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You can't expect to fulfill all of your social needs within the same person. This is true of friendships and romantic relationships. Chances are you're going to find intellectual stimulation among your male friends. Even if you find an intellectual girl, you'll find that reason based conversations are counter-productive to creating the emotions necessary for romance. Get some male friends to discuss politics, history, science, etc. Limit your conversations with women about these topics to friend…
/r/askTRP23/08/15 05:01 AM
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I think this just goes to show you that a majority of women don't even know what they're sexually attracted to. They literally don't know why they've banged the guys that they have. Now go ask them for some advice on how to get girls...
/r/TheRedPill05/08/15 08:58 AM
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I struggle with similar empathies which invariably hold me back. Just like some people are physically incapable of empathy (sociopaths), I believe that some people physically feel more empathy than others. In the latter case, I think the trick is turning your empathy in on itself. Imagine your best friend was in a job way beneath them, but was turning down offers for better ones due to guilt. Imagine a woman you love had friends who dragged her down all of the time. If you're anything like me, y…
/r/AlreadyRed03/08/15 04:01 AM
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What is presence, though?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 03:19 AM
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presence What is presence? Can it be cultivated?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 12:39 AM
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Let me put it this way, I believe that it is 75% nature, and 25% nurture.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 07:20 PM
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I have always been a rather intentional person. Since I was a small boy, I have always to some degree or another tried to think things through before I tried to do anything. So when I reached 11-13, and first started noticing how attractive I found girls, I decided to do something about it. I was still naive, of course, so I started approaching romance with girls from the same mindset I found in myself. I asked myself, what do I find attractive? How would I respond to people I didn't find attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 07:19 PM
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The problem of ascribing socialization to fundamental phenomena is that socialization is inherently not fundamental. Social trends are always in response to something else. You can argue that people have been socialized to view a certain physical trait as attractive, but there are reasons that said trait is considered attractive as opposed to others. Ultimately, all animals have certain instincts that make them behave in certain ways. You have no choice in wanting food, sleep, and sex (unless yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/15 03:15 AM
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It's not about getting him to a certain point, it's about doing the most possible in 3 months. There's no way I'd have him read Meditations on the three month plan lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 09:07 PM
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Scenario 1: To the FUCKING gym, bro. Since I only have 3 months, I'd run him on a course of steroids. After an hour of gym time every day (light yoga/stretching on off days), I would take him to a mall every night for an hour of cold approaches. Finally, at the end of each night I would talk with him for an hour about what he learned that day, and give him tips dependent upon how he behaves. I would also have him read one book per month. Month 1: Models by Mark Mason, Month 2: The Rational Male …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 12:43 AM
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Most of the highest status people I can think of are extremely narcissistic and care little for others. Successful business people, sports celebrities, and movie stars come to mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 12:03 AM
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The better looking you are, the more women you will perk the initial interest of. You still need game to take that initial interest and curate it into sex or a relationship, and the hottest guy could fuck himself over behaviorally.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/15 08:51 PM
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It just goes to show you that every plate will jocky for the LTR upgrade, and if kept in the plate zone long enough, ALL plates will get fed up and leave at best. If they're crazy enough, they will try and tear you down in the process any way that they can (false assault/rape charges, spreading rumors to your employer, etc.) You dodged a bullet OP. Any recommendations for drop cameras?
/r/TheRedPill21/07/15 06:37 PM
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This has to be trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/15 10:36 PM
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It sounds like you just need more experience operating from your new awareness. Eventually, you'll get so good at picking up on the queues you're giving and receiving that it won't require active effort. You'll just sort of automatically see and respond. Once you can automatically analyze more of your interactions, the more your actions will 'flow' with them and be less forced. It just seems awkward right now because you have to take the time to notice the subtleties, and taking time to think ab…
/r/askTRP17/07/15 03:17 PM
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I think you have ultimately put into words why I ultimately opt for a more MGTOW strategy. The level of effort needed to satisfy all of a woman's stimuli-needs is Sisyphean. No matter how hard you work, it's never enough, because you can't be with her every second of every day, and even if you could, you would inevitably leave some of her stimuli unappeased due to some other pressing thing. On the flip side, I understand how I could use this information to 'crush my enemies', but I think I just …
/r/TheRedPill16/07/15 07:43 PM
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I have overcome a ton of general anxiety over my life. The first key is understanding what the problem is. Anxiety is like having a shitty car alarm that goes off randomly. The alarm’s purpose is to alert you if someone is trying to jack your car, but it’s fucked up and does so despite whatever sensors are in place not actually being tripped. Anxiety is just your emotional response to a potentially worrisome event tripping despite no valid events having occurred or looming. It’s a false positive…
/r/askTRP15/07/15 08:26 PM
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Whatever you want. There are no Red Pill designated paths to walk in life. There is just information about how the world works for you to use however you decide. What do you want out of life? That's the real question.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 05:05 PM
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they ask out guys all the time Yes. that they pay for dates I believe that most women these days will pay for themselves. I have also seen a lot of women spend a ton of money on a guy they're obsessed with. Especially if the guy is emotionally manipulative, and often times I think that particularly Machiavellian guys will get girls to pay for things as a way to get the girl to value them more. Sort of a sunk costs fallacy type of deal. that they always admit they're wrong I have personally found…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/15 02:16 PM
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Try some bodyweight strength training. Make a small home gym, and you can workout for free whenever you feel like it. I can personally recommend Convict Conditioning (which, if you're familiar, is essentially just the 5x5 program done with bodyweight exercises). Others recommend /r/bodyweightfitness.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 04:08 PM
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The crux of all research on the subject indicates that, cross culturally, the most prominent traits preferred by females in mates are related to wealth and social status. All of the studies I just listed verify this fact. Consequently, if you are going to do a study where women rate their estimate on someone else's value as a mate (i.e. attractiveness), then you need to be incorporating queues to social status and wealth for it to be applicable to real world dating phenomena. If you want to limi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/15 04:18 PM
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Buss, D. M., & Barnes, M. L. (1986). Preferences in human mate selection. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 50, 559–570. Feingold, A. (1992). Gender differences in mate selection preferences: A test of the parental investment model. Psychological Bulletin, 112, 125–139. Buss, D.M. & Schmitt, D.P. (1993). Sexual strategies theory: an evolutionary perspective on human mating. Psychological Review, 100, 204–232. Buunk, B.P., Dijkstra, P., Fetchenhauer, D., & Kenrick, D.T. (2002). Age an…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/15 04:05 PM
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Looks may be the most sexually stimulating for most women, but they seem less important than other factors when considering who they have bang to begin with. If a really hot guy goes to a Lil Wayne concert and they both go to an afterparty, Lil Wayne is going to have an advantage picking up girls in the first place (though hot guy may be more likely to give any given girl an orgasm). On the flip side, if a really hot girl goes to an Adelle concert, and they both go to the afterparty, really hot …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/15 03:37 PM
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The entire premise is off base, because most women don't primarily rely on looks to determine how overall attractive a man is, whereas men usually do primarily base attractiveness on looks. 'Chad' isn't as much a particular look (though there are still normative trends for dat V torso, etc.), as he is a set of behaviors and social appointments. For example, 99% of female strippers have no 'plot' or 'character', but every male stripper is a cowboy, biker, construction worker, etc. Masculinity is …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/15 02:57 PM
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If you're unhappy, break up with her. You don't have to be a dick about it (i.e. I'm breaking up with you because you look bloated and diseased'). Just say that the relationship doesn't make you happy anymore and leave it at that. You don't even have to give her any concrete reasons why. If you really want to be a good person, remove yourself from her life as much as possible post breakup. No need to be weird if you run into her somewhere, but don't try and stay friends.
/r/askTRP10/07/15 02:51 PM
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Fixing things is a great skill to have for life in general, but its not really applicable to game. It's a provider trait. Also, fixing shit for women is a fantastic way to end up in the beta bucks zone. You can be 'guy I call when my computer breaks', but that is never the same person as 'guy I call when I need the D'.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/15 02:45 PM
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Besides the normal reasons any other sub wouldn't allow threads about beating women, TRP doesn't allow conversations about beating women because beating women isn't an effective sexual strategy. The most effective way to teach someone a lesson, including instilling discipline, is to give out or withdraw rewards. In terms of romance and flirting, this means affection and attention. The only time I can see violence as a useful training tool would be to train people like soldiers, police, and marti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/15 02:16 PM
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There does seem to be a cultural bias against many minority races in the US regarding their perceived innate masculinity. Like anything else, though, it's not something that can't be overcome. I think at worst there is a smaller dating pool, so average guys are less likely to accidentally fall into a relationship. There's nothing stopping them from getting in good shape, learning a little game, and making it work though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/15 01:38 PM
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Bro, this is an internet website full of armchair philosophical wankery. I think it would help to remind yourself that in life, you can't fault yourself for not knowing everything. You just have to make your best educated guess with the information that you have at each turn of the road, and be content that you tried your hardest to live a good life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/15 01:32 PM
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You're making a huge equivocation mistake here. You should always judge someone based on their actions, but you have never been able to judge any of our actions because you have never met or seen any of us in person. Reddit is only comprised of people saying things via writing. If you are going to take to heart the saying 'watch what people do, not what they say', then by definition you would take every single thing written here with a huge grain of salt and understanding of the inevitable diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/15 01:23 PM
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I'm counting 7 superfluous words in the title.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 09:01 PM
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It definitely is just that she is getting sore. It's not some shit test. 60 minutes is a long time for uninterrupted PIV sex. Can you just have her give you a blowjob or something to seal the deal?
/r/askTRP07/07/15 02:42 PM
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I think the key aspect of LTR focused TRP girl game is founded in a desire to make your significant other happy based on their own terms of what makes them happy. No two people are made happy by the same things, however there is a lot of overlap. Same for things that make people unhappy. For the overwhelming majority of heterosexual couples, the male has a higher libido than the female, so advice to combat this reoccurring issue makes it into the metaphoric ‘FAQ’ set of information. The same can…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/15 04:15 PM
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Are you in high school? High school game is all about social status. The guys who do the best are the guys in the spotlight at whatever activity is most liked by the student body. Typically this is sports stars and musicians (like, in a rock band. Not the school band.) At any rate, find a high status hobby/outlet based on your local area's preferences, and make a name for yourself in that area.
/r/askTRP06/07/15 03:46 PM
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Why not just move yourself? Move to a more middle class area that isn't too expensive, but isn't filled with subsidized government housing. Get a job as a paralegal at a modest, no frills law firm. You're probably overqualified, but fuck it. Stick with it until you gain some confidence in the field. You'll learn a shit ton if you watch what goes on. Once you have enough experience study for your exam to become a Solicitor. The long story short, is that you obviously first and foremost need to im…
/r/askTRP06/07/15 06:03 AM
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I'm curious. What is she picky about? What is it about one girl that makes it OK for you to actually fuck her, and not another?
/r/TheRedPill06/07/15 05:54 AM
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It depends on her motivation. If she is doing all of this self-improvement for the benefit of our relationship (which, in fairness, seems to be the default goal for most TRP guys who are in relationships or married), then I would be happy. I would love to see her getting more fit, more sexual, and more attractive. I would love to have her try and 'placate' my base nature by what I can only assume would be things that other females in her online collective have discovered make most men happy--pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/15 11:46 PM
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I think a big part of letting go of failures is becoming comfortable with forgiveness. My personal inabilities to forgive myself for past failures were rooted in a childish belief that I could somehow, some day become immune to unfortunate events (that is, shit happening that I don't like). If I forgave myself for failing, that meant that I had to admin that I might fail again, and again... I was too cowardly to face such a reality. As I grow and accept more and more that failures and fucked up …
/r/TheRedPill04/07/15 03:35 AM
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It becomes harder the older you get, but it is still possible. I would say a good rule of thumb is that if you act a certain way for an amount of time, it will take approximately 1.5x the amount of time acting consistently different to change your default mode. You essentially need to retrain yourself as to what 'normal' is, and you do so by in reality making that your normal behavior (i.e. by literally making it so that over the course of your life, on average you have been more the way you des…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/15 02:09 AM
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I've been on it for 7 months and am doing great. Dropped 6% bodyfat and have gained 10 lbs of muscle mass. I'll check out that sub though.
/r/askTRP04/07/15 12:13 AM
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Work on your abundance mentality. If she is busy one night, spend that time with another chick. If she happens to be free on a night where you are, invite her over for the bang. Either don't respond, or just respond with something brief like 'Ok.' Ball is in her court now. If she wants to get back in touch, cool. If not, you should be too busy flirting with other girls to notice.
/r/askTRP02/07/15 08:14 PM
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Out of curiosity and slightly off topic, but in your experience how welcome are people without 'primary' relationships in the poly community? Is there a difference between the acceptability of men vs women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/15 07:44 PM
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Convict Conditioning. Well worth the $9 for the electronic version.
/r/askTRP02/07/15 07:29 PM
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This is one of the intro techniques taught in PUA. It is mostly training wheels for guys with zero experience flirting. Eventually you learn to read body language and know when a girl is ready to be kissed. In 5 years someone will post a routine from the Mystery Method like it's new material.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 03:25 PM
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Better late than never? Here is mine: https://www.politicalcompass.org/analysis2?ec=-5.5&soc=-5.74
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/15 03:37 PM
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I guess my question is, isn't brooching the subject in the first place kind of insulting? Do you really think that someone would actually respond well to it right off of the bat? I can see just being up front working out after the first sexual encounter, but 90% of initial sexual tension is about unspoken understandings and the thrill of the mystery. I suppose it just seems like there isn't a reliable way to start up a sexual relationship while also being up front about the (lack of) relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 08:48 PM
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First off, I love your username. :-) I guess my question is, isn't brooching the subject in the first place kind of insulting? Do you really think that someone would actually respond well to it right off of the bat? I can see just being up front working out after the first sexual encounter, but 90% of initial sexual tension is about unspoken understandings and the thrill of the mystery. I suppose it just seems like there isn't a reliable way to start up a sexual relationship while also being up …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 08:47 PM
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It seems like the only way would be to limit sex to one night stands with near-strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 08:46 PM
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I can see just being up front working out after the first sexual encounter, but 90% of initial sexual tension is about unspoken understandings and the thrill of the mystery. I suppose it just seems like there isn't a reliable way to start up a sexual relationship while also being up front about the (lack of) relationship goals. The flip side is that just sort of hooking up with people and explaining my goals after the hook up kind of feels like I denied the other person a free choice in the matt…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 08:46 PM
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So far, this is probably the best advice. I think the 'safest' method would be to limit sex to one night stands with near strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 08:44 PM
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My question for you, is how do you balance the appropriate level of showing interest, flirting, and hanging out necessary to initiate a sexual relationship, while also keeping enough distance as to not lead someone on? They seem mutually counter productive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 08:44 PM
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I agree with you in a purely logical sense, but I think this view is rather ignorant of human nature. On some level, we hold people responsible for taking advantage of other people, or enabling their bad behaviors. Do you think that people who deal methamphetamine and heroin bear zero responsibility when one of their clients overdoses and dies? I could buy an argument that they aren't legally responsible, but I would definitely think that the dealer was a fucking shitty person.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 08:40 PM
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I guess I just highly doubt that an overwhelming majority of women would be down with explicitly being just a causal sexual fling. I can see most women being insulted merely at the suggestion. I have said this in other comments, but being overly explicite about the rules of a relationship right off the bat seems to kill the nonverbal communication and mystery necessary to create sexual tension in the first place. I could just start hooking up with someone, and then explain my goals after the sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 08:36 PM
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I guess my question is, isn't brooching the subject in the first place kind of insulting? Do you really think that someone would actually respond well to it right off of the bat? I can see just being up front working out after the first sexual encounter, but 90% of initial sexual tension is about unspoken understandings and the thrill of the mystery. I suppose it just seems like there isn't a reliable way to start up a sexual relationship while also being up front about the (lack of) relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 08:32 PM
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The best revenge is to live well.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/15 03:55 PM
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My best bet is that you're boring. You sound nice enough to be around, but I bet you ask the same questions everyone else asks (Where are you from? What do you do?). I think it comes from a place of politeness, but it doesn't do anything to make you stand out. It also sounds like you're the kind of person who would be most excited talking about the details of some topic. An interesting development in the world, a historic event, an idea. Something intellectually stimulating. There's nothing wron…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 01:51 PM
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I have safely trained in lethal martial arts and with various modern and ancient weapons (including big scary guns) for years. I am simultaneously not a responsible enough adult to purchase a package of cookies or a container of ice cream and keep them in my home. So, my first advice is to only buy healthy foods to keep in your home. I'm specifically a ketogenic diet kind of guy, but some healthy light meal options (for when you would normally go for some chips or a cookie or whatever): Mixed nu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 01:37 PM
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Start researching and traveling to places that seem interesting. Move to a place with more like minded people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 03:15 AM
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It's like ripping off a band-aid. Once you know its over, you need to tell them as soon as possible. You just say, "We're breaking up. I'm not getting fulfillment out of this anymore." and leave it at that. Then you go no contact for a while to solidify the fact that its over. It will be a big shock all at once, but it beats the fuck out of the slow, painful descent into toxicity that is a relationship that drags on despite having been over a long time ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 03:13 AM
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This one has been eating at me lately. At this point in my life, I don't want a committed, serious relationship with someone. I still want to have sex with women, though. Now that I am reliably able to find interested women and flirt with them positively, I am confident I could get laid relatively often. My problem is that I feel guilty telling a woman that I'm only interested in hanging out and fucking once in a while. I know what its like to be friend-zoned, but also lead on at the same time. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 02:54 AM
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I think on some level you're always going to need to keep a predetermined amount of distance between yourself and your male friends for the friendships to work out long term. I would try to make a large number of male friends that you see intermittently instead of hanging out with the same guy or guys all of the time (once or twice a month instead of once or twice a week).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/15 02:28 AM
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You have to be stoic about it. Keep your contact with her brief and minimal. Don't talk to her about anything other than the pertinent details of your sons schedule. If it helps, imagine that she is another family's small little girl throwing a temper tantrum at the grocery store. You can't discipline her yourself, it's not your place. All you can do is prevent yourself from getting butt hurt over a little girl temper tantrum (which are not exclusive to little girls.). Walk away while she's stil…
/r/askTRP26/06/15 06:52 PM
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I get your point, but I just can't stand some people if they're shitty to be around. I don't care how fucking hot you are, you don't get to waste my time with mindless babel.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/15 06:42 PM
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I'm firmly in the no-marriage crowd, but if you have to marry a girl, do this first (or something like it, you'll get the crux of the test). Take her out on a long drive somewhere. Just drive and chat normally. When you get to a good straight away, turn one of your blinkers on and leave it on. Preferably in a direction that you can't turn or merge into. Let it stay on. Gauge her reaction. Her reaction to you doing this is going to be her reaction to every dumb thing you absent mindedly do for th…
/r/TheRedPill26/06/15 06:39 PM
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Upvote for the Epicurus reference. He is definitely the best, and most underrated Greek philosopher.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/15 06:17 PM
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The emphasis on sexual relations is because it is in our interactions with the opposite sex that the glitches in the matrix become apparent. The non-negotiable nature of sexual desire forces us to confront the realities of intersexual dynamics, and from there the wise can then extrapolate that perhaps more things operate contrary to the way we have thought.
/r/askTRP24/06/15 02:04 PM
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I was trying to put things simply. Women have fewer eggs as a result of the fact that they are fertile (i.e. ovulating) less often, and also that they take longer to gestate, so its all tied together.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/15 08:54 PM
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It's not 'society' that's sex focused, it's the entire animal kingdom (Animalia). Animals are nothing more than self-replicating machines. Our level of intelligence varies, but all animals share the same goal and fate. The only difference with regards to modern society is that our sexual nature is illuminated by the modern ease of sharing information. Humans are no more sexual than they have ever been.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/15 08:10 PM
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It will pragmatically be a new ball game, but remember that our instincts evolved over the course of millions of years of eggs being more valuable. Our instincts won't change, even if the pragmatic realities change. Another example of this is that, despite birth control and STD prevention being better than it ever has in animal history, men still shy away from promiscuous women for serious relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/15 04:26 PM
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They're not responding because "Hey, what's up?" is a boring question. They're distracted by the guy who texted them something offensive (How dare he!), the guy who texted something funny (What's he going to say next?), and most of all by the guy who hasn't texted them after he banged them in the club bathroom without knowing their name (Didn't we have something special?!?!).
/r/askTRP23/06/15 04:04 PM
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It's benevolent sexism , men and women should finally be seen as equals in the eyes of the law Men and women are legally equal (at least according to how the laws are written) in every Western country. The argument to be made is that collective social values perpetuate a culture of sexism (which may end up influencing legal decisions, as they are made by people who are in turn influenced by their culture). The MRAs try to raise awareness about this issue, too bad that TRPillers laugh at them. We…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/15 03:46 PM
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You will never fix it. Female privilege is based on their inherently relatively higher reproductive value as compared to men. The supply of eggs is significantly less than the supply of sperm, so eggs are inherently more valuable. Because women are more reproductively valuable, they will always be coddled more than men, excused more than men, and will always have more things given to them. We will never attain pure equality (in the sense that everyone is always treated the same despise whatever …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/15 03:40 PM
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Exercise of some sort is mandatory. If you can't exercise, are you even healthy enough to fuck? Lifting heavy is the best thing you can do in terms of exercise, as it will do the most to increase your size and make you look like an alpha killing machine. If you can't lift heavy, the next best thing is to stay relatively fit by doing light fitness and maintaining a proper diet. You won't gain as much out of it, but it is better than nothing. Also, of course you can still improve in other ways and…
/r/askTRP23/06/15 03:32 PM
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I almost always use a situational opener. "Man, it's hot out." "What are all of those people doing over there?" "I need a female opinion on x (book/gift/clothes/etc.)." "Have you seen this band/DJ/comedian before?" They are natural, so you don't come off as needy or pedestrianizing. They are quick because they write themselves. They are congruent because they're never canned.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 02:37 PM
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How's your sex game? Just because you are in an LTR with a girl, doesn't mean you don't still need to game her to have sex. I would reccomend reading up on the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder and the Sex God Method. The long and short of it is that you have to start off numbingly slow, build up sexual tension over an hour or more, and finally end up in an extremely dominant sexual frame. Get physical. Throw her around, pin her, etc.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 01:46 PM
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All you have to do is not act insecure by getting angry (which just makes you seem like a needy bitch), and let her make it up to you. Play it off like its not a huge deal, but when she apologizes, say something in a light hearted tone like, "I'll tell you what, why don't you make it up to me?" Have her cook you dinner and suck your dick. Win/win. You have to simultaneously remind her that your frame is not dependent upon her behavior (you're the goddamn man), and get her to engage in some submi…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 01:35 PM
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In my experience, the really charming guys, in addition to being genetically gifted in terms of looks, usually are taught the skill set by a charming male mentor. The guys who do learn through practice tend to be consciously methodical about it. Have you ever read about pickup artists? They literally just went out, started trying any random thing they could think of, and kept doing something if it usually worked. It's actually pretty silly how systematic the whole thing is. On the flip side, I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/15 12:50 PM
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I used to get annoyed when girls would have their harems of orbiters, but now that I am older and wiser, I a more sympathetic. Most girls have to go out of their way to not let guys do random favors for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/15 09:02 PM
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Those guys deserve no pity. They are all aware of whats going on, too! They're just willfully ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/15 08:54 PM
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I absolutely agree. Thirsty men who don't hold women to any standards are a huge contributor to the phenomena.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/15 08:43 PM
6

I think the big difference is that women, being naturally better at emotional intelligence, pick up on most TRPesque stuff subconsciously. They just naturally fall into 'game' habits because they work, and women are usually smart enough to understand why (even if only subconsciously). It's almost Pavlovian. Men seem to need to hash these sorts of things out into 'rules' and 'principals' to grasp them. I think a lot of the hyperbole (ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT) stems from that; men seem to need some…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/15 08:18 PM
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To quote the venerable Patrice O'Neil, "Pussy's not all I want, unless that's all you got." I have female friends. The difference is that they also happen to be interesting people. The problem is that a woman of average attractiveness or more will not have any social incentives to become interesting or otherwise enjoyable to be around. This is especially true for very attractive women. The ones who are both attractive and enjoyable to be around are driven by some internal desire to do something …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/15 08:09 PM
2

You're in luck, because almost every martial arts school or dojo offers the first class for free. You should make a list of 4 or 5 and just try them each once. You'll figure out what you like and don't like, and can make a decision. I have my biases, but I would recommend a martial art that at least has some focus on modern weapons.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/15 05:07 PM
2

You have to earn the title every day by making the right choices over and over again.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/15 02:03 PM
1

Love is the collection of feelings you get as a result of the production of neurohypophysial hormones being made in your hypothalamus. Your body produces them to pair-bond you to a mating partner long enough to reproduce and rear the child to a relatively viable stage of life.
/r/askTRP15/06/15 01:01 PM
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If women tried to get more romantic/sexual success by becoming more dominant and otherwise stereotypically masculine, I think that they would be rather disappointed with the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/15 06:55 PM
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Obviously no one has super powers, and everyone is weak from time to time. Make peace with that. Great. Make a mental short list of friends and relatives that you can count on when shit hits the fan. But don't for one fucking second think that you can ever project any weakness, real or not, onto your girlfriend, wife, plate, or even female friend without her resenting you for it. Peoples feelings are not obligated to the rational truth. Even if everyone is weak sometimes, don't expect that to sa…
/r/TheRedPill12/06/15 06:33 PM
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If you bring it up for no reason you're just going to sound insecure. Wait for it to come up organically in conversation (like if there cheating in a movie you guys just watched, or if she brings it up for some reason), and make a short, concise stance on the topic. "I would never forgive someone who cheated on me." or you can even be silly if thats more your style. You can make it a sort of half joke in reference. "Babe, I am proactively breaking up with you if you cheat on me." She will take i…
/r/askTRP12/06/15 01:11 PM
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I would just completely ignore the fact that she's trying to bait you into qualifying yourself (trying to demonstrate yourself as worthy would be qualifying in this case). Change the subject slightly back to your frame again. "An ass can always be improved." or even something silly "Think about if you needed to squat to save 40 babies." Whatever you say, you pass or avoid the shit test by not letting her definitively set the frame (by not letting her assert your opinion about her ass).
/r/askTRP12/06/15 01:05 PM
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The point of AWALT is to know that any woman could fuck you over. It doesn't mean you need to invent reasons to be worried. It means that you need to consider it if you start feeling suspicious for some reason. If you're going to be in an LTR, you always run the risk that your girl will cheat. Most of the time it will make itself known if you are not willfully blind to the evidence. Some of the time, though, you can get cheated on and you would never know. That is an inherent risk of an LTR, and…
/r/askTRP12/06/15 12:55 PM
1

In that case, your genes were helping a lot. Just not enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/15 08:26 PM
1

Based on collictive TRP observations (including my own), having good genes means having genes that make you look like a dominant killing machine. Things like being tall, having a lot of muscle mass, and a broad face. Tells for high testosterone. Either your looks don't project those things, or you were fucking up so badly with your behaviors that you undid any points you earned from your looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/15 06:02 PM
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It's telling that she needs to remind women that they shouldn't be attracted to all of the things that a rational human being wouldn't like. She's plainly admitting that all of her 'no nos' are also major turn ons. Feminists always inadvertently validate all of the things they balk about in their act of balking at said things. It's one giant shit test.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/15 05:57 PM
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It's actually a RP idea that women hate fake alphas. The whole point of 99% of 'alpha behavior' is that it is supposed to signal having good genes. If you aren't naturally that way, then those traits won't automatically get passed on to your children, and you have essentially pulled a 'bait and switch'. Women are drawn to all of the things outlined in TRP, but only under the presumption that these traits are innate, or stem from innate traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/15 05:41 PM
0

