I think I’m a bit younger than the average age on this sub, but you might as well stop taking men’s shit early on, right?

A few nights ago, a guy I’ve been talking to said I should come over to his apartment. I was completely fine with that and thought it’d be fun regardless of what direction the night went in. I wasn’t super sure what he had in mind, since our interactions up until that point had been somewhere between friendly and flirty. Would’ve been down to just hang out, would’ve been down for more. I said sure, just had to pick up a few drunk friends from a party and make sure they got home safe before heading over.

Told him I was heading over, all seemed fine. He lives pretty close to a lot of bars/the football stadium, and a game was getting out so driving and finding parking was an absolute nightmare, especially with all the drunk people who would just kinda step into the street.

I let him know I was there. No response. I waited. And waited. Embarrassingly enough, I ended up waiting like 30 minutes, sitting in my car while it was raining. I should’ve just left after like 5. I was super hurt and confused, especially since he was the one to invite me over (and this wasn’t the first time, I just hadn’t been available other nights).

I drove to a friend’s place that was nearby since I was feeling like absolute shit and crashed there. He responded to me a few hours later (at around 2 am) saying he passed out and that he was really sorry. I was skeptical, but my friend convinced me he meant it. Well, sort of. I was still pretty wary of the whole thing, but didn’t cut him off.

Until a day or so later. I tried to start a conversation with him, and I was getting the DRYEST responses ever. I tried one more time. Same thing.

Honestly? I probably did too much. I should’ve just left after 5 minutes that night and never talked to him again. I shouldn’t have even tried to start a conversation with him. I shouldn’t have worried about him feeling bad for HIS own actions. I had nothing to do with him “passing out”/ignoring me. But after my two small attempts at talking, I decided it wasn’t worth it, in part because of this sub.

I’ve already done more than I should have, but at least I wasn’t in that deep. If he was sorry, I’d like to think he wouldn’t have just stopped talking to me... I still don’t really know what happened that night, if he was just trying to fuck with me and play some type of game. This is embarrassing, but there’s a chance I would still be trying with someone who doesn’t give a shit if it wasn’t for the constant empowerment on this sub. I’m definitely worthy of not being ignored and receiving basic attention, and hey! I’m going out with a guy tonight, might be fun :-)