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| 7 | Keep seeing this questionIt can also happen when a woman feels unprotected and unsafe. If she has to fight her way through life without anyone to lean to she naturally has to turn more masculine in order to survive and she might either turn completely shut off in her own masculine energy or she can become kind of needy for masculine energy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/23 09:11 PM |
| -1 | Shows signs of investment, then double-ghosts me? After 4 great datesJust ask her what happened and if everything is ok. She will either excuse and give some explanation. Depending on her answer you either continue some conversation (e.g. if she gives a sincere explanation you can ask more questions, but try to not be overbearing) end the conversation soon, after few texts. Don't show any of the "I thought you like me", it is weird, because particularly she seemed to like you, so the probability is very high that it has nothing to do with you, or she started to h… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/10/23 08:45 PM |
| 13 | Anyone is beyond the Wall and no results?(+30)I just read that you don't want to date anymore. Anyway all of the advice will also make your life "after the wall" more pleasant and enjoyable. Really stop this negativity. Stop looking at what you don't have. Please. Start being modest. Look at the character flaws your father has, was he loving towards you? Stop idealising your father and start appreciating men with different qualities... More warm hearted? Perfect! More family oriented? Perfect! More interested in culture, history, nature? Pe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 05:37 PM |
| 16 | Anyone is beyond the Wall and no results?(+30)If after weeks you only have one message in your inbox, then something with your profile and pictures is wrong. Very wrong. That is easy to be changed, even if it might mean that for better pictures you need to hire someone that can bring out the best. Reveal a bit sexyness. Try not to be too sincere and dry. You need to go to different places, where you can meet people that interact based on different reasons than dating. So you can casually get in touch with all kind of different people, diffe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Very into a coworker, what do I do?From time to time, maybe once every two weeks, you can pretend that you have something to do in his area at his working hours and somehow find an excuse to show up or linger around with a cup of coffee. Invent something that makes it kind of obvious to him that you are trying to hang around him but where you can always claim that it meant nothing when things turn out to be weird. He should and probably will take the lead from there if he is interested. I think it is not something that will happe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/23 03:09 PM |
| 3 | UnappreciatedThe question is never "am I justified in my feels". Of course you are. Something is missing for you and it shows in the title. You feel unappreciated. The question is however not whether you now have the right to feel anger and sadness. It is normal that you feel disappointed. However, what do you want to do about it? How do you want to communicate to your partner what you need so that you feel appreciated? You cannot undo these two days. But you can tell him that it made you feel invisible and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/23 12:09 PM |
| 1 | How to come to terms with male sexuality?I agree. But he married you which probably means that he actually wants to build something and does not understand that he is mislead by the "enjoy the decline" trends. If he thinks so, then let him know that he can lead himself into the decline but you are not following because you want to build something beautiful and lasting with him. It is up to him if he wants to join or not. If you take your vow seriously then you need to wake him up. Take the lead in that situation. He will thank you late… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/23 02:26 PM |
| 5 | Was it me?Thank you! But I think you described the manipulative part very clear while I did not concentrate much on that aspect. In the end it probably breaks down to a very childish attitude, as in "I were such a family oriented guy, if the world were not such a feminist place. Some women have build feminism. You are a woman, so I hurt you for what other women did because you woman are at fault for me feeling lost and frustrated and hateful against the world." OP, when you look at it closer you will see … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/23 02:18 PM |
| 8 | Was it me?Hey, I would really like to hug you and send you some comfort. I think I can understand your confusion quite well. I have been there myself and basically asked the same questions. The point is that at the end of all reasoning and theories it always breaks down to two human beings that either can trust and understand each other or not. Despite it being correct that the time right now is more difficult for men than it has been in the past, it is also true that for those women who would like to rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/23 12:28 PM |
| 5 | How to come to terms with male sexuality?It sounds like a massive shit test. Men test differently than women. You cannot win this fight by words. Make him realize that he is going to destroy your family if he follows up with this and help him to get his priorities straight. Or take it with "agree and amplify", talk to him in a sweet voice how you see im in a pool with hundreds of blondes waiting for him, take it to the extreme... Maybe even seduce him from there. Maybe don't take him too serious. I guess most men would have those thoug… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/23 11:46 AM |
| 1 | How would you introduce RP to your daughter? Do you wish you had known about RP at a younger age?I reread what I wrote and had to correct a part... What I meant was of course "guiding but not limiting", as in letting her make her own choices and experiences to learn from instead of being too restrictive. I tried to find the book in English but was not successful and I don't know if it was ever translated. The book I bought is a reprint of the old German text printed in India This one is e.g. the right one but they are quite expensive. https://www.booklooker.de/B%C3%BCcher/Angebote/titel=Das… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/23 11:00 AM |
| 2 | How would you introduce RP to your daughter? Do you wish you had known about RP at a younger age?I just ordered a book called "gift for the bride". It is written in German by E. Girardet and from 1819. Apparently it is letters a mother wrote to her daughter to prepare her for marriage. It is however written by a man. He explains in the forword that he thinks that the luck and happiness of the husband and home lies in the heart of the woman and that this is why he wrote this book, the letters. I find the format intriguing and the first pages are filled with a kindness and love that is rarely… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/23 08:36 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-countFor some people it is very difficult to look behind the surface level. Part of the efficiency in men's thinking is that they mostly look at the results and less at the causes. When we look at other people we never see what happens inside of them, we can only see what they do, but never why or the thoughts behind. Women are more able than men to conclude at the motivation behind certain actions, men are less able. So what he sees is you as a person now, he sees what you do and he sees the mindset… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/23 02:17 PM |
| 8 | I think I’ve been alpha widowed at 3295% of what you think about him and see in him is your interpretation and not real. You need to become aware of this and then let him go. He has only released those ideas in you, but he is not those ideas. And he himself told you that right now he doesn't feel strong enough to match up to you and also provide and care. He needs to take care of himself first before he can be a direction for others. But now you know what you are looking for and how the future might feel for you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/23 10:47 AM |
| 1 | When a girl says she loves you, what she loves is what you do for her, how you make her feel and the lifestyle she's able to participate in by being with you.Unconditional love from man to woman or woman to man is a fairytale in general. A living being acting against its own interest is against live. In modern psychology this would be called co-dependency. There can be sacrificial love and both, men and women, are equally able to it, but sacrificial love usually goes from the stronger towards the weaker or towards something that is holy and needs to be protected (children, family, women, values, country, the tribe). Because the western world has give… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/23 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023Is dropping her a video with OI the same as "fixing"? You can just pass the information about the relationship between depression and cholesterol and leave it to her to try it herself? Maybe one day she will feel so fucking bad that she just tries it... But therefore she needs to know that the possibility exists. But anyway, I did not want to suggest anything just pass the information. It is up to you what you do with it. I just wrote it because the physiological, nutritional aspect in depressio… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/02/23 06:58 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023Food. Tryptophane (can NOT be taken while on SSRIs, but helps after weaning them off), animal fats, butter, lots of eggs, meat, milk, cheese. It is unimaginable how crucial Cholesterol (animal fat!) is for mental (=brain) health. Check out Dr. Bright on Youtube. She has a lot of material on women. Give it a try. It works. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/02/23 06:30 PM |
| 9 | Finally claimedCongratulations! I wish you all the best | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/23 10:03 PM |
| 8 | How can I get my husband to stop doing this?Usually conversations like this go along the line of "you are too sensible". The first step would be from my perspective to simply reenforce the sensibility. "Yes, I am sensible. I am a woman. It hurts when you say those things to me. I don't feel safe with you. I always need to keep my shields up." He does not need to understand why what he does is wrong. He only needs to understand and stop it. For some men I believe it is very difficult to really get the point. I have met someone as well who … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/22 08:29 AM |
| 1 | How can I get my husband to stop doing this?Does this in any way help the OP to find a solution to her problem? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/22 08:12 AM |
| 1 | CheatingI remember a good friend of mine telling her at that time bf and now husband over and over again to be very clear with his ex girlfriend. Apparently she texted him again and again and while he responded occasionally and claimed it was "innocent" it also seemed that he did not understand or did not want to understand that the possibilities where high that his ex was still having hopes. I am not sure if I can believe it because to a woman it seems all too obvious. However he was at least talking t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/22 06:41 PM |
| 1 | CheatingWe don't know what she saw in him or what happened between them when they still met. There probably are other parts that we can't know or see now. What I feel is difficult is that he is already 30. I could understand it better when he was around 20. It seems that he has some lack in awareness how his actions affect you and her and maybe other people in general. Moreover you know after such a short time it should all be new and sparkling and exciting in itself. I could forgive cheating after some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/22 06:16 PM |
| 1 | CheatingI completely understand. It is such an evil thing to do. Particularly since he obviously had his priorities set clearly with you but did not act clear against her. Maybe he felt inferior with you or not good enough. Maybe he wanted to keep her in the loop as a fallback in case things don't go well with the two of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/22 05:32 PM |
| 3 | CheatingI am not sure if this has been mentioned before. But I would also be very concerned about what it says about his character that he is breadcrumbing a woman which apparently is unable to let him go while he is playing games with her hopes. Rewarding her sending him nudes while being disrespectfully ignoring attempts of other conversations. I don't think I would be able to trust someone like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/22 05:23 PM |
| 2 | Pandora's box in strangersI finally have some time to be able to answer. I agree and am not sure why my post was partially so misunderstood. Of course one should show that one is affected. The point is that by requesting justice (as it is so often done by "he should be able to handle it better") completely ignores the fact that man are people too and that they also carry scars from previous experiences. To take this personal will help neither him nor the woman it will just ruin trust. Forgiveness and understanding of his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/22 05:12 PM |
| 0 | My Dad started watching redpill contentI agree that we cannot tell if it is abuse. Simply by the fact that we do not know what she did in this scenario. We have no idea about the history. Do you really believe somebody in a happy marriage with a wife that never caused her husband any pain would start using that words on his wife just because of a YouTuber? 😅 The thing is that all of their interactions have also a foundation in the relationship that they had in the years before. Depending on what she did, his anger might be justified.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/22 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Pandora's box in strangersThank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Pandora's box in strangersExactly and the whole point is of course not to become the punching bag of an insanely raging wolf. But even a perfectly healthy and sane person can have their weak spot, particularly in these times when family values do not matter anymore and particularly the most protective caring and loving men will be the ones who will suffer most. I am glad that you seem to have understood what I tried to say. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 10:37 AM |
| 2 | Pandora's box in strangersThis is exactly the point. It is so easy to be RPW to the idea of a HVM who always protects and never fails. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 09:16 AM |
| 2 | Pandora's box in strangersI am not asking anything | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 09:11 AM |
| 2 | Pandora's box in strangersThe point I was trying to make was that when you meet people e.g. in their 30ies they might carry quite some bagage from previous relationships. I am talking about an otherwise stable and healthy person and of course not about someone who regularly takes out his frustration on others. That would by no means anywhere close to a HVM. Not everybody is able to keep these previous experiences out of a new relationship. Most women cannot and men can also not. When this then happens it can be considere… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 09:10 AM |
| -1 | Pandora's box in strangersSorry 😅🙈 I would ask how to improve but since you said word salad I guess it is hopeless 😅 Did you read the linked article? I only linked it after I have posted the text. Then maybe it makes more sense. Without knowing the concept of Pandora's box you are right, the OP would be unreadable | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/22 11:04 PM |
| 3 | feeling alone in pregnancyHow this will affect her life and the life of the baby is entirely independent on whether it was planned or not planned. Saying that she has to get the child because it was planned almost sounds as if she would need to punish herself for the incorrect decision she made. In principle - if it turns out that he isn't a good father - then it is with respect to the consequences almost the same as as an "ooopsie" baby. What matters most is that children have their biological parents. Both of them. Thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/22 05:48 PM |
| 2 | feeling alone in pregnancyTell him that you love him but seeing him gaming makes you feel unsafe and scared about the future. Don't say more. Do it occasionally again and again. Give him time to wrap his thoughts about a solution. He wanted the baby, now he needs to get over the "shock" that there really will be a baby and that he needs to really step up into his responsibilities. Trust him and in the mean time indeed act as if you are a single mom so that he feels like only playing a side role. The more you can keep it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/22 04:26 PM |
| 2 | Ownership on RP ideas and concepts?Thank you. I was also thinking about linking and then it didn't seem so easy anymore | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/22 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Ownership on RP ideas and concepts?Thank you, that was the clarification what I was hoping for | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/22 05:05 AM |
| 1 | I can't seem to properly console people. Ladies, could you help me?There is the word "containment" that psychology uses which means that one holds the feelings of the other. I like this a lot because to me this is exactly how it feels. Showing the other person that you can understand, validate and hold the feelings of somebody for them while they can give up control for a moment. Providing advice on contrary can often seem like rejecting the feelings somebody has and therefore seem unempathic. Feelings come and go and sometimes they only need to be released in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/22 11:46 AM |
| 2 | how to handle being disrespected in a relationshipThank you for explaining your perspective. To me it is in itself not guilting, however almost all criticism can turn into guilting easily, so I was just wondering where you see the difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/22 07:53 PM |
| 1 | RPW who work- how do you keep cool during the work day?I try to have everything that much in place that moving between places (work, private, outside) becomes easy. I only think about work when I work. I do my best. There is nothing more than I can do. The judgement is on god or life in whichever you believe. I leave it there and do as good as I can. To me particularly the knowledge of having done as good as I could with the best of my knowledge always helps me to feel peace. Because there is only so much one can do and everything else is outside on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/22 07:03 PM |
| 3 | how to handle being disrespected in a relationshipI think it is something worth to be considered and you could act playful, so that it is obvious to him that you are just reverting. Sometimes it is for men not easy to understand how it is to walk in women's shoes. So this twist might help him to understand what he might otherwise not understand. Particularly for an alpha it could be difficult to understand how words can cause harmful feelings. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/22 06:37 PM |
| 2 | how to handle being disrespected in a relationshipOk I think if it is something that happened a while ago then I think it is best to be a bit more careful before you say it and give him the chance to be prepared that something unexpected which he has probably already forgotten will come up as a topic. I would randomly talk about it and not mix it with other situations. You can try it with a cute/sweet voice, saying "honey there is something that you said a while ago but it is still bothering me and I have some questions related to it. Can we ta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/22 06:27 PM |
| 3 | how to handle being disrespected in a relationshipBut isn't the "I thought you were better" also somewhat like "guilt-tripping"? What if someone understands this as his obligation in teaching the world that he as a male is not to be silenced irrespective of what his words mean to the other? Someone who intentionally says things and then sees the responsibility for the reaction and feelings completely on the other person? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/22 06:13 PM |
| 1 | equality 🟰❤️I just edited my comment. From the snippet here it is not obvious what happened before. The full video should be posted here. | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/11/22 01:31 PM |
| -1 | equality 🟰❤️Well he heavily insulted her. The guy said "whore" and "I'll fuck you", her slapping him was the appropriate reaction to such an insult. Has nothing to do with (in-)equality, imho. If she were together with a physically stronger guy he would have beaten the shit out of that other guy. Edit: The snippet should be longer such that one can see what she said before he insulted her. Then it would be obvious that she really started the fight. The way the snippet is now can easily look like he started … | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/11/22 01:20 PM |
| 2 | Am I crazy for breaking my engagement and for loving being empowered?"I make men scream and insult me" from the lips of a woman sounds exactly as bad as a man who says "I make women cry". Communicating with the opposite sex is an art. Don't blame their egos, when there is the possibility that you don't know how to communicate with your partners without making them have angry outbursts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/22 11:00 PM |
| 5 | Bf asking about past partners, how to approach?It pretty often gets confused and I think clarity on that topic is crucial, particularly since everything else you wrote is healthy. While pair bonding difficulties will often lead to a high n count, the opposite "high n count leading to pair bonding difficulties" is not necessarily true. With respect to the pair bonding abilities it is more important to look at the causes of the high n count instead of concluding anything from the high n count alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/22 11:33 AM |
| 1 | Treat her as a child. She'll love you for itThe problem is also that most men are not really interested in that kind of women and I did not start speaking about the level of maturity and objectivity that is requested from the man in such a combination which most men also probably never reach. At the end of the day, most of us are just projecting while not really seeing our own mistakes. The problem is that while men can build themselves and their woman, a woman cannot build her man. She depends on coincidentally falling upon one with the … | /r/TheRedPill | 12/08/22 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Have you ever lied or concealed parts of your sexual past in order to have a man like you more, or make him feel special? If so, why? Did it work out?It seems that the girl had difficulties in securing her personal boundaries. That would make the innocence consistent with the high n count. She doesn't know how to say no and protect herself while probably she also doesn't understand how the sexual market place works and that innocence will for sure be exploited. It is normal for girls from dysfunctional families to not know how to secure boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 11:44 AM |
| 2 | On a break with my man and in painI agree that sometimes no matter the effort the result won't change. But we never know if the effort was placed on the right points, right? And my comment was based mostly on the fact that in her OP she only addressed his commitment issues but nothing else and I wanted to ensure that she is not overlooking those points where she could potentially twist the situation to her advantage. It really is an easy excuse to say "it was his commitment issues". 1,5 years of a committed, exclusive relationsh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/22 10:31 AM |
| 2 | On a break with my man and in painYou are looking at it from the perspective of a woman only. From the perspective of a man and in the RP description of men and women's differences it would almost be insane to "throw everything away" in order to follow a woman (into the the abyss 😉). This might not be the words he is able to understand as a man... And he is looking at it from the perspective of what a man would want/need from his woman "never ask him to take a second-rate job". Make his career your shared priority... This is wha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/22 10:19 AM |
| 1 | On a break with my man and in painMaybe it will help both of you to see yourself, each other, your relationship, your lifes, sex lifes, etc. as a continuous development, something more fluid instead of completely static. The search for novelty in sex seems to be normal for men. That apparently was also one reason why women collect so many different clothes. We pretend to be someone different every day 😋 So remaining sexually faithful will most likely always be a challenge for many men. It is unrealistic to ignore that biological… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/22 10:03 AM |
| 2 | On a break with my man and in painI don't think I am being unfair. I find it highly dangerous to say that "a woman will always find someone who treats her better" in the context of a couple trying to understand if they are suitable for life long companionship. It is not that he is treating her badly or doesn't love her enough or cheated or whatever. I remind you that he did not question the commitment, he questions whether he is ready or wants to marry her. She is not just saying that she can't be friends with him, she wants to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/22 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Feeling like I’m giving everything but not receiving much in return. Help!u/NachoBestie I second the comment above. Another possibility is that you directly address it with him "honey, I am doing this and this and this and I gladly did, but I realized that lately I was sometimes building up resentment because I felt that the workload between us is unbalanced. What can we do about it?" If want to wait until he addresses the issue, then you could simply start doing less¹. E.g. make a list of the tasks you do and order them according to the importance they have for you a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 10:24 PM |
| 1 | On a break with my man and in painYou mean incremental reciprocation in order to understand at which level to meet him or in order to assess where he is at? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 07:48 PM |
| 4 | On a break with my man and in painI am glad that it reached you. We women tend to rely so much on words for our understanding of the world and situations that we often forget to listen to our intuition. What I do in that situation is that I try to remember how monogamous relationships must have worked in times where contracts and words did not exist, yet. This somehow helps me to rather feel into a situation and the feelings that have been exchanged. But maybe you didn't do anything except maybe pushing too much for the result a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 07:11 PM |
| 2 | On a break with my man and in painThank you so much for sharing your story. It is beautiful and I am very happy for the two of you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 06:53 PM |
| 2 | On a break with my man and in painI would add that being indecisive for years is probably the result of deeper issues in the relationship and I am tempted to go with "it is never only one person's fault" instead of placing the responsibility for the indecisiveness on only one person. So for a woman in such a situation it is always better to understand her own contribution to such a situation instead of simply rejecting the indecisive partner. The probability that she will create the same dynamic with another man is quite high. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 06:48 PM |
| 7 | On a break with my man and in painDefinitely she will find someone who will commit more strongly and love her more deeply. But will it be someone whom she respects and loves as much that she wants to submit as well or will it just be someone who serves her while she regrets that she settled? But anyhow if she can break up over this then his doubts about the relationship (his commitment) might be justified. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 05:26 PM |
| 15 | On a break with my man and in painI am surprised that noone seems to advice you to be patient and give him the space he needs to make his decision. RP advices against ultimatums with respect to commitment because essentially an ultimatum forces a person to make a decision that person is not ready to make. Now your boyfriend has placed himself into such a position and your correct response is to give him more space. However, particularly with everything that he said, I would not treat this as a break up. For whatever reasons he h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Women want to feel desired by many men, men want to be desired by one wonan only.Not sure where you find the idea of "accusing". To me it seems as if he is just observing and describing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/22 06:48 AM |
| 2 | Women want to feel desired by many men, men want to be desired by one wonan only.The point is different, which becomes evident once you read the entire OP 😉 They do not want to be desired by only one women, they want to be the ONLY ONE that is desired by any woman and the more women it is the better. So harems are in perfect harmony with this idea | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/22 08:33 PM |
| 2 | I’m ashamed of my body count as a woman, am I low quality?If I am not completely mistaken, then the words in the bible are not as rigid as our human society has evolved to be. Don't concern yourself too much with this. The bible doesn't have morals without context and the context is - similar to the redpill - the consequences anything has on you and your life and the lifes of the people around you. There is also a forum by former RedPiller Roosh V who also turned Christian few years ago. There you will find a woman section where you could discuss such … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 11:32 AM |
| 3 | I’m ashamed of my body count as a woman, am I low quality?RPW also advises against oversharing, in particular RPW advices against bringing baggage from previous relationships into the new one. Sharing this with someone without him explicitly asking about it would be extremely selfish. One can always give no as an answer to a question. One can not protect oneself from hearing something one did not want to hear. If anything at all she could indicate that she has regrets about the past and if he feels that it is of interest to him he can and will ask. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 11:04 AM |
| 5 | I’m ashamed of my body count as a woman, am I low quality?She is not looking at her options. She is anxious that she might need to visit the CC again. She has experienced 20 "relationship failures" it is normal that her anxiety is high and that she has difficulties to trust that the relationship will be stable because she does not know how to keep a relationship stable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 10:57 AM |
| 1 | His current girlfriend aborted his baby twiceI see. First of all the part that I deleted. I asked the people in this sub to "help me snap out of this". What I meant - I understood only later how this can be misunderstood, which is why I deleted the sentence - was that I was so touched by the two abortions and how terrible this must be for a man having to experience all of this that I was crying for almost two days. I only know few adult women that didn't have an abortion. Two days ago I was lighting five candles for those unneccessary abor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 08:18 AM |
| 1 | His current girlfriend aborted his baby twiceI asked him the same question. Asked how it could happen twice with the same women. He said that they actually wanted to have kids together. Her being pregnant was intentional twice on both sides. This just shows that she is fully unconscious about the consequences of her decisions and actions. However, after my shock about hearing this has settled I also wonder what really happened and I have doubts, but I know too little in order to make a judgment and you should hesitate even more to judge be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/22 08:18 AM |
| 1 | His current girlfriend aborted his baby twiceWhy am I supposed to be more empathic with this women as compared to this man that must be traumatized after what happened to him? Something really gets you going so much that you are actually insulting me and completely loose your sense for reality. You really have no idea and are running on assumptions, taking your ideas and interpretations about a situation for real. I don't know your reasons, but I am quite sure that your intention is to hurt and shame. So I am not even trying to argue with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/22 07:51 AM |
| -1 | His current girlfriend aborted his baby twiceThank you for breaking it down for me in that way. I deleted the OP because of all the comments that tried to either shame him or me. I agree that he is not perfect. I don't think that I still place him on a pedestal. His financial superiority and the differences in social status still make me sometimes feel insecure but aside from that I am also fully aware that he contributed to the status of their relationship in more or less the same way as she did. So aside from the financial inequality we … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/22 12:43 PM |
| 1 | His current girlfriend aborted his baby twiceHe wanted to have them, together with her and with all the support. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/22 08:57 AM |
| 1 | His current girlfriend aborted his baby twiceI understand that for her it is difficult as well and I feel for her as well. But particularly after the abortions he has really zero obligation to carry her weight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/22 08:24 AM |
| 1 | His current girlfriend aborted his baby twiceA man talking about his women aborting his children twice against his explicitly stated will is not acting inapropriate. Or is it inapropriate if a woman opens up about being raped or hit by her partner? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/22 08:18 AM |
| 2 | The importance of not oversharing about sexThis is so beautifully written. Thank you for sharing. You made me smile <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 10:14 PM |
| 1 | I loathe who I am without make-up and elegant clothes.When was it that he said that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/22 01:32 PM |
| 2 | I loathe who I am without make-up and elegant clothes.I think this does not really come across in all the other comments. Sorry if this sounds a bit harsh, but from my perspective the problem is that you expect your husband to find you sexy or beautiful in whatever you wear. You are a human being and you need to be able to deal with the fact that you do not always look perfect and that you will have better days and worse days. Like what do you expect from your husband? That he admires your beauty from morning to dawn? To change the perspective a li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/22 10:14 AM |
| 3 | Dear Men - RPW is the women's subI really hope that men will always be allowed in this sub. This is probably the only place where women are enabled to understand men. With respect to my opinion it should by no means ever be a women only place and it should also never be a place for only "soft truths". | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 09:07 AM |
| 2 | One more reason to keep marriages intactMy personal opinion on this is that it is for the same reason for which we do not only not mitigate the problems and also not prevent but instead even create them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 08:56 AM |
| 3 | One more reason to keep marriages intactI think people should be taught how to use tools 😉 and then there are circumstances in which you are not allowed to use certain tools, e.g. as a minor or a drug addict or with a history of robbery. I mean what seems to be missing in this discussion is that mass shootings are never an accident, they take place as a result of the will of the shooter and in principle this cannot be used as an argument to render everyone who owns a gun or wants to own a gun into a potential mass shooter. That is jus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 07:19 AM |
| 3 | One more reason to keep marriages intactAmazing. While typing, I was wondering if the increased reporting of knife-incidents indicates that knives will be licensed too. They really want us to be as defenseless as sheep. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 07:08 AM |
| 3 | One more reason to keep marriages intactI did not have time yet to look at it but planned to do so as soon as I had read all the comments. But here I could not resist because the logic is so flawed and I am not sure what is better, to have your kids killed by a guy with a knife in a supermarket in Germany or in a mass shooting at a school in the US? Irrespective of the number of incidences, it is the mindset that makes a tool dangerous or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 06:53 AM |
| 3 | One more reason to keep marriages intactIt is just so funny that with the recent waves of immigration we have dozens of people killed by crazy men with knives. Does this mean we should not allow people to own knives? The problem is the mindset of the person owning a tool and not the tool itself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 06:30 AM |
| 12 | What to do when your partner is in a heated situation? I don’t want to undermine his masculinity but I also really dislike this type of confrontation.You remember that he obviously is much more in control of his impulses and emotions than you think and that he is able to judge for himself and then you don't intervene or de-escalate. You need to understand that you cannot control all situations and for particularly such situations you need to decide if you trust him or not. To be honest I think he mastered it perfectly. Additionally you may talk to him and tell him that seeing the violence makes you feel anxious and sick... | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Signs of the wall? Men stay staying thin isnt enough so what else?Can you provide the source? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 04:41 AM |
| 7 | Reddit Censorship, TRP & RPWIt is a loss not only for the red pill community on reddit but also for the entire reddit community. Users might not realize it by now but banning whisper is a huge step forward in the intentional dumbing down of people and they will progressively ban exactly those people that provide value and by that reddit will over time become completely useless for it's users. Let's hope Elon Musk will buy reddit in a next step 😉 and until then watch the woke community sealing their own death by dumbing dow… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/22 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Men marry out of love or convenienceI agree... Not having c-vax makes people jump to conclusions about you immediately. I found that it is most tolerated when I explain that I am afraid of side effects. Anyway, I think I could not accept a "captain" who would want me to get the v. So in principle I really don't care if they care 😅 It will rather spark the interest of someone who is accepting of or even agreeing with your decisions and then he probably won't let you go, except maybe because of other potential deal breakers... Most … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/22 06:52 PM |
| 6 | I met someone and I am so scared that I will ruin itThank you 🙂 yes you are right I am probably really overthinking. But sometimes I feel like the apartment and some other things might seem like biiiig red flags and I understand why and how. I have just not been able to do everything, yet... | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/22 11:34 PM |
| 2 | I met someone and I am so scared that I will ruin itThank you. I guess you are right and at least with respect to clothes hair and everthing else things are not as bad as they feel. I guess we all know the feeling when we want to look our absolute best and then feel like everthing we own is just garbage 😅. However I need to add that I only started to have more money than needed for the absolute neccessary only few months before the pandemic. I first needed to have some savings to feel safe enough to spend money at all. If one grew up in more or l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/22 11:31 PM |
| 2 | I met someone and I am so scared that I will ruin itThank you! I will need some time to process it. I think we will meet again tomorrow and I have to calm myself down a bit. We were just talking on the phone today and he mentioned that I because of not having a car am limited in my freedom to move. But actually only adressed the consequence it has in terms of movement but not the fact that I do not own one. But him mentioning this was enough to made me realize how incomplete I might look to someone who is used to "normality". How can I can explai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/22 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Friends who ghosted when I was an SJW are coming back now that I’m RPW but I’m weary?I think what u/mspalomar mentioned is probably a good idea. It is perfectly reasonable if you don't want to be around people that left you in your darkest time. If you at the same time agree on their reasons to step back then maybe it is worth to think about vetting the friendship newly. Take it slow and see of you can re connect. Be careful with not overloading the friendship. It can easily happen that one feels closer than is actually healthy while it really is better to kind of try to get to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/21 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Is it wrong to provide boyfriend/girlfriend experience to a FWB?Sex after 3rd or 4th date, they confess they love few months (three to four months) later, he writes it in the same paragraph but first one in numbers second one in text... So it is easily overlooked, particularly because the writing is not particularly deep 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/21 08:51 AM |
| 1 | Just got into contact with my dad- i have daddy issues.May I try to shed a lighter interpretation on it? One could think that "you just have to get over it" is a very factual answer from a man... It doesn't feel good if we are looking for understanding or an exchange on something. But "you just have to get over it" is also what I would expect from quite a lot of "men". Often they cannot help us with unraveling the thoughts and feelings. But at the end of the day we all need to find ways to "get over" what life has handed us. If we don't manage to ov… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/21 09:25 PM |
| 7 | Tips on feeling / looking more feminine in the mornings and before bed at night?With respect to my opinion, there is no possibility to look attractive in pizza clothes except you are with a man who likes pizza clothes or when you are 20 years old and your youth overshines basically every fashion mistake. So I try to select home wear according to comfy and nice. It just sometimes takes longer to find something as most home wear just makes you loose every kind of shape that you might have. I think there are plenty of ways for comfortable clothes that still look kind of attrac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/21 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Just got into contact with my dad- i have daddy issues.I would not think about it as toxic. It is normal that we feel the desire for revenge if we feel that we had to suffer unneccessarily. My question would rather be what you think why he did what he did. Do you think it was intentional? Do you think it was selfhishnes? Do you think it was because he didn't care? Do you feel that he is evil? If he is really autistic then it could be a real disability of understanding other peoples feelings and reactions. On top of that he is a man and it is not eas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/21 02:10 PM |
| 2 | What skill has helped you the most? Formerly awful person here.1) Humbleness 2) trying to recognize where I was interacting because I wanted to say something and where it was because I wanted attention 3) keeping silent when I disagree (only in the beginning, because I needed to find a better way of formulating disagreement) and wait for several hours or even days before adressing something. Not adressing something until I have a more or less clear understanding of what is relevant for me and how I want to communicate 4) realizing that feeling sexy was some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/21 09:04 AM |
| 2 | What skill has helped you the most? Formerly awful person here.I remember that several years ago when I started to take birth control I was crying for the most ridiculous reasons, like seeing an old lady in the supermarket. The doctor told me as well that it is in my head. I quit irrespective and never went back... | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/21 08:42 AM |
| 1 | Do you have a redpill role model that you draw inspiration fromI could probably according to the terms of most left leaning people be considered racist. It only depends on how the term is used and defined. I have deeply black colleagues and I appreciate them. Some for their character, some for their intelligence, some for their competence, etc. However, e.g. I would hesitate to date someone, but not because of his skin colour but because I would assume that in most cases culture would be too different. I also don't like the in flow of people with a complete… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/21 08:52 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with an angry man?Ok, you gave this situation as an example for situations where you feel unjustly and inappropriately harshly attacked or criticized by him. Now I would foucus on several different points. The first point is his trigger, the second point is his reaction to the trigger, the third is your reaction to his reaction, the fourth is your willingnes to accept that something is triggering him. You can actively do something about point 1, 3, 4, but you have zero ability to control 3 However you concentrate… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/21 03:20 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with an angry man?I agree. However she also only gave this situation as an example and said that there are more similar situations. So I am wondering how we could bring the discussion back to the bigger context. Solving this particular situation will only solve this particular problem, but it seems that there are plenty? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/21 03:03 PM |
| 1 | I [F] keep hearing men will cut off girls who don’t put out until the 3rd date, because their resources are wasted. But how do I make sure I won’t get played or ghosted?The "trick" is to not go out with someone who is not genuinely also enjoying to spend time with you. If you have fun together while having a date and you don't request him to spend hundreds of dollars on you it should not be a problem. Remember that while sex is important also having chemistry and a connection is important. Treat dating in the same way and with the same expectation that you would when you meet colleagues or strangers or friends. You don't expect them to pay lunch for you and you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/21 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Just got into contact with my dad- i have daddy issues.Hm, I also have a very difficult father probably as well with undiagnosed autism. I had done a lot to improve the relationship from my side by acting on acceptance. My mom left him when I was around four, she had demonized him to the extend that I was acting insecure and scared in his presence, always understanding his words in the most negative meaning. He has also hurt me, said mean things. A male friend of mine told me that I had to reclaim the respect I deserved and that I should confront hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/21 12:05 PM |
| 6 | How do you decline sex without making husband feel rejected?Besides being validating sex is also a fundamental need for men. So his experience is more of having to fullfill the needs of his family by being provider and comforter and supporter while his own needs are fullfilled less than before. That is frustrating but not because of feeling rejected but more because of a feeling of constantly receiving less than giving. Feeling rejected could add to this, but is not neccessarily the critical point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/21 10:44 AM |
| 2 | Date night fights. Help!I am not disagreeing on your statement that generally vulnerability might help. But I think you might be projecting here, because what she complains about is explicitly not a lack of empathy but rather an inability on his side to step up. Again, she herself called it "post-criticism disorder", she even invented the term herself, because she knows that a lot of his lethargy is probably the result of her display of displeasure in the past. Now she tries to change herself towards a more constructiv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/21 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Date night fights. Help!I'm always floored when women feel like they can't be surrendered but also speak their mind at the same time. If he wants to make the jackass move of not planning the night properly or planning something you'll actively hate, you have the right to be mad/upset/sad or not even participate. Being Surrendered doesn't mean not having thoughts, opinions, or emotions. Edit: And if he yells at you, he can just go by his damn self. That's no way for a man to treat his woman. How does this help her in so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/21 02:28 PM |
| 2 | Date night fights. Help!Hm, I feel something in your description is missing. My impression is that you want him to pick and plan something that suits you without you wanting to let him know what you would actually like to do. So if he asks you about it, then why don't you give him some possibilities to choose from? Asking for your interests is not "you guiding him", even though it might be formulated as in "hey I'd like to take you out, can you "guide" me (is there anything you would like to do)"? To me this rather sou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/21 08:20 AM |
| 18 | Can sarcasm ever be feminine?The line between sarcasm being funny and sarcasm being mean is very thin. Sarcasm should only be used outside any personal context otherwise it can easily hurt feelings. Personally I feel that sarcasm is rather masculine than feminine. There might be men that like sarcastic women, but since I like open and sincere conversations and from my perspective sarcasm does not go along well with the conversations I like to have because it can be easily misunderstood, I don't think I would like to date a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/21 10:25 PM |
| 1 | How to ask for more words of reassurance after a fight in a LDR?To me it still remains unclear what you mean with a lot of pain? What do you want him to understand there? 1) That he said/did something that hurt? 2) That you carried it for so long with you (crying an entire day without telling him)? 3)...? What pain? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/21 05:36 PM |
| 3 | How to ask for more words of reassurance after a fight in a LDR?"Every behaviour that persists is behaviour that works." Sorry, I feel I need to disagree here :) this statement is only true based on the assumption that someone knows how to deal with a situation differently. So I think we should not conclude that she "is getting something out of it". I think she really doesn't know how to say it as soon as it happens because she is afraid of causing discomfort/conflict. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/21 01:49 AM |
| 2 | How to ask for more words of reassurance after a fight in a LDR?In these kind of situations I usually resort to the example of two people standing next to each other in a train. If the train is moving and shaking and one of them tries to stabilize himself and accidentally steps on the foot of the other person and it hurts the other person one would excuse for the trouble/pain/discomfort even though it was accidental and also "rightfully". To compare this to your situation you are like the person whose foot is stepped on and instead of saying "ouch!" you hold… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/21 01:25 AM |
| 6 | Looking for advice on and argument I had with my bfI think with the recent argument you had with him, several different topics are merged into one and this is why it becomes messy. 1) keeping promises 2) your wish for gifts from him 3) how you handle your shared expenses Now, after he seems to have forgotten about the promises, it will be difficult to handle particularly this situation in a different way, but generally and depending on how relaxed you two interact with each other on these topics normally, you could just when he promises things a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/21 06:08 PM |
| 1 | My fiancé wants me to do more for him, but feels guilty when I offer to. What do I do?Apparently it goes way deeper than only this. Sadly she deleted the OP and the comments and decided to disengage in the conversation so we cannot help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/21 01:33 PM |
| 3 | My fiancé wants me to do more for him, but feels guilty when I offer to. What do I do?I copied the comment before you deleted it because I was already typing a response and now I added it here for context and because I feel it is important. He explained how he felt as maybe a man might try to explain. He compared it to something that would be equally traumatizing and it also seems that he has difficulties in verbalizing what is going on with himself, e.g. when he says he feels like you are not a team but then also not being able to say what he wants. For many people it also is ne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/21 11:39 AM |
| 5 | My fiancé wants me to do more for him, but feels guilty when I offer to. What do I do?I would ask him about what he had in mind when he said that he feels you are not like a team. It seems that he said that and you immediately jump to the conclusion that he needs you to do something, as in actual work. And to be honest, if my childhood dog died at more or less the same time when my boyfriends sister tried to commit suicide, I would just try to be there for him without thinking more about the dog. And I really hope it doesn't come accross harsh, but grandfathers die too. It is pai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/21 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Australian manhatersIt can only be considered first world problems because hybris what follows directly on luxury. I bet women in Saudi Arabia are happier than women in the west. What woman would free willingly want to go out and fight the fight of survival and be happy about it? You should go out and talk to real people and learn to listen instead of pushing your opinion. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/21 10:33 PM |
| 6 | Australian manhatersBecause there are many more women in this world than only western women and they are not stupid. What do you think what they will think when they have a look at our degenerate society? Drop their values and jump on the train to the valley of broken families, borderline teenagers? They will hate it because they can see their previously strong male corrupted. How deluded must anyone be in order to believe that this current system can be anything but despised by people who have values? | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/21 03:00 PM |
| 0 | If he never comes to you with his problems, how can you still be a soft place to land?It's short for Aspergers, rigid people with strong opinions, often uncontrolled temper and social incompetence, little to no self-reflection. Emphasis is on social incompetence and lack of self-reflection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/21 10:21 PM |
| 3 | I'm learning how to let myself want things from him, but now I don't know where to stop...You don't like that she used a metaphor. But still from other conversations you had with particularly this user I know that she has already provided you with quite some insight and explanations and I really disagree that you have the right to teach her how to talk to you. That is quite disrespectful and entitled, even more it shows a complete lack of gratitude and appreciation towards those points where she already has helped you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/21 05:57 PM |
| 1 | How do conservative women convince men that they are not gold diggers?What do you consider financially comparable? 80% of your income? 90%, 95%,...? How much would make you feel safe? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/21 03:55 PM |
| 2 | I'm learning how to let myself want things from him, but now I don't know where to stop...What the heck could you please stop applying those psychoanalytical traits to me after I asked you not to? It's frankly rude to compare someone to an abused dog Do you think your response is not rude? Is this how you reply to people who you ask for advice? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/21 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Friend told me the "days of having long hair are over"Nobody is taken seriously when entering a new place. If after a year people still did not learn to value your input then it definitely has little to do with the length of hair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/21 04:37 PM |
| 1 | How to repair damage I caused by all my lies?In a particular moment lies might seem like they can solve something. But this is very short-term thinking and does not consider the long-term impact. Probably you avoided to think about this and yes, then you probably also lied to yourself. If you want to avoid conflicts, then there are other tools than lies. You should learn about those and I think RPW is a good place to learn more healthy strategies of dealing with and avoiding conflicts. At the same time not all conflicts can be avoided. Any… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/21 09:59 AM |
| 5 | How to repair damage I caused by all my lies?You need to let some time pass. Right now you cannot convince him, because you showed the behaviour of lying for a long time. To read that you even think about lying again and consider falsely admitting to something you didn't do indicates to me that you use lies to avoid conflicts and also probably to get what you want, harmony, attention, etc. and while indeed lies can be used to manipulate relationships and people, the result will not be stable because it is not based on truth and the fundame… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/21 08:27 AM |
| 5 | Is it okay to let my boyfriend watch porn while we have sex?Now you have edited your OP and have explained that he has a porn addiction. I think with respect to the consequences this is your answer. There is a difference between being a "chill"/"cool" girlfriend and enforcing an addictive behaviour. You are basically keeping him trapped in the addiction if you integrate it into your sex life because you don't allow him to decouple from his porn addiction by having completely porn-free sexual experiences. If you want to support him in developing a healthy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/21 05:53 AM |
| 41 | Is it okay to let my boyfriend watch porn while we have sex?You are not allowing him to watch porn. You are basically requesting him to do that, while you frame it as doing him a favour. I don't know how to explain it, but that seems really twisted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/21 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Books for MEN?On what basis do we judge the change from one system to the other as failure if change is part of evolution? We are not expecting a system that will never fail, are we? I mean in some sense it seems as if we can/could always only move between the polarities, right? My personal interest does not come from a political perspective, neither a tradcon perspective. I just know that growing up in a single-mom solely female household with my father being very far away has, together with the western anti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/21 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Books for MEN?It might become dangerous if you follow a guide that the pedophile wrote. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/21 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Books for MEN?No, someone being an opiate addict is not ad hominem. As a matter of fact drugs influence the way you think. That is why humans use them. Using them occassionally might keep the effect on a tolerable level, but being addicted to them changes personality and thoughts in a profound way. Moreover you can directly observe the effect his addiction has on his entire family. Maybe in ten years from now he can give advice to men on how to handle such situations or how to never get into such a place. But… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/21 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Books for MEN?I was reading and listening to Peterson for quite some time. He is not who can help a man to become more "dominant". Moreover, the building of men is taught at TRP and not here, while we here at RPW we concentrate on building women. According to the saying "if you want to catch fish ask the fishermen, not the fish". We can get inspired by each other, but in the end it should be men that teach men how to handle women and women that teach women how to handle men. So if the TRP community agrees tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/21 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Books for MEN?I watched and read Peterson for quite some time and while I enjoyed some of his thoughts and insights I think he and his content are not good guides for men to become RPW desriable men ;) One interesting example is the interaction between him and his daughter in the interview where Peterson talks to her about his withdrawal and the health issues he went through afterwards. It might seem like RP for someone who comes from a heavily BP background, but from my perspective it is not. I think GayLube… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/21 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Books for MEN?It is the second time that I get confused because of the statement that tradcon standards are generally "anti-male" and now anti-TRP/RPW. I don't understand how and why. We know that the nuclear family is key for individualism and also for mentally healthy and stable kids as well as for them growing into successful (according to their own definition) adults. I can understand that it partially also plays into the hands of corporations that want to raise slaves that are trapped in a system of depe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/21 09:53 PM |
