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Bingo
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 03:08 AM
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u/FutileFighter you're still doing this
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 03:05 AM
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Have I done enough work on myself, particularly regarding frame, such that I'm not just bailing because MRP is hard mode No. (and dooming myself to repeat the pattern)? Maybe, if you need an LTR. In all likelihood you'd kill it single and get tons of pussy, then what? Do what you want to do, but the frame isn't there yet. You still care too much about your wife. She can feel you always looking for her response. Squash that first, realize your frame, then you will base getting divorced on whether…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 02:39 AM
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Firstly, I would want to be sure that I am top tier and can attract these younger and hotter girls. I would like to make sure I have my shit together to not fall into the same patterns that presumably led me down this path to begin with. Who cares? Be top tier for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 02:34 AM
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Most of the time, I think this way - If I do not plan out for sex, it will not happen. But I will try this out. I suspect I am projecting a lot of neediness in the way I am doing things now. The trick is to get to a place where you don't care if you have sex or not. You still have the ego attachment of being a guy who fucks. I don't know if you can skip this awkward and painful stage until you're shreddied and have more things in your life that give you joy. I think you may be right here. Most o…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 01:27 AM
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Have no fear, the overthinking police are here. Your awareness is good. Your dick probs are likely due to overthinking and not knowing a single thing about sex for any reason other than validation. Your e2 is prob fine. Pretend trt will do nothing for you except help with lifting. I overthought about my test and e2 also, the truth is I was overthinking and working myself into a frenzy and blaming it on e2. I bet you also plan ahead about having sex that day as in, I will try for sex tonight. You…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/23 11:19 PM
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Ff is still in his wife's frame and doing this entire thing for his wife's validation. That is why he's still having desire problems. He is divorce planning too soon, he hasn't gotten it yet and plan B: divorce the only solution he can come up with, aka his wife is the problem not him. He still has no idea what he wants in life. He is doing the same thing as I did, skipping step 1:develop a frame, and went and did level 2-5+. I'll read his history at some point and get back but it's as clear as …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/23 10:42 PM
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Covert contract not being fulfilled fast enough. Basing success on result of improved relationship. Failure to realize wife just being a normal woman and you cannot change that, you can just change how you interpret and react to it. It's fun. You still live in your wife's frame. You're frustrated and angry your wife isn't responding how you'd like.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/23 10:09 PM
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When you stop doing everything in hopes of building attraction, you will start to be attractive. Read all this stuff, file it away in your brain, implement it when it pops up, eventually it will become natural. Once you stop expecting and watching for results, they will come.
/r/askMRP19/10/22 05:53 PM
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This is hamstering to stay short term while you try to win her back long term. It's not worth it bro, strongly suggest you take the freedom and MAP single. If you decide to stay, prepare for your mental health to be challenged when you aren't seeing immediate results. Right now you are thinking all you have to do is MAP and life will be good, as if it is easy.
/r/askMRP02/08/22 01:34 PM
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You're so non-chalant about it. Going nuclear won't be a fmofy because you're still low value. She will tell you what you want to hear while still banging her bf. Save yourself the headache, gain yourself the self respect, just go, get the divorce stuff handled and nuke it.
/r/askMRP02/08/22 01:29 PM
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Did you know you had understood on your own or did you need MRP approved flair? It's not magic and it's pretty fuckin simple once it clicks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 01:20 AM
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You know how long, but you also know the method is solid for the guys it's meant for, and the post is providing value.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 12:53 AM
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I used to think journaling was going to be some key component to calming my thoughts down and learning to control my emotions. It wasn't for me. I think it actually slowed me down, kept me in my head too much. Just go do shit to improve and STFU to yourself. Your feelings and thoughts don't matter. If you have analysis paralysis about how to journal you probably need to chill out bigly.
/r/askMRP27/07/22 11:44 PM
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Lol
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 11:07 PM
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Doubt
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 11:06 PM
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Just because you don't understand it, doesn't make it wrong. Would you like me to explain it? Are you in the position of the guy this post was designed to help?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 10:39 PM
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Micro aggression phase, where you have mastered the art of being passive aggressive to really show your wife what's what.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 10:22 PM
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Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 10:22 PM
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Correct, that is the definition of DNGAF. You only care about that which you deem worthy of your cares. The state of IDGAF leads to being a fun, easy going, calm, happy guy that sees any problem as solveable, yes by either changing what you control (yourself) or accepting what you cannot. You don't worry about anything else because it doesn't matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 10:14 PM
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Follow the script in the post. This is a method for an intermediate guy who can't seem to figure it out. Dancing monkey mad because he views wife pussy as a reward. Gets fed up, decides to pursue his own best interests no matter what. That leads to frame. Becomes the reward himself. I find a lot of MRP vets forget what it's like to be stuck at various stages of this process, and I want to bridge that gap by providing a method for similarly stuck guys to break past it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 10:03 PM
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OYS 35 Putting it all together and shotgunning mental models Interesting event this week. Went thru my options, gave up on what wasn't working, went with something new. Overt frame shift. I had analyzed why I was angry, and thought about what it would take for me to not be angry. I stopped trying to run from my anger, stopped trying to suppress it, and EMBRACED IT. I used the anger to come up with what is an acceptable to me solution to my problem. Either my wife gets on board overtly with my vi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 11:49 PM
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Reframe: you're not getting left behind, you decided the current dynamic wasn't working for you and you don't want to devote any more of your time to this particular woman. I haven't read your post history but I get a sense you were hoping to MRP to keep your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 02:59 PM
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In other words, STFU and stop trying to explain the why's and how's of my thoughts. Just live my life. Not needing self hugs sounds like a great ideal state, just be secure. Thanks for that outlook, didn't even consider that was an option. I like the tip for emotional stability. Destructive anger, anger that I let control me. Constructive anger, anger I control and use as a tool for productive outcomes. You're right he's not dead. Maybe locked up in the basement is a better euphemism. I actually…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/22 01:25 PM
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Ahaha I'll put down the bottle.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 06:45 PM
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Lol. Life ain't as hard as I try to make it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 05:17 PM
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What is my anger trying to tell me? I think it was trying to tell me I was still not in my frame. I will keep a watch for that and recalibrate next time I feel anger.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 04:53 PM
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Smack to the face. You're right, that's a fucking gay habit I have, thinking a glimpse of the solution means I'm fixed. I will reframe from now on, I got a glimpse, I'm going to work on implementing it and here's how. I'm going to keep myself aware of generalizations and cut them out, rule 9 style. I love the idea of using the anger as a tool, vs fighting to eliminate it. Fuck that's amazing. What a reframe. Edit: I removed a generalization from this reply, I didn't even realize I was doing it. …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 04:37 PM
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I actually love myself now. K the answer (fuck, a glimpse of the solution thanks blarg) came to me overnight, and it lies in my codependent views on love and my lingering faggotry. I'm not codependent anymore, but I hadn't learned what to replace that with. The answer is self love. The bottom line is, it doesn't matter, she doesn't matter, live my life. Take that negative energy and turn it into positive energy for myself. Destructive anger instantly dissipated. It might not be an ideal past, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 01:19 PM
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It's faked with my wife because I'm angry with her. Her daily personality is fine, she's fun she's generally pretty sweet. When she's a harpy I handle it with STFU A&A or AM or leaving. I'm saying if I stop trying to force being fun around her, and just let it happen when I actually want to, maybe it will improve my anger. I am no victim here, my life is my fault. I am looking for solutions.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 12:10 AM
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My clowning with wife was caused by dancing monkey, it's not genuine a lot of the time. By allowing myself to be in my frame no matter what, I think I can get to genuine clowning. I soak other girls panties by clowning when it's genuine, it's just not typically genuine towards my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 11:51 PM
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I'm willing to explore this thought, and I've heard it before that it's not the affair. What do you think it might be if not the affair? Here's what I know, I was furious about the first instance of cheating, and furious at myself afterwards for being such a weak low value faggot that I stayed, which led to shitty mean behaviour towards wife, which led to 2nd much more serious affair, which I am stuck on. The first instance was caused by basic blue pill simp behaviour, I was obsessed with her du…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 11:43 PM
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OYS 34 36, 5'11 183lbs 12% navy BP 235x5 SQ315x5 DL 400x2 BR 215x5 OHP 125X5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLPx2 TRMx4 TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Gym/health A couple weeks left on cut, down to 12%. This is the percentage I start looking and feeling best at. After finding stable trt dose, I started ramping up into a test blast 3 weeks ago. Cutting is a lot easier, not losing any strength or muscle. Have had a co…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 09:50 PM
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I'm not qualified to give frame building advice, I'm still working on mine. What's working for me is remembering I am an individual. I'm not a husband, I'm not part of a couple. I have my own desires and wants and needs, and I don't need permission to get them met. If I want to do something, I do it. I arrange for childcare, and go do whatever the fuck I want. I've shifted from seeing my wife as one half of our couple, to another individual. I used to take her bad moods personally, and let them …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 08:30 PM
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STFU is a first step, A&A, tease her for bad moods. When my wife is in a bad mood, I smack her ass and if she reacts poorly I go do something more worth my time. You don't have a frame to hold, you have to build it first. Being worn out means you don't have frame. You don't need your wife or anyone to have fun. If she wants to be in a mood, go do something else solo or with others. Even on vacation. Funny, mine ALWAYS acts like a cow when we're in the car. She's like my kids, they know when I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 07:57 PM
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Why do you let her bad mood sour your day? How weak is your frame that she dictates whether you have a good time?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 07:38 PM
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Why do you hate yourself, what are the reasons? This is the #1 focus you should have, figuring it out and coming up with a plan to fix them. You can desperately work on mrp to get laid and spin your wheels for 1+ year, or you can skip all the bullshit and tackle the root of your problem. You will truly make no progress until you stop caring about your relationship and sex and figure this out.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 02:09 AM
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Yo fuck off that's my title
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 11:38 PM
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They're just tools I want to practice. I hear what you're saying. Be fit. Have fun. Be me. That's what I needed to find MRP for. So who's me? I'm finding out by relaxing into myself, being ok not needing anyone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 03:56 PM
