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| 1 | Update - don’t go for men who say they don’t want monogamy.No clue. Yea, he said we could be exclusive, he wasn't interested in anyone else. He just didn't want the label to change how things are, he said things have been so great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Update - don’t go for men who say they don’t want monogamy.That's not true, I'm single quite a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 08:08 PM |
| 5 | Love this sub so much I dug back into the archives for a small sampling of my ex “alpha” bf (who treated me horribly) unraveling via 3 years of unanswered texts. Get some popcorn and enjoy!Oh nice, when I saw your other comments I was wondering how you saved these screenshots. That's amazing you laughed at them with your GFs. Hopefully they learned from it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 02:46 AM |
| 9 | Love this sub so much I dug back into the archives for a small sampling of my ex “alpha” bf (who treated me horribly) unraveling via 3 years of unanswered texts. Get some popcorn and enjoy!Holy fucking shit dude - this is amazing - you're ability to not answer and let that shit keep coming to you is AMAZING. This seems like queen level shit - just laughing your ass off at the loser I'm sure. So hilarious. I'm glad you got out of there and had the strength to not need to block him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 02:39 AM |
| 3 | Yet another man “accidentally” anally raping his girlfriend. Ladies, this shit is NOT AN ACCIDENT.Yep. I was in an abusive relationship. It took me sooooo long to see the abuse. It’s because abusers start out as amazing ppl. And then they breadcrumb you with their amazing/generous behavior. You just hope it’s a rough patch. And they Gaslit the fuck out of you. About dumb shit. My ex threw away a magnet he told me he didn’t want me to buy. He constantly told me I left the dishes dirty. He’d recount past memories and tell me I acted in a way I totally didn’t act. So once you confront them on a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 09:17 PM |
| 23 | Don’t you just love how people like to think we’re larping men, 40+ loners or extremely unattractive?I’ve been told my entire life I should be a model. I’m tall, thin, I work out, I eat well, I’m unique looking. I don’t even wear makeup and I’m stil hotter than most people. I can tell I have “pretty privilege” in how strangers treat me. I talk about how trash men are to every guy I date and they put up with it cause I’m hot. And smart. It’s hilarious to me when I get called a fat cat lady who can’t get laid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Yet another man “accidentally” anally raping his girlfriend. Ladies, this shit is NOT AN ACCIDENT.This is an abusive relationship. He’s love bombed her and gaslit her to the point that she thinks she’s the crazy one. You should read about abusive relationships before being an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Yet another man “accidentally” anally raping his girlfriend. Ladies, this shit is NOT AN ACCIDENT.Yep. It’s not desperation, she’s been treated well and can’t compute him raping her with how he treats her like a queen. This is every abusive relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 08:55 PM |
| 1 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meThe problem is that I WAS going on dates with other dudes and realized I wasn’t giving any of them a chance. If I hadn’t been seeing this guy, I may have given them a real chance. And I think guys could tell there was someone else. I was totally unengaged with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 03:15 AM |
| 2 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meThank you ❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 03:12 AM |
| 1 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meI guess you could say the same thing about me, I wasn’t sure about him and now I am. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 03:12 AM |
| 2 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like me😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 02:17 AM |
| 2 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meI can download tinder now but if he says he doesn’t want to be exclusive I’ll block him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 02:17 AM |
| 2 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meMy only hesitation is that I told him first “hey weren’t not monogamous” and he was really hurt, so I don’t feel like I can drop him totally until bringing it up again now that we’re closer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 02:16 AM |
| 3 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meAww thank you! I needed that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 02:15 AM |
| 3 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meThank you! I will update you guys! I know there’s tons of men who’d love to date me. That’s why it’s so frustrating I haven’t just moved on already if he said he needed to think about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 09:59 PM |
| 4 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meThanks! I will go through it. I’m struggling not asking now and just moving on. I do feel shitty I didn’t just drop him when he asked to think about it. But at least I’m gonna make the right decision soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 09:58 PM |