| 4 | Books for MEN?If I had not known that already - I would have liked to learn that JP is a globalist and part of controlled opposition. I was convinced that the "rumors" were true latest after listening to him speaking about his communist art collection and that this to him represents his desired ideal future. There are some of us who are interested and maybe also understand a little. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/21 09:28 PM |
| 1 | How do you avoid getting nasty feelings when you see other women being rewarded for doing so little?It helped me to look at these things as some place where I would like to be in the future rather than as something where I am not at. It all depends on the basis from which you start. If you are born with the talent to inspire that in men, or if you had parents that thaught you by their example how to, or if you were reading the right or wrong books, or if you had to learn all this by own experience, thoughts and observations. All these are different baselines and with different baselines the pa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/21 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Submission vs. Basic respectI agree :) but somehow in the OP I only concentrated on the "do not comment/question everything part". My first boyfriend never liked that I preferred more modest styles over more slutty styles. I would have been up to skirts and dresses, but definitely not running alone through the city with too much skin exposed. It always just made me feel unsafe with all the looks and comments. Since I was a student it would then have been impossible for me to afford two sets of clothing, one when I am alone… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/21 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Submission vs. Basic respectThank you for commenting and for your explanation 🙂 This has now put another perspective on it and provided me with a really valuable insight. The situations I had in mind are different from the situations that you were describing now and I couldn't see that in the original comment. Now I also understand why you related it to submission. The situations you describe are related to decisions that affect both of you and there it really is submission (or deference) if you let him make the decision w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/21 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Submission vs. Basic respectI completely agree that is good actions and advice :) and did not question the advice itself. It just triggered the thoughts I formulated in the OP. Here in this sub it happens often that STFU or respect are understood to be submissive itself, which they are not. She also points out herself that she considers this a matter of respect and that she was pushy before, so I don't see a contradiction here? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/21 01:17 PM |
| 3 | How do I peel myself off the wall?Try to use half a teaspoon MSM powder dissolved in some drops of hot water and apply it with a brush to your cleaned face and leave it there as long as you can while being at home. When it dries it turns into a layer of white powder so one cannot use it when going out. It has amazing healing and soothing properties and also reduces the redness. It might feel dry in the first twenty minutes, but when it starts to get absorbed the skin becomes smooth and soft. So it is important to leave it on for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/21 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Submission vs. Basic respectBtw. I don't agree that it would be disrespectful to call a repair man. She could even ask him along the lines "hey you seem to have too much going on for repairing the toilet, but the current state makes me uncomfortable. Can I call a repair man?" If you act on actions or non-actions and just draw consequences from a current state without turning it into a morality questioning topic as in "you promised to do, you still did not, when will you do?" it should not feel like disrespect. If you ask r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/21 10:51 AM |
| 3 | Submission vs. Basic respectWhere to draw the line? I guess that depends on what you want to achieve. People who are grumpy are also deserving of respect or do you feel that a man has the right to disrespect his wife when she has PMS? Would you say that him telling her that he doesn't deserve her PMS emotional outbreaks would in anyway help to make the situation better? Do you think he would then have the right to demand an explanation or don't you think she would have the right to decide that is better to say "nothing" an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/21 09:39 AM |
| 1 | How does chronic illness detract from femininity, and what can be done about it?Yes it seems that you have a very logical and analytical way of seeing and talking about things. This might help you when you talk to men, but it can be difficult to ask for advice in a forum where mostly women answer. Because on average women associate way more emotions with words and then immediately jump to conclusions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/21 01:09 AM |
| 3 | How does chronic illness detract from femininity, and what can be done about it?Let's say you have one of these old-fashioned balances and on each side there are weights representing the amount of empathy and consideration you place towards him and yourself. From outside it seems like you are placing almost 100% on his perspective, interests and feelings but almost zero to yourself. I understand that you want to be the perfect woman for him and that you have set your mind on wanting him to stay no matter what. If it reciprocal and he also cares about you then it is all fine… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/21 12:19 AM |
| 3 | How does chronic illness detract from femininity, and what can be done about it?You don't need to be. For context, he took me on an extremely beautiful and quite expensive vacation. He made all these plans to see sites that held personal significance to him, but due to my poor pain management skills, I had to lay in bed for a day and a half. He didn't want to go alone, so he had to sit around and do nothing in the hotel with me, wasting his own time and money. I used it as an example to hopefully find solutions for when my pain prevents me from feminine behavior. Ok, I unde… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/21 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Women Have Hypergamy, Man Also Use Other men to Status Climb. Watch this video about the laws of male status seeking. It has a right wing trad con who admits to using a religious community to find a woman, then bails on it when it is no longer useful.I think while I was trying to formulate my question I realized what seemed confusing to me. While most of the contents of the manosphere seems to promote an masculine ideal that at minimum is inspired traditional masculinity, the speaker in the youtube videos seem to consider also these ideals as misandrist? Maybe I need to say that I am female so maybe it is more difficult for me to understand because our experience of the world is so different. So I understand and fully agree that mens rights,… | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/10/21 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Women Have Hypergamy, Man Also Use Other men to Status Climb. Watch this video about the laws of male status seeking. It has a right wing trad con who admits to using a religious community to find a woman, then bails on it when it is no longer useful.Thank you, generally I think I am and am also aware, at least I am watching and reading related manosphere contents for some years already. But particularly this channel seems to be somehow different in a way that I seem to not really understand? | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/10/21 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Women Have Hypergamy, Man Also Use Other men to Status Climb. Watch this video about the laws of male status seeking. It has a right wing trad con who admits to using a religious community to find a woman, then bails on it when it is no longer useful.I have watched now several videos of that channel and while I agree to some of his reasoning that left-wing, right-wing, tradcon values, etc. all contain some anti-male contents I think I really don't get his message. What is he about? Does he actually have a message? He generally seems to reject the influence politics and media have on the promotion and leading of social trends, which is not what we can see in the world around us? I like that he points out contradictions, but I also feel that h… | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/10/21 11:01 AM |
| 1 | Guy is not taking no and is pushing for 2nd chanceBeing direct does not always imply a bad end. Particularly in such situations being politely direct is basically the most respectful thing to do. You don't need to explain anything. A simple "I am not attracted" is sufficient and usually well-tolerated if it is combined with a clear "no". Then years later, noone carries any negative emotions around. Nobody feels played, tricked, betrayed, used, etc. Its the cleanest and best end possible for such situations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/21 01:10 PM |
| 3 | Jealous and guilt-ridden. Please help.Remember that there are plenty of unhappy men with young and beautiful girlfriends. So youth alone is not what is setting her apart or creating the spark in the eyes of her boyfriend. It is not physical youth alone that defines your energy. So learn from her instead of dragging yourself down by thinking about what you are supposedly not and envying her for the attention and validation she receives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/21 09:32 AM |
| 1 | How to become more feminine when my man also is feminineThank you, I am glad if it helps 🙂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/21 09:23 AM |
| 1 | How to become more feminine when my man also is feminineI feel you 🤗 Maybe it is not only impatience and disappointment but also anxiety, which makes it even more difficult to let go, because it seems like things are spiralling out of control? Then you can turn this into an easy exercise for yourself. You plan on doing things yourself. You ask for help, if he helps you accept graciously, if he declines you accept it graciously as well. Don't do that with things that cause anxiety. Go with tiny steps... You didn't act in the past in a way that allowed… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/21 07:07 AM |
| 3 | Why some women chose to communicate covertly, and how men should act in these situations?I just want to add that we (women) often intuitively understand what we want or expect from another woman and there are no words needed. A woman that does not understand or respect that men are different will expect from a man the same emotional atunement as she is used from other women. For a man it will be very confusing to be that emotionally attuned, moreover it will probably be next to impossible to understand all the details of sometimes complex emotions, and I have never seen a relationsh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 06:57 AM |
| 3 | Why some women chose to communicate covertly, and how men should act in these situations?Why do women that try to act masculine appear bossy and dominating instead of leading? When we try to emulate the behaviour of the other sex we often overlook the subtleties and it comes off incorrectly. In female-female communication a lot goes unspoken, in the same way as in male-male communication. But what is unspoken is different. When women try to resort to covert communication it emotionally often represents the brutality with that women emotionally experience male words, because most are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/21 06:12 AM |
| 1 | How to become more feminine when my man also is feminineDid you try to ask him for help in situations that are overwhelming to you? Help as in "honey, I wanted to make that todo list, but I am exhausted, tired, lack concentration, can you help me?" That way you hand over tasks to him without demanding him to step up and basically emasculating him further, you also show that you trust his abilities to make the correct decision and also that you want (allow) him to make such decisions and in the end you can just tell him something like "thank you, it's… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/21 04:51 AM |
| 2 | RPW Rules Revisited- Rule ThreeThank you for revisiting the rules and drawing some attention on them 🙂 They are not only helping on giving advice here and keeping the atmosphere constructive, they are generally also good advice for all sorts of situations. I feel that particularly the "do not badmouth your SO or the OPs SO" is critical and sometimes wish it were possible to enforce more adherence to that. Would it make sense to add some examples of badmouthing? I think there are some terms like "man child" that clearly belong… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/21 04:29 AM |
| 6 | Jealous and guilt-ridden. Please help.Yes, I think it is wrong. It does not help you at all. Neither will it help you to become better, nor will this way of thinking add any value neither to your life nor your boyfriend's life. Envy, jealousy, self-pity do not add any kind of value to anybodies life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/21 03:02 AM |
| 5 | Jealous and guilt-ridden. Please help.Take her as an inspiration! Just be happy about being so lucky that you have a real life example of a feminine woman next to you! Don't be silly... You seem like a girl that is depressed because she doesn't look like an insta model 🙈 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/21 09:22 PM |
| 16 | Jealous and guilt-ridden. Please help.I don't understand why you feel unworthy? What is it that you think you cannot give your boyfriend? Is it not maybe less about him but more about yourself wanting to have the life of your coworker? From what you write it doesn't seem like he would be very eager to have kids? How old is he? What happened in the years before you met? Don't you think if having kids in his twenties would have been his plan he would have had them? Why do you feel responsible for chances he lost or gave away long befo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/21 05:10 PM |
| 3 | Suggestions of possibly controlling behavior making me afraidI just remembered that my ex once left hickeys on my neck and although I was in home office I knew I expected a delivery and I really disliked the thought that the delivery guy would see them. Also the thought of needing to go out like this was very unpleasant. When I told him that I don't like that and that I had to go out with this and everybody would see this, his reaction was playing it down, "why do you care?", "they are not big"... as if I were overreacting. I remember that this left it's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/21 08:01 AM |
| 4 | Suggestions of possibly controlling behavior making me afraidWhen you calm down and disentangle you feelings try to separate the rough sex part from the situation where he might have felt disrespected. It seems that you also have a problem there and are now merging these two problems into one. If the sex is too rough for your taste and you feel that you are putting up with something which is not 100% your thing then you still cannot argue that he does also comply with unpleasant events, particularly not if it might affect his work life and when it seems t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/21 10:55 AM |
| 2 | Dangers of clinical psychology infected by feminism: the profile of the modern woman forced into the minds of patientsGiven the fact how often therapy is recommended here, I think we should discuss this much more often. Thank you a lot for writing this out. It is a message that we should put much more attention to. Therapy was probably the reason that drew me away from pursuing the life that I wanted to life. I did it for many years mostly out of rational reasons. My childhood was messed up but I was already on a good path. However I thought that therapy could not harm and that I should probably disentangle som… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/21 02:07 AM |
| 5 | This has to be the most hateful and predatory thing I’ve seen in a good minute… (she’s a lesbian btw)Let's hope that they are aware and know how to protect themselves and of course we can sew empathy and tiny drops of truth and reason whenever possible. I also hope there will be a way to protect further generations. The difficulty we have is that adjusting fantasy to the real world is causing cognitive dissonance which is unpleasant at minimum and painful at worst, so the bigger the illusion the more disliked we will be and then popularity is difficult to gain. Maybe that is why Jesus was succe… | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/10/21 12:55 AM |
| 11 | This has to be the most hateful and predatory thing I’ve seen in a good minute… (she’s a lesbian btw)They feel so accepted and secure that they feel they can now start to attack everybody else, which is good, because their dominance is only a perceived internet bubble dominance, so people in real life see the mask falling down way earlier than would be strategically reasonable. | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/10/21 12:26 AM |
| 17 | This has to be the most hateful and predatory thing I’ve seen in a good minute… (she’s a lesbian btw)Not only bisexual women I think, also trans-women that seek a relationship with a cis-guy. | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/10/21 12:23 AM |
| 7 | Suggestions of possibly controlling behavior making me afraidI don't think that you are too sensitive. I think you like him a lot and are afraid to loose him, so you feel threatened by his message. However, try to put yourself into his shoes. You are dating only for few months, so he does not know you enough to read subtle signals. And sorry for saying it so bluntly, but everything you wrote in this post shows that you have somehow difficulties in understanding him or putting yourself in his shoes and then you feel and act based on speculations which make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/21 11:38 PM |
| 6 | Suggestions of possibly controlling behavior making me afraidI understand that what is irritating you is that you don't understand why he felt the need to emphasize it again. So here is one potential explanation... You said in the morning after when you discovered the hickey you thought the mood was still playfull and that you tried to keep it light. This is what on the other side can appear like on the one hand not taking the effect that is has on him serious and on the other hand it clearly shows to him that you are/were not aware how something like mar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/21 10:22 PM |
| 5 | Suggestions of possibly controlling behavior making me afraidI didn't say that. He was talking about a future hickey. He did according to your own words not want to break up with you because it happened once. He said it will not work out if his boundaries are not respected. You are putting it in a way as if he were about to break up because it happened once. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/21 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Suggestions of possibly controlling behavior making me afraidYes, I agree. But then she could ask him if this happens easily to him and they could try out how much pressure it takes or she could just be extra careful on areas that are visible. But that is not even the question she asks. Instead she asks if he is potentially controlling because he feels the need to let her know that he doesn't want a relationship where his boundaries are not respected. And she repeats it in every answer to your comments. So I felt it is important to adress exactly that... … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/21 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Suggestions of possibly controlling behavior making me afraidSorry, but he is not calling anything off over an unintentional mistake or are you really afraid that you could leave another hickey on him by accident? First time was a mistake, second time is not anymore. Hickeys are not something that happen by accident! And yes, I am also private and I like to separate private things from work related things and someone who would repeatedly by hickeys force me to be exposed to my colleagues is definitely not someone whom I would trust a second or third time.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/21 09:09 PM |
| 4 | PSA on dressing for your age and place in life. What I have finally learned as a socially clueless woman (long)Thank you for this amazing detailled advice and for investing the time to write this out! I am sure that many will find valuable information and tips in it! And I think you are entirely right. After a certain age it is very easy to look ridiculous if one does not carefully choose certain combinations. I also found that some things one could easily wear with mid 25 can one make look 15 years older, like warm cosy boots or shirts with romantic/vintage print. I think this effect is also somewhat un… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/21 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Learn to cry?You are right. Thank you for sharing this. I couldn't connect it to the feeling of loneliness and isolation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/21 07:15 AM |
| 2 | (please no discourse) My periods have been seriously messed up since getting the jab. How can I get my fertility tested/measured before I marry, just in case?I thought about why it has something to do with loyalty, because loyalty is what makes one stay with somebody although objectivley one would have every right to leave. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 08:35 PM |
| 1 | (please no discourse) My periods have been seriously messed up since getting the jab. How can I get my fertility tested/measured before I marry, just in case?Yes, I agree, but I asked a question to someone else and she answered it, so it was her choice to derail the discussion? I can really agree on her perspective. But I also think that RP emphasizes reciprocity and the men here commenting are usually well-balanced to both perspectives. Moreover, I think that indeed every man has the right to leave a relationship with a woman when he wants kids and she cannot. Also a woman can leave a man if he is infertile. I fully agree. This is why I think it is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 07:56 PM |
| 4 | Hypergamy at action - an examplehmv is not a universal definition. For her he obviously seemed to be more valuable than her husband at that time? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy at action - an exampleShe is also quite attractive, particularly for her age. Very well styled, lady-like, but modest, decent, slim, feminine. I was surprised how good she looked. So I can imagine that many years of seeing a surprised or disappointed reaction, when e.g. customers asked for her husband have left a trace, then they organize decent concerts, etc and at least here in this country there is kind of a big gap between people of different working classes, even among academics. Then maybe friends telling her t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 07:12 PM |
| 4 | Hypergamy at action - an exampleI don't think that anything in this threat can be really off-topic. I don't know if she is happy, but as far as I know they are still together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 06:51 PM |
| 1 | (please no discourse) My periods have been seriously messed up since getting the jab. How can I get my fertility tested/measured before I marry, just in case?And just in case you were married five years and it turns out you are not fertile although you were in the beginning and something happened, let's say an accident, if he then left you, it would have something to do with loyalty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 06:43 PM |
| 1 | (please no discourse) My periods have been seriously messed up since getting the jab. How can I get my fertility tested/measured before I marry, just in case?I do understand your perspective and what you are saying and I agree on the logic. At the same time, a woman also has basic needs that need to be met. It should be reciprocal. That is all I am saying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 06:40 PM |
| 10 | Hypergamy at action - an exampleI think it rarely is really only one cause... I have not personally seen a "perfect" marriage that fell apart for no reason. So yes, definitely hypergamy was there at play, but it probably was also just the final push. And definitely NAWALT 😉 Or check the other OP about the fertility issues, there the tenor of the responding men is that of course he will and has to leave her if there turn out to be fertility issues. This is also kind of brutal, isn't it? It really depends a lot on the moral of t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 06:32 PM |
| 2 | (please no discourse) My periods have been seriously messed up since getting the jab. How can I get my fertility tested/measured before I marry, just in case?As I said, I understand the reasoning and I am not making the case for anything. The same holds for a man who cannot provide for himself. I wouldn't know if I could promise that I were able to stay. But I don't know is a different answer, than "if he turns sick, I would leave". I am not trying anything. I basically don't care on what basis people put their relationships, everybody has different values, life-plans, preferences, etc. Additionally everybody has their own interests and righfully so.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 05:59 PM |
| 1 | (please no discourse) My periods have been seriously messed up since getting the jab. How can I get my fertility tested/measured before I marry, just in case?That is ok, I understand, but is a different question than the one I asked... Would you leave him, if he turned sick and could not be a provider? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 05:40 PM |
| 3 | Learn to cry?I think it is difficult to recognize this because e.g. in my case I had to actually invest a lot into learning to be as calm and rational as possible and also expected it would be appreciated. Everyone in my family seems so irrationally sensitive and emotional and I suffered so much from their lack of awareness and impulse control. But I guess this also makes it seem as if I were "invincible" and makes people even hurt me more, unintentionally, because I don't show the emotions. Moreover, all th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 05:27 PM |
| 1 | (please no discourse) My periods have been seriously messed up since getting the jab. How can I get my fertility tested/measured before I marry, just in case?Thank you! <3 that will be fun to read! These kind of readings are my favorite pass times! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 05:16 PM |
| 1 | (please no discourse) My periods have been seriously messed up since getting the jab. How can I get my fertility tested/measured before I marry, just in case?I generally agree, but here? What if the reason for the infertility happens while they are already in a committed relationship? Here it was the vaccine... What if it is because of an STD he already had before and transmitted? What if they go to vaccation and have an accident which leaves her infertile? It is not about fault. But what about those things that happened while a couple is already committed, engaged, married? Would you marry, then try for three years, then divorce? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 05:15 PM |
| 3 | (please no discourse) My periods have been seriously messed up since getting the jab. How can I get my fertility tested/measured before I marry, just in case?If it turns out to be a Progesterone issue then think about adding Cholsterol rich food and B vitamins, particularly B3 in the form of niacin. All sex hormones are derived from Cholesterol. Niacin is a guess of mine but I can feel my libido to be completely spiking up after taking it for some days, which I take as an indicator that my body feels fertile 🙂 I have overcome almost all my menstrual cycle related problems with nutrition and supplementing. Please DM me if you are interested. Also, it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 05:02 PM |
| 2 | (please no discourse) My periods have been seriously messed up since getting the jab. How can I get my fertility tested/measured before I marry, just in case?I was checking this as well, but found the same title from different authors. Which is the one you recommend? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/21 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Learn to cry?I am not wanting to learn to cry in order to be manipulative. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/21 10:47 AM |
| 1 | Some additional shower thoughts about sex and marriage and dating (oh my)I think ultimately BJs are a sign that the woman does not want to have a child with the man. They are the perfect hack for satisfying sexual needs in a man in a situation that might need immediate sexual satisfaction for whatever reason, either because it is half of a promise and she wants to keep him hooked or because he is so intense that she feels she needs to give in but can still avoid intercourse, whatever. And for sure on a purely biological level it is just that (avoiding pregnancy) and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/21 10:45 PM |
| 4 | Learn to cry?I understand what you mean though and I also was thinking that way. I have seen manipulative crying many times and I hated it and tried my best to never be like that. But never crying is probably more toxic to a relationship than always crying. Please, if you don't share my opinion, then please respect that my conclusion is different from yours. I know that there have been situations which would have been resolved if I simply would have showed the hurt with tears instead of trying to explain and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/21 09:36 PM |
| 9 | Learn to cry?Negative femininity is the same BS as toxic masculinity. Everything is toxic when overdone or lived in an unconstraint unhealthy way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/21 09:23 PM |
| 4 | Learn to cry?Because men tend to handle situations rather factually and being empathic over words requires a conscious effort of empathy and change in perspective, while crying as a reaction to hurt is a natural response that is easily understood. E.g. when boundaries are overstepped. Yes it can be manipulative if one uses it to get ones way but it is not manipulative in all situations. On contrary it is probably more healthy than "arguing ones case". To be honest, please don't take it bad, I mean it in a re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/21 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Classy way of dealing with friendship breakdown?You can still recover from this by telling her that you have a lot of things going on and that you felt she does not notice this and was adding additional pressure and could at that day not take it anymore. You don't have to excuse because if I understand you correctly then you also would like to make a point. But you can still reach out, mention what happened and say that you hope it won't stay between you and that you hope she understands that you felt pressured by her asking you these questio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/21 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Classy way of dealing with friendship breakdown?It usually always works to withdraw and simply be busy. Stop being empathic with her, this is probably what she gets from you. When she calls, listen few sentences and then say you had a hard day. Talk about boring stuff. Talk about the iv therapy, tell her every single detail about the medical aspect you know, just don't share anything personal. Tell her things that won't harm you if she spreads them behind your back. Whenever she starts talking about something switch the topic to medical stuff… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/21 07:27 PM |
| 0 | Just like men must create value in the world otherwise they are worthless, are women worthless if they don't have children?It is liberating because once you respect your constraints you can stop running against invisible walls and finally get where you want to be. Because instead of just hoping that things will turn out in the desired way you will be able to use your abilities to your best and minimize the obstacles that go along with all of this. Obstacles that are ignored are the obstacles you run against. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/21 11:02 PM |
| 2 | I'm a high neuroticism, low agreeableness, high openness, low conscientiousness, introverted female. I'm also average looking. I feel so unattractive and defective as female, personality and looks wise.In the moment where you realize that you need to change in order to get where you want to be, you have in fact overcome the biggest challenge and are at a point that many human beings never reach. So now, drop the sadness and plan your future life and see what you need to do in oder to get what you want. Go into nun mode for quite some time, you need that to develop your new perspectives and learn how to act differently, quietly observe the relationships in your environment, see what is good or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/21 01:48 PM |
| 3 | The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]It might be also interesting with respect to how they want to see themselves. Someone who would like to be the "risk-taking casanova" but is in fact much more stable might prefer the virtued whore over the sexy madonna, while someone who leads a very risky life and struggles with stability might prefer the sexy madonna over the virtued whore. At least this is how I have observed it happen several times? But I don't know in how much this will help in getting any men one wants, does it not rather … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/21 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: I love him but...I would like to add that there are several ways how disrespect shows in a relationship and how you can assess the feelings you have for someone how do you react if you disagree on something important? how do you feel when he does not do what you want? more...? do you feel angry? Do you nag? Turn away? - - > can be a sign of lacking respect because your values don't match, or because of ones own narcisism, probably you feel superior and take a more masculine role in the relationship do you turn s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/21 01:27 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend gets upset at me for being "self critical"Well, here I would really like to ask what you mean with criticizing... and also the type situation in which this shows up? I mean it is ok, when you reflect what happened in your childhood, but at the same time the responsibilty in childhood to find appropriate ways to teach their children how to do things right is on the parents. One can forgive them if things did not work out well, last but least they are also just humans and also forgiveness is sometimes needed to let go of pain and bitterne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/21 04:45 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend gets upset at me for being "self critical"Yes! Here it actually helps to be explizitly demanding in terms of saying "hey if you want to help (because that is the basic intention behind trying to provide a solution), then this is what would help me" 🙂 You are right, reassurance about the validity of the thoughts is also something that we seek... | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/21 11:06 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend gets upset at me for being "self critical"One of the biggest differences in the communication, mostly between men and women, but also sometimes between women women, I noticed over the years is the amount by which people understand the difference between a shared or exchanged observation, memory, insight and the communication of a problem that needs a solution. Not everything spoken about needs a solution and it seems that for women this is more intuitive, because while we sometimes try to find a solution together we are also often just … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/21 10:46 AM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: Male Attraction v Female AttractionMy opinion, which does not constitute proof, but is formed over all my years of studying this stuff and testing it... is that men are programmed to be jealous, and women can be taught to be jealous. Which most cultures do. I think in that generality this is only true for the situation where the man has enough ressources for both women. But it has never been the majority of men that have been in such a position? So that means food for the second woman's kids always means less food for one's own k… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/21 12:26 PM |
| 3 | high body countI think that there is a huge idealization of Mister Superchad (irrespective of which political group) going on, a picture puzzled together by incomplete impressions given by social media, movies, books, additionally to a lot of projections of ones own flaws or perceived superiorities and also on how mister right would suddenly make everything right. And if one then takes ones own judgemental (!) wish for perfection as a reference for others wish of perfection it just becomes very desperate as so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/21 12:07 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Male Attraction v Female AttractionMany possible reasons are thinkable 1) possibility: A woman will not be able to submit to a man that she considers to be of lower value. So there is an incentive to share this one man she knows who is of higher value than herself, even if he is married. She can share, but she cannot go below her own value, because men that are perceived as lower value cause a deep feeling of dislike/repulsion 2) possibility: she is part of a social group that barely enables the men of that group to provide for t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/21 11:49 AM |
| 3 | high body countNo you don't have to. If you already are aware that the hoe phase is harming, then you don't have to repeat the same mistakes as the people did of whose mistakes you learned. On the other hand if someone's life path had some experiences in it in order to learn from it then there is no reason to retrospectivly judge oneself instead of putting the newly learned knowledge into use. The problem is just, that reality does not care with respect to the consequences whether you were aware or not if some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/21 11:19 AM |
| 6 | high body countI would like to add that this kind of self-aware person can also admit to himself that he is not free from "sin" either and by that I don't mean the occasional polite lie. Most human beings did stupid shit at some point in their lifes and some of us manage to learn from it and some don't. Be wary of those people that are unware about either how incredibly lucky they are if they have been spared all pain or those that haven't come to the point yet where they are aware that they are "sinners" as w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/21 11:10 AM |
| 5 | One logical question, and they melt like a block of cheese in an oven 😂I think I also didn't phrase it very well and changed the formulation a bit 🙂 | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/09/21 10:37 AM |
| -5 | A man who demands that his partner stops using sex toys is accused of everything from being insecure about his size to being an abusive partner, yet women who police their partners use of porn are seen as reasonable, proactive, and victims in the situation. Why?I don't think that porn consumption can be considered healthy, be it watched alone or with ones partner. But I do think that the use of toys together can be healthy. Porn and toys are qualitatively very different, no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/21 10:28 AM |
| 4 | One logical question, and they melt like a block of cheese in an oven 😂You didn't get the irony in my answer. It is exactly the realization that from an economic perspective the whole "women get paid less" doesn't make sense anymore. Because if indeed women would deliver the same result for getting paid less, the incentive to hire higher paid men would be gone. So the only correct answer to the question would have been "oh maybe because they don't deliver the same results" and when she realized that she couldn't provide an answer that would support her perspective … | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/09/21 10:08 AM |
| 5 | One logical question, and they melt like a block of cheese in an oven 😂Because... evil patriarchy 😂 Apparently because of patriarchy capitalism suddenly turns into socialism when it is about hiring men, even if you get the same quality for paying less 😂 Her pausing due to the cognitive dissonance when she realizes that she cannot give a logically consistent answer... 😅 | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/09/21 09:35 AM |
| 1 | Am I getting into my own head here?He has been burned and it happened what happens a lot, that people loose trust in their own judgment which makes it difficult for them to completely trust and love again, because often people are not able to resolve all the contradictions that arrive out of such a bad end and then they tend to believe that probably it was fake and unreal from the beginning because they don't understand how something that started so well can end so badly. This can deeply affect ones ability to trust ones own judg… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/21 09:19 AM |
| 11 | high body countHow does a HVM look for you? Which characteristics do you expect in order to perceive someone a HVM with whom you want to spend your life with? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/21 09:00 AM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: A Metaphor for Men and Women’s SMVExactly, a HVM is someone whom you can respect for the decisions he makes and also how he respects you and your needs. Of course sexual attraction needs that you perceive him as HVM, but who you perceive as HVM does not only depend on his objective achievements but also depends a lot on your preferences. Like e.g. I think quite a lot of us have come across a quite successfull guy who was at the same time also feeling creepy or evil in his way of interacting or in character. There is no way that,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/21 08:07 AM |
| 18 | Back to Basics September: A Metaphor for Men and Women’s SMVYou are not unlikely to find a HVM... You underestimate the advantage of real femininity in a world where many girls only focus on looks and being either queens or doormats (doormats reek of neediness for men and neediness is not attractive, neither to men, nor women). SMV only opens the door to sex, RMV opens the door to a relationship and your RMV depends on your stability (absence of crazyness), your ability to make others (him) feel comfortable and valued, the joy you can show him, that you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/21 10:03 PM |
| 0 | My boyfriend of 6 months is on the verge of abuse when it comes to my diet; yet is very charming and affectionate at the same time. How would you react?I think he has a very clear understanding about what is healthy and what is not healthy and it seems that he follows a carnivore diet. You can google this and will find a lot of information. I personally agree on a lot of their ideas and I really think that they do have a point. It really depends on whether you think that you can make this your lifestyle long term. If you see and experience the benefits yourself it will not be very difficult, particularly since you can also find a lot of info ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/21 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Confession Times at RPW?I agree, also because, although I would support this, I also feel more comfortable to know that is is handled by this community. On the other hand, even after three years on reddit, I haven't figured out how to use throwaway accounts. Hm 🙈 So maybe we can add a link to a description on how to use them approriately? Not because of me, but because I also think that it should be as low barrier as acceptable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/21 06:30 PM |
| 1 | New boyfriend’s ex messaged me on FB saying he’s abusive.I agree, if her intention really was to warn you as opposed to disturb you and interfere with her ex's new relationship, she would have approached the topic from a completely different angle. Moreover, as a previous commenter already said, abuse always goes in two directions. And with respect to my understanding the assumption that abusive people want to abuse is wrong. People are toxic to each other because they don't know how to handle conflicts in healthy way and they drive each other deeper … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/21 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Confession Times at RPW?I am trying to find a solution that easily allows to receive messages from an anonymous sender. Vibebo only allows for few characters sent at once. I think whether it works or not depends mostly on how easy it is to share something anonymously, without the added effort from managing several accounts and keeping them private also from people that might have access to computers and phones in real life. We wouldn't want to blow up a perfectly balanced relationship because a member of this community… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/21 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Im having a lot of sex and I think that is making me look “easy”I think it boils down to the fact that intuitively we know that emotional affairs for women means mostly having an orbiter, but orbiters are not sexually loved. While having a sexual affair for men means less than an emotional affair, because for men sex is not equal to love. It perfectly matches RP theory that men are the gatekeepers of relationships and women the gatekeepers of sex. Both, a man having an emotional affair and a woman having sex, open the gate of which they are gatekeepers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/21 05:14 PM |
| 1 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.I am not even a man. If the men here gaslight you then I would ask again, why do you spend time in places where you feel people mistreat you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/21 06:08 PM |
| 1 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.Some men, to be honest a minority. But you concentrate on complaining about what a minority does and that this minority even exists, instead of a) figure out why you obviously repeatedly seem to encounter this minority and b) try to find out how to connect with those men that know how to communicate respectfully. If a guy anywhere requested you to proof first that you are not a slut before he gives you the benefit of the doubt, would you even bother to talk to him? I most certainly wouldn't beca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/21 02:19 PM |
| 1 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.You decide to focus on those that are cruel and generalize to all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/21 10:52 AM |
| 1 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.Everything you are saying reflects that "men are such evil that I cannot tolerate their presence although I would like to but I have tried everything and they are just so rude and cruel that I decide to live my life without them" You assume you know everything and you are not even trying to understand something that you obviously don't understand, because, well, you already know it all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/21 10:18 AM |
| 1 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.No, but you now convinced me that you just want to complain and insist on self-pity. Not surprised that you feel bitter and disappointed. Have fun <3 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/21 10:05 AM |
| 1 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.Women insisting to become like men due to feminism also had as a consequence that men AND women are less aware about the subtle differences that communication with the other gender requests. So again, it is not men, it is false information. Men assume that to modern woman they can communicate in the same way they do with their buddies. It is important to understand that they as individuals are trapped in the same way in this system and we woman need to make it understood that e.g. we still adher… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/21 09:59 AM |
| 1 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.Understood. But emphasizing that some skill might be more difficult to learn for one or the other is not going to help them. It might make them feel better, or not. It is definitely not encouraging anybody to learn "how to do it right". We are way too fast on labelling people with difficulties in communication as being on the spectrum (=having a real disability). It is then, out of frustration about such a difficult task, easy to give up and game instead of asking "how?". Then this means basical… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/21 07:34 AM |
| 2 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.You don't need to question yourself... Just ask yourself where the root cause rather is? Is the root cause men (some definitely are) or is the root cause incorrect information? If you have an incorrect picture of men then incorrect expectations cause actions that do not lead to the desired outcome. Men are not like women. If you interact with them as you would do with women then they cannot understand you and you will not understand them. In principle it is just like learning a different languag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 06:18 PM |
| 1 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.You don't talk about experiences. You talk about how reality does not meet your expectations and instead of questioning your expectations you question reality. Not the way you think might be incorrect but the world is incorrect for not matching your thoughts. How I know? Because your experiences with men would be completely different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 05:53 PM |
| 0 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.No, you simply don't need to complain about things that you choose yourself. If you choose to do something then don't complain about your choice. It's as simple as that. You choose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 05:25 PM |
| 0 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.One wouldn't even know where to start cleaning up this mess... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 05:07 PM |
| 1 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.You decide if you want to turn away from the world because it doesn't match your fantasies or whether you choos to accept that life has it's rules like an adult would do. But then if you decide that this is the path you want to take stop at least complaining about what you choose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 05:05 PM |
| 4 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.As if all men were poisonous. Did you ever thought about the fact that maybe relationships were healthier when men were still allowed to be men instead of imitating female behaviour? If you talk to a man then of course it will seem poisonous, but not because he is a man but because your expectation is wrong. It is like talking to a horse and expecting a cat to answer 🙈 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 04:30 PM |
| 0 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.So ridiculous. Like people would sit in a wheelchair and couldn't walk because they didn't have legs. Instead they have legs but refuse to use them to walk and instead complain about having to learn how to use their legs and call it "bending backwards". This generation is so lost. Glad that you seem to know at least how to chew and swallow your food. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 04:01 PM |
| 5 | A big contributor to male desperation for sex is a lack of social skills and general lack of emotional intelligence.As if women wouldn't suffer or miss men if they were forced to spend the rest of their lifes without them 🙈 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/21 03:54 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend UpdateBeat the eggs until they are foamy before you add them to the hot but not too hot milk as one would do with fricasse and add the sugar before you add the eggs... And if you have, some vanilla. It is actually delicious if you do it right 😊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/21 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend UpdateIf you want to go through that with him, then I would suggest what I wrote below. Give yourself some days to process the shock before you make a decisions. You will need that time to sort yourself and know what you want to do. Read about co-dependence and how it starts. You already had the attitude of acting overly motherly with respect to points where he did not take care of himself. Stop that. Step back and give him the space he needs to get back on his feet. You can only keep him company and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Hippie communities and fake sex positivity?Thank you. This was a really interesting excourse! 🙂 Clearly and understandably explained! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 10:56 PM |
| 1 | Hippie communities and fake sex positivity?I loosely knew similar people for some time. In my city it is the entire art scene and I sometimes went to their events and concerts and I also had one or two loose friends. I understand what you mean with fake sex positivity. But they also have fake happiness and fake love. It is all somehow superficial even though they highlight emotions and empathy a lot. Everybody is complaining about their parents or in therapy. Poly, BDSM, bisexual relationships are the norm. Or the type of relationship be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 10:41 PM |
| 2 | “I can’t be open because they will use it against me” is a common thing I hear men say, but not women as much — why?They roast usually because they feel that they don't get through to you. It is the question of the day whether women talk too much because men don't listen or whether men don't listen because women talk too much 😉 However a woman roasting you always means that she does not trust your competence and that you are bad at leading... Take it as a feedback to improve your skills. https://youtu.be/--owzZnaDC4 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/21 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Confession Times at RPW?Anonymous field reports about developments away from repeating shameful experiences again and again 🙂 With respect to advice I wonder how we could then include questions to the OP and let her answer without blurring the picture and without her revealing her identity. It would probably also play into the hands of people who would like to paint an incorrect picture of RPW. So giving advice would become very difficult if we want to do more than just guessing and this could also enhance the amount o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 06:03 PM |
| 1 | What is the importance of a stay at home mom in sociality as a whole?I think it is all acquired skills and a lot of intuition. I grew up in a female-only house hold and I can understand the gap from the perspective of connecting with men. I could never trust men and to even develop the thought of trusting was difficult. What has somehow Indirectly helped me was that I was more and more developing friendships with women that explizitly don't talk badly about men in general, so although they are most likely not RPW they have maintained a positive and respectful att… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 03:43 PM |
| 5 | Confession Times at RPW?Disrespectful comments are not allowed according to the rules of this sub and would probably get deleted by the moderators. And that is also why anonymity would help and is maybe even needed to talk about some topics. The readers can and should also read the comments and most RP truths regarding AWALT are true anyhow. The point is that neither men nor women are perfect, so I don't see a reason to hide things in order to polish our image and let that prevent others from growing and learning thems… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Confession Times at RPW?I am glad that you like it! 🙂 I think we would also need the agreement from RP moderators and RP endorsed contributors, right? I am not sure if it makes sense if one of us runs this, or does it? I would not mind setting up an account and post the "confessions" if there will be some. But maybe it is better if it is done officially by the people who run this sub? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Confession Times at RPW?Thank you! That is exactly what I was thinking! 🙂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 02:39 PM |
| 1 | I don't understand why he leftI think the problem is that when you meet someone online you essentially have no signal for "social proof" and probably many women try to compensate for that by talking on the phone until the hope they have collected enough information such that they can finally convince themselves to meet that person despite not having social proof at all. They don't "feel" it, yet, while in fact, seeing that person interact in a social environment is the first real indicator of social proof they could get. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 11:37 AM |
| 1 | I don't understand why he leftI think you didn't anything wrong. I think he just realized that you would outgrow him fast and that he cannot hold up the responsibilty and the good picture about himself for long. It is easy to be harmonious over the phone or the www, it is far from easy to be harmonious in everdays life, particularly if in the time before you have presented yourself in a much better light, which you know you cannot life up to for an extended period of time. He was smart enough to understand that after he met … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 10:52 AM |
| 2 | I don't understand why the hell I am still singleu/Davidhoff24 I think this could be a big part to the answer. If you stepped up as supporting and leading your family, then by that you have acquired and developed a male competence, which is not neccessarily bad, but this will in many men not feel feminine to them. It just does not cause the spark in them. But honestly I am also a little bit surprised because you don't mention any male attention from men that you are not attracted to. I come from a similar situation. I was basically the man in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 10:42 AM |
| 1 | Hypergamy and relationshipsWhile I don’t disagree with you that some men do this, once they do, it is no longer an RP relationship where the man leads. Once a man has the notion that is wife/partner is somehow above him, that makes him unable to be a Captain by definition, because Captains can only lead once their First Mate has deferred to them, and why would she defer to him if she is above him? Yes, I agree. The problem I see here is that the women will develop together with the man, particularly if she values him and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/21 08:53 PM |