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OYS 33 36, 5'11 187lbs 15% navy BP 235x5 SQ315x5 DL 365X5 BR 215x4 OHP 125X5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLPx2 TRMx4 TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Parenting with Love & Logic Going to take a less masturbatory route going forward. My biggest issue over the past year has been being too in my head, so I will be writing and focusing less on my thoughts and more on my actions, interactions, and my f…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 09:46 PM
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Man fuck them kids lol Good question.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 11:15 PM
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I've used TRT hallucinogenics and MRP as a crutch to fix my shit. The first thing that comes to mind about the pattern is that I'm trying to keep myself stuck, sabotaging myself. 1 month per year of marriage, so mrp standards. I have a habit of negative self talk and poor self image, so I'm trying to see myself as a failure instead of looking at my successes and building on them.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 02:53 AM
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Bro you said it, to do what I want when I want, and operating at a state of true self confidence and happiness. That's it. Everything I'm doing right now is to build my confidence, ability, and mental stability. I want to be unapologetically me. I'm exploring options to transition to a new career, because my career isn't what I want anymore. I've got wheels in motion to liquidate my assets and minimize my possessions, because I want more freedom of choice. Women, I want to fuck when I'm horny. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/22 11:35 PM
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Ya bro
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/22 01:43 PM
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I'm aware that I think my current reality is whatever I'm living in this moment, trust me I have been dealing with the swings for a long time. Very aware. There's understanding that if I shut up and ride it out it will change, and I get pumped when I notice I'm able to maintain better control. Don't know what you mean specifically about the worms under the rock and the human side comment, open to discussion about it. I don't understand how noticing when I try too hard I feel like a robot, and sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/22 04:19 AM
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I am not simply a witness. I am me, in charge of my thoughts and actions and life. I've been doing a lot lately. Will write about it in next OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/22 01:47 AM
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To live for myself. Just went through another serious depressive episode the last week, handled it well for once. Just STFU and kept chugging along til it went away, back in a good place mentally. Minimized any fuck ups, maintained steady progress with my goals. Goal is to stabilize and have control of myself. This is no longer about sex for me, and like I predicted I'm getting laid again with ease.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 10:49 PM
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Is your business the porn site
/r/TheRedPill07/06/22 10:36 PM
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32 36, 5'11 194lbs 17% navy BP 235x5 SQ315x5 DL 365X5 BR 215x4 OHP 125X5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLPx2 TRMx4 TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Power of Now, Parenting with Love & Logic, Day Bang What a ride whooo. Got my estrogen and progesterone levels back, they're fine. 3 more weeks and I'll get a full blood panel and will see what my doc thinks about my test levels. I'm not going to blame m…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 08:45 PM
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I'm actually here to fix myself now thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 11:25 PM
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31 36, 5'11 192lbs 17% navy BP 225x5 SQ315x5 DL 365X5 BR 215x4 OHP 125X5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLPx2 TRMx4 TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Power of Now, Parenting with Love & Logic Called my trt doc, got a requisition for an estrogen test. Going in Friday for bloodwork. I was taking 10mg/wk more than prescribed, I went back to my original dose and within 2 days felt more in control, more le…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 11:11 PM
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I understand what you're saying. Trying to do something to gauge how she reacts vs doing things differently and seeing how I like them.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 09:49 PM
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First thing I did was ask my doc for an estrogen test. I don't think it's a coincidence that my libido dropped off, I couldn't sleep, and I started feeling anxious n insecure and acting like a faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 10:34 PM
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Absolutely.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 12:36 PM
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He won't listen next time, it was an example of me being impatient with the kid I've taught poorly. I could have scooped him over more calmly and he wouldn't have bumped his head. Major part of my map is learning to parent my kids better, calmer, more loving vs using fear and physicality. It's a major drain on my self esteem, therefore I deemed it a failure and unattractive. My wife feels the same way, but that's not the reason it's important to me. I tried being more dominant with my wife, less…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 03:19 AM
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Because after attaining what I'd desperately wanted for the past decade, which was for my pedestalized wife to be attracted to me, I immediately fell back into my needy nice guy ways the second it started to fall off.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 09:13 PM
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30 36, 5'11 192lbs 17% navy BP 225x5 SQ315x5 DL 345X5 BR 215x4 OHP 125X5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLPx2 TRMx4 TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Power of Now, Parenting with Love & Logic What a fuckin failure of a week overall. Not a man who fucks this week. Good week in the gym, lifts are increasing. Haven't been very horny, have been feeling very off and needy. Have felt anxious. No morning woo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 05:18 PM
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Well I've also done 3, 4, 28, 36 and 44, but I've done similar things to 37 before, I like the non sexual displays of dominance/submission. That in itself is variety.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 06:31 PM
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Ok thanks for the tip dude
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 01:14 PM
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Thanks bro, finally getting some traction. I have made peace with it, yes. If I end the marriage in the future, it will be because I want to be single, not due to butthurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 01:10 PM
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29 36, 5'11 192lbs 17% navy BP 225x5 SQ315x5 DL 335X5 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLPx2 TRMx4 TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Power of Now Physical 2nd week of PHUL, got all the starting weights figured out. It's 4 sets per exercise, with power upper lower, and hypertrophy upper lower, so hitting muscle groups 2x/wk. I'm loving the added volume. Hit new pr for bench an…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 07:12 PM
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For DNGAF, think cool and unaffected vs I dislike you and don't care about you at all. Everything you reply is about her. Once you get out of her frame, you'll better understand what I'm telling you. It'll take time. Part my outlook is, I like to have fun. I'm playful and teasing and joking because I enjoy that dynamic with my social interactions. I laugh and joke with my bros. I laugh and joke and tease my wife. I don't do it for a specific goal of getting my wife to fuck. If I am being playful…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 10:51 PM
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Ahaha it's like talking to a less fucked up but equally dumb version of myself 9 months ago. Listen. You are trying too hard to impress your girlfriend. It's weak, and it poisons all your interactions with her. Stop caring about her. Have fun. Do your own thing. What if I were to tell you the key to making things work with current insignificant other, is to stop oscillating and just focus on getting yourself to the point where you wouldn't mind being single? That's where magic happens. You will …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 08:05 PM
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If you just focus on making yourself more attractive, something will change where you will think to yourself, "I actually wouldn't mind being single, there is a lot of variety available to me." It takes time. Just shut the fuck up about your girlfriend, to yourself, and to us. Do you even have any assets with her? Are you aware you are 100% on the dancing monkey routine still? It's hard to stop, I know. Figure out why you're with this woman still. No kids, not married. Most guys here have create…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 06:45 PM
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Funny you said that, new routine has DL from the floor
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 04:53 PM
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Complacency kills. Lots left to learn and incorporate. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 09:22 PM
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Jesus, was that me who wrote that?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 08:43 PM
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28 36, 5'11 185lbs 15% navy BP 235x3 SQ315x5 RDL 365X6 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRMx4 TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Power of Now Gym Switched my routine from Jim stoppani's shortcut to size to PHUL. Excited about the new routine, ready to put on some more size. Currently bulking, have decided I'm ok with getting a bit fatter this time, as trt should make my cu…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 08:00 PM
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But I really get it now lol. Op you are a mess. I know how hard it is to stop focusing on fixing your marriage but... stop focusing on fixing your marriage. Stop the dumb 911 threats. You probably don't have a clue how people should treat you, so telling you to imagine how a man would react to being treated this way will likely just confuse you. I know how you feel! Like you haven't got a single fucking clue on how to act, what to say, what to think. My advice is to focus on removing yourself fr…
/r/askMRP13/04/22 09:06 PM
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Man he can't football punt his wife come on.
/r/askMRP13/04/22 08:49 PM
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Solo, a buddy just got insurance so he'll come out. My ride to work is very twisty, cornering is an awesome sensation. I'm used to dirt bikes, much different.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 08:17 PM
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The Ed was years ago, have just lingering PE now. Ended up fucking a bunch this past week, maybe 5x? No PE. Just getting out of my head combined with the trt confidence helped, as I suspected. I've been reading the power of now, it's definitely helpful to get into the present moment. I like that advice about being aware of initiating for the right reasons. I bought a Ducati monster, it's a fucking blast. Ride it all the time, I'm hooked. I last oys 45 days ago, I'm fresh off a ban for saying Idg…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/22 08:23 PM
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Yea it was mostly ego to be honest.
/r/askMRP08/04/22 03:38 PM
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My take on aya, it's reprogramming your neural pathways with desired outcomes. You're not learning anything new, although you think you're learning some profound "truth". When you come back to reality, you must maintain those pathways by acting on the newly formed habits. It is way easier to act on those habits somehow. I can't explain how it works, but afterwards I feel no self doubt, I've had no stress or insecurity, and there has been a palpable reduction in my ego defense mechanisms. It's ac…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 09:47 PM
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That part was about me setting the narrative on my terms for my commitment. A bit excessively worded I agree. I would normally tell someone wanting to do ayahuasca to go into it with some knowledge of what you want to accomplish, but I don't think that's necessary to say to anyone red pilled.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 09:21 PM
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27 36, 5'11 183lbs 14% navy BP 235x3 SQ315x5 RDL 365X6 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRMx4 TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Power of Now 2 major things in my life lately. I did a 2 day ayahuasca ceremony 3 weeks ago. I went into it with a massive ego, and all the stuff I've read over the last year. I wasn't sure how it worked, but was told to go into it with intention…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 03:33 PM
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I was struggling with this for awhile. I deleted the keylogger I'd installed, and for awhile struggled with not being able to check up on her. Eventually I stopped wondering and worrying. I worked on getting myself to a place mentally where I wouldn't be devastated if she did cheat. I would still be upset, but I will survive it. The way I got here was to focus more on building my own life up, thereby remembering what it was like to be single. It was fucking awesome being single, doing fun shit w…
/r/askMRP07/04/22 02:47 PM
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Going through a similar process right now, and I got similar results alongthereeds. Good info here.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 04:28 PM
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This is amazingly concise and accurate.
/r/askMRP17/03/22 03:53 PM
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If your wife is unwilling to watch the toddler herself, I insist you divorce her. You're a grown man who isn't allowed to leave his house for social activities. Think about that. You think you're in prison. You have the key...
