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| 2 | will baldness make me unattractive to women?Not his wife, also it was somewhat of a joke. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 09:26 PM |
| 0 | will baldness make me unattractive to women?Does baldness make Johnny Sins less attractive to women? | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Staying congruent when your a serious "tough guy", while still being friendly/playful/flirtyI appreciate it man, good points you bring up. I used to be really funny in Highschool but somehow lost that humor over the years, honestly when I smoked weed I got really dull, its only been 3 months clean and I feel I should be sharper, better clarity, and my humor should come back, but maybe it was too long being dull. Guess I gotta try to find MY sense of humor once again. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Explaining to a woman that I was "off my game" after a date?Thanks, thats what I thought. Followup, if it wasn't the best 2nd date but still fun, should I invite her over for dinner to my place, or go out to eat on the 3rd? | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 07:30 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300The tough part is that I only message my close friends for meetups or for small talk lol. Its all just politics/board games/ conspiracy in my group chat for the most part. I guess a few jokes but yeah maybe I need more friends that aren't as nerdy. As for your advice, I appreciate it and will try to apply it more | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:57 PM |
| 3 | rank the best cities for daygame 1-10.That makes sense too. I do look at it as more opportunities to learn how to get laid as well as less chance of embarrassment by being recognized as "that guy" if you suck lol. But yeah knowledge is king | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:54 PM |
| 1 | 2nd date wasn't as good as the 1st.. should I wait for her to text or should I text?Yeah, no, I'm horrible at being physical unless it's sex, where I feel totally comfortable. Always afraid of creeping them out if I touch them for some reason. I have no idea how to touch a woman in a subtle yet natural way, without it being somewhat sexual. With anything with women, I tend to be 0 or 100 regarding sexuality, flirting/touch/interest is always 100% sexually direct, no tact, so I usually avoid it completely unless I know they want that too | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:51 PM |
| 1 | How can I overcome my fear of going into the city / bars alone?For me, I'm never able to pinpoint why I'm afraid, I just am. I never feel unsafe, and honestly am more comfortable walking down a back alley in shanty town than I am going into a bar on my own lol. I've been trying to figure out my mind for a while now, why I'm afraid of certain things and why I put some things off/dont do things (mainly social), yet I really can't figure it out. Maybe social anxiety, though I don't ever feel anxious, just avoidant | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:50 PM |
| 1 | 2nd date wasn't as good as the 1st.. should I wait for her to text or should I text?The 1st date was very good, but while the 2nd one was fun and she was still flirting with me, yeah I just kept talking about myself, kept it interesting but I know she should be doing the most of the talking. I was definitely off my game the 2nd date. I'll wait a bit and see I guess | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:47 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300DMed | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:45 PM |
| 1 | How can I overcome my fear of going into the city / bars alone?Toughest part is my friends rarely want to go out at this age, and the one who would works weird hours so rarely free. Guess that means i need more friends lol. Getting back intonsome hobbies which will be good for meeting friends, but also might get a new job this upcoming fall (cop) which is great for unity/friendships. I should reach out to some friends from my current job though too | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:41 PM |
| 1 | How can I overcome my fear of going into the city / bars alone?Interesting to hear, never thought of it that way but the people in the country definitely are always open to conversation and connection, just that small town vibe. Maybe I'll start frequenting my small town's bar, its a nice place. You've got me wondering now if what I'm looking for has really been right here all along lol | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:40 PM |
| 2 | How can I overcome my fear of going into the city / bars alone?I appreciate it, this is real helpful advice! There are some places nearby that I've gone to a few times that I'll start to become a regular at. One in particular, my old friend is a cook there, so that will be my first spot to get acquainted with. | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:39 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300Definitely option B, I'm honestly not much of a flirt/ good at being sexual without being super direct so thats something I know i need to improve on but not sure how | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.Thank you, this is helpful! Just DMed | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:05 PM |
| 2 | How can I overcome my fear of going into the city / bars alone?Lmao thank you for clarifying, I was just picturing a sweaty, jittery, anxious man creeping everyone out | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:03 PM |
| 9 | rank the best cities for daygame 1-10.Bro this is not true at all, you'd know if you yourself have lived in bumfuck nowhere. Whenever I'm on vacation to a populated area, I see more women after walking for an hour than I do in a whole week at my home state, it's absolutely a drastic difference. Huge dating pool online as well, my matches literally double. Also there are way more attractive women in 20-30s age bracket when you are in a populated area, the majority of women in my state are like 45+ years old. Opportunity increases cha… | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 08:47 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300Oh I got ya haha. Yeah if you're willing I'll DM you screen shots. Examples/routines help a ton honestly | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.Thanks Kole, yeah I'm thinking I gotta start driving an hour to the bigger cities on the weekend to give it a shot. There really is no opportunity for anything where I'm at, but I'm gonna stick it out here in the woods for 1 more year, then moving to a beach city if nothing changes | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach night game goes so bad every timeBro some women absolutely love the southern man, and sticking out can be used to your advantage. The issue with women I've found is that they can have an idea in their head on how they expect you to be, and if you don't fit that idea, they are done with you right away. Secret is learning what preconceived notions women have of you so you can live up to them. I think.. idk man I'm not successful with women either, tbh I'd say 95% of men on here aren't, thats ehy they're on here lol. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 08:13 PM |
