| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 18 | What's craziest thing your stbx did | Cheap_House8696 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/24 03:07 AM | |
| 17 | What's her angle? | Cheap_House8696 | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/24 10:50 PM | |
| 16 | Mediation is a joke | Cheap_House8696 | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/24 02:21 AM | |
| 15 | Divorce sleep problems | Cheap_House8696 | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/24 10:59 AM | |
| 11 | Final mediation before trial | Cheap_House8696 | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 06:18 PM | |
| 10 | Promotion advice | Cheap_House8696 | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 01:15 AM | |
| 9 | STBX will not give up | Cheap_House8696 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 04:21 PM | |
| 6 | STBX made first offer | Cheap_House8696 | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/24 01:29 AM | |
| 2 | Hostile ex and sick toddler | Cheap_House8696 | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/24 02:14 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 3 | Not sure how to keep goingMan up and file divorce and custody order and that will lock her into where she is at ASAP | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/25 03:50 PM |
| 5 | Don’t be me (it could happen to you)Never say a word outside of family app helps with that I always record our interactions and have camera recording every time she comes to my home | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/25 02:21 AM |
| 2 | Custody, Georgia - need adviceFirst, Don't take legal advice from your ex wife Second, tell her, tell your friends, tell your family, your lawyer or anyone else you have to speak with through this process the same thing, The only person who is going to take away my time with my children will be the judge at the end of a trial. And then you dig your heels in and I guarantee you'll get it. Custody battles are 99% bluffs and game playing, dig your heels in and let the process take fold don't get too high after a victory in cour… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/25 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Anyone dealt with custody evaluator?GALs custody evals psych evals these are all games they play to break you, stay the course and go to trial you'll get your time | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/25 11:33 PM |
| 5 | Attorney FeesSadly just borrowed from parents got a better job and racked up those credit cards | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/25 11:32 PM |
| 2 | FTBThat's what they always say in the filing it's horse shit game playing | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/25 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Can my ex change custody to 50/50 after 3 years of just visitation?Meh she'll get it because she asked then gotta change your life and schedule, let sleeping dogs lie | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/25 01:51 AM |
| 1 | Any advice with this exchange and what to say to my ex when harangues me on not taking my child to danceHere's how I treat my ex, ignore ignore ignore she can send you a message on parenting app if she needs something, otherwise pay no mind list | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/25 11:20 PM |
| 4 | Finding AttorneyDid she file? If she did find out who the judge is and get an attorney of the same gender works wonders | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/25 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Mediation coming upAs someone whose been fighting in court with a crazy woman for two years now, all you can do is accept that they won't budge and take her all the way to the end and trial | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/25 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Ex will only drop off at my houseAin't that the fucking truth mine is good she'll show up 20 mins late or early AND tell me WHEN she's coming when our CO clearly states she picks up at X time | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/25 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Advice needed: Ex partner giving impression of wanting more time with kidDon't be stupid, you're gonna have your kid 50/50 don't hide her any extra time without you getting the same time in writing | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/25 01:57 AM |
| 3 | Wife took both kids as a deduction. Wtf.Mine did the same last year to me so this year, I ha djt all set up to file the first day it was available to file, I got an angry message a week later yelling at me. The bright side you'll get them next year or at least one of them | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/25 06:23 PM |
| 3 | Need Advice & Guidance Hot Custody BattleFlorida is an easy 50/50 state make it clear to her you're ready to take this to trial and then don't entertain anything but a day less then 50/50 and you'll get it | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/25 08:32 PM |
| 1 | 50/50 custody and summer breakThis is a fight in my case, she's a teacher and off in summer and fighting about it, judge ruled once in proceedings the only people who can watch my child during summer is family members she was trying to play the game that I don't get any parenting time during summer only weekends because she's "off" judge didn't care about that laughed at her lawyers, you can't take his parenting time because he is working | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/25 06:06 PM |
| 4 | Why couldn't I have a healthy life and marriage?Go to therapy and find out why you subconsciously put yourself in a. Relationship with someone like that usually it's from our childhood, we mimic toxic situations over be over again because they are comfortable quite common | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/25 12:20 PM |
| 3 | Ex’s BF is overstepping with sportsWanna really mess her mind up, become best friends with this guy and she's be soooooo PISSED | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/25 01:56 AM |
| 5 | Can wife move to another state to get a "better deal" in divorce?Idk why any men put any stock into what their wife says after divorce is filed or talked about, after mine filed and we lived together for an few months she's say this shit all the time how I need to compromise and do this or that and give her this or that and I'd say every time well see what the judge says | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/25 01:40 PM |
| 1 | Taxes questionMy tax guy said if it's 50/50 and my year to claim her and the ex hasnt lived with me in that year I can file HOH and I did | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/25 11:26 PM |
| 4 | Decision Made - Follow upDude take the 50/50 and move it along, she hurt you we get it, family court will offer you nothing but wasted time and money, and more then likely you'll lose in Texas as a man and end up with LESS then 50/50 | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/25 10:33 PM |
| 4 | Have any of you stayed with you ex partner under the same roof after separation long term?Nah either divorce and cut ties, or work on your marriage imo, a woman scorn is not someone to live under the same roof with look up silver bullet divorce | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/25 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Self file, without attorney, divorce in Maryland?Collaborative divorce only works when you bend over for her, I'd skip that money pit unless you don't mind paying max CS and seeing your kid EOW, or paying for collaborative divorce then paying for litigation anyways | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/25 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Full time in office - did you get custodyWhat does working a job have to do with custody I work 5 days a week and have 50/50, majority of adults in this country work 5 days a week, I wouldn't let this bother you. The child would need to go to daycare, and if the mom is working too then she can't watch and work at the same time to take parenting time away from you | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/25 05:51 PM |
| 4 | Relocation QuestionsTake her to court yesterday you'll win | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/25 05:48 PM |
| 4 | Why are you and mommy not gonna be married anymore?I've been getting this lately from my 4 year old, why can't you and mommy live together, we haven't lived together since my daughter was 18 months old so I'd bet mom is saying stuff to her, and I bet your ex is saying shit like this to your kid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/25 04:08 PM |
| 6 | ChurchThere's worse things she could be doing with them, be thankful she wants to bring them to church and not her ex felon boy toys trailer, seriously don't wast your money or time fighting church, judge isnt gonna give a shit | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/25 12:27 AM |
| 4 | Stroke victimEverything and more time to get some cash | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/25 12:25 AM |
| 6 | New partner not liking my kidTime to say adios | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/25 12:17 PM |
| 1 | What's your custody schedule arrangement like?Currently 223 but it's looking going to be 2255 once everything is settled | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/25 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Weed and custodyProbably not, but never know. Id stop now and get sober just to help with your mental sanity through this process | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/25 09:27 PM |
