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| 9 | Leaving my pregnant wifeDude. Do it what is good for you. If you got the money, pay and let it be I say. Doesn’t make you an asshole. I was in a Similar boat per se, except no kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/24 07:07 PM |
| 5 | Is it worth getting married?And to piggy back off this. Is it even worth it to have kids? Divorced. Not sure! | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/24 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Is it worth getting married?I agree. I thought my ex was an incredible woman. The prenup broke it and had a brief 2 year marriage. All fell apart before we were even married. The woman I met now says “prenup please” and let’s keep our finances separate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/24 09:06 PM |
| 5 | Anybody else having an absolutely dog shit 2024?When it rains it pours. I’ve had a really shitty 3 years - and only since my divorce was finalised things started turning for the positive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/24 12:24 PM |
| 1 | First dating rejection post divorceMy confidence was on an all time low post separation and divorce. Took me a long time to bounce back. Normal to feel like this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 05:21 AM |
| 2 | First dating rejection post divorceWise words. I think I ran head first into a wall of red flags this time. But I keep on going. Fuck. I’m like a bull in a china shop. Except I know what I’m doing and trying to navigate it. Or so I tell myself. Anyhow. Wise words on it all 47omek. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 05:19 AM |
| 2 | First dating rejection post divorceAmen brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 05:17 AM |
| 8 | First dating rejection post divorceHappy for you. But, main thing is to understand what each of them trigger inside you. Work through it. What I mean, whether right or not. I met this woman post divorce. I was infatuated by her. Similar to when I met my ex wife and when I was in my 20s with my first real big girlfriend. I was literally just taking time to myself and not act on the infatuation. Trying to understand “why”. We kept on seeing each other, in turn different things are being brought up inside of me. For example, me stan… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 05:17 AM |
| 2 | She's banging someone elseLove it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 05:10 AM |
| 5 | Did you ever consider the possibility of divorce at the beginning of your marriage?… yes even before we were married. We still went through with it though. I should have called it off. But my balls werent big enough. Too close to the wedding. Bla bla bla. Why? Ever since we signed the prenup she withdrew from me and “us” as a unit. In turn I hoped once officially married it will get better again. Obviously it didn’t. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 06:11 AM |
| 5 | Just got hit with the “i want a divorce” how should i feel rnI stopped drinking 2 months before divorce and never went back. Stay strong in that regard. I did substitute it with an unhealthy amount of gyming and running until my body broke. But it helped me through the dark times. Plus i ate ice cream. Anyway. Emotions will be a roller coaster regardless. Flow with them. Time heals. I’ve been separated close to a year now and officially divorced for like 3 months. And in hindsight even though I thought ive been doing ok this year. I’ve not been ok. Coping… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 04:59 AM |
| 1 | How old were you when you get divorced?38 when started (on my 39th it was finalised). Married 2 years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 11:09 AM |
| 5 | Did it feel like your S.O. "flipped a switch"?Yup. You couldn’t have said it better. Separated a tear now, divorced for like 3 months or so. Still ponder about her and what happened to us at times as I miss my best friend. But - what you said is exactly what happened. In hindsight sight she was checked out earlier and then just “bam”. Gone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 08:37 AM |
| 1 | Is 10 years the lucky number?For me it was yes… well. Her and us. But yeah. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/24 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Is 10 years the lucky number?For me it was 7 years. But also was over 2 years prior to it (actually before we got married …) | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/24 09:40 PM |
| 3 | Did you date during your divorce? How did it go?I went on a few dates after separation before divorce was final. I was too messed up and it wasn’t fun. I did get laid which was I needed. Stopped it and only wanted to start eating once divorce was final. Met this woman post divorce and we started seeing each other. Was bringing out different things inside me. Shit took through. But we keep on seeing each other. Super slow. And it’s nice so far. But, I wanted to only date seriously once I was divorced (granted it took 9 months only for the pape… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/24 05:48 PM |
| 3 | New relationship- questionNormal and don’t force it. I met this girl. I never slept over. I didn’t want to. And I was ok with it. Was short term regardless. So the fact that you have reservation, just look after yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/24 02:04 PM |