The trick is choosing when and whom to be nice to. A dominant man is nice to people who are good to them after they have done something to earn that kindness. A pathetic man is nice to people before they have done anything to earn his kindness in the hopes that this person will remember and 'pay them back' in the future. It's called a 'covert contract', and it actually makes people resent you because they feel manipulated. Identical actions can have wildly different implications depending upon c…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/15 02:37 PM
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I can only answer for myself, but I have personally chosen a career path which maximizes my income, ability to find work at any time in any city, but which also will not require more than 40 hours a week of me, and is also relatively low stress on the job. I can leverage this kind of job because I have unique, in demand skills, and am very effective at working with other people. So, while I don't own a factory, I essentially become my own capital. In a sense, I have a lot more freedom than many …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/15 02:28 PM
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It would stand to reason, were this true, that male Feminists would be more feminine than average, also contributing to them believing that gender roles are interchangeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/15 02:20 PM
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I’ll tell you what dude. I tend to pull the opposite type of girl. 6s with ‘great personalities’. I’ve hooked up with/dated artists, scientists, engineers, accountants, volunteers, outdoors types… All intelligent, interesting women in their own right. All of them were still women. The same rules apply. They shit test. They are hypergamous. They are turned off by beta behavior. They want to be dominated in bed. They want to talk for hours without saying anything. As nice as it is to have a good c…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/15 01:50 PM
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It's solipsism. She's trying to demonstrate value to you because she erroroniously believes that pre selection works on men, too.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/15 12:03 PM
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Eye color and shape operate on a gradient. Penis size operates on a gradient. A photosynthetic organisms photosynthetic efficiency operates on a gradient. I guess some people are born with additional limbs (not to mention other species like centipedes) and genitals, so you could even argue that, yes, those traits operate on a gradient as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/15 07:02 PM
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You say "a society chooses who dies." When a society chooses who dies at the current time, they may send a bomb to a place that indiscriminately kills women and men. They also create a situation in which women will die en masse. I cannot understand why this is not relevant to the claim about 'choosing who dies.' The difference is that in these cases they are not choosing to have women and children from their own society killed. So, let me rephrase: When societies choose who is going to be at the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/15 06:34 PM
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How to put this. Gender roles are the socially ascribed roles designated for a particular sex. A gender identity, then, is the set of gender roles one identifies with. I would definitely argue that a man (even non trans and gay men) who dresses up like women is assuming part of the female gender identity. Namely, the clothing habits of the female gender in his culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/15 01:53 PM
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It's having a body that doesn't match one's neurological map of one's body That's exactly what I mean by 'mixed'. It's having the body of one sex, but the brain of another. My only point is that this means that there are innate male and female sex traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/15 01:51 PM
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So by "fixing" Everyday Feminism's (mis)understanding of Gender Essentialism, we can actually get them to stop being so bio-phobic. How Orwellian of you to say! :-) I do understand the value of controlling the way a narrative is perceived. I suppose I am more of the opinion that we should learn to be comfortable with the truth, including that not everyone will have the same instincts or experiences. So by "fixing" Everyday Feminism's (mis)understanding of Gender Essentialism, we can actually get…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/15 01:48 PM
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That's funny because MRA are really about how women are capable of all kinds of aggression. TRP will claim this sometimes as well. I would never claim that women are incapable of aggression. Male and Female aggression tends to take different forms. Males commit 90% of homicides in the USA, for example. And 'more suitable' isn't exactly 'necessarily adheres to' a biological sex qualifying organism. Certainly not. For example, in iron age Scandinavia, some women would be warriors too. They were ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 07:12 PM
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So one thing is that we visually identify people as male or female... I would never use this as a hard standard. I would say that ones’ biological sex is depended upon whether the create viable sperm (male) or viable eggs (female). People can be male, female, neither (non gamete producing humans), or biologically intersex (XXY, etc. On an interesting, but semi-unrelated note, no intersex person has been born with a working set of both sex organs, so many would meet my reproductive classification…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 06:15 PM
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...I think anyone might be able to say that men and women have inherent and unique attributes that qualify them. In fact, the transpeople are trying to adopt those inherent, unique and natural attributes to qualify for the genders they want to be. This is my entire point! In doing so, they legitimize the notion that these traits (physiological and personality) really are innately gendered. The next question, which I didn't even broach in the OP, is ‘why are some behaviors (gender roles) normally…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 05:05 PM
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You don't see how "the notion that men and women have inherent, unique, and natural attributes that qualify them as their separate genders" would lead one to develop different initial strategies for interacting with either men or women? Further, you don't see how someone desiring to change their body to match the gender identity that they identify with supports the notion that gender identities are substantially linked to our physical sex characteristics?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 02:48 PM
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I guess my point is that, while yes, gender roles are socially accepted expressions of sex, there are reasons some roles are assigned to men and some are assigned to women. There is an enormous amount of cross-cultural overlap in gender roles, and I would argue that this is because of a sort of emergence. Kind of like how the Mesopotamians and and ancient Mesoamericans both developed the step pyramid design without ever having contacted one another (different continents). The design is a product…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 02:11 PM
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At least many trans people feel sufficient duress from the juxtaposition of their body and gender identity to motivate them to go transition in some way. Sometimes even opting for extremely invasive and expensive surgeries. I believe that some people may lack the faculties which create that duress. In any event, you still seem to be able to grasp the abstract concepts of essentially male and essentially female such that you can differentiate which of your behaviors are which (kind of like I desc…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 01:44 PM
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That's the problem - you're misdefining gender essentialism. I actually stole this definition word for word from Everyday Feminism, an eminent radical feminist blog. I specifically wanted to engage what I believe to be the definition of gender essentialism that encapsulates how it is used in the modern discussions of gender, sexuality, and their associated politics (as opposed to a technical philosophical definition which is depended upon a pre-established underlying metaphysics and epistemology…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 01:38 PM
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Well, there are supposedly 3 times as many male to female trans people as there are female to male.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 01:29 PM
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Would you accept men and women have essential positive and negative traits? No. I don't buy into traditional morality, really. I would say that men and women, on average, have advantages and disadvantages relative to specific tasks. Men are generally disadvantages at correctly recognizing nonverbal social queues, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 01:29 PM
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In my experience, it most certainly is a mainstream idea amongst 3rd wave feminists. Have you seen how many people are celebrating Caitlyn Jenner? It seems that the first gendered assumptions to be challenged, in most cases rightly so, are as you describe: that women are less intelligent, academically talented, or important to society. From there, I think 3rd wave feminists sort of thought to themselves, "Why stop there? The notion of innate gender identities is a tool of oppression used by the …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 01:27 PM
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I would agree mostly, however don't you suppose that gender identity and gender roles are substantially linked? My question is whether or not the bodily form and gendered behaviors are substantially linked such to justify using them as baseline assumptions before additional information is gathered about the person. I believe that trans people's desire to change both their body as well as gender roles supports this notion.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 01:21 PM
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My question is whether or not the bodily form (what people refer to as sexual identity) and gender roles (what people refer to as gender identity) are substantially linked such to justify using them as baseline assumptions before additional information is gathered about the person. I believe that trans people's desire to change both their body as well as gender roles supports this notion. Clearly being mixed causes some people considerable duress as to motivate them to go under the knife.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 01:15 PM
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I think the way you define could be too broad: "I am going to define gender essentialism to be the notion that men and women have inherent, unique, and natural attributes that qualify them as their separate genders." I actually stole this definition word for word from Everyday Feminism, an eminent radical feminist blog. I specifically wanted to engage what I believe to be the definition of gender essentialism that encapsulates how it is used in the modern discussions of gender, sexuality, and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 01:14 PM
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Pretty much every trait (height, skin tone, voice pitch, hair color, etc.) operates on a gradient spectrum within a species, so I am inclined to agree that personality traits are likely similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/15 01:04 PM
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Just clarifying for my loyal fans.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/15 08:23 PM
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Of course. I'm not making that argument at all. I believe that people are genetically predisposed to be certain ways, but that in many cases these traits can be affected socially.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/15 08:16 PM
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You don't suppose its possible via a trick of genetics or hormones that someone is born with a body of one sex, but with a brain resembling that of a different sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/15 07:48 PM
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That's a very interesting response. Still, that essentially legitimizes gender essentialism. It just claims that it is not always applicable. In that case, valid arguments from gender essentialism can still be made provided they are applicable to the person in question. I would also add that this is going to be the overwhelming majority of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/15 07:45 PM
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That was the first article I read. At the end of the article, she basically concludes that gender is simultaniously real and essential, but not. It strikes me as trying to have it both ways without addressing the contradiction. Again: ...isn’t there a contradiction in simultaneously claiming that traits are not essentially gendered, but also claiming that one can specifically identify with gendered traits as essential to their being?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/15 07:41 PM
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I would argue that the essential difference between a man and women lies in their reproductive capacities. A male makes sperm and can impregnate a women; women make eggs which can become impregnated by sperm cells. People who cannot reproduce are essentially sexless, or are reproductively defective mutants (I mean this in a clinical, no-negative-connotation way). These are essential, not general differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/15 07:36 PM
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There are some interesting issues. Should trans women be allowed in safe spaces designated for women? Should trans women be allowed to play on the same sports teams as women? I can see why some 2nd wavers would take offense to trans women joining their ranks, seeing as how many of them were looking to rid themselves of all male influence, which they felt was inherently oppressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/15 06:32 PM
2

I find that if I eat a shit ton of clean calories from keto friendly sources (eggs, meat, dairy, nuts), I can steadily lose body fat and gain muscle mass. I'm eating 4k calories+ of this type of food daily. It is a slower process than straight bulking or straight cutting, but it IS possible to both gain muscle mass and lose body fat at the same time. I'm more interested in functional strength and health, so physique is a distant third benefit for me. It is also very much worth noting that rest i…
/r/askTRP01/06/15 08:04 PM
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it means that whenever they inevitably fall prey to a universal human emotion we all experience, they ought not be considered less valuable. Do you think that valuing males who express negative emotions less is a cultural phenomena, or an innate human instinct? Given that, as far as I know, all human societies assign stoic, warrior protector (i.e. disposable) roles to the male sex, I find it hard to believe that it doesn't have some basis in our nature.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 05:48 PM
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Karen, One of the first videos about male issues I ever watched was ‘Feminism and the Disposable Male’, so it’s really cool to see you doing an AMA for those of us on the dark side of the manosphere. :-) I have a few questions for you: Do you think that intersexual/intergender relations will improve, or get worse in the next 10, 20 years? Why is that? What do you think the effects poorer intersexual/intergender relations have on society and civilization as a whole? What do you think the best uni…
/r/TheRedPill29/05/15 03:05 PM
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This just goes to show you the cost of having a shitty frame. She knew she could man handle this guy just by taking one look at him. No bitch would EVER pull something like this with me, because she knows there would be consequences. And she knows just by being in my presence. Gentlemen, the lesson here is that the nature of your very presence affects how women perceive you. You've got to know the mentality that you're projecting, and you need to know the mentalities to project to stoke the desi…
/r/TheRedPill29/05/15 01:35 PM
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Being emotional doesn't make you weak. Appearing emotional makes others perceive you as weak, however. A good stoic still feels emotions, they just own their emotions instead of the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/15 08:38 PM
4

I remember in an interview with Dr. Dre, he personally thanked the FBI for all of the attention they gave him and NWA over 'Fuck Tha Police'.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/15 08:33 PM
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Sure. But between two people who either were not taught self control, or who are defective mentally in some way, the one with more testosterone will be more likely to exhibit aggressive behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/15 07:27 PM
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Testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/15 02:28 PM
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I really hope OP reads and responds to this. This is 100% spot on!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/15 02:22 PM
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Under different circumstances, maybe. If OP had tight game, he may have been able to pull off the lay. But I'm not getting the impression that OP's game is that tight yet. I don't see any attempts at escalation, and he specifically mentions a lack of IOIs. Women get together with people in person to bitch all of the time. What do you think straight women do when they get together without guys? They sit, watch netflix, and bitch about the alphas that aren't paying them attention right now. The gi…
/r/askTRP27/05/15 01:08 PM
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I disagree completely. Learning that women are generally shitty (like everyone else) was a watershed moment in my male-female relationship development. I have been way happier in life and much more successful in romance since. It was in large part all of the field reports and 'Blue\Red Pill examples' that helped me frame all of the 'Red Pill' things I was starting to notice, but too ego invested otherwise to actually look at.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/15 08:52 PM
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Bruce Lee talked about it as forming an unnatural naturalness. So, if you're a n00b, your instincts suck, and just saying whatever you want will fail over and over again. However, once you practice enough, what works and doesn't becomes intuitive, and you will naturally just know how to act. I would say the best mindset to have while running game would be mindfully playful. Don't take it so seriously that you're too afraid to say anything, but be aware of what you say so you can analyze your int…
/r/askTRP26/05/15 08:39 PM
2

The most useful trait for self development on a whole is building up a state of passive mindfulness. If you bring awareness into everything you do, you will learn and grow as a function of merely existing. Thus, my entire way of being is a vehicle for self improvement. That being said, some specifics: I work out a minimum of 3 times per week. I eat a strict ketogenic diet. I train in martial arts a minimum 1-3 times per week depending on my scheduled. I invest my finances wisely, keep up with ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/15 08:13 PM
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"did she just call me over to bitch about her boyfriend?" Yes. Good job for figuring it out, and good job cutting your losses.
/r/askTRP26/05/15 07:42 PM
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The primary thing TRP advocates against with regards to marriage is getting married in the first place. 0% of non-marriages end up in divorce, after all! If you have to get married, locking down a girl with a promiscuous past is the biggest 'you should have known better' TRP cliche. Having a promiscuous past does increase your chances of divorces. I hypothesize that with regards to age, you will get a U shaped distribution for marriage stability. Couples very far away from each other in age, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/15 07:35 PM
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I'm above average at about 7.5'' long and 5' in circumference. TBH, it feels pretty great. I feel like it's big enough to hit the right spots without being so big that it's unpleasurable. The only issue I have had is a slight suspicion that it causes girls to be intimidated to give me oral. You still need skill though. Especially because so much of sexual pleasure is mental. You can have the 'perfect' dick, but if your girl is dry and distracted, she's just going to have a bad time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/15 03:11 PM
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The question becomes, "Why wouldn't I hold sexist beliefs if they are beneficial to me?" Should we just assume that all stereotyping is bad by default, even if it is extremely useful? You're going to treat the next gang banger or biker gang badass you see a certain way (you'll probably just avoid them), and I would argue that you would be wise to do so. Maybe you'll miss out on a few cool gang members here and there, but it's worth that for the benefit of not getting murdered.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/15 02:57 PM
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Dark triad traits in moderate amounts lead to powerful men. In extreme amounts, they lead to murderous sociopaths. Women are just following the power indicating traits. http://illimitablemen.com/power/
/r/askTRP23/05/15 02:23 PM
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It's not about the physical injury, it's about the respect. She doesn't respect you enough not to slap you. Do you think she's going to start respecting you for letting her get away with it? Time for another one, OP!
/r/askTRP22/05/15 09:11 PM
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First of all, most likely she is just thinking <insert pet name for you> and just says some random shit. Second, all woman will shit test you from time to time. This can come in any form of her trying to get you to be influenced by her in some negative way. It's like when you're crossing one of those rope/wood suspension bridges bridge, and you give it a few kicks to check its integrity. Women will give you a kick to make sure you're strong enough to support their dead weight. This might not be …
/r/askTRP22/05/15 08:32 PM
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Looks are a necessary prerequisite for starting a romantic\sexual interaction. Personality attractiveness is also necessary to initiate a serious committed relationship, and to maintain it. A hot, dumb, bitchy girl will get laid a lot but never get a serious, healthy LTR. An average-looking, intelligent, charming girl will get hit on slightly less, but will be able to lock down guys more easily. A hot, intelligent, charming girl will pretty much be able to get any type of relationship she wants …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/15 05:52 PM
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I think you've got your initial premises a bit messed up, though what you say is technically correct. RedPill is not an objective dogmatic position with regards to what anyone should do. Its about understanding the mechanics. So if a RPW wanted a bunch of beta orbiters, her knowledge of human sexual interactions (RedPill) would help her do so. On the flip side, if she wants one really alpha guy, her RedPill knowledge will help her as well. Again, if a woman wants to ride the cock carousel with a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/15 05:40 PM
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She better develop some other positive traits then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/15 05:36 PM
0

If all else fails, there's always caffeine...
/r/askTRP22/05/15 05:25 PM
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I find that there are windows of time for waking up feeling good. I usually sleep for 5-6 hours per weeknight, and 10-12 hours per night on weekends. Your brain goes through various stages as you sleep, and cycles through them. You need to figure out your rhythm and figure out when your body will be least deeply asleep. If you wake up fully while your body is naturally in a non-deep sleep, you will wake up feeling better. If you are in deep sleep when you wake up, your brain takes more time to c…
/r/askTRP22/05/15 03:20 PM
1

Now that I am totally focused on myself, I have decided that within a few years, I am going to take 12 months off of work, and spend about one month each in a different country. I actually primarily plan to spend my time training in one of their national martial arts (BJJ in Brazil, Krav Mega in Israel, Sambo in Russia, Shaolin Kung Fu in China, etc.) It is definitely a poor decision financially and in terms of career development, but those seem increasingly less important compared to life exper…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 03:14 PM
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This is what we mean by solipsism: One of my objections to professors hitting on students is the inexorable cliché of it, the tawdry story it tells of relations between men and women. To a certain type of male professor, the fantasy of a dewy, impressed protégé is still seductive, a woman who he has easy power over, who is improved, tutored, made by him (as opposed to the female professors I know who are more likely to seek romantic companionship with someone more challenging, more in their leag…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 02:47 PM
3

Inferior and superior are meaningless terms if they aren't applied to something. They are relative positions to something else. Are women inferior to men at lifting weight above thier head? Yes. Are men inferior to woman at properly interpreting facial expressions? Yes. Saying one person or group is superior to another without specifying any traits or abilities is a meaningless statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/15 08:31 PM
1

The point is that women's reproductive scarcity makes them relatively more reproductively valuable by default. Given that, coupled with the minimal minimum investment needed to impregnate 'inferior' woman, why not just let the 'best' men reproduce with as many women as possible? It's not like impregnating an 'inferior' woman prevents a male from impregnating another, 'superior' woman 20 minutes later. The flip side is that if a female is impregnated by an 'inferior' man, she is missing every oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/15 02:47 PM
1

Weightlifting will improve your physical form faster and to a greater extent than other forms of exercise. It is something that most people can begin immediately, and unlike having a crooked nose or being born a certain height, every guy can make major improvements in his looks via exercise. It is one of the only pieces of advice which can be applied universally without reservation. TRP is about sexual strategy for men, so the other benefits of exercise aren't as relevant to the discussion. Runn…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/15 09:20 PM
1

No. Things will get much worse. It's not about the politically dominant philosophy anymore. That battle was fought and won by the feminist camp. The question now is, "What will happen without the social institutions that used to serve as the gears of our civilization?" The primary goal of third wave feminism was to dismantle what they view as oppressive gendered social institutions. The primary institution under fire was traditional marriage. They have mostly succeeded, as evidenced by the recen…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/15 08:30 PM
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Looks are pass/fail. If you're really hot, you pass the looks tests. Depending upon what a guy is interested in, this may be enough. That being said, there are certainly things a woman can do to improve her appeal for a LTR. They primarily deal with charm, otherwise known as 'being enjoyable to be around.' Anything that makes you more enjoyable to be around will make you more desirable for a LTR. These can be stereotypical wifely things like learning to cook well and maintain a home, or it could…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/15 08:16 PM
1