| 5 | When men say they don't care how much she makesJust so glad she didn't take me up on my offer for her to work part time a year prior to the divorce | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/25 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Cash out small side retirement to fund divorce or recovery?It's 3k judge ain't gonna give a shit about 10k let alone 3k | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/25 09:03 PM |
| 8 | It’s the little joys of being divorcedLol out while marriage I was the cheap skate, we got divorced and I'm the parent who buys everything meanwhile shes on "food stamps" and "can't afford anything" even tho she lives with her partners and makes good money deadbeat | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Filing firstThe only difference in my case at least is my ex spent a shitload more money then me, it did nothing for her case at all she lost her fight against 50/50 in a mother state pretty easily because of her behavior | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/25 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Help/ adviseGet a lawyer and make it clear from the start you are not budging and will fight till the end, and it'll be over soon, judges LOVE precedence unless you moved an hour away you'll keep your 50/50 OR get better | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 10:20 PM |
| 1 | WHO PAYSUnless she a housewife for 20 years and you make 500k highly doubt she will get any money for a lawyer, my ex said the same thing if pay her lawyer and lifetime ailmony and child support flash forward two years since separation I've never given her a penny nor ever been ordered to | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 10:14 PM |
| 1 | NC Divorce" Curious if any other men from NC? How did you come out the other side?Alimony and child support calculators can be looked up for your state | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 10:12 PM |
| 8 | What to do with the house when my wife wants to keep it but cant afford the mortgage? Would it be dumb to become her landlord?Why on earth would you wanna do that lol, sell the house move on with your life | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Not sure what to expect (GA Divorce)Get a lawyer sounds like you have assets, unless you're 25 and broke and no kids or a house always get a lawyer | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 07:29 PM |
| 3 | 50/50 custody versus other options?Keep fighting, stand on the hill and refuse to bend from 50/50 trust me, you'll get it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/25 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Kids treating parents differentlySeriously? You're a man who cares about gifts lol I don't want any gifts I can buy myself my own shit | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 07:56 PM |
| 1 | IllinoisAlimony for short term marriage in IL ain't much, her income will be imputed, house will be sold guaranteed. I'd give her the house just refinance your name off and lock up that 50/50 parenting time. I wish I told my ex keep the 60k equity and everything in the house and all of our assets I just want you to sign this parenting plan lol That's the real battle been in IL courtrooms for 18 months fighting, and that's AFTER I was already awarded 50/50 temp by judge, lawyers can and will drag it out … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Parenting plan must haves? Please send examples :)!I wouldn't fight too much for little things in parenting plan there's zero enforcement of any of that little stuff, you think a judge is gonna do anything against a woman whose violating a parenting plan because she spent too much time with the child at shared event? And even if they did sanction her you spent 5k fr the judge to give her a talking to to? They won't take time away or actually punish her Stuff like schedule and decision making but that other stuff is just fluff | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/25 02:50 PM |
| 1 | My exGet a better lawyer and move on with your life | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/25 11:07 PM |
| 1 | What hobbies or projects have you taken up as a single dad?Hobbies but I've always been a hobby person | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/25 03:05 PM |
| 0 | First night in new apartmentDude why did you move out | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/25 11:58 PM |
| 2 | Should I let my wife take the kids out of the house right now?I did allow this and had an agreement in writing and parenting app, and after that happened she was toast she could never get anything more then 50% she's been fighting it for 18 months This set the status quo and precedence for my case, I would allow it do a 223 and set it up on OFW and let her do it and then it's all over if she wants to fight it | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/25 02:15 PM |
| 8 | Did you guys give your STBXW the courtesy of letting her know you were dating again?My lawyer said to me recently you think she's crazy and unhinged now and fighting tooth and nail wait till you get a girlfriend that's gonna be fun, she's be trying to drag you back to court over nonsense | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Is day care normally included in child support?No, I pay 50% daycare and no CS | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 04:40 PM |
| 2 | How do you really be happy for your ex wife?Just remember he has to deal with her now lol, in my opinion this is good once they get some new dick try start to leave you alonez it's their narcissistic traits, new blood | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 08:57 PM |
| 4 | How do you really be happy for your ex wife?This is the way | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 08:55 PM |
| 1 | mediation with lawyer?Yes ofcourse | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/24 04:30 PM |
| 3 | StagnantMine played that game, I said I'm.not.leaving until you sign these papers, next thing she's moving out | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/24 11:14 PM |
| 4 | I’ve spend $8K and just through temp orders….Do you call your lawyer as much as you post here? Lol lesson 1 of divorce unless it's an absolute emergency don't call your lawyer | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/24 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Don’t know what to do…What state | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/24 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Don’t know what to do…How old are the kids? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/24 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Divorce sleep problemsThank you, on these nights no matter what I take OTC I can't get back to sleep sometimes, I'm off for two weeks starting Friday so hopefully I can rest then | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/24 11:25 AM |
| 2 | Divorce sleep problemsYou're right I need to stop eating crap, on nights my child ain't with me I eat like a raccoon and wonder why I can't sleep through the night sometimes | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/24 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Advice on asset split?Just sell it I doubt she has that kind of money on her | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/24 10:12 PM |
| 2 | For the menExactly my motto going forward in life never sacrifice your own happiness for a woman unless it's your daughter | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/24 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Confused on the asset processSo we had a house she moved out and filed motion that she wanted XYZ from the house, I agreed to some of it and it was settled. We sold the house shortly after that but we've been fighting in court over custody for 12 months after selling the house and I took everything else from the house when I had to move. The stuff in the house has never been mentioned since when we finalize after the custody dispute is finished are they gonna pop up with demands for me to pay her for old furniture? It is th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/24 08:21 PM |
| 1 | WTF!? I just received (expected) paperworkCA is very 50/50 now, tell her you'll see her in court | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/24 01:09 AM |
| 2 | A year after the final trial and I am doing so great.Yup, God is good | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/24 12:08 AM |
| 1 | STBX made first offerAgreed this judge is very pragmatic, I'm thankful I ran into a good GAL and good judge in this process, I know so many men get screwed in this process. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/24 10:22 AM |
| 1 | STBX made first offerOur son is 3, he doesn't go to school he's at a daycare/pre school, that daycare preschool is closing at end of this school year so they kinda screwed me there. All of this is based on her "future" living arrangement, currently now she lives with her parents 10 minutes away from my condo, unless she has moved without telling me I'm not sure. It's not so much the distance because I'd move there it's the school, it's bad and low ratings they don't even have school buses there, it's only because sh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/24 10:14 AM |
| 2 | STBX made first offer3 | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/24 09:16 AM |