/r/askMRP04/03/22 05:41 AM
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I'm on day 6 of this new mentality after hitting my mental "enough is enough, this isn't working" point last Tuesday. Everyone's advice has been to NGAF about my wife, focus on my own self interests, I've gotten myself to that point recently. I have been open this entire time about having it seem like a light switch, back and forth, high and low. There is no lying.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 03:05 PM
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I think DNGAF is an important starting step. It took me almost a year to reach it. Now that IDGAF, I'm free to just be. I can have fun with game and Kino and not care about the reaction I get. I can make fun of my wife and not care if she's pissy. I can say no and not care what other people think. I can focus on myself and let the marriage fail if it's going to fail. DNGAF is freeing me from butthurt and validation seeking. It doesn't make me attractive, it just stops me from being as unattracti…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 11:24 PM
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The sleep thing happens when I get into a dry spell and start getting multiple rejections in a row, my thoughts start racing about how I can't get laid, I'm a loser I'm unattractive. The flip flop on off thing has been happening for 6+ months. It's because I base my self worth on how my wife feels about me. Working on figuring out how to stop that, but struggling to consistently get it right. I usually get enough sleep, but I still get into these tailspins.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 05:43 AM
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This is helpful. I have not internalized it, I have just told it to myself in an effort to convince myself. I will try the exercises you listed. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 03:40 AM
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That is accurate. I'm re-listening to rational male right now actually. Damage done by my mother leaving. I have looked to my wife to feel like I'm loveable. I have been trying hard to learn to get that from myself. Some days I succeed, but when she ups her girl game I fall back to feeling insecure and scared she'll leave. I'm speaking historically here, right now I am ON and feel like the prize, and solely focused on what I need to do (build frame, get more comfortable with game, building abund…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 02:37 AM
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What do you do when you start getting into an emotional tailspin? What are your methods to prevent the spiral? I know what my issues are. I just flip flop between on and off.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 08:47 PM
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Frame and game. Need to work on it. When I'm on, I have frame and game and prize mentality. A week of rejections and it goes away, and it's back to her being my prize. A decade of having her pedestalized is a long standing dynamic to shift. Why do you say objectively there's zero chance she's not already below me in SMV? 30yrs old w 2 kids? I need to internalize what you're saying. I've started seeing her without wife goggles, she's no longer the 19 yr old knockout I had in my mind. She is still…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 08:46 PM
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Not familiar with usefulwalks withdrawal thing, didn't pop out at me in his posts. Assuming he just went full roommate mode with his wife? My method is more going to be, don't care about her perception of me. If sex was always on tap for you (I've never had that with a girlfriend, only fuck buddies who I was better looking than) why did you get a divorce, did you just not want to be married anymore? My marriage, the entire time, my wife had much higher SMV. I've always been good looking but prob…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 07:26 PM
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Killing desparation to me means, I want to get laid but I don't need to get laid. Not focusing on getting laid means, backing off on the validation seeking sex. Be ok with a dry spell, stop trying for sex for the purpose of ending the dry spell. I've been hyper focused on getting laid for ego reasons. What do you suggest I replace those thoughts with? I've got looks down, I need to work on frame and game. Focusing on getting laid is causing me to act like a fag, putting me in tailspins where I c…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 06:06 PM
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I agree with this, it resonates. I don't know how to help my mind and body figure it out. This is deeply ingrained stuff in my psyche, my frame starts building but crumbles with fears of abandonment, which shows up as a fear of being unattractive. I'm basing my attractiveness/success on whether my wife finds me attractive, which I rationally know is incorrect and fucking me over. My mind tells me if she doesn't find me attractive, I'm not attractive yet. Then I act unattractive. What do you mean…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 05:57 PM
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A pattern I've noticed regarding my highs/lows. When I'm not around wife I am firing on all cylinders, happy, easy going, living my life, confident, playful. When I'm around wife, I focus on her and trying to get her to be attracted to me and fuck me. I freeze up and become awkward, analyzing everything I'm saying or how I'm acting. She reacts negatively to that cuz it's obviously off-putting, and I get into a tailspin until the next day when I snap myself out of it, see myself in a mirror, feel…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 05:48 PM
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People say go fuck your wife, go get some enthusiastic fucking. It's easy to get laid. I tell myself it's easy to get laid, I've fucked a bunch of girls before it ain't that hard. Except, I'm on a 2 week long dry spell and feel like it might have well been years. Once that desparation kicks in, it's pussy repellent. I have killed my desperation like pook says, I'm gonna stop focusing on getting laid and I'll prob start getting laid.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 05:38 PM
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My neediness is driven by concerns of abandonment yes. I was making strong progress on squashing it, finding out she cheated on me reset my progress. It comes and goes, the more she pulls away the more needy I get. When I make myself scarce, she comes to me. My biggest hurdle is consistency in the face of multiple rejections. After a week of not fucking my need for validation sex gets out of control. It's been a week or more, I don't really keep track anymore because I found it unproductive, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 04:01 PM
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I appreciate the comment. The pressure has to go. The fact it's been a year of this and I'm getting laid maybe once a week and am still struggling so much has weighed on my ego. 1 year I see a lot of guys who've crushed it, and I'm still feeling like I'm in month 2. I need to let that shit go, it's keeping me stuck. I need to let go of a lot of things.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 03:22 PM
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It's a good book so far. Your self talk writes pathways in your brain. You can reprogram your brain, which is all the mental models we're working on here. Knowing that it's legit, based in science, let's me know it is a real thing, therefore I'll believe it, and start focusing more on it. On my way to work this morning I had a moment where I realized all the work I've done to this point. A-ha, I am motivated. I am driven. I am focused on myself. I am successful. I am attractive. I am confident. …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 02:45 PM
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I've tried the good ideas but I have to try them from a place of calmness. I have a very active ruminating mind. The speaking to yourself book's premise is, the thoughts and beliefs you tell yourself are what programs your pathways. If you tell yourself something enough times, your subconscious will make it happen via your beliefs and attitude. I think if I focus on the bad thoughts purposefully, it will cement them further. I like the outside the box idea. I am going to purposefully focus on po…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 03:39 AM
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This rule didn't last very long. I'm reading a book on self talk to reprogram my mind to think positively.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:05 PM
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25 36, 5'11 180lbs 12% navy BP 235x3 SQ315x5 RDL 365X6 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Power of Now, What You Say When You Talk To Yourself. Physical Lifting is on lock, diet is on lock. I am physically confident. Doing maintenance for another week, then lean bulk. My before and after pics are wild. I'm continuing with lifting and di…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 08:34 PM
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I couldn't keep up the act. I puked on her, I got needy and whiny. I really set myself backwards. The end of my cut, I felt like a woman with zero testosterone. Ive ended my cut, feeling good again, my mood is level, I'm motivated and driven. Sexual tension is increasing. When I stop giving affection and trying so hard, she's coming to me. Same old story, I need to chill the fuck out and focus on myself, STFU, and STFU to myself consistently for weeks and months vs a few days. I got some crazy s…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 08:56 PM
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No. I fucked my progress up and am in a dead bedroom.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 08:37 PM
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Ok noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 12:22 AM
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OYS 24 I'm taking a week off. I'll continue lifting, meditating, and not think about anything related to mrp, alpha, beta, being attractive, etc. Just be. I'm trying too hard and overthinking. I'm already attractive, I need to slow down so I can not be unattractive. My physical journey is well underway. It's time I focus on mental gains. Catch you boys in a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 09:12 PM
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Man you are so right. I have to see myself as the man I want to be, perception becomes reality. Fuck negativity. My new rule, no more negative thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 02:08 AM
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Since I wrote that OYS I've actually just been doing shit and thinking less, doing shit is helping me to think more positively about myself. Hey I did that. Hey I decided that. Gotten laid a couple times, the sex thing nbd. Last night I walked away from starfish, wasn't upset. Got laid about an hour after, nbd. I'm doing alright. Thanks for your input, you are right.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 09:26 PM
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I had to self flagellate for a bit to be realistic with myself and my ego. When I attack my goals from a place of humility I get further ahead, I've spent my entire adult life pretending I'm the shit. I get what you're saying. This was me taking stock of where my pedestal sits, in relation to where I want to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 05:30 PM
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So what are you confused about then?
/r/askMRP27/01/22 11:42 PM
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Why are you sexually unattracted to your non fat non ugly wife? She boring as fuck in bed? Can't lead her to be your slut? What's the issue.
/r/askMRP27/01/22 11:25 PM
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That's rad she's ok with anything. She sounds super cool.
/r/askMRP27/01/22 11:17 PM
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Ahahah
/r/askMRP27/01/22 10:49 PM
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I'm not trying to argue or be a dink. Remember we are discussing how to develop outcome independence from being outcome dependent. How can you develop outcome independence from a scenario where the outcome was your preference? I think you have to develop it in scenarios where your preference isn't the outcome. My ego isn't involved in thinking I had it rougher, I'm saying the situation played out differently for us. I appreciate your input and what you're trying to teach me, and I see your point…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 03:53 PM
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By reactive nature, do you mean the emotional ups and downs they go through? Right now? For next oys? For next time I get stuck in my head? The majority of my focus is going to be on finding activities to do so I'm not stuck at home and in my head trying to work on my relationship, and being a better father.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 11:55 PM
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Sure, I get that concept. I'm saying I think you had it easy to come to that realization given what she DID tell you. I'm not sure your thought process would have been the same had she admitted yes, I fucked someone. I think building outcome independence is easier when the outcome is the one you wanted.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 07:57 PM
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Meditated. Started listening to the Power of Now audiobook. Remembered I am in charge of my life, and planned some activities with my friends. I remembered that I have more fun when I organize an event, so I organized an event. Worked on internalizing that I am attractive and fun, if I calm my crazy mind I will be higher value and more attractive. Played with my kids with more presence. All of these things helped me to control my mind, and all of them came from within myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 07:54 PM
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It's called Facing Codependence, similar to Codependent No More. I'm not sure if I'm codependent or not, this book ought to provide some insight into that. I found this list and it I seem to check the boxes, so I'm sure at the very least I will learn some helpful information from the book: Difficulty experiencing appropriate levels of self-esteem. Difficulty setting functional boundaries. Difficulty owning our own reality. Difficulty acknowledging and meeting our own needs and wants and being in…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 05:26 PM
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23 36, 5'11 176lbs 12% navy BP 235x3 SQ315x5 RDL 365X6 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Power of Now Mental I've been trying to be mrp Chad so fucking hard the last 10 mos. I didn't like my identity, so I threw the baby out with the bathwater. There's nothing authentic about me anymore. I attacked mrp like a nice guy, trying to do it …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 03:39 PM
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Mental masturbation hard at work. You're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 05:03 PM
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I get caught up in the extensive psychoanalysis. I've been thinking lately I should ignore it, file it as either mental masturbation or stuff that's way beyond where I'm at, and just focus on the basics of self improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 08:57 PM
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I'll write the agreement out. I have been recording conversations, I've read RCs guide. I won't cheat going forward, I don't need the validation anymore. Whether she does, that's another story. The history is pretty fucked up. I'll figure it out. Thanks dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 08:27 PM
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Funny you say that, I was just talking with a friend who's been on trt for a few years, and told him I'm going to get my levels checked and look into getting on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 08:23 PM
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Yes, I talked to a lawyer about my situation. We are common law, no paperwork needs to be signed. The child support is calculated, I found out from my mortgage broker how much I can add to my mortgage if I want to offer to buy her out, if not I sell house and it's 50/50, custody is automatic 50/50. I took the parenting after separation course to learn to keep things amicable. I've had my eye on properties I'd be able to afford after. She finishes school in May which would eventually reduce my ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 02:16 PM
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I am still doing the stay plan is the go plan. The way I handled this was for me to put my anger and resentment out of my mind while I continue to spar. This summer when I sell my house is going to be the time I really sit down with myself and decide. Not afraid to lose some assets, the ironclad frame comment meant if I end up divorcing her in the future at least I'll have had a sparring partner for awhile longer. Her behaviour didn't influence my actions, she actually handled this worse than I …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 12:39 PM
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22 36, 5'11 178lbs 13% navy BP 235x3 SQ315x5 RDL 365X6 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 11yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently rereading TWOTSM, Saving a Low Sex Marriage Cut is going great. Down to 13%. Abs showing. Veins coming out. Going down to 10% this time, then lean bulk. Maintaining my strength at the gym. Haven't changed routine much at all, enjoying the addition of weigh…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 06:34 AM
