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| 3 | What Do I Do? Suddenly Finding it difficult to Accept My Nonvirgin Husband's Sexual Past Even though It is Too ShortRPW goals and traditional religious beliefs are not mutually exclusive. In fact, they're quite complimentary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/17 07:17 PM |
| 12 | What Do I Do? Suddenly Finding it difficult to Accept My Nonvirgin Husband's Sexual Past Even though It is Too ShortYou need to let this go and let him come to you. It sounds like you come from a faith that's making him feel unworthy and ashamed and you're making it worse. He waited for you. He married you. He obviously wants you, so quit doubting yourself. Be approachable and kind and stop making him feel bad for something you've already accepted in him. This is clearly a big deal for him, too, if he's avoiding it and crying about it. The difference is that he feels ashamed and rejected and you just feel rej… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/17 04:03 PM |
| 1 | My boss wants to hire my boyfriend.We have multiple married couples working in our library system. My supervisor and her husband are both librarians, at different branches, and they seem to really enjoy having that in common. They know the same people and jargon. They work on committees with the same people and have similar career goals. It's really quite nice for them. I think it can work, if the situation is right. I'd say it really depends on how much time you guys have to spend together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/17 08:39 AM |
| 8 | How can I make myself become marriage material?he offered to let me stay until I found another place, but I just haven't been able to find somewhere affordable It doesn't sound like he really wants you living with him, just from the information you've presented. It's likely that he's getting frustrated by your mention of marriage and family, because he thinks you're trying to move things too fast. I'd suggest finding a new living arrangement before mentioning any of this to him, again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/17 06:55 PM |
| 2 | When did you discuss your timelines?Personally, if you're over 24 and ready to settle down, I'd suggest dating in an environment where you can be upfront about all of these things, possibly even before meeting, such as online dating or meeting people at church or through friends. If you know from the first date, many of your dealbreakers are off the table. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/17 06:37 PM |
| 19 | How can we further prevent our N-counts from increasing?Nun mode is a great way to avoid a high n-count, at this point in your life. It's totally normal and healthy to not want marriage right now, so if that's the case, you don't have to be in a relationship, until you do. Spend time with friends, developing hobbies, getting an education or starting your career. When you find yourself wanting true, lifelong commitment, start dating with a serious end goal in mind. Don't date men without jobs, or who seem like they aren't interested in marriage, or gu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/17 02:05 PM |
| 11 | For those of you engaged/married...did you pick up that he was going to propose?My husband and I are too pragmatic for much romance. He mentioned that he wanted to be engaged by Thanksgiving, so he could announce it then and when we went hiking that week, it was sort of obvious. We'd talked about "when", not "if" for a long time. Neither of us have ever been fans of the total surprise proposal, where the guy doesn't even know what the answer will be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/17 05:36 PM |
| 8 | Made some very UN-RPW moves, help?It’s very hard for me to tell if a guy is interested long term or just wants sex If you don't have sex with any of them, until they're committed to you (calls you his girlfriend, introduces you to his friends/family, etc.), this isn't a problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/17 12:53 PM |
| 0 | What do you think is the cause of women becoming complacent?It is a vicious cycle too. When I put effort into my appearance I feel so much better. I'm productive and cheerful and make good decisions. If I look like a slob I act like a slob. Good for you. I blame the lack of this mentality. Every beautiful woman I know, who's become frumpy, has done so, because she was only ever beautiful for external reasons. Long before I met my husband, even when I was going through my "never getting married" phase, I wore dresses and makeup and did my hair. I shaved m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/17 10:00 PM |
| 1 | How would you feel about your husband/SO going through your phone, journal, and computer?When we were dating, my husband and I agreed to full disclosure, upon marriage. He can go through my phone, internet history, read my blog, or search through any place in the house he shares and vice versa. In a technological age, porn and affairs (either emotional or physical) ruin a marriage far too easily and being open with all of these things from the beginning, is a constant reminder to be appropriate in our actions and conversations. It's a lot harder to institute this policy five years i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/17 09:31 PM |
| 2 | Feminine ways of handling controlling MIL during the holidays?My husband and I only had one Christmas before we were engaged and we didn't spend it together, for this reason. For many, holidays are just for family and that may be his mother's line of thinking. Now that we're married, holidays are getting complicated, especially since his mother and sister have never had to work around anyone else's family. Fortunately, my husband isn't afraid to tell them "I'm sorry, but she has family too and we aren't canceling on them, because your plans have changed." … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/17 06:42 PM |
| 9 | Just got engaged! Any advice for a wife-to-be?If his culture doesn't care about weddings and you're worried about stress, my advice is a small affair. If my husband would've gone for it, I'd have had immediate family and friends only, but he wanted a big wedding. It was beautiful and fun, but with moving to a new city and new jobs for both of us, after a bout of unemployment for him, it was exhausting. The pictures are pretty, but it didn't improve our marriage or anything. It's just a party. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/17 01:25 PM |
| 17 | My boyfriend seems like Captain material but he's not very political. It matters a lot to me. Does this even matter for a long term potential?Is this going to matter when the baby is sick at 2:00 a.m.? That's my vetting question, when someone wants to know if something really matters. My husband loves politics, and while I can have a conversation with him about it, he wears me out sometimes. It's improved since I left Facebook, but it's still too much sometimes and I just have to deal with it, because we're not the same people with the same passions and that's okay. Honestly, he probably wishes you were a little less intense. I'm a li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/17 01:46 PM |
| 14 | How to talk to my brother about his lazy gold digging gfMy family tried to talk to my brother before and after his marriage to a woman who sees him as nothing but a meal ticket. He read it as an ultimatum and now he barely speaks to anyone on his side of the family, so not only is he married to a woman who makes him miserable, he feels like he has no one else. It's been almost 15 years and he is so unhappy. My advice is to zip it and be there for him when it all falls apart, be that in a month or 20 years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/17 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Is there an RP explanation/theory?This rant is completely off topic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/17 12:59 PM |
| 4 | Is there an RP explanation/theory?You're right. There is such a double standard that it's okay to sexually abuse boys, when no one would say those things about a teen girl sleeping with her 22-year-old teacher. I can't imagine the emotional damage this would do to a kid, not just being abused but being fist bumped for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/17 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Is there an RP explanation/theory?I think this is my favorite theory. Almost every woman I know who's gotten divorced has had a period of regression, including myself. I was 23 and had only ever kissed my ex, though, so my period of regression was complete abstinence and refusal to date for about a year. I think the drama of a teen relationship, especially a forbidden one, romanticized by shows like Riverdale, would be intensely appealing to a woman longing for the early days with her high school sweetheart. In fact, I'd say man… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/17 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Sex and the CityIf Charlotte had expressed opposition to the practice at another time in the show, I'd have considered it a sign of her morals, as opposed to a reflection of her own wants. I just don't think Charlotte was any better than the others, though she certainly seemed to think so. As an adult, I think she fits in with the group much better than I thought as a teenager. Honestly, the idea of any of them being role models is laughable, but they do make for entertaining TV. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 05:27 PM |
| 3 | Sex and the CityHe represents everything she had tried so hard to avoid. Unattractive, uncultured, not an admirable line of work, and to top it off, they had completely different religions. Right, because that's the price of being too high on herself for her best years, only to hit the wall and have to settle. The religious and conservative Charlotte is extremely wounded by this information and the two have a fight. I don't buy Charlotte as religious and conservative, since she abandoned any faith she had for h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 04:26 PM |
| 5 | Ever see something in the media and think, "I'm glad I discovered RPW before I thought this was a good idea"?My brother just asked his wife for permission to push Christmas back two hours, so I can come after work. Fingers crossed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Sex and the CityI always loved Charlotte as a kid, because she wanted what I wanted. As an adult, I just think she's pathetic. She's gorgeous and smart and well-bred, and classy. There is no way she's single, unless she's turned down elligible perfect man after elligible perfect man, for ridiculous reasons. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 03:28 PM |
| 9 | Is this thought morally sound?Immoral is a strange word to use. I would say it's unrealistic and even undesirable. While I'd have dated a man with kids, I always knew it would be a struggle, because I don't have kids and therefore can't relate to a lot of the life circumstances of someone who does. For example, a woman with a kid can relate more to being canceled on because the kid is sick, to having the other parent get in their face, because they disciplined their baby, to being interrupted during sex because of a bad drea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 03:17 PM |
| 84 | What are you supposed to do if your boyfriend has a oneitis for another girl?You shouldn't have to "fight for" your relationship so early on. If you've been married for three years and have a baby, sure, but the dating phase should be about getting to know each other and having fun, not competing with another girl. You should've nexted him after a month, but it's not too late to rectify that mistake. Just think how much worse it would be two years in, if he never did get over her... which it doesn't seem he will. Don't be his silver medal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/17 01:28 PM |
| 7 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountMy last date, before I met my husband, was with the nicest guy. He had such a great outlook on life and he was hardworking and interested in the same things I was. At 5'5" I didn't care that he was only 5'7", even though he looked a little on the heavy side, in his picture. However, when we met, he was also at least 40 pounds heavier than that picture showed and even commented on the fact that he'd gained some weight. I sat there feeling horrible for not being attracted to him and only being abl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 05:41 AM |
| 8 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountI had a guy friend share his excitement about a new girl he'd met online once and a week later, his attitude had greatly cooled. After many lame excuses, I finally got him to admit that she'd misrepresented her weight. It says so many things about our skewed view of the dating world that I had to reassure him that it's okay to not be attracted to someone, especially someone who lies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 06:52 PM |
| 8 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountOh, I didn't take it as you sugar coating it. I was actually reaffirming that The Wall isn't usually 24. If there is a hard age, most would say 30. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 06:49 PM |
| 7 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountI'd say this is so unviserally the case in my part of the world (southern US) that even the most blue-pilled men next a woman at 30, often before giving her a chance. This is particularly easy to do in an online dating world. Long before he reads about her love of cooking Super Bowl snacks and serving them to her man, he's clicked on the next profile, because it said 26 instead of 30... which he can do, because more women enter his dating pool every year, while more exit hers. The blue-pilled gu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 03:11 PM |
| 1 | When did you discuss your timelines?I agree. I was Catholic and he was sort of non-denominational traditional Christian. I think that's why he didn't think much of it when I shared that my number was only one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/17 04:58 AM |
| 1 | When did you discuss your timelines?It sounds like you ended a relationship at the right time, so I wouldn't say thats entirely against RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 11:51 PM |
| 1 | When did you discuss your timelines?That seems healthy, the forgetting. It means it came up naturally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 11:50 PM |
| 2 | When did you discuss your timelines?Trust must be tempered with observations and actual 'check ins' that happen organically. The closer you are to someone, the easier it should be for both people to share their dreams, fears, and goals. Beautifully worded. Perhaps this is why I've always cringed at the posts from women wondering if their relationship of two years is to the point of discussing marriage. This is a sign that they don't communicate enough overall, about goals, feelings, or needs. It's been discussed previously, with m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 11:49 PM |
| 1 | When did you discuss your timelines?I feel like, when given the chance early on, most people admit to what you'd call red flags. It's not a "red flag" when a stranger doesn't want kids, only when a boyfriend doesn't, so he's much likelier to mention this on his own, at the beginning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 11:37 PM |
| 15 | When did you discuss your timelines?I met my husband online, and I will say it's a perk of online dating that you can talk about things early on that you could never discuss with someone the night you meet them in a bar. Before we met, I knew my husband wanted kids, was gainfully employed, and shared my religious and political views, so it wasn't awkward at all to verify this information with each other on the first date. As for our timelines, on our second date, my husband mentioned his friends who were married after seven months… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 03:49 PM |
| 12 | Is it possible to have too much sex in a relationship? Does it lose it’s value when it’s so constant?My husband's best friend and his wife visited us for the weekend a few weeks ago. While the guys were outside messing with the smoker, she told me that she and her husband had had sex daily since they'd been married. He was a virgin on their wedding night, so he had no basis for frequency and this is just what he was used to for three years... except now they have a baby. She feels exhausted because she has to perform this daily chore or risk upsetting him and it doesn't feel romantic or special… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 01:32 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend feels pressured to marry me.I agree. It does seem strange that he'd mention marriage himself, then get upset that she mentioned it on her own. While she might be focusing a little too much on it for him right now, I don't think a serious conversation about goals and timelines is out of place after he calms down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/17 08:22 PM |
| 8 | Wedding RingsI've always looked at a man's ring finger. My husband works in manual labor, but religiously wears his ring, switching between the gold band and the silicone work safe one. He sleeps in the gold one. He's a big, tough guy, who doesn't talk about his feelings, so I think it's the sweetest thing in the world, that it's so important to him. Mine isn't as simple, so I only, but always, wear it when I leave the house. I like the reminder of the good man who loves me. Creepy men regularly hit on libra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/17 12:55 AM |
| 3 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?I sort of meant in a larger sense, as well. In many ways, I am, admittedly, my generation. However, often the early 80s are the oldest millenials. Some say as late as 85. I was born in 87. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/17 03:49 AM |
| 3 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?Thank you! I understand if you can't totally pull away, but the professional pages became nearly as draining as the rest of it, so you might give it a go. Maybe you could unfollow and peruse when you think of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/17 03:48 AM |
| 2 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?I made my blog anonymous early on, for just that reason. I don't talk about work or politics or fringe viewpoints much, but I'd like the freedom to do so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/17 03:46 AM |
| 2 | Will You Change Your Name?I got married on May 6th and my name was changed on May 8th. I never really considered keeping my maiden name, despite the professional reputation attached to it, because I knew how strongly my husband felt about it. I don't regret it. I think the combination sounds better and I love that we're obviously husband and wife: The Smiths (not my real name). We also won't have to debate about our children's last names. I did joke about both of us hyphenating, though. I had a boss who did that. He and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/17 01:50 AM |
| 3 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?For me, the real exhaustion is the commitment to another social dynamic. It's different from your in person relationships and requires a specific nuance. If you mess it up, though, it can definitely bleed into in person relationships, such as when you refuse to friend a coworker and they get offended. I don't know if I ever felt better or worse, maybe a little more connected? But that was good and bad and made it a lot easier to say catty things about people I barely knew, which I didn't like. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/17 01:45 AM |
| 4 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?As a millennial, I used to be completely baffled by the ones who never started it. Now I'm seeing the wisdom of it and I'm just glad Facebook now has the option of completely deleting a profile. They used to only allow you to deactivate it, but it would always exist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/17 01:42 AM |
| 3 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?but more importantly these days even important invitations may only be sent out through social media as home addresses are changing more often now than they used to, due to renting vs buying and etc. I think this may be regional. In my part of the country, people buy homes and pretty well stay put. I can see how in a thriving city, that wouldn't be the case, though. I did have to inform my aunts and grandmother that if they want me to attend something, they'll need to call or text. I imagine I'l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 10:29 PM |
| 5 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?I do have this account and an anonymous blog, but I only use this for RedPill stuff and the blog is more like a journal than anything. I think I only know like 5 of my 1500+ followers. I have news apps downloaded, so I don't have to worry about getting lost in silly articles and advertisements on Facebook to receive my news. As a librarian, reading is important for me, but I went through a phase where I'd start a book and never finish it and I wholeheartedly believe my absorption with the Intern… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 09:14 PM |
| 2 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?I don't know if I could do away with the cell phone altogether. I use it a lot for work. I work at a group of five libraries and regularly have to text coworkers and show customers how to use our different resources on my phone. I admire your low tech commitment, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 09:11 PM |
| 2 | New and need advice (book recommendations too!)Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. I read it six months before I met my husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 08:25 PM |
| 10 | Education, Profession, and the RP womanFrom a RP standpoint - men don't really care what a woman does for a living. Now, does that mean it's impossible for men to be interested in a woman's work? No. Does it mean a woman should never talk about her job - especially if she's passionate about it? No. That said, there is a tendency for women to emphasize the wrong things when they are getting to know a gentleman. This is absolutely true. My husband wouldn't have cared what I did for a living, but he would've definitely cared if I were j… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/17 05:12 PM |
| 5 | Share ways that you keep things romantic/exciting/loving in your relationship?I take on the tasks he simply doesn't have it in him to do, but still appreciates. While he does plenty around the house, things likes buying Christmas presents and planning out our new holiday traditions are beyond his capabilities. Our first Christmas, he literally went to the mall the weekend before to buy my gift. So, I've taken on buying all of our Christmas presents before Thanksgiving and this weekend, while he's been hunting, I've been making us new stockings and a tree skirt. He loves C… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/17 01:35 PM |
| 5 | Any tips for a girl who's never been on a date before?No. That puts a lot of pressure on him, and needlessly so, because if it goes somewhere, great and what a sweet story to tell in a few months, but if not, that's okay. If he asks about your dating life, which comes up surprisingly easy, just vaguely tell him you've been busy and haven't been dating a lot lately. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/17 11:34 PM |
| 31 | Any tips for a girl who's never been on a date before?Newly divorced from my first kiss, at 23, I felt the same way. The best advice I got was from my best friend, when I was so nervous I was starting to panic. You don't owe each other anything. You don't have to kiss him or let him touch you at all. You don't even have to like him or see him again, if you don't want. Any reasonable man is going to be okay with most comfort levels on a first date and the one who isn't, isnt someone you want to waste time on, anyway. You guys have to be polite and t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/17 01:44 PM |
| 17 | Where can I find quality men?I met my extroverted, hardworking, funny, alpha on Plenty of Fish, when I was 27. Don't rule out online dating. It's an easy way to meet people, especially if you're introverted and don't want to go out all the time. Just ask the important questions before meeting and meet early, within two weeks, to keep from wasting time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/17 02:07 AM |
| 6 | Should I cash his unsigned checks?That being said, because of the issues we've been having the past few years I am trying to step back so that he has more room to be responsible for himself and develop leadership skills. I'm in the minority here, but I'm getting that this is part of a larger problem of your husband's lack of responsibility. I don't think what you're doing is ridiculous, if you're being direct and not passive aggressive about it, meaning you've spoken to your husband about this. I know everyone's saying a good ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 12:44 PM |
| 3 | Possibly getting back together with my ex and already have doubtsIf you're a virgin, don't waste it on him. Your friend's situation might eventually be your ideal, but don't trap yourself in that now, when you've said you're already wondering what's out there. Date. Go get coffee with guys from class or the campus political club or whatever. Get coffee, make out and keep your panties on and after enough laughably bad dates, you really will be ready for a serious relationship. I met my husband at 27. He was 30. You have time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Share something cute/sweet your SO has done recently or things that are going well!Before I had Lasik, I'd sometimes rouse a little to my husband taking off my glasses and kissing my forehead. Swoon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/17 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Share something cute/sweet your SO has done recently or things that are going well!I've had a falling out with some close friends. Our lifestyles don't mesh and I often feel like I have to affirm their poor decisions (dating deadbeats and leaving loyal husbands.) It's been a long time coming, but it's still been hard. My husband has been incredibly supportive, reminding me that I take responsibility for my actions when they don't, that they don't have the same moral purpose, telling me he's proud of me for working on healthier friendships. I think it means more, knowing that i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/17 02:23 PM |
| 25 | I think I (30)have screwed everything up with my husband (35)and I don't know how to undo the damageI don't really have any reading suggestions for your marriage, but you might, honestly, tone down the Red Pill reading. It seems to be convincing you that it's all your fault and a key element is men taking responsibility, as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 03:22 PM |
| 2 | What do you ACTUALLY wear around the house?I've been trading boy movies for episodes of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 04:25 PM |
| 5 | What do you ACTUALLY wear around the house?Yeah, the homemade flannel Star Trek pants I like to wear around the house look a lot cuter with a black tank top. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 04:16 PM |
| 12 | What do you ACTUALLY wear around the house?I love your honesty. Personally, I choose dresses, because they feel exactly like lounging around in a t-shirt. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 03:31 PM |
| 50 | I think I (30)have screwed everything up with my husband (35)and I don't know how to undo the damageI made the terrible mistake of saying once that I'm feeling like I provide more than he does. He has latched onto this and made it a major issue. Honestly, he's made it a major issue, because it is a major issue. If he's not contributing in some way, it's a problem. We are both teachers, and this week I made all our lesson plans. I worked for about three hours on them. He just did a copy and paste job to make his. This was somehow not enough for him. He was angry and distant that he had to spend… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 03:24 PM |
| 9 | What do you ACTUALLY wear around the house?I dress nice for work, almost always a dress and full jewelry. I don't spend a lot on my clothes, but I do want to keep them nice, so when I get home, I almost always immediately change into lounging clothes, such as leggings/yoga pants and a t-shirt that's free of holes or stains, and I take off my jewelry and bra (breast reduction, so they aren't saggy). I keep my makeup on, however, until I shower and go to bed, so my husband knows I want to be pretty for him, too. I sleep in t-shirts, ones t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Best Fictional RP CouplesMy husband is pretty flattered by the comparison. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/17 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Best Fictional RP CouplesI've been rewatching and I'm on the fence about this one, because I see both sides, as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/17 08:28 PM |
| 1 | [30F] "I've had my share of bad boys now and am definitely in need of a Mr. Right."I did no such thing. I simply said that we wouldn't have been right for each other, had we pictured completely different futures. You're literally criticizing me for vetting. You need to be less presumptive and yes, I am very lucky to have him. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/10/17 05:14 PM |
| 8 | Do any of you RPW cook with your husband or boyfriend (sometimes)?My husband and I naturally gravitate toward gender traditional chores... except cooking. He has an opinion on everything and can't handle not micromanaging me in the kitchen. Couple that with the fact that he's the first home in the evenings, by an hour or more, and it just makes sense for him to do it. Honestly, I think it's natural to veer from the strictly traditional roles a bit, when you both work full time, like we do. I'd say it's much more important how you interact than who does what. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/17 12:32 PM |
| 9 | Best Fictional RP CouplesI think it's more about her presentation, than her choices, because I agree. She should've settled down 10 years earlier and kept her panties on, but gosh she was gorgeous, well dressed, and poised. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/17 06:31 PM |
| 4 | Let’s talk prenups.I'd have signed a prenup. My husband is a 1% owner of the family ranch and will get 1/3 when his parents die. I'd have been happy to say I have no rights to it and even that I'll repay any of my debt he paid off, if we're married for less than 10 years... but that's about all I could do. In my state, you can't sign away alimony. Even though I say I wouldn't want anything from him and that I have my own well-paying career, we can't make that legally binding. Additionally, any wealth we build woul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/17 06:24 PM |
| 3 | Best Fictional RP CouplesThis is a great example of an RP man. John Wayne isn't loud or pushy and actually refuses to fight, but is very much the alpha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/17 04:01 PM |
| 18 | Best Fictional RP CouplesDrama - Eric and Tammy Taylor I love the way Tammy lets Eric lead, almost as much as I love his leadership. He does what's best for his family, but is undoubtedly the head of his household. Sitcom - Red and Kitty Foreman I regularly joke that I married Red Foreman, the pragmatic hardass, who doesn't care if people like him, but has a soft spot for Kitty. Red leads his household and Kitty carefully chooses her moments to make a stand. Additionally, I'd say the worst are Lois and Hal from Malcolm … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/17 02:04 PM |
| 2 | Real Life Vetting ScenariosYeah, I'd say that's true of us, as well, but I'm more interested in social issues and he's more interested in actual candidates. We can still have lively discussions and debates, but the actual politics aren't as big of an issue as our values. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/17 09:49 PM |
| 7 | Real Life Vetting ScenariosI'd have judged a man for this, too. I was really tired of men who just didn't care about politics. I got the opposite, in the end. Sometimes, I have to put a moratorium on the politics in our house, now. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/17 09:24 PM |
| 2 | Real Life Vetting ScenariosI said a man who claimed he was Catholic openly mocked me for my Catholicism (despite the fact that my non-Catholic husband and many non-Catholic friends have only ever been respectful of my beliefs). It had nothing to do with how Catholic he was, but how rude he was. Your question isn't relevant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/17 07:49 PM |
| 3 | Real Life Vetting ScenariosI agree. I've never understood waiting three months to ask if he wants kids or what religion he'd like to raise them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/17 07:46 PM |
| 8 | Real Life Vetting ScenariosI dated with purpose, until I met my husband, so I could usually tell early on if a match had promise and never pursued something "just for fun." Though I dated online, which allowed me to ask the fundamental questions before I even met someone, some topics wouldn't be thoroughly discussed until the first or second date. Religion and career were always treacherous territory. If they couldn't be respectful of my faith or my life's work, I knew we'd never happen. The guy who claimed to also be Cat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/17 05:27 PM |
| 4 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanI do agree with your last point. I will say, I met my husband at 27 and married at 29. I disagree with the RPW push toward young marriage and I think there's validity in the statement that we're too accepting of things like sleeping around when you're 22 and then expect virginity at 25. However, my number is 2 and I was single for a long time, listening to my friends tell me to "just have a one night stand." I didn't... even at 23. So I have trouble giving much credit to the argument that societ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 12:34 PM |
| 2 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanDeflecting responsibility is the problem. Society isn't to blame for the average woman's decisions. I work in one of the most liberal fields in existence and still, I stuck to my principles and got the traditional life I wanted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 04:19 AM |
| 4 | Vetting For Marriage?I'd say similar goals are the most important thing. If he wants to live in the country and own horses, but you see yourself in heels, taking your kid to swanky play times, getting Starbucks with the local moms group, you're going to have a lot of trouble. If he's really interested in keeping up with the Jones's, but you'd like to try the small house movement, there's not really a good compromise. Common interests are great, but uncommon goals are death sentences. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/10/17 08:02 PM |
| 40 | How should I bring up a money issue to my BF the RIGHT way?"I appreciate the money for groceries and eating out, but if you're going to continue staying here, next month we need to move to a 50/50 model." There is nothing wrong with this level of directness. He's taking advantage of you, just as he apparently did his parents, and he knows it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/17 01:36 PM |
| 4 | Blue pill mothers v. Red Pill MothersI actually didn't realize she was presently pregnant, which makes that a little less eating disorder-ish. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/17 01:16 PM |
| 22 | Saw this online today and thought it was fitting!My husband definitely does his share of the chores. I knew he knew how to take care of a home and himself, long before I married him. That should be part of the vetting process. Women who complain that they're married to children, have only themselves to blame. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/17 02:55 AM |
| 5 | Blue pill mothers v. Red Pill MothersI don't have an excuse, beyond lack of coordination. I just wear flats. I wore cowboy boots on my wedding day, though. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/17 02:48 AM |
| 7 | Blue pill mothers v. Red Pill MothersI'm aware it's not a Red Pill viewpoint, but I find that a little weight is forgivable when coupled with effort and a pleasant demeanor, but some women throw the baby out with the bathwater. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 11:41 PM |
| 6 | Blue pill mothers v. Red Pill MothersThat is pretty extreme... and a lot to expect from anyone. Just don't be too hard on yourself or even other women if that's not doable. It's not either/or. There's definitely middle ground that leans Red Pill. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 11:39 PM |
| 11 | Blue pill mothers v. Red Pill MothersYou're speaking in unfair stereotypes, though. I mean, yes, there's the stereotype of the overweight Midwestern mom who gives her kids Ding Dongs all the time, but there's also the cosmopolitan New York mom who's always gorgeous... and there's also Bridget Jones, who is an unflattering European stereotype. I really hate when my parent friends tell me I don't know what I'm talking about, because I don't have kids and that's not what I'm trying to do to you, but not having kids makes it a lot easi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Blue pill mothers v. Red Pill MothersI apologize. Your original post made it seem like she was distracted more than anything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 11:26 PM |
| 15 | Blue pill mothers v. Red Pill MothersI'd even say that there are more realistic examples of the Blue Pill vs. Red Pill Mom dichotomy. I have a cousin who stays home, because day care is too expensive, not because it suits her as a person or a mother. She's gained around 60 pounds since the wedding day and is strictly a jeans and t-shirt with no make-up gal until she has a reason to dress up, such as a family event or date night. When she does dress up, she's very pretty and stylish, as she used to be a hair dresser and was always o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 09:42 PM |
| 4 | How long do you stay in monk mode?I was single for four years before I met my husband and since he's only the second person I've really kissed, it was definitely not about hooking up for me. The Single Life, for me, was about spending time with my girlfriends, furthering my education and career, going on dates and figuring out what I really wanted in a man, and just doing whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. That might have meant getting a drink with a friend, seeing a movie alone, starting some ridiculously messy and loud craf… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 09:27 PM |
| 37 | Blue pill mothers v. Red Pill MothersI was also wondering how apparent it was that OP was judging her, which would explain the dirty looks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 07:00 PM |
| 77 | Blue pill mothers v. Red Pill MothersI feel like you're describing two extremes, both a little ridiculous, honestly. The first woman dressed like she was about to mow the lawn and didn't clean her house for a meet and greet she knew was coming and the second is allowed a "sip of Gatorade" as her only treat and "never" gives her child an unhealthy snack. Neither of these examples represents a norm, in my opinion. In fact, I find one of my frustrations with modern mom culture is that these are the only two caricatures we see. There's… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 06:58 PM |
| 4 | How long do you stay in monk mode?I'm sorry. I read your other reply about your first relationship and thought it was the same one. If you're ready before a year, go for it. Just remember you won't get this time back. If you're curious about the single life at 35, with 2 kids, it's a hard feeling to shake and an even harder decision to take back, because it's a very different world. Be sure you're ready is really the best advice anyone can give and only you can tell if you're ready. I don't think there is a set amount of time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 05:42 PM |
| 6 | How long do you stay in monk mode?You're aware that time is a factor, so I honestly think you're good to take a full year to yourself. That's my recommendation: one year. It's long enough that if you get into something serious right away after you start dating, you can look back on the good times you had while single, but not so long that you're wasting your youth and beauty. Because you had an amicable split, despite a rough relationship, I don't think you necessarily need to take longer, though I'd dare say you could remain si… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 02:35 PM |
| 4 | Surprised by the difference staying at home vs working made in our relationshipI think your points are interesting and valid, but it really catches my attention that your observations don't really apply to being a SAHM, just a SAHW. If you find working passionately to be draining, parenting all day would likely be far more exhausting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/17 10:54 PM |
| 2 | [30F] "I've had my share of bad boys now and am definitely in need of a Mr. Right."Edit: I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not. Meh. We were talking about our previous dealbreakers when we had been dating for several months and were already deeply committed. He'd tried dating women over 30 and women with kids and had realized it just wouldn't work for him. Everyone's allowed their dealbreakers. I told him all about how I wouldn't have dated him if he was planning to stay in oil forever. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 08/10/17 02:18 PM |
| 13 | [30F] "I've had my share of bad boys now and am definitely in need of a Mr. Right."Eye roll. You're an idiot if you think a woman automatically hits the wall at 27... an argumentative idiot who's pushing back against someone for backing up the entire point of this post. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 08/10/17 12:11 AM |
| 1 | "Looking for a man that is capable of helping me physically as well as financially.""... and lactation"? Who has she been dating?!?! | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 07/10/17 05:46 PM |
| 5 | Do men hit "the wall" too?I think you meant "sexiest," but I'd agree. My husband is very attractive to me, at 5'8", losing his red hair, with a tiny pudge. I don't care. He's hilarious and a good person and I genuinely find him attractive. If he can deal with my faults, I can accept his. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Honest question, would you rather date a wealthy self made millionaire dropout(HS or College), or an Ivy League graduate? All else considered equal.It's an extremely unlikely situation, so yes, there's probably a specific course that would have to take place for this to occur. I admit I don't know what that would be, but in this make-believe story, that's the only scenario I can fathom. To clarify, I'm not trying to be argumentative either. This was just what I took from the fanciful, general post. I did delete my comment, because I obviously misunderstood. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Honest question, would you rather date a wealthy self made millionaire dropout(HS or College), or an Ivy League graduate? All else considered equal.I viewed "investing" to mean stocks or real estate gambles, because the only way for a young man to make that kind of money would be with big risk and I wouldn't be attracted to big risk. As far as owning a business goes, I'd also say that for any fairly young man to have a successful business, he's going to have to be a pretty active participant, unless it were a craft like the ones I mentioned. You're right. I don't know much about that world, but that's what I took the OP to mean. Honestly, t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 04:12 PM |
| 5 | Do men hit "the wall" too?Meh. I disagree. I have a friend from a few years back who's 32, a virgin, morbidly obese, and has never had a girlfriend. He works at a bus barn, because he can spend the majority of the day at home playing video games, a home which has only just recently become not his mother's. It's an extreme case, but when I was dating online, my biggest rant was "He lives at home? No. I live at home. That's what home is. He lives at his parents' home!" Failure to launch has become it's own epidemic in men,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 04:10 PM |
| 22 | [30F] "I've had my share of bad boys now and am definitely in need of a Mr. Right."My husband has told me, point blank, that he wasn't interested in women over 30 or with children and especially not one who didn't work. Lucky for me, I was 27 and child free, with a good job and only one previous partner. Also, how is she ambitious, at all, if she doesn't even have a job? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 07/10/17 03:55 PM |
| 5 | Is boyfriend embarrassed of me - thoughts?You bait and switched him. You know who he was attracted to when you met and you're not just that person, but five years older. You look completely different, now. Attraction is important, especially when you're young and the most sexual you'll ever be. It's not unfair for him to want that back. You should want that back, too. You're never going to be this young and potentially gorgeous again. Don't miss out on that. As far as him being embarrassed goes, if you're big enough that you can't be on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Honest question, would you rather date a wealthy self made millionaire dropout(HS or College), or an Ivy League graduate? All else considered equal.I apologize. You might want to clarify your post, because it was pretty general. Having money doesn't mean having stability. I see a man who has a lot of money invested, which is a gamble of sorts, and that his fallback is part time work as a "business owner," which I'm seeing as a craft, something like a screen printing business or maybe carpentry. There aren't a lot of businesses that allow their owners to work part time. I'm going to delete my response, because I misread. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 03:39 PM |
| 7 | "Where are all the good men?"I've actually given similar advice, before, to a woman who was feeling restless. I recommended she browse Plenty of Fish and look at the men who are actually available at her age, see the dating market for what it was. She reported that it helped a great deal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 03:27 PM |
| 25 | Do men hit "the wall" too?I think men hit the wall in a different way than women, because of what the opposite sex values. Women hit the wall physically, because men want young, fit, healthy, fertile women with little baggage. Women, however, want experienced, successful, wealthy men who are mature enough to care for a family, so their appearance is much less of a factor. They can, however, miss the window for this level of success and hit the wall in that sense. If he's 35, working at a gas station, and he spends his we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Honest question, would you rather date a wealthy self made millionaire dropout(HS or College), or an Ivy League graduate? All else considered equal.I'd probably say the Ivy League graduate, just because the career you've outlined for him is steadier than investing and owning a business part time. I'd judge him for wasting his money on such an expensive college, honestly. Neither of these is really that appealing to me. I'd rather be with a man who works hard and earns a decent living and enjoys doing it, no matter what it is. I think lawyers hit a lot of moral grey area and I feel like anyone who relies on part time income and investments d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 03:14 PM |
| 4 | Found this today. Wanted to know you ladies' takes on it.Yes, yes, and yes. It's all just a way of making the daily grind that effects everyone into a huge task worthy of martyrdom. If you want to free up time in your week to call the cleaning lady, cut out the essay whining about calling the cleaning lady. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/10/17 06:35 PM |
| 6 | Found this today. Wanted to know you ladies' takes on it.This was my biggest issue with the article. I didn't think her requested gift was so crazy, if it was in the budget, but she should have clarified that she wanted him to do the leg work and that that, in itself, was the gift. I also, however, am irritated by the idea of a SAHM wanting someone else to clean her house. That's literally her job, as she titles it "household manager." Then again, it's the current feminist focus of "women in charge" that's led to grown men who need someone to manage t… | /r/RedPillWives | 03/10/17 06:22 PM |
| 3 | "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." -Marilyn MonroeMarilyn Monroe never said this. People are just stupid and will believe anything they read online. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/17 12:43 PM |
| 3 | I hate trying to date.I was in a similar place six years ago. I was getting over an early (well justified) divorce and had just lost a ton of weight. I'd never dated and had no idea how to talk to men, how to bring up the divorce, how to make it clear I wasn't an easy lay, without awkwardly blurting out that I wasn't an easy lay. My best friend gave me the best advice: you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. If you don't like him, you can end the date reasonably early and you never have to see him again. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/17 05:01 AM |
| 2 | Quitting birth control changed everythingI researched both quite a bit and read so many stories about constant bleeding and pain, I'd never even try it. Several friends told me it was a nightmare and since you're supposed to keep in for a few years, it's hard to get it removed. I've heard the same of Nexplanon. Some women even cut it out of their own arm. I also have no reason to keep one for 12 years, since I'm planning on having it out in a year and a half to have kids. We probably won't use anything else until we're done with kids a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/17 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Quitting birth control changed everythingI've heard nothing but horror stories about copper IUD's. I'd prefer hormones isolated to my uterus. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/17 01:57 PM |
| 10 | My husband is struggling with the job/life he wants and the job/life that he hasCongratulations for doing everything you can to encourage and support your husband. That's wonderful. That being said, it sounds like this is beyond you and he needs to seek professional help. He's clearly unhappy and bordering on depression and it doesn't appear he's taking much responsibility for his problems (blaming you and his undefined lack of more). "If I didn't have to worry about money, our lives would be so much different." Well, yes. He'd be a Disney Prince and wouldn't that be fun? T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/17 08:38 PM |