| 3 | What would you do?I think it’s normal once you meet someone post the ex that they trigger certain things. Sometimes being unsure. Sometimes other emotions. Good or bad ones. She does sound amazing, and I mean you can just be honest and say that you are into her. At times it’s tough but you want to be with her. Or you can just keep those emotions to yourself and still say you like and enjoy her. Either way. I would not throw it away. She does sound amazing for what you’ve described. What I’ve noticed for my self, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/24 01:11 PM |
| 6 | [Serious] How young is too young to date if you're not looking for your next wife? I'm 37lol these comments. Go for whatever. Just going to young the conversation might struggle… but who cares about that | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 07:31 AM |
| 7 | Would you take her back?Like others said. I wouldn’t. Maybe she was curious and keen for other men. Maybe someone let her on. And now she got it out her system. But the same could happen in 5 or 10 years. And then it will cost you emotionally and financially even more. And I mean, if she fucks around and then comes back. Neh. I wouldn’t. Maybe if it was one dude and then realised “hold on, I want my husband…”. So yeah. Bad news. Embrace the pain. Don’t do it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/24 11:40 AM |
| 2 | Post divorce happiness is gone…Thanks for sharing. Makes total sense! | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 06:25 AM |
| 2 | Post divorce happiness is gone…Thanks for this - that others are going through the same. And it’s normal. I didn’t expect it - but I’m ok. Just odd that it came back to me… in hindsight, we’ve had contact 3 times as well during the divorce and each time did affect me a bit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 10:37 PM |
| 7 | If you think your ex-wife moved on quicklyI was going to say fair enough. We all tend do that. But then Actually - if this is true - rather deal with it then running into the next arms. When I was in my 20s I used to numb myself with other girls. But post divorce I actually am taking time to just focus on myself… so, if the above is true - zero sympathy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 03:12 PM |
| 4 | Wife cheatingOP You need to think clearly or get to be around loved ones. Life might be falling apart at present but think about your son. Grief. Get yourself together. With time you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. But that will take time. Until then - you need to remember you are a father. Your son needs you. A father is looking out for his child. You are a fucking saviour and a fucking hardcore machine that has gone through so much! This will be another story part of your life. Tough. Not fun.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/24 08:09 AM |
| 1 | Moved back in a couple weeks ago but now I have Syphilis.7 months apart with screaming. So you picked up an std. fuck it. Go to doc, get meds. Tell her I I’m showing symptoms from a. Girl I slept with. Done. Honesty. Owning up. And for she doesn’t want to brother. Well, fuck it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 10:39 PM |
| 6 | Life after separation.I think a lot had dead bedrooms and all sorts things. Long story short. It sucks. Yet you need to move on. Focus on what you can control. Focus on the future. Ignore the past. Ignore her. She has got her own life. She is not your responsibility. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 10:35 PM |
| 5 | Took Her Less Than Two Months To Find Another ManDamn bud. Rough. Stay positive. Forget the past. Grief. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 10:33 PM |
| 2 | How I Got Through This HellGood post. Thanks for sharing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 10:29 PM |
| 1 | It’s over… the real end…:) thanks for all the wise words. And long message with support! | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/24 09:03 AM |
| 6 | It’s over… the real end…Thanks all for the words, input and wisdom. Hence posting on this community - tough as the feedback is - I appreciate it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 10:52 PM |
| 1 | It’s over… the real end…:) | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 10:51 PM |
| 1 | It’s over… the real end…Gotcha! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 10:51 PM |
| 2 | It’s over… the real end…I appreciate the kind words | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 10:51 PM |
| 1 | It’s over… the real end…Thanks bro! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 10:50 PM |
| 1 | It’s over… the real end…Thanks for the kind words all! Noted. :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 10:48 PM |
| 1 | It’s over… the real end…Thanks for the kind words! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 10:47 PM |
| 3 | It’s over… the real end…Lol. Maybe so. I didn’t write the poem but found it. Maybe I have the moral high ground - and I don’t mind her actions. But thanks either way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 10:46 PM |
| 3 | The end …Hahahah… luck you! Makes it easier I guess. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 10:43 AM |
| 2 | The end …;) … I know I know. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 08:29 AM |
| 2 | The end …Time… :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 08:29 AM |
| 1 | The end …:) | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 08:29 AM |
| 2 | The end …:) | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 08:28 AM |