| 3 | Telling unattractive men that increasing their "status" will boost their SMV is a red herringYou are forgetting that the rules have changed. I agree with your reasoning, that concentrating on being among the 20% worldwide does not make sense, however the point is that the further away you are from your local 20% the less likely it is that a woman will perceive you as above her and the less likely she will accept you as a leader and also next to her side. I really don't know if the model that 80% of women aim at 20% of top men is really true, but I do know that status, wealth, success ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/21 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?I am just saying that there is "heat of the moment situations" that get reported as rape but are not and there is actual rape in which "no" is expressed. These situations are not the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?No, because you related consensual sex among adults (even if it was without "contract") to situations of obvious rape. Your links had nothing to do with the situation the commenter adressed. He was not talking about rape, he was adressing the situation that for men the danger exists to be accused to have raped, because the women changed her mind afterwards. I understand that it has something to do with the situations you encounter at work. However, if anything could have been outlined with respe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?Sex with consent can never be rape. By engaging I mean willfully following whatever type of stuff happens. It can be questioned if it is decent to use or play on a womens very obvious attraction, or drinking, or generally not being able to act responsibly with herself. However this is not rape. It is shady to use peoples weak state of mind for ones own interest, but it is not rape. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?It is not that I disagree with you, but from my personal experience it might have been better, had I grown up with my father instead of my mom. Anyway, I was reading the entire thread of the comments and now I jumped back to the origin, I think you misunderstood this comment and because we "cry" rape when we regret sex. not because rape is a traumatizing crime with consequences that are time intensive and costly to sort out (for the victim, perp doesn't have to do shit). it also is a matter of f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?As long as you are aware that it is a believe and also know that it is not respresentative of reality you can lead your life according to this, but you will attract weak men and they will confirm your bias, because as a matter of fact weak men don't have principles and it is people without principles that act impulsive in their desire for control or power or attention or whatever. What you should rather try to understand is how to find those men that respect themselves and their principles, but … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?The only difference is that in one case it is more often a girl which is the victim and in the other case it is more often a boy that is the victim, and obviously you tend to emphasize with female victims more than with male victims, which is understandle because you can relate more easily to their pain. Each of the sexes has their dark side. Not sure what your intention is with emphasizing the dark side of one of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?Yes, I understand. But I want you to open your eyes to see that women can equally damage their kids. They can do it sexually as well and sexual abuse by women is not talked about very often, because men are often not seen as victims in such situations. However, women that emotionally use their sons and daughters as emotional tampons, are equally abusive. They stunt their kids for their lifes. The girl that survived sexual abuse will have difficulties to have healthy relationship with men, the bo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?You understand that "be wary of everybody" it is a completely different statement as "be wary of men"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?As it would be best to be wary of all women? You never know about their emotional instability or particularly e.g. if single moms neglect their kids because they are looking for a new provider? Good and Bad people are not related to the sex they are born with. Men can look terrible from female perspective, women can look terrible from male perspective and worst are those where both sexes agree that what has been done is evil. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?What about mothers that ruin the childhood of their kids due to Munchhausen Syndrome? Because they want attention? Seriously? This is not in anyway better. Period. Women are by no means inncoent when it is about abuse of children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?It can even happen in relationships that a women feels disgust for some time when the partner messed something up, particularly if it is something that makes her loose respect for him. Better not to have that happen too often because it could become permanent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Hypergamy and relationshipsI agree. At the same time the problem is that if relationships are in an estranged phase that has progressed beyond a certain point, then the amount of maturity a women would need in order to act against her feelings for the sake of maturity is inhumane. So one part of RPW strategy and the interest of lasting relationship should not only attempt to appeal to reason and maturity but also to think about possibilities to prevent certain situations. What was the perfectly right decision at time X mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/21 08:56 AM |
| 1 | Hypergamy and relationshipsOk, maybe for you hypergamy does not exist. It is common knowledge that human beings rationalize their behavior and in order to avoid cognitive dissonance they also do this rationalization with respect to the morals they have. Hypergamy is one among many reasons why relationships can fail. In general it is a valid sexual strategy. But a) from a RPW perspective it is not desired, because RPW goal is lasting relationships. It is for those who would like to stay with the same men for the rest of th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/21 08:24 AM |
| 2 | Hypergamy and relationshipsThank you for the clarification. You are right with respect that I looked at hypergamy not only with respect to the "marrying up" part. However I don't really see a contradiction because also marrying up results from the desire to improve ones situation and some men also use hypergamy to improve or secure their status. Living creatures use whatever is available to them. I also agree that being humble can help, but it will not help to overcome that deep state of dissatisfaction, that goes along w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/21 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Hypergamy and relationshipsI don't know, but probably not neccessarily with respect to your carrier. I don't think that from female perspective it means being out there battling, but rather having a direction, a common mission. I think it is rather about keeping the feeling of relatedness. At some point many couples just seem to live next to each other, keeping it stable for the sake of the kids, for comfort, for financial reasons. Relationships need maintenance and having a common goal towards one can strive together hel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/21 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy and relationshipsYou are asking why hypergamy exists. Don't ask me why people are what they are. It is good for you if you consider yourself invulnerable. Dread is simply the fear to loose the other. I am glad that you apparently never had that fear. But not everybody is like you and that was not the point of that OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/21 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Hypergamy and relationshipsBut dread (thank you for the correction. I am non-native and I did not remember the correct word and I corrected it in the text) works on many people, women and men, if not all and there is an psychological reason for it, which is at least partially, if not entirely, related to our biology. And of course a women can improve herself, but she cannot improve the relationship alone, and less can she improve family life alone, nor can she improve her life without her partner if she wants to stay with… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/21 07:07 PM |
| 4 | Hypergamy and relationshipsIf it were that easy then not so many relationships would break. They did not all marry the wrong guy. Most people don't know how to maintain a relationship over many years. You will always want to move in your life and it is easy to be satisfied as long as everything is new and shiny. Edit: There are reasons why the "right" one suddenly does not feel right anymore, hypergamy, or the unmet need for improvement, is just one of them. But it is an important one, because often only the feeling that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/21 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Friendly reminders for lurkers 🙂Do you know what false flags are? That is basically the strategy. Take person A with neutral opinion X Now take person B with neutral opinion X plus despictable and wrong opinion Y State that who says X also means Y and claim that A now is the same as B. That is how all of this works and you keep people separated on clearly distinguished lines and they will never find their common truth. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/08/21 11:29 AM |
| 2 | Friendly reminders for lurkers 🙂You are such a gracious tradwife that ressorts to insults when counteracting the truth <3 | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/08/21 11:25 AM |
| 3 | Friendly reminders for lurkers 🙂Because they are stupid and emotionally driven, acting based on projections and fantasies, and they don't understand that they reveal themselves with the logic and arguments they use. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/08/21 11:24 AM |
| 5 | Why do women have a lower threshold for disgust in regards to sex?You are making the question just about looks and then it is simply wrong. Women don't feel disgust about having sex with an average looking male. Maybe they say so, but that is just words with that they want to indicate that they consider themselves of being much higher value than the guy and sometimes they even say this about particularly those men of whom they are attracted because they want to protect themselves. So you never know what is behind this. It is however really childish high school… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/21 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Please help, my ex is mad at me because I slept with someone else when we weren’t together?Yes, I understand and believe you. It can be understood as an action that kind of seals the break up. He took one step, you took the next... It is not that it is "wrong" as in mistake or wrongdoing, but the consequences are now making it more difficult for both of you and this is also why it is sad... It is less about what you thought when you did it, but rather about trying to make you understand how things might look like from his perspective. Yes, formally you had the right to do what you did… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/21 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Please help, my ex is mad at me because I slept with someone else when we weren’t together?Yes, but this is the same feeling that he has with respect to what you did now... How can you not see that? Just because he broke up doesn't mean that he cannot feel anything with respect to what happened. Both of your feelings are justified and normal, but the way you deal with it is neither helping the two of you to become a better couple nor does it seem to be healthy. That is what everybody tries to warn you. It seems as if both of you lack the ability to understand the impact ones own actio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/21 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Please help, my ex is mad at me because I slept with someone else when we weren’t together?What? Good men don't break up and block you on all channels after two years. He did not ask for time to process, he did not ask her to wait. One can question if her sleeping with someone else was the right decision and what it says about her general maturity, but definitely two months after a clearly communicated break up, is the time to stop waiting that the other will reach out and she has every right to deal with that in whatever way helps her. Although I agree that there would have been heal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/21 09:53 PM |
| 2 | Female relationships in the workplaceIt could also be that you suddenly have to work with a woman that was alone in a circle of men for a long time. So she is used to being the unicorn and without bad intentions she might feel threatened by another women showing up... To treat her as the alpha female until she realizes that you are not going to threaten her unicorn status and that you are willing to collaborate with her on good and equal terms without threatening her position also helps a lot to smoothen things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/21 08:48 AM |
| 2 | Please help, my ex is mad at me because I slept with someone else when we weren’t together?Ok, but then it is clear, right? He did not know what he wants and decided that he didn't want, then he realized that he misses you more than he imagined. He cannot question your commitment if he was cancelling the commitment first. You should get very clear on that in and for yourself. You say that you love him, so you can try to find the most empathic words to explain to him that you understand that he feels betrayed, but that at the same time he communicated very clearly that he does not want… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/21 08:40 AM |
| 1 | Please help, my ex is mad at me because I slept with someone else when we weren’t together?Thank you. In some way one can understand that he feels hurt by this, this also depends on the reasons why he broke up and also why he is coming back now. It would be however also his responsibilty to deal with this by also recognizing that he broke up first and that then he needs to also respect that everybody deals differently with a break up, instead of making you feel guilty. So if you really want to give the two of you a second chance, the don't accept the blame and even less put it on your… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/21 07:58 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the "great conspiracy" to stop women from staying homeIt has something to do with abundance and safety, because only with abundance and safety you can afford to ignore potential backlash of acting irrational or ignoring reality. We can only afford this insane amount of hybris because we are relatively wealthy and shielded from all the usual threats. Human fantasies are infinite, without feedback from reality everything seems to be possible and ideas and fantasies start to dominate and will inevitably lead to incorrect adjustments of behavior, best … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 11:59 PM |
| 3 | Please help, my ex is mad at me because I slept with someone else when we weren’t together?No, you were not. You drew the consequences from what he did and you tried to move on and you found your own way even if it maybe was not the best way to deal with that situation. Yes, maybe it is true and you betrayed some imaginary emotional bond. However, how immature one has to be to break up with someone without meaning it? He blocked you, he clearly showed you that he does not want you to be part of his life anymore. And now he tries to guilt trip you because you respected his decision and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Female relationships in the workplaceTry to get away for her. Don't try to be friends. Try to be as distanced, polite and professional as possible. Don't openly criticise her, never talk bad about her behind her back. Expect other people to tell her what you said and then she will try to sabotage you. Apart from that pretend as if she didn't exist. It will only take some time until she realizes that you are no threat to her and then it will probably become easier. Women more often than not feel personally challenged when their opin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 08:00 PM |
| 3 | My partner doesn't acknowledge how hard I'm tryingLet me try to come from a different angle because I feel I understand what men could mean when they say "no responsibilty for actions". We women tend to try to explain the reasons and thoughts behind our actions when we feel criticized, we do this in order to show that a) there was tought and care behind it and b) there was no bad intentions. Men rather seem to rather judge things by the consequences instead of the intention behind. We women rather trust in the good intentions, we rather emphasi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with the sexual aspect of my relationship - feel like a man eater.I think you will be good or at least a big step further, if the two of you manage to take out the pressure and you "just" (I know it sounds easier than it probably is done) don't seek most of your validation in sex. I also wondered if you are trying to avoid a passive role, because it feels more vulnerable while on the other hand when you initiate you are the one who is in control. I am not sure if completely taking a break from sex is needed or will help you. It could have the opposite effect b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with the sexual aspect of my relationship - feel like a man eater.I can completely understand that his at the moment low desire makes you feel not wanted. It is probably similar as if as a women one would not want the attention of the boyfriend and be disinterested to talk or cuddle with him and maybe even rejects gifts. Irrespective of the reasons it would irritate a lot of people and cause questions and insecurities. So, let's put it like that, you have in the past used ways to engage in sexual behavior that was not particularly healthy for your relationship… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/21 11:46 PM |
| 1 | New Mod: LivelyLycheeThank you <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/21 10:12 PM |
| 4 | MASS PSYCHOSIS - How an Entire Society becomes Mentally IllThank you for sharing | /r/AntiFeminists | 09/08/21 05:30 PM |
| 1 | My bf went camping with another woman.I think you should consider this when you evaluate how you are feeling about the entire situation. If it happenes as you state then he might also have expected a completely different weekend and maybe it even feels weird to him to be alone with the friend for the entire trip. Apart from that, maybe it really was once in a life-time badly planned event. It does not seem like he intentionally planned to spend the time with her alone... | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/21 08:39 PM |
| 7 | How do I become a red pill women?If you don't invest that time into your own development now, you might easily loose years by falling for the wrong guy. Give yourself six months fully invested into yourself. Six months will not harm because the alternative, if you start dating now, will be like going on a journey without knowing your budget or the destination. It will be highly risky and you will be completely dependent on the circumstances. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/21 10:54 AM |
| 1 | Advice/opinions on a situation with my partner. Problems with communicating issues, he goes distant and leaves me hanging knowing nothing."tone down your display of emotions". How about instead, he stops telling domestic abuse "jokes" to his partner. You're pathetic. How about not insulting people just because they have a different opinion to you? Apparently her boyfriend feels so uncomfortable that he starts to withdraw. Did you read her response? If you did you would see that what she misunderstood was him ridiculing abusive people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/21 08:14 PM |
| 2 | What’s more difficult? A man becoming “high value” or a woman becoming “high value”It was. There was no foundation or never a career or good reputation in the first place, because anything founded on something real can take a hit or two | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/21 11:11 PM |
| 11 | Boyfriend is sending mixed signals before first trip together, and I'm lostYou wrote about what he says but you didn't say anything about how you respond. So how do you respond? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/21 11:05 PM |
| 2 | How do I find/date men who actually care about me?I would like to raise another aspect, namely the question of how much do you value yourself? Your weight is not as bad as it could be, but you have a lot of space for improvement. Really, a lot of space. Don't you think you deserve to be at your best? Then you would not even have to ask that question. What is holding you back? The question is not if men will treat you badly or not, the question is do you think it is desirable? Do you think you could be more desirable? It is all about using your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/21 07:12 PM |
| 8 | Do you believe that consuming “blue pill” media influenced you to mimic the behavior you saw there?It only depends on your maturity and the values that you were surrounded with when you grew up. It does have little to do with what you "actually always wanted to do". In my case it has led me to thinking that I and my morals were in the wrong and that how I feel is not normal. These shows set standards particularly to people whose consciousness is not at a level to understand that it is "just a story told by someone". Don't deduce from the maturity with that you were able to handle these shows … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/21 06:00 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend wants to get married in 2 months. Would like some advice.Why? Do you feel that you have so little options? Please girl, ask yourself why you would want to be with exactly this guy. You are setting your life up for a nightmare and you already are in the beginning of your 30ies. You don't have time to waste with playing around and then needing years to work through the trauma. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/21 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Advice/opinions on a situation with my partner. Problems with communicating issues, he goes distant and leaves me hanging knowing nothing.It sounds like you are on the right path :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/21 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Advice/opinions on a situation with my partner. Problems with communicating issues, he goes distant and leaves me hanging knowing nothing.If one feels rejected or even guilty for doing something wrong it is normal, particularly for men, to withdraw. In order to protect oneself but also in order to understand what is going on. From what you described he does not seem like somebody who has a lot of experience in understanding emotions. Moreover men don't have the same sensibility and awareness with respect to the emotional impact their words can have and these jokes are a very good example for that. It is very difficult for them to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/21 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Victoria’s Secret and what it means to be “sexy” in the modern era.Go on fat. Animal fats. Butter, cream, eggs. All, I repeat, all, sex hormones are derived from Cholesterol. Egg yolk is the best source of it. It should also help you with mood and concentration after few days already. Add some B vitamins, particularly B3, to help your body to use the Cholesterol. It takes a few days to get over the desire for sugar. You can try to get L-Tryptophan. 1-2g ease the sugar cravings more or less immediately and Tryptophan also supports good and healthy sleep. If you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/21 11:04 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend says the craziest things sometimes, yet it’s usually funny... Very conflicted.It is incredibly healing and calming to see things how they are instead of how they are supposed to be. Additionally it takes away a lot of stress. The world is the way the world is, seeing reality for what it is and detach it from the immediate emotional response is probably among the most powerful skills one can have. It helps ones own emotional state, the judgment of others and also professional success. Just saying 🙂 it saved my very unhappy soul because I could finally accept that men are d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/21 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Advice/opinions on a situation with my partner. Problems with communicating issues, he goes distant and leaves me hanging knowing nothing.If you put a look on his perspective then it could well be that he enjoyed making you laugh during the conversation a lot and then he felt so close and happy that he forgot that you don't like these type of jokes and told it and instead of a positive response (loud laughter) you turned silent. Just remember that the intention behind telling a joke is usually to make the other person laugh. By turning silent you basically made him feel that the positive connection of the moments before was now su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/21 10:18 PM |
| 13 | Is it possible to use RPW strategies when I am asexual?RPW is about creating relationship happiness based on the assumption that men and women have different needs. If you are asexual then in order to have a happy relationship with someone you need to find someone who is asexual as well. Like hunger and thirst, sexuality is a true need for most human beings and they starve emotionally and physically if they cannot get this need satisfied within a relationship. This is why sexual compatibility is among the most important aspects of the vetting proces… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/21 10:05 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend wants to get married in 2 months. Would like some advice.He says those things because like a child he is not emotionally stable and he acts impulsive stating feelings and fleeting doubts. Not you have to work on being able to deal with your anxiety. He is causing it by sending you the Signal that he cannot be trusted. I had to let things end with someone who kind of threatened to break up with me each time there was a misunderstanding or something more complicated. He did it out of anxiety and because his thinking was generally shortterm, so he did no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/21 05:05 PM |
| 5 | How do men vet?What makes you think he could be a psychopath? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/21 01:25 PM |
| 14 | This is something I can't wrap my head around.Because they are trapped in the idea that men are supposed to be, act, speak, think and feel as women do and act accordingly expecting the other to respond like a woman would do. So they don't understand men. I think most of them don't have bad intentions, they "just don't get it", they fail to grasp the reason behind their frustrations and since they think they did their best they think it must be the other, aka men and join the speeches about men that they have heard from others until they rea… | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/07/21 06:57 PM |
| 3 | What's up with girls and obsession with rape these daysI think there is generally a huge conflict between male and female sexuality. After feminism women accessed a lot of spaces in society which have been men only until then. Now women have entered male spaces and men and women are told that they are and should be sexually the same. E.g. more aggressive sexuality is promoted for women. At the same time casual sex is promoted. While men have a higher and stronger sex drive than women. Moreover men communicate overtly and women more subtle. While app… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/21 08:22 AM |
| 2 | Am I asexual, demanding or men that I date are not that interesting?I think woman rarely seek sex only for sex. I believe that most women only want to have sex with a certain guy because he inspires it and because he can lead them into having sex with him. The sexuality of men and women is very different. The red pill considers it as women having a reactive sexuality, which means that in order to trigger their sexual desire they need an external trigger, a men that they find attractive and that initiates.If you scroll through this sub you will find a lot of post… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/21 07:54 AM |
| 2 | Count Down: Book ReviewSorry if it read as if I were pointing at you. I hoped explixitly stating that I am certain that this is not your ideas would be enough. Sorry if that was not the case. Particularly the Western society does not tell anybody anymore that they have to have children. On contrary they tell people that it is bad to have children and where they don't tell it they in particular act according to it, by making the lives for families more complicated. E.g. promoting abortion and irresponsible sexual actio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/21 09:36 PM |
| 4 | Count Down: Book ReviewSorry, this has become a bit dark. I found it important enough to share it, nevertheless. First and foremost it is a scientific assumption. Assuming it is true then maybe reducing the population is a good thing. However you yourself have to decide if you want to reduce yourself. Can or shall individuals be obligded to reduce themselves, sacrifice themselves, commit suicide? What about the evolutionary aspect? Who decides who is part of the group that is allowed to recreate? Who decides who will … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/21 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Men don't need women - and that's wonderfulAll men will want sex, not all men will want you as who and how you are. Wanting you as in the way you think and feel and interact with them is way superior to needing you because they are unable to be without you and basically have no choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/21 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Men don't need women - and that's wonderfulIt really only depends how you define want and need and additionally there is the trap of projection into which so many of us fall all the time. Both want and need can lead to unhealthy dynamics and might just look a little but different. The core idea of the OP is with respect to my understanding rather that what you freely choose again and again is better than what you choose because of dependency. At the end of the day both need each other just in different ways. However need that is dependen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/21 10:52 PM |
| 3 | Is feminism that bad?While it is true that your ancestors being racist does not neccessarily make you racist, it is very different regarding schools of thought. Because schools of thought develop and build on each other and therefore trends can be and are inherited for centuries and there has not ever been a reflection and distancing of feminism on it's roots. On contrary, just observe and watch how the current trends and the tone become more and more violent against men. Watch movies and see how women are idealized… | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/07/21 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Why am I so desperate to feel loved by guys who don’t care about me?Would you like it to be different? If yes, what would you like to be different? How would you desire it to be? What would you need to forgive him? Do you know why things were so bad in the past? Since when and why did it change? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/21 02:04 PM |
| 3 | Not sure what to think anymoreIs a women who is unhappy with the way her man treats her allowed to leave the relationship? If yes, then what is the expectation that a man should not also have the right to feel good in marriage is coming from? Do you really want to make the assumption that he never tried to do things right? And if he tried, who gives anybody the right to judge and criticize him for not being perfect? Reading that she said to him she "would thank him only for what he does if he keeps up with his share" is alre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/21 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Why am I so desperate to feel loved by guys who don’t care about me?Liking to win is a pretty masculine trait and biology pretty much doesn't care about how conscious you are about how it influences the way men and women experience the world 😉 | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/21 07:14 PM |
| 10 | Not sure what to think anymoreYeah, I really think you need therapy. Sorry. Google, 'Maybe he doesn't hit you but...' Google love is respect. Maybe he doesn't hit you, but he cheated you and then gaslit you. Maybe he doesn't hit you, but he refuses to help around the house, even though you both work the same hours. Maybe he doesn't hit you, but he threatened to leave. What is the advice you want to give OP with respect to healing her marriage? You are demonizing her husband. You are not helping. It seems that you project a l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/21 01:05 AM |
| 8 | Not sure what to think anymoreyou seriously don't think you could do better? You're literally 36, my cousin was 38 when she met someone. You are projecting your own bad experiences on her. How do you even dare to tell her that she could better. You should rather listen to her own judgement. Last but not least she is the one who knows him, was married to him and obviously now sees how she contributed to the downfall of their marriage. She can judge who he is, so please stop dramatizing what she will teach her kids by healing … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/21 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Why am I so desperate to feel loved by guys who don’t care about me?With men the logic is a little bit different, it is analogous to the logic of the key that opens many locks and the lock that is opened by only one key. For men a disinterested woman simply means that to her he is not apealing enough, so it rather encourages his ambition to strive to become better. But not better with her as in more caring, more pleasing, but better in his own life, better in knowledge, competence, thus earning respect and status and becoming of "higher value". With women it is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/21 12:09 AM |
| 3 | Why am I so desperate to feel loved by guys who don’t care about me?How are things with your father now? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/21 11:14 PM |
| 5 | Why am I so desperate to feel loved by guys who don’t care about me?How is the relationship to your father? After I healed the relationship to my father the men who are not interested in me completely disappeared from my consciousness. It seems to me that we all need someone whom we respect to be the oak for us, or a captain. Without we are like ships on a stormy ocean without captain and we seek attention, approval, guidance, and a direction in those around us. And very often we do that with those that remind us about what we know, people for whose attention we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/21 09:04 PM |
| 1 | My whole relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years was a lie?You might compare it with how some people feel about their best friends. I have seen it several times that when bff girls find a new friend then the other bff can get jealous and turn afraid of loosing the "exclusive" bff friendship. I think some are even very clear about not wanting to share their bff with someone and then e.g. when one of the has a boyfriend the friendship is affected. I think the explanation is pretty simple. He is missing something, whatever that is, it might be in his life,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/21 08:53 PM |
| 5 | Help me change my mindset towards my husbandAnd maybe it can also help to simply say "I prioritized your career with respect to our relationship for so and so long, I am tired and drained, now it is your turn to prioritize our relationship a bit more". Try to keep your messages as simple and concise as possible otherwise it is more difficult for them to get through. Limit them to the most important topics. He needs one or two key sentences around which his thoughts can circle, more words are lost. Repeat the same messages (problems) again… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/21 12:42 AM |
| 6 | Help me change my mindset towards my husbandBecause in his mind he only knows how to be respected for being a mathematician and he probably sees himself predominantly in the role of professor. I think similar problems could be very common in the men of our time. When men where mostly providers, their duty was sufficiently realized having a respectable job and providing. Now the landscape has shifted and the functions became more complex. While you yourself are working in a regular job and therefore need to deal with and understand complex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/21 12:16 AM |
| 17 | Help me change my mindset towards my husbandI think you need to make a decision here for yourself. Life in academia is unstable, particularly if one wants to progress. Additionally academia often does not respect the needs of a family. Moving and investing every single minute of free mental energy into the subject is a default prerequiste for anyone who wants to be successfull. A friend of mine went that way and lost his wife and daughter over and he could not deal with the loss for many years. This has affected his carrer, for some years… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/21 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Any women here who were really neurotic due to trauma but have turned their lives around?Thank you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/21 01:43 PM |
| 3 | No one is happy I am pregnant!People often call others stupid because they disagree. The people who called you stupid are also the same people that ignored your question and did not see what it is that you want and did not try to provide advice to help you to get where you want. People often forget that because they don't know how to make something work, it does not mean nobody else will know how to make it work. Just because somebody failed does not mean everybody else fails and then they confirm each other in their incompe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/21 01:24 PM |
| 2 | No one is happy I am pregnant!You don't come across as stupid. Not at all! To me you just seem young and maybe a bit too bright eyed, that is all 🙂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/21 12:11 PM |
| 6 | A Day In My Dad’s ShoesIt sounds exactly how I perceive the relationship between my dad and his gf of many years and also the way I perceive my mom. Thank you for sharing this and describing it in such detail. This should be read and understood by every woman that ever felt victimised in her relationship. The emotional response to a lack of respect is anger and the emotional response to a lack of love is tears and hurt. Lack of love can cause lack of respect and vice versae. How can you love someone by whom you don't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/21 09:35 AM |
| 2 | No one is happy I am pregnant!Of course that is solely your choice and decision, still I would highlight that this is more about being reasonable and making sure that you can in a worst case scenario rely on plan B. Being reasonable can sometimes be hard work 😉 and sometimes even with a kind and generous husband it should not be avoided to be able in worst case to provide for oneself, because even he cannot control all situations. Did you ask him about the measures he takes for the case something happens? Last but not least … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/21 08:58 AM |
| 2 | No one is happy I am pregnant!I am glad that it makes sense to you. The way you described her she probably will give you a chance as soon as she understands that at the moment she is probably reacting more to her own fears and the mistakes she thinks she did instead of reacting on the reality of your actual situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/21 08:54 AM |
| 2 | No one is happy I am pregnant!I would probably 100% agree, if it seemed like a general pattern in their relationship, but she describes her parents generally as loving and supporting, so this seems like one of few situations and as a life event as such it is big enough for parents to loose some nerves over it. And from what she wrote it did not sound to me as if they would pester her all the time, but yes, if they did then at some point it would be neccessary to show some boundaries. But with respect to how I understood her … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/21 01:18 AM |
| 2 | No one is happy I am pregnant!No, but escalation should be a conscious decision. Fighting is by default a primarily masculine way of dealing with conflict and of course women can and should fight if the situation requires it. Feminine conflict resolution is different and, I agree that there are situations, where fighting might be appropriate, but not every woman who tries to use softer ways of solving a conflict or getting what she wants is automatically a doormat. I believe that in that particular situation there could be b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/21 12:15 AM |
| 2 | No one is happy I am pregnant!That is basically telling her to fight in a masculine way. Shouldn't that be one of the last steps after everything else fails? From what she describes it seems that everyone around her is in panic mode, except her, who is happy about the near future. Fighting them by demanding respect and being assertive could in that current situation only lead to more alienation which would probably do more damage than good. Shouldn't the first step be to give the parents the possibility to process and adjust… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 11:32 PM |
| 4 | Any women here who were really neurotic due to trauma but have turned their lives around?I second that. Without any positive role model or any healthy relationship in my environment and the social background noise it was very difficult to figure out what I did wrong. I also - and therapists - attributed a lot of things to trauma, although I can now tell that it was mostly just misguided thoughts and actions and of course parents that cannot, for whatever reason, guide their kids are a f***** traumatic nightmare. Who would have thought how easy things can be? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 11:09 PM |
| 12 | Any women here who were really neurotic due to trauma but have turned their lives around?I think I did. Plenty of my neurosis or trauma were resolved as soon as I understood how I have contributed and created those myself. Never intentionally of course, but unknowing mistakes are even worse because one tends to repeat particularly those mistakes which one does not understand, thus recreating traumatic situations again and again without seeing a possibility to change. What helped me? Accepting that I had misunderstood or was falsely informed about many things and then an honest asses… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 09:59 PM |
| 3 | No one is happy I am pregnant!So you see, probably she was in love with your dad as well and thinks retrospectively that her choice was bad. So now there is probably resentment and regrets on her side for being married to a man she feels she cannot respect and that could be what she tries to protect you from, waking up in few years, just as she did and realizing that maybe it was the wrong man. If she could see her own flaws and mistakes by which she contributed (in a similar way as your dad also contributed, as everybody co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 08:30 PM |
| 1 | No one is happy I am pregnant!What if she is close to killing herself in her late 30ies because she desperately wants a child but was mislead by society into believing that she would have time? Or because she did not know how to vet properly and made a lot of irresponsible choices, yet her only dream all the time was to meet the one, but she couldn't voice it because she was made to believe that men would want an independent partner that is achieving as men are? And more over every body told her that it was wrong to long for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 06:45 PM |
| 2 | No one is happy I am pregnant!Her mom agreed on them marrying. What was the mom thinking would happen after marriage? Why did the mom and the father not voice their veto before the wedding? Why did they support their daughter marrying a man although they seemingly thought that she shouldn't have kids with him? That they are married but don't plan to have kids? Really? But the mom is the authority you trust and use as an argument against OPs desire? The parents are just in shock and are worried because it is unusual. They onl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 04:03 PM |
| 3 | No one is happy I am pregnant!Everything you write is just assumptions and only shows how you yourself seem to really have bad experience with men. Maybe you need to change your social circle if all the men you know are of such predatory nature. 9 years is really not that big of an age gap. This will never feel old to her if he takes care of himself. I am really surprised how you are able to look into the future and make all those predictions about how she will feel, how he will control her, etc. Do you really think you have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 03:48 PM |
| 6 | No one is happy I am pregnant!Just as many others have to do, many even being single-moms. It is neither ridiculous nor is it unrealistic. Even less because she is married and might even be supported by her husband. If she manages to convince her mom to support as well, it could work out even better and hopefully mom and husband are interested in helping her to be more independent longterm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 03:43 PM |
| 3 | No one is happy I am pregnant!They will talk to you again. It is probably difficult for them to understand the path you have chosen for yourself and to them it feels dangerous. Most people are scared of what they don't understand. In a very different yet similar situation my sister and me have a lot of different perspectives on life and values and men. She would get angry with me easily because she does not understand. Currently we are not talking to each other because, well... However it is also my fault because I kind of i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 03:35 PM |
| 3 | My husband says I haven't been giving him enough attentionSaying thank you is by far not the only way to show respect and/or appreciation. You might want to question your perception on what giving means. Do you give or receive sex/gentleness? Men provide for woman and child, women nurture men and child. Reciprocity is key, even though the ways in how and what we give differ. Just because for men respect might be more important than love, does not imply that men don't need to be loved at all! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 02:24 PM |
| 4 | My husband says I haven't been giving him enough attentionI would add to this to also return the support by asking him what is important to make him feel better in that situation and then finding a practicable solution. Thanking is great, but it still will make the other person dissatisfied if he or she feels that they support without receiving anything back. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 08:33 AM |
| 3 | No one is happy I am pregnant!They will. Although it might still turn into a disconnect because lifes become so different that it automatically raises a certain barrier of missing familiarity. But I think if you continue to listen to them and be the friend that they know some of them will certainly stay in your life. Just don't listen to their advice with respect to your marriage. If you ever have difficulties then talk to some women who is also married and also has your best interest at heart. Maybe your mom, if she likes y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/21 11:27 PM |
| 3 | No one is happy I am pregnant!I completely agree. I think there should be another rule that does not allow any male shaming (e.g. predator, how do they even dare?) in this sub and even attack and insult OP herself. How disrespectful... | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/21 11:22 PM |
| 11 | Do you personally think we should all avoid bleaching as much as possible, especially for us dark haired ladies? Is the color change ever worth the damage?As there is little more attractive than "natural" beauty, I would say one should go for what looks most natural. It does neither mean that one should never bleach nor does it mean one should always bleach. If your hair turns dry and stiff when you bleach it, then don't :) if you can lighten it up one or two tones and you like it because it emphasises your natural beauty then do it. It all depends on the context. Just make sure that with whatever you do you emphasize/enhance. There is no general … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/21 08:38 AM |
| 4 | Why are women always late?Because we cannot plan 🙈 | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/06/21 09:05 PM |
| 4 | How does “birthing person” make you think?It is the attempt to make a difference between the person who gave birth and the person taking care of the child. Separating womanhood even more from our natural/biological function. It is an attempt to decouple the idea that the mother is the woman that gave birth to the child and raises it. It is deconstructing the relationship between biological, birth giving and nurturing role in the same way as is happening calling fathers, sperm donors. So to all feminist girls who think that the system is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 08:22 PM |
| 3 | Husband sends me pictures of Instagram models daily, need some adviceWithout reading this part of the conversation, I came to a very similar conclusion :) so maybe this is the direction to go. Assuming that someone who has shown over years to be affectionate has evil motives behind something should in my opinion only be the last possibility and probably never if everything else indicates good motives. Women will always understand better how you feel as a woman and therefore easily introduce a bias because many interpret it from the perspective of what this action… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 07:41 PM |
| 4 | Husband sends me pictures of Instagram models daily, need some adviceYou said the comments about "why don't you look like this?" have stopped already quite some time ago. So I understand that now he is only sending you these pictures and stopped commenting. Have you asked him why he continues to send you the pictures, although he knows that they are hurting you? I think an open conversation with him where you let him tell you why he sends you the pictures would be the first step towards a solution. If he really is as affectionate as you describe him, then it migh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 07:39 PM |
| 26 | My husband got really angry at meWhat happened in the moment before he told you all these things? What were your reasons to decide to quit working? From my perspective, he felt ignored and disrespected for five years, so you should not expect all of this to dissolve in two months. The hard part of working on the relationship, rebuilding intimacy and trust is only starting. Don't expect something that according to your own words was wrong for five years to disappear because finally you decide to change something. Five years is a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/21 07:58 PM |
| 3 | Need a perspective, because I screwed upIf you would read the sidebar then you would understand a) that alpha and beta are just descriptions of kind of archetypes and both don't exist in the real world. b) true alphas (in a black or white perspective) would also not care about their kids or wife but would let them starve c) particularly from a RPW perspective neither 90% alpha nor 90% beta are desirable for any kind of relationship but a man who manages to balance these traits in himself without turning either into an antisocial somet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/21 06:54 PM |
| 7 | Need a perspective, because I screwed upGirl you are letting your feelings trick you. Six years with no sleep over. Whatever the reasons are for his behavior, ask yourself if you want a relationship with a man that obviously cannot deal with intimacy. Independent mature grown ups that never argue and are able to solve everything in a constructive rational logical way, it might sound appealing and yes it might sound stable and secure. But more often than not it shows lack of emotional engagement. It shows that your are holding back the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/21 06:49 PM |
| 7 | How to be less reactive/sensitive?I am not sure if I understood your problem correctly. What I understood is that you are suffering from his regular display of negative emotions and that this also affects you personally and that you then turn defensive and sensible. I would tell him clearly in a calm moment that you feel that he is acting his emotions out on you and that it makes you feel bad because you then feel as if you are causing his bad mood. Moody people are often not aware about the stress they put on others with their … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/21 09:47 AM |
| 1 | Husband Stopped Wearing Wedding BandI was reading what you wrote again and what also came to my mind is that you mentioned sexual rejection several times. I might be wrong but contrary to what RP states about men mostly wanting sex from us, I have experienced that particularly men that really like you feel hurt if they feel as if they are reduced to "only" wanting sex. So maybe sexual rejection is/was not at the core of things, particularly not if the two of you have resolved things there. So I am wondering if the hurt might be in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/21 10:05 PM |
| 6 | Husband Stopped Wearing Wedding BandThank you for providing some background. It seems that this can explain a lot. Maybe you are right and there are still some revengeful or disappointed feelings he is still carrying with himself. Can you talk to him about this? Maybe you can read Laura Doyles book and apply some of what she recommends in order to do some healing. I know how difficult it can be to undo past rejections and spoken words. I am sorry to hear about that and at the same time I am glad that both of you are trying to heal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/21 09:39 PM |
| 10 | Husband Stopped Wearing Wedding BandI would also ask him why he sees the marriage as being out of control and ask him if he questions your commitment. Did you do anything that might make him feel as if he is loosing you? Do you have sex? Do you think he can feel that you admire and respect him? There is too little background from your side to be able to judge what might be going on. In principle the ring can also be seen as a symbol of his ownership over you, but in his mind it has turned into a symbol of defining himself and mayb… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/21 08:11 PM |
| 6 | Creating space without rejectionHave you already tried "playing" with him, as in creating distance by focussing on something where you pretend is more interesting than him. He might notice that he is not at the center of your attention and likely will test if you immediately focus on him as soon as he talks to you. So don't let him see how your attention actually shifts but let him come and "earn" your attention. If you combine this with a playful and teasing attitude, by e.g. innocently, playfully moving in ways where you kno… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/21 05:07 PM |
| 12 | Is it worth staying in this relationship?Let's say most women will always have doubts probably from the first day to the last day. The doubts will always be: do I like him enough? does he love me enough? do I feel safe enough with him? and so on... From a redpill perspective you as a woman are giving a man the most precious that you have so the doubts, questions and shit tests are justified, even though they can be unhealthy if overdone. However, they are also part of our nature. So before you ask yourself the question whether you are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/21 04:32 PM |
| 3 | How do you have time to yourself when you live with a boyfriend?It might not be related to OP in the sense that it applies to her. However, I think the commenter only meant it as being careful to not build unrealistic expectations, which I think is crucial when moving together. Yes, there might be me time. However, one never knows how much and how. Moving together also means that one cannot do only as one wishes oneself but always needs to think about how this affects the other people. I think that is what the commenter meant with sacrifice. And it was also … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/21 01:07 AM |
| 3 | How do you have time to yourself when you live with a boyfriend?It is about realistic expectations and not fairytales. It is about spending a life together with another human being and potentially children. Since no two human beings in the world have exactly the same needs and wishes there is of course sacrifice involved on all sides. She will be able to have me time. But latest when there are kids, not so much anymore. I don't know how old you are but probably you don't have many friends who already have kids. Because what you hear from all of them unambigu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/21 12:49 AM |
| 4 | How to get him to do the laundry right!?!With respect to washing machines the logic is rather "the less is in the cleaner it gets". Overloaded washing machines do not only have shorter life time, they also do not clean as good as they could 🙂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/21 10:39 PM |
| 1 | How not to be fat.The whole health and food logic is nothing but defining causalities in correlations, but most probably in the wrong direction. healthy people sleep well - - > sleeping well will make you healthy healthy people are active - - > activity will make you healthy healthy people eat less - - > eating less will make you healthy etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/21 04:44 PM |
| 3 | Blocked from other subs?I think it is pretty clear that there is the fear that if you write a good comment there someone might want to read your comment history and then be curious to want to read and participate in RPW as well. So from my perspective it is an intentional attempt to cut down on women who might find RPW interesting. I guess the amount of women that would flow into this sub once their eyes are opened to how badly we have been lied to and misguided about what it means to be a. women would be uncountable. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/21 04:11 PM |
| 1 | To look good or to earn good?I am glad that it rings with you. If you eat right, then you will also feel it in your energy, drive and concentration and it will help you in pursuing your goals and I also find that it is way cheaper, because in the end one needs less in order to feel satiated. As long as you have the desire to eat, it also means that your body is lacking something, so one way to find out what works best for you is to try to experiment with different foods and see what makes you feel satiated without feeling f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/21 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Fed up of my partner putting his needs over mineHe probably minds. However he cannot neglect his own needs and interests and concentrate 100% on only you. I think you know and understand yourself that this would be very unhealthy. So he chooses to do what he has to do because it is right and would be unhealthy to do otherwise. By making him feel bad about leaving you feeling lonely you are essentially punishing him for taking himself seriously. You cause guilty feelings in him whenever he does something that you consider against you. I think … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/21 09:34 PM |
| 2 | To look good or to earn good?I wouldn't read too much into it. Maybe him looking after other women makes you feel more uncomfortable than usual, but I think it takes men a lot of self control to not look after other women. What about the intimacy between the two of you? How do you feel about that? I also agree with the other commenter who pointed out that diet is where you most likely can do most for maintaining/loosing weight. Eating mostly low carb, except maybe a cake with loooots of eggs and butter 😉 every two weeks whi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/21 09:21 PM |
| 4 | Sometimes women don’t want your help, but they might thank you one dayCongratulations! Well done <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/21 02:24 PM |
| 3 | How do you know if someone actually likes you and might be falling for you or if he is just a fuckbuddy?Women lead into a relationship. You think you are giving him freedom when you joke about being fuckbuddies, but fact is that he is investing a lot into you and each time when you are mentioning something like this you are basically slapping him in the face and it is the best way to kill any romantic feelings that he might develop for you. If you cannot clearly communicate your commitment and respect and thankful feelings for how he with nice gestures makes the two of you have a great time and in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/21 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Am I crazy or how am i so in love with his BO?Probably they wouldn't date at all. At least one of them would feel repulsed. Couples often have a problem when the woman is getting off birth control and then cannot tolerate the smell of her partner anymore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/21 07:32 PM |
| 3 | I’m defeated. I’m at the end of my rope. I don’t feel the love and I haven’t felt it for quite some time.You see, there was this commenter who suggested to you that it could be worth to try to figure out how you can make it work. The advice was he is the father of your children, he is a good leader, yes you have issues, but you should try to work it out. What is four years compared to a lifetime? You made a decision latest when you got pregnant with the second child, so less than 9 months ago. The thing is, as soon as someone suggested to you that you might have to change, you said that you feel mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/21 06:54 PM |
| 1 | What happened to this sub? It used to be about improvmentI don't see it so literal, it is rather about the spirit and doesn't mean every evening throughout the years. To me it reads "you don't have to make a bit fuss, if you generally act in ways that he can look forward to when he comes home every day" or "if you want to make him happy, try to generally have a welcoming joyful atmosphere at home, that is all that is needed". However that will then look like depends on the two individuals and their preferences. Also, I would like to add, that although… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/21 08:58 AM |