| 2 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meThank you. I've been trying to listen to ya'll and follow your advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 09:07 PM |
| 8 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meYou're just hooked on the emotional highs and lows, it's an addiction like any other. He's just your current drug. This is so true, especially for me. I hate that I know this about myself and know his game yet I still wanna hold out till I see him before moving on. He's back from his work trip Monday. As soon as I see him I'm gonna ask what he wants and if he says he doesn't know still then I'm blocking him and downloading tinder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 09:04 PM |
| 9 | Does anyone else remember Dontdatehimgirl.com? A website to post pictures and details of assholes to avoid.After leaving my abusive ex I tried so hard to find a similar website and couldn't find any. It's seriously important for women to have that - it sucks it doesn't exist. I even made a reddit post to the city he lives in, lots of women thanked me but it got taken down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 04:38 PM |
| 23 | The surest way to lose a man—using sex or otherwise—is to worry about it.I agree with you. I disagree with most of the women here who say make a man wait for months. I have sex when I want to. I think there's value in waiting until you can tell who a person is, but if the only point is to keep them from leaving once you fuck them, then you've already lost. We should be viewing men as disposable. Sure, I spend months researching a new backpack and try to find the best one, but if that backpack ends up sucking I'm not going to hesitate in finding a better one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 04:04 PM |
| 4 | The surest way to lose a man—using sex or otherwise—is to worry about it.Because she's building it up to be so important. There's a medium between waiting to see who a person is and waiting in the hopes they'll never leave you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 04:02 PM |
| 5 | FDS works, my mother has been doing it my entire life.She means have your own life for the sake of having your own life. But that also draws people to you. If you’re too available men will use you and lose you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 10:26 PM |
| 16 | Should I break it off with him?So you've never masturbated without a 'big enough' dildo? You've never just used your hands and gotten off? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/19 10:55 PM |
| 20 | Should I break it off with him?Yea, his dick being small isn't the only problem. You need to speak up and tell him you need more foreplay. I can get off without a dick - dick size is never the issue. It's the attention they give you instead of they give their dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/19 10:32 PM |
| 5 | Moid on Tinder uses a fake name and only tells me he's in a relationship after we match. Cheating on his 5+ year girlfriend.Oh then you have no worries over your safety | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/19 03:05 AM |
| 5 | Moid on Tinder uses a fake name and only tells me he's in a relationship after we match. Cheating on his 5+ year girlfriend.If you do it from a fake account you should be fine. Just add specifics about his personality and history so she’ll believe you. If he calls/texts you, you can deny it all. If he hasn’t been abusive to this point the repercussions are low. Unless he has pics/videos of you. But even then, he’s obviously a cheater and prob did this with other women before you. 🤷♀️ He may not be able to realize it’s you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/19 02:49 AM |
| 10 | Moid on Tinder uses a fake name and only tells me he's in a relationship after we match. Cheating on his 5+ year girlfriend.I would tel the gf because I’d want to be told 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/19 02:17 AM |
| 3 | Are you ladies straight up about dating multiple people at a time?They’re typically fun in the beginning when they’re trying to impress you. And I’m bisexual in a conservative town - women are off the table. And I’m a super sexual person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/19 02:57 PM |
| 3 | Partner read my dream journal and now wants to date other women?He sounds abusive. GTFO. Giving the cold shoulder is a tactic abusers use. Telling you he has 2 dates lined up to get you jealous is a tactic abusers use. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/19 02:53 PM |
| 6 | How to end a budding FWB situation without looking like a loser?I think for your own sanity block him and ghost him. This isn’t someone you want to fuck just because you’re lonely for a night and it sounds like that’s your MO with him so far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/19 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Are you ladies straight up about dating multiple people at a time?3 months is when I’m ready to be monogamous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/19 02:37 PM |
| 5 | Are you ladies straight up about dating multiple people at a time?So far only one guy has gotten upset about me dating others but we've dated 3 months now. In the beginning he was super super chill. I think he got upset when we were getting super close and I said I still wanted to date others... that was like 1 1/2 months of dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 05:31 PM |
