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Rant6-demon-bag808/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 05:43 PM
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Need Support6-demon-bag808/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 03:02 AM
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6-demon-bag808/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 09:25 PM
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6-demon-bag808/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 11:04 AM
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Rant6-demon-bag808/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 07:03 PM
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Custody6-demon-bag808/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 09:31 PM
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Lawyers6-demon-bag808/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 01:13 PM
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6-demon-bag808/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 04:02 PM
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50%? That would be wild in my state. Divorce rates in Kentucky fell by 27% when 50/50 became the standard. I live north of there and have seen my kids for a total of 14 HOURS in the last two years.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 02:50 PM
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Don't leave. Whether or not she finds work, don't. Trust me, divorce ruined everything I fought for my entire life. You can always work on how to keep things going. Do not leave. My situation was similar. Haven't seen my children in two years. Don't even know what to talk to them about. But if you do decide to file, be first, and go hard, because the Courts give zero shits about men. Get her out and take the kids, by your first court date, you'll have custody and they won't change that unless yo…
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/25 06:50 PM
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Because divorce is a multi-billion dollar industry. No one cares about the kids. The mother starts, default with custody, because it's always the wife who leaves, and with the children. Who are then 50% more likely to divorce themselves. Family law is unquestionably broken.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 07:15 PM
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TikTok, Insta, and FB. Absolutely addicted
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 06:56 PM
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Absolutely. The entire family court system is just a way for women (judges, lawyers, guardians, ex wives, court reporters, counselors, et al) to make money
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 01:15 PM
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Short answer? No, they will never stop. Learn a new language and leave the country.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 05:34 PM
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Unpopular opinion probably, but yes. I have two that I don't see, I know that you know how much joy children bring. Depriving someone of that, through divorce or otherwise is cruel. May I ask why you wouldn't consider having more children with her? I would trade a digit for a chance to have more babies with a second wife
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 07:58 PM
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Hire an attorney to draft up a prenup that will be bullet proof. No child support, no alimony, no division of assets beyond the house, and whatever else is important to you. The court will take her side in all situations
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 05:30 PM
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I'd have to be able to see my kids first
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/25 07:01 PM
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This is probably going to make things worse, so feel free to stop reading here. After $100k in legal fees, I have almost nothing left and never see my kids (no criminal or civil convictions, just how the system works). I got a dog, he got me through the first six months. Met someone, that's not working out, but it's all about treading water until you can create a functional plan. From my perspective, the lifetime I spent building my dream is gone, but I have the wisdom and skills to rebuild for …
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 08:43 PM
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Speak multiple languages and leave. Despite no evidence, I know I will never see my children again. In the American system, the wife just plain gets to win. Paying the mother of my children to sleep with another man is an unappealing choice to anyone who has the ability to escape
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 05:59 AM
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Five years ago I had close to a million in equity and two companies. I had a great relationship with my children. I took them to school every day and was home for them when they were off the bus when I didn't pick my youngest up myself. I haven't seen my kids since August. The prosecutor won't charge her for lying to the police. One night in jail based on her saying that I came within 500 feet of my own home (dismissed of course). I have maybe $150k left. My last court date, I missed a call from…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 03:08 AM
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You told my exact story. Learn a new language and leave. Once mine is final and I have my weapons back, I'm disappearing. I will love my children forever, but I will never see them again because my STBXW is evil. Start a new family and forget your old one existed
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 12:58 AM
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Debating the same for myself. My sons will never be able to afford what I did, but considering that the marriage failed, idk if that's bad luck or something. I'll never marry in the US again, but my boys don't speak multiple languages, so they will probably
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 08:30 PM
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For sure. My STBXW's real husband was her phone, her boyfriends being TikTok and Instagram
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 10:22 PM
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Fight like hell brother. My divorce isn't even final, it has destroyed my life. My kids are gone, my home is gone, everything I spent decades building is gone. I left my home with a backpack and a suitcase. There's always a path through if she's willing to take it. If you file first, you'll have the advantage and you can always drop it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 01:45 PM
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Assuming you can afford it, absolutely lawyer up and file first. You can always drop it if you can reconcile. Here's what happens when you don't: Wife files a restraining order. You'll have up to 5 20 minute sessions to move everything you want. You won't be able to see your minor children if you have them, because that would require you to be within 500 feet of her. If she says you violated the order, with no evidence, you will be arrested, then the judge will see it's trash, but you will spend…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 01:37 PM
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I have, I was granted access to file motions on my own Friday. I've sent three demand letters so far. Luckily I have a friend who can help me with research on precedent, but family law just isn't in my wheelhouse
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/25 08:11 PM
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Already tried. Even though the prosecutor caught her lying to her and the police (no charges filed of course), when I addressed this with opposing counsel in regards to paying those fees, she told me "that's not our position."