| 1 | The end of the Rose-tinted glasses, and weighing what matters.Yes, but to be honest, it also seems as if he does not give these things much thoughts. Depending on the person they can also be considered completely irrelevant. Another way by which you can assess more easily how realistic he can judge time and situations is by looking at the outcome. So, e.g. does he forget agreements, is he often late, or looses direction, does he show up to exams and passes them? Depending on that, then you either know that he is perfectly capable in correctly asessing situ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/21 12:48 AM |
| 2 | What is the point in this sub?I understand. Thank you for explaining to me the background of your statement. I also wondered how I could have formulated these questions differently because I think the "you" make them feel personal although they were meant in general impersonal way. I understand that these situations make you sad. At the same time I try to take a very pragmatic approach here. Yes, the information we have due to an OP is very limited and moreover to each situation between two people there is also a history. Ho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/21 12:13 AM |
| 1 | What happened to this sub? It used to be about improvmentIt's very hard to get women to contribute... I think perhaps women instinctively reserve their investments of time and energy for their families, while men are more geared to participating in larger projects. I think for us it is easier to be able to adress thoughts specifically towards somebody and give opinions or advice on something. Picturing an audience without having individual persons and their situations in mind seems to be more difficult. We tend to find the reasons for situations rathe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/21 10:15 PM |
| 1 | What is the point in this sub?You did not made me feel uncomfortable. No worries 🙂 However you claim that you perceive many of the comments/women here to feel the need to "consent to doormat behavior" as you formulated it and I simply do not agree to this and wanted to raise those questions as food for thoughts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/21 09:42 PM |
| 4 | The end of the Rose-tinted glasses, and weighing what matters.I think we tend to project too much towards all kind of ideals. Generally my opinion is that ideals should only set a direction. We will never be able to live up to those ideals all the time in all situations. It simply is inhumane. So, your doubts are normal and healthy. I already wrote this in another comment, your doubts and even their frequency does not say anything about how good your relationship or partner is. Also, you will and should never, blindly trust someone in all situations all th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/21 09:28 PM |
| 0 | What is the point in this sub?How is being empathic with one's partner's needs and desires doormat behavior? Would you as a women want to be in a relationship with a man who expects you to act and be like a man, who has no understanding for your feminine vulnerabilities? What this sub does is that it puts attention on the potential reasons why some male partners might act in the way they do and therefore ENABLES the women to change the dynamic in her relationship instead of just hoping that she might be falling over prince c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/21 08:46 PM |
| 1 | What happened to this sub? It used to be about improvmentThere was a post a few days ago where the lady asked how to give more to the husband now that their kids are older and she has more time on her hands and someone quoted 1950' book that said "wait for him at the doors when he comes home and smile" and I immediately thought of the movie The Stepford Wives where the women were turned into a robots made to serve the husband. Like I may be wrong and I would actually like to be corrected but: a red pill women I thought, is someone strong and feminine … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/21 08:21 PM |
| 3 | How can I get out of this selfish mindset?I would just like to add my two cents as an inspiration for further thoughts. What you saw in his look was the undisguised reaction on a lack of some type of femine skill that traditional men expect in women. In fact it does not really matter if this is a man you respect or not. Even if he is someone whom for whichever reason you cannot respect it nevertheless gives you some information about how you might be perceived. I would look at it from the perspective about learning something about mysel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/21 10:52 AM |
| 2 | My post was deleted from r/offmychest because I post on r/redpillwomenLet's celebrate our downvotes 😄 the intolerance of those girls is amazing... | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/21 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Is it just me or is there a lot of feminist viewpoints in this sub?The point is that attraction is not a contract and if you want your relationship to stay alive it is not as easy as simply "accept everyone as who he is". Both men and women have attraction triggers and rejection triggers. The voices of men are currently not heard in this world. This sub and TRP are places where women can listen to men's needs, understand their very different nature better and therefore enable themselves to improve their own relationship skills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 11:25 PM |
| 4 | Is it just me or is there a lot of feminist viewpoints in this sub?The point is that men are not born masculine. They need to be taught and develop themselves into men that can be great partners. Fathers can support, which many don't have anymore, or other men can do that. Women cannot teach a man how to be a man, it is esmaculating to them. So for men in order to mature the first step for them is to become independent on the opinion of women, particularly in a time when the social spirit is turned against them as it is at the moment. They need to learn that th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 11:15 PM |
| 0 | My post was deleted from r/offmychest because I post on r/redpillwomenI agree... It is disrespectful to push their opinion although it is obvious that the women here look for something else so if anything is degrading and pretending that women could not think for themselves then it is the attitude of I know better what you should actually want. But obsessed and desperate as they are with ruining everything that threatens their false picture of superiority they would probably create fake accounts in order to show all the women here how evil and abusive men are. Sor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 10:33 PM |
| 1 | My post was deleted from r/offmychest because I post on r/redpillwomenBecause the truth speaks louder than lies. We have arguments, they don't. So they need to block criticism in order to protect the mindset of their community...? Every censoring can always only be directed against truth. But I understand, even though feminist/bluepill/fds commenters are easily identifiable by their content, I sometimes also wished that they would stay at their place instead of trying to save women from patriarchy who don't want to be saved. But anyway with the history it is even … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 09:57 PM |
| 1 | The very thing that they "hate" being treated like (i.e. a "bangmaid") is exactly what they say men are. Extreme levels of hypocracy and 0/10 self awareness.You can judge people according to the groups in which they cluster. While TRP has the self improvement part, it is clear that it is only a period of time one the way for something and this something in many cases will mean development and maturing and understanding that all people can be good or evil. For women engaging in FDS there is no hope. They are just feeding emotions and every critical view is immediately blocked. So they only improve their skill in entitled waiting. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/02/21 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Anxious attachment, my man on a trip and how to respond in a feminine way.Thank you for your explanation. I understand your reasoning and also agree that this is something that generally should be considered as well, but I did not see any evidence in what she write, because to me it seemed that she could very much see how she was creating the feelings alone by her thoughts. First longing, then reaching out, not receiving the desired reaction, acting somewhat insecure, again not receiving desired reaction and then worrying and then getting angry. All this without tryin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Past hurtsI am not sure if I agree on this. Yes, it is good if she also seeks help with a therapist. But I don't think that anybody who seeks help with respect to that topic should be told that this is something that cannot be discussed at RPW? People have all sorts of trauma and she probably also has reasons why she asks her question here. She probably is looking for advice from particularly this community. Why should women who experienced rape not get it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 04:53 PM |
| 6 | My post was deleted from r/offmychest because I post on r/redpillwomenI think a lot of the RPW concepts are in contradiction to what from a feminist perspective is considered politically correct. It basically happens everywhere. That what does not want to be heard or causes unpleasant feelings or cognitive dissonance is suppressed by various means. One of the labels by which this is done is "hate-speech" or "microagression". RPW goes against the official feminist narrative, so it is discredited. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 04:36 PM |
| 30 | My post was deleted from r/offmychest because I post on r/redpillwomenThey write "support"... And as RPW we are apparently considered to support hate group no 1 - TRP 😉 and naturally also support the suppression of women by turning them into submissive SAHM and further supporting patriarchy 😣 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 03:57 PM |
| 8 | Anxious attachment, my man on a trip and how to respond in a feminine way.I posted something similar two years ago when my ex went on a trip. He said he went alone - I found out later it was with a female friend whom he shared a bed with and they had sex. Most of the replies on that post told me I was being paranoid. I also thought I was being paranoid, because I used to have issues, so instead I tried to “respond in a feminine manner”. Turns out I should have listened to my gut. Obviously, your scenario may not be my scenario, but my point is using femininity and bei… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 03:12 PM |
| 10 | Anxious attachment, my man on a trip and how to respond in a feminine way.The video Why women leave men and why it's men's fault by better bachelor has an easy explanation for how men's minds are more compartimentalized than women's minds. As much as he is fully concentrating on you so that you can have the amazing times with each other as much he is also concentrating on other tasks as work or now spending time with his friends. Women on the other hand are less compartimentalized, we think about everything all the time whatever we do, particularly about the men we lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 02:57 PM |
| 5 | How do I get along with people at work?Working in tech as well and I would say that there is no place easier to get along with people. If you have problems there then maybe because you take technical discussions and disagreements too personal. Things can get heated. I feel it is the most important to always remember even within a team people have different perspectives and interests regarding the topic and that this is important. Only with different opinions and perspectives the team is through discussions finding the optimal solutio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/21 10:20 PM |
| 3 | How to date when you are unhappy with your career?It seems very obvious that you have an exact picture how you are supposed to be and you get lost in the cognitive dissonance when you compare how you actually are. Try to write down what you ideally want for yourself, each aspect, health, looks, apartment, hobbies, partner, travelling, kids, etc. Then compare this to your current situation. Add for each point next to the ideal situation a description of your current situation. Look at the difference between these two and see what steps would be … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/21 04:01 PM |
| 1 | How to date when you are unhappy with your career?What exactly bothers you about where you currently work? Why do you see it meaningless? After I changed from university to the work place I was unhappy for at least a year. It was difficult for me to accept that I had to give up that dream of doing research forever. It is easy to get something comparable to oneitis for a certain dream. However, my experience is that I was able to find something I enjoyed almost everywhere. So maybe you don't need to change so much in order to feel more satisfact… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/21 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Being afraid to dress nicelyYou can go in little steps. Of course if you show up with completely different outfits within one day after weeks of people being used to the way you usually dress you will draw a lot of attention. In order to make it less uncomfortable to yourself you could try to change smaller things over several weeks. That way you can clowly get accustomed to receiving more attention while you also have time to develop the style you like. In general I think if people want to change their style it is better … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/21 06:43 AM |
| 5 | Accepting my partner's weakness?You just wish I were triggered <3 I am not writing this for you. I am writing it for everyone else who reads this and is really interested in making their own life and relationship a better place. They can choose themselves which information to pick. You're insulting and shaming him. Aside from that you basically advice her to make the decision whether she can accept it or not without giving her any other strategy or tool by which she could figure out, if she was even able to live with it, excep… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/21 11:39 PM |
| 3 | Accepting my partner's weakness?I also agree with your comment and would just like to add that don't even think he needs therapy. He feels responsible for people and situations. It's his commitment to this responsibility that makes it difficult for him. She can easily be his soft place to land and help him use this to his advantage if she can show him that it is not his fault/responsibility and that he can only influence and help people and situations when people allow for it. I edited the original comment, where I said that s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/21 11:31 PM |
| 0 | Accepting my partner's weakness?OP clearly has an issue with it and its a weakness. as i said its a huge dealbreaker for me, i'm dating a man not a girl. why do you care what i think? if shes already worrying whether she will be attracted to him 5 months in then it screams disaster It is not at all relevant if it is a dealbreaker for you, because you are not OP and knowing that it is a dealbreaker for you does not help the OP to understand if she can deal with it or not. It also does not help her to understand if it is somethi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/21 11:22 PM |
| 6 | Accepting my partner's weakness?Men should not have emotional weaknesses? Are they not human beings? Do you want to marry a stone? What advice is this? It is just your opinion, but nothing that helps the OP to deal with her situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/21 10:55 PM |
| 3 | Accepting my partner's weakness?From my perspective the first situation looks like he is very caring about the well-being of his parents and from what you describe it seems that it hurts him to see that he cannot protect them from doing something that harms themselves. There I would actually admire his commitment and maybe support him with the perspective, that as hard as it seems sometimes we can only advice and then have to let people make their own choices, according to "He that will not hear must feel". There are many reas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/21 10:53 PM |
| 1 | How to surrender if I'm better than he is at (some) things?I agree with what some others have said for the one reason that you have the interpretation about him asking a male colleague only because (as you assume) he does not want to ask you and then your explanation, he does not want to ask you because (again you assume) you are a women. Maybe it is the result of the constant narrative in this bluepilled world that teaches us women that we have to compete with men, that we need to be better than them in order to justify what we are doing. I can imagine… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/21 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?That is relatively easy when one is redpill aware... Without being redpill aware it is just all too easy to believe the lies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/21 08:39 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with extremely blue pill advice from my parents?I think I only felt the need to mention that with the flood of lies and misinformation it is difficult to speak about western society that has given up on education or values. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/21 05:56 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with extremely blue pill advice from my parents?Who decides what we teach? From where comes the consens to which music, movies, books, games, children are exposed to? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/21 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?I would even go so far to state that in 95% of the cases abuse is reciprocal as is everything else and that this realization is particularly painful but also particularly healing. The concept of self love might be useful to end a cycle that probably both lack insight to solve and make the decision to leave an unhealthy situation, but definitely the concept of self love does not help to be more empathic with the partner when one's own pride feels hurt. I read an article at TRP that explains in de… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/21 11:03 PM |
| 8 | How to deal with extremely blue pill advice from my parents?So many people don't even understand that sometimes the only question is "how". I really wonder where this comes from. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/21 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Is my pair bonding affected by promiscuity if I never enjoyed the sex?How are you earning your validation from your partner other than giving the booty? Focus on those points. u/Sadistic_Waffle, I think this is the main point for you. If you used sex in the past for validation and you are going to marry, then ask yourself how you want to deal with that in situations where you don't feel validated enough by your husband. I think that in probably every marriage there will be times of stress, for varying reasons, maybe because of work, maybe because after pregnancy w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?You know that this idea of love is incredibly co-dependent? That it is exactly this idealized seemingly morally superior idea of love that feeds a violent cycle? It is highly abusive and narcissistic. People who respect each other also fight with each other because they hold each other responsible for their actions and yes then, when they miss the point of letting go, it can happen that they hate each other. But it happens because they have the expectation towards each other of living up to the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/21 12:25 AM |
| 0 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?The only thing he said is that the probability to die alone and lonely is higher without marriage. That is neither an opinion nor has it anything to do with being pro or against, it is a fact. If someone thinks that "dying alone" is better than the risk of an unhappy marriage then it is their choice. However it still includes a higher risk of regret at the end because one has missed out on one of the most central human experiences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/21 10:40 AM |
| 2 | How can I support my stoic partner?Yes, I know. I know it from my own experience and because I have seen it in other relationships. I have been let down myself several times when I was weak and did not understand that I would have to "crawl" back uphill if I wanted the same respect and balance as it was before. But it could also be useful to figure out how she reacts, just in case you want kids... The way she treats her partner when she feels he is weaker and does not fullfill expectations is how she most likely treats anybody sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/21 07:12 PM |
| 2 | How can I support my stoic partner?Seeing their men weak will make the women feel responsible for a situation and him. We want you to be happy as much as you do 🙂. Taking back responsibility and don't allow the woman to take over in an attempt to help/support, is what is needed from male side... Otherwise the women might over time see him as less and less responsible and more and more dependent and incompetent. That is the "switch". It has less to do with moments or days of weakness. It has something to do with someone suddenly f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/21 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?Of course, we're not going to love everyone in the world, but the greatest love you can ever have is self love. Once you have that, everything falls into place. You might believe that it is like that. But that is a lie that we have been told for a very long time. Self-love does not make everything falls into it's place. Think about the many situations that cannot be solved by self-love. There are so infinitely many circumstances that cause suffering. Yes, having self-doubts might make those situ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/21 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?Read again what he wrote... He did not express it perfectly. But he didn't say that every single married women is better off than those who aren't. He said that the probability to be better when old and married is higher than the probability for crazy old cat ladies... Take 100 married women and 100 "single" women. How many of the married women do you think are really trapped in a very bad marriage? Maybe 5%? What do you think? You will see that when you get older, friends move to different plac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/21 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?I am glad we could resolve this. Maybe I should have made it more obvious in the OP that I am not looking for advice, but I also wanted to leave it open so that anyone could answer whatever they felt they wanted to. On the other hand I wasn't aware that one could understand it as seeking advice. I would say it is very disrespectful to tell someone that what he or she wants for himself in his life is wrong... | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?Actually no women should listen to them :) this is why I wrote them here... yes, probably the women who read here already probably understand it themselves. But I think the experience is very common... | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?No I did not seek advice. It was rather wanting to share, see if it is a common experience, but also point out the danger and disrespect in those type of replies. These are just examples for some type of replies that can make some young girls question their feminity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?Then you misunderstood what I wanted to express with the OP | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 09:42 PM |
| 0 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?Really, you completely miss the point of what I am talking about | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 09:12 PM |
| 0 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?I did not even talk about my friends? You just argued in the other comments that you only talk meaningful with your sister. I didn't even say that I expect anybody to have the same view as me. What are you reading into my words??? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 09:11 PM |
| 0 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?Where did I say that they are anti-feminine or bad friends? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?That is not the point of this subreddit. This sub is for women that seek fulfillment with a man. So please respect that. Just because some have bad relationship or marriage experience doesn't mean that it hast to be bad for all of us and definitely they contributed to the failure of that marriage. The intention of this subreddit is for women to understand what they themselves can do better. If they think that they cannot do anything better then it is not the right place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?If you mean with self-love the basic will to survive then I agree it should be unconditional. Otherwise love, even self-love is conditional, you CANNOT pose expectations on feelings. Love is a feeling, it is not a decision. You can nourish them, you can trigger them, inspire them. You CANNOT define or put demands on them. You cannot tell yourself to love yourself. Nor can you make yourself feel loved by yourself. You can act in ways that make you feel better and content with yourself, but you ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?Who concludes from me wanting something that this is the only thing I want? This is exactly the toxic way of thinking that I adressed in my OP. Human beings are not self-sufficient bubbles. No human being can exit without context and you cannot be your own context. Read Heidegger if you want. It is the interaction with the world and other human beings that makes us feel that we are alive, knowing that we exist. And either we experience our effect on the world in a positive way or we don't. This … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?Thank you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 12:25 PM |
| 0 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?How do you cultivate a strong family without a father and husband? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 12:22 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?I love you for your perfectionism :) I think people also don't understand that perfectionism does not imply that you are never satisfied. It is incredibly satisfying to experience oneself being consistent with ones own standards and it is by no means exclusive to acknowledging that while perfectionism implies that one strives towards certain standards it by no means implies that not already the fact of coming closer to those standards is satisfying. The 100% are not needed for happiness... striv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?The concept of self-love already shows that love is conditional. Think about conflicting interests. Can two people who prioritize self-love arrive at a compromise if both claim to love or be loved unconditionally? Nobody can expect to affect others negatively and be loved for it. Only children. And - after all - what you think the feeling of being unloved reflects other than the experience that one is unable to feel loved in a relationship for whichever reason? Feeling rejected? What else than f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?So what you did is you replaced the lethargy with action, you started to actively take control and this helped you to understand that you are the master over yourself and can control how you feel. This is a powerful feeling. It leads to self love because it shows you that you are able to align your actions consistent with your intentions. But it is not based on self-love, except you consider the will to survive and feel good as self-love, but then again it would be so basic that it would be hard… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 11:55 AM |
| 2 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?I love your comment. I think the concept of "self-love" is toxic and disabling. Nobody will feel good about him- or herself when constantly failing at the task that they want to perform. It is ok if every body is their own frame of reference. You can only improve from were you are starting from. Not improving and instead loving stagnation is probably one of the unhealthiest concept that can exist for a human being. Good people do not end up with bad people by chance. Good people do not lose the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?Above you just stated that even though your friends are envious they are also supportive. What do you consider supportive if you don't talk to them about anything meaningful? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 10:33 AM |
| 1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?So you never talk with friends about a date? "Do what you want" itself is not anti-feminine. But if you are looking for someone with whom you want to spend your life with it is usually useful - as basically everywhere - to consider the impression and effect you have on the other. Even more if you want to be able to choose with whom you want to spend your life the ability to do what is consistent with that person and your own desire is a crucial skill needed for sucess. You just can't ignore the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 10:30 AM |
| -1 | Can we talk about being guilt tripped for wanting to be feminine?It is about the implication of those questions, not about people. These implications create over time a certain mindset towards men and women's feelings about themselves and men. With that mindest, which is contrary to what RPW states, most attempts of women at successfull and satisfying relationships are likely to fail. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/21 02:00 AM |
| 17 | Best self improvement books?It is really a funny coincidence that you ask this question right after I wrote my OP about how I was guilt tripped by exactly the narrative that women are socially conditioned to crave the attention of man. I don't have advice for a particular book, but from my own life experience I want to tell you that it is natural to want that attention. And if you are obsessed with it then try to find healthier ways, that do not negate at the same time your deepest desire, and then go and find that man who… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/21 10:01 PM |
| 3 | Was I rude? Another way to handle this?And she also confirmed that the only reason she asked this question was because she wanted to hear how the words of the other woman where of course intolerably classist. Jeez must she feel great by her own moral superiority of being with a working class men... It actually tells much more about how she thinks of her partner with respect to the status she sees for herself. If she understood projections she would at least not humiliate him by trying to show her own moral superiority. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/21 09:51 PM |
| 3 | Was I rude? Another way to handle this?Thanks! This was really hilarious! I wanted to write the same, but didn't have the words. I have international friends and colleagues and we really like to laugh together with EACH OTHER about EACH OTHERS accents. You have to be incredibly small minded and elitist (not knowing anybody who is different from your own class) in order to find something negative about this type of joke... People who speak dialect usually also enjoy it! It makes them distinct and yes, everybody who has been away for l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/21 08:56 PM |
| 3 | Would I be overdressed if I wore this on a date at a bar?Irrespective of how bitchy and unpleasant you look, are and behave, if he does not love you, with hair on your legs, unbrushed hair and bags around your hips and breasts and tattoos and violett hair colour, then he does not deserve you 😉 yes, I think that attitude makes a lot of women unhappy. It's just an easy way to politely tell the other person that you care so little and are so bored by having to direct your attention on helping another woman to look good that you don't want to waste a sing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/21 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Vetting vs TestingWhen is the right time to ask the question about his plans for the future regarding family? Quite early, as in the first or second date? Or only after one feels a bit more familiar talking with each other but definitely before it becomes serious/physical? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/21 08:22 PM |
| 2 | He found out I had a secret savings account and he's really hurtI see. I did not see that aspect before and misunderstood what you were saying. In the OP I did not read anything that seemed to indicate that she is even aware that it really might be painful for him. It seems as if she rather sees it as a minor "bruised ego" problem and this is also how she can defend herself with her need to be safe "just in case". I cannot sense the spirit of "I seriously messed up his trust, how can I make it good again", but rather a very pragmatic "things are tense". Well… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/21 11:17 PM |
| 2 | He found out I had a secret savings account and he's really hurtHim being hurt is not out of line but his reaction by what he does when he gets hurt should be mentally noted. Definitely have a mature sit down conversation. I am disagreeing with the advice to mentally note what he does when he gets hurt. Particularly a reaction to a major betrayal should not be generalized to "this is how he reacts when hurt", it rather is "this is how he reacts when he gets sincerely screwed". | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/21 09:14 PM |
| 3 | He found out I had a secret savings account and he's really hurtI have to disagree, keeping the bank account secret is a major betrayal. He has every right to question her intentions and her commitment. Particularly since he was ready to give all. What is more telling than his reaction on having been severely hurt is her own reaction on her severely betraying him according to all objective criteria. It might be unintentional and naive together with the bad advice of the mother, however there is little to no space for not interpreting this as a major betrayal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/21 08:51 PM |
| 8 | He found out I had a secret savings account and he's really hurtSorry, if I were your boyfriend it would be unforgivable for me and I would probably break up the moment I would find out. Not because you have the account itself but because you kept it secret. Having the account for yourself and putting money aside while your future to be husband puts all his income into your shared account, ready to invest everything into your shared life, while you secretly put xyz% of your income aside. Gosh, then the audacity to actually defend your reasons why you kind of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/21 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with Resentment: Don't Let it Grow.Thank you. Your OP is a great reminder! Or if similar situations repeat and you understand that despite your best effort you will not be able to compensate for it forever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/21 09:33 PM |
| 1 | I'm not sure HOW much this has been associated with feminism or not, but here I go:It goes along the idea that the biological sexes (=cisgender) do not exist, but that sexual identity and preferences are merely something that is of natural origin but rather and dominantly social constructs. It also follows the idea that people are happy if they can follow whatever idea they have about themselves. So no social pressure (=conditioning) towards any kind of norms related to the biological sex, meaning everybody can follow the rules they set for themselves, be whatever they want to… | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/01/21 02:23 PM |
| 2 | New to red pill, still trying to figure it out, can I even be a red pill wife?The key to happiness is to accept the cards life gave you and make the best of it. It seems that you are giving him the responsibility for the difficult situation you are in now and that you had to give up a priviledge for an unknown time and this is why you feel that you loose respect. Can you explain the resentment that you feel building up a bit better? Does the thought of being with him in a team and the two of you now going side by side through the struggle together help you? You lost for u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/20 01:01 AM |
| 13 | Is a man manly by himself?I think it is very similar to how women also would like to be treated in a relationship. Would you be happy with a partner that tells you that he cannot love you when you have a bad hair day or have overreacted in a situation? That wouldn't happen too much if he loves you, when he can see that he is hurting you with that. So why would it be ok in the other direction, why would it be ok to deny ones partner respect and "call him out"? If one doesn't have enough trust and respect to not continousl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/20 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend can't fall asleep in bed next to me and wants separate bedroomsSometimes it is the movement of the body that causes irritation in sleep. Have you ever tried using two smaller but separate matresses for each half of the bed? Then one does not feel the other person as much... | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/20 06:57 AM |
| 1 | A painful trip..That is all valid points. But none of us has the ability to force others to act according to the rules we believe are right. It does not help you to built up resentment against her. She acts like a normal human being. If anything then something like that is expected to happen sooner or later. The poly community is fully aware of the dangers and difficulties of playing with jealousy and love. You are dealing with the consequences of a polyamorous relationship where human beings act as what they a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/20 05:50 PM |
| 2 | A painful trip..And remember that time is running but now you still have time and possibility to turn things around. Don't get caught in regrets and feelings for things in the past, they will steal time. Focus on the presence and the future you want for yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/20 02:48 PM |
| 2 | A painful trip..She loves him. She wants to be with him. He told her probably that he cares. She is not obliged to be loyal with you. She has the right to want to be with him and it is only natural that she tries. You are expecting her to give up her own valid interest due to a promise to you, a stranger, a woman that she feels takes her lover away from her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/20 01:20 PM |
| 1 | A painful trip..Read a lot in these subs. If you feel that strong loyalty to your man it will at some point ring with you. The informations and insights you can find here and the honesty, even if the truth is sometimes painful, without sugarcoating romance are things that are not easy to find in these times. Take care! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/20 01:15 PM |
| 2 | A painful trip..What do you want from your life? What were your plans when you were 20? What did you want from life before you met him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/20 01:12 PM |
| 0 | If a woman is single, but has sexual desire and is not able to get into a satisfying relationship, what do you think she should do?It is not about sex at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/20 01:01 PM |
| 4 | If a woman is single, but has sexual desire and is not able to get into a satisfying relationship, what do you think she should do?Of course there is a difference. All human interaction effects us and changes us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/20 11:23 AM |
| 2 | Everything I wish every woman knew about weight and beauty.I completely agree. It is also overlooked that food low in nutrients actually makes you hungry despite having already enough of calories which then in turn also causes people to eat more of high calorie, low nutrient food. If you eat mostly unprocessed foods, particularly meat and also animals fats (!), weight and hunger usually settle at something that can be considered normal and healthy. Without any effort, calorie counting or restriction. The biggest and most successfull lie is that we as hu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/20 10:21 AM |
| 2 | Everything I wish every woman knew about weight and beauty.I love this reminder. With all the obsession about weight and beauty is is often overlooked that being too low in body weight is as unhealthy as being overweight. Particularly because fertility also depends so much on e.g. the fat-soluble Vitamin A. And that is what beauty in the end is about, right? It is an indicator for fertility and health that is why it is attractive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/20 10:08 AM |
| 3 | Dog walking date as a first dateI can fully understand you and even if one can call it overthinking, then it is at the same time probably also better to not do things on the first date that cause you to overthink. This will make you feel insecure and distract your attention away from him and onto yourself instead of simply enjoying the time with him and understanding if you might match. If you don't feel comfortable and self confident about it then it is better to not do something on the first that later will make your hamster… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/20 09:52 AM |
| 2 | Dumping LTR she threaten self-harmDo you know any of her friends or her parents? Call them, say that you have an argument, want to break up, or whatever you think is suitable, and let them know that she threatened to hurt herself and that this has crossed the line of what you can and want to handle but that you don't want to let her alone and do something stupid and that they should pick her up to ensure that she is safe in the next days until she has stabilized. | /r/askTRP | 20/12/20 12:09 AM |
| 2 | I'm insecure about my boyfriend's porn consumption, am I in the wrong?Yes, it is hard to not project personal feelings on everything. At the same time for a healthy relationship it is crucial that both are considerate with how their actions feel for or affect the other. You are a woman, you feel like a women, he is a man and he feels like a man. Respecting his feelings should not mean that you have to feel like a man about situations that directly affect you. I think you where on the right path when you explained that it makes you feel excluded... That sounds like… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/20 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Should you tell your partner about your past?It also is that men want to help those they like, when they see your trauma and might want to comfort you. It might feel good at the beginning, but in every relationship man and woman will have diverging interests at some point. If trauma compensation becomes a priority in a relationship this means that things get very messy and entangled at points where trauma compensation interferes with the interest of the "helping" partner. This can then feel like retraumatization and again make things very … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/20 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Should you tell your partner about your past?I think this is the right response. You first try to understand how they see these kind of situations generally and then you might decide to open up or not. Everything else always attempts to rely on waiting for the moment when the connection is strong enough to hold it. Please, don't misunderstand. For talking about trauma and abuse the connection always should be strong. However you need to vet those with an ability to hold such trauma in their partner against those that cannot before you buil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/20 04:33 PM |
| 2 | I don't really see how this is bad. But then again, men shouldn't be allowed to divorce or have rightsI disagree... Divorce is not the only solution to that situation. If he really loves her that much he could try to explain to her how much he misses his solitude. It doesn't seem that he wants to avoid her, he just misses silence and solitude. That problem should have a solution because it seems to be rather related to him and his individual needs, but not to the quality of their marriage and thus it will show up in his relationship with every woman. The woman that also loves him would want to a… | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/12/20 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Decline too early sexual advancesI think you point out a critical difference. IRL dates are rarely the very first date or encounter with the person. They usually have a history of knowing the person for quite some time from a certain context and often already had the possibility to build an emotional connection and then the date is usually just something that somewhat makes the connection official. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/20 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Decline too early sexual advancesI completely agree that vulgarity in any kind of situation would be inacceptable and of course if someone would open the conversation with "you kinky" I wouldn't even think about a response for a second. What worries me there is rather the fact how many of these messages one can receive, because it indicates that it cannot be that unsuccessful with most women, because otherwise that behavior would not exist anymore since men would understand fast that this doesn't produce any outcome. Anyway, th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/20 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Decline too early sexual advancesWow, thank you so much for taking the time to provide this detailed explanation! Now I can see the full picture! Thank you 🙂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/20 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Decline too early sexual advancesThank you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/20 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Decline too early sexual advancesWhat is the bus stop experiment? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/20 04:35 PM |
| 4 | Decline too early sexual advancesI agree, but would like to add, that it doesn't make sense to ask for results if it is too early. Receptiveness depends mostly on the person one is talking to. So I am receptive with people who I like and feel attracted to. "Testing for receptiveness" after 30 minutes of a phone call, does not allow me to understand if I feel attracted or not. It is barely enough for me to understand if it makes sense to meet personally. Judging retrospectively it feels like many men are not even willing for the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/20 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Decline too early sexual advancesI really like your idea behind. I am not an English native and I do not understand all the details of your example above. Can you try to translate the sentence into their meaning or explain what the sentences mean? So I could try to find something equivalent in my own language. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/20 10:48 AM |
| 1 | Decline too early sexual advancesWhy did you feel uncomfortable? Because of the "something more"? I also dislike "innocent hugs" offered by more or less strangers. It is like being kind of forced to allow to be touched, because it is so "innocent". I only hug family or close friends that I had for many years and often only after we didn't see each other for a very long time. But I also know how complicated it became each time when I stated that I don't like to be touched and the endless discussions it can have because the guy c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/20 10:16 PM |
| 4 | Why do feminists say this?It's not guilt. It's shame. But nobody nowadays talks about shame anymore, so it is mistakenly attributed to feeling guilty. The logic behind this is that humans are supposed to only feel shame when responsible/guilty. Being raped feels like a deep loss of value, loss of pride, the shame that comes with the feeling of being dirty is unimaginable and only few women tolerate to speak about it. Even among friends something like that rarely is spoken about, because it is shameful and it will never b… | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/12/20 07:23 PM |
| 2 | Decline too early sexual advancesThank you for your explanation. My intuition said the same and also the emotional response in me. It felt inappropriately intimate and disrespectful, particularly with the rest of the conversation. We didn't even talk about anything personal yet. Nothing... Only small talk about food, work, sports, politics, etc. I also don't feel like talking to any of them again and have for the moment deactivated my dating profile again. I need a break. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/20 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Decline too early sexual advancesI was thinking about it because it happens too often in order to not be indicative for it potentially being a general pattern in mens behavior of this time. Then one can also treat it like that, because it neither tells anything about the intentions nor does it tell anything about their interpretation about me. Particularly since I am for them also only a stranger from the internet. So they know as little who I am as I know who they are? I don't want to prove myself... I am looking for ideas on … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/20 09:28 AM |
| 2 | Decline too early sexual advancesI thought about it some more minutes, because I felt I did not full understand it. I could also think about how to reflect the test back and then get my own results :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/20 11:53 PM |
| 9 | Decline too early sexual advancesYes, this is why I really dislike OLD. Irl it almost never happens like this and this is why it is so confusing and difficult to understand. We are currently in a complete lockdown so there are at the moment zero possibilities for me to meet anybody in real life and I need at least start to interact with men again. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/20 11:20 PM |
| 5 | Decline too early sexual advancesYes, this is similar to my experience "laughing it off" either seems encouraging or it ends in some strange escalation of jokes with a weird power fight at the end... I think a combination of playfully/jokingly declining and then explixitly saying that this is too early should work. If this does not, then it probably is a big red flag anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/20 11:08 PM |
| 8 | Decline too early sexual advancesYes, I think in online dating one needs to use a completely different approach. And the current times are a good opportunity to have "dates" on the phone... It's much better to see if there is any connection and then only meet those who seem to match. Just be prepared that they push for dates in a similar way. I also thought that this might explain some of the "love bombing" or seeming like a really interested and nice guy phenomenon. It is apparently for men so difficult to gain attention in th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/20 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Decline too early sexual advancesThank you. Do you have any idea on how to do this in a friendly and playful way? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/20 10:44 PM |
| 27 | Decline too early sexual advancesThank you. I also have the impression that this is some clumsy way of testing the interest level of the woman. But the thought of having to listen to this again and again until I might meet the "right" one, makes me really unwilling to continue dating. But I think I have to accept that this is how it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/20 10:39 PM |
| 10 | Decline too early sexual advancesIt is not "what" they do, but only the time and the context... In a different setting or when it is getting serious, I would probably have liked it. This is also part of flirting at some point... | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/20 10:28 PM |
| 5 | I regret ghosting himI want to excuse in advance, because what I wrote sounds very harsh. But someone has to reflect honestly and try to make you aware of the path on which you currently seem to be... I hope you will understand. You don't know what you want, that is obvious from what you write and you didn't have the decency to tell someone whom you actually liked true words. This cowardish and dishonest. You are playing with the emotions of other people and use them for attention. If your interest in that other guy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/20 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Always tear up after masturbating because I don't have a boyfriend and can't find real things.Hey, there are some striking similarities between you and myself some years ago. Try to understand what you generally want/expect from your life. I also had been terribly hurt in previous relationships and was always more of a looner with few close friends and I never cared too much about being enganged in bigger social circles. Then I was hiding in work, studies, books, at home, etc for almost seven years. I never missed anybody and was happy in my small life. However, now after many many years… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/20 01:43 PM |
| 1 | When does being in a bad mood cross the line into taking it out on someone?Does it hurt you less, if you think about it in the way that it makes him actually feel pretty bad that he experiences himself so weak and angry? It is most likely not that he does not care about hurting you but he tries to protect/shield himself from not only feeling bad because it is bad morning again but also additionally feeling bad because he has again hurt you and now sees how you are unhappy and the he feels guilty for him (=the morning feeling against which he feels powerless) making him… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/20 08:52 PM |
| 1 | online dating as someone who is abstinent? dating profile tips?It is not that I want to negate the trauma... It is just that by calling it trauma bond you kind of limit yourself to that because you define yourself by it or make it a central part of yourself... You need to develop a second strong identity in the here and now. The people that I know that could overcome their trauma are the ones that did not allow themselves to be defined by it but instead concentrated all their energy into building a safe and healthy presence for themselves. Then at some poin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/20 08:37 PM |
| 6 | Should LVW pursue LVM or just be spinsters?Hey, you lost 90lbs which is a lot! I feel that this is what the previous poster wanted to say with respect to forgiveness! It really is critical that you so not let yourself be dragged down by the circumstances that the quarantine caused. And no, you are not right. The situation with the quarantine which makes your life more difficult right now is not your fault and it is important that you realize that someone (life, quarantine) just put an additional barrier into your way on your path the sel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/20 08:17 PM |
| 1 | When does being in a bad mood cross the line into taking it out on someone?Then don't call it abuse... Talking about abuse only deflects the topic to something rather abstract, which does not help the problem that he acts his negativity out on you. Talking about abuse just blows the topic up in a way that will not help you in finding a solution. When he says "i am not calling you names or hitting you" then you can answer "but you make me feel bad when you act your emotions out on me". That is so much simpler than discussing the fact whether he is abusive or not. Do you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/20 12:52 AM |
| 2 | When does being in a bad mood cross the line into taking it out on someone?Maybe it was just the timing that was wrong? If he says that you are too sensitive, then maybe it helps you to write it down for yourself until you know exactly what you want to say as unemotional as possible? And then you talk to him at a better time? Not in the morning when he is in his bad mood and you are emotionally (sensitive) acting back? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/20 12:41 AM |
| 1 | online dating as someone who is abstinent? dating profile tips?You don't use complicated words as trauma bonding that give the impression that you see yourself a victim and leaves the impression that you did not learn about your own mistake. Trauma-bonding is "just" an explanation for staying engaged with people that have hurt you... Say it as it was, you had one, two, three relationships in which you were unhappy and where it was not so easy for you to get over it. That then simply shows that you take relationships serious, but that you also had some bad e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/20 12:33 AM |
| 1 | online dating as someone who is abstinent? dating profile tips?You can start dating, keeping your values high and just get to know men as a more or less observer, so that you can also evaluate with what type of person you actually connect. Don't take the dating so serious that you think you should have to reach a goal within the next year. But date. If you meet the right one who also thinks you are the right one and marry you then it will be fine... If you don't, yet, then don't stress yourself... But just start... 🙂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/20 12:19 AM |
| 3 | my boyfriend wants to start a family with me and live our lives together, but not marry meHe wants the advantage for his daughters because he considers them his and feels protective. He does not want the advantange for the future mother of his children because he feels he needs to protect himself. Therefore his protective instinct is basically directed against her... Not a good leader imho. The leader should also feel protective towards his herd. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/20 11:53 PM |
| 1 | is she playing hard to getIt doesn't matter, you let her know last minute. If somebody says Friday and does not make plans latest in the late afternoon many people would consider it cancelled. It is really disrespectful to treat other peoples time in such a way that they need to free the entire evening in order to be "jump-ready" within 30 minutes. Particularly after a breakup. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/20 11:45 PM |
| 2 | I feel like a major fool for not exploiting men for moneyThe book "why men love bitches" does nowhere talk about exploiting men. This book is about setting limits in a way that doesn't make a women look like a whining girl that is throwing a temper tantrum. It also is about how to enjoy that the man you have a relationship with treats you well, instead of shutting him down with false pride. It has nothing to do with exploitation... There is a non-subtle difference between using men and their emotions for ones own gains or advantages and enjoying being… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/20 11:32 PM |
| 1 | is she playing hard to getYou already had scheduled plans for friday, you cancelled and said then 30 minutes before that now she could come, yet you feel offended that she did not immediately jump. Then she even suggested monday, gave you a second chance and then again you are not willing to schedule a reliable date. So, no, if anybody should question, whether somebody plays hard to get then it should be her. You are cancelling, rescheduling, not wanting to arange another date, so to her it probably looks like you just w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/20 11:22 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else worry they’re infertile?As someone who always wanted to have kids, but whose biological clock is ticking loudly, I completely agree. Adopting cannot compensate for the wish to have ones own kids. I would not do good any child if I adopted it out of the desire to simply have one and not out of the desire to "help". One would never be able to the same amount of care and empathy a childs needs because the perspective is twisted from giving to receiving. As you mentioned adoption should be done out of the desire to take ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/20 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Men and women after sexDespite all the disagreement, thank you for pointing out how this is related to the male fear of being exploited for financial benefits. This helps me to translate between male and female experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/20 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Men and women after sexI agree that one could understand it that way, but this does not represent who I am or how I ever acted. I never planned to "act as everybody else" and I never did. However, I cannot bend reality to follow my wishes, and it is a matter of fact that I cannot control the outcome. So I need to be able to deal with the risk and I can minimize the risk, if I will ever be willing to take it again, if I try to deal with my emotional pitfalls. Moreover, it is part of the common narrative of RPW not to p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/20 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Men and women after sexNo, you think you know my motives better than I do. I say something that does not align with you black or white perspective and you already assume intentional falsehood. If you want factual, then start with taking what people write for how they understand sonething based on their current knowledge and experience instead of lecturing them about what you think is their true motives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/20 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Men and women after sexAs if I did say anywhere or implied anywhere that I wanted to sleep around. I had sex with exactly two men person in the last 5 years and no sex in the seven years before and no sex in the last two years. But yet you come and talk about something about which you don't know anything! None of them were one night stands but with the last one I made the mistake of having sex too early and I could NOT handle the emotional reaction it would trigger in me. We were dating for more than two years but I R… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/20 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Men and women after sexI don't get it. There is no moral superiority in my words. Not at all. Why is there a need to attack me? You are just projecting and making your own story of what I said. Even married women can struggle with feeling that their partner "uses" them for sex, this is a fear that in most women will always be related to sex. ALWAYS. And it will ruin EVERY relationship if a women is not able to also step back from her own interpretation and experience and therefore puts her emotional regulation soley o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/20 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Men and women after sexYeah, but this would mean that the women was actually used... And I don't believe that every man who had sex with a woman and did not call her in the two days after has used that women. It happens far too often without being indicative about the feelings the man has towards that women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/20 06:05 PM |