| 13 | Men truly are fucking vileThey always put ages and sex in the relationship sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 03:02 AM |
| 33 | Men truly are fucking vileAt least the comments aren’t having it. I can’t believe how unimaginative men are. I can fantasize about sex and get off for fucking hours without having to look at porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 03:01 AM |
| 4 | The results FDSists get“If they don’t gesture they don’t get a second date”. That’s him being in charge of the situation - why are you taking advice from a situation where you’d be the one without power? If you’re going to take men’s advice listen to what they say drives them crazy in a good way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 12:53 PM |
| 22 | Ghosted but still looks at insta and snap stories ?He doesn’t give a fuck if you see him looking because he doesn’t give a fuck about you. I do that to guys all the time. “I was so unattached that this is just one more random thing I’m looking at” And if you happen to try to talk to him again, he’s gonna think he’s a huge catch if he can treat you like dirt then you come back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/19 02:43 PM |
| 1 | I was stuck on a scrub for too long!I just use tinder. In my area there’s plenty of guys on it who aren’t looking for a hookup. And I’m lazy and it’s easy. I never liked bumble and OKC seems to only have ppl into gender identity politics or ppl who only play video games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/19 01:54 PM |
| 19 | Where was this sub when I was single??I disagree. People can hide their shitty character or be bad judges of character at any age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/19 01:45 AM |
| 42 | Where was this sub when I was single??Jeeze 8 months is way too fast for an engagement IMO. But congrats! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/19 12:33 AM |
| 17 | Where was this sub when I was single??How long did you get him to put up with you dating other people? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/19 12:04 AM |
| 6 | Bikini pics for OLD?I'd play around with your photos if I were you. When I add a bikini pic my matches double. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/19 09:17 PM |
| 1 | We have only been official one month what should I do for his birthday?What about cooking a fancy dinner? And then going dancing afterward? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/19 08:35 PM |
| 5 | We have only been official one month what should I do for his birthday?You could plan a romantic sunset picnic and it wouldn't be expensive. What does he like? What's your budget? Six Flags and a hotel sounds expensive to me, but idk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/19 07:51 PM |
| 7 | Should you only play within your league? - And no, I don't mean baseballPersonally, I liked another woman's much kinder suggestion for OP to lower her standards in order to practice dating and conversation with men. Hey I think that was me! Thanks! I prob swipe right on more guys than most women here do. I've found guys who were SUPER hot totally lacked in conversation, some hot guys are clingy, and there's some guys who I might not be attracted to initially but are significantly more attractive in person. Guys are horrible at taking photos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/19 07:49 PM |
| 2 | I was stuck on a scrub for too long!I was gonna ask teh same thing. I was curious if it was a new dating app I didn't know about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/19 07:40 PM |
| 9 | Is it a red flag if a man has absolutely 0 female friends?I don't think so. I actually think it's a red flag if they only or mostly have female friends. They're just keeping girls around that they're willing to fuck once they get the chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/19 05:07 PM |
| 9 | This sub continuously reminds me to take no man’s shit.I was skeptical, but my friend convinced me he meant it. Never ever let someone convince you that a dude wasn't a piece of shit. If you felt like he was shitty you need to trust that instinct and not ask anyone else. This is the BIGGEST mistake I've made over the years. I can't tell you how many shitty behavior I excused because my gf or my mom said to give a guy the benefit of the doubt. Go with your gut! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/19 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Need some help - 27 and stuck in a dead end with datingAh Yea I get that. Lower your standards for a little while to get practice and attention. Also if you lower your standards you won’t be as invested in them and they’ll like you more. Men want what they can’t have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/19 12:41 PM |
| 2 | Strategy for luring them in!All of the things I listed have led me to LTRs. I never look for one, I’m always looking for casual stuff but sure as shit there’s a guy who wants to lock me down in 2 months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/19 12:39 PM |
| 6 | Strategy for luring them in!It’s worked really well for me 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 10:42 PM |
| 4 | Strategy for luring them in!I'd agree with that. But I also believe absence makes the heart grow fonder, and distance sometimes can be good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 10:27 PM |