| 3 | Ex wife messageLove it keep on keeping on | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/24 11:20 PM |
| 3 | Did anyone else lose their sense of attraction?I have a young toddler that I'm with 50% of the time so I don't have much time for dating now anyways but yes I feel the same | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/24 12:23 PM |
| 1 | What's her angle?She has the most incentive to settle imo, her lawyers are bleeding her dry, and she's the one paying for insurance, I can put my feet up and see you in 5 years I got 50/50 temp and I'm cruising I'm in no hurry, I could very well end up walking into trial with being 50/50 for 2 + years living separately and our child is only 3. Lawyer says that length of time is hard to break, every hearing the GAL and judge remind her lawyer that we've been 50/50 for almost two years it's time to end this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/24 02:41 AM |
| 1 | What's her angle?I did not choose this game, I wanted to settle before she even filed she chose to hire aggressive lawyers because she thought they would destroy me before she ran out of money, and the opposite has happened they bled her dry before the party even started. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/24 02:21 AM |
| 4 | Geographic location?That's a bit odd sounds like she's planning on moving | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/24 01:53 AM |
| 3 | STBXW wants to all of a sudden take care of the kidsSTATUS QUO IS KING in the courtroom | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/12/24 01:37 AM |
| 5 | Did your wife file temp orders with her petition?It's all postering and saber rattling stick to your guns, 50/50 or trial | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/24 10:13 PM |
| 2 | STBXW wants to all of a sudden take care of the kidsTake notes just saying that's my experience, BUT my stbx moved out shortly after she filed and court granted me 50/50 temp | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/24 03:07 PM |
| 3 | STBXW wants to all of a sudden take care of the kidsI've been in a custody battle for 20 months, I've been through judges lawyer mediators and GAL, ask me how many times they asked who was giving them baths or taking them to the park, they don't care about that shit anymore if you're both working it's assumed you were sharing duties. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/24 02:58 PM |
| 3 | What's her angle?She's supposed to send her financials again this week we'll see what she's got left, she has spent so much on her lawyers | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 12:59 PM |
| 3 | What's her angle?Maybe but we went to mediation twice now, first time spent 10 hours and 5k had agreement all written all she has to do was sign it and we walk away 50/50. She refuse to sign it a week later and we got a GAL, we literally have agreement written she could say hey lawyer I'll sign this now and we can be done but she won't. Second mediation was with GAL and she did again, her lawyers and GAL has agreement ready to sign 50/50 and she refused. What's funny is second agreement was worse than what she g… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 12:33 PM |
| 2 | What's her angle?Nah she's a toad now but everything else is true lol Thanks for advice | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 10:58 AM |
| 4 | What's her angle?Thanks for everyone advice that's what I figured she was up to, but the question is does this hurt me in court if her side goes look mom wanted to meet with him and he refused | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 01:45 AM |
| 4 | What's her angle?We're both broke now, and make 60k each no big money here for anyone | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 12:43 AM |
| 5 | What actually gets someone in trouble during divorce process?Nothing don't expect family court to right any wrongs, get in and get out as fast as possible fight for your kids and leave with the money lost | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/24 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Anyone ever filed and had second thoughts?After my stbx filed she tried these games I said that sounds good we should be living separately feel free to leave and she did end up leaving shortly after lol, I hated that house bought it for her but I ended up almost wanting to stay after she left it was nice | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/24 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Advocate for yourself.100% dad 50% of the time trumps 50% dad 100% of the time. Perfect example crazy ex would fight with me anytime I bought child anything everything has to be used, clothes toys everything used because that's what she had growing up. Now I buy her whatever I want and we have a blast shopping | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/24 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Advocate for yourself.I gotta kind of agree, I love it. Get to be a kickass father 50% of the time and I've flourished in my career without that extra dead weight stealing my energy | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/24 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Hostile ex and sick toddlerYea after 18 months of the divorce and judge and GAL eyes roll, and daid she has no evidence for her claims. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/24 11:34 AM |
| 1 | Hostile ex and sick toddlerThat's exactly how I feel wow thank you | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/24 03:29 AM |
| 2 | If I get a temp 50/50 custody order and visitation signed off on a judge can I leave the house?No because then the house is her leverage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/24 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Spending during divorceIt depends on the state, in my state everything is up for negotiation until the day the decree is signed, the judge has a lot of leeway on that stuff so far he's very fair tho | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/24 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Equitable Property States and Premarital to Marital Primary Residence and DivorceYou should never have added her to title, she'll get half equity now. Don't give her anything without talking to a lawyer first | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/24 11:03 AM |
| 4 | Need to vent.You're gonna keep paying CS for awhile then you file against her for full custody stating you have had the majority of the kids the majority of the time especially if you have in writing that she can't house all of them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/24 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Parenting Time (IL)Been in IL courts for 18 months so far my judge, GAL and everyone involved is very fair, stbx stomps her feet and expects because she's "mom" she gets her way, don't accept 1 day less then 50/50. In the beginning we had an agreement in OFW calendar to do 223 then she thought she was smart by saying no more 50/50 call my lawyer so I filed against her emergency order within two days I had court order from judge granting me 50/50. The only thing that's very broken in IL is the process that lawyers … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/24 11:39 PM |
| 1 | In Texas, question about child support.Your very right, my stbx agreed to the 50/50 in the beginning now she's spent 30k trying to take it away and every hearing same thing over and over again, status quo is 50/50 and hasn't changed since day 1 of divorce at this point keep dragging it along it'll be 2 years of 50/50 when we finally settled and she'll have no leg to stand on | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/24 02:13 AM |
| 1 | STBX will not give upHer losing streak continues, judge told her no reason for a 604b, you've been doing 50/50 for over a year and basically said her allegation have no merit and then her lawyers fought with judge again, it was a zoom hearing and her lawyer decided to show up at the courthouse then tried to get into the courtroom and judge instructed the bailiff not to let them inside the court it was crazy. Then GAL said her allegations have no merit and thinks we're close to a settlement, and told judge mom agreed… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/24 02:10 AM |
| 5 | Jobless and soon to be divorcedCould be worse hopefully with no kids and not much to fight about it's over quickly | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/24 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Do most women not love like men or just not capable of loving anyone but themselves?Same reason why a man would marry a woman who works at McDonald's because they like her but the opposite would NEVER happen. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/24 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Barely survivingFind a hobby I got into basketball again playing with work mates almost everyday at lunch it's a blast | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/24 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Ex starting drama about how I ignore her fianceI feel like this is the way | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/24 03:40 PM |
| 3 | Divorcing a literal crazy woman. Any advice??If you have kids, may God have mercy on your soul gonna be a LONG divorce if you don't have kids and you're not a millionaire just hire the lawyer and weather the storm it won't be that bad. Women like that even if you give them EXACTLY what they want they still won't be happy | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/24 12:24 AM |