| 1 | I'm confused about how trp works and I have some questions...I just looked at your timeline of comments and OPs and saw the one in which you posted pictures. I understand that you want to loose some kilos. But girl you are gorgeous. If you really feel that nobody looks at you, then it definitely something that happens in your head and need to work on that. If with these looks you cannot feel valuable yourself than you have to work on your self-esteem. You will look back in 20 years and look at older pictures of yourself and be regretting that you did at t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/20 06:03 PM |
| 6 | Why You Should Read TRPWhat other possibilities there are to feel validated, if one is not married, has no kids and has a not so good relationship with ones family of origin? I also think that the quality of attention or validation from random people is meaningless. It does not help, the public run for validation is with respect to depth and satisfaction extremely cheap and shallow. Maybe this is at the origin of it. We lack real and deep human connections and therefore everything needs to become louder, faster and mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/20 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Is it rational to only commit to a guy if is careful about hurtful speech or should I work on being more tolerant?I think you can answer this question youself. I think you agree that sometimes the world and reality can be sadening and ugly and painful. If somebody was lying to you about this, do you think the world is getting better, if you don't know how it really is? The same applies to you boyfriend and every other person you will ever meet. If someone tells you how he feels with you, then you have two possibilities either you consider how he feels or you don't. If you react hurt and withdraw as soon as … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/20 10:29 PM |
| 4 | Why You Should Read TRPWell, you know, men feel the humility as well and they like it, it is an added layer of trust and smoothness. Being able to live this is an advantage... Particularly in times when other women are so easily to be indignated :) What I find a bit difficult is that the behaviors are actually infectious. I have one female colleague who is a master in indignation and it is really difficult for me to always try to make her calm down and concentrate on work instead of feelings... And I can observe how i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/20 07:10 PM |
| 5 | Why You Should Read TRPI also had/have an anger - or rejecting - phase and it was also directed partially against myself. Although, as you said about yourself, I probably was never as bad as maybe a majority of women on contrary, I had rather the opposite problem of not expecting enough. So it also helped me to reconcile with female aspects that I have rejected about myself for a long time. However, I cannot get about the attention seeking "look at meeeeee" and gossiping nature in many other women, or one friend who i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/20 12:38 PM |
| 7 | Any European RPW here?I am also from central Europe and it drives me insane. I don't even talk to my closest friends and just occasionally drop some red pill truths, always in disguise however. Here you really have to choose between utter loneliness or at least some social circle. It is not that anybody would openly cancel friendships but you can see from the reaction how weird people consider it if you dare to question the patriarchy narrative and then they reach out less and less, because one has become like a weir… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/20 10:43 AM |
| 2 | I'm confused about how trp works and I have some questions...Added a link, so just that you understand the order of magnitude we are talking about. Plenty of pics from girls in that range https://myprogresspics.com/what-does-a-110-lbs-5-foot-1-female-look-like?page=2# It might not fit model ideals but definitely is not badly overweight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/20 07:54 PM |
| 2 | I'm confused about how trp works and I have some questions...That is not the point. You are talking theory. A woman with 56 kg will be ultra slim, 63 kg will be considered normal by most, 70 kg will be a bit too much, but still not as bad to only turn heads of homeless. You are talking BS. Sorry. And the question was not whether it is too much or not. For her probably it is. But looking at reality, it simply is not nearly as bad as she experiences it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/20 07:47 PM |
| 17 | I'm confused about how trp works and I have some questions...If you are really "only" 15lbs overweight, then with respect to my experience it is a matter of fact that this is NOT the reason why you have the impression that men are not looking at you. It might indeed somewhat limit your choices, but 15lbs are at the limit between being "perfect" and not so much perfect but these 15lbs definitely don't make you unattractive to everybody else than homeless or trash men. I think it is rather the opposite. You know, male hunting is based a lot on quantity. The… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/20 11:40 AM |
| 10 | I'm confused about how trp works and I have some questions...I had a phase that was similar. What do you believe in? How do you believe we became who we are? I believe that we need to accept that men and women are very different and that nature has made us that way and we need to understand that the way men and women experience and FEEL this world are very different. So it is basically next to impossible to compare the moral constructs each, men and women, have developed based on their experience. But even though they are on average similar in the way the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/20 07:38 AM |
| 2 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?It's just so funny that you always adress me as y'all. I don't feel like many people at the same time. Can you explain to me what y'all is supposed to mean? No, seriously I don't think you have a point you want to make and I also don't think that you are interested in anything else than your own opinion. You are just playing the bad kid and enjoy the attention. Have fun! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?As if 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?And obviously many women are only selectively empathic and most certainly not too much with men. Otherwise all this stupid developments we currently see and the destruction of families would not be possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 06:25 PM |
| 2 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?No, you don't understand the concept of average and generalizations. I don't have a single female friend that would say anything similar as you, but I can observe it in other people around me. I can see the disregard of male suffering everywhere, particularly in relationships, where it is all about "what is in for meeeeee?" and barely any woman even asks herself how her actions feel to him. So, yes, I am willing to generalize. I wouldn't even say that men are better at this point, the missing em… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?Right exploiting someones loyalty and using his trust against him is of course nowhere near forcing. He was forced by the girl, but the girl is not his mother. So the mother is more oblidged to loyality than the girl. Anyway, you are not even able to keep one line of an argument and irrespective of what you state, you have made your point clear enough and definitely you deserve an award for verfifying the OPs assumption about an empathy bias among women. Enjoy! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 06:14 PM |
| 2 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?Which she obviously is. She did not try to protect him from more pain, she tried to protect herself or the kids or whomever from pain but definitely not him? If you had a daughter who was with a cheating and lying guy and she would have been connected to his kids, would you encourge your daughter to stay because she loves the kids or because you love the kids? Would loving the kids be a reason for you to tell your daughter to sacrifice her life for the kids of that guy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?It is not a conspiracy and nobody talks about conspiracy except you. It is a general attitude of woman and society being more sympathetic with female emotions than male emotions. It is an intuitive response of many women - and of course of men as well - and that is normal because empathy is easier when applied to something that is similar to oneself. But it is of course particularly enraging when it is shown by a mother against her son... Empathy is a two way road and we are different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?I get your point. Just be aware that you are defending an abuser. Yes, the mom will be emotionally attached herself but she should NEVER make herself compliant with such abuse. You are basically defending a mother who is gaslighting her own son and if you don't see how this is outrageous then I don't know what. Understanding does not make things right. I might be able to understand why somebody did somethin, yet I can still think that it ia wrong. When you take the side of the mother you should … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?He already is a cuck, he got cucked. And the mom is right he already loves the kids because he was raising them as his own. She is the "grandma" is she gonna stop loving the kids now too because they aren't her grandchildren? Pure empathy of course. Hey boy you have been fucked. Now be a man and invest all your life in kids that are not your own and in a women that has betrayed you in the worst way a woman can betray a man. You know that emotionally this is as close to rape as it can get? He was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 04:47 PM |
| 3 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?Lol, that is an incredibly cheap move. That's my opinion, right? It has nothing to do with the fact that your opinion is different. But of course nothing as easy to blame someone who does not like your opinion as genereally not liking others opinions instead of understanding that I was referring to a particular attitude. Again, I hope you never have kids. You will kill them emotionally with that logic. Best way to raise BPD kids with a strict black or white perspective on life. There are many si… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 04:35 PM |
| 3 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?How you get from "female ignorance towards male feelings" to not liking different opinions, is a miracle to me. You are aware that you are projecting, are you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?I agree with the previous commenter that the female who mostly argues for the mother of the son is probably a female variant of an incel. As I stated, we also don't know what the mother in the video was acting on. Maybe her son said something along the lines that he would never leave the kids or his girlfriend and then was hit by a hard reality... We don't know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 01:38 PM |
| 5 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?"You love these babies, you not gonna change, you gonna stay the same, you gonna be a man and you keep doing what you've been doing". First sentences she is saying to him. Watch it again... No mother that cares about her son in that moment would say that. His life is ruined and everything he has build himself upon in the last years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 06:39 AM |
| 3 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?How you get from "female ignorance towards male feelings" to not liking different opinions, is a miracle to me. You are aware that you are projecting, are you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 06:34 AM |
| 3 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?Do you think one has to be heartless in order to leave? You state "it happens aaaaaall the time" that people take responsibility for children that are not their own. You even call it a social responsibility and I agree it is. But also then people make CHOICES and are not forced against their will. By setting this into relation to his suffering, you ARE minimizing even if unintentionally. It is against the attitude, even the girl doesn't seem so bad, just incredibly immature and stupid. What he e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 06:31 AM |
| 3 | "It's more important for a woman I like to be attracted to me than it is that I'm attracted to her" To what extent does this statement hold true for you?Fruit salad :) yummy! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/20 10:10 PM |
| 6 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?Maternal instinct should apply to her own kid | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/20 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?That explains a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/20 08:18 PM |
| 5 | "It's more important for a woman I like to be attracted to me than it is that I'm attracted to her" To what extent does this statement hold true for you?I think you are confusing two concepts. The way women and men love are differently in let's say apples and pears. Men love with x apples and are loved with y apples by women, where x>y. While women love with u pears and are loved back with v pears, and u>v. And x+v and y+u should ideally be approximately similar. So now you just need to align the love, respect, desire, admiration, etc with apples, pears, bananas and cherries and you get the picture ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/20 07:42 PM |
| 8 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?That is not the point. The point is that you show zero empathy for someone who just learned the he got completely fucked. You minimize the pain that he is going through in the same way as the mother does. The couple about which you were talking was irresponsible because without understanding whether they are able to raise the kid and take care of it they MADE a decision without looking at the harm they would potentially cause in that kid. Additionally they acted incredibly selfish by not living … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/20 07:34 PM |
| 3 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?Wtf? He just was informed that the kids he loves are not his own and instead of being comforted in his pain he gets reminded about the responsibility he has for them? I agree that for the kids it would be better to stay in touch. But wtf? That is the second step after getting over the trauma of such unspeakably evil betrayal. I am women, but seriously I sometimes just hate the female ignorance of women against male feelings. They are living beings too! And yet you come to defend a mother that be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/20 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Would you choose to help another Woman over your own Son?No way. Under no fucking circumstances. A mom I know whose son turned father at 18 tried everything possible to make her son get a paternity test. He does not want to. But definitely she (the mom I know and also the grandmom) would NEVER try to talk him into this. So whatever happened before that video I have doubts that the situation really is as it looks like. I don't know any woman that would sell her son like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/20 07:19 PM |
| 4 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipIt can become your alpha widow moment if you allow for something to happen that decreases your value in the eyes of other men... You will be perceived differently by other men if this ever ends. Read the OP asking how a "mistress" is perceived. It will look like being very low value if one needs to accept such a deal. You might yourself regret in what you enganged. You will regret that you gave up your own value for a man that was not the right one because it was not the one who stayed. So pleas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/20 05:12 PM |
| 6 | So what if you've had a lot of partners?I think because another aspect is that the way in which men and women emotionally experience love and friendship is also different. There are some OP at TRP that describe how men experience friendship and it is completely different how women experience or life friendship. And there are other OP at TRP that explain how men seem to perceive or experience love (it is all just descriptions! That do not necessarily need to reflect how the other sex experiences it). They say woman love upwards and men… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/20 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipWelcome :) I have also edited the other comment and added some thoughts... Your first step should be freeing yourself from the fear of loosing him by realizing that all options can lead to the same result and then think about what is crucial for yourself. Think about the potential consequences it can have long-term on you and how this might impact your relationship to him in the future. Then reevaluate again... | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/20 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipDo you think that at some point in the future you could be ok with it or does it only seem to feel ok, because you are hoping to delay the "ultimatum" to a point where you have become so valuable to him that he does not want to risk loosing you or where his fantasy simply dissolves and in which case you would not really want to let him choose freely? Generally, theoreticall, yes, moving that decision to the future could be an option. But then I would suggest saying that AT THE MOMENT you cannot … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/20 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipIf you say that you want to have other options as well you are ruining the relationship. Tell him how you feel. That you are confused because while you understand that he is fantasizing about it is at the same time something with that you cannot imagine yourself to be happy. You know already that it will affect you, you know already that you will suffer. That is the price you pay. Are you willing to pay that price? You might turn resenting and bitter and insecure always question your own value t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/20 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Are men's hatred for women and women's hatred for men equally justified/valid?Yes, of course they are. It's subjective. Men and women have different sexual strategies and also different needs and preferences and different ways to communicate. So whenever one of them makes repeatedly the experience that the other sex does not act as expected (think expectation as extrapolation/imagined behavior according to ones own sex-influenced moral code) then of course, out of frustration and not understanding, the missunderstandings might turn to "hate". Men and women we both fail ea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/20 11:11 PM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?I would say it depends on the red flags "she" might show. But usually such people become emotionally unstable in such situations and one can see and feel how conflicted they are. I would argue that it realls depends on the feel you receive from him. I would not exclude real love, but what does it help if whatever is holding him back is stronger and does not allow him to act on it? It is a lie that "red flags" are irrelevant as soon as love is involved. That type of love that blinds out red flags… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 10:01 PM |
| 2 | I’m so tired- ready to give up my dreamYou casually meet as many people as possible in as many contexts as possible and let it shine through what you are looking for and ping only back to those that seem to have similar goals and in whom you are interested. The right one will make you notice him. Prioritize your goals as opposed to prioritizing how great he is. All greatness does not bring you happiness if he has different goals than you do. Don't invest time and energy in someone that has different goals. If you feel that more often… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/20 01:51 PM |
| 3 | I’m so tired- ready to give up my dreamWhat helped me to find the inner freedom and peace needed to be open to new people again and find meaning in meeting people again was to go through the hell of accepting that I might never find what I always hoped for. It was more than a year of depression, sadness, lonelines. I looked at all my mistakes and accepted that if I don't get what I dreamed of then I deserve it in terms of "I could not make it happen". It was a terrible time. But now I see that life is still worth living and I can app… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/20 01:40 PM |
| 1 | One of TRPs core concepts for men is "fake it till you make it", what's the self-improvement path for women?That is an interesting aspect. Thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/20 07:29 AM |
| 5 | So what if you've had a lot of partners?Women are biologically wired to selectively choose the man with whom they have sex. The whole concept is based on men being abundant, such that the woman can not only choose with whom she wants to have sex but also whom she wants to be the provider. That is the whole concept behind the sexual strategy of female selection. Based on that assumption every women should in principle also by deciding with whom she has sex decide with whom she wants to be in a relationship. So deep down in our lizard b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 10:26 PM |
| 2 | So what if you've had a lot of partners?It is a projection that arises from their thoughts about what they would do if they had THAT many options as they think you had. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 10:03 PM |
| 1 | So what if you've had a lot of partners?It's not at all about your standards. Keep them high! To put it bluntly: I am talking about what TRP refers to as orbiters. Men that invest emotionally in a relationship with a women who is not sexually interested in them or does not have serious intentions except using them as comfort pillows. Their behavior is comparable to that of women with high n-count. My observations are that men who have been orbiters for long also tend to become bitter and resenting towards women or they will always hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 09:51 PM |
| 7 | So what if you've had a lot of partners?There is a forth option. I want the next one to be the last one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 09:39 PM |
| 8 | So what if you've had a lot of partners?I am sorry if this can be understood as if I would advocate that you reconsider your values. I just wanted to say that when vetting men then him having many or mostly female friends is more worrysome than a high n-count. I said this with respect to "false security" regarding the relationship, in case he has a low n-count but many female friends. Then this could be a red flag too. But the way you describe it now, it rather seems like it was an unneccessary concern of mine. I assume in your social… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 09:32 PM |
| 7 | So what if you've had a lot of partners?Men don't pair bond over sex as much as women do. To consider it like that would be projecting female attitude on men and therefore lead to false conclusions. It is not a simple black or white logic. Let me give you one example. If a man has a sexual affair it is lesa threatening to the relationship than if he has an emotional affair. On contrary if a women has a deep friendship with a man it is less threatening to the relationship than her having a sexual affair. Men always never leave their wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 09:11 PM |
| -3 | Husbands Being Baby JealousProfessional life is exclusively husbands interest? For whom does the husband provide if not his family, namely his wife and kids? What do you think he is working for if not for the benefit of his family? And what about if he has two or three hours a week, solely for his interests? Would you really not give him some hours off to recharge? This is in the same way relevant as if he takes care of the baby for some hours such that she can have a bath or go out and meet friends or sleep. But most wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Need help with RPW strategies in my relationshipI am close to loose a friend because of exactly that. I know that she does not mean it that way, but whatever I tell her she always feels the need to advice her opinion, even if there isn't even a problem. Whatever it is, she tells me that SHE would do it differently and then she goes on telling me how I could do or should if I were her. But I admit that this could be something that I also do wrong sometimes... 😳 I will be more careful about unsolicited advice. It basically is so easy to make ot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Need help with RPW strategies in my relationshipTake responsibility for your reaction on unpleasant emotions. If something is "itching" you need to scratch and relieve it yourself. Don't expect your partner to provide that for you. If he does it will just make you happy, but it will not feel like you need him to do that for you. Don't hold others responsible for how you feel! It is a basic life skill :) nothing more. If you want to do therapy because of that, it is of course your choice. I think it is a normal "issue" on the way to developing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 05:41 PM |
| 2 | Husbands Being Baby JealousHow many months can anybody be in a relationship with only giving without receiving? So a man that works, takes care of his wife and the child will after some months or weeks also feel exhausted and he will also feel that he is missing something. That is a normal human feeling! It is not emotional immaturity! Only if it develops into an unhealthy dynamic. But developing jealousy in that situation or missing attention itself is NOT emotionally immature! What women would be happy with a man who do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 05:22 PM |
| -1 | Husbands Being Baby JealousAccording to your logic it would also be childish of a woman to be jealous with regards to the time her husband spends with his work or hobby. Men and women like unshared attention of their partners and if they love each other they will at some point turn unhappy and lacking something when the partner for various reasons does not have time, energy, interest, or attention for them. That is the result of two human beings agreeing on sharing their lifes with each other. So no, wanting to be valued … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 05:12 PM |
| 1 | One of TRPs core concepts for men is "fake it till you make it", what's the self-improvement path for women?I think I need to add an additional remark to the OP that states explixitly that nowhere I say or want to say anything about the quality, quantity or intensity of male emotions. The only thing I said is that men (on average!) have more control over them. That does not mean that they don't have them. It means that they are more in control of the reaction they show to the outside world and according to RP this is not only due to social conditioning (maybe that they talk less about them and maybe a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 04:49 PM |
| 1 | How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family?I was after a conversation with my dad thinking about you and wanted to tell you that my sister is still fighting with the limitations of our dad and she despises him for who he is because she cannot accept that he has strong limitations. She wants him to man or father up. She treats her partners in the same way, she is always anxious, bitter and angry. She feels lonely, she feels she needs to fight or defend herself against everybody whom she feels is getting in her way. In her bitternes she re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 04:21 PM |
| 1 | One of TRPs core concepts for men is "fake it till you make it", what's the self-improvement path for women?I am unable to understand where you see the contradiction or where you think that I don't understand. To me it seems that we are only looking at the same but from different angles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 05:39 AM |
| 1 | One of TRPs core concepts for men is "fake it till you make it", what's the self-improvement path for women?There is. There is logic in feelings and most women understand that intuitively. Emotions and feelings are not a random mess although they sometimes feel like they are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/20 06:22 PM |
| 3 | One of TRPs core concepts for men is "fake it till you make it", what's the self-improvement path for women?"Your feelings and why they don't matter" reflects the male perspective on us. Moreover it seems to also be strongly relating to the influences from education and I agree, how one is raised exerts a strong influence on how somebody - irrespective of man or women - deals with their feelings or emotions. But there is also another aspect. Due to biology we are with respect to many things wired fundamentally different than men. If we want to change who we are - and by that also how we deal with and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/20 06:09 PM |
| 1 | One of TRPs core concepts for men is "fake it till you make it", what's the self-improvement path for women?Because feeling logic is different than factual logic and also because men perceive things differently than women do and they are contradictory in many aspects and thus consequentially, aside from leading to many missunderstandings and complications between men and women, these contradictions also often lead to internal conflicts. Feeling logic is highly dependent on the individual, factual logic is not. Moreover, emotions and feelings are not the same, emotions are what happens due to physiolog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/20 11:06 AM |
| 2 | One of TRPs core concepts for men is "fake it till you make it", what's the self-improvement path for women?Seriously? What is not to be understood by "rather" and "more control"? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/20 10:47 AM |
| 1 | One of TRPs core concepts for men is "fake it till you make it", what's the self-improvement path for women?It is not about having emotions or rational thoughts or not. It is about how we on average make connections in our consciousness. Of course in general every human being has emotions and is capable of logical thinking. Rational and logical are not the same. The way in which men and women perceive the world is different. Although each of the sexes also has an overlap with the dominant mode of the other sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/20 09:40 AM |
| 1 | How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family?Yes, but how you think about your dad will influence how you think about other men. Do you perceive him to be a bad person or just a normal human being that could not live up to the responsibility that life has given to him? It makes a big difference whether one thinks that a person had bad motivation, like being selfish or ignorant or lazy, or if one thinks about that person that is a normal human being, e.g. a man with certain needs, strengths and limitations... I think when you ask yourself t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/20 09:33 AM |
| 1 | How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family?Me too, although not consciously and explixitly. It helped me to understand that my dad has suffered from this as well. My mom was demonizing him all the time, so I also felt abandoned as a child. Up to today she cannot even imagine that is has also caused him some pain. But it was their relationship that failed and I think it is never just one who leaves because "he does not care". Since being aware of RP I also understood that also men can suffer a lot from being separated by their kids and I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/20 07:52 AM |
| 1 | LOOKS MATTER BUT if you can’t find even one woman that likes you for you then there’s something wrong with your personality. You probably have a personality flaw or extremely high standards (see 99.99% of incels)Of course being nervous in some situations is not a bad thing in itself, although it shows a lack of security, which depending on the situation can be a bad thing... If somebody is nervous all the time it indicates problems and then more often than not might be perceived negatively. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/20 12:18 AM |
| 1 | One of TRPs core concepts for men is "fake it till you make it", what's the self-improvement path for women?Glad that you like it! 🙂 Yes, I think that this is one aspect most women will have experienced. But I think it goes even further and we can use that in a directed way in order to do what we want to do and also in order to act consistently with our values - which we should admit that we probably not always do when the hamster is running crazy 😉 E.g. take RPW values decide who you ideally want to be as a woman, how do you want to be perceived, how you wanted to be treated by your partner, and how … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/20 11:42 PM |
| 3 | How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family?This. You need to own your issues in a way that people from outside take more than only one look to figure out that you have them. If your father was not there, you can always say with a light regret "he was gone, but I wish he would have been there" and then change the subject. The problem with women that grew up without father is that they could not learn from their fathers how to live with and accept and understand men. Many of them do not only act desperate but some can become angry and bitt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/20 10:07 PM |
| 1 | why are women so incapable of thinking abstractly?I already prepared myself to accept that it might be unhappy coexistence and loneliness and disconnect forever. But truth is that our preferences for things and people are normal distrubuted and each of us carries both and this is basically what you said, although you used different words. May I ask why you consider "somebody taking care of parents in old age", "forwarding ones genes" as things, while you consider "status" something that is people oriented? Because one is related to what one pos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/20 09:18 PM |
| 1 | why are women so incapable of thinking abstractly?Thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/20 10:12 PM |
| 1 | LOOKS MATTER BUT if you can’t find even one woman that likes you for you then there’s something wrong with your personality. You probably have a personality flaw or extremely high standards (see 99.99% of incels)Qwatsh 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/20 08:33 PM |
| 1 | why are women so incapable of thinking abstractly?So in principle you say when women feel they are treated like objects/things they could not be closer to the truth? So what then is the overlap between women and men? Only shared interests and goals? Or are we doomed to unhappy coexistence? P.S.: I just realized that my question already serves as a proof of the ideas you described | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/20 06:59 PM |
| 1 | why are women so incapable of thinking abstractly?Abstract thinking does not break down to the difference between people and things. The problem is that many people don't understand what a normal distribution is, how it is obtained and what it describes. They think mathematically precise and use reductio ad absurdum to invalidate your statement. You say all, find one that doesn't find the description, ergo all is proven wrong. It's a simple logical black or white thinking, nothing more and maaaany people fall for it. I would consider it a matte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/20 06:47 PM |
| 2 | I did it! I finally ended my relationship with a married man. I feel relieved but lostThank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/20 06:25 PM |
| 1 | LOOKS MATTER BUT if you can’t find even one woman that likes you for you then there’s something wrong with your personality. You probably have a personality flaw or extremely high standards (see 99.99% of incels)Because communication is about exchanging information. Awkward means that the persons character or words or actions or all of it are so far away from the norm that neither the person's intentions nor the person's character can be understood from others. It might look funny in movies, in real life it indicates people who are not successfull themselves and will be a burden to the people around them because they don't know how to do things that add value to the people around them. On top of that it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/20 06:08 PM |
| 2 | I did it! I finally ended my relationship with a married man. I feel relieved but lostI cannot read the link. It only says "deleted comments" but does not allow to read anything... Did I miss something? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/20 05:54 PM |
| 0 | I did it! I finally ended my relationship with a married man. I feel relieved but lostI understand. But if he keeps it up belongs to the future and has nothing to do anymore with the current or the previous affair. You would want to know, but there are also women that prefer not to know. They will due to shame not be the ones that demand "not to know". Irrespective of that, they also have the right to decide that for themselves. How should one know if the wife wants or does not want to know? The "other" woman does not have the right to force that wife to make a decision and she i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/20 05:28 PM |
| 0 | I did it! I finally ended my relationship with a married man. I feel relieved but lostYes, exactly because you cannot judge the consequences it has on the life of the other people that are affected nobody has the right to bring those consequences on other peoples lifes. She is not the best friend of the wife and therefore she does not have the duty to tell her, because there is no trusting relationship between them. On the other hand nobody should take that judgment into ones own hands, particularly not the woman that was participating in that. I think it was entirely right that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/20 05:10 PM |
| 3 | I did it! I finally ended my relationship with a married man. I feel relieved but lostTelling the wife means intentionally interfering with their marriage. Their marriage is their business and she has neither right nor responsibility to tell them. It is his decision to cheat on his wife and it is his decision on how he deals with his relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/20 07:26 AM |
| 1 | I did it! I finally ended my relationship with a married man. I feel relieved but lostYes, and at the same time relationship never went into real everyday mode. So it is easy to show courtship behavior and of course he has to use more effort because he knows that in principle they are not in a real relationship so she could be off and gone immediately if he does not provide enough emotional closeness or support. She wrote that she felt ugly and like a failure. That alone shows that he was nearly as good as a partner as she perceives him at the moment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/20 07:23 AM |
| 3 | Are there any other RPW here with a diagnosis of BPD? If so, what was it about the ideologies that brought you here?Thank you as well. I am glad that you find it meaningful <3 You can be really proud that you have worked your way out of this and I am glad you did. Yes, I also believe that when following this path of remaining consistent with one's own inner intentions one can overcome it as opposed to only keeping it at bay. In every humans life there are periods of instability, for those just keep track of avoiding the patterns of acting impulsively. That helps to avoid the self-sustaining circle of guilt, u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/20 11:34 AM |
| 5 | Are there any other RPW here with a diagnosis of BPD? If so, what was it about the ideologies that brought you here?When I started to read RPW and TRP I was developing the idea that what the emotional instability seen in BPD could in an alternative world - parallel to the current ideas that explain what causes BPD - is the female hamster running wild together with fear due to missing stability/structure/guidance (positive male) in childhood. Just think about a child that never learns how to deal with emotions either because nobody teaches HOW to control, e.g. because the parents are too strict, or instable (=… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/20 10:23 AM |
| 3 | I just found out I'm TraditionalExactly... Not mentioning what it means if as a small girl you are not able to connect to a male role model. I really don't know in how much my failing relationships with distant men are related to the fact that I am just raised to feel that "he" is not there. I am so glad that you could learn this early enough. I am not in a relationship, but I also shudder when I think about how it was some years ago and how my life would have been if I had remained in that way of thinking. Constant failure wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Birth control?I agree with what others have said and my personal opinion is that hormonal birth control is something to rather be avoided since you only know after long use how it will interact with your individual physiology. So I would highly appreciate that your boyfriend prioritizes the effect that it could have on your body. I have several female friends where the woman does not tolerate hormonal birth control well, but the man is not willing to use condoms so they suffer and birth control is a constant … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 01:59 PM |
| 3 | I just found out I'm TraditionalI also agree. I think strong and independent is often confused with something that I can only try to describe as achievements and pride. Strong and independent should be the basis for a life, it is a necessity, but it should not be source of validation nor should it become the center of ones self-interpretation? Edited: And - I am sorry since I forgot to add this to the previous comment - I completely agree that single-motherhood should not be taught as the default. I was raised by a single mom … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 01:43 PM |
| 11 | I just found out I'm TraditionalIt is as a matter of fact impossible to control the outcome. As individual people we can only try to increase the probabilities, but we can only control ourselves and what environment we seek. However we have absolutely zero control about what other people choose for themselves. So, the risk of devastating consequences of having a child with the wrong man is for a woman exactly as bad and high as it is for a man to be married to the wrong woman. There is no contradiction between being a strong a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 12:39 PM |
| 2 | I'm not sure I understand RPWYes, I also struggled with that concept for some time. At the same time submission and our desire to do so with the right man is a powerful emotion and desire in probably most women and the word submission hits exactly on that emotion so understanding that below all the social concepts and particularly feminist ideas of "we don't need no man" is a real and deep rooted feminine need and desire is critical in order to understand that "submission" does not imply submitting to evil patriarchy but th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 12:26 PM |
| 1 | I'm not sure I understand RPWI personally do not consider it submission and find the term somewhat misleading and also dangerous because of exactly the childlike emotional dependence that might arise due to this and I feel the term submission favours an interpretation that favours such emotional dependence. I consider submission in a context which is somewhat similar to dancing. The man has the leading role and the women "follows". This does include situations where the woman withdraws herself such that then the man chases … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 12:08 PM |
| 1 | BF (26M) made a secret Tinder, but it's complicated / I don't think the relationship is beyond saving. Advice very much appreciated.From what I read in your text it could also be that you are too affirming and loving. You truly love him for who he is. I don't know exactly how one can achieve that, but it could be that you actually cannot help him with his insecurity by being more affirming to him. Yes, men say that they want a woman that is always kind and always pleasant and not nagging etc. But with respect to my understanding that is only half of the truth. Also in a relationship they want to feel that they deserve it and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 11:07 AM |
| 1 | I am in a relationship with an older, married man....What makes him so special and great for you that you are willing to take the risk of ending up alone and childless? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 10:30 AM |
| 11 | Narcissist ex boyfriend using me as a bait for making his wife jeolous,blocking my feminine journey ,making me crazy.Should I involve my parents in this matter??Let's try to put some structure into the topics: There is him There is his current wife There is the videos/pics There is your relationship with your parents There is your hope that you could finally be back with him I will take a different approach. Instead of concentrating on how he is a bad narcissist, I will try to show you how you create the trauma bond by yourself by the thoughts and feelings that are so confusing to you and taking away your energy. What is making you emotionally vulnerabl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/20 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Is it realistic to wait for LOVE?When I say most people, I’m thinking of most people in the world. I wouldn't say that they neccessarily settle. Particularly in the beginning and particularly with women that have sex too early it is very easy to get into lala land with the hormonal overflow. The difficulties come to many after the first romantic phase is over. It comes then when normal boring everydays life sets in and life starts to feel again as it did before one fell in love with somebody that made every day brighter for som… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/20 07:34 PM |
| 4 | Is it realistic to wait for LOVE?never compromise who we really are to please another What you say is exactly the opposite of what should happen. On ones own side it is nothing but compromise and nothing but trying to please the other. If you never compromise who you really are then you essentially build the relationship around yourself. If you think about receiving first you are one the wrong track. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/20 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to have strictly platonic male friends?I think enjoying to being good at things is not neccessarily a male trait, but rather how one achieves to be good in something. When you explained how you look then I thought that this might be the reason why you receive such strong reactions. Because based on your looks people will put you in a certain category and build expectations about who you might be, how you might think, what you might enjoy to do. Particularly if you emphasize it with all your creative and artistic interest. People will… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/20 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Recommend me some dating coach as a redpill womanJust be careful to not overdo it. I noticed that even though I don't share her values it influenced how I perceived and acted towards men. Her logic can be quite deceiving. So finally I stopped watching her entirely because a) it is actually completely superficial and b) I really don't want to have that kind of influence in my life. Even though it can help through times of being heartbroken, since it takes away the idealization and mystery, I really do not want to have the influence of a women i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/20 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Is it realistic to wait for LOVE?This kind of love does not grow without respect. It is difficult to achieve without investing the neccessary work on both sides. It reminds me of something that I have read at TRP a long time ago and which I have also observed in real life several times, namely that in moments of conflict men and women can change in their attitude from adoring the other person to hating the other person as soon as something happens. People often forget that they are talking or arguing or discussing with somebody… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/20 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Recommend me some dating coach as a redpill womanI watched shera seven for some time as well. She is quite smart and has a lot of insight and for me it was kind of ok, while I was lovesick and when I needed to detach, but all in all I found that her thoughts rather exhibit a male vs. female competition/fight mode, so I would not regard her as RPW at all. She only talks about how to get a man satisfy femine needs, that is not the influence that helps to build a mutually benefitting lasting and trusting relationship, although in its very materia… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/20 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to have strictly platonic male friends?I am sorry to hear about the difficulties you have at work. This is why I keep my thoughts mostly to myself, since I do not want to put myself at risk. I don't have a solution to that. I am in a very similar position and it is difficult to find female friends who are not feminists and constantly talk about how women are discriminated against. I cannot hear the sentence "they only do this because I am a woman" anymore. And I more or less completely distanced myself from almost all friends I have,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/20 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Vetting, red flags, green flags, one caseHey, I just saw that by accident I had pressed the reply button on the OP instead of your comment. So I am not sure if you received the reply. I will copy and paste it now here: Thank you. You are right. I need to activate myself and start going out again and choose the places carefully according to the audience I might find there. Also thank you for the hint to write that list, but from a perspective which is new to me. It is inspiring and motivating :) The first steps are always the most diffi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/20 10:28 PM |
| 1 | old f buddy who dumped me wants to meet up after 5 years. i feel insulted - not flattered.Thank you. The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. | /r/askTRP | 21/09/20 09:33 PM |
| 3 | A recent traumatic experience has left me confused. I need help.I think men are closer to this reality than women. We are more prone to loving and comforting, while men are more prone to represent reality. My sister had to raise her son as a single mom, so she had represent father and mother at the same time, which was hard on her, since on one hand she could not be "punishing" and "loving" and on the other hand she always felt guilty. On top of that I wonder if this is not also confusing for the kid, because it cannot experience one person in a consistent r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/20 12:54 AM |
| 4 | A recent traumatic experience has left me confused. I need help.People often are so engulfed in their own pain that they don't see what they do to others by allowing them to act on their worst... They seek consolation and don't understand that they have to give the other space to grow. A person without self-respect has no strength to grow, a person who experiences himself at its worst repeatedly looses self-respect. So by allowing another person to act at his or her worst, one is essentially enabling sometimes even enforcing. Even though soothing the pain se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/20 12:21 AM |
| 7 | A recent traumatic experience has left me confused. I need help.You can protect him from harming you further by moving to a safe place, preferably without announcing it previously, but with leaving him a letter such that he understands what happens and does not drive insane due to the panic he will experience, when he sees that you are gone. Let him know that you are confused about what happened, that you still love him, and hope you can find a way out of this together, but that you don't want that or anything similar to ever happen again and that you see th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/20 11:34 PM |
| 1 | New Rule: "Leave Him" is never the 1st option.Yes, I understand. But theoretically e.g. someone is an alcoholic, but they are married. Then moving out with the clear condition that he has to go to therapy and withdrawal would also be an option, wouldn't it? I completely agree that there are situations in which leaving is the only option but to be honest, I have not seen one situation in which a woman was advised to stay. I only remember one situation where a woman described that she and her husband have worked through a lot of shit together… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/20 06:57 PM |
| 2 | New Rule: "Leave Him" is never the 1st option.Let's say that this is only an assumption but not inevtiably true and that sometimes "leave him" can be replaced by prolonged distance? Yes, there are situations where leaving is the only rational and healthy options. On the other hand there are also situations in which people only want to vent and hear that the did everything in the RP-approved way, yet the partner is still an anappreciating bad guy. If that is really her opinion on him, then why even bother? I think if we are honest, then no w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/20 05:54 PM |
| 1 | New Rule: "Leave Him" is never the 1st option.I think it can be broken down to the woman asking herself what she actually wants. Does she want to stay, then she can ask for advice about what she could do differently. If she doesn't want to stay, she just needs to make up her mind on how to leave but she does not need to improve herself for a particular guy. Particularly since there is no perfect RPW for all men, so improving or adjusting to someone where one is not 100% certain that one wants to be with that guy is is a waste of precious ti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/20 05:45 PM |
| 2 | New Rule: "Leave Him" is never the 1st option.Weighing the rules against each other. I think RPW ruleset also clearly rejects women to be in a plate situation with someone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/20 05:35 PM |
| -2 | I need a mentor, and I do not have any feminine figures around me or in my family, can any of you ladies help me?It is not only the temper. The temper is already secondary. It seems that you need some time for yourself in order to understand what really bothers you. It is easy to negate the cause after one has overreacted. Then one only feels guilty because of the obvious overreaction. Particularly since you balance and restrain yourself in times when you are relaxed or in control as you state it. But this then easily becomes overwhelming, while the other does not notice the moments of restrain but only th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/20 05:14 PM |
| 4 | New Rule: "Leave Him" is never the 1st option.My experience was similar, yet different. It was the male participants here that pointed out that it was rape, and it was also them that did not sugar coat that in the way I was dealing with it, I was basically punishing those that came after the ex, because I was acting as if I were alpha widowed due to the trauma bonding, due to the deep love that I had felt that led me to endure the trauma. However, most critical to me was to understand that I was sending a message to every man that followed … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/20 10:09 PM |
| 3 | Masc/Fem Polarity question, micro and macroIt depends on what you do to build them up. If you comfort them when they fail and try to deliever energy in order to motivate them then this has the opposite effect in some people. It is similar to learned helplessness. They get all their positive emotions from you and not from their own success. So they will never feel masculine in that setting, but they will feel like children and turn depressed. Building men up is totally opposite from building women up. Men need to get dirty and fall and ge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/20 04:56 PM |
| 46 | Never Let a Woman See You Bleed.Just remember that womens feelings are also kind of fleeting. So as soon as you recover and find back to your former frame it will all be forgotten and forgiven. Admiration grows exactly on this. Also, I cannot imagine the universe in which many people would feel animalistic sexual attraction when somebody else is in a crisis or crying. To even relate the two seems odd. What many men indeed do wrong is that they talk so much about what bothers them that there is hardly any other topic. And this … | /r/TheRedPill | 21/08/20 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Vetting, red flags, green flags, one caseYou are absolutely right. But having an IQ somewhere around 140 - not that I care too much - makes it very difficult to find someone with an equivalent IQ. On top of that my education has trained my logical thinking for years. So many men like to talk with me about all kind of topics and since I read the male stuff in TRP and started to understand the male psychology better so that I can avoid some commom pitfalls actually all situations, conversations have become incredibly smooth and easy. I h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/20 09:21 PM |
| 1 | When "I'm sorry" is worthless and what really mattersThank you. I should remember this again and again and again and again. | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 08:34 PM |
| 1 | When you have "feeeeelz" for someone elseIt is like hell. At least for me and for almost two years. Particularly if the faults in fact were minor and it was merely more than a lack of knowledge that lead to loosing someone. The regrets are unspeakably painful and nothing can be forgiven if the other has decided to close his ears and move on. Reading posts like this make it even more painful. But it is the only hope to maybe learn and do better at some point in the future. | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Vulnerability & FemininityIt is very similar with me. Still until today my mom is emotionally immature and my dad and my sister. Sometimes I feel that I am the only one that understands that emotional situations can be influenced ba actions and word, while all others just act and am then surprised if the outcome is bad. So I got used of feeling in charge for everything, basically trying to keep people from doing stuff that either harms them or me or would lead to everything falling apart. I am still that way but I have a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/20 11:48 AM |
| 7 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small.Even though it goes against our common believe that vegetables are healthy there is actually oxalates in many of them and some people do physically not tolerate that well. Moreover there is a whole community that lives from mostly meat and animal products. Personally if anybody has such a strong reactions against something but is a reasonable person otherwise I would respect it and not force anything against it. Compare the actual nutrient content of meat, eggs and milk with the nutrient content… | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/20 04:38 PM |
| 2 | Some great things my father taught me.Thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 10:18 AM |
| 3 | The importance of having elderly traditionalist figures in your lifeThank you for sharing this beautiful moment <3 I can fully understand how you felt loved and being cared for and I wished I had someone like this on my side. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 10:14 AM |
| 3 | This post just made me so happy, and makes me so glad I've learnt to recognise the things I enjoy without feeling like I should renounce femininity. What do you ladies do?Cool! I am leaving for vacation tomorrow and I will take the extra time today to put new sheets on my bed, so that I will feel extra comfy and home when I return!!! Thanks a loooot! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 10:04 AM |