| 15 | Strategy for luring them in!How original, telling a woman who doesn't submit to men to get laid. Because all I need to act right is a good dick right? Even though I talk shit on men to men, I'm dating quite a few different dudes right now and have sex whenever I want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 09:36 PM |
| 11 | Strategy for luring them in!I disagree what this subreddit is about Then stay out of it - it isn't for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 09:20 PM |
| 11 | Strategy for luring them in!This sub is dating advice for women, not a sub that caters to men. Fuck off. Edit : It's obvious from your post history you are ALL about capitulating to men - you're only bisexual and interact with women when men are watching? Perform much? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Strategy for luring them in!Because watching porn to the point where you have a fetish is not healthy. I want to date guys with real lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 08:26 PM |
| 10 | Need some help - 27 and stuck in a dead end with datingI want a long term relationship with a high quality guy. I do not suffer fools gladly and if he showed any red flags I'd be out of there. I'm very independent, so he'd have to be great for me to give this single life up. But I'm so depressed and lonely and I feel like the odd one out with my friends getting married and moving in with long term boyfriends. I want someone to enrich my life and create happiness with. This is your biggest problem - you really want a relationship and you're lonely an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 08:13 PM |
| 8 | Advice on how to proceed with a guy you’re into but he’s now pulling back....There'll be PLENTY of dudes into you. Try not to think about the why, you'll drive yourself crazy for no good reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 07:58 PM |
| 6 | Should I break up?A main focus about our arguments have been how I disappear for an hour or two without responding to his messages. Usually it’s because of homework, but he still gets ticked off and he’s mentioned how he wishes we would talk more. This is a huge red flag. He sounds controlling. The guy I'm dating doesn't get concerned unless I haven't responded in 2 days. And even then he's not mad, he just wants to know if everything is OK. And vice versa. Anyone who comes between you and school/career is a red … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 07:57 PM |
| 6 | Advice on how to proceed with a guy you’re into but he’s now pulling back....He's just not that into you. Texting is different than meeting in person. Just move on and find a guy who gives you that energy in real life. This is why I never text a ton before meeting someone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 07:13 PM |
| 7 | Advice - turn off notifications when you’re with one of your dudes.I just make it clear I'm dating other people. To me the notifications when you're together is way too much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Is it rude if a guy says he will call soon and then you wait like six hours until 2am and he doesn’t even give you a text or something saying he can’t call or is too busy?Yea, I've been there recently. Focus on not getting feelings. Don't just stick with one guy, keep going out with others. Eventually you'll find a guy who's crazy about you, is great at communication, and doesn't let you down. But you gotta comb through a lot of assholes to find them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 06:29 PM |
| 19 | Is it rude if a guy says he will call soon and then you wait like six hours until 2am and he doesn’t even give you a text or something saying he can’t call or is too busy?Yes it's rude and yes you should drop him. If he wanted to talk to you he would have, always remember that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 06:15 PM |
| 5 | Can we not downvote posts where girls fucked up?Oh the downvote thing is good to know! Yea, the downvoted advice threads are justifying really unhealthy behavior or relationships. But the comments always point that out and are really good, so my thought process is that we should upvote those posts, not to agree with OP but for visibility of the advice. That's all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Having backup dudes done right. Today's Savage of the day is this OP's GF that has backup dudes waiting for her to be single. Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from menIf it's not CERTAIN, beyond a shadow of a doubt, assume it's not exclusive and keep it moving. I agree, I just don't think his post is a good example of that at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Strategy for luring them in!I never said lie. I always make sure dudes know I'm dating around. If you’re looking for more than sex, be as honest as you can. Express yourself freely and expect him to open up as well. See who will respect you for your opinions and who will engage in conversations in interesting ways. If you are nothing but temptation when they start liking you you’ll probably never have them treat you like a real person. Who's to say I'm not doing that? I can hide my notifications, make sure he knows I'm dat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 04:51 PM |