| 7 | 25F freaking out about the wall, just want to get engaged and married already.All of the stuff in your first paragraph can be arranged with legal documents and ownership contracts. If you can't work together without a marriage document you're really both using the state to coerce each other into the giant unfairness that is 50/50 and no fault divorce. I make more money than my husband, so a 50/50 divorce would favor him, at this point and I'm okay with that, since divorce isn't in our plans. At least, this way, he couldn't be completely screwed since we decided together t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/17 03:02 PM |
| 3 | When he doesn't do what he says he will, when do you just do it yourself?I understand your frustration in this insistence and admire your commitment not to nag, but I think letting it play out for weeks at a time works best when it's not a recurring issue. In this situation, it seems your turnaround is simply too long. Without irritation or manipulative goals, I'd suggest you start telling your husband when these things, that he wants to do for his family, need to be done and committing, privately, to doing them yourself after one week. Life is busy and you seem to u… | /r/RedPillWives | 24/07/17 02:06 PM |
| 20 | 25F freaking out about the wall, just want to get engaged and married already.I may be in the minority here, but I don't think it's unreasonable to have a discussion about timelines, after two years. In fact, I'd say it's overdue. When you're feeling less emotional about the situation, initiate a discussion about your life goals, not just marriage. Ask if he wants to live in the same city, buy a home, have children, travel, make any investments and which of these plans are short term and which are long term. Ask how he sees the next five years and rationally have your own… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/17 01:28 PM |
| 7 | 25F freaking out about the wall, just want to get engaged and married already.If my husband and I weren't married, the risk for joint investments would be huge. We simply wouldn't be willing to buy a home together, save for retirement together, pay off debts together, or even join our finances at all, because neither of us would have any legal protections in the event of a separation. Over time, as a married couple, our investments will grow more, because larger sums collect more interest. Our debts will dwindle more quickly, because larger payments chip away faster. If w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/17 01:22 PM |
| 3 | Confidence vs. insecurity vs. clingy/needy?"I'm afraid I'll die alone with no one to care for me." vs. "I'm afraid I'll die alone with no one to care for." Insecurity is a desire to be taken care of and protected. Vulnerability is a willingness to care for and protect someone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/17 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Alpha Widow from a Pro PUA.Thank you. I think part of the struggle for women is projection. They want commitment and they see a guy who's ambivalent about commitment and decide he feels the same way. If you want to see the signs, you will. The same applies to men vetting a partner. Women aren't that good at hiding their crazy. Some men just don't want to see it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Alpha Widow from a Pro PUA.That's kind of sad, not as much on your part, but that these women don't pick up on that. If you straight up lied, that would be one thing, but that's a pretty big tell that a man isn't looking for anything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Going GreyThat makes sense and I hadn't considered it. I can see how a woman just wouldn't feel like herself with grey hair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 07:16 PM |
| 2 | Alpha Widow from a Pro PUA.By the time I went from messaging, emailing, and talking on the phone to actually meeting up with someone it was very much understood that we both wanted something serious. This was definitely the case for me. I mentioned on my profile the I was looking for something serious, but that a first date is basically a meet and greet. I don't think I ever had a first date where the guy didn't know I wanted a serious relationship. At the same time, though, my husband didn't know about my Married By Thir… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Alpha Widow from a Pro PUA.Definitely. None of the sentiments are wrong, but I think men assume women hear what they're saying: "let's have some naked fun for now, because I have a vague idea of the future, at best." In actuality, they focus on the possibility that they could be the right one for him, down the line. It's one reason I always preferred online dating. People made their intentions so much clearer, so much earlier on, often before even meeting. Women seem to assume that a man won't admit to looking for somethi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 06:37 PM |
| 4 | Alpha Widow from a Pro PUA.I also made a point to bring this up on a first date, just to be clear. Not in a heavy, mood-killing way. It was always really easy for me to be clear about my intentions while being fun. Women over-complicate this all the time. Her: "So what brought you to online dating?" Him: "Well, I'm so busy with work and college is over, I can't seem to meet women any other way. You?" Her: "Oh, you know, the same. All my friends are settling down and it's harder to meet a guy, myself, these days." Him: "Ye… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 05:37 PM |
| 7 | Alpha Widow from a Pro PUA.You didn't sleep with him and now he's not interested. The alternative was being used for sex, not happily ever after. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Going GreyI agree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 04:50 PM |
| 2 | When did you have sex with your most recent/current relationship?I love your flair. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 04:05 PM |
| 1 | When did you have sex with your most recent/current relationship?We had our first kiss at about two months. We met online and he was a stranger to me for the first few dates and he picked up on my hesitancy and lack of experience. Since I'd only been with one person and he'd been with a lot more than one person, I got the Gardasil shot at 28, so I wouldn't have to worry about HPV. It's a six month shot course and he waited. We fooled around and had oral sex, but nothing more. We went skiing right after I got the last shot and had sex for the first time just a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Fiction Reading Recommendations?My favorite, admittedly trashy romance novelist, is Kristen Ashley, with her ridiculously alpha heroes and sassy heroines. Her older stuff is definitely my guilty pleasure read. If you're looking for a good cautionary tale, I'd recommend Revolutionary Road or The Amateur Marriage. These are tales of women you don't want to be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Going GreyHaving never dyed my hair, it is likely that I'm only judging obviously bad dye jobs. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 03:59 PM |
| 1 | How can I be less judgmental?Personally, I try to keep in mind that I can love and support my friends, without loving and supporting their decisions. A very close friend just finalized her divorce, because they're "different people" and he won't help around the house more or take a more active role in raising their children. He's not a bad guy. As a former 23-year-old divorcee, who ran from someone who was completely psychotic, I struggle not to judge her. I'd have loved for my problems to be as simple as hers. Judging her … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 03:53 PM |
| 2 | Going GreyDying your hair also isn't that expensive if you do it yourself. 20-30 bucks every 6-8 months, with smaller root touch-ups. All lot of boxed dye looks like boxed dye to me. I imagine I would dye my hair until I neared 50, were it necessary, though. I will say, I always admire a woman who goes grey with confidence and poise. Maybe that's the key as much as appearance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 03:38 PM |
| 12 | I don't know that I believe that respect is the key to relationshipsSometimes men marry the women they should've just dated. The women you talk about are usually beautiful, in a high-maintenance way and that looks great on social media and at his brother's wedding. He doesn't care that she's a bitch, because she's a sure thing and she makes him look good. She's usually game for a night of drinking with the boys and some particularly degrading sex and that cancels out the fact that she's rude and demanding and disrespectful. The problem, of course, is when a man … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 12:49 PM |
| 1 | A man's honesty is a giftI'll have to look that up! I've never seen or heard anyone mention that and it always baffles me that no one talks about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 12:30 PM |
| 1 | A man's honesty is a giftLol, no. That was a typo. I, eventually, got down to about 155, which I guess puts the total at more like 115, but it was more like 100 (not 90) initially and for about a year. I built up a lot of muscle from working out daily and am pretty happy with my current weight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/17 05:07 PM |
| 4 | A man's honesty is a giftEdit: 270. Lol. Yes, people definitely aren't hateful. They're just totally ambivalent. You may as well not exist. People would actually pass me up in line, because they didn't notice me. It's such a strange phenomenon that no one talks about, because they're too busy insisting they can be beautiful at a heavier weight. People still ask me what motivated me and the answer is "success." You lose 10 pounds and that encourages you to lose 10 more. What starts off that first 10 pounds? Realizing tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/17 04:57 PM |
| 24 | A man's honesty is a giftWhen I was miserably married at 21, I topped out at 5'5.5" and 270 pounds. I remember looking in a mirror and thinking "I don't even feel like a woman, anymore." I used to think that I looked like a shaved gorilla. What an awful thing to think about oneself. After I got divorced, I was walking around the mall with my best friend one day. She nodded to the Hollister store and commented that it was strange that we were too old for Hollister. I realized that I'd never had the confidence or been the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/17 04:41 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, today is the Eve of my 30th BirthdayI am so excited to turn 30 in September. I've accomplished everything I wanted in my twenties. I have a master's degree in library and information studies and I'm working full time in a great, well paying, system as a teen librarian. I'm at a healthy weight and I do my makeup and dress cute every day. I married a wonderful man this May and I don't have much debt left, besides my federal student loans, which will be forgiven under Public Service Loan Forgiveness in seven more years. I spaced thin… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/07/17 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Divorce: Ugly TruthsYet, more often than not, divorces stem from simple disagreements or as the phrase I often hear from celeb magazines are ‘irreconcilable differences’. To put it simply: mommy and daddy can’t get along so they will just part ways. I tend to find "irreconcilable differences" means "none of your business." As you said, children are often those most harmed in these situations, so I would agree with the idea of requiring those with children to justify their decisions, but someone without? I don't thi… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/07/17 03:26 PM |
| 1 | "Getting Married Is Not An Accomplishment" - Let's Discuss!Most anyone can get a job, or complete college. There is a formulaic approach to those things that require very little self-examination or potential change. This has always baffled me! My best friend has always been very supportive of my goals, but a few years ago, when I told her it was goal of mine to be married by 30, she was floored. "How can that be a goal?" I told her, my career goals were contingent on my finding the right place with several people and them feeling the same about me. Marr… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/07/17 03:20 PM |
| 1 | I like to dress well and I feel animosity from my girlfriendsI think it's pretty natural to look at a friend and think "She'd look so pretty if she'd highlight her eyes a little more." Perhaps OP is self-conscious being the only one in the group who's dressed up and it makes her feel like they're judging her. There's a possibility they are, of course, but returning the favor by calling them dumpy just drags OP down. Without more information on why she feels this way, it reads like OP's friends have never actually vocalized any negative opinions, which put… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/17 01:51 PM |
| 3 | I like to dress well and I feel animosity from my girlfriendssometimes I get a vibe. If they haven't actually said anything to you, I'd stop obsessing over what they might be thinking. I dress like Zooey Deschanel In The New Girl and my best friend is a mail carrier, who usually looks like it's moving day or she's about to go to the gym. My highest maintenance friend puts her energy into gorgeous hair and makeup, but is usually wearing jeans and some fandom themed t-shirt. My newly divorced friend is going through a frumpy phase, because divorce is hard. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/17 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Framing help - correcting my SO's showering habits.I'm a librarian and I still feel gross by the end of the day. I just can't go to my clean bed without a shower. My husband showers first thing when he gets home, because of his job, and that's fine with me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/17 12:31 PM |
| 10 | Quitting birth control changed everythingI recommend an IUD, such as Mirena. Nuvaring gave me HORRIBLE bladder problems. I ended up with a kidney infection that would've had me in the hospital, had I had insurance. I switched to the pill and for months, I'd still cry from the pain at work. Sex wasn't exactly fun, either, and my husband (then, boyfriend) and I were both getting tired of me being sick all the time. Finally, I decided to do away with all birth control, despite the fact that no medical professionals would admit to it as th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/17 07:35 PM |
| 2 | Framing help - correcting my SO's showering habits.Lol, I have no idea. You're right that there wasn't much information beyond the words "extra clean." | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/17 03:54 PM |
| 4 | Framing help - correcting my SO's showering habits.She didn't want him to switch the time of his shower though, she made it clear she wants him to add a second one, just as she does. Ah. Perhaps I didn't read closely enough. I didn't get that from her post. If that is, indeed, her goal, then yes, it's unreasonable and not the healthiest request. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/17 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Elite Older families and red pillFWIW, I'm pretty emotional but my husband doesn't mind. I find the idea of being completely unemotional pretty off putting. If I'm upset and won't tell my husband what's wrong, he gets frustrated. It makes the whole situation unnecessarily dramatic. I just don't think that dynamic works for some. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/17 01:46 PM |
| 17 | Framing help - correcting my SO's showering habits.I side with the majority that this is manipulative behavior, however I'm going to take the minority stance and say this isn't completely unreasonable. Perhaps it's because my husband has a very physical job, or possibly because it's summer in the South, but I think it's gross for either of us to go to bed without a shower. I was direct with my husband, though it was when it was my bed, not our bed. "I don't want the bed to feel dirty, right after I wash the sheets. Please take a shower at night,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/17 12:43 PM |
| 2 | I'm not attracting the kind of man I want. RP Ladies, can you offer any advice?Pretty much any feminist publication or blog is full of these 'modern warriors' that would trade just about anything for an actual relationship. Meanwhile, they told me, all through my twenties, that it was pathetic to chase marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/17 04:14 PM |
| 3 | I'm not attracting the kind of man I want. RP Ladies, can you offer any advice?It seems the horror stories of older women should be taken much more seriously. Unfortunately, I generally just see women saying 'that sucks' and choosing not to see how easily they could end up in the same situation. Everyone loves a train wreck, but no one thinks their train will crash. On the rare occasion an older woman will admit she's made these mistakes, younger women often still refuse to acknowledge that they're doing these same things. They'll justify passing a guy up with a valid reas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/17 03:51 PM |
| 3 | I'm not attracting the kind of man I want. RP Ladies, can you offer any advice?The more attractive a person is, and the more they bring to the table, the longer their deal breaker list can be. Oh, certainly. Women just tend to overestimate what they bring to the table. I've recommended this book several times here and have even seen others mention it since. I actually never read dating guides until this one came to my attention, when I was making a New Year's Resolutions display at work and the provocative title caught my eye. The basic gist is that 42-year-old Lori Gottli… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/17 03:37 PM |
| 5 | I'm not attracting the kind of man I want. RP Ladies, can you offer any advice?Assuming they aren't balding It's funny that you mention this, because I find this criteria to be one of the silliest women list, right behind height, just for statistical reasons. It's actually a fact that 2/3 of men will experience significant hair loss by age 35. So, all of these women who are frustrated with the single life, but list balding as a deal breaker, might want to rethink their priorities. As time goes on, more and more men are going to lose their hair. If they think they're too go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/17 03:24 PM |
| 5 | I'm not attracting the kind of man I want. RP Ladies, can you offer any advice?I agree /u/teaandtalk. I read once that you have to lay your cards out on the table one by one. You can't throw the whole deck in the air and expect someone to care about the mess. It's a valid point. While it's important to be careful about how much information is given early on, however, it's just as important to be careful how much is withheld. Scores of online dating profiles from women in their thirties read "I tend to be closed off, but if you work at it, you'll find I'm worth it." He does… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/17 02:44 PM |
| 5 | I'm not attracting the kind of man I want. RP Ladies, can you offer any advice?Even 35-40 year old men will try to avoid their age appropriate peers in many cases, in an effort to chase youthful femininity without all the tears and weight of expectation. We've actually tried to have speed dating events in my library system, but men refuse to attend the age appropriate group events. It's apparently a common problem of speed dating. Thirty-something women go to the thirty-something event and thirty-something men go to the twenty-something event. These women also don't want t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/17 02:28 PM |
| 9 | I'm not attracting the kind of man I want. RP Ladies, can you offer any advice?I'm not sure what age bracket you are going for, but you may want to consider dating older. This is so important. If you're dating thirty-something men, they possibly just see you as a fling. They're, statistically, more likely to settle down with a 28-year-old. The good news is, men in their forties are often still very attractive and fit! Start looking at the over-forty crowd, who will see you as a younger woman with less emotional baggage than your 45-year-old counterpart. They're likely to t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/17 02:25 PM |
| 7 | I'm not attracting the kind of man I want. RP Ladies, can you offer any advice?It's just really common for women to include those things, so I thought I'd mention it. I think the thought process is that they're being open from the start, but it's hard to have much empathy for a total stranger's personal issues. It doesn't sound like being too picky is your problem, so much as giving a second date when you're seeing red flags. You owe no one any more of your time than makes you comfortable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/17 03:42 AM |
| 24 | I'm not attracting the kind of man I want. RP Ladies, can you offer any advice?Unfortunately I tend to hold people (regardless of gender) at arms length for a while until I feel that I can trust them enough to let down my guard and be vulnerable. A friend told me that this quality could be off-putting, but that the right person would understand where I'm coming from and be patient. In my opinion, your friend is either saying what you want to hear or she's mistaken. The dating world is filled with jaded women in their mid-thirties, who want a man to work for their trust. Wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/17 03:28 AM |
| 1 | When he has a high n count...I agree that people cheat when they aren't fulfilled, but it's easier to understand that an affair won't fulfill you either, if you don't have a romanticized vision of sex with strangers. I have a friend who just left her husband, in part, because she wonders what it's like to be out there on her own, to date and experience the unknown. When I'm 35, as she is, I'll remember what it was like to be single and I won't have this crazy fantasy. My husband will know that one-night-stands are just awkw… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/17 02:15 AM |
| 1 | When he has a high n count...My comment about ugliness was directly referencing "keeping his balls drained." That was unnecessarily disgusting and rude. I actually wasn't saying that that's the sole reason he won't cheat, so much as responding to the common claim that men will wonder what they've missed if they don't sow their wild oats. I was referring to the number of posts that get deleted, not removed. A lot of ugly comments have been made lately and they're rarely helpful. I get the "tough love" thing, but vulgarity an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/17 02:10 AM |
| 1 | The right way to handle doubt in a marriage?This has made it difficult for me to maintain the easygoing "hands off" approach I had before we got married and started moving, planning for a baby, etc. My advice for how to handle your anxiety is to take smaller bites. As a newlywed myself, I'm seeing how much growing we have to do as a couple, before we get to a place where we can buy a house and have a baby. Those are exciting things, yes, but we're still learning how to be in each other's space at all times, how to communicate our finances… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/17 05:45 PM |
| 1 | When he has a high n count...You make it a contest when you insist you know all "truths" regarding men as a whole, specifically my husband. His fidelity is under his control, because men are not slaves to their sexuality, just as women aren't. But, I'm just rationalizing, right? You made sure you could claim that in response to anything I say with your opening remark. We don't see eye to eye. Have a great day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/17 03:20 PM |
| 1 | When he has a high n count...Including yours? Yes. That was implied. Your comment was rude and vulgar and I took it as such. You're telling me my husband will cheat unless I measure up and while I disagree with the idea in general, I disagree more with your method of discussion. Using the word "hamster"shuts down all debate. Anything I say, from here on out, is just me rationalizing, so you automatically get to claim victory. It's a lazy discussion tool. I deleted my post because, while I'm actually very interested in discu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/17 03:06 PM |
| 14 | Let's Talk About Aging and the WallI'd say it's regional in a lot of ways. Many talk about The Wall falling in the mid-thirties and biologically, that's more or less true. That's when a woman's fertility starts to plummet and many start to go grey or, as you've mentioned, see wrinkles. In the South, though, it doesn't matter how good you look, being over 30 is often a dating death sentence akin to being a single mom. It sucks, because I'll readily admit that a 32-year-old woman who keeps herself fit and healthy and dresses stylis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/17 02:55 PM |
| 1 | When he has a high n count...What the f is my problem? You mean being told that my husband will cheat on me if I don't "keep his balls drained," because I've shared a story that basically amounts to "Give a guy a chance, even if his number is high"? Shitty men cheat and if posters and commenters aren't allowed to disparage their own husbands, mine is definitely off limits. Maybe that's my problem. Maybe it's users who are constantly vulgar and rude and unhelpful and can't remember that real people are reading their hateful … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/17 12:33 PM |
| 1 | When he has a high n count...I disagree. I don't think it's gender specific. I think men and women have to make a conscious decision to be faithful sometimes. If the marriage is stale or they're going through hard times, they have to choose not to cheat. "Men cheat" implies there's no control over their actions and I don't buy it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/17 12:21 PM |
| 1 | When he has a high n count...Sadly, we can't narrow it down, there, as he's not from Louisiana. I'll remember these points the next time it comes up, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/17 03:55 AM |
| 2 | When he has a high n count...I actually agree with all of your points. If you're coming at it from a religious standpoint, many who call themselves Christians will set aside their faith for a few years of fun, only to later repent. It's a lot to ask of a young person, especially in our society, that they abstain. I think this is true for men and women and that true repentance has to be independent. As I've said, the reason I believed this of my husband, was his two years of celibacy prior to meeting me. I can't hold that ag… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/17 02:48 AM |
| 3 | When he has a high n count...I've never worried about my "mystique", myself. That feels more like game playing. I don't need to be an unsolvable mystery and as far as "going through the motions" to convince me he respected me goes, I'd say waiting 8 months while I got the Gardasil shot, before he got laid, was pretty convincing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 11:58 PM |
| 3 | When he has a high n count...I'd imagine, based on his taste, she was white, so really 1,518,000. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 10:50 PM |
| 2 | When he has a high n count...I would definitely agree that the average woman is more effected than the average man, but that's coming from someone who is admittedly very effected by a sexual connection. I don't want someone that was ever voraciously pursuing sex with as many women as possible. Ew. Yes, this was never an active goal of my husband's. He just wasn't... choosey. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 09:22 PM |
| 2 | When he has a high n count...I genuinely have no idea what my husband's count is, but if pressed, I wouldn't guess that high. I'd say there's a fair chance you'll find someone in the double digits. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 09:20 PM |
| 2 | When he has a high n count...I'd say the reason I never worried about that from my husband was his two years of abstinence prior to me. I felt like that was time enough to take sex seriously again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 09:19 PM |
| 5 | When he has a high n count...I do think it's strange that we claim it doesn't effect men, at all. My husband has a friend, who he once declared was the only friend "sluttier" than he was, who is now married to a woman who was a virgin on their wedding night. He's active in his church and goes on mission trips all the time. He actually married us. No one will convince me that he doesn't regret his sexual past and that it wasn't unhealthy, for him at least, to be encouraged to increase his number. I'd be willing to say it wou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 09:05 PM |
| 1 | When he has a high n count...What's "really high," exactly? What do you think your odds are of meeting someone with the qualities you hope to find, with a lower count than this? I'm actually asking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 08:58 PM |
| 4 | When he has a high n count...I might be misreading your comment. I wasn't defending it, so much as saying that it's kind of silly to pass up a potential partner for something that is so much the norm, if the behavior has changed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 08:50 PM |
| 2 | N countEducation could be great, too. In my experience, the more time spent in college, the more sexual partners... then again, I went to college for seven years, so who knows? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/17 11:46 PM |
| 3 | N countA friend of mine told me just last night that she's considered a slut here (the South), even though she was just plain boring in New York. I'd admitted my husband was my second real kiss at 27 and only my second everything else at 28. I pressed her and finally got her to admit to her number: 2 sexual partners and maybe 5 total, including anything else. She had started hanging out with a church group when she moved here and everyone shamed her for her number at 28. It's interesting how the rarity… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/17 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Trying to deal with a straying fianceMe too. :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/17 10:42 PM |
| 7 | My boyfriend likes that I'm smartIt sounds like you've got a guy who's a good match for you intellectually and, at least until you're more comfortable knowing if and how much you can push (my husband likes being teased), you just need to be polite about proving your point and accepting when he proves his. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/17 02:24 PM |
| 15 | If we know feminine, what is unfeminine?Oh, goodness, yes. I think the little things (short hair, makeup, nail care) can really vary from person to person, but being happy and postive is the pillar of femininity for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/17 02:16 PM |
| 38 | My boyfriend likes that I'm smartI disagree that this is contrary to RPW. In my opinion, any secure alpha, who is intelligent himself, would want an intelligent woman. My husband has told me numerous stories of his "ladies man" days and the mind-numbingly stupid women he met. He'd take them home, sure, but he wouldn't call them the next day. He loved that I had a masters degree at 25 and could dissect everything from politics to movies with him. In regards to declaring your own intelligence, I like the Mary Cooper quote from Th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/17 02:10 PM |
| 2 | What will happen if I (28/F) continue to ignore my bf (32/M)?You don't deserve to be cheated on, but you still deserve closure, both of you. He's calling and texting. Just end it. Even if he wasn't pulling away, a traumatic experience like this would, ultimately, probably be too much strain on the relationship. Regardless, it sounds like it's run it's course. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/17 03:30 AM |
| 9 | What will happen if I (28/F) continue to ignore my bf (32/M)?He'll take your childish behavior at face value soon enough and assume you're too cowardly to break up with him. He'll move on and you'll be single and in a place to find yourself and figure things out, but you'll eventually feel terrible for ending it this way, when you could have just told him it's not going to work. That's what will happen. You'll be single either way, but one way is clearly pretty shitty and you'll have to share or hide that unflattering story in your next relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/17 11:25 PM |
| 7 | Trying to deal with a straying fianceAdditionally, most women who attempt this, fail, and understandably so. The resulting problem is leaving when she's 12 years old and needs her parents' attention more than ever, but they're absorbed in their own divorce for three years. These years are nothing to them, but pivitol to their daughter's development. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/17 07:17 PM |
| 26 | Trying to deal with a straying fianceLeave. Your daughter is young enough that it won't impact her nearly as much as staying and raising her to see this as a normal relationship. You're not doing either of you any favors. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/17 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Is anyone else really put off by high n-counts in men?I always thought I would care. I assumed I'd have to have an exact number. When I met my husband, though, I realized I didn't want to know at all. My husband is an extrovert and an alpha. He was 30 when we met. I was 27 and had only really even kissed one person. I knew I was the weird one. If he could handle my divorce, I could handle his college days. He hadn't even been with anyone for two years, at that point though, because he was so over that phase. I'm glad he knows the grass isn't greene… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/17 03:02 AM |
| 4 | I feel so lost.Thank you, but my doctor isn't concerned, as long as I do it before 35. I'd rather have two years alone with my husband than start now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/17 11:40 AM |
| 12 | How to raise a daughter?Modesty starts young. She'll never understand why she could pretend to dress sexy (bikinis and belly shirts and short shorts) when she was 8, but not when she was 11. Teach her to value it, before she has it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/17 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Loyal women vs hypergamous womenMine was a horrible person and was just lazy. My husband is incredibly hard working and willing to start from the ground up. It's easy to be proud of him, when I've seen the opposite. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/17 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Loyal women vs hypergamous womenMy ex-husband did the same, but I got out after four years. I couldn't do it, either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/17 12:27 PM |
| 5 | How to appropriately bring up the past?These things just... come up in time. Don't pass up the opportunity to tell your story and don't force it. There will be a date, when he tells you about his last serious relationship and you can tell him about yours, with the same level of detail. Don't worry about it now. Just heal. I talked to a man online for a bit, who pretty much opened with the story of his late fiance. He called her the love of his life. While I was willing to give it a go, it still sounds to me like "...looking for my si… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/17 03:07 AM |
| 5 | I feel so lost.We just got married in May. I'm 29 and he's 32 and we both want to wait a couple of years for kids. You have time. If you date with a purpose and don't focus on incidentals, like height, you will likely meet someone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/17 12:58 AM |
| 15 | I feel so lost.I got married at 19, to a complete and utter sociopath. Divorced and morbidly obese at 23, my Facebook feed was flooded with engagement photos and sonogram pictures (life in the South). I felt like it was too late to start over. It was terrifying. Regardless, I spent the next few years bettering myself. I lost the weight, got a masters degree, built a career, consolidated some of my debt, and learned to manage my money. All the while, I dated, mostly online because it allowed me to focus on the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/17 06:26 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?Yes, we'll just have to agree to disagree, but thank you for your respectful explanations. It's just something that both my husband and I disagree with so strongly, I don't even think I can fathom the concept. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/17 12:17 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?She said "with no qualms." I'm not saying no one has ever cheated on someone they love. I'm saying if it didn't bother them, they didn't love them, because we're not talking about history. We're talking about today. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Lots of FriendsI have 4 or 5 really close friends and maybe 10 more I could text right now and get together with this weekend. I don't have trouble making friends. I love different perspectives, from conservative to progressive. I like most people. I live in a suburb of a major metropolitan area in the South. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 08:41 PM |
| 0 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?I've never needed to sniff out every cheater. I only needed to sniff out one good man. I wholeheartedly disagree that anyone can love anyone else and have "no qualms" about cheating. Love and loyalty go hand in hand. It is absolutely that cut and dry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 08:33 PM |
| 3 | Cold feet or red flags?I do actually have my own hobbies and friends, but I guess I have painted this picture that when we marry then he has to come home every night to me and I have to get dinner ready perfectly every night. I think the problem is my concept of marriage. I would agree that that seems to be part of the issue, here. Maybe in the meantime, you need to revisit some of your own passions. Take up painting again or start writing. Do things for you and instead of feeling slighted when he doesn't come home, t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Cold feet or red flags?Well, I understand your concern, having met my husband at 27, but to answer your question, I would say that your fears are beyond the norm for someone discussing marriage. Have you discussed any of these concerns with him? While I think money worries are vaild, your principle complaints seem to be internal. You're afraid he'll leave you or that his working isn't going well. Fighting is normal and one cigarette every once in a while is hardly a cause for stress. It seems like you don't have a lot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Cold feet or red flags?How old are you? It honestly sounds like you're just not ready for this commitment, nor is he. What's the rush? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Men "settle"It is. I just think it takes more time for women and often has to be a greater deficit, especially as we get older. My husband gets about 18,000 steps a day at work. On a good day, I get 3,000 steps. I go home and work out for about an hour, maybe an hour and a half, while he plays on the computer and has a drink. We both eat healthy meals, but in the three weeks since our honeymoon, I've lost 5 pounds to his 12. I kind of want to throttle him. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Men "settle"I believe it's tougher for a man to obtain a desirable body than it is for a woman. If a guy just eats less and obtains ideal weight he's just considered skinny and this isn't really an attractive trait (though not unattractive in most cases). Yes. but getting to skinny is easier, which is what most men want in a woman (as you've stated). If a man is naturally broad or stocky, it's often enough. I live in an area where many men do manual labor, so those traits sort of just... happen, with little… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Men "settle"I'm sorry if I sounded defensive. I did edit to sound less so, because after losing nearly 100 pounds, I can get very frustrated with myself over those last 10. I do think men have a much easier time with losing weight than women. I definitely know what you're talking about in seeing very heavy young women. It seems much more common today, alongside the "body positive" Tess Holliday types. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Men "settle"I said I'm statistically overweight. I'm probably about 10 pounds above a healthy BMI and yeah, I try to lose weight, but I don't have much problem with my body and my health is in no danger due to those 10 pounds. My doctors are all happy with my weight. I work out four or five times a week, eat well, and comfortably wear a size 8. Considering I lost 90 pounds five years ago and have kept it off, I'm not apologizing for 10 more. I actually do agree that it's strange to see the number of heavy w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 04:13 PM |
| 8 | How to help SJW teenage cousinI was on anti-depressants from age 13-18. 250 mg a day. I would never put my kids on drugs like that, especially not that dosage. It made me feel numb and that made the cutting much worse. It really messed with my head. My parents could've just stopped acting like psychotic assholes and gotten me into a psychiatrist and I would've been fine. So I agree that attempting natural means first, is a good idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 12:25 PM |
| 25 | How to help SJW teenage cousinI think going on a couple of shopping trips and letting her choose clothes that make her feel good and saying positive things about them (even if they're not your style) will increase the chances of her truly considering your style. You may have to meet in the middle and compromise on the edgy haircut and more feminine dress, sort of a punk chic look. Don't discuss her weight, but help her dress in a flattering way. I'm concerned about her declaration that she's bisexual, not because of her sexu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 01:00 AM |
| 10 | Politics and SMV/RMVI think there's a difference between "hiding" your beliefs and choosing the right time and place to voice them. In your case, the time and place was kind of... always, because of his political involvement, but that's a unique situation. Personally, I work in public library, an extremely liberal field. Despite the fact that we have an official non-partisan stance, it's clear that the "correct" political opinion is that of the left. If you express those beliefs, you'll be met favorably, whereas if… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/17 08:30 PM |
| 2 | I know the advice is often to hold off having sex with a guy you're dating for a bit, does that apply to doing it over text/phone?I agree. I might send those, perhaps if he were away for some reason. I'd never do nudes, though, just because the cloud can be hacked. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/17 08:10 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?It has nothing to do with tradition, personally. I'm opposed, because I think it muddies the waters. Cohabiting couples are more likely to get married because it's the next step, not because it's right. Breaking things off can be very difficult once you share a home and the things inside it. Whereas you see a red flag when a man doesn't want to live together, I see a red flag when he does. He wants all the perks of marriage and none of the responsibility. I've seen it take years for a man in thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/17 06:29 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?I think well have to agree to disagree, here. You find my answer too trusting, but I find yours too jaded. There are good man and I married one. We made sure to spend a week together here or there and I don't know why that would be difficult for a couple, if they're putting in a sincere effort to know one another. My husband and I moved in together about two months before the wedding and he's not cheating on me. While I'm not concerned he is, I also know he simply doesn't have the opportunity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/17 06:21 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?Well, if there's any concern that he's a cheater (or some other awful thing), I'm not moving in with him. That's a pretty basic level of trust, that he's not cheating on me. If we can't establish that without living together, just so I can spy on him, we're doomed anyway. Furthermore, if he is that deliberate in his cheating/hiding things, he's gonna find a way, regardless. Watching every move a man makes is not how you vet against a cheater. You talk to his friends, his family, his friends' wiv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/17 11:37 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?I'd be afraid to let someone move into my home. It can he harder to end that relationship than when there's a lease involved. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/17 02:05 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?It is. I misunderstood your original post. It seemed as though you were claiming that those who thought differently were just out of touch. It's obvious that's not what you meant, though, so I think it's a "to each their own" sort of deal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/17 02:03 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?OP said the girlfriend owns the home and he'll just be paying rent to help with costs/mortgage, this has nothing to do with a lease. Yes, I was only referring to your statement about how moving in together isn't a big deal, not OP's specific situation. I just cited the bank account quote as an example of the arrangements people make to avoid trouble when living together, but I understand why that wasn't clear now. I was just explaining why I consider it a big deal to live with someone. I did edi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/17 09:34 PM |
| 2 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?I think a lot of the posters here are confusing a rental agreement with mixing finances- sounds like they still very much have their own bank accounts. Even with separate bank accounts, your credit is on the line when you sign a lease with someone. If they jump ship and you can't afford the rent, you risk eviction. If you can, you're likely still paying for a lot more space than you need. It doesn't have to be a joint bank account to be a financial commitment to the other person. What happens if… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/17 07:53 PM |
| 9 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?We've debated this as a group several times, but personally, not at all. If I was worried I didn't truly know my husband, I wouldn't have been willing to make any major ties, including putting my name on a lease with him. You can figure out who this person is at home by spending extended weekends together or taking a trip together. You don't need to play marriage with them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/17 07:43 PM |
| 3 | Is there a nice way to ask boyfriend for his phone password?We had this conversation when we were dating, but discussing marriage. We talked about the threats modern marriages face, such as technologies like Facebook and internet porn. This was our decision for how to cut that off at the knees. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/17 03:01 PM |
| 6 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?Personally, I agree. I was never willing to tie myself to someone financially, without commitment. My husband and I waited until two months before the wedding to move in together, and that's only because my lease was up. I was so busy with wedding stuff during that time, we barely saw each other, so we're only now really living together for the first time. It's been fun and I haven't had any real surprises. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/17 12:07 PM |
| 1 | Finding d*** pics on a boyfriends phoneI don't do any of those things, so maybe it's totally normal and I just can't relate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/17 02:05 AM |
| 8 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?I don't know about an RPW perspective, but having met my husband online at 27, when he was 30, I think the claim that this is normal is ridiculous. Maybe they do just click that well, but it's still strange that no one else seems to think it's moving a little fast. Let's see... at two months, my husband, a stranger to me the day we met, kissed me for the first time... so yes, I think it's too fast. What's normal? I'd say at about four to five months, you start to drop the "best behavior" act and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/17 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Finding d*** pics on a boyfriends phoneI honestly can't say much about the norms, as far as men taking pictures of their bits. I do think it's fair, though, for a woman to be suspicious of her boyfriend or husband, if she finds out he's not only taken this picture, but failed to delete it. In this case, of course, his history makes all the difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/17 01:54 AM |
| 7 | Is there a nice way to ask boyfriend for his phone password?If you're really asking for advice, I think the lack of trust is a bad sign. I don't think you'll overcome it. You're actually asking strangers on the internet for the subtlest of ways to snoop. It's already over. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/17 12:15 AM |
| 12 | Is there a nice way to ask boyfriend for his phone password?To answer your first question, my husband and I have a policy of complete transparency. I have his password to his phone and I just don't lock mine. We actually have a joint email address where our financial stuff goes, which is super handy. The idea in doing this is that it will be a lot more obvious, personally, if we're hiding something. If I wouldn't want him to see that Facebook conversation, so I'm tempted to lock my phone, maybe I shouldn't be having that Facebook conversation. This way, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/17 07:25 PM |
| 11 | The Post-Third-Date Awkwardness of Not BangingAvoid situations where you could have sex. It's hard to have sex with someone in a bowling alley, at least the first time. If he's at your house watching a movie, it's a lot more reasonable for him to assume you'll be doing something sexual. My husband didn't come into my home until the two month mark. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/17 05:41 PM |
| 6 | Finding d*** pics on a boyfriends phoneHave you cheated on your girlfriend recently, because OP's boyfriend has. I think that's an important detail that supports my point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/17 12:21 PM |