| 3 | STBX will not give upTrial already set for October 5th, last ditch effort on her side to delay the trial or get some ammunition. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 01:47 AM |
| 3 | Prepare for DivorceIt's always about the kids that's the real fight unless you're a millionaire | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 12:26 AM |
| 2 | Pretrial orderA order is something that the judge ordered and lawyers wrote up.. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Walking out of a judicial settlement conference, could it possibly make things worse?Judge not going to punish you for not being agreeable | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 09:57 PM |
| 5 | I make double what she does, I pay no support @ 50/50 custodyIt won't be hard for her to get CS it is what it is just files and income is provided and she'll get it fairly quickly | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 05:32 PM |
| 9 | STBX will not give upYup sadly I'll take option one, caved to her every single time for almost a decade time to try something new. You can't win if you're afraid of losing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 04:37 PM |
| 3 | My wife wants a divorceWhen was the last time she worked? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 10:55 PM |
| 6 | Litigious ex-wifeSign up for OFW and block everything else no more calls, and everything in the app documented and recorded if needed by attorneys | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 12:07 PM |
| 7 | Ex moved out left kid’s things in disarray.Taking furniture or blenders or jewelry or TVs didn't bother me what bothered me is taking all my child's things out of boxes they literally took everything off my daughter and boxed it up and mind you were doing 50/50 so my daughters was gonna come home to an empty house and they didn't give a fuck, divorce makes people evil. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 01:10 AM |
| 8 | Ex moved out left kid’s things in disarray.My crazy stbx did the same thing showed up with three pickup trucks and two handguns and let me know they were concealed carrying that day, I made sure to take our child to her grandma's house before I called the police and the police made them leave empty handed. So sick some people are. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Is it scary to go to court?It's like the DMV where strangers who have too much to do and little time on their hands make HUGE decisions that have major implications on your life but usually it's pretty straight forward | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 12:43 AM |
| 2 | No contest divorceNever understood that why spend all that money when in the end it ain't far off from what it was in the beginning | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 11:55 PM |
| 1 | No contest divorceMan can't believe some people are sane and amicable and just want to move on, meanwhile my stbx dies on the hill with every fork | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 11:54 PM |
| 3 | Beginning or end?I'm 14 months into the actual divorce process but 18 months into the divorce, if this doesn't get settled in 4 months we'll be divorcing longer then we were actually married. I've come to a point where it's just life now, nothing upsets me or bothers me just another day another check to write. Use to live and die on everything single hearing now it's like a long day at the DMV. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Near death by 1000 cuts. But I survived 15 years and a 3 year divorce process. Talk from the other side.Love it, how is she doing now may I ask lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 09:20 PM |
| 1 | So Many QuestionsProb not screwed at all with alimony half the length of the marriage, her income will be imputed prob won't be that much. Pre marital debt is hers to keep. Just get a lawyer and file, it won't be that bad no assets no kids short term marriage, what makes divorce expensive is assets and kids to fight over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 07:35 PM |
| 7 | Got paparazzi’ed at a restaurantI doubt it will change anything will def not change anything in the courts that's for sure no one cares that you're sitting next to a female at a bar lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 07:30 PM |
| 1 | **Updated**This post here made me remember I use play out fake scenarios in my head where she was gonna "wake up" and beg for me to come back and I realized it's been so long since I thought about those scenarios thank God | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 01:00 AM |
| 5 | No fight leftThese games are designed to do one thing get you to QUIT and RUN but guess what not today, you need to stand and fight | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/24 11:05 PM |
| 2 | I Understand why more men are homelessNever again didn't wanna do it the first time but I had a child who changed my life completely so I can't complain | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 03:12 AM |
| 1 | I Understand why more men are homelessMan must be nice | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 03:11 AM |
| 2 | Any tips on doing an inventory on marital assets?At least you had some semblance of agreement my stbx won't discuss ANYTHING without lawyer being in front of the judge, refuse to agree to ANYTHING until judge orders it, MAN can't wait till this is over | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 02:09 AM |
| 3 | Any tips on doing an inventory on marital assets?Wish I went this route I moved soooooo much crap my condo is full of nonsense | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Any tips on doing an inventory on marital assets?But what the value yea we paid $2500 for bedroom set but it's worth $500 used | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Any tips on doing an inventory on marital assets?I wondered this too, my ex tried to force me to sell everything In house when she moved out like what $2000 in used furniture and kitchen utensils like I'm a flea market or something | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 01:16 AM |
| 2 | Court tomorrow! Emergency. Need legal advice.OUTSTANDING | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 05:43 PM |
| 26 | Campsite ObservationsYup, reminds me of when I was on a vacation with my daughter and were sitting on pool chairs by kids pool eating chips and having a ball and the couple nest to us the husband goes oh honey let me move the stuff off your chair so you can lay down, and she goes I can't lay down because you won't watch our kid. The awful dejected look the husband had ouch I remember those moments | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 01:21 AM |
| 3 | Something I just sawYea don't let her "friend" sell it, I got conned into her picking the realtor and then they tried to sell it for 40% less then market to "anonymous person" which I'm almost certain was her family, they went as far as made a fake email with my name on it saying I emailed realtor and said it's fine to sell it almost half the value. I caught wind of it because the broker wasn't involved and called me asking why I would want to see it so cheap, and I said uh no way in hell I'd sell for that. Idk wha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Divorce guidance w/out legalTell me about it I've spent 15k like water, thank God in the first 6 Months he never answered the phone unless we had court date or he needed crucial information, otherwise that bill would be 30k like my stbx is, I was calling him every time my crazy ex farted | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Divorce guidance w/out legalLucky bastard | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 10:57 PM |
| 4 | Mental stamina15 months into divorce here been doing court ordered 50/50 for over a year, and she refuses to give up, and settle for temp order. After like 7-8 months the novelty of divorce has worn off, I no longer get worked up or stressed out or lose my cool or let anything she does or this court system does affect me. It's all nonsense, bleed out the hog until one of you sobers up and ends it or you both run out of money. You gotta play chicken, and play your opponent. Just keep turning down offers that a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 10:30 PM |
| 8 | “It’s better to die on your white horse than to fall “Lol they all do stbx filed and her lawyer and her all of a sudden I was a millionaire despite being a "loser" our whole relationship | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Court tomorrow! Emergency. Need legal advice.Geez that's stressful sorry man | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Court tomorrow! Emergency. Need legal advice.Any update? Did you hear anything yet? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Final mediation before trialThe money isn't a factor, CS in my state only really kicks in at least then 40% parenting time, she's a very controlling and angry person. Who wants to "win" | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 10:56 PM |
| 3 | Final mediation before trialShe's very controlling and craves power, and she's going to "win", that's ok I stood on my hill and said not today I won't back down, I'm so proud of myself a decade with her I ALWAYS backed down to her ALWAYS, I want to set the tone for the next 16 years that I won't let her control and bully me anymore. I thought for sure I'd back down and I surprised myself, feels great. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 12:18 PM |