Love is a feeling that is caused by electrochemical reactions which occur in our nervous system.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/15 07:05 PM
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I think it boils down to the rate at which we can reproduce. A man could impregnate 5 women per week easily; a woman can only give birth once per 10 months or so at most. Thus, losing a few men due to them not being fit (in the Darwinian sense) isn't a huge problem. Another 'good' male can take his place 15 minutes after he's done with a different woman. On the flip side, women are much more costly in terms of time to replace, so every women is reproductively valuable. In my opinion, the differe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/15 07:00 PM
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No one denies that men become less physically attractive as they age. Yet there are differences in the way a female’s desirability decline, which lend themselves to the phrase 'running into the wall.' Females who are of average attractiveness or above will receive enormous amounts of attention and their associated benefits from roughly age 14-29. Somewhere between 25-30, the amount of attention they get declines, corresponding with the amount of power they are able to leverage from their appeara…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/15 04:25 PM
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In PC terms, because she is more attracted to the man outside of the relationship. He's 'hotter' to her in some way.
/r/askTRP13/05/15 04:17 PM
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Just you wait until expensive genetic enhancements can be purchased for your children in utero! People are still very shy about the impact genetics can have on success (or failure). Also, genetically enhancing people still sounds like something out of X Men to most people, but guess what? It's already happening!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/15 03:37 PM
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I posted this as a comment to one of your other posts, but it's more applicable to this question. I think what you will see is the uneducated masses popping out a bunch of kids the old fashioned way (i.e. without any fertility treatments or screening for diseases and defects). They won't be able to afford birth control as easily, and for a variety of sociological factors, they won't use it as much even if it is free (which is true today). I believe that growing up feeling like you never had a ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/15 02:07 PM
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My take on this from a different thread: A lot of people are going to talk about how they were misled about the nature of women, and there is truth in what they say. Especially in terms of the socially approved script for heterosexual romance decidedly not working as described. The bigger issue from my perspective, though, is that boys have also been lied to about their own nature. They have been told that they should be ashamed of their natural urges, especially sexual ones; I was a 90's kid, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/15 08:57 PM
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It's like any other resource, really. Take money. If you don't have any, you're going to be in rough shape and pretty miserable (assuming you live in a civilized society). If you're really poor, you're probably a little happier, but not much. If you're able to completely support yourself, you'll be much happier than the people struggling to eat and pay bills (this demographic gets the largest increase in happiness relative to money). If you have more money than that, you may be happier because y…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 08:47 PM
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I say you're just now noticing how fucking retarded your family is in regards to financial and health matters. It's pretty shocking how fucking stupid the overwhelming majority of people are in these regards.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 08:38 PM
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I agree with your overall post, but I don't quite understand where killing your ego comes into play. Maybe it comes into play in the sense of NOT refusing to learn from your mistakes or from smarter, more knowledgeable people. On the same token, putting yourself first is the most egotistical thing you can do. By living your life on your own terms, you are in fact strengthening your ego. The inherent message is, "I am awesome enough to deserve what I want on my own terms." As for all of these bet…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 06:26 PM
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Thanks! I'll check that video out when I'm out of work. I guess what I mean is that there's always a part of me that feels annoyed when a girl is putting me through shit that she didn't/doesn't make other men do. I guess it plays into the Brad Pitt rule/Fuck Yes, or No mentality. Call it pride or arrogance, but once it becomes apparent that I'm working for what was free for someone else I'm just turned off. That in of itself isn't problematic, though. Obvious it's good to give priority to your o…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 05:55 PM
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Originally, it was banned for religious moral reasons. Sex was for marriage only because God says so, and there were all kinds of consequences for having sex outside of that arrangement. Post the 20th century sexual revolution, it continues to be illegal in part because of leftover puritans in the bible belt (insert your local religious fundamentalists as appropriate), and from the feminist camp under the premise that legalizing prostitution will lead to further sexual exploitation of women by m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/15 06:18 PM
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There are only three safe assumptions when confronting violence. Your opponent is more skilled than you. Your opponent is armed. Your opponent has armed, more-skilled-than-you friends near by. The baddest motherfuckers on the planet can get shot and killed from behind by some idiot they didn't even see.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/15 04:34 PM
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The pass fail applies to the physical standard. You can pass the physical standard but fail the personality standard, for example. That would make that person one night stand or fuck buddy material.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/15 02:39 PM
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Of course I know the things that I enjoy. The point I'm trying to convey is that I am attracted to girls who also are willing to think about my happiness. Just because I know what I enjoy doesn't mean she will automatically. She has to be willing and interested in learning these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/15 02:35 PM
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She's not overweight (BMI < 24), relatively intelligent (IQ > 110), is willing to put effort into being an enjoyable person to be around, and is willing to put in effort to help figure out and achieve what I enjoy. I'll let you know when I meet her. :-\
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 04:01 PM
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Well you could've given me an upvote then Motherfucker ! I already did, you ungrateful bastard. :-D Fuck it, have some more...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 03:53 PM
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As long as hormones and genetics and emotions don't change... Those feels won't either. Those feels create the structure of the SMP (in conjunction with male feels, which won't change at all in any case). /thread I wonder how these fertility treatments will affect women's moods and dispositions. It's possible that if they're being given a bunch of hormones (or their body makes more of them than usual due to their increased fertility), I can certainly see them being hornier. It may well turn into…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 03:44 PM
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I think you're actually going to see this cause a huge decline in the birth rate. Women won't feel as pressured to have children, and so they will put it off. Putting it off will allow them to pursue lifestyles that make having children difficult (from taking high power jobs that require 60 hours per week, to working as a poor artist and living very cheaply alone in a studio apartment), causing fewer of them to reproduce at all. Regarding Men, I believe that within the next 5 years we will see e…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 03:28 PM
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I think men should toughen the fuck up, and that they should be socially rewarded for it. The problem now isn't that men are told to man up, or that their emotions are unattractive. The problem is that men aren't given the respect that being tough and putting your needs and well-being aside used to entail. There's less and less incentive to 'man up'. Because there is less incentive to man up, less men are manning up. The problem with that, is that the 'manning up' metaphor is very powerful, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 03:15 PM
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I've always said that men's physical attraction operates on a pass fail system. A girl merely need meet the minimum level of attractiveness for a man to start considering her for romance and/or sex. If a girl is especially attractive, it can add bonus points. Kind of like a lot of college pass fail courses where if the grade you get would increase your GPA, they let you take the grade instead of a mere pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 02:23 PM
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It means that it takes a great deal of time, effort, and/or money to keep the person satisfied. In girl terms, think of a girl that needs you to constantly text her, buy her expensive haircuts all of the time, and constantly plays the 'you don't care enough about me' game to get more and more out of you.
/r/askTRP06/05/15 08:02 PM
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Toys can be fun, and they can be an innocuous way to start the path to a progressively kinkier sex life. Remember that the number one sex organ is the brain. Sex with a hot alpha male will always be more appealing than toys, because a toy can't fuck your mind.
/r/askTRP06/05/15 07:51 PM
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These men are either so thirsty for sex and romantic intimacy that they look past it (bread with a little mold on it would look amazing if you hadn't eaten in a week), they have deluded themselves into putting the girl on a pedestal and are still high off of all of the associated oxytocin, or they are even sluttier than the girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/15 07:04 PM
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Try finding a physical activity that you actually enjoy. I am obsessed with martial arts. I love it, and that love motivates me to go train even on days when I'm sick or injured. Further, my love for martial arts trancends into motivation to work out, because I know that working out will indirectly make me a more capable violence machine. It doesn't have to be martial arts for you, though I can't think of anything better. You can also try hiking, biking, swimming, team sports... whatever it is t…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 06:57 PM
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Why do women lie about a man's sexual prowess? They think we give a shit.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 06:45 PM
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This is a great post, and personally I'm starting to see congruence as my biggest problem. It is especially hard for guys coming from an analytic background. The truth of the matter is that so much of our lives are filled with uncertainty. Any of us could get hit by a bus tomorrow, get cancer, or fall victim to someone else’s mistake. If Bubba shoots his rifle at the wrong angle, then Chad Thundercock may well end up getting accidentally shot in the squat rack. It is extremely difficult to genui…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 04:41 PM
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How well they do it is a factor, though to be honest I'm usually happy when someone else is at least trying to be productive. The way they go about it is of chief importance though. I remove myself from things that displease me unless there is some benefit that outweighs the cost. If I'm camping, I'm especially trying to enjoy myself, so someone being a bitch or dick is especially annoying.
/r/askTRP05/05/15 10:51 PM
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It depends how she goes about it. If she's being a bitch about it, fuck her. If not, I don't care what she does.
/r/askTRP05/05/15 09:00 PM
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Ok, let's try this another way. Which sex more easily can gain access to sexual activities, men or women?
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 03:59 PM
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Yes absolutely. The entire experience will harden you.
/r/askTRP05/05/15 11:58 AM
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Ok, we can disagree on economic theory. What about the rest of my point about differences in ease of sexual access?
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 11:01 PM
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I never set aside more than an hour for a first date. That should be enough time for anyone to figure out if there is something worth pursuing more of. If I don't like the girl, I just leave after our date. I'd say go out with the intention to have fun. Be fun and flirtatious with all of them. If it sucks, quietly bow out after an hour. On the flip side, if you go out in 'man on a mission' mode, you'll probably come off as try hard, and any set backs (real or imagined) will fuck up your mental s…
/r/askTRP04/05/15 08:53 PM
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I'm not saying anyone is prescribed to do the things I predicted, I am saying that given free choice (i.e. sex 3.0), this will naturally follow suit due to human nature. "Unregulated" financial markets act much better than regulated ones. Look at banking. It's the most regulated industry on the planet, yet, it's a total mess where only a few people make most of the money, and most get screwed. That’s not even remotely true. For example, the relaxation of regulations on how banks can grant loans …
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 08:42 PM
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The problem with this idea of 'sex 3.0' (which is essentially the de facto way people under 20 operate now) is that men and women have different capacities for obtaining sexual access, even if they are of a similar level of attractiveness to one another. Eggs are less plentiful than sperm, and that makes women more selective. This is Hypergamy 101. In sex 3.0, which is the de facto sexual marketplace amongst the next generation, you end up with a society in which 20% of the top tier men getting …
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 08:01 PM
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There is nothing impolite about ending a conversation with someone. The entire point of a barbeque or any other relatively large social gathering is to engage in noncommittal, light conversations with a bunch of random people. You maintained social norms and didn't act butt hurt when she dropped the boyfriend bomb. You handle the situation by continuing to be polite to the person in passing and moving on. On a side note, it is a great practice to be friendly with everyone at social gatherings. O…
/r/askTRP04/05/15 05:05 PM
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This is the shit that gets to me! At the end of the day, is D the type of man who built himself up, or was he just fucking born that way? I'm truly a believer in game, but at the end of the day your maximum SMV is capped before you're out of the womb. I have known enough true Alphas to know how women behave around one. I know that they 1000% take advantage and slay thousands of girls over their lifetimes. I also know that NO woman has ever treated me that way, nor will they ever. I will never re…
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 07:04 PM
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That one part about the guy who would just hang out in that girls apartment when she went out struck me. She must have been crazy about him at the time if she literally just let him come around and fuck as he pleased without putting any effort into anything, let alone her!
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 01:13 PM
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Here's the thing. They're not describing TRP men. They think they hate TRP men, so they're describing men they hate when asked to describe TRP men. Of course, the irony is that the things they hate are needy beta behaviors we specifically talk about as not working.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 01:06 PM
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I agree, but I also add that though the proportion of people being smart and wealthy will decrees, their relative development to the unwashed masses will increase.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/15 06:46 PM
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I think what you will see is the uneducated masses popping out a bunch of kids. The sheer number of children will keep these families in poverty, and in turn those children will grow up impoverished, much less likely to be educated, and likely fall into the same vicious cycle as their parents. Wealthy parents will exercise complete control over how many children they have, limiting themselves to one or two. They will also spend tremendous amounts of resources on educating and nurturing them, sta…
/r/TheRedPill29/04/15 06:34 PM
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If you genuinely do something shitty, it's OK to apologize. You just want to avoid apologizing for things that you shouldn't have to apologize for, like running late, or her misinterpreting something you said as an insult.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 02:50 PM
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I donated. People really underestimate how big of a deal effective male birth control is going to be.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/15 02:22 PM
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Barbershop all the way. Salons always end up pushing some effeminate flamboyant bullshit style on you.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 09:08 PM
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Her next text, "Because there's this guy Chad T., and he says he wants one with me. I'm trying to decide if I should, and you seem like a nice guy who would give good advice." Edit to actually give you some advice: It sounds like she has you pegged for the beta listener role, and has another dude in her sights. Your best bet is to escalate quickly. Either she will respond positively and you can possibly close, or she responds negatively and you can safely next her knowing that no opportunity was…
/r/askTRP28/04/15 07:02 PM
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That's the same line of reasoning as presenting gardening as the solution to world hunger. Just like there are many people unable to subsistence garden for whatever reason, their are many people unable to home school their own children for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/15 01:30 PM
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Absolutely, and those who excel in a classroom environment should have access to it undisturbed. My point is that there isn't even an alternative model for more active and competitive children such as myself. I was rather deemed 'disruptive' and dismissed from the learning process all together.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/15 01:11 PM
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A lot of people are going to talk about how they were misled about the nature of women, and there is truth in what they say. Especially in terms of the socially approved script for heterosexual romance decidedly not working as described. The bigger issue from my perspective, though, is that boys have also been lied to about their own nature. They have been told that they should be ashamed of their natural urges, especially sexual ones; I was a 90's kid, and even by then we were being taught 'not…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/15 08:46 PM
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Your entire problem is that you don't excite her emotionally anymore, and your solution is to write her the whiniest, most boring, mechanical letter of all time? Do you want real solutions?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/15 02:29 PM
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What you are describing is a working model, and indeed it has been utilized with great success over the ages in countless cultures. There are equivalent teachings in the Old Testament, the Analects of Confucius, and The Oeconomicus of Plato. The only contention I have is that this model is not enactable by an individual. In order for your model to work, the rest of society (at least the parts of which you interact with) needs to operate under a similar set of shared goals. Not only are your acti…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/15 11:44 PM
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So, the best life is making enough money to fund a life in Vietnam living in a beautiful area shooting up heroin constantly? Hedonism is more problematic than we think then Come now! Hedonism can be far more nuanced than that. I try and maximize my long term happiness and pleasure, with an emphasis on keeping my average levels of happiness and pleasure relatively high while remaining sustainable. ...this relative meaning and values you speak of. I never get it. To me, it seems like a way of avoi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/15 08:17 PM
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I know on some level you want your son to be his own man and make his own mistakes. That's awesome, actually. There are some mistakes with HUGE consequences, though. You wouldn't be as nonchalant if your son was doing something that, say, might cause him to loose a limb for the rest of his life. A divorce isn't as bad as losing a limb, but it can affect you for the rest of your life. Does he really not see how big of a red flag this is? Does he really not understand that if he lets her have this…
/r/TheRedPill23/04/15 08:16 PM
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In the objective sense, everything is purposeless. I'm a nihilist like that. However, there exist relative meanings and values. So, objectively it doesn't matter whether or not I eat dinner tonight, but relative to me, it matters a lot. We are forced to accept relative value in things, or to find no value in anything. I choose the former, because if nothing matters and there are no objective purposes, then I might as well enjoy myself. What I enjoy is directly a product of the animal that I am (…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/15 07:55 PM
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25, Male, Bachelor’s degree in Information Technology and Philosophy, Libertarian-esque (Mill's Harm Principle + Social Contract). Feminism in its current form is about promoting institutions and polices that benefit women no matter what the cost, using Oppression Olympics (i.e. ‘more oppressed than thou’) style whining to garner social sympathy to that end. They often have valid criticisms of society (sexual assault and female hypo-agency for example), but almost always inflate the severity of …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/15 07:51 PM
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Just a monkey impressed at something another monkey did. I don't deny that this is all validation is. I would rather shift focus and say that as proverbial naked monkeys, monkey politics matters to us. There is no greater purpose in our universe, so our instinctual feelings about what is important are all that we have.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/15 05:13 PM
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You're conflating long term advice with short term advice. If a person has no job, is homeless, and can't afford any food, they obviously need to eventually find a job so they can buy their own food and shelter (or they need to find a way to live off of the land). Unfortunately, getting your life on track like that takes months or years. This person will starve before they make it that far. Thus, in the short term they must seek out food pantries, panhandle, etc. to get by. I don't point this ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/15 03:28 PM
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You have to stand your ground, but don't come off as butt hurt. Just casually lte them know "I was thinking MFF." If she demands a MMF, just casually say, "Oh, no thanks then. Hit me up if you change your mind." and soft next. Find someone else who is down for what you're looking for, and by asserting your desires as primary, she may change her mind or hit you up in the future.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 03:13 PM
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Spend 20K-30K on a low milage 2013/2014 model. Save 5k-10k easily.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 02:23 PM
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I'm a consultant, and often drive to two or more different businesses a day. They can be in different towns, and even different states. There is rarely a public transportation option available for all of my clients. Where there is public transportation, it often adds an hour on to what would otherwise be a 30 minute commute. That takes away 2 hours per day of my precious time. If I used Uber, that would cost me a minimum of $20 (likely more) per ride. At a minimum of three rides a day, that's $6…
/r/askTRP17/04/15 02:20 PM
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This is a great post and I agree completely; step one of waking up is to examine your expectations and preconceived notions, and then to adjust them in accordance with objective reality (a tall order no doubt). The elephant in the room I’m seeing between this post and your response to Girl With a Dragonfly Tattoo is a glaring question: Now that I have reevaluated my expectations and have determined that I will not receive equitable love from a relationship with a woman, aren’t my motivations to …
/r/TheRedPill15/04/15 04:43 PM
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It depends on what you would classify as success or having things 'work'. I guarantee that any man who lifts weights regularly, makes having as good a job/income as possible a high priority, grooms and dresses well, and who spends much of his free time practicing seducing women (especially if they verse themselves in TRP seduction thoery) will have significantly improved success with women after keeping at it for 6 months to a year. In this sense, 'the pill' will 'work' for everyone, if you defi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/15 07:42 PM
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As a TRP atheist, I can see why a lot of religious rules were set up the way that they were. So, in that sense, ideas that TRP would hold about human nature often correlate with the ideas that religious figureheads of old had about human nature. Religious prescriptions on romantic and sexual behavior are generally designed to promote community and procreation as well as to restrict what are deemed to be unhelpful or problematic natural tendencies. It's an early form of social engineering with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/15 03:48 PM
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It is better said that you insult yourself by willfully staying in the friend zone. It's not worth even the minimal time or effort necessary to feel like shes insulting you with rejection. But if you stay involved with her, you're telling yourself, "I don't deserve to be around people who value me."
/r/TheRedPill12/04/15 04:35 PM
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A man in the friendzone desires what he can never have, and this is reflected in his entire image, and in doing so he relinquishes his masculinity. This is the essence of it right here! By putting yourself in a situation where you are assured not to get what you desire (due to the fact that you willfully put yourself in that position), you train yourself to believe that you are unworthy of the things that you desire! It's a script for low self esteem. I will never put myself in a position where …
/r/TheRedPill12/04/15 04:26 PM
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Have at it, Sisyphus. Upvote for this line! LTRs are Sisyphean.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/15 04:04 PM
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I reject this premise. What is/are the essential feature(s) of altruism, then? All actions people take are ultimately governed by chemical interactions in our brains. To say that an action is not altruistic because it gives you good brain chemisty (i.e. good feelings) is to say that no intentional, motivated action can be altruistic. This is exactly my argument. Altruism is not possible in humans. The distinction between "doing it for the good feelings" and "doing it for a tangible reward" is fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/15 03:56 PM
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why would you expect someone that doesn't want to be involved with your romantically to meet your romantic needs? I certainly don't. that's what you are doing when you say i won't tolerate someone who doesn't want to hook up with me. I'm saying that, in the event I come to be attracted to someone and they don't reciprocate, I choose not to pursue a close relationship with them. I wish them no harm, no mental duress, and hope their lives go well otherwise. you are insulating yourself from the rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/15 03:07 PM
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Did anyone else catch the tacit admission of alpha fucks, beta bucks? Human behaviour seems to be under the control of two evolutionary programs: one that results in fertilisation, disillusionment and a series of partners, and the other that enables humans to develop the lasting relationships that lead to long, happy and healthy lives.
/r/TheRedPill08/04/15 02:37 PM
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you understand that's your subjective experience. unless you are perfectly average (which you would have no way of knowing) or have lived a very diverse life I'm not so sure. I have gotten the same message from mandatory seminars in middle school, high school, college, and now in professional environments. By this, I mean to say that the message has been institutionally disseminated. Considering I have only ever attended public schools and work a relatively common job, I think it's fair to say t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/15 02:28 PM
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Let's break this down: Premise 1: The essential feature of altruism is motivation based on the benefit someone else. Premise 2: Good feelings benefit the person feeling said good feelings. Premise 3: To pursue good feelings for oneself is to pursue a benefit for oneself. Conclusion: To pursue good feelings for oneself is not motivated by benefiting others, and consequently fails to meet the essential requirements of altruism.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/15 02:24 PM
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My argument is that 'doing something because it makes you feel good' is not in any way shape or form the same thing as the concept of 'altruism'.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/15 09:37 PM
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Yep! I was never as severe as Scott, but can totally understand how someone with less social tact than I had (which wasn't much) would fall into that trap.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/15 09:34 PM
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If Sexual Market Value (SMV) is a sort of Bell Curve based on Intrinsic Value (DNA) then you will have a one-to-one correspondence of man-to-woman. (just DNA mind you) That's a pretty big if. Since women are primarily value for their physical beauty, would it not stand to reason that after however many generations women might be more attractive than men on average?
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 09:21 PM
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Let me put it this way. 'Alpha' traits valued for their mere presence, whereas 'beta' traits require effort to sustain.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 09:18 PM
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What I have done is provide you with a counterexample to demonstrate that the principle If the only reward you obtain for doing good things for someone can be summarized as "good feelings" then that action IS real altruism for all intents and purposes. is not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/15 09:07 PM
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Of course, I would argue the opposite. TRP is about men rediscovering their sexuality after being raised to believe that their natural lustful tendencies are indecent and malevolent. is this true for you? explain? Absolutely. Almost every female friend I have ever had (and I do keep female friends, believe it or not) has at some point complained that all men want is sex. Growing up, all of my female elders would tell me about the importance of not making women feel uncomfortable sexually, often …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/15 08:12 PM
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Your success rate is going to be like 5% on cold approaches, and by that I mean there's a 5% chance she'll be receptive to even talking to you for a few seconds. The numbers go down from there when you start asking how many would give you their number, then down further when you want to know how many of them respond. Your openers should be designed first and foremost to see if a girl is receptive to talking to you. You should go into the interaction expecting that most of the time the answer is …
/r/askTRP07/04/15 07:53 PM
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a lot of red pill issues are them projecting their perspective (sex obsession, selfishness, etc.) on women because they assume women function like them Of course, I would argue the opposite. TRP is about men rediscovering their sexuality after being raised to believe that their natural lustful tendencies are indecent and malevolent. It's a huge step for a lot of guys if they finally realize 'I'm not a bad person for wanting to have sex with a girl, and I am not a bad person for not being friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/15 07:47 PM
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That's just not true. Are pedophiles are altruistic for fucking little kids? They only do it because it gives them good feelings, after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/15 07:43 PM
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If I always "lived in the moment" and did what feels good at the time, I'd probably lie, cheat, steal, etc. Yet I don't, because, like the vast majority of human beings, I've absorbed certain moral ideas that hold me back: the old "superego" or what-have-you. Sure, but in the context of having a lot of wild sex before settling down, there isn't a pervasive moral standard by which people are judged. Some people are encouraged to do it as a positive experience, where others are told not to have se…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/15 07:22 PM
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It's a lot like Hanlon's Razor: Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/15 06:31 PM
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I never said that an 'alpha' never displays any 'beta' traits. Let me put it this way. 'Alpha' traits valued for their mere presence, whereas 'beta' traits require effort to sustain.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 05:48 PM
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The variable that I have yet to see talked about by TRP is the fact that a woman in going on her alpha fucks beta bucks journey has to exercise the choice to be not virtuous. The TRP stance is that, no, it is not a conscious choice to be unvirtuous. Just like it isn't a conscious choose of mine to stare at big boobs in low cut shirts. Don't tell me you've never spaced out only to realize that you've been starring at some hot girl unconsciously. When women hit the wall/epiphany phase and start lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/15 05:14 PM
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You seem confused about the position. Let's unpack the concepts at hand a tad and see if there is any contradiction. Regarding evolutionary psychology, the story is a lot more nuanced than 'Men want to fuck a lot because sperm is cheap, women want a provider because eggs are rare'. It is more apt to say that women are, on average, more selective than men with whom they have sex with due to the disparity in potential costs that a successful copulation would have for each partner. The only thing w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/15 07:44 PM
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The irony is that AWALT is used because these things are already assumed about men. It is by default assumed that men are potentially dangerous, so there's no reason to remind men of that fact. Especially considering the term is limited to conversations with a specified focus on interacting with women. AWALT is useful precisely because we don't hold the same assumptions of potential threat for women that we do for men. ‘Benevolent sexism’ as they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/15 05:12 PM
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To put it into linguistic terms, my point is that 'Pi' is a sort of pictographic representation of Pi, as opposed to encoding it in a positional notation format (which is much more useful for arithmetic). So, when writing Pi in Hindu-Arabic positional notation (for you nit pickers), we necessarily always round the number because we would die before successfully writing the infinite digits of Pi out. Ergo, rounding Pi to a useful, workable number (such as 3.14159) is a functional approximation us…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/15 05:10 PM
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The primary mistake you're making is believing in some sort of eternal, 'true' self. The only concrete metric we have to evaluate a person by is based on their actions. The essential facts about what you are consist in what your body was doing at every point in time that you have been alive. Even your thoughts and instincts are based on material, electrochemical reactions occurring between your neurons. So, if I change my behavior, and my body is doing different things, who is to say that this i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/15 04:54 PM
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From when I was in college, I can remember the very moment that I lost 'faith' in established academics. I was wondering why professors were writing their papers on seemingly banal and overdone topics. Why weren't many really interesting things being studied? The answer comes down to grants. Academics and grants go hand in hand. This is especially true for research based academics like Psychology and Sociology. Academics focus their studies where the grants for studies exist. This means that mos…
/r/askTRP03/04/15 08:47 PM
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That's an equation, not a solvable problem. A circle has a radius of 3. What's it's exact circumference? (remember, no rounding!) At any rate, do you not understand my point?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 07:10 PM
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You do realize that we ALWAYS round out Pi when we use it right? No one has ever done a math problem utilizing the actual entirety of Pi. I know 3.14159 seems a lot more accurate than 3.1, but in reality we could take Pi to a billion digits and it would still be inaccurate. The rounds are close enough to be workable, though. Kind of like AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 05:25 PM
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Saying "Women are cum-dumpsters" is definitely misogynistic. The sticky post doesn't deny that misogyny exists, it simply states that the word as it is commonly used is not beneficial for conversations related to the sub's expressed topic: sexual strategy in the modern world from the male perspective. The point is that, whether or not something is or is not misogynistic does not have an impact on whether or not it is useful from a sexual strategy standpoint. A corollary would be banning discussi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 05:07 PM
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Men want a woman who is chaste with everyone, but finds him so attractive that she makes an exception just for him. Men only want a girl who is slutty for them only. It's selfish, but there's no contradiction per se.
/r/askTRP03/04/15 04:54 PM
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I wonder how much of this is explainable in terms of sexed differences in strategy? If men are more disposable and more inclined to take risks (as is often proclaimed), then it would make sense for them to take a sort of shotgun approach to online dating. Men would send out a lot of openers to as many attractive women as they could, expecting most to go unanswered. If you’re response rate is 5%, you need to send out about 20 messages per response. This doesn’t strike me as men overestimating the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/15 04:03 PM
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Here is where it breaks down. Everyone wants to date/fuck the most attractive person they can, right? I even mean attractive across all traits, not just physical ones. You will notice different behavior between men and women when they are propositioned by someone less attractive than themselves. Women will reject any romantic and sexual interactions, but will often allow for a friendly platonic (in their eyes) relationship to develop. Men have a different reaction. Because men have a higher aver…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/15 08:06 PM
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Like many othere's here, I don't think it is an ideal solution to the problem of hypergamy/society engineering, but it is an option. You can criticize the culture, perhaps rightly, but in Europe Muslim minorities are out-breeding the majority ethnicity by a wide margin, sometimes by as much as twice the rate!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/15 04:17 PM
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That's why I first recommend you try something you really enjoy. At a minimum you can have fun doing the activity. Ideally it will be something somewhat physical, and ideally something that will toughen you up a bit and teach you something useful all in one. Martial Arts is my preference, but hiking, dancing, or some sort of sport (even if its causal pick up games) are good options too.
/r/askTRP26/03/15 03:23 PM
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Turquoise Jeep: preaching the evangel of hypergamy since 2011.
/r/TheRedPill25/03/15 05:50 PM
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One of the comments struck a chord with me: It was apparently something that you knew would be a big enough deal to your husband that you didn't want it coming out. That's certainly your right. But it is silly of you to pretend that something you felt that was worth hiding is somehow now insignifant enough for you're husband to divorce you. Has anyone else noticed this thread of cognitive dissonance everywhere? Why is it that almost everyone who says 'the past doesn't matter' use that as a justi…
/r/TheRedPill23/03/15 03:52 PM
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I don't mean this in an insulting way at all. I am genuinely curious from the perspective of a 25 year old man about to hit a bunch of strides himself. Do you find that the women you are able to plate are usually in the epiphany/post wall phase (age 29+), and usually less attractive than they once were? I'm getting more and more interest from this crowd of women as I get older, and can't help but find it somewhat insulting. As an aside, How do you deal with having to have that many banal emotion…
/r/TheRedPill23/03/15 03:38 PM
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You asked a broad question, so here is a broad response from someone who has also dealth with depression. Work out! Start lifting weights or even doing calisthenics at home. Eat healthfully. I have had a lot of success with Paleo/low carb type diets. The first two steps are about maintaining your overall physical health. Exercising and eating healthy will improve every aspect of your physical health, which necessarily has psychological benefits. You want to start teaching yourself to value yours…
/r/askTRP20/03/15 06:31 PM
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Two questions: Isn't opening with a compliment demonstrating low value, essentially qualifying yourself to her? I always lead with something neutral, or even somewhat insulting. Wen you lead with a compliment, even a strangely phrased one such as your example, you're setting the tone as "You (the woman) are valuable to me, and I am indicating my willingness to do things for you for your approval". In what way is this indirect? What plausible deniability does 'you're pretty; coffee date?' provide…
/r/TheRedPill20/03/15 05:42 PM
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Have you ever known a woman for more than a month and come to the conclusion that she was happy? Discontent is the woman's natural state. The nature of hypergamy is that women are always looking for something better, and it eats them to the grave. They're never satisfied more than temporarily. Even with Brad Pit types. A girl with Brad Pit will still find herself fantasizing about Channing Tatum or George Clooney.
/r/askTRP19/03/15 07:03 PM
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Don't forget the ancient tradition of castrating your opponents and slaves so they can't reproduce.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/15 06:48 PM
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My reputation within the group is already awesome. I am definitely on the level with the leaders of the group. That is all well and good. I just don't want to get cock blocked or be found unattractive by association.
/r/askTRP16/03/15 04:18 PM
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I'm obviously not going to lead her on. I guess I'll plan to remain unresponsive and try and give her the hint with my actions (i.e. by flirting with hotter girls).
/r/askTRP16/03/15 04:16 PM
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If I do anything publicly, it will likely have negative effects on my reputation. I don't want to be mean about it.
/r/askTRP16/03/15 04:15 PM
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As a last resort I may need to just pull the girl aside and let her down easy. I'd rather do that than make a scene because of my reputation.
/r/askTRP16/03/15 04:13 PM
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Hmm. Maybe if I just ignore her as best I can, she'll stir up background drama that will benefit me.
/r/askTRP16/03/15 04:12 PM
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My experience is that acting beta for unattractive girls just makes them think they have a chance and makes them more interested.
/r/askTRP16/03/15 04:11 PM
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She shouldn't if she doesn't want to. My experiences dictate that she simply won't care.
/r/askTRP12/03/15 01:03 PM
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This is literally the exact same argument as the fat acceptance movement. Fat people should ‘accept themselves’ as they are. Don’t try and lose weight, that would just be using someone else’s definition of healthy. If the real you accepts yourself, then nothing else matters! Compare that with core Red Pill ideals. We live in a dangerous, competitive world. The world operates on amoral principles. We’re in a zero sum game fighting over limited resources, and the powerful succeed at the expense of…
/r/TheRedPill11/03/15 03:36 PM
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My only contention is with regards to TRP and 'The Cathedral'. The Cathedral implies a sort of centralized, coherent, intentional organization that is responsible for keeping people plugged in. In reality, I believe that people are plugged in due to ignorance, naivety, and unrealistic idealism. I think that Feminists, for example, really do believe that their theories about the way the world works are true, and that their ideas about how to fix these problems will make a batter world. Further, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/15 01:56 PM
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There are two ways to think about this. You can take what she says at face value, and conclude that it is not uncommon for even average girls to have absurdly overinflated self perceptions. Not entirely false. You can also look at the fact that, despite whatever 'issues' or 'shortcomings' she was able to hamster up about you, she let you take her home and bang her, and toss her out in less than 45 minutes. It doesn't matter what she says. When/if she settles down with a beta she will hamster rat…
/r/TheRedPill09/03/15 02:03 PM
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It's not that they can't/don't exist. It's that it is incredibly difficult, and is becoming more so by the day due to cultural changes. I believe that for everyone to be in a long term monogamous relationship, society must be set up to support it. People need to have those types of relationships reinforced legally via appropriate laws regarding marriage, and socially via a socially enforced set of shared cultural norms. Given no fault divorce and a culture that increasingly rewards promiscuity, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/15 09:41 PM
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Wait for her to respond. If she doesn't, give her some shit playfully next time you see her in person and continue. If she does respond eventually, segue immediately into the date. "So how about that drink? <Place> at <time> work?"
/r/askTRP05/03/15 09:16 PM
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You are concerned because she has taken the reins this entire time. She set the time, place, and activity for the last two encounters. Since she's investing the time in with you, I'd say you're doing fine. Your time frame to make a move is NOW, though. What you need to do next is isolate her and escalate physically. See if you can find a good time to initiate the DiCarlo escalation ladder. Ideally you can get her someplace alone after surfing.
/r/askTRP05/03/15 09:04 PM
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When people in TRP say sexual strategy is amoral, what they mean is that the discussion of what works and doesn’t work is neither good nor bad in of itself. If things like flirting with other women, negs, and other things people chastise TRP for work as described, there are no moral implications to the act of presenting this information. Now, people’s individual actions have moral consequences. It could be the case that people who use said tactics are shitty, evil, or whatever else. A similar ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/15 08:36 PM
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You're right! There are at least two fallacies at play. Assuming that Feminism = equality is 'begging the question'. Assuming that, consequently, supporting equality = feminism is a non sequitur. Fun fact, Philosophy is the only subject in the Humanities that is overwhelming male dominated to the same degree as STEM subjects.
/r/TheRedPill04/03/15 09:45 PM
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It's to satisfy their egos. It's the same thing as having a crazy sports car or buying designer shoes. They're saying, "Look, I have that thing other guys are fantasizing about."
/r/askTRP04/03/15 09:21 PM
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I have had problems with authority since pre-school. I didn't want to set still and talk about my feelings during circle time (because I was a fucking normal boy who wanted to run around and fuck shit up). My early run ins with authority kind of set the stage for a skepticism of authority. I kept running into problems with authority figures over things that I didn't rationally think were problems. I ultimately learned that people in authority positions are flawed human beings like everyone else,…
/r/askTRP04/03/15 09:14 PM
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Unplugging oneself is, in fact, the only way to unplug. You cannot unplug someone unwillingly. Much like a recovering drug addict, their success is doomed from the start if they themselves don't want to recover. I'm not married, but check /r/marriedredpill. Specifically, I hear good things about the book Married Man Sex Life.
/r/askTRP04/03/15 08:42 PM
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Yes, it is indeed a common fallacy. It does have a name: The Fallacy of the Undistributed Middle. Technically it's just a subset of Non Sequitur, literally meaning that something 'does not follow' from its premises.
/r/TheRedPill04/03/15 08:31 PM
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Just keep ignoring any mention of another dude. By merely not acknowledging that there are other guys in those pictures, you win the shit tests. If you need to respond to her messages with guys in them, respond about something other than the guy, like her dog or whatever else. In terms of how to keep fucking her, just keep doing what you have been. Invite her to 'hang out' or whatever. Just continue to ignore other guys if you don't care about them.
/r/askTRP02/03/15 07:30 PM
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This is the death of Tinder. Calling it.
/r/askTRP02/03/15 07:04 PM
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I am about your age and have a similar level wealth. First and foremost, understand that 1M isn't as much money as it once was. You could very easily blow it all too fast and fuck yourself. The best thing you can do with wealth is use it to create more wealth. Period. If you don't, have a fucking good financial adviser and get yourself a diversified investment plan. The money you spend from this pot should come out of your interest. Now, there are things you can do that ill boost your attractive…
/r/askTRP01/03/15 11:52 PM
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It's not that men are most attractive at that age at all. It is that the relative attractiveness to women shifts at around 30-35. The idea is that your average girl 18-29 is more attractive than their corresponding male version, but from 30-40 the average man is more attractive than his corresponding female version. Everyone is pretty much ugly by their 60s and 70s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/15 09:20 PM
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Obviously he needs to start by bathing, shaving, and getting some new clothes. He should start working out immediately. All of this is sort of obviious. Some specific things I would advise him to do after he took care of the immediately remidiable shit: Start talking to one girl a day. Doesn't matter how it goes, what you say, or if she even repsonds. Make a habit of this and do it every day. Try different openers: compliment an article of clothing, comment on the weather, comment on some situat…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/15 09:07 PM
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Thoughts on the article? People in the manosphere have been making all of these criticisms for a long time now. I was pretty familiar with many of the cases she brought up just from following TRP. What I think was missing was any sort of counter recommendation. How should schools handle claims of sexual assault? Rape is usually a crime that happens between two people in private. The physical evidence for rape is often identical to the physical evidence for consensual sex. Indeed, two people can …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/15 06:38 PM
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*Au jus.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/15 04:10 PM
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They are de facto heteronormative, but not de jure heteronormative.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/15 04:08 PM
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My step dad found out his ex wife was planning on divorcing him and taking him through the ringer. He sold all of his property to his mom for nothing, and then promptly divorced her ass. You would essentially need to have a third party technically own it and rent it out to you.
/r/askTRP27/02/15 04:05 PM
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'Be confident' is about as useless a piece of advice as is 'just be yourself.' What does that even mean? What actionable points can you take from it? In short, it doesn't specify the specific type of confidence you need. One of my good friends is an expert web developer. He is supremely confident in his ability to build and fix web pages. This has in no way increased his sex appeal. The same is true for my friend who is absurdly good and confident at fighting video games. What people really mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 03:43 PM
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I guess our point of contention is the degree to which we think we are beholden to our instincts. I tend to believe that some instincts can be socially repressed, but some instincts are more difficult to repress than others, and some cannot be repressed at all. The Amygdala (a primitive part of the brain) can regulate signal to the neocortex (frontal lobes, etc. The parts of the brain active during conscious thought), and in some instances can literally 'hijack' your brain away from thinking rat…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/15 03:24 PM
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As someone who smokes weed, drinks booze, and takes other drugs on occasion (psychedelics), the key is moderation. My rule of thumb is that I am never high when I'm doing something important or preparing to do something important.
/r/askTRP25/02/15 09:29 PM
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Read the top three search results for 'dating advice for men' from Google as of 2/25/2015.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 08:53 PM
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A few points. Our instincts evolved over 100,000 years ago (and many of them millions of years before then!). The current trends of the world have no bearing on our current instincts. If I build a computer with Windows 8, bury it for 100,000 years, and power it back on in 102,015 AD, we may not even use Windows as an operating system anymore, but when that machine turns on it will still be running Windows 8. See what I'm saying? Biological differences between the sexes influenced (and continue t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 08:43 PM
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I’ll bite… The current dynamic in the SMP and RMP is complete driven by economics. The SMP is always driven by economics. MP = market place = market = economy. Women are incentivized to remain chaste and to be very selective with their mates. Are they really in this day and age? Besides ‘slut shaming’ (which is perpetuated by women more than men, and has little repercussions anyways), what societal incentives are there to remain chaste and selective? Men receive no incentivizing in either direct…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 07:38 PM
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I'm sorry. It's hard to take this seriously. It just seems dense at best. Is it though? Can you find a non-manosphere source of information that provides dating and attraction advice beyond "Be nice. Do more chores. Don't act entitled!" I am thoroughly convinced that men are taught that being nice and compassionate are sexy traits. No one outside of the manosphere is telling men to be dominant and to embrace their raw masculine ferocity. Here are the top three search results for ‘dating advice f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 07:16 PM
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You notice how everything changed when she impromptu invited you out? Based on your story, that was the moment that you both left your frame and entered hers. She was the one driving the conversation, all the way to the ‘fix my computer’ conversation. From that point forward, she was leading and you followed. That dynamic in of itself killed any attraction she had for you, and immediately put you in beta orbiter land. Why are you fixing her computer for free when everyone else expects to get pai…
/r/askTRP25/02/15 06:14 PM
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The bitching isn't because of the fact that alpha fucks, beta bucks. The bitching is because the fact that this is the case is intentionally withheld from people, and angrily denied when brought up as a question in good faith. Men aren't angry that this is the case, they're angry that they have been duped about these facts and weren't provided with a full copy of the rule book (while being told that they were).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 06:06 PM
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Not only will this NOT garner the respect from women, but they will see your pandering as weak, and they will learn to disrespect you too!
/r/TheRedPill25/02/15 06:01 PM
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I think the point of the other post is that if you are direct you don't give women the opportunity to willfully misinterpret your signals. You're a man and can't leave important shit to chance.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/15 03:07 PM
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Absolutely NOT. Start strength training immediately. Read everything you can about 'game' and practice on every girl that catches your fancy. Start making moves on a promising career. The longer you spend on any of those, the better off you will be, so it also stands to reason that the earlier you start working on them, the better you will be, no?
/r/askTRP24/02/15 09:29 PM
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You don't suppose that many of these women are predators who specifically enter the teaching profession because they are pedophiles, do you? On the flip side, there is a 10-1 ratio of convicted male pedophiles versus females. So if were the case that trends amongst pedophiles have a bearing on how we should view normal relationships (which I strongly disagree with to begin with), then it would still point to men being the sex attracted to younger people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 09:01 PM
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I literally have a better chance of betting half my money on "red" on a roulette table than I have of a woman not divorcing me. Sobering!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/15 08:50 PM
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That book has literally saved my life on several occasions. I cannot recommend it enough for those willing to endure a little philosophy.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/15 10:05 PM
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I'm disappointment that people so easily conflate narcissism with ego. I said this in another comment a while ago, but... Everyone is motivated by their ego. In the Freudian sense, ego just refers to the conscious mind (as opposed to instincts [id] and socialization [superego]). In normal colloquial usage though, it more refers to a sense of self. To do something out of ego is to do something because the self will benefit from it. If you have ever been on enough of a psychedelic drug, you can ex…
/r/TheRedPill23/02/15 09:59 PM
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The idea is that with each successive male a women fucks, she becomes less able to bond closely as easily with the next man. So the higher the partner count, the less stable she is for a LTR all else being equal. If you just want to fuck them, this is not a problem. Who cares if a one night stand can bond deeply with you? If you want to keep her around and start a life together, then it becomes very important.
/r/askTRP23/02/15 09:49 PM
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I am a huge proponent of martial arts as a self improvement vehicle, but these sorts of philosophical lessons are often lost in the modern era of MMA gyms. In traditional Japanese martial arts, what you're referring to is known as 'Budo', war as a life path. In Kung Fu they call it 'Wude'. For all of you MMA douche bags out there (Relax bros... I train MMA and BJJ along traditional martial arts.), at the very least get yourself copies of The Art of War and The Book of Five Rings, which are found…
/r/TheRedPill23/02/15 05:04 PM
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What about people with other birth defects? It may not be PC to say, but they are just people with congenital disorders. If they will never be able to reproduce normally due to birth defects in genitals or other reproductive organs, they are considered intersex, no? That's not really a third sex so much as a catch-all for people with reproductive developmental disabilities. I would go so far as to call them non-sexual. Some people are born with Ectrodactyly (cleft hand), but we don't use those p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/15 07:19 PM
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Here's a better question: Why don't you ever see a hot guy with a string of ugly female orbiters that drive him around, buy him things, and do other errands with him while he complains about the other women in his life? I'm sure they exist, but I have never met one, and there is NO way that they are anywhere near as common as a female with male orbiters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/15 08:27 PM
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I would actually argue that the physical peak for a man is between 25-35, and for women it is really more like 15-25 (though we artificially bump that up to 18 given our legal culture). So Christian Grey is, in addition to being the most rich and powerful man in Seattle, in his physical prime age group. What you're picking up on is the idea that a man's SMV isn't as tightly tied to his age as is a woman's. That doesn't mean that men don't have physical primes like women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/15 07:26 PM
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AMOG literally means 'Alpha Male of the Group'. It's a term carried over from pickup artists, and it essentially boils down to the point that in any group of people, someone is usually the most charismatic and acts as the leader. Let me re-post a comment I made elsewhere about what an 'Alpha Male' is. I have always taken the stance that 'Alpha' is a contextual term, and it refers to the person with the most power in a given situation. Bill Gates would be an Alpha Male in any corporate board room…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/15 07:11 PM
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All TRP men care about what women actually want. They come to TRP to figure that out, and then to become it (or decide that it's not worth the effort). Alpha is a contextual term, not a specific set of behaviors. For example, If you're in a group of nerdy people having an intellectual conversation, the Alpha of that group (AMOG) is the guy who is the smartest and best at that type of conversation. Alpha doesn't merely mean acting like a cave man (although in some situations it could). I would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/15 06:59 PM
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As others said, the emphasis in MILF is on the ILF. In a way, MILF has become synonymous with many other equally meaningless terms, such as 'slut, sexy, hot, etc.' If you go to any porn site that isn't for a specific model or niche, then you see all sorts of terms thrown around which have exactly 0% bearing on what the pictures/videos will contain besides a mostly ambiguous age range. I think these terms become a catchall for 'Sexually available women', and so men search out these terms when the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/15 06:49 PM
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Das Kapital is one of the best overviews of capitalism to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/15 03:13 PM
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That's not exactly what I'm saying. I believe that a huge (the biggest/plurality) part of how other people treat you is a reflection of how you carry yourself and treat others. Granted, people have preconceived notions about geographic locations, sex, race, etc, but these aren't things that you have any control over. I focus on the way I carry myself and the way I treat other people because they are the only things I can control, and even more because I honestly believe that they are more signif…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/15 03:08 PM
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I actually respect her. She was self aware enough to know what she wanted, and she went about finding it in the most efficient way possible circa 2013. She even makes a point to follow what men do, as opposed to what they say. Surprisingly unplugged and de-romanticized look at the courting process.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/15 02:54 PM
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I'm going to go ahead and plug my /TRP post titled 'Oneitus' is An Evolutionary Adaptation to Sexual Failure This is why men with little sexual experience are most prone to oneitus and catching the feelz, and are especially prone after their first sexual experience. In response to a perception of a low number of available mates (low resource availability), it makes sense to encourage heavy investment into any offspring, and in turn the other mate (as a means of indirectly investing in the child)…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/15 06:28 PM
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I don't have any problems with female safe spaces whatsoever. Let them dictate the rules of their own clubs. As far as I care, 100% of female spaces can be 'safe spaces' and police tone and language. What pisses me off, however, is when women invade male or neutral spaces and then demand that everyone starts changing all of their behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 10:04 PM
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Let me quote my favorite person myself: If I bring up some problem, and you advise me that I can fix that problem by changing my behavior, you are implicitly saying that my initial behavior was a significant part of that problem. This applies to 100% of TRP advice. Even the advice that's like, "Man, fuck bitches. Do your own thing for a while." implies that at the very least you are individually responsible for allowing yourself to associate with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 09:47 PM
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Well, those are the only three possible agendas to have when specifically limiting your conversation to heterosexual men and sexual relationships with women. Long term monogamy, serial short term monogamy, or opting out of the relationships all together. They are also all individualized, meaning that they are only applied to an individual on an individual basis. There is no societal agenda.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 09:43 PM
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If I bring up some problem, and you advise me that I can fix that problem by changing my behavior, you are implicitly saying that my initial behavior was a significant part of that problem. This applies to 100% of TRP advice. Even the advice that's like, "Man, fuck bitches. Do your own thing for a while." implies that at the very least you are individually responsible for allowing yourself to associate with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 09:35 PM
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TRP doesn't really have an overall agenda at all, and it is precisely because of its individual focus. TRP is a set of beliefs about how human interactions mechanically function. What each 'believer' does with that information is entirely up to them and their own personal agenda. Some men want to fuck a lot of strange women, others want to improve their LTRs and marriages. Others want to GTOW and avoid pitfalls.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 09:11 PM
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I agree that TRP accepts the notion of female hypo-agency. It would go a long way towards dispelling the 'myth' of female hypo-agency (if it really is a myth), if you could show that a majority of women and women-spaces (that is, places where women congregate to advise each other) gave more empowering advice to women, which means that they would provide action-plans that do not hinge on the acceptance and actions of other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 09:00 PM
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Agreed. Men who fail at relationships are 'at fault' in the same way a broken gear is 'at fault' for a machine breaking down. It's a mechanical issue, not a moral one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 08:53 PM
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I agree that merely bitching and moaning about women is valueless and a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 08:51 PM
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About the only part of your list that is valid is the drama part. For me, this is the only part that I cannot stand. By nature of being in a relationship, you're going to spend your time and money being with them. That's true for my male friends too. Its not a waste if I enjoy myself, though. Like you say, the easy way to fix problems with resource extraction is to just stop doing those things. To that end, if I take a girl out I don't mind the resources it is costing me. What you can never just…
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 07:28 PM
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In reality, AWALT and other TRP stereotypes of women are actually designed to shift blame off of a woman's individual character. The point is, "Don't let their shitty behavior be a total deal breaker. She responded exactly the way she was supposed to to your behavior, so fix your behavior and preconceived ideas about women if you have a problem with it." This is, again, another example of a TRP man taking on that responsibility himself. He is told that AWALT to destroy any illusion that he is go…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 07:06 PM
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[TRP] WANT women to deal with things on their own, the same way TRPers do, and are frustrated when they first find out that women just don't have this same view of their selves (drunk sex for example). (This is why TRP then labels women as 'children' and the misogynistic argument against them is put forth). Bingo! I actually agree with some Feminist criticisms of society, however they always lose me with their proposed solution. It's all about changing the behaviors of other people, while simult…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 06:10 PM
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I think it's more a consumerism thing. Flower, jewelry, chocolate, and greeting card companies have sold us on the idea that our relationships are meaningless unless we commensurate them with various symbolic gifts... that they're happy to sell to you! I think it's just a case of people in general being dumb and easily manipulated. In a way, it's advertising companies manipulating women into manipulating men into buying their companies' functionally useless shit. It is actually kind of a play on…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 05:31 PM
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I actually post here mostly as an outlet to discuss these ideas anonymously. This sub has value to me precisely because talking about this shit in real life is social suicide. I'm an enthusiastic arguer, so I have an almost compulsive need to hash out ideas and test them against other ideas. Better to do it anonymously than have no friends and be labeled evil. As an added bonus, maybe some of my thoughts might help someone understand their life better, or at least understand an opposing view poi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 04:09 PM
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This is just a way of rephrasing the adage that women are the gatekeepers of sex, and that men try and open that gate. Women only have sex with a guy if he has passes all of her fitness tests, whereas for a man to have sex is to pass the test itself. Put another way, a women will have sex with you if you check off all of the boxes on her list, whereas for a man the checklist itself contains the 'have sex' box.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/15 02:19 PM
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I am of the opinion that women are so subtle by nature that once they bring something up directly, it has usually been eating away at them for a while. She probably IS sexually frustrated. In the same vein, if you're getting a slight sense that she's hitting on you, in her mind she's being completely blatant. Its just a consequence of women being more socially sensitive than men. So, unless you really do want to fuck her (meaning that you don't care about her boyfriend, or any other social conse…
/r/askTRP17/02/15 08:22 PM
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It varies. Pornfree and nofap are solutions to people who have masturbation and pornography addictions or impotency. It's like choosing to stay sober because you're an alcoholic. For the vast majority of people, there is no tangible benefit to either. Especially nofap.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/15 03:09 PM
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They're calling it the "Irreversible Breakdown of Marriage" act because it is going to cause the irreversible breakdown of marriage as an institution in the country. Is the irony completely lost on the people who wrote it?
/r/TheRedPill16/02/15 09:59 PM
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No. In my mind, a trans person remains as their biological sex, which I define in terms of their naturally occurring reproductive organs. I have no problems with trans women though, and support their rights to live whatever lives they want. I'm just not interested in banging them. Given the chance, I might bang a pre-op trans man if they were hot, because they have vaginas. Though, I doubt they would appear and behave in a way that is attractive to me (e.g. feminine), and I doubt I would be attr…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/15 06:17 PM
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I have been thinking about the concept of what an ideal woman would be for me. I'm really not into a door mat, and really am attracted to things like intelligence and being cultured. For me, the concept of 'submissiveness' comes into play regarding how a woman structures her though process. Is she thinking about my perspective and how I am going to react at least as much as she is thinking about her own perspective? Mentally, am I a top priority in her life? If those things are the case, there a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/15 08:45 PM
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I am starting to think that in the age of Tinder, OK Cupid, and even the likes of Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, that men are cold approaching less and less. A really forward guy these days will text you or Facebook message you to ask you out. One of the consequences of this may well be that even hot women are less inundated with being cold approached durring the day (in contrast, the club and bar scene still seems like a meat market.) That could make them less suspicious of a day approach, a…
/r/TheRedPill15/02/15 04:22 AM
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Today: Today for Valentine's Day I decided to give this girl, who I will refer to as "K", a basket of flowers and a heart-shaped tin box of Dove candy. Dude! This was all that I needed to read. Why the FUCK are you giving a random girl gifts? You immediately sent the message that she is on a pedestal, and that you were the type who is willing to demean himself for her approval. Gifts should be reserved to reward good behavior. Here's a series of questions to get you thinking: What did those gift…
/r/askTRP15/02/15 03:56 AM
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Not to just re-iterate the generic gym advice, but get fucking HUGE. Like, these guys status. It may even be worth it to consider steroids. Not even joking...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/15 02:28 AM
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Life IS pointless! No one lives on purpose bro. You were forced into existence, and at the same time are forced to accept that your existence is finite. You're going to die, guaranteed. I personally don't believe in superstitions, so this life is it. My advice would be to be selfish. Do as many things that make you happy as you can, and do your best to maintain the minimum standard of living necessary for your own happiness. My advice would be to look into Epicurean hedonism: http://philosophy.l…
/r/askTRP13/02/15 10:38 PM
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I agree. I think that women were advising me on how to get other women to like me as a person, as opposed to how to get them to want to bang me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/15 10:30 PM
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You just got rejected homie. It's over. She was actually pretty cool about it, so you should be thankful. Just send back a quick text saying, "Ok, that's cool." and then soft next. She may text you in a month if some shit changes, so no need to burn bridges unnecessarily. Shes not worth more effort at this time though.
/r/askTRP13/02/15 10:21 PM
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TRP by its very nature is versus women I strongly disagree. It is sexist, but the point of the sexism to to promote togetherness and connections. The entire point of TRP is, 'OK, how do I make these intersexual relationships work?' If it is adversarial, it is only adversarial in the sense that women tend to be most attracted to various forms of male dominance. It can also be adversarial in the sense that many aspects of life really are a zero sum game, and TRP doesn't try to hide this. If I get …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/15 10:08 PM
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There are a lot of tangental things which help you get laid though. Career advice, exercise advice, etc. all help you get laid, without even needing to mention 'getting laid'. I do my best to encourage guys to realize that their problems are with themselves (it's your fault!) It's a lot easier to just give up on self improvement and resign yourself to blaming others though. Hence Feminism and MRAs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/15 09:37 PM
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I personally had an issue in which I was unable to evoke sexual attraction in females, in spite of being able to befriend them without issue. My problem turned out to be that I falsely assumed that men and women were similar in how attraction and sexual desire work. So TRP helped me solve a legitimate issue I had.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/15 09:31 PM
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You set up a false dichotomy in your question. It is possible to be TRP (or TBP I suppose) without it being either the result of psychological baggage or perceived social injustice. For some people, it is merely a matter of practicality.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/15 09:17 PM
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She's simply lying about the only subjects left which aren't perfectly clear. Any ways she can lie to imply less intimacy in her cheating will be fully utilized. She's trying to lessens the perception of how impactful the event was by removing as many of the parts which imply a connection between her and the guy she cheated with. Saying he didn't finish implies that neither of them them were 'really serious' about the event. Here's the kicker: she's doing it to convince herself that she shouldn'…
/r/askTRP13/02/15 09:13 PM
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I think in general men and women can both accomplish the same set of tasks. This is almost a treuism, seeing as how plenty of single men and women have gotten along in life perfectly fine, even with kids in tow. I think the difference is in how they, by default, go about trying to resolve those tasks. In my experience, women tend to try and solve things more socially, while men tend to try to solve problems for themselves. It also strikes me that women seem to have a higher emotional intelligenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/15 09:02 PM
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The only thing you lost here is your own inaccurate view of her. This is the essence of The Red Pill: crushing your false beliefs. She almost did him a favor in a way.
/r/askTRP13/02/15 08:36 PM
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He didnt finish. Oh, he didn't finish? No prob babe that changes everything Here's the question that should be burning in your subconscious: "Am I fucking high?!" Here's what you're really asking: "Did she have a stronger desire to please him than me because she thought he was better than me in some way?" I'll save you some time: YES. Do you feel better now? I'm being overly-hard on you, but I want you to understand how hard you should be being on yourself! And you shouldn't be hard on yourself …
/r/askTRP13/02/15 08:29 PM
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First of all, TRP =/= MRA. I lurk and post on TRP because the advice offered has proven itself in testing time and time again. It's the same reason I love jujutsu, the ketogenic diet, and the Socratic method. When applied properly, they work, and you can measure their effectiveness objectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/15 08:13 PM
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You get called out by the fugly chick that you didn't flirt with, but who saw you flirting with everyone else.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 07:46 PM
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what do you have to gain This should be the first question a man asks before he does anything, every time. Asking this question cuts out 90% of bullshit right away.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 07:44 PM
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How much do you see this in people's native countries? I really have no idea, but this strikes me as a thing more 2nd and 3rd generation immigrants do. I largely suspect that it is seen as a huge ego validation due to the difficulty, and also it is seen as a sort of watershed moment for being accepted as a member of society despite being an ethnic minority.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 07:31 PM
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It's the same thing as when Nice Guy Betas complain the girls don't like nice guys. They're superimposing the word 'nice' over weak, timid, and boring. In this case, 'strong and independent' just means argumentativeness, solipsism, and fickleness.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 05:47 PM
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Yup. Playing a sport in high school: Huge bonus to your social status. You are forced to exercise and get in shape. You are forced to endure hardships and generally become a stronger person. Many sports often have transferable skills, like how wrestling techniques can work in a fight. It forces you to bond and connect with other men your own age. I totally understand why a lot of parents force their kids to play sports.
/r/askTRP13/02/15 05:39 PM
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I'm saying that time is more important than money. My only point here is that there is always a cost to bedding a women. I'm not saying that it is never worth it to spend your time on a women, however. It's just inevitable unless you never want to get laid or have a romantic connection ever again.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 05:36 PM
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My biggest regret from high school was that I never played a sport. Wrestling would have been my choice as it has martial arts applicatioms as well.
/r/askTRP13/02/15 04:24 PM
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I think you're onto something. I'll run a red light, but I have never met a chick who is cool with it.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 03:21 PM
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Sex is always an exchange. There is always an angle. Even if its just a one night stand with a hot guy, a girl is still replicating to her body the experience of obtaining good sperm from an attractive specimen. It doesn't matter that we use birth control now, the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference. Further, if you ever have to game a girl before you have sex with her (which is probably 99% of the time for most men), you're by default expending time and energy, so you're paying for it …
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 03:17 PM
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Life is most certainly not fair. For what it's worth, when asked I advise my female friends away from getting stuck on man-hos too, not that it seems to ever stop them.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 03:08 PM
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You're confusing the 'why' of reproduction with the 'how' of reproduction. The Trobriand Islanders from your article believed that semen dammed up menstrual blood in the women, causing it to form a child. They obviously didn't understand why sex lead to pregnancy and a child. Yet they still understood how to get a women pregnant and have her give birth to a child. I'm not claiming anything outlandish, like ancient humans had great knowledge of biology. I'm claiming that any human animal which is…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/15 03:03 PM
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I don't think this guy should be revered or looked up to in any ways. Was he right? Of course. Anyone familiar with TRP who reads his observations of women won't be surprised at all. His issue is what he chose to do with the information. Women are shallow and are attracted to large men? You can't grow, but you can get muscular. You can dress well. Between the two you should be able to add a solid 1-2 points to your 1-10 rating. White women are not attracted to Asian men? Why not date an Asian wo…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 09:54 PM
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Good sex is necessary but not sufficient to keep a relationship exciting.
/r/askTRP12/02/15 09:19 PM
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You're talking about alpha fucks, beta bucks aka AF;BB. The idea is that you get impregnated by (Alpha Fucks) Chad Thundercock (or whoever else has the best traits that you hope will be passed to your children). If Chad can support you, great! But if Chad is as awesome as he is (why would you be having his child ohterwise?) , then he likely has other options and is unlikely to commit. This is where a (Beta Bucks) Joe Goodenough comes in. You could cuckold Joe and convince him that Chad's baby is…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/15 09:15 PM
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If you're at the point where you have a clothes budget, but its small, you'd probably have better luck at Marshalls or TJMaxx. They buy unsold stuff from department stores like Macys after new collections come out and re-sell them at a huge discount. There are plenty of shirts and pants to choose from in a variety of sizes (that you can actually try on; good luck returning that pair of pants that doesn't fit to China). Items are usually between $10-$30 per thing you get. You could easily get eno…
/r/askTRP12/02/15 07:57 PM
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He's not talking about not closing with girls. He's talking about why sometimes it takes one night, and other times it takes multiple dates. In both situations, the girl was DTF, it just took her longer to hamster the right moment. I will say that if you are awesome enough, that can be enough to spin the hamster into overdrive, but there is definitely something to be said about girls holding off because they don't want to be seen as a slut. If you've ever known a slut, they are fiercely defensiv…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 07:48 PM
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I believe that the correct strategy for you here is referred to in some circles as 'FDB'.
/r/askTRP12/02/15 07:33 PM
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As referenced in my story, I did not fuck said women. So I would not as a baseline, or if I did it would be in spite of my feelings. I have, however, forced myself to become desensitized to the issue out of necessity. Non-religous women who aren't promiscuous (I will arbitrarily call this at 3-4 partners or less, all within the context of a relationship) are nonexistent where I live (big Northeast US city). Marriage and raising a family have become untenable (this I DO believe is for social reas…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/15 07:21 PM
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Just because a feeling isn't conscious doesn't mean that it is without purpose. It is perfectly possible to deduce the purpose of an unconscious behavior. If you pick up a hot pan, you'll drop it before you have a chance to think, "Man, this pan sure is hot. Better put it down." Yet, retrospectively, we can look back and see that the reason you dropped the pan was because it was too fucking hot. I actually remember the first time I was aware that I was repulsed by a promiscuous women (remember t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/15 07:03 PM
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I can talk about it both ways, we just have to specify which type of attraction we're talking about. In my experience, a one night stand is more akin to masturbation, and so it would make sense for it to be a relatively emotionless endeavor.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 06:48 PM
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Did you read your own article? Basically, since the beginning. While anthropologists and evolutionary biologists can’t be precise, all available evidence suggests that humans have understood that there is some relationship between copulation and childbirth since Homo sapiens first exhibited greater cognitive development, sometime between the emergence of our species 200,000 years ago... Also, don't forget that a majority of the impulses and drives you have on an instinctual level are unconscious…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/15 06:36 PM
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That's the blue pill! That's the default method prescribed by society. Starting with "I feel" poems in pre-school, and maintained through the entire rest of your life via mandatory seminars, the relationship coaching industry, and especially pop culture. 50 Shades of Gray and Twilight are both stories where a girl gets her stoic bad-ass billionaire boyfriend to open up. In practice, I have been let down by every women I have tried to be emotionally open with. They always push, push, push for you…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/15 06:29 PM
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Humans have only been aware that these two things are even related for a very short Are you serious?! Maybe animal species that aren't sentient wouldn't be able to figure it out, but this is one of the oldest and simplest causal relationships we have as a species. You don't think anyone ever realized that women who don't have sex don't have children? I'm sure they didn't understand the biology behind reproduction, but I'm pretty sure it's never been a mystery that fucking is an essential compone…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/15 06:08 PM
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There's no line. It's a gradient scale. 0 is better than 1, which is better than 2, etc. There are no rules regarding lines. That's kind of silly. Rather, be aware of the concept that a higher n count (I would also include emotionally intimate intersexual relationships, even if there is no sex happening) correlates with increased likelihood of a weaker pair bond between you two. There are no guarantees. Some virgin brides have cheated on their husbands, and some reformed sluts have remained loya…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 04:54 PM
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The male aversion to promiscuous women? I would say so. For one, there is the question of paternity certainty. In lots of species, it is common for males to consume or kill the offspring of other males, especially after power shifts. Females counter by sleeping around a lot, hopefully instilling the thought in powerful males that the child might be theirs. Mate guarding is a very common tactic across species. These are the roots of the emotional aspect in my opinion. There is also a distinction …
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 04:51 PM
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I'm surprised no one has mentioned this, but aversion to a promiscuous women is a natural and beneficial thing. Your ancestors who didn't get cuckolded had those instincts! So, step one is to stop feeling bad about something that is innate and normal. The next step to realize is that a woman having a promiscuous past only makes her more likely to leave you over less serious issues. It dilutes her ability to pair bond. So, if you go out with the intentions of only fucking a girl, then you can saf…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/15 08:03 PM
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TRP holds that, all else being equal, a slutty women is almost always less stable than a non-slutty women. If it doesn't bother you that they are more likely to drop the relationship for whatever reason they feel like, then go for it. Just understand what you're getting into first.
/r/askTRP11/02/15 07:13 PM
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Every young child is taught the golden rule: "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." Even as a little shit, my automatic response was, "So, if someone else treats me poorly, they are in turn inviting me to treat them as such?" The point is that it goes both ways.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/15 06:40 PM
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Every young child is taught the golden rule: "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." Even as a little shit, my automatic repsonse was, "So, if someone else treats me poorly, they are in turn inviting me to treat them as such?" The point is that it goes both ways.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/15 06:40 PM
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Have you ever spaced out only to realize 30 seconds later you're staring at some girls ass or tits? You didn't even do it on purpose. Your Amygdala took over and you did shit without even thinking of it. Women have their own versions: shit testing, smiling more... usually either some form of making herself seem available and some form of testing her prospect for suitability. They are probably capable of realizing what they're doing in a generalized way (like you can realize after the fact that y…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/15 06:08 PM
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The concept doesn't change. Men and women alike need to recognize what a huge sacrifice it is for a man to get married. Are you willing to give up your hobbies, free time, money, and the freedom to do whatever the fuck you want, whenever the fuck you want?
/r/TheRedPill11/02/15 05:59 PM
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The extent to which girls do this coupled with the extent to which girls deny that they do this leads me to believe that in part they often don't even consciously realize that they're doing it.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/15 05:54 PM
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It will get a girl interested in pursuing you as a beta bucks, but you have to account for whether or not that is the stated goal of a person. I think most TRP people would agree that getting a middle aged women to marry you is a relatively easy task if you're above 25 and making a good living, and you set the bar low for the quality of your prospective pool. The issues are the type of girl this strategy is going to filter for, and the type or relationship you're setting the frame for. A 'I am y…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/15 05:48 PM
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A lot of the advice on TRP is specifically designed to make women really mad. For one, it creates an opportunity for you to be unwavering in the face of adversity. Extreme emotional interactions can also translate into sexual tension. Its really just the old makeup sex trope. On another note, in situations where one is not interested in a long term commitment, it often doesn't matter much to have the other person not like you. People have sex with people they don't like all of the time. They jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/15 05:50 AM
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I'm not sure this holds true a lot of the time. The most useful advice I have taken from TRP has been a lot of the more controversial stuff. I spent years exercising, dressing well, being sociable, and I had great success... in terms of friendships only. I was very confused for years, because I could befriend almost anyone, but girls never seemed to desire me sexually. In fact, there were people who were, I thought, physically uglier than me who had exponentially more success than I did. The day…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 07:47 PM
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Sluts aren't bad per se, it is just necessary to understand what they are and how they are likely to behave. Whatever you do with that information is up to you. My question to you is: why are you investing in something that is inherently fickle? Would you build a foundation on quicksand? Even if you believe in free love, what is your incentive to invest? The idea is that, if you have reasons to invest in a women, why invest in someone fickle instead of selecting for someone more stable?
/r/askTRP09/02/15 06:03 PM
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Your bible: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004XIZN5M/ref=cm_sw_su_dp Start from the beginning!!! The exercises are puny at first, but by starting soft and steadily progressing up, you are allowing your tendons, joints, nerves, and ligaments to adapt along with your muscles, which will help prevent injuries.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/15 10:02 PM
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The back of your calves should be touching the back of your thighs for a squat.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/15 09:55 PM
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This! This is EXTREMELY common, and the consequence is the same: you spend your resources raising some other asshole's spawn. In a perverted sense, it's voluntary cuckolding.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/15 09:45 PM
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Oneitis is NOT OK in an LTR or otherwise. What you need to do is maintain an abundance mentality, and always be prepared to leave if you are at all unhappy. The combination of the above mentalities should put things into perspective. You LTR a girl because your life is better for her being in it. Consequently you keep evaluating the relationship in terms of whether or not it still makes sense from your perspective. Finally, keep mentally prepared for the relationship to end for any reason. It mo…
/r/askTRP02/02/15 09:33 PM
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A few points: Everyone is motivated by their ego. In the Freudian sense, ego just refers to the conscious mind (as opposed to instincts [id] and socialization [superego]). In normal colloquial usage though, it more refers to a sense of self. To do something out of ego is to do something because the self will benefit from it. So every time you eat to not be hungry, sleep to not feel tired, or do anything to either elicit a good feeling or suppress a bad feeling, you are acting out of ego. Even if…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/15 08:28 PM
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Your mistake was not staying calm. By staying calm and casually deflecting her concerns, you show her in your actions that they are not something to be afraid about. On the flip side, if you act emotional and flippantly denounce her claims, it strikes a chord with her preconceived fears and exacerbates them. On another note, she sounds like one of the extra crazy ones. Just let the relationship go and be cool. Don't act awkward when you see her, even if she does. After the excitement of the brea…
/r/askTRP01/02/15 07:56 PM
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You're making a false dichotomy. A shit test is better called a fitness test. It is when a woman throws you something unexpected or challenging to test your ability to pick up on subtleties, handle stress, stand up for yourself, or whatever else. Sometimes they will even test your ability to be comforting, but it isn't often talked about because that sort of tests comes much later in the relationship than the pickup period, which is what most field reports focus on. They will test various traits…
/r/askTRP01/02/15 07:49 PM
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So "sexual strategy is amoral" is only true for the facts of a situation, but not for practical application, because as soon as someone makes a decision based upon that information they're making a moral judgement. Is that the sort of thing you're suggesting? I can see that use of the phrase - but I've definitely seen it used for the application of strategy as well (that is, going beyond the facts and into behaviour). I gather, though, that you would disagree the phrase applies in these circumst…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/15 05:01 AM
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It is two types. Moral nihilism is one reason. People have emotions, and these feelings form the basis of personal moral beliefs, but ultimately have no objective value. Essentially, all moral claims are emotional opinions with as much credence as preferring rock music over hip hop. It is also merely information. The information is presented because it is believed to be the truth, and it is useful to know the truth. The amoral aspect refers to the fact that our moral view points are unable to in…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/15 06:42 AM
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The only problem I have with prostitution is that it does nothing to satisfy my ego. If I want to cum, I can jack off by myself for less time and money than any prostitute. What a prostitute can never give me is the sense that she is awe-stricken by me because I am awesome.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/15 06:01 AM
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You don't suppose women were attracted to him because he was a wealthy former NFL player, as opposed to because he did a few nice gestures, do you? My pet thoery of how sexual attraction in women works (beyond the physical aspect, which is substantial), is that it is predicated on the pursuer being able to elicit an extremely intense and wide variety of emotional states in the the person they want to attract. Dave Megget undoubtedly mixed his dramatic romantic gestures up with cold shoulders, co…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/15 05:09 AM
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To not see someone's obvious shittiness takes a lot of self deception. Usually there is willful self deception; "He's a great guy deep down, he only condescends and ignores me because he cares." Why aren't people able to self delude themselves for over-nice guys in a similar way? There is something inherently attractive about a man who doesn't care about the wellbeing of others. It's interpreted as being 'confident' and 'passionate', when it's just plain disrespect.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/15 09:25 PM
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The thing is that it's not necessary surprising that being nice in of itself isn't enough to be attractive. It's that people who are obnoxious assholes (the type that everyone loves to denounce and claim aren't attractive) seem to be of above average attractiveness relative to thier looks, wealth, grooming habits etc. To be short, guys complaining about being nice are not arguing that they are owed sex out of vagina machines for inserting common courtesy coins. It's that there are so many people…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/15 06:27 PM
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Ego is a sense of personal identity. So, Narcissism would be the state of obsession with said identity. The word stems from the green name Narkissos. There is a Greek myth about a guy with that name who was so obsessed with himself, that he drowned while staring at his own reflection in a pool of water.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/15 08:26 PM
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I don't characterize his problem as ego. His problem is the opposite. He doesn't have enough ego. It is too fragile. Confidence, having passions, and having self respect are ALL derived from a healthy ego. If you kill your ego, as many advise, you'll be as sexually successful as a Buddhist monk.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/15 08:18 PM
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The two most common reasons are: She wants commitment and you won't give it to her. She found someone she likes better than you.
/r/askTRP28/01/15 03:56 PM
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If you're in a relationship, you need to accept the fact that your partner could dump or cheat on you all of the sudden anytime. The chances can be mitigated, but the risk remains. This means that if you LTR a girl, it's because she adds some value to your life (Beyond sex; this is an LTR). Loyalty isn't a trait that makes a girl attractive, it's a prerequisite for an LTR. The second that loyalty dies, the second she no longer makes the prerequisite, and the second she no longer finds herself in…
/r/TheRedPill28/01/15 04:31 AM
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Ive tried very hard to stay away from the PUA stuff because God forbid any of that stuff worked for me, I would absolutely lose my respect for women. This is your problem. You're looking at romance from an idealized standpoint, and operating in real life as if your fantasy were viable. You need to accept a few things immediately: You cannot choose the things that women find attractive. You cannot negotiate desire if it is not there. Women think and perceive the world differently from men. Women …
/r/askTRP28/01/15 04:04 AM
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I'm usually the first to say 'next', but if a girl has a medical problem, it's not an issue to me. Whats import regarding frame in a relationship is the raw desire of the girl to please you. If a girl breaks her hip and as a result you can't fuck for a while, does that mean she doesn't view you as sexy and awesome? Of course not. A girl won't respect you if you stick around in a relationship where she doesn't want to fuck you, but she won't disrespect you for chilling while she heals. Of course,…
/r/askTRP27/01/15 02:15 PM
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If she's worth giving a shot, give her a couple months to start improving. If she doesn't improve, you need to next her.
/r/askTRP27/01/15 03:49 AM
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Per Hypergamy, to keep a 9/10 you must be a 10/10. Thanks to instant validation culture, it's more and more like: to keep a 7/10 you must be an 11/10.
/r/TheRedPill26/01/15 08:32 PM
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You have to let it slide for yourself and re-enter the original frame. If damage was done to relationships, it was done. Holding onto the mistake in actuality establishes a new frame of self consciousness, which is the worst thing you can do.
/r/askTRP23/01/15 10:13 PM
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Again, what is this 'true self'?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 10:10 PM
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Believe it or not, I don't take TRP as dogma. Like a technique I learn in martial arts, I then go and try and make it work in different situations and against different opponents. A lot of the time, a technique I was taught doesn't work. Other times, they work brilliantly and get added to the stock repertoire. I am sparring with my ideas to weed out those that are ineffective.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 10:09 PM
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I would say that I keep a girl as arm candy to impress myself, not other men.
/r/TheRedPill23/01/15 10:05 PM
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If you value being valued by others, then you must represent what they value. All in the game, yo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 09:40 PM
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But that doesn't address any of the fundamental problems with men! If only there were some way to simultaneously increase male incentives to work productively, while simultaneously decreasing their incentives towards destructive behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 09:29 PM
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You're right, all of those affect men. Do you suppose we should restrict men in some ways as a result? Probably. What would be the best way to restrict men? Seeing as how men are primarily motivated by sex, maybe we should use that. I know, why don't we assign every man a wife to keep him in check? Congratulations, you just figured out why Patriarchy was invented.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 06:06 PM
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i think the reality is a certain number of women will love you for who you are (for some people that's not a big number). but unless you are super attractive or famous, if you obsessed with getting lots of women you have to invest your energy into hooking women through games/tricks/manipulation. I completely agree. however, even if you get good at that, that's no way to find someone that really likes you. that's one of the reasons why red pill is a joke to me (the whole hating on what you are ob…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 05:59 PM
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Noticing that a place dedicated to improving in a particular area is comprised mostly of people who struggle in that area is surprising to you? The difference between TRP and other places is that, in addition to the complaining (and a complaint is really just indication of a problem, no?), there are fucking volumes on what you can do about it. Compare that with, say, fat acceptance movements. They complain about a problem, but offer no tangible solutions to the complainers. Like most pitiful mov…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 05:41 PM
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I would argue that, for that reason, it is necessary to hide your efforts. That, or be the type of person who naturally really just does 'get it' (AKA be born lucky?). There's actually somewhat of a divide in TRP on the subject. Some guys say, "Fuck this. That's too much work for the reward." They'll usually end up on the MGTOW spectrum, most likely forgoing LTRs and only having casual sex if it can be had for reasonable effort. That's where I identify, actually. The others, PUA types, argue tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 05:17 PM
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The concepts are kind of loaded. In my experience, most women want someone who will provide them with positive and exciting emotions. Most important is that the ability of the man to provide said emotions needs to be natural (the guy just 'gets it'), which is to say they seem to become disinterested and disgruntled when they have to explain the behaviors that they want. This goes back to my point about the fact that logical pursuits pull people out of their emotional states. The idea of a captai…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 05:05 PM
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Nothing is wrong with it, because objective morality doesn't exist. It may have undesirable social consequences depending upon who you tell, including sex partners. Be warned that it is interpreted as submissiveness, and that over-submissiveness in a relationship can kill it from the inside out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 04:50 PM
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Previously: Women are essentially the same as men, but with different socialization. They care capable of overcoming animalistic/primitive aspects of their nature. Now: Women and Men are fundamentally different in many important ways, such as neural network configurations, hormone levels, and reproductive processes. They can usually perform similar tasks, but often go about completing them in different ways. All humans are animals, like it or not, and no one (including Women) can be reasonably e…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 04:47 PM
