So Finally found out A big issue of myself When it comes to interacting not only with women but with strangers in general. I'm naturally a pretty serious guy, train and martial arts my whole life so I have that kind of MMA fighter demeanor. I struggle with being congruent when interacting especially with women, cuz I don't want to intimidate them or make them uncomfortable but also know that I have to be playful and flirty.

My issue is that I almost change my natural personality to overly friendly, talkative and just "off", it is hard to describe but my voice gets higher pitched, I laugh at my own jokes, I talk about myself way too much instead of talking about them, it is all essentially compensating. It is hard to describe that MMA fighter personality but I'm sure you understand what I'm talking about, that is how I naturally am yet I always feel worried that I won't be able to attract women if I act that way yet what I'm doing currently is not attractive, I struggle being my natural self while still flirting and being playful As I Am Naturally somewhat aggressive and serious.

I'm sure this is somewhat confusing, it is hard to put it into words but looking for some advice and insight, is it okay to be serious, how do I stay being flirty while still being serious and "tough guy"