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I keep thinking the solution is to set another boundary but that's probably just more hamstering and accepting bad behaviour.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 07:52 PM
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I revisited this. It seems to me like she told you what you wanted to hear, and you convinced yourself it was true. You got the easiest scenario to deal with. I wonder how it would have differed for you had she said yes, I cheated. I identified with your thought processes.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 06:29 PM
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I got the bike on Friday, holy fuck. Unreal.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/22 04:11 PM
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Is Brad a beta? George seems like a beta too, all his interviews say I spoke with my wife and we decided
/r/askMRP13/01/22 08:01 PM
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I'm still benefiting from the arrangement. I'm making serious progress with my map and my mindset. I'm finding the added challenge useful. If she stops adding value to my life, it's an option to leave her. I'm on extra hard mode and making progress. I'm working on a potential exit plan, plan B.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 06:24 PM
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I want to focus on myself right now. If I decide to leave this summer, I will make a plan and execute. I've got everything ready to walk, I'm mentally prepared. My boundary regarding the social media stalking? It triggers my ego, but do I really care? At the end of the day, if she wants to cheat on me with a fat guy, have fun. He looks like shit. It would be a downgrade for her, and I can go spin plates. She's acting the way I want her to act. I'm acting the way I want to act. I'm having fun, I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 06:18 PM
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Thanks 3kl, I have dm'd with dirtynuke and am reading through his OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 11:48 PM
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I am starting to love myself yes. I would say I'm at 2/10, coming from -8. There is real progress happening internally. Whether it's mrp kosher or not, I don't care. I'm starting to feel like I deserve to live my own life and get my needs met. I probably wouldn't have had this realization at this time had you not inquired.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 05:24 PM
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1) There was some time well spent, and some time dwelling and up in my head. I am a person with emotions, and I think it's ok for me to sit with my emotions and try to work them out as long as I don't act on them in the ways I don't want to act on them (impulsively, without control, without thought). I think I will probably have another round of processing my thoughts on her cheating, and I will most likely reach the same conclusion. During that 4 weeks I lifted religiously, continued eating pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 03:05 PM
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Writing about an affair for 4 weeks is not unreasonable. It has been a struggle to come to terms with it for sure. I am not a victim, I brought my situation on myself through my years of pre RP behaviour. I wasn't just a nice guy pushover, I was straight up emotionally and verbally abusive at times. I cheated. I was such a an insufferable prick that nobody could stand to be around me. There are costs to that behaviour. That is simply me owning it. What I want out of life, is to love myself. It's…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 01:37 PM
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"the keylogger was keeping me in her frame" "you've been in her frame" Yes, you might be autistic. It's been established that my issue is not one of physical attraction. It's more mental and emotional. Am I autistic? I sure feel like it sometimes, but no. I am emotionally and mentally an idiot for sure. Learning to love myself is a struggle on the daily. It's why I'm here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 01:19 PM
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21 36, 5'11 180lbs 14% navy BP 235x3 SQ315x5 RDL 365X6 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP Fuccfiles rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently rereading TWOTSM, Saving a Low Sex Marriage 60DoD Social Life I am inviting new friends to do activities vs just hanging out shooting the shit. I'm inviting the individual friends I've been making to hang out in groups together, essentially doing what I us…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 05:45 AM
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I deleted it. It was hampering my progress and stealing my focus. It was becoming an obsession. I was checking it daily, and basing my mood whether she'd looked at his page or not that day. I installed it to see if she was fucking him and lying about it, I proved she wasn't. The disruptive anger really needs to be dealt with.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/22 06:13 PM
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OYS 20 36, 5'11 180lbs 15% navy BP 235x3 SQ315x5 RDL 365X6 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Saving a Low Sex Marriage, Manipulated Man youtube 60DoD week 6 Finance Discussing some investment strategies with a mortgage broker friend. It's made me realize I can start small. I have set up all payments on auto-pay. I opened a rewards visa and will …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 05:00 AM
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My flirting fucking sucks. This is all great advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/22 04:09 AM
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Thank you man I love both of these pieces of advice you guys have given me, this all falls under my realization that I've been trying too hard. Trying too hard with sex! With the relationship, with getting validation, blablabla. The ED was 100% mental also. It was the pressure. For the rest of the week I'm going to remind myself to live in the moment and have fun. I've done it before, I'll do it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 10:48 PM
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God damn I didn't catch that one. I'm going to fuck better, for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 10:33 PM
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Just downloaded SGM last week, I will read it next. I have read TWOTSM but will reread the sex bits. The unclenching and breathing is solid advice. Thanks for the bone. I'm going to fuck her better. I've been allowing her to lead our sex life.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 10:24 PM
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It's not the only sex I want to be having, that's for sure. You've given me something to try, and I will try it. When you say session, do you mean including foreplay? I bust within 10 mins, often less. As soon as she starts moaning and squirming I have to bust. Before the dead bedroom I was in, I was stopping and starting, was working pretty well. Busting fast has been an issue ever since an ED episode like 7 years ago. I guess I have been accepting sub par sex since it's not what I want, just t…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 09:58 PM
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Not long, 5-7 minutes, sometimes 3.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 09:36 PM
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I definitely realize she isn't WITH ME, or RIGHT NOW. I am too unattractive for it RIGHT NOW. I do believe I will be in the future, but there is also a good chance I will never be attractive enough for this situation with this woman. This woman has seen me be a whiny beta fag for way too long for a few months and some working out to change that perception, I do see some positive changes though. 1). I will keep this in mind, especially if starfish happens. It IS hot sex, I can't call it subpar by…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 09:12 PM
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Oys 18 will clear that up, but in a nutshell I was making decisions while in an emotional state, constantly. In the end it doesn't matter, I'm fixing me, not my marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 04:21 PM
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OYS 19 36, 5'11 183lbs 15.5% navy BP 235x3 SQ315x5 RDL 365X4 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube sidebar series Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Saving a Low Sex Marriage, Manipulated Man youtube Christmas Week Have been able to maintain my calm emotional state for 2 weeks now, actually a big deal for me... No tailspins. I've noticed some complacency due to getting laid again, which I've been a…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 02:41 AM
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Thanks. I definitely expect ups and downs. I feel more comfortable with them, knowing I can handle it. Knowing I can handle it is the key.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 11:41 PM
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Yes.
/r/askMRP22/12/21 10:43 PM
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OYS 18 36, 5'11 183lbs 15.5% navy BP 235x3 SQ315x5 RDL 355X4 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube POOK Preventative Medicine 6 pillars of self esteem Currently reading Saving a Low Sex Marriage 60DoD week 4 Style Throwing out old clothes I won't wear anymore, dumpy trashy stuff. I bought some blundstones for winter boots, some nice sweaters to wear over the holidays. Got new boxer shorts. 60DoD week 5 Game Been experimenting w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 08:51 PM
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You're in your head too much. I have a similar issue so I can recognize it easily. Stfu to yourself. Calm down. At least I don't stop working out when I'm feeling fucked up.
/r/askMRP13/12/21 09:55 PM
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I love challenges and created one hell of a challenge for myself! I'm going to tell her if she cheated she can come clean and I will forgive anything up until now. If she wants to choose this guy over me, I will help her pack. Anything going forward, one whisper that she's talking to him, anything other than deleting him, ghosting him, and never responding to his msgs, I'm gone. I am ok if she admits to cheating or not. I care about from this moment forward. I'm going to live my life on my terms…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 03:43 AM
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She doesn't know it's installed. It's for me to verify if she was telling the truth about the communication/non-relationship with latest guy or not. I can look past the old cheating. I will not accept current cheating.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 02:25 AM
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It's not a rule, but that's not what I want
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 01:00 AM
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Understand that completely. Need to rethink how I set and enforce boundaries. No talking to other men or I'll divorce you, oh you talked to him and I might not actually divorce you. Weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 12:05 AM
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Settle the fuck down and take emotion out is like asking a dog not to drool at this point lol. I laid out a solid idea in response to blarg, I will sit on it and make sure it's what I want. If it is, I will write out a plan that aligns with that idea. A tangible plan. Who is this DTC I keep hearing about, I cannot find his profile.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 11:37 PM
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Life my life on my terms to reach my goals, stop fearing divorce. Focus solely on my personal goals, on me. I don't need to decide one way or the other, if either happens fine, continue moving towards my goals. Stop being afraid of being cucked. I'll find out one way or another if I'm being cucked. Stop being afraid of failing. I can only fail if I quit working on my goals. If my marriage fails, it's irrelevant, because it's just one part of my life, not in the top 9 either. Stop caring. Have fu…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:46 PM
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I should have phrased it as, I can look past the prior stuff. You're right. I do care. I understand what you're saying. I have been looking to get validation and reinforcement of what I should do from you guys. I've been asking what should a "red pilled man" do. The answer is, what he wants to do. I will decide on my own. I just haven't been able to trust my decisions yet. I guess that's just part of being your own mental point of origin. Making a decision, and living with it, and not being afra…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:14 PM
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Correct on all. I was angry and made a decision before giving myself time to process it and think of what I want. I was afraid of being judged by mrp, and will admit I have a concern she will see me as weak if I don't enforce my boundary. "this man is such an optionless beta he'll put up with cheating and talking to other men" Or maybe I'm just a pussy who doesn't have the balls to follow through? I do not trust my decisions. They seem to change with my mood. One thing I know. I feel 100% at eas…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 08:01 PM
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I don't care about the past cheating, I don't care about the dick pic during separation or if she fucked during separation. I do care if she's currently cheating, it is not worth my effort or time if she's in another relationship. I'm still evaluating. I've read the woman chooses the relationship. What does this look like, to me it would look like I just do what I want, and she can either try to be in a relationship with me or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 07:22 PM
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OYS 17 36, 5'11 187lbs 17% navy BP 225x5 SQ315x5 RDL 335X5 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube POOK Preventative Medicine Currently reading 6 pillars of self esteem 60DoD week 3 Hygeine. My Hygeine is pretty on point, I implemented Hygeine tips from reading last year's DoD. Something I can do to improve further, find a new cologne. I like mine but I don't love it. I'll go to a dept store and try some new scents. OK. What a we…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 05:20 PM
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Whoa.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 03:27 PM
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There's guys that don't shower daily?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/21 02:53 AM
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Great point thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/21 05:08 PM
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Those things are some of the things I want. They're for me, for my self esteem. Lifting is my outlet, tangible goals and measurable improvement.
/r/askMRP03/12/21 05:07 PM
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If I didn't do anything related to sex for a month, I would think I'm a fag who can't get laid. That is poor thinking. Realistically, if I didn't do anything related to sex, I would be doing things for myself and discovering who I am and what I enjoy. I am afraid that I will always be a needy, validation seeking, repulsively unattractive failure. I want to replace that thought with, it's ok if I fail, for I will keep growing and learning and improving until I reach my goals and truly love myself…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 04:36 PM
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What I took from rockstarsheep was an example of how to treat myself, and how to talk to myself. I found that helpful, I need to learn to be kind to myself, to treat myself with respect and love. To remind myself I am capable of meeting my goals despite extreme challenges.
/r/askMRP02/12/21 04:29 PM
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I had that very thought click for me on my drive to work today.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 03:09 PM
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Full disclosure. I cheated. I got a drunken bj from a chick with no effort put in on my part this summer. I lied about it in my oys for opsec reasons, I didn't want to risk her finding my reddit acct. My container sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 01:48 AM
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Ahh are you basically saying acta non verba? Deciding is talk, shut up and enforce the boundary I set. I have an appointment with a lawyer for Friday and am also getting some free general legal information in the next few days.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 10:34 PM
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Doing the exercises in 6 pillars of self esteem, continue working on my day game to build abundance, continue to add new interesting hobbies and activities. Keep bodybuilding. Doing the NMMNG bfe. Finding a new therapist to work through my codependency issues.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 10:28 PM
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Is fixing myself and divorcing a cheating wife mutually exclusive? I know what she finds unattractive. Why do you think I need to stay with a cheater to fix myself?
