/r/askMRP10/05/20 07:52 PM
1

I’ll send you the link to a torrent. Changed my life dude!
/r/askMRP10/05/20 07:49 PM
1

Fuck yeah.
/r/askMRP10/05/20 07:46 PM
1

First guy through the door gets shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/20 06:48 PM
1

Your comment should be required reading.
/r/askMRP09/05/20 06:40 PM
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Usually, the guys who whine about divorce being their only solution, are the same guys, who have done no divorce preparation.
/r/askMRP09/05/20 06:37 PM
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Don’t let up.
/r/askMRP09/05/20 06:35 PM
2

Wrong. We see stoicism as a utility. We warn against it as an ideology. Because faggots use stoicism to justify getting pegged by life.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/20 06:31 PM
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I am imagining these ‘captains’ on their Corona Cruise Ship whining over the PA system. Meanwhile, in the engine room, a small group quietly prepares their DIY masks and plot the cull.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/20 06:28 PM
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“DEERing offensively, in an attempt to change someone's mind or get them to "get what you're saying" can be a bad idea too.” Love this. Being understood is so fucking overrated. Needing to be understood is the height of gayness.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/20 03:45 PM
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This shite: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/gf09ij/i_think_i_might_have_just_accidentally_swallowed/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/askMRP09/05/20 02:08 PM
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He has a great site on how to Red Pill your chakras though.
/r/askMRP08/05/20 10:33 AM
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It was digestible and easy to consume in the early days. A genuine help, now, it's just like you said. A reminder that you can always stall and create an identity around being commentator. Like retirees. Interesting, that it was a post around marriage counselling that burned through Bluepill Professor/Red Pill Coach's MRP equity like wildfire.
/r/askMRP08/05/20 10:31 AM
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u/weakandsensitive it looks let we’re having another kundalini experience over here.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 10:38 PM
2

What’s the question?
/r/askMRP07/05/20 10:32 PM
1

The scarcity mindset is normalized in otherwise capable men. I am not implying that the Poster is either capable or normal. He is 35 and oblivious to how sperm works.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 09:25 PM
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Summary for MRPers: Wanker wanks to smartphone app. Common Law Wanktress agrees to watch but falls asleep. Wanker wanks on about it on subreddit filled with ex wankers. Nothing else happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/20 12:33 PM
2

For extra points: get her pregnant then click and collect your DV charge. Whowee, think of all that sweet alimony that OP gets to pay. Make it Rain OP, make it rain.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 12:17 PM
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You haven’t a clue. Lifting and STFUing will solve most of your problems. Read: https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/
/r/askMRP07/05/20 08:00 AM
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Otherwise all the work is a covert contract. Secretly, hoping she’ll come around.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 07:54 AM
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And herein, emotion yields to wisdom.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 11:10 PM
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What in the absolute fuck is going on. This guy thinks his eggs are going off. Oh no, wait... 107 comments, MRP just got mega-trolled. She couldn't even conceal her gender and 'she' comes with the spreadsheets. Hidden in plain sight. We're retarded.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 07:06 PM
1

This is very timely.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 05:48 PM
1

It's a powerful point. I'm noticing that I am getting the hard sell on how great our children are which highlights the core of your post. I am an engaged father but I can see it for what it is. Horns, how did you reconcile yourself to the willingness to Nuke the Nuclear Family?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 04:48 PM
1

If something isn't popping for you when I asked you the question, it may be me projecting.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 04:43 PM
2

Where I have been noticing this is in her “dreading” herself. We have a possible house move coming up. I was initiating and got LMR. She looked emotional and I asked what’s going on. She said i am thinking you’re going to drop us off at the next place and then take off. I said “Good idea, i’m digging it”. And as you would expect, we’re banging away next minute. Another time I was A&Aing and she said something about me and side chicks(figment of her imagination), i just smirk and initiate. Both t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 04:32 PM
2

This is tough. But the alternative is tougher. I'm not there. I know what I have to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 02:49 PM
1

I enjoyed your personal review and that is a savage set of scriptures. In my weaker moments, I have felt the temptation to 'accidentally on purpose' let her find some divorce prep invoices or the like. I've copped that is either the fruit of impatience or perverted mommy validation seeking. It's a long way from snooping on her browser history. Man, it hurts to even recall that. Or to remember the rationalising that sounded like: "if she does X, I'll do Y, but I sure hope she doesn't do X. Let me…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 02:38 PM
1

Simply living through your boundaries and making it clear through your actions the type of life you will have, with zero compromise, is enough to say: "if you don't like it - there's the door. I will blow this up otherwise." I love the communication of boundaries through actions. Lately, I could have slipped to "overt communication", I didn't, but I was edging that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 02:30 PM
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Aha!: "Choosing the feeling she has of no power is submission." This is a missing piece for me. "She never wanted it anyways..." I can think this. It brings me back to those thoughts I had at the beginning of MRP: 'maybe be some of this stuff will work but X,Y,Z." That makes it very motivating.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 02:26 PM
1

How might I clarify this for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 12:11 PM
2

“You can not create what you do not own yourself.” This is pertinent.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 08:33 PM
2

Horns is way down the road. And he has expounded on it in detail here. The how-to from HOA isn’t what you need right now. You’ve answered it yourself, the problem is that you care too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 07:56 PM
1

What is it you are trying to prove?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 07:50 PM
2

The flipping sounds unhinged. You’ve read the Husband’s Dilemma on the Sub, correct? If not, that’ll help you reign in the schizo.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 07:47 PM
1

Why does a hard no matter so much to you?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 07:41 PM
1

“What gave you that impression?” You named it yourself, the dancing monkey comes through even when you say, “I’m in this for me”. If i can hear it, she can sense it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 07:37 PM
2

It’s taking the step that is important to mentally divorce her.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 07:31 PM
1

Arriving at the conclusion that I want to double-down on my family, that I genuinely don't want to start over, even though that's how I felt for a long fucking time. Eh? So this is all entirely contingent on your wife playing along, you get that right? Which means she has you over a barrel.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 01:07 PM
1

and she flippes out, and started with divorce threats Have you consulted a lawyer?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 01:03 PM
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I’m looking for the best damn girlfriend... and I’m not making that clear anywhere outside of sex. Oh you are making that clear. She can smell it. That's why she is denying it to you. Let go of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 01:01 PM
1

STFU. If you're struggling with that, leave the house. To the best of our ability try not to leave in a bad humour. If you can't manage that, still just leave. It is better to leave that fail the shit test in front of her. Do you know about "reset every morning"?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 12:59 PM
1

You can. Doing it terribly is a start. I used to have to leave the room or house. I thought i was IDGAF at the time but i was butthurt. Then, I’d come home and initiate, still stfuing. I had to hold back the laughter as she’d be up for it. At the time I was ‘checking’ to see if MRP worked. Acta Non Verba
/r/askMRP30/04/20 06:18 PM
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She’ll say that to anyone who lets her peg’em.
/r/askMRP30/04/20 06:11 PM
1

You quoted the meat. And you can't see it. You can't play the game if your ego is over involved. Think of a petulant child. No hold up, you are one.
/r/askMRP30/04/20 04:41 PM
2

I've asked her to refer to me as 'Your Big Dick Highness' and she just calls me 'dick'? LMFAO It's called topping from the bottom. Has she suggested pegging yet?
/r/askMRP30/04/20 04:34 PM
1

Take refuge from reality in words and ideas much?
/r/askMRP30/04/20 04:21 PM
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Do not follow the book to the letter. Do not tell your partner about the book as the book suggests. Do not initiate a sex moratorium as the book suggests. Do use you brain. Do initiate sex every time you feel like it. Do you want a safe space to talk to your safe person?
/r/askMRP30/04/20 01:28 PM
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You need to mentally divorce your wife now. Do not discuss anything with her. Do not tell her. STFU. Imagine that she’s dead and you have to raise your family alone. Begin putting the structures and systems in place. Prepare your bug out fund (cash). Have a place lined up to go. Look at Divorce prep in the side bar. If you’re screwing her, wear a condom. You don’t know where runner boy’s cock has been. Look up hysterical bonding on the sub. Take a deep breath and brace yourself. You’re about to …
/r/askMRP30/04/20 01:02 PM
4

"Romanticize" "Romanticism was characterized by its emphasis on emotion and individualism as well as glorification of all the past and nature" This painting is by Courbet, it's called The Desperate Man. Jean-Jacques Rousseau, the father of romanticism, wanted to elevate the feminine qualities in men so they might feel their world. You get where this is going, right?
/r/askMRP29/04/20 10:25 AM
1

“Eat, Lift and do what I find meaningful”. Fuck happiness, happiness is for girls.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 04:06 PM
1

Your 'direction' can be simple. How about, I am in the torrent of confusion, the water is fast, i am been tossed around, but I can definitely make the river bank. And when I get there I am gonna eat those bananas on that tree. And then I am going to tan the butthole off myself and see if my chakras explode! The only thing that matters is you getting to your next point. Whatever that might be. You don't get extra points for life direction right now. Maybe Elon Musk does, but I don't want to die o…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 03:44 PM
1

Stoney had a thing, that some guys, are running a covert contract so deep that it takes about 2 years before they realise, 'hey, wtf, this isn't working like I want'. It's then, they realise they are not close to being their own mental point of origin. I was one of those guys. Perhaps, there is a still bit there. Thing is, who gives a fuck, you are what you are and you got to run your map for you. The day comes when, nothing, no-one in MRP, your wife, your kids, your colleagues, your friends, no…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 03:20 PM
1

Haha, thanks man. Ah I have been snooping around a bit. Some of the Vets recommended I take a break to get my bearings. Which I ignored the first few times but took it on board. It really worked. It broke me out of substituting wife Validation Seeking for MRP Validation seeking. I was gonna drop back into OYS in the coming weeks. How are you keeping?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 03:02 PM
1

Check this out for gayness: when she gets kinky I either worry that I’m a soiling a snowflake or feel shocked at the dirty bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/20 10:45 PM
2

Nah man, Having a blast together. It was a throwaway comment from the youngest when she was starting to get sleepy at the end of a fun day of playground visits, rough housing, feasts and a movie. When she got home the kids were rolling off their day to her. I was saying, it surprised me, first, because I hadn't thought about her and two, because that surprise reflected how much I would have thinking about her in the past.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 04:26 PM
2

Thanks man, this is where I have come to. I'm taking a break from the MRP reddit to push to actions for 6 - 8 weeks. It's time for me to start really leaning into that edge. I've learnt so much and have much to review on the sub. I'll be popping back in to review the advice and examples if I get stuck. I appreciate your input over the last couple of months. Talk again in a few weeks.
/r/askMRP11/02/20 02:30 PM
1

I hear you. I think it's time for a break. You said it. u/BostonBrakeJob said it. And I said it this week in my OYS. I have got all the resources I need to move the needle. I need to back myself and start to trust my decisions more. I think my OYSing are now circumscribing the next immediate steps. I need to marshall my resources and start to lean into my edge. Thanks for the cheese. See you in 6 - 8 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 12:00 PM
1

I’ll go back through his comments then.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 10:37 AM
1

It is liberating. You get out of your head and start living life fully realizing you could have just fucked something up, but you'll deal with that when it comes with the same intellect and skills you've faced everything else in life. Big time!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 10:37 AM
5

Sure, MRP is a sexual strategy, but there’s something deeper and that’s being free of judgement from anyone – a wife, parents, society, other men – and being your own judge. Yeah, the ol' bait and switch! You think your solving your sex issues but it out it yourself your sorting out. I feel very much the same. ​ in an insane asylum if my wife had left me before finding this place. My mental models were fucked up. I am with you and I never would have believe the shift was possible. Probably becau…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 09:57 AM
1

Before you plunge the blade in, will you tell me why?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 09:45 AM
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OYS 21. “Let’s try One without trying to be Witty” Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 222lb, BENCH:146.5llbs PRESS: 118lbs DEADLIFT: 234lbs, BARBELL ROW: 198.5llbs Body Fat: 18% Photo method Read: MRP sidebar Reading: Meditations, Never Split the Difference and RP Sidebar This week: I wrote this section twice. Either way, it read as an apology or a grasp for validation. I learned, in a nutshell, that I have ac…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 09:27 AM
1

I hear you. One thing is this ‘just do it’ thing something I’m up for. But the aversion comes from wanting to get the big picture at the start and then build towards. I need to remember that my big picture is ‘dwell in reality, not in your head’.
/r/askMRP11/02/20 08:17 AM
1

Yeah, here’s the thing I am figuring out. It’s the ‘calibration’ piece that’s slowing me down. I want to get everything right first time. Some childhish fantasy about a silver bullet.
/r/askMRP11/02/20 08:15 AM
1

The ‘edge’ thing os something I have been really holding in mind. I tend to swing from one end of the spectrum to other. Like an undiagnosed bipolar.
/r/askMRP11/02/20 08:13 AM
1

You’re probably right.
/r/askMRP11/02/20 08:11 AM
1

Oh yeah, i’m on that. My question may have been a prelude to mental masturbation. However what lit my fuse was the ‘thinking your way to insight’ rather than ‘learning’. The ability to differentiate the two isn’t a given. I can hold my hand up on that one. How do you separate the two?
/r/askMRP10/02/20 02:01 PM
1

Think your way into insight instead of learning and experimenting? This resonates. Would you say more on this Sepean?
/r/askMRP10/02/20 01:43 PM
1

Fact: Squat videos drive HB7s and lower feral. It’s science.
/r/askMRP09/02/20 10:14 PM
2

Pssst...even when your given her side eye, the shit is still coming out your eyes.
/r/askMRP09/02/20 10:10 PM
1

