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| 2 | Can we have a frank conversation about STD's for a minute?In my experience late 20s women are much more likely to bring up STDs and ask about test results than early 20s women. I can see your logic about infections accumulating over time, but many things are also treatable, and older people are less likely to take risks. I always like it when a women brings up STD test results, because it tells me that she's careful and probably less likely to have something. | /r/seduction | 15/08/12 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Can we have a frank conversation about STD's for a minute?it can't morph, but you can get either kind in either place. hsv-1 is usually on the mouth, and hsv-2 is usually on the genitals. you can get either kind in the other place, but it won't change into the other kind. you can also have both. | /r/seduction | 15/08/12 10:14 PM |
| 2 | Highly effective textual deflakerI can't tell you how many times someone has failed to respond to one message, and then when I follow-up four or five days later is super enthusiastic, wants to meet, etc. I used to do what you suggest, which is to stop contact and not retry, but I realized I was missing out because it turns out lots of people are happy when you retry. | /r/seduction | 26/06/12 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Highly effective textual deflakerIt's not about falling for something. It's a way to re-open the conversation without seeming needy and desperate. "Hey, are we still doing this?" or "Did you get my message?" are needy and desperate. Some variation on "You aren't doing this very well" is not. | /r/seduction | 26/06/12 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Highly effective textual deflakerMaybe, whatever. I posted something that I found useful; I was attempting to be helpful. I don't appreciate the condescending, dogmatic response. | /r/seduction | 25/06/12 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Highly effective textual deflakerHow'd it go? | /r/seduction | 25/06/12 09:44 PM |
| -6 | Highly effective textual deflakerMy game and I are both quite excellent, thank you very much. Sometimes people are busy or distracted and just require a little push. | /r/seduction | 25/06/12 09:43 PM |
| 8 | Night Game, the "Are you here alone" questionAll of these have gotten positive responses: "Yeah, I like going out alone." (Most people will actually respond with something like "You're brave.") "Yeah, going out alone makes it easier to meet new people." "I'm suppose to meet my friend ___, but I think he's standing me up to work late." "I was on a date. She went home but I felt like staying out." "Yes. [change subject]" "No, I'm here with you." | /r/seduction | 16/06/12 01:37 AM |
| 1 | A perfect ending (or transition?)Thanks. | /r/seduction | 13/06/12 04:40 PM |
| 1 | A perfect ending (or transition?)I’m confused. This isn’t asking for advice at all; it isn’t even a question. It’s more like a text message field report. I didn’t mark it [FR] because it’s not exactly a field report, but maybe I should have. | /r/seduction | 13/06/12 04:27 PM |
| 2 | A perfect ending (or transition?)Yeah, true, she's a good one. | /r/seduction | 12/06/12 09:51 PM |
| 4 | I've started experimenting with getting girls to buy me drinks.rye, neat | /r/seduction | 12/06/12 08:22 PM |
| 10 | Are there still crazy parties after college?I live in a city in the northeast. How do you find your way into that scene? | /r/seduction | 18/05/12 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Nice phone trickI don't want it to come up here in Google results, but I'll PM you. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Nice phone trickThat's kind of the goal, yeah. I'm far from an MPUA, but I am trying to open many girls. I do it this way online, too. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Nice phone trickAll of that is true, except that nine times out of ten it leads to an on-the-spot number exchange. Having the improbably cool number is key to that. In the tenth time, I assume she was probably a dud anyway. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 08:03 AM |
| 3 | Nice phone trickIt is risky. That's kind of the point--it displays a lot of confidence. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Nice phone trickThis accomplishes that because they almost always try the number right away. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 07:56 AM |
| 2 | [FR]#13–14 More online dates; internalizing abundanceThanks. Yeah, I'm not doing everything right, but I think I'm learning. I've actually been doing the online thing for years, having met more than 60 girls that way and f-closed more than a dozen of them, but I've only been studying PUA for the last couple months. The B girl is really atypical. Only once before has a girl invited me to her place for a first date (and the plan that time was to cuddle and watch a movie), and I think I've met just as many girls who were more attractive than their ph… | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 03:13 PM |