/r/askMRP01/12/21 10:24 PM
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Is not part of being a man, enforcing your boundaries? I made a boundary, no texting other men inappropriately. She did.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 10:11 PM
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What do you think is the right door? I am going to continue to heal myself. I'm not quitting mrp. I cannot respect myself if I don't stand up for myself.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 10:07 PM
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I'm pretty sure the anger comes from the utter lack of self respect and self esteem I have, and it manifests as trying to control everything and everyone with anger, since I can't control my own emotions and life. I have shifted my focus to building my self esteem in order to work through this. I will include it in my next oys, thank you for bringing this to my attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 05:25 PM
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I was such a mate guarding beta that I whined about going too, and she let me come. It was pitiful, I deserved to be cheated on. Doesn't mean I will accept that of me, she chose to fuck someone else.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 05:22 PM
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What's next is living my life for me, on my terms. Making decisions that I want to make, deciding what's best for my needs. In this situation, I've made the decision, what's best for me is ending this codependent relationship. I have been wanting something to exist for 10 years, forcing a relationship instead of listening to my gut and mind, and allowing one to form that satisfies my needs and wants. I put myself last, ignored what I knew was wrong, and I alone caused my self esteem issues. I wi…
/r/askMRP01/12/21 04:32 PM
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I am going to enforce the boundary I made. Hard boundary, texting other men inappropriately. I even made this boundary with this guy in mind. She agreed, she completely ignored it, therefore I am ending the relationship. Also physically cheating years ago, yes I was a beta loser, no I didn't deserve to be cheated on. I'm calling lawyer today, we are common law so I need to figure out the rules, and come up with a suitable exit plan. She doesn't know exactly what's happening yet, although she cle…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 04:04 PM
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End the relationship, and live my life.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 02:16 PM
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Absolutely correct on my fears. I have decided to end the relationship.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 01:54 PM
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Bad case of oneitis, she's very very attractive and I'm afraid I won't be able to fuck other women as attractive. That is the basis of my oneitis. She's more attractive than I am. I am catching up. My past extracurricular activities were beta as fuck, a revenge fuck because she made out with a guy and I was angry at myself instead of dumping her. Kissing other girls cuz I was butthurt she wasn't loving me the way I wanted, or getting fucked by a random dude in Vegas. She doesn't know about any o…
/r/askMRP01/12/21 01:53 PM
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I really appreciate your wisdom here. I'm going to sleep. Will respond fully tomorrow.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 12:53 PM
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I've beaten myself up for years. This week I have been focusing on improving my self esteem. Have you read my oys or something? You seem to know my history. I will check out John Bradshaw thank you. I definitely have unresolved past problems, I have been going through the process of resolving them via therapy, mrp, books, mindfulness. I don't think I can help her discover her motivations. For my own growth, I have to end the codependency and move on. What you wrote sounds like a good goal for th…
/r/askMRP01/12/21 12:31 PM
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Fucking whore sure did. Thanks. I know what I have to do.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 12:23 PM
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Reached that conclusion 2 minutes ago. My self respect demands it. Thank you.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 12:22 PM
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Thank you for the tough love. I'll continue to work daily on my shit.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 12:08 PM
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Continuing to text a guy she has sent pics of her asshole to while she's trying to reconcile our marriage is inappropriate. I don't care if it's non sexual. It's frequent. I told her that's a hard boundary, she's still doing it. Yes, a lot of times I feel like I'm playing the role of a red pilled man. This shit is hard, I'm still here plugging away.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 12:04 PM
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Line in the sand is also no texting dudes inappropriately. Frequent contact with this other guy during current attempt shows she doesn't respect me. I also told myself after the first time she cheated, if I ever found out for sure she cheated again, she's gone.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 11:51 AM
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Why? I'm not understanding your point here.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 11:10 AM
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Ok I posted this to amrp but wrong place for it, I'll post it here since you guys know my situation better. Something wasn't sitting right with me for a long time now. I checked her phone tonight while she slept, found a convo with her sister. In it was discussion about how a guy from a Vegas trip 6 years ago (that I was on with her!) messaged her recently and she feels so much guilt and shame over what she did with him. She went out with girlfriends til 5am, trickle truthed me that she went to …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 11:08 AM
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There are a few approved guys who will see this and do know my OYS history. I should put this in my OYS.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 11:02 AM
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By implement dread I meant, have activities to build a fun life, dread level 3. Not implement active dread, just continue building a fun interesting life.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 10:13 AM
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Do you have any suggestions on how to implement some dread in that situation? It is fucking lame. I'm in a small town with 2 bars and not a lot going on in winter. Mostly outdoors activities during nicer seasons. Not a lot of clubs to join that don't require the shot. I can't play indoor sports, bjj, hockey, curling, anything without the shot. Point 2 is well taken. Point 3 I put to use already. Made a joke, no laugh, no biggie. Thanks. Braindead carefree meathead comment was funny. I really oug…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 12:11 AM
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I'll go lift in my funks when they happen during non-work hours, a lot of times I'm at work in my head. I go for walks at work, it works. I'll try focusing on STFU to myself. Sounds like a solid tactic. Keep going. I know the key is to stop caring about the relationship, stop worrying about my wife. I can recite this stuff easily, I can see it and provide that advice to others. I haven't internalized it to myself, I trip on my own dick. OK, that's helpful to understand that my journey is irrelev…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 11:42 PM
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Why in the world does the state of your relationship matter to you becoming a HVM, or whatever vision you have of yourself? I have it in my head that without figuring my shit out before ending this relationship, I'd just do the exact same shit with another woman. Realistically I would go back to plating women and staying single, that's what I was doing when I met my wife, but at some point I would most likely get oneitis again and be in the same position I am now. Yes I agree about having my sel…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 11:31 PM
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OYS 16 36, 5'11 187lbs 18% navy BP 225x5 SQ315x5 RDL 335X5 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube POOK Preventative Medicine Currently reading 6 pillars of self esteem Coming off a 2 week ban. Lifting Sticking with my program but modifying a tiny bit. I will do 11 and 8 rep sets for the next month only. Eating 3200 cals. Seems to be close to my ideal amount for lean bulk, will use this as starting point for next bulk session. St…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 08:50 PM
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This is my problem also. Helpful to read.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 04:33 PM
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After cutting to 5'11 172lbs 13% bf, I have been "lean bulking" for 3 months. I am currently 186lbs and 18% fat. This is not a lean bulk, I am getting fat. I am focused on building muscle so against my desire for abs I am going to continue to bulk through winter. I find cutting fat fucking easy. I've dropped my calories to 3200 to slow the fat gain. I use MFP to track everything. Something to add, multivitamins and more vegetables. I will also add neck exercises 3x a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 05:45 PM
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I'm in. I've been running Jim stoppanis shortcut to size for 7 months. I need to freshen it up, I have started adding drop sets and rest pauses. The heavy lifting days seem to keep causing injuries, currently have tendonitis in my left elbow. I am taking advantage of spotters on every chest day which is helping me go to failure. I am considering dropping the 15 Rep and 3 Rep days, focusing on 11 and 8 rep sets for more hypertrophy.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 05:38 PM
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I lost 7% of bf(22lbs) in 2.5 months on a 500 cal deficit. Zero cardio. Normal. Ragnar 700 cals a little much if you want to minimize muscle loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 04:45 PM
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OYS 15 36, 5'11 184lbs 14% navy BP 225x5 SQ315x5 RDL 315X6 BR 205x5 Arnold press 140x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids NMMNGx4 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube POOK Preventative Medicine Currently on Untethered Soul audio book and WISNIFG reread, HOA's OYS history, MRP top 100 posts. Scale is continuing to move up, although now its going too fast. I believe the weight gain stall was due to stress, and now that I've been able to distance myself from the emotional outbursts, I can gain again…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 08:53 PM
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Are you accurately tracking all your calories using MFP? I'm not sure about the IF, I had fantastic success with eating throughout the day, maintaining proper macros, and a 500 cal deficit. I was the same starting bf, but 5'11 and 190lbs and I went with 2400 cals. The fat fell off me. Something isn't adding up. Edit I did the math, you should be eating 2400 cals also. Don't add anything for workout days. I'd knock off the IF and just eat throughout the day. Are you tracking macros? You should be…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 05:55 PM
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Will let others handle the rest, but your weight and bf has basically stayed the exact same the entire 73 weeks. 6' 177lbs and 17% fat is still skinny fat. It's been over a year dude. Also it sounds like hysterical bonding after your convo.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 03:38 PM
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Doing dread is how you get the flair Rambo retard ahaha
/r/askMRP07/11/21 05:35 PM
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These posts continue to solidify the concepts of "she doesn't matter" and AWALT for me. They are literally the same post over and over. They're the same as my posts. Sidebar lift STFU has taken on new meaning after 9 months of seeing the same posts. STFU about your wife while on reddit is also part of STFU. She doesn't matter. Your marriage doesn't matter, you're unattractive and needy. Sidebar lift STFU until you're not. I'd prob just get a divorce in your situation, you have zero relationship.…
/r/askMRP07/11/21 02:27 PM
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Solid point about the oak and not keeping others emotions in check. Joked was the wrong term, I stated it, but it doesn't change your point and I understand. Appreciate the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 01:54 AM
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At 147lbs and 9% bf you definitely should be bulking. Nice work on getting so lean, now put some size on.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 01:19 AM
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Thanks for pointing that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 01:13 AM
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OYS 14 36, 5'11 182lbs 14% navy BP 225x5 SQ315x5 RDL 315X6 BR 205x5 Arnold press 140x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube POOK Preventative Medicine Currently on Untethered Soul audio book and NMMNG reread, and HOA's OYS history. I went on a 4 day hunting trip with a friend of mine this past week. Weather conditions were terrible, 10" of snow, rain, more snow, fog, -10c. Had a blast roughing it. Didn't get any deer, learned a lot from my buddy, and got…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 11:34 PM
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I will read your OYS horns thanks for the suggestion. I definitely struggle to shut the fuck up. It has been torture of the mind. Did you attach your self worth to your wife at one point? I will read about it in OYS. What you describe in the last paragraph is exactly how I feel when I'm "on". I need to figure out how to stay "on".
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 12:49 AM
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Thank you. Simplifying things that I over-complicate.
/r/askMRP27/10/21 12:46 AM
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I made a phone call to start the legal consult process, and will do what you suggested for 3 months
/r/askMRP27/10/21 12:39 AM
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Which chapter do you mean? Thanks for your opinion.