| 12 | Finding d*** pics on a boyfriends phoneShe did say he's cheated before, so I'm not even sure how there's a question at this point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/17 12:41 AM |
| 12 | Finding d*** pics on a boyfriends phoneHe sent the picture to another woman. There is literally no other reason to have that on his phone. If he sent it to a friend as a joke, he'd have told you so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/17 08:40 PM |
| 4 | I know the advice is often to hold off having sex with a guy you're dating for a bit, does that apply to doing it over text/phone?Even the pictures you send to your husband can become public when the cloud gets hacked. It's not only about how much you trust the guy, but how much you trust technology, today. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/17 05:24 PM |
| 2 | I know the advice is often to hold off having sex with a guy you're dating for a bit, does that apply to doing it over text/phone?I disagree. Withholding will usually reveal his intentions. Furthermore, if he's interested in an LTR, but open to a fling, he's likely waiting to see what you're interested in and sexting or having sex too early sends the message that it's the latter. I don't know how waiting to get to know someone doesn't effect whether or not they respect you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/17 03:35 PM |
| 8 | I know the advice is often to hold off having sex with a guy you're dating for a bit, does that apply to doing it over text/phone?Yes. The same logic applies. He begins to see you as just a sexual object, a conquest, and loses interest in getting to know you. Furthermore, this often involves pictures nowadays and if he's able to see pictures of your breast without commitment, how many other guys still have similar photos? Of course, it's also super risky to give anyone nude photos and I wouldn't even send my husband one, not that he'd ask. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/17 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Asking Or Telling Your CaptainTHANK YOU! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/17 08:27 PM |
| 4 | Partner Won't Admit He Likes Traditional RolesIt's obvious he has reservations about the words "traditional gender roles," so pressing him to accept that that's what he wants may do more harm than good and make him feel like he's oppressing you. The last thing you want to do is have him deliberately take on a Blue Pill role. I'd just make sure he knows you're happy and forget about being right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/17 05:45 PM |
| 14 | A fault startI actually wasn't bothered by this, initially. So he broke up with her when you became official? One week of overlap is hardly a reason to distrust him. Lying is, though. A real man would have apologized and explained himself. He's not the one for you. Additionally, to put it quite simply, five months is way too early to a) quit your job to start a business with anyone, romantic status aside and b) get engaged. Though, his timing of mentioning engagement was quite convenient. I've also always be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/17 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Asking Or Telling Your CaptainSame. Grabbing a glass of wine with a girlfriend or taking a cheesemaking class = "hey, this is what I'm doing on Thursday." I'm glad people seem to agree that this is okay. I'm an adult. I don't need to actually ask to get a $2 taco with a friend one night, nor does he. I do, however, like for us to keep each other on the same page, so he's not thinking "We'll have dinner and then go for a bike ride" and I'm like "Nah, got plans." | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 09:19 PM |
| 8 | Loyal women vs hypergamous womenLoyalty is a choice, not a biological state. I'd say the same is true of all people, not just women, though I'm not sure how you meant it. I don't think it's human nature to be loyal. Why would it would be? From an evolutionary standpoint, we're all after our own interest. If cavemen were loyal, which they weren't known for, it would only be to get something for themselves. I agree. It's a choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 09:15 PM |
| 24 | Loyal women vs hypergamous womenMy aunt has been with my uncle for almost 36 years. He was chronically ill for at least 20 of those and she stayed. Through her daughters' rebellious teen years (and her oldest's continued rebellious years at 35), she stayed. She got a degree and became a nurse and worked when he couldn't and cared for him. She spent nights at the hospital... a lot of nights, but never turned her (in my opinion, too demanding) daughters down, when they needed help with their kids. Finally, a few years ago, my un… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 07:04 PM |
| 6 | Should I have sex with this guy I work with?No. There is no way you expected any other answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 05:35 PM |
| 10 | Asking Or Telling Your CaptainEven if you don't subscribe to a traditional Head of Household model, I don't know how you can justify making a big decision such as this without talking to your spouse. Even if your finances aren't joint, your time is, and a trip such as this would take a pretty big chunk of it. I hope the couple in question doesn't have kids and this man isn't parenting solo for a week, without say. I don't always ask about the small things, like an upcoming girls night, honestly. I tell my husband my plans an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 12:34 PM |
| 4 | What makes a marriage unfixable?Thank you. I'm married to a wonderful man today. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/17 01:51 AM |
| 23 | What makes a marriage unfixable?A refusal to work for four years, stealing from family and friends, burning down your house for the insurance money, abusing you and your pets... or so says this former 23-year-old divorcee. I will say that on my wedding day, I knew it was the wrong decision. I couldn't see a future for us five years down the road... but everyone was already there and I was 19 and didn't know how to call it off. It was the biggest mistake of my life and that fire killed all of my pets and I'll never forgive myse… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/17 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Men are forgivingI disagree. Both people are choosing to behave in a way that makes them unlikable to their spouse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 01:09 PM |
| 1 | Men are forgivingIn an estsblished relationship, men might be more forgiving of behavior, but I'd say women are more forgiving of appearances. Men will put up with tantrums and shopping addictions and women will put up with beer guts and dated clothing. It sort if evens out and both sexes are at fault for taking advantage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 02:50 AM |
| 1 | How do you stay strong when all your friends are getting engaged?Haha. I will miss my pink tree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/17 10:48 PM |
| 11 | feeling resentful towards my husbandI certainly didn't take it that way. I think we can be a little hard on ourselves at RPW, for the sake of thinking about our SO's, but it's okay to remember yourself, especially when you're pregnant and just a little weepy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/17 06:54 PM |
| 35 | feeling resentful towards my husbandTreat yourself. Go see that movie he would hate or binge watch the show he never wants to watch. Get a manicure. It doesn't have to be lavish, but enjoy the time alone and do something that you wouldn't be able to do were he home. When my husband goes hunting, I eat my favorite candy and binge watch Gilmore Girls. You're allowed to enjoy yourself, too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/17 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Spending nights together vs moving inYou can usually download them from the library for free, too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/17 05:50 PM |
| 5 | Spending nights together vs moving inMoving in means sharing bills. That's the line. No matter what you keep at his place, it's not the same as accepting financial ties to this person, who could potentially leave you with a lease you can't afford or ruin your name with the electric company or get you involved in a renters insurance fraud scam. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/17 12:35 PM |
| 2 | How prepared are you to be alone?I agree. It's often a downside of traditionalism. We value the individual strengths of each gender so much, that we don't always stress the importance of being able, to live alone and care for yourself. I'm glad you've risen to the challenge. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/17 12:17 PM |
| 3 | How do you stay strong when all your friends are getting engaged?My Christmas tree was hot pink and all my decor matched. I used to watch Hocus Pocus on repeat starting September 1. This is the first year I won't get to enjoy those things. There will be new things, but that time in my life is over and I'm glad I cherished it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 01:29 PM |
| 7 | How do you stay strong when all your friends are getting engaged?You don't look at social media at all to compound those things? I was going to suggest finding friends in similar life stages, but it doesn't really sound like the people you've mentioned are that far ahead of you. I'd suggest taking the time to really enjoy where you are right now. I was always adamant that I was going to enjoy living alone, while I could. My best friend lived with her fiance for years before I met my husband, so I was able to see that living with someone means fewer impromptu … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 01:14 PM |
| 4 | Receiving money / presents gracefully while first datingCould I buy this for myself? I'm old fashioned and always thought the guy should pay. So did my husband, so it worked. However, early on, I was careful to make sure we were only doing things I could cover. I was working half time and he was in oil, so this meant mid-range restaurants, movies, and the zoo. Once we were exclusive, I allowed him to do bigger things, but they were never completely out of my price range, until we took a ski trip together at eight months. At that time, we were discuss… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 12:58 PM |
| 11 | How do you stay strong when all your friends are getting engaged?Stay off social media. When I would go through phases like this, I would actually unfollow the friends who would stress me out on Facebook, so I wouldn't see their updates. The grass will always be greener. Water your own lawn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Is a woman's SMV completely fixed?I'd worry more about your MMV, but the low self-esteem present in this post is a hit to both. You can buy good skincare products and makeup can work wonders for the features you mention that can't be changed, but nothing will make as big of a difference as self confidence. Work with what you've got to the best of your ability and focus on improving who you are as a potential wife, not just your appearance. Don't focus so much on a firm age either. Women read the sidebar and obsess about the wall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 01:57 AM |
| 10 | Talking about bodily function [serious]I have a divorced friend who told me that in the two years she was married, her husband never knew she was pooping. She'd run the shower, while using the restroom and then bathe. That's insane to me... and it didn't save her marriage. I don't find body humor amusing and my husband knows it, so he doesn't make those jokes with me, but we're both adults with human bodies. Sometimes you get sick. Sometimes you have periods. Sometimes you poop during childbirth. While I don't find it interesting or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 01:20 AM |
| 7 | How do you determine your 'league?' and accurately measure your sexual market value?I think your initial comment might have been a bit misleading. There's nothing wrong with having your first baby at 31, if you're already married and established. There is something wrong with saying, on your 30th birthday, that "one day" you might like to get married and have babies. I always think about that when I watch that episode of Friends where Rachel gets married. How has she not considered the math before now?!?! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 08:20 PM |
| 3 | How do you determine your 'league?' and accurately measure your sexual market value?My doctor agrees with you. That was one of my major questions at my last visit. "I'm getting married soon, but I'm 29 and we want to wait two years until kids. Should we reconsider?" She told me aboslutely not, that she doesn't even begin to suggest that until 35. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Meeting guysIn my experience, most of the people on these were looking for dates, which made it more awkward, because I couldn't tell who was on what page. Are we hiking or are we speed dating? It was more frustrating to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Dating lowerIt works the same way. You just make agreements about assets you already own (prior or pre to the nuptials) or savings you've already set aside. Most states are 50/50 for assets accumulated during the marriage and you can't sign away alimony rights in a prenup. It's unlikely a man will get alimony, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 06:02 PM |
| 5 | Is there a female Chad?Right, but you dated her. A lot of men won't get that far, because it makes them insecure to date a taller woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Meeting guysHonestly, online dating is perfect for you at this point. You can spend the next year figuring out what apps/sites work for you and what you want to say in a profile and learn what to avoid in others. You can go on dates and get used to that scene again. You can get over your hesitancy and negative feelings about what is, quite honestly, your best way to meet someone after college. I met my husband online. We texted for a few days before we met in person and it really never felt like an "online … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 01:13 PM |
| 1 | How prepared are you to be alone?I live in the Southern US and since property is so affordable, it's almost unheard of not to have any shared assets. So while it might make sense to keep everything separate if you shared nothing, it's just not feasible if you own a home or land. It's an interesting model, but I prefer transparency. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 01:07 PM |
| 2 | How prepared are you to be alone?I'm so sorry. It really doesn't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 12:45 PM |
| 2 | How prepared are you to be alone?There is usually a pretty big catch to those consolidation ads. Regardless, I'll pay a fraction of the loans, maybe never even touch the principle, under PSLF, so I'm not especially worried about it. It's just a matter of time. Seven more years in public library is all I need. More land means more land to care for and most women I've met who are widowed end up moving to a smaller property. I'd rather not have to do that were I dealing with the death of my husband. He wants cattle, though, so I'm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 03:09 AM |
| 3 | Husband is concerned that everything we do is "family stuff" and there is no "us" anymore. (Married 4 years, 3 year old child)I found this entire post depressing. OP and her husband just don't seem like a good match. It comes off as bad vetting on both of their parts to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 09:44 PM |
| 3 | How prepared are you to be alone?Your self-awareness is actually pretty refreshing. I hope you never have to go through this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 08:25 PM |
| 8 | How prepared are you to be alone?I have actually never heard of anyone doing this, myself. It could be cultural/regional. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 08:22 PM |
| 3 | How prepared are you to be alone?Ah. I apologize. I forgot you mentioned the joint account to cover emergencies or tragedies. I'm glad your situation works for you, but it does seem unique. I don't think it would work for me. I simply feel we should share these things if we share a life together. Agree to disagree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 08:12 PM |
| 2 | How prepared are you to be alone?I wouldn't say my husband and I have ever had jealousy issues. We actually have a running joke about my affair with Raul. We have no reason for jealously, because we have no trust issues. It's very low drama... now that the wedding is over. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 07:37 PM |
| 6 | How prepared are you to be alone?To be clear, I said financial transparency, even if you have separate finances. I don't think everyone needs the same financial model. Some people need to have a joint financial plan and others thrive separately, but I think honest communication about said finances is essential. If you found out your husband had no savings or $50,000 worth of debt, the day he's diagnosed with cancer, you'd be screwed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 07:29 PM |
| 2 | How prepared are you to be alone?I enjoyed being single. It wasn't what I wanted long term, but I'm glad I had those years. Now that I'm married, I see what I was missing and I wouldn't want to be alone. I do think that it's a valid choice, though. It's not always by default. Some people enjoy the single life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 07:24 PM |
| 6 | How prepared are you to be alone?I see this in both men and women at work. Women come in and don't only not know the password to the online bank account, but have never even used a computer, which makes them damn near unemployable. It's a long road to normalcy from there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 07:21 PM |
| 3 | How prepared are you to be alone?Definitely. I hope none of those things happen to any of those people, of course. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 06:58 PM |
| 8 | How prepared are you to be alone?When people say they'd never divorce, I can't help but roll my eyes. If you catch your husband touching your daughter inappropriately, you're divorcing. If you get herpes, because of his business trip, you're divorcing. If he leaves you and you don't get a say, you're divorcing. No one plans it and it still happens. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 06:41 PM |
| 3 | How prepared are you to be alone?Paying off my mortgage would be my first move in the event of death, as well. I think, after that, I could probably keep myself and a few children happy on my own income, particularly with the supplement of life insurance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 06:01 PM |
| 3 | How prepared are you to be alone?When my husband and I first started discussing marriage, he was surprised to learn that I had no problem with the idea of a prenup. His parents have a thriving cattle ranch and he owns 1% of the business and will receive 1/3 when they pass. It was important to him to protect that. Personally, I have a good career and I make good money. I don't want his money if we divorce and I'm not so idealistic to think we can guarantee against it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 05:42 PM |
| 6 | How prepared are you to be alone?Wow! I'd say that one borders on disloyalty. A prenup is one thing, but actually planning for a divorce? I don't think I'd be okay with that. I'd be interested to see how they avoid fraud. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 04:05 PM |
| 2 | How prepared are you to be alone?I say "learn to be content" because right now, I do have the desire to get married and have kids. I felt the same way. I turn 30 this year and I'm not struggling with it, but I think it would've been really hard for me, were I single. I'm self-aware enough to know that it would've been difficult for me to find true contentment solo. Is it disloyal to have a separate bank account that he has no idea about? I say yes. I'd certainly agree with that. I think financial transparency, whether you have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 04:04 PM |
| 3 | How prepared are you to be alone?When it comes to divorce, I think you can only be so prepared without being disloyal. Of course, there are things you can do to maintain a happy marriage that would also put you in a better position in the case of divorce, such as having your own hobbies and friends, staying physically fit and dressing well, and maintaining mental and emotional health. Evaluating the dating pool, however, or considering your assets as a divorcee or emotionally preparing yourself for divorce, crosses a line. I kn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 03:40 PM |
| 11 | How prepared are you to be alone?Divorced at 23, grad school left me with a lot of loans and I didn't really know where my money was going. I started budgeting, consolidated my loans, and worked two jobs until I could get full time in my field. Fortunately for me, Public Service Loan Forgiveness will take care of the bulk of my loans in 2024. Now that I'm married, my husband and I are working hard to get rid of all of my debt, before we have kids. My job is secure and pays well. When we buy a home, we plan to make sure it's not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 01:49 PM |
| 6 | How to accept help from your captain?You have a mental block about accepting financial help from a man you aren't committed to through any kind of engagement or marriage, because it's generally a bad idea. It is so kind of him to want to help you with this and I'd suggest you accept his help in planning your finances and turn down his offer to supplement. This shows you're willing to trust him, but also that you're willing to handle the financial aspect on your own. You don't want to put yourself in debt to anyone, especially in a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Advice needed pleaseThere are jobs out there that are fulfilling. One of the things that attracted my husband to me was my passion for my career and my work ethic. He was in oil when we met and gold diggers were a big problem for him, so a woman who had a masters degree and worked two jobs held a lot of appeal. Now that we're married, we know I'll probably always work. I want to and my husband wants the financial contribution and, quite frankly, we need it for our financial goals. It's a good thing I'm in a job tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 01:16 PM |
| 2 | Is there a female Chad?I'd say height can be a disadvantage, even. My guy is 5'7.5", and while I love that he's dated someone 6' tall and it never bothered him, I was also surprised. Most men won't date taller women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 01:05 PM |
| 5 | Are you confident in your ability to function on your own?I think this is great, though sadly it can be rare from some more traditionally minded women. I live in the South, where women frequently go from their dad's care to their husband's, never fully being responsible for themselves. Sadly, they often end up divorced 10 years later and have no idea how certain things work (filing taxes, scheduling car repairs, weed eating). So while OP is probably baiting us, I think the discussion topic, the value of being confident of your ability to care for yours… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 12:59 PM |
| 2 | First move on a barista - yes or no?See, I was kind of picturing the reverse, of her letting him ask on a break or after a shift, when he's not on the clock. I suppose both would work, but I honestly don't favor either. It's his workplace, though, so I feel like the ball should be in his court and she shouldn't be going there just to see him. Perhaps you're right and she could mention a fun activity (There's a music festival up the road tonight, maybe I'll see you there) and gauge his reaction. Hopefully OP is right and he is flir… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 01:33 AM |
| 1 | First move on a barista - yes or no?I'm confused. Is it better for her to put him in a place where he has to turn a customer down or ask her to stop coming to see him? Personally, I just wouldn't do either and they both seem like bad ideas, but at least the above allows him to judge whether or not it would be okay. Some low key workplaces would be fine with it, but that's a decision I'd let him make. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 01:22 AM |
| 3 | Is there a female Chad?See? We'd only know it, because we follow the highlights online and there are typically a lot of highlights. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/17 12:37 AM |
| 8 | Is there a female Chad?Lol, I feel like height is a woman's hangup, not a man's, so sure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/17 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Is there a female Chad?Ah. I misread, because we focus on marriage and family so much here, but even so, I'd say the perfect single girl has a good job that's not too demanding on her time, but pays the bills and leaves a little extra, a few really close friends, strong family ties. Add in a slim figure, nice hair and skin, and ultimately, she wouldn't be single for long. So, the perfect single girl I once envied? She's married now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/17 10:20 PM |
| 9 | Is there a female Chad?If we knew enough about a woman's life to think she had the perfect marriage and children and home, it would be because she's spending far too much time promoting that idea (edit: usually) via social media. I would personally say this woman doesn't exist for me, because anyone I know well has problems too. I suppose the difference is that the perfect woman who has it all together would be sharing personal details. It wouldn't really be apparent on the surface, without effort. Chad doesn't have t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/17 10:02 PM |
| 3 | Can we really have it all? (Family and career)I've taught kindergarteners the first week of school and the ones who have been at home for five years are so obvious, it's sad to watch. They cry all morning, don't understand concepts like sitting in their spot or raising their hand, and don't understand why they can't play with the toys they want, when they want. No one considers the fact that at home, a kid is never forced to play legos when he wants to play cars, but in school, he has to take turns and learn other motor skills. People turn … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/17 01:07 AM |
| 1 | Handling money while dating - what's the best way to do it? Advice please...Ah. Well, it's strange he's insisting while complaining that his ex was using him for money, but it sounds like he'd respect you for your frugality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/17 01:19 AM |
| 1 | First move on a barista - yes or no?Definitely. Don't just show up where you know he'll be (like his work). Let him suggest you go. If he doesn't, it's just customer service. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/17 11:04 PM |
| 13 | First move on a barista - yes or no?Honestly, all of this sounds like normal customer service interaction to me. I work in a customer oriented industry (public library) where people think it's appropriate to hit on employees all the time. It's generally just incredibly uncomfortable, because we have to be welcoming and polite to everyone. Now that I wear a ring, it's less of an issue, but when I didn't, I got hit on/flirted with all the time and I hated it. In my opinion, since you're in his place of work, you need to let him make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/17 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Handling money while dating - what's the best way to do it? Advice please...Did you not mean this one thinks you're a trust fund baby? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/17 02:50 PM |
| 2 | Making friends as an adult?My friends are people I reconnected with from high school and friends I met through them, so yes, I think this is valid. That's not to say it can't happen, but it us harder. Having strong friendships through work can be problematic. That's what I hated about management. I just wanted to be friends with people, but you can't do that when you have to give their performance evaluations. My recommendation is to find friends at work who have no baring on your position (another department or branch pe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/17 02:49 PM |
| 3 | Handling money while dating - what's the best way to do it? Advice please...I'd still try to be candid and explain it to him. If he doesn't believe you or if he's that judgemental, then I wouldn't have high hopes for the relationship, as a whole. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/17 02:45 PM |
| 4 | Handling money while dating - what's the best way to do it? Advice please...I think telling him about your concerns is not only valid, but an incredibly practical and adult move that any real man would respect. Talk to him about how you'd like to put in your share, but to do that, you're going to have to keep things cheap/free. Perhaps you can have hiking or biking dates or watch a movie from home, but movies at the theater and fancy dinners need to be a rarity. If he thinks you're cheap, he's not an adult, but it's likely he'll respect you and you'll be able to just ge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/17 02:33 PM |
| 3 | I feel like I should know by now whether I want kids?Either choice is okay, but we really do act as though having children is the only acceptable decision. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 11:41 PM |
| 11 | I feel like I should know by now whether I want kids?You can't undo having a child, though. If it's between waiting because you aren't sure and having one when you aren't sure, I believe the latter is more selfish. Yes, OP shouldn't have unrealistic expectations about when she can have kids, but she also shouldn't rush something she's unsure about, when it effects an innocent person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 11:21 PM |
| 3 | I feel like I should know by now whether I want kids?26 was actually the time in my life when I didn't know. My best friend lost her infant daughter around the time I miscarried. We were 22 and married to sociopaths and broke all the time and it was just a really hard time. I'd had to consider how I would care for a baby with no help or resources and I'd watched her pawn her wedding ring for diaper money. Then I lost my baby and watched her bury hers. Motherhood lost a lot of its fantasy for both of us. So after we were both divorced, we actually … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 07:40 PM |
| 3 | He asked for my preference for the first date...?I started meeting them really early in the process, after less than a week of talking and that really helped. Eventually, that's how I met my husband. I wouldn't completely write off any method of dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/17 11:14 PM |
| 13 | He asked for my preference for the first date...?It's a first meeting. This is not necessarily an indication of how he'll always act. You don't have to like him. You don't have to see him again. If you want a relationship, though, you do have to actually go on dates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/17 05:03 AM |
| 13 | Acquaintance who overestimates SMV?You call her an acquaintance, not a close friend, so my advice is to live and let live. Honestly, this is a really common phase women go through in their early twenties. They think they have their pick, because they do, so they focus on the trivial, because it's what looks good on Instagram. Let her date douche bags for a couple of years and come to the realization that she's doing something wrong on her own. Live by example and maybe she'll ask for advice. Then you can give it. I have a similar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 05:15 AM |
| 13 | how long is 'too long' to wait to have sex?I went six years between my first partner and my husband. It was fine. I read dirty books and bought a vibrator and never had to deal with the baggage or consequences of sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 01:02 AM |
| 2 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFI'd highly recommend you get the Gardasil vaccine if you're that inexperienced, then. I never did, because I knew I wasn't going to do anything to contract an STI, but since 80% of the population has HPV, I should've really considered that anyone I ended up with would have a past. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 08:43 PM |
| 2 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFYou know, I had been doing this for a year or so before I met my husband and I don't think it ever freaked anyone out. I had a couple of guys tell me they thought that "one day" they might get married and have kids. I had another refer to a wife as a "ball and chain," but no one was actually bothered and it was just obvious from the start if we had a major incompatibility. I think the fact that I met most men online helped. It was always broached by talking about what brings you to online dating… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageWell, thank you and you're welcome if you're serious. I do think it works differently for some people, but I got a surprising amount of pressure to live together before we got married and for me, those people were wrong. I really took time to organize my thoughts on why it wasn't right for me. I would've married my husband wondering if it was what either of us really wanted or if we just felt that was the natural next step. Another downside is that things wouldn't have felt much different afterw… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 07:56 PM |
| 3 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFThank you! I don't remember exactly how it came up, but it was pretty natural. He told me about his friends who were getting married and another couple who got married after seven months. When he mentioned this, I scoffed and told him my perfect timeline would be to marry after about two years. I told him about my best friend and how she'd just celebrated three years with her live in boyfriend of two years and eight months. I explained that she was getting a little frustrated by the grey area an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 07:52 PM |
| 2 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFI'm not offended by personal questions. :D We'd been dating two months when he found out he definitely had HPV (warts). He immediately told me and we decided, together, that because I'd likely never been exposed, having only kissed one other person, it would be the most responsible decision for me to get the Gardasil vaccine. HPV is much worse for women, as the primary cause of cervical cancer and even warts are worse than for men. My husband didn't mind waiting since it was essentially his own … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 07:29 PM |
| 3 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageLiterally all of the things you've mentioned would be discovered on one trip away or over the course of a few long weekends together. However, your point that he might hide it is valid, as is your mention of mine on honesty. We were together nearly two years before marriage and that's a lot of effort to hide small, irritating habits. It would also be pretty hard to go more than a year without one unintentionally shitty date. For instance, we went skiing in New Mexico in January of 2015. I wore n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 07:11 PM |
| 3 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageGreat article! "Married couples who have lived together before exchanging vows tend to have poorer-quality marriages than couples who moved in after the wedding. Those who cohabited first report less satisfaction, more arguing, poorer communication and lower levels of commitment." "We move in together, we get comfortable, and pretty soon marriage starts to seem like the path of least resistance. Even if the relationship is only tolerable, the next stage starts to seem inevitable." ""There's an i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageWell, thank you, then. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageI think if two people are pretty honest with each other about their expectations and cohabit before marriage, it could work and end up in marriage. See, I agree with this, but I also agree that those who are honest and mature enough to clearly define the terms of living together, are also honest and mature enough to reveal their true selves before marriage. I agree it's complicated and people make these decisions for the wrong reasons, without enough information. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageYou might clarify which comment, because I can't tell. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageI feel like his unrealistic expectations probably wouldn't have been cured by living together before marriage, if his thought was that she'd clean up her act after kids. I'm sure there are some things you could miss, especially if the other person is deliberately hiding them, but this just seems like his assumptions backfired. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 05:06 PM |
| 5 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageI think you make valid points and the grey area created by cohabitation is one of my issues with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 04:04 PM |
| 3 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageHis wife was the kind of woman that likes to party and hang out with friends, and did not want to give it up, which caused a rift (which led to a divorce) between them. I struggle to understand situations like these. With or without cohabitation, this trait seems obvious. I'm not saying no one should live together before marriage, far from it. I'm just saying, how was this missed? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 02:44 PM |
| 6 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageThat was always my biggest fear! If they don't propose, because they don't see a need to make things official, they don't really get much out of it, then what? I wouldn't have wanted to give up on the relationship, nor would I have wanted to give an ultimatum, but I also wouldn't have wanted to be 30 with a live in boyfriend, instead of a husband. As I said, I always worried about muddying the waters. We were so ready and excited to live together when we got married, because we'd really had the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 02:40 PM |
| 14 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageTo each their own, of course, but I tend to caution living together before engagement. I've heard the claim that you don't truly know someone before you live together, but I disagree. If two adults are honest with each other and spend ample time together, perhaps staying with each other periodically or taking a trip together, there shouldn't be any major surprises. We talk about cohabitation as a relationship stage, but that's not all it is. It's a commitment in itself, especially financially. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 03:56 AM |
| 1 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFYeah, it's in the original post. I just looked. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 06:31 PM |
| 2 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFHis age is an issue for me, but also their recent "rough patch." It sounds like it really effected him. That's okay, but if his plans have changed, he needs to come to terms with that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 06:27 PM |
| 1 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFYou're welcome. I would never pressure anyone to move faster in a relationship or to do so to another person. OP just said she was surprised by his reaction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 06:11 PM |
| 3 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFYes. I am. I'm considering friends who've been on different pages and wasted years. I'm considering people on the same page who've gotten married after months. I specifically said neither of them is wrong, but he was really evasive about a timeline and OP is obviously uncomfortable with that or we wouldn't be reading about it. All I'm advising is that they need to be on similar timelines and if he won't discuss one with her at two years, then OP might want to consider the possibility that they a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 05:44 PM |
| 1 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFI wouldn't suggest wording it that way to him, but if inevitably, you guys aren't on the same page, it's good you'll have a pool of eligible men. Remember, neither of you is wrong. You just may be too different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 04:18 PM |
| 8 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFMy suggestion is both to let things settle back down between you two, and also to set some realistic limits for yourself. I know with my husband, after about eight months (when we started sleeping together), I knew that if he wasn't willing to talk about marriage at a year, I'd consider it a red flag and a sign that we weren't on the same page. I was 28 and he was 31, when we hit one year. I'd suggest you decide how long you're willing to wait, be it two years or three, and what it would mean fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 03:35 PM |
| 4 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFOkay, but that's a year and a half from now and he seems threatened by the idea of saying he could maybe see marriage in two. It's just unusual that a man his age, in an established relationship is do evasive. You're not doing anything wrong by bringing it up, in my opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 02:44 PM |
| 9 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFThank you! He has all the perks of marriage and none of the responsibility. I feel for OP, but I've also always been a fan of having these conversations early on, before there's any pressure. My husband and I outlined our hypothetical timelines on the second date. We'd only seen each other twice, so neither of us felt like we were even talking about each other, just what we wanted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 02:26 PM |
| 9 | I want to quit. I feel lied to, from feminists and conservatives.I held out. I married my traditional man. That feminist lifestyle of sleeping with strange men? You can always have that. You can never reclaim what you have now. Furthermore, it's not a choice between two extremes. You don't have to be a virgin to attract a good man. You just have to hold out until you know it's worth it. Getting married at 20 means missing out on a lot of fun, and I don't mean men. I mean time to get to know yourself and what you want, to enjoy your friends and family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 01:10 PM |
| 15 | RPW: discussing marriage with your BFHonestly, your relationship isn't "fresh" at a year and seven months, especially if you're living together. This should probably have been discussed before you moved in together, which is why I've never been a fan of living together before engagement. So, you want a set answer? If he can't at least have this conversation in six months, with less evasion, you might consider that he's not looking for the same things you are, if there's not some obvious reason to put things off (school or work). At… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 12:24 PM |
| 5 | Where to meet women who have a similar mindset?My friends don't have similar viewpoints, really. They just respect that my views and needs are different from theirs. Those are the people you need to find. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 01:54 AM |
| 5 | If You Post a Question, You Must Stick AroundI actually reconsidered my comment and almost edited to say "commented on." Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/17 09:29 PM |
| 8 | If You Post a Question, You Must Stick AroundI didn't call it on the post, just in case, but "Should I go ahead and quit my job now that we're engaged after three months of dating?" totally came off as trolling for me. The OP has also yet to respond to anyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/17 06:35 PM |
| 6 | If You Post a Question, You Must Stick AroundHaha. I think you're the first person who's understood the reference in my name. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/17 06:18 PM |
| 8 | If You Post a Question, You Must Stick AroundThey can disagree, but they can't disagree with literally every piece of advice and argue their original point solely. If 37 people have responded and there are at least seven original pieces of advice, the OP should at least be willing to discuss one or two. Otherwise, they already know how they think and feel and they're just seeking attention. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/17 06:09 PM |
| 37 | If You Post a Question, You Must Stick AroundI find it even more annoying when they stick around and argue with all of the advice. "No, you're wrong. I should definitely stop talking to this guy for using 'who' in place of 'whom.' I just can't be with a man who uses improper grammar." Fine. Die alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/17 05:06 PM |
| 12 | Dating older men?I think it's less about dating men who are older than you and more about dating men who are older. I've always thought 28-32 was sort of a sweet spot. Those guys are done with any schooling, have started their careers, live on their own, and best of all, are getting bored with sleeping around. This is when men are watching their friends get married and start thinking coming home to the same woman every day sounds nice, but probably haven't tried it and been divorced yet. This is when they're rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/17 03:42 AM |
| 6 | Navigating the rest of Reddit as a RPW?I only ever even use Reddit for RPW and I still have an alternate account. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/17 12:37 PM |
| 26 | Can the dread game work on low libido men, or is it a RP male-only strategy?Maybe you should talk to him, instead of playing games. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/17 12:36 PM |
| 3 | Man giving him number instead of asking for yours?This just isn't the same. You're meeting online. You can't expect much chivalry until you actually meet. My husband and I met online. I initiated contact, gave him my number, and suggested we meet, all first. But I never paid for a thing or opened my own door while we were dating. Online dating only works if you take it offline. Go ahead. See where it goes. You literally risk nothing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/17 12:35 PM |
| 22 | Man giving him number instead of asking for yours?It could also just be a man trying to make a woman feel comfortable on a platform that can be kind of iffy. You people are reading way too much into this. This kind of thinking is why women hit 30 and wonder why he never showed up. Well, he gave you his number... | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/17 12:31 PM |
| 3 | What are/were red-flags to you when dating?Ah. So you're talking about a night of fun, sort of thing, not pursuing an LTR. It meant a firm no, when I stopped my first makeout session with my husband. It didn't mean, keep asking, but rather let's keep getting to know each other. So, "not right now, but also maybe not ever if we don't connect further." That's a firm no. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/17 05:12 PM |
| 2 | What makes someone a good captain? What character traits are you looking for in the vetting process?That was another point, I forgot to mention. If you're distracted by their appearance, in either direction, you'll have trouble really getting to know them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/17 05:08 PM |
| 6 | What are/were red-flags to you when dating?No always meant no when I said it, but it didn't mean "Act like I'm not worth your time and get up and leave." No, more often than not, means "not right now." | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/17 04:36 PM |
| 3 | What makes someone a good captain? What character traits are you looking for in the vetting process?This is definitely true. I was pretty neutral on my husband's appearance when I first met him and that's where you want to be, in my opinion. Physical attraction will grow as you get to know someone, but you can't expect to get over revulsion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/17 04:33 PM |
| 3 | What makes someone a good captain? What character traits are you looking for in the vetting process?The library should have it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/17 02:29 PM |
| 3 | What makes someone a good captain? What character traits are you looking for in the vetting process?I'm actually very attracted to my husband and never found him unattractive. Like you, I had to find a balance. I remember feeling like the biggest jerk for being completely turned off by one guy's weight on a first date, so much so that I forced myself to go on a second date, which was a disaster, naturally. I think part of the problem with appearances is that men can put more emphasis on them, because they're looking for traits often linked with looks, such as youth for fertility and femininity… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/17 12:11 PM |
| 11 | What makes someone a good captain? What character traits are you looking for in the vetting process?Thank you. He's wonderful and when I hit my head skiing and he patiently held me while I cried, I didn't think about his height at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/17 12:05 AM |
| 11 | What makes someone a good captain? What character traits are you looking for in the vetting process?I needed the following, regardless of anything I wanted: A passionate earner - the oil field job he hated, that made bank, wasn't enough; I needed him to care and make enough to support a family, when combined with my income (that meant about 40k annually, in these parts) Respect- this meant loyalty to friends and family, chivalry, an interest in understanding my divorce, a respect for my career Faith - I needed a Christian, of any denomination, who was respectful of my Catholicism Family Orient… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Could you get past infidelity?I will never understand why anyone would go ahead and marry someone unfaithful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Could you get past infidelity?I second this. That is a laughable argument. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Could you get past infidelity?I completely disagree. HIV is not that common. As dramatic and heartbreaking as infidelity is, I feel comparing it with manslaughter is an over dramatization. Most STIs/STDs are treatable, as upsetting as it would be to contract one. I'm not arguing that anyone should have to forgive cheating, just that it's apples and oranges to say cheating is comparable to not caring if your SO lives or dies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 04:47 PM |