| 9 | Cold approach night game goes so bad every timePeople in the Northeast can be like that, maybe they're dating someone, who knows. I converse with strangers all the time, sometimes its helpful to just start sharing about yourself instead of asking questions. Try free association for thinking of things to say. I'm no guru but can talk to strangers for hours, just say what comes to your head with confidence, switch subjects if it doesn't interest them, and be okay with them not wanting to talk and walking away. Tell them your from the south and… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 07:22 PM |
| 1 | I’m tired of taking LsNo fucking clue man, thats why I ask for help so much on here, but my game is getting worse and worse every day. The worst part is not knowing what to improve on or how to improve. Practice doesn't make perfect if you have no idea what you need to improve upon | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:43 PM |
| 1 | I’m tired of taking LsThat doesn't work either. I agree it can be learned but the only way to get better with women is to learn how to communicate properly. I have looks, money, great shape, good hobbies, friends.. none of that means anything if you can't make them feel a certain way through communication | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:40 PM |
| 0 | I’m tired of taking LsThen why do I still have bad game when I'm doing what this guy suggested? | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.Thanks brotha | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.Okay thanks I'll read up! | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:24 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300Thanks man, DMed | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.I appreciate it, I have a good profile as I get good matches. The issue I have, it sounds dumb, so it probably is, but these concepts people share on here mean nothing to me. "Capturing bruef intrigue" and "showcasing stable value", but what does that even mean and how does one do that? Its like telling someone who wants to be a gymnast to just do a back hand spring, and thats it | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:24 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300Appreciate it, DMed | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:17 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300Thanks brother, DMed | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:16 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300They can't smell me through a phone screen brotha. I look good, as I get good matches. I'm perfectly fine in person. My issue is getting ghosted online | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:16 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300Thank you, just DMed | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:14 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300Thanks, DMed | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.Thanks for the resource, I'll read it. Whats the AI service called? I hate AI but at this point I'm getting jaded so it might be what I need to actually learn some text game | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.I'm solid in person when I can actually get them on a date but the second I ask them out I get ghosted, like why they on a dating app talking to me wasting both our time if they dont want to go out? Hard to approach IRL because i live in bumfuck nowhere, thinking I should move | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:12 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300Okay I appreciate it, just DMed you | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:02 PM |
| 1 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300Just DMed | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.See this is what I mean.. I appreciate the post and your insight but all this means absolutely nothing to me. I'll DM you screenshots, I believe I'm doing this already yet it still doesn't seem to matter. Describing "concepts" really doesn't help, everyone on this forum just says "be like this" but doesnt say HOW to be like that. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:00 PM |
| -2 | I’m tired of taking LsBecause it won't help you with women. It will help you be happy sure, but take it from a guy who does everything right and still struggles with women.. you either got it or ya dont | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 05:58 PM |
| 7 | I’m tired of taking LsHorrible advice, gym isn't going to help you get women | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Having to be flawless with messaging in OLD or get ghosted?I do think I could improve my texting, I hear many different pieces of advice and switch up strategies a lot, but honestly just saying "fuck it" to the rules, not trying to be flirty and just being normal/platonic has worked the best for me contrary to what a lot of people say. I probably get ghosted the most when I try to flirt or do things that people suggest lol. I think pushing for the date to early can be a mistake I make. Biggest issue I have is taking way too long for me to respond, so fr… | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 01:54 AM |
| 1 | ChatsTf you mean dude. I'll talk to you and offer conversation and support but I'm not an incel. We all have our issues but thats what makes us greater when we overcome them. DM me if you want to chat | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 01:51 AM |
| 29 | Seeing unattractive guys with beautiful girls.It's not about luck, it's about understanding that you already are enough. You see these unattractive men attracting beautiful women, what are they doing right? I have an unconventional belief that I'm starting to realize, that all seduction and attraction comes natural deep down. We all have the ability to be attractive and get beautiful women, it's just a lot of us believe for whatever reason, that we are not able to, or that we need to work on something. If these unattractive men with bad job… | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Tips on how to be a more seductiveGive bedroom eyes and talk softly. Now I want 1% of your profits for my assistance. | /r/seduction | 16/01/25 11:31 PM |
| 3 | Tips on how to be a more seductiveYou should know how.. its your job | /r/seduction | 16/01/25 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Assumptions/cold reads vs questions in texting/ OLD? (Sending high value texts.. help me)I'll try that as well haha, I'm fortunate to have enough matches to do so. "You remind me of a Tolkien character" type shit | /r/seduction | 16/01/25 01:29 AM |
| 1 | Assumptions/cold reads vs questions in texting/ OLD? (Sending high value texts.. help me)Thanks for the input. Any specific reason why? Also are you implying that questions are the way to go then? Honestly I've always gotten better results from asking than assuming through text personally, though some coaches like RSD Todd had me wondering because he preaches about assumptions>statements when texting | /r/seduction | 16/01/25 01:27 AM |
| 1 | How long a man should last in bed?Im about 6.5 but thick, would take me 1-2 hours on average before I started retaining, and it definitely negatively affected my sex life with my ex, she would prefer like 15-20 minutes of foreplay then like 20 minutes of penetration. Women can only stay wet for so long and she admitted if I finished quicker I'd get head a lot more often. Since not watching porn or masturbating after breaking up, sex is a lot more satisfying and I don't have to try to finish, it just happens. Finishing too early … | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Assumptions/cold reads vs questions in texting/ OLD? (Sending high value texts.. help me)Thanks for the input, wish this post had some more insight as I feel like it is a pretty important part of text game. It's a bit easier in person as you can get a feel for the woman's vibe easier. I feel like I never get a response using statements vs asking questions, but I keep hearing questions are not as good. Idk beginning to say fuck it to all the rules and just see how I do, have platonic boring ass conversations through text then ask out early and show my personality in person which is 1… | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 01:24 AM |