Shit coming out his eyeballs. It’s written on the label.
/r/askMRP09/02/20 10:07 PM
0

No babysitters, they get pregnant easiest.
/r/askMRP09/02/20 10:05 PM
1

That’s a good indicator. I tend to not notice the switch. I going to watch for that mental/physical switch.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/20 12:16 PM
1

Sounds, fait accompli. What is the nuance WAS re: watching idiots? That appears a little too compassionate?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/20 01:30 AM
1

Fucking hell, you lads are intense.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/20 12:56 AM
1

Why does that sound like blasphemy.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 11:15 PM
1

Hmm, I get where you’re coming from.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 10:17 PM
3

Ha
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 08:15 PM
2

It could be because you have 'Balls" in you handle. Seems to the type of logic he uses.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 08:15 PM
2

I'll pass then, my own memories do enough of that for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 08:14 PM
3

Wasn't it Easy E, of NWA fame, who once said: Yo, if that bitch start fuckin' up (What you do?) I'll just fuck her friends You're suppose to take Gansta' Rap literally, I'm told. People are saying it. The best people say that.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 07:26 PM
2

Hold the fuck up! This guy is does OYS. Is the backstory as good as Babysitter Pregnant Guy or STD Hooker Man?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 07:23 PM
2

What on earth would make you think: I'm on MRP because my wife won't fuck me. And Maybe I should fuck her friends? When you put it like this, there's a logic to it! I'm going RAW ALPHA all over this weekend.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 07:20 PM
1

Never go full retard.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 07:19 PM
3

PMSL! 'RAW ALPHA MODE", that's u/RStonePT 's next video. I can see the thumbnail now. Oh, any of you guys going Raw Alpha this weekend?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 07:18 PM
1

Well, will you? Are you gonna try and save 'im Cap'n?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 07:15 PM
1

Do you do the extra marital thing? If so, are you upfront about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 07:14 PM
1

Great advice, would you say a little more about how you drink in these contexts. Do you have a rule or system you abide (imbibe) by?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 07:12 PM
1

You’d hope so.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 02:24 PM
18

Well, it’s velcro shoes for life for u/2741.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 08:08 AM
1

This guy doesn’t OYS. He’s value leeching.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 03:36 PM
1

I understand now. You know you’ve hit on something that I never do except in crisis. And then it’s largely unconscious. I have never actively engaged the feeling as flame. Instead I have fed the hamster.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 03:33 PM
14

Question: (How you bring a dog to the workplace, that is known to attack, has attacked before, and you bring it in without a muzzle; Is beyond me... But for some reason my wife and I are the idiots for voicing this?) Answer: Expert Level Frame = Bring your attack dog to work to bite your irritating colleagues. Then blame them for been bitten. Quality shit right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 02:01 PM
1

You know Blarg, I like the idea of speeding things up and condensing it into 'sprints'. But I've thought about your comment and getting all the 'yellows' in my MAP to 'green' is realistically a year project IMO. How would you say I could accelerate it?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 01:56 PM
1

I have not yet started this as I wanted to cover the basics first and not be one of the fools running flak for the establish guys to take easy pot shots at. Nope. OYS weekly from the get go. You’re late. Everyone is saying it. People are starting to talk. People are saying you’ve missed 4 months of crits. Get to class, theoryboy.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 12:48 PM
2

Easy now.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 09:32 AM
1

Same here, i got it early. Great guide.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 09:28 AM
1

True, they are the best words in any guide.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 09:27 AM
1

I heard that. All the people I know said it’s a great guide. Perhaps, the best guide ever.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 09:26 AM
2

Hey Oliver Twist, just do what he said till next weeks OYS before you ask for more. https://youtu.be/7tOkpntQtBM
/r/askMRP06/02/20 12:05 AM
0

I thought you’d be into a smack in the mouth and a plug up your arse.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 08:19 PM
3

I fear she will leave or become more insecure and more problems will arise. The Stay Plan is the Go Plan. If she has been physically abusive and there are no children, it’s a hard next.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 07:23 PM
1

You’d be surprised.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 03:47 PM
1

That’s a good start. Are you in control of the birth control?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 02:17 PM
0

Depends on my starting net worth.
/r/askMRP05/02/20 01:06 PM
1

It’s not magic. You’re not special. She’s not a unicorn. Biology follows it’s course. Human behavior has patterns. Now what do you want to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 10:51 AM
1

Fuck Yeah!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 09:41 AM
1

60/40 that he does. Odds are against him ‘getting it’.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 09:09 PM
1

Man, it’ll take more than a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 09:07 PM
3

I know. I hit all the right notes, first time.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 09:06 PM
2

Dead right.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 08:04 PM
2

How could I have I made it better for you darling?
/r/askMRP04/02/20 07:50 PM
3

Yo Lady! We’re all stocked up on crazy around here. TL, DR: Fuck off
/r/askMRP04/02/20 07:44 PM
2

This^
/r/askMRP04/02/20 07:41 PM
3

I think there’s something we need to think about here. ‘Marriage is a bad deal for men’, ‘MRP is RP on Hardmode’, ‘The Decline of Western Civ’. Sometimes, I believe that. Other times i wonder if we are giving away our power. Here’s what I mean: don’t they seem like the frames set by an oppressor. ‘Resistance is futile’, do you know what I mean? We talk about hypergamy a lot? Sometimes, I wonder should we talk about hegemony just as much.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 07:37 PM
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You’re sorted. You’re Dad’s cool. GO.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 07:32 PM
1

It’s the information. Ideation lights my fuse. Concentration on shaping it towards a set goal has been my issue. Grinding for what? That was my justification. Now, my goal is to be in 9 months, 11.11.20. A man capable of choosing a mission and executing on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 07:12 PM
12

Next.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 06:17 PM
4

“You are such a jerk. I don’t want to have sex with you, but I do want to have sex with you.” “Mikey, I think he likes it.” https://youtu.be/3VtOvHLOaYg
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 05:27 PM
2

Welcome. First of all drop 48 for the time being. It’s too nuanced for you. You’d be better of with The Rationale Male. Btw, you know Glover says to tell your partner about your process. DON’T DO THAT. All the guys will tell you the same: the number one rule of fight club is we don’t talk about fight club. Great on the porn, now immediately start gaming and initiating. Push through LMR, stop for hard no’s. As said here, your wife is not your guage, ever. I’m sure you’re as big a fat fuck up as y…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 05:20 PM
2

You don't have a frame. Accept that and get to work. Read this and follow the links. Then this for a sense of what to expect.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 03:17 PM
1

You're in the shit. >I guess it's side bar and lift for me. 100%. Enjoy the pregnancy sex ffs.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 03:06 PM
1

Yes it is
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 03:03 PM
1

“doesn’t count” but I think your bottom line is that I need to OMS moving forward. You're yo-yoing is because your improvements were due to your Dancing Monkey Program and the intermittent rewards this gave you. You sat on your laurels because you were satisfied by external validation. sex life is pretty shit Now imagine the nosedive your sex life will take if you have a baby. 2nd, your girl is old for her first child. This will play havoc with her hormones and her neurology. You may have to fac…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 03:00 PM
1

Reading: First discovered this sub in December 2017. Read 90% of sidebar then...re-reading it all again. Finished WISNIFG, Pook, MMSLP (75%), NMMNG is next. Doesn't count. Only counts if you OYS weekly. There's no tweaking available to you if have not used the feedback loop of OYS. What you did is called 'reading'. P.S: Don't get this woman pregnant
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 01:41 PM
1

Haha
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 01:23 PM
1

Man, this sounds mawkish.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 01:06 PM
3

Don't let on that I know about her indiscretions. Revenge, justice, "fairness" - whatever you want to call those desires rooted in a Nice Guy mentality, they can't help me with achieving my real goals to move forward with my life. (3 week streak) The self awareness and self control in this is great. I take it as a challenge every week. There's so many little gremlins in me saying to be overt about stuff to exact: "Revenge, justice, "fairness". ​ Stick to my guns on the divorce. (3 week streak) D…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 11:54 AM
2

OYS 20#: “What Do You Mean, ‘LARPing isn’t the only way to live?’” or The Advantages of Faggotry Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 222lb BENCH:146.5llbs PRESS: 118lbs DEADLIFT: 234lbs, BARBELL ROW: 198.5llbs Read: MRP sidebar Reading: Day Bang, Never Split the Difference and RP Sidebar This week: I started running a stopwatch when doing tasks. The amount of flaking is ridiculous. It hurts me to look at it. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 11:28 AM
1

This is the ‘something useful’. You’re in it. There’s no recruitment drive. It’s not controversial. You’re just not ‘getting it’. Save yourself.
/r/askMRP01/02/20 10:19 AM
1

Man, do you really have time for this?
/r/askMRP01/02/20 09:20 AM
0

Can I pay in installments? And most importantly do you accept crytpo, it’s good for divorce prep I hear?
/r/askMRP31/01/20 07:24 PM
1

That’s mental about the parallels. I don't say this stuff because I'm a nice guy (or even because I like pleasantries), I say them because I think they marginally increase my odds of getting my way. Yeah, i heard myself recorded when I was in full project execution mode. There’s no fucking pleasantries. It shocked me. It’s when there is space. In fact, it’s when I am looking for the easy way. But, man, my head is fucked. I am looking at this shit the guys have been saying to me. And it’s not lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 04:54 PM
1

Gotta love dat dick.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 04:41 PM
3

Motherfucking Mrp. I knew there was a hack.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 03:48 PM
8

Don’t do it Dexter, This guy is a scammer. He’ll demo his ‘alphaness’ all over your girl. My chick loved it. But i was heartbroken when he uploaded it to PornHub. His contract game is tight. He still squeezed that monthly fee out of me.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 03:44 PM
8

Gentleman, we have a snowflake.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 01:33 PM
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Glad you asked bro. Most people don’t realize there is a super fast hack. We call it the Yellow Brick Road. 1). Don’t read the sidebar 2). Lifting is gay. Don’t do it. Go to pilates with your girl. 3). Never STFU, talk, talk, talk to her. P.S Never OYS.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 01:20 PM
1

I'm too worried about others thoughts and reactions. Look at what u/RPeed said to me today. If you get that, great. Take the direct route. The other way is not worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 10:38 AM
1

With frame you can sculpt your reality but it's made harder if you paint over it with dreams. I was just thinking about this. I was thinking 'where does optimism end and solipsism begin'. This bring me back to your dwelling in reality point. That and accepting others have their own individual, imperfect frame and you cannot control it. I thought I could. Through smarts, commitment and perseverance. I thought that was the right thing to do. What I was blind to was the cost. I painted over that wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 10:35 AM
3

So, this: I had a shitty comfort test this weekend. Something to the effect of “I know you love me, but I don’t feel like you always cherish me. I honestly don’t know if it’s my fault or your fault.”. I noted the mix of “I’s” (comfort test) that switched to “you’s” (shit test). I gave her a hug, kissed her forehead, confirmed that I love her, and fogged. sounds technical. I know all the cues are spot on and the replies. What about taking it a little less seriously? Playing with her. Diving into …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 02:04 PM
1

When you look to the sun for light it can be a bit blinding, huh? That is a great way to describe it. I do have an ideal and I take practical steps toward it. I neglect the space in the middle. Probably from FOMO. is it the effective expression of your frame in your day to day interactions that is tripping you up? Yes, I impulsively lay out my bare and naked impressions. As I write this I can see I am trying to counteract the 'flooding' I experience with my own flood of expression. This is why S…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 01:50 PM
2

Anakin had no fucking frame. Haha
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 08:23 AM
1

Man, you sound like me. How’s that working out for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 08:21 AM
1

It’s the congruence piece. I don’t compromise but I delude myself. I have had this feeling and i think it’s cognitive dissonance and i am trying to get away from that feeling.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 09:40 PM
1

That’s very insightful man. I’ll have to mull on it. And the not being a ‘fun guy all the time’ hits home. But don’t we all use personas in different situations for shorthand and efficacy?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 08:53 PM
1

Ok, I see what you're saying RPeed. in order to display alpha behavior. That bit in particular is right. I am not "alpha" in terms of display. I don't think I'm Alpha at all> This definitely fucks with my DHVs. If you buy the Vox Dei stuff, I'd be sigma. It's was in the run of marriage that I adopted beta. Zero understanding of a family dynamics. I literally consciously did the plow horse provider thing willingly. Didn't' ever think of the Alpha fucks side. It was never even a thing in my younge…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 07:36 PM
1

Ouch! I needed that.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 06:45 PM
2

calling her bluff Yeah, i can see me tearing out of the house bawling when she flips the script, if I tried that shit. Done enough bluffing and capitulating to last a lifetime. I am moving forward 'as if' from a mental and planning perspective. I'v seen her raise on mediation because it is non-thing where I am at. It's not admissible in court, just that you gave it a shot. I think it's key that i don't go back and deal with this head on. Why? Because I am the guy who always trys to tackle shit e…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 06:41 PM
1

Same here.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:44 PM
1

And kicks you right in the solipsism.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:43 PM
1

True!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:40 PM
1

I’m not even gonna think how worse my LARPing would be without OYS weekly.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:26 PM
1

No, more divorce threats since a few weeks ago. Another question, do you have a history of threatening divorce as well? Yes, I do. Plenty of that bullshit in the past. Last time would be 10 months to year ago. "Trying solutions before adding them to my frame." Can you expand on this? Your choice of words made me pause, but I'll wait to hear back from you before I start splitting hairs. So, i was thinking about your observation “did I know why u/SBIII had the frame to nuke any threat”. I was talk…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:12 PM
1