| 7 | Don't want to be a plateI always wonder about posts like this. "He's very Red Pill." How so? Did he use the phrase? Because he's probably still spinning plates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Moms terrified of discussion on masculinity in parenting group.I don't know if this is really on the same level as lying about rape. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Could you get past infidelity?I disagree. I think the bigger risk is for a man to look back and wonder what he's missed. The phrase "sewing his wild oats" exists for that very reason. It's a natural phase for a man to go through. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Could you get past infidelity?Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Could you get past infidelity?Well, it's a hypothetical. If he's cheating because he has no respect for our union and he's just a dick, yeah I want to know so I can divorce him. The situations I outlined though, were a drunken mistake and an unplanned connection. I'd love to think neither of us is capable of cheating, but we're human and people make mistakes. That doesn't mean everyone who cheats does it because their marriage means nothing or they're just asshole. We're more complicated than that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Could you get past infidelity?Or they're tired of hook ups and want the genuine benefits marriage offers. This is definitely the case with my husband. He had a lot of fun and then got bored with it, went into monk mode for a couple of years, and then met me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 02:46 PM |
| 3 | Could you get past infidelity?It's a hypothetical. I said if he wants to save the marriage, and in my mind that implies not killing me with AIDS or giving me herpes. I guess it would have to go like this: he cheats on a trip with his friends, comes back and gets tested while putting me off of sex until the results come in, and really starts to reflect on why he'd do such a thing, possibly through therapy. He works through this and maybe even suggests we get therapy to find a deeper connection or something, but he keeps the b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 02:42 PM |
| 4 | Could you get past infidelity?No, I'm not looking for a response. I think the varied views are interesting. This isn't an issue in my personal life, but I'd agree with that perception. My husband feels so strongly about cheating, I don't think I'd even recognize him as the same man if he did so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Could you get past infidelity?Well, I had a master's degree at 25, which led to a successful career, so no. I can support myself. Just because you don't understand it, doesn't make me insecure. If he decides he wants to fix our marriage after cheating on me, though, he can do it without putting me through the emotional turmoil of knowing he's been unfaithful. He can just keep his pants on and try to reconnect with me and maybe seek some therapy on his own without putting me in a place where I can never trust him again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 03:37 AM |
| 2 | Could you get past infidelity?Well, I'd say my stipulation would only apply if the affair was over and none of these were risks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 02:40 AM |
| 7 | Could you get past infidelity?For me, I think the hardest part would be "WHO DID I MARRY?" My husband won't watch Mad Men with me, because Don Draper is a womanizer. How could he possibly change so much as to cheat on me and how could I reconcile that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Could you get past infidelity?I'm confident in my "no risk" assertion, since I'm me, but I agree with the logic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 12:21 AM |
| 3 | Could you get past infidelity?Thank you. :) I always feel like I have to add the disclaimer. I think for me, it's the assumption that the guilt will eat at him. Why should I have to suffer so he can alleviate his pain? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/17 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Could you get past infidelity?I don't know if those are the only options. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/17 11:38 PM |
| 2 | Could you get past infidelity?See, my friends often agree they wouldn't want to know. If I found out later, I'd be pissed, but not about the fact that he kept it a secret. Go be clear, my husband is the second man I've really kissed. I don't even like when strangers hug me. There's no risk of me cheating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/17 11:07 PM |
| 23 | Could you get past infidelity?Personally, I've maintained that I would be willing to try to get through infidelity. A long-standing affair would be far worse than a one-night-stand for me, because it would be intentional. He would be making a choice to betray his family every time he did so, whereas a drunken night in Vegas is only a one-time thing. It's interesting, because we've discussed this and while he agrees with me, his friends always argue that a one-night-stand just means a man would choose baser instinct over loya… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/17 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Dating > Marriage > Children: What did your timeline look like?We'd probably wait longer, were it not for biology. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/17 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Is it really THAT bad that I want a man to take care of me?You're using RPW as a crutch. I couldn't agree more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/17 09:03 PM |
| 6 | Is it really THAT bad that I want a man to take care of me?I can't get on board with the general acceptance of this post, myself. Overall, I find it distasteful to expect ANYONE to take care of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/17 09:02 PM |
| 3 | Do I have the right to be upset?I agree. Everyone else is saying the friend is pushy, and sure that might be an issue, but she's been invited in multiple times. The problem seems to be that OP wants to be private about her relationship when she feels like it and be open about it when she doesn't. It also seems she has trouble being direct with her friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/17 08:49 PM |
| 3 | The red pill way of dealing with creepsI work in libraries, where all the women dress cute and professional, many are young, and the stereotype says we're either adorable introverts or secret sluts. We get creeps A LOT and I don't know why on earth you'd want to respond from a RPW perspective, which is for personal relationships. You don't want a personal relationship with these men, so don't worry about being nice or respectful. "No thank you" is alright the first time. After that, it's fair to be downright hateful if you're worried… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/17 01:48 PM |
| 2 | Dating > Marriage > Children: What did your timeline look like?Thank you! It's been wonderful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 08:04 PM |
| 6 | Dating > Marriage > Children: What did your timeline look like?We started talking on Plenty of Fish and I suggested we meet before the one week mark. I was 27 and he was 30. June 09, 2015: Met November 20, 2016: Engaged May 06, 2017: Married I'll be keeping my Mirena where it is until April of 2019. Oh, modern romance. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 06:26 PM |
| 8 | How do I properly handle my husband's relationship with a woman at work?My husband and I have an agreement that no one else gets that title or the title of wife, not even as a joke. It's just not something either of us understand and it always feels disrespectful. That's from the traditional sense, though. What you're describing is just the beginning of an affair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/17 10:10 PM |
| 14 | Problems with my Guy's WeightEveryone seems to be advising you to let him do him and yes, that's good advice, but consider that he might never get to a level of fitness you don't resent or find unattractive. Can you handle that? We all have dealbreakers and if fitness is yours, that's okay. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/17 01:58 AM |
| 6 | When a captain is a little too alpha..?My fiance can be a little too alpha at times, refusing to admit when he's wrong or apologize. I speak to him frankly about how it makes me feel, but there's just no reaching him until his ego has deflated. I'd suggest talking to your guy when he's not upset about any issues you might have and suggesting compromises, such as you preparing sides and him preparing the main course. I always remind myself I'd rather cope with "too alpha" instead of "too beta." | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 12:15 PM |
| 5 | Mothering stylesHe's very independent and has an overbearing mother. I think he just naturally digs in his heels. It's both a family trait and a family survival mechanism. I have to remind him to choose his battles and that "all of them" isn't an option. As for me, I'm very independent and have a very supportive father. I often joke that he's wasted on ME and my apple pie goals. He should be the father of a lesbian traveling author. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 12:26 AM |
| 2 | How did your parents' divorce effect you?Grades were never a problem for me. I was always very self-motivated, perhaps because I'm such a futurist, constantly considering what I want five, ten years down the road. My mother stopped looking at my report cards in middle school and I was Valedictorian. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 12:25 AM |
| 5 | How did your parents' divorce effect you?I'm a librarian. At 29, just a few years in, I've almost broken 50k, in one of the cheapest states in the country. I'd call it a high paying feminine career, especially as far as potential goes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 12:20 AM |
| 15 | How did your parents' divorce effect you?My parents' divorce was long and drawn out, spanning my most formative years, where each took one child, and both badmouthed the other parent. While I never suffered from low grades, I did suffer socially, without the full attention of my parents to guide me. I never knew how to handle bullies or crushes or teachers who didn't like me and just had to stumble blindly through it all. Being overweight didn't help. My brother experienced similar problems and we have almost no relationship as adults,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 07:11 PM |
| 3 | How important is it to be certain of your partner?Same here. I got an ambitious guy... who's 5'7.5" and losing his hair. You have to choose your battles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 06:31 PM |
| 2 | How important is it to be certain of your partner?I found myself feeling the same way, thinking "I would never discount someone over that" and then she'd mention another thing and I'd be like "... um, maybe I've done that." It was so awesome that she was writing this to the younger generation, before they made her mistakes. For someone who was once so full of herself, she really did find quite a bit of humility. I looked her up though, and she never did marry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Was there ever a time, when you saw your SO revealed their true character in unusual circumstances?Last February, we went skiing for the first time in Ruidoso, New Mexico. We took a cab to town, planning to drink and have a good time and catch a cab back. We had the worst time finding an open restaurant, walking up and down the streets all night, me in new high-heeled boots and a dress and it was freezing. Finally, we found an open place, had several drinks, both to the point of drunkenness, and couldn't get in touch with the cab guy. We realized we'd have to walk the four miles back to the h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/17 07:02 PM |
| 3 | How important is it to be certain of your partner?She also talks about picking three must-haves, only three, and giving everyone else a chance. If your must have is ambition, fine, but you only get two more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/17 06:17 PM |
| 3 | How important is it to be certain of your partner?I really hope you read this on my recommendation, because I always suggest it. ;) It is such a great read. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/17 05:04 PM |
| 5 | How important is it to be certain of your partner?There is no "one." There are 7 billion people and you could easily be happy with hundreds. You have to realize that and choose someone who is truly a good match in their own right. Odds are there will always be someone better out there. That's why commitment and love are a choice. If you keep a wandering eye, you'll never be happy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/17 05:01 PM |
| 2 | How to trust a man?I think you should try therapy. This shouldn't be weighing on you so much without cause. Talk to someone before it ruins your relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/17 02:22 PM |
| 0 | Is it true that women need men more than men need women?We need each other in equal, but different ways. I even know some people, both men and women, who are just happy alone. I think it's pure arrogance when one claims the other needs them more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/17 12:22 PM |
| 1 | What's your job and your partner's job?Librarian. Laborer for the City, with a bachelor's in hydrology. I'm really proud of him for working his way up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/17 02:58 AM |
| 1 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?We definitely live in a more religious part of the country. I will note when I find a woman pretty, but it's usually because of some idiosyncrasies that haven't been destroyed for the sake of mainstream beauty, so it's a larger statement about the expectations of society. It just doesn't come up much between us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/17 08:08 PM |
| 1 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I think we would probably all consider it disrespectful to say these things in front of our SO or vice versa, not that it's inherently so. It is interesting that it just seems to be a somewhat cultural difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/17 07:38 PM |
| 1 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?My friends don't do it either, even the feminist ones. They'll tell me actors they find attractive, but they won't do it in front of their SO's. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/17 06:49 PM |
| 1 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?Yeah, it's definitely to each their own, but neither of us have ever really done that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/17 06:37 PM |
| 8 | What does the ideal man look like?Well, he's redheaded, but losing his hair, which he hides with a ball cap and a great sense of humor about it. He's about 5'7.5", but he claims 5'8" and again, has a good sense of humor about it. He's stocky, with great arms. He has amazing blue eyes, even though I thought they were a little too close together on our first date. His mom hates his beard, but I love it, white hairs coming in and all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 12:58 PM |
| 0 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I hear ya, and I agree, but this is a direct quote on a current MRP discussion. This. I told my wife I stopped jacking off, and she can read between the lines enough now to know if she's not doing it, sooner or later another chick will. That's just the dread part though. If my fiancé even implied he'd be getting it from somewhere else, he'd better mean it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 12:45 AM |
| 4 | curiosity: religion?I'm Catholic. I focus a lot on the idea that my submission to my husband is equal to his responsibility in caring for me and loving me as Christ loves the Church. It's not just my job to do as he says, but his to guide me in the right way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 10:07 PM |
| 2 | How much control did you relinquish?Haha. Fortunately, the library is having a staff screening of The Guardians of the Galaxy Part 2 the next day! Happy anniversary! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 06:24 PM |
| 2 | How much control did you relinquish?Yes, and it is sadly on the same day as Free Comic Book Day, at the library, which I've done all the planning for myself and now can't attend. Lol. Congrats! How long?!? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 06:02 PM |
| 2 | How much control did you relinquish?May 6th! 5-6-17. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 05:55 PM |
| 2 | How much control did you relinquish?Yeah, my guy was in oil and lived an hour away, in a small town. We'd have never met without online dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 04:09 PM |
| 3 | How much control did you relinquish?It also just depends on when you were dating. I was dating from 2012-2015. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 03:45 PM |
| 3 | How much control did you relinquish?By the time I was dating, online dating had become ubiquitous. If you were done with college and didn't have an active role in a contemporary church, you had no other outlet. People in bars were pretty solely looking for a one-night stand. It had it's downsides, but I honestly always felt they were outweighed by the time saved. Sure, I met more guys who lived "at home," but only because I came into contact with more guys in general... and was able to ask from the first conversation what his job … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 02:30 PM |
| 8 | How much control did you relinquish?It's also where online dating has an advantage. You literally know before you meet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 01:38 PM |
| 4 | How much control did you relinquish?We knew we both wanted marriage and kids, because we met online and those things were spelled out before we even met. We've always been so direct that we just started talking hypotheticals at about 8 months. Then after a year or so of dating, maybe 16 months total, I just asked what his timeline was. It never threatened him, but we're also 29 and 32 now and knew that dragging things out wasn't an option for either of us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 01:38 PM |
| 2 | RP "baggage" - boyfriend recently deceasedI was divorced at 23 and felt the same way. It was so scary. I'm so sorry for the pain you're feeling, but if you continue to take care of yourself, this will just be a deeply sad story that doesn't actually effect your relationships because you're not still struggling with it. I'm getting married to a guy who's never been married and had no kids and he doesn't hold my divorce against me at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 01:34 PM |
| 3 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?Back then it seemed like a nuisance, but the older I get, the more I see just how wise the wisdom of old actually is. I agree. We're far too available these days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 10:51 PM |
| 7 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?Basically a man who has his shit together and in command just exudes "dread" naturally so long as he does not cede the "pants" in a relationship. A woman that has realistic expectations of a relationship also just naturally understands that he's not necessarily going to stick around if she gains 200 pounds, that she has some obligation to still be attractive and pleasant. If people understand, as you said, that love is conditional, there's no need for dread. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 10:50 PM |
| 2 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I think in the beginning, it has to be conscious or she'll send him 35 texts a day and he'll freak out because she's clingy, when really chicks just text more. I agree that much of it, past the beginning stages, is unconscious and I wouldn't hold that against anyone. Lucy and Barry was just the story of a man who doesn't help out around the house in the slightest and shows no appreciation and plays passive aggressive head games and his wife (my friend), who has unrealistic expectations of single… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 10:15 PM |
| 7 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?Definitely semantics. :) I always appreciate your ability to agree to disagree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 10:08 PM |
| 3 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I'd even go so far as to say some of these things lead to the others. She doesn't try as much, because kids are hard. He doesn't compliment her anymore, so she figures why not eat the cupcake? She's gained 15 pounds, so he never compliments her and in looking for ways to get her to lose weight, he stumbles on TRP, where single man strategies are suggested for a married man, he starts employing dread and she says screw it and starts Googling divorce. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 10:07 PM |
| 2 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?This is the main reason I didn't like MRP when I lurked there for a while. I came back to it several times to see whether it was just those few days that were heavy on this terrible advice, but nope, it was front and center every single time I visited that sub. I would strongly agree that it seems riddled with bad marriage advice, as in advice that would truly damage your relationship, not even just piss off your spouse. You mean improve? Yes. In other words - dread game within a marriage is usu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:38 PM |
| 6 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I'd say hurtful if it were said in passing, because things were on the rocks. I'd stand by hateful in this scenario, because he was saying it as manipulation tactic, to remind her that if she's good, he'll keep her around. He clearly outlined his intentions in the post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:25 PM |
| 6 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?Hi Kara, seems like we can always rely on you to start a good discussion thread! Thank you! I consider dread fair game in the early stages of a relationship. Anyone who says they don't play games at that point, is lying or single. I think manipulating the emotions of your spouse or LTR is cruel, though, in any regard. I'd compare it to withholding sex for personal gain. It's not nice and it's not healthy. If you recall my post on Lucy and Barry (which I deleted out of paranoia, because it was so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:17 PM |
| 6 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?The worst thing about reading men's RP stuff has been my paranoia that if a guy dies something minor but thoughtless, I wonder about RP and of it is some malicious manipulation. I can see that. I talk to my fiancé about this sub and I've told him about RP. He's not interested in following the Reddit or doing the readings (nor am I, to be honest), but he can appreciate the basis of it. I do think I'd be a touch paranoid at the beginning of a relationship, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:05 PM |
| 6 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I think it's understandable in the flirting or casual dating sense. It's game playing and I don't think you can do that successfully in a marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:03 PM |
| 7 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I agree. I can understand it in a dating context, but I feel like, if your marriage is on the rocks and you genuinely want to save it, you should probably skip dread. I haven't been over to MRP in a while, but I read one post about a man who's neighbor had just lost his wife to cancer. His wife was feeling a little insecure and asked if he'd take care of her if she ever got cancer. He responded "... as long as we're still married." If my fiancé ever said that, I'd be livid and deeply hurt. That … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Long time lurker, need advice.I'm fine with them, though I feel like they're a bit redundant in the manosphere, because you can't actually sign away rights to alimony and that seems to be the focus. I'd have signed one if he wanted, because his family has a multi-million dollar cattle ranch, but he never had one written up. I don't want his money and I don't actually believe in alimony, myself, except perhaps in extreme circumstances. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Long time lurker, need advice.Well, I'm religious, so it's important that God bind our eternal souls. But if I weren't, it would still be important for legal reasons. Where I'm from (no doxing), it's harder to get child support without having been married to the father and the father is generally totally screwed in regards to his children, if he's not married to her mother. If I weren't married to my fiancé when we have kids, I could decide to move to Florida with his kids and he'd have little to no say. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 07:44 PM |
| 3 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I've totally been negged! I remember thinking "wow... people really do this." I legitimately thought it was just something Barney Stinson did in How I Met Your Mother. think red pill women are generally less likely to be in situations where men try that kind of tactic on us. Valid point. I think I think of them in a Married Red Pill context, mostly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 07:42 PM |
| 24 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I've never been a fan of the recommendation that a married man attempt Dread, myself. It feels disrespectful of the marriage. I feel like I would directly confront my fiancé if he started to flirt with other women in front of me or comment on other women's appearance on the regular. Early in our relationship, subtle versions of this, such as talking about a single and attractive coworker, probably would've worked on me, but in an LTR, I think it would just piss me off. As far as improving his ow… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 07:35 PM |
| 2 | Overly smittenUntil she changes her thinking, I'd say she'll always be unhappy in the relationship. She'll always think she settled. Even average women can be beautiful, but she needs to get on it if she's planning to have children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 04:41 PM |
| 3 | Some questions regarding Captain material and 'Dark Triad' traitsOh, my goodness, this is actually quite relevant to my relationship, as my fiance is naturally very alpha. He's even managed to train my nine-year-old dog to respect him as the boss. Admittedly, sometimes this can bleed into our relationship. You see, I always wanted a man with a big personality, because I have always had a big personality and I would steamroll any beta. My guy is perfect for me, because that's never a risk and rarely is it a risk for him to steamroll me... but it happens. The t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 01:12 PM |
| 4 | Overly smittenCan she fairly ask that at 34, when she wants to marry and (I assume) have kids? I mean, her prospects are only going to get less attractive as time goes on. If she nexts this guy, she could very likely find herself 44, following him and his family on Facebook, and wondering what if. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 01:04 PM |
| 2 | Overly smittenI think it's obvious why your friend's alone. I used to have similar silly qualifiers, like height and hairline and even color (no redheads). Then I hit, oh 26 or so, and realized my guy (gay) friend's advice was true. It's okay to say you'd rather be alone than settle, as long as you really mean it. You might end up alone. The music might stop and you might not have a chair. My fiance is 5'7.5". He claims 5'8" and I tease him for it, because he's not insecure at all. I'm 5'5.5", so he has 2 inc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 01:02 PM |
| 3 | how to help husband find/swallow the red pill.I thought the same thing. Some men use the Red Pill as an excuse to manipulate, threaten, and belittle their wives. The message gets warped. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 12:51 PM |
| 11 | A Review of the Posting Guidelines for Male ContributorsThen leave. If you can't communicate your thoughts in logical and respectful ways, no matter what they are, this post is talking to you. Every message is better received when intelligently delivered and it seems you're incapable of that. You don't get to tell us not to call it Red Pill, but if you don't think the term applies anymore, then go. We really don't care. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 12:25 PM |
| 8 | Some thoughts on AF/BBI don't know that "non-missionary" really qualifies as kinky. He seems to have something of a hang up if he can't do more than that, without feeling like he's degrading her. Either way, I agree that this just seems to be a difference in sexual preferences more than anything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 12:19 PM |
| 2 | Discouraging Men From PostingI'm happy for them to post and discuss, if they'll do so productively. I just don't feel like that's happening lately. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/17 12:45 PM |
| 16 | Discouraging Men From PostingI've found the male posts and comments to mostly be very argumentative lately, at least when they aren't preachy. It's one thing to offer a man's perspective, but another to argue simply for the sake of arguing. It's made me want to take a break from Reddit and RPW. I come here for a traditional woman's perspective, not for men to tell me all will be well if I lose 30 pounds and embrace their pornography addiction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/17 08:17 AM |
| 1 | How do I "appeal" to men of high value at work?Men that are taken hit on me constantly.Good addition. You can't say "Your wife probably wouldn't appreciate that," but you can find a way to mention her in conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 10:38 PM |
| 1 | On Becoming the Best MeI feel stupid for not mentioning exercise. Lol. It just seems so obvious to me, I guess I forgot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 08:00 PM |
| 7 | How do I "appeal" to men of high value at work?Men that are taken hit on me constantly.You still have time to fix this. You need to learn to immediately recognize an inappropriate comment. Any comments on your appearance, beyond "you look nice", are inappropriate for the work place and should be met with a blank stare. Any comments on your relationship are also inappropriate and should receive the same, as should any remarks about missing you or wishing you could be on their team without a qualifier about your expertise. Just don't respond to these things. I'm not suggesting you b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 07:50 PM |
| 2 | How do I "appeal" to men of high value at work?Men that are taken hit on me constantly.I edited my comment to be a little more thorough, so you might reread. You have to be careful not to seem oversensitive and also not to encourage. I wouldn't give a verbal response unless it's something wildly inappropriate. I work in a field (librarian) where my coworkers are crazy, exhaustingly P.C., but my customers can be crazy, exhaustingly offensive, so I've learned to work with both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 07:36 PM |
| 11 | How do I "appeal" to men of high value at work?Men that are taken hit on me constantly.This may or may not be a RPW response, but if men (married or not) are commenting on how great you look in yoga pants, at work, you have a pretty solid sexual harassment case. I know we're all for traditionalism here, but this isn't Mad Men and you aren't Peggy Olson. You should be asking how to shut this down, before you become the girl who flirts with married men. As far as attracting men of value at work, it doesn't sound like there are any at your place of business and it's not worth risking… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Long time lurker, need advice.I can see that. I definitely think it's case by case and people tend to hide their flaws, while they still can. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Long time lurker, need advice.Honestly - you do NOT really know someone until you've lived with them 24/7 for a while I actually disagree with this piece of advice, which I hear all the time. My fiancé and I have lived together for a few months now and I absolutely knew exactly who he was before that. If two people are mature enough to be honest with each other about their strengths and weaknesses, it's not a problem. Now, whether or not OP's guy is that mature is a different topic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 03:40 PM |
| 2 | What do you wish you'd done differently on your wedding day?Thank you for this advice! Lately, I've been feeling bad for not inviting certain people. I have to take a breath and remind myself that I had to draw the line somewhere, that I made the decisions I made for a reason. The same goes for taking the time to actually enjoy my wedding. Not everyone needs a photo with the bride. This isn't Disneyland and I'm not Mickey Mouse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Long time lurker, need advice.Yeah, I have had a miscarriage, so that changed my personal situation a bit, because my doctor knows I can get pregnant. As I understand it, the general age is 35, but that's also for being more or less done with kids, not for starting. OP needs to end this, take the year or so she needs to recover, and hit the ground running. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 01:23 PM |
| 13 | On Becoming the Best MeThe house: You have older kids. Make them clean up after themselves and each other. You work, homeschool and run the home. They can fold laundry. It may take more work at first, to get them to DO it, but in the long run, you'll all be better off. Chores are good for children and they're even better for moms. Your weight: Start Weight Watchers. You'll learn about portion control and what the actual nutritional content of your day-to-day diet looks like, so you'll be able to benefit even if you do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 12:31 PM |
| 8 | Long time lurker, need advice.She'll also be 37. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 12:25 PM |
| 6 | Long time lurker, need advice.To be fair, I specifically asked my doctor if I should worry about being 29 and planning to have kids in 2 years. She told me she doesn't even begin to worry until 35, that that's the general consensus of the medical community. Your point is valid, of course. She needs to move on NOW if she wants kids. She just shouldn't be even more terrified by the idea that it's too late. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 12:25 PM |
| 12 | Long time lurker, need advice.It felt like he was just saying the stuff that guys say when they don’t want to marry you but they don’t want to break up I am so sorry to tell you this. He doesn't want to marry you, but he doesn't want to break up. You've invested three years in him. Don't invest three more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 12:27 AM |
| 2 | What do you wish you'd done differently on your wedding day?I'll make sure he knows I don't want food smashed in my face, because I agree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 07:20 PM |
| 3 | What do you think of dating/marrying men with a "female best friend"?I agree. I don't think there's any subconscious feelings here. I think they just haven't watched a marriage end over this, yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Just be Yourself!That's a little less annoying. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 04:24 PM |
| 1 | What do you wish you'd done differently on your wedding day?Haha. I love this story. I've asked my aunt to save the top for us so we can eat it on our 24 hour anniversary, because it's gross after a year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 03:50 PM |
| 1 | What do you wish you'd done differently on your wedding day?We're taking very few personal belongings and the venue does setup and tear down, but I'll see if I can't assign someone to gather all of those odds and ends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 03:49 PM |
| 4 | What do you wish you'd done differently on your wedding day?I agree. I love Willow-girl's unique perspective. Also, definitely keeping the bouquet. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 03:48 PM |
| 1 | What do you wish you'd done differently on your wedding day?I truly hope I get to attend someone else's wedding at this venue soon, for that very reason. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 03:45 PM |
| 6 | Just be Yourself!This reminds me of Bridget Jones Diary, when everyone swooned after Colin Firth told Bridget, a woman he'd met three times, that he liked her exactly as she was. Really? He liked her, even though she was loud and obnoxious, made bad life decisions, her wardrobe was always either frumpy or slutty or somehow both, her hair was a mess, she was chunky and good at nothing? I love that movie, in part, because I enjoy screaming at Bridget to get her life together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 03:42 PM |
| 1 | What do you wish you'd done differently on your wedding day?Thank you so much! I feel like I've done all of these things. Our photographer was my personal splurge, because the photos last forever and I can't stand the over photo shopped style that's so popular these days. She has a really natural look. Despite his family's protests, we are definitely doing the photos before the ceremony. He's paid too much for this wedding and it's too important to him for us to miss it for pictures. My hairdresser is my cousin and she's doing something really simple for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 01:20 PM |
| 4 | Do RPW usually go for older men, or do some find men their age or younger?When I was dating, at 27, my MAX was 34 and I never felt like I could connect with anyone that much older, nor was I ever attracted to them. They were in a totally different stage of life, had different goals, and even different nostalgic stories. My guy is 3 years older and we still have little differences in our childhood stories, like the fact that he's never seen Rugrats. He's got just enough on me to keep me from feeling like the only adult in the relationship and I wouldn't add a day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 12:31 PM |
| 2 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?Perhaps another post, but Betty was a pretty good example of an RPW, who doesn't need a carer. I thought that was the major difference between her and Joan. Joan thought she wanted what Betty had, but she enjoyed the power and challenge of her career too much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 03:30 AM |
| 3 | Questions.I explained in your quote, that we can appreciate the idea of respecting each other's decisions. Several of the women here have claimed exactly that view and actually call themselves feminists, so it doesn't seem like a stretch to welcome a new one. Perhaps you're right, though, in that my wording was a bit all encompassing. I primarily meant that equal pay and a right to choose our own paths are wonderful, not so much the societal issues attached. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 03:25 AM |
| 4 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?It may not have been in the original post. I did clarify, though. I'm not suggesting you admire her posing nude, or even insulting her for it, just saying I wouldn't call Melania an introvert, especially if she's married to someone like Donald Trump. She had to go out and socialize an awful lot to be in the circles she was. As far as her intentions go, who knows? I just can't see any evidence, beyond the obvious, why a gorgeous woman would want to be the third wife of a man twenty-five years old… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 09:44 PM |
| 2 | What do you wish you'd done differently on your wedding day?I've already scheduled the Monday after off work to take in the marriage license and change my name. I considered doing that with the bouquet, but didn't know if the couple who won would even care to keep it, so I bought one that can't die and I'll just display it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?I never said I looked down on anyone. In fact, I specifically said both that I could be wrong about Melania's intentions and that I don't disrespect her as a person. You are being a bit sensitive, I think, because I said nothing negative about anyone. You're also relating, as an introvert, to a woman who has posed nude and that feels like a stretch to me. I don't particularly admire Melania, but I didn't put her down and I won't. Do I think she's made as much of a difference as those in her posi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 09:12 PM |
| 5 | Questions.Subreddit rules say we don't insult the Red Pill. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 08:35 PM |
| 2 | What do you wish you'd done differently on your wedding day?I hope I don't regret not hiring a videographer. It was just a lot of additional money and we'd already kind of splurged on the photographer. The cake is being made by my aunt and I literally don't care what she comes up with, though. I did tell her lemon. I want lemon. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 08:03 PM |
| 6 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?Agreed. Libertarian, here, with no hard feelings toward either woman and I just think Michelle is the better role model. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Questions.I think my issue is probably that there are a couple of tenants of the Red Pill with which I can't relate. For a man to call himself Red Pill, he'd probably be aligned with those as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?Kitty Foreman is the greatest. That was the only thing I ever disliked about Joan, though I found it interesting that her husband thought she was a virgin. I wonder how common that was. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?Alrighty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?I used it, because you clearly haven't read up on the issues and basic terminology and I can't explain the full scope simply. If that offends you, definitely stay off TRP. They'll be much harsher if you ask basic questions like this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 04:13 PM |
| 2 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?It sounds like an issue to me, as well. I guess you just have to decide how you feel about that. When I was 175 and 5 5.5, my very alpha fiancé never made a single negative comment about it. That's the size I was when we met and he knew I worked out and ate relatively healthy meals. He's been very encouraging as I've lost weight, but he's never asked me to do so. If he had, yes, I probably would have decided he wasn't for me. I don't need anyone policing my weight. We speak of weight in very mat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 04:12 PM |
| 6 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?Well, I kind of hate the comment "read the sidebar," but it seems fitting here. There's a lot of material on Red Pill and to even begin to understand the point of this subreddit, you'd have to read up on it a bit. My point was basically that many women here take what they can use and leave what they can't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?The Red Pill is the ideology. Red Pill Women is just a group of women who discuss their lives and relationships with a basis in Red Pill theory, but many of us veer in some way or another. We just enjoy the traditional environment. There isn't a strict adherence to all Red Pill rules. You do sort of have to appreciate the fundamentals to get anything out of it, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 03:04 PM |
| 13 | Questions.Is it inherently anti-trpw ideology to say that society would benefit from more acceptance and respect for feminine values (nurture, nature, compassionate economy) on a grand scale? RPW is not about politics, honestly. It's as simple as that. This is about improving yourself and your personal life. Your political opionins are entirely separate. The same goes for your comments on capitalism. Can I be rp and believe that environmentalism is an inherently feminine ideology and needs support in a wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 02:28 PM |
| 17 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?I'm not saying she's unaccomplished in her own right, so much as that no one will convince me that someone who looks like her is with Donald Trump for a love match. I can respect her beauty and work ethic, but not her choice to marry for money and fame. I feel like her passion was to marry rich, more than modeling, but I could be wrong about that. I don't disrespect her, though. I just don't look up to her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 01:43 PM |
| 16 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?I really thought Melania Trump would be the ideal, as many here seem to aspire to marry a rich man, become a housewife, and be beautiful and subdued like her. I'd say this is a stereotype depicted more often in TRP, to have that beautiful trophy wife, who never talks back. It's certainly never been a goal of mine to be her. I love my career, can make my own money because of it, and would never just sit quietly, when I truly disagree with someone. True feminism, feminism that supports the choices… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 01:40 PM |
| 39 | Who do you look up to as a 'role model' Red Pill Woman?Honestly, my role models on this regard are all fictional, likely because a true RPW role model is unlikely to be in the public eye. She would tend to work her magic behind the scenes, like Joan Holloway, Samantha Stephens, and Kitty Foreman. I have trouble thinking of Melania Trump as a role model. Politics aside, I just can't look up to a woman who's only with a man for his money or power. I appreciate that she's beautiful and dresses classy these days, but I need someone with ambitions and pa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 12:34 PM |
| 4 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?I actually completely agree. I'm not saying the woman who weighs 120 at 5'5" doesn't exist or even that she's unhealthy. What you're talking about, though, the woman who's athletic and fit and claims 115, when it's really 135, is incredibly common. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 01:45 AM |
| 5 | On Gifts..I love that you didn't take this as a personal attack. There's nothing wrong with what makes you smile and it's super sweet that he knows what it is. My guy definitely needs to work on his actual GIFTS game, but gosh watching him get up and go to work even though he was up sick all night was better than anything he could've given me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 01:08 AM |
| 1 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?I was a size 6 at 160. I could've stood to lose MAYBE 15-20 pounds, because I was working out constantly and had a fair amount of muscle. I think lower than 140 would've been too much for me. A friend of mine has been vegan for a year. She's lost so much weight I was genuinely concerned. She told me she's still considered overweight on the BMI chart. She's a mail carrier, though, which is a surprisingly physical job. That's sort of a rare case, I'd think, but it is a range for a reason. Some wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 01:01 AM |
| 3 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?Literally your entire argument has been based on the assumption that OP's primary concern is SMV, despite being in an LTR and on RPW, which focuses much more heavily on MMV. So yes, I considered it moot and redundant, considering you had just claimed your argument was something completely different, that you weren't advising a specific target weight. I'm no longer interested in discussing this with you. Your points are circular and unintelligent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 08:24 PM |
| 4 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?Your information is great and I don't argue your point, especially that older women don't get a pass on being overweight. If anything, it's more important to be fit, because it's harder to find someone. I'm speaking more to OP in regards to MMV, which I'd hope is more important than SMV, since she's in a relationship and also because I'm biased and was only ever interested in MMV. While you're right that losing weight wouldn't hurt her, I don't think it's as important for her to get below her ta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 08:07 PM |
| 5 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?your goal weight should be 115-125 Yes. You did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 07:36 PM |
| 10 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?It's weird, because this is RPW and people are supposed to care about a woman's whole self and well-being, which directly effect her MMV (far more important than SMV). I've already stated I know many very fit and healthy women who weigh more and do care about BMI, but you like to argue. OP, I mentioned it before, but talk to a doctor. Get a real recommendation from a medical professional who can see you, before setting a goal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 06:56 PM |
| 5 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?I do. I hear women who actually care about their health and not just their appearance tell me they're 145, all the time, because muscle is heavy and they're really active. I hear doctors tell me to concentrate on how I feel and look and my clothes fit and stop aiming for a number, which I still do. I'm not saying the women you dated are unhealthy or underweight. They could just be built differently. I'm not lecturing. It is very possible that 115 is not an option for OP. My point is that you can… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 06:35 PM |
| 4 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?Her max is about 10 pounds higher, 9 to be exact. She'd probably look very different at even 145. Without seeing her, you really can't advise she weigh 125. I'd be unhealthily thin at 125 and I'm 5 5.5. OP, there is nothing wrong or unhealthy with being anywhere in the healthy weight range of the BMI scale, if you're reasonably active and eat right. Do not set a goal you can't reach. You'll feel unaccomplished, no matter how great you look. I've done that and it sucks. You should discuss with a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 06:13 PM |
| 2 | On Gifts..My guy's is touch, which was foreign to me when we started dating. Now I love when he runs his hands over my legs while we watch TV or something, just because I know what that means from him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 06:04 PM |
| 2 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?Yes, we kind of just have to take her word for it that 145 would be her ideal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 06:03 PM |