| 3 | Strategy for luring them in!I guess the part I disagree with is seeing if he'll insist on paying. Because that's what your goal is, right? To see if he's going to let you pay? I look for that after a few dates. But I go on a lot of first dates and don't want to waste money on them. So I'll never offer to pay then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 04:50 PM |
| 4 | Having backup dudes done right. Today's Savage of the day is this OP's GF that has backup dudes waiting for her to be single. Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from menYou clearly didn't read the post the whole way. "But then my GF (of 3 years now) keeps messaging him whilst I’m away".... Unless he's lying that they're bf/gf or that they've been together 3 years, you can assume exclusivity was expected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Strategy for luring them in!Nope, I never offer anymore. If he wants to split it I've found guys will be preemptive and order first then pay or immediately say we're splitting the check. When the check comes just say "Thank you so much for buying, that's so nice!" with a really bright smile. I told a guy at a bar I needed to leave, I started to get up so he grabbed my empty glass. I just hugged him bye and said "Thank you so much for the beer" lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 04:14 PM |
| 15 | Can we not downvote posts where girls fucked up?What? The posts aren't bitching about women, the posts I'm talking about are women who make a bad dating decision. And then the comments point out what she should do in the future. The posts I'm talking about are generally good examples of constructive criticism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 04:12 PM |
| 14 | Can we not downvote posts where girls fucked up?I disagree I like that we unapologetically tell them they aren’t allowed. They lurked and downvoted before they started doing stickied posts saying no men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 03:52 PM |
| 10 | Strategy for luring them in!😂🤣😂 I would never date a man with a fetish but I see your point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 03:03 PM |
| 8 | Having backup dudes done right. Today's Savage of the day is this OP's GF that has backup dudes waiting for her to be single. Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from menI don’t think it sounds like he’s playing games. He didn’t want an LDR. He dated her when he was back. If it was obvious in the post that they agreed to see other ppl, then yea I agree with. But if they’re in a relationship then no. Her biggest mistake was dating him a second time. She should be clarifying “we’re not monogamous” if she’s doing that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 02:44 PM |
| 12 | Having backup dudes done right. Today's Savage of the day is this OP's GF that has backup dudes waiting for her to be single. Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from menThis is shitty of her if they said they were exclusive. You can have backup plans without flirting/sexting He said they're BF/GF and have been together 3 years... There's nothing vague about their relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 02:28 PM |
| 5 | Can we not downvote posts where girls fucked up?I think they’re working on it. But I don’t get why advice posts would get way more downvotes than the other posts if it’s just moids | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 02:27 PM |
| 11 | Can we not downvote posts where girls fucked up?It didn’t dawn on me until I posted that it’s prob asshole male lurkers. The comments always have 10 or more upvotes so they’re prob not going to the comments to downvote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 02:26 PM |
| 5 | What do you wish you knew when you were younger?don’t split the check (men will never respect you the way they respect other men, don’t waste time/effort trying to be seen as equal. I wasted so much $ on stupid dates, I wish I’d let them pay) don’t be FWB with someone you actually like. don’t be FWB don’t bring your date or bf everywhere. Especially not to chill with your girls. don’t ever bring your dude around your girls Unless you want their opinion, otherwise you need you time and him time. don’t text first don’t get hung up. If you feel … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 02:21 PM |
| 3 | If a guy ignores me twice, should I just cut off all contact?I feel like ppl from other subs come through and downvote all our posts. Even posts with TONS of comments and 10 upvotes a comment are at like 4 upvotes on the main page. It’s really annoying. Just leave it up next time. Hiking is super easy and cheap to get into - try it if you haven’t! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 02:15 PM |
| 6 | Is not listing your job on tinder an immediate left swipe?Just ask - “what do you do for work” is a totally normal question. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 02:07 PM |
| 3 | What would you gals do?Men aren’t welcome here - read the side bar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 02:06 PM |
| 3 | Cut him off or clear it up?Girl. If he wanted to be your partner he would lock that shit down. You can find 20 dudes who want you to commit - start going on more dates. Every time you think about texting him go on tinder or text a gf. There are guys out there who would want you to commit to them after 3 months. 3 months is usually the crux in my experience. I either want to be with them or I don’t. And if I don’t and they seem like they want more, I jump ship. This dude is just using you until he finds someone he wants to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 02:01 PM |