| 2 | Final mediation before trialThank you my lawyer agrees, we have a GAL and the GAL and her lawyer keep getting in shouting matches because my ex wife keeps sending him craziness he told her to shut up in a nice way over email the last time she sent a crazy email. Now her side is threatening to motion to remove him and force a 604b and delay trial 6 months. We have a trial date set for October 5th. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Final mediation before trialUpdate: we reached an impasse at I would get every weekend, so would be 6/8 every two weeks in her favor I turned it down. We've been doing 50/50 court ordered for over a year. What's everyone think? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 08:54 PM |
| 5 | I figured out that the divorce really is my fault but it’s not what I thought it would be. A lesson learnedYea this was my problem as well zero boundaries did everything for her and she controlled everything, and when we had a child I tried to set boundaries with her and then she went Nuclear | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/24 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Court tomorrow! Emergency. Need legal advice.How did this go let us know!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/24 07:32 PM |
| 2 | How do you all deal with false allegations?It's sick that women will stoop so low to attempt to "win" and get money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 04:41 PM |
| 1 | What to do when wife has checked out from the marriage?Well I'm not gonna kick you when you're down but that's really awful of you. Anyways, just because you were an asshole when she was pregnant doesn't mean you don't have rights as a father, she won't get sole anything, you'll will get as much time and decision making power with your child as you fight for. As far as seeing your child now, do you have an attorney? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 12:05 PM |
| 10 | She has HIVThat's awful, but yes she cheated, thankfully she did not not pass it to you or your children, I would get a DNA test done as well sadly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 11:59 AM |
| 5 | I keep attracting women with mental health issuesThis is most likely the cause, toxic narcissists are amazing at finding victims like they have a radar. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 03:30 AM |
| 1 | How long did you process take .. just started mineI'm in IL and it's been 13 months since filing but we have a child, Im sure would be faster without kids and short term marriage | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 03:23 AM |
| 2 | I keep attracting women with mental health issuesChildhood has A LOT to do with this | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 03:19 AM |
| 3 | When she is comfortable, but the marriage is terrible. How did you break the news?Nah fuck that, the hell on earth I've been going through for the last 18 months is worth it, she was terrible soul sucking | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 03:17 AM |
| 2 | Red flags in possible future wives!Everyone she dated or was friends with or worked with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 03:14 AM |
| 17 | Red flags in possible future wives!Oh man could I name a few, Long history of broken relationships with friends family. Never ever takes responsibility for any of their actions every job they get fired from its someone else's fault, every fight with friends or family theyre the assholes. Constant paranoia someone is out to get them, my mom brings over pizza how dare she being over food that's because she hates my cooking. Constant contest to whose doing "better" in life. I'll never forget when I got passed over for a promotion, "… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 03:13 AM |
| 2 | Red flags in possible future wives!BINGO I was not ready for marriage we were not ready to have a child and not ready to buy a house we did all those things in our first year married. Divorce was filed within 2 years | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Maintenance / Support illinoisThey always do that, her lawyer has a template for filing and she just puts in the names, she wont get attorneys fee paid unless she's not working. My wife's petition said CS lifetime alimony and covering her lawyer fees and she makes more then me and we were married for two years lol it's nonsense | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/24 12:08 PM |
| 4 | Confused about mediation and hiring a lawyer? Do both?If I had a dollar every time a wife said she wanted the divorce to be amicable and it wasn't I'd be filthy rich, amicable means you bend over and take it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/24 08:54 PM |
| 5 | Confused about mediation and hiring a lawyer? Do both?Ok, if she's a lawyer there is ZERO chance you can have a collaborative divorce just hire a lawyer and get the process started. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/24 08:34 PM |
| 3 | daughter prefers momIt's hard my daughter has always been DADDYS girl it drove my ex nuts, she'd constantly blame me like I can alienate a 2 year old it's because I was a stay at home dad until she was 18 months old, now this summer she's with mom more because she doesn't work in the summer, so now lately I'll get a few I want mommy when she's upset it's hard really fucking hard but usually she knows what she's doing because she'll cry she wants mommy then I'll give in and she'll smile and say I'm your princess, sh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/24 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Visitation Hearing WednesdayJust checking in how did you do? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 11:32 AM |
| 11 | Collaborative Divorce failureThe only time that works is when the man is just giving her everything, or she's knee deep in some new dick. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 11:29 AM |
| 9 | Advice neededNah don't even talk to her she's playing games | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/24 05:20 AM |
| 4 | Going to join the clubJust remember this is a marathon, it's a war of attrition. Don't ever get too high or too low, and start from the mindset the worst thing is going to happen and work from that mindset to prevent it. This is chess no checkers | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/24 03:38 AM |
| 5 | Advice neededMan that's nuts in the end it means absolutely nothing | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/24 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Why drag custody?Yea it's a marathon of stress and emotion but after awhile you get used to it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Why drag custody?And dont even put much stock into anything even if you agree in mediation until it's signed sealed delivered, I went to mediation spent 10 hours $4000 and had full parenting plan done, mediator even gave us both 48 hours to think it over and call to confirm we were still in agreement we both agreed after 48 two weeks later her lawyer went in front of judge and said she doesn't want it anymore | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 10:13 PM |
| 3 | Why drag custody?Mediation is only the tip of the spear, you got a long road ahead rarely does custody mediation work, it's more a psych out until the real mediation happens pre trial. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Why drag custody?Don't talk to her anymore seriously it can only hurt you stick to logistics about kids let the lawyers deal with that stuff, she doesn't want to talk about it because she's in battle mode and you should be too, she is not your friend anymore | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 10:04 PM |
| 3 | At a lossYup my stbx was told over and over again to stop that behavior by our marriage counselor but she didn't care. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 05:18 PM |
| 7 | At a lossTrust me, this sounds EXACTLY like me, same games same emotional unstable, after these type of things happen where she freaks out does she tell her family what you did mine would do that, then show me the text of them all shitting on me. Rip off that bandaid your kid is young they adjust been doing 223 with my three year old daughter she loves it we have a ball, but be prepared she will fight and fight hard for majority parenting time and a fat check every month, get ready for a slew of flash ac… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 04:57 PM |
| 1 | STBXW got part time job, I am still without.. but made more.. how will alimony work?They're just gonna say you need to get a job and your last tax return was x amount and base off of that. They don't care if you're actively working they're just gonna grab those w2s | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 04:44 PM |
| 8 | It is FINALWhen the hens start pecking they think they're gonna find a 40 year old banker and take them around the world | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 01:30 PM |
| 5 | Do you wish her happy birthday?I told mine happy mother's day in a message I didn't get a happy father's day tho | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 01:29 PM |
| 20 | Is my wife cheating?I don't even need to read past she deleted the texts if she deleted the texts there's a reason lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 12:09 AM |
| 7 | Anyone else ever get intense anxiety when they get an email from their lawyer?You get used to that crazy shit, I get more anxiety from seeing the nutcase woman | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/24 11:57 PM |