| 2 | On Gifts..I do agree that a random gift or gesture is sweet, and obviously he knows how to make her feel appreciated. I love surprising my guy, but I'd say gifts and acts of service are the ways I show love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 04:27 PM |
| 5 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?"Everyone is different" was pretty much my point, so I agree with you. The BMI chart does state 115 on the lowest end of health for someone OP's height, though, so it's probably not a realistic goal for her, if she's saying 145 is her current goal. I have known many women to lie about their weight, usually claiming 115 or 120, which is also what's usually stated as a woman's weight on movies and TV. It's also possible that the commenter has a unique assessment of "pretty chubby" and has mostly d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 03:33 PM |
| 7 | On Gifts..I don't know if I ever got anything cute, but I was pretty adamant that I didn't want stuffed animals or flowers that just die. I've gotten jewelry and that's nice. In a way, that reflects what OP is saying, that he's stepping outside of his comfort zone and getting me something that's just for me. All the same, if I had to choose between a man who buys me expensive earrings and a man who cleans up after himself, it'd be the latter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 01:45 PM |
| 43 | On Gifts..That quote is ridiculous. I'm glad you're happy and feeling loved, because your SO knows how to make that happen, but my love language sure isn't teddy bears that just take up space. Mine is folding that laundry, because I haven't had the time with wedding planning. It's rubbing my back when I cry from being overwhelmed at doing it without a mom. It's making me dinner after a twelve hour "day off" of running errands. It's firmly telling his mother that, no, she cannot change the groom's and groo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 12:42 PM |
| 20 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?Did you see them on a scale? I'm 5.5. and I feel like they were lying, because 115 would put them just above medically underweight. Maybe some guys like that, but many don't. Regardless, different bodies hold weight differently. She could look a touch chubby at 145, but I'm hard pressed to believe she'd ever look "pretty chubby" at a healthy weight on the BMI scale. She could also look too thin, depending on her muscle mass. Don't set unrealistic goals for her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 12:36 PM |
| 4 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?At your weight, it has little to do with appearance. You're relatively average for an American and your health isn't majorly at risk. Obviously he's attracted or he wouldn't be here. The problem is your self-esteem issues and that is your problem, not his. If you feel bad about your weight, diet, workout. If you don't, own it. Confidence can bridge the gap here, but right now, you're overreacting and creating drama. If anything, he might break up with you for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 12:30 PM |
| 11 | Q4W - Women of RP, Can You Describe the Exact Benefits You Received From Virginity/Waiting to Give Sex?I waited eight months to have sex with my fiancé, because I was getting the Gardasil shot. He had been with many other women and knew he had HPV, so we decided it was important for me to get the vaccine, off label (at 27,) and wait six months to have sex. I had only had one partner before him. The benefits of this decision were huge. While we did engage in some sexual activities, we had to spend our time getting to know each other. By the time we did have sex, it'd been six years since I'd been … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/17 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Sex before marriage?For my guy, it was just that he was 30 years old when we met and I was 27. My having only one partner was completely unheard of, but for him... I just sort of expected it. He had a life before me and that's never bothered me. The idea that he'd have learned tricks honestly never crossed my mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/17 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Texting only for logistics?When I was dating online, I'd get to know the person via text before meeting, because that's the point of online dating. I'd ask about parents and friends and work and faith, to avoid surprises I couldn't reconcile on a first date and save us both time. Once I started dating my fiance, it was a little tougher. One, I didn't want to be needy. Two, I didn't want him to be needy. We occasionally went two or three days without texting, because we both had lives. I'd text him a funny story or send a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/17 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Sex before marriage?I agree. I just think both generally accept this double standard. I've only seen one or two women say they'd be bothered by a man having a high n-count. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/17 03:29 AM |
| 4 | Sex before marriage?I actually did mean the Red Pill, as an ideology. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/17 03:28 AM |
| 19 | Sex before marriage?The Red Pill doesn't champion chastity until marriage and would probably even argue against it, but in favor of keeping sexual partners to a minimum. The double standard that it's okay for men to sleep around is certainly there, but that's just part of the deal. I never found it difficult to keep my number down, myself. I was divorced at 23, but dated for four years and I can count the men I've kissed on one hand. My fiance is only number two for me, in any sexual sense and it's never bothered m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/17 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Found out SO has been watching a lot of pornAgreed. Adults take responsibility for themselves. Calling someone on this sub Blue Pill for disagreeing with them is just a lazy argument, though, so I'm done. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/17 05:28 PM |
| 4 | Found out SO has been watching a lot of pornYawn. Have a great day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Found out SO has been watching a lot of pornNo, if he thought it was so bad, he wouldn't have been looking at it all the time. A lot of addicts will admit that their vice is bad. You've actually just supported the idea that he might have a pornography addiction. Porn is toxic to most relationships. You seem to not only be convinced otherwise, but be convinced that there's no way any man could legitimately oppose pornography, so I'm going to agree to disagree, here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 09:37 PM |
| 9 | What are the benefits of a traditional relationship?There are a lot of benefits to a traditional relationship, but this isn't a traditional relationship. He's being an asshole and blaming Reddit. We aren't "the other side" here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 09:30 PM |
| 6 | Found out SO has been watching a lot of pornAnother thing, we had even talked about how porn isn't good for you and he was the one who brought it up to me! According to her post, he was in full agreement that pornography is harmful, regardless of how normal you think it is. He lied to her, because he's ashamed of his behavior. She "forced" nothing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 09:23 PM |
| 25 | Broke up with my captain todayA lot of women mislabel men as captain. That seems a less radical conclusion than what you've surmised. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 06:57 PM |
| 2 | How do those on this sub feel about stay at home husbands?I think people should be more aware of what they want out of a relationship before seeking a commitment, in general. This is just one example of potential surprises. Many probably haven't even considered this topic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 02:02 PM |
| 6 | Found out SO has been watching a lot of pornI think this is a great question for RPW, because many women here disagree that porn is healthy and normal and the ones who don't might still argue that this amount of porn, and the lies behind it, aren't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Found out SO has been watching a lot of pornYou're not overreacting and while masturbation is normal, porn is toxic to a relationship. It seems he realizes this and that's why he initiated that discussion, but he realizes it from his own experience. Now, people can argue that porn is healthy, because you can literally find something online to back up every opinion, but the fact is that you two decided it wasn't healthy for you and he broke that arrangement, even though he's the one who brought it up. If he's doing this so often and he's o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 12:19 PM |
| 3 | How do those on this sub feel about stay at home husbands?I think you have to accept and acknowledge that different people need different things and if this model works for one family, that's great. For me, though, it could never work. One of the primary reasons I was divorced at 23, was that my ex-husband refused to hold a job for four years. As a result, a strong work ethic and ambition have always been important to me. In fact, it's been a struggle in my own relationship for my fiance to have been unemployed as he searched for something in my area. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 12:09 PM |
| 2 | Realized we really can't have it allWell, it'd be worse to realize too late that you don't want children and a spouse, when you already have them, than the reverse. I know that RPW tends to talk about a ticking clock, but at 23, newly divorced, I didn't know if I wanted all of that stuff either. At 29, I can't wait to be married in three weeks. One way or another, you will probably figure it out. You just need to stop obsessing over what you're supposed to do and figure out what works for you. This sub definitely focuses on women … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Realized we really can't have it allI think that sounds wonderful and you should definitely see if there are entry level positions that could help you figure out what you want, without more debt. Honestly, it's for the best that you're not interested in dating right now. You'll feel more content with your decisions if they're made with what you want in mind, not with an SO's wants and needs. It's okay to be selfish right now, as long as the time spent doing so leads somewhere. If you do decide to pursue more school, even a few yea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Realized we really can't have it allI don't want to just be stuck in a career I dare, because that's what your post implies, as you discuss not wanting a career and wanting to pursue your hobbies and passions, instead. All you mentioned was what you didn't want to do, specifically something like waitressing, which would actually provide a more flexible schedule for those things that matter to you. I apologize for upsetting you. I genuinely meant that I wish you well in figuring it out, because your post very much reads like you do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 07:00 PM |
| 15 | Just wondering: Would you consider Taylor Swift as RPW?We see the side of celebrities they wish us to see. They're essentially fictional characters, and incomplete ones at that. It would be more relevant to discuss whether or not Sookie Stackhouse could be considered an RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Realized we really can't have it allWell, then, it doesn't seem like you've realized you can't have it all. You don't want to work or go to school, but you want to get on your feet and live in one of the most expensive areas of the country. You don't want to date, but you want to meet someone by 30. Best of luck to you in figuring it all out, genuinely. These are the years to do so. Just don't take too long. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 04:19 PM |
| 3 | Realized we really can't have it allThat's the most expensive state in the country. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/17 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Realized we really can't have it allYou don't need to get a degree. RN was just an example of something you could discover you want, that requires both time and money. If you want to get on your feet and leave NYC, I'd recommend somewhere in the middle of the country or even in the South. I live in the South and paid $555 a month for my 2 bed, 2 bath apartment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 11:32 PM |
| 6 | Realized we really can't have it allAt 22 years old, I had a bachelor's in education and chose to pursue my master's degree in library and information studies. I found a position working half-time as a circulation clerk for the largest, best paying system in the region. For three years I used my teaching degree to substitute teach during the day and worked evenings at the library, somehow finding time for my online classes in between. I graduated in 2013 with my MLIS and was almost immediately promoted to half time librarian. Afte… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 09:34 PM |
| 8 | Men "settle"I agree and find both genders are guilty of this. Personally, I know I'm a 7 in marriage material and I don't care what I score in one-night-stand material. I bring the baggage of divorce, but without children. I'm feminine and have a good career that I enjoy and can make my own living. I'm pretty, but statistically overweight, though I wouldn't call myself fat. We're all delusional if we think a 9 is going to show up and want us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 05:26 PM |
| 5 | Men "settle"I felt this way in the dating world, right before I met my fiancé. My requirement for appearance had become "Can I be attracted to this person?", which is a far cry from the more typical "Am I attracted to this person?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 05:22 PM |
| 16 | Men "settle"I don't think "settling" is necessarily a bad thing. A couple of years ago I read the book Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, which talked about all of the silly parameters people (with emphasis on women) set for loving someone. Even here, on a subreddit about seeing the reality of our situation, I see women talk about how he has to be x feet tall, even defending that stipulation by arguing with the fact that less than 15% of the population is above 6 feet. I see men do the sa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 02:07 PM |
| 9 | "I settled into a traditional gender role, and I feel liberated"I could never stay home. I love my job and learning new things and working with customers and specializing in teenagers and making an impact. It's also an impossibly competitive field and I work for the highest paying library system in the region, so if I left, I'd never get my position back. A friend of mine once told me about the year she spent home with her son and how she just became a shell of herself, because it wasn't for her. I know that's how I'd feel. I'd agree that part time would be … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/17 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Recommended dating appsAvoid eHarmony. They never take down expired accounts, so you could be messaging a man who got his account four years ago on a free trial and is now married with a kid. Furthermore, they constantly sent me emails telling me that if I didn't expand my physical range (which was only limited to a thriving metropolis and its suburbs), I'd never meet anyone. It's also one of the most expensive options. Match was okay, though they had the same trouble of showing profiles of non-subscribers. You could,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/17 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Recommended dating appsOn the topic of OKCupid questions, I once read an article about how some of these online dating sites give us too many choices, with so much information. For example, had I met my fiance on OKCupid, instead of Plenty of Fish, his questions might have told me that he doesn't like cats and would never own one. I love cats and couldn't wait to get one when I was dating. I'd have turned down a hypothetical man I had never met for a cat I knew I'd be getting. Instead, I never saw these questions or a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/17 07:44 PM |
| 6 | Where to meet men CatalogueI understand that your point is concrete places and I'd add church to this list for anyone of faith, but I do think any list for women in their 20s at least, is incomplete without mentioning the online element. In addition to online dating sites, some of which offer in person gatherings where you know everyone is single and looking, there are also sites like meetup.com which allow members to join groups based on their interests for in-person gatherings. There are everything from single parent gr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/17 02:30 PM |
| 3 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?I definitely still do the ballet flats. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 09:43 PM |
| 14 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?I think coworkers and customers tend to take me more seriously when I dress up for work. Black pants and a t-shirt are technically in line with our dress code, but I choose to wear dresses and full make-up nearly every day. I find I get a lot more respect, possibly because I look so young, particularly in comparison with the librarian stereotype. I know the year we had a superhero theme for Summer Reading and were given the okay to wear jeans, a customer once thought I was just a college student… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell him about my gastric bypass?I'm kind of surprised and a little confused by the fact that you've kept this a secret. I know people from high school who've had gastric and they didn't tell me. I can just tell, because that kind of weight loss looks different. Regardless, in a best case scenario of marriage, this man is going to be effected by this decision. He needs to know. If you don't tell him, I promise the first sexual encounter will be far more awkward. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 02:44 PM |
| 3 | Should I tell him about my gastric bypass?Actually, there's a 50% chance that someone who's had gastric bypass will gain weight in two years, so I wouldn't count on him feeling this way after a single Google search. This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. He'll be shocked. You'll be heartbroken. Don't. This is a lie by omission. This is also a lie by omission. He deserves to know about this, not only for physical reasons, but to understand a major struggle in your life. It's possible he might not be on board, if he really values … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 05:59 PM |
| 37 | Desperate for help with an unfaithful partner"Except for this one issue." My fiancé is in a ridiculous battle with the cat, right now. He doesn't want him sleeping on the bed, even though he always lays on a decorative blanket we never use. They've both dug in their heels/claws and it's developing into quite the insane cross-species war. What I just described is "one issue." Leave. Find a man who will battle a cat to prove a point, not have sex with 30 different women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 05:30 PM |
| 1 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI'm sorry. I can't hear you over the troll in the room. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 01:45 PM |
| 1 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI completely agree with everything you've said. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 01:42 PM |
| 2 | A Modern Feminist MarriageBarry is wonderful. Once he's learned to pick up after himself and be more proactive in his relationship, I honestly think he will be a fantastic husband. I just don't think that can happen with Lucy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 01:39 PM |
| 1 | A Modern Feminist MarriageWith great power, comes great responsibility. I'd say raising a man and marrying a man both give you great power. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 01:30 PM |
| 0 | A Modern Feminist MarriageA cautionary tale, told from an extremely neutral perspective is not "gossiping and hamstering." It's using pseudonyms to provide an example of what happens if we all go with the societal flow today. That's what many commenters got out of it. If anyone's guilty of such negativity, it's you for the vitriol you spewed about the people in the story, not me for my neutrality. Despite the fact that I've specifically told you I, personally, agree with your definition of feminism, you continue to argue… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 01:27 PM |
| 0 | A Modern Feminist MarriageAs I mentioned before, RPW specifically identifies as anti-feminist. That, quite literally, is what it's "all about." | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/17 03:01 AM |
| 1 | A Modern Feminist MarriageModern feminism creates weak men, leaving women to take over and lead their households, as Lucy must do, since Barry won't and this is the image of marriage feminism paints. She's not a traditionalist in that she "wears the pants" and has to make all of the decisions, something she's prided herself on until now, because feminism. This information was in the original post. As I said, it serves the audience for which it's intended. I'm sorry you didn't enjoy the discussion. Many others did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 11:40 PM |
| 0 | A Modern Feminist MarriageYou're on the wrong sub, if you're here to argue a definition of feminism. The general audience here views it in the context I've written it, since this sub is described as "anti-feminist". The very fact that the definition is so drastically different from person to person is evidence that it's a ridiculous identifier. Lucy is a feminist because she says she subscribes to feminsim, the same as you do. That's why. For example, some would say a feminist respects the decisions of other women, such … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 09:53 PM |
| 2 | A Modern Feminist MarriageEnjoy the Lucy/Barry fanfic you're writing. I'm done responding to your speculation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 06:47 PM |
| 2 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI agree. That is what feminism should be, but this subreddit generally considers it a negative word. I used "modern feminism", because I agree that true feminism is different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 06:46 PM |
| 5 | A Modern Feminist MarriageLovely story you're writing here. Neither is innocent, but you are literally just fabricating things. Your "benefit of the doubt" is laughable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 10:00 AM |
| 4 | A Modern Feminist MarriageEye roll. Drinking socially hardly makes her an addict. If you're going to make things up, debating is pointless. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 09:59 AM |
| 3 | A Modern Feminist MarriageYou made this comment incorrectly citing things that were clearly presented in the original post. It's not rated more highly because it's not a high value comment. Please stop linking it everywhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 09:57 AM |
| 2 | A Modern Feminist MarriageSome research shows this. It's pretty simple to find research that backs up any opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 09:55 AM |
| 5 | A Modern Feminist MarriageAbsolutely. I don't know how my parents' marriage didn't end in a murder/suicide. The worst effects I experienced were from them letting it get that bad. It didn't save the marriage and it royally screwed with our heads. The idea that no one gets married for the love and companionship of a spouse, presented as fact, is ridiculous in a comment citing sources. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 09:54 AM |
| 4 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI'm pretty sure Lucy is severely lacking the respect she wants for her contributions as well. I think respect was lost on both sides, a long time ago. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 09:46 AM |
| 2 | A Modern Feminist MarriageLucy makes her own money and she's not planning to take the kids, but I'd agree in that scenario. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 09:42 AM |
| 6 | A Modern Feminist MarriageThat's easy. She might not be a feminist if she had someone showing her the value of genuine masculinity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 12:24 AM |
| 18 | SOS- Help with my LTRYou're not enough, because there's only one of you. He won't get over this and neither will you. This is a fundamental difference. If you marry him, you'll be a 23-year-old divorcee. There is nothing "scary" about expecting monogamy. You made the right choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 09:21 PM |
| 6 | A Few Things I'm PonderingThe best prevention is to marry a man who doesn't need you to nag, someone who will take the trash out, do the dishes, mow the lawn, because he's an adult, not because of your negative reinforcement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 08:52 PM |
| 2 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI get to be barefoot and pregnant and that was my freaking dream. And here I am depressed because I have to cook and clean? What I WANTED to do? Lucy never wanted to be a stay at home wife or mom. She worked until her first (accidental) pregnancy, but without a degree, it made no sense to pay for daycare. By the time the oldest was in school, the second was born. Some women aren't cut out to stay home. I actually think if Lucy had a fulfilling career, she wouldn't be as unhappy in her personal l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 08:42 PM |
| 3 | A Modern Feminist Marriagewell, boys mature slower because they are allowed to, because people have low expectations of them. If they aren't expected to sit still in class, they won't learn to This is absolutely true. Studies have shown that high expectations yield high results. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 08:34 PM |
| 4 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI see a lot of them, personally. I think it's just as harmful. We just tend to act as though it's healthier for the father to leave. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 08:28 PM |
| 15 | A Modern Feminist MarriageThe entire point of getting married is to have someone with whom to share your life. The idea that it's for kids devalues the marriage of anyone who chooses not to have them. Your children will grow up and leave you for their own lives. Your marriage needs to be healthy enough to last forever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 08:26 PM |
| 1 | A Modern Feminist MarriageHaha. Beta Berry has a nice ring to it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 07:25 PM |
| 3 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI agree that the whole thing is just sad. He's made big gestures recently, but they're the wrong ones. They're intended to look meaningful, like writing love notes, but aren't. If he wants to change, he'll do the dishes without pouting or expecting a gold star. Honestly, if she's going to do it, I'm glad she's doing it now. Her daughters will need parents, who aren't distracted by their own dramas, as they enter puberty and start to become young adults. Regardless of who has primary custody, div… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 06:55 PM |
| 7 | A Modern Feminist MarriageWell, I wouldn't call her middle aged since the average life expectancy of a U.S. female is 81, but I didn't clarify the smoking and drinking all that well. She drinks and smokes socially, on a night out with the girls. She doesn't drink and smoke at home. She is overweight, though I do attribute much of that to depression. While I'm not saying I approve of the decision, by any means, I disagree that taking time for herself won't improve her life. If she can take a break from constantly caring f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 06:44 PM |
| 6 | A Modern Feminist MarriageLucy's actually spoken some about how hard it was when the children were younger. Whereas Barry plays with them and spends time with them now, the hard stuff, like getting up in the middle of the night, always falls to Lucy. When they were babies, of course that was more prevalent and the house was more of a mess and Barry just never stepped up to the plate. You might be right. He might do so eventually, but I don't know that I'd blame her for doubting that after he refused to get up with a sick… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 06:30 PM |
| 3 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI agree. She's tried every version of therapy, including hypnotism, to help her shake this feeling, but it's only gotten worse. Looking after children would be exhausting enough, but doing it while looking after the man who's supposed to be helping? I can't blame her for leaving. I wish they'd both try again, but he's never been invested before and I don't think she'd be invested now. Mostly, I wish things were different for them, all around. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 06:25 PM |
| 10 | A Modern Feminist MarriageShe's actually not that depressed, yet, I don't think. I'm just not sure why this is different than when a man over at TRP is fed up with their lazy, non-contributing spouse, and leaves. I think a child deserves a mother and a father, absolutely. I just don't see it as any worse than when the man tries to see his children as much as he can, but gives primary custody to the woman. I've been the child when the parents who hate each other try to stay together for the kids. It's horrible. They aren'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 06:09 PM |
| 3 | A Modern Feminist MarriageNo, I think Barry is the way he is, because he's never had to take care of himself and modern feminism dictates that he should take a backseat in his marriage and let Lucy do all of the work. Lucy plans to see her girls regularly. I'm not sure how it will pan out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 06:06 PM |
| 3 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI'm confused at how it seems I'm blaming Lucy. Other commenters seem to think I'm being too hard on Barry. I've been as non-partisan as I can, because I don't think it's solely either person's fault, but rather the fault of the way we navigate modern relationships, in an overly feminist society. The only thing I fault Lucy for is not taking her girls. She says she doesn't want to take them from their father and she thinks they'll be in a more stable situation with him. He is a good dad, so maybe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 05:54 PM |
| 9 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI agree. Barry is a nice person, really, but I'd rather die alone than be a mother to my husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 05:30 PM |
| 4 | A Modern Feminist MarriageAll easy things to say (and things I have said while ranting to my fiance), when I'm not living her situation. In this case, for someone clinically depressed, if it's between leaving and suicide, I'd say the former is better for all. But no, she should not be "happy" that her husband doesn't abuse her for her faults, when she doesn't abuse him for his. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 05:20 PM |
| 3 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI agree. I don't have to approve of her actions to be her friend, but I definitely view it as selfish. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 04:39 PM |
| 3 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI'm a nurture over nature person, so I don't really believe the latter goes very far. You can teach responsibility at a young age. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 03:34 PM |
| 6 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI think Lucy has become a feminist, because the doctrine speaks positively about a situation she couldn't control. I think the logic goes that she's not the leader of her household, because Barry isn't willing. She's the leader because she's a strong, independent, feminist. In her defense, she's never been slender. She is definitely fuller figured than she was when they met, though, which is one reason I think she'll regret leaving. No one will appreciate her body like Barry does, ever again. No… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 03:16 PM |
| 2 | A Modern Feminist MarriageI sort of wonder if this problem is our fault, actually, the trend of being too overbearing as mothers and girlfriends and wives, that we've led our men to expect us to organize their lives for them. I'd say this is the main cause, normally. In this particular case, Barry grew up with a nurturing and overbearing mother to cruise direct his life. Married so young, he never learned to take care of himself and vice versa for Lucy, who gives the impression she doesn't have a realistic concept of mon… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 02:53 PM |
| 4 | Will some men never get involved past a few dates if there's no sex?I'm just going to answer the initial question. We waited eight months, because I was getting the Gardasil shot. If I hadn't been, it probably would've happened too soon for me and ruined everything. He'd never been married, no kids, good job. We'll be married in six weeks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 01:22 AM |
| 3 | Guys like clingy behavior...?I was the same way when I met my fiancé. He was definitely on the same page. We'd go days without texting, like two or three and my friends were floored that I was okay with it. One even told me she had to have a running text conversation with her boyfriend all day long to keep her entertained. I just... have a life. Even now, I'll send him little articles or memes if I see one he'll enjoy, but I'll see him in a few hours, when I get home. Why would we talk now and have nothing to share then? Ob… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Guys like clingy behavior...?Yeah, you are who you are and shouldn't try to change that to boost his ego or entertain him. Be less careful about texting him if you want to, because you're afraid of freaking him out, but don't make a conscious effort to be a different kind of girl. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 06:24 PM |
| 3 | Having trouble finding female friends around my age, where did you find your friends?Don't rule out older friends. Even someone 10 years older has a better chance of having learned from their mistakes in this area. If you're religious, definitely try some faith groups. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 06:22 PM |
| 9 | Having trouble finding female friends around my age, where did you find your friends?Just befriend the dog. Most modern women are jerks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Why are you RPW?What's funny is the friends who judge you for it, eventually openly admit that they're tired of wearing the pants. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 06:17 PM |
| 5 | I need your help girlsNo. She doesn't. She says she has a "shitty attitude." She doesn't say how that manifests or how often. For all we know, her boyfriend could be particularly sensitive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 06:17 PM |
| 3 | I need your help girlsNothing is set in stone. You can get help. You can change. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 02:15 PM |
| 5 | Going through a lot of difficulties and need adviceWhat would I advise? Leave. You're young and he's not getting better any time soon. You're wasting your youth and the odds of a full recovery seem slim. You aren't married. You do not have to stay. It is okay to live for you. That being said, expecting his parents to let you live with them is lazy. Take as little debt as you can and work hard at paying it off or, if you live in the U.S., see if you qualify for Public Service Loan Forgiveness. The worst thing you could do is convince yourself you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 12:22 PM |
| 5 | I need your help girlsGet the therapy you mentioned. This sounds borderline emotionally abusive on your part and just vowing to stop won't do anything. I like your idea of focusing on new coping mechanisms. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 12:16 PM |
| 8 | On neediness.....Text that friend. Drive her crazy. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 12:14 PM |
| 1 | What are the things your captain does to make you feel protected/safe?I own guns, myself. In fact, I have more pistols than he does. He has more rifles. We live in the South, so it's sort of just a part of our culture and I'd have been hesitant to date a man who didn't own a gun, for fear it was some sort of anti second amendment stance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 03:39 PM |
| 11 | Why are you RPW?I'm RPW, because I have traditional relationship goals and values, rooted in my faith, but also just my preferences. I was divorced at 23 and realized I didn't much like my life or who I was. I started wearing dresses and makeup, dieted and exercised, lost 90 pounds and finished my first year of grad school. As big as my educational and career aspirations were, if I'd had to choose between them and a husband and kids, I'd have chosen the latter. Even in my conservative state, no one understood h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 12:27 PM |
| 6 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessI absolutely agree. This is the only non-feminist environment I can find, in which to discuss my relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 09:00 PM |
| 1 | [Relationships] What dating sites should I use if I want to find a man who wants a housewife?I met my fiancé on a free site, Plenty of Fish. Try them all and vet them well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 08:36 PM |
| 8 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessI find this to be so true. I hated the "I'll never be RPW" post. How many of us actually call ourselves a Red Pill Woman? I feel the majority just enjoy a traditional environment to discuss relationships, not a strict rule book. I swear like a sailor, enthusiastically debate my opinions with my fiancé, had a masters degree at 25, and wanted nothing more than to be married by 30 and have a family one day. I don't have to check all the boxes to get value from this subreddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 08:29 PM |
| 1 | [Relationships] What dating sites should I use if I want to find a man who wants a housewife?Hahahaha. Yes. It does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/17 07:31 PM |
| 1 | [Relationships] What dating sites should I use if I want to find a man who wants a housewife?She could. I would be far wiser than using the phrase "stay at home wife." | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/17 07:08 PM |
| 3 | What are the things your captain does to make you feel protected/safe?My guy may not be tall, but those strong cattle rancher's arms totally do it for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 04:34 AM |
| 5 | What are the things your captain does to make you feel protected/safe?Speaking as someone who's marrying a hardass, I'll tell you it's not about agreement. It's about him letting me finish my thought without scoffing and disagreeing with me. It's about him bringing an actual debate or discussion to the table, where he doesn't roll his eyes or make feel like an idiot. I'm not one of his asshole friends and I won't be treated like one. That's validation of my feelings. At least for me, that's all it takes. He can disagree all he likes, but I expect him to do so resp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/17 02:17 AM |
| 14 | What are the things your captain does to make you feel protected/safe?He keeps a gun in the nightstand and is a better shot than I am, which is actually saying something. I have a psychotic ex, too, and knowing my fiancé's prepared for him helps me sleep at night. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/17 06:01 AM |
| 2 | [Relationships] What dating sites should I use if I want to find a man who wants a housewife?That's actually a great description of the husband of the only woman I know who was a stay-at-home-wife. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/17 04:02 PM |
| 2 | [Relationships] What dating sites should I use if I want to find a man who wants a housewife?I feel she'd be hard pressed to find any man that would agree to this. My fiancé would be okay with me staying home when we had young children, and likely even school age children, but he does not understand why a woman wouldn't work before that point. While I'm of the "to each their own" thinking on this, neither do I. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/17 03:30 PM |
| 6 | [Relationships] What dating sites should I use if I want to find a man who wants a housewife?Lastly, there are a scant few men nowadays (outside of old school religious and cultural communities) who will agree to having their wife be unemployed if they don't yet have children. I would agree with this. I'm not sure most people understand what a house wife does without children these days. Most valuable volunteer work she could do, she could also do for pay, or at least in addition to working part time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/17 02:18 PM |
| 8 | [Relationships] What dating sites should I use if I want to find a man who wants a housewife?OP is the one implying that society is oppressing her for this grand goal in life. She's making a big deal out of something that shouldn't be one. She does need to work, if only to prove that she can and will. It's perfectly acceptable to say, even on a first date, "I'm a receptionist at a dentist's office. I don't plan to go back to school. Ultimately I'd love to stay home and take care of my family." | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/17 01:42 PM |
| 34 | [Relationships] What dating sites should I use if I want to find a man who wants a housewife?The problem is, the way OP phrases this doesn't come off as valuing traditionalism nearly as much as it comes off as simply not wanting to work. She doesn't talk about how she'd love to take care of her husband and make his life easier and eventually take care of their children and be available to her family at all times. She just says she wants to stay home. While I agree that her vision for the future should be shared early on, maybe on the second or third date, she needs to find a way to word… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/17 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Living together before marriageI feel like it's more about having no reason to get married. You have literally every perk and none of the downsides, like splitting your family Christmases or helping each other out financially, when someone needs new tires. Why bother? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/17 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Living together before marriageMy fiancé and I have only moved in together in the last couple of months. We chose not to live together for a few reasons. We weren't making a financial commitment before an actual commitment. No matter what anyone says, putting your name on a lease with someone else is a financial gamble. We weren't going to risk feeling obligated to one another, before actively making a commitment. It's a lot harder to break up with someone when you live with them. This was our last chance to be single. We wer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/17 01:57 AM |
| 1 | Is RPW is primarily focused on relationships rather than bettering self?I don't think there's any actual science to prove how a relationship most effectively works between two people, so I disagree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/17 06:41 PM |
| 3 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?Well, the people who use just photos are usually on hookup apps. I never talked to or met anyone who didn't have a real profile. I also didn't usually bother messaging a guy who looked like a model in his photos, no matter what the profile said. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 08:24 PM |
| 5 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?I'm not sure what part of that I could've misconstrued as mean, but I'm not offended. I definitely agree that having children is a deal breaker for most men, a wall of its own. I've spoken to many eligible guy friends about it. She definitely has the misconception that sexual desire means they're willing to consider something long term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 08:22 PM |
| 2 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?I met my guy online, too, but that was after my makeover. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 05:36 PM |
| 3 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?I mostly cared about being physically comfortable. As a single person, I cared about a good man noticing me, but I was actually referring to just general interactions. The lady at the bank would give less reaction to my presence than the woman behind me. The older man at the grocery store was less likely to say excuse me. No one was cruel. I was just invisible. I'm 168 at the moment and 5'5.5" tall, so I'm not really slim, either. I would like to lose about 15 pounds, but I'm okay if I don't. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 04:54 PM |
| 2 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?I tended to message men I could find attractive, not necessarily ones who I already found attractive, from their photos. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 04:39 PM |
| 6 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?I guess I just never looked at those guys and considered them an option. Maybe I was just aware of my own short-comings, but I always felt like that guy wasn't actually ready to commit. It's possible he was and I just wasn't hot enough, not that I bothered trying. I tended only to message guys I thought were in my league. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 04:28 PM |
| 13 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?I do agree with the overall concept that anyone can find someone, either for sex or marriage. The women I know who lament over being single usually have unreasonably high standards for their situation. My single-mom friend is hot for 29, a lot of fun, low drama... and she doesn't realize how much of a deal breaker her kid is for most guys. She thinks that because men will take her home, it won't be hard to find someone to commit to her, so she turns down anyone who doesn't look like Chad... but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 04:22 PM |
| 13 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?I read this and think about how bad it feels to be really overweight. I think about how it killed my confidence every time I realized I was the largest person in the room or that the group of guys looking at us across the bar weren't looking at me, but my friends. People used to look right through me when I was 90 pounds heavier. Maybe I would've found someone who would have me, if I'd never lost the weight, but I still wouldn't have been okay with it. Do you for you, not for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Is RPW is primarily focused on relationships rather than bettering self?Ah. I thought you were responding to me. The confusion is all mine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 12:08 PM |
| 2 | Is RPW is primarily focused on relationships rather than bettering self?I was actually responding the person who asked how RPW deals with reality, because sometimes relationships don't work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 03:49 AM |
| 5 | Is RPW is primarily focused on relationships rather than bettering self?I'm not sure that's true, considering all of us have read TRP at some point and that's pretty much the primary discussion point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 01:25 AM |
| 9 | Is RPW is primarily focused on relationships rather than bettering self?Well, I got a divorce at 23, during my first semester of grad school, and I started working out a lot and put down the fork and lost 90 pounds, and learned to apply eyeliner from a YouTube video. Then I started dating and I went through my shallow phase and realized that if I wanted to meet someone, I was going to have to get over myself and give men a shot. I also realized that I might not meet anyone and I might be alone. I found hobbies and friends and continued to work on my career and then,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Is RPW is primarily focused on relationships rather than bettering self?What if it didn't happen, though? What if you had never met that man? What would you be doing with your life? I'm not saying I'd have been okay with being single. I turn 30 this year and I'm overjoyed that I'm not doing it alone. If I were, though, I'd have been fulfilled in my career and had good friends and family and hobbies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 12:21 AM |
| 7 | Is RPW is primarily focused on relationships rather than bettering self?Yes, there is, but that's not what's preached here. Women are told to stay off TRP, where they do preach that. I agree that it's frustrating to read about women planning their lives around finding a man. I met my fiance at 27. I knew it might never happen. That wasn't why I went to grad school or learned how to dress cute or worked two jobs. I did that to better myself. Honestly, I mostly see that mentality from new readers and I wonder if they're not absorbing Red Pill Theory from other places … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 12:19 AM |
| 11 | Is RPW is primarily focused on relationships rather than bettering self?I think too many people on this forum, often new followers, focus on the right way to apply the lessons. There isn't one. Whatever works for you, works for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Life advice neededThat's a fair enough assessment, but even grad school, unless you're talking about a Ph.D. often isn't enough in psychology. It's pretty much a degree for the sake of having a degree. In my field, which is not the case with many others, it really doesn't matter what your bachelors is in, as long as you're getting an MLIS. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Life advice neededI don't know that I'd call it "new," but I'd agree with the assessment. I know that most of the associate librarians I work with (no masters required) have degrees in these types of fields; journalism, art history, English, psychology. They also started shelving books for $8 an hour, though, because libraries are extremely competitive and only now, after 10 years, have they moved up. Most are in grad school now, too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 08:00 PM |
| 3 | Life advice neededThis is absolutely true. OP may have to work and needs to at least find something she can live with for the rest of her life. If that's dog grooming, fantastic, but even that requires certification. It does say she's 22 and would be 25 when she finishes college, but she still needs to plan for that possibility. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 07:54 PM |