| 2 | Is my dealbreaker justified?I have good friend who is in exactly that situation. She maintains and grooms her orbiters and let herself be groomed by them. It clearly reflects into her relationship with her enganged soon_to-be husband. She can even have jealousy attacks if one of her orbiters has new female friends. I think she is not really happy and her partner does not provide the emotional support and comfort she would actually need and deserve. So I think her orbiters serve two functions; they compensate for the missin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 10:02 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…I think for men who are not socialized in a RP household it is the one and only option to learn a) how to tolerate insecurities and self-regulate b) see that the woman can also self-regulate and might even come back at her own will c) not loosing the respect of the woman by acting clingy and controlling. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/20 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…It might seem as if it is against the argumentation at odds with this sub, it is however not. RP might encourage traditional values, but with respect to how I understand it, it is only due to that fact that traditional values are more aligned with our biological instincts. They are only one respresentation of how a relationship that is atuned to our biological instincts might or should or could look like. Hypergamy is real and this means that a man has to constantly show that he is of high(er) v… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/20 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Brother tried to kill himself todayTryptophan as well | /r/askTRP | 01/05/20 08:52 AM |
| 1 | Spin off of cock carousel thread; Number of sex partner's impact on marital stability vs divorce rates?? What are your thoughts as red pill women?I also think one should not forget that a women who still is virgin at 25+ might be socialized so differently that she might generally seem off. So maybe she would earn your respect and at the same time you might realize that she lives in a completely different universe. Everything comes at a price, even virginity with 25+ particularly in the western world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/20 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Vetting and ambivalenceThank you! This sounds interesting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 10:18 PM |
| 3 | I made a realization about my relationships. It’s got me sucked into a deep depressionI take your words literally because I believe that this is what will help you most. What I will say will go against things that others might say and maybe some words might sound hurtful. They are not meant to be hurtful. I am doing this because I have been in a similar place as you and I always was asking the question of what I was doing wrong because I could see that others could have what seemed impossible to me. But when I asked the question "what am I doing wrong" I received the answer that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 09:30 PM |
| 1 | My Captain is jumping shipWhy are you not kind to him? Did you ask him why he feels that way? How do you think about that yourself? What do you do instead? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 07:59 PM |
| 0 | Vetting and ambivalenceYes, but that is exactly what vetting is about, isn't it? I think part of why I am writing this is that even though it is sufficient to understand that there probably is a problem is that, as explained in another comment, we easily seem to missunderstand his reaction (particularly when ambivalent) as a feedback about our own worth, in the sense of not being good enough, or we devalue the other because the feelings he delievers are not good enough. It often is not that we are illogical, but we fa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Vetting and ambivalenceMe too... I immediately ask myself if everything is alright as soon as something is different (=contradictory). | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 07:07 PM |
| 2 | Vetting and ambivalenceCalling or texting were just examples. It is rather about any kind of seemingly contradictory signals. Particularly in the beginning it is important to not jump to conclusions (positive or negative) too fast. With a black or white mindest we also more easily fall prey to men who know that consistency matters and who use this because they know that this way women will be more likely to invest. When we are convinced that the other is seriously interested we also tend to ignore the red flags and mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Vetting and ambivalenceThank you for the summary! Yes, exactly. Not to keep them around, but in order to maybe just realize that this way it does not work out. But also to find an escape for those who themselves feel so insecure that they need immediate proof, those for whom an hour seems like a day or a day like a week. If they are mentally so insecure, they will be exhausted if he calls after 1,5 hours and will not be able to develop towards more patience and constantly hurt themselves because the other person does … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Vetting and ambivalenceYou assume that from the moment he is interested he will always act the same. Even if he is interested he will have "inconsistencies" regarding other topics and probably this will always collide with the female need to have "predictability". Last but not least "calling" was just an example. I used it as an example because I thought so many of us have experienced it that it would be easier to understand, but I think I just made it more complicated 🙈 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 06:23 PM |
| 0 | Vetting and ambivalenceYes, "the calling" was just an example and maybe I should not use examples anymore because it seems more often than not, that they delude more often than not what I was trying to say. There is a reason why it is so easy to make us feel insecure by even mild inconsistencies and it might not apply to each one of us. I think that those of us who for example (!) had a stable relationship with their fathers, will be less affected. There are also inconsistencies that indicate e.g. that he is not inter… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Narcissistic Personality Disorder TellsAnd how did your cat know whether you did like a girl or not, if not by reading your emotions towards the girl? How could the cat "predict"? The way a person speaks, moves, approaches, generally interacts tells a lot about person. The processing of that Information is in many situations and people not conscious. It is the "feel" that they radiate and which is detected by intuition. Animals are closer to their intuition, they don't think that much. It is the same with kids. If I believed in narci… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/04/20 05:44 PM |
| 0 | Vetting and ambivalenceI agree and at the same time we might jump to conclusions too early. People have their own velocity and timing and they also have their own way of showing interest, which we will never understand when we insist on them doing it at our terms or in our way or with our pace. And sorry if this sounds rude, but mister perfect does not exist and even the most secure man will have moments where we will want to spend time for himself or do something that might seem questionable. What you describe is an … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Vetting and ambivalenceYes, I agree, but with our own internal "either or" dialogue we fall so easily in the trap of "he seemed to like me, but he didn't call back within 2 hours, he does not like me anymore". I am exagerating right now, but it really seems that some of us only live in the presence and whatever happened in the past is annihilated by what happens in the current moment. Particularly if someone was a constant caller and the suddenly stops it is easy to overinterpret, but it is because we seem to forget t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 04:52 PM |
| 1 | My Captain is jumping shipHe does not feel that you are the one because you don't let him earn your attention. Successfully earning attention is what men need to feel that the woman is the one. From what you describe it sounds like you try hard to make him feel his best and you did it in the way that women do it by praising him to cause good feelings in him. This is not what men need, they feel that they love you when they are inspired to achieve something for you. This is why he is "pursuing", because pursuing means ach… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 04:41 PM |
| 3 | How do I adjust my dating strategy when I make six figures?I think the problem is less the woman looking down, but rather the man feeling inferior. But probably it mostly depends on how much he respects and likes what he does. Money is how the industry/economy pays respect. If he has a job he is not proud of (and money is one factor why people feel acomplished) AND he earns less than you, then it is easier that self-esteem problems can also affect the relationship. Key is probably admiration, and this is why you should first be very honest with yourself… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Study: People report conforming more strongly to traditional gender roles and believing more strongly in traditional gender stereotypes since the coronavirus pandemicThey are waiting for the final reports on domestic violence | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/20 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodSo then maybe this is a misunderstanding. I agree that there are many more reasons why somebody becomes or has been a victim and also men can be victims of women. But being weaker than the other is one prerequisite (reason) for becoming a victim, not the only one and also - not everyone who is "weak" will neccessarily become a victim, if he or she knows how to protect himself. However being weaker enhances the probability for being victimized by a stronger opponent. The point the OP wanted to ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodSo according to you weakness as a reason for becoming a victim does not exist? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodHow is anything I write toxic? You know what is toxic? To tell someone who is weaker that he is not and then let him be without defences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodCertainly those strong people have then encountered someone stronger. The victim is weaker by definition, otherwise it wouldn't be the victim. That strong people can be victims as well, does neither imply that women are not weaker nor does it imply that weakness is not one - among others - reason for becoming a victim in the first place. The inequality between men and women is probably the most basic and undisputed assumption of TRP. The whole RP-construct is based on the understanding that men … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodVictims are created by being weaker and thinking as being of equal strength. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 04:32 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…I am not arguing for hiding important information. I certainly would not hide anything. But I think that the time at which people want to disclose something might differ and this has to be respected by both sides particularly regarding subjects that might be shameful. How can you even compare a criminal record or debts with knowing the n-count? I don't think that we really disagree, I just want to highlight that the agreement to disclosure has to be mutual. Respect does not mean that one can req… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 04:56 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…Yes, but also the other person has the right to decide when and how much she discloses about herself. Whom would you rather tell what he wants to know? The person who respects who you are and when in doubt also respects your no, or the person who treats you like a potential enemy and who is trying to force you to prove whether you are or are not? Trust and respect are not one-way roads. There is a kind of "wanting to know" that is exactly as harmful as making a new person responsible for compens… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Thought she was an Angel, turned out a bit different :-/She wanted your babies, you are clear about not wanting kids. Irrespective of whether she is an angel or slut or both. Let her go. Under other circumstances you could support her in learning to be responsible for her actions and instead of paying for her studies support her in paying them for herself. Like e.g. she pays her debts with her own income and occasionally you give her some gift as a reward, something she could in principle afford with her own income, but which she currently cannot bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…I don’t see any other way. What woman would value a man as “higher than her” in terms of beauty? What man values a woman as higher than him in terms of ability to provide? And what does it imply if I already have a decent income and could feed a whole familiy of four people on my own? Could his potentially lower income be traded-off by a great personality? I know that for me personally I would want him to be at least equal at this point. But generally, what can be trade-offs? Even though this mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…Is it possible? Most likely not in a 50/50 sense and probably also not with respect to the qualities according to which the value is perceived? Maybe even only in terms of a trade-off, e.g. beauty and youth against money and power and all of them being weighed according to the sex which possesses them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 01:23 PM |
| 2 | The impact of a man's past on him is very different from the impact of a woman's past on her - and the difference can be day and night when the man has the tools to deal with his past.I think additionally to the fight-or-flight response there exists a third acute stress response: seeking shelter. It might be at the core of the life-long experience of being a victim and also why women are so vulnerable to this. Having sex has different implications for women than it has for men. So most likely women naturally expect to be protected by the man they have sex with. One can try to follow the feel when thinking about the times, where we all were mostly unconscious, didn't have cont… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/04/20 01:13 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…I think also the explanation u/_TheDon_ gave in reply to your comment fits well with the fact that you wrote that you have interesting and long discussions. He might just enjoy sharing thoughts with you and overshared due to the connection he feels with you. Not very smart, but I guess we all have those moments where we might have not understood that the sharing was inappropriate. I would put it as simple as possible and just ask "are you aware that you asking me whether I was riding the CC actu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 11:50 AM |
| 12 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…It is also disrespect to want to know something the other is not willing to talk about. Tell me! Tell me! Tell me! Tell me! Teeeeeell me! I have a right to know! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 11:41 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…From the time we're old enough to understand we are taught how and encouraged to do whatever we can think of to be appealing to men. How can you not have noticed this? Let's put it into a different perspective, the desire for sex in men is so strong that they will take almost any chance for sex, even if they consider the women being way below their own standards. I don't know any woman that will have sex with a men she considers being below her own standards. So for a man to have sex with many w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 11:39 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…Why should both think that the other "had to settle down"? Because it indicates that one considers the partner as being if higher value than oneself? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 10:24 AM |
| 2 | Girl told me “Show me you’re not an ass”Don't make notes. Develop yourself. You are beyond acting like a robot according to a given set of rules ;) You liked her compared to the other girls you have talked to, since obviously she is more conscious than the other girls. So scripted rules won't work with her... But that is exactly why you liked her in the first place. | /r/askTRP | 26/04/20 01:30 AM |
| 1 | The impact of a man's past on him is very different from the impact of a woman's past on her - and the difference can be day and night when the man has the tools to deal with his past.I saw the edit. I think I understand now better what you wanted to say. Thank you. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/04/20 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodCan you point out the phrases where you think that this is the case? Of course the child is a victim. However by being victim as a child we learn maladaptive patterns that encourage or enable abuse even when being grown up. The need to feel protected by another human being is an open door for inviting further abuse. However, this is a forum for people who are at least able to read and therfore should at some point be able to decide themselves which path they will take and I see no reason to accu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/20 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodI feel that every word is too loud for the peace radiated by these words. This is so beautiful and I entirely understand how this enabled you to stay alive. Thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/20 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Girl told me “Show me you’re not an ass”Show integrity and let her know that you just wanted to tease her a bit with the comment about her dress. Women with self respect don't like men that intentionally attempt to create insecurity. Agree and amplifying will not bring you further with her because obviously she is looking for someone who is a bit more mature than just testing his limits without being unable to admit that "testing" was the intention. Think about it the opposite way; a women is shit testing you, you don't understand the… | /r/askTRP | 25/04/20 06:59 PM |
| 2 | The impact of a man's past on him is very different from the impact of a woman's past on her - and the difference can be day and night when the man has the tools to deal with his past.I mean how weird is this world if a woman has to turn to read TRP in order to understand and heal herself? | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/20 06:26 PM |
| 1 | The impact of a man's past on him is very different from the impact of a woman's past on her - and the difference can be day and night when the man has the tools to deal with his past.Thank you. I have nothing against spirituality itself. There are just so many people outside and over the years I was reading so much of so much and I myself have been misguided so many times over the years, because something resonated with me emotionally that I myself became cautious. Particularly with respect to people that are celebrated. This is why I generelly turned more cautious. I am sorry, if this was misunderstood. That you recommended this here in TRP is a reason why I would read it d… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/20 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodThe better and safer your presence the less past pains come back. Since I own my mistakes, I am sometimes still feeling hopeless and unhappy because lonely, but it is never anymore due to something that happened. I cut losses, owned my own wrong decisions and the ghosts from the past stopped screaming. After being trapped for years I really also thought that I would have to live with the pain forever, but I didn't have to. Acceptance that what happened happened and cannot be undone and that one … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/20 03:35 PM |
| 1 | The impact of a man's past on him is very different from the impact of a woman's past on her - and the difference can be day and night when the man has the tools to deal with his past.How do I find the chapters you mentioned? I have become a bit wary of all modern spiritual teachers, because I find their ideas delusional more often than not. So I never actually read Tolle, but I am always curious to extend my view :) and since this is TRP... For me it actually was reading TRP that I started to understand "my" devil and I wouldn't even call it devil anymore. It was evil and wrong ideas about being a female human being and the absence of my father when I was a child and the way… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/20 03:29 PM |
| 6 | The impact of a man's past on him is very different from the impact of a woman's past on her - and the difference can be day and night when the man has the tools to deal with his past.The tendency of the feminine ego to seek refuge in the feeling of victim hood does not help in this - it helps keep her past alive in her. A bad past just gives the victim tendency a first class ticket. Female here; thank you. I think you are right and I wasn't aware of the biological aspect of this tendency. Been there and did it, but I lost many many years, mostly since society and all those delusions about abusive relationships also encourage "victimhood" as well as thinking about oneself and… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/20 02:48 PM |
| 1 | She attempted suicide and now im stuck....You can also say that you cannot trust her when she blackmails to hurt herself. That this burden and responsiblity is taking away your breath. You broke up already before she did it, so don't justify the break up with something she did afterwards. You are trying to rationalise your own guilt away. You made a decision, now either change it or live with it. But don't blame it on "I cannot because she did", since then you are playing the same game as she does. Each of you is hostaging the other for… | /r/askTRP | 08/04/20 06:22 PM |
| 1 | She attempted suicide and now im stuck....You don't explain. You state it once in written form and then you leave forever. Maybe go on a trip for some time, so that you don't see her in school. Don't say she is sickening you. Say you tried everything and you cannot help her and this sickens you. I understand that you are shocked and traumatised. But in the same way as she cannot expect you to save her now you also cannot expect that she agrees to what you say and stops giving up her own agenda. Even if you think you need her understandi… | /r/askTRP | 08/04/20 06:15 PM |
| 1 | She attempted suicide and now im stuck....Currently she is protected by being in the hospital and her family an friends. Frame it as I cannot give you what you need to be happy, even though I would like to. I wish you become stable soon. Give her some comfort with words, it will ease the pain she experiences. Make her feel respected and valued, maybe write a letter with kind words. Say thank you for the good things and show some compassion for her pain. Give her something to learn and grow, something that makes her understand that it wa… | /r/askTRP | 08/04/20 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell him that I love him?Thank you for your explanation. I can understand it better now. That I am trying to justify "irrational actions" might well be... However it is an assumption, which might be true or not true. They are not aware that they are acting on assumptions. Aside from being an assumption, justifying irrational actions is also daily human business, so again, pointing that out would be sufficient... But then I totally get the point that I seem trapped, which I actually am and the post above shows it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/20 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell him that I love him?I really don't understand it. But I guess I don't have to,... The logic is incomprehensible to me. So I had an emotional evening and was also unhappy that I am still not entirely over it, so I wondered if I should tell him. Yes, maybe I shouldn't write texts when I am emotional... But seriously, it would have been sufficient to tell me that "its stupid" and that I just have to accept that even his message does not indicate anything. Telling me that I am just having an emotional weak moment and t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/20 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell him that I love him?I have been in therapy all the 10 years I was in terribly unhappy relationships. Therapy almost destroyed me because instead of supporting me with pragmatic solutions to the few problems I had it infused my thoughts with ideas about narcissists and psychopaths and kept me circling around my childhood for years. It was difusing my thoughts and the clarity I had. Therapy is evil. It disconnects people from reality and fills their head with nothing but interpretations and illusions. Maybe there are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell him that I love him?Did you never experience that you liked someone so much that even after many years you sometimes wished that things where differently? For how many months is feeling lovesick allowed according to your idea of healthiness? For how long is it allowed to miss someone? I felt fucking lonely yesterday, I am working a lot, and was exhausted and desperately wished to see him, and on top of that the hormomal PMS chaos did not let me sleep. So what problem do you have with me wondering whether it would b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell him that I love him?Like you define healthy? Do you know anything? Did I talk about his deep connection to me? No, I was just sad and hoping that maybe there is a possibility to reconnect with him. Nowhere did I say that it is a relationship. You are not reacting to what I wrote. You are reacting to what you think you have understood. You project and take your own interpretation for true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell him that I love him?It's ok. Whatever you think. How disrespectful to diagnose someone as unhealthy. As if friends and family were not enough for a reality check. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 06:27 PM |
| -1 | Should I tell him that I love him?No, I was explaining how I feel. I have difficulties in letting him go, yes. Well, I do let him go, externally, internally I am still thinking about him and still miss him. Sometimes more and sometimes less. So today I thought maybe I should contact him instead of remaining silent. Not strong enough in terms of having a light and superficial conversation with him, without adressing "issues". Even if we met, that would probably not be a good start. Do grown up women not love anymore? Do grown up … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 01:59 AM |
| 1 | RP-SexI agree, that it can be understood like that. I am very tired and it was an emotional evening. I should sleep but I can't. Sorry, I should have written it more carefully... | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 01:46 AM |
| -3 | Should I tell him that I love him?HE has contacted me throughout 2019 and I cancelled meetings each times because I did not feel strong enough. One should never infer knowing everything or that the person on the other side is able to express every tiny detail of a in total more than three years lasting interaction. He sent me new years wishes even though I did not contact him for Christmas, so, somehow he seems to want to keep in touch and I had an emotional moment where I was deeply sad and wondering if it would make sense to r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 01:43 AM |
| 1 | RP-SexThat's not what I did. I am sorry if it could be understood like I particularly meant you... It was just an observation with various commenters in TRP but it was not directed at you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 01:23 AM |
| -3 | Should I tell him that I love him?I don't see the reason for recommending therapy... I really think people should be more careful with recommending therapy to people they have not even met once. Particularly if these people write a post about being lovesick once in several months. In my opinion therapy makes things worse. I haven't met a single person who became better or healed through therapy. On contrary therapy makes things worse for most people. Imho. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 01:20 AM |
| 2 | RP-SexNone of my comments has been met with hostilty. It is very different if one just tries to listen or give useful advice instead of criticizing or trying to convince them about the female perspective. I actually had great conversations there and I also agree that it is good to read in both if one can tolerate the tone there. However there is the danger of overly sympathizing with the male experience and then trying to overcompensate as it happened to me. At the same time... Women should try to und… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 12:48 AM |
| 0 | Should I tell him that I love him?And I believed it and without wanting it ended up guilt tripping him... Because vulnerabilty and so... And of course this made me such a pleasant place to be. Unable to breathe without his attention. Sigh. At the same time it was an empathy stroke/enlightenment that I needed. Due to my divorced parents and the feminist thoughts with that I grew up and also my parents own limitations I needed TRP to understand that my father suffered from all this at least as much as my mom and he never ended his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 11:57 PM |
| -1 | Should I tell him that I love him?I am very grown up already, so old that I am scared to mention it here, because the wall, etc... but it might have been the only time that I have met someone whom I trusted and loved and respected. I have let older experiences get into the way and when I realized this I found RP and overcompensated, which somehow made it worse, because I opened myself too much and became more and more dpendent on him. It was somehow a sick dynamic and I think it is better that we got out of it. I think he is hea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 11:30 PM |
| 2 | How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha?Or bodys are also programmed by how we think about humans in general. Just look at situations around you where you have people with different social competencies dealing with each other in basically the same situation. Exchange one person with a person of higher social competence and you will get a completely different outcome of the situation. People here sometimes really seem to forget about their own contribution on how someone reacts to them more often than not and thus make themselves compl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/19 10:13 AM |
| 3 | How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha?Na, stating that "all women like to be infantilised" is like saying that all men like to be "mothered". It's just not true. It really depends on the emotional maturity of the individual and both sometimes like some parts of it. The extend to which it is needed is what makes it either "infantilised" or "mothered". To be cautious when talking about something where you know that the other person cares about or doesn't like is normal daily respect. I remember an ex who thought it would be a good ide… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/19 09:54 AM |
| 2 | How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha?Hey, I feel that you lost the feeling of safety mainly because deep inside you know that he is right and that you yourself would not be able to leave if he would misuse the power he has over you and that instead it feels as if you were at his mercy about which you don't feel certain anymore now that he stated so obviously that he is aware of his power. 1) So to me the solution would be to ensure myself about my own borders and that I will not tolerate a partner who acts disrespectful against me … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/19 09:37 AM |
| 1 | How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha?She can feel it is true and that is why she doesn't feel safe anymore because she knows she cannot leave if he would misuse the power he has over her. And the good part of the relationship could be over after this insight, because now in each argument her hamster might run crazy asking if he is doing what he does just because he can. Or the power fights will start because she will try to get some feeling of saftey back. Worst case scenario is that from now on she will act based on fear, instead … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/19 09:19 AM |
| 2 | Women seek attention, men seek...?It's been a while. I hope you don't mind if I come back to our conversation. I have been watching videos about men and women in a different context and together with our exchange and another one I had in MGTOW it suddenly klicked... I think due to our exchange I started to understand how much more materialistic the world is to men than to us women. I am not sure that it is only society that makes men "emotionally stunted" as you said. It struck when I read it and I felt overwhelmed and didn't re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 08:33 PM |
| 2 | MGTOW quote of the dayHe never said that he needed someone to believe in him. That was just a general remark regarding your statement that a the act of a woman supporting her partners future potential can be considered as part of hypergamy acting on his future increase in value. I assume that this might be actually correct and of course women hurt themselves if they act on potential instead of the current state. The risk is high. However I would say that in many cases it will be mutually beneficial. Feminists don't l… | /r/MGTOW | 27/11/19 05:53 PM |
| 2 | MGTOW quote of the dayI was in love with someone for nothing, just because I liked his intellect and humor. It was never a relationship because it was long distance and he never left any doubt about it ever becoming one, because he cannot tolerate people. He wasn't rich, he was not smarter than I am, we had lots of fun enjoying music together etc. He profited a lot in various ways and never promised anything. He was way to skinny and actually as it turned out in the end it was also boring to play the same repetitive … | /r/MGTOW | 27/11/19 12:30 AM |
| 0 | Reading Women; Maintaining ControlAnd why would you want to hurt somebody so much? | /r/TheRedPill | 17/11/19 12:46 PM |
| 1 | LTR broke up, now comes crawling backYou can try to understand the conflict. Probably there is something which she feels she cannot tolerate in the relationship and then becomes unstable because there is something that is really bothering her but she likes you too much to break up for good. There are serveral possible ways to deal with it: The two of you figure out what the problem is and solve it so that it is acceptable/tolerable for both of you. The two of you continue to try to deal with it as it is and either things move towar… | /r/askTRP | 17/11/19 10:26 AM |
| 3 | I just wanna complain - Don't be like meHe wanted to be your boyfriend because he wanted all the things from you that you are giving him right now. Now that he can get them all and you have moved on to wanting it to be exclusive there is no need for him anymore to give up his freedom, even if it is only perceived freedom because as you said you are like boyfriend and girl friend already. I feel it is very difficult to take away something you have given him. Everything you put verbally will be easily misunderstood. Asking again and the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?Do you consider yourself emotionally stunted? I find it hard to think of men as emotionally stunted. In oder to say that one would first need to establish a reference and what should that reference be? Female emotions? One could also say that women are emotionally overreactive and immature... and where is the healthy line between the inability to control emotions and the inability to show them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/19 10:27 PM |
| 1 | LTR lied about fucking a guy in the past. Broke up with her. Did I do the right thing?Thank you for your detailed explanation. I really enjoy when you outline the bigger picture and also the way in which you are doing it. I always learn and understand a tiny bit more. I was lately listening to things one can find around the Carnivore community. The talk "the tragedy of the empathic carnivore" adresses the problems that we have due to being more and more detached from nature. So detached that slaughtering seems brutal to us. We are unable to tolerate the conflict that we have to k… | /r/askTRP | 27/10/19 09:40 PM |
| 5 | How does one unlearn years of feminist conditioning??Being empathic with men and understanding how they and us have been wronged by terms like "toxic masculinity", by devaluing their loyality, by humiliating them, not giving them the power to decide what happens with their children after divorce, etc. will stop all anger... Just look at how unfairly they are degraded as a whole and I think you will not feel angry against them anymore. Life for men is tough... For us as well, but, well, there is no reason to be angry and if you fully comprehend tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/19 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?I have also read about the troubles you had with asian men. I will not hint you to a place that will just confirm the negativity you already have. I think you should stay and read and try to understand that it might have something to do with your actions, why men choose not to stay with you. If something happens repeatedly to the same person then maybe that person is contributing to it. If you could change how men react to you, wouldn't you want to know? Do you really want to stay in that bubble… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/19 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?I don't see myself beneath men. I also don't see anything bad in wanting sex. Yes, men and women might have different needs. I don't see a problem with that. Being hungry for attention and validation is not much more pleasant than being hungry for sex. Or would you deny that women can be incredibly manipulative and lying just to get five minutes of someone listening to them? They blow up minor incidents, they spread rumors and lies to feel important etc just for sympathy and attention.. The need… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/19 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?You must have some really bad experience to come to that conclusion. I know that some years ago I had a similar view on men and I am glad that I realized that the misunderstanding was on my side. What happened? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/19 09:54 AM |
| 1 | LTR lied about fucking a guy in the past. Broke up with her. Did I do the right thing?If anything "provoked" me at all then that the whole passage to me seems so twisted. I can understand certain aspects you describe about female behavior and some is certainly true. However kids that don't learn to act responsible will never be responsible grown ups, irrespective of their sex. So the reason for the current state of our societies is not the freedom men gave to women, but rather that we as a whole don't have values anymore we have deconstructed everything and everyone is suffering … | /r/askTRP | 26/10/19 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?Then maybe it is just not intuitive to some men how hard emotional consequences can hit? And this is why they might withdraw even more, when they think that they cause suffering, e.g. also because they at some point have made the experience that with those unstable bitchy women ;) it is never enough and that sooner or later they will turn unhappy over something irrelevant nevertheless? I read somewhere that it is really useful to let men know that (as a women) one can get sometimes a bit emotion… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/19 12:41 AM |
| 1 | LTR lied about fucking a guy in the past. Broke up with her. Did I do the right thing?I think it was the passage about the weak and foolish grandfathers that irritated me. I understand that it might seem like that but I don't think that this is the reason for the current developments... And somehow I assumed that you would know or think that too, which probably was why I put such a strong statement. | /r/askTRP | 26/10/19 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?Hm :) since I don't think that I left the impression that I were unable to think and argue logically ;) I assume that we also use different logics? Our premisses are different and we come to different conclusions? I realized that a certain way of communicating only "facts" or statements makes things easier. I guess that this can be seen as part of the ability that is needed for building things. While everything that is based on interpretation, speculation, or makes guesses about someones intenti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?Thank you. I think I like people too much to ever consciously abuse anybody ever, even less the people I like and for whom I care :) Nevertheless, I don't see the advantage...? We are more emotional and therefore say more stupid things without thinking...? Men first think and act then? No? They can be so incredibly disciplined and controlled. And once they have made a decision no argument in the world is going to change that... So to me it seems they know what they do and how could they know if … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 10:50 PM |
| 1 | LTR lied about fucking a guy in the past. Broke up with her. Did I do the right thing?You know that it is not true. | /r/askTRP | 25/10/19 10:27 PM |
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| 5 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenI didn't say that they don't face external difficulties, but this is not the main source of their suffering. People throughout centuries experienced external difficulties and even were happy because they had a strong sense of identity and self worth. That comes from within. To people with a healthy sense of self external influences are only annoying obstacles they try to either ignore or overcome. A self needs to be terribly fragile to be disturbed by a label. Do you think it is the only way to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 09:33 PM |
| 8 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenAmazing how you turn the true suffering of a person into something that society did to them. This is as far away from empathy as I can imagine. You are minimizing the pain these people endure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 09:21 PM |
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| 2 | How would you go about introducing someone to RPW?Unusual views rarely have many followers :) I remember you as someone with sometimes unusual views, but also very empathic, trying to look to more than just your own good, caring and also diplomatic. I think the only thing is that having unusual views sometimes feels a bit lonely and sometimes not appreciated because the moments one can feel understood are rare... Don't turn this against yourself. Just learn how you can make your unusal ideas understood, this can help a lot... just my thoughts | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:54 PM |
| -6 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenHow it feminizes men if men are supposed to have periods? Are you seriously asking that question? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:46 PM |
| 13 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenIt's not only war on manhood. It's war on all of us... Both of the two sexes are denied to have an identity. We are all turning indistinguishably equal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:45 PM |
| 2 | How would you go about introducing someone to RPW?Now that I consciously read your username I feel relieved :) I somehow have a positive memory about your posts and a few exchanges here in the past... You can use occasional drops of information in conversations. If she is interested and wants to go into that direction she will ask for it and you can send her the link, but I think it should be based on her curiosity and openness for this kind of lifestyle. Don't glorify, don't turn it into something mysterious to raise her curiosity. If you like… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:41 PM |
| 3 | How would you go about introducing someone to RPW?I am sorry if this sounds rude. Don't. Just don't. Either the two of you develop the right dynamic and she trusts you enough so that she will let you lead or she doesn't. RP cannot be demanded from a partner and if it is I would consider it as abusive in the same way as I would consider a woman abusive that tells her partner "to man up". If she trusts you then she will let you form her. If not, then no theory will help you by turning her into how you want her to be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?Thank you for your explanation. Feel relevant/needed seems to be somewhat similar to feeling desired. Both show that the partner still sees value in oneself and both can easily turn into feeling used when they turn to "she only wants attention", "he only wants sex". | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Integrity, Oh Integrity, Where have you gone?Do you think being lifeless as a rock is better? Both have a soul, it's just different, one is more solid and the other is more fluid. I think of it as a metaphor and always keep in mind that nothing ever is 100%. It only describes tendencies in a comaprison. So to me this sounds like In some situations human beings act or are similar to water. Women more often than men. In some situations human beings act or are similar to a rock. Men more often than women. And it both has positive and negative… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Why am I so obsessed with people’s replies?Yes, that sounds like a pretty uncomfortable situation and it also explains why it is difficult for you to be comfortable with yourself if you don't have a pleasant home where you can relax and do things according to how you like them to do. What exactly do you mean by homemaking? I am not sure I understand what you mean by "connecting with other homemakers". Is it a profession? Can't you move out and get your own place? Or if that is not possible, could you tell your mom that you don't really f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 05:00 PM |
| 3 | Integrity, Oh Integrity, Where have you gone?Loyality would be the female equivalent. We don't have to be integer orselves if we are loyal to the men who is. It also depends on the perspective, these ideals might as well also be a reflection of the imperfection of how the average of people is. So integrity is admired or praised because even under men it is rare. Similar holds for loyality... I think the analogy water fits the ability to adjust and be nurturing and also our emotional nature quite well. However, water cannot be forced into a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 10:34 PM |
| 3 | Why am I so obsessed with people’s replies?Having my most recent post here in mind and combined with the answer given by the previous poster, I would say that you are longing for attention and validation. I wouldn't assume deeper issues, since wanting attention is normal for women and while I consider myself not overly dependent on it, I have had times where I spent months away from anybody to whom I could relate and talk to, while at the same time also my family relationships were difficult, and the feeling of complete disinterest of th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?I think admiration is a good comparison. Similarly as true attention it cannot be faked nor negotiated. Either a person admires another person or not. Either someone enjoys giving attention to someone or not. The opposites then are disinterest and maybe lack of respect? I am sorry for spamming, but in this moment I just start to understand so much. Fuelled by admiration and attention relationships can go a very long way... Even if painful for both sides. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?Yes, I think that to some extend the description is limited and there are overlaps... At the same time I also think that those polarities are the reason why we love hate need and fear each other. But those polarities are also what make us alive, enables structure and development. God and evil. This is why I think that principally the sets should be complete, even if there is some imprecision in the meaning and an overlap. Since language also evolved as a description of what we experience there s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?and admiration then more or less directly also leads to respect towards the admired one on the side of the women? Could one say men exchange attention for feeling admired and vice versae? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Women seek attention, men seek...?Interesting. Thank you. This explains a lot. I was also thinking about drama Queens when I tried to think about attention. It took some time until I understood that sometimes people don't care about "solutions" but kind of unconsciously (!?) rely on the willingness to help to make others listen. I mean basically it is an easy way to get attention,... | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?I think there are many different sunshines, "themselves" is one of them, now I hoped to find something that is more oriented from outside to inside, as is sunshine, or respect or admiration. Do you have more ideas? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?And the sunshine for men is? :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on r/theredpill closing?.TRP was fun to build, but when the waves knock down your sandcastle, you build a different one. That's part of the fun. Sand castles are for building, not just for having. Ok, now, since I don't have anything useful to add, I will admit that I often read your comments and I really love your pragmatism and I hope very much you keep doing what you are doing. I love your thoughts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/19 07:57 AM |
| 1 | 6 years trying to change and be submissive and nothing turns out. I need help…..Your family has decided who you became. You decide who you are now and who you will be. Stop seeking the cause for who you are in your subconciousness. Your subconciousness is not a magic entity that controls your soul. It is simply a set of rules and associations that you have learned. Stop thinking about why you are who you are. You are hindering yourself. How you behave is not the same as who you are. So write down the behaviours you want to change and then write down how you ideally want to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 07:44 AM |
| 2 | 6 years trying to change and be submissive and nothing turns out. I need help…..Girl, I have been there. It is all about respect. But not about what people sometimes misunderstand about respect. It is understanding that other human beings have the right to do as they wish and that they have the right to see the world as they do even if it entirely disagrees with what you see. You are imposing your opinion on others, even if they don't ask for your opinion. - - > controlling You think you understand things right. You did when you didn't understand red pill and you do it now … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 07:14 AM |
| 1 | When a LTR isn't worth saving / how much should I sacrifice for him? / Are these actually red flags or not?"I have no idea what I want to do" is basically all that you need to know. We (humans) never know what we want until we want something. And until we know we act indecisive and reactive with only little initiative. Irrespective of the whys and hows. Relationships can be difficult enough and some even fail even both want them. Life and marriage with someone who doesn't know whether he wants it, is not worth to be considered. Get out of your comfort zone. It is cosy because it is familiar. I feel t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/19 09:56 AM |
| -2 | Question for Men: What kind of woman would you want your daughter to be?That is male solipsm. Woman cannot be happily married to some beta that they don't respect and whom they only married because the wall was approaching. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Question for Men: What kind of woman would you want your daughter to be?If you had a daughter treat her respectfully and look for a woman that is kind with a warm and forgiving attitude and valuing herself. How you treat her and the believes you imprint on her about herself, will make her learn how respect and love feel. She will naturally not drive towards a lot of the things you fear might happen... Treat her well and she won't let anybody mistreat her. Treat her as you would want her ideal partner to be. Don't forget that arguments, disagreements, setting limits … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutYes, if the mother is bad at parenting it were great if the father were better, but usually people pair with people with equal maturity... So bad mom often means bad dad or vice versae | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutStill thinking about your comment and not understanding it ^ _ ^ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 07:38 PM |
| 0 | Something nobody talks aboutYes, I think the CC is a nightmare for most women. They wouldn't ride the CC if they didn't feel they have to. Either they haven't evolved their relationship values and simply are not good partners, drama queens, needy, controlling, demanding, and so on, or they constantly fall for guys out of their league, or other emotionally unavailable guys. At the same time they believe that they deserve to be treated better without looking at the reasons for always ending up in similar situations. And at t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 07:37 PM |
| 0 | Do you have friends who struggle with women IRL? What do you see him doing wrong?You look, raise an eyebrow and turn away with openly displayed disinterest. Showing any other emotion will make her feel valued, because she will think that he cares about her words. Verbal arrows only hit from people who one respects or cares about. She might also just be unaware about his sensibility regarding his weight. Particularly for overweight people it might be hard to imagine how sensitive a skinny person can feel for being called too skinny... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Do you have friends who struggle with women IRL? What do you see him doing wrong?Lifting might raise his self esteem, since he experiences how he can be in control of himself. I assume that he might be too passive, though? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 07:22 PM |
| 0 | Do you have friends who struggle with women IRL? What do you see him doing wrong?Sounds like an Aspie who got stuck in his teenager role without realizing that he needs to develop a new frame. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutIf you really want to do good for kids then stop pilling these terrible over the top expectation on to parents that end up with them getting overwhelmed and resenting their own kids. Stop conflating hoodrats with normal mothers that want to spend some time for themselves now and then. And btw "hoodrats" just speaks for your incredibly demeaning and arrogant racist attitude. Egalitarianism is for elitists that don't care about the hardships in other people's lifes, using their own privileged posi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutAgain you are insisting on it being an either or. Not me. The probability is higher and there are reasons for that higher probability, that reasons might be many and hypergamy might be one of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutOh and btw... This is certainly not the stories they will tell their friends. When you talk to them personally then you will always only hear about how much they do and love and care, it is then the kids who are flawed and making problems, not them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutAnd again, this is your interpretation. You are again twisting my words. You are equating non-neglecting parenting with controlling and overly protective parenting. As if there were nothing in between. That is you, not me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutRefusing to acknowledge that there are potentially negative side-effects to being a single mom is erroding values. Not even the most sympathic female right activist would refuse to acknowledge this. If you think I have an agenda, just because I disagree with your point of view then do so. Anyway, I am bored and I think I made my point. Thank you for providing the sparring partner ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutThat is what you do. For every healthy person the differences between neglect and taking time for recharging oneself and also those parts that are a normal aspects of disconnecting and growing up will be more than obvious. I am talking about black sheep and that these are due to a variety of many different reason, whether it is being single-mom or overloaded or not wanting a kid or having an abusive childhood oneself. Whatever. I nowhere said that ALL single moms are black sheep. However there a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutI do not even see where I am making a point against anybody except at one point against erroding values. I was looking at a potential explanation for certain observation I have made. Bad things happen everywhere, you are acting as if it is a crime to seek an explanation for bad things. At no point I said that all single mothers are bad mothers and at no point I said that all SAHM are great mothers. So I really don't understand your anger and why you seem to take it so personal that you are writi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutYeah right, society is damaging kids by providing false ideas and I am the devil because I am not providing damage control. I am rather participating in these kind of discussions, knowing that rational, reasonable and caring human beings will understand the threat that broken families pose to their kids and who will then try to protect them, irrespective if they are single-parents or not. Btw. why do you engage yourself so for protecting single moms? Do you really think they need you and camnot … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutSays the guy who had his entire comment chain in this post deleted by the mods for being aggressively disrespectful and insulting to a normal mother. If you care so much for the poor wittle children then go out and adopt some of them. Oh wait, you just want to feel self righteous and point the finger at others and demand that they be perfectly altruistic and self sacrificing not do anything yourself. Nope that was not my comment chain. That was she herself and then the guy commenting on it proba… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutNo, you just said that people who cannot value life are disgusting and I gave you one example where the girl could not get rid of her suicidal thoughts because her life was never valued by her mother. Parents that don't value the life and sanity of their kids are disgusting not vice versae. I obviously differentiated the mother from the general single mom by explicitly stating that she cannot be considered mentally sane. She probably had a history of neglect on her own. What I am saying is that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutGod modern people are so damn coddled they don't even understand the value of being alive. Disgusting. Btw. I will now discard all your responses, since I have not read a single constructive comment by you. Your comments are so bad, that I even remember your name from several months ago, because they are so aggressive and disturbingly disrespectful. It is not that I care. I just want you to safe some energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 05:34 PM |