| 2 | Reminder: Eye Contact is so ImportantThis is normal human interaction. You lock on someone when they're talking, and then look around more when it's your turn to talk. If you can lock more and longer while you're talking, that can be powerful because it's a bit out of the ordinary. | /r/seduction | 23/04/12 09:58 PM |
| 1 | [FR]#11–12 Two online dates, two k-closesI'm not going to post my username here because I don't want it associated with this reddit account, but I'll PM it to you. In short, no, I'm okay but not especially attractive, and I don't show much in my photos (for professional reasons), so it wouldn't matter if I were. I would say I have a profile that's a good mix of funny and real, and I always send messages that are very much tailored to the recipient. I try to keep them short and funny or at least weird, and I usually ask an open-ended qu… | /r/seduction | 15/04/12 05:08 PM |
| 1 | [FR]#11–12 Two online dates, two k-closesMe too! | /r/seduction | 15/04/12 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Plenty of Fish. Building Attraction.Huh. I'm still not seeing that as far as cuteness, but I haven't done POF nearly as long, and I've met many, many OKC girls. As for your luck, that might just mean they're easier to impress. | /r/seduction | 04/04/12 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Plenty of Fish. Building Attraction.Huh. I've found OKCupid girls to be much more attractive, generally. Maybe we have different taste. (Also, the tiny, stretched-out photos make POF a generally unattractive experience.) | /r/seduction | 03/04/12 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Plenty of Fish. Building Attraction.I've looked through dozens of profiles on POF and found maybe two that seemed worth writing to. Most seem stupid and unattractive. Where do you live? (I'm in Boston.) | /r/seduction | 03/04/12 07:28 PM |
| 3 | first date went well except for the part where she has a live-in boyfriendYou handled that extremely well. The question for you is whether you want a relationship with a girl who goes on dates with other guys while she has a boyfriend. Of course, if a relationship isn't where you're headed then that isn't a problem. | /r/seduction | 01/04/12 11:42 PM |
| 5 | How many girls do you "blow off"?Most. If I approach 10 times in a night and have what I feel are five #-close opportunities, I will move on without asking for a number from four of them. I don't like getting numbers I don't intend to call. | /r/seduction | 22/03/12 02:46 PM |
| 28 | [FR] Absolutely epic night. Four-way with porn star, crime scene investigator & ex-cheerleader MILFfuck thee! "thou" is nominative :) | /r/seduction | 18/03/12 08:49 PM |
| 1 | pre-[FR]#9 New way to get in stateThose are some good ones. (Though hyperventilating in the shower sounds a little dangerous.) | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 05:17 PM |
| 3 | How would you go about asking a girl out to the prom?Simple is good in this case. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 02:18 AM |
| 2 | How would you go about asking a girl out to the prom?Walk up to her. Say this: "Would you like to go to the prom with me?" | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 01:41 AM |
| 17 | How to respond to a pulling away from a kissWhen this happens, I just laugh, smile really broadly, and keep doing whatever we were doing before as if nothing happened. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 01:39 AM |
| 1 | [FR] #1 Applying myself the day after I discovered seddit.I don't know about any special tricks. Just make yourself do it, and if you do it enough it will start to feel natural. Mixed sets might be a good way to start. Win over the guys and go from there. | /r/seduction | 14/03/12 06:08 PM |
| 2 | I am hesitant to leave social settings... help?Set a time to leave before you go out, and then stick to it. Have a reason ready, too, if you need that: "Hey, I've gotta go--I'm working early tomorrow. Have a great night." | /r/seduction | 14/03/12 02:23 PM |
| 3 | [FR] #1 Applying myself the day after I discovered seddit.This sounds like a great start to me. Talking to guys can be fun and good for your confidence, but you definitely need to talk to some girls next time, so you don't fall into a pattern of only meeting guys. | /r/seduction | 14/03/12 02:18 PM |
| 14 | 10 things you probably do wrongMmmm, ass hands. | /r/seduction | 13/03/12 05:04 PM |