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I have met plenty of intellectual women. I have not denied that they exist at all. I am saying that talking about intellectual topics is antithetical to romantic attraction. The same kinds of conversations that have made me many friends of all sexes, races, etc. Sex and romance are ultimately emotional endeavors, and so it makes sense that intellectual topics would be problematic, as they draw people out of emotional states. No misogyny required this time! ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 04:43 PM
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There were infinite degrees of gray between 'systems'. I didn't just all up and change everything at once. I try things, gauge reactions, calibrate them, try them again, etc. I'm still calibrating (always be calibrating!). This was merely the first 'system' I consciously devised. It was largely based on chivalric codes of Knights and Samurai, as I always respected them as a child. My top post represents where I am at now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 04:38 PM
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Bingo! It's not even a matter of disagreements; same results apply when I completely agree with someone. The kind of conversation just doesn't press the right buttons for sex/romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 04:34 PM
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Not anymore I don't. They're the only things that have ever interested me. I have never cared about sports, TV, movies, pop culture, celebrities, friend circle drama. What is interesting to me is that talking about what amounts to decisive issues can be hit or miss in some ways. You quickly find people who share a passion for those things, and I have made a ton of great friends that way. Even so, it seems antithetical to romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 04:27 PM
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Absolutely. First Edition System: Always be honest; never lie or obfuscate. Always be direct; never manipulate (all forms of indirect communication are essentially manipulative; I'm going to do x so that you think y. Indirectness also implies an intention to conceal motivations, as it leaves many variables unknown). Be forthcoming about intentions. Let others know how much you value them. Provide value through self-sacrifice. Take what people say about themselves and their preferences at their w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/15 03:58 PM
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They were all foreign concepts, or concepts that I thought were ridiculous, until I understood the reasons why they are often successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/15 10:45 PM
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I intentionally avoid it. It's not so much that the women I have met don't care about those subjects, it's that talking about them has been contrary to romantic/sexual success. If the women is just a friend or if I'm not interested in her, I will talk about them. If the women in question has something interesting to say about the topic, then I respect her more.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/15 10:44 PM
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Things I would do anyways: Work out and eat healthy. Career development. Martial Arts training. Investing Things I only do when I am going after a girl: Be mildly insulting/behave as though I feel completely superior. Intentionally dodge questions and keep quiet about mundane life details for the sole purpose of appearing more mysterious/exciting. Severely under-express negative emotions. Force (on myself) non-judgement about past sexual and romantic encounters. Refrain from discussion of: Polit…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/15 04:23 PM
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I'm really trying to understand here, but I don't see the point you are trying to make. My overall point is that awkward staring is a way women are treated, that men are not. That is unfair and a form of treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 12:09 AM
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Shit testing is perhaps better referred to as fitness testing. A women shit tests you when she is sizing you up. She wants to make sure you're mentally strong. Stronger than her and your competition, specifically. Does she do anything that tests your value as a mate? If she doesn't, a few things could be at play: You're so attractive to her that the tests are satisfied in advance. She has low self-esteem, and is happy that anyone is into her. Men don't often hit on her (see 2.) The shit tests ar…
/r/askTRP16/01/15 09:49 PM
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I take 'unfair' to mean a situation in which there is inequality regarding the factors of said situation amongst participants in said situation. So, unfairness would be person x being born into a wealthier family than person y, or the rules of some thing being different for people depending upon some variable trait amongst people. Examples of unfair situations: A game of soccer/football where people with black hair score two points for a goal, and everyone else score one. A country where people …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 09:19 PM
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Sure. I just don't see a feminist position on men leaving romance as anything other than 'so what?'. The thing is, MGTOW who eschew all romance are, on average, unattractive men, and women (and consequently Feminists, whom I essentially define as people who support Female-primacy and Women's interests) as a whole just don't care about unattractive men or what they do. For feminists to take notice, it would need to be a larger percentage of the male population. Maybe in 50 years it will be a mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 09:03 PM
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I hate to break it to you bro, but if women weren't paying any attention to you before this, they aren't going to care or even notice that you're off the market. As a lot of other heavy hitters have said, it's kind of weird to ask women how they feel about you disavowing romance. You're essentially asking, "I am putting myself in a position where I have removed the reasons for you to have an opinion of me, what's your opinion of that?" It sounds an awful lot like you're just looking for some sor…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:37 PM
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I'm not sure what you're missing. It's realllly simple. Is English a second language for you? I am saying that when your average women goes out into public, men who are also strangers stare at them wherever they go. This causes them great anxiety. Women find themselves asking: What do these men want? Why are they staring at me? Are they dangerous? On the other hand, when your average man goes out into public, he is almost never stared at. Maybe one out of 1000 times a man goes out into public, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:26 PM
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It's not about him being a role model, it's about knowing the competition.
/r/TheRedPill16/01/15 03:35 PM
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I would argue all leftists are in favor of equality of opportunity. However, aren't they all for some form of outcome redistribution?
/r/TheRedPill16/01/15 03:32 PM
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I'm not sure where you got any of that from what I said. There are DT men out there, they are very sexy, and they will fuck your girl if they have the chance. Don't blame me when your wife gets bored (because they stopped airing reruns of Sex and the City) and your relationship dies because the tingles are gone.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/15 10:09 PM
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Yes. I get hit on by gay men on occasion, and have even has some experiences where gay superiors in work have hit on me inappropriately, etc. I have been groped in public by women several times as well. The difference is that gay men make up <5% of the population at most, so its not a constant annoyance, and I am confident that I can defend myself against any women if need be.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/15 09:46 PM
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This is really funny! I just berated a guy in askTRP for acting like a child in terms of investing too much time and energy into a women who clearly wasn't into him. He was planning out the most pathetic 'scheme' to try and win her over, and needed some medicine. Maturity (the real kind) itself is essentially being selective with where you invest your time and energy, taking care to invest when necessary and scale it back when not. So how do these shaming idiots get around this fact? They litera…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/15 08:27 PM
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Women are a lot more sensitive to social cues then men. In fact, testosterone actively inhibits ability in that facet. So, I agree with other guys who have posted that you're coming on too strong. As a rule of thumb, anything you think is subtle to a girl is obvious to her, and everything you think is obvious is over the top. You also need to understand that any effort you put into engaging a girl is (correctly) seen by her as a minor form of you investing in her. If a girl notices you investing…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/15 07:08 PM
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You're not in love, you're in lust, and you're obsessed with a false idealization of this women. You don't see her flaws, but they're there. I promise. There is nothing you have done together that warrants the extremity of your feelings for her. You hope that she might be a unicorn, and you're in love with the idea of a unicorn. Thus, you project this shit onto her and think you're in love. You're not, you're thinking like a child. For one, does a marriage worthy girl, while in a committed relat…
/r/askTRP15/01/15 07:00 PM
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Nothing to learn here? Even if you won't pull dark triad shit to get women, know that these are the men you're competing with. Know that no amount of politically correct, 'alpha' displays of 'positive masculinity' will ever get the ginas tingling as much a man blatantly willing to disregard and disrespect everyone and everything except for himself in order to meet his own goals.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/15 06:48 PM
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You can, but it would take more overall effort than finding a new plate. Why would you want to spend more of your energy on a girl already trained to treat you like a bitch, instead of less effort on a new start? You need to loose the mind set that any one of these bitches is special (and consequently deserving of above-average effort). You just sound needy here.
/r/askTRP15/01/15 06:41 PM
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For one, is the younger girl significantly more attractive than the girl she replaced? How much younger? That could explain a lot of it. Second, it sounds like you are projecting some idealizations onto this new girl. By making you work harder, she's implying that, at the very least, there isn't a similar disparity in value between you two (as opposed to the girl before). Her Girl Game is stronger, and something that is difficult to get is often more satisfying than something with better feature…
/r/askTRP15/01/15 05:15 PM
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It all boils down to the fact that for the far left, fairness is judged in terms of outcome, not opportunity. It's especially insulting to women and other 'victimized' groups. They're essentially being told that they aren't good enough, and cannot be through their own merits.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/15 04:01 PM
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The argument is that men don't experience this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/15 02:21 PM
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The idea is that men project their innate insecurities onto an ideal version of their women, and fall in love with that ideal. The innate insecurity in men is fear of losing the competitions of life (for food and reproduction). They innately understand that their worth to society (and especially women) is entirely conditional. It is dependent upon them performing adequately or better in various ways. In turn, men idealize a state of being that isn’t dependent upon their performance. A fantasy wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/15 04:46 AM
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The male gaze is real. The bluest, most feminist, culturally inclusive, social justice minded straight men ALL find themselves starring at women sometimes. It happens to guys all of the time; you're standing there minding your own business and you zone out for as little as a few seconds, only to realize you've been staring directly at some girls yoga pants ass or cleavage. When I am out with attractive women, men leer at them like cave men. I'm not really sure what can be done about this, as att…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/15 04:24 AM
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Not just intracity segregation, but intercity as well. Probably even worse. Very true, I tried to encapsulate that idea by saying 'neighborhoods'. I live in one of the wealthiest, most liberal cities in the USA (one of the top 10 financial centers in the world), and there is HUGE class variation neighborhood to neighborhood. You can see and experience the change from place to place, but they are only technically confined by street names. There are of course racial ghettos (even very wealthy ghet…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/15 03:57 PM
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I can't think of a single man I know who consciously has anything against dating a woman from another socioeconomic class. I have some speculations as to what some of the forces causing this would be: Proximity: The vast majority of the people you meet are going to be from a similar socioeconomic background as yourself. Consider that the average costs of living in a certain area will attract people who can afford it, and will push away people above or below the related income bracket. The same c…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/15 08:52 PM
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Have you considered switching to body-weight strength training? Any exercise done in a gym can be done via calisthenics. There's a LOT to be said from working out with body weight, as bio-mechanically it is what we are built for. If you don't think you can get a good enough work out from this type of exercise, take four bricks and pile them on top of each other (or any stable surface ~9 inches off of the ground), then use that pile of bricks as the base for one of your hands while doing pushups.…
/r/askTRP13/01/15 06:41 PM
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If you're training BJJ right, you'll get an amazing cardio workout doing it. I would urge you to train BJJ on non lifting days, and to take at least 1-2 days a week off from both of them. Example: Monday : Lift Tudesday: BJJ Wednesday: Lift Thursday: BJJ Friday: Lift Saturday: Rest Sunday: Rest With this level of physical activity, you should make note to get a good night of sleep Monday-Friday. 8 hours is good.
/r/askTRP13/01/15 06:25 PM
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that's not how it's worded by the rules of english grammar, 'their' modifies red pill and group. and it says red pill is a group, not men as a group. He's talking about the Red Pill being a group of men who, having realized that many social structures have directly and indirectly changed to their disfavor, are finding strategies to make the best of their situations. Remember, this is a thread about the direction of the sub, not a definition of what it is. That would be from the Introduction, whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/15 06:16 PM
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The mistake everyone is going to make is to assume that a TRP society entails some fascist state to force people to do certain things. TRP is a mindset, or a set of social theories, not a dogmatic set of iron rules that the state is going to make everyone follow. The world 'swallowing the red pill" would be similar in logical structure as to having a society change its beliefs about human psychology from pure Freudian psychology to a model based on Neuroscience--or from believing in Newtonian ph…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/15 05:48 PM
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"red pill is a group of like-minded individuals who have a common desire to seek out truth and understanding in a culture that is operating against their best interests." This is referring to men as a group (men being the group that culture is operating against) , and they are referring to a perceived loss of positive masculine roles for men, and a society that is based on catering to the lowest common denominators of human motivation at the expense of purposeful paths in life. is the above the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/15 05:16 PM
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I am saying that you should not be commiteded to such a women. If you're not committed to such a women, then you don't have a problem. On the other hand, if you are committed to such a woman then you do have a problem. You're confusing the way I choose to phrase the problem for a solution of some sort.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/15 12:23 PM
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Its funny you mentioned this. I have been long thinking about mentorship programs, as I know the next generation needs healthy, strong, male figures more than ever. I am also a bit cynical about 'charities'. I know that many of them are poorly run, waste donated money, and funnel donations into fat salaries for their executives. How is BBBS from the standpoint of being a well run/good charity? Also, what happens after a year is up? Do you just not see the child anymore? That would seem almost...…
/r/TheRedPill12/01/15 09:39 PM
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I tend to view sex roles as they related to reproduction. So being feminine is about having skills to identify a worthy father for their future children, having the skills and innate physicality to attract said man, and finally having skills related to raising that child and keeping that man around to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/15 07:22 PM
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Women doll themselves up to be prettier than other women. The goal is to be pretty (and friendly, successful, intelligent, etc.) enough to be considered (by other women in the same circles) as a part of the in crowd. Further, there is in-crowd fighting over status of the top female. All of the competition takes place between women, but attractiveness to men is a big portion of the sociopolitical capital being competed over. So, even though a women is dressing up to compete with other women, they…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/15 07:00 PM
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From my perspective, the majority of both sexes end up disappointed. Increasingly so. The men I know (~age 25-30, prime marital years at one point) either can't get any romantic or sexual interest from women of remotely similar levels of attractiveness, end up in frustrating passionless marriages (usually to older women with promiscuous pasts, single moms, and the obese), or mindlessly fuck their way through soulless flings with shallow women (mostly my friends who happen to be tall and handsome…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/15 06:30 PM
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The confusion probably stems from the 'or'. The problem rephrased: "I am committed to a woman who doesn't care about my needs.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/15 05:50 PM
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The idea is that people not getting married are eschewing a social norm that has existed in various forms for millennia. This indicates changes in market forces regarding marriage. Specifically, you would expect to see people buck a fundamental social norm when following that norm becomes more problematic (meaning there are less incentives and more disincentives). Following that, you would expect the people who continue to follow the social norm to be people who have some other reason to pursue …
/r/TheRedPill10/01/15 10:47 AM
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Isn't it amazing how fucking whacked people are these days? Shame on you for making your children into active, healthy people!
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 10:48 PM
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Do other parents/educators ever give you shit for your methods?
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 10:30 PM
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You can always redefine the problem such that you have less responsabilty over things. But that isn't being a man nor a way to live happily. I don't think framing your decision to stay with a person as being contingent on them meeting your needs as forgoing responsibility at all. It's putting yourself first. It is just the equivalent of the drunken captain drinking more and firing everyone who doesn't bring him more rum. Sure, the captain can do that, but that isn't acting like a captain. The di…
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 10:19 PM
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In general yes, but not when it comes to population level views on unattractive members of the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/15 10:04 PM
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As marriage rates decline, you would also expect to see the people getting married more dedicated to the concept. Usually religious conservative types who don't believe in divorce.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 09:40 PM
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Sure, but the stats are selection biased. The people getting married these days are largely religious conservatives who don't believe in premarital sex or divorce.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 09:36 PM
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I agree, however I would argue that self improvement is an ongoing process you should be engaged in regardless of the women in your life. In a way, tying self improvement to one individual woman is just another example of pedestrianization, oneitis, and putting the locus of your motivation outside of yourself.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 09:09 PM
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I have found that women with low self esteem hate men who are interested in them. Its almost as if their subconscious is telling them, "This guy is hitting on you? What a fucking loser!"
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 08:26 PM
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Couldn't you just as easily redefine the problem as, "I am committed to a woman who doesn't care about or otherwise suit my needs"? In this sense, you regain power over the problem because you are the one in control of the fact that you're actively committing to her. As such, you are free to leave the relationship if it doesn't meet your needs.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 04:28 PM
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The bottom line is that you will never really know what her sexual past was like. No ammount of confronting her, 'talking about it', etc. will ever solve that, and you will never feel like you finally have the answers you're looking for. There's essentially little reason to bring it up, as, like you said, it can only harm the relationship. On your own, you need to decide for yourself if you're OK with her past, and specifically with not knowing about all of it. If you ultimately don't care, then…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/15 09:22 PM
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If I could change one thing about my college experience, it would be to have joined a fraternity. The important thing is that each fraternity is very different. This is mostly a factor of the dudes currently active, but it also follows from the mission statements. I would shop around and find one that suits your personality. Some of them are more academically inclined, but they all usually have mixers with sororities and other frats for social opportunities.
/r/askTRP07/01/15 10:23 PM
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I'm a naturally empathetic and helpful person. It's s cold fact of reality that most people aren't. It's often hard for me to be as dominant as I logically know I must, but here's a trick that helps me put shit into perspective. I only emotionally invest in women who make it a priority to A. learn the things that make me happy, and B. Have a desire to please me. What I find is that, as of 1/7/2015 in East Coast USA, women view the concept of putting in sustained effort to please a man as oppress…
/r/askTRP07/01/15 10:17 PM
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Do you mean that a teachers or other students gave you the last choice (came to you last)? Or that you deliberately held yourself back and waited for everyone else to pick? It was more that people willing to put in work for their spots would pull moves to get there first. Initially, my lack of overt effort gave me a disadvantage. Social hierarchy's form really fast, and there are notable internal mechanisms that dissuade one from stirring the pot too much. Once the hierarchy was set, I suppose I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/15 10:04 PM
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I'm currently mixed on this. One of the primary functions of any state is contract enforcement. I tend to think that 'marriage' should be left to religious institutions and their secular equivalents. It would only have social/religious meanings and would in now way involve the law. Legally bonding contracts regarding asset sharing, child rearing responsibilities, etc. should be handled by some sort of state contract like a civil union (for straight and gay couples both).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/15 09:48 PM
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The thing is that you were never friends in any honest sort of way. She was your friend, but you've been trying to fuck her for over a year+. This is what happens when you aren't honest with yourself. See also: Time Ho by Patrice O'Neal
/r/askTRP07/01/15 12:53 PM
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A gendered difference I have noticed: Men ignore unattractive/low status women. Women despise unattractive/low status men. I think it boils down to this: 1. Women take longer to reproduce, making them almost always more reproductively/sexually selective. 2. Men consequently are required to approach women if they want any success with them. 3. Women can more readily wait for men to approach them and do not need to approach men. So women dislike low status men because they are constantly hit on by…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/15 09:51 PM
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It boils down to this: Neoreactionaries believe that certain social contracts (marriage being a big one) are necessary for civilization to run. Consequently, progressive movements that seek to dismantle social contracts are disliked by neo-reactionaries. To them, dismantling something like marriage also has cascading effects which are harmful to society. Here is an example of such thinking: Patriarchy: Restraining Males
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/15 09:43 PM
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Are you sure she's resentful because of your increasing success instead of some other thing? She won't say a word in an argument unless it's a statement that resolves the disagreement. So it usually is up to me to talk down to her and "tell her like it is" until she agrees with me and to follow my leadership as she believes the man is head of the house. Here's my problem. I love and respect my wife. And the idea of periodically verbally beating her into compliance is stressful and miserable for …
/r/askTRP06/01/15 09:38 PM
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If you're going to be buying her gifts, get her something that will make her think about you on a daily basis (and tell her that she has to think of you when using it as a half joke. Careful with the supplicating beta gestures. She sounds like a good enough girl (talking every day while out of country), but they will all eventually see such actions as weakness.
/r/askTRP05/01/15 08:40 PM
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Oh, in that case, what a bitch!
/r/TheRedPill05/01/15 08:34 PM
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Was she aiming the comment at your bro, or is your bro on the short side such that her making said comment would obviously be disrespectful? In that case it's a different story, and you had the legitimate purpose of being good to a friend.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/15 08:29 PM
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The fucking fourth grade (9 years old). I noticed at the lunch table, people would often jocky for seating positions adjacent to the most valuable 4th graders. I could literally see a hierarchy work itself out, and very quickly realized that no one was jockying to sit next to me, and further, that I always got one of the later picks in terms of seats.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/15 08:27 PM
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I would call a successful, sexy, socially dominant man who also happens to be supplicating in relationships to be about as common as a virginal, educated, submissive, women who is completely sexually open despite never having had any sex. AKA: Unicorns.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/15 08:18 PM
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Ask yourself: What did you stand to gain from such a comment? What did you stand to lose? Law of Power 38: Think as you like but behave like others.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/15 08:12 PM
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If you don't like someone for any reason, that's reason enough to get rid of them. Your happiness is the game you play (in all aspects of life). Since you're 18, I wouldn't advise you to seek out an LTR anyways. Given that, the only logical reason not to fuck her is fear of STDs and pregnancy. There's nothing wrong with doing something for an emotional reason so long as there aren't any major lasting effects (loosing a plate is not such a thing). For example, if a certain kind of food grosses yo…
/r/askTRP05/01/15 08:08 PM
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Our instincts evolved long before birth control. In many ways these emotions are vestigial, but paternity uncertainty is why they came to exist in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/15 08:00 PM
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"Men in our study who were perceived as being higher on the Good Investing Mate Qualities factor and the Intrasexual Competitiveness factor were especially attractive to women as long-term mates, above and beyond the main effects of each factor" That's a textbook definition of a beta male. Beta males are attractive in a way, just not on a sexual level. They're attractive for long term relationships. If, as a man, your goal is or includes having a lot of sex (particularly passionate sex with high…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/15 07:45 PM
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TRP is about sexual strategy from an amoral perspective, and as such the personality characteristics that don't affect sexual market value aren't focused on. There isn't much of a need for such a distinction with the sub, though the distinction can certainly be made. Whichever is a better model will entirely depend upon ones personal goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/15 07:39 PM
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All kinds of things. Most of them are related to emotional intelligence and social skills, but some are even physical. Women are generally better at recognizing facial expressions. (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3402412/, http://deepblue.lib.umich.edu/bitstream/handle/2027.42/83923/A_female_advantage_in_the_recognition_of_emotional_facial_expressions_test_of_an_evolutionary_hyptothesis.pdf?sequence=1) While men often have more brute strenght, women usually have more muscle enduranc…
/r/askTRP05/01/15 07:30 PM
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The thing is that there is no instinctual basis for men to need to compete with women over women. Minorly, the number of homosexuals is relatively small (the highest figure I have ever heard was 10%, and that was from a politically charged gay rights group in college), and even fewer of 'queer' folk are specifically bisexual women. Queer folk also tend to date within queer circles, so there is even less overlap. Mostly, however, is that fact that a woman cannot get pregnant from having sex with …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/15 06:59 PM
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After we left, I encouraged my brother and told him that he did nothing wrong, that I will always have his back, and if in the future he was ever in a similar situation on his own, he always had the right and capability to stand up for himself. You're an awesome brother. The reason we have so many broken, effeminate men is because so many of us grew up without older men in our lives to teach us these lessons.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/15 10:56 PM
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I would say that Korean women's hypergamy even sounds reasonable. I'll put in the effort to be a worthy man if you in turn put in the effort to be a worthy woman. A lot of these ideas in Asia seem to stem from Confucius. Confucianism in many ways is an extremely elegant social system. It is impressively designed with the entire society in mind, and represents a cohesive system, where everyone is encouraged to be pro-social and mutually beneficial. The issue in the west (and I am certain this iss…
/r/TheRedPill04/01/15 10:37 PM
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My new year's resolution is to grow my Ego as a means of finding intrinsic motivations for myself.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/15 06:16 AM
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Most women indulge the power of their beauty in youth, then start developing an actual personality around 35 once their looks die out and they need to find alternative means to maintain their power in society. Unfortunately, anything women can do, men can do better. >Their beauty is their biggest selling point, so the personality they create to make up for the loss of looks is rarely ever as developed as a man's, who has had to develop a strong personality from a very young age just to get by in…
/r/TheRedPill31/12/14 05:40 PM
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I would agree, but the sexual strategy outlined in TRP dictates that you need to be really awesome in as many ways as possible. You need to be attractive, financially stable, and socially skilled to make it in this game. Thus, self improvement is an enormous part (>80%) of the vehicle that actualized sexual strategy. Saying TRP is about sexual strategy is like saying Nascar is about having a technologically advanced car and a good professional driver. Not entirely true, as Nascar is a race and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/14 07:34 PM
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You should try planning out 3 or so mini-dates to keep a sort of flow going. When you feel the momentum dying at one place, you bounce to the next. Always lead: "Come with me to x for some y." It's pretty generic, but I usually start with coffee, eat a meal, and then move on to drinks. Even though you have only met this girl once, she will feel like you have gone on three seperate dates due to categorizing the venues as separate events into her memory, and so she will feel like she has known you…
/r/askTRP29/12/14 07:32 PM
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Be as attractive as you can via applied effort, don't engage in behavior that emasculates, keep his stomach full, and keep his balls empty.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/14 08:41 AM
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After 6+ years of martial arts training I am rather flexible. I can reach all parts of my back with a normal razor and just use a mirror.
/r/TheRedPill28/12/14 04:42 AM
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For rap music you can't get anymore RP than Dr. Dre (including NWA) and Snoop Dogg. They often rap about the traps women set for them and how they always rise above that bull shit (Bitches ain't Shit, Ain't no Fun, Let Me Ride). They rap about having a healthy ego and working hard to make something of themselves (Big Egos, Let Me Ride). They also talk about the feminization of men (Bitch Niggaz). More recently Immortal Technique has some RP songs like No Me Importa and Crimes of the Heart.
/r/TheRedPill28/12/14 04:38 AM
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Set the frame yourself instead of giving into her demands to touch you. "You like that , don't you?" As you gently guide her hands to your best attributes. This is best said semi jokingly/tongue in cheek. Its a joke, but it's also not a joke. Hold your frame with amused mastery with whatever her reaction is.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/14 02:17 AM
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I shave my balls, trim my pubes down to 1 mm or so, and shave my back. I keep a full beard but keep it trim. I have Tom Selleck status chest hair and ladies seem to love it. In short, I keep my secondary sex characteristics but keep shit trim and maintained.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/14 02:07 AM
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If you start your own business, it's less like working 9 to 5 Monday through Friday and more like working 7 AM to 8 PM 6-7 days per week. I work with all sorts of multimillionaires, and they hardly ever enjoy thier money. Something about having the necessary drive to be successful precludes happiness much of the time.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/14 02:03 AM
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I think he means to say they reintroduced the idea to the 20th century for Westernized countries. If we're going to reduce the idea, then the first non asexual animal introduced sexual amorality to Earth.
/r/TheRedPill25/12/14 06:22 PM
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You've never had a close friendship with another man? One in which you mutually admire each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/14 10:03 PM
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I have seen about 5 ultra beta men marry or otherwise lock down horrendous nagging land whales this year. 4 of them were virgins who married the first girl they got to touch their dick. 1 of them's super-hypergamous, cheating girlfriend 'accidentally' got pregnant.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 10:01 PM
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I don't need to preface anything with 'In my opinion', etc. It's fucking obvious because I'm saying it. Equally, by definition this is a hypothesis... there have been no scientific studies regarding this subject (that I'm aware of) that deal with this idea. Therefore it cannot be a theory. 'Facts' are for the realms of pure logic. Is it really necessary to explain all of this?
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 09:59 PM
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Presumably there are many genes involved. Of note would be those that influence the production and re-absorption of oxytocin, vasopressin, and dopamine. Maybe when we actually sequence out all of human DNA into recognizable genes this will be a question worth asking.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 09:45 PM
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It's not that women dislike being approached, hit on, or admired. It's that they dislike all of those things when the person approaching them is unattractive. Imagine if everywhere you went obese girls were flocking to you, buying you shit, asking you out, etc. It might be nice from time to time but eventually you'd just want the ugly people to leave you alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/14 08:12 PM
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For the top 10% of women social proof is the most important thing. Mr. Universe has way less potential sex and/or romantic prospects than does anyone on the Forbes 500.
/r/askTRP23/12/14 07:56 PM
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Yes, though my point is sort of that in certain circumstances that mindset is evolutionarily warranted. K type strategy is undeniably a shitty idea for modern men though. When there was more stability (due to social homogeneity and various sorts) K type made more sense.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 06:06 PM
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I would rephrase your contention as, "Heterosexual men desire intimate relationships with heterosexual woman more than heterosexual women desire relationships with heterosexual men, and consequently heterosexual men who are unsuccessful romantically will experience more dissatisfaction than heterosexual women in similar circumstances." I think it has less to do with social constructs (Bromance is alive and well. Incels form relatively strong social bonds together, often around activities like ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/14 05:08 PM
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I tend to take the 48 Laws of Power with a grain of salt, but it's a good starting point. Ironically, in the ongoing series in the main sub, today's post is on the law that is most important to people in your situation. Law 38 : Think as you like but behave like others.
/r/askTRP22/12/14 09:43 PM
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Society will never care about 'male problems' because men are, in actuality, disposable. The disposable male shit isn't a social construct. Men are simply less reproductively valuable than women. If 90% of the female population died, it would take centuries to repopulate the planet. If 90% of the male population died we'd be back in business within a generation or two at most.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/14 09:39 PM
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I've seen a lot (most) of RPers saying that all women are sluts. They either currently are, have been, or will be -- whatever the case, it is in their nature. If RPers don't want to LTR sluts and only use them as plates, how do they find women to LTR >and why LTR at all? A lot of guys ultimately have decided that LTRs are not worth it, and they don’t seek out anything more than, at most, a friends with benefits scenario or a one night stand. They’re calle Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW). Also, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/14 09:23 PM
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why are there only 4 kinds of people: beta male, alpha male, hypergamous AWALT, or young virgin females who have been domesticated by an alpha, before they can irreversibly become hypergamous sluts? Alpha, beta, unicorn, slut, etc. are all short hand terms that relate to approximate value in a sexual marketplace. They aren't hard types either, all traits (including those that make people attractive) exist within a spectrum, so there are very unattractive people and very attractive people and eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/14 09:15 PM
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I think Snoop Dog put it best: "That's what's wrong with you niggas, you niggas is just like bitches. Ho-ass niggas, talk too motherfuckin' much. Study your own, get your own, you know what I'm sayin'?" This is a consequence of the feminization of men.
/r/askTRP20/12/14 11:33 PM
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HB8 is your hottest plate, but you're obviously not HB8s hottest plate. She is not reaching out to you because she never needs to. Some fuck asks her to hang out every weekend and most weeknights. In the event that that doesn't happen, she's going to reach out to people in the order she thinks they're the best. This factor becomes more and more intense the hotter the girl gets. Unless you're a god amongst men you're always going to have to put work in with girls like this.
/r/askTRP20/12/14 11:28 PM
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If a man is happy being in a relationship with a dominant woman and find sexual and emotional fulfillment in being of service to her, is there really anything wrong with that? There's never anything wrong with anything so long as people all people involved are consenting adults (Mill's harm principle ftw.) I would not, however, encourage your average man to try to become a male submissive if he was asking how to increase his chances with women in general, or if a guy was wondering how he could i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/14 11:19 PM
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The thing is, women hate sexual infidelity because it inherently means less emotional importance for her, and consequently increases the risk of losing the guy altogether. It's because women instinctively know how important sex is to men, and how powerful another woman wielding it can be.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/14 06:19 AM
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A lot of RP men idealize the day to day lifestyle of a home maker. The idea being that keeping a home clean and cooking meals for everyone would maybe take 4 hours per day or less. You also get to listen to whatever music you want, dress however comfortably you want, can take naps whenever you want, etc. The role admittedly gets a lot harder when children are involved. The reason that RP men will ultimately say that they don't want to job is due to fears of female hypergamy. Being a home maker i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/14 09:19 PM
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Or women have higher standards that the man gets to benefit from. I have no idea. That sounds correct. I can let my laundry stay on the floor for two weeks and not give a fuck, but the moment I have a girl coming over I'm Mr. Fucking Clean. I know that her standards will be higher than mine. It ties into the concept of women being choosier in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/14 09:07 PM
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R/K selection theory refers to reproductive strategy. K types have few offspring and invest heavily in them. R types have many children and invest little in them. There is of course a spectrum. Humans are, in general, extremely K selected. We wean our children forever relative to, say, fish, which are very K selected. Blast as many eggs into the environment as possible and hopefully some of them manage to make it. In the middle are animals like rodents, who wean babies to a degree, but also spur…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/14 05:41 PM
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It will remain indefinitely, but it will become niche. Certainly not a mainstream thing.
/r/TheRedPill16/12/14 06:46 PM
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When I show up to a normal party where everyone has been steadily drinking for a few hours already, I usually drink as much hard liquor as is necessary in a short amount of time to catch up. I think if they spend a few months or even years slaying the punnani, they will be able to catch up just fine in all measurable ways.
/r/TheRedPill16/12/14 02:02 PM
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The free internet will eventually be made of up loosely connected groups of relatively tech savvy people on TOR, or whatever the future equivalent will be.
/r/TheRedPill16/12/14 01:57 PM
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Welcome to being an object. Everyone gets objectified, and everyone objectifies. No exceptions.
/r/askTRP15/12/14 06:17 PM
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Men do have parallels to hypergamy. Of course every man wants the most attractive woman that he can find. The primary difference is that women are driven towards a man better than themselves, whereas men are driven to the most attractive option available; Men are more readily willing to settle. In therms of alpha fucks, beta bucks VS Madonna / whore complex... The Madonna represents the male desire for a virginal mate, thus ensuring paternity. The whore represents ease of sexual access, ensuring…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/14 03:25 PM
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The only things would perhaps be mental retardation or severe physical disability. Even if you're super ugly, you can make up for that with fame and riches.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/14 02:54 AM
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This is an inbound nuclear shit test. She is definiely going to bring up the prospect of breaking up. I read your other post, and while your frame control is strong (meaning you do a good job of not budging), the way you go about maintaining it is too extreme. She is definitely going to bring up the 50/50 shit again, and also say some shit like, "If we are going to continue this relationship, I need a 50/50 split of whatever the fuck." to imply she will break up with you. If you want to pass the…
/r/askTRP14/12/14 01:27 AM
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The most universal female traits that are also a TRP tenant are hypergamy and the dualistic sexual nature of women (aka alpha fucks, beta bucks). Keep in mind these aren't necessarily intentional or conscious things. I'll define hypergamy here as the instinctual need to want to secure a sexual/romantic partner more attractive (i.e. more valuable) than oneself. The dual mating strategy refers to the desire to seek out the most attractive men possible for sexual encounters, and at the same time th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/14 12:58 AM
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I will add that people don't always know the ways that, were are they treated as such, will make them the happiest. So, I'm not necessarily saying treat them as they say they would like you to treat them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 10:18 PM
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It's called being mindful. Pay attention to what you're doing while you're doing it and manually override this avoidance nonsense. Anything that will improve overall confidence will also help: working out (strength training!), martial arts, etc.
/r/askTRP12/12/14 10:04 PM
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I wouldn't even ask for her help. She'd just come home to changed locks and all of her shit in trash bags. I gave the advice because OP isn't there yet.
/r/askTRP12/12/14 10:03 PM
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Monk mode is more for people who are starting at the bottom of the barell, or for temporary reasons like recovering from an operation etc. Why not keep improving in the gym, fucking 8s, and constantly keep striving for girls you find hotter at the same time? On a side note, in my experience 9s and 10s are some of the most entitled, cold, bitchy women you will ever meet. They have had a lifetime of validation.
/r/askTRP12/12/14 10:01 PM
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Isn't that the case for a lot of RP guys as well? You bet. I'm in IT myself. Consequently, I don't exactly try and sell it as a sexy characteristic. Nor do I complain about it hard to meet women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 09:42 PM
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That's why I grew a beard years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 08:07 PM
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Why are programming and engineering considered low status? A lot of reasons. Primarily, these topics aren't exciting to most people. If you made three identical dating profiles, but included different stated careers, engineer (STEM), firefighter, and doctor, which profiles would get the most responses? Is it just because we assume they are going to be socially awkward, or is there another reason? That's a big part of it. We have a (mostly accurate unfortunately) cultural perception for STEM peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 06:53 PM
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Best course of action - do nothing, let go, don't be clinging beta, few months from now you'll get 'Hey' message from her and you're back to Bangville. This is the highest probability tactic. In the mean time OP needs a new plate.
/r/askTRP12/12/14 06:05 PM
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Men aren't evolutionarily driven to youful traits, they are driven towards traits that indicate good genetics and fertility. When people say men are attracted to youth, they don't mean actually mean youth. They mean young adulthood, which is approximately from years 16-25. This time frame also happens to be when a woman is likely to be the most fertile. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 05:49 PM
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First, do you have a friend or family member nearby you can stay with? Do that shit ASAP. Pack yourself whatever shit you need for the weekend and next week and get the fuck out. Second, she needs to get the fuck out of your life. There is nothing left to salvage. You will never trust her again in the way that is necessary for an LTR. You will always wonder about who else she is fucking until the end of time if you don't boot her the fuck out. From your comments I gathered that she moved across …
/r/askTRP12/12/14 05:08 PM
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The number one thing is to be discreet. Women love a guy they can fuck like an animal who won't go out and hurt her reputation by spreading the word.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/14 04:35 PM
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Absolutely. The point in talking to one is not necessarily to admin defeat and resign yourself to divorce. It's about educating yourself of the possibilities for what can happen and being prepared in case they do. You seem to have at least a little time on your side, so do some research and find the divorce lawyer around. Also, don't tell her under any circumstances. Period.
/r/askTRP12/12/14 04:31 PM
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This! Having a lawyer already on file can save OP a lot of hassles.
/r/askTRP12/12/14 04:24 PM
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I am also interested in the concept of balance, but I think you’re being a tad free with the definition. I also believe that complimentary things can balance (often more readily) in addition to similar things. If you look at the Tao concepts of yin and yang, yin represents darkness and yang represents light. They are the opposite, but find balance through being complimentary. What does being balanced mean? To be balanced is to live your life in the best possible physical, mental, and emotional w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 04:05 PM
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In what way are those guys TRP? John has a major case of oneitus, and is wasting his time, resources, and energy on an ultra-low probability. And what the fuck is Devin doing? At best it's a textbook case of trying to negotiate desire. One of the major TRP 'truths' is that desire and attraction cannot be logically negotiated like that. Bundle it all up in the constant stream of needy emotional elucidations, and it's obvious that they're still totally plugged in. Also, Devin and John teamed up an…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 02:37 PM
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If a group of men decide they want to do something, even push for some social change, they can use red pill truths to help them make those changes, or inform the way they want things changed, but that doesn't imply that the social changes represent a redpill idealized society. One group of 'red pill' men might be conservative Christians, and try and establish a social structure that enforces strict monogamy. Another group of 'red pill' men might be pickup artists (if they even would bother to gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 10:06 PM
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It depends. If its a stranger, I just brush them off at the first possible second. If I am in a social setting where my reputation matters a lot, you need to be more tactful. Usually I'll respond to their complaint as soon as there is a break in their speech with something like, "That sounds unfortunate." Then, without stopping to give the a chance to continue, I'll change the subject. You can act like you're slightly ADD and a new idea popped into your head (complete with facial expressions). A…
/r/askTRP11/12/14 09:59 PM
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Again, I think a lot of people miss the scope of TRP. The Red Pill != MensRights The Red Pill is about sexual strategy, and to a lesser extent, success strategy in general. The applications of 'red pill truths' are necessarily going to vary depending upon the individual goals of the reader, so there isn't even a global consensus to work towards in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 09:50 PM
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The ONLY reason the advise is given is due to the unpopularity and media bias against the manosphere in general. We're pragmatists, not social engineers. We care about what is going to affect our personal lives and everything else takes a back seat. It is simply unwise for someone who is looking to attain power and social status to also talk about unpopular beliefs publicly. For example, I would have told Galileo to keep his shit under wraps and to just publish it posthumously. He was absolutely…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 09:38 PM
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I have always taken the stance that 'Alpha' is a contextual term, and it refers to the person with the most power in a given situation. Bill Gates would be an Alpha Male in any corporate board room, but would NOT be an Alpa Male in a combat squad, on the street corner in Chicago, or on a traditional spear hunt for dangerous game. Big Business Tycoon Alpha is not hanging out on Reddit or the manosphere giving advice, but there are a ton of contextual alphas that do have the free time to post on t…
/r/TheRedPill11/12/14 09:34 PM
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Your best bet if walking into a CVS or something: Durex Extra Sensitive. If you buy them online, Crown Skinless are amongst the most popular. People talk about thickness, lubrication, etc, but the number one thing is fit. The tighter it fits around your dick without being uncomfortable, the better.
/r/askTRP11/12/14 05:57 PM
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I have answered most of these questions in other threads, so there will be some copy/paste. Is it really defeat to be a beta buck? Consider zero sum game. Men can't all be alphas, otherwise, there would be no alpha. So is being a beta buck an all losing proposition? It is really just a different dynamic than ‘alpha fucks’. Many pure ‘alpha fucks’ have trouble landing (or maintaining) an LTR, and miss out on the emotional intimacy aspect of romance. Men who want LTRs, but can only manage to get o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 04:43 PM
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The wealthiest person, most powerful person, and the most influential person will probably be a man for the foreseeable future. Is that really true? 7 out of the 50 wealthiest people in the world are women (The Walton Family daughters, the Mars Candy heiress Jacqueline, L'Oreal heiress Liliane Bettencourt, etc). Further, 5 out of the 50th most powerful people in the wolrd are women: Angela Merkel, Chancellor of the 5th largest economy in the world, and the largest economy in Europe; Janet Yellen…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 03:27 PM
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Normal men have a very strong instinct to reproduce. Further, men also have a strong instinctual concern for their children's wellbeing. Many would argue that these are the primary instinctual drives for normal men once their base needs for food and shelter are met. Consequently, if you are looking to motivate most men to do a certain thing, such as join together in large organized groups to build buildings, roads, and infrastructure, study sciences and engineering, refrain from violence unless …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 09:43 PM
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The idea is that your average Joe, if he has a wife and children, is motivated by them to go to work every day and endure the drudgeries and hardships it presents. Further, he will want to work hard for that promotion to improve his families' quality of life. It's not 'one great man' doing things for sexual rewards (families are really a form of sexual reward), it's ~150 million men each adding their piece of the civilization puzzle.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 09:12 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to explain. I agree with pretty much all of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 09:07 PM
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I dont believe most people have the mental hygeine and self-awareness to "give" enough to have a truly good relationship. Many do, but I think a good half or so dont. Very interesting. Is this the default status for people, or is it a matter of society and learned behavior? Experience. And actually, less likely to have presumptions if they have multiple past partners as any presumptions will have been challenged by the variety of their relationships. A virgin has far more presumptions, basing he…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 07:32 PM
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I have sort of resigned myself to the fact that if I have children, the first thing I am going to have to teach them is about how to keep things that are true but offensive to themselves. It sucks to have to teach your child that they can't trust the people society has assigned to educate them, that they constantly need to watch what they say and do....
/r/TheRedPill10/12/14 05:45 PM
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First and foremost, I consider myself on the MGTOW spectrum (no LTRs for me thanks), so don't take this as a criticism of that concept. The issue with your piece that I have is that I am a nihilist. After thinking about life purpose for my entire time alive, and having read the treatise on the subject by the greatest minds from recorded human history, I have concluded that life is inherently without objective purpose. At the same time, there is a human instinct that drives us to find a purpose. …
/r/TheRedPill10/12/14 05:24 PM
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Good fucking luck dude. If you can afford it you should consider private school.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/14 02:53 PM
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Well over half of people aren't capable of a healthy, respectful relationship, regardless of the experience or understanding of their SO. That's a very interesting thing to say. Why do you think this is true? Having a past isnt baggage. Baggage is having issues. These two things are not the same thing. It's not even baggage (in terms of trust and commitment issues due to past negative experiences) so much as expectations and presumptions. The older I get, the new relationship process starts to m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 02:21 PM
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Your best options, as always, are: Agree and amplify: I've got a lot more of them written down, but 'don't want to get you pregnant'. Change the subject\deflect: What's the worst line you've gotten on tinder? Its a low probability endeavor, so don't waste too much time, but if you can manage to hold frame through such a blunder you'll get bonus points. Also, come up with your own lines, or at least change them up enough to make them untraceable. Didn't you ever copy your friends homework? ;-)
/r/askTRP09/12/14 10:04 PM
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How old are your children? Do you plan to home school them? If they are in school (especially public), how do you insulate them from all of the bullshit that literally every one of thier other peers is being immersed in? I ask as a man who has wanted children in the past, but gave up on it as a prospect due to how shitty society is. I don't want to bring a kid into this world only to have their lives be shitty through no fault of my own.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/14 06:59 PM
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This conflation of "being dominant" with "being domineering", and of "being in control" with "being controlling", is so wrongheaded it deserves a permanent facepalm. That says it all right there. Being dominant presumes dominance in situations. It is a default position. There are no prescriptive actions one must take in order to achieve dominance. One just recognizes himself as dominant, and his actions flow naturally and gracefully from this presumed position, a reflection of his perception of …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/14 06:53 PM
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Don't you think part of the marriage experience is figuring out how relationships work together? There's something about going through the same struggle with a peer that is bond-building. People with past relationships come into new relationships with expectations on how they like things, how they want them to be, baggage about past experiences... I find that this sort of baggage causes jealousy of past relationships and resistance to trying out new things because the people 'already know what t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/14 06:38 PM
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From my perspective, all of the emo bullshit ex-bf is spouting won't turn her on. She's not going to cheat on you with him as a means to seek out an 'alpha fucks' in this scenario. What you DO have to worry about is this dickhead artificially inflating her ego, which will cause undesirable changes to her attitudes and actions. This is essentially guaranteed, hence the 'There are people out there who love every part of me and want to be with me!' shit test. What you do have to worry about is her …
/r/askTRP09/12/14 06:29 PM
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Why her as opposed to the 24 year old with one 3 6 year relationship under her belt? Edit: 6 years...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/14 06:20 PM
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Assuming I am forced to marry one of these girls and cannot simply opt out of marriage... 1st choice: A 24 year old who only had one long term boyfriend from 17 to 23. 2nd choice: A 21 year old who only had one sexual experience: drunken weekend long threesome (MMF) when she was 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/14 06:04 PM
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You're doing great. Keep holding frame. Never apologize for something that you're not sorry for. Never do something for the sole reason that she is bitching at you about it. Never get butt-hurt or act upset. From what you mentioned, your only mistake so far is being associated with a woman who thinks its OK to bitch you out for shit that doesn't affect her.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/14 05:59 PM
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Those are the perfect book recommendations. OP: Read them!
/r/askTRP09/12/14 05:54 PM
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So it's more of a criticism of the methodology used by the researchers, as opposed to a criticism of the premise that evolutionary forces influence us psychologically? That I can by. I think by and large there is a huge problem in Psychology as a research field in general. Perhaps with the exception of Neuroscience. Did you see the recent statistical analysis of the success rate in psychology experiments?
/r/TheRedPill09/12/14 04:58 PM
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Sure, but he's using them for a personal goal. There isn't inherently a social agenda. For example... If a group of men decide they want to do something, even push for some social change, they can use red pill truths to help them make those changes, or inform the way they want things changed, but that doesn't imply that the social changes represent a redpill idealized society. One group of 'red pill' men might be conservative Christians, and try and establish a social structure that enforces str…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/14 04:26 PM
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Again, I don't think you get it. The truths aren't abided by. They exist regardless of our attitudes to them. Do women 'abide' the fact that pregnancy takes about 36-40 weeks? Regarding society... The red pill is about being aware of how whatever society you are in works, and to use that knowledge to an advantage. In short, the red pill response to a society will depend on the goals of the individual and the environmental factors the individual finds themselves dealing with. To quote my favorite…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/14 04:10 PM
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Consider the following argument: P1. Women at peak fertility are only able to become pregnant and give birth to one child (or set of multiple children in the case of twins, etc) every 9-12 months. P2. A man at peak fertility is able to impregnate a woman at least once or twice per day (probably more often than that, but I am trying to be uncontroversial). C1. Each individual pregnancy carried to term necessarily has a higher mandatory minimum (though there is no maximum or ceiling for either sex…
/r/TheRedPill09/12/14 03:44 PM
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I would say that I came to this sub cynical about how it would be. I figured no one would ever agree and it would be a cesspool of name calling and trolls. I am actually most surprised in how productive conversation is overall. I'm not sure that anyone is getting 'converted' from one side to the other, but it is readily apparent that both sides understand where the other side is coming from a lot more often than before, so communication is happening. I was frankly shocked at how fair Spartacus32…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 09:40 PM
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TRP is descriptive, but it is not inherently prescriptive. Now, if someone states their goals, you can give them RP advice, but this isn't the same as said advice being an RP ideal. It was merely pertinent information for someone relative to their goals
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 09:12 PM
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There is no such thing as a red pill idealized version of anything. TRP isn't for/against anything. It presents what it asserts are facts about men and women for people to do whatever it is that they will with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 08:45 PM
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All combinations are logically possible, yes. From Women have sex more than men. For every straight, non group sex encounter, there is exactly 1 man and 1 woman... I gathered that you intended to argue that because every heterosexual sexual encounter involves one male and one female, that it is impossible for more women to be having sex than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 08:33 PM
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It's also not rocket science that if you provide someone with a satisfying sexual experience that they're more likely to come back for more. I may have to hand in my red pill member card, but I also find masturbating more gratifying than fuckng a girl who's not passionately interested. Fucking a girl that's just trying to get it overwith is like masturbating with an unnecessarily cumbersome fleshlight at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 08:15 PM
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Absolutely. As a total egomaniac, the idea of a lukewarm girl is just unappealing. You feel sexy when someone finds you sexy, not when you get them to have sex with you in spite of little desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 07:18 PM
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More or less this. Women are more likely to engage in sex they don't want, and are more likely to regret consensual sex the day afterwards. These women (often rightly) feel gross or used. Given the hype around consent and rape these days, especially on college campuses, I bet a number of those women then start to feel like maybe they were raped too. Especially with all of these new definitions of rape, such as cases where someone said yes initially and never indicated that they no longer consent…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 06:42 PM
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For one, that's a misquote: women seem to have sex more so than men when they don't want to. For two, it is possible that some men are having more sex than average, and other men are having less sex than average. Thus, the claim, 'more women are having sex than men' can be true if you take that to mean the total number of sexually active men vs the total number of sexually active women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 06:31 PM
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It really is amazing how accusations of entitlement really only serve to hurt the already least powerful, least sympathized with, least socially rewarded, and otherwise least cared about subset of men. Te average person has no compassion for these men, and never will. I understand why (men are the reproductively disposable sex), it's just sort of ironic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 05:43 PM
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TRP currently struggles with weeding out their member's that can't seem to beat down the "and I simply must for the sake of breeding" when presented with the question "Then why actively seek out women to fuck?" Are you misunderstanding what they're saying? They're saying that because sex is necessary for reproduction (at least it was until very recently), we as animals (not just humans, but all of them) have evolved reward neural pathways that grant us pleasurable feelings as a reward for having…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 05:31 PM
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Specifically regarding recently unplugged dudes who were previously super invested in what TRP calls the blue pill, i.e. proving your worth to society via pro-social habits and behaviors, and in turn being rewarded for it... It's more that they 'feel deserving' than 'entitled'. Feeling entitled implies that you feel free to take and do whatever you want, whenever you want, with what you feel you are entitled to. Feeling deserving is more akin to the feeling of having completed a prescribed task …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 05:19 PM
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Individuals get over it all of the time. You're just seeing more freshmen classes replace them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 05:05 PM
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I've considered therapy but I just don't see the point. A therapist can change the way you feel about your problems, but at the end of the day those problems will still be there. Sure, but on the flip side it is possible to fix your problems but still have mental hangups linger anyways. That's why 2/3 recommended things were more reality based, especially getting in good shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 04:51 PM
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I assume it's the type preloaded with steroids for extra swole butt fucking.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/14 03:45 PM
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Let's take a step back here. Do you still live with your parents? If so, that's problem number one. Secondly, integrity is about not being dishonest about things. It has nothing to do with how much information you reveal to other people. It's no one's business but yours what you do in your free time. Your parents included. You don't owe your mother any information about your private life. Your only problem here is feeling guilty for doing something (that you obviously think is harmless, or even …
/r/askTRP08/12/14 02:23 PM
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So you're being received better... Are you sure its in the way that you want? Unless you previously were painfully over-arrogant, I am with the people who think that modesty has little to do with your recent success, and 'soon to be a surgeon' has everything to do with it. Anytime you find yourself wondering if a girl is merely interested in your status, try this experiment. Sometime when you're talking in an intimate setting, maybe even just after sex or the morning after, casually throw out th…
/r/TheRedPill08/12/14 02:11 PM
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Thinking that merely being modest is some secret key to sexual success is just wishful thinking. The truth is you can act however you want is you're valuable enough. OP needs to watch out for the gold diggers.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/14 02:06 PM
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I used to be hardcore against makeup a few years ago. I thought it was fake and dismissed it as such. Now, I see it as a socially extant/predefined way a girl can actively put effort into something for me. In a sense, it becomes a proxy for desire to please. I like it only when it is worn specifically for me. On the flip side, if a girl only wears makeup when we go out to see other people, it tells me that she cares more about impressing other people than me. I don't want to shame a girl who doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 07:53 AM
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do you agree or disagree that in the same set of circumstances one person can come out feeling like a victim and another person can come out feeling like they learned something and move on (and of course like all spectrums some will fall in between)? That's a vague question, so all I have is a vague answer. Some events result in a variety of perceived experience. Other events cause people to have very similar experiences. Other events have portions that cause more variety in subjective experienc…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 06:46 AM
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Why are you so butt hurt about this? If anything this is a decent example of female attraction and the hamster at work. Everyone in the thread related some RP concept into their replies, provided explanations for why she feels the way she does, and gave her some no bullshit advice. You can't see how a n00b might gain something from that?
/r/TheRedPill07/12/14 10:08 PM
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In my experience, as a man having good looks will give you more opportunities in the form of girls open to your initial approach or declaration of interest. It can also help with receptiveness to escalation after the initial contact too, but this is really where game becomes important. Game's 'solution' to issues with women not being open in the first place is just to increase the number of approaches. Still, there are a ton of non surgical things you can do to improve your looks. How much is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 10:01 PM
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1) you say the average man's problem is not respecting are valuing himself enough and that was something Terry specifically discussed. Terry talks about value in a vague sense; you have value for merely existing. I am sure Terry believes this, and to a point it is true (at least, I think people should have an inherent right to autonomy), but value is always a relative thing. It's based upon comparative advantage; what do you have to offer, what do I have to offer, and what are our needs? You are…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 09:49 PM
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Seriously? You guys don't have any men like Crews in your neighborhood? Just sage men? All of the men who gave the same type of advice as Terry gave to me are divorced, never were married in the first place, or were born before 1920 and lived in an entirely different (read no longer applicable) social setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 10:24 AM
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I wouldn't necessarily want any of those things to be true. There is an in between. That being said, I would benefit from all of the things you mentioned in that there would be a much larger pool of marriageable women for me, and that I would never have to fear divorce, that I would never have to fear losing custody of my children.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 10:10 AM
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Women are attracted to and sexually attracted to self-assurance. It's the other way around. Men whom women are attracted to become self-assured in that attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 09:44 AM
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For one, I think Terry is projecting a lot here. He is speaking from the perspective of a man who has reached the apex of traditional masculinity through extreme measures. It's ironic that Terry is advising people to not seek out traditional masculine pursuits, when his entire life is essentially a success story from pursuing traditional masculine pursuits. In his case, and in the case of people like him, they have taken idealization of healthy things (self respect, physical excellence, drive fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 09:41 AM
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You don't need to employ dread actively. By merely being attractive and generally having it known that you're good with women is enough usually. Another thing you have to accept in an LTR is that women are emotional. She's going to break down and cry about nothing sometimes. Your job is to be quiet, warm, and consoling. You take her into her arms and tell her she has nothing to worry about. Sometimes she's just gotta cry it out. In general, it's also fine to do nice things for her sometimes. Do …
/r/askTRP07/12/14 07:49 AM
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Isn't it funny how we can catch the feelz for an average looking girl and simultaneously not give a shit about a hotter girl who is gaga for us? You need to work on your frame with 7/10 girl. It's clear as day that you're super butt hurt about her other crush, and generally are beholden to her. She is lukewarm with you because she knows she could have you in an instant, and that fact causes her emotionally (subconsciously) to view you as someone less attractive than her. As long as she feels lik…
/r/askTRP07/12/14 07:35 AM
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This may be the most accurate summary of TRP I have ever read from an outside perspective. You clearly have done your best to understand the core principles of the sub, and in doing so managed to look beyond the low hanging fruit usually characterized as fundamental. This is most respectable. To summarize, I think you're correct in that TRP is a place for and by men who feel dis-empowered, as a means for them to become more empowered. My only contention is that I argue that the fears of most of …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 07:22 AM
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It depends on the context. If its a casual event with lots of drinking, I tend to tease a lot, even to the point of being mean. If you can get a girl pissed at you, you can force a series of shit tests. By holding frame and then engaging in the escalation ladder, you will be perceived as emotionally exiting and stable. This is essentially Patrice O'Neil style game and is the easiest and least nuanced in my opinion. It is the best for one night stands. In more formal social settings, I try and st…
/r/askTRP07/12/14 06:34 AM
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'Alpha' is a contextual term, and it refers to the person with the most power in a situation. Bill Gates would be an Alpha Male in any corporate board room, but would NOT be an Alpa Male in a combat squad, on the street corner in Chicago, or on a traditional spear hunt for dangerous game. So no, Big Business Tycoon Alpha is not hanging out on Reddit. But there are a ton of contextual alphas that do have the free time to post on the internet. Gym rat alphas who get laid all of the time for their …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 06:11 AM
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It doesn't sound to me like Rick is interested in a serious monogamous relationship with anyone. It DOES sound like you like him enough to lie to yourself in any was possible so as to convince yourself that you have a chance with him, though. You have two options: Continue to enjoy your time with Rick knowing full well that he will likely never settle down with you, or that if he does, he will likely still have other girls on the side. Tell Rick straight up that you are only interested in a seri…
/r/askTRP07/12/14 05:54 AM
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Just give yourself a day off dude. H8rs gonna h8, but I want to enjoy my life as much as I want to improve myself.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/14 11:13 PM
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I'll probably get down-voted a lot for saying this, but 'monk mode' doesn't have to mean pure asceticism. The whole point is to focus as much as possible on self improvement for a shortish period of time. As far as I'm concerned, as long as you're keeping a strict exercise schedule, are eating well, and have a productive goal/hobby or two on the side (reading, martial arts, job training)... why not take some time to relax? The exception would be if you have dedicated a specif time frame to go fu…
/r/TheRedPill05/12/14 09:44 PM
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slavery is very common historically, what does that mean? In my opinion, it means that it is effective in its intended purpose. Granted, it's awful, and I don't encourage it as a system. But if you need a lot of huge tasks done quickly and cheaply, there are fewer more effective ways than forcing a group of people to do it for you nonstop under the threat of violence. It's why it still exist, and will probably always exist in some form. Today we have wage slavery because, as a society becomes mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/14 10:06 PM
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After how much time, if ever, is the partner who still wants to have a sex life justified in pursuing the "last ditch" option that is divorce? Thinking of it in terms of a time frame is wrong, but they are justified in divorce when they have brought the issue to their spouse, and their spouse has failed to at least compromise (say, sex a few times a week as opposed to a few times per month as opposed to twice a day). Has anything in the withholding partner's behavior violated their marriage vows…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/14 03:07 PM
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To be fair, a lot of us want to literally shoot things and blow them up. Very hard to do if you don't live in a US desert area.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/14 02:43 PM
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It makes sense to categorize video games and pornography, and recreational drugs in the same category. Video games can be though of as achievement porn, versus sexual porn. All stimulate masturbate reward centers in the brain and give you a rush of dopamine and other reward neurotransmitters. There's a growing body of evidence that suggests that anything that exposes the neural system to high concentrations of dopamine triggers a change in our gene expression, creating more of the protein Delta …
/r/TheRedPill04/12/14 02:40 PM
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Patrick Stewart is a noted feminist so this is a particularly inappropriate analogy. You're conflating the actor with one of the characters he played. Marriages dont need a single leader. This is a red pill myth. The best marriages are collaborative and equal in decision making. All social systems run more efficiently with an executive position. It is simply less time consuming to have the final decision made by one party instead of requiring consensus. There is a very good reason that authorita…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/14 01:04 PM
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In a deregulated sexual marketplace, a majority of men will be able to have sex, even casual sex, once in a while, whereas a small elite minority of men will be able to have sex almost at will. Much like how in a deregulated financial market, most people can find a job, but a majority of people struggle week to week to pay the bills while a small minority are multi-millionares. In terms of sex, the difference would be maybe 1-6 average lifetime sexual partners for a majority of men, but with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/14 12:55 PM
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I really want a LTR but I have serious trust issues, how to fix this? Welcome to the club. It can't be fixed in the sense that you're asking. Once you open your eye, you realize that almost everyone is capable of all kinds of vile shit. Even the women you love. Further, even if you manage to find a 'good one', there's no guarantee that 5, 10, 15 years down the line she won't be a completely different person. Especially if you think about the hormonal tsunamis that are childbirth and then menopau…
/r/askTRP03/12/14 09:59 PM
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When a kid falls down, they will usually look to the resident adult and gauge their reaction. If the adult looks or acts concerned, this means shit is serious (in the reptilian brain of a child) and they may start to cry or otherwise act injured. They get scared because thier security guard is scared. If you are calm about it, they are reassured and less likely to throw a fit. Same concept really. The best thing you can do is maintain frame. Keep fucking her and hanging out like normal. She'll b…
/r/askTRP03/12/14 09:49 PM
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If you are sexually interested and your needs are not being met, then there is little reason to pursue anything else. Why settle for company coupled with unfulfilled desires when you can have company with people where your desires are fulfilled? I prefer a soft next: Don't put any additional effort into hanging out, talking, etc, but there's no need to explicitly tell her your done or otherwise be butt hurt about it.
/r/askTRP03/12/14 09:27 PM
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If I felt a strong urge to fuck women outside of an explicitly monogamous relationship, I would just end the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 09:24 PM
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If a girl dresses up in leather, beats the shit out of you, and then fucks you in the ass with a dildo... it's a fetish.
/r/askTRP03/12/14 08:54 PM
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Wat Maybe this is more helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 08:41 PM
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Careful, Man!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 08:07 PM
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Fetishes arise for a variety of reasons. Maybe he is stressed out about all of his responsibilities, and fantasies about having none. Being dominated a lot of times, even for women, is about letting go of feeling responsible so you can focus on enjoying the sexual acts. It's my hunch on why rape-ish fantasies are common with women. On the other hand, maybe he had a childhood experience that induced the fetish. Like a hot but bossy babysitter that he feels sexual nostalgia for. Another man may fe…
/r/askTRP03/12/14 08:03 PM
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In TRP, they actually will say something akin to, "You need a balance of alpha and beta traits." I think for the most part, husbands used to be as I described. In a sense, a husband who provides no stability in a relationship is the cause of the very insecurity that may lead him to be abusively controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 07:55 PM
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The Red Pill's idealized husband is essentially a good leader. He knows his shit enough to call the shots with executive authority when needed, but equally understands the value of collaboration and deference to those with more expertise in a particular area. To continue with the trend of shitty scifi analogies, think Captain Jean-Luc Picard from Star Trek TNG. In that sense, I would think near every women would want that kind of husband. Strong enough to provide security and get shit done, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 07:49 PM
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On a side note, have you ever had a girlfriend say something like, "I'd rather just get killed/raped/mugged than hurt someone else?" I ask because it is the only response I have gotten.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 06:05 PM
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A relatively common maxim repeated on TRP (it should be more often in my opinion) is that, “It’s your fault.” Most things that happen in a relationship such that the relationship fails are ultimately the man’s fault (really by nature of the fact that men mostly have to initiate relationships). The flip side of this is that it is a man’s responsibility to essentially keep the relationship exciting single handedly. Another example is that if you stay in a shitty relationship, again, it’s your faul…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 05:46 PM
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I have posted this in lower level comment replies, but: As marriage rates decline, we get a data set that is skewed more and more towards people really serious about marriage (religious fundamentalists, social conservatives). There's a sort of de facto selection bias happening. People who would have likely gotten married and then divorced are no longer marrying in the first place, while people who would not have gotten divorced are still getting married. For a modern data set that would be equiv…
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 05:32 PM
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Because of the rise of cohabitation, to compare the percentage of divorces between the past and present would require us to include people who would for all intents and purposes have been married in the past, but who cohabitate now, as married. You would need to count their breakup as a divorce.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 05:31 PM
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Sure, but as marriage rates decline, we get a data set that is skewed more and more towards people really serious about marriage (religious fundamentalists, social conservatives). There's a sort of de facto selection bias happening. People who would have likely gotten married and then divorced are no longer marrying in the first place, while people who would not have gotten divorced are still getting married. For a data set that would be equivalent to marriage/divorce rates from the 50s, 60s, 70…
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 05:26 PM
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Are you asking 'how many young men think that they want a traditional woman and are cognizant of it?', or 'how many young men would actually be happy with a traditional woman regardless of their stated preference?' Keep in mind that I am operating under the (as stated by RPW themselves) notion that an ideal Red Pill wife/girlfriend acts like a good first mate. She is submissive and respectful to her captain, but is competent enough to make her own decisions, and trustworthy enough to share in re…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 04:02 PM
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It's your job as a father to teach your son how to behave. It was probably going to be easier on you if you started 18 years ago. I would feed it to him slightly watered down at first, bit by bit. You can ask him why he lets her boss him around. If she's being abusive about it, imply that you find it abusive. At the end of the day, he's an 18 year old now and he may have already made up his mind about these things... for now. If he's truly letting her push him around, and she's a moderately attr…
/r/askTRP03/12/14 05:42 AM
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Girls HATE confutation and overt communication, and will only resort to it when all other options have been exhausted. In this case, they're not interested in you and are letting you know as subtly as they can. You're probably asking them too bluntly. What are you saying, "Hey babe u want sum fuk?" Advice: Ask them to go on a date subtly. Ask them to go do something, or better yet, tell them to meet you somewhere. Then when you meet in person, you start flirting. Start kino and escalation. Note:…
/r/askTRP03/12/14 05:22 AM
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The problem with every rape allegation is that, unless there is some sort of hard irrefutable evidence that sex happened and was not consensual, it will always turn out to be one person's word against another. We can argue all day long about particular cases, about how common false rape claims are, about the characters of those involved, but at the end of the day the only people who will ever know for certain are the accused and the accuser. Unfortunately for legitimate victims, we default to a …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 04:56 AM
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I understand what traits a women is attracted to and the reasons why. I just think it's not accurate to equate them with being high value in ways outside of sex appeal. Many of them are otherwise harmful, such as propensity for violence.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 03:15 AM
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That's why I prefaced with It depends on how you define 'being worth a shit' and/or being 'worth submitting to'. What definition of having value do you think would fit with most women?
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 02:20 AM
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I knew an atheist through the grapevine who was a Christian preacher. As in, he was actively lying to Christians for the material and emotional benefits of being a part of the group?
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 02:16 AM
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No, but only because I don't want the revenge of her actual boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 02:03 AM
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So do you have some sort of beta allowance scale? Like if you're this sexy, then you can be this beta if you want to get laid? Yes. There are also beta allowances for guys who have tons of cash (tens of millions or more), political power, or popularity. The more attractive traits you have, the more unattractive traits you can have without skewing yourself into the undesirable category.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 02:00 AM
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A woman will submit to you when you’re a man worth submitting to. She will ride you all night long and let you plow her like a caveman if you’re a man worth fucking. She will let you father her children, lead her family, plan all of your dates, handle all of your affairs, and trust in your judgment, but only if you’re a man worthy of her trust. If you’re a man who actually has worthwhile judgment. She’s not going to hand the reins of her life to just anybody, and especially not the reins of her …
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 01:29 AM
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This hit home for me. After finding the red pill, the most immediate part of me that changed was a dramatic drop in desire for women. I felt like a kid who just found out that Santa Claus isn't real while deciding whether or not to go to the mall to 'see him'. To be fair, Women as a whole have also done a lot to become less and less desirable as time goes on (or perhaps have stopped doing things to be desirable. Both?). Now the prospect of seeing Santa at the mall (my shitty analogy for pursuing…
/r/TheRedPill02/12/14 10:51 PM
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The number one trait that signals a girl as potentially worthy of an LTR is her willingness to examine me, learn the things that make me happy, and work towards making the things that make me happy a reality. The best girl would be someone who know what makes me happy better than I do myself. In an interesting sense, TRP has been my attempt to do the same thing for women. For all of the talk about what fucked up assholes we are, all I have really learned here is how to satisfy a woman. Often in …
/r/TheRedPill02/12/14 07:26 PM
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It looks like three groups sort of emerge. Women with 0 prior sexual partners are the most likely to be in a stable marriage at an astounding 80%+. Women with 1-4 partners do worse than women with 0, but better than those with more. Success rates are slightly above 50%. After 5 partners, the success rate dips below 50%, and after 10 it drops below 30%! For a gambling sort of man, the hard limit seems to be at about 4-5 previous partners before the odds dictate the game not worth playing. The que…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/14 09:58 PM
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Increased deregulation of the sexual marketplace due to sex no longer being necessary as a motivation for people (mostly men in this regard) to work and produce things. For women, this on a whole makes finding casual sex easier (in the sense of getting it, but also in the sense of it being socially acceptable and having few consequences). Finding a committed relationships with men becomes increasing difficult for women, and becomes nearly impossible if women are set on settling down with a high …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/14 09:16 PM
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You're criticizing a forum that discusses the generalities encountered in majority culture because you find exceptions in your minority niche? That's like saying that nuts aren't a healthy food because a select minority are allergic to them. Also, TRP totally applies to kink/poly culture. In poly culture, is it easier for a man or woman to find new poly mates? In poly advice forums, which sex do you find complaining that their spouse is out fucking the town while they can't even get a 'hello' fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/14 08:50 PM
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Faking confidence is useful and necessary for those without any, but should be replaced with real confidence as successes increase. For a guy with no confidence, faking it and getting a few lays can help him get motivated and essentially can serve as the first step to self improvement.
/r/askTRP01/12/14 07:42 PM
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To borrow from a quote of mind from a different thread, TRP has always been a fusion of several movements. They represent different reactions to 'swallowing the red pill', aka acknowledging the realities of male and female sexuality, and the modern (recently changed dramatically, but constantly changing slowly) social realities regarding intersexual relations. You have PUA types that accept the reality and try to best adapt to the evolving sexual market realities. They're willing to play the gam…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/14 07:36 PM
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I don't feel guilty about any of my past behavior. The decisions and actions I have made in the past, even the ‘mistakes’, were understandable given my knowledge and experience at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/14 07:21 PM
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You're totally correct. It is no longer enough to be in shape, wealthy, well dressed, and well socialized. In addition, you need to be emotionally exciting. In fact, if you have NONE of the traits of a truly high value man, but manage to be emotionally exciting in spite of it, you will drown in a sea of vaginas. The only real reasons to gain 'high value beta' traits is either for your own purposes (your mission, as you said), or to improve a long term relationship. Given how much of a crapshoot …
/r/TheRedPill01/12/14 06:45 PM
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I think there is truth in that. For example, despite both being ethnic Koreans, they say that the average height in South Korea is a few inches/centimetres taller than North Koreans. Ostensibly for nutritional reasons. I would add that larger size in general signals increased strength, which is useful for a variety of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/14 09:01 PM
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When will you guys learn that TRP doesn't have a social agenda? TRP isn't for/against anything. It presents what it asserts are facts about men and women for people to do whatever it is that they will with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/14 11:05 AM
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All I am requesting of you is to make an argument of any kind if you are going to discuss something with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/14 10:05 AM
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I didn't think so, but wanted to give you the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/14 09:16 AM
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I'm just spelling out the TRP perspective, as per the request of OP. You are of course free to disagree. Do you have any arguments to support your statements?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/14 07:26 AM
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But where does that prefence come from, and why is it so common? To answer your boobs question, they are preferred because they signal for a girl past puberty (woman?), aka fertility.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/14 06:30 AM
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TRP has always been a fusion of several movements. They represent different reactions to 'swallowing the red pill', aka acknowledging the realities of male and female sexuality, and the modern (recently changed dramatically, but constantly changing slowly) social realities regarding intersexual relations. You have PUA types that accept the reality and try to best adapt to the evolving sexual market realities. They're willing to play the game under the new rules. You have MGTOW types who have dec…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/14 06:19 AM
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I don't mean 'bad' in a moral sense. You surely cannot deny that deregulation of a market of any kind will benefit those on the best position to succeed in said market, and will have the opposite effect for those in positions that are not optimum for market conditions. This is neither good nor bad morally speaking. I believe that periods of market deregulation (and re-regulation eventually after) are inevitable. You cannot deny that from the perspective that holds that stable, civiliized societi…
/r/TheRedPill30/11/14 03:08 AM
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I have thought about the current sexual market like this for a long time. Any market that is completely deregulated will end up with, at best, an 80/20 distribution of market goods. This can be great for the advantaged and lucky, but is usually really bad for everyone else. It's really ironic that ultra left wing social justice warriors aren't more readily aware of this in a sexual context, as they harp on this for literally every other market.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/14 08:31 PM
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I think it's more that after struggling for 23 years, you're too quick on the trigger to assume that a girl has lost interest, and too quick to perceive yourself as having made a mistake. I think you would hugely benefit from reading up on frame. http://therationalmale.com/2011/10/12/frame/ /r/TheRedPill/comments/2enc2s/the_best_example_of_frame_holding_in_my_life/ I think the fact that you are letting your surroundings affect you is what is turning women off.
/r/askTRP26/11/14 02:17 PM
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As a straight, cisgendered man primarily sexually and romantically interested in cisgendred women... Emotional intimacy is a very broad category. Some forms of emotional intimacy are necessary for any sexual or romantic dynamic. In fact, flirting is essentially implying more intimacy than is warranted for the time. The message is, 'I like you more than normal'. I find it essential to experience a wide variety of shared emotions with women I am involved with. The trick in my experience has been t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/14 05:10 AM
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You're mistaking the cause of the anger. TRP men are angry fora variety of reasons, and they'll spell it out verbatim why that is exactly. The only context in which tattoos/etc. are met with anger is in that these are seen as symptoms of the underlying causes of the anger. A man may be angry because he believes that many main-stream outlets of society encourage women to pursue their vices, be whimsical, and forgo taking life decisions seriously. "How am I supposed to find a wife and start a fami…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/14 04:46 AM
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I'm honestly surprised that this is even legal for a man to do knowing how hard it is for one to adopt. The reasoning must go that, A. a woman has the right to donate her eggs, B. a women has a right to use surrogate eggs and a sperm donor to impregnate herself, and C. a women is able to surrender custody of her child to its father. I wonder what kind of rights the man has while the surrogate carries it to term? Can she decide she wants to keep it/be the mother after all?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/14 04:15 AM
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Women aren't attracted to a guy with a high partner count, they're attracted to a guy who could easily obtain a high partner count if desired. For example, if a girl found out her crush had fucked 1,000 prostitutes, she would probably feel like he had fucked up views about sex and feel turned off. If a guy has a ton of pictures of himself out with random girls, is socially engaging, gets flirted with and hit on frequently, is known to have had a lot of girlfriends, etc... then a girl is apt to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/14 04:09 AM
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So the truth of the red pill could be considered subjective to the individual's experience, then? Yes and no. The red pill asserts a core set of propositions, so you wouldn't really call yourself red pill if you don't believe in them. The idea is that you should be able to verify the 'truths of redpill' in your observations of the world. I see a lot of the assumptions placed on women (solipsistic, shortsighted) as applicable to most everyone, men and women alike. Obviously that isn't really disc…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/14 03:46 AM
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I think you’re confused about The Red Pill. The Red Pill isn’t about convincing people to take part in certain behaviors because they (or society as a whole) would be better or worse depending upon how many people follow it or not. The Red Pill is a philosophical movement. It asserts certain facts about reality. Specifically, it makes biological assertions about the nature of male and female humans. Taking 'the red pill' is an analogy of the Matrix. People who subscribe to the red pill philosoph…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/14 10:25 PM
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It doesn't seem like you did anything wrong. It sounds like she has a boyfriend and isn't DTF (or rather, the circumstances weren't right for her that night). Ignore her, and she will most likely text you again at some point. Suggest hanging out in an evirnment you can close in (offer to come over her place and watch a movie or cook a meal). If she's just jerking you around she'll decline. If she invites you over, start the escalation ladder. At the end of the day, it's all a numbers game. A ton…
/r/askTRP24/11/14 04:55 PM
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How do you escalate with somebody you've already spent a lot of time with? Escalation is an art, and ideally it should start at the first handshake and slowly build from there. The goal is to seamlessly increase the intimacy bit by bit so that no single jump in intimacy is large enough to be significantly noticeable. You should be going from meeting to some sort of unambiguous display of romantic/sexual intent (it can be as simple as putting an arm around her with clear romantic/sexual intent, o…
/r/askTRP24/11/14 04:18 PM
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This is an idea that young women instinctively believe in, that the "ugly" (though to them it's hot) exterior is a mask that must necessarily cover a beautiful interior, Where does this instinct stem from?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 10:21 PM
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And more importantly, why is openly pursuing a sexual or romantic relationship from the get-go considered antisocial in the first place? I don't think that being openly sexual is antisocial. It's the beating the shit out of other people part that is antisocial.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 09:25 PM
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The metaphysics of what it means 'to be' aside, you don't think that an inherently nice person could go through their life facing total romantic and sexual rejection and neglect, then see someone like Henry, and then feel confused and angry for the first time? It's not that they're upset at not being rewarded for being nice, it's that they're shocked at the juxtaposition of their success and the success of a guy like Henry. What do you tell guys like the blog author when they ask you why they're…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 09:22 PM
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I think it's because dude's like Henry are better at "selling themselves" as higher value, once he's in there..... he's able to manipulate a woman easily. There are two things that can make a sale easier: Having an intrinsically more appealing product. Having better marketing and sales techniques and strategies. Which of these two factors do you feel is more at play?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 06:39 PM
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I reject the idea that because this guy gets laid and has multiple exes and is violent that women are generally attracted to men who will beat them. Where is the nuance here? We have NO idea what else Henry has going on. Or who these women are. What it sounds like is a sad situation, almost certainly involving people living in poverty and possibly dealing with addictions and other psychological issues. Is this only about sex? We don't know. We don't know why these women are going back to Henry. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 06:36 PM
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The more shots you take, the more you make. The thing about being a "Nice Guy" is that someone like that just doesn't have the confidence to tell someone about how they feel/what they want. Do you posit that if the author and Henry both asked, say, 1,000 randomly selected girls out, they would have similar levels of success? Why or why not? To answer your questions though, because he (Henry) sounds mind-bendingly selfish, and people like that eventually get what they want from someone. What is i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 06:22 PM
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Why do you think that is? Is 'why' even a question we can confidently try and answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 06:20 PM
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Do you think that a 'nice guy' would have as much success in culturally appropriate environments for meeting singles as would a 'nice girl'? Why or why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 06:19 PM
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Interesting responses! Because despite Henry's bad behaviour, it often is accompanied by characteristics that are attractive (charisma, confidence). Is there a correlation between the 'bad' traits and the 'attractive' traits, or are they merely coincidental? The 'bad girl' is more likely to be found in clubs and such, so she has a higher chance of being sexually succesful. The 'nice girl' is harder to find, so most likely has less 'succes' in terms of numbers/attraction. Do you think that a 'nic…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 06:18 PM
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his is not a gender war, rather it is a mild storm in a teacup and the forces acting are not wind and water but rather men who have been hurt by women and women who have been hurt by men. I think you're seeing people try and adapt to modern civilization. The nuclear family wasn't possible until the industrial revolution, and you can see the impact that that historically had on sex relations. It's no coincidence that you see the Western women's suffrage movements start around the early 1800s. In …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 05:13 PM
0