| 3 | Ex moving in w/BF, our kids, his kids - and lots of liesAin't a thing you can do id just ignore it | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 05:56 PM |
| 9 | Does "perjury" actually have any teeth?That's all nonsense no one gets in trouble for that stuff especially women | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Altering child supportThat doesn't seem right, if she makes 30k you make 45k is that what you mean? Run that calculator because at that patenting time you wouldn't pay anywhere near that | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Altering child supportDo you double her income? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Altering child supportI'd run the numbers and see if it's even worth it especially if the kids are older | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Discouraged after 18 months trying to get divorced.Exactly, mine did that in mediation then week later said nah I wanna go back for more I said no and set trial date | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Holding opposing lawyers accountableSet trial date | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 06:40 PM |
| 12 | From love to disgustWhen you're going through hell keep going. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 11:25 PM |
| 4 | Real life NarcissistsWell some think I'm gonna be full time single.mom and dad can go away that's why my stbx thinks, mine said in mediation I still want him to be apart of her life lol i.laughrd and said see ya in court | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Where to go?Don't leave your house just ignore her she started trying to fight leave and come back later, another trick is have your parents or brother or sister whatever come over EVERYday, my mom wanted to come over every day during our marriage but I stopped her to appease my wife I open the flood gates once she filed my.mom was literally at my house 90% of the time I was home | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 04:27 PM |
| 3 | How much money did you lose during the process of divorce?Luckily only 12k so far trial date set for October, ex has spent 25k but that's because her lawyer will absolutely not talk at all outside of court room with my lawyer | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Changing from Amicable to at-fault50/50 is a lose to. woman in their mind | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Planning for life after divorce. My perspective.Man, wish I moved states. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Changing from Amicable to at-faultJust die on that 50/50 hill and make it clear the judge will make the final decision if she won't compromise. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Planning for life after divorce. My perspective.Did you get 50/50? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 06:15 PM |
| 6 | My Ex just got her first child support payment and wants me to write her a check for more money.Just ignore it lol nothing she can do now | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Arguing/Bickering How will this affect custody decision?Do not argue with her if she says something crazy or angry or mean respond to what NEEDED to be answered otherwise IGNORE, my attorney told me you don't need to respond to her craziness keep your mouth shut | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 04:54 PM |
| 0 | Missing my boysWell of course that's what she wants, it's all about $$$$ | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 09:03 PM |
| 2 | Missing my boysShe makes slightly more than me and we both work full time, this has been going on for over a year 50/50, dragging it out. I'm not conceding anything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Missing my boysHow important is that status quo temp order? In your opinion but I know it varies state by state but I've been doing 50/50 temp order through the custody battle judge ordered and her side tried attacking it multiple times now and judge stands firm against them and constantly yelling at her two lawyers her lawyers are now fighting with the GAL who sides with me and judge and she just refuses to end this, I live 5 mins away from ex she's in her parents house I have a rental house now, child is 3 w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 05:55 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with been physically terrified of marrying my girlfriendStory time, I had this feeling in my gut too, and I just threw caution to the wind, got married and she wanted to start having kids IMMEDIATELY knocked her up on wedding night, bought her a house less then a year later, within weeks of moving into new house she changed drastically made me do everything for our daughter refused to do anything, started huge fights with everyone tried to get me to cut my family out of my life specifically my mom, I finally grew a backbone and pushed back within mon… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 05:36 PM |
| 27 | Are there women that are devastated by divorce like we are?Here's the thing women are AMAZING at lying to themselves and creating false narratives in their head, so even when they are struggling they prob still think they're doing good. And mental illness is much more accepted when it comes to women, man does something crazy and he's a monster who gets supervised visitation woman does something crazy and oh shes got post partum | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 05:25 PM |
| 4 | About to make my retainer deposit. In the case it’s speedy, can anyone tell me if they’ve ever had trouble getting the unused funds back from the attorney?LOL that's what I thought, two retainers later were still going | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 10:47 AM |
| 2 | Made a tough, but necessary decision today.Man so similar, only difference is her parents aren't willing to help her, my lawyer is so done with her immature brat he calls her and her lawyer just laugh and file all the crazy stuff she says and charge her away, she yelled at her lawyer in court the other day. She now has two layers at every hearing and my attorney thinks they're gonna cut and run soon they have a history of doing that at this point when their client doesn't listen. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/06/24 01:34 AM |
| 2 | Made a tough, but necessary decision today.Almost identical to my situation trial requested and her lawyers told the judge our client wants to continue mediating and try again, judge said he wants trial. It's been a year, jokes on my stbx she has already been milked for $25k and I spent $7500 | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/24 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Heard ex on phone trying to turn my daughter against meWe're at about 25k between me and the crazy person and 1 year in so hopefully this gets done by Christmas so many opportunities for.this to be solved and all she wants to do is fight fight fight | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/24 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Mediation next week. Any tips?Forget all the rest most important and most costly things to litigate is children get that nailed down in writing the rest who cares short ish term marriage | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/24 05:37 PM |
| 4 | Is concealing assets on divorce interrogatory a crime in california ?Courts don't give a fuck it's all for show and nonsense, unless she's hiding a million dollars or something egregious it won't matter subpoena and get records and force judgement, the whole system is severely broken. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/24 11:59 AM |
| 1 | Update to her leavingLol they don't care lawyers love my ex crazy bitch wants to light money on fire | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/24 10:34 PM |
| 7 | Is it better to call her out with her BS or stay quiet and keep the peace?If she's just an idiot it's just gonna cause a fight if she's doing it on purpose then she gets what she wants your attention and to fight with you. Lose lose | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/24 07:49 PM |
| 9 | My Ex wants to adjust her income to $0 on CS calculatorYou have a divorce so amicable she can try and swindle you over text to increase your support AND she got you to agree to see your kids only 30% of the time?!? Dude time to sack up and fight dunno why you didnt right the first time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 10:11 AM |
| 1 | Facing Divorce & Child Custody - QuestionsCALL A LAWYER IMMEDIATELY LIKE YESTERDAY | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 01:44 AM |
| 1 | I "make" $11.05 per hour".Exes who are those "trust the experts" type are good eatings for divorce lawyers motion after motion after motion thankfully it's zoom here and it only cost couple hundred bucks when my lawyer says that's stupid and motion gets dropped, my attorney and I estimate she's in for about 20k to her lawyer and I've spent 7k to mine | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 12:08 AM |
| 2 | Wife says she wants a divorce, and full custody of our 5 month oldYou gotta remember men aren't going to their dad and venting about everything, women do so women shit on their husband ALL the time to their mothers sisters friends , and women respond by saying you can do better eventually they think they can and they leave and the grass especially when they have kids is rarely greener | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/24 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Massachusetts questionsNo you can't, why let her see it bothers you I'd walk up to him and be nice and walk away it'll blow her mind | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 10:25 PM |