| 2 | Something nobody talks aboutHave you ever seen a girl crying over telling you her about suicidal thoughts she had for her whole life, since she was a small child, because her mom wasn't interested in her, gave her to a childrens house at the age of 6 because she found a new guy, and when the girl once got lost im the city at the age of approximately 6 she was seeking saftey with homeless people and raped over several days because nobody was looking for her and, after she talked to her her mom, the mother said that she neve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutOr you have no idea how fucking messed up a life can be with asshole parents. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutIt doesn't have to be corrected by the community because obviously hypergamy is related to the neglect, it is however not related to fucking as many as possible. It is related to fucking the most valuable one and the women wouldn't stop to fuck him, if she were able to keep him. But since she cannot she is riding the CC until she finds one that might want to stick around. The whole thing has two completely different sides depending on whether you're female or male. I am not saying that this nece… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 10:56 AM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutYes, this might be misunderstood. I think it depends on the reasons for the breakup. If the father is not considered a valuable partner anymore, then the child looses it's value for the mother as well. So hypergamy does not only affect how the mother sees her less valuable partner, hypergamy actually might extend to the offspring as well. Imprecision in language is not gaslighting... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 10:43 AM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutBecause too much partying or leaving the child alone at home while dating a new partner definitely is at least emotional neglect and can be, depending on the age, also life threatening. And yes, I am observing a trend that is more pronounced in single moms and one possible explanation is that there might be a biological reason for why that is so. The child without father is a heavy investment, the mother will do what is necessary for the child to survive, but not give more attention than is mini… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 10:25 AM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutThat is why I am talking about neglect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 07:41 AM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutI agree with most of your arguments. Just don't forget how evil the information is that our society feeds the young. They might need few steps to figure out what is right or wrong themselves and some mistakes are bigger than others... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Something nobody talks aboutI wish I were talking about social media. I am talking about women I know and who complain about their evenings being ruined because the child turned sick or how the child is making their life difficult and complicated and how they cannot have a career or get out all the time. The identity thing is a trap. The single mom is trapped. I fully understand. But she is responsible for the situation she created. The child is not and in many cases suffers from the consequences of a trapped mom that at t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutWhat about if she is not in denial? Let's say she was 16 when she met him, but understands the consequences of her (their) actions? What if apart from that mistake when she was a teenager she has her shit together? I am just curious if this would change something about your conclusion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutSo well, then the male lizard brain and the female lizard brain might have different reasons for acting shitty and here I was looking at the female lizard brain, not the male. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutWe are talking about different things and levels then. Maybe talking about a first and a second identity would make it more clear. If your first identity is being mom and protecting and careing for your child, then all is fine... There are plenty of women who do not want to identify as mothers first. I am not talking about the fact that the hardships of adult lifes should not be shared with adults and so on. I think we are on the same page with respect to that. But also another consequence of be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Something nobody talks aboutAre men not people? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutFine,... Would you say that women and men are wired differently biologically? Both having different lizard brains? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutGirl, you're trying to discredit my arguments by turning it into something personal. Just open your eyes and observe. Typical female strategy. Don't have arguments anymore? Either get personal or emotional | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutIt's ridiculous... Anyway, have fun twisting my words. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:50 PM |
| -1 | Something nobody talks aboutIt is not about you. All this text you wrote is just about yourself and you and you again. Your identity, your fear to be boring and so on. I do by no means want to say that you are a bad parent. However, there is not even the slightest indicator in your text that you emphasize with the children. You emphasize the point of view of a mother not that of the child. I am not talking about you. I am talking about the consequences for children. Not mothers. I don't care if mothers are boring as long a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutYes, that I would still think with respect to my observations. I definitely see a trend in neglected children with single moms. I didn't say though that it is because they are women, but since women are biologically wired differently, their behaviour has different reasons. As as far as I know usually nobody questions the idea that in most normal situations it is best that the children stay with the mother. So we should be aware of the hard biological threat (physical and emotional neglect) hyper… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutE.g. do not cheat or beat. Grow up and act like a responsible adult, not like a child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutAgain, this is damage control. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Something nobody talks aboutAnd it is really interesting how you make it a question of "case by case". I was only talking about shitty single moms. I didn't say that single dads were better. That there can also be shitty dads doesn't make the shitty mothers better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:26 PM |
| 0 | Something nobody talks aboutWe should simply learn to respect each other and the choices we made and learn to solve problems instead of running away and looking for something easier. Parents who love their kids should not divorce. Everything else is just damage control. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:21 PM |
| 3 | Something nobody talks aboutMaybe it is case by case. However the majority of kids live with their mothers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:17 PM |
| -4 | Something nobody talks aboutI would argue that it’s less about women abandoning their children to go find a new partner and more about women wanting to maintain an identity and social life that doesn’t involve their children. And sorry for being so upfront, but this is so incredibly wrong. The whole idea of having a separate identiy not inbolving the children. Sorry. Either you have them or you don't and people who do not understand this should not have kids. There is responsibility that cannot be taken of like a dress or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Something nobody talks aboutThere are of course grades... But usually people say, my child is my priority, but I also have a life besides him. Nobody will contradict, everyone will think it to being reasonable. Well times have changed. However parenting still is a full time job. Source: not the internet, but real life observations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Something nobody talks aboutIt is rather about biology instead of being shitty or great. Men usually are not idealized as sacrifying themselves. With mothers the assumption usually is that their love for their children is holy. Well, maybe it is only holy as long as they consider the father worthy. Then it does not only apply to single moms but it will apply to all families where the father is not respected. It might be that vice versae it is very similar. However, since usually the kids stay with the mother it would be ne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Something nobody talks aboutI thought about this as well... Progress? I don't know. I many times thought it is better for a child to not to be born at all than to be born to parents that don't want to or cannot commit or dedicate themselves to raising the child. If you are never born you don't loose anything, while if you are born to the wrong parents you can suffer so much and have no way to escape | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Something nobody talks aboutI can see similar happening around me quite often. The single moms I know that really care about being mom are incredibly rare. Many of them just pull their kids with them as if they were a burden. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/19 09:39 PM |
| 1 | A Happy LTR is Finding The Line Between Dread And Comfortstill need some kind of justification beyond I'm the man of the house. Sorry for disagreeing, but this is plainly wrong. Men think in hierarchies and authorities. Women don't. Referring to authority falls into the same category as asserting power by yelling and violence. It is the acting and her acceptance of it that matters, not the justification. Religion just made it easier for men to act accordingly. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/19 11:34 PM |
| 51 | Having trouble respecting my husband. Any advice would be appreciated.There is not much to loose. What you describe sounds like a nightmare. I don't think it is about you. Maybe not even about him... Don't make it a question about who's fault it is. Your goals don't align and you don't enjoy sex with him. RedPill is about acknowledging reality, not about turning a nightmare into a fairytale. RedPill principles only work on something at least half intact. Respect cannot be enforced... It needs to be earned, which would be his task and you cannot force him to. Pleas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 11:01 PM |
| 19 | Having trouble respecting my husband. Any advice would be appreciated.Why do you stay with him? What is holding you back? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Is it too late to for him want me? Can Long term FWB turn serious?But what is the line of demanding respect and deserving it here? Respect depends on the perspective. There is respect you gain from someone for who you are and what you do, which is close to admiring someone, and then there is basic respect for the other persons needs and plans. Respect for the persons "otherness" if you wish to think like that. The first kind of respect you can gain by loosing weight and getting in control of who you want to be. The second kind of respect should be there in all… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/19 03:59 PM |
| 13 | Virginity: Save it or give it up?Because she wants to know what everybody is talking about... And society tells that we should act and feel like men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/19 11:50 PM |
| 6 | Virginity: Save it or give it up?Every "why not" is too much. Sex feels nice. We are wired to want it, particularly in your age. That is biology. The less sex you had the more you biology might push and create "niceness" feelings, which will make you want to fall into that direction. The easiest way to determine is if it is a "why not". If you know that you won't stay with him it is your intuition telling you that you don't really match. It is biology that tells you "why not" meaning that your body does not see the other option… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/19 11:40 PM |
| 1 | The consequences of being an alpha widowIt doesn't matter, does it? I was only trying to understand my own reaction and not him. I also did nowhere write that he owes me anything. I also did neither want nor ask for his emotional support. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 08:21 PM |
| 4 | Need Opinions from Married RPs: Is My Wife Gaslighting Me?When I go out and do things on my own she complains she feels ignored and then shuts down and avoids me. Is that not a reasonable thing to want? If it's not I'm open to hearing how couples in a successful relationship spend time together. It is reasonable that you want this. It is not reasonable to demand this. If she feels like avoiding you the worst you can do is to demand this. You can only inspire it in her, where inspire means that you need to raise in her the desire to want to spend time w… | /r/RPChristians | 23/07/19 04:01 PM |
| 1 | The consequences of being an alpha widowHave you ever looked into narcissistic relationships? It’s a pretty watered down term (narcissism), but true narcissistic relationships are brutal and incredibly hard to heal from. They force victims into a constant fight or flight mode, and the increased cortisol levels do mentally and physically change people (though that doesn’t have to be forever). They leave scars, but not the type that can be seen, and that can leave victims feeling incredibly isolated. To a certain degree all my relations… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 09:18 AM |
| 2 | The consequences of being an alpha widowNot feminine because we analysed RP perspectives on relationships and life and society? I believe that he really enjoyed it as well. He seeks conversation about all this constantly, which is too much for me, because as much as I enjoy analysing and understanding, constantly thinking about politics and all the related things is also too heavy as a subject. I would like to know how to change the dynamics towards more friendly and lighter conversations. But I also think that this is just one aspect… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 06:56 AM |
| 2 | The consequences of being an alpha widowThe only reason why I think therapy could be right would be that I might profit from a strong male leading figure in my life. I grew up without my dad and a single-mom. Even though I have reconnected with my father and can respect him for who he is, he is just not a safe space, as each contradiction still has the potential to cause escalation on his side. So with him I can only listen, but am never listened to. However, I doubt that it would be emotionally healthy for me to find that in a therap… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 06:47 AM |
| 1 | The consequences of being an alpha widowAt the same time u/whisper and other users have many times told me in various threads last year that I am alpha-widow. From my subjective view it seemed that they did that whenever I was mentioning the consequences or tried to use the experience to provide what seemed useful insights to others or use it for growing myself. While at that time I strongly objected to the idea of it, I think they might have had a point. Past experiences will always to some degree influence who we are today and by co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 06:38 AM |
| 1 | The consequences of being an alpha widowWhat is vague about my post history? And why should I not have hobbies or educational goals just because I sometimes write here? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 05:55 AM |
| 1 | The consequences of being an alpha widowCan you please let me know which part leads to the impression that I would want to replace him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 05:47 AM |
| 2 | The consequences of being an alpha widowAlso, you say you're fine, but the content and length of your posts suggests otherwise. No offense. That is just me. I am a bit lonely and actually have nobody to talk to. So what you see in the writing here is next to all self-reflective output I produced in the last 8 months. Moreover my thoughts have become so complex that I feel most people won't be able to comprehend them, even if they have a conscious RP mindset. And, all my friends are heavily BP, as is the area where I live, so for me th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 09:23 PM |
| 3 | The consequences of being an alpha widowCome on :) I am fine. I have had nun mode for more or less 7 years, and I don't need therapy because I haven't processed 0.1% of a bad relationship. The whole world would need therapy then ;) And as the previous commenter has written, it also is normal to have an negative emotional response if someone is celebrated for something that caused suffering in oneself. Just imagine someone would celebrate women for their hypergamous success. I am sure that this would not be pleasant as well... No thera… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 08:59 PM |
| 2 | The consequences of being an alpha widowThat was what for a long time I thought myself and which is why I never considered myself alpha-widow. But in the discussions here I also started to understand that alpha-widowhood does not only refer to thinking that one cannot do better and is longing for who is lost. It also has the more subtle aspect of letting the previous relationship go. As an example, just think about it, if one avoid doing kind things as one did for an ex, because he or she has exploited your kindness, then the new part… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 07:34 PM |
| 1 | One who owns many against one who is owned by manyThis one it was :) I do believe that women never fully let go of any man they let into their bodies. That's why their future divorce chances go up with their N-count. I think we probably agree with the consequences but maybe only partially with respect to the explanation. But maybe you are right. Maybe one can forget the names, but not that there have been more than one. I do not know. What I know from my own experience is that I have met someone who made me forget about everone who was before. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 06:03 PM |
| 1 | One who owns many against one who is owned by manyI would agree if it were booty calls at 9 pm, if it is reaching out via phone or mail over hundreds of miles, where sex is out of reach, then it might be a different mechanism. And this is also one reason why I need to disagree with one aspect of your other comment. I don't think that a women can never free herself from previous partners. And it is exactly the same reason why it is difficult for men to comprehend. But it is also the reason why hypergamy works and for it is hard for men to unders… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 04:34 PM |
| 1 | One who owns many against one who is owned by manyYes, and together with those experiences they will loose trust and will feel worn out without even knowing what happened and why this happened and without knowledge they will be almost unable to change anything for themselves and less how to heal and how to find happiness. It will be crazyness and despair, sexual attention in exchange for love. It is not only men that are lied to... | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/19 06:23 PM |
| 1 | One who owns many against one who is owned by manyEvery single one of my ex’s has tried to come back to try again. Yes, and I think it is a mistake to believe that it indicates their commitment or regrets. They do it because to them it somehow still feels as if one belongs to them. After something is over I never reach out myself. It is not that I do not remember them or wouldn't be interested in how they are doing. I just know that things are over for a reason and if we could be friends we would probably still be together and therefore it is b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/19 05:09 PM |
| 3 | 8 Traits of Living with the Blue Pill BetaYes, nobody will ever be fully unique. In most of the times there will be something bigger, someone bigger, someone who did it before, someone who did it better. It is not about achieving on olympic scales. It is about showing interest towards the world and being able to navigate that world. Having an open and attentive mind, that has an interest on it's own. How successful whoever is in playing whatever game only matters to those who play the same game. Whether that community is big enough for … | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/19 11:09 AM |
| 4 | 8 Traits of Living with the Blue Pill BetaIt is the same as with applying for a job. If someone wants to hire somebody that just follows through with robotiv tasks then he might go for the guy who cannot find purpose on his own, e.g. choose a hobby that requires commitment without needing to do so, just for it's own sake. If you want to hire someone that contributes with his own ideas and solutions, e.g. to overcome limitations and challenges then you might go for the one who shows ambition an drive outside of the minimum requests. Herd… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/19 10:05 AM |
| 4 | I have an unattractive body and feel disgusting.Why? Does this not make it worse, since it is mostly the skin that is carrying the weight of the breasts? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/19 09:02 AM |
| 37 | I have an unattractive body and feel disgusting.Something I wished I had known and understood when I was in your age is how beautiful youth alone is. I was filled with doubts and criticism about myself and how I was not as pretty as I perceived other women and I could not enjoy many things because I felt so ugly. I had very similar doubts to yours. I hated my body. I was convinced that I could never compare to all those beauties around me. The truth is, I never was ugly. I realize it when I look at pictures from back then. Moreover, when I lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/19 07:47 AM |
| 2 | Feel guilty about makeupIt could also be the attitude you show when you have your nose contoured. It makes you feel pretty and thus you might act more confident. Acting confident will completely change the reactions of the people around you. Never forget about this. This is why it is essential that you take to heart the advice that you should reconcile with your looks without contouring. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/19 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Had a talk with a lady that’s into BDSM. She confirms that the way feminists promote their views of the world is extremely insecure. And she did say women want to be in charge, but not 1000% fully. And that she is still looking for a man that is a lion, and takes charge even in her late 40’sYou are right. I think the tendency of society to blame women for being submissive drives many woman into BDSM. Almost every woman I know can openly talk about how she enjoys being submissive in bed after she has become mature enough to understand that this is nothing to be scared of. Our society however tells that it is wrong to want to submit and there you go. They recognize that they enjoy submitting and confuse it with having a preference for BDSM. The same goes for men who enjoy being domin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/19 10:43 AM |
| 0 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectYou are funny :) you don't even understand what I am talking about, you don't address the reason why I made the OP, yet you come and preach and accuse. I love you <3 just take a dictionary and look up the meaning of "equal". Equal is always context dependent and why it is misogynist that I acknowledge that there are differences between how men and women experience this human experience and relationships, well, I doubt that anyone can manage to explain to me why this is misogynist. When you ackno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/19 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectHm, I did netter see pattern recognition as being a part of finding myself repeatedly in the INFJ category. I have at least one friend who is INFJ as well, and we are particularly friends because we like jumping back and forth within and around certain areas. I doubt that I will ever stop to recognize patterns. This is how things and memories are organized in my thinking and they pretty much never care whether something happened in the past or happens in the present ;) Your thoughts and perspect… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/19 04:45 PM |
| 1 | How to let go and move on if I have seriously messed up?Thank you. I am out to buy the booklet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 02:45 PM |
| 1 | How to let go and move on if I have seriously messed up?Thank you. This has helped me many times as well and I was even planning to buy a booklet today into which I could write down my "construction places" and at least start to collect everything. But I have so much going on lately that I feel unable to even find categories for the different thoughts and feel even less able to understand where I should start. Lists usually helped me a lot... but how to organize the hundreds of thoughts and associations? Moreover the need to talk to him became overwh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectI think you are perfectly spot on. I wasn't aware of that and I think that this is exactly what makes me seem complicated to other people, particularly since I seem to need to direct those thoughts to the outward in order to get correcting feedback and also formulating them helps to see things more clearly. How to balance a too strong Ni? The MBTI approach is to compensate by developing the other aspects, right? Which would that be Se? How? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/19 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectWhat mistakes do you feel like you made? I acted demanding and insecure and questioned his intentions after the first two or three times when he withdrew or seemed distant. I found RP like six months too late. I should have known all this some months before I met him, such that I could have processed first and then acted. On the other hand it would have been a different me at that time and maybe this different me wouldn't have walked with him so far to see and understand how amazing he is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/19 01:35 PM |
| 2 | How to let go and move on if I have seriously messed up?Did you? I cannot see your comment... Tbh, I don't think that therapy is the way to go. Wanting to process things is natural and some people just think more than others. If anything then therapy feeds into a tendency to overthink | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 01:25 PM |
| 0 | How to let go and move on if I have seriously messed up?My mistake was that he expressed very early on that I am too complicated for him, but that I liked him so much, that I hoped I could make it work nevertheless and I have since made some good changes, but I have also made it more and more complicated. So either way, I need to stop making things complicated... which is only by learning how to let go, even if something reaches to my core. I made many regular mistakes right in the beginning, then I found RPW and realized what I was doing wrong, so I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectif you are unable to put yourself into someone else shoes and "treat them like you want to be treated" Just a short remark, since this is a logical pitfall into which many people step and so I would just like to add a remark. Empathy also means to not always treat people how one wants to be treated, but to treat them, within limits, as they want to be treated themselves. Treat them as one wants to be treated oneself only with respect to basic human needs, like e.g. respect and kindness, but not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/19 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectBut I wonder if it's because I made it so. I was at the same point a long time ago, personally I feel that I have understood, how I contributed to the fact that he could not open up. That he most likely had read too much in RP forums - I didn't know about their existence at that time and he never explicitly talked about RP, however there are many indicators - only contributed to the darkness of our dynamic. Yet, in the end I was entirely empty, broken, lost everything who I was and was unable to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/19 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectBecause, from the sidebar, "This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man. We explore the female RP sexual strategy, better known as "girl game", in an objective, realistic and compassionate manner." It is more difficult to make people believe lies about their own intentions - many psychological theories, do so with respect to my opinion - than to feed them with wrong interpretations about behavior from the oth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/19 08:33 AM |
| 2 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectI am aware of the MBTI and the different dimensions. What do you consider Ni rambling and how is this related to formulating things as questions? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/19 07:23 AM |
| 0 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectYet, we function differently, have different needs and a different perspective on the world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/19 12:06 AM |
| 2 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectThank you for being honest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectYou are asking your partners to be psuedo therapists. Where is the line between resolving an issue and turning someone into a therapist? I know that inside of me things get messy when he does something that annoys me, then I have either difficulties to say no or I act mildly bitchy/unfriendly - e.g. say no ;) - and then I start to feel guilty and try to make it up. This always turns the balance against me, because then I feel I need to explain why I acted in a way which he did not like and yes, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectI cannot possibly imagine, this is why I was asking. Rather the opposite. Curious to find out what makes it seem so to you... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 11:25 PM |
| 3 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectIn every relationship there are conflicts. Wanting them to be resolved, in whichever way that might turn out, is not baggage. Both men and women want a partner that respects and loves them, so why should this be baggage? All the partners of the girls around me tolerate so much more bitchiness than I could ever be bitchy. So me wanting someone to resolve an issue between him and me - I resolve my own issues myself - from time to time or wanting to be understood in some situations is not such a hu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectif you can't do that in a way that is helpful then the issue is on your side. Yes. So now I learned that respect enables kindness. It is amazing how friendly and caring the male in my environment treat me just because I change tiny bits in the way I interact with them. Basically the only thing I stopped doing is challenging them and accusing them for being men. I only show that basic respect that I - as I would generally like to pretend to myself - have always shown towards all people,... except… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectYou are subscribed to a lot of red pill woman type subs, but this isn't RPW behavior. It's one thing to let out your emotions and let your husband handle it as he handles it, it's another to demand that he see things your way. I appreciate the RPW forums for a lot as well as the TRP forums and texts. They all had an enormous impact on who I am today and I could resolve some of my strongest issues by means of controversies here at PPD and at RPW and all other places. "you became a bitch" or "you'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectSorry, I don't know if I sounded rude. But if, I didn't mean to. Therapy has done so much harm to me and even though I am atheist myself, by now I think a kind priest of any religion were a better advice giver than most therapists. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectPeople have reasons for acting the way they do and seeking these reasons in the past doesn't help to solve the problems occurring in the present. So if I encounter continously similar reactions from similar people, it means that I am obviously doing something wrong, particularly if the outcome is differently than intention was. The solution is simple. Adjust behavior, learn and grow. Nobody needs therapy for that :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectWhat makes you think that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectI agree. I don't think that "one can make" someone empathic, in the same way that one cannot make someone love... One can however act from a certain feeling mode and therefore enable the growth of all of this. It is not a question of "if I do this and that he will do this and that"... It is rather that "without a certain something, another certain something will be impossible". Therfore inspire or enable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 09:37 PM |
| 2 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectNot accepting one-sidedness is different from expecting the other to overcompensate, isn't it? He always wanted things to be done his way. I followed through a long way. There are only very few "must haves" for me in regards to how people treat each other and being respectful - not necessarily agreeing, or compensating - to the feelings of the other, is one of them. E.g. real conflicts are diminished instead of solved or at least talked about in attempt to find a solution that fits both... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 09:26 PM |
| 6 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectWe had sex, each time we met. Having sex with unresolved conflicts is at some point terrible and over time this creates an even worse dynamic... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectIn the end, yes. In the end I was not listening anymore. I never listenened as carefully to someone as I did listen to him. After almost two years of being empathic I broke... Since I couldn't forgo anymore that he would also try to understand me. Of course this also has a history of unresolved arguments and similar. It is so hard for me to let go when there is a misunderstanding or when there is an argument. I always try to make things right and then they mostly turn out to be wrong and I feel … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectTherfore an effort has to made to be "empathic". Things can be seen with the eyes of somebody else, but it has to be wanted. It doesn't come automatically, everything else are just pure intuitive responses, that in most situations don't even require understanding. Triggering it via a goal that the other wants to achieve is as brute force as demanding respect by using violonce. Or demanding love for sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectHow to inspire empathy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respectIf you know the answer, would you mind to share it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 08:33 PM |
| 3 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageI think you are right. Attention from the right guy will cease interest in attention from all others and therefore might yield the impression of "mature tranquility". If there is no need to attract then there is also no need to act like a attention seeking girl. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/19 08:24 AM |
| 6 | Q4W: What do you think inspires women to think they can say this? And why do we never see mainstream media articles like this by men telling women off?I didn't read all of them, just the first and then your remark. To me it seems as if the first mostly only expresses the wish for men acting more masculine. With a slight change in perspective, it is to be understood in the same way as men, wishing for more feminine women. The arrow goes in two directions. If a woman wants to experience masculinity in a man she has to inspire it by her femininity and if a men wants to experience femininity in a woman he has to inspire it by his masculinity. Of c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/19 06:50 AM |
| 1 | [Nsfw] having a serious talk about sex without criticizing?I’m very submissive, when he takes the time to be attentive I can get there. It’s more me being worried about him not caring as much about my happiness as I do to him than it is about an orgasm Ok, girl. This, together with the ex-bf that put pressure on you, seem to be the problem. By no means anything I wrote below is meant to be harsh in any way. So if it reads that way, please forgive. I am just trying to connect some dots, find the logic, and while I am trying to be not too upfront, I am no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/19 06:18 AM |
| 2 | Help me with this disagreement!!In some situations "you know I wanted the better treatment, but I trust you" can sound insincere and passive aggressive. It can sound like "you need to decide what is more important to you, money or the health of our son". Implicitly by mentioning that you would actually prefer the "better" treatment, you didn't tell him that you don't know what is best, but that you still think you know the better treatment, but if he thinks that the not so good one is good enough for the circumstances then he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/19 03:55 PM |
| 4 | Spiraling Out of Emotional Control, Please HelpDon't forget to smile when he reaches out :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/19 10:56 PM |
| 9 | Spiraling Out of Emotional Control, Please HelpI feel that it is very important to point out that dread is a natural feeling for a woman if the man turns away. I am quite sure that he doesn't want to diminish or patronize to your feelings and I understand the spiral very well. The point is he cannot take your feelings seriously if he doesn't understand them, he cannot understand them if he doesn't attempt to. You cannot make him understand. It becomes really difficult when childhood experiences get entangled with the "natural" feeling of loo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/19 10:33 PM |
| 1 | My therapist is turning me blue pill?What he said was is not to force myself into doing things. Never stop forcing yourself to do the things you have decided that you want to be part of your life and yourself. If you are so tired and depressed try to see if you can get some supplements. Up your protein intake, seafood, try Vitamin C. All are essential to healthy neurotransmitters. Sure regeneration can help your body to recover from low or to little resources in terms of a healthy diet, but it will take longer and the habit of "giv… | /r/askTRP | 06/02/19 09:39 PM |
| 1 | PMS and how to kill it?Potassium and L-Tryptophan, magical in combination. | /r/askTRP | 28/01/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Being ghosted after more than a year and strugglingYes, there something that could be called an "argument". It was the beginning of a discussion which he didn't want to have and which I couldn't avoid anymore. He left while I still wanted to talk. Then I wanted to talk to him over chat. He was reading but not answering and didn't respond to New years wishes. So I realized that something was really off and continued to try to reach out. But up to today he still didn't respond, does not read the messages. What is driving me crazy is that he someti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/19 05:54 PM |
| 2 | Being ghosted after more than a year and strugglingI think so, too. But it can look quite differently in women and if it weren't for a documentary that I watched three years ago, I would have probably never figured that out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/19 06:00 AM |
| 2 | Being ghosted after more than a year and strugglingThank you. You are right. It is as if I would need to understand his intentions and everything else that is behind in order to be able to find closure. Since I also judge his actions with respect to the consequences they have on me it turns easily into a black or white thing. Either he has failed on me or I have failed on him. The first one makes me feel betrayed, the latter makes me feel terribly unhappy about failing on someone whom I truly love. Usually trust is then the way to go, but what i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 06:59 PM |
| 0 | Being ghosted after more than a year and strugglingThank you for that article. He doesn't understand my intentions as well. That is what makes me feel so bad. I know that he likes me. I know that he feels really drawn to me, but he cannot make up his mind and his action now is based on a huge misunderstanding. I could accept it if it actions were based on a more or less correct understanding, but how can I accept actions that are based on a misunderstanding? That has in part to do with the generic differences between men and women but also with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 06:48 PM |
| 6 | Being ghosted after more than a year and strugglingI don't think that the wish for clarity is a "covert contract". Everybody who didn't do anything seriously bad, such as betrayal or cheating or broken promises, "deserves" closure. Nothing bad happened between us. He doesn't like me as much as I wish he would. It is sad, but nobodies fault. Neither of us was lying or betraying or causing harm, apart from the "normal" human mess it can be when something gets emotional... True, closure cannot be demanded, and maybe "deserve" is the wrong wording, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 02:56 PM |
| 2 | Being ghosted after more than a year and strugglingHis actions are the same as a break up. yes, and I feel that this is what is so difficult for me to accept, that after all this time he doesn't feel that I deserve some final words, some goodbye... that makes it seem as if it was all wrong or worse that I fell so deep in his view that he seems to think that I don't deserve being even talked to. And then I continue to think that it is all my fault and that I acted in a way that makes it impossible for him to speak to me, even though I know that h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Analogy wanted for reprimands and guiltI think women care about reality as much as men do. It is rather that our perceptions of reality differ and therefore we derive a different picture from it. A single description of the world as we experience it, based on either male or female perception, will most likely be wrong if it doesn't include the description of the opposite and complementing sex. Our experiences are to some extend, sometimes more and sometimes less, orthogonal. So what we see and understand about the world will only be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/19 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Analogy wanted for reprimands and guiltI didn't want to appear critical. I think I can understand how it can seem to the outside, since I remember my reactions when men tried to explain similar to me. I have also discussed similar things with female friends from time to time. So what I tried to outline is only that this experience is very different on the inside, so what men derived from the outside as a phenomenological concept does with respect to my experience not meet the core of most women I know and have talked to. There are so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/19 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Analogy wanted for reprimands and guiltAlmost without exception women seem to be in complete atd active denial that their feelings of attraction were explainable at all. The concept of Alpha (which I believe is among the first one encounters in TRP, so I assume that you explain it referring to that?) might be a good concept for men to work it, yet it is not precise enough for women to understand it. Women like strong and masculine men, not alphas. They hate dread but some alphas might be pure dread. It is very similar to the explanat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/19 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Analogy wanted for reprimands and guiltIf one feels that the whole world doesn't understand who one is, then the only possibility to reach out is to understand the world. I tried for many years to be happy and successful and irrespective how hard I tried I failed and failed, again and again. I was always confused by the signals from outside, I could never understand what made other people function the way they did, made them do what they did. It always looked counterproductive, destructive, inconsistent and illogical to me. So I trie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/19 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Analogy wanted for reprimands and guiltThey can't send you those signals during moments of their own distress. I meant it in a more general context. I fully understand and agree, that is why I try to understand it better from the other perspective. It is difficult to relate to it, since to me it seems sometimes that men make problems where there are none. These kind of misunderstandings between the sexes are probably partially the reason why people escalate over minor things. I have much less difficulties than most other people I kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/19 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Analogy wanted for reprimands and guiltI don't understand why you are not doing this. Because I want to be responsible and I don't want to be controlled by my childhood experience, using this as an excuse would seem even more manipulative to me. I also understand that it is my problem and nobody else's. I do not want other people to compensate for the failure of my family to provide me with something that I would call inner feeling of being safe and secure. I have come very far with it, but the deeper the relationship goes the more d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/19 12:21 PM |
| 2 | Analogy wanted for reprimands and guiltSo would you say that one could keep the assumption that to men a crying women feels as bad as dread feels to women? How from the outside perspective on a crying woman would a man differentiate between manipulation and helplessness? E.g. I can really not deal very well with conflicts. So even in arguments I need some kind of assurance that the basis of the relationship is still intact. This has a long history of my mom ignoring me when I was crying and pleading her to talk to me when I was a chi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/19 08:16 AM |
| 1 | Losing interest after sex?The notion that something cannot change if it follows a set of rules is outlandishly unfounded. Variation is what makes species adapt and survive. Variation basically is the quintessence of evolutionary flexibility. One needs both, the cup and the water. I am sorry if it is too philosophical and chaotic. I am also tired and should probably sleep as well... | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Losing interest after sex?I fully agree on the decision and then don't see a contradiction at all and it might just be the language that we use. I was referring to that part of your conversation where you argued that merel should be able to pin down the reasons why she feels sexual attraction. Maybe I misunderstood, but to me it sounded as if you were advocating that she should try to understand why she is attracted to a certain type in order to then be able to make a rational decision about it and maybe feel attraction … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 06:49 AM |
| 1 | Losing interest after sex?What I am trying to say is that rational considerations can only back up intuitive processes. Our whole understanding of the world is nothing but a rationalization. TRP is going directly into that direction. We act on biological instincts everything else we construct as explanations in order to be able to navigate the complex human social world. So no intuitive process can guarantee the outcome of a situation, but without intuitive attraction a relationship will be an unhappy one. I have quite s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 06:41 AM |
| 2 | Losing interest after sex?it means we're playing a game where the referee is capricious in regards to the rules and their meanings. It depends on the rules you are referring to. In general there is no logic that matches all women. While some women really only fall for the tough alpha, others will never. Women are as diverse as men. So even if you could understand the logic of one, it wouldn't help you with the next. Anyone who has played a game with unfair rules knows how frustrating that is It might seem unfair to someo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 06:27 AM |
| 1 | Losing interest after sex?What state of mind confers intuition with better predictive ability a judgement than logical analysis? Have you ever mastered a logical subject to the extend of developing intuition about it? That is how precise intuition is. Intuition is nothing but a condensate of experience, since it that case it is a personal decision where right or wrong do no exist in absolute terms it is highly suited for such a decision. It is not facts one is dealing with in such a situation. When it is about vetting th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Losing interest after sex?Your intuition is your subconscious making decisions based on a set of partially discernable but mostly unknown set of biological instincts and influential life experiences. The point is that if intuition tells you that someone is right then if the other more superficial factors match the woman will most likely manage to make it work - if the attraction is mutual. Without this intuitive "yes" it will be next to impossible to maintain something for a lifetime. We are not robots and well, intuitio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 06:01 AM |
| 1 | Field Report: First date after discovering RPWAlready from the way you described your chat conversation he doesn't sound like someone who is overly confident and secure himself. So it might well be that he felt too casual. Just try to remember that most likely he also feels insecure. So what might have felt judging to you in the way he looked at you might also be insecurity. On never knows. Men are visual, but usually they don't care too much about the particular style. One tip is that you rather complement the style that you had when you w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/18 07:14 PM |
| 10 | How to Deal with a Man's Love?Women also need to feel needed and this is exactly what her question is hinting at. She wants to know what about her - except being young and pleasant - can be of value to a man. Women also want to be and feel appreciated. That is why we hate being pumped and dumped, it feels like we have wasted ourselves on someone who didn't see more in us than just sex. Men and women share the need to feel needed and wanted and desired and her question was basically exactly how, if men love women like childre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/18 07:34 AM |
| 6 | How to Deal with a Man's Love?Children can neither be a soft place to land, nor a quiet space to rest, nor an encouraging place to talk through things. It is a myth that men wouldn't appreciate the analytical qualities of women. They like our insight in situations into which they don't have so much insight themselves and having our additional perspective on something will actually many times help them to find their own decision. One cannot be encouraged by someone whom one doesn't trust to pull the safety bell if needed, one… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/18 07:21 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: What are the common problems you've run into with women in LTRs?How was your breakfast? ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/18 03:30 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: What are the common problems you've run into with women in LTRs?I am wondering how a woman, apart from taking care of her appearance, can contribute to make him seduce her from time to time. So e.g. when people are more used to each other a certain kind of resistance which often is nothing but playfulness is often misunderstood as bitchiness. But it seems to be so normal and easy for men to "expect" sex once the relationship is settled and there is little less sexually arousing than a routine task. However sometimes it seems that they just don't want the "wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/18 11:56 AM |
| 4 | Grey area consent issue in the RP worldIts like some terrible ingrained politeness or social anxiety especially trying not to ruin the mood with someone I like. You. The most important person to you is you. Take it as something of which you learned that there are situations where your desire can be so powerful that you "forget" to set up boundaries. Combined with what you call politeness - insecurity about your value - this is a dangerous mixture. Irrespective of what happened you need to learn to say no. There is no right or wrong h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/18 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Dead Bedroom MarriageThank you very much :) I have a similar experience with my dad. My parents finally separated when I was 4 years old and I didn't see him very often in the years that came. I was always struggling in my relationship with him, I could never understand him and we had lot's of arguments. However I never gave up trying to "fight" for our relationship, yet it was really difficult and there were years where I could barely talk to him. Since I am reading here I also started to change tiny things in my i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/18 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Dead Bedroom MarriageCan you go to the choir again once a week? It will help you with stabilizing yourself and concentrating on something that is not evolving around him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 05:19 AM |
| 2 | Dead Bedroom MarriageYes, that is what I believe. Take it with the grain of salt that I don't know the two of you and only know what I have read here. Listen to your intuition and calm down, while at the same time let him develop trust in you. Also listen to your intuition and don't have sex when you feel like it is "just" a service. As long as he doesn't want more intimacy only have sex with him, when you feel that you are in the spirit of "giving" something to him, not when you do it with the hope of your emotiona… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 05:11 AM |
| 2 | Dead Bedroom MarriageI think you can find an pdf online. I was probably reading the original version. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 04:51 AM |
| 3 | Temporarily unattractive- how to cope?What about other social contacts? Do you have them? Do you go out regularly and socialize? What about your female friends? Do you talk to them about your skin problem and how horrible it makes you feel? When I had times with skin problems I was even going so far to avoid going outside and it was really good for me to start going outside and realize that nobody was going to treat me differently and I even received compliments and smiles from strangers. Recognize that there is something called Bod… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/18 11:29 AM |
| 3 | Dead Bedroom MarriageYou don't have to look for the reason. Women naturally have a higher state of anxiety at their core than men and it is natural that you react with even more anxiety when you feel that he is emotionally distancing himself. It is not that you emotions are wrong, it is the way you deal with them and seem to some extend expect that he is acting in ways that doesn't cause you unpleasant emotions. So the only thing you need to learn is how your actions impact him and how by that you create this self-r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/18 09:59 AM |
| 9 | Dead Bedroom MarriageHe is actually submitting to your emotional need in the same way as you submit to his sexual need: "So here we are now; day-to-day relations are very good, pleasant, and enjoyable. He watches Netflix with me with I say I'd like to spend time together, and he does little things to make me laugh and asks me at night if I'm happy and gives me little kisses on the forehead" So he is playing along in order to do his best to contribute to a more harmonious home, but he cannot fake desire. You both pla… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/18 02:44 AM |
| 2 | For People Who Have Asked "Am I Autistic"This was good :) There is nothing better suited to self-improvement than a mirror :) So everybody observing this with similar tendencies will learn how he will appear to people with weaker autistic traits. I feel so much for my environment. I am really surprised that I still have friends and I cannot ever appreciate their tolerance and patience enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/18 01:20 AM |
| 1 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenSorry, you cannot secure a single women out of 1000. You are not in a position to reject being friendzoned. It is not about them getting attention. It is about you needing to learn how to socialize with women, because obviously you don't know how to do that properly. It is not really a choice you have here. Either you learn how to socialize with women or you don't and try another 1000 cold approaches without ever figuring out why you are not successful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/18 08:47 PM |
| 1 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenOk, then find a place - irrespective of how boring it is - where you can make yourself useful and where you can join on a regular basis, at least once a week. The more women attend, the better. It will feel weird to you but that will vanish over time and no, woman love their orbiters and they particularly like if someone listens to them. Lie if you have to. Invent a girlfriend, say that you are gay, asexual, whatever. The cause is not to find a girlfriend there, the cause is to get familiar with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/18 08:24 PM |
| 1 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenHonestly, I don't think I am able to. Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/18 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Why is it a woman’s fault if she’s alpha widowed?Yes, I believe you. Since I am familiar with the concept I have realized quite some alpha-widows among my friends. But still, there should be a line that distinguishes between e.g. a woman that remembers an abusive ex and a woman that mourns her alpha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/18 11:26 AM |
| 1 | How to formulate advice to those that take advice at face-value?But I think a lot of people are now getting into PUA without even basic social skills. I dont know if PUA just appeals to autistic ppl or if its modern societies reliance on phones and apps. I generally think that our society turns more autistic in general. The lack of a reliable set of rules that shape social interactions makes it much for difficult for people to interact since everything has to be negotiated and figured out on an individual level. So that is the pro of social rules, they don't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/18 11:23 AM |
| 1 | How to formulate advice to those that take advice at face-value?What remains if you tell good people not to survive in an evil culture? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/18 11:08 AM |
| 1 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenAbout part 1 you cannot do much. People know that their behavior can have an isolating impact. But they don't have much of an interest in acting more inclusively. It costs energy and while some people like to contribute to society in charity groups, most people have enough stress to keep up with their own lives and won't be interested in investing too much time and energy outside of a given frame into a "stranger". This is why it is particularly important to remain open to the advice of others, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/18 10:52 AM |
| 1 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenSociety doesn't care about mobbing. The only way to help victims is helping them to stop being victims. Of course a general politeness towards strangers is needed, but that won't make anyone feel less isolated. I know it seems cruel and one would like to help everybody or at least some. But it is not possible to help people that cannot help themselves. One can reach out to those whose path one crosses, but well... not much more. I have left so many people behind, even though I care, because they… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/18 12:26 AM |
| 1 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenIsolation clearly is a problem. I just don't think that removing social barriers, in whatever way one might define them, is a solution. These barriers exist for some people but not for most and it will not help society as a whole to help people to recreate that cannot do it themselves. Sorry. So that is why they need to be able to find ways themselves. If you find the bridge that makes people understand what obviously is so difficult for yourself to understand, meaning coming out to the rest of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/18 12:04 AM |
| 1 | How to formulate advice to those that take advice at face-value?I love the red pill and I love men. All of them. As a whole. They have saved my sanity with this place. TRP is heaven for me :) So why do you hate them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/18 11:50 PM |
| 1 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenI hope you will understand that I will only give a short answer :) But actually I would be a pretty chill guy in a relationship. This is exactly what I think about myself each time when I am single. I am so relaxed, how can it be that relationships turn so complicated. Well, boom, there is emotions and feelings and they just happen to one and they happen more intense the more meaning one attributes to a situation or person. Really to think that without having ever been in a relationship this is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/18 11:31 PM |
| 1 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenJust leave the guy alone. Leaving him alone and robbing him of the possibility to actually understand something he doesn't understand? There are people that are able to find meaning in simple advice. It happens so often that one doesn't see the forest because of the many trees. Then it is incredibly helpful to say "look, there is the forest". Just step back a few steps... as with an impressionist painting and I feel that this is what you should do as well. Stop dissecting. Stop finding new spots… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/18 11:05 PM |
| 2 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenAnalytical men should be able to understand the meaning behind "be more confident". I think there is only solution for you. You need to find as many female friends as possible. Be orbiter for a year or two. Choose a girl where you think she is kind such that she won't exploit your friendship and that you won't feel taken advantage off afterwards. Get familiar with women and their way of interacting and communicating. It will be easier for you afterwards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/18 11:02 PM |
| 1 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated Men:) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/18 09:50 PM |
| 1 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated Men"Evolution", no. Humans, yes. Hybris makes humans think that they could decide. Hybris is the disease of our time. These were all extreme examples of social engineering. They were nothing like the tri-fold solution, which is totally moderate: I don't have time to read into that more. But I also think we should try to maintain a minimum of points to discuss, otherwise it will be more complexity than I can handle. So I hope you understand that at this point I don't have time and energy for that. W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/18 08:56 PM |