We can however give immigrants the right to work and speed up the process so we either deport them immediately or give them the right to seek gainful employment. I live in the USA, and there are some similarities regarding our undocumented immigrants. This is absolutely the correct response. All of these people are here, why not give them the opportunity to work (and pay taxes!) legally?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 12:49 PM
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I mean 'individualism' in the sense of promoting selfishness. I didn't mean it in the sense of promoting uniqueness or individuals, which I agree are largely destroyed by industrialization and capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 05:59 AM
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Are women in the wrong to rebel against the expectation of selfless motherhood? No. I see it as a natural consequence of our era. I don't really buy into traditional notions of things being 'right' or 'wrong'. I think it is also natural and understandable that men change their strategies to rebel against their provisioning role given the circumstances of today. I see it all as an oligotrophic vs. eutrophic environmental strategy update.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 05:52 AM
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She has left it ambiguous as to whether or not you're special enough. If you approach the subject directly, she will assume that you don't think of yourself as valuable enough, and consequently will place you into the 'not in my mouth' bucket. I would ignore the mention of it all together. Carry on and, if it suits you, fuck her Friday. By not even mentioning it, you show that you aren't insecure enough to even consider that you wouldn't be in the special 'cum in my mouth' group. Now, if she's b…
/r/trpGAME20/11/14 10:05 PM
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This strikes me as butt-hurt and insecure. A funny deflection would have better results.
/r/askTRP20/11/14 09:22 PM
1