| 1 | Assumptions/cold reads vs questions in texting/ OLD? (Sending high value texts.. help me)I too would like to know. Apparently it's higher value according to some people, versus asking a question is asking her to provide value. Just seems odd though but I've heard this advice a lot from guys, just yet to see anyone expand on it | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Struggling to keep a conversation going in barsShe's an adult, that's up to her to use her words and tell the man that then. Onto the next one in that case | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Having to be flawless with messaging in OLD or get ghosted?Great advice, thank you. Any examples on good texts that are playful and intriguing, statements and such? | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Having to be flawless with messaging in OLD or get ghosted?I always ask for a date asap. I also almost never use IG and have no idea how it works so looks like im shit out of luck. I also doubt IG works better than an app since goodluck finding single women who you know are into you on there, especially in bumfuck nowhere | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Having to be flawless with messaging in OLD or get ghosted?I mean, I'll DM link you my insta (not every insta pic is on my dating app, but some are) and you can decide if I'm in the league for average women, which I definitely am and know I am so I doubt that's what it is. It's definitely the quality of my messages turning them off, a lot of them will even message me first but once I start messaging they disappear. Regardless, I'll take your advice, get some better pics and do some roids | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Having to be flawless with messaging in OLD or get ghosted?Here's the thing, either I ask them out literally straight away, and then get their number and when texting it works out.. or get ghosted. If I try to converse, I'll usually ask them simple stuff like what their ideal night out is (sometimes lead to dates, usually ghosted), why they moved here (boring ass answers leading to ghosted), it's pretty basic conversation stuff, like what they do, if they enjoy it, what they wish they could do which I don't have going on for more than like 5-10 messages… | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Get laidThanks man, I'm a country boy so thats a whole different world for me, but I guess it can't hurt to try | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Get laidThe "I'd love to show you my house" is so simple but makes sense too. In the reverse, would it be weird to say "I'd love to see your house" if you say it the right way? I used "do you wanna see my room?" Before and it worked well haha but the whole escalation has been a bit of a challenge, tough to grab my balls and man up | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Reacting to texts with emojis.. what are some acceptable/good ones to use early on?Lmao thanks brother, yeah im an overthinker and a perfectionist so this help a ton. No drugs on my end, and I stayed in school so I'll get where I gotta be eventually, especially with all the help from the fellas here | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 12:56 AM |
| 6 | Get laidBest advice and its so simple. You even gave tips on flirting unlike most guys who just say "be playful" or maintain a "man to woman vibe" (wtf does man to woman vibe mean/ even look like). Not OP but thanks! | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 12:05 AM |
| 19 | How to seduce my boyfriend in 10 waysLmao it's so easy, idk how women even have these questions about seducing men. Literally just show your body. | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 03:12 PM |
| 1 | real life to on the phoneBro I'm in the same boat. Takes me like 12 hours to read a text and even longer just to send one. Hate texting so I just use it to set up dates and then little check-ins. Honestly it may turn some people off so I'm trying to get better at it, but I hope they find out that you just take a while to respond regularly, then its just your personality and not that you're ignoring them. Idk man despite what people say, texting is not a natural form of communication. Glad dates and check-ins are general… | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Need Help Approaching!!!Idk man I've never had any issues with it (honestly always ended positively for me), just start off making friends with them and maintain good body language, either they'll be into you or you make a new friend, win-win. Just don't be creepy and be attractive lol | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 01:16 AM |
| 1 | How can I end first dates smoother?Thanks, I like this idea, been trying to end the dates before the energy drops too low. What are some ways I can make a move while on the date, just hold eye contact then lean in to kiss them? | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 07:59 PM |
| 1 | How can I end first dates smoother?Thanks, been lifting, boxing and MMA my entire life, really doesn't do shit for game lmao. Like I said, all of my dates have gone really well imo, a lot of fun for both parties and a good connection, natural and easy flow. It's really just the ending because I never know how to go in for the kiss, but you're right, just gotta man up and take the risk, worst that can happen is they give me their cheek or some shit | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 07:54 PM |
| 3 | How can I end first dates smoother?Oh gee I wonder... probably because I have no idea how to smoothly do that if I can't even smoothly kiss a woman ending the 1st date lol | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 07:50 PM |
| 5 | The economics of dating as a man: when you should be paying for the girlI always try to tip big if it's a decently regular place I go to, definitely reflects in the service and just makes the servers/bartenders happy. Less so do it for the date, but they definitely notice regardless | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 07:46 PM |
| 58 | The economics of dating as a man: when you should be paying for the girlI always pay if I ask anyone out, unless the dynamic is bad and they offer and I don't care to see them again. Also, it probably doesn't matter, but I always tip big, say its $15 for the two of us.. I tip $10 since if I go to the place again or often, the server/bartender will treat me a lot better. It's been noticed by the women every time as well, and doesn't show off a fat wallet so much as it does good faith and treating servers well. Of course don't I don't show them how much I tip, but the… | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Getting strangers to seduce wifeI figure a lot of guys don't want to approach a woman when she's with her husband. Maybe try letting her sit alone for a bit at the bar if you don't do that already? Go to a nightclub and just keep some distance from her, maybe dance with other women? Idk man just from the perspective of a single guy who just made a post about approach anxiety due to onlookers | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 02:30 AM |