| 2 | Why am I scared to file for Divorce?Only 2 years. Were together for 5 before that and pretty much lived together after 4 or so months. She was the coolest and most compatible girl I’ve ever dated… hence I didn’t want to let that go. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/24 01:03 PM |
| 3 | Why am I scared to file for Divorce?I was unhappy for quite some time - but I did not pull the trigger as I made vows and would work through it. She was always travelling and we saw each other 2 months out of a year. I got us into marriage counselling - shared my feelings - and then two months later she asked for divorce… My point is: don’t let things go on forever. In this case, I don’t expect it - as we were working on it. But I’m happy it went a certain way. Still painful though. Trust me. It’s scary to let a person go you’ve l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/24 07:13 AM |
| 9 | Wife of 12 years cheatedSucks. My story is different. I don’t think she cheated. But she turned into this woman I’ve had no idea existed. Which remained throughout our separation and now divorce as well. I don’t know how to explain it, like: she turned cold, angry, non caring except herself and went on every principle she stood for. I was baffled. Hence - I’ve seen(heard) it happen to a few. All - including mine - with zero remorse at all. Whereas I tried making it work due to our vows. It’s life. It sucks. Be thankful… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/24 07:07 AM |
| 2 | Do you guys tell your dates about your divorce?When exes up come up… Kids I would say is a different story and in my view should be shared up front. But re divorced - it’s same as having dated in my view. It could come up during the first or second date when exes or relationships come up. My view. Obviously they will ask you. And if you then start bitching about your ex or start crying … well, that won’t help. :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/24 02:40 PM |
| 9 | Is the cold shoulder common after filing?They change bro. The woman you knew before is gone. Happened to me. And to all others. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/24 09:40 PM |
| 2 | I’m the cheater…my storyThanks for sharing. Takes guts. Main thing - Such is life. Only thing I would say don’t string one or the other along. Either call it off, out of respect, or be fully back into it. But - if there are so many underlying issues will it be fixed is the question… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/24 06:31 AM |
| 9 | Saw Ex Wife on dating appIt’s never fun seeing an ex. Emotions. Hurt. Memories. Jealousy… married or not. All break ups are the same in my view. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/24 05:01 PM |
| 6 | Any stories of amicable separation?Like others said … amicable is … a wish. We split, her choice and it was extremely amicable at the start. Then she became worse and worse. I mean it’s still nothing compared to what is happening to lots of others. But the woman I knew changed and showed different cards. I’m sure once all is finalised one can be amicable again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 02:51 PM |
| 2 | New here going through divorce… need some adviceIt will be tough, stay strong. Emotions will be up and down. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/24 07:33 PM |
| 1 | The hardest part of all of this for me...I think most of us lost our best friend. My best friend however moved on emotionally the a few months before our marriage and then it just degraded. Meaning it was a process of decline regardless. Never fun. I know. But do positive things look after yourself. Gym (like others said) Cry Do what you want and need to But move on with life and become the best you can be. Also. Don’t try to make sense of the past or why it happened… no point in that. If you are stuck on it, limit yourself to one week… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 05:59 AM |
| 2 | One of the things that bothers me the mostWell said. And I agree. Plus that’s how things were - and then her mindset switched and the love was gone. Whereas I thought all the hardships bring us closer together. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/24 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Got a Vasectomy TodayGood point! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 07:54 PM |
| 3 | What are some initial coping methods?Cry and allow yourself to cry. Therapy helps Cry some more. It’s good for you. If you go further get a mediator or lawyer if required. Understand yo-yo of emotions. Exercise (my opinion) Don’t drink (or don’t drink excessively)! Have friends to support you I cried when she asked for divorce. For roughly one week I had the last 7 years through my mind. Then I continued training like a mother fucker. Got a mediator and the mediation was tough for me. And then the occasionally admin talks with her … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/24 10:32 PM |
| 7 | A civil/agreeable divorce?Good luck. Mine started out ok but broke down as it continued. In short. Very amicable divorce until it started happening. We had a mediator that I brought on. But it was not a train smash unlike situations I’ve seen on here. This things that everyone says and what is true: Get a mediator to resolve and manage it. It helps. The woman you’ve known before the divorce and the one who she will be during the divorce is not the same and it will be the first time you will see that side. Good luck. Stay… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/24 10:23 PM |