You would think so, wouldn't you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/14 09:19 PM
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Traditional feminine behaviors are invariably rooted in the concept of motherhood. A large portion of the Feminist movement is actually an attempt to divorce the concepts of woman and mother, but that’s another topic. The thing about motherhood is that it is inherently a sacrificial role. You produce a child, and then must provide for it until it is viable on its own. The focus is on the child, not the self. Given that we (in the West) live in a world which produces the greatest amount of goods …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/14 08:04 PM
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In any case, you guys especially those of you in the manosphere really do hate women. You cannot see them as people so you devalue and consider them "objects" For me, the Manosphere caused me to stop looking at women as a magical entity in of themselves, but rather as animals. A lot of the behaviors that used to make me upset about women no longer do, as I can understand them in what I believe to be a way that makes sense given their perspective. I do not mean to be rude, but please tell me or s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/14 05:35 PM
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Exactly. From the article: Notably, a study showing the employment percentage of immigrants by ethnicity, which uncovered a shocking truth, that fewer than 20% of Afghani or Somali immigrants were employed. The study also showed the discrepancy these groups had with other immigrant groups such as the Kenyans of whom 83 % had found employed within Finland. Here he's specifically saying that it's not a 'brown people' problem, but rather a cultural issues. And the cultural issue is that a huge port…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/14 04:59 PM
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the same BS people were saying to irish immigrants I would argue that the Irish integrated themselves readily into American society, if that's what you are referring to. I live in an area with a lot of Irish ancestry, and yet most of the time you'd never know they were specifically Irish unless you asked them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/14 04:52 PM
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Behaviors vary on a spectrum of consciousness. Some things are essentially always conscious. For example, if I am eating a meal I can deliberate choose to take a bite of steak instead of broccoli, or vice versa. Conversely, some behaviors are entirely unconscious. For example, if you strike the Patellar ligament, you will automatically have a patellar reflex or knee-jerk. No amount of focus or willpower will allow you to resist the movement. Most things, however, are somewhere in between. You ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/14 04:41 PM
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I find this works, though it is better to mildly favor the uglier one (give her, say 65% of your attention versus 45%) as opposed to blatantly favoring the uglier one. Women are much more conscious of subtleties, so what seems like giving one slightly more attention will translate to a much large disparity in the eyes of your average woman. Edit: Motherfuckers don't know that you need to put in 110% in the game these days.
/r/askTRP19/11/14 10:02 PM
2