| 2 | What healthy and uplifting advice do you have for a soon to be 22 year old virgin?I didn't get laid until 23, had head before at 22 but it was with the wrong person and felt like shit after. When I lost my virginity at 23 with the right person, it was honestly the best feeling ever because I had waited for the right person. It's not about ego, it's not about getting laid for confidence, think of being 80 and in your rocking chair looking back.. Her and I dated for 7 years after that and it was a kind of love that some people will never experience. Please don't feel that you n… | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?You reminded me that when I met my ex 7 years ago, she wasn't fully my type, but then over time developed my type into being her, due to her personality. When I first saw her I though "she's cute" but wasn't going crazy over her, and now thats become what I've been looking for.. so you're right and thanks for pointing that out, our types can change based on who we're with, and I guess being 7 years with someone can give a certain preference when really there are so many other types that can chan… | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?Very good point and what I was thinking myself as well.. thank you | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?Thanks man, yeah my impatience is a bitch, gotta stay positive | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?Im not into goth chicks lol im into short, thin, long brown hair. Not even that crazy of a type tbh | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 02:43 AM |
| 3 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?What makes you say that? Just because I have shit game doesn't mean I need to have shit preferences lol. I don't date down in looks, simple as that, and I confidently know where I stand looks wise. Just because my game sucks doesn't mean I should settle. At the same time, I'm willing to give what you said a shot and try some other "types" to see if things go better. Its purely physical when I say type btw, has nothing to do with personality | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?Same boat brother.. gotta keep trying with the right ones and they'll flock to us eventually 🙏 | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 09:43 PM |
| 2 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?Thank you, I only consider dating others because other than my 7 year relationship, haven't really dated anyone else, only had 2 hookups otherwise, so it's not like I've even experienced many other women, but I do know myself well enough to not have to experience others to know what I want deep down.. I guess I'm just impatient and need to slow down | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 09:41 PM |
| 5 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?It's tough when you want to meet your type but if they are rare/ not logistical for the situation, but still want to date & hookup. Feel for ya bro, glad I'm not alone here but I hope things change for both of us and we find our type eventually. Hard to be patient | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 09:40 PM |
| 5 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?I wouldn't mislead anyone thats for sure, not that desperate and I know how I'd feel on the other end | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 09:38 PM |
| 4 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?Thank you.. only been back on the dating scene for about 2 months but its so hard to not be impatient. Working on myself a lot and feel like shit having it not work out with the specific women I want, and was thinking that the women who aren't my type could give me that confidence/experience to actually get the ones I want. Idk honestly I'm just really impatient and it's really hard to be patient, but I'm also really picky. There's nothing wrong with these other women, I just know specifically w… | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 09:10 PM |
| 16 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?Thats what I've been thinking too, but I was also wondering if maybe I need to break away from my preferences and have someone show my other types can be good too, but deep down I'm stuck in my preference I feel. Thank you | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Should I stop focusing on "my type" and just date other women who are attractive but I'm not super enthusiastic about?For the fun & experience? You think I'll start to open up a bit more and get less attached to my type so I can start enjoying a wider diversity of women this way? It's almost overwhelming when they aren't my type as I'm not as enthusiastic, but tbf my ex was 100% my type, and maybe I need some new women to break me out of it. I hooked up with a tall pretty blonde and it was fun but it honestly just made me want "my type" even more after. | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 09:05 PM |
| 12 | Post-2020 game feels so different. What changed?Back in like 2017 on Tinder, I would literally just message women "#?" And it would usually lead to something. Nowadays I'll have a good quick interaction, they're very enthusiastic, and then just go ghost when I ask them out (the few that I actually am really into physically), seems like 6-7/10s are still looking, but 8-10s get way too much attention to care and get overwhelmed with it. My ex approached me and asked for my # in 2018, lead to 7 years, also much better looking now and I feel like… | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Is anyone actually good at texting?He already told you what to do, ask her on another date, if she can't do the specific day once again and doesn't offer another day, once again... onto the next one | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 12:23 AM |
| 2 | I think I self sabotage by waiting too long to message women back in text and online dating. How can I fix this?Thank you! Yeah I'm definitely going to need to lower my match rate by being more picky but also only swiping when I'm ready for another date, because I get so overwhelmed.. then one day when I'm feeling good I'll send 20 messages to different women, now I have to get back to 20 different people, its a lot. As of right now, I still focus on 1-3 women, but having a whole bunch that I still need to get back to just adds noise in my brain, and the longer I don't reply, the lower my chances. I like … | /r/seduction | 29/12/24 06:53 PM |
| 4 | How to go beastmode and change your dating lifeExactly the same for me, except not town, but the entire state I live in... I'd have to drive an hour every night into the big city the next state over to do what OP is suggesting. Living in a rural, retirement state sucks for meeting attractive women, all my matches online are like 40-50 miles away. I genuinely would approach more, but the state I'm in is small and not populated enough, people say "other people won't care/ will forget about you in a few hours if you fuck up your approach" but r… | /r/seduction | 29/12/24 05:29 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with going from unattractive to attractive?All this guy does is criticize others and give unhelpful advice, so I'm not surprised at his response. And to respond to him, I've been in the same boat as OP, it's not like its something uncommon, its an actual issue because when you are attractive, women expect you to be confident and act a certain way, and if you aren't living up to their preconceived notion, then they disqualify you | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 09:01 PM |
