TLDR: Outgunned and not sure whether to even bother.

My (40m) wife is on her second affair and filed for divorce over a year ago. She knew I didn't want it, so she initially filed for a CPO, which was granted ex-parte, and subsequently had me arrested for "violating" it. As a result, the magistrate ordered one two-hour supervised visit per week. These are $70/hr.

All criminal charges were dropped by the prosecutor. However, between the criminal and civil attorneys I have spent almost my entire life savings. My attorney says that the GAL (who has lied to the court and shown clear bias), will not be removed from the case, though I can prove multiple lies and seven violations of law.

I have fired my previous attorney, the new one basically says that it will cost me another $20k to go to trial. By contrast, my wife's family (est. net worth $3.2m) is paying for her legal fees and her paramour is paying for her lifestyle. There's no way I can throw the resources at her to win.

My struggle is this. It is unlikely that I will get anything that I would consider "reasonable" regarding custody. Do I spend the $20k on a battle I won't win, or do I just give up and start a new family? I speak four languages, and while my remaining money is nothing in the US, it'll go very far in warmer climates, so a trophy wife in, say Brazil or Latin America or West Africa is by no means unrealistic.

That would mean, however, that I would probably never be able to return to the US, as I would not be paying child support. I see no reason to stay here if I can't see my children, but I basically won't for the next ten years anyway. I come from a broken home, so I know how this works. Take my money and run, or burn it for nothing just to say I tried if I live long enough for my kids to graduate from high school?