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 05:46 PM
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Almost out of money. I am no longer willing to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars against the millions STBXW has from her boyfriend and parents
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 04:04 AM
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0%. No allegation of abuse or neglect. STBXW investigated by CPS, has a paramour, reported drug use to the GAL, and still 0%
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 12:19 AM
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Right? I haven't seen my children in almost a year. Won't see them again for 8 more fucking years, and and after two strokes during the divorce, I probably won't live that long. Lost everything I had worked for for 40 years.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 03:21 PM
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Same. Alienated from all of my friends, family, and gym (in BJJ, the academy is like family). I have my two brothers, a therapist, and no one else. Get out there and find community. Maybe it's through church or combat sports, or climbing, whatever it is that you do. It'll help you get back to normal. E.g., I found a friend group that went out every Saturday to watch MMA. Then expanded to other regulars, then found a girl, her family, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 08:25 PM
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NTA at all. My wife filed for a CPO, left me with nothing but what I had on my back. $100k in legal fees later (and two affairs), she wants to be "friendly." GTFOH. Take my home, my children, all of my money, and you want to be friends with you and the guy currently fucking you? That's the most insane shit I've ever heard
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 08:39 PM
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100%. TikTok and Instagram destroyed my marriage
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 07:57 PM
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Not so fast... I've been paying child support for nine months, have almost zero access to my children, and stbxw is receiving tens of thousands of dollars from her parents and/or her boyfriend. I'm up to $75k in legal fees and the court just doesn't give a shit that I'm going broke to pay her to fuck another guy while we're still married. I don't even know the second kid is mine, but because we're married, I have to pay for him and her fucking other people isn't a factor in the eyes of the court
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 05:51 PM
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Professional investigator for securities fraud for 12 years. If there was a case East of the Mississippi at the largest retail bank in America, it hit my desk. You're correct that very few can do it well on their own. 2% per position at most. Series 7s and 65s are married to a strategy. I wish we were teaching our children about how the market actually works
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 08:16 PM
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I will give that a try. She won't let me see the boys, despite the court order, but I do still speak with their pediatrician
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 07:54 PM
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If you're good with numbers, I would recommend learning to trade. My business was teaching people how to do it. Not soliciting, I sold my share of the business. I would recommend Option Alpha. People view the market as "gambling," it's only that way for amateurs. Professionals never lose money long-term. Using a 70-delta strategy and beta-neutral strategy will never lose over time
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 06:56 PM
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Right with you bro. Starting over at 40 without access to my children, life savings gone, and alone. I felt like I was ready to start living again, now my girlfriend is withholding sex, so even after moving on, it's like being married again while I pay the woman I love to fuck some other dude
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 09:57 AM
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Same. Mine wanted a divorce, I did not. She DV'd me, I had to call the paramedics who in turn had to call the police. Six days later, she claimed it was self defense to get a CPO and alleged I violated it within an hour of being served. $15,000 in legal fees on the criminal side, plus a day and a half in jail because the laws here in DV cases are "arrest first, ask questions later."
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 06:07 PM
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I wouldn't. It's not a religious thing per se, but a rebound is against my code. I shouldn't be sleeping with her, but I can't resist. Having that soft touch is better than any drug I've ever heard of (I don't do drugs though). She feels so good and women can always tell if they're just getting f*cked. No chance of marriage, which makes it worse. She really likes me and I like her
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 05:54 AM
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Yes
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 03:10 AM
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I don't have the money anymore. $75k in legal fees and all I'm asking for is time with the kids. She'll never let that happen, her parents are funding it. $750k gone, she has $3.2m against what I have left, about $200k. My sons are her weapon
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 10:17 PM
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Honestly? Probably. I still wear my wedding band. She has destroyed my life, but she knows that I would come home in a heartbeat and knows I would never do anything to her that she has done to me. To some extent, I am waiting. Once this dude is through fucking her, she'll call and I'll answer. She knows it
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 10:14 PM
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100%. Mine had a one night stand after 8 years and a full blown affair after 11. I didn't find out for sure until after she filed for divorce. Trust me brother, I would do anything to have my family back. If it doesn't involve hurting kids, literally anything
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 09:14 PM
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TLDR, but in short, if you have children, no. Counseling and do anything you can to save your family. To your last breath. If you don't have children, maybe give counseling a chance, but that's up to you
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 08:31 PM
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My therapist used those exact words today
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 12:24 AM
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You are telling my fucking story brother. Special Operations background, abused as a kid, made it to high level finance, but her leaving absolutely crushed me. The affairs don't even bother me much most of the time. I would do anything to go home. I hold onto the hope that when her boyfriend is done fucking her, she might call with the "I miss you" and would go back in a heartbeat
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 12:23 AM