| 1 | I think I self sabotage by waiting too long to message women back in text and online dating. How can I fix this?Thank you, I'm thinking the best thing for me to do will be to set aside a time in morning, afternoon, and evening to send all my messages. If they get back to me in between then and I can/feel like it, like you said, I'll message back. Gonna try to stop overthinking my texts, but I'm still learning to make them have a flirty vibe vs just being direct (genuinely idk if just being direct can work.. I'm still inexperienced in dating). On a side note, I wish I could somehow transfer sexual confiden… | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 05:43 PM |
| 10 | [ADVANCE] This one is for the guys with many options - how much do you tolerate non-compliances? For eg. if you newly meet a girl and invite her out a couple of times but she says no, how many times do you keep asking before letting go and moving on to the next one? Share stories of persistence!As someone said on my recent post related to this, sometimes women will clam up to directness, either not being fully on board/ shy, or even thinking that since you're so direct you should figure it out. I move on to the next one after the first flake. If they just say they're unavailable and don't give other options, well thats what my post was asking. Maybe reach out a month or 2 later to cash in the rain check on them flaking, I have a woman or 2 I can try it out with and can report back. | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Is Bowling a Good 2nd Date? It's usually what I plan for but idk?Even if drinks were your first date? | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Feeling stuck on decisions with OLD and who to messageThanks, yeah I'm sure part of it is anxiety/self sabotage, but a huge part is just like a weird mental block when it comes to getting back to them. This happens with everyone tbh but mainly with OLD because I don't know them and know my messages need to be quality. I could just open it and get back right away but I know that could lower my chances. It's a weirs situation to be in, where I have an abundance of matches, but only message like 1-3 and ruin my sense of abundance because of that. Tbh … | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Hard to find other guys eho actually want to go out and have fun? Also hard to find places that are populated with single women who don't have kids and aren't overweight in my area?Its the pussyfication of America brother. It's hard to find anyone even motivated to leave their fuckin house nowadays. People criticize me for never being home or taking any down time, its like they view wasting your life in front of a screen as normal. Many men are afraid to approach/wing eachother up. Many men have no drive to succeed and just coast. Reminds me of that 50cent song mini men mini mini mini mini men | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Hard to find other guys eho actually want to go out and have fun? Also hard to find places that are populated with single women who don't have kids and aren't overweight in my area?I am, OLD works well for me but I prefer to meet someone IRL honestly. What are some good active hobbies? Rn I box, play music, gym, warhammer, hike, cook, but there are barely any if no groups available for anything where I am. I live in a retirement state Always thought about taking up rock climbing or learning how to dance. Other than that I have no idea but in general life, I will try anything once | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 06:09 PM |
| 1 | How to tell the difference between women who are DTF or looking for relationships?Lmao thanks for the sex ed lesson bro. Thats all instinct and comes naturally when one actually cares and has passion imo. Biggest realization, and I'm glad you and others have pointed it out is that women are looking for hookups are essentially the same as women who are looking for a relationship, it all depends on what the circumstances are | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 05:59 PM |
| 25 | Is this why men are giving up on their life and resorting to hookers or even worse taking their own lives?I feel like dating app algorithm gives guys who have a lot of matches more visibility to women, as it shows they are desirable, while guys who don't have many matches get poor visibility. Just like anything, it's easier to succeed if you're already doing well, easier to get rich if you already have money kinda thing. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 01:56 AM |
| 0 | Is this why men are giving up on their life and resorting to hookers or even worse taking their own lives?What are your results doing so? | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 01:52 AM |
| 3 | Money, status and lifting is outdated advice in 2025I agree, I got decent matches before but once I put a shirtless picture online my matches exploded | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 01:11 AM |
| 1 | I set up a date with someone 2 hours away, never even been in that area, but I have lead?No im genuinely wondering what you're trying to get out of this interaction | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 06:44 PM |
| 1 | I set up a date with someone 2 hours away, never even been in that area, but I have lead?Genuinely, what was the point in you commenting? No women to talk to today? | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 06:39 PM |
| 1 | I set up a date with someone 2 hours away, never even been in that area, but I have lead?Thanks for bringing your negativity into this. I'm asking for ways to find out what are good places, like different websites with reviews, scoping the area out, asking her what places she likes. If you can't give advice and are just gonna be negative you can fuck off | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 05:12 PM |
| 1 | I set up a date with someone 2 hours away, never even been in that area, but I have lead?Thats fine, it's not too far for me, I have a hybrid and the day off with no plans | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 05:09 PM |
| 2 | How to fuck on snap?Idk I just send a few pics of myself having fun or doing random shit, with a caption or no caption. Then after they send a few I'll compliment them, then ask them out. That's pretty much it | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 03:57 PM |
| 0 | Simple and effective answers to complimentsLmao, "thank you" | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 03:56 PM |
| 3 | How to tell the difference between women who are DTF or looking for relationships?Sounds about right honestly. These comments made me realize, I'm going to be changing my intent on dates from "I want to find a good gf/love" to "I want to have a fun time and smash" but I'm still going to go in independent of the outcome and just have fun regardless, but I do need to show more clear intent instead of like interviewing them for the girlfriend position lmao | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 03:52 PM |