Your focus is amazing. It sounds like you’ve clarified your thinking. The fact that you’ve already processed that you’re not going to utilize her indiscretions to get even and protect your ego is really setting the bar for me. Keep it going brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 03:33 PM
2

Post in OYS every week for the next 1 year. And then re-evaluate. This one of the most valuable things you can do.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 01:57 PM
9

OYS.19 How to Fail Shit Tests and Nuke Comfort Tests Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 222lb BENCH:146.5llbs PRESS: 118lbs DEADLIFT: 234lbs, BARBELL ROW: 198.5llbs Read: MRP sidebar Reading: Day Bang, Never Split the Difference and RP Sidebar This week: I am in Phase 2 of my MAP. I thought I was further on, but that was because I read further in the book and have a feminine level of solipsism. The ‘huge’ chan…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 09:09 AM
1

I tried bondage once too. Weeks ago. She said she wanted to tie me up first...the ropes really bit into my wrists. She's way stronger than she looks. This van is freezing btw. Editing texts with your toes gives you leg cramps, who knew ; ) Lolz I'm very hungry too...but I do like role play. She's coming back though, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 03:21 PM
2

This is so simple. And it is not easy. When you start to see it, it clarifies everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/20 09:04 PM
3

As Fox, said what you describe here is a good first step for someone completely immersed in their LTR’s frame. Rather than fogging it reads like “foggy deering”. Particularly, the bit where she walks away and you call out the terms of the next exchange. This literally is inviting future bullshit. I keep getting a version of the same advice from the vets. God bless the patience of the senior fags around here! Here it is: What you are describing are tactics, you have built into them, your wish for…
/r/askMRP24/01/20 04:45 PM
2

If she starts touching your Peepee again, remember: DO NOT GET THIS WOMAN PREGNANT You need to unfuck yourself before you fuck up kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 10:33 AM
3

SBIII is not joking. Her pussy is broken for you. Because you are broken. >Can you elaborate more? What would you reccomend i do? Sidebar>>> Look at Steel's Guide. You can pick your starting point. I'm going with WISNIFG or NMMNG for you. If you pick NMMNG, Dr. Glover says to tell your partner. That's bollox: DON"T TELL ANYONE. **The First Rule of Fight Club is...**
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 10:28 AM
1

If i start texting only for logistics she will pick up on the change and start asking me if 'im okay' how would i respond to that? You're in her frame. Her banjaxed vagina won't heal for a Beta.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 09:50 AM
1

You’re right, I’m just copping on to the fact, that stopping DEERing to her is one layer and there’s a whole other layer of DEERing to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 08:27 AM
10

Other guys are better suited to talk on boundaries and boundaries enforcement. Check out my OYS this week about my own journey from paranoia. You have oneitis. You don’t have frame. And you don’t have abundance. Fit doesn’t count. Lift and post your 5x5 stats Simple actions you can take immediately: 2/3 rule on all communications from now. Divorce Prep see a lawyer this week OYS Weekly
/r/askMRP22/01/20 10:30 AM
1

Man, you could barely imagine how far I can take LARPing and convince myself I’m making progress. The upside is now I have a label for it. You’re right, only time will tell. At least I didn’t get the babysitter pregnant or catch an STD... hold on... at least those fuckers did something.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 09:31 PM
3

I’m picking up a little LMR from you... I’m gonna push through that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:57 PM
1

This is great Blarg. And it's ok to experiment by trying things out...but that also is part of frame. What type of guy are you when X happens and you don't have a frame? Are you the type that tries solutions out to make a frame? Yes. This is me. And here’s the kicker, I don’t do enough to find out. Why? Because, i have let words about being ‘unpredictable’ and ‘crazy’ stick to me. So i postpone actions to hide and to play not to loose. I didn’t realize that until i wrote it. What makes you pick …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 07:52 PM
1