| 3 | Splitting financesI think staying home is the big variable, when one person actually can't contribute financially. Personally, I'd never stay home, unless major circumstances required it. I think a communal pot is the only way to go, in that situation, though. An allowance demeans both the woman's ability to budget and her actual contribution. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 01:17 PM |
| 4 | What's your take on a woman who has never been in an LTR before?I'm not offended. I realize she's putting herself at a drastic disadvantage. I wish I could talk to her about it, but we aren't close enough for that not to offend her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 01:12 PM |
| 3 | Have any RPW dealt with depression?Divorced at 23, I had zero dating experience. I once called a friend crying because "At least other people look at an orange and know it's an orange. I look at an orange and I'm like 'Oh, look! A bicycle! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I'M DOING!'" When you're ready to date, after this bout of depression, you just have to get out there and I'd recommend starting with a free dating app. Remember that you don't have to keep spending time with a man if you don't want. You don't have to do anything you don't w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 01:08 PM |
| 6 | Life advice neededPsychology isn't even a field that leads to obvious and likely employment, so it definitely isn't worth the debt if you don't want an advanced degree and a career. I work as a librarian and I love it. It requires a masters in library and information studies, so I don't recommend it for you. However, our circulation clerks mostly perform customer service work. They get paid well and have good benefits and lots of family leave, because I work for a great system. Something like that, maybe even jus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 04:15 AM |
| 7 | What's your take on a woman who has never been in an LTR before?This girl is very sweet, but she's also not in the best shape and just completely naive. I wouldn't say she's spoiled. She's highly educated and works hard and pays her own way. She just needs to choose between the archaic church guy and the liberal who will move for her. It can't be both. Honestly, we're both describing women who want something they don't bring to the table. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?I think part of the issue here is that men don't know what these things cost. I explained to my fiancé that my wedding makeup budget was $200. He wasn't shocked, because he literally had no idea what good makeup cost. When I brag about getting a bottle of OPI polish for $6, he doesn't realize that's half price... cuz he's a guy and he doesn't buy nail polish. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?I agree to an extent. I will say that there is no way my fiancé would be able to tell Victoria's Secret from Kohl's clearance. Ever. I buy nice clothes on clearance, because I wear nice clothes to work and when we go out, but when I get home, I change into cute sleep pants and a t-shirt and he doesn't care. He can't tell a $10 dress from Ross from an $80 dress from Macy's though, so using him as an excuse would be completely invalid. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Are women gatekeepers of sex?I think this speaks of the general promiscuity of the modern age. Since I'd only ever been with one person, I think I just... never really considered the possibility that he'd even get sex. I mean, sure, eventually, but it wasn't on my list of things I brought to the table. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 06:12 PM |
| 10 | Splitting financesMy fiancé and I have been discussing this recently and neither of us favor splitting the finances. We don't have children or individual assets, so there's no obvious reason to do so and for us, it feels unhealthy to separate things into "his and hers." I make around 50K a year and my fiancé will pull in about 10k less in his job, in one of the cheapest states in the country. I have debt and he has none, though, so I'm really the greater disadvantage to our finances. We do well as far as not hold… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 05:36 PM |
| 7 | Are women gatekeepers of sex?I don't know about it being the truth, so much as something that shakes things up for women in a rut. If a woman is used to feeling pestered or obligated to have sex, it's probably a refreshing change of pace to be the one to initiate. If a woman is used to men pressuring her to have sex on the first date, the same reasoning could apply. I've never even kissed a man on a first date, so that RP logic just never applied to me. Similarly, I initiate a fair amount, so I never feel bothered by his re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedI realized at 18 that everything she'd told me was a lie. I just... didn't remember those things happening. It was a hard realization, because my dad was still kind of an ass when I was growing up and now my mom was a manipulative sociopath. Gradually, my dad and I reconnected, over the periodic lunch. We can't reclaim what she took from us, but we can make the best of who we are and what we have now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 04:59 PM |
| 12 | What's your take on a woman who has never been in an LTR before?I have a friend who's single at 29, and has never had a long term relationship. She hadn't even been kissed at 25. She's constantly posting pictures of homemade food on Facebook and tagging them #wifeymaterial. She references Disney movies all the time and says she can't wait to find someone who looks at her like Eric looks at Ariel. She goes on and on in her posts about how she wants to be a wife and mother to a Christian virgin who makes grand romantic gestures. She blogs about how "just a chu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 04:58 PM |
| 18 | Are women gatekeepers of sex?I think it's risky to play games like this in a committed relationship. It really depends on the people involved. I'd probably feel rejected, initially, and then eventually want to talk about his problem and request he see a specialist. I've never turned him down for sex, ever, so behaving like this would piss me off. I'd consider it incredibly immature and disrespectful to our marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?I think it's wonderful that you've found a balance. I see many SAHMs at work who've managed that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?True. I mostly know hospital nurses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsIt's actually a little lower than 15% in the United States and that's what I'm quoting. It's possible that the men you're seeing are over 6', but it's more likely they're 5'10" and confident. If you truly mean you'd rather be alone than with someone 5'9", I support that. I have friends who are very fulfilled and single and wouldn't change it. The reason I argue so hard on this point is that I was a "no one under 6'" girl, despite being 5'5.5". When I read that statistic in the book Marry Him: Th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedWe're great. My mother's in an institution and his wife is really stepping up to help with wedding planning. Life is good and I met a good man who shares a lot of his more admirable qualities. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Should I get plastic surgery at the expense of my future child?I didn't take it as mocking. I got your point and I think it's fair. Confidence can make a big difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 01:13 PM |
| 3 | Should I get plastic surgery at the expense of my future child?I had a breast reduction at 15. They took a pound and a half from each. I never plan to breastfeed. I'm not even going to try, because it's my decision and to an extent my fiancé's, as the father. He supports this. He'll get to help out and bond with the baby more and I won't have a miserable first time mom experience, because I've been told that it's horribly painful for some, because of the surgery and that I'd have to supplement anyway. I'm just not doing it. You're going to have to make a de… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 01:11 PM |
| 12 | How ambitious can a RPW be?Take what you want from RPW and leave the rest without hostility. I certainly come across the occasional comment that has me rolling my eyes and I just move along. One bad piece of advice, or even just a piece of advice that doesn't work for you, doesn't negate the good. As far as ambition goes, I had a masters degree at 25 and my fiance loves my ambition and passion for my career. I never plan to stay home and will eventually move up, I'm sure. We also both love the 50k a year I bring in at 29 … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/17 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?I think it's just a lot harder to break that habit than to avoid it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsBecause he can often have his pick of traits, if he's even decent looking (even smaller percentage) and that's assuming he even wants a relationship or is available (narrowing it down even more). It's only a problem if you're not okay with being alone, because if you're going to be that specific in your requirements, it's a real possibility. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:38 PM |
| 3 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?Women have been stay at home moms for many generations across many cultures and places. Yet, the phenomenon you describe is a fairly new one. So what changed? It's only as new as the dishwasher and the microwave and the frozen dinner. Women who stay at home have to find fulfilling ways to stay busy now... and the women I've mentioned just don't. I agree that your points exacerbate the problem, but I maintain that it's a bigger issue with these women, particularly the spending problem. If a woman… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Who pays?Thank you. It all worked out in the end. Only 6 more weeks until the wedding. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:34 PM |
| 3 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?This also lends to the theory that passion in your field (which often requires a certain amount of higher education) keeps you in check. Perhaps STAHM's who are more passionate about it, as opposed to staying home because daycare is too expensive, would be less inclined to engage in this drama. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?I think you have to make more effort to find things to do, because the base line tasks are all so automated to do. I mean, you don't even have to vacuum anymore. There's literally a Roomba to do that without your help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?I agree with this. I think at one time, being a SAHM mom was a constant chore and now women in this situation have to find fulfilling ways to keep themselves busy... and many do. The ones who don't substitute teach and chaperone every field trip or school dance or volunteer at the nursing home or have very small children at home, they're the ones waiting for the laundry to ding as they engage in a Facebook slap fight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?The IQ thing has actually crossed my mind. When I was working as a circulation clerk (high school diploma required), I had far more problems than as a librarian (master's degree required), but I also think that has to do with passion for the job and general professionalism, as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?I've thought the same thing about nursing, but I don't see quite as many examples. I think part of it is because they're so actively busy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedI think the mentality that the workplace is harder for men is pretty common and I just think it depends on the field. In libraries, it's all under the surface and all very passive aggressive. I'd almost prefer to have someone yelling at me, sometimes. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:22 PM |
| 20 | How can a red pill woman apologize to her boss ?Lose the Red Pill mentality in the workplace, if you're not talking about wardrobe. Sincerely apologize one time and suck up the tears, if you care about your reputation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedI love my career. I love making a difference in the world and I worked my butt off to get where I am. I may not have dealt with the kind of cut throat free market competition men do, but I dealt with the catty bullsh-- of a female dominated field, until we got a male director. His female predecessor ruined careers and lives because she could. This woman would blacklist you for saying her name wrong in an interview. I'm not exaggerating... and I kissed ass until she left and then I was able to mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 06:59 PM |
| 8 | Fending for yourself vs. Being overprotectedI grew up with those 90s parents who believed a college education was the key to happiness. My mother was a nurse, who felt fulfilled and made good money because of her job, despite long and unpredictable hours. My father was a lineman for the electric company, who worked long, hard hours and knew he wouldn't have to if he'd had a degree. I was pushed to make good grades, when I was young, so much so that a 93 (scale of 90-100 = A) was too close to a B and I needed to get it up. Fast forward a f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?I've noticed that working with millennials. They get an opinion on everything, so not sharing it on social media is a foreign concept. I'm a millennial, myself, but working in a professional field, I have to curb that online and in person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?Yes, I can see this being the case, especially in fields primarily populated by women, where they work in teams and build that relationship with each other. I can definitely see it in anyone who primarily socializes via social media. I know that with my very closest friend, we can discuss politics and parenting ideas and relationship norms, but with my extended friends, those are often too heavy of topics to discuss without an argument. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?I didn't read that post, but I'd agree with it completely. I didn't want to sound quite so harsh in my discussion prompt, to avoid heated arguments over discussion, but I see the same in the people in my life. My future MIL has obvious problems with this, being so used to saying whatever she wants that she just completely lacks any respect or tact. She's not a bad person. She just has no reason to filter herself, ever. The cousin I mentioned is going the same way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:50 PM |
| 9 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?I actually had a Facebook friend do the exact same thing. She posted "Pray for us" and then a day later, clarified that her son had an earrache. There is no way she didn't know that's how it would come across. I'd agree it's a boredom thing as well and that gaining some hobbies or involving yourself in community service work could help avoid it. A friend of mine actually had a similar story to yours. She just wasn't cut out to be a SAHM and she became "a shell" of herself, as she said. She had n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?I know some working women who do this, but they seem to reside in fields that are pretty strictly inhabited by women, like teaching and hairstyling, and seem to feed off of each other's catty energy. Again, not to imply that all teachers and hairstylists do this. Perhaps the causation is women confining themselves to female company? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsIndeed. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsIf anything, it increases confidence, which increases success, but that can be done quite effectively regardless. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:04 PM |
| 1 | "10 Easy Ways to Deal With Me When I’m Being a Bitch"I actually agree with both of you. I work in a very liberal field (libraries) and if a man doesn't possess the right amount of white man guilt (a lot), he won't typically go very far. Women, however, can get away with a lot more of the cattiness you'd expect... or they could here until we got a male director, who's high enough up that he doesn't have to make those apologies anymore. It's changed everything for the better, at least in my system. At the same time, I see women my age who stay at ho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 08:23 PM |
| 7 | Advice on LTR Potential…TRP philosophy is very capitalistic. It's the capitalist version of the dating, sexual and relationship world. Fat acceptance and other such ideas attempt to equalize the dating field the same way Marx would have liked to equalize the economy. I love this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsI absolutely agree. I was one of them at 25 and I remember telling a friend there was no way he was 5'10". Now that I think about it, he wasn't very built and had a lot of self-esteem issues at the time and I've never seen him as a romantic prospect. My guy is almost 5'8" and people are always telling me that he seems taller. He's built and confident and his height doesn't bother him. Perhaps that plays a part? More than anything, I just needed to get over myself and realize that taller than my … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 07:36 PM |
| 10 | Advice on LTR Potential…As a libertarian, marrying a libertarian, I'll tell you that these viewpoints are a fundamental part of one's personality. We get so caught up in making sure the other person has similar hobbies and tastes in entertainment that we forget about how they view the world. My fiancé and I are both very opinionated and when we do disagree, we often have to drop the subject after a time or debate until the end of our days. I can't imagine doing that about everything. Your best and worst views on his be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Does it matter what He looks like?You're right. I'm mostly speaking of women who want kids or want men with little to no baggage (kids and previous marriages), which is the general preference I still get from my friends at 28/29. There's no issue of running out of time if you take out the biological clock and the woman is willing to expend the extra effort to maintain her appearance. Those women, however, have usually already pinned down one of your top 20%, in my experience. It seems the ones making demands are being too choose… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 06:03 PM |
| 6 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsFitness. He just has to be comfortable going hiking. He doesn't have to be a body builder or have a six pack. Intelligent. It surprises me that some of my friends don't need this, because I absolutely do. Strength of character. He needs to be a good person Humor. Appearances fade. He has to be funny. Hardworking. I need to know he will always work. Similar world views. Confident. I'll be his cheerleader, when he's down, but I'm not spending my life reassuring him. My guy fits every one of these,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 02:04 PM |
| 5 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsI agree that "taller than I am" was a preference, for this reason. 'Over 6 feet' is just being picky if you aren't 5'11". | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 02:01 PM |
| 5 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsBecause women are shallow and short-sighted until they're nearing 30 and realize only 15% of all men are over 6 feet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Does it matter what He looks like?Men have more time to be picky than women do. They can be picky at 38 and still marry a cute 29-year-old who wants to have kids. The same can't be generalized for women, no matter how good they look. It's fine to have preferences, but if they're true deal breakers, those women may end up alone, instead of with a man who's only 5'7". | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Witnessed an AWALT momentMy friends aren't perfect, either. Just the other night, one of them was saying that she can totally find a guy with no kids, who wants to be a step-dad to her daughter, because her friend Susie did. Well, Susie's husband is dumber than a box of hair and that's why he sticks around, despite Susie being horrible to him. Susie was also 25 when she met him, not 30. I don't say these things, though, because my friends don't want my guy either. They couldn't handle the alpha mentality. Everyone needs… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/17 09:57 PM |
| 3 | Inexperienced in dating - need adviceYou're wasting your time on an unestablished long distance relationship at 19. If you want to keep talking to him and seeing where things go, do so, but don't commit yourself unless something truly develops, and I mean that in every way. Dress cute for class and ask the guy next to you if he has a pen you can borrow. Put yourself out there and date (not sleep) around and gain experience with the opposite sex. If this guy is interested, something will grow between you and if not, you won't have b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Successful post-wall marriagesI knew this incredibly sweet, and sadly a bit naive, woman at work. She started dating a man and never seemed to get excited about him. He was clingy and needy and she seemed to think he was the best she could do. She told him she wanted to wait until marriage for sex and he literally proposed waith a Taco bell sauce packet a few days later. Within six months, she married him and a few months later he claimed she was abusing him and had her and her three kids thrown out of the house. She shouldn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Does it matter what He looks like?It matters if he takes care of himself, is well groomed, knows how to dress, maintains reasonable standards of hygiene. The problem most women have is that, in addition to these completely controllable things, they set guidelines on things men can't change, such as height and hairline. Will it matter in 5 years, when the baby is sick at 2:00 in the morning, that he's fat and lazy? Yes. Will it matter that he's only 5'7"? No. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/17 03:40 PM |
| 1 | New here, help please.Have you previously set boundaries on porn? I know my fiance and I have agreed never to watch it, because it's so potentially addictive and it escalates, as you describe. However, a friend of mine and her fiance have agreed it's okay as long as it stays normal or mainstream (one man and one woman doing fairly average sex acts). If you haven't set boundaries, then you're right. He can watch whatever he likes. If you're bothered, you need to sit down and discuss those boundaries, without judging h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/17 06:09 PM |
| 1 | How did it get there?That makes sense. I am sorry to say, though, that I think the signs are pointing to him being unfaithful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/17 07:05 PM |
| 1 | How did it get there?I do tend to stick to the ouchless ones, myself. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/17 07:04 PM |
| 3 | How did it get there?I feel like I would never look at a hair tie and know it wasn't mine. I mean, the dude is totally cheating, yes, but how do you tell your hair tie from another woman's hair tie? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/17 12:49 PM |
| 8 | My captain and I agreed that I was going to be a SAHW but now we can't pay our bills.Honestly, I think this whole post is evident that she's not up for the SAH life. That's no criticism, either. I could never do it, with or without kids. I think this might be a much deeper compatibility issue between her and her husband. Yes, she should've started working two months ago and he should've supported it, but maybe she's just not the right personality to stay home in the first place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/17 12:47 PM |
| 2 | how can i catch himIt's worth mentioning that you can't fake that to attract him either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 01:04 PM |
| 3 | Help with being seen as feminine/finding a Captain when I'm an Amazon?You're not past the wall. Don't think that way and you'll gain a little confidence, which will show in your interactions with men. I met my fiancé at 27 (online). Don't take the Red Pill Women teachings as gospel so much, though I think they put the wall at 30 or so. Every situation is different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Help with being seen as feminine/finding a Captain when I'm an Amazon?Online dating is a great option, if you're willing to be honest. If the appeal is that it's easier to be misleading, it will only be a disaster. If anything, the fact that you can be honest about these things from the get-go should be what draws you. Many people meet online, these days, so don't turn your nose up at it, but also avoid attempting to use it as a bait and switch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 09:56 PM |
| 7 | THE WOMEN HERE ARE PATHETIC LOSERS. NO MAN WILL EVER WANT YOU. YOU WILL END UP BITTER AND ALONE! - FOREVER!Aren't the majority of us in relationships or am I gauging that incorrectly? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 12:48 PM |
| 7 | AskRPW: How Much Does "Type" Matter to You?I think having a "type" is why many women end up alone. You're eliminating most of the population for primarily shallow reasons. Had I stuck to a type, at 27 I might have insisted on a man at least 5'10" who wasn't losing his hair, which absolutely couldn't be red. My 5'8" redheaded fiancé's hairline effects me exactly zero. Typing is harmful, in my opinion. I've never seen it work out. You're literally holding this person to the standard of every failed relationship you've had. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 12:45 PM |
| 13 | Red Pill At WorkI have read in Red Pill blogs not to help men because they should be leading. Is that only applicable to dating? Good lord, don't try to do this in the workplace, if you intend to be taken seriously. You'll look at best, weak and at worst, lazy. If you want to take Red Pill lessons to work, then remember not to get caught up in the "crab basket" and try to pull other women down so you can move up. Wear feminine professional attire (read: not a pantsuit) and keep your emotions at bay. That's pret… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/17 06:11 PM |
| 8 | Tips on Having the "What are We?" Talk w/ FWBYou don't give off that impression to me, but you really don't want to give it off to men. Maintaining a FWB relationship with this guy does that to any potentials. You need to throw your energy into hobbies and passions that will help you find a man of value with the same interests. As far as your "female needs" go, don't take having them met for granted. Find a way to do that yourself until someone worthy comes along. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/17 05:39 AM |
| 27 | Tips on Having the "What are We?" Talk w/ FWBHe's playing games. He doesn't want, is not ready for, and would not be good at a serious relationship. Unless your plan is to ride the carousel for a few years, end your friendship. I promise, it is absolutely that simple. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/17 04:20 AM |
| 4 | I hate working out with my boyfriend.You're comparing apples and oranges, though. Your friend has asked for your help and appreciates it. You're a great friend. OP wants to do something different and is being emotionally blackmailed to do what her boyfriend wants, through his "pouting." If she did the same, pouting and acting offended, when asking her boyfriend to attend yoga, we'd all judge her for it and rightly so. OP isn't a fat person looking for help getting fit. She's a fit person with different workout preferences and her b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 08:16 PM |
| 12 | Craziest/stupidest Women's Magazine Advice You've Read?But... that's not an eating disorder. Just a poor understanding of the value of exercise. This would accomplish almost nothing. That had to be code for go to the bathroom and vomit Hunger Games Capitol Style. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 04:36 PM |
| 6 | Craziest/stupidest Women's Magazine Advice You've Read?Cosmo: put an Altoid in your mouth and go down on him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Who pays?I think this is very true. It's unfair and harsh to paint with such a broad brush and claim that a man who doesn't pay is cheap or overly modern and that woman who doesn't is using him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Who pays?I'm career oriented, have a masters degree, and make good money, but it was still important to me that he pay for dates. If we went hiking, because it was free, that was fine. I'd never have asked him for money. In fact, I'm pretty sure the firs time I ever asked for money was two weeks ago, when I had to purchase my wedding dress. Before that, it was all up to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Who pays?I'd agree. I certainly pay my share these days. I bought the groceries last. I've paid for the majority of the new things we need when we move in a week. He's paid the deposits on the new place. It all works out. But I'd agree that the man always pays in the beginning. It's about old school chivalry for me. I never suggested expensive dates or restaurants. If he wanted to do fast food, that was fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Advice for career choice and prioritiesI mean a general degree, with maybe a light focus on finance. Get your math and English general education requirements finished and take a few finance courses. It'll leave only two years for the rest. I got my masters degree primarily online. They're are a lot of options now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Having trouble trusting/respecting fianceAbsolutely agreed. My fiance is actually more financially responsible than I am, which I never thought I'd find in the modern dating world. It's so nice to be more or less on the same page and know our future is secure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 12:52 PM |
| 14 | I hate working out with my boyfriend.Yes. I hate working out with anyone, having them tell me I'm taking too long or doing the wrong workouts. Shut-up, I'm reading. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 12:45 PM |
| 6 | Advice for career choice and prioritiesI think you're right not to get your Mrs. Degree. My Facebook feed is full of women I went to high school with who chose careers with little financial security, because they had flexible schedules. Many are in education. They assumed a man would show up and pick up the slack, but it either never happened or they're divorced now. It's great you're making deliberate choices for your life, with real consideration for your goals, but it's also great that you realize things may work out differently. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 02:16 AM |
| 3 | Who pays?I'd have probably done the same, if I just felt we weren't compatible, but there were a couple of dates I had, where I pushed for cheap and he pushed for a full meal. When the date was a disaster, I never really felt bad that he paid, because I genuinely tried to avoid an expensive date. If he insisted, I didn't owe him anything. My fiance and I actually met over sushi, which was one of those times he insisted on an expensive date. It just ended up being worth it for both of us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/17 01:20 PM |
| 7 | Who pays?I believe you. I always tried to steer a man toward something cheap, like coffee, to make it clear I wasn't interested in his money, while allowing him the chance to take the initiative to pay without a pricey bill. A few times, they did insist on dinner, but they always paid. It really never posed a problem. It seemed to be the default of every man I dated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/17 03:01 AM |
| 3 | Who pays?The first time I "paid" for a date, I treated him to the zoo with free coupons. Two dates later, I made him a meatloaf. I've paid for some things since, such as buying the movie tickets in advance, or bringing him home food, but if we go out, he still picks up the check and I still appreciate it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/17 02:58 AM |
| 7 | Who pays?I've actually read the sidebar. I'm asking for individual opinions, not Red Pill theory. Many have Red Pill tenants to which they don't subscribe. I feel the variety of responses attest to that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/17 01:25 AM |
| 1 | just realized i got friendzoned after two months of dating.I love your timeline. This is great advice! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/17 09:40 PM |
| 11 | just realized i got friendzoned after two months of dating.He's not going to commit to you, because he's not looking for commitment and never was. It seems the signs were there, not using titles, even after getting physical, and the vague red flags you mentioned and that you just didn't recognize them as such... which sucks. You cannot change this situation, only learn from it. As you'll likely be advised numerous times in this thread, if you'd like to avoid this in the future, don't have sex or give blow jobs without commitment. Don't continue seeing t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/17 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Help me find out where I went wrong so I can avoid it in the future.I'm really glad this couple was able to save their marriage, despite efforts to destroy it. That is always the best case scenario. I hope you learn your lesson about dating another woman's husband. If anything, you should worry about how you're going to share that information in future relationships. I'd suggest being both upfront and truly contrite, but I'm not getting a lot of remorse from your post. You just seem distraught over how another couple's marriage effects some woman outside of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/17 01:54 PM |
| 4 | (Serious) Why Shouldn't Women Perform Sex Work?"There aren't enough alphas to go around, and those that do settle down won't do it until they're older, so women really have no incentive to seriously date when they're young." Women should date older men, who are willing to settle down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/17 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Does mother know best?That's a good idea. It might make her feel better if you talk to her about his expectations and yours. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/17 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Does mother know best?I'd agree that this is the most important factor for OP. I still don't know that I'd have much in common, as far as my stage of life goes, with a 38-year-old man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/17 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Opposite Sex FriendshipsI agree. I don't now that I really notice the other people in the bar, beyond my friends. It's more of an atmosphere thing. Maybe it's the kind of bar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/17 04:19 PM |
| 5 | Does mother know best?She's scared you'll miss out on some unique opportunities. Young marriage is a statistical risk and she doesn't want you to suffer the consequences of that. That may not happen to you, but it seems like her intentions are good. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?Oh, I love the challenge of finding just the right book for a customer, even if it's Amish romances, because that is a thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Opposite Sex FriendshipsI think how the other person feels is the most important factor, which means you have to have an established trust to know they aren't overreacting. I also think the dynamic changes when the friend gets into a long term relationship. My fiancé lived with two women in college. They're both married to friends of his now, though, so I feel there's nothing inappropriate about him spending time with them, not that he does much. If, however, he were to get lunch with one of them, even if he paid, I wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Opposite Sex FriendshipsWell, since you asked for my opinion, honestly, this behavior would be a deal breaker for me, not because I think my fiancé would cheat, but because I would be so upset by the inappropriateness of the trip that I'd expect him to cancel. I would never do something that made him that upset and I'd expect the same, so I think your reaction was well-founded. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Opposite Sex FriendshipsI will go to bars with my single friends, but I have agreed not to dance with any men. I don't know that the ultimate goal in going to a bar, at least with my single friends, is meeting men. Were it, I would pass up the offer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Opposite Sex FriendshipsThat's actually a great point. I hadn't considered the bonds of those relationships and I do think they're unique. I also think they're probably some of the most risky, however, because they're both unavoidable and acceptable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Opposite Sex FriendshipsI agree with you. I've always maintained, with my fiancé, that if he was ever uncomfortable with a friendship, I'd back off. It's never happened, because I don't have any that go beyond the occasional text conversation every three weeks or two months or so. He comes first, though, and if that means I can't talk to my coworker from four years ago anymore... so be it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Does mother know best?Your male friends are naturally going to take a backseat to any romantic relationship, as they should. It sounds like your mom's biggest concern is that you're committing young and yes, that's valid, statistically. However, you're the only one who knows what's right for you. I have a friend who married at 20, to a man she got engaged to after three months, both virgins. Ten years later, they have one of the happiest and healthiest marriages I've seen. Sadly, however, I can name at least a dozen … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Does mother know best?I agree. I can't imagine, at 29, even having much in common with someone who's 39. We'd just be in different stages of life. At 40 and 50, it might be less of an issue, but 28 and 18 are hugely different ages. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 06:06 PM |
| 17 | Does mother know best?Everyone here is going to tell you not to let a good guy go, just because you're young. It's a very Red Pill perspective. They may not be wrong, but it seems like two months is really soon to relocate for a relationship. If you were my friend or daughter, I'd consider that the red flag. If you're wondering if your mother might have a point, you likely wouldn't suspect her of tampering with your happiness out of jealousy or spite, so keep a watchful eye. This is one of those things where only tim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 01:24 AM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?I'll get on that. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/17 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Opposite Sex FriendshipsI'm a bit confused by your usage of "they." If a male friend was totally platonic, I'd continue to lightly text and chat, maybe get lunch one day if they happen to be in the area. If my fiance saw something I didn't and was uncomfortable, I'd cool it off. If I felt the other person was actually pursusing something more, I'd end the friendship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/17 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Opposite Sex FriendshipsI think it would be difficult to stick to anything so specific, but I don't think the idea in general is unreasonable. Just making an effort to avoid those situations could make all the difference in a long term relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/17 02:30 AM |
| 5 | Opposite Sex FriendshipsI have a couple of male friends I text, never secretly, and funnily enough, almost always about women and dating. My fiance has no problem with this, nor would I be bothered if he grabbed lunch with a female friend from his college days if he were in town, so long as it wasn't a recurring thing. He actually lived with two women in college, both married to good friends of his now. There was, however, one friendship I had before him, with a man I'd known since we were children. We'd go get pancake… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/17 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Opposite Sex FriendshipsAs a conservative woman who likes conservative country men, I have little to no temptation in my very liberal, hipster filled, field. It can be tough to balance friendliness and flirting, though. You want to be kind, but not suggestive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/17 02:17 PM |
| 3 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?Well, you quoted my comment about it, which specified only that, but I agree that women can have pretty unreasonable standards. I have a friend who wants to date men 35 and up, but insists none of them be losing their hair. By 35, though, 2/3 of men will experience significant hair loss. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:55 PM |
| 1 | What to do?I met my guy online at 27. We're getting married in two and half months and I turn 30 in September. You're not too old. Stop thinking that way, but get out there and meet people, even if it means online dating or joining a meet up group. Give men three dates before you decide if you're attracted, as long as they're otherwise good choices. You'd be surprised by what develops. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Subject Matter ExpertiseMy fiance couldn't make a resume to save his life. It was literally a paragraph about working for his dad on the family ranch, even though I gave him a clear template. He'd have never gotten a single interview with that. I'm a librarian. I make resumes for people all the time. It just would've been a sign of insecurity if he'd turned down my help. Now he has a great resume and a great cover letter. You have to play to your strengths and he's proud I'm a strength in that area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?Having a job and living away from your parents is hardly demanding "success." It's literally the bare minimum to consider someone an adult. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?Any favorite authors? I agree. I think it's natural to want the alpha and it's much easier to claim it's just a fantasy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?Several romance novels that are now popular were, actually. Beautiful Bastard and Gabriel's Inferno both originated as Twilight fanfic and they both top Goodreads romance lists. It's a bit disturbing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?It is, but a woman can still find a nice and successful man who has that traditional relationship in mind. My BMI is like... 27(?) and I found a hardworking man who wants to take care of me and let me take care of him. I'm not claiming he looks like Jamie Dornan, nor that I look like Dakota Johnson, but it's a toned down version of the fantasy. Yet, there are women who'd judge me for our traditional relationship and the buy a ticket to Fifty Shades. Sigh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?I agree. I think is more a trope of the genre with no deeper feminist meaning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?Very interesting information. I'd read similar accounts of how flawed Fifty Shades was in the BDSM department. Not having ever been interested in BDSM, that part is actually always a turn off for me in books. I do think you're right that women naturally want a strong man and therein lies much of the appeal of Fifty Shades. I always joke that I have no risk of unhealthy fantasy from these books, because my fiance could stand to tone down some of his alpha-ness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?I only read the romances and rarely erotica, at that, for the same reason. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?My go-to is Kristen Ashley. Her books are filled with alpha males, and while she's not exactly a literary genius, the writing is much better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 03:00 PM |
| 12 | How can I win my husband back?Why would you want to win this man back? I know he's your husband and I do take marriage very seriously, but apparently he doesn't or he wouldn't be talking to you this way. A traditional relationship is not a disguise for an abusive one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/17 02:56 PM |
| 5 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?Nothing beyond light bondage has ever really appealed to me. I think it would've been a deal breaker in a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 08:09 PM |
| 5 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?I did think the movie was substantially better than the book and portrayed a more... balanced(?) relationship. I think the idea of a man taking care of a woman has become really frowned upon, so it's amusing to see it suddenly embraced with the disclaimer of "fantasy". | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 08:07 PM |
| 9 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?Haha. Very true. The "BDSM" was so light in that book, too. I feel like no one who wants Christian Grey to tie them up has any idea what BDSM is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?Don't read the book in the future. If you want something similar, but better written, go for Sylvia Day's Crossfire series. Still, it's about a wealthy and independent woman bowing to a wealthier and controlling man, so a similar trope applies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 06:52 PM |
| 10 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?I, admittedly, did not enjoy Fifty Shades. I felt the "kinky" stuff was really quite average and detested both characters. The writing was juvenile, as well. Still, I get customers asking for "something like Fifty Shades, but better" all the time. Your assessment of romances is dead-on. It's seemingly always about a woman with baggage or no style or ambition landing a catch. If you find romances cheesy, I'd honestly avoid the genre, as a whole. Lol. I'm actually starting up a Classy Broads, Tras… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Theories on the Fifty Shades phenomenon?So you're saying the obsession is women wanting to triumph over men? I feel like that's a deeper assessment than most people would have for a fluff read. I'm actually not referring to just Fifty Shades, which is certainly guilty of what you're saying, but this new obsession with alpha male romances, some better done that others, from a society that constantly claims men and women are equal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 06:44 PM |
| 22 | Trying to Understand my Alpha Boyfriend"Sometimes I feel like I cannot express myself openly with my partner, for fear that he will get angry/upset and see me as being disrespectful. I've been feeling less "safe" with him than I have in the past, and unsure how to express my needs anymore. Things have to be carefully worded or else he tends to become upset and irritated, especially if I suggest something that conflicts with an idea or plan he already has in mind." One of the problems with seeking a Red Pill man or an alpha is that it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 04:22 PM |
| 6 | Is there something wrong with being a girl that wants a high n count?There are always and will always be double standards, in both directions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 12:49 PM |
| 1 | High N Count, Have Reformed, Now: No Sex Before MarriageThen I would agree that waiting isn't a good idea. Sexual problems end marriages. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/17 02:44 AM |
| 1 | High N Count, Have Reformed, Now: No Sex Before MarriageIf he's a grown man, it's hardly "force." | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/17 04:39 PM |
| 3 | What dating websites have you had the most success on?I went on over twenty first dates in 3 years, before I met my fiance on Plenty of Fish. I tried OKCupid, where my fiance apparently messaged me months before I messaged him on PoF and I missed it because a relatively fit mid-twenties woman with a career and no children gets so many messages. I was also on eHarmony (worst ever and biggest waste of money), Match (the only paid site I'd recommend), Tinder (where I never met anyone in person, because it was just a hookup app), Christian Mingle (very… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/17 01:11 PM |
| 12 | High N Count, Have Reformed, Now: No Sex Before MarriageI think a real man could get past this... just not all the way to the alter. It's one thing for him to cope with 19. It's another for him to cope with it and also wait until marriage because she's jaded. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/17 11:24 AM |
| 6 | High N Count, Have Reformed, Now: No Sex Before MarriageThere are men who will wait. My fiance waited 8 months... because I was getting the Gardasil shot, since I'd only been with one person and he absolutely had not. Unless you find a devout Christian, in which case you'd better be just as devout, who can accept that you're "born again", he will not wait until marriage. It won't happen. If, however, you wait to get to know a guy and develop a committed relationship, your chances of increasing your number greatly are slim. As far as your number goes,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/17 11:20 AM |
| 5 | My husband doesn't want to be captainNearly all my friends have these kinds of relationships. They're happy. It's okay. Not everyone needs the same things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/17 01:15 AM |
| 1 | If you're looking for a cautionary tale...Not if he values commitment and actually loves her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/17 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Is it possible for a women to push a "nice guy" into an alpha ?People only change when they want to change. Why would I waste my time trying to change him, as opposed to finding someone who's actually interested in bettering himself? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/17 02:14 PM |
| 1 | All you career gals...I'm a full time librarian for a major library system, masters degree required. I was in management for a year and hated it, so I recently took a voluntary pay cut and transfer to step down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/17 02:02 AM |
| 8 | [discussion] Do I belong here?I have a master's degree in Library and Information Studies. I work as a full time librarian and have no intentions of ever staying home. I'm 29 years old and have been divorced for six years. I'm engaged to a wonderful man, but I swear like a sailor. You don't have to "swallow the red pill" to find value in this forum. Take what fits your life and goals and leave the rest. Just be respectful and I don't think anyone will turn you away. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/17 03:29 PM |