Your assumptions about people should be whatever assumptions have the highest probability to be correct. An assumption is useful if (and only if) it is correct more often than not. You need to figure out what, in your society, the most probably correct set of assumptions to have about a person are. You then take these assumptions and apply them to people when you first meet them. As you gain more data about that individual, you replace your assumptions about them with facts about them. In the We…
/r/askTRP19/11/14 09:59 PM
3

Here's some medicine: you're not going to get her back. Stop trying. You are addicted to the chemicals your body releases in her presence, not her. Especially if you're still getting over things, you should have ONE goal for the night: have fun! Get wasted, talk with your friends... do whatever it is that makes you happy. If you have to flirt with someone to have fun, flirt with other girls. You need to be smarter than your emotions. Going after your ex will only reopen old wounds or create new …
/r/askTRP19/11/14 09:53 PM
2

No one's brain is "hard-wired" a particular way. That's demonstrably false. For example. No matter how self-aware you are, and no matter how much effort you put into it, you will NEVER be able to voluntarily stop breathing (if you hold your breath until you pass out, you start breathing automatically again) or stop your heartbeat. Why should we believe that these are the only hardwired brain functions? Further, if we even restrict the hard wired brain functions to those essential for life (never…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/14 09:23 PM
3

Affirmative, vocal consent at every point during a sexual encounter is a hindrance and an unnecessary standard. Enthusiastic consent is able to be given and received non-verbally.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/14 09:06 PM
1

It sounds like more pushy, more bossy, more angry, more aggressive, always challenging others and looking to compete in something... not cool. I mean it in the sense of being in a position where others seek your approval, agreement, or praise. A big part of that is making known your expectations for how people behave around you. In turn, a part of that IS being aggressive, pushy, competitive, and challenging. People are inevitably going to have differences of opinion. Being dominant is about get…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/14 05:03 PM
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In my case, I find that the longer I am in a realtionship with a women, the greater and greater her expectations of me become. The demands increase, the nagging increases, the complaining starts... It's just not what I care to deal with. I'd rather enjoy the excitement of getting to know someone over and over again, and the sexual rush of becoming intimate with a new person. It's like perpetually cycling the 'honeymoon phase' of a relationship without the inevitable girlfriend drama. Everyone I …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/14 04:53 PM
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I think it largely depends upon which sex your are talking about, and you vastly underestimate the potential of an individual for self improvement. For women, their sexual market value is overwhelmingly based upon looks. Short of being in good shape, having good hygiene, and dressing well, there isn't much that a woman can do to improve her sex appeal. For men, looks make up substantially less of their sex appeal (not to say that it's not important). In addition to being in good shape, having go…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/14 04:47 PM
2

Just stop inviting her out, and tell her you're too busy to hang out or pick her up. If she pesters you with questions, politely deflect them until she stops asking. She'll get the hint eventually.
/r/askTRP19/11/14 04:38 PM
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Online dating is just a game, so have fun with it. Are you going to next her because you got the idea that she might be a troll? Run your game and give it a shot. You have nothing to lose if you try as long as you don't spend too long on it.
/r/askTRP19/11/14 02:39 PM
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This kind of thinking is counter productive. Am I a beta bitch because I pay for the gas in my car whe
/r/askTRP19/11/14 12:52 PM
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I would emphasize that there are a lot of people who want who want her to do one thing or another for political reasons. Some people will say she shouldn't have a 'man's job' and try and dissuade her from, say, STEM. On the same token, some people find being a full time home maker somehow degrading, and they will try and dissuade her from doing that. Above all else I would encourage her to be honest with herself about the things that are going to make her happy in life, and encourage her to purs…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/14 07:23 PM
1

Alpha in a social and sexual context refers to your ability to lead others/influence them to want your goals.
/r/askTRP18/11/14 04:42 PM
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It depends which aspect of the feminine imperative she is seeking out. Alphas get women at their most sexually intense for the least amount of effort, but the relationships are inherently unstable for a host of reasons. Betas get the girl in the end, but the sexual intensity is less, and they have to work their balls off for it. There isn't a have-it-all strategy that I have been able to devise. I am speaking as someone who has found himself on both sides of the spectrum multiple times. To be cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/14 11:53 AM
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You're forgetting the role social status plays. It doesn't cost anything to, say, be in a popular local band, know the staff at your favorite club/bar for social proof, have a variety of interesting friends, have a good collection of stories and know how to tell them, etc. These factors all improve a man's sexual value (to varying degrees).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/14 10:09 PM
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Again, my point is that there is relatively a lot you can do as a man to increase your sexual market value when your looks begin to fade due to age. There isn't' very much that a woman in a similar place can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/14 10:01 PM
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It depends which aspect of the feminine imperative she is seeking out. Alphas get women at their most sexually intense for the least amount of effort. Betas get the girl in the end, but the sexual intensity is night and day less, and they have to work their balls off for it. There isn't a have-it-all strategy that I have been able to devise.
/r/askTRP17/11/14 09:53 PM
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I can't think of any men who are rich or socially important but not good looking This applies to almost every politician and important business person. Vladimir Putin? Ugly. Mick Jagger? Ben Bernanke? Ugly. Larry Page? Mark Zuckerberg? Bill Gates? Amancio Ortega? Donald Trump? Etc. etc. etc. None of them are above average looking, most of them below (especially without their designer suits picked out by their fashion advisers). the only people who say men can entiely make up for looks with money…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/14 09:45 PM
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Regarding your specific question, "Is there a male version of the wall." The answer is yes and no. Yes, because obviously as a man ages he will lose his physical attractiveness. Same as women. There are a few differences though: Bueaty is a visual proxy for fertility and genetic health. Thus, physical traits associated with less fertility (i.e. aging) are less attractive. Women become infertile before men do, and as such they will lose their physical attractiveness more quickly. A women's physic…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/14 09:20 PM
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In that case, I wouldn't call her out on something stupid. You will just look needy and like you are so desperate you're nitpicking everything. Call her out when she does something shitty, like stand you up without warning/notice, demean you, etc. When they pull lazy white lie shit like this I put them (in my mind) in time out. They don't get my attention from this behavior. Your reply should be something nonchalant and aloof. Simple. "Ok. Catch you next time." is fine. You're showing that A. Yo…
/r/askTRP17/11/14 09:08 PM
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The best advice for someone your age: Get in good shape now and stay in shape. It will benefit you in many ways. The best thing you can do is start a progressive strength training program. For barbells, check out StrongLifts 5x5s, for bodyweight training (my preference), Convict Conditioning. Flirt with girls and have fun with it. Fuck as may as you are able. Don't worry about your sexual performance. Learn how to make a girl cum with your hands and tongue. Get them off once, then do whatever th…
/r/askTRP17/11/14 08:59 PM
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Amused Mastery my friend. This type of white lie coupled with trickle truth is par for the course. If she's just a plate, why do you care?
/r/askTRP17/11/14 08:42 PM
1