/r/askMRP27/10/21 12:38 AM
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Thank you. That is helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 06:49 PM
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Absolutely. I decided for myself I'm going hunting with no cell service and that's what I'm going to do.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 06:14 PM
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She most likely fucked someone while we were separated, and maybe while we were together. I have no proof, and I'm not going to get paranoid trying to find proof. There is no move out, work on myself "in the meantime". If I decide to end it and sell the house, there will be no reconciliation.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 05:23 PM
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I hear you on letting go of others beta behavior. It's so hard to not care, I'm so focused on unplugging and it's literally everywhere you look.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 05:13 PM
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OYS 13 36, 5'11 182lbs 14% navy BP 225x5 SQ315x5 RDL 315X6 BR 205x5 Arnold press 140x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube POOK Preventative Medicine Currently on Untethered Soul audio book and NMMNG again. I'm stalling on my bulk, I have upped my calories from 3200->3400->3800. Struggling to eat even 3400, I am going to research better foods to eat for a bulk. My appetite just isn't there, could be a common thing with bulking, could be added stress. An…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 04:45 PM
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Thank you for your in depth response. Rhetorical question but yes I want to trust her, and her trust me. I can see this happening. I suppose that was the issue last night, I saw the sex for what it was. Hysterical bonding, manipulation to get me to stay. Not genuine attraction. I have been reading sidebar and posting in OYS. The hunting trip is tomorrow first thing, I do not have time to see a lawyer or start CBT until I get home Sunday. I have booked the therapy app, and will book a lawyer cons…
/r/askMRP26/10/21 04:00 PM
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I have a rough and dirty MAP. I have been working on it. Lifting, diet, wardrobe, building a social life, trying to build frame. Frame is step one and my yoyo struggle with it has stopped me dead in my tracks. Next step is CBT to try to reprogram my negative thoughts as they come.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 01:14 PM
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If there's no mending this, there's no point in staying together. It would only prolong the bad situation. Last night we had sex again. I could feel it was forced. I was feeling so fucking conflicted about what I want to do, all evening. For a minute I felt like she was going to sleep downstairs again, and I said where are you sleeping? She stammered and said upstairs. After sex, I was looking at her intensely. The confliction was pouring out of me. She asked me if I wanted to be with her. I rep…
/r/askMRP26/10/21 12:59 PM
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Retard.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 12:50 PM
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I thought about that last night in bed. I asked myself over and over, what are you afraid of? Why are you afraid? I felt that gut tightening feeling, I opened to it and stopped trying to brace against it. The answer didn't come to me, but I stopped feeling afraid. A thought I have had, is I don't want to be too weak to fix myself and break up my family, for my kids sake. I've always told myself I'll break the pattern in my family of fucking up the kids. This is what I think is the fear. I logica…
/r/askMRP26/10/21 12:48 PM
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I love that plan.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 04:38 AM
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Ok thank you.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 03:26 AM
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I don't want to kill the puppy. I've stated multiple times I do not want to get a divorce right now. I haven't done enough work.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 03:25 AM
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I have not done enough work. The problem is all me. I don't blame her, she is a reflection of me. I am starting cbt to fix me, not my marriage. I have serious issues with insecurity that come and go. It's like a yoyo, one half the day I'm confident and feel in control. The next half the day I can have zero self worth. I need a pro to help with that.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 03:15 AM
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As in, she will want to go back to sleeping downstairs? I will continue with the divorce, I'm not willing to sacrifice any of me. If I had chosen to divorce a couple days ago, I wouldn't be conflicted. The reason I am conflicted, is because it was her who chose divorce, then she has reneged. Doesn't want to lose her beta bucks, realized how hard single momming would be? Of course. I'm not that naive.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 03:13 AM
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It seemed to me like a compliance test in that, we could easily have both gone to the gym at the same time. You are right, I am my judge thanks Rian. I am divorcing, I will write about it on Tuesday. Take heed Rambo retards.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/21 03:44 PM
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Good lord what a fucking retard lol revisiting this it's clear as day. At the time I had not one fucking clue what horns meant.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/21 02:58 PM
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What wife, I don't have a wife. She died.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 08:43 PM
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What dead girl? https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7sdpla/talking_to_my_wife_makes_me_feel_like_i_am_insane/dtl1yc8?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 "yep, I changed the subject, now let's go do something fun." Brilliant and simple, just what I needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 08:36 PM
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Thanks for your help. I can do this. She doesn't matter. I need more action, gives less ability for reaction. I will not talk about she/her. There is my direction, that is my immediate goal. Have fun is the goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 07:40 PM
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I am enjoying this process and the challenge of it, but there are times like this where I don't know what to do. Stop thinking and doing shittiness. What do I replace with? Actionable self improvement. Things I want to do, fun things I enjoy doing. I love doing that. My biggest challenge is oneitis and stop focusing on her, my insecurities come knocking and I seem to answer the door every time. I'll start handling them, and she ramps up the tactics and every fucking time gets into my head. I thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 07:28 PM
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Fuck this is difficult.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 07:14 PM
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Deleted this fucking garbage. Immediate goal is to remove words she/her from my dialogue. Do fun stuff that I want to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 05:46 PM
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Correct, I admitted that yesterday. It doesn't matter, my focus is back on me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 06:49 PM
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I agree with you. It was helpful to see more clearly what I am fucking up. Next week will be better.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:00 AM
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Yes dude I read it, and will reread it later. It is my exact situation. Thanks. Man I wish I had chosen my own user name.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 11:30 PM
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I can come to peace with it. Thanks for your comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 11:28 PM
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Thanks Oobertas. This was exactly what I needed to read.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 11:23 PM
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I understand what you guys are saying now.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 09:28 PM
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Very in depth response, I thank you for it. 3 months she didn't want to fuck ME is what I was getting at, absolutely. I was a loser. You are right on all accounts. 100%. Interesting advice about just assuming she did and adding it to my MAP. I like that. I was going to go with, it doesn't fucking matter. If I find out for sure she fucked him, I'll next her, until then business as usual and focus on myself. My ego is a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 08:55 PM
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Fucking finally. I'm angry at myself for caring so much. This in and out frame of mine is frustrating the fuck out of me. Thanks for your comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 08:37 PM
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If she fucks someone else that's her problem. I'm not gonna worry about it any longer. If it comes up, and I find out, I'll next her and carry on with my life. I wouldn't fuck me pre mrp, I was a fucking loser. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 08:11 PM
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Her panic and guilt? Fuck it, right now I don't care. If it comes out that she fucked, I'll boot her ass out. Until then I'm gonna focus on me.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 08:09 PM
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Thank you for that, you're right. I'm not concerned about STD's. I would have already gotten it from her by now. I'm pissed off about being made to look like a cuck fool. I'm fucking angry right now. I'm going to take it out on the iron tonight, and go home and keep my fucking mouth shut. I'm in her frame when I'm worrying about this dumb bullshit. I'm acting too concerned with my oneitis being with another man. It's all bullshit and doesn't matter. Thank you for repeating yourself over and over…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 08:07 PM
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I do like my wife, but I dont want to be married to a woman who's fucked another guy during our relationship. Separation or not. I'm unsure how to fuck my wife when I am going to wonder if another guys been in that pussy recently.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:42 PM
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A better man to me, means I live for myself, with my goals, wants, needs, vision being met by myself, confident, fun, sexual, and energized. I suppose I've already been fucking her and I don't have an std. I just don't want to provide value to a disloyal cheating wife. Cheating is a hard next for me. For me to respect myself, I need to decide she didn't cheat, otherwise I will be disrespecting myself, living in a scarcity mindset by showing I have so few options that I need to stay with a cheati…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:39 PM
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Ok point taken. I say cheated because we've been reconciled since July and I'm not sure I believe she cut contact before July. I will stfu. I won't mention it to her. How do you suggest in the short term I look past the possibility she had another dick, in order for me to want to flirt with her, without making the assumption she didn't cheat? Do you suggest I assume she didn't cheat and live my life? The std concern is valid Imo.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:25 PM
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What are you suggesting? It must be some sort of ego protection, because if she lies to me convincingly and I believe her, I would be satisfied. If she cheated and lied to me and I believe her, the onus is on her. She would have to live with the guilt (or not, not my problem). I can move forward without feeling like I've disrespected myself. For the record, she made out with a guy while drunk while we were 7 mos into dating. I decided to continue the relationship, and was mad at myself for disre…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:16 PM
1

I want to be informed so I can provide my vision for the marriage. I will have to contemplate why I feel I need to know before I can provide her with a narrative for our marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:05 PM
1

Thank you, I'll read that a few more times until I understand it better.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 06:23 PM
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I'm here to be a better man. Part of it is, I would like to know whether I'm at risk for STD's. I suppose you're right, another part is hamster/ego. It doesn't matter to my growth, but I really am against the idea of fucking her if she's had another dick lately. I can assume she didn't cheat and move on, I can assume she cheated and move on, she can tell the truth or she can convincingly lie, and I can move on. I wouldn't blame her for cheating, but I would like to know so I can make an informed…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 06:23 PM
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OYS 12 36, 5'11 182lbs 14% navy BP 225x5 SQ315x5 RDL 315X6 BR 205x5 Arnold press 140x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube POOK Currently on Preventative Medicine and Untethered Soul audio book Me I feel confident for the first time in my life in all aspects of my life. This has persisted for 2 weeks now, daily. I feel energized. I talk to anyone and everyone. I walk around with my head high, with purpose. I am enjoying every moment of ea…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:01 PM
1

So from untethered soul, the energy I've been feeling is chi or whatever you want to call it. I opened my blockages, the energy is finally flowing. Thanks for the recommendation.
/r/askMRP18/10/21 07:18 PM
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Great post. Putting your ego aside and realizing when you've fucked up is important. I have been guilty of both nice guy apologies and lone wolf DNGAF on this journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/21 09:32 PM
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I understand! Jesus I'm starting to understand how this all works. You're fucking fun, you talk to everyone. Who cares if they got the wrong idea? When your wife KNOWS you're a fun outgoing guy, and since you've got a rock solid frame, it becomes a non-issue. Once you're at that stage, if you're doing it right, she knows you could fuck any woman but you have chosen yours. Your wife IS legitimately awesome by the time you've got frame game and the correct mindset. I was struggling to understand h…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/21 06:58 PM
1

I deleted this retarded post, because I realized I am running on caffeine and exhaustion, and spouting nonsense.
/r/askMRP13/10/21 08:51 PM
1

Gotcha. Thank you for reading it and giving me some insight as to my energized state. It does sound manic. I've never had an episode like this in my life so it has taken me by surprise. Yesterday's OYS was written after 2 hrs sleep, and definitely not in the "good feelings" state I'm describing. I will chill out and give myself time to digest.
/r/askMRP13/10/21 08:22 PM
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Ok thanks guys, maybe a side effect, maybe just feeling confident for the first time in my life, or some sort of manic episode. Not frame or abundance etc. Got it! Sure feels good to feel good though!
/r/askMRP13/10/21 08:09 PM
1

Haha ok words of wisdom. Maybe just due to having some confidence for the first time in my life.
/r/askMRP13/10/21 08:06 PM
1

It definitely comes off that way for sure! But I just feel good, not superior to anyone! Seems like this feeling is not related to frame, abundance, prize etc. I'm curious why I suddenly feel so good all the time.
/r/askMRP13/10/21 07:57 PM
1

I got rattled by the events in my OYS yesterday, I played a Rambo game and had my ass handed to me by my wife, and as a result my newly found frame crumbled temporarily. I now know where I want to go, who I want to be, know that I can and will stop at nothing to get there.
/r/askMRP13/10/21 07:38 PM
1

Got it. Thanks.
/r/askMRP13/10/21 07:35 PM
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Lol. That wasn't the point I was trying to get across. That was just the method I used to regain what I believe is my frame, my prize mentality.
/r/askMRP13/10/21 07:33 PM
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I'm not asking if it's a feeling, feelings change constantly. When you develop a frame, do you also feel exceptional, is my question.I haven't had swings, I've felt completely in control of every aspect of my life for a week straight, minus the couple moments I would describe as losing frame. When I say in control of my life, I mean things I am able to control (aka myself and my mind and actions). I do not mean things I have control over. Those things seem irrelevant to me. This morning, I was u…
/r/askMRP13/10/21 07:30 PM
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Dude you're the same as everyone else who started here. Can I start calling people faggots now? You're being a faggot. Why are you even making a post this early? You literally have no concept of anything yet, not even one iota. Start reading.