| 12 | How to forgiveNever forgive, just forget and not care anymore | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Psychological assessment gone wrongHaven't had this yet but have a GAL and my stbx going first hurt her, he said she's very emotional and has a lot of fear in her mind. Essentially danced around that he can tell she's crazy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 08:04 PM |
| 7 | Ex wants me back or playing on guilt?Man Yall had some nice exes I was told I was an abusive monster lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 07:42 PM |
| 4 | Therapy Sesh Monday Doesn't Come Soon EnoughDon't try and reason with crazy women during a divorce it's like getting mad at a snake that bites you just ignore her shit and tell your family to cut ties with her no more talking or commingling, you're getting divorced it's over. Your kids are old enough to have their own opinions they will see her being a dumpster fire | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 05:37 PM |
| 4 | Wife says she wants a divorce, and full custody of our 5 month oldEXACTLY what happened to me, has the kid she got PTSD post partum all the adjectives, claimed she'd be better if we bought a house instead of renting, so we bought a house less then a year later she filed after putting me through HELL joke was on her she thought she could file and get all the money and keep the house, claiming the house there was no equity I called a realtor and sold it for 60k more than we had on mortgage, that got split after all the fees and realtors crap made enough to pay s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 05:28 PM |
| 6 | Wife says she wants a divorce, and full custody of our 5 month oldThey always come on strong let the lawyer deal with it, all these women get hypes up from their friends who talk like it's 1968 and men get divorced and live in 1 bedroom studio and see their kids once a month and finance mommy's boy toy spree | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 05:15 PM |
| 4 | Wife says she wants a divorce, and full custody of our 5 month oldThey all do that, mine said I'd owe her half my salary in child support and alimony and alimony for life, 2 year marriage and she own earns me so that was funny, she told me she holds all the cards, I'd get to see our daughter few days a month and she's gonna keep the house without paying me any equity. My favorite was I'm a millionaire hiding money, her lawyer is still playing that game, meanwhile I make 27 bucks a hour lol and literally live off CCs paying for lawyers. Meanwhile it's been a ye… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 05:13 PM |
| 4 | Getting Bought OutSounds like you got this on lock good stuff get it done | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/24 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Getting Bought OutI wouldn't let her keep house before custody is determined it can be used against you in custody battle | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/24 10:01 PM |
| 2 | My First Real WTF Incident with XW. How would you handle?Omg dude my ex is a habitual line stepper lmfao | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 12:29 AM |
| 1 | What is the worst that can happen?If she wants 50/50 custody get it in writing asap and get your ass back on the house immediately | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/24 03:44 PM |
| 8 | Took my kids to surprise their Mom at work for Mother's Day; Big MistakeIs this the lead up to the divorce or are you divorcing? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/24 10:39 PM |
| 3 | Early divorceYea Neve doing that shit again, I don't see any reason to live with a woman again, you can come hang out spend the night maybe the weekend but this isn't a hotel see ya later | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/24 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Manifesting and excited to spread my wings as a true single father of two toddlers.Oh good awesome keep fighting for 50/50 | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/24 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Manifesting and excited to spread my wings as a true single father of two toddlers.Well honestly 30% isn't gonna be that hard, 50% might be tho | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/24 10:01 PM |
| 5 | Manifesting and excited to spread my wings as a true single father of two toddlers.You have a uphill battle ahead of you, I wish you all the best | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/24 09:39 PM |
| 3 | Getting close to the year markGeez man I'm almost at a year mark and I'm 10k in, thank God everything could always be worse in life, I wish you the best | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/24 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Marriage insurance for menI wanna frame the petition but my lawyer took it, it made me sound like a millionaire businesses magnate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 02:53 PM |
| 4 | What am I not seeing here?It's over man move on start getting your shit together and file | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 02:52 PM |
| 9 | Marriage insurance for menIf everytime you got into your car there was a 50% chance you'd wreck it, you wouldn't be insurable lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 12:39 PM |
| 1 | It’s never enough for them…Same with my state, then when you file you both agree you were separated | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 11:30 AM |
| 3 | It’s never enough for them…Idk why people Always say this we had to be separated to file stuff it's not true, the lawyers will pretend you were once papers are signed | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/24 11:43 PM |
| 10 | Wife is falsely building a case against me alleging domestic abuseIt's all horseshit, when my divorce ramped up and we still lived together immediately when she started to fight with me or say anything to me that wasn't basic stuff I would leave immediately go for a ride and see a family member to document where I was. When it was my time with our child I would take her with me. Ignore ignore ignore only talk via text or parenting app, my lawyer told me no one ever got in trouble for keeping their mouth shut. Give them nothing they got nothing. After my crazy … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Why bother with mediation / settlement if a judge will just assign 50/50?That's what happens, mine did same shit mediator was calling her out like crazy then got her to agree then she backed out anyways waste of $5000 | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/24 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Legal separation vs divorce - could use some thoughts.No just no, why would she want a separation? She strengthen her position or make it better for HER not you or your kids, file and start the war | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/24 02:10 AM |
| 4 | Dropping bombs well after the factWhy? Then she knows you care the opposite of.love is indifference I treat that witch as a stranger on the bus we ran into each other recently and I pretended she didn't exist | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/24 02:09 AM |
| 5 | Why bother with mediation / settlement if a judge will just assign 50/50?Let me know when the trauma wears off and my ex becomes rational bitch is still crazy after a year in court lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/24 10:39 PM |
| 3 | Why do they look sad?Exactly, like my stbx started wearing her wedding ring again and tried to get me to see it by pointing at things at doctors office with it on like I give a fuck lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/24 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Why bother with mediation / settlement if a judge will just assign 50/50?Good question sound like my situation, been going back and forth in legal system for almost a year now, agreed to do 50/50 and she moved out then her lawyer refused to discuss ANYTHING with my lawyer except in front of the judge she just files nonsense motions finally went to custody mediation after 6 months then spent $5000 in mediation had a full parenting plan agreement agreed upon that was 50/50 and then her lawyer went in front of judge and said we don't have an agreement and she doesn't ag… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/24 10:31 PM |
| 8 | Sometimes you win oneWomen should do some research on divorce many many many men end up like this and the woman ends up begging and alone | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/24 12:21 AM |
| 4 | Dating app suggestions?Isn't that like 90% hookers too | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 01:55 AM |
| 1 | I’m just sad.Wow are you me? Wife has child then after child went from normal level of crazy to I'm gonna kill myself and our child level of crazy and I forced her to get help, she got slightly better with help of medication then her therapist encouraged her to divorce me | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 01:21 AM |