| 2 | He ignored my textI get both sides of this, but you simply can't make a call yet. Keep looking around, but keep seeing him as well. You don't have to be exclusive yet, just keep your legs closed so you don't get deeper involved with someone who might be playing games. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 12:59 PM |
| 4 | I feel badWhile I agree that this has little to do with gender and everything to do with life choices, I have had those little moments of realization that I've found a keeper, someone absolutely perfect for me. He'll pull me close to snuggle me in bed before we get up in the morning, or he'll be in a great mood despite currently working in a job with no future, because it's what he could find in the area. He's always so happy and kind and hardworking and that's such a rare combination. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 12:56 PM |
| 2 | How do I interact with children. SOSStop spending time with these people. If you have to, and I'm with the person who's wondering about the company your SO keeps, then have some coloring books and cheap entertainment on hand (think dollar store) and don't encourage them to come to you for it. I'm actually in agreement that this isn't your duty, but if that's how you feel, own it. Don't apologize for it. Make a decision you're comfortable with and stick to it. If you want to take this on, do so, but you literally owe no one in this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 02:22 AM |
| 8 | Helping a friend through her (unknown) RPW journeyThe best advice I ever got was from a straight forward gay friend, funnily enough. I told him I'd rather be alone than settle. He told me that was okay, as long as I meant it, because I might end up alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 02:19 AM |
| 1 | (Possibly NSFW) Penis Problems & TRPEveryone rolls their eyes at this idea and essentially pats me on the head, but this is actually why my fiance and I have agreed not to look at porn. It has nothing to do with morality and everything to do with psychology. Marriages are hard enough. Why risk it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/17 12:41 PM |
| 34 | Married shrews"It's a hard thing to leave any deeply routine life, even if you hate it." Steinbeck The unknown (losing custody, the house, mutual friends) is scarier than the known. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/17 01:00 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe in soulmates?I literally referenced this to my fiance last night. Lol. It's so hard to talk to the devout friend who thinks God will send him her way. If a friend turns down a man for being short, you can call her shallow. There's nothing you can really say to the other friend, though, without attacking her faith. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/17 12:50 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe in soulmates?I've always used that comparison myself, actually. A friend of mine is so devout, that she believes she can just wait for him to show up. No! You have to try. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/17 09:44 PM |
| 6 | Do you believe in soulmates?I completely agree. I know too many people unhappy in every relationship they've ever had to believe there's always a divine intervention to bring soulmates together. I also know too many women who don't try because God has it all worked out. We have to put in effort, as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/17 07:20 PM |
| 7 | Do you believe in soulmates?I kind of like that, the idea of a choice in soulmate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/17 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe in soulmates?I agree that believing this way keeps you open-minded to the mini van, or the man with a dull job. I actually hadn't considered the idea that a soulmates concept could keep a person hung up on an ex, but that makes sense. "He was my soulmate. No one else will ever measure up to that." | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/17 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe in soulmates?... and you could've been very happy with that person. I don't think acknowledging that says anything negative about your current relationship, though, and I know some people do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/17 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe in soulmates?Personally, I don't think fate and soulmates are one in the same. I think there's a best path generally and that path undoubtedly involves people, but I also think you can veer from that path... and if so, that doesn't mean every other path is terrible. I'd say I'm on my best path. My fiance is my best match. If we hadn't met, though, I think I still could've been happy with hard work with another person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/17 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe in soulmates?That's actually a much more palatable explanation of soulmates to me. However, does that mean that if you turn left, instead of right one day, you could miss your soulmate entirely? Are you then spending your life with the wrong person? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/17 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Do you accept that status is important?I agree that status matters to me, but not near as much as ambition. I met my fiance online and he's recently relocated to the city, which is about an hour away. He got out of oil, per my request. I don't want to be an oil wife, spending his money while he's gone all the time. I make my own money. I want him. So right now, he's working the job he could get in the area: spray tech for a lawn service. I know, however, that in a year, he'll be doing something much more impressive, because he has th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/17 05:22 PM |
| 4 | Do you accept that status is important?Yeah, so would the modern dating world. "I live at home." No. I live at home. That's what home is. You live with your parents. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/17 05:18 PM |
| 27 | How to Vet Against the ChadShe didn't do anything. She just got him at the right time in life. I generally wouldn't quote Sex and the City on here, but I love Miranda's "men are like cabs" speech. "Men are like cabs. When they're available, their light goes on. They wake up one day and they decide they're ready to settle down, have babies, whatever. And they turn their light on. The next woman they pick up, boom, that's the one they'll marry. It’s not fate, it’s dumb luck." I actually appreciate your friend's style, thoug… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/17 04:51 PM |
| 3 | Age of oldest man you've been with?My fiance is 3 years older than I am and for me, it's the perfect age difference. He's just responsible enough that I don't feel like The Grownup in the relationship. At the same time, he's not so much older that he's got it all together and I'm trying to catch up. 25 and 50? I don't know. I tend to think that couldn't work. Even with three years, there are some little nostalgic things to which my guy can't relate. He never watched Rugrats. How did he never watch Rugrats?!?! I can't imagine the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 01:44 PM |
| 1 | What are your favorite feminine rituals?I just bought some Hobby Lobby and Target wax warmers and I'm loving them! They're prettier and safer than candles and I can change out the scents more often. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 01:57 PM |
| 3 | What are your favorite feminine rituals?I agree. I always feel more capable of taking on the world after I apply my makeup. I also love putting on a new dress. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/17 06:31 PM |
| 6 | What are your favorite feminine rituals?You mentioned a candlelit table and that reminded me of how much I love getting a new candle scent to burn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/17 06:30 PM |
| 3 | What are your favorite feminine rituals?Brushing and straightening my hair is a good one. I wish I were more skilled with hair, but I do love those two. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/17 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Wondering if any of you couples do Karezza?I agree with you whole heartedly. My fiancé and I are both very physically intimate, always touching or caressing, not just during sex. So this seems... redundant, at best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/17 06:29 PM |
| 11 | What are your favorite feminine rituals?Oh, yes! The feeling of being freshly shaved, particularly with clean sheets, when you can sleep in. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/17 06:27 PM |
| 7 | What age did you reach your peak?Peak? Well, at 29, I'm not sure I have. I feel better than I did at 25 and my life is a lot more stable. I will say that I'm glad to be getting married before I hit 30. That was always important to me and I don't care if it sounds shallow or "anti-feminist." | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/17 06:26 PM |
| 7 | Wondering if any of you couples do Karezza?I disagree. I'm not a slave to my baser instincts and I feel like you'd be just as likely, if not more so, to see the passion wane from this technique. I've certainly had enjoyable sex without orgasm, but it sounds pretty dull in the long term. In fact, I've definitely made love and still orgasmed. I don't think an all or none mentality is healthy, either way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/17 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Whenever a man starts complaining about his relationship, it boils down to sexI would especially disagree in regards to the "long term" specification. I think this might hold more or less true in the dating world, but if you're talking about the rest of your life, sex matters less. Passion ebbs and flows and even wanes over time. Sex is important, but I wouldn't say it's more important than being kind and loving and fun. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/17 11:26 PM |
| 1 | If you're looking for a cautionary tale...I'm not sure where the debate lies, here. I said most men are the former, meaning they'd prefer a little extra weight and continued effort toward their appearance over the woman who looks just as good as the day they met, but she's horrible company. I'm not sure how that's shallow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/17 01:35 AM |
| 1 | If you're looking for a cautionary tale...I agree with your statements, but I also believe that given the choice between his once size 6 wife now being a size 10 who still dresses stylishly and is enjoyable to be around and his size 6 wife being a relentless shrew, most men would choose the former hands down. There are worse things to be than vaguely curvy, so I liked that this woman's greatest sins weren't really related to her appearance. Note that I'm not saying it's okay to put on weight and let yourself go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/17 01:55 PM |
| 8 | Who do you look up to for femininity?Joan, from Mad Men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/17 04:52 AM |
| 6 | Where can I get a better appraisal of my SMV?Agreed, agreed, and agreed. I have no reason to make myself feel better here. I'm getting married in a few months. Regardless, I've spoken to my doctor about my age. I've asked point blank if she's worried about me having kids and she's said absolutely not, until I hit 35. Overcompensating RP men just like to cite this to defend their personal preferences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/17 02:03 PM |
| 3 | THE WOMEN HERE ARE PATHETIC. NO MAN WILL EVER WANT YOU. YOU WILL END UP BITTER AND ALONE!Funny. Not single. Not bitter. Not alone. If only we'd placed bets. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/17 01:52 PM |
| 4 | Does ambition scare men away?My fiance loved that I had a masters degree at 25 and worked two jobs to support myself while working toward my goals, when we met. Sure, some guys mocked my career choice (librarian) and others had no desire to understand why it was so competitive, but the one mattered saw it as a definite plus that I was ambitious. The only advice I'd give on this subject is clarity. I couldn't leave my library system when we met. The pay is the best in the region and I worked hard to be there. I was clear abo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/17 03:48 AM |
| 2 | New Year's ResolutionsI made number 3 my goal once. I read Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb (apologies if you've seen me recommend it) and met my fiance 6 months later. I highly recommend it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/17 02:12 AM |
| 2 | What does your home look like?We're starting our life together on neutral territory, so we'll be making those decisions together. It'll feel like home to both of us. That's definitely my goal. He's been a bachelor for a long time, as well, so he has trouble even deciding what he does like. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/17 10:43 PM |
| 1 | What does your home look like?I love color. My guy leans toward rustic, hunting lodge, things, whereas I love varying textures and colors. Our final compromise on the bedroom ended up being gray, brown, cream, and red, which he chose from a color swatch on Pinterest. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/17 10:39 PM |
| 1 | What does your home look like?I've actually been happy to tone it down a lot. That's been my frustration. He's admitted that he's had some trouble adjusting to the idea that it's not just him and has apologized for being so rigid. It's tough for him to admit fault, so that's really saying something. We actually have really similar tastes in furniture. It's just soft furnishings that trip us up. Part of the trouble is that he doesn't really want to decorate. He doesn't have that vision of how it will all come together, nor do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/17 10:37 PM |
| 15 | How do I handle this situation?Your health is more important that his immediate happiness. If he really wants to be with you, he can travel. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/17 02:02 PM |
| 5 | FAQ: How do I find and make female friends?I think you have to decide what's important to have in common with friends. My fiance and I have very conservative world views. We've already decided on Catholic school for our kids. Does that mean I can't have Bernie supporters for friends? Not at all. The same goes for relationship views. It's less important that my friends have the same kind of marriages I want and more important that they respect our differences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/17 02:01 PM |
| 5 | A conversation with my friend's husbandI think this is generally very true. My fiance was 30 when I met him, never married and no kids, but he sure had his fun. Me? I'd been divorced a few years, but had no children, had only been with the one person, and had a masters degree and worked two jobs. I certainly wasn't the girl who went into back rooms at parties... and now I have a ring. It's a pretty simple concept, yet there are still women scratching their heads while they watch Netflix alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/17 01:59 PM |
| 10 | I'm Leaving RPWI have trouble with the ideology sometimes as well. I fade in and out of this community, because I love having an outlet for traditional relationship values, but I'll never call myself Red Pill, due to the fundamentals with which I can't align myself. I understand your absence and I wish there were another community like this one, that was perhaps less strictly rooted in any specific way of thinking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/17 05:17 PM |
| 6 | Housewives vs working wivesI spent seven years in college, getting my masters to be a librarian. I make a difference in the world, have a really nice, predictable schedule, great benefits, understanding management, and pull in about 50k a year. I'm not staying home beyond maternity leave and I've been clear about that with my fiance since we met. Being so open about that meant I found a man who likes that I work and care about my job. He admires it and appreciates that he won't be the only breadwinner. As far as family ti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/16 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Halfway between loving The Red Pill and getting bummed out about itWe don't generally want the men you're reading about, but rather men with "beta" qualities, such as the guy who will take care of you when you're sick, care when he makes you cry, genuinely want to go to your grandmother's birthday party with you. As far as accomplishments go, yes, they do set you apart... just not so much that you don't need to be pretty and nice. My fiance has dated a lot of hot, unaccomplished, high-maintenance women. I appealed to him, because I was hardworking (two jobs at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/16 11:37 PM |
| 3 | RPW, if a guy is softly nexting you, would he still agree to go out on dates but not initiate?With your edit considered, I'd say he's just not interested. Sure, he'd probably have sex with you and go on a few more dates, but nothing more. Stop initiating and if he disappears, it's for the best. He's ghosting you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/16 11:30 PM |
| 3 | Should I solder my rings or not?It's unlikely I'd give away my rings before I die, though, and then they can just have both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/16 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Should I solder my rings or not?Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/16 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Should I solder my rings or not?Keeping the rings lined up is one reason a friend told me that seems small, but would definitely benefit me. It would drive me crazy for them always to be off center. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/16 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Should I solder my rings or not?I've already had it resized. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/16 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Should I solder my rings or not?I don't anticipate resizing after this one time, but that's good to know. When he proposed, the ring was the standard 6 and 3/4 and I had to have it taken down to a 5 1/2. Over Thanksgiving, I had a sizing bar and hated it, but I'll definitely keep it in mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/16 04:39 AM |
| 5 | Should I solder my rings or not?Thank you! I hadn't heard this reason. The solitaire is in a six prong setting, but it's substantially higher than the band. Will it not be harder to resize, if necessary, if the rings are soldered? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/16 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Number of PartnersHonestly, I consider your testimony more valid than one of stats and offensive metaphors. I can see it in my friends, as well. The ones with higher numbers are more fickle. They can't see what they have in front of them. A few veer from that norm, but I've seen your point firsthand. I think it's far more reasonable to choose a partner based on experience than stats. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/16 01:22 AM |
| 6 | Is it inappropriate to buy my MIL a marriage/relationship book?Yes. You're not her girlfriend. It'll offend her, unquestionably. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/16 12:41 PM |
| 2 | Number of PartnersI apologize. I was referencing a prevalent attitude, but it doesn't seem that's what you intended. I do think some cultures and environments just greatly differ in their views on number of partners, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/16 02:22 AM |
| 2 | Number of PartnersI think time plays a big role for me. I know my fiance hadn't been with anyone for another two years before me, so I care less that it was probably relatively high before that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/16 01:29 AM |
| 6 | Number of PartnersFor me, it came up on our 6th date, after two months. He'd kissed me for the first time (we met online and were pretty much strangers for a bit) and it got heated pretty quickly. After my shirt came off, I pulled away and told him he was pretty much the second man I'd kissed, so we needed to slow down. It was mostly important to me to simply explain my lack of experience, like, no really, I'm not bad at this, I've just barely done it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 07:56 PM |
| 4 | Number of PartnersI think there's probably a cleavage/skirt length/n-count ratio to be figured, somewhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 07:54 PM |
| 3 | Number of PartnersI've never judged anyone for their number. If I found out my fiance had been with 90 women, I'd just be pissed that I found out. He knows I don't want to know. I agree about the double standard, though for me, sex was always something too intimate to share with anyone I didn't see myself marrying. I don't expect that from him, though, and never did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 07:54 PM |
| 5 | Number of PartnersHaha. Both have been supplied already. I do like some of the discussion it's initiated, though. It's interesting how many women have said they just don't share that information. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 06:32 PM |
| 7 | Number of PartnersUgh. Agreed. It's not helpful or useful in any way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Number of PartnersI think this is a really good point. Men here get so caught up with n-count and quoting the same statistics on repeat, but if these things are true (i.e. and inability to connect emotionally), they should be pretty obvious from the beginning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 05:55 PM |
| 4 | Number of PartnersI agree. Some of the women I've known to be the least faithful, were just attempting to recreate the days they missed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 05:54 PM |
| 2 | Number of PartnersAt 29, for my generation, the scary one is HPV and cervical cancer. It's always something new. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Number of PartnersThe post you're responding to employs the Red Pill tendency to just deny that anyone else can have a different opinion or philosophy. I think, in a general sense, the things said hold true for the men RPW seek, but I also think some men just do not care about this as much as he claims. They're not "denying facts", rather just coming from a different place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 04:07 PM |
| 7 | Number of PartnersI agree. I was pretty surprised this woman had chosen to just lie forever, when I don't think her husband would've minded the real number, but would definitely mind the lie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Number of PartnersI agree and that's why I consider this study interesting and noteworthy, but not the gospel that Red Pill teaching claims. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 03:58 PM |
| 3 | I'm very new here, so please bear with me. RPW and eating disorders?You're welcome. It was intended with kindness. I hope you get the help and recovery you need. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 05:18 AM |
| 10 | Advice for Alpha WidowsNo. You're not "doomed," especially if you're self aware. My favorite book recommendation for women in this situation is Lori Gottlieb's Marry Him, the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. It talks a lot about what options are actually available to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 01:30 AM |
| 12 | I'm very new here, so please bear with me. RPW and eating disorders?It's not his job to "tell you when you get too fat." If anything, that's your doctor's job. Stop putting this on him. Stop bothering him about it and looking for validation. Continue whatever treatment you're undergoing and take your doctor's word for it, when he tells you what's healthy. Work on yourself. Don't make him work on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/16 01:28 AM |
| 3 | So, how to deal with jealousy in a classy way?Maybe couples therapy would also be a good idea, if this big of a miscommunication happened. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/16 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Is sex before commitment okay when you know each other well?No, no, no. The phrase "damaged goods" alone is extremely negative. I actually agree with your points. I'm referencing the first post I responded to, that did say those things. I apologize for seemingly putting words in your mouth. The initial responder quoted his stats and blatantly called any woman with more than 5 n-count damaged goods, which is akin to calling them trash, telling them there's no hope. To answer your question, though, if anyone on here spoke of men in such general and offensi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/16 01:12 AM |
| 11 | So, how to deal with jealousy in a classy way?I'd suggest therapy. Your husband doesn't need to hear about this in any way. You knew what you were getting into and it sounds like you presented a mature woman who accepted him for who he was before the wedding. Don't ruin that image. If you need someone to talk to, pay someone. Really. If you talk to family or friends, it'll taint their view of your spouse and air his dirty laundry. If you can't shake it, seek real help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Is sex before commitment okay when you know each other well?Actually, they're all very good men with just the right number of beta and alpha qualities, because a truly Red Pill man is unlikely to be a good husband. You're clearly convinced that you're right and I have clear evidence that you're wrong. I'm not interested in tearing women down, so there's no need to continue this conversation with you. Best wishes in finding your unicorn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Is sex before commitment okay when you know each other well?I agree. It really is just the wording, less the message that either staying off or getting off the CC will benefit you in the long term. I couldn't agree with that concept more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Is sex before commitment okay when you know each other well?I agree with everything you said. You delivered that message in a much kinder way, one that doesn't alienate anyone who might benefit from the sentiment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Is sex before commitment okay when you know each other well?It is an extremely negative way to send a message that could be much more effectively delivered. I actually liked your "start where you are" wording. The initial post is a good warning, but not every woman reading can benefit from such a warning. We're trying to build each other up here and that particular post is copied and pasted over and over and over again. "Well, then, I guess it's too late for me" isn't helping anyone improve. Simply stating the facts actually isn't the problem so much as … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Is sex before commitment okay when you know each other well?I agree with you, that a high number can be psychologically damaging and that's it's not even a terrible vetting tool. I just also know guys who could hear that a woman is kind, hardworking, fun, low drama, and cute and not consider her college days a deal breaker. I'm not saying it's not a factor for the average man. I just don't think it's the factor for every decent guy out there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Is sex before commitment okay when you know each other well?I'm sorry you're so presumptive. In fact, my SO has many male friends who've been with only their spouses, yet they don't care how many their wives have been with and some have much higher n-counts than five. Some people are actually willing to consider the whole package. For those women, improving themselves in other amazing ways, paid off. Telling women with a high count that that isn't possible, benefits no one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 09:07 PM |
| 7 | Is sex before commitment okay when you know each other well?Yes, I've read your much quoted statistical information. It's like the calling card of TRP. I'm not actually arguing with it. My number is two, for a reason. That doesn't mean that all worthwhile men actually care. There are numerous reasons people choose not to marry. Telling this woman not to have sex with this guy is good advice, but telling women with a higher number that they're "damaged goods" does nothing to help them improve themselves, so it gets pretty tired reading about it all the ti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 02:55 PM |
| 3 | If you got pregnant and your boyfriend/husband wanted you to get an abortion, would you do it?Higher than the morality of murder. The point is moot. I would never have a sexual relationship with someone who disagreed with me on this matter. I have pro choice friends. I respect them. I'm also never going to be in that position with them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 01:13 PM |
| 4 | Is sex before commitment okay when you know each other well?This is a Red Pill "fact" I take with a grain of salt. My guy wouldn't have cared one bit if I'd been with 20 people, instead of 2. We just wouldn't have shared numbers. I still don't know his, because I don't care. It's pretty common now to have a few in your past, so I wouldn't worry about it as much as RP tells you you should. Sure, it's a factor, just less of one than they say. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 01:11 PM |
| 7 | Is sex before commitment okay when you know each other well?If you want an LTR, I'd keep the flirting friendly and nothing more until he is ready. He has told you, verbatim, that he's not ready for anything serious. If you have sex with him, you're asking for platedom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/16 12:55 PM |
| 3 | Are there any women here in a happy LTR who don't feel "dread"?My fiance and I don't play games like this. We're open and honest with each other and work to better ourselves and one another. I don't feel any threat of him leaving me for another woman because we're in a trusting and committed relationship. We wouldn't be getting married otherwise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/16 10:03 PM |
| 2 | I wanna be the very best housewife, like no one was before. Any and all advice appreciated! ThanksI think you're doing great, but I feel like this post is more of an attempt at praise and validation than asking for actual advice, because goodness, how can anyone add to that list? I guess my biggest tip is to just be proud of yourself and don't depend on other women to show you your worth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/16 12:16 AM |
| 8 | So you guys are just tradcons, right?I'm a libertarian, fiscally conservative and socially liberal. I favor traditional gender roles for my own relationships (others can do as they wish), because it allows everyone to know exactly where they stand and which rules to follow. We've gotten so far away from that and everyone's scratching their heads over who asks whom and who pays for the coffee, but it effects even larger issues, as well. When a husband and wife are at an impasse, traditional gender roles tell her to back down (assumi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/16 12:13 AM |
| 3 | If you got pregnant and your boyfriend/husband wanted you to get an abortion, would you do it?I thought you were done. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/16 12:05 AM |
| 7 | If you got pregnant and your boyfriend/husband wanted you to get an abortion, would you do it?Eye roll. That's inherent in any discussion on abortion. You agreed that the answer was to "shoot" the straggler. I'm sorry I hurt your feelings, by pointing out what that means. I'm out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/16 06:23 PM |
| 6 | If you got pregnant and your boyfriend/husband wanted you to get an abortion, would you do it?Honestly, your metaphors are ridiculous, so I'm throwing them out. You're making a lot of assumptions about this scenario, but I'd say that's fair since there is no context. It really just comes down to whether or not abortion is murder and for me, it is. If I got pregnant at 41, long after my fiance and I had decided we didn't want children, I would have the baby, because the alternative is killing it and that's selfish. It's not a straggler to me. It's a human life, but my fiance and I are in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/16 05:20 PM |
| 9 | If you got pregnant and your boyfriend/husband wanted you to get an abortion, would you do it?Perhaps the Captain is no Captain at all, if he can't steer his ship in dicey waters and indeed she does need a new Captain. Regardless, the biggest issue is that the Captain and First Mate haven't previously agreed on a plan to address any potential stragglers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/16 02:27 PM |
| 3 | If you got pregnant and your boyfriend/husband wanted you to get an abortion, would you do it?So you shoot the straggler. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/16 01:50 PM |
| 29 | If you got pregnant and your boyfriend/husband wanted you to get an abortion, would you do it?No. I'd leave him. The real problem with this question, however, is a lack of communication among couples. This shouldn't be up in the air for a committed couple, if they're having sex. You should know if he would want you to get an abortion and if you're in disagreement about that, you're gambling on someone who has different core values, because those relationships usually fail. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/16 12:14 PM |
| 8 | How can I support my boyfriend to become more alpha?At 29, he's too old for this. At 22, you're too young to accept this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/16 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Coming out as a RPW to friendsAh. I misunderstood. I thought you meant introducing them to the Red Pill and identifying with it clearly. You don't have to hide how you feel about life. Don't make generalizations that your way is the only way and if they can't handle a different viewpoint, they're not worth having in your life. Every one of my closest friends wears the pants in their relationships and they all know and accept that I don't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/16 01:07 AM |
| 5 | Coming out as a RPW to friendsI appreciate the traditional women and advice that I find in RPW, but I don't need a title. I share my conservative views and traditional gender preferences with my friends and they're supportive, despite disagreeing. I don't need to identify with a larger group. Perhaps the answer isn't so much to wear your Red Pill badge, but to find more likeminded friends. These women will not support TRP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/16 12:24 AM |
| 2 | 100 Women 2016: I am a 'surrendered wife’ - BBC NewsThat's actually a great point. I'm in a very liberal field, heavily dominated by women possessing masters degrees. My friends don't fit that description at all, though. It's no wonder I feel such a push to get my man in line. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/16 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Your self worth.I'm hardworking, creative, loyal. I'm funny and good at my job. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/16 06:15 AM |
| 7 | 100 Women 2016: I am a 'surrendered wife’ - BBC NewsHonestly, I'd just like traditional relationship views to be as well respected as the beta mindset that's so widely embraced. One of the Red Pill tenants I disagree with most, is the idea that it's the truth. Some people need different things in their lives. I respect my friends enough to accept their relationships and, thankfully, they return the favor. I'd like to see a "to each their own" mentality spread more widely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/16 05:30 AM |
| 15 | Your self worth.I get my self worth from my friends and family and my career. I know my value because I'm surrounded by people who love me and because I make a difference in the world every day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/16 03:13 PM |
| 12 | In the midst of my first argument as a RPW, I need the wisdom of this community.This relationship sounds like it's hit a really unhealthy place. Even an alpha has to control his emotions and he's being unreasonable and unfair and bordering on unstable. I don't actually see anything you've done wrong here. It's also really early for this kind of stress. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/16 03:33 PM |
| 4 | Did I [25F] do the right thing by breaking up with him? [23M]Yes. His emotional issues are not your responsibility so early in a relationship. This is not going to get better after three years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/16 06:27 AM |
| 3 | A Bit Confused about What I've Been Seeing on RPWIt was apparent for my fiance and I that sex would be great, once we got physical at about two months (we'd met online). Just from making out and fooling around, we could tell we shared the same enthusiasm. He told me once, early on, that I was the perfect sexual combination, because I hadn't done anything with more than one person, so I didn't have any hang ups and was willing to try just about anything. It didn't matter that sex wasn't yet on the table, because our other interactions showed we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/16 04:04 PM |
| 5 | Second date: Am I moving too fast?My fiance didn't mind waiting, knowing that he'd eventually get something only one other man had gotten. He had absolutely had his crazy hookup days and had no interest in recreating that, so getting to know each other wasn't just red tape to him. He's extremely hardworking, well read, financially stable, chivalrous, family-oriented, and just plain fun to be around. He's definitely an alpha, too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/16 04:19 AM |
| 1 | A Bit Confused about What I've Been Seeing on RPWI agree, but for me, thone were mutually exclusive. I had no interest in committing to a man I couldn't see marrying one day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/16 03:45 AM |
| 10 | A Bit Confused about What I've Been Seeing on RPWI really am tired of the generalizing and statistical rants from angry men on this subreddit. I love socializing with traditional women, but it's exhausting to constantly read about how women are just a series of checks in boxes to men, with no actual point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 09:34 PM |
| 3 | A Bit Confused about What I've Been Seeing on RPWI met my fiancé online and we discussed what we wanted, in general terms, on the first date. Because we were both looking for an LTR that would eventually lead to marriage and family, it was safe to assume that we weren't seeing other people. I do, however, remember a comment or two a few dates in, casually mentioning that we weren't seeing other people. I think the younger set you're discussing is probably the group facing confusion the most, but it's also the group asking about this the most. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 09:19 PM |
| 18 | A Bit Confused about What I've Been Seeing on RPWI agree with you. I get tired of "third date" as the answer. No. The RPW answer and the classy answer is "when you've won commitment." That's it. If he's not committed, you are a plate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Commitment or GTFO! Guide for men considering posting in Red Pill Women.I'm glad for this repost. I've seen several "as a man" posts that are clearly coming from men who are still interested in spinning plates, which is of little to no use to anyone here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 04:43 PM |
| 14 | A Bit Confused about What I've Been Seeing on RPWAs an engaged woman, it hasn't been relevant to me, but I do understand OP's confusion. I often see contradictory statements about sex, here. One post tells women never to give sex without commitment, while another says he'll walk if he's not getting any by date 5. Personally, I think the former is more accurate. A man who is actually looking for a serious relationship will wait quite a while for sex, in my experience. Which is why a man who demands sex by date 5 is only having fun. It really is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 01:15 PM |
| 6 | Second date: Am I moving too fast?An appropriate time for physical intimacy is when you're comfortable with it. End of story. He's pushy, because it's working. Stop giving in when you've said no or you're just another plate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/16 01:46 AM |
| 3 | "The right person" vs. " a man who's secure"Life is not a Nicholas Sparks book. He doesn't have to have everything figured out, but he does have to have the mindset that leads to it, i.e. emphasis on saving, career stability, and a desire to provide for a family. A lot of those successful marriages, which started from nothing, originated when the average marrying age was younger. If he's 25 years old, there is no reason he shouldn't have the traits I've mentioned above. If he's 22, he's a gamble anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/16 01:54 PM |
| 9 | Seemingly alpha BF (23) turning beta as relationship progresses?"I'd love you even if you gained 50 pounds!" "That's sweet, but I think we should encourage each other to be our best selves, so you really don't need to say that." At the moment, you're that girl who only likes assholes. Having plates would've actually been a turnoff for me, when I met my fiance. I'd have seen that as a sign that he wasn't ready for something serious. I understand that many RPW's see this as evidence that he has a life and isn't desperately beta, but even given that, the fact t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/16 06:57 AM |
| 1 | When is the best time to look for a husband?Thank you! Everyone always acted like being married before 30 was a stupidly specific goal, but I'm doing it. You can achieve most things with genuine effort. I think love at first sight is a myth. My first thoughts about my fiance were that he looked like his picture and didn't lie about his height (we'd met online a few days earlier). When I left our date, I was happy I'd met a nice, funny guy, who seemed interested. That's all you can hope for from a first meeting. I'd say about two months in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/16 03:25 PM |
| 3 | Favorite life/motivational/relationship quotes? RP or not“I thought an hour ago that I loved you more than any woman has ever loved a man, but a half hour after that I knew that what I felt before was nothing compared to what I felt then. But ten minutes after that, I understood that my previous love was a puddle compared to the high seas before a storm.” –The Princess Bride, by William Goldman "We accept the love we think we deserve." Stephen Chbosky For the failed relationship: "It’s a hard thing to leave any deeply routine life, even if you hate it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/16 06:24 AM |
| 16 | When is the best time to look for a husband?I tend to disagree with the RPW teaching that you should marry young. Statistically speaking, young marriages don't work and for good reason. Your brain hasn't finished developing and you don't know who you are or what you truly want. I have many friends who did marry young and are now wondering what they missed, as they enter their mid-thirties, even considering leaving loving husbands to satisfy this curiosity. That being said, I do agree with the RPW teaching of making good life decisions con… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/16 05:41 AM |
| 3 | What are the base requirements for marriage?My fiance doesn't hit a bare minimum. if he had, I wouldn't be with him. Truly, he is far above average in his work ethic, financial sense, communication skills, and the genuine care he shows for me. I suppose, all that being considered, had he not wanted marriage, that would've counted him out, regardless. We want the same things, and that's most important. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/16 03:36 PM |
| 15 | How long will a man looking for a serious LTR wait to have sex?Honestly, I disagree with most of this advice. A real man understands that an LTR isn't built on sex. Yes, he'll expect it, but if you're upfront and honest about your reasons for putting him off, a man who is still too busy having fun and/or really insecure will next you, particularly since you're talking about a few months. That's okay. It just means you want different things. Go at your own pace and realize that some men aren't going to be up for the wait. Don't force anything in either direc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/16 02:41 AM |
| 2 | How much texting is too much?Text as you are, because you seem to have a good handle on it. My fiance and I would go a day or two without texting at all, early in our relationship. We both had lives and that was a good thing. Don't complain about it and don't overthink it. You're doing well, right now. Don't worry about playing games. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/16 06:37 PM |
| 2 | RPW opinions on plastic surgery?What another woman does with her body is none of my business. I think a procedure or two would probably be fine with most men, especially small things, such as what you're suggesting. It's when you start using it to look younger than your actual age that I think you risk taking it to far. We all age and you can do so gracefully with minimal surgical interference. Personally, I had moles removed and a breast reduction in high school. Insurance paid for these procedures, but it was totally aesthet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/16 04:45 AM |
| 2 | What's your definition of a beta man?I suggested that book, so I'm glad someone else got something out of it! As far as the type of man it was referencing, I felt it was more about judging a man for not fitting some ideal. A great example of this would be passing up a man who didn't fit such a strict definition of "alpha man." So, if he'd be a great family leader, but has a love of poetry and a romantic streak, you'd be ridiculous to pass him up for not fitting your image of an alpha. In short, I wouldn't focus too hard on defining… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/16 04:37 AM |
| 5 | Am I imagining things or should I call it off now?My fiance holds my arms still when we have sex sometimes. He also doesn't tell me he thinks it's understandable for a man to hit a woman, so yeah, next this guy. You have specifically said you think abuse is possible. Unless your goal is a Lifetime movie of your very own, leave. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/16 04:37 PM |
| 6 | What do you find physically attractive in a man?Shoulders and muscled arms. Pretty eyes. Beards. I'm a simple girl. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/16 01:59 AM |
| 4 | I've been getting really sad about not having met my SO's family yet, please help!I think you're making excuses for a man who's using you. He calls when you ask and he's not busy? Do not move across the country for this man only to find out he's not feeling it. You're a plate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/16 06:59 PM |
| 9 | I've been getting really sad about not having met my SO's family yet, please help!That's not your "hamster." It's your instincts. He hasn't included you in his life, because you don't have a relationship. I'm sorry, but you shouldn't waste more time on this one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/16 04:31 PM |
| 2 | A bit nervous about the date i'm going onGo out. Have a good time. Don't put yourself in a situation where he'll expect you to sleep with him. If he asks to come inside, you have to be up early... or even more honestly, you just don't invite men you just met inside. Don't go to his place to watch a movie or have him over to yours until you're ready for things to get physical. You can't do anything too physical in a bar. That's my best advice for how to be not just another girl. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/16 08:21 PM |
| 3 | PlateI understand and assumed you didn't mean to suggest she tear other women down or make excuses. It's just an easy place to go when you're feeling regretful or ashamed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/16 06:38 PM |
| 2 | How profound are politics in your relationship?I agree. We're both pretty strong Libertarians and we're also very opinionated about our political beliefs. Based on the few disagreements we've had, I can't imagine having fundamentally different beliefs. Our core values would have to be so different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/16 03:13 PM |
| 10 | PlateI think part of that responsibility would include not comforting herself with the idea that "it's happened to a majority of young women." I can name a dozen young women, myself included, who made the conscious decision not to do this. Regardless of other women's actions and choices, OP simply needs to own hers and accept her mistakes and move forward from there. What other women do is irrelevant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/16 12:19 PM |
| 1 | Need some general advice about my lifeYou have your opinion and I have mine. She still needs to stay away from him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/16 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Need some general advice about my lifeIt's just as unstable to screw with someone's emotions for fun or to feel like a man, so it doesn't matter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/16 07:12 PM |
| 6 | Have you ever been sad when your boyfriend is busy?A few times a year is not a worthy investment, at your age. Are you continuing a relationship from high school? If he doesn't text for days and you never see each other, it's highly unlikely he's as committed as you seem to be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/16 04:27 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever been sad when your boyfriend is busy?I met my guy in June of 2015, when he was working 1 week on and 1 week off in oil. He also lived an hour away. The key was to have the same goal in mind. We both wanted a serious relationship that would eventually lead to marriage. We also had an end point, when we would no longer be apart so much, which is when he moves to my city when we marry next year. We see each other mostly on the weekends now, but if you consider the history of dating, today's mentality of seeing and talking to each othe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/16 04:24 PM |
| 3 | Need some general advice about my lifeIf he's seriously contemplating marrying and moving to Germany with an 18-year-old he just met, then yes, he is unstable, especially since he's obviously cheating on her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/16 03:15 PM |