| 1 | It seems everyone overthinks/ puts way too much information on here to focus on?This has been my mindset, which is why I made this post, because I'm trying to understand the mindset of the guys who make the technique lists and the guys who like them. To me, just having in my mind a few reminders "confidence, curiosity (or connection), clear intent" is the best way to do it so I can still focus on the real interaction in front of me. I call it the 3 C's. Still allows presence and authenticity while reminding myself of how I truly want to present myself to get what I want. I … | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Insecurity !!! ( Reply from both men and women will be great )Oh definitely, in the end it all comes down to having that attractive personality that women want. The biggest difference is an average guy will have a harder time getting his foot through the door, but if he's on point, will pleasantly surprise a woman. An attractive guy automatically has his foot through the door, but if he doesn't fit her preconceived notions, it backfires hard for most women with standards (not saying that being attractive is a downside, but a guy really has to have a strong… | /r/seduction | 21/12/24 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Insecurity !!! ( Reply from both men and women will be great )I will say from personal experience, looks do a hell of a lot to get your foot in the door and definitely make things a lot easier initially, especially with approaching/getting dates with attractive women. The issue that arises is if you have looks but not the personality/confidence to back the looks up, and are not sexually forward enough, then they lose interest still. Women expect a handsome guy to act like a handsome guy, but if he acts like an average guy, they wonder wtf is wrong with him… | /r/seduction | 21/12/24 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Noticing a few things to improve after 1st date with this woman (conversation skills, getting buzzed, & lack of "masculinity"). How to improve?Thank you, you hit the nail on the head with this! Some other comments seem to assume that I think she's out of my league, but that really isnt it, but i didnt know why the "switch" happens in my head. You made me aware though that its a defense mechanism to being nervous and new to going on dates in general. This happens when i start anything new to me until i settle in, not just dating, so i appreciate you bringing awareness to this, where i was wondering why it was happening | /r/seduction | 19/12/24 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Noticing a few things to improve after 1st date with this woman (conversation skills, getting buzzed, & lack of "masculinity"). How to improve?Thank you. The thing is, i didnt think she's out of my league. She went on the date with me when i barely put in any effort and i have 100s of matches, i know im handsome and get compliments on my looks by women all the time. The issue is that I'm very self conscious about my personality and being masculine, idk why its just like a switch in my head. | /r/seduction | 19/12/24 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Can someone help walk me through a 1st date? Just been winging it so far..Thanks man I really appreciate this advice! It's a work night and we both have an early morning so we're just doing 1 bar, but everything else is super helpful! | /r/seduction | 18/12/24 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Hello SeducersLmao if you need boosts to get matches then you need to work on making yourself and your profile more attractive. I dont use premium or boosts and can 5-15 matches a day per app. Better to pay a photographer/friend with a camera to take good pics, better to use the money on a couple of fun dates.. To answer OP, a gym membership, supplements, hygiene products, and saving the money for a good place to live & reliable vehicle. | /r/seduction | 18/12/24 12:56 PM |
| 1 | How do you ask a woman out on a second date?I have an addon question to this.. what if they are going away on a trip for like a week after the first date? Basically say the same bit more of "Hey I had a good time, when you get back we should/ Id love to take you (activity)" That sound about right? Then keep in touch a little bit while they're gone? This is obviously more like if you really like them and want to date them, not just hookup. What do you do in this instance? And to OP so I can look like I'm contributing, yeah idk either man l… | /r/seduction | 18/12/24 03:47 AM |
| 3 | I have really bad text game on OLD. I dm girls and they don’t respond. I fumble girls who text me first too.Im really only a month into dating after my breakup, but I've learned after getting a quick string of multiple dates +1 hookup that the ones who are interested in you will make it easy. If they are a challenge, most likely they don't want to go out. I can DM what I usually say if you want. After getting help from the guys in here, I've found what works for me. Don't worry, I'm no PUA or grifter lmao. I just wanna pass on what I've learned from people here and my experiences | /r/seduction | 17/12/24 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else exhausted with online dating?Thanks bro, this is very true. I started doing this later on today and it's been a lot better, not as stressful, less effort for people I haven't met yet, and leads to a lot more dates | /r/seduction | 16/12/24 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else exhausted with online dating?Bro I'm steps above all my friends, it's hard to find guys who know that they're doing in my area | /r/seduction | 15/12/24 03:57 PM |
| 50 | Player -> LoverboyCongrats man! I dont know you, but this reminds me of how my ex of 7 years and I started off. When its the right person, it really is so easy and as corny as it sounds, feels almost magical. The way you described it brings back good memories and feelings for me as well. Just promise me, a stranger online, that if you both do fall in love, please don't fuck it up. Date her every day like its the first, don't be complacent and always try to maintain a spark/ excitement/ intimacy, even years later. | /r/seduction | 15/12/24 07:21 AM |
| 1 | So Many ShamsI reached out to a few of these guys recently. Out of all of them, I would say Kole seems the most genuine, and charges the least (seems like a cool guy who actually wants to help) but I'm finding that I can do just fine with free advice/resources, and spending my money on gym/hygiene/outfits/therapy and most importantly spending my money in fun dates. I spoke to 2 guys who weren't listen in your post, and when I found out the outrageous prices from both, they both pushed extremely hard trying t… | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 08:28 PM |
| 1 | "Confused About Starting a Conversation""Hey how's it going/ How you doing?" Then the 2 most important things, Who/What/When/Where/Why & How questions combined with echoing. Then pridefully share your experience. This is something I've always been good at. They'll say "good", and you ask anything from the W Questions, like "what are your plans for after ___(school/work)" They'll either give a hobby or some shit, or just say "just relaxing" and you can share why you would love to relax or cant relax or whatever, and then if they dont a… | /r/seduction | 13/12/24 06:42 AM |
| 1 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.I don't know man I'm 5'6 after I listed my height I started to get a lot more matches, most likely shows confidence I think. I have a good serious professional pic in the wilderness, a pic with a dog, a traveling pic, a hobby + shirtless pic. Just a funny one-liner for my bio on "hookup" apps, more serious apps I have an actual serious description. I like hinge the best because you can actually send a message before matching. I am in really good shape for my age, good amount of muscle, 10% body … | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Did I ask for someone to put a woman in my lap? I'm asking for examples, tips, and techniques to be more efficient at "fishing". | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Lmao I'll give it a try | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 01:24 AM |