| 2 | PUA frame and feminist frame. Not mutually exclusive.I'd go further and say that one can be both a PUA and a feminist. I've considered myself a feminist for many years, and it hasn't prevented me from getting into pickup, though there are certain things in pickup that I find distasteful and therefore avoid. Sometimes it's even useful: Woman: "Buy me a drink." Me: "I don't buy drinks for women." Woman: "Why not?" Me: "I'm a feminist." | /r/seduction | 12/03/12 02:59 PM |
| 5 | Utilizing your passions to increase your gameYou need to find a woman who wants to be treated like an object. | /r/seduction | 12/03/12 02:54 PM |
| 1 | The Ultimate "Bubble of Love" Thread.I don't go below 120, naturally. | /r/seduction | 11/03/12 05:34 AM |
| 1 | [FR]#8 First non-solo sarging; complete game collapseOf, of course I'm not giving up. I've had too many good nights before to do that. However, I won't be going to that kind of bar again, probably. Also, I do better, I think, when I peacock a bit, which I wasn't doing last night. (I don't think it's necessarily girls' responses to the peacocking that improve, but how it changes my attitude.) I think I'm accustomed to going out solo, which forces me to talk to people and makes me not really care. With two other guys there, it's easy to just hang ou… | /r/seduction | 10/03/12 08:22 PM |
| 1 | To all the lurkers and noobs that haven't approached yet...:D | /r/seduction | 10/03/12 04:34 PM |
| 2 | To all the lurkers and noobs that haven't approached yet...If there's that little girls you are attracted to | /r/seduction | 10/03/12 04:28 PM |
| 1 | [FR]#7 Another online date, k-closeUpdate: Texted her this afternoon, and heard back tonight that she isn't interested. Props to her for not just ignoring it. | /r/seduction | 10/03/12 08:26 AM |
| 1 | [FR]#7 Another online date, k-closeThat's annoying. There's probably not much you can do about that beyond a "sincere" apology. | /r/seduction | 09/03/12 07:17 PM |
| 1 | [FR]#7 Another online date, k-closeThanks. Yeah, I have been having a good time. What did you kicked out for? I suppose that could make the difference. Also, have you tried being friendly to the bouncer since then? It might be too late now, but having a bouncer on your side can only be a good thing. | /r/seduction | 09/03/12 06:08 PM |
| 1 | [FR]#5 The arbitrariness of flowThat's a good challenge. Don't let anything stop you. The first few times I went out by myself, I waited too long at home procrastinating with various things, and then got to the bar too late, which was no good. Make sure you just get out there. | /r/seduction | 09/03/12 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with abundance--no seriously. What do you successful guys do to manage the masses?Oh, yeah, that makes sense. I figure it's like dealing at NA. | /r/seduction | 08/03/12 09:27 PM |
| 1 | [FR]#5 The arbitrariness of flowIt's not that bad after a couple times. I actually like it, because it forces me to meet people. At first, I would lie when people asked who I was there with, saying either that I'm visiting from out of town and don't know anyone, or that my friend didn't show or had just left. Now I say I'm solo, and people are usually impressed. | /r/seduction | 08/03/12 09:10 PM |
| 3 | okCupid open?It depends a lot on her profile, but I think some general guidelines are: be brief, be different, be funny, show you read her profile, and above all give her something that's easy to respond to. Ask to meet as soon as you have evidence of interest. | /r/seduction | 08/03/12 08:25 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with abundance--no seriously. What do you successful guys do to manage the masses?This might be totally wrong, but: Did you try picking anyone up at SLAA? | /r/seduction | 08/03/12 04:06 PM |
| 12 | friggin handbagMove the handbag. Don't ask, just do it smoothly and naturally while talking. The other night a girl put her bag on the floor between our feet, and I kept accidentally stepping on it, so I tried to pick it up to move it--but I lifted it upside-down and everything fell out. This meant that we ended up leaning under the table together and picking everything up, which was a great kinopportunity. | /r/seduction | 08/03/12 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, Was I a Bitch?You did the right thing. | /r/seduction | 08/03/12 03:34 PM |
| 9 | [FR] K-Close but Denied the F-CloseIgnore the naysayers. If you aren't comfortable having sex with a really drunk girl, that's totally reasonable. If you aren't interested in hookups from parties, that's reasonable too. It's good to get outside your comfort zone, but not in ways that compromise your values. | /r/seduction | 04/03/12 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Tips for first dateAsk questions, preferably questions you genuinely want to know the answers to. Listen more than you talk. Smile and maintain eye contact. Relax. Be yourself. | /r/seduction | 03/03/12 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Help me get rejected!No. | /r/seduction | 03/03/12 06:31 PM |