| 7 | Cut him off or clear it up?Because he doesn’t give a shit - dudes don’t take introducing girls to their friends seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 01:58 PM |
| 0 | I don't know how to communicate what I want to men.Ooph. You’re not exclusive so 🤷♀️ But yea, I agree that’s a red flag. I don’t think you should put yourself in FWB situations anymore. You can date someone and not be exclusive. If I were you I’d just bring it up in person and gauge his reaction. First I’d ask if he’s slept with anyone else since you’ve been fucking around this time. And then I would ask what was up with the dick msg. I don’t think it’s wrong to bring up because he took the risk of showing you his phone. It’s not like you snoop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 01:47 PM |
| 3 | If a guy ignores me twice, should I just cut off all contact?Why’d you delete the post? Why don’t you get dates? Are you on tinder? Do you work out or have any active hobbies? Exercise does wonders for dopamine😁 and if you are active you can easily meet super hot dudes. The best thing I ever did for my mental health and dating life was getting into going to the gym and camping/hiking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 01:37 PM |
| 2 | If a guy ignores me twice, should I just cut off all contact?Move on and go on lots of dates. That’s how you cheer up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 01:16 PM |
| 6 | My(27f) bf (35M) is mad I downloaded a dating app... we are in an open relationship, by his choice.It sounds to me like you may have been in emotionally abusive relationship. You should look up the term “love bombing” and see if it applies to how he courted you. And read the book psychopath free. I bet your bf is a narcissist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/19 12:39 PM |
| 4 | Should We Start Explicitly Telling Guys Everything That’s Wrong With Them From Top To Bottom?You don’t think that the sex that rapes other people is entitled? Men committ 99% of rapes. There’s also studies showing that they do significantly less housework as their partners even when they work equal hours. Studies show men are more likely to ask for promotions and raises. Look online at all the comments by men whining that they can’t get a girl. Women typically complain about the abuse and shit men give them - not being owed a man. Men act like women owe them sex and love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/19 12:30 AM |
| 8 | Today's Savage of the day: This woman who was on tinder 2 weeks after a break up. Moving on done RIGHTI was on tinder a few days after my ex said he was “reconsidering the whole relationship”. Best decision ever - I got over him real quick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/19 10:55 PM |
| 3 | Should We Start Explicitly Telling Guys Everything That’s Wrong With Them From Top To Bottom?Fair point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/19 09:42 PM |
| 16 | This is what happens in a lot of FWB situations. Never FWB a guy you like or want to keep around. Be CAREFUL & safe out thereIf you lurk long enough you will understand why this sub thinks FWB is a bad idea. Men will always be using YOU in that situation. They don't respect you and will treat you like shit at the first chance whether it's fucking someone else without a condom and not telling you, or just blowing you off when you had plans, or badgering you for nude pics. They don't respect women who are FWB. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/19 09:16 PM |
| 4 | Should We Start Explicitly Telling Guys Everything That’s Wrong With Them From Top To Bottom?Naw. They start learning entitlement when they're children. It's just due to gendered socialization. And one girl telling them why they're not really all that isn't going to change their entitlement. You just have to find one less entitled than the others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/19 09:10 PM |
| 5 | When is the right time to sleep with him?Idk I think that’s a good test of character. You could preclude it in the beginning by saying “I like to take things slow” after they kiss you. That’s what I’ve done. And if they don’t respect that then 🤷♀️ they weren’t looking for more anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/19 04:03 AM |
| 3 | Frustrated with the career double standard“Girl”. Right. Because women tell other women to prioritize men. Do you happen to have a “girl penis”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/19 02:46 AM |
| 1 | How to not get attached?God, that article is fucking pushing polyamory | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/19 02:43 AM |
| 4 | How to not get attached?Date other men. You’ll realize they’re all the same. You’ll find others you click well with. And then you can weed out the ppl who will really BE there for you. Edit : and make sure he knows you’re dating other men. Best dudes I’ve dated have been ones where 2 mos in I said “I’m still dating other ppl, I really like you and I want to take this slow, so I hope we can commit once we know each other” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/19 02:38 AM |
| 4 | What are your thoughts on the probationary stage of dating?I see that you’ve clarified but now I’m just confused about what you’re asking. If you’ve gone 3 months of casual dating, once you are in a relationship it should be obvious what the rules are (monogamy). Did you date for a while before these two weeks? What is your situation exactly? I think this is a hard question to answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/19 02:37 AM |