| 1 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Thank you! | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Thanks man I'll DM you with examples | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.I'll give it a try on a few matches I have on deck, seems like a fun challenge | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 04:39 AM |
| 5 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Only if you record yourself doing 15 push-ups while singing "call me maybe" | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 04:16 AM |
| 1 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.This is great advice, thanks! | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 04:15 AM |
| 2 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Alright will do | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.I appreciate it! | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Thank you! | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 01:51 AM |
| 1 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Will do, I'll read through it once I'm home and keep ya posted on results | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Haha sounds good, lets get it | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Thank you so much brotha! | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.I'd prefer to keep it through DMs, I understand that may sound paranoid/overboard but that's just a boundary I have | /r/seduction | 09/12/24 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Thanks, DMed | /r/seduction | 09/12/24 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.Thanks bro | /r/seduction | 09/12/24 11:13 PM |
| 2 | Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup.DMed, thanks man | /r/seduction | 09/12/24 10:25 PM |
| 1 | What is your system?What did you do to find out about events? Just google, or are there apps? | /r/seduction | 05/12/24 11:33 PM |
| -1 | Daygame, every number flakes?Idk about other states, but in mine, it is illegal (unless you have their consent) | /r/seduction | 02/12/24 10:49 AM |
| 19 | Why do people use dating apps and not instagram?Idk my insta has like 5 pics and 50 followers. Made it for my ex when I was with her. I should probably build it up, but I hate seeing so many women with their asses out when I go on | /r/seduction | 30/11/24 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Books/ podcasts dedicated to texting? Women being so flakeySame, it's really hard to find good resources for it, yet it is probably the most mechanical aspect of game, where IRL is a lot about vibes and body language, text is transferring those vibes into something digital | /r/seduction | 30/11/24 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Books/ podcasts dedicated to texting? Women being so flakeyThanks for the encouragement, good point too, with abundance, a flake just opens a time slot to go on a date with someone else | /r/seduction | 30/11/24 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Any dating coaches in the New England area?The weird thing is I am comfortable with it all along with rejection, I can be myself but being myself has but to women flaking constantly. Do you have any guide recommendations? I really feel like I need someone to basically judge me in real time out what I'm doing wrong/right so I can actually figure this shit out. I was in a long-term relationship with an extremely beautiful woman, and now I feel like I'm not able to get anyone it's so weird | /r/seduction | 29/11/24 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Books/ podcasts dedicated to texting? Women being so flakeyBecause if I go a week without saying anything, they tend to flake | /r/seduction | 29/11/24 11:09 PM |
| 2 | Books/ podcasts dedicated to texting? Women being so flakeyI DMed you | /r/seduction | 29/11/24 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Books/ podcasts dedicated to texting? Women being so flakeyThanks, I'll try to shorten my Combos and leave it more to quick fun "check ins". I noticed you commented on my other post about a dating coach as well, what's your preferred platform to coach from? | /r/seduction | 29/11/24 10:01 PM |
| 2 | Books/ podcasts dedicated to texting? Women being so flakeyI'll respond the exact same as I did to the other person, we 100% vibed in person, the first few texts I send they are always very enthusiastic and happy, but I'm a bland texter so it always Fizzles out, this is what I'm wondering how do I stop it from fizzling out | /r/seduction | 29/11/24 09:59 PM |
| -1 | Books/ podcasts dedicated to texting? Women being so flakeyThat's what I'm wondering bro, how do I give emotional excitement and intrigue? I do vibe in person, I know that for sure, the first few texts I send they are always super enthusiastic but it always Fizzles out because I'm a bland texter | /r/seduction | 29/11/24 09:58 PM |
| 0 | Can’t dance, and won’t do itI mean, I'm a boxer and a musician, so I definitely DO have the rhythm and coordination. I just don't know how to dance. Who the fuck are you? | /r/seduction | 28/11/24 06:27 AM |
| -3 | Can’t dance, and won’t do itThat's not what I meant 😆, I literally don't understand how to dance in those environments, not why a guy would. Trust me if I knew how to I would for sure. I have the rhythm and coordination, I just don't know how without looking like a goober | /r/seduction | 28/11/24 04:22 AM |
| 32 | Can’t dance, and won’t do itI've never understood how a man dances in clubs or at the bar. I just kind of like bounce up and down and sway my shoulders to the beat but I feel ridiculous haha. Plus you don't want to be the guy whipping out professional moves either. | /r/seduction | 28/11/24 02:39 AM |
| 1 | How to text women without being boring?Thank you, this helps paint a better picture for me, basically stuff that I find interesting/meaningful you're saying, right? I'm thinking a big part of this hold up for me is more of an inner game thing after reading so many responses on here | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 10:39 PM |
| 2 | How to text women without being boring?What are some good ice breakers with strangers through text? What about women who are acquaintances. I guess I struggle mainly with having genuine, interesting convos that arent about their/my day/work | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 09:32 PM |
| 1 | How to text women without being boring?I dont use IG at all, its for kids imo. I use Tinder rn and want to move onto other dating sites but I don't feel ready to do that yet. When texting women that I already have rapport with, its usually a "how was your day" or "i hope your day is going well", boring type shit. I have trouble, Im working on healing from my LTR, where her and I would text every day, but it was just little check ins for the most part. I guess I don't know how to connect through text or build rapport through text. Im … | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 09:31 PM |
| 2 | How to get a hookup on Tinder?Bro to me this shit is harder than rocket science. Texting to me is duller than watching paint dry. I don't know if I can't feel the other person's energy with me, I have literally nothing to go off of. Is there a book, or even a template that I can use or reference? It's such a weird duality, I have no idea why texting is so hard for me it just is I know I'm not autistic because of my real life interactions, but when it comes to texting I'm basically nonverbal 100/10 autism | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 03:18 PM |