Yeah, RPeed? metoo
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 04:14 PM
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My O2, is going to the gym, seeing friends, not asking permission, putting myself first, dressing better, not Deering, and not trying to guess what’s going on in my wife’s head. In answer to your question “why do I stay?”, I made a deal with myself in November. I would work on myself until 11.11.20 and then take a real inventory of leaving or staying. My goal is to be man who has his shit in order, has assembled the tools that he can use in order to fulfill a mission. To be competent enough by t…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 04:06 PM
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The instinctive facade is something I thought was helping me. Letting it fall away, ok, deep breathe. I want to do the real work. Previously, i wanted to dwell in my reality, not in reality per se. In fact, i would say i have an aversion to reality as it is. “Dwelling in Reality”, right, i’ll do that all this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 02:14 PM
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Hey RPeed, I appreciate you taking the time to go through that. Your words on 'distancing, fantasising and vicarious living' hit home. It showed me the gap I need to close. Cheers, Edit: "Tacit admission you don't actually Game women." I have never gamed a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 01:13 PM
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I did the original Allen Carr. One thing that helped me was that I keep reminding myself, I'm programming myself, or even brain washing myself to stop smoking. It worked.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 12:47 PM
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What's the story with the lifts? Remember, MRP is lift, not get fit.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 12:45 PM
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The ego and solipsism that we exchanged on last week is palpable in this post. Not a criticism btw. Hi RPeed, Would you elaborate a little? Are you saying I am in a haze of ego and solipsism or that you are seeing me identify it?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 11:08 AM
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OYS. 18 PT2: "You’ve been DEERing in your Sleep" ​ Personality and Preference: I am doing more stuff because I want to. I noticed that I was DEERing to my wife and others inside my own head. The fact that I noticed this was a big indicator to me on how far away from myself I had become. Also, as I stop this, I am becoming increasing confident. I am starting to dialogue with myself first rather than just splurge words everywhere. I spent a few hundred quid on my office. As I organised things I co…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 09:36 AM
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OYS. 18 PT1: "You’ve been DEERing in your Sleep" - Crystle Gayle https://youtu.be/7pZ4dptJdOM?t=62 Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 222lb BENCH:146.5llbs PRESS: 118lbs DEADLIFT: 234lbs, BARBELL ROW: 198.5llbs Body 182 Read: All MRP sidebar Reading: Day Bang, Never Split the Difference and RP Sidebar This week: I knew this guy who was afraid. He was afraid his land whale might cheat on him. Or already had don…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 09:36 AM
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In no world are you ever going to get this shit ‘right’. It’s not even a thing to get right. But you can be smart about it. And you know how to do that and where the resources are. Fuck her & fuck us. Step into yourself and do what you want, at your pace, for you. Lean in to the discomfort. Not so much that you burn out but enough that you know your pushing forward. And oh btw, fuck you Maui, you’re not even at your sexual market peak. By the time your my age you’ll have a decade of OYSing under…
/r/askMRP17/01/20 12:35 PM
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Yes, I am confusing the two and it’s exactly because i am only beginning to have a frame of reference. I was listening to Rollo and Pat Campbell on Mental Point of Origin and it was a laundry list of my ‘female primary’ frame of reference. And there I was thinking I was man who made his own decisions. It’s wild how you don’t see it until you see it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 11:56 AM
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That’s a really useful elaboration. The “not wrong per se” fueled actions that led me somewhere good. Other times it was impulsive and i ended up in regret. I can thread the needle better. The incongruence is a issue because I had no effective rationale for the results/experience. Also, your points on ego and solipsism have being top of mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 09:23 AM
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You guys are drawing out my polarised tendencies. That has being ineffective for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 07:04 AM
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I get episodes of frame. But its not established. ‘Burn it down’ may sound very aggressive. Does it make a difference if I were to say ‘being willing to walk away?’ Or is that very much the same thing from your perspective?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 07:02 AM
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Ah here Man, thanks for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 09:34 PM
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I'd love to hear you elaborate a little on handling shitty comfort tests.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 02:47 PM
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Eh, dunno. There are some concepts in there but it definitely refuelled my LARP levels.I'm a sucker at times for that shit.It should come with a warning or something. I thought I was ready for it but you kinda have to be 100% ready to burn it all down before you bother with WOTSM. And that's coming from a guy (me) who swings between LARPing and Self Doubt on rope of made from Reality Evasion.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 02:44 PM
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Once you finish planning your future "alternate life" as a divorcee, (you need to figure out childcare and school transportation logistics if you aren't already doing this if you want any shot at 50/50 custody to lower support payments) and you have fully become comfortable and accepted this alt life as viable I need to dig into this. In your case you travel for work so how did you factor that into your custody planning? And what sort of arrangement were you planning for: the kids with you one w…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 10:45 AM
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That's bravery in the face of bullshit. You're growing a frame that is bigger than circumstances. I am working on it. Just got keep moving forward and push through the layers of self-doubt. but the dynamic changed when I chose to attack first. The idea of the dragon sitting on my gold is great. It’s time i move more steadily into a proactive attack posture. Even in bjj I played from the defense posture. It’s time for me to approach life very differently.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 07:57 AM
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she wants to take a trip, which is her code for have sex Like, buy me a holiday and I’ll give you a ride? I procrastinate on things that are hard You’re wired to. Fail, in evolutionary terms could equal death. When you have your needs met why risk the hunt. Only your needs are not met, are they? Push through and do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 09:15 PM
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And you’re sticking around because?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 09:09 PM
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I get you now bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 04:25 PM
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I like your humility but what’s wrong with a working man upgrading his threads? And what’s wrong with you slowly conditioning your availability to your wife’s choice to be pleasant or not? Do you not deserve the basics?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 03:51 PM
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Don’t we all, brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 03:48 PM
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I had all the paint/dynamite a child could wish for. use the right tools in the current reality I operate in. That's super useful, cheers RPeed...However... if you need to refill your Ego or Solipsism I have more than enough to go around!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 02:41 PM
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classic post That was a great one. Just read it there. Do you feel the information on effective communication led to you negotiating better terms that brought you from the verge of bankruptcy to 'liquid cash'? Or was that from other investments maturing?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 02:16 PM
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You're selling her the vision of a wonderful marathon race together but you still haven't completed the 5k. That's exactly how it sounded to me. A great turn of phrase HOA. I've done that in so many arenas of life. Now you've given me a picture to engrain the lesson in my mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 02:03 PM
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Haha, yeah recently I've had two that I would have thought were main events in the past. Now, just as she started them, I sussed that it was shitty/comfort tests brewing and used the prerequisite WISNIFG. It was great to just stay out of someone else's frame. Now I'd tell to any guys in the Anger Phase that the value of a sparring partner who knows all your weaknesses is a once in a lifetime opportunity, so learn to bob and weave so you can get off the ropes.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 01:59 PM
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> I'm past liquid and cash rich now, where 12 month's ago I was one invoice away from bankruptcy. New assets every week, a PE exit within this year that will release a chunk of cash Brilliant work man. How much do you attribute your current success to MRP processes?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:43 AM
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So you tell me... I’d go with “Weekly Rations”
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:39 AM
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Yeah, I wouldn't think this was a main event. Maybe a mini. If you read your piece: " it culminated in me eventually going respectfully..." It sounds like a sales pitch or Advanced DEERing. Add to that you're body language and tone and 100% your "independent woman" could see through it. And she is right as u/SBIII pointed out. Upside is you've got some time to tighten your game up for the upcoming shit tests and possible future M.E.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:29 AM
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OYS 17. “To See for Certain…” or “Any Frame will Do”. To the tune of Any Dream Will Do from Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 206lb BENCH:135llbs PRESS: 118lbs DEADLIFT: 234lbs, BARBELL ROW: 193llbs Body Weight 183 Read: All MRP sidebar Reading: Day Bang, Never Split the Difference and RP Sidebar This week: First of all, thank you to all the guys who shared their i…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:09 AM
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> (IMO Level 3, really) Are you saying you're gonna float around level 3?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 09:52 AM
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A List of 3 Quick Things for You: 1). No need to worry about how to link pictures of your wife texts. No one wants to see that. 2). Think basic OPSEC on the above. 3). Look up the concept that Rollo talks about; Divorce your wife mentally.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 10:30 PM
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Cheers Blarg, Yeah, that’s right, I am doing a lot of thinking. There is another side of me too. I’m intense and will step up. In the past, in many things, i did it in a rambo/juvenile way. I don’t want to do that again. I want to walk through the door consciously. I hit up a new lawyer yesterday and i was blown away by how ‘not as bad as I thought’ the baseline was. I was tempted tell clients, my wife and load of others to go jump. I didn’t. But I could. I harnessed a good measure of it today i…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 07:18 PM
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Wow! Don’t stop now, If you don’t mind me asking: 1). Did you just assert she knew what you wanted from a woman or had you overtly stated it in your MRP phase? 2).And how long has your new life with your wife been on the go?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 07:01 PM
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So, i had some serious injuries that made BJJ seem a no go. In fact it helped my recovery. Bjj is full contact but with no striking. So you head is protected. Also BJJ is lethal, no one you will roll with will crank you. Every move should be executed in degrees 20%, 40%, 60%... Therefore the new guy gets plenty of time to safely tap. You also face virtual death, a lot which is humbling and wakes you up. You also get to make real virtual kills. If you finished a move you could really mess someone…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 06:44 PM
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In order to internalize Frame, you must reach a critical mass of mastery, confidence, and abundance. There is no 'Easy' button. This is great.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 09:46 AM
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not on what you want This right here. I am still working to figure that out at 42. I have puzzled over it so many times. I am concluding it is because I have never accepted my own frame or even known what I might like that to be. But recently as I stay a little quieter and reduce placating and start to put myself first, I am getting a sense of what my preferences might be. That's kinda huge for me because I have tried a lot of different methods to get there, but I finally sense something might e…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 07:20 PM
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So, you think there’s a bit of fishing on lake MRP going on, I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 06:27 PM
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The solution that you are suggesting to this is that he twiddles with the dials. Up the Beta volume to match the Alpha volume. I was think about this like “Maybe, I need to that a little”. Maybe u/SBIII is a little too hardcore. But even if your wife is your mirror, you have to turn away from the mirror to live in the world. I could have easily got sucked into dial twiddling. Thanks for your time on my OYS and your comment really added to my understanding of what you we’re laying out for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 06:19 PM
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Sheeeit, have you been reading my diary? I was trying to figure out if I had gone to Alpha after the exchanges with the guys here on my last OYS. You are thinking about tactics, alpha/beta ratios, correlation to menstural cycles, looking at phases of the moon, etc etc to figure out how to doge bullets. When you are ready, all that armor and tactics you are amassing for this epic battle in your head drops away like feathers, and you realize that you don't have to dodge the bullets at all. Very im…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 06:14 PM
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Me or him?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 06:08 PM
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I am with you on so much of this talkie, nice guy shit. Not knowing all along it was my own inability to connect emotionally with her on a masculine to feminine level that was slowly eating her alive. I seemed to have turned on that sexually... but not emotionally. Because of the “talker” stuff. I am also getting idea in my mind that a part of what is happening here is that she is copping on that she’ll have to up her girlfriend game which she hasn’t had to think about for a long time. Put in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 06:08 PM
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That's a gift BPP! You really should use that. Stone is an artist with a military background, that's an amazing fit for you. Just to fluff you a little: your content has had a critical impact on me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 10:57 AM
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Brilliant! This is something I have been thinking about. BPP is very artistic and I would wager obsessed with ideation. The artist holds everything as equally important and it comes across as messy, lazy, crazy...until it's not. I see many guys around here are STEM guys and a new input reorientates them and is usually highly calibrated. As a creative, this gives me so much help. Just imagine how well BPP would go over if he lifted and worked on his presentation and production values. The very th…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 10:53 AM
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Yeah, I'm the talker too. A lot of what you are saying here rings through with me. It's kinda where I would guess we are. But as you said earlier, it's my job through to my legal position and know the likely outcome first.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 09:49 AM
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Yep, I feel a compulsion to answer. Previously, she has gone down this route and I have let it degenerate into a divorce discussion or a discussion of her feels. In this instance, if I did what you suggested here it would be a big step forward. Rewarding her with "divorce discussion" is a great way of putting it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 09:45 AM
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What I’m really learning from you here is the self reliance. And the ability to act in the face of “come what may”. Thanks for sharing those personal details it helps me in working through my own perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 03:19 PM
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You're right. I have it twisted. I have given away way too much control over my thought processes. If she would rather self sabotage rather than give up the pursuit of her needs, then let her but don't do the same thing to yourself. That really hit home.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 02:04 PM
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Because she could bring false charges and then I'd be forced out. I was jumping to that alternate reality first.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 02:03 PM
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In answer to your question, it's a mix of both. What I was referring to here was that it better option than me leaving. I had it in my mind that I would have to be the one to leave.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:39 PM
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EDIT: This comment is the same as above. The repetition due to reply not showing at first. And there is no soft separation of bedrooms or whatever, if you're going to divorce, even by means of mediation, then ITS OVER, and she should clearly understand that you expect she will not be living in YOUR house anymore. Yeah, I couldn't put 2 & 2 together. I need to switch it to broken record "If you're not happy there's the door". No soft separation. Guys who are so much farther along or never let the…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:32 PM
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Right, you're saying she is seeing 'no action" because I am not proactive in ending the relationship with "There's the door". Am I picking you up right?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:25 PM
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>It's rarely the big arguments that kill a relationship - it's the small insidious ones Yeah, I'm no longer the culprit I once was of shitty big arguments. These small insidious ones have been reducing and I got hopeful. But this undertow is beneath the surface. I need to counter that.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:21 PM
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But I don't have a sense of humour about it yet
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:18 PM
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So there's no short divorce where I live. And there's no "once and for all" solution. I don't want to dox myself but I'm not in the US. What I have gained from what your saying is I need to flip this to her leaving. The refusal for any soft separation was very helpful. Here's the thing, i couldn't even see that because I was trying to arrange the perfect outcome in my head. So, much for OI. Guys who are so much farther along or never let themselves be shit on at all like SB3 I think forget somet…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:13 PM
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You're right. However, that button is getting less and less of a reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:01 PM
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I have over thought this. I got to bring the broken record back. Just writing up here what I want is her out of the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:00 PM
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I don't want to give you excuses and I do want to stand up for myself and end the disrespect. I've booked a lawyer. Yes, I am finding excuses for her. I am only seeing this now that you point it out. In the past I have talked and talked. I not talking about my post divorce life. I am talking about getting a handle on guardianship issues and immediate next actions. I think her out of the house is the best option.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 12:59 PM
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Yep, I am working on getting that control over my own situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 12:53 PM
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Man, I need to take the weapon off her and destroy it. Thanks for this advice. But, straight up, I don't have the balls for your options here.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 12:09 PM
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Yes, I started this and then backed off because I prioritised a bug out fund and an out of home office to protect myself and work assets. I'll get back to it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 12:08 PM
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What I had done here was the last time she threatened I registered us for Mediation which is a preliminary to Legal Separation where I am from. She was shocked and played along for a few weeks and then back tracked. Now, she says she wants it and I said yes sure. She keeps saying "you don't want to be with me etc etc". I'm pretty sure this is to get me back in the box. When I said okay to mediation, she ramps it up to wanting separate bedrooms and asking me to move out. Thoughts? P.S: I feel lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 12:01 PM
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Right. How would you nuke it? Get papers drawn up? Leave? I am not cool with it. What can you do in the moment?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 11:52 AM
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OYS 16. Reality Evasion and Thinking Less Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs to 189 BENCH:137llbs to 130 PRESS: 99lbs DEADLIFT: 228lbs, BARBELL ROW: 187llbs static Read: All MRP sidebar Reading: Day Bang, Never Split the Difference and RP Sidebar This week: I was a little under the weather and blew the opportunity to use the time that my wife was off college to get real early starts. I had a great New Y…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 11:17 AM
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Yes. You're right, I'm here for the red pill. I have to let go of the desire for an easier to swallow blue pill.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 01:37 PM
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Man, may i come back to you on this in the future? You’re affecting my perspective and I’d like to be a bit more compos mentis before i ask my question.
/r/askMRP05/01/20 07:43 PM
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“Ok, first, never say "I am trying to understand the effective range of a Jedi’s use of the Force" again. That's infantile.” Yes, you’re right. If i could catch that infantilism before it exits me...i’d save myself from a-lot of self induced bollox. Option 2 = "Hell, I'd love to have a chef around, maybe I'll send you to culinary school (you worthless whore)."
/r/askMRP05/01/20 07:40 PM
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You’re straight 100% on this? Man, that’s fuckin’ hardcore. And strangely liberating too.
/r/askMRP05/01/20 12:44 AM
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Fuck you and your self actualization. I’m Betacus!
/r/askMRP05/01/20 12:42 AM
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Fuck you, OP is sucking my dick. That’s the only shit that’s verifiable. You’re okay OP, that’s good. Keep it comin’. That’s it... nearly... slow down...
/r/askMRP04/01/20 09:05 PM
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Da fuck!
/r/askMRP04/01/20 09:03 PM
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You’re a fucking animal.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 09:02 PM
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Always get the getaway bag ready.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 09:02 PM
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Ah dude, c’mon. You’re driving the fear stake deep. She’s an uber cunt for sure. Loads of us started there. But, you’re probably right, he needs a good kick in the stones. That hostess shit was lame.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 09:01 PM
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Yep, i saw this on the pilot episode of “..how to look good without Gayness”.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 08:57 PM
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Would you, IRL, drop option 2? I am trying to understand the effective range of a Jedi’s use of the Force?
/r/askMRP04/01/20 08:55 PM
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Harsh, think of the man’s feelings, will you?
/r/askMRP04/01/20 08:54 PM
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Ffs, this is so useful
/r/askMRP04/01/20 08:53 PM
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I haven’t kept my pimp hand strong, That’s why I’m here.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 09:03 AM
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If you were a creative, technically minded and good with people. However you had always worked outside the mainstream (the arts/startups/freelancing). And were over 40 what would you do immediately to increase your cashflow and longterm options?
/r/askMRP03/01/20 04:46 PM
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You've got all that money, I guess you have a private cash stash too, a-go-to crash pad /office if she goes crazy nuclear on your ass. And you've got some chicks that would be eager to get with you lined up for yourself. Right?
/r/askMRP02/01/20 02:57 PM
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Man, I’d love the shortcuts to your story. I catch you like the abominable snowman. I want to read the skinny. Got links?
/r/askMRP01/01/20 02:11 AM
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Haha!
/r/askMRP01/01/20 02:08 AM
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Man, we appreciate you. HAPPY NEW YEAR!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 02:07 AM
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Dude, do not get this woman pregnant. I repeat, do not get this woman pregnant.
/r/askMRP01/01/20 12:38 AM
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This^
/r/askMRP01/01/20 12:37 AM
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Easy. Bounce.
/r/askMRP01/01/20 12:36 AM
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metoo
/r/askMRP01/01/20 12:35 AM
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You didn’t chicken out. You stayed in the fray. Big difference. One is act of despair, the other is an act of courage.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 05:20 PM
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Great self awareness and ruthlessness in your post. Now, have some fuckin' fun. Social is key. It's time to remember your a man first and a husband, father somewhere after that. Have you read TWOTSM?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 04:34 PM
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Yeah OP, great to hear. Solid progress. Stick around you've shit to do!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 03:00 PM
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Man, take a break. Over the weekend come back to this exchange and read the level of DEER here.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:57 PM
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The second you go "Hey guys what do you think?" you're communicating that you've given up owning and are instead relying on us. Man, the fact that you and the other vets know this and still hang around contributing makes me very grateful for you all.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:55 PM
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OP, he's right. It was hard to read.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:52 PM
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OYS 15. Full Frontal Male Nudity or Shit Streaks in the John Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs to 189 BENCH:137llbs to 130 PRESS: 99lbs DEADLIFT: 228lbs, BARBELL ROW: 187llbs static Read: All MRP sidebar Reading: Day Bang and RP Sidebar This week: Christmas was good. I got my wife presents. I didn’t care what she thought. Nor did I nerf the fact that the shirt she picked out for me did not suit my new …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:35 PM
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“Because of the garage, I missed three lift days and decided to take the week off. I became so focused on the garage I didn't want to stop; yesterday I went 12 hours without any break and would have continued going had I not had to meet a previous commitment with friends.” I know this. I think it’s a load of shit. It hides compensating for past failures, a lack of preparation and prioritization under a veil of gargantuan effort and self sacrifice. That’s me, though. Dunno about you?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 10:31 PM
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That was flexy setup alright. I was intrigued by your tweet below on “shitty” strategy. That’s starting to make sense to me now. Keep enjoying easy WAS.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/19 02:43 AM
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Is that ‘cause you wrote: Rule 9 Violation 3 times and then thought to yourself “fuck it, even Ebenezer gave Tiny Tim a break a Christmas?”
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 07:18 PM
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“The mountain doesn’t analyze the thunderstorm”. Fuck yeah that’s brilliant. I’ll hit TWOTSM again in the new year. Thanks for your insights in 2019, Barracuda you vicious fish. Merry Christmas, man.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 02:06 PM
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Who da fuck?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 11:55 AM
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Yeehaaaw! I think you OP just overtook me in overthinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 11:53 AM
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OYS 14. “Here come the dick stepper, murderer…” Ini Kamoze or “I love it when a plan comes together” John “Hannibal” Smith Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs BENCH:137llbs, PRESS: 99lbs DEADLIFT: 228lbs, BARBELL ROW: 187llbs Read: All MRP sidebar Reading: Day Bang and RP Sidebar This week; I am a habitual dickstepper. From any position, I have developed the ability to jump and land on my own dick. I hel…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 09:40 AM
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Super stuff. I needed this today!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 05:45 PM
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I went back through my schedule and I got a lot of things done with work and family last week. I would say that it looks more like management than leadership. Also, I'm spending to long on tasks and then using the gaps in between to flake. Not relax and unwind. Flake.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 03:44 PM
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OYS 13. “I think therefore I spam” Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs BENCH:137llbs, PRESS: 99lbs DEADLIFT: 228lbs, BARBELL ROW: 187llbs Read: All MRP sidebar Reading: Day Bang and RP Sidebar This week; Last week i talked about the flooding aspect with my SO and life in general. This week on the back of a comment man_in_the_world made about me having a whirring body and mouth, I saw I was spamming. I us…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 11:27 AM
1

The way you elaborate always pushes me further.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/19 08:26 PM
1