| 10 | When is the right time to sleep with him?You can show you’re sexually interested without having sex. That would be my approach until I was ready if I were you. Like soft touches, maybe ask to cuddle or do it. You can show you’re interested while taking it slow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/19 02:32 AM |
| 5 | PSA: Condoms. Always.Why would I do literally all the work into not getting pregnant or an STD? That should be shared. It’s expensive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/19 03:50 PM |
| 1 | This happend 1 hour ago and im madWhat happened? Did he end up having to pay? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/19 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Auto mod request - stickied commentsI think all of us are sex positive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/19 02:24 AM |
| 25 | PSA: Condoms. Always.Yes. I’ve never had a dude not willing to go to the store when I stopped and said “were not doing this without a condom” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/19 03:43 PM |
| 9 | PSA: Condoms. Always.Naw. If he doesn’t have condoms then we’re stopping everything until he gets them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/19 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Auto mod request - stickied commentsSWEET! THANK YOU! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/19 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Auto mod request - stickied commentsSweet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/19 03:07 PM |
| 5 | It finally came in! Thanks for the recommendation ladies!Does anyone have a digital copy? Or want to sell me their book? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/19 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Making this a verification sub?Yes please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/19 10:13 PM |
| 0 | How to not be sad?No it’s not. The whole point of this sub is that men are expendable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/19 04:28 AM |
| 2 | How to tell someone I’m not interestedGettin back with the ex is such a bad idea. It never works out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/19 04:17 PM |
| 2 | How to not be sad?Well I could take him or leave him at that point. I’ve really only gained feelings over the past month. It’s been 2 months now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/19 03:56 PM |
| 0 | How to not be sad?Yea it is that guy. What should I have done? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/19 03:02 PM |
| 1 | How to not be sad?I use dating apps to meet ppl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/19 02:17 PM |
| 1 | How to not be sad?It’s just numbers - the more I swipe right the more options I have. I’m also fairly attractive, I work out, have a good job, and hobbies. It helps that a lot of men share my hobbies and interests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/19 01:52 PM |
| 2 | Advice - I went on a date.No I don’t expect that every date should be amazing. I’ve had a lot of boring ones. I expected this one in particular to be good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/19 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Advice - I went on a date.Yea I think you're right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/19 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Advice - I went on a date.Sorry, but camping isn't code for cheap sex in my world. A good date for me isn't being taken to a fancy restaurant, I actually find that really lazy and unimaginative. A good date is having someone show you some cool, secret camping spots, and taking care of all the food and driving. But I get your point about it being lukewarm. I did think he was really cool. I just didn't like how low effort he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/19 03:09 PM |
| 25 | GIRL GAME PT. 1: Males, Monogamy, and Mate-Guarding.An open relationship is different than dating multiple ppl when you just met. Anyone who meets one person and puts all their eggs in that basket after a date is a moron. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/19 12:33 PM |
| 7 | 😣😔 OP sleeps with a guy before exclusivity is established. She's hurt when he pulls the slow fade.Men are awful and short sighted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/19 02:19 AM |
| 1 | OP cheats on GF. She cheats back and then dumps him, sees someone else. He's "struggling to get over her while another dick is in her".How do you know he cheated on her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/19 11:46 PM |
| 2 | This is the r/incel sub, but for femalesNone of us gives a shit if individual men like you are attracted to us. We get tons of men, that's all we talk about in this sub, how successful we all are at dating and why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/19 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Walking away the first time, done RIGHT. Kudos to this OP for handling this with grace and class.How do you know her sex? I think it’s funny everyone is calling her a man in the comments... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/19 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Advice for bios?I don’t like ppl who list things but that’s me. I have two sentences about who I am and what I like to do and I do pretty well. I’d be happy to read yours and give feedback! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/19 01:51 AM |