/r/askMRP13/10/21 01:33 AM
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Possible for sure. We both have similar childhood issues. She is avoidant I am anxious attachment. That has been a fucking bitch to overcome. I'm super close I think. Our relationship has been like this for a decade. 2 insecure women. I personally don't think we're bpd. Just a faggot beta with an ego problem for a decade, and his conditioned wife
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 11:31 PM
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Me or her lol
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 11:22 PM
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All in due time. That all makes perfect sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 11:03 PM
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Ok so since everything is manipulation, how do I use these tools properly? That's what I have to figure out with more patience, reading, applying and calibrating. Correct method of dread use is doing legitimate things without any added extra emphasis designed to instill dread, is that accurate? I'm definitely not going to day game for a bit til I understand better, but how does day game play into this? I'm in a small town. If I do anything more than friendly chatting with women, eventually it wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:47 PM
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Spot on. She saw me pulling desparate, retard level dread and said oh yea? I can play that game, only 10x better. I do it because I'm larping, my end goal has been to get my wife back instead of genuinely wanting to fix myself. All my egoisms are further proof of that. I suppose I was beta orbiting, although in this case the girl was 100% interested in me and I knew it. She's less attractive than my wife, that was by design so I had a defense if the wife called me on it, "she's not as hot as you…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:24 PM
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Thanks for cutting through my shit and calling me out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 07:04 PM
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You are correct. I was lying to myself. I also came back to say it was in fact providing validation. I've cut it off.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 06:50 PM
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Thanks for the flair
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 04:59 PM
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I don't go about my days worrying if she's cheated. I did when it was rubbed in my face like that, whoops, failed. I wholeheartedly agree there is more of these things in my future. I've also seen how bad she can be when she feels scorned. Things can go from amicable to awful in the blink of an eye. That was a good lesson to learn. Once you start passing some shit tests, boy do they ever ramp up holy fuck. My big dumb ego thinking I could handle anything thrown at me lol. I'm fucking barely on l…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 04:20 PM
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I understand what you mean about it doesn't matter if she cheated, I definitely would have cheated on my shitty self also. That being said, I would still divorce if I found out she fucked a guy. I did bring a retarded dynamic to the relationship. No reward, big risk. If I look into it, it was nice to have female contact with someone I didn't want to sleep with. I usually want to fuck every woman I see, and if I don't it's because of their ugly personality. This one I figured could just be a genu…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 04:13 PM
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I will dial it back. Thanks. Glad your life is good man.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 04:06 PM
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Yes, I like my wife and I also love her. She is kind and caring, and looks for ways to add value to my life. She's adored by her friends and family, she gets a bit defensive during arguments with them, but overall is a good person. 1) OK. That's what I thought at first too, but the comment about I'd never know, he could be from the city... And finding out he's a real person. 2) I accept that to her, I am abusive. I genuinely apologized. I realize my apology means nothing. 3) OK. That's true. 4) …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 12:44 PM
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Yes that makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 12:40 PM
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Ok. Thanks for your wisdom. I definitely have rambo'd almost my entire MAP, not intentionally of course. Just being dumb. What did "he made me do it" mean? Do you not think she wants me to end the relationship by showing me the pic? The comments she made, the way she was lying when asked. My gut says she cheated.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 12:00 PM
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What do you suggest for ego and superiority complex? I don't believe I'm better than anybody. I finally feel as if I am as good as everyone else. I don't want to be an ego maniac, so perhaps I should look into that deeper. Thanks. She absolutely destroyed me once the threat of "I can still call the cops whenever I want" came out. BobbyPeru warned me she would get extra manipulative and it still steamrolled me. BTW, mediocre progress is still progress, and I was making fucking zero progress for a…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 11:52 AM
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OYS 11 36, 5'11 182lbs 15% navy BP 225x5 SQ315x5 RDL 315X6 BR 205x5 Arnold press 140x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube NMMNG WISNIFG Currently on last chapter of POOK audio book Me Lifts are increasing during bulk, very happy with progress in gym. Body fat is staying relatively stable for a bulk, muscles are getting bigger. I have definitely increased my physical self to the point I love the way I look. Very excited for the next 6 mon…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 11:18 AM
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Agreed, my anxiety and insecurity recently vanished once I realized I'm now muscular. Lift and stfu until you're muscular.
/r/askMRP09/10/21 10:20 PM
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I went home, gave her a bear hug despite her protests. In bed, she started chatting to me about how I'm a disgusting cheater. I stayed in my frame, and finally pieced together what the issue is, it was so fucking minor I couldn't hold back the laughter. I was howling. Through the laughter I told her she can leave if she wants. This morning I got a kiss before wife left for school. I had talked to a couple girls I know from way back, we used to be close. I said you look great to one of them. This…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 02:14 PM
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Ok. Yes my OYS are a disaster. I've had lots of rule 9 bans. I will write the next few without any mention of anything to do with her. I will focus on making sure I don't create any overt dread. The obvious ways I was creating it have been stopped, I'll make sure any other overt dread doesn't occur. I'm struggling with the gradual withdrawal, and understanding of the dieda style consciousness. This past week, I've made sure to be casual and calm after a rejection. Ok babe no worries. Kiss, hang …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 03:42 AM
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I really appreciate you taking the time to read my oys and explain to me. Thank you. I'm going to the gym right now and I will consider what you wrote, and will respond more thoroughly after. In the meantime, can you expand on giving her my consciousness TWOTSM style?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 12:13 AM
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I don't see what you're saying. I recognized how natural it feels to lead when you're the most competent person in an activity, the calm direction you can provide. I'd like to transfer that energy and feeling to other areas of my life. If you think thats a sick trick on the swings, cool.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 11:30 PM
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Any wisdom would be much appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 10:21 PM
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Either way it plays out is cool. I meant it more of a DNGAF than FMOFY, combined with owning the fact I lined up some backup strange.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 05:34 PM
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OYS 10 36, 5'11 182lbs 15% navy BP 215x4 SQ295x6 RDL 315X6 BR 175x8 Arnold press 65x8 Married 10yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube NMMNG WISNIFG Currently listening to POOK audio book Mental Listening to the Book of Pook audio version has been unreal. I read it before but had too many things spinning through my mind at once that nothing took hold. This listen I've actually been able to internalize it, and it's opened my eyes to the fact that minds…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 05:02 PM
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Yea you're right, frame isn't there for that shit. What should I have done to zag?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/21 04:35 AM
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Yes, I will have to refrain from any hands on playfulness for awhile. Premrp accusations of abuse are when she's flown off the handle and I give her a hug to calm her down. That's restraining her, aka abuse. Telling everyone how I'm such an asshole and then defending why she's with me sounds familiar. Side note, I've been cool and collected and things have calmed down. More shit tests about not putting away the chickens last night, handled with a chuckle and a hug. I've noticed when I don't acce…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 03:53 PM
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Play by play was to show a shit test, her trying to change our plans to 4pm, and how I responded to it. Sister part, full disclosure of events of the weekend. Maybe someone will have an opinion that I WAS being abusive, that I can examine. To show my actions are now going to be looked at through a family lens of "abusive husband". I personally don't care about the IMO incorrect judgement but it will make things more difficult for me in the immediate future.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 11:57 PM
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OYS 9 36, 5'11 181lbs. 15% navy. BP 215x4 SQ 295x3 RDL 315X5 BR 175x8 Arnold press 65x6 Married 10yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube NMMNG WISNIFG Currently watching rstone's MMSLP YouTube vids and working on TRP sidebar Vision To be an attractive man with options. To live my life the way I want to. To build myself up to a man who has the tools and abilities to find his real vision. To become a man so I can teach my sons how to be men. To have fun…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 09:34 PM
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Ok, I will ask myself before I initiate whether I'm doing it to feel good or to satisfy my 3 days loser checklist, or if it's because I just can't hold back any longer because I genuinely desire her. Thanks Muzzy. As usual, I took "always be escalating" too literally.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 07:56 PM
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OYS 8 36, 5'11 180lbs. 15% navy. BP 215x4 SQ 295x3 RDL 315X5 BR 165x8 Arnold press 65x6 Married 10yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube NMMNG WISNIFG Currently watching rstone's MMSLP YouTube vids Vision To be an attractive man with options. To live my life the way I want to, putting myself first. To build myself up to a man who has the tools and abilities to find his real vision. To become a man so I can teach my sons how to be men. Physical Not a l…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 04:44 AM
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I am being pretty explicit. Sex was always my end goal lol. I will give it a shot and see how it goes. Thanks for the idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 02:06 AM
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I've texted initiations twice in 6 months, I've initiated strongly in person about 50 times. An example the other night she says i act like a 1960s stereotypical Italian guy. I walk over with a Jersey accent, say "you look like one sweet broad!" pick her up and toss her on the couch while kissing her neck and grabbing her ass. She's laughing and hooting and hollering, enjoying herself. Then NO. I tease her, I make it fun. Sometimes I'm serious. Sometimes I say I want you right now. She has this …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 10:53 PM
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It's not the best way to figure it out, but >each time you withdrawal time and >attention for misbehavior and later she >comes running back for comfort - (aka >- cuddles) that is when you fuck her >and learn more that you are the prize. >The anxiety you feel between the >withdrawal and her seeking you out >again for that time and attention will >subside over time. I withdraw time and attention for the rest of the day, then reset the next morning correct? But don't provide cuddles until she seeks…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 10:45 PM
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It's not the best way to figure it out, but >each time you withdrawal time and >attention for misbehavior and later she >comes running back for comfort - (aka >- cuddles) that is when you fuck her >and learn more that you are the prize. >The anxiety you feel between the >withdrawal and her seeking you out >again for that time and attention will >subside over time. I withdraw time and attention for the rest of the day, then reset the next morning correct? But don't provide cuddles until she seeks…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 10:44 PM
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The thing is, I'm not sure what I'm doing that's creepy. It seems pushing to a hard no is turning her off in a big way, she gets fucking livid. My gut tells me to stop at soft no's for awhile and see how it works, everything I've read says keep going to a hard no. Keep going until she slaps you. Throw her on the bed and fuck her etc. I used to ask for sex, had such shitty weak initiations, expecting her to say no. She used to tell me she hated the way I initiate, it was too needy, and would ofte…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 09:57 PM
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I will read it again, thanks. I've read so much info and maybe 10% of it sticks. I'll keep reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 09:12 PM
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I'll give it another read thanks
/r/askMRP15/09/21 08:22 PM
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I told her I'd think about it. Mrp guys helped me understand that I'd fucked up. I owned my mistake without apologizing. I agree, it sounds gay. It was a bit of an experiment, in person I keep getting no, and 2 for 2 when I text I want to have sex tonight, its worked. I have to figure out why that is, why my in person initiations are failing so often. It's like she has to mentally prepare herself. She tells me she's scared and anxious to have sex with me. I don't think she feels safe, and me act…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 08:21 PM
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OYS 6-7 36, 5'11 180lbs. 15% navy. BP 215x4 SQ 295x3 RDL 315X5 BR 165x8 Arnold press 65x6 Married 10yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PFP MAP rstone YouTube NMMNG WISNIFG Currently watching rstone's practical female psychology YouTube vids and his field reports based on a recommendation Also reading RPWOLF's OYS as suggested Lifting 4x a week, doing a pyramid routine. Seeing good results, strength increasing, size increasing. Strained groin still causing pain, I said f…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 05:24 PM
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It's not your relationship to save, it's hers. I needed to hear this.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 01:22 PM
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Thanks for the advice, I'm working through Rians vids. Will look into the field report breakdowns.
/r/askMRP15/09/21 03:29 AM
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I'd talk shit right back. It was not healthy. I agree now of course, but I didn't have the self worth to not tolerate it, or the self worth to not dish it right back. She was hotter than me, I put up with it because I was a bitch. I've been contemplating MMA or kickboxing, or even boxing. Thanks for the suggestion.
/r/askMRP15/09/21 01:27 AM
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Neediness was a massive part of my behaviour. It was gross. I probably have some lingering neediness, I'll keep my eye open for it. Thanks. She tells me to shut the fuck up when she's mad, calls me a fucking retard. I'm pathetic. I'm a piece of shit. Rolls her eyes. I used to take the bait and we'd fight. Then I stopped taking bait and ignoring it, and now I'm not going to tolerate it. I'll adjust my game plan with not tolerating to withdraw time and attention.
/r/askMRP15/09/21 01:21 AM
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Yes. I need to figure out how to get rid of it. I understand it's my fault and she's just being female, but I have lingering resentment and anger at her for the shitty treatment over the past decade. Fuck that resentment. It's nothing to do with her, it's disgust at myself and I'm projecting it on her. Every failure I have reminds me of my past decade of failures. It's not her. It's me. Thank you for calling me out on that.