Perhaps you’re right.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/19 08:24 PM
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The irony is, every one of us here is looking for a death roll.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/19 12:32 AM
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Good man, it pays.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/19 06:54 AM
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“Devoured the sidebar in a week, great sub. I’m Ex alpha turned beta after kid 1. So, I calmly told her there was gonna be some big changes around here. She laughed in my face. AWALT, right? I stoically left the room, went down stairs and threw all sodas and sugary foods in the trash. She came tearing down the stairs and flipped out. Land whales, roight! She said she was leaving and going to her sister’s place for a few days. The sister is a cunty feminist who hates me. I got a little nervous an…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 11:04 PM
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I did loads of journalling and reading. I was in a coaching program that was very demanding but not RP. I had noob gains. I was getting sex and increasing my independence. But nothing compares to OYSing weekly and lifting. As you said it really makes you malleable. If you show up here weekly the feedback you get is apt and intense. I am still very mindful of your early challenges to me. I’m running the program with my own nuances and we’ll see in time how it plays out. The depth of the community…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 10:54 PM
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I know, man. Straight up though, the abundance is just emerging. If it took a knock I’d be skulking around the hippo enclosure again :/
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 09:46 PM
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-In mouth Barf- Here’s the thing i wasjumping up in the air and doing heel clicks at getting an enthusiastic hippo ride when I started here... Now...not so much. Fickle fuckup that I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 06:41 PM
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Thanks for pointing out the wood from the trees.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 12:05 PM
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Thanks. Deleted and moved to the right area.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 12:03 PM
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“So are you doing this because you are being truthful with yourself, or...?” Hey, being less needy. Not withdrawing, although I am getting some feedback that people feel that way. I attribute this to the correction phase and people wondering; “why da Munkey don’t dance sum mo’?” “Be creative for you, not for validation.....” Yeah, i am professional in the creative world. When it’s your world you can convult it for cash, prize or prestige. I’m doing this one for me. Cheers for checking in man. It…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 12:02 PM
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Man, this is so weird. Everytime i ‘let go’ there is movement. Everytime i hold on shit persists. The issue is learning difference and appropriateness of agency and acquiescence in different contexts. I am going for action first to beat my overthinking and i work on the nuances later.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 01:43 PM
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When I wrote this OYS, I thought, ‘FFS, so many words’. The ‘body not whirring’ is a great call, I am shifting that this week. I can feel it. In terms, of Acta, non cogita. I hear you. How do know when you done enough cogita? Or are you saying forget the thinking for now?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 07:57 AM
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“I’m the type who will normally do the dishes when they’re there or do the laundry if I have the chance because I enjoy living in a clean and tidy home.” You’re quiet the catch it seems. “Do I continue to own my shit around the house without her owning hers? “ No. Definitely not. You want to let it all slide to shite...you know, like the rest if your life. This sub is all about that. You know, like it lays out in the sidebar?
/r/askMRP11/12/19 12:01 AM
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That’s great insight man. Laziness and perhaps; thinkingness are the the quintessential avoidance techniques employed. Whatcha say?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 09:18 PM
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Hehe
/r/askMRP10/12/19 09:15 PM
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OYS 12. “Floodin’ was the case that they gave me” Part 2 Personality and Preference: I am not second guessing myself as much. I am less anxious. I am trying less. I am accepting my limitations. I am much quieter than I am normal. I think this is me. But there’s no edge of butthurt. I just am not trying to fix everyone and I am enjoying my aloofness. I was the chatty guy. I can still be that way. But it seems that the compulsiveness is disappearing. I have also decide to put my creative skills ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 09:58 AM
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OYS 12. “Floodin’ was the case that they gave me” Part 1 Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs BENCH:137llbs, PRESS: 99lbs DEADLIFT: 228lbs, BARBELL ROW: 187llbs Read: All MRP sidebar Reading: Meditations, Day Bang and RP Sidebar This week; Kicking out so much cash this week. Loads of stuff has poured in. But I am not sweating it like I would have previously. I would have shat myself. I am letting go of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 09:57 AM
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Nope. We bastardize female strategies and use them to our advantage. Then we band together here tell ourselves we’re men. ‘Cause we have peepees. Paging u/RStonePT
/r/askMRP09/12/19 10:50 PM
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Hopefully u/InChargeMan and u/SBIII will comment. I like laughing uncontrollably in public.
/r/askMRP09/12/19 10:45 PM
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Chill out man, his thumbs are enormous.
/r/askMRP09/12/19 10:41 PM
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Yeah, how could he be sure it was from the pro?
/r/askMRP09/12/19 10:33 PM
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I once had validation sex. It was awesome. Best minute of my life.
/r/askMRP09/12/19 03:41 PM
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I am curious person and over the last 3 years I have thrown myself into experiential learning. I think it's a great way to learn. What I am seeing in relation to your description of "a guy who has the balls to fully consider your side, and then reply confidently with his view, has frame," is that I lacked a sense of reality. I was meditating last night. And everything felt so much more real. It's like I have been in mediocre dream most of my life. My cocky, funny, smart arsed risk taking self ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/19 01:53 PM
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Brilliant!
/r/askMRP08/12/19 12:12 PM
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What about options? Let’s say you drop the old bird, you’re financially set up, and you can pull off a V2? I think of that. That’s a biggie.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 11:24 PM
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OYS, every week. You post on Tuesday, no excuses. Be the first to class. Start developing your MAP now. it doesn't have to be great. It's a vision of the guy you'll be in a year to 24 months, u/hack3ge pointed this out. Your punctuation and formatting matter. You don't get to piss on this Sub's carpet and then ask us to analyse the patterns. Write like you mean it. It'll still be garbage. But iit'll be garbage that you won't believe you wrote in a year because the guy who wrote it will be long g…
/r/askMRP04/12/19 09:29 PM
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Man, ‘out of control’, ‘passenger’ seat for sure. I was guessing at what normal is, self shaming when i failed and seeking validation like an addict. Didn’t see it though. Seeing it now though.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 04:00 PM
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I feel the same. Would you say why it’s such a big no for you and what contraception do you use?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 02:52 PM
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Thoughts on vasectomy?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 01:55 PM
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"When it gets old being angry all the time, check out A New Earth and look into some chakra exercises, then read WOTSM and your head will be in a much better place." I have and am doing those. I am also taking seriously what you said about not loosing the opportunity to grow by penetrating her moods. u/dilberryhoundog & u/rotkohlblaukraut pointed out some stuff on shame. A key. The materials and exercises you mentioned have been, and continue to be essential. The rage is juvenile. It's incoheren…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 01:41 PM
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That mad, what advice are you getting around here on that. I will initiate at bursting point and get it. But that is getting rarer. Most of the time there just seems like more important things to use my energy for. u/SBIII wrote about the "multi-orgasmic man" and semen retention. That seems like a good approach on the energy side. Right now it's just not the top priority for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 01:31 PM
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“Hey son, Daddy’s got gonorrhea...”
/r/askMRP03/12/19 10:04 PM
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Great. Thank you. This is very valuable to me right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 09:17 PM
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And this is an independent metric that you develop for yourself?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 08:36 PM
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Jaw dropping! Man, this is the dynamic. I have to sit with what you've written here.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 07:41 PM
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Wow! This is a different world. I would love to figure a route for myself into those kind of earnings and responsibilities. "Life is incredibly easy" - Good for you WAS
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 07:39 PM
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Yeah, I definitely notice the attitude in the gym has shifted.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 07:29 PM
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"It is easy to bullshit yourself into not doing something, especially when you are a recovering nice guy." Aha, that's the what I'm doing! Thanks bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 05:28 PM
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Excellent thanks man. Yeah, I think there was another subcontract. That I would improve and she'd have a Come to Jesus moment. I realise that will do nothing for me. Also, coming to terms with a lack of penetrating the world and the women in my life is big. The great thing is that i see weakness of the rage. I adopted 'stewing' because I didn't know any better. Ignorance is not bliss, ignorance is impotence. Cheers for the input.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 05:26 PM
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“Rage is your mind telling you that something is out of whack - external reality doesn't match your internal worldview. If the internals are off (ego, unrealistic expectaions), the you have to work on your beliefs and replace them with healthier, more accurate ones. If the external reality is off, take it as a sign that you need to work on something tangible (boundaries, finances, whatever). Taking actions shows your mind that you're no longer helpless in this internal/external conflict and help…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 03:39 PM
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Man, i am buzzing. There is so much in your response. But this one: “You couldn't see it because you believed it was normal because your beliefs were off. That's the whole reason you got involved with a woman and by extension her family with this amount of dysfunction. Your oddly shaped psycholigical jigsaw puzzle piece perfectly fit hers.” I was starting to sense something along these lines. Your words tied them up perfectly. I couldn’t articulate it just yet.If i could describe how accurately …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 03:34 PM
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OYS 12. “Say my frame, say my frame” Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs BENCH:137llbs, PRESS: 99lbs DEADLIFT: 228lbs, BARBELL ROW: 187llbs Read: All MRP sidebar excluding RedPill Sidebar Reading: Meditations and The 48 Laws and Getting Things Done Fast This week; The rage. Seriously, I can’t even write about it here. Because if I got doxxed I would be going to jail for thought crimes. To the outer world…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 10:25 AM
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Ok, you've got something i am missing u/PillUpAss: Do you feel your own positive masculine energy as you provide humor or is this coming off as try-hard and annoying? I don't feel my masculine energy. I feel dissipated, like I am giving into her mood, rewarding her for bad behaviour. To be precise, I feel de-energised by her moods, resentful of them.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 07:56 PM
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This is challenging. Needed to read this.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 07:47 PM
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I think this is definitely the most practical and strategic approach. OP has confessed that he, like many of us, pulled some Rambo. Future OP will have greater clarity further a long.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 09:59 PM
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Do that. Give yourself a year. But in mean time...remember you’re here to fix yourself not your marriage. You are still too invested in this marriage. Now that you’ve got a second car and an office outside the house, put some money aside so that if your wife tries some shit, you’ve a bit of emergency cash. As you do this you’ll observe your over investment & resentment SLOWLY diminish. Build yourself an emergency option and you’ll start to see the man you’ll be when you have a real option. Stop …
/r/askMRP01/12/19 08:12 PM
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Displays of High Value: MAP Part 2 I know I am the man who displays high value because I give my gifts as gifts and sell them as high value commodities. No one is entitled to them. My observations, my wit, my artistic skills, my technical ablitities, my written and spoken gifts, my numerical gifts, my EQ and IQ are valued greatly by me. I don’t burythem. I showcase them. I am not a victim of false humility or a stooge of pride. I am not going around throwing my pearls before swine. When I see in…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/19 08:43 PM
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Hey u/Blarg_Risen; This was a great exercise. Thanks for the input. Below are my rewrites on my MAP: MAP Part 1 Social: I know I am the social person I want to be because when I enter room I feel invigorated. I let my empathetic nature roam free and pick up signals. I don’t personalise the inputs. I approach people in an amiable and confident manner. I approach the people that most interest me. I recognise the ones that are signaling openness but I choose the timing and sequence of my interactio…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/19 08:41 PM
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That makes it manly.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 07:01 AM
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“Fuck them if they get angry.” The mother and the wife? I knew RP was amoral...but...I don’t know if I’m ready for this. Is this how you get a Red Beret?
/r/askMRP27/11/19 09:20 PM
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I had a panic attack reading it.
/r/askMRP27/11/19 09:13 PM
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Oh, and i came to the conclusion because if was leaking through your OP. Hope that’s useful man. Also, thinking is less essential than you think. Running your system is essential.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 11:52 AM
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Different layers of anger come up at different times. Sometimes it’s projection, sometimes it’s because she’s being a cunt. It’s all about not getting stuck in it. Those exercises i mentioned are helpful when you’re angry. In terms of releasing the negative emotions that arise I find the ‘letting go’ technique of feeling and releasing negative emotion very quick and you can do it right in the moment of been ‘triggered’; ...couldn’t resist.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 11:42 AM
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Okay, adding this to the repertoire. Got the fucking ramped up but a drop off in enthusiasm. I was being autist.
/r/askMRP26/11/19 10:14 PM
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Yeah, the comment was meant for you not for u/MeanPhysics. Your post read like a person who is acting out because they are angry/frustrated. You vape and drink or fuck trannies or [insert vice here] because you’re mad as fuck. Dipping back into the anger phase materials on Mrp will help you. Also, find something like elevated press ups and air squats to burn that anger off. Something you can do anywhere, at nearly anytime. Look at your response MP. You blame your negative wife for her influence …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 06:31 PM
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Cheers. Yeah i switch to earlier starts. Did a few 5 ams and felt great. But i’m a night person so late nights kicked that to 5;45. From your point here i think if i can land the 5am start it’ll enable more. Just need to get it habitual.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 05:00 PM
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You savage! Love what you did with your money and work. The balls on you!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 04:17 PM
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You’re in or you’re out. Make a choice. You’ve slid down the snake and are back to square one. You might get away with this weak ass post once. This is not a confessional. There is no absolution here. STFU and lift. Nothing else matters.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 04:14 PM
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Hey man, trying to figure out my new normal, so i’ve a few questions How much sleep do you get per night? How do calculate whats a good measure for family/work/social?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 04:07 PM
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Do you feel anger/frustration much?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 04:04 PM
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Great self awareness. You moved the needle in yourself. That was quick turnaround. Respect. u/Blarg_risen’s stuff last week on the ‘battles’ was tight. He gave me some good exercises on that. That comment from u/Red_Curious, you linked, “When you loose the internal imperative in a marriage it is always replaced with resentment”, was enlightening. Strength
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 04:02 PM
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Yeah, but the awareness it the change bro!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 02:34 PM
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“13 Here’s one covert contract: ... I will speak to you in a nice tone of voice and you will do the same” This seems small. But it’s huge because it creates authenticity and OI. Great catch.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 02:15 PM
