I have been sleeping with this guy (26m) since May. I met him on tinder. He expressed to me that he just got out of a 3 month relationship and just wanted to mess around. So essentially I was the rebound, but shortly after we met he said he was interested in getting to “know me.” And I told him that we could be friends. We went through periods of seeing each other basically every weekend or even 3 times a week. Throughout the summer he invited me over to hang out with his friends too at his place before hooking up. He still talks to his ex. He even invited me over one night when he was dog sitting his ex’s dog. Recently I told him that I liked him and his response was that he liked me too but “he needs to focus on his self to get the things he wants.” So I took that as let’s stop talking which really hurt my feelings and we didn’t speak for a couple days which I was totally fine with. Then he called me Saturday night to hang out. And my dumb self went to hang out with him and his friend. He wanted to be cuddly and super touchy feely and I wasn’t too receptive of it. But now I’m confused, he’s working on his self but wants to hang out? That was our first time hanging out without having sex and actually being social so now I’m even more confused.

I’m torn with telling him that I can’t play games because I actually have feelings for him so we shouldn’t talk anymore or telling him that we need to be strictly platonic.