| 4 | Need some general advice about my lifeYou've already gotten pregnant at 18. You are way too young to commit to someone who is clearly unstable (is there even an acceptable age for that?) and this man is going to ruin your life. Get out now. You have your whole life ahead of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/16 01:52 PM |
| 5 | How often does your SO want sex with you?That's part of the reason for us, but it's primarily the fact that we both agree that pornography has become so prevalent, it's impossible to have any kind of healthy balance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/16 12:48 AM |
| 2 | Should I bring my gorgeous best friend to my date's birthday party?He is not her type at all and she has a boyfriend. ... and that's where you lose me. He likes you and you specifically say he's not her type and she's taken. If you want to impress people, stop being so insecure or, at the very least, hide it. You've invited her and told him she's coming, so canceling at this point will make you seem petty. Go. Have fun. See how the night plays out and stop trying to plan every detail. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/16 11:37 PM |
| 1 | I am struggling with hypergamy now that I've started working againI'm so glad it helped! It really does control the urge to wonder what it would be like to be single again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/16 09:32 PM |
| 12 | How often does your SO want sex with you?I've never turned down sex with my SO. We've been together a year and a half and have been having sex for about nine months. I'm 29 and he's 32 and I'd say we have sex at least once a day when we see each other. When we're married, I'd expect it to be about 5 times a week. Personally, we've both agreed not to view pornography, due to its addictive qualities and the problems that poses in an LTR, so that may have a lot to do with it. He has commented that I have a high sex drive, but he appreciat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/16 09:18 PM |
| 1 | How to start dating?You're right and perhaps I'm being a bit defensive, because I so often see people claim online dating is an easy way out and I always found it just as nerve racking as other forms of dating. She has a lot of options available to her, quite possibly ones that are better than online dating at her age, though. It still might not be the worst way to just do some test dating so that when she meets someone out and about, she actually knows what works for her. She shouldn't develop too much of an avers… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/16 03:07 AM |
| 1 | How to start dating?Thank you. To speak directly to you, instead of just about you, I'd recommend using online dating as a supplement at your age. It'd be a good way to meet guys and actually get out there and see what dating is like, get rid of a bit of the awkwardness and show you what to expect. At 19, though, you could meet men in a lot of ways that won't always be as available, like clubs at college devoted to issues and subjects about which you're passionate. Most men your friends know will also be single for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/16 02:42 AM |
| 2 | How to start dating?I couldn't see that in my app, so thank you. At 19, there probably are plenty of ways to meet people, which won't exist for her in five years. I'd wager most guys her age are online looking for hookups, but they're also doing that in bars. It still wouldn't be a bad idea to keep her eye out for someone older who wants something serious online, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/16 02:38 AM |
| 1 | How to start dating?Yeah. That's my point. Dating is tough no matter the outlet. There's no reason to limit her options by talking down about a very popular way of meeting people. Sure, there are definitely sites she should avoid, unless she wants to delve into hookup culture, but that doesn't mean the whole thing is the lazy way out. It sounds like you've never actually done it before making these judgements. I dated for years and I went out and met guys and had friends introduce me to their friends and met up wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/16 02:35 AM |
| 1 | How to start dating?How do we know how old she is? I'm actually asking if I missed this, because I'd never really dated before age 23 and that's not that young. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/16 02:17 AM |
| 9 | How to start dating?Most singles over 25 acknowledge that online dating is one of the only ways to actively meet people who actually want a relationship. People in bars are there for hook ups. If she wants to be a snob about online dating, it could work for awhile, but past the college years, it'll be a great way to wind up alone, mocking all her married friends who met online. Agreed that this is red pill WOMEN. We're not trying to end up with red pill men. We're trying to end up with men who want long term, lovin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/16 02:08 AM |
| 2 | How to start dating?It depends on her age. If she's 20, then sure, she can go out and meet men at parties and bars and young activist club meetings. Most men her age will be single. If she's 25, then she's not going to meet any decent single men that way, or at least she's unlikely too. Also, no it's not "just a cheap way to skip" talking to men. If you think going to a restaurant to meet a total stranger and smiling and being friendly and cute is easy, you're obviously part of a generation that came before modern … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/16 02:03 AM |
| 3 | F24 Friendzoned again, don't understand what I did wrong.You can also get a library card for free. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/16 07:20 PM |
| 5 | F24 Friendzoned again, don't understand what I did wrong.I absolutely agree with this statement. I'm not saying that weight and appearance doesn't matter, but you're not going to die alone if your BMI breaks 25, either. Confidence, humor, respect and playfulness go a long way toward making a chubby girl more appealing than her uptight size 2 counterpart. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/16 07:16 PM |
| 8 | F24 Friendzoned again, don't understand what I did wrong.Get a hobby. Get lots of hobbies. Do things you think are fun, instead of eating and hating yourself. You can teach yourself to crochet on YouTube for less than $5. Go on more dates and stop taking it so personally. If you're meeting them online, make sure your photos are honest and show your full body. If they still meet you and don't feel anything, that's okay, for both of you. Either they're being unfair or they're not ready or just aren't feeling a connection, but if you're being honest with… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/16 04:27 PM |
| 8 | Is waiting the right thing to do?Also I have seen some of the women he sleeps with and I look better then some of them now. That's... worse. He just doesn't value you. He never will. You're not going to be enough after the surgery because of him. Honestly, I've been where you are. I was a morbidly obese 23-year-old the day I filed for divorce. It was so hard starting over when all my friends were posting pictures on Facebook of engagement rings and ultrasounds. Now, I'm 29 with a BMI of 28. I'm getting married to a wonderful ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 05:50 PM |
| 7 | Is waiting the right thing to do?You're right. I was unfair to make assumptions as to your reasoning for reposting. However, the responses have been pretty consistent. You're not in a healthy relationship. It's not going anywhere good. He doesn't value you. PCOS or not, you're worth more. It's great that you want to lose weight for your health, but it's awful that he uses that as an excuse to mistreat you and cheat on you. You're not getting any younger and spending another few years with him won't put you in a better place. As… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 04:20 PM |
| 1 | How profound are politics in your relationship?I agree with your point on learning new things. I love that I always learn something when my guy goes on a political rant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 03:27 PM |
| 11 | Is waiting the right thing to do?You're in a toxic relationship with a man who is using you. He has no respect for you and the fact that you're willing to stay because you get nice dinners and kisses means you have no respect for yourself. You should leave and work on improving and respecting yourself as best you can. You're clearly not ready to admit to this, which is why you've reposted and reworded this question. You didn't like the answers you got the first time. That doesn't make them less valid. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 03:22 PM |
| 27 | Does it bother most women when a guy they rejected or treated badly increases in SMV drastically?I never rejected men for anything but legitimate reasons. The fact that he's suddenly wealthy and hot doesn't change his anti-Catholic views or his lack of respect for my career. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 02:03 PM |
| 2 | How profound are politics in your relationship?That's definitely the case in the U.S. One issue for me is also my profession. Libraries are extremely anti-censorship, so there are some trends I just cannot support. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 02:00 PM |
| 2 | How profound are politics in your relationship?Kids are a big issue for me. If one parent tells the kids that abortion is a woman's right to her own body and the other says it's murder, there are going to be so many fights in that house. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 01:57 PM |
| 2 | How profound are politics in your relationship?I agree. I wouldn't have pursued anything with someone extremely left or right, myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 01:56 PM |
| 3 | How profound are politics in your relationship?We're both libertarian as well. He talks politics constantly, so it really would never have been an option for us to greatly disagree. It's honestly probably a blessing that we met during an election season. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/16 01:54 PM |
| 3 | How to stop being afraid of putting myself out there?I had the same problem, to an extent. When I met my guy, I realized I'd never had a fourth date and almost cut all contact. I don't know if I was afraid of getting too involved or what, but I quite seriously considered never responding again and I was so frustrated with myself, because I knew this was a great guy and at 27, my chances were running out. All I can say is fake it til ya make it. If you can force yourself to keep responding, keep asking questions, keep agreeing to dates, you'll find… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/16 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Is it time to move on?Is it time to move on? Yes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/16 01:53 AM |
| 3 | What is your marriage philosophy?Yes. That's specifically against the rules of this subreddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/16 06:56 PM |
| 1 | What is your marriage philosophy?I agree that the religious aspect is more important. While I'd never sign or ask for a document so specific, to each their own. I am wondering about the likelihood of something so detailed being upheld, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/16 06:27 PM |
| 1 | How do I deal with my Jungian animus?Definitely be careful with these deal breakers. While some are completely reasonable (must be able to support a family), others are just wishes and fantasies (must make six figures). | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/16 06:25 PM |
| 2 | What is your marriage philosophy?In my state, women who have children without being married to their father have a far better chance of getting sole custody, than those who have children with men they've married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/16 06:23 PM |
| 3 | I need some advice...Time is not running out that quickly. It's good you're aware of your age and its implications, but since you are paying attention, time is less of an issue. Supplement your wardrobe. Don't dress trashy or anything, but find some nice jewelry pieces and scarves to make them more interesting. Try. That's the thing women today don't realize. You have to actively try to date. Join a group at church or go to some Meet Up gatherings. Date online and make sure your friends know you want to be introduce… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/16 02:17 PM |
| 4 | Feminine Personal StyleI wear dresses every day of the week. I'm one of the only librarians who does and no one thinks I'm a snob, because I make that clear through my personality. As far as standing out goes, good. You should stand out, because being a slob is the norm, nowadays. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/16 02:13 PM |
| 4 | I am struggling with hypergamy now that I've started working againGet on Plenty of Fish and browse what's actually out there. Don't get a screen name or do anything that could snowball to cheating on your husband, but really look at the dating pool. You'll be a lot less tempted. I promise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/16 02:41 PM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?I've read the same suggestion. Mine were: Has a job he doesn't hate that will support his family, because he's a hard worker Christian and open to Catholicism Same goals and thought processes in regards to finances and children Politically conservative Wants to stay in this area, because I can't match my company's pay anywhere else The last year or so I dated, everyone who fit those requirements got a date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/16 12:53 PM |
| 7 | What were/are your deal breakers?Being alone is a valid choice, especially since men's tl:dr is: body mass index under 23, bra size smaller than 36 and larger than C, wears heels, animal in the sack but she was born with those skills because her number can't be higher than 5, never been divorced, no kids, maximum age of 25, cooks and cleans like my mom, doesn't swear or smoke or talk back, but hits her knees and unhinges her jaw when I walk through the door | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/16 12:49 PM |
| 2 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageThere are a lot of principles I find bleak. Personally, however, I've never been on a date with a man without being clear that I wanted children. I'd agree, though. It would be quite the gamble not to be completely upfront about that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/16 12:32 AM |
| 2 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageI didn't put it that way. The Red Pill blogs and readings do. It's actually one of the aspects of the Red Pill to which I don't subscribe. There are numerous posts over at Married Red Pill suggesting men do just that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/16 12:28 AM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?Yeah, my guy quit right BEFORE we met, so I know he was self-motivated to do so. Who am I to begrudge the occasional indulgence, though, and what harm would that even do in the long term? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/16 03:37 PM |
| 2 | What is your marriage philosophy?I actually agree with that concept. I take a relationship more seriously with those titles and also with a shared name. Personally, I don't want to go to Thanksgiving with my guy, if we're not engaged. His family clearly sees me as temporary until proven otherwise and that's fair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/16 03:31 PM |
| 3 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageShe's too old at this point to realistically have children or attract a man who wants them (yeah, yeah, medical studies and whatnot, but men who want kids will date younger) whereas he's amassed years of wealth and success and his fertile years aren't usually a factor. Marriage and kids actually are the ultimate goal for many women, myself included, but that's the example I'm using because in basic Red Pill theory, that's why women essentially run out of time. If you don't want kids, time is not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/16 12:06 PM |
| 2 | What is your marriage philosophy?I agree. I get tired of people insisting it's not necessary , almost as much as I get tired of people insisting there is no other way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/16 11:59 AM |
| 3 | What is your marriage philosophy?You can take half his stuff regardless of a prenup. A prenup only factors what both of you have prior to the marriage. I don't think I'd want anything from him if he screwed me over. I'd just want him away from me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/16 11:58 AM |
| 5 | What is your marriage philosophy?I agree. Marriage has a permanence to it that can't be replicated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/16 11:57 AM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?My guy still dips (ew) on fishing and hunting trips. He knows I don't want him to take it up again, but I trust him to keep it under control. Honestly, I wouldn't even want to be his tobacco monitor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/16 01:19 AM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?Oh, no, no. I'm a registered libertarian, as well. That would just be redundant. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/16 01:16 AM |
| 1 | What is your marriage philosophy?That's a really interesting option. To my knowledge, where I live, nothing provides all of the perks of marriage, such as next of kin rights and child support like marriage. It would be nice if it did and people could choose to forgo marriage if they wanted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/16 12:00 AM |
| 3 | What is your marriage philosophy?That's a completely valid opinion. I know a lot of people who are perfectly content not to marry, even after 20 years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 08:55 PM |
| 3 | What is your marriage philosophy?It's great to hear such a unique perspective. I've known many women in this place. One couple even had separate houses on the same street. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 08:53 PM |
| 4 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageA woman's youth, especially if we're talking specific years, such as twenties or thirties, is arguably more valuable than a man's. If she spends ages 23-37 with a man of the same age and then he bows out, without marriage or children, she's in a far worse place and he's likely in a better one. I do agree that individuals trade their youth. If you're talking about a couple married at age 20 and divorced at 45, with kids, they're probably similarly ranked. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 08:49 PM |
| 3 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageYou're very selective in your responses, I see. I'll end with reminding you that I specifically stated my SO wants protections as a parent. In our state, it is much easier for me to screw him if we have kids and are not married, no matter what contract you write up. That is more important to him than anything we could possibly earn together (I make $50,000 a year) of which I might take half. Don't marry if you don't want, but you cannot truthfully deny that there are some benefits to doing so th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 06:15 PM |
| 2 | What is your marriage philosophy?Ah, yes, next of kin and medical decisions. This is another great reason to get married legally. I'm sorry I forgot it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 04:49 PM |
| 18 | What is your marriage philosophy?I require both a legal and spiritual union, as does my SO. Neither of us would ever agree to cohabitate without an engagement, and certainly not indefinitely. Marriage means nothing to us without the religious component, but for logistical reasons, it requires a legal component, as well. For him, legal marriage secures access to his children in a way that it could not, otherwise. For me, it secures my stake in any assets we build, together. Not only do I feel that legal marriage cements the comm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 03:42 PM |
| 3 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageThe difference is legality, for the woman too. To suggest that they get married and never build any assets together... well, to me it's ridiculous, because my guy and I want land and cattle and a home and children, and I want BOTH of us to have legal protections that can never be as secure without marriage. It would be so much easier for me to take his children without a legal marriage. There are risks without marriage, as well. Now, perhaps OP doesn't want any of those things, in which case, I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 03:04 PM |
| 7 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageI actually agree with your comment on "reality." I have plenty of "blue pill" friends who are genuinely happy. It's okay if people do things differently. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 02:53 PM |
| 4 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageI appreciate your perspective, personally. I've wondered what attracts you to RP, but it's always interesting. In this case, I think too many commenters are ignoring OP's risk here. Are we really suggesting a woman give her best years to a man who doesn't trust her? Is the idea of a "non-legal" marriage even a feasible option, when married couples share property, businesses, kids, and other assets? What is so very feminist about suggesting a woman look out for herself, when she's obviously been … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 02:50 PM |
| 3 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageI agree that there is no compromise. I want to know that someone loves me enough to make that legal bond, honestly, in part because any property we acquire together (and yes, kids we have together) is at risk. I'm not buying a house with a man who won't LEGALLY marry me. For me, a woman who wants nothing more than marriage and family, there would be no compromise here, standardized or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 02:45 PM |
| 7 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageI agree. I'm frustrated by even the suggestion that a man in a loving relationship, moving toward marriage, would do a complete 180 with his personal goals, because the internet said so. Maybe there's more to this, but maybe there's not and he's not really ready for a lifetime commitment, no matter what you title it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 02:42 PM |
| 14 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageFor this reason, I would never be with someone who was against eventual marriage. I can respect the vetting process, but not the trade off that I'll screw him in marriage, so he screws me by taking my youth and beauty through time, with no real commitment. Either we're both worth the risk or neither of us is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 02:40 PM |
| 4 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriagePersonally, I would require the State acknowledgement, because I don't believe it's simply "what reward she gets for breaking up with him." There's an inherent amount of risk in marriage for a woman as well (years and looks lost on being a wife and mother) and if he couldn't trust her not to screw him, I don't know why she'd trust him not to get her pregnant and then leave her without support. In my area, it's actually much harder for a woman to get child support if the couple was never married.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 01:47 PM |
| 4 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageThat scenario can make it much harder for the woman to get the child support she needs, but I actually agree that the State doesn't need to be involved in marriage, as a whole. None of this changes OP's situation. She wants marriage. He adamantly does not. Assuming he'll change his mind is a terrible idea, so she has to decide if she's willing to forget about all that she wants, to keep him. If so, she'd better mean it, because she's not going to be in a better place if she leaves him after five… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 01:11 PM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?It's political rants for him. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 01:07 PM |
| 7 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageShe's done nothing to him. In fact, no one has done anything to make him feel this way. He's entitled to his feelings, but they may mean she loses something important to her. I can't imagine life without marriage and children. She's the only one who can decide if she can. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 11:40 AM |
| 12 | After a 2 year long relationship - he decides he doesn't want marriageIt's okay to want what you want. Quite frankly, it's completely unfair for him to judge you based on anything other than your own actions, no matter what he's been reading. You're not getting any younger. If you want marriage, you need to seriously consider the idea that it may not come from him. I agreed to sign a prenup early on, but it certainly wasn't after statements about how all women are untrustworthy. He does not trust you. Can you even live with that forever? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 01:06 AM |
| 2 | What were/are your deal breakers?Yeah, once college ends, it seems like online is the only place to meet anyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/16 12:08 AM |
| 7 | Simple QuestionsMy SO is my best friend. Truly. I tell him everything. That doesn't mean I have to actually DO everything in front of him, though. Example: "I'm sick." "What's wrong?" "It's just an upset stomach." I don't use the bathroom with the door open or go into gross bodily details, but that doesn't mean I have to hide my shaving cream, so he'll think I'm naturally smooth, either. I'm crude with my SO, sometimes, because he's my best friend and we share a sense of humor, which is occasionally crude. I do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 08:57 PM |
| 16 | Setting Boundaries With Guys You LikeChange your dates to more public venues. It's hard to maul someone in the science museum or at the zoo or during karaoke. Go out to public places and actually get to know him for a couple of months, before you invite him over or take him up on his invite, where you're more likely to be in a setting that could lead to more intimate activities. When you're in public, the boundaries are set for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 08:51 PM |
| 3 | What were/are your deal breakers?I think it's more common today for people to make that list, because of online dating. People just don't meet organically anymore, at least not as much as they used to and I'd dare say not as much as they claim. For me, it was less about making a shopping list and more about figuring out what really mattered and how to articulate that in an online dating profile or those first few text messages. It seems to have worked out, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 08:49 PM |
| 2 | What were/are your deal breakers?I met mine online. He's perfect for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 06:32 PM |
| 2 | What were/are your deal breakers?"I've dated someone who wasn't as intelligent as me and it's hard to maintain attraction when they can't quite keep up." I have the same trouble. I just can't connect with someone who isn't intellectually curious, even in different ways than I am. It's actually kind of nice that my guy is more interested in things I don't know much about and vice versa, because we're both always learning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 06:18 PM |
| 2 | What were/are your deal breakers?That's wonderful. I do think it's case by case. I've seen some people just make their lives and the lives of everyone around them worse by toughing it out and others who really do come through it stronger. It's great that you're the latter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 06:17 PM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?I had the same problem, having earned my master's at 25. I had to just face the fact that no one was going to match me educationally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 06:12 PM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?It's so true that you realize which things you really can't live without, as you mature. My guy is everything I never knew I needed and almost all of those silly wants I once had. I think the one that spoke to me the most of your new deal breakers was apathetic. The boy may have an opinion on FREAKING EVERYTHING, but that's so much better than the opposite. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 04:58 PM |
| 6 | What were/are your deal breakers?I married young, to someone who was also lazy, from a bad family, submissive, abusive, narcissistic, and a slob. He became all of those things ten fold after we married at 19. I was divorced at 23. I'm glad it worked out for you, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 04:55 PM |
| 2 | What were/are your deal breakers?Well, I never actually had much sex, so it wasn't really a concern. I have quite a bit of a fun with my guy now, though, so I wasn't disappointed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 03:51 PM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?Hmm... I never had sexual requirements. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 03:17 PM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?I was always open to children, if they were an involved and decent parent with a workable relationship with the other parent. I'm not sorry my guy has no children or previous marriages, though. It certainly creates less drama. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 03:16 PM |
| 2 | What were/are your deal breakers?I was specifically curious about how women feel about a man's number of partners, but felt that might be another question. I used to care and think I'd want to know. With my guy, it's been more about his recent sexual history and whether or not he was clean. For instance, he hadn't had sex for about two years before we met and was willing to wait for me to get the Gardasil shot. Beyond that, I don't want to know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 12:46 PM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?I think I'd have dated someone younger, but I LOVE that he's three years older. I always assumed I'd be the most responsible person and that's not true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 05:15 AM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?I went through both extremes, being too picky and blowing men off for dumb reasons and then accepting second dates from obvious losers. It was tough to find that balance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 03:48 AM |
| 2 | What were/are your deal breakers?Yes, I still get insistence that he hates cats, as he razzle and plays with my boy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 03:46 AM |
| 5 | Sadie's Scandalous Schemes for a Sexy SundayWe connect so well in the bedroom, because we can both laugh. I once asked if he was annoyed that I never take anything seriously and he joked about how every other woman always scolded him and snapped "WOULD YOU BE SERIOUS?!?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 03:18 AM |
| 4 | What were/are your deal breakers?If I'd asked, I'd have found out my guy "hates cats" and might have turned him down. I got a cat in April, after verifying that he could deal, and they get along just fine. :) I also always needed someone who was supportive of my career. So many men openly mocked me for being a librarian. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 03:12 AM |
| 1 | What were/are your deal breakers?Yes No I've actually already agreed to a prenup. We discussed it very early in the relationship. His family owns a successful cattle ranch. I don't want them to think I want him for anything but who he is. Besides, I make my own money. If it didn't work out, I wouldn't need or want his. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 01:40 AM |
| 10 | What were/are your deal breakers?My unrealistic days: 6' tall - full head of hair - nice teeth - college educated - minimum of $50,000 per year - no oil field or military - Catholic or open to converting - smart - funny - politically conservative - doesn't use tobacco or drugs - knows how to shoot and enjoys country activities - nerdy hobbies but no video games - likes cats and dogs and isn't allergic to either. Note: I didn't even have a cat. My realistic days: Taller than my 5'5" with the potential for physical attraction -Ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/16 12:55 AM |
| 5 | Did any of you have a "WOW" moment when it comes to RP?I've never officially "swallowed the Red Pill," but I have appreciated how nice it is to be a part of an online community with more traditional relationship views, even as a lurker. I work in a really liberal field, surrounded by lots of happily single older women, where I hear constant affirmation that I'm a strong, independent woman. My best friend is a card carrying feminist, less with the man hating, more with the "gender doesn't matter" speech. My other friends are the ones who want to pick… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/16 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Recommended ReadingI've mentioned this one before and it's the only one I really have to add, but I think it would be great for the women who share a story of a friend who constantly complains that there are no good men out there, but doesn't see that she's being unreasonable. Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb Another reader commented that she'd read this and loved it, but essentially the book is a message from a 40 something single woman who thought she knew it all when she wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/16 06:17 PM |
| 14 | Is there any hope?Stop reading TRP. It's not a space meant for women. Most of the men are rightfully angry from the feminist movement beating them down. They're not a good basis for what you're looking for because... You're not looking for a Red Pill Man, or at least not truly. You want a guy who's alpha and will lead a family, but who will take care of you when you're pregnant and be a good father. Red Pill Men are pretty far in one direction and the average man you've been dating is pretty far in the other. If … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/16 04:19 PM |
| 1 | What counts as riding the 'cc'?My number before my guy was one. That's everything. I've kissed less than 5 people, including him. I asked what would've made him uncomfortable had I been with more people. We've agreed we probably just wouldn't have shared numbers, but if we did, he said 25+ would make him uncomfortable and 45+ is getting kind of gross. I really think it depends on the person and the kind of people they've known. He's seen once wild girls become great wives and mothers, so he's more comfortable with it. That do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/16 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?I think everything you've mentioned is reasonable and it's so interesting to get your perspective on this! I actually consider the "my kid comes first" thing to be totally valid until you've decided to marry, anyway. They should always come first over some guy you're dating. I also like that you acknowledge that it can be different and still healthy, depending on the age of the kids. Sidenote: My dad married my stepmom when her youngest was 10 and the others were 11, 13, and 14. He's STILL bette… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/16 04:33 PM |
| 1 | If you are not official, you are not exclusive!That is a very good point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 02:25 PM |
| 1 | If you are not official, you are not exclusive!I somewhat disagree with the first bit. I've only been with two people, but my guy and I have both agreed that had I been with more, we just wouldn't have talked numbers. The only reason he knows mine is because I told him the first time we got physical, so he'd understand why I was slowing things down. I don't want to know his. I think perhaps it depends on how long he was made to wait, however. You're likely right that you can't ask for six months if you've been with 30 people. Perhaps you cou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 02:15 PM |
| 2 | Does He Actually Like Me?Well, I'm anticipating being engaged in the next month and I met my guy on Plenty of Fish, a free dating site. It's been a year and a half since I've been on them, but I had the best luck with free sites that allowed for a lot of text, like OKCCupid and Plenty of Fish. Paid sites often showed profiles of guys with expired subscriptions and most of the people were on the free sites too, anyway. Everything has a good app now, so it's phone friendly. Avoid anything based solely on photos, like Tind… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 12:19 PM |
| 3 | Does He Actually Like Me?I was never very good at recognizing this sort of thing. I was chubby in high school and frumpy and overweight after my divorce. I kind of went through a 23 year awkward phase and entering the dating world was terrifying. I'd honestly recommend online dating if you're seeking an LTR. You can look for guys who want the same things you want and simultaneously know for certain that no one's meeting you for friendship. They want a relationship and if they continue contact after a first date, it's be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 04:05 AM |
| 2 | 10 Surprisingly Common Reasons Men Initiate DivorceWe go to weird extremes about weight in our society. It's either way too important or we're not even allowed to talk about it. My guy and I are very candid about our fitness goals and weight. We talk about it like anything else. I'm sure he'd know my weight on any given day and I'd know his. I hope we're always that honest with each other, so we can avoid that kind of unhappiness. There's a lot to be said for the fact that you realize you made mistakes. It kind of just sounds like you were total… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 03:59 AM |
| 3 | 10 Surprisingly Common Reasons Men Initiate DivorceIt's shocking that modern society has resulted in such a QUICK progression through these items. I'm not excusing the woman who lets herself go after three kids and 20 years, but THREE? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 09:27 PM |
| 3 | If you are not official, you are not exclusive!I'll admit that I have the same problem and was never willing to test it out on a one night stand. I knew I'd be a mess if I ever tried that, so I didn't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 09:12 PM |
| 3 | Article: "I left the love of my life because I thought I could do better. Now I'm childless and alone at 42"I actually thought about the age thing myself. I know RP preaches early marriage, but 23 is a lot different than 17. If a mistake was made, I feel like it was not exposing herself to the dating pool earlier in life. I kind of agree that this was more a cautionary tale than an ACTUAL story, but there are many women who think this way. "He's too boring. He doesn't make enough big romantic gestures. I miss being 21 and dating other men. Blah, blah, blah, alone at 40." | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 06:47 PM |
| 5 | If you are not official, you are not exclusive!To be fair to mine, I wanted to get the Gardasil shot, because he had HPV and I most likely didn't. It still says a great deal about him that he was willing to wait those six months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 06:41 PM |
| 3 | Advice for GFs in their Late 30sThat's sad, because she truly will be alone, save for her bitter harpies. It's funny you mention that. My best friend recently went to a party with other close friends, when I couldn't make it. She told me it was really uncomfortable, because literally every woman there was badmouthing their husbands or talking openly about cheating, even ones I'd never suspect would do so. You really do become the company you keep. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Advice for GFs in their Late 30sSee. This is why I like RPW. Like minds. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 03:55 PM |
| 5 | Advice for GFs in their Late 30sWell, then, she's likely to be watching that quite often, alone, while her friends are out with their average looking husbands, wearing their 1 carat rings. In all seriousness, one thing that might help is having her look more closely at her friends' husbands. Are they really all that perfect? No. But her friends are happy regardless. I know that helped make my own expectations more realistic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Outsider questions - marriage?My guy and I are planning a prenup. His family has a multi-million dollar cattle ranch and I'm highly educated and don't want or need his money anyway. I want him and his family to have no doubt that I want HIM. He was shocked, however, when I told him that while I'd happily sign away alimony rights, it's not legally allowed in our state. Disgusting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?That's such a great and simple way to word it. I'll have to remember that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Advice for setting up home with SO?Thank you for this. My guy is SO opposed to throwing anything away. It genuinely upsets him to waste something. When we move in together, I'll definitely remember this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Advice for setting up home with SO?I've actually talked to my guy about RPW a great deal and he loves the idea of both of us being so self-aware and really making an effort in the relationship. I have mentioned that I don't subscribe 100%, though, and am actually not the biggest fan of the male take on the Red Pill. We're also extremely straight-forward, however, so I wouldn't recommend it for everyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 03:06 PM |
| 4 | Advice for GFs in their Late 30sThis is true, but it sounds like this friend wants the traditional husband and children and that does have an age limit. I'm so glad you found someone who makes you happy! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Advice for GFs in their Late 30sOr worse, she'll start to make negative comments about a relationship she envies, because misery loves company and if OP is divorced, they can be single TOGETHER! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Advice for GFs in their Late 30sSome of the basic points mention that at 38 years old, she's competing with 32-year-olds who still want kids and whose breasts are higher and firmer. The men she's competing FOR aren't likely to be 38, because they can date so much younger. They're going to be 45 and if she doesn't accept that, they're going to be 55, when SHE'S 45. It's Red Pill theory without mentioning Red Pill theory, which usually isn't all that palatable to women in her situation. My cousin (33) recently told me, "The men … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 02:48 PM |
| 16 | If you are not official, you are not exclusive!It's also not the worst idea to keep your panties on a bit longer, or at least until you ARE official and AND exclusive. This is a vastly underrated concept in today's society, but I still find that men generally respect a woman more if she waits a little while before sex. As a bonus, it's a great way to see if he's looking for something serious, because the man who is will appreciate the fact that she likely has a lower number of partners. I met my guy when I was 27 and he was 30. I have no ill… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 02:39 PM |
| 1 | How does your wife get fat?I apologize for not including that in the title. I read the guidelines for submissions from women before posting and missed that, but I'll remember it. Thanks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/10/16 01:12 PM |
| 1 | How does your wife get fat?I agree. I think I only know one overweight person who ACTUALLY suffers from a thyroid problem. I consider obesity to be just as bad as any other self-inflicted health problem and often just as expensive as things like smoking. I honestly don't know how people afford so much food. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/10/16 01:10 PM |
| 0 | How does your wife get fat?I do think genetics play a part in overall build. Someone mentioned a BMI of 22, which could look far more extreme on one person than another. It's interesting to hear the motherhood take. I can definitely see that in some of the women I know. That makes a lot of sense with the way the topic is discussed in society and the previously mentioned assumption that the man isn't going anywhere. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/10/16 01:07 PM |
| 0 | How does your wife get fat?This is actually the reason I asked this here, instead of on RPW, for the male perspective. I'd like to avoid it in myself and perhaps that's the problem, just generally letting oneself go, because you're taking the other person for granted. I hope my guy never feels like he's just a given in my life, so I don't have to try anymore. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/10/16 01:03 PM |
| 0 | How does your wife get fat?Thank you. Yes, I think the point was missed, but I knew where I was when I posted it, so I'm not going to argue it. My guy and I regularly talk about our fitness goals, because we see so many married couples settling in and getting so out of shape. Most girls I know from high school, who are married, are fat now and it's only been 10 years. I really just wondered how that progresses, becausee it seems like someone would say something in 80 pounds. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/10/16 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?I've never heard it put that way. That's such an interesting analogy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?Well, that sounds terrifying. I completely agree about how watered down the term "abuse" has become, as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?I agree. Perhaps the problem is using sweeping statements like this at all, in place of having real discussions about priorities. I suppose if a couple can agree to "put the children first," but sit down and discuss that this means to put their well-being first, which would naturally require a healthy family unit, and not to pander to their every whim at the expense of the marriage, it wouldn't matter what they titled it. I have observed, however, that those who say this the most seem to act out… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 04:15 AM |
| 2 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?That seems to be the assumption people make if you say your marriage comes first... that you'll ignore your child's broken leg for date night or something. I think the battle exists mostly amongst those who are trying to save a dying marriage much too late. They throw themselves into it in the eleventh hour, at the expense of the kids. If they'd just put more effort into it from day one, it might not have gotten to that point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?*I kept editing this comment and ultimately deleted it so i could organize my thoughts and repost. I agree that self awareness is key, but that lack of self awareness is what turns a societally approved mantra like "children come first" into actions that neglect one's spouse. People are no longer allowed to CONSCIOUSLY put their marriages first, so it's a lot harder to make the decision that, no, you really DON'T need to cancel your plans with your spouse, because your child wants to do somethin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 03:59 AM |
| 3 | Advice for GFs in their Late 30sI feel like I'm mentioning this book too much, but Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gotlieb would be a much needed wake up call, if you could get her to read it. She doesn't sound OPEN to a wake up call. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 03:07 AM |
| 15 | Advice for GFs in their Late 30sI once told a friend "I would rather be alone than be with the wrong person, again." His response really stuck with me. He told me "That's fair, as long as you mean it, because that's a possibility." You may not find "the one." You may be the last one standing when the music stops and everyone else has a chair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?No. I'd say what I said in my original post, that until the marriage is put first to the true detriment of the children (I used the word neglect), marriage first. I specifically said my own parents were guilty of this. It's perfectly fine for you to disagree with me, but please don't put words in my mouth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?I see this so much in the people I know with parents who have unhealthy relationships. It's really hard to know how a man should love a woman if you don't grow up seeing it, whether you're male or female. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 01:59 AM |
| 3 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?I actually posted this, because I recently got into a heated debate on Facebook over this very topic, with someone who insisted that "people divorce all the time, but your children are forever." Naturally, my argument was that people divorce all the time, because they neglect their marriages. Eventually, we agreed to disagree, especially since she was a single parent and I am not. I still don't see good things for a couple who agrees that they should ALWAYS put the children they already had firs… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 01:00 AM |
| 4 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?An example of how I see it manifest, among my parent friends, is that instead of going out for the night or having that night in watching Netflix after putting the kids to bed early, she stays up helping the kid with that "last minute" assignment, while he waits in bed watching Frasier until she comes in complaining at 11:30 that she's too tired to keep their plans and they both go to bed annoyed. Both parents could've supported each other as they scolded the child for waiting until the last min… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/16 12:55 AM |
| 5 | Which comes first, the marriage or the children?I completely agree and I'm so glad I've found a man who sees it the same way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/16 11:48 PM |
| 1 | 10 Surprisingly Common Reasons Men Initiate DivorceIt's good that you can take something from that and can look for someone whose needs are more compatible next time. My guy is not good with verbal affirmations. I eventually realized that he shows love through his actions and that that's what I prefer if I have to choose. I'd definitely add loyalty into the must haves pile, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/16 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Article: "I left the love of my life because I thought I could do better. Now I'm childless and alone at 42"I've considered buying a copy for the stubborn daughter I'm sure I'll have one day. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/16 10:53 PM |
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