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It's great. It's also bizarre. I thought I did my own thing. It's just at a different level when you're on MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 12:55 PM
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And I'd bet that it's related to these minor positive changes in multiple areas. The big impact that 'minor' positive has is a surprise to me. I alway went for the epic change. It reminds me of that could proverb "Little hinges swing big doors". Thanks for the encouragement Barracuda.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 12:53 PM
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OYS 11. Things just keep getting beta and better Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs BENCH:137llbs, PRESS: 99lbs DEADLIFT: 228lbs, BARBELL ROW: 187llbs Read: All MRP sidebar excluding RedPill Sidebar Reading: Meditations and The 48 Laws and Getting Things Done Fast This Week The shift from life in my head and increasingly towards action is progressing. I see glimpses of the beta bloke I was trying to pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 10:09 AM
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I decided to change my mindset on this and instead view every interaction with women (and really people in general) as a gift. That's the true meaning behind "be the prize." My sexuality is a gift, my time is a gift, my presence, knowledge, wit, even my gaze and words are gifts. I nearly stopped reading here. That's the shit. Nice one
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 05:08 PM
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Yeah, gonna take the rehabilitation seriously and get this stabilisation down.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 09:50 AM
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"it doesn’t have to be journaling to be productive but even in the morning or at night just getting the nonsense out on paper" i am always trying to make it productive. I think that's bug in me - not a feature.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 09:49 AM
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I got a trainer there and I can see I keep plateauing at a certain weight. I have started incorporating machines this week. Hope fully that will get me the breakthrough. Learnt a lot. Thanks for the encouragement.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 09:48 AM
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I had read that HOA's OYS and noted your response. When I write these visions pieces out I end up too far too one side or too far to the other. I am trained in the fine arts and stem subjects. I can perform in both worlds but it's non-stereo typical for the both the arts and business/tech. What is difficult for me is to sustain a bridge between the 2 hemispheres (worlds, processes, professions) in confident, replicable and rewarding way. It's like dipping a paintbrush into a pot of red paint and…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 02:58 PM
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u/Blarg_Risen First 3 sections. Physical: The ideal physical me has a strong and structured masculine body. I have clear muscle separation and definition all over my body and good vascularity. Abdominal muscles are visible. My body is flexible in movement and well suited to BJJ. I have high energy. I look sophisticated and strong in a suit, not like a bouncer. I practice excellent breath control and superb posture at all times. I have a tailored diet and workout regime that is simple for me to f…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 12:53 PM
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Good one. I’m looking forward to that. Beta to the bitch and beta to the bucks. Glad to be leaving that behind.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 08:47 PM
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Yeah, I waiting for someone to catch this with a “wait a minute, that’s what we tell dudes about bitches”. But, homegrown hardcore works well too! Thanks for the input last week. Building on it.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 07:18 PM
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Thanks man, yeah I felt a real energy shift. Nicely pointed out. I also had to make a few other expenditures on cars that weren’t planned. But i was much more at home at define what was essential and non essential.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 07:15 PM
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"A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away.... A NEW HOPE" This sounds like a fantasy to me. You're right. It resonates with me. I am saving your comment. Let's see how this looks in a year to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 06:03 PM
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"That's disappointing", how perfect is that. I love your approach here.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 05:53 PM
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3 - 4 times a week. 5 x 5. I am going to push myself to the limits of my ability and I have switch out of the time under tension. I used the smith machine for squats rack. I got lower than ever before and I could feel the muscles under tension into areas which had been injury sites. I don't know if there is ever a reason MRP heads will accept the the use of a smith machine but I was able to load the injured/weakened area with weight and it felt worked out and amazing afterwards. if you have nay …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 05:48 PM
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Yeah I do meditate. But not the way you put it here. I am going to bring this in to my times. Cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 05:39 PM
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The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 05:34 PM
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OYS 10. Too much thought & too much talk ​ Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb ​ SQUAT: 224lbs BENCH:137llbs, PRESS: 99lbs DEADLIFT: 228lbs, BARBELL ROW: 187llbs ​ Read: All MRP sidebar excluding RedPill Sidebar ​ Reading: Meditations and The 48 Laws and Getting Things Done Fast ​ This Week There were 2 sides to this week. The first where I was feeling momentum in moving things forward. The second one was where I was …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 09:51 AM
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Hey man, don't expect to feel good about it! And btw, were talking baby steps. I do feel anxious that I should have done this years ago. That's a mental trap. The way I am dealing with it is to let all the feelings rise up and then let them go. Usually, there is increased energy available to work and choose. Another thing is I have become aware that I imagine the worst possible outcome. If you met me I come across as chilled, cool and positive person. But under the surface I am freaking out. Any…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/19 09:17 PM
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It’s the thinking that’s the hard part. Mrp is the place many of us learn to think.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/19 10:23 PM
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Beautiful, you’re Emmet Brickowski, “The Special”. You can build What We Need.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/19 10:17 PM
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My definition of open book is that I have share my truthful feelings openly and boldly in nearly ever context. I would push for openness in new social relationships. Probably in an overly intense way. I want to get to the 'deep stuff'. In terms of my marriage I 100% believed that radical honesty and openness would improve communication and serve us. your inner thoughts or feelings be accessible to others Inner thoughts and my best thoughts, given away for free because "the brotherhood of man" an…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/19 05:43 PM
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Haha. Brilliant. If you bottle that you’d be a...oh wait a minute...the sidebar.
/r/askMRP15/11/19 02:08 PM
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Alrigh, alrigh, alrigh, it’s on. I get enthusiastic cyclically. I am gonna go for this. Fuck her mind first and then her body. I’m intrigued. I’ll report back. Let it be know the quality has been the best ever recently. But let’s see how this petrol on the fire works.
/r/askMRP15/11/19 01:45 PM
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Man, you put it in a fuckin’ nutshell. Yesterday, i was thinking of how to do breakout of the cycle. I know resentment is poison. i came up with a few hacks for myself. A few steps i can walk in a specific direction. And the way you summed it up here gives me a context and cardinal point on the compass. Cheers
/r/askMRP15/11/19 12:16 PM
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What is your post that both outline best your & her transformation?
/r/askMRP15/11/19 12:10 PM
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"you just need to keep at it and upping the ante each time you hit a new level." Yeah, as opposed to hitting a new level and then watching to see if the submissiveness is "reliable". Accepting a woman is pliable (as u/hack3ge pointed out) is a big component of this. I am writing the next lines as a confession to myself: my game is limited by my resentment. I am seeing as I build up my frame by OYSing, I am going to reach a decision point. Right now our conversation it is showing me it is a part …
/r/askMRP15/11/19 11:09 AM
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Out on Netflix, Friday November 17th: ‘The Man Who Cashiers Smiled At’
/r/askMRP14/11/19 10:03 PM
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So, I am not thinking I am the prize. I am guessing you need to have a solid baseline before you can 'make her submit'. Is this right in your opinion?
/r/askMRP14/11/19 06:52 PM
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women are pliable and the question is are you the man capable of molding her Why do some of us want woman to respond like men? We want them reliable like men not pliable like women. Man, I am guilty of this. In fact every area that we don't have captainship of is an area we have masculinised the woman in our life. I have so much shit to own. Thanks Hack3ge, From, The Sleeping Captain
/r/askMRP14/11/19 06:47 PM
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Haha! If they haven’t changed your flair already
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 04:40 PM
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So, how’s that working out. I know the guys around here say “We say lift, not get fit”. I got fit first, for physical rehabilitation reasons. But the 4 months of lifting have made a big difference to managing flooding and social capital, and smv.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 03:40 PM
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Dude, your weaponising sex. This is what chicks do.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 12:17 PM
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I think I'm acting and appearing as usual, but something in my wife clicks as though she was responding to a different man. I like the way you explain that. I have had short episodes of this. Only problem is when I believe she's right. And celebrate too early. Take my foot of the gas and then reel for a few days wondering what happened. Just gotta keep the foot to the floor.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 11:03 AM
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Thanks for this. If i am reading it right you seem to get through your workouts quickly. I am using the 5X5 app and each session takes over an hour.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 10:55 AM
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I don’t want to waste anymore time. But how long am i willing to spend? As long as it takes me to get to the point where i am actually saying what i mean and confident that I’ll stick with it. What do i think i am achieving with STFU? Stopping my chronic diarrhea of the mouth. And using that energy to own my shit instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 07:48 AM
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Hey man, thanks a mill for this.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 07:54 PM
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A set can start out okay, and a slight shift of the weight, etc., while you are squatting or deadlifting This describes what's going on. Sets all start great. ​ can cause a tear in a small supporting muscle group or make something go crunch. And this is what I am concerned with. I need to be lifting. Any pointers?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 06:21 PM
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My core tension is off a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 06:19 PM
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Like how much volume relative to 5 x 5?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 06:18 PM
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I don’t think i can do it simultaneously right now. Build up frame and be open, that is. There is something in the dynamic where i diffuse too much of myself and, I dunno, I loose frame. It’s like i give to much away, if that makes sense. Strangely, if I stfu and actively try to be closed book, people seem to ‘get me’ quicker and defer.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 03:24 PM
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You called it - 100%.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 01:12 PM
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I would love to get the work outs in that early but logistics don't permit. I start with SAVERS method. I do this because it works if you have a short or long stretch. You're right though the 'clearing your head' leads to a huge confidence and energy jump for the day. It's like making your bed. It used to be a chore, now I do it in hotels because it's about discipline and my body and will sending my mind a message.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 12:20 PM
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Your parsing of the details is very instructive. I love that observation by Rian too. That was in the beginning, still baby steps, but it was part of getting out of the frame of others and getting into my own. Baby steps is precisely where I am at. The examples you give in each context were spot on for me. The inner monologue in the "gang" scenario was perfect. What it showed me was the set of seductions that entice me into the frame of others. I have been in scenarios where I choosen the fight …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 12:13 PM
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The way you explained this clarified things for me. In particular the shielding of emotion. I am doing this. There is an element of it that I need to do. Previously, I was an open book. Too honest and overtly authentic. At the same time i did not have a solid idea of what a leader look liked. I had great words but little understanding. The challenge in your words caused me to nuance that. The shielding in my case is a swing to the other pole. I noted your comment in support of a advice that j.ap…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 11:52 AM
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Cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 06:23 AM
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And that’s a good, right!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 08:57 PM
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I think i have to look up all the terms in this comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 07:39 PM
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How do you do that with other men? How do you define control in this context? Are you employed or have clients? Oh, i could go on. I think you know what I’m looking for. A snapshot of how this D/s works in platonic And professional contexts. Extreme Ownership: Could Jocko be trying to insulate himself from repeat grief/shame/blame with this paradigm?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 07:38 PM
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On the 130kg by 3 reps how many sets fo you do u/SBIII?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 07:23 PM
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Thanks Rian
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 07:12 PM
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Yeah, the strong lifts app is doing something like that for me on my squat and I can feel the benefit. I don't understand the "theory' yet. Focusing on the basics and injury free is huge. I was in pain for 24 hours a day for a decade. So, I can't afford not to train.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 06:13 PM
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So what are you doing. 5x5, 3x5 what sort of reps and sets. I am running the app at 3x3's and 3x5 on Row? Is that too little?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 06:11 PM
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This is an analogy for life. I feel the "interception". I got to kill this. Thanks ImNotSlash.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 06:05 PM
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Okay, this is great. Now that you say it, when it happens, mentally and physically i am doubting. Hard thing is to know when i could end up injured. I don’t want to loose the what i am gaining.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 04:14 PM
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Same here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 04:11 PM
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Yeah, i’d like to hear what u/SBIII would advise.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 02:26 PM
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Goes for #metoo. I think I’m out and then I realise, nah, not over here I’m not.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 02:25 PM
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Man, i hear you. The wording will help. As for the burning shit down, i’m not there. I am on the same road. But, i do here “women and children first”, in your words. Am i picking that up?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 02:23 PM
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Thanks for this. Here’s one for you. I have some weaknesses in my back from a bad accident. When i do the Time under Tension i can track with them. If i do straight up 5x5, let’s say the squat, all is good, i’m working away, but then i bug. It’s out of the blue. I am working away and one side will kick out. My lower back to my butt will be at failure point with little or no warning. It’s like there’s no supporting muscle there. The whole posterior chain get a kink in it. The T.u.T minimises this…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 02:17 PM
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“The part I find most difficult is the idea of not living with my kids permanently if this outcome occurs. This may be the last thing that I am able to get my head around.” I know what you mean. Last week, i read one of the vets saying to one of the noobs, that she can sense that. She won’t fully submit until you can burn it all to the ground. That’s gonna be hard for you because your mission’s priority is to be a proper role model to your kids. Your mission begins with them so how can you focus…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 10:57 AM
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OYS 9. Beta Fortune Teller gets a Kick in the Sack Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs dropped to 209llbs, (Strong Lifts Apps Recommended for plateauing) BENCH:148lbs up to 150llbs, PRESS: 99lbs up to 115.7lbs, DEADLIFT: 210lbs up to 217.7llbs, BARBELL ROW: 176lbs back to 176llbs Read: All MRP sidebar excluding RedPill Sidebar Reading: Meditations and The 48 Laws and Getting Things Done Fast Redpill: I f…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 08:27 AM