| 1 | [FR]#4 The fine line between fun and creepyThis may be so, but I've actually found gayer than average environments to be good for picking up women. They let their guard down. (A few weeks ago I met a girl at a gay club and she pretty much grabbed my hand and dragged me out of there within 30 seconds of meeting. Seeing a bunch of hot gay guys going at it got her turned on, and I just had to be in the right place at the right time.) Though you're right about flashily dressed. My rainbow shirt may have sent the wrong message. | /r/seduction | 01/03/12 03:52 PM |
| 0 | [FR]#4 The fine line between fun and creepyNot really, no. It's the only after hours club in town, so it's pretty much anyone, but it does get gayer as the night goes on. | /r/seduction | 29/02/12 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Theoretical way to initiate Kino (never tried this but someone try for me)One week is enough absorption. Get your sorry ass out there (and thus make it less sorry)! | /r/seduction | 28/02/12 10:15 PM |
| 4 | [FR]#4 The fine line between fun and creepyShe was dancing and she was fun, so I don't care so much if she wasn’t the hottest babe in the club. It doesn't really affect my ego I guess. I'm kind of uncomfortable with the whole rating thing, actually, so I think I might stop doing it. | /r/seduction | 28/02/12 01:26 AM |
| 2 | [FR]#4 The fine line between fun and creepyAh, I left something out. I thought she texted herself, but there's nothing showing in my phone history, so I think she must have done it wrong. (Fixed that.) Thanks, but are other people not honest with ratings? I try to be, but for all I know my scale could use some calibration. | /r/seduction | 27/02/12 07:44 PM |
| 1 | [FR]#3 bidding war, k-close, massive cock blockOh yeah, I'm with you. It was seriously frustrating. I could see a case for "saving" in certain circumstances, like if the friend is really drunk, but as long as she's competent to decide what she wants to do, it's ridiculous. | /r/seduction | 26/02/12 10:13 AM |
| 1 | How to handle when a girl throws the "L" word at youi love you. | /r/seduction | 26/02/12 02:25 AM |
| 3 | Seddit, what are your favorite places to go out alone and meet new people?Ooh, crafty too! | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what are your favorite places to go out alone and meet new people?Hey, baby. That's a nice screen name you got there. | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 11:36 PM |
| 3 | [FR]#3 bidding war, k-close, massive cock blockOh, also, I've learned recently that I can now break the bathroom code without too much pain. When I'm taking a leak, I open the guy at the urinal next to me. If you do it right, surprisingly, this can be pretty cool. This time there was a guy wearing a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles shirt, so I just said, "Whoa, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles." He got this huge grin and said "Yeah!" and I said "Yeah!" Later I passed him on the dance floor and there were more "Yeah!"s. | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 01:28 PM |
| 1 | [FR] great OKC date, awkward endingYou're right, of course. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 10:43 PM |
| 22 | How to handle when a girl throws the "L" word at youYou can't always avoid hurting someone. That's just life. You might be able to respond by telling her about something you really like about her, but ultimately, an i-love-you wants an i-love-you-return, and if you can't provide that then there's no right answer. | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 09:55 PM |
| 1 | [FR] great OKC date, awkward endingI'm not worried about it! I just thought it odd, and how she handled it was kind of revealing. | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 09:09 PM |
| 2 | [FR] great OKC date, awkward endingThanks! It's not the approach for the kiss that was awkward, actually. It's that the kiss itself was really weird. It was like a random mashing of lips and tongue that just didn't synch up. But you're right that earlier probably would have been better, since I would have been into it and I think she would have too. | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 08:47 PM |
| 1 | [FR] She bought over a bottle but left aloneI think she likes you but is a bit shy. When did the sister and other neighbor leave? | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 06:35 PM |
| -3 | Negative attitudes towards women are too popular right now.this is reddit. misoginy is in the air here. | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 06:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First time sarging, #close, and a questionThanks! | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 04:27 PM |
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