| 2 | Got a Vasectomy TodayNo kids but divorce will be finalised soon. :) also thinking of getting one, I believe they are reversible if I ever do want to start a family. But having the risk removed sounds super freeing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/24 10:41 AM |
| 2 | Planning on asking for a divorceWhat I’ve seen from other posts it’s quite tough. Best is to speak to legal to get an estimate. But th fact that she is not working is a tough one. Re therapy what others said - try it. I did and it just made it worse and in turn she asked for divorce whereas I thought it made it better. Anyhow brother. Good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/24 08:24 AM |
| 3 | I’m hurtingI know. A fuckup indeed. I honestly thought I had the most solid woman. I mean we had issues and I was unhappy prior to wedding. But I thought she is a good partner. Then she walked out which I wasn’t in her character. Hence I hear you about a lot of woman of today. I’ve read / heard that it’s about partnership compatibility as it’s different to just marrying for emotions and romanticism. I think tv polluted our thinking what marriage is about “love, cuddling, hand holding, and forever love” | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/24 04:15 PM |
| 2 | I’m hurtingWell, if 50% of all 1st marriages are failing up to 70% of all 3rd marriages, then I guess the majority of those staying together are not happy as they are too scared of pulling the trigger. Anyhow. Relationships ;) Being separated and nearly divorced i also wonder if I ever want a long term, or a marriage again or a family for that matter. Never say never but… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/24 04:03 PM |
| 2 | What bad habits did you pick up during separation and divorce your trying to quitI had to chuckle at this. Haha. I over trained and now feeling the repercussions. I ate okish during the day but a ton of chocolate a night for 6 months (I stopped that now with buying pre pre pared meals). I stopped drinking prior to the actual separation and haven’t started again I think the main “bad habit” is valuing me time like another poster said. I don’t want to see people or Do things when I don’t want to. Difference is I’m Fairly new in a new country and city and hence need to try and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/24 07:46 AM |
| 1 | 4 months post separation - strugglingThanks for words of a similar world. :) stay strong. And ty. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/24 12:29 AM |
| 1 | 4 months post separation - strugglingThank you for the kind words :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/24 10:49 PM |
| 1 | It’s over!Wooohooo. Awesome bro. I just got my counter proposal back yesterday to which I agreed on. So I think I’ll be soon in your shoes again … You guys going to party? Or celebrate ? Or what. I’ve been pondering whether to have a silent night or soend time with those nearest and dearest to end the chapter off. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/24 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Struggles rebuilding & datingI believe in transparency when in comms. But no need to bring it up the first 2 minutes you met a girl either. Depends where the conversation goes.l are my 2c. I’ve always tried to be upfront to there opposite sex that I’m not emotionally available but happy to spend time together. Of course that has got a time limit when they start falling In love. But re you and kids. I know (I don’t have kids) but it changes the game and the situation. I would just say date, explore, have fun, but when the co… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/24 09:21 AM |
| 4 | Won a work tripGooooooooooo | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 06:40 PM |
| 4 | Divorce was my faultWe all had some play to in it one way or another. Directly or indirectly. You live. You learn. You can’t change it. Remember the best. Learn from it. Appreciate the past. (Easier said than done right?). Don’t get guilt eat you up After my separation all I was to go through my last 7 years and relive every moment. To understand where it went wrong. What I did wrong. Etc. not healthy. Not good. Not beneficial. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/24 08:49 AM |
| 2 | What a lot of us need to hear right nowMuch love. Ty. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 11:04 PM |
| 4 | Called my girlfriend by my ex's name. During sex. Wtf.Sorry bud. For me I’ve been thinking about that ex more, similar to what you are saying out of habit - I understand it’s tough for the new person. Something opposite happenend to me when I was a girl at university who said her exs name. Back then I think it’s a bit more of a thing as one is younger. In this case - she needs to understand you’ve got a long history. Just reflex talk to speak in my view. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/24 04:20 PM |
| 1 | I don’t know how to be a single adultIt’s normal. Some have it more than others. Some were serial daters and hence also never single. But the main thing is - now is the time. Whether 30, or 55. Now is time to focus on yourself. Discover and rediscover yourself. And learn to love spending time alone with yourself. Baby steps. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 11:21 PM |