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Man, your lucidity. You create simple dichotomies that give clarity. It unnerves me. I get forward a little and think i can pause. Then I read your comments and i realize i am gumming on babyfood. I want to create this foundation for me. Most things in life i can take or leave. This foundation, I want it. It maybe one of the first things that I’ve truly wanted in my life.
/r/askMRP11/11/19 07:12 PM
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No question, just “attaboy” seeking disguised as a victim puke. The post should have began: “Bless me father, for I have sinned, it’s been 3 months since my last confession...”
/r/askMRP11/11/19 06:59 PM
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Read some more and think about stuff. You loose weight that way.
/r/askMRP10/11/19 06:06 PM
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Fuck yeah, that is a great way to put it: power moves=game=pussy. Frame (includes game)= power = mission & pussy Edit: i’ve been doing the power moves from time to time, but becoming increasing uncomfortable with it. It feels necessary at times but limited. This has helped me put words and dynamics to what i am sensing.
/r/askMRP10/11/19 10:37 AM
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This way of explaining it by ‘decoupling’ is excellent. I was thinking this morning that i am waking up with anger, even hate. But i used to be waking up with anxiety. This is energy shift from defensive to offensive. I am reminding myself to STFU and decouple the feelings from my actions. To channel the energy into lifting and OYSing. I have so much more energy available to me. I can also feel the hamster become more active throughout the day. It used to be more active nocturnally, when i was o…
/r/askMRP10/11/19 10:33 AM
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Great, i have been looking for away to understand the back and forth dynamic. I’m hitting mini-mains and feeling traction. But the Captain hat isn’t on my head. Nor should it be. But I’m using it for Cosplay and Role play. I have been noticing i am upping my OYSing IRL when i write up OYS here weekly. I don’t even have to be massively detailed but i have to post one to keep the momentum up. So, there is an increase of balls between my legs and less balls in the shadow box.
/r/askMRP10/11/19 10:26 AM
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Thanks Rian, that’s really useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/19 07:13 AM
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Hey man, I am like you. In my case, it feels like I had loads of missions. They all seemed equally desirable. I have done so many exercises to figure it out. Two techniques are assisting me now. 1). u/RStonePT said in one of his videos; if you don't know what your mission is, make it your mission in 1 year to be the man who has the tools and skills to a fulfil a mission. This helps to line up the disciplines while having a strong realistic mission (for 1 year). Shit, I should put that in my cale…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 12:00 PM
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“But your ego is hamstering that your beta faggotry makes you a special snowflake. You're mistaking the beta talent of reading and adopting others' frames for a superpower instead of super beta behavior.” Ffs, that’s the nail on the head. I’d say more but the tendrils of that beta behaviour go into everything. The way you put that gave me a missing piece on my ‘why’. Cheers, man.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 10:02 AM
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“There is no backsliding for those of us that dug in and got to the bottom of our old, shitty mentalities, behaviors, and lazy habits. And if there ever is, it will no doubt have to be a conscious decision. It's not about "acting" a certain way to get a good [marriage, home life, job, whatever...].” I’m digging and thinking where’s the fucking bottom. Then i take moment, and glimpse how far the beta hole i went. And i get digging again. I hear the old refrain of if your not embarrassed by your o…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 09:54 AM
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PS: not pointing fingers, well a bit, but i’m prone to that shit. That’s why I’m saying it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 09:07 PM
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Here’s one faggoty reason. But not so much for choosing another path but more like a reason for terminal backsliding. MRP >>> Transforms the relationship (this feels miraculous) >>> Mrper gets the relationship he wanted (with his OGF) >>>She appears transformed >>> Mrper reverts to mawkish or rage behaviours >>> fucksup >>> Harpies eat fuckups So, the post you linked by stoney is the anti-dote. But there’s a resistance to it. Could the resistance be from the romantic male projections? Every comp…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 09:06 PM
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The issue you are having is that you care more about your wife than yourself. You know what you want but you aren’t willing to make others uncomfortable to get it. Wow, I think that's #metoo
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 07:30 PM
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CHhFffit.... Thanks for the throat punch. That one hit home. I have to let that one do its work on me.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 07:28 PM
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OYS 8: Coasty, Not so OI as it happens Age: 42(m), 42(F) ​ Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) ​ Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs, Fat: Yes, I'm fat ​ Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb ​ SQUAT: 224lbs dropped to 214llbs, BENCH:148lbs dropped to 144llbs, PRESS: 99lbs up to 110lbs, DEADLIFT: 210lbs up to 212llbs, BARBELL ROW: 176lbs dropped now back to 176llbs ​ Read: ​ All MRP sidebar excluding RedPill Sidebar ​ Reading: ​ Mediatations and The 48 Laws ​ Redpill: ​ Since October 2017 with a significant …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 07:22 PM
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I’d like to see where you get to in 6m if you don’t move fitchick in. I know you don’t give a fuck what i think but you’re the outer fringe. Who’s gonna live out my Blanka fantasy for me if she moves in? I’m pretty sure there are no legit girlfriends in Streetfighter.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 09:40 PM
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Ha
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 08:49 PM
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Or Good Will Dyking
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 07:04 PM
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How about: Flexing Monkey, the Dyke Fixer?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 07:00 PM
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Okay, I had that in my list on Audible. Is it listenable? Or are there images I should be looking at. I'd love to hear about your recovery.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 03:29 PM
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Oh sheeeit! I'm waiting on the OP's new flair now.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 03:22 PM
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Don't half ass the LCHF. Do a hardcore 28 days with the promise you can go right back to your old way after it. 28 days done hard core will give you an insight into how carbs effect you. You might be eating something very small that periodical kills your energy for a day or more. Compound those days and you are pissing into the wind. In the 28 days your energy and clarity should go through the roof. Buy a cheap blender and hit bulletproof coffee to get you through the hunger (keep it close by). …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 03:15 PM
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Do not get her pregnant! I repeat, do not get her pregnant! It will solve nothing. The damage may already be too extensive. Only becoming a man of options will give you perspective on your own life. You're woman cannot. Let's leave the wife and step kids out of this for a second. As an artist you are satisfied by creating the work that moves you. I don't know if you went to Art College. But if you did they fucked you over. If you didn't, the fantasy fucked you over by osmosis. It traps you in a …
/r/askMRP05/11/19 01:53 PM
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I already have a system that got me out of chronic, non stop pain for 10 years. Bjj got me flexible, Kettlebells worked my posterior chain, Wim Hof method helped with stress and pain mgmt and keto diet got the inflammation and pain levels down. I am now drug free for a couple of years. I left out the lifting prescribed here when I first started. This was because I was so physically damaged and weak. And I had a program that was moving me forward. This summer I started the lifting. I would have l…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 12:40 PM
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Thanks for that. It points out to me how much I am trying to mitigate outcomes and control behaviour. So much for my OI.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 12:28 PM
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Do you think a big Main Event is neccessary? Or do you think it be a phased, sequence of events?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 10:35 AM
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Bookmarked to reread. Oldest child in the house is powerful. I am sure it works better when I put away childish things.Great stuff, ICM
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/19 12:12 PM
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Her current interest is irrelevant. You’re in her frame. Needy to her. You’re in her frame. 1b. Yeah. Because you’re in her frame. 2b. Not attractive by her reckoning. You’re in her frame. Note: none of these allow you to experience new outcomes based on your continuous testing of boundaries and your improvements, why...you guessed right... because it is all in her frame. PS: the things that will work for you are not what you think. Don’t step on your own dick.
/r/askMRP01/11/19 11:16 PM
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Have you touched the sidebar?
/r/askMRP01/11/19 11:08 PM
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Nah, it’s great idea. Your feefee’s don’t get hurt at all by your girls refusals. You do have to walk around with a raging boner, but since you’re confident enough because you’ve been lifting for a hot minute, you can pull that off right?
/r/askMRP01/11/19 09:22 PM
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Yeah, definitely don’t do enough praise. Good spot. And comfort too for that matter. Shit at that. Sustained, is a great word. I definitely celebrate way too early.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 10:11 PM
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Every time I go overt I regret it. Even in my last OYS post I wondered if I had gone too far into overtness. I was having a mini-main event and she questioning her place in my future. It may be of some use to you, you can see what I said and I you might judge that I was too overt. Let me know what you think because I would be interested in your view.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 11:40 AM
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Thanks man. I will PM you. First, i am going to do this needs list. The empty list is a very helpful note. I am very open Nd imaginative so this non negotiability is difficult for me to define. The empty list starting the way you’ve described is great.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 10:50 AM
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Okay, what i am saying is that by using the words ‘first choice’ you arw overtly saying ‘i have other choices’. The very fact that you have been pushing hard will, probably, lead to her hamster will do this work for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 10:46 AM
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Yep, read it before. A couple of times, in fact. This time it sunk in. The wants/need dichotomy is something I never even worked through. The sub needs, dom needs, dom wants, sub wants appealed to me this time. Previous reads had interested me from the sexual aspect. This time it was much more holistic. It was like i was seeing it from a insight into individual welfare for both of us. Especially in light of the preceding power struggles, anxiety and depression you refer to. Sounds like you’ve se…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 11:07 PM
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"It isn't binary, we must allow our wives appropriate space time and guidance to improve if that is what they want to do and they are committed to it." <<<This. It comes across like you are acting like a counterweight on this 'see-saw' you refer to OP. You're doing good work but I am going to say you want this 'main event'. You are pushing for it. If she has kept herself in shape and you didn't, I would double down on your own improvements and reduce your word count in conversations. The use of …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 03:36 PM
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Excellent, I couldn't see the wood for the trees there, thanks. Yeah, and the time she said that, I wasn't fully conscious of what was going on. She obviously wants more of that. P.S:She doesn't swallow. What's going on there? Is this connected?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 03:19 PM
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My thumb is sore from bookmarking. That’s a treasure trove.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 08:24 AM
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I’ll check it out. Nice one, Rian.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 10:12 PM
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OYS 7 A Mini-Main Event Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs, Fat: Yes, I'm fat Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs dropped to 214llbs, BENCH:148lbs dropped to 144llbs, PRESS: 99lbs up to 110lbs, DEADLIFT: 210lbs up to 212llbs, BARBELL ROW: 176lbs dropped now back to 176llbs ​ Read: All MRP sidebar excluding RedPill Sidebar ​ Reading: Mediatations and The 48 Laws and GTD ​ Redpill: Since October 2017 with a significant fuckarouditis after e…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 07:51 PM
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I’ve done the big stuff. Never boiled it down to what I would be content with for me and mine. I like the way you frame that. The realism is an antidote to ‘busy fool’.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 11:57 PM
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Yeah, a busy fool, you're right. I was reading Meditations this morning and Aurelis' spoke about do the work that you have the "constitution and construction' for. That that couldn't be taken away from you. This spoke to me as a way of daily moving towards a 'life purpose'. I have written and mind mapped for a purpose in many different ways. It always seems a bit 'wishful', like a 'life fantasy' or something. What worked for you to define your purpose?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 04:19 PM
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Ah nah, not seeing it. I would go with his wife’s BS being flares. Distress signals. Context is key.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 09:20 AM
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Church! I love personal testimonies.. Don’t let up. Keep going, my man. I found the wins were so extensive in my first MRP I let up and have some ground to reclaim. Are OYSing weekly?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 09:18 AM
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Preach!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 09:12 AM
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DEER much?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 11:11 PM
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Haha, reading the old post i could almost here the beautiful sonar and clicking sounds of OP and his land whale mating. Awwww
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 10:43 PM
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Man, OYS, is like lifting. I went from fat to fit in my first MRP cycle. BJJ and keto and IM. It worked. But i didn’t lift or OYS. But lifting and OYSing combined are beneficial. It’s a different experience. OYS, every week. Feel the pain of seeing your own bullshit weekly. BTW, we could all hear you fapping yourself blind to that Amazon order. So at least close the MRP Tab on your browser when you’re pulling the belly off yourself. And stop fucking eating you fucking food bin.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 10:35 PM
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Solid point.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 10:24 PM
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I'm gonna go with u/ChokingDownRP as the template here. I'd drop something like your: "Oh, good. Can I get the permission slip?" But, when I do it it feels off. Too fast. Kinda knee jerkish. The longer form and theatre of CDR's reply means you have to sit in the pocket and demo IDGAF and wit at the same time. There shorter ones are better than going mute and I use them but I know what and why I am aiming for now.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 07:33 PM
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Haha, love it. It's amazing how the absurdity of your reply clears away the butthurt that leaks in OP's: "Oh, thank you very much for your permission!"
/r/askMRP24/10/19 07:27 PM
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It never is nice, man. The reset is for you, not her. Do you really think she didn’t get juice from seeing your reaction, as subtle as it might have been?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 04:40 PM
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Where’s the lifting? I do interpretive dance classes but i don’t put it in my stats. Oh, btw, I’m a libra and spirit animal is a Care Bear. What’s yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 10:03 PM
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Do not, I repeat, do not get this woman pregnant.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 09:58 PM
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“Don’t be a guy that deserves to be cheated on” is one of those lesson that wakes me up. It’s like when i feel like whinging and i think about u/johneyapocalypse and just stop right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 09:54 PM
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“I can get new friends but not a new family.” Wow, sounds like a pretty tight cult.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 09:48 PM
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Reset everyday man, not every week. Your inability to do it everyday is a good marker of how deep in her frame you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 09:37 PM
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Do not, I repeat, do not get this woman pregnant
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 09:34 PM
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Do this^
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 09:19 PM
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OYS 7 Fixated Monogamy Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs, Fat: Yes, I'm fat Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs, BENCH:148lbs, PRESS: 99lbs, DEADLIFT: 210lbs, BARBELL ROW: 176lbs Read: All MRP sidebar excluding RedPill Sidebar Reading: Mediatations and The 48 Laws Redpill: Since October 2017 with a significant fuckarouditis after early wins. This Week I realised i have this insane monogamous approach to everything. Rather that having man…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 06:22 PM
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My gift is to placate at all costs. I call it Placate Theory.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 10:31 PM