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I'm with you man. 39, her second affair, she won't let me see my kids despite court orders, entire life destroyed. It doesn't get better, it gets different. She's with her new boyfriend, I'm seeing someone. I'll never marry this chick, but it feels nice to have the soft touch that she gives. Not something I'm proud of, but anything to stop that empty and lonely feeling. It does heal, but it heals differently for everyone. You will never be the same, but hold on. Cling to whatever it is you have …
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 09:34 PM
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Volunteered for IDF and UIL yesterday
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 11:06 PM
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I like that quote. I have been fortunate (or unfortunate) enough to have had many. Abused child, survived. Military, survived. Marriage was wonderful. Divorce is hell but I'm still kicking
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 07:41 PM
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You're telling my story. I feel for you brother. Every day is just trying to survive until the next
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 07:37 PM
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Generally, I think it's a flaw we all have. We are hard wired to be providers and protectors and want to help people. Women offer companionship, I don't need to tell you what loneliness feels like if you're here. Our families get stripped away from us along with our whole social network. It's only rational that comforting arms and physical intimacy is something we seek, despite red flags.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 07:36 PM
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You posted my story. It drives me nuts seeing all these dudes here that are happy. I am absolutely miserable and I'm tired of hearing "it'll get better." You aren't alone man.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 10:58 PM
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Right here with you brother. It sucks. I wish I could tell you something positive. I can't. I love my cheating wife and my children, almost 40 and I'm probably about to go back to war.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 10:20 PM
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Fair enough. Not a factor for me though. Ex-military, 20 years of martial arts, multilingual, counterintelligence. For her, I'm untouchable. If I want to disappear, I'm gone. She won't let me see the kids anyway, so I have plenty of options in countries with no extradition.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 01:46 AM
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I would do anything possible to fix my marriage, especially since she doesn't want to end it and if there are kids involved
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 12:12 AM
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Kinda my point. So are text messages. That's how I proved my innocence the third time she took me to court.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 11:03 PM
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After almost nine months of this BS, I refuse to use the co-parenting app. She can be an adult and do what's best for the kids or I can disappear. I'm not paying for an app to text about my own effing children. A difference though may be that I didn't want the divorce and it has ruined my entire life, but I still love her and am absolutely desperate to talk to her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 10:18 PM
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I'm almost into the ninth month of almost the same situation. All that's improved is a new dog. My stbxw violated the court order on custody for 3 straight months. I don't have court again for another three months, so I've moved out of state. I still love her and miss my kids terribly, but if nothing changes in November, I'm done. Eventually, you may have to just commit to starting all over and throwing away your life's work.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 06:51 PM
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Not to be Debbie Downer, but I can't even fathom this line of thought. A family and a wife that wants to work through problems? You have no idea what 70% of divorced men would do for that. Long story, but when mine first wanted to separate (it's complicated), I was willing to go to jail for six months or spend two cycles fighting Russians in the Ukrainian International Legion. I would do anything to have my family back, and she hates me. I will suffer through that until I can fix it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 09:36 PM
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Thanks for this. I'm so broken, but I won't quit. I can't do my sons any good if I'm dead
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 10:31 PM
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I have to get away, but will come back if it's reasonable. She won't let me see them. We're a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu family, I asked for just being allowed to coach the kid classes, she denied that. I don't understand, the judge is still ordering supervised visits, won't hold her in contempt, yet specifically said that she wouldn't prevent co-parenting just because of alcohol use. I passed all of my drug tests, there's no allegation of violence except for her assaulting me, yet I still have no reas…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 08:42 PM
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Only a year into mine. I would do almost anything to be in your shoes. I want my life and my family back
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 11:34 PM
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Unless you can prove that she's abusive or has a substance abuse issue, the only real questions you need to ask is whether you want to lose little or lose big and whether or not you think you can use a mediator with her acting in good faith.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 07:52 PM
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My wife didn't obey our court order for three straight months. I filed a motion for contempt through my attorney, but she didn't bother to show up to court, so her attorney requested a continuance, which was granted. For ANOTHER three months
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 08:16 PM
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This is so similar to my situation that I could almost copy and paste it. Almost everyone on here is so happy to be single again, but I am miserable. Fight with everything you can to get your family back. My stbxw has certainly been having an affair, probably for about five months before she filed for divorce. I would go back in a heartbeat. It's best for the kids and everyone knows that.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 06:25 PM
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It probably won't happen. The GAL wants me to buy a breathalyzer and blow three times a day every day for 30 days. I said sure, as long as stbxw does the same and undergoes the same drug testing I had to. She won't because she drinks occasionally and uses cannabis recreationally. Plus I'm sure she enjoys the occasional drink with her boyfriend
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 07:54 PM
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Nothing. She claimed that I was violent and got a CPO, which is funny since I was the one who had to call EMS who called the police due to domestic violence. I have zero criminal record, but ex parte CPOs are handed out without due process. She claimed I violated it twice until she got caught lying about it by the prosecutor, so all charges were dismissed