| 7 | For Those that did ALL the houseworkSame here. Main (and for 2 years only breadwinner). Did most the chores (washing to cooking) and now that she is gone my life is simpler. Better systems in place and place is less cluttered. She did do a good job deep cleaning the house (better than me) but besides that everything is simpler and cleaner here. From washing - to kitchen - to overall place. I prefer it this way. :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Walkover or boundaries with settlement?It’s crazy how things change. But I’ve been treating her and I’ll learn from your lesson! Appreciated. :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Walkover or boundaries with settlement?The last paragraph really sinks in. “Lose the idea that you are in a marriage with assumed reciprocity and good will”. As I can see this has clearly changed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Walkover or boundaries with settlement?Based in Europe - but I think the same principal applies as in the states. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Walkover or boundaries with settlement?Will do that this week. Makes total sense. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Walkover or boundaries with settlement?Makes sense. Really. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 07:01 PM |
| 2 | Walkover or boundaries with settlement?We need to serve. Even though she wanted the divorce it seems I will serve her. But I’m having a chat with the mediator (and in turn my divorce later after that). This Wednesday actually. It seems the counter proposals have been pausing it. And I agree with what you are saying to proceed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 07:01 PM |
| 2 | Walkover or boundaries with settlement?Amen. And thank you for putting it into perspective. Helps a lot! And I agree. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 06:59 PM |
| 2 | Walkover or boundaries with settlement?Thanks for putting it into perspective. All of this really helps. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Need Advise or HelpLeave asap. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 12:04 AM |
| 3 | Tough day out the blueTrue re the reason why one got separated. One forgets about that. I should be back to normal this weekend. Then one can get back into the swing of things. But thank you - it’s appreciated. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Tough day out the blueAppreciated! | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Tough day out the blueHave been training like a mofo :) and no boozing at all. :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Tough day out the blueIt should be black and white indeed. Hence also confused and wondering what the counter would be. Or why she is stalling it. Hence adds to the tension as well. I’ve given her whatever she wanted (a car, wedding gifts). I think she wants me to send a cat to her on my costs. As her family are all lawyers. But let’s see as she doesn’t have a legal leg to stand on with our marriage contract. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 03:43 PM |
| 2 | I’m exhausted. It’s been a year trying to get this sorted so I can move on. The stress is crushing meSome easy days. Some tough ones. A long journey which sucks. I know. Stay strong. Complain. But stand back up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Divorce: The ultimate hype cycleAmen bother. I’m also I. The through stage. Thought it would have been quicker and easier. But somehow changing as it’s going on … | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/24 04:56 PM |
| 1 | The random hurtHi all - thanks for taking the time to reply. It’s much appreciated. an update: I understand there are opposing views on how to handle it (the situation with her). I think the proposal from her side will depict my behaviour. For me it’s to get out of this as quickly as possible - and I’m thinking (for now at least) to then give whatever it is (within reason) and let this legal aspect be finalised. - if however the demands are really ridiculous I might just reconsider everything on what I origina… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/24 08:30 PM |
| 2 | The random hurtAmen. Thanks for the kind words. And true. Big big “cheap” learning experience. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/24 11:14 PM |
| 1 | The random hurtAgreed. We were renting. I’m still in Europe. She moved back home to continue her business in other country. She came to fetch all her stuff end of November to take it back - so since then really zero contact (except her using my cards which I’ve blocked). But yes. Let’s wait for proposal and then I will see how to approach it. I was super “ok with all” - until pushing this proposal thing. Either way. I’ll know once I receive it. But it’s still an emotional blow somehow. That things go so pear s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/24 11:12 PM |
| 1 | The random hurtLet’s see what the counter proposal is. I have her a car (my other car that she was using) and all the wedding gifts… Still paying for car insurance and medical… I’ve been extremely amicable so far… if - the counter proposal is super dickward I’m considering not giving anything (will need to think about that if I want to be like that). But as you rightfully said - I will not be bullied and would pay lawyers just for the principle of it… But … let’s see what the proposal is. I know she wants a wi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/24 09:58 PM |