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Ah c’mon now RPG, it was deery.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 04:43 PM
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He went overt, there are baby hamsters on there way.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 04:42 PM
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Thanks man. Just bought YNAB, ecmvery dollar not in my region.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 05:28 PM
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Cool. Thanks Man. I’m still winging it a bit. So i’ll go with your advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 05:02 PM
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Thanks man, what I mean to say is that there is a lot more flab on my gut than I was thinking. Just like my life! On the guilt thing,I realise it’s part of being a Helicopter Husband as u/Blarg_Risen commented over here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/dex3ey/own_your_shit_weekly_october_08_2019/f32kbct?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x I have been enabling shitty behaviour and avoidance of pain in my wife and at the same time behaving like shit myself and avoiding pain like my …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 04:06 PM
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I had bought the David Ramsey FPU. I have it here in the office. Would you recommend either of the above over that? It doesn't have an app.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 04:02 PM
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Don't be a helicopter husband. Brilliant. This captures my methodology so well. I related to my wife as "a dude with tits" as u/Persaeus put it. Under this narrative i tried to motivate her pain and have enable her. The word picture will stick with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 01:49 PM
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Men should avoid irrevocable decisions about their relationships and marriage until they have owned their shit,developed their own authentic and congruent frame,become self-validating, andbecome emotionally self-sufficient and strong enough to be emotionally vulnerable. Before then, they neither know the values of the future self they are deciding for, nor the wife they are deciding about. This has given me some excellent context. I did the 'anti-beta' and it worked well for about a year. With m…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 01:16 PM
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OYS 6 Age: 42 (m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs, Fat: Yes, I'm fat Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs, BENCH:148lbs, PRESS: 99lbs, DEADLIFT: 210lbs, BARBELL ROW: 176lbs Read: All MRP sidebar excluding RedPill Sidebar Reading: Meditations and The 48 Laws Redpill: Since October 2017 with a significant fuckarouditis after early wins. This Week Each week, since i started doing OYS, I think I am gaining headway and then boom! I get a huge wake up c…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 12:31 PM
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​ I needed this.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 01:05 PM
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"Stop talking and do it. Or, shut the fuck up." That's what you said to her? Man, right now, if I did that I'd buckle. It's embarrassing but it's true.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 02:23 PM
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Got it. I'll drop it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 02:21 PM
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OYS 5 Freaking Out, Finding Frame - The Rinse Repeat Cycle Age: 42(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs, Fat: 17% Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs, BENCH:148lbs, PRESS: 99lbs, DEADLIFT: 210lbs, BARBELL ROW: 176lbs Reading: All MRP sidebar excluding RedPill Sidebar Redpill: Since October 2017 with a significant fuckarouditis after early wins. This Week It was my birthday and she put on a spread. I could see it vexed her to watch me receive. My ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 02:05 PM
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I have been at MRP longer than OP. I still get thrown by the divorce threats. I had another one today. The point you made about hatred/contempt from the wife is something I have been feeling. I would say she most definitely thinks of herself as better than me. I am at point where I don't like my wife but i am disappointed she doesn't like me! Also, my frame isn't strong enough to say go file. You focus on your for a few months until you're frame is strong enough you tell her to go ahead and file…
/r/askMRP03/10/19 12:39 PM
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OYS 4 “Getting High on Your Own Supply” Age: 41(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs, Fat: 17% Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs, BENCH:148lbs, PRESS: 99lbs, DEADLIFT: 210lbs, BARBELL ROW: 176lbs Reading: All MRP sidebar excluding RedPill Sidebar Redpill: Since October 2017 with a significant fuckarouditis after early wins. This Week This week felt like a wet fished being slapped across my face. It was wet, stunk and stung like a bitch. I thought…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 04:58 PM
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Sounds interesting. I’d join that sub.
/r/RPChristians30/09/19 09:45 AM
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“No...If you tell her now you are humbling yourself before her and trying to manage her emotions before she finds out.” This really speaks to me. Excellent point.
/r/askMRP25/09/19 10:20 AM
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This might seem quiet tangental, but if you had to walk out the door and never come back could you do it. What i mean is, is your key stuff, files, hard drive back ups, some cash, some clothes stashed or being stashed somewhere?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 09:41 PM
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This might seem quiet tangental, but if you had to walk out the door and never come back could you do it. What i mean is, is your key stuff, files, hard drive back ups, some cash, some clothes stashed or being stashed somewhere?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 09:39 PM
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This “discussed it 1000 times” is the issue, right? The legacy of words.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 08:58 PM
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Or, perhaps, just to timid in many things. That’s what I’m thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 04:17 PM
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OYS 3. 2 of 2 Redefine my Mission and MAP by knowing what I actually want. I am getting more specific here. This took a while. But I feel things are clarifying and I will write something on mission this week for myself. Learn to maintain frame. The key for me is to stop over talking…with everyone. I did a bit of that and noticed results all round. My goal last week was to speak 50% less. I’d say 20 - 25% is what I achieved. I noticed that when I held back it feels shit at first, but then great a…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 10:01 AM
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OYS 3. 1 of 2 Age: 41(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs, Fat: 17% Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs, BENCH:148lbs, PRESS: 99lbs, DEADLIFT: 210lbs, BARBELL ROW: 176lbs Reading: All MRP sidebar down to Advanced except SGM and RedPill Sidebar Redpill: Since October 2017 with a significant fuckarouditis after early wins. This Week The Red Morning with u/RStonePT was tailor made fo me this week. Specifically, the stuff on risk, divorce fear and the…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 10:00 AM
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I liked it. I thought the comment about the red pill humanizing d’whamen was good. It also made me think that all the ‘pills’ are like lenses and filters. That the have utility in different context. However, RP is foundational.
/r/askMRP23/09/19 09:59 PM
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Nioce, I once bawled my eyes out on front of her so hard I shat myself. You should have seen the look on her face. Mouth open: I knew what she was thinking, “BJ time". She turned her back on me. I could tell it was LMR. So I pursued her, pulling at myself like a shit goblin. She left to stay at her sisters for a week. Girl has game! Or... AWALT?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/19 08:21 PM
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You’ve said this a few times. I’ve done the indifference bit and you can guess the rest. Part of me wants to do what you suggest, but i’m doubtful about my frame. And i’m pretty sure i’m too angry.
/r/askMRP22/09/19 08:53 PM
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“Haven't been going Rambo” Reaaally... If you’ve got a flappy bag of skin with two peas in it, you’re probably going Rambo. I did so much Rambo and I thought was zen master at the time. I bet you if you stick around, in 6 months your “too slow” will look like the Tasmanian Devil. https://youtu.be/x5MVvqucTkc
/r/askMRP22/09/19 08:50 PM
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Yeah, you’d do number 2 and pull it off. If OP did that he’d do a number 2 in his pants.
/r/askMRP22/09/19 08:37 PM
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Man, each of your recent replies has said something to me in way I needed to hear it. It’s how you tell’em. D’you say you were going to post something on mission/purpose?
/r/askMRP22/09/19 08:34 PM
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I think i just shat myself laughin’.
/r/askMRP21/09/19 11:51 AM
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Yeah, wtf! That’s u/RStonePT ‘s module.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 10:35 PM
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I’ve done it. And i’ve got the inventory of failures to prove it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/19 01:10 PM
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"Men have to survive and succeed in the male social matrix (MSM), as well as with women. I suspect that many typically masculine behaviors contribute to the former, but not particularly to the latter..." Yeah, this is great. At this point, I am pretty sure I fall somewhere into the Sigma male category. I always got on well with women and individuals at the top of the hierarchies. But it never translated into the type of sustained impact I was aiming at. What you've written gives me the 'why'. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/19 12:09 PM
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Oh you can LARP at being a man. You really can LARP. Ask me how I know?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/19 11:55 AM
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Thanks a lot for your links. I am looking forward to digging in. Your summary hits home.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 06:14 AM
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Thanks a lot for your links. I am looking forward to digging in. Your summary hits home.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 08:44 AM
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I hear you Horns. Rocky foundations, that’s an understatement! I am making an office that will double as a crash pad. I’ve grabbed everything i need onto hard drives so I can keep moving forward if the crash comes. I got small cash stash. I am taking this situation very seriously. I appreciate your time and walking this through here has been useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 10:31 PM
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I can see I’m frustrating you. It’s obvious, my wife clearly doesn’t respect me or my ability to lead. Also, I would say she is in competition with me. Yes, the money is been circumvented around me. I hear you, be a man, lead your family, stand up. Honestly, I cycled through all this shit before. Right, now I am playing for time. I don’t know if my marriage will make it. And frankly, I am becoming less concerned every day. What I am concerned about is a deal I am working on. If it comes to pass …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 09:59 PM
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“Funnel the money into a bank account” It’s not given to me. It’s given to her privately. I totally agree with your point on grandparents, giving the money for grand kids college being okay. This is what i said we need to be doing with our earnings. You’d personally “burn the money in front of them.” A bit rash, no?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 09:02 PM
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Ok. Perhaps i am spineless. But what i don’t get is what alternative there was to stating “We can do this ourselves, it’ll just take us some time?” Do you see an other approach? Personally, i couldn’t stop her or him. She quit working to do this.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 08:15 PM
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Guys, I think I lost frame = I just ran out of the house bawling.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 05:48 PM
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Ah now here, what ever happened to “suck it and see”?
/r/askMRP17/09/19 05:44 PM
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Nope. I mean is what I wrote under u/BostonBrakeJob comment. I meant to put that here.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 05:38 PM
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Yes. 100%. Your focus needs to be elsewhere. That’s what i was trying to say. But it takes me a billion words to say anything. Why? Because i’ve alway run what Gad Saad calls ‘Sneaky Bastard’ game. I think all artists do. That’s why the more alpha dudes are always suspicious of artists. They know, some Gammas have game. It’s just very convoluted game. And leads to shit performance in many other areas of life and i would say separates us from masculine culture. So i think what we are working on h…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 05:34 PM
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I’m so Gamma right now. Tested, I’m fuckin’ triggered and i’ll hit you with my... https://youtu.be/NgzfncwjcCE
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 05:15 PM
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OYS 2 Age: 41(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs, Fat: 17% Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs, BENCH:148lbs, PRESS: 99lbs, DEADLIFT: 210lbs, BARBELL ROW: 176lbs Reading: All MRP sidebar down to Advanced except SGM and RedPill Sidebar Redpill: Aware 2017. Fits and starts but I was implementing from day one. I got fit first but did not lifting. Started Lifting 3 months ago. And I still have a fair bit of Oneitis. But the increasing female attentio…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 03:58 PM
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Nor did I but I liked the title. I do remember the repulsed by your touch post. That one stuck with me. Probably, because I just witnessed my wife dry wretch when I tried to show her my mad gains from going to the gym once.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 02:14 PM
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I'll take the Ivan Thorpe one on the chin. I even did your shitty impression of him to make it sink in. But my language being 'forced', well, that's just cruel Rian. You should really think about others before you go around hurting their feefees. LARPers have feelings too.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 02:06 PM
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Yeah, you're right, they probably are excuses. Is an excuse still an excuse if it's a reason? Ha. Excuses, for what though? Too many wrong choices, not enough achievement, not knowing what I actually want? I think it might be the last one. No matter how many times I write my vision/mission it just seems vague.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 02:03 PM
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Haha... Grounded! Fuck no. LARPing? At 120 mph to be sure. Jerking myself off? I went No Fap and sock puppets don't count right? ​ they are doing it to obfuscate (like that word?) something behind it. Love that word. If I could figure out what was behind it, I would be in a better place. You remember that post about Fearful Avoidant Wives. That resonated with me but I think I'm the 'wife'. And I'm not taking the piss on that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 01:56 PM
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You can use tools to fix things, or you can use them to build things. What do you want to do? Oh yeah, perfect. Super useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 12:47 PM
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Ok, let's try this. What you say is spot on but.... Imagine this, you have gift. When you turn it on person on front of you changes. You do it in front of a crowd the crowd responds. You're adored. Your validation meter in pinging through the roof. This is the reaction of people to the artist. It's magical, it's real and it's illusory. All at the same time. Now try this one on, you're this same artist. You get financial concepts in a second. But your personal finances are in the shitter. Why? No…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 12:31 PM
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So the great thing about Tim Ferriss’ approach to Stoicism is... Yeah, I hear you man. I have this too. I think it comes out of mindset and dysfunctional behaviours that grow up from being a creative. There is an anxiety/anger axis. One keeps looking for new contexts. That creates anxiety and then were tripped out by anger or external circumstances. You’re wife improved = stasis. You anger at her = shortcut to change. Problem = her state dictates your state. Looped back to stasis. Anger feels li…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 10:01 AM
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Yes. That's right where I am. I am balanced between them now. I have broken out of Dancing Monkey Programmes in relationships and work before. But I used a combination of anger, impulsiveness and overthinking to catapult me into action. This time I don't want to do that. This time I want to choose without those drivers. I'd love to say I will choose to be my own mental point of origin. That's the right answer but for the first time I see the boundary line in me. There is a deep seated covert con…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 04:01 PM
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Hey Chuck, Thanks for your input. ​ Wow, you're all over the place bro. Ha, yeah I am. Imagine what I was like a few months ago! Let alone 2 years ago. Stop worrying about others and focus on you. The way you put this woke me up. It's a non-stop pattern. I glimpsed this 2 years ago at the start of the journey but have really let it slip. ​ You need to just STFU for now until you get yourself together a little more. The more you talk, the more problems you create for yourself by giving her invita…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 09:35 AM
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Such a great hack. She was way more demure after one pass. I didn't even try that hard. I usually overdo everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 09:08 AM
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OYS 1 and FR: Help Rollo, I want my wife to be a Rational Female It’s tongue in cheek, but oh boy, do I want it bucko! Age: 41(m), 42(F) Married: 14 years. 3 kids 12(m), 8(f), 5(f) Height: 6', Weight: 183lbs, Fat: 17% Diet Mode: Keto, Low Carb SQUAT: 224lbs, BENCH:148lbs, PRESS: 99lbs, DEADLIFT: 210lbs, BARBELL ROW: 176lbs BJJ: Avg: 3 -5 hours per week Reading: NNMG x 2, WISNIFG x 2, MAP, Rational Male Year One, 16 COP, Book of Pook, 48 Laws, TWOTSM, Loads of Red Morning, Rule Zero, Red Pill Cof…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 09:57 AM
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