/r/askMRP15/09/21 12:36 AM
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Thanks for taking the time bro. I can see how I was being manipulative. I have to stop just blindly doing things I've seen in the comments. It's blown up in my face every time. I'm trying to fake it until I figure it out, dancing monkey.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 08:05 PM
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A lot of shit I do is autistic at this stage. STFU is so I don't say something unattractive before I've internalized the concepts, to stop operating in her frame. Used during shit tests.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 07:51 PM
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I know what you're saying is correct, because I felt like a faggot about it. One productive result of that choice is deciding drinking isn't congruent with who I want to be. Past history of alcohol abuse, bad decision making while drunk etc. I stopped drinking for 6 months, then resumed with one or two here and there, then 4 beers. Then I'm drunk, out til 4am, 2 wasted days after. Not productive is right. I'm not a man who can drink and have a healthy life, but drinking helps me to be more socia…
/r/askMRP14/09/21 07:48 PM
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I have, but realized I wasn't ready for its lessons so went back to focusing on NMMNG and wisnifg and sidebar articles. I do understand that how she feels, is how she feels right now.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 06:26 PM
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Starting to understand the error I made. This post and these comments have been beneficial to me. I thought I was "not in her frame" but if her actions persuade my actions, I'm in her frame. Her antiframe is still her frame.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 06:25 PM
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Between you and redwall92's responses I see where I fucked up with that boundary. It should have been, if you're disrespectful and unpleasant, I'll pull my affection and attention. And it should have been shown through repeated action vs a statement.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 06:23 PM
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You're right about larping. You're right that she sees through it. She even called it petty also. I think I need to slow down and focus on being more meaningful with my actions and thought processes, and less reactive. The issue is, at the time I think I'm making the right calls. I haven't figured out the right calls yet. The feedback you've given me is helpful, so thank you.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 05:57 PM
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Ok I understand what you're saying. Thanks.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 05:50 PM
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Thank you for your breakdown. In order, I stand by my choice to state this boundary. She has repeatedly been swearing at me, for our entire relationship. This wasn't something I was willing to tolerate any longer. Being told to shut the fuck up isn't a thing I'll pull my attention for. It's being met head on with don't ever do that again if you want to stay in this relationship. OI after the sexual denial = no problem babe and I went out to run my errands. She invited me to the party later, all …
/r/askMRP14/09/21 05:35 PM
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I don't know why I'm struggling to understand the concepts so much. I'll keep reading and lifting and stfu. Thanks for your input.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 05:02 PM
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How do I set a boundary without stating it? This was a boundary I will no longer tolerate. Being told to shut the fuck up. Not happening.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 05:00 PM
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Noted. I read a bunch of times on here to just say "going out" when I want to leave the house but have missed the nuance and misapplied it. I didn't want to explain to her why or where I was going, retard stfu I suppose.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 04:44 PM
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I realize that's what she thinks. Is that too much bad active dread vs good passive dread?
/r/askMRP14/09/21 04:34 PM
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Point taken
/r/askMRP05/09/21 06:37 PM
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Thank you for the advice.
/r/askMRP05/09/21 02:59 PM
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OYS 5 36, 5'11 179lbs. 14% navy. BP 200x4 SQ 295x3 RDL 315X5 BR 160x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PMP MAP currently watching rstone's NMMNG YouTube vids - awesome resource Physical: On track with macros, eating 3000cal/day lean bulk (+300 surplus) Lifting 4x a week heavy, strength is returning after ending cut a few weeks ago. Have had a slight groin strain for 6+ weeks now, it's affecting my squat and deadlifts. Skipped a few weeks of sq/dl to give it …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 06:08 PM
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I'm at the faking stfu stage. This info is helping to cement the habit. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 05:48 PM
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She doesn't actually like me that much either. Not asking for cheat codes. Reading sidebar. Lifting. STFUing. I get that I'm unattractive.
/r/askMRP31/08/21 01:38 AM
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Forrest Gump joke. I'm touching her because I want to fuck her. She's hot.
/r/askMRP31/08/21 01:23 AM
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Thank you
/r/askMRP31/08/21 12:57 AM
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Thanks
/r/askMRP30/08/21 11:11 PM
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Thank you. A lot of work to do all at once, I am sorting through it.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 11:09 PM
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I've read all of that at least once. It was too much all at once, wasn't working for me. I've adjusted to trying to implement/internalize one thing at a time.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 11:07 PM
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I haven't figured out the abundance mentality yet. I will keep this in mind, thanks. Pook was difficult for me to read, so I will read it again.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 10:38 PM
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Because mrp told me to drill sergeant
/r/askMRP30/08/21 10:36 PM
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Focusing on STFU and making headway. This is just extracurricular reading while internalizing STFU. I appreciate your wisdom Bobby.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 10:35 PM
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Understand. Thanks again.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 09:51 PM
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Ok, so being sexually needy is the same thing as being affectionately needy. I can deal with it the same way then, thank you.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 09:46 PM
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Bam! Another hard no. In the past I had thrown her on the bed and continued, that was met with a boundary to not manhandle her unless she's horny. Past abuse issues, not from me.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 09:43 PM
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Edited my question, after a week of denials my Kino energy turns to a sexually needy energy. I need to fuck. I don't want mommy cuddles, I do get desperate to get some pussy.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 09:28 PM
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Are you 1 year sober or 3? Your oys says 3 years
/r/askMRP30/08/21 07:15 PM
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Thanks for the lifeline, I appreciate your time, and the reminder of the 1000ft rope. Your explanation of the prize is what I was looking for. Why did you deny her cuddles? Let's start there. You did it to punish her. To manipulate. It also sounds like you initiated again in that moment, which tells me you actually wanted her to deny you so that you could be angry. Either way - what would've happened if, instead of being a child, you turned over, cupped her pussy like Horns said, kissed her on t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 10:07 PM
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Side note, this helps me to realize the importance of STFU. I don't know enough to be talking to my wife about anything important. STFU until I understand more.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 06:46 PM
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You aren't answering my clear and direct question. I am aware I'm a fucking idiot, hence asking you questions. Your answers aren't clear to me. This isn't a good use of either of our time. Have a great day dude ill keep reading and try to figure some shit out.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 06:11 PM
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Ahaha thanks for the offer.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 06:03 PM
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No lol. I'm going to revisit this another time, something isn't clicking with our communication right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 06:02 PM
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You're reading everything as an if->then->else statement. That's not the way this shit works. It's "here's what I want to do regardless of her (or anyone else's) actions". If you're playing the push button A to get result X, you've already failed. This makes sense to me. The difficulty I'm having is, I have years of beta behaviour to overcome, so what I WANT to do first has to run through a filter of "this is probably beta, what should I do differently" queue if-then-else
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 05:32 PM
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I'm not asking you if I'm a prize. I'm clearly asking you to clarify your contradictory statements of "you're the prize, you're not the prize." I'm not nuanced with this indirect communication.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 05:22 PM
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Your first response to me said "you're the prize, dude" So am I the prize, or not yet the prize? I read this shit as a man who communicates clearly and literally. My understanding of I am the prize is a mindset. I need to change my mindset to believe I am the prize, not her. Is that correct? Or is being the prize a result of my work here, actually BEING an attractive man? I appreciate you guys investing your time to help us retards, and I'm not trying to argue, but it seems so contradictory and …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 04:35 PM
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Except I often give affection without expecting sex. I hold her hand. I cuddle her. I kiss her when kids are around and we can't have sex. I invite her to come along for activities. Then sometimes I want sex, so I initiate. Often, her response is anger. There's obviously a balance here that I'm still working on finding. It seems like a lot of conflicting advice. Cuddle her without expecting sex. Don't cuddle her unless she has sex. Remove attention after a denial. Cuddle her after a denial. Can …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 04:10 PM
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Interesting. After you said cuddles ain't free, I searched up "cuddles ain't free" and found this < Rian_Stone Really? I said cuddles aren't free and went to bed. Then got extra affectionate after sex. She has to earn me, not the other way around > Found on this link https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7isk36/what_to_do_with_can_i_lay_in_your_arms_and_cuddle/ Rian Stone is pretty well regarded around here, so that's what I did. "But somewhere along the time I learned that bad behavior doesn…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 02:36 PM
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Thanks Horns. I started putting cuddles ain't free to work last night, her sweet demeanor immediately turned to anger when I tried to initiate. "Stop, you're being annoying. You need to learn to be intimate without trying to always have sex. We could just cuddle, hold hands..." I stopped her and said I cuddle after sex. Quick peck on the head goodnight and went to sleep. A minute later she's cuddling up to me from behind, but still wasn't interested in sex. After a couple minutes I said "off" an…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 01:09 PM
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OYS 4 36, 5'11 179lbs. 14% navy. BP 200x4 SQ 295x3 RDL 315X5 BR 160x5 Married 10yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PMP MAP Physical: Ended my cut 4 weeks ago at 13% from 21%. 194 to 172lbs. Found the psychological aspects very challenging towards the end. My goal was sub-15 and I accomplished it. Immediately started my month long vacation from work, have been camping and travelling the whole time. It was tricky to maintain calorie counting while camping, but I am satisf…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 11:49 PM
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You're right, this oys sounded kind of egotistical and high on myself. I am feeling pretty good about the work I've done at the gym and in the kitchen so far. Long, long way to go. The comment about wife complimenting me was about how I felt internally afterwards. If I don't care that my dwindling oneitis is finding me more physically attractive, I definitely don't care about getting validation from guys on the internet from a vague verbal description. Personality, no, not awesome yet. Do I like…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 09:33 PM
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OYS 3 Chose to skip last week, way too busy doing important things. 36, 5'11 175 lbs from 192. 15% bf navy. BP 200x4 SQ 295x3 RDL 315X5 BR 160x5 Married 9yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM PMP and currently on MAP HEALTH Not much new to report, still cutting. 15% from 20%. I look good, abs showing, good definition in arms, back, all over. I've recovered from injuries and a slight relaxation period, am now back hard at it on diet and gym. My lifts have stalled and maybe …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 05:45 PM
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I'm putting in the effort. I get frustrated at times but with new girls, I don't have 10 years of unattractive behaviour to reverse. I'll keep at this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/21 08:08 PM
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I have a pull-up bar, I will use that instead. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/21 03:04 AM
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Very butthurt I agree. We've gone from sex 1-2x a week to 6 times in the past 6 months during the separation, my problem is I assumed sex would resume after the reconciliation since I had a massive covert contract in place! Surprise, it didn't, and I wigged out. I need to accept that it will probably be a long while before I get the sex I want (not the old duty rape). The issue I'm having, after 3-4 days I'm fucking vibrating. It consumes me, I feel like I HAVE TO FUCK. I cut porn use to once a …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/21 12:55 AM
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Thanks for pointing out my faggotry. This shit is hard. I can do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/21 05:43 PM
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My birthday, she goes I guess we HAVE to have sex now. I said no, we don't HAVE to do anything, it's no big deal. 3 mins later she's taking my hand to feel how turned on she is, she's blowing me, I take her to pound town and she's all over me afterwards. She seems attracted at times. She has some serious trauma and sexual issues from before me, so I know of course it's been my bad over the years, but some of it is probably her bad too. I've got a good grasp of step 1. I'll read and implement mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/21 04:35 PM
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OYS 2 36, 5'11 175 lbs from 192. 15.5% bf navy. BP 215x2 SQ 275x5 RDL 315X5 BR 160x5 Married 9yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM currently reading practical female psychology and MAP HEALTH The cut continues. I'm at 15.5% down from 20%. Hurt my shoulder doing a bench to failure last Monday, took the rest of the week off to heal. Back to work now, shoulder has recovered. I'm looking better than I ever have, excited to start a lean bulk once I'm down to 12-13%. RELATIONSH…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/21 02:30 PM
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OYS 1 36, 5'11 179 lbs from 192. BP 205x5 SQ 275x5 RDL 315X5 BR 160x5 Married 9yrs 2 kids wife 30 105lbs NMMNGx3 WISNIFGX2 MMSLP TRM TWOTSM currently reading practical female psychology and MAP Will try this again. HEALTH 5 months of working out, 2 months in gym, 3 weeks into cut, I look and feel much better. Went from dad bod to getting comments from men and women about my definition. Tracking macros, eating 2400 40/40/20. Looking forward to lean bulk, for now I'm doing shortcut to size while o…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 07:52 PM
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