| 6 | 4th weekTherapy. And perhaps medication. I’m on both. And monitoring myself. Each day is a new one. Certain one are good. Others not. I did allow myself to grieve and be totally fixated on her and our past for a few weeks. But I’m trying. To look forward. Yet. Certain days are tough. And that is ok. :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/24 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Feelings going up and downWise words. And that is one thing - unless somehow the relationship remains amazing - everything has got some horror aspect to it - especially once kids are involved… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 03:52 PM |
| 10 | Letting the F#%$ GoAh sorry bro. It hurts. It takes time. You are on the right path. For some reason this time I’m not doing it - but previously when a long term ended I did. Hoped. Check social media. And in turn tortured myself. I promised myself - if it ain’t good for me I won’t do it. I won’t torture myself. If I see a pic of us, I try to smile and cherish the good Memory and then focus on getting ahead. Which I struggle with as well. My point is - the more memories are there and around - the tougher it is. Bu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/24 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Feeling sorry for exI did cancel them as she used them - so after each usage… the amounts were pretty small - hence it made me feel even more sorry - but all locked up. :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/24 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Wedding pics at dad’s house🤣🤣🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 11:00 AM |
| 4 | How Sauna Can Help Men Going Through DivorceI’ve always used Sauna as a sense of relieve. First thing post divorce I went to a sauna and a place with hot and cold tubs. :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/23 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Feelings going up and downI think that last part sums it up - “a new life”… I’ve been off the booze for 4 months to get fit again. And thankfully haven’t started since the separation - else I would have increased my drinking as well :) I do think living with spouse and having kids is a totally different ball game again. Good luck that side. And just one thing - when I wrote my post - I was like - “wtf “- if I have to give advice to my self it would be super harsh - and I know to be different - but being in the situation … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/23 01:14 PM |
| 3 | The WifeyFirst and last name. But images have been removed. But WhatsApp comms I still her pic. Lame. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/23 09:44 PM |
| 4 | Had it and Lost it AgainI’m in intense therapy. Your dreams are a way of working Through stuff. Not fun. Brings up memories. I know. I woke up. Lucid dream. Thought I woke up snuggling my now separated wife. Fuck. It hurt all day. Then I was ok for a couple of days. Then I saw our wedding picture (we got married 2 years ago) when visiting my dad. Bam. Another downer. The had a chat with divorce lawyer, then my therapist and then with her. So it’s going back to what you are mentioning. We get triggers. It comes back to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/23 09:17 PM |
| 7 | How to stop looking backI think a lot of people go through this remorse - am I doing the right thing etc. I was there. With previous relationships. And now this one. It’s a normal aspect to doubt. To wonder. To “what if”. But listening to what you are saying. Nope. You are doing the right thing. Keep looking up and forward. Be yourself. It’s her fear speaking as you’ve mentioned. It’s normal. It’s normal to try and each out and hold on to what is leaving. Change is scary. All humans fear it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/23 08:39 PM |
| 6 | Rock bottomI second TechRmd3 I was rock bottom this year Feb. A combo of stuff, work, burn out, relationship, foreign country. I couldn’t get out of bed. I had zero energy. I was suicidal. I was fucking over it. Point is: I’ve been there once before in my life, a decade ago, and it was a long hard journey - my hell on earth. This time around I reached out to professionals asap. Went on meds. Talking to a therapist. And kinda avoided complete disaster. The big thing is you are severely depressed. Get help A… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/23 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Photos and history?Thanks all. Makes sense what each of you are saying. Re social media I’ll unfollow her as I really am not looking forward to the day she is seeing someone else - which most likely will be soon - perhaps not. But that really kills me. Re images. I’ll definitely store them somewhere. And will see how it treats me if I have the “look at this day last year vibes”. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 07:56 AM |
| 1 | Photos and history?And that’s exactly what’s giving me anxiety as well… waiting to find out about that! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 07:54 AM |
| 2 | Anyone get a ‘couples tattoo?’Ah man… we got a few matching ones during our duration of dating and marriage. The others had other meanings hence no biggy. But then we both got a heart and a skull on the our wrist. Plus it was a super bad artist whilst on honeymoon … (I had that covered up whilst still being married - 2 years marriage btw). Then, we obviously also got the ring tattoo. I’ve had my first session on that as she asked to get divorced 3 weeks ago… As they say ‘no regratz’ haha I honestly don’t mind any - except th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 09:39 PM |
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