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 06:54 PM
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They probably would, but that would be me breaking the law
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 04:46 AM
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For now, it's supervised visitation for two hours on Sunday (we agreed to change that to Saturday). But she apparently doesn't have to follow the court order
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 04:46 AM
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No. I am specifically not allowed to remove them from school. We're working on language for the Consent Agreement, but needless to say, it's not great at the moment
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 04:13 AM
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I do, the agreement is to meet at a supervised facility. My wife simply doesn't bring them. The police won't do anything, my lawyer brought contempt charges, wife didn't show up, so her lawyer asked for a continuance.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 03:44 AM
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I can't take them from school and my attorney is telling me that basically, I have no chance of seeing my boys until November. The judge has to sign any agreement
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 03:22 AM
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She won't let me see the kids, despite the court order. I've filed a motion for contempt. I guess I'm trying to talk through whether or not it's worth it. I love this boy. If I'm not his father and the real father wanted him, I would use force to keep him
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 10:01 PM
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Separated in November, still fighting over the kids. She hasn't obeyed the court order since June.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 04:13 PM
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It's hell. It's been three months since I've even seen them, despite a court order. Now I realize that I won't see them again for the next decade because my wife is an evil person
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 11:42 PM
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Yup. I'm used to abuse, I want my home and my sons back
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 11:40 PM
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The Stbxw won't even abide by court orders. I served her Contempt papers, the court didn't care that she didn't show up. My children are gone, that's what's hardest to accept.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 11:39 PM
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I try to tell myself that I'll find a new place to live and start a new family. At my age, that's almost impossible, I know that
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 07:20 PM
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This. It's absolute hell. I'd rather be shot at again than be in this situation
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 07:09 PM
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I was abused as a child, so as shitty of a wife as she was, it felt normal. I didn't even really mind the affairs, or at least for past them. It's like that thing where you can train a dog to be abused as long as it's getting attention
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 06:59 PM
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The first one, I had traditionally given her a Mother's Day gift in the form of a spa treatment at a hotel with a hot tub. She stopped texting me at like 7 PM. When she came home the next morning, I found semen in her underwear and we hadn't had sex in three months. I'm not sure if this is the same guy now, but she dumps our sons off with family or babysitters so she can have dinner with "her friend Mike" per my oldest son. My therapist helped me put the pieces together, seems like she was proba…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 05:09 PM
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Good for you. I'm so jealous. Your stamina to last that long is admirable and I hope your children possess the patience of Job
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 01:01 AM
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Then GTFO as fast as you can
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 04:10 AM
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Do you have kids?
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 08:44 PM
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Of course. I came from an abusive and broken home, I wasn't about to destroy my children over one indiscretion. It seemed like it was just a one time thing, so I left it alone
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 12:11 AM
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At the time
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 08:51 PM
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Let's just say the evidence was in her underwear and we hadn't been intimate in three months
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 08:18 AM
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Already done. But frankly, it isn't worth it for supervised visits anymore
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 11:58 PM
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I know that's the objective, I just don't have any fight left. Sometimes we just lose.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 11:57 PM
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The court order is in place. She just doesn't have to follow it apparently
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 05:05 AM
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100% on that. She had a one night stand a few years ago. She won't admit it, but I saw it and moved past it. The second affair I'm not sure about
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 05:04 AM
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Stay. Go to counseling, do whatever it takes. I'm going through an unwanted divorce now and would do anything to have your situation
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 03:04 AM
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I hate to break it to you, but you're just screwed. Lawyer up immediately. The system is designed to break fathers and husbands. There is no good news here. Your life as you knew it is over. However old you are, you are hitting reset now with less money
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 05:01 AM
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Look man, I would say no. Maybe file to shake her into action to control her drinking, I don't know. She isn't a threat to you or the kids, I think you should work to save it. It sucks. I'm living it now. The kids are the issue. It tears them to pieces. And I would assume at some point, you loved each other
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 01:54 AM
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I'm gonna go with LeaveAlternative here. Do you have kids? And the short answer? Unless she's hurting the kids you may have, never. I'm not a religious man, I don't even believe in God. Suck it up and figure out what the basic problem is, tear it down to the most basic level. Never out of the fight brother.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 04:19 AM
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