The cure for male baldness: ask these guys.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/14 07:37 PM
1

On the topic of catching fish and throwing them away. How else do you practice game without fishing and then tossing them back unless you find a real catch. I am not a Christian and have no issues with one night stands and friends with benefits, so those are my romantic aspirations for the time being.
/r/trpGAME17/11/14 07:29 PM
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Escalation refers to moving from not touching someone to, through a series of incrementally more intimate forms of touch, having sex. Step one is usually an almost accidental brush on the arm. The last step is getting your dick all up in that shit. What is your goal here? If you're trying to get laid, Church doesn't seem like the ideal place... If you're committed to saving sex for marriage... I'm not sure. I'm of the opinion that extended investment in women without sexual reciprocation is a wa…
/r/trpGAME17/11/14 06:51 PM
1

If you haven't yet, Men in Love and Women in Love are required reading. Understanding that unconditional love is not something that men get from their wives and children is the first step to opening your eyes. It is not your responsibility to figure out what impact that has on your life goals. For a ton of us, myself included, it makes long term relationships and marriage lose their appeal.
/r/askTRP17/11/14 06:41 PM
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If you were to take an averagely attractive female and an averagely attractive man, have them proposition 1,000 complete strangers for a casual sexual encounter, who do you think is going to be more successful? They will both primarily face rejections, but the female will get many more yes's than the man, indicating less selectivity/lower standards for the average man. Men are definitely selective in their own right, and you could perhaps argue that men are more rigid in their sexual ratings of …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/14 12:46 PM
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Alpha and Beta are relative terms that refer to positions in a hierarchy. In a sexual context, Alpha and Beta represent a spectrum from more sexually attractive to the average member of the group in question (alpha) versus less sexually attractive to the average member of the group in question (beta). It just so happens that a lot of behaviors are correlated with sexual success (social status, abundance mentality/non attachment, etc.) and sexual non-success (neediness, eccentric interests, poor …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/14 05:40 AM
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The men that women are truly sexually crazy for also happen to be the guys that they hate. They're abusive, apish assholes. No women would ever advise a guy to be something that, because they hate guys like that. The cognitive dissonance also leads a great many women to not end up being self aware. Just like there are plenty of guys who hate the manipulative bitches they go after, but they can't stop because said bitches are really hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/14 05:28 AM
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Because sexual attraction is, at its basis, a reproductive matter, you need to understand the reproductive market forces to understand what's really going on. Note that these forces aren't usually conscious, but rather stem from the subconscious and manifest as strong emotions. People desire a certain set of traits in a sexual partner. Because these traits are sexually desirable, any child made with a person who exhibits attractive traits is relatively likely to also exhibit said positive traits…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/14 05:13 AM
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If a girl LSNFTEs you wait for them to contact you. I think you're also way over-analyzing everything, especially your texts. Who is the girl to you, and why are you chasing after her? Would it be more or less effort to find someone new? Remember, if you're purely alpha fucks, you will eventually get left for a beta bucks. Women pursue both, just at different times. The point in being an alpha fucks isn't to get the girl in the end, it's to get her at her most sexually intense.
/r/askTRP16/11/14 07:55 PM
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I bet his apology is rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/14 08:09 AM
1

It's a lot less awkward to just be friends on Facebook/social media. What are you trying to accomplish?
/r/askTRP14/11/14 09:54 PM
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We're going to need some really good drugs for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/14 09:30 PM
1

Does this imply that previously she was all about the cock carousel?
/r/TheRedPill14/11/14 08:03 PM
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On the plus side, the debate nature of this sub filters for the more reasonable, willing to be open minded subsets of the Red Pill and Blue Pill populations. Sausagefest 2015 could be a great time if it were primarily men, however all of the really memorable parties I have gone to had good mixture. Sexual tension is inherently stimulating and fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/14 08:02 PM
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TRP treats sexuality in an amoral evolutionary context. The reason we like sex so much is because those of our ancestors who mutated enough to produce tons of pleasurable neuro-chemicals after having successfully copulated were thus incentiveized to reproduce, and thus reproduced more often, flooding our gene pool. Our motivation to have sex is us going after the chemical high it produces, but the high only exists as an incentive towards reproducing. Having a child is only part of the battle tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/14 07:55 PM
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In theory it would be a blast, but in actuality it would likely turn into Sausagefest 2015. I think we can all at least agree that a good balance of the sexes is essential for a good party.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/14 07:41 PM
1

It sounds like your dad had his head in straight. Did this end up helping your sister grow into a good woman?
/r/TheRedPill14/11/14 07:30 PM
1

So, was George W. Bush not an alpha male then? I have no idea what definitions you're working with because you have yet to define any of your terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/14 06:56 PM
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Prince Charles is an alpha male? Crown Prince of the United Kingdom? Check. Over 300 million in the bank? Check. Countless women swooning after him (especially in his prime)? Check. Military command experience? Check. Again, I'm willing to bet anything he's had more than his fair share of one night stands and mistresses. He publicly cheated on his wife, one of the most revered women of her generation within the UK, so what kind of shit do you think he was up to in private? Let alone while out an…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/14 05:22 PM
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How do you know which shit-tests require AnA? Tests come in usually one of two forms. The first form is what is commonly called a shit test, and it is where a women will somehow try and push a guys buttons to get him to overload. If he overloads, becomes emotional, and loses frame, he fails the test. If he doesn't, he passes. So, in these situations you can agree and amplify, ignore the behavior, or flip the pressure and start pushing her buttons (in a fun way). What are some examples of AnA? Th…
/r/askTRP14/11/14 04:17 PM
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If they arent all aware of each other and monogamous to you its not a harem, soft or otherwise, its bog standard dating. I think we're in agreement here, then. All I am arguing is that the aforementioned dynamic is the standard dynamic. None of the people you listed did this with their "main wive/girlfriends" knowledge, so your claim is clearly incorrect. What makes a harem alpha is that all of the women are WILLING to be one of many. They accept that the alpha has such high SMV that they dont e…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/14 02:33 PM
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You don't spend your life going around figuring out what other people want. You figure out what you want, offer it to people you find worthy, and move on if they aren't on the same page.
/r/askTRP14/11/14 05:08 AM
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It's not that my wife doesn't get the logic, she just isn't as swayed by logic as I am. Bingo. I think a lot of people misinterpret the phrase, "women are less logical than men" to mean that women aren't capable of understanding logic to the same degree as men. That's just demonstrably false. Some of the best students in my Symbolic Logic class were women. The question is, what informs the decisions being made more often than not?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/14 05:00 AM
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men definitely have their own illogical romantic notions. I completely agree. I just think the illogicality is manifest in different ways between the sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/14 04:56 AM
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I think the sad fact of the matter is just that many women don't know their own bodies well enough themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/14 04:52 AM
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This pretty much sums it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/14 10:08 PM
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I have only ever taken a selfie with a purpose in mind. Either I needed a recent photo for a dating site/social network, wanted to show someone something (new scar, haircut), etc. Never just for the hell of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/14 09:56 PM
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Your "soft harem" just means "anyone who cheats on their monogamous partner or is single" I have specifically designated the term soft harem to mean having multiple re-occurring sexual partners at once. I can't be any less ambiguous. The implication is that there are more sexual partners than a single mate and a single mistress. It's a mate and 10 mistresses. It's a spectrum thing raning from, on the low end, a guy who cheats on his girlfriend, to on the hgh end, a guy who has multiple girlfrien…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/14 09:50 PM
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I don't think many guys researched outside of "Pornhub," but kudos to you for doing so. It just strikes me as strange. I've been practically obsessed with vaginas since I was 12.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/14 07:12 PM
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The idea behind not scheduling dates on Friday/Saturday is that you want to appear as though you have a vibrant social life. If it is already apparent that you have a vibrant social life, it's not really important. The takeaway shouldn't be, "Never ask a girl out Firday and Saturday", it should more be, "Don't ask a girl to hang out by letting her know that you're free most Fridays and Saturdays". For a good rule of thumb, don't worry about the date you schedule as long as you are scheduling a p…
/r/askTRP13/11/14 07:10 PM
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It seems to me that on average, men are more concerned with logical propositions when making romantic decisions (Does she have a boyfriend? Does she want children? Is she a gold digger?), whereas women are more influenced on average by emotional concerns (Do I feel happy? Do I still feel that spark? Why do I feel sad when he is around? Why do I feel anxious about our relationship?). That doesn't mean that this is true 100% of the time. There are certainly logical women out there, and certainly e…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/14 07:04 PM
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Are vaginas really that mysterious? Am I the only guy who never had this problem? I spent my time as a horny adolescent researching sex, and pretty much all advice emphasis foreplay and clitoral stimulation for the woman. I've also never needed extra lubrication... ever. If a woman is properly turned on, she will usually be extremely wet and dilated/open/looser feeling. I don't understand how anyone could mistake an aroused vagina for a non-aroused one. I also don't understand the mysterious way…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/14 06:41 PM
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"soft harem"? Its not a harem if each one dumps you when they find out about the next one, thats just being a seriel cheater. What about the ones who know you're having sex with other women, but don't leave? Most of the people I listed had multiple affairs while married. These mistresses knew that the men were not being exclusive with them at the get go. You cant just arbitrarily redefine "harem" to something entirely the opposite of the point (which is multiple women content being one of many m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/14 05:14 PM
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That sounds dangerously co-dependent. In my experience, romance dies with 'need'. I prefer my relationships such that we're together because we want to be, not because either of us is needed. I'm also against the notion of 'being together as one'. We're separate people. I am with you, and you are with me, we're not together. If either of us rescind our desire to see each other, then the relationship is done.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/14 05:01 PM
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Why do they need that social image? What does "social image" mean here and why is it different to their Alpha status or SMV? Every human culture has a set of behaviors and expectation that they hold as normal. These cultural beliefs are often arbitrary, but a set of norms exists. That is to say, there is a great deal of overlap in the individual expectations for behavior within societies of humans. The most commonly held expectations throughout that society become its social norms. For example, …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/14 01:50 PM
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Not off of the top of my head, though Asian and Indian men are notorious for complaining that white guys take all of the women of their ethnicity. On another note, white guys have probably killed wayyy more minority guys for dating white women than the other way around in the USA. Emit Till anyone?
/r/askTRP12/11/14 09:56 PM
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They are drawn to the CC due to an instinctual need to constantly try and find someone better. Any guy they settle down with, no matter how awesome, will not be good enough to satisfy the little nagging voice in their gut telling them that something is wrong and maybe I can do better. Even if nothing is wrong, they are want to find any reason to justify to themselves their hypergamous nature. Most women don't realize it, but they are essentially shopping around as much as possible to try and sat…
/r/askTRP12/11/14 09:43 PM
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How many high profile alpha males are there that don't do LTRs? How many political leaders, Bank or Fortune500 CEOs that aren't married or equivalent? I argue that these men mostly have wives due to needing to have the social image of being well adjusted citizens for their business purposes. A TON of these guys cheat, have mistresses, and/or see escorts. A true alpha has a harem. Think Genghis Khan, Henry VIII, etc. Not so long ago, these leaders of men also would have slaves and servants, and y…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/14 09:31 PM
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It's worth getting tested for STDs fairly often if you're fucking around a lot. Not knowing is always more anxiety inducing than anything else.
/r/askTRP12/11/14 04:16 PM
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As a white man, I have always noticed that when I am with a women of some sort of minority, all of the men from the same minority want to kill me. It's not just black men.
/r/askTRP12/11/14 04:06 PM
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There is nothing to reconcile. Half of the entire alpha fucks, beta bucks dynamic is that women settle into long term relationships with beta, or in the context of our conversation, pandering men. In terms of being a stable long term mate, women find these men attractive. The flip side of the paradigm is alpha fucks. These are the dominant, aloof, even inconsiderate men who do what they want, and are beholden to no one. These traits are very good at providing a wide array of emotional stimuli (a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/14 03:41 PM
2

What's stopping you from finding a new job in wherever you want to move before moving? If you want to be a leader of any kind, you need to cut out all artificial limitations on your options for yourself. If you want to start a family, you need to make sure you're in a suitable environment before you do. It's your responsibility, really.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/14 03:23 PM
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Have you considered moving? It's never been easier in the history of human civilization to uproot and go anywhere.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/14 02:34 PM
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I think you have made a mistake in the causal order in which things happen. Yet, almost always, the girl will choose that boy who has the confidence to simply be himself i.e. behave naturally, behave as he feels like, without adopting artificial roles. Watch this series, if you are young, as this guy is a good example of "just being yourself" i.e. having the confidence to behave naturally around girls, like with guy friends. Fellow BP, how can we convey this kind of confidence to young men? It i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/14 12:10 AM
2

Cool. Just ask yourself if someone who is a bitch to you is worth LTRing up.
/r/askTRP11/11/14 11:45 AM
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Who is this girl to you? Go after other girls and let her contact you if she wants.
/r/askTRP11/11/14 04:11 AM
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You created the attraction but failed to escalate. Have an escalation refresher, sir.
/r/askTRP10/11/14 09:04 PM
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I just made a post today that touches on this topic. Feel free to read it. Long story short, determine what your needs are for yourself. Set standards that you require people to meet based on those needs. Then, hold onto them with iron conviction. If that means leaving, FUCKING LEAVE.
/r/askTRP10/11/14 08:54 PM
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God you guys need to stop trying to quantify how "alpha" you are. It has its purposes for communication. You understood the message I was trying to convey, no? I think it's more nuanced and realistic to understand that alpha and beta are reflections of dominance, and this shit fluctuates.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 08:43 PM
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Meh, the wiser I get, the more I realize that she and other girls don't do this shit out of mailce. They're following their instincts. No one to be mad at but myself, as it was my fault. I wasn't leading her nor was I leadership material. That was my mistake. I'm leaving the door ajar, but I'm saving my effort for younger, hotter, more willing girls. As we reach our upper twenties, I'm starting to hit my prime and she's running head first into the wall. Her life choices will bring her nothing bu…
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 08:40 PM
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Haha. Not at all. I'm leaving that door open without exerting any active effort into the situation. Effort is for picking up new (younger, hotter) plates, not reviving flames with pre-wall validation addicts.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 08:07 PM
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I'm doing my best to keep that door open, while not putting effort into the relationship. People think I'm obsessing over this girl and putting a ton of work in... LOL we sent maybe two emails back and fourth.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 08:01 PM
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There is going to come a time in the future where she will be broken down, she will be desperate and she will fuck you in an attempt to win you back. How are you going to handle that? Right now you need to decide 100% that when that happens and she's over at your place and you've been fucking like rabbits for a week straight you will absolutely not date or have a serious relationship with this woman. That's kind of what I was hinting at. I'm betting she comes to me with some sob story (9/10 chan…
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 05:39 PM
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Holding frame means you are setting a manly standard for yourself and how others treat you, and you stick to that. Opening up emotionally and saying you miss her is, thus, counterproductive to frame. A good frame for you would be: This is what I want out of our interactions (that's up to you, but be honest with yoursel). Take it or leave it. Then stick to your guns and be willing to walk away. If she says something bitchy or to try and bait you into saying you miss her etc (note that this is her…
/r/askTRP10/11/14 05:08 PM
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I already knew that alpha fucks and beta bucks. A glowing example of this dropped in my lap almost out of nowhere. I am sharing it here for others to read, and as a consolidation of my thoughts on the situation looking back. What have you added to the conversation besides whining because you don't like a post? Have you ever heard of self moderation? Give me a downvote and move on. :-)
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 04:14 PM
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I'm saying that there are girls out there who ruthlessly pursue orbiters, like a hunter stalks prey. They are particularly interested in and skilled at cycling through beta orbiters. All girls have an AF/BB sexual primacy, but some girls spend a majority of their time soaking up the BB. This is merely my experiences with one, and how I see her behavior in a different light via TRP. I tried to throw in some light practical takeaways too. This is aimed at bros who just found TRP to relate to. I'm …
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 04:02 PM
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Maybe you shouldn't be in a thread aimed at beta orbiters (it only says so in the name) if that information is trivial to you.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 03:48 PM
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That's the whole point of this ramble. I am looking back on my past behaviors, and noticed how differently (and more accurately) I can see things now. I hoped the juxtaposition might help some guys bridge the gap.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 03:44 PM
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As I stated in other replies, I haven't talked to her in over a year. She messaged me out of the blue a few days ago, and I noticed how stark my interpretation of everything she was doing was. I thought I might share for the total noobs who still identify with oneitus and the bitter taste of the pill. I HAVE been lifting weights, reading books, making money, fucking other girls, etc. My life gets better every day. I appreciate the concern though.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 03:43 PM
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I appreciate your sentiment, and know well of the trap you have outlined. I really haven't talked with this girl in over a year. I have fucked other girls, and my life is better than it has ever been. She literally messaged me the other day, and the moment served as good opportunity to look at what I've learned. In part, writing this was to consolidate my thoughts, which is why it is so long.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 03:40 PM
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NoFap is a good tool for people with addictions to pornography and masturbation. For everyone else, the only benefit is training yourself to be disciplined. If you find that you suffer sexual issues due to masturbation habits, it may be a good thing for you.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 03:23 PM
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Honestly, you just need to find a time to make it work, and have the logistics in order to take her somewhere to fuck. With girls like this, it's best to let them come to you. Have a hot fiery interaction, let her drift away, and she'll be back for more in 6-8 months. Don't make plans with women like this more than a few days out... they're too emotionally distracted to be reliable. On a side note, I really liked your "If you keep doing this, there will be consequences" line. I am putting that i…
/r/askTRP09/11/14 09:50 PM
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Cheating was similarly easy. Remember that at this point in time we're talking about, people were relatively homogeneous compared to today, and it was a lot easier to pass off a child as being legitimate due to the real dad likely not looking terribly different from the husband, and there not being a concrete way to test for paternity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/14 09:38 PM
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Edit: let's assume divorce is a last resort or even a non option. The best strategy is to always be willing to lave a relationship if it isn't meeting your needs/goals. Always be willing to take the L. To answer your question, there is no point to exclusivity in a relationship with no sex when you yourself want sex. The relationship should be ended.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/14 09:21 PM
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It should be legal. Consenting adults should be able to do whatever they want in privacy. I doubt it will have a huge impact on anything, other than perhaps improving the sanitation and legitimacy of prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/14 09:17 PM
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It depends on what time and place you're talking about. Remember Henry VIII and the Anglican church? Also, even though people stayed married, even in the USA, people were fucking around behind each others backs instead. Now people are actually apt to just end the marriage instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/14 09:27 PM
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This one? /r/TheRedPill/comments/1y9wii/get_them_to_invest_in_you/
/r/askTRP07/11/14 05:42 PM
1

First, only text for logistics. Your text should be, "Meet me at X on Y." If they don't respond, soft next. Stop reaching out to her and start meeting new women. If they respond positively, why not give it a go even if its a few days later? As long as you're leading the conversation it won't be a problem, and you'll get points for being aloof/not bitching about her lack of responsiveness.
/r/askTRP07/11/14 04:23 PM
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We group things into neat boxes because by and large it is useful to do so. A majority of things can be explained in simple ways, and the usefulness of this simplicity can outweigh the nuanced exception situations. You have all heard the question, "Which came first, the chicken or the egg?" The question illustrates how we use generalization to understand animals. We roughly say that an animal is a member of a certain species if they are able to procreate and make viable offspring with sexually a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/14 03:56 PM
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Because sexual attraction is ultimately a means towards reproduction, people are sexually aroused by the idea that the traits they like in their partner have a genetic basis. The idea is that if the traits they are attracted to have a genetic basis, than whatever offspring is made from the sexual encounter is more likely to have those traits by default. Any attempt to learn traits that are attractive are viewed as inherently dangerous, as you risk reproducing with someone whose admiral traits ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/14 03:23 PM
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The TRP members who cry about how marriage used to be great, but that it sucks now just don't understand that marriage has always sucked. I think that permanent monogamy is ultimately counter to human nature. People don't realize that cheating and infidelity are as old as humanity. In the past, it was either easier to hide due to less technology (no ability to snoop phones, email, etc.) and poorer medical science (no such thing as paternity tests), or people just kind of dealt with it because di…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/14 09:41 PM
1

You should have asked for her number before. You can work out logistics later.
/r/askTRP06/11/14 03:56 PM
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It depends on the girl. Most are vapid, and their only value is their sexuality. There are also a significant number of intelligent and otherwise kind women out there. They can provide social stimulation, intellectual stimulation, and networking opportunities. The key is not to befriend a girl you want to have sex with like this. A girl will actively find you sexually unappealing if you primarily relate to her logically, but this is only an issue for girls you want to fuck.
/r/askTRP06/11/14 03:08 PM
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It is definitely both human and productive to cry from time to time--to be emotional and vulnerable. What you don't do is express these facets of your reality with the women in your life. It is a disservice to both you and them. I suppose everyone is different to a degree, but I am more of the mindset that these emotions are meant to be felt and expressed, but while alone. If you really need to vent to another person, it is sometimes best to pay a therapist, as there aren't social repercussions.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/14 02:51 PM
1

I think you might be confusing what TRP advocates is the optimum economic strategy for a woman to follow with what TRP believes an ideal society would be. I think TRP is ultimately divided on what an ideal society would be. Some people are Neo-Reactionary, and really do want to go back to strict, lifelong monogamy with heavy legal and social reinforcements. Others are players, and love how it is more socially acceptable than ever to have relatively risk free uncommitted sex. It seems as though t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/14 01:56 PM
2

A disagreement, how fortunate! Do you think that any feminist would idealize a society in which women were encouraged to be subservient to their husbands, save sex for marriage/mating/long term serious partners only, and where no forms of affirmative action take place?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/14 09:14 PM
1

The idea is that if certain traits are biologically influenced across sex lines, we should see the same traits across human cultures. So if you go to from the USA to rural China or Peru, the assumptions will still prove valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/14 09:08 PM
2

You have already addressed the issue with both of them, so leave the issue alone for a few days and see if things blow over. The worst leadership skill to have is over-management. If the issue persists, and you notice that these guys have tension, it may be best to take them aside individually and set them straight. You essentially have to talk to each of them objectively, saying that you think the political conversations are affecting work performance, and letting them know that you expect them…
/r/askTRP05/11/14 09:04 PM
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I am world renown for my ability to passionately argue with people and points I agree with. On that note, concise breakdown of the fundamental philosophical differences. I agree 100%. I might also add that their respective idealized societies are very different. The problem they both see is that society sucks, but they disagree on why it sucks, and what a society that doesn't suck would look like. To be fair, this can likely be said about differing groups within each movement too. MRAs and PUAs …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/14 08:37 PM
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Honestly, from my perspective the debate about biology vs. society w.r.t. the source of gender normed enforcement is irrelevant to a TRP mindset. Ultimately I agree, as it has no bearing on what the optimzal strategy in the environment ends up being. The only reason to have that debate is to rebut or support a tumblrista/marxist/normative approach to gender norms: meaning that if you advocate that gender norms need to be explicitly rebutted with social change, then whether or not they derive fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/14 08:26 PM
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feminism's response to that social programming is to encourage people to attempt to subvert it by acting outside it or attempt to change those social enforcements... gender role enforcements are bad or good, but says "Given that they exist and likely cannot be changed, how can I achieve the highest success within a society so deeply entrenched in these expectations". Maybe the first and second wave of feminists, but what individual advice have any feminists since the 80's given to women regardin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/14 08:17 PM
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A lot of my family members got sick and died within the past year. That plus a lot of other life-drama recently has granted me a new perspective on how people handle these awful situations. The sad fact of the matter is that, aside from keeping her fed and comfortable, there really isn't much you can do for her directly. The best thing you can do is ease her mental suffering. You can't let her think that somehow her disease is killing you or more than you can take. She will feel endlessly guilty…
/r/askTRP05/11/14 07:56 PM
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Many of you are fairly new and most of the standard advice will make no sense to you: "Cure your oneitis, bro. Go sleep with 10 girls" Seriously? You have oneitis exactly because you have no one to sleep with. The above piece of advice is useless to anyone who isn't already successful. "Cure approach anxiety. Take four girls to the club. Bitches love pre-selection. You'll be drowning in pussy" Again, useless advice. If you already are able to take four girls, you are not looking to cure your app…
/r/TheRedPill05/11/14 07:20 PM
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Here's the similarities: The Red Pill asserts that feminism, social justice campaigns, and demonization of traditional masculinity (more like public demonization, but in turn private pedestalization of traditional masculinty) place unfair harms on Men. The Blue Pill asserts that patriarchy, deep-set cultural misogyny, and gendered socialization place unfair harms on Females. Here's the difference: The Red Pill says, essentially, this is how things are. Adapt yourself to optimize your experience …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/14 07:11 PM
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However, Both TRP and Feminism acknowledge that social enforcement of gender roles from an early age results in deep-seated and often subconscious obedience to gender norms. (admittedly, some redpillers argue biology over social enforcement, but to me that isn't a requirement of TRP canon). As far as I can tell, the canonical TRP position is that each sex is predisposed towards certain traits biologically, but that socialization is a strong enough force such that it can push people towards or ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/14 06:56 PM
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This seems like a bizarre line of reasoning, but experience illuminates its value. Nothing forces you to look at the harsh realities of the world like having your idealized illusions smashed brutally with a giant hammer. ♂
/r/askTRP03/11/14 09:48 PM
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We have a lot of stimulating, respectable conversations/debates on this topic, amongst several others. This is an amazing quality to me, I seek this out not necessarily in a partner but in my company, certainly. The fact that she can provide this makes me want to be with her more. This has been my number one turn on for my entire life, and it has thus been my biggest downfall. I know what you're thinking... this girl is sexy AND can stimulate my mind. It's incredibly rare in of itself for me to …
/r/askTRP03/11/14 09:46 PM
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Very accurate. What's that about the eye of the beholder again? It depends on the group. In my experience, I use these to a MUCH less degree than average. I always act decisively, but never impulsively. Guilty. I like to think so. Sometimes I think I should have been born Catholic. Usually I would rather have control than not, however there are a tonne of situations that I don't care about, and I never have any desire to interact with, let alone control them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/14 09:33 PM
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The issue with this study, and indeed nearly every Psychology study, is that it relies upon self-reported surveys. Thus, we are forced to assume that people only have conscious sexual fantasies, people are self-aware or have introspected enough to deduce what those fantasies are, that these people are honest to themselves about their own sexual fantasies, and finally that these same people are willing to be honest on this type of survey. I am of the opinion that sexuality is mostly a subconsciou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/14 08:01 PM
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Check out the book Convict Conditioning. It is a strength training program, pretty much analogous to any serious progressive weight-lifting programs, but it only uses body-weight based exercises and requires very minimal equipment. Mostly just a place to hang from.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/14 04:25 PM
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Like it or not, race is going to be a divisive issue for a lot of women. Especially white women from North America and Europe, but also for Asian women in Asia, etc. A lot of women are even nationally divisive. Some Japanese women won't consider any non-Japanese man, for example. Rather than gloss over race as a factor in an SMV formula, I think it is better to teach men to include racial pre-selection in their filtering mechanism. That is to say, people of minority racial status should more agg…
/r/TheRedPill03/11/14 04:22 PM
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The abundance mentality is a proxy for being willing to walk away from a relationship if your needs aren't being met. So long as you are only engaging in relationships whee you feel you are gaining some sort of benefit, and especially as long as you are leaving relationships that are causing you harm (physical or emotional), you are reaping the benefit of an abundance mentality. I say this, because these ideas are naturally occurring when someone has a lot of options. You can't really fake the n…
/r/askTRP03/11/14 04:06 PM
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Here you go bro!
/r/askTRP03/11/14 04:01 PM
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Obviously you need to completely cut contact with this girl. Even you know that much. The issue is, how do I not become emotionally overwhelmed and contact her again, right? Long story short, you need to come up with other people and activities to spend your time doing. Forgetting about her is going to take time spent away from her. You're like a drug addict, and every time you talk to her again the addiction comes back no matter how 'good' you were up until then. They key is to be so busy that …
/r/askTRP03/11/14 03:57 PM
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The Red Pill is a philosophical movement, plain and simple. They make certain arguments about the nature of reality, emphasis on male-female interactions, and they make arguments to justify those assertions. Those arguments either succeed or fail to convince the reader. To be a 'TRPer' is to believe that the arguments succeed. For your question, if the assertions made by TRP are true (or true often enough to justify generalization), than adhering to the philosophy should grant you some benefit i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/14 03:15 PM
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Mathematics should really be thought of as a subset of logic. It's amazing to me how many people can program, do calculus, and graph all kinds of crazy shit, but don't know propositional logic or even syllogisms!
/r/TheRedPill03/11/14 02:35 PM
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Only insomuch as these are bad traits for a women to have if she is being evaluated for her long term relationship potential. If you only want to fuck, it doesn't really matter.
/r/askTRP31/10/14 07:43 PM
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You need to take these girls somewhere private to escalate. You either do this by gently guiding them with your hands/body without conversation (best for loud environments), or you say something simple but contextually appropriate like, "It's hot/crowded/dirty/too bright/ in here. Let's go outside/to another room/any contextually relevant place." Once you get to a private place, you have to keep escalating physically, and keep the conversation light and playful. I find a lot of success by teasin…
/r/askTRP31/10/14 07:09 PM
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Tom is absolutely correct. You use texting for logistics only. If they are interested in you they will come out and do things with you. If they beat around the bush, they probably aren't interested. By only texting for logistical purposes, you are essentially filtering out anyone who only wants you as a friend, or who was just being polite to you initially but isn't interested. Shoot her a text a day before your date, being direct. "Hey, this is UKJDNU. Meet me at <place> at <time>." She'll eith…
/r/askTRP31/10/14 06:59 PM
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She's used to people answering with, 'Because I am going to make it worth your while' in some way shape or form. Guys will offer to pay for the coffee, use some bullshit subtext to meet like 'studying', and otherwise show that they are willing to jump through hoops for her. You gave her an answer she wasn't used to, so you get unpredictable/exciting points. You also showed her that you're not around to pander to her needs all of the time, which people perceive as implying you are a valuable pers…
/r/askTRP31/10/14 06:48 PM
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