| 3 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenI would say that what is more true is that I want people to understand my thoughts before they try and criticise them. Do you understand that you actually expect that people adjust to the way you want help or support or criticism to be delivered? That is attempt of you to shape the good-will of other people into a form that suits you, not them. If one asks for advice or criticism it is a matter of respect to humbly say thank you, irrespective of whether one likes what one hears or of whether one… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/18 08:56 PM |
| 3 | How Advice Should Be Given To Outsiders/Analytical Isolated MenOk, I read through to the end. What I really don't understand is that one the one hand you seek advice, while at the same time you don't want criticism to your thoughts. a) there is noone in the world who can tell you how you can get out of your situation. Nobody is knowing enough to exactly know what you would need to do in order to be able to get where you want to be. The whole point of the red pill is to lift peoples consciousness and enable them to find and create their own ways by just poin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/18 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Why is it a woman’s fault if she’s alpha widowed?Where is the line between wanting to understand what happened to herself because it had consequences and not being indifferent towards the ex-lover? What if on objective measures he was lower in SMV and lower in RMV and she still is not indifferent, because she still does not understand what happened to her? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/18 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Why is it a woman’s fault if she’s alpha widowed?I hope you don't mind me disagreeing and commenting here now. But as much as I appreciate almost all of your comments and thoughts, I just strongly disagree here. I agree that, depending on what happened, it might be really difficult. It is the same with all traumas, they can be resolved, even if many people don't know how. However the key point is not the "alpha-guy" in this the key aspect is the widow aspect and a woman is able to "unwidow" herself, even without another guy and there are many … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/18 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Why is it a woman’s fault if she’s alpha widowed?Out of all the alpha widows I have ever seen, both of others' making and my own, I have only ever seen one single solitary case of cure. I can see how it can be difficult to unattach thoughts. But remembering who and what happened does not imply being an alpha-widow. I clearly don't see myself as alpha-widow, even though you disagree. If I would seek parts of my ex in others, then maybe that would be the case, if I tried to avoid similarities then also maybe, yes. If I needed others to compensat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/18 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Protest to Stop Reddit CensorshipI came here after reading illimitablemen which I found via google by accident. I basically only signed up for reddit to be able read and write here. I assume that there should be plenty coming from this way... | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/18 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamous in early stages of dating?Also the fact that the second one works with autistic kids sounds like there could be the danger of him being too comforting, which despite the chemistry might hint at him being rather the compensating/pleasing type and this could, despite the great chemistry in the beginning, turn the power balance between the two of you into the wrong direction. Autists require a huge amount of empathy from the other, so it might just be natural to him to feel responsible for the emotions of the other and this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 01:32 AM |
| 2 | Hypergamous in early stages of dating?Some men stop being great as soon as they feel that they own you. What I would notice is that, if he is the right one, you wouldn't see/notice the other one at all. However, even if there is chemistry, it can turn too entangled and messy at some point. I would tend to saying that if you date someone and one evening talking to someone else can make you question it, then maybe the first someone is not the right one for you. You should try to find out if you really can submit to someone before maki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 01:07 AM |
| 1 | The absence of "feel".Do you even see that what you describe for each gender centers around the woman? I see it, but my intention was not to tell men that they are responsible for filling the void. My intention was to argue for the different thresholds and that these different thresholds can be the cause for troubles, even onset of hypergamy. Without being aware of these threshold, without the woman being aware that this feeling of emptiness is intrinsic and not related to how the man makes her feel on average, becau… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 12:38 AM |
| 1 | The absence of "feel".Done :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/18 03:50 PM |
| 2 | The absence of "feel".By "feel" do you mean feeling chemistry or a connection with someone? Yes, I think it goes into that direction. Connection probably also encompasses negative emotions. One reason why I am stressing the negative emotions so much is that I remember a particular sentence that mentioned that "feel" does not only apply to "good-feel" but also to anger, sadness and so on. It was "as long as you make her feel anything" it is good. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/18 11:56 AM |
| 0 | The absence of "feel".Not all women care more about status than they care about committment. E.g. the girl in the above example who cheated and then left did trade her high status boyfriend for some lower status boyfriend, simply because he paid more attention to her. Attention basically shows that the man is willing to share is resources (time, emotions, also status and so on). So status means nothing if the man cannot show that he is emotionally available and therefore not only committed on paper. Which probably al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 04:48 PM |
| 1 | The absence of "feel".Interesting. Thank you! I will try to look out for similar indicators in me as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 04:27 PM |
| 2 | The absence of "feel".The point is that as far as I can observe it - I have never lived with anybody - there are many posts that try to teach women to accept that men are not the "constant" interaction seeking kind of people. Each person has a threshold with respect to certain aspects of interactions. While some people like to cuddle, touch, speak throughout the whole day, others rather like to spend time with each other in the same room but not necessarily want to interact with each other all the time and it seems t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 03:44 PM |
| 3 | The absence of "feel".Yes, I am also constantly wondering what is the point where we actually disagree, and if there is any at all. To me it seems that we are focussing on different aspects and I agree on many things you said in this thread. So I think it really only is about nuances. but we don't 'need to feel more' and maybe this is one of the differences. Which might be due to the fact that even though I think my language skills are ok, I am not an English native. With "more" I meant "more often" and not "more" as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 03:08 PM |
| 2 | The absence of "feel".Downvoting my comments will not make me change my reasoning nor will it make yours more right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 02:59 PM |
| 2 | The absence of "feel".Of course men feel. It is the second or third sentence in my OP. There is a reason why PUA tactics work. Not understanding how and why they work makes one an easy prey to manipulation. This is why it is more important to concentrate on what somebody is doing. We don't date those kind of men". Then one might also want to understand the weak spot that makes oneself vulnerable. It is not that PUAs would carry a "I am a player" sign with them. Anything that doesn't make both feel more good than bad … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 02:50 PM |
| 1 | The absence of "feel".Being 'ignored' for a couple of hours and freaking the fuck out is not normal!! And just in order to point at a difference in our perception of what I tried to talk about. The time frame you have in mind is several hours. While the time scale I have in mind - or at least the time frame I operate in - is several days. I start to notice somebodies absence after around three days of not hearing anything from the other and then at some point after one or two days more I start to feel uneasy. The tim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 02:30 PM |
| 1 | The absence of "feel".Needing to 'feel' something all the time is drama seeking, "all the time" I fully agree... but the tolerance for the amount of time "not feeling something" is different between men and women and this is where misunderstandings and complications can start. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 02:14 PM |
| 3 | The absence of "feel".You NEED to work on this. I don't have that problem :) I am not aiming at solving something here for myself. I was trying to understand why RP emphasizes that women care so much about how men make them feel :) and I think they have a point. On this line I am more on the opposite/independent end of the spectrum. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 02:12 PM |
| 0 | The absence of "feel".They learned, at a young age, to cling to their emotions as an important symbol of "who they really are." To me this also appears to be the common bluepill therapy narrative. It matters more how people felt in certain situations (e.g. metoo) than what has actually happened. Now one could take the analogy, of seeing BP as culture/mindset dominated by the female imperative, while RP is the mindset dominated by the male imperative, and then go back and try to understand how these imperatives impact… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 02:10 PM |
| 1 | The absence of "feel".You can't tell me that most women like a drama filled and anxiety based relationship. Some girls do, but they are just that, girls. That is not what I wrote. I wrote that the compared to men stronger "feel" seeking of a woman as opposed to the rather as compared to women "action" seeking is something intrinsic to each sexes general preferences. I don't see any problem at all. Problems only arise if the needs of the individuals involved are misaligned. But I guess I can understand how what I wrot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 01:53 PM |
| 1 | The absence of "feel".I felt the absence of feel I think I was mostly picking up signs that my partners were moving on, which made me feel insecure. My reaction to this instability in combination with being very immature was to become clingy and attention-seeking. In my case it was never that they were moving on, because they didn't and sometimes somebody just was not interested but then it is obvious ;) I think it is really difficult to understand whether in whatever situation men were really moving on or whether th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/18 11:50 AM |
| 1 | Needing time from my busy BFYou are right :) getting off birth control probably also isn't the best message to send to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/18 06:02 PM |
| 2 | I have no idea how to get in a healthy relationship- help!Gladly one doesn't need the official diagnose in order to understand it and how it can interfere with one's social functioning. For some time I was also trying to figure out how true that might be about me. It turned out that the knowledge that I might be and probably are someone with at least some behavior that falls into that category helped me enough to speed up my self-development and it helped me to finally understand how sometimes there could be such a big difference in how I perceived mys… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/18 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Needing time from my busy BFYou need to discuss it anyways and respect his feelings because a child is a huge financial responsibility and a lifelong commitment. I understood what she wrote in a similar way at first. But I guess she just meant that taking the pill for 30 days a month and dealing with side effects for only four times of sex a month is too much. So I didn't have the impression that she wants to have a child without telling or asking him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/18 03:42 PM |
| 7 | I have no idea how to get in a healthy relationship- help!and some Asperger traits... flat facial expression, only conversing on a factual level, being too logical in conversations and finding other people illogical and disagreeing with them on this logical level. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/18 01:27 PM |
| 1 | False Nice Guy / Incel Narratives in Blue and Red Pill Which Impact Men Falling Behind in Dating (If They Want to Discuss Them)Nice Guy (aka Orbiter): Guy that thinks he is entitled to sex because he was nice - sometimes for weeks, months and years - and then gets angry if he finds out that he was just a friend. Nice Girl (aka Plate): Girl that thinks she is entitled to committment because she has sex - sometimes for weeks, months and years - and then gets angry if she finds out that she was just booty call. What nice guys and girls share is that they don't understand that attraction on both sides is a very fragile thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/18 11:57 PM |
| 12 | My boyfriend is busy to talk to me but free to have sexBut now he rarely speaks to me even after work. I told him that I miss talking to him but nothing has changed. Did you ask him if anything troubles him? It actually sounds to me like there could be something at work that really bothers him. Maybe bothers so much that he doesn't want to speak about it at the moment. Does he feel successful at what he is doing? Telling him that you miss talking to him and therefore maybe posing another demand on him that he feels he cannot fulfill due to being wor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Should I submit to him or be more assertive?I will try. Right now I need to do something else <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Should I submit to him or be more assertive?Wow! I gave you an upvote ;) I don't agree on all your arguments, but on the conclusion. The seeming or perceived entitlement to submission that seems to be expressed in some of the RP posts were one reason which has pushed me away from RP for a long time, whenever I stumbled over a post or another. If submission is enforced or demanded everything else that follows will either be a constant power struggle or emptiness and unhappiness, even if it can be stable for many years. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Should I submit to him or be more assertive?I mean, I'd ditch him if I was in her position This was surprising for me to read. Can I ask you to explain why? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 01:51 PM |
| 1 | The fear of being pumped and dumped and/or just used for sexThank you. So it really is an original fear that has not so much to do with personal experience... but mostly with our biological condition. It is so difficult to separate the two and one might probably in all cases find a psychological explanation in ones biography that might seem like the origin and it will seem plausible. I guess that is one reason for why I am so thankful for the RP and this place. It helps to finally understand what is natural and what not. This whole BP idea of everybody b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 03:23 AM |
| 1 | The fear of being pumped and dumped and/or just used for sexThank you. Yes, I agree that this is huge part of it. Among baboons one can apparently also observe that there are, e.g. as a result of outer circumstances like catastrophes that change the social structure of a certain clan, different patterns of sexual strategies. There is a lecture about evolutionary biology by Robert Sapolski, which describes how the difference in sexual selection impacts the whole social structure. If you are interested then I can try to find that particular lecture, becaus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 03:16 AM |
| 2 | The fear of being pumped and dumped and/or just used for sexThank you very much. There are many thoughts to which I can relate. It feels like a Catch 22 in many ways. Perhaps its passions are also numbered. Maybe there is only so much one can give away of oneself before nothing is left but a hollow space in the chest filled with its own echo. I don't think that passions are numbered, but I think that lack in reciprocity is indeed something that leaves one hollow and empty. One should be really careful with that. It is possible to recharge, but depending … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 03:02 AM |
| 1 | How Can We Discuss the Gender Dynamics of Sexually and Romantically Unsuccessful Good Men (SRUGMs) Falling Behind in Dating"How Can We Discuss the Gender Dynamics of Sexually and Romantically Unsuccessful Good Men (SRUGMs) Falling Behind in Dating" This is your original question. You don't want to discuss gender dynamics. You want to convince everyone that you are unsuccessful at dating and that it is not your fault. You are wasting the time of everyone that tries to reach out to you and you don't even stop a second to think about what others are trying to tell you. That is the reason why you are unsuccessful. If pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/18 05:45 PM |
| 1 | How Can We Discuss the Gender Dynamics of Sexually and Romantically Unsuccessful Good Men (SRUGMs) Falling Behind in DatingIf it is fallacious to say the problem is always with the world and never with me, equally it is fallacious to say the problem is always with me and never with the world. Obviously you just want to be right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/18 05:18 PM |
| 2 | How Can We Discuss the Gender Dynamics of Sexually and Romantically Unsuccessful Good Men (SRUGMs) Falling Behind in DatingOk, so you want to create a new meme. Then do it. But you don't create memes by arguing against already existing memes. You create memes by continuously using them and defining the context in which you use them. If it is a good meme others will pick it up and imitate it. What you cannot do and will never be able to do, particularly not in times of the www, were words have experienced some superinflation, is, you will not be able to avoid that the meme that you created will turn into something en… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/18 09:29 AM |
| 1 | How Can We Discuss the Gender Dynamics of Sexually and Romantically Unsuccessful Good Men (SRUGMs) Falling Behind in DatingTake my words as coming from a place very similar to yours. I needed half a life-time to understand this and I would give away everything in order to understand it ten or fifteen years earlier. It doesn't matter who you are, what matters is the effect one has on the world. If there is a disagreement between the effect and the intentions, all arguing, all explanations will be unheard and not understood. One will remain essentially unseen, if one doesn't manage to create coherence between the inte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/18 07:32 AM |
| 1 | How Can We Discuss the Gender Dynamics of Sexually and Romantically Unsuccessful Good Men (SRUGMs) Falling Behind in Datingand probably he wouldn't have written music, yet even existed. All your OPs and all your comments show exactly why, despite being a good man, with advantageous physical features, you are unsuccessful. Particularly your statement about "assholes" shows why. You experience the effect the world has on you, but you don't see the effect you have on the world. Only people that are unable to see anything else than their own perspective can come to the conclusion that the world is filled with assholes. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/18 07:14 AM |
| 2 | I See a Lot of MRP/MRB Wo/Men Here With A Totally Different Interpretation of the PillosphereYou don't need to prove anything to me, since I already believe you. Due to my work I am surrounded by "unsuccessful introverts" and I call some of them my friends. Due to my own attempts at self-improvement I try to change my own social circle - I simply cannot learn anything from them. However, I know many of them well enough to just see on a more or less daily basis how they are making their lives more complicated, e.g. particularly by calling upon so-called "standards". Nobody is born with s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/18 06:05 PM |
| 2 | I See a Lot of MRP/MRB Wo/Men Here With A Totally Different Interpretation of the PillosphereI don't understand why you won't read the advice sections I linked you I don't see anything linked particularly to me... and I am not determined to give you advice. It is just so obvious to see how you create your own fortune by defining yourself as being without opportunities. Just because you have tried something doesn't mean that you tried the right way. Seriously, the sheer fact that there are less than average looking/thinking/behaving guys that are in relationships and have sex proves that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/18 05:36 PM |
| 2 | I See a Lot of MRP/MRB Wo/Men Here With A Totally Different Interpretation of the PillosphereNo, you misunderstand. First available girl... of course first available that you like and are attracted to. Everything else would be pointless. Anyway... nevermind. Good luck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/18 05:30 PM |
| 3 | I See a Lot of MRP/MRB Wo/Men Here With A Totally Different Interpretation of the PillosphereSee, that is your problem. I am trying to let you know how you could do what you claim you want to do and all you are explaining to me is how it is not possible. It is your head that is keeping you trapped in a situation where all you see is why something doesn't work. And please, about standards, don't tell me that your SMV is so high that all available girls in your area are below your standards. If you think so you might really reconsider if your statement that you are not misogynistic is rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/18 01:20 PM |
| 3 | I See a Lot of MRP/MRB Wo/Men Here With A Totally Different Interpretation of the PillosphereAs far as I understood from what you wrote, you are not physically appalling, you are not ugly, you are not socially inept, not isolated, you go out alone, you talk to woman, you have friends. So there is only one reason that prevents you from loosing your virginity. Which is that you don't use the opportunities that you have and most likely it is because you have some thoughts that keep holding you back from trying and reasons for holding people back from trying are mostly fear of something bei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/18 07:29 PM |
| 4 | I See a Lot of MRP/MRB Wo/Men Here With A Totally Different Interpretation of the PillosphereI just want to lose my virginity to some chick that's not totally subpar or some prostitute for crying out loud. I am telling you the same what I told all the other people I have met in RL and which they followed and which finally lead them to at least have relationships and start having first hand experiences. Two were not isolate at all. Socially included. One gay, one hetero. Both over 30. The first one unkissed the second one had maybe sex once in his life. Both told me that they simply foll… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/18 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenIt sounds like your mother was bad at vetting and seriously if your parents knew they had opposing views on kids why did they even stay together especially after the first pregnancy? I guess they really loved each other, but didn't figure out how to be with each other. Feminism and both of them not being the most empathic and socially adept people played a role. Both of them are still angry that the world doesn't live up to their ideals and expectations. I also think that my mom managed to have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/18 06:34 AM |
| 2 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenIf your goal in having children is to pass on your genes, you might be disappointed if your offspring chooses not to have children. Hm, I don't feel that this is my goal. I always wanted kids. I just didn't want to be as a shitty as a parent as my parents were and decided that I had to work on myself before. Then I made mistakes, got lost several times and suddenly one wakes up and it is next to too late. So what I feel is just this desire to watch something grow and develop and to be allowed to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/18 09:27 AM |
| 1 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenBecause of the passage where I wrote that life seems meaningless to me without having children it was understood to advocate suicide and therefore I was asked to edit it in order to avoid that impression. I always wanted kids with a man that I love and who wants them as well. My father didn't want to have kids. I was supposed to be aborted, my mom didn't obey. Then she got pregnant the second time and my sister was supposed to be aborted and my father objected. then they finally separated and it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/18 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenonly to rediscover religion from a new perspective. It still feels cold, however. But one can believe in the meaning of life, no? I mean I don't believe in meaning for myself, that never felt right to me (I always knew that I was "for" someone), but on my way I can help others to not fall into the same trap, now that I can see it so clearly. For myself I would need something to identify with, which I cannot anymore, but I understand that and why some things are holy and should be forever, so eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/18 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenI am not sure if it is something that can be explained. I was just talking to a younger female friend who is close to either winning it all or loosing it all. However, she still wants to enjoy and doesn't want to feel responsible for anybody else except herself. I get it as well that she is very caring but doesn't seem to have motherly instincts. At least not visible. Anyway, I fail to explain to her what it means to want but (maybe) not be able to anymore. I always knew I wanted but still had s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/18 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenI believe in a future... just not my own. It is like my game is over. Well, I have some more time to see if I can make it, but to be honest, I doubt that I will meet "him" in the next years. Moreover it seems that I am so unhappy about understanding all this that I doubt that I can radiate the happiness he would need to see in order to recognize me. Where to find strength without having meaning? Sorry, I guess today I am totally lost. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/18 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenI don't know anymore. Maybe one should give them ideas and therefore meaning. Evolution itself seems not really suited for making life feel meaningful. Where is the beauty in survival of the fittest? Where is the beauty in survival for survivals sake? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/18 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenI would say that the whole point to successful adaption is to not sacrifice the youth to any idea except successful adaption. So that is why I wouldn't sell my kids to any ideology except teaching them how to be successful in what they want to be successful in. Give them tools and awareness and then life has to make it's choice. It is pointless however if there is no youth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/18 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenif you have kids when you're depressed as you seem to be you will pass your issues onto them because of both genetic reasons and because they'll grow up around that from a parent I had to edit the OP and now I feel the content is gone. I am not depressed... most likely not being able to have my own kids is the only thing that depresses me. Apart from that I am fine and at peace with most things. So I guess I am trying to negate this by reducing the desire to have kids to the general desire in hu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/18 10:33 PM |
| 3 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenI can imagine grandparents suffering if they cannot have grandchildren. It is not unusual, is it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/18 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenI edited it. And yes, it was not my intention to sound like I were advocating suicide... the opposite is actually true. With "burden" I was referring to the fact that, if not having kids is so painful, will it be so painful to see my hypothetical kids potentially not having kids themselves that for oneself it actually doesn't make a difference whether one has kids or not. E.g. I wouldn't want to be one of those parents that try to force their kids into a certain life-style. So if the fear of dyi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/18 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Why do they come back?I love this comment. Levin and Kitty from Tolstojs "Anna Karenina". Although I don't know the ending, yet. It seems promising. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/18 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Why do they come back?and would you get an ego boost if you didn't value that woman? Probably not... men seem to need ego boosts. That is why it is so important for the wives and girlfriends to be encouraging, to be the soft place to land, when times are darker... and it only works if one respects and values the other. If someone whom you don't respect tells you that he admires you, maybe you would nod and say politely thank you, but you certainly wouldn't get an ego boost. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/18 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Why do they come back?You will encounter this with almost all human beings. We are not perfect :) just human ;) it is important to see things for what they are and not for how we want them to be. Yes, it is painful to realize that love sometimes is not enough... at the same time it helps to understand that love is something that needs to be protected and cared for. And it is better to know that one has been loved but that it was not enough than to feel used and tossed around... Understanding that each human being has… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/18 06:50 PM |
| 7 | Why do they come back?Sometimes it is because people are afraid of intimacy. They seek it and they miss it and when they get it they fear and escape it. They feel trapped and obliged. So they want intimacy and closeness, but not the responsibility and commitment that come along with it. They want everything, you and their freedom... a man that says that he loves you but doesn't want to commit, wants you but he is not willing to abide other women and his freedom. It is also reflective of him not knowing what he wants.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/18 05:34 PM |
| 2 | Why is sex so important to us?men still comprise the majority of super intelligent people (as well as the super dumb) in the world. It's not politically correct I think the part in parenthesis makes it politically correct ;) /u/Pixie0310 is correct however that it depends on the aspect of intelligence one measures. While men generally score higher in mathematical/logical aspects, women seem to tend to score higher on tests measuring verbal IQ. Furthermore, the fact that women want someone taller, faster, stronger, smarter th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/18 09:29 PM |
| 6 | Do alpha widows have hope?Understand that in order to really be the best for her he wouldn't have left or she wouldn't have left. The best is only what the women considers to be the best. If he left or she left, the answer is simple. He wasn't the best. The best is the one to whom the women feels infinitely attracted to and it is the one who commits. It really only depends on how you define "the best" and trust me with probably plenty of years of more experience... what you consider the best will change as you age and th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/18 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Do alpha widows have hope?To me it seems as if it is a logical contradiction that most get hung up on. a) the best doesn't exist on an absolute scale b) the best changes with experience and maturing c) there is not only "one" the best It is hypergamy misunderstood. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/18 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Are there any redpill subs for women that doesn't advocate for marriage?I am also not married and I don't know if I ever will be... why not think LTR instead of "marriage". Marriage is nothing but an official frame for long term committed relationship... so why feel threatened by that term? The meaning would be more important to me at that point than the way in which it is officially communicated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/18 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Should I run?After being called selfish and would rather get hit by a deer than spend another minute talking to me or being with me, telling me this won't work, this is not what he wants in his life. One more thing about that, you cannot do much about that. "Doing" would refer to convince him that you were not selfish. Most likely this would just fuel the discussion again. What you can do is try to understand that to him in that moment you appeared selfish, even if you were genuinely concerned. So it is a mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/18 10:35 PM |
| 3 | Should I run?Try to understand that tears and crying are reactions to feeling unloved, while anger is a reaction to lack of respect. If you want to stay with this guy you need to scrutinize your own contribution to such a situation. Then think about whether you think that it is appropriate to feel hurt by what you did. Then think about what you think is an appropriate reaction to "being hurt". Crying, anger... My reaction would depend on how much I trust him with respect to his sincerity. Can I rely on the f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/18 10:13 PM |
| 5 | Should I run?all this bullshit about deer and drunk drivers is your hamster going in overdrive. and this is exactly what might make him suspicious as it might be interpreted as a flimsy excuse. There are two things, you don't need to tolerate such behavior. However, you might want to try to understand that if this situation hints at anything, it hints at an underlying trust issue. You don't trust his ability to assess his own abilities to drive. You may formulate some concern, but you shouldn't make the deci… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/18 09:31 PM |
| 4 | Help me with advice before everyone wakes up1) Relationships with families can be complicated. It is the same with intimate relationships. There are dynamics and situations that cannot be understood from the outside. So I would say that you telling him that you think it is rude against his family was actually rude against him. It is his family and therefore he has the ultimate decision on how he deals with them and the situations that occur. You didn't write anything about his reasons apart from not sleeping. Yes, I understand that it mig… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/18 08:42 AM |
| 2 | Is it RPW or is he asking too much?I think you cannot outsource the problem by means of a discussion on whether it is in alignment with traditional or RPW values. It seems to hint at a deeper underlying problem. It might not be something that can be resolved within one discussion. Remember that men don't think on the fly. So it might be that he is still processing the discussion between you and also the discussion with his friend that you mentioned in another comment. By now I wouldn't take literally what he said. He might be ree… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/18 02:02 AM |
| 4 | [Advice] Apologies if this isn't quite the right forum, but I have a question about PMS and mood swings...I recognize, stating this again, that nothing about relationships and living with someone is easy. Not by a country mile. Here you yourself give the reason why you general argument is flawed. If people only entered relationships when they have reached a state of perfect control over their being we would have already died out. Growth and development are possible and most of the time it is only within relationships that we actually are able to evolve. Human beings need feedback to understand the e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/18 06:01 AM |
| 2 | [Advice] Apologies if this isn't quite the right forum, but I have a question about PMS and mood swings...Sorry to jump in, but also with respect to the side effects of birth control. I agree with your reasoning about the fact that birth control might be needed in some cases, but imho, the supplemental route should be tried first. It is trying higher amounts of Tryptophan (several grams!) via the supplemental route without side effects vs. synthetical hormones that have plenty of (sometimes lifelong) side effects and do nothing to restore the natural balance, on contrary, they destabilize further. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/18 05:48 AM |
| 2 | [Advice] Apologies if this isn't quite the right forum, but I have a question about PMS and mood swings...In principle, yes. It depends on the severity. In my case taking it as supplement was a real relief, since in some months I felt next to being crazy and couldn't recognize myself anymore. Since it immediately stopped when my period set in, I am quite certain that it was due to PMS and not something else. The relief on the mood of ~1.5 g Tryptophan with a little bit of sugar or honey is immediate but after 2 - 3 hours the effect is lost and thus it can be needed several times a day. One would hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/18 05:26 AM |
| 2 | [Advice] Apologies if this isn't quite the right forum, but I have a question about PMS and mood swings...It tremendously helped me to use Tryptophan which increases Serotonin production, Vitamin B6, which helps in the production of Serotonin and Potassium. If you try a Tryptophan supplement then try to get it as powder because it usually is cheaper and it is also easier to decide which dose is appropriate for you. I also have times with heavy PMS. It can be so bad that it triggers anxiety attacks. I do not exactly know how to describe it. It is a terrible feeling of discomfort. It is also worsened … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/18 07:18 PM |
| 6 | I hope this is okay to ask - I’ve read all the sidebar wiki stuff, I’ve read numerous posts. I am wondering what the RPW thing would be to do when a man you’re dating fades out? Do you call them out in a kind way then move on? Or do you just let it go and say nothing?I don’t want fading out to be socially acceptable anymore. It might be that I am on the wrong track with this. To me RP is about understanding more about the dynamics of male and female interactions and many times I develop my own perspective which I perceive to be more balanced. So I might be wrong on this... I think fading out is one of the last resorts men have in saying "no" to the infinite demands they are confronted with. Since the RP perspective on the interactions between male and female… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/18 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?The past contains no answers. It just contains all the shit that happened. I deleted most of the old chats and messages and sms. Two hours of deleting memories. I just didn't want to remember anymore. I feel even lighter. I am not sure what exactly happened... but in the course of this argument/conversation I lost a lot of ballast. If one holds onto the past one cannot reach for something new. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/18 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Who inspires us?Reading "Anna Karenina" by Tolstoy. The description of the characters shows plenty of RP-dynamics. It is amazingly well observed and described. | /r/RedPillWives | 21/07/18 06:13 PM |
| 6 | RP advice on correct perspective with losing weightI do want to please my husband but can't seem to get the "he will only love me when I'm thinner" crap out of my head It is not a question of either he loves you or not. He will love you even more. He will find you even more attractive. He will find you more sexy. You will be proud of yourself and this will also radiate into your relationship. Think about the great example that you set for your kids. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/18 06:58 AM |
| 3 | RP advice on correct perspective with losing weightyou know you could feel better. and objectively look better :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/18 06:48 AM |
| 3 | RP advice on correct perspective with losing weightOver the years I realized that I can feel plus/minus 8 lbs when walking upstairs and doing sports and I feel much more comfortable without these. Just imagine how easy and light life will be when you can move in whatever way you want to without getting into your own way and you are not carrying a bag with an additional 60 - 70 lbs with you. Test it, take something that weighs approximately as much and carry it around with you for one day. Then take it off and feel how much easier everything will… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/18 06:47 AM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?about what an asshole he was, about how you despise him, and about how you are so totally over him, really, I totally mean it, honest, you have to believe me. I would say that I got lost in trying to explain why it was difficult to get over it and why I thought I had to think about it again and again. Then I tried to argue for why some experiences can be so heavy on somebody that one cannot give up analyzing them until one understands what went wrong. Not because of him, but because of me. I sti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/18 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?You've written four different responses over the past four days. I am sorry. There were many different thought processes in me. Writing and reading here helps me tremendously to work through my past experiences and free myself. Probably this is why I feel a certain kind of closeness, which then causes me to assume that it would be understood. I'm not going to sit here and debate with someone I don't know, over whether she is over someone else I don't know, but clearly you're pretty wound up abou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/18 09:48 PM |
| 1 | 'For Women Only' - Respect and Love - Chapter 2Just be better now that you know :-) It is inevitable as soon as one understands, isn't it? I don't feel dragged. Just huge regrets and unhappiness that result from the insight into the tragic. I also feel sympathy for men that have to give both, love and respect, while they receive nothing. Sorry for them to be love bombed everyday and even forced to love. Surrounded by empty words and not receiving anything in return. I guess I need some mourning, not only because of him but also, and then, ev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/18 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Husband doesn't think I am supportivetell him that you believe in him. Do you want to feel respected for what you do for your family? Then give up on this wish. You compete for respect... as long as he feels he has to respect you, he doesn't feel respected himself. If you rightfully demand respect this is exactly what happens. Don't ask for respect. Ask for love. This will naturally change the balance and as one cannot love someone without respecting him and also cannot respect "him" without loving him you will also receive respect… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/07/18 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?You've already shown that he still does. Not anymore. Thank you. You were right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/18 08:17 PM |
| 1 | 'For Women Only' - Respect and Love - Chapter 2Thank you for your long answer. I am sorry for my message being too messy. There are too many things going on in me right now. I am lost in understanding how many people I must have hurt and how I was "maintaining" their and my suffering. Never intentionally, but because fear shows the absence of trust and thus the absence of respect. This is a bit overwhelming. So now I was just wondering if it cannot be shown by words what are other ways to show it... since you said by actions I hoped you coul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/18 01:51 AM |
| 0 | 'For Women Only' - Respect and Love - Chapter 2Eventually, he will need to feel that your respect for him is truly justified and not just empty flattery. Ok,... what does the difference look like? Is STFU actually a request for respect (=love) and is this the reason why it is emphasized so much? Is this why submission or deference are so important to men, because they show respect and also trust? What are the actions that really show respect when words feel "empty"? It makes me so sad that despite truest and deepest feelings of love and affe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/18 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Genuine questionI think any person has an intrinsic need to be seen, regardless of gender. Yes, everybody has an intrinsic need to be seen but in different ways. Some people here rather refer to it as deference and in a healthy relationship both defer but in different ways. Submission has a negative connotation, it is rather about giving in and both need to do that even if the ways in which they do it differ. I don't think it is submissive to please the partner. But the ways in which we please differ. The basic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/18 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Genuine questionI guess it's because there aren't many posts here about what they do for you? It is also because these subs really are about self-improvement. In the last days I read in a comment to someone who was "complaining" about what their partner didn't do that "he or she was asking the question, the only person present and that advice can only be given on what he/she does, because he/she is the only one that can change herself, but cannot make somebody else do something". | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/18 10:26 AM |
| 1 | Genuine questionself-improve for their own benefit It is not rejection on which they fuel their motivation. Both, men and women have an intrinsic need to be seen. Women want to be seen by their man, men want to be seen by many. Men and Women. This is why self-improvement just for oneself and without goal is not working. This is also why TRP emphasizes men to find a life-goal. Something which they find worth striving for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/18 10:05 AM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?Love, Patience, Forgiveness | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/18 08:48 AM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?Love, Respect, Trust I am so happy, no more fear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/18 08:21 AM |
| 2 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?Thank you for writing so much to help me and there are many useful thoughts which I will certainly keep in mind :) even though I think that what I wrote was understood in a complete different way than it was meant by me. I am not suffering. My past doesn't hurt me anymore. I have processed it. I neither hide it nor do I constantly obsess about it. I just noticed that whenever it happens in a conversation that one talks and shares certain things and I describe situations too detailed, then it can… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/18 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?Why are we so trapped in our thinking and feeling? Why is it so difficult to get out of ourselves? Is it possible to remain in that clarity without loosing what makes life essential? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/18 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?You've already shown that he still does. Why? It is unavoidable that we remember the past, isn't it? So just because I try to understand what happened, doesn't mean that he "Alpha-widowed" me, no? I have not the slightest respect for him. because you will once again have all of yourself to give. I do. "He" only came back to my mind yesterday while I was reading the article you linked above. It is the fact that I think he was doing all this consciously, intentionally. Like a vampire. He told me t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/18 08:43 AM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?He did not "Alpha-widow" me. This is certainly a title that he doesn't deserve. Apart from that I won't write more :) as this would make it seem as if he mattered. But I do regret the traces he has left in me and the years he took. And that I see in the mirror everyday. This is hard to come to terms with. It is not about him. It is about me and that even 6 years after all this he still had the power to make me not have patience and trust with the one whom actually deserved it and therefore I thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/18 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Husband doesn't think I am supportiveI had the same thoughts. Particularly after reading the article linked here few days ago https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/8x0vw8/i_hide_my_salary_from_my_boyfriend_bbc_three/?ref=share&ref_source=link Irrespective of the condescending tone of the article it lines out the problem very well. Men need to feel respected as much as we need to feel loved. You may support him by finding ways to show him that you respect him. Maybe that is all he needs. You know him best to know in which w… | /r/RedPillWives | 12/07/18 08:42 PM |
| 3 | Discuss: SettlingI feel that these categories could also be part of a toolbox to access ones own SMV/RMV together with some common pitfalls while vetting. E.g. except few exceptions I haven't met Category 1. The important part here is, that it was never me who was offering sex or tried to initiate it. Never. Not even once. The reason for it is not that I am incredibly attractive. There are women who certainly are more beautiful as I ever was, but there is a certain threshold, which has to do with age, body weigh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/18 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?precisely because they know that their innate submissive behaviour will make them vulnerable. At least I made a conscious decision about not letting anyone suffer for the pain I had previously experienced. That helped me to cut off some of the edges. Still the fear can be overwhelming and make me react overly sensible and comfort seeking. I have been there and I was wondering why I didn't see that causality mentioned anywhere over at TRP as too me it seems quite obvious. Even though I have nothi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/18 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Tell me what to doI think that is a good advice for a later time. It is the next step after the current one... first the need to reestablish any kind of trust. Yes, he might think "she is just doing it because" He will see from her attitude if she does it with love or if she is just working off her guilt. If she continues to do so then at some point he will understand that she is as serious as he is in his wish to forgive her and stay with her. Only after this point she should start to loosen the control. If she … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/18 05:51 AM |
| 3 | Tell me what to doOk, then you cannot see it as rewarding negative behavior. So you have one thing less to worry about. Show him that it hurts you too if he doesn't allow you to reconnect emotionally after an argument and prior to sex. Let him know that you need or want a hug. Serval times. Just inform. Don't complain. Don't nag. Just let him see how much you miss to reconnect prior to sex. But keep up with it. This might be one way by which he convinces and proves to himself that you are his and that he "owns" y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/18 05:36 AM |
| 1 | Boring and (Kinda) Masculine 15 Year Old Girl Needs Help!This is all ridiculous. If she manages to be successful with her education and her family sucks she might with enough effort be able to choose to live wherever she wants to live. US is not the only country where white men live. At least in Europe you can see many black and white couples. At least here the fact that to some degree it is still uncommon has much more to do with the attitude many people display than with the fact that their skin color is darker. If someone wants to get out of the di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/18 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?Think of how you feel about children. That's how we feel about you. This is how I feel about most men in my environment ;) and then they suddenly attack me :) OT-joke... Would you say that this is also applicable if it is not fear of aggression but fear of being used/exploited? I am not sure if this is BP thinking, I hope it is not, I still search for that connection and well, I guess I have experienced it few times, but many times "love" seemed like a flow of energy into one direction and apart… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/18 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Finding a community of RPWs?Yes, I would also try to find and talk to as many moms as possible. I have found a female friend who is not obviously redpilled but very interested in reciprocity in her own relationship. For me that is a good starting point. Also, maybe you have the possibility to make contact with women from Eastern European countries. With respect to my feeling the gender roles there are more intact than that in the western world. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/07/18 11:52 PM |
| 2 | DAE have experience with being a target of female jealousy?(intrasexual competition)Probably not ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/18 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?What this means is that an unhealthy relationship takes the pattern of "her vs. him", while a healthy one takes the pattern of "him and her vs. whatever bullshit life decides to hit them with". Thank you. How can I overcome my fear that it is "him against me", even though he didn't do anything to justify this fear, except claiming his space, which I regard as fully justified? I have had so many experiences where it was actually "him vs. me" that I carry this mistrust and fear around for a very l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/18 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?I am sorry for the double reply, but I wanted to be sure that you see the update. For years I had struggles with my father. He didn't feel respected and I didn't feel loved. He acted out verbally and I acted out back because I felt attacked. Many times I thought about ending the contact. It was so painful. All it needed to change the dynamics between us was make him understand that I truly respect him for what he is. I don't know why he couldn't see it, because he was the center of my world for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/18 11:11 PM |
| 2 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?The point really is what can be called verbally abusive. The men you describe clearly acts verbally abusive. However let me tell you the grayzone of "abuse". A woman that I know who repeatedly ends up in abusive relationships and with whom I was close friends in my early 20ies had a boyfriend at that time. One evening they had a relationship discussion. I don't know anymore what it was about, but if I remember correctly it was a reasonable request from her. He had problems with getting in contro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/18 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?Let me first quote what you quoted from the book: This is an important question because verbal abuse crushes your sense of self-worth over time, just as physical abuse does. You certainly don't deserve to be belittled. So with respect to my understanding she actually puts verbal abuse into the same category as physical abuse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/18 10:30 PM |
| 6 | What My Mother Blessed Me WithBe thankful that you grew up in a life that apparently was so happy from its first day that you don't know that these stories can be real. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/18 09:41 PM |
| 26 | DAE have experience with being a target of female jealousy?(intrasexual competition)She feels threatened. Make clear that you are not a threat by showing that you like and appreciate her. You might try to make her your "friend" by complimenting on something she wears and let her know that at the moment you are not interested in dating anyway. Depending on how confident you generally are, you may ask her for advice on a work related subject "hey, you do this so well, can you show me how?". Confidence is important because everything has to seem light. If you come off as shy and a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/18 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Resource Roundup! Help us find the best RP (and related) content out thereOne doesn't have to book the course. There are valuable insights written in the texts. https://commitmenttriggers.com/ | /r/RedPillWives | 10/07/18 01:18 AM |
| 1 | 18 Red Flags When It Comes to Dating FemalesIn some sense we mirror each other. Reflection is a good word. Some effects that we experience are just backreactions of our own behaviors. Balance is key. It might be unpopular. But tbh after starting to read RP I also thought that BPD results from a lack of leading/guidance in childhood. Completely unstructured unstable selfs. Of course these people will turn even more fragile if they encounter a "weak" male that follows their inner moods rather than being the stable counterpart that sets the … | /r/TheRedPill | 09/07/18 11:46 PM |
| 1 | 18 Red Flags When It Comes to Dating FemalesIn the same way how TRP creates and reinforces AWALT biases. Self-fullfilling prophecies, lack of trust on both sides and the dynamics starts. Changes in perspective are the more difficult the more different the other persons inner mechanics are. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/07/18 11:37 PM |
| 2 | How do you know if you’re boring?Once something really funny happened... at that time I was still much more insecure and silent than I am now. I was standing together with a group of colleagues when one of the guys suddenly shouted at me why I was always standing there not saying anything and if I were spying on them ;) lol... he seemed really excited. Now this doesn't happen too often anymore. Now people more often complain about me talking too much ;) The more you develop yourself, the bigger your horizon becomes the more you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/18 12:33 PM |
| 6 | Boring and (Kinda) Masculine 15 Year Old Girl Needs Help!This might not be the advice that you expect or want to hear. With respect to many things I come from a very similar household, moving, always being isolated, not allowed or encouraged by parents to be feminine, even when I was a teenager people asked whether I was a boy or a girl and much more. I know how hard this time can be. There is a long way ahead of you. But if you make the decision, you will be able to make it and the only advice I want to give you is to focus on your education. I know … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/18 12:21 PM |
| 7 | How to move on and how to cope?I also think that he did you a favor. Take the baby and leave. It doesn't sounds as if you cheated on him. Instead you have set your own boundaries low and let him do whatever he wanted. You trusted him and now he is using your trust against you and makes it seem as if you would trust anyone. I also agree that you concentrate too much on his SMV. SMV doesn't mean much. SMV just opens doors. RMV is important, particularly for having a family. Walk away, get your self back together. You have a bab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/18 10:06 AM |
| 1 | My husband got our camper van stuck for two hoursI hope you will find those things. I think it is amazing that you took it so well. I also think it was right to not let him see how much it affected you. He will already know what these kind of things mean to you. So he will already feel really bad. You can be really proud of yourself. I hope you will find at least some of the things. Do you have a store in your area that sells older furniture and household items? An antiquarian bookshop? Maybe you can go there with a description of the items an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/18 08:52 AM |
| 6 | What are the stages of dating?I don’t understand how someone who would be so excited to see you one week could become so cold the next? It really seems that you are too easy to have. At the prospect of having sex most men will always be excited and eager to initiate a date as long as they think that there might be something. It might be that you are too trusting. It might be that it seems that you are just waiting to be selected instead of selecting yourself. E.g. do you let them know that you have sex on the 3rd date? Where… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/18 08:30 AM |
| 1 | LDR Is calling all the time the wrong thing to do?It is the red pill for men strategy... | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/18 05:05 PM |
| 1 | LDR Is calling all the time the wrong thing to do?I second that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/18 04:12 PM |
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