| 3 | The Males Are Suddenly Realizing We Don’t Need Them To Be Happy.Bwahahahahahahaha I’m dying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/19 01:50 AM |
| 2 | GIRL GAME PT. 1: Males, Monogamy, and Mate-Guarding.Yea it’s really rare for me to have sex on a first date. And yea you’re prob right. I’m realizing I had more of a hand in escalating the intimacy than I wanted to admit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/19 07:22 PM |
| 14 | GIRL GAME PT. 1: Males, Monogamy, and Mate-Guarding.Yea we had sex on the first date 🤦♀️ there’s a pretty intense attraction between us. So we’ve been having sex for a little over a month. And I told him in the very beginning that I date multiple people at once. I think he decided to ignore his uneasiness with that. Yea idk whAt to do now. I’m trying to convince myself I don’t give a shit if he doesn’t talk to me. But I do. And I’ve already messed up the most important part of dating - don’t get attached. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/19 03:01 PM |
| 20 | GIRL GAME PT. 1: Males, Monogamy, and Mate-Guarding.A month. He didn’t talk to me all day, ignored my call and now he hasn’t answered my text about visiting this weekend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/19 12:30 PM |
| 24 | GIRL GAME PT. 1: Males, Monogamy, and Mate-Guarding.Welp. We got into a discussion last night about monogamy 🤦♀️ he doesn’t get how I can’t take our relationship slow without dating other people. He’s not happy I’m dating others but SAID he accepted it. I’m pretty sure he’s going to stop seeing me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/19 04:22 AM |
| 7 | GIRL GAME PT. 1: Males, Monogamy, and Mate-Guarding.Neither one... yet... The non-player, a very sweet guy has said he's cool with me dating other ppl, he gets it. He's just acted a bit off. I don't think he likes it even if he's accepting it. He's not pushing for commitment yet. But I know in a month or so he will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/19 06:12 PM |
| 24 | GIRL GAME PT. 1: Males, Monogamy, and Mate-Guarding.I'm sleeping with 2. I made the mistake of sleeping with a guy who seems like a player way too quickly. And yea I kind of like the other one I'm sleeping with. I'm interested in finding a long term partner eventually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/19 04:53 PM |
| 80 | GIRL GAME PT. 1: Males, Monogamy, and Mate-Guarding.It's hard to navigate once men start pushing you for monogamy though. They all want it by 3 months of dating. It's so hard. I'm experiencing this now. I'm dating up to 5 ppl at a time right now and, the one guy, who seems really great has started acting funny now that I've made it clear I'm dating other people. At some point he's going to want to move on. And I def don't want to be with a guy who is 100% into us dating other people - in my experience those men are abusive, they fake that they're… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/19 03:51 PM |
| 5 | Holy shit you ladies are real! So glad I found this subMy ignorance? When you won’t read? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/19 05:23 AM |
| 5 | Holy shit you ladies are real! So glad I found this subDon’t you read? The sidebar clearly says this is a FEMALE only space. We don’t want your perspective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/19 02:53 AM |
| 6 | Holy shit you ladies are real! So glad I found this sub“Not all men” blah blah blah Let me whip in here with my lil dick and tell you how reality is lil woman! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/19 02:52 AM |
| 1 | A Book for Real Women who seek quality relationships in a Broken Dating Culture, by social scientist Dariusz Valizadeh: "Lady" (2019)I can’t find that book anywhere when I google it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/19 12:06 AM |
| 1 | This sub is way too focused on bad guys.I agree. I just think it didn’t come off that way by your original post (which I can’t see now) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/19 10:33 PM |
| 2 | This sub is way too focused on bad guys.I think your post would have been more well received if you were actually positive and talking about all the cool shit single women do etc. Instead of just criticizing the sub for talking about the realities of dating men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/19 10:11 PM |
| 11 | What are some red flags that he’s not worth your time?If he acts weird about mentioning other people he's dated. Yea you don't want to drone on about your ex, but if you can't casually say "oh I went to X country with the girl I was dating" then something fucking weird is going on. Or if you ask how long they've been single and they're TOTALLY dodgy. Both those things happened with my ex. I finally realized he wanted to seem perpetually available and not like he was constantly in a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/19 04:50 PM |
| 2 | [Meta] Can the mods and users here PLEASE be more vigilant about reporting, banning, and deleting male comments?Lmao and he just kept replying to you. Hilarious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/19 10:56 PM |
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