| 1 | How to text women without being boring?See though, that's in real life. Like I said I have no problem with real life interaction. I don't know man I literally need someone to give me a fucking template or spell out to me how to interact through text. I don't know why I have this wall/ barrier between text and talking in real life but I do and that's what breaks me | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 03:16 PM |
| 1 | How to text women without being boring?No I definitely got your point, the whole thing is how the fuck do I even talk to them? How do I even text? | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 03:13 PM |
| 0 | How to text women without being boring?I appreciate it, this is helpful but at the same time not at all for me. When I say I have no idea how to text, I read this and think why would the woman give a fuck about a stupid story from a stranger. Talking about myself in this way seems try hard. Like literally they are pictures on a screen in words being typed out there's no human interaction at all I don't know man I've been really negative lately due to having to text just to get anywhere nowadays. I'm like a -10/10 when it comes to tex… | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 03:09 PM |
| 1 | How to get a hookup on Tinder?How does one flirt through text? So you basically just start off by saying hey you're beautiful do you want to meet up for a hookup? | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 03:01 PM |
| 0 | How to get a hookup on Tinder?Okay so should I just ask women hey do you want to hook up, my place at 10:00? For real dude talk to me like I'm an alien who has no idea what a hookup or even Tinder is. Yes I am physically attractive, no I have no idea what Tinder day even is do you meet up at the house do you meet up at a bar? Really dude I have no fucking idea | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 03:00 PM |
| -3 | How to text women without being boring?I don't know why you're assuming I don't have a good base? I have a very interesting life, I just have no idea how to text | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 02:59 PM |
| 1 | How to get a hookup on Tinder?I guess I don't even know how to have a normal text convo lol. I'm good at socializing, but I rely heavily on body language and the actual voice, so texting doesn't feel like I'm a human interacting with another human. Maybe I should just use voice-to-text, but then I still am reading their response as opposed to hearing/seeing/feeling it. Any guides simply on how to text someone? It always feels forced for me and this is my biggest holdup with modern dating. Im only 30, but as a kid, it was eit… | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 02:43 PM |
| 1 | How to enjoy this stuff?Sadly all the hookers in my area are cracked out, and i dont know where to find any decent ones. Maybe Boston? Im also terrified of getting arrested for soliciting a prostitute lol. I would though if the opportunity presented itself, I have the $$ for it at least How does one find a decent looking one? Do i have to find a pimp first? Im honestly pretty sheltered in the sexual world lol | /r/seduction | 25/11/24 10:52 PM |
| 1 | How to enjoy this stuff?Thank you, honestly my biggest blocker for setting up dates through text is I don't really know how much talking to do until she is comfortable. I'm pretty hyper focused on making sure whoever I'm interacting with is comfortable, so even eye contact, I don't want to make her uncomfortable or creep her out by approaching. If a woman flakes on me, I leave it up to her to reschedule, once again so I don't make her uncomfortable. I know this is a huge issue of mine and I dont know why. I can talk to… | /r/seduction | 25/11/24 10:48 PM |
| 1 | How to enjoy this stuff?7 years, I'm 30 now. I waited 23 years by choice for the "right one" which my first was "magical" if you want to call it that, but I fucked it up in the end by being too complacent, so now I vowed to never be complacent in any facet of life ever again | /r/seduction | 25/11/24 10:41 PM |
| 2 | How to enjoy this stuff?So one step is you have to let go of needing women to be attracted to you. Imagine no woman is ever attracted to you, for the rest of your life until the day you die, it's just completely out of the question, how will you find a way to feel good anyways? Don't say it's impossible, because that's a lie, this is absolutely possible, use your imagination. Point here isn't whether it's true or not, but to reflect on it to gain another perspective, one that might be more useful. This thought genuinel… | /r/seduction | 25/11/24 10:30 PM |
| 2 | How to enjoy this stuff?I guess its tough because i just got out of a 7 year relationship where my life was perfect, I was super confident and outgoing, loved myself. What I'm getting from what you are saying is that I need to heal from my breakup. I genuinely don't know how or think I'll heal without a few rebounds though since she was my first and only, and im 30. Its a weird double edged sword because im down and jaded because i cant get women attracted to me, but i cant get women attracted to me because im down and… | /r/seduction | 25/11/24 09:52 PM |
| 1 | How to enjoy this stuff?Tbh at 30, my rule of thumb is if the thought "is she 18?" Crosses my mind, she's too young lol. It's not that im not willing to put myself out there, i truly dont give 2 shits about being rejected, it doesn't bother me at all. I just have 0 idea on hoe to even improve. I also am terrified of being a creep/ making women uncomfortable, or even being too persistent (if a woman cancels a date for instance, I wait for her to text me again so I dont make her think im a creep/stalker, i assume they do… | /r/seduction | 25/11/24 09:42 PM |
| 1 | How to enjoy this stuff?I appreciate your response. Here is the thing, I work in sales. I have no problem approaching people, making conversation, and women don't make me nervous. I talk to 20-30 different types of people every day. The issue is I suck at flirting and connecting emotionally with people. It's all small talk or "sales" talk. I'm not afraid to fail, but when you don't know how to attract a woman, and don't know how to learn, it's difficult. I'm tired of just having boring ass conversations, but I genuinel… | /r/seduction | 25/11/24 09:39 PM |
| 2 | How to enjoy this stuff?Thanks bro. Thought I did, she repeated it almost every day for 7 years until she left me for another man. She was my first and only, and now I can't attract any woman for some reason, I just cant pinpoint that reason though | /r/seduction | 25/11/24 09:15 PM |
| 4 | I don't understand what flirting isYou are the only person who provided examples, thank you and im not even OP but I feel the same as him. Tbh though, maybe I'm autistic, but those examples give me the ick as a straight guy, cant imagine a woman thinking " ;-) " is sexy | /r/seduction | 22/11/24 02:00 PM |
| 4 | I don't understand what flirting isThis is such a non answer. The OP already said they know that flirting is the things you listed. I'm in the same boat as OP, it's nice that you responded, but "teasing" and "getting more direct & personal" and "touching" and "introducing challenge", for one to some guys like me doing that stuff seems like it would be creepy or turn off the majority of women who are strangers. I guess what I am getting at, is what the fuck even is teasing? Like how do you tease without being mean or weird? How do… | /r/seduction | 22/11/24 01:56 PM |
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