| 3 | Getting Divorced and seeing son only 4 months a year: bad choice?That's never gonna happen maybe maybe summers when the child is older would work but you will have zero real involvement in your child's life, I couldn't never not see my child would be akin to someone removing one of my limps, my daughter is the reason I get up in the morning and the first person I I think about in the morning | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 01:17 AM |
| 1 | How long did your contested divorce take from filing to agreement?Pre trial conf in June will be a year in June | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 01:35 AM |
| 1 | What bucket list items are you planning on doing when you get divorcedSecond the hottub | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 11:16 PM |
| 3 | What bucket list items are you planning on doing when you get divorcedNew car Subaru wrx premium been to the dealer like 15 times they ask me everytime is it final yet lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 10:57 PM |
| 2 | DiscussionLawyers also play a big part in this, I told my ex she needed mental help or I was done, she refused claiming everything is my fault and I said I want a divorce, she met with a lawyer and the lawyer told her the truth split equity in house give me half her big savings and retirement accounts and most likely 50/50 and no CS and alimony she came back and said she wanted to work on our marriage after that meeting. Then months go by and she's not actually working on marriage so i just checked out, s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Divorce has been final for months, I won, but I'm still not at peace.In my experience MIL and Friends of hers are the worst culprits to breakup marriages, my MIL would slam me so hard I'm a loser I'm broke I'm making her crazy, last time.i saw her she looked like she aged 10 years with her crazy daughter living with her lol so glorious, since she filed ive gotten one promotion and on my way to second promotion sadly I started making more then her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/24 01:05 AM |
| 3 | Over for a weekWow not a bad result tbh pretty fair and cheap | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/24 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Officially Divorced! BOOM!No reason to, let the judge hand that out after a very long and expensive trial or she can settle for 50/50 or close to it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/24 12:26 PM |
| 7 | Officially Divorced! BOOM!Your situation is your situation but that's a shit deal lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/24 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Terminating child support paymentsNo only by parenting time increase IF your state calculated it like that | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/24 06:45 PM |
| 1 | I just found out that I’m going to be forced to sell my house and pay around $1,500 monthly for alimony, child support, and health insurance. I only bring home $3,000 every month. How am I going to survive?What state is this? This isn't possible | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/24 06:44 PM |
| 4 | Any stories of amicable separation?I wish my stbx was smart enough, I offered my stbx a deal of a lifetime to avoid a messy divorce, we could have spent $1500 to do actual divorce and she's get to keep her retirement accounts valuables at 20k I'm entitled to half, her savings accounts valued at 30k and I said she could keep the house and 60k equity in the house all I asked for was 5k from her for some cash to get a condo lined up nearby and sign a 50/50 parenting time agreement and id pay for insurance and half of all expenses fo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 11:06 PM |
| 2 | Finalizing Divorce *sigh*Jesus what a mess sorry for your troubles | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Insight into 8/6 overnight scheduleIf the judge will give 6/8, he will give 50/50 keep fighting that's my thought. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Custody undecidedI like it crazy ex talks goofy on there and it's all right there for court | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 10:34 PM |
| 8 | Serial cheater stbxw who i am divorcing is spreading lies about me, what to do?She is going to tell anyone who will listen how awful you are trust me, don't let it bother you, show anyone who doubts you who you are and those that were your "friends" or "family" who believe her horseshit cut them out like a cancer ASAP don't trust anyone who would listen to her. Solidify your base those that are loyal to you and got your back remember them after all this is over with, those are your real people. People who I thought were my real people turned out to be fakes and some that I… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 12:16 PM |
| 2 | Promotion adviceWho knows, I had her in writing agreeing to everything a month ago and just needed signatures and judges stamp and it would be done but she backed out and prolonged the fighting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 01:35 AM |
| 2 | Promotion adviceLuckily I was the lower earner in the marriage by a ton so even if I got to 50% raise by 5 years she would still make the same, maybe more I'd have to look at her contract. No alimony short term marriage. If I don't take it and say change my mind if it's still available by July or August I'd lose out on the 10% raise, the position is guaranteed 10% raise by contract because of inflation but only if I take it before July. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 01:26 AM |
| 8 | She wants a reaction out of me so badThat's what they do, mine always tries to get reactions I just smile and keep it moving | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/24 09:53 PM |
| 4 | When your child thinks you've abandoned themAmen, glad to see a fighter come out the other end. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/24 12:07 PM |
| 3 | Things seem like a mess…This is it right? Your moment in life, your moment to stand and fight, time to see what you're really made of, put that alcohol down and don't touch it again that's not you anymore, you're a fighter now, you don't quit until you get what's best for your children's or someone in a robe decides for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/24 12:05 PM |
| 3 | My wife is probably going to ask for a divorce tonight.If a woman wanted to know where you're at in your marriage then she is already done | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/24 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Is Fighting for 75% custody worth it or likely?(mental/emotional abuse)She ain't moving you'll be paying the mortgage lol don't be stupid don't move out | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Is Fighting for 75% custody worth it or likely?(mental/emotional abuse)Moving out is a huge no no don't do it, go for 50/50 don't leave | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 07:20 PM |
| 12 | Stop the InsanityRight exactly, you say no hunny taking our two year old to your sister's and coming back at 11pm is not good is not controlling lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 05:21 PM |
| 6 | Broken taillightsI would tell her to fix it your babies are in that car but that's just me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Broken taillightsBroken as they don't work or just cracked? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/24 10:43 PM |
| 1 | EasterMines doing strange stuff, started wearing her wedding ring again, after not wearing it for over a year | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/24 02:25 AM |
| 13 | Silver BulletDon't be stupid, her coming back is just a countdown to when she leaves again and has it planned out better this time | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/24 02:23 AM |
| 7 | Love you guysHaving an awful day family came over, no daughter here just parents really awful day | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/24 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone had an ex diagnosed with schizophrenia?Eh, if they're in "treatment" and a woman it doesn't mean anything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Simply married the wrong personThank God we just had one child. She was worth it tho | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 01:11 PM |
| 11 | She filed for divorce, but now wants to call it offThe ONLY reason a woman wants to drop a divorce is, the grass wasn't greener and she is better off financially with you, finalize and move on DO NOT TAKE HER BACK, it'll be worse and far more costly in 5 years | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 12:42 AM |
| 4 | Ex targeting oldest son with DCFS allegationsMan that's sickening I'm sorry you're going through this | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/24 02:48 AM |
| 2 | What do the serve papers say ?And don't get mad or upset about what it says don't even read it hand to your lawyer and move on, they're gonna ask for EVERYTHING and make you seem like a millionaire in that nonsense | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/24 02:06 AM |
| 2 | What's craziest thing your stbx didWhen you run the password recovery it gives few numbers of recovery phone but that doesn't match anything she has or her family but could have bought a burner | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/24 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Mediation is a jokeYes, fight fight fight then compromise then fight then get tired of fighting and settle and move on | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/24 01:26 AM |
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter