| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2 | Relationship anxietyI forgot to say that he also thinks spanking children is ok | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/25 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Relationship anxietyOh I forgot to add that he thinks spanking children is ok | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/25 06:35 PM |
| 3 | Relationship anxietyI’m moving right now and I’m in the middle of getting job interviews for a job. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/25 06:23 PM |
| 1 | How do you stick to nun mode routines?Not everybody has to do nun mode. Plenty of women don’t do nun mode and their relationships do just fine. And I’ve done some work on myself, it’s not like it’s been nothing. I’ve read some RPW books and lost a pound and bought new clothes and moved apartments and grown my hair out and a bunch of other stuff. So it hasn’t been nothing. Just because I haven’t lost 121 lbs and moved again or done my hair and makeup everyday or gotten better hygiene or gotten a job or finished school or any of the o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 04:19 PM |
| 1 | How do you stick to nun mode routines?Is it possible that I could just skip nun mode and start dating again? I really don’t have the willpower/discipline for this | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 03:14 PM |
| 1 | How do you stick to nun mode routines?Is it possible that I could just skip nun mode and start dating again? I really don’t have the willpower/discipline for this | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 03:13 PM |
| 2 | New nun mode plan5’4” | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/25 05:55 PM |
| -4 | Says he needs to see what God says about us. Should I move on?I’m just having a really hard time finding guys who will wait for marriage for me, plus everyone on this sub is telling me to “work on myself” whatever that means. It’s really frustrating and annoying | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 08:46 PM |
| 0 | Says he needs to see what God says about us. Should I move on?I like him too! I’m just being realistic with myself especially since nun mode isn’t working | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Says he needs to see what God says about us. Should I move on?Yeah but I imagine that there aren’t a lot of people who will wait for marriage who aren’t against it | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Says he needs to see what God says about us. Should I move on?I didn’t mean to humiliate him, I do like him. I posted those things to see if we were compatible. And I’m not progressive Muslim anymore, I’m Christian now | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 06:43 PM |
| 0 | Field report: successfully avoided pick up artist thanks to RPWWhat do you think I should have done, instead? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/24 12:37 AM |
| 5 | I’m considering leaving my fiance, I need to get this off my chestIt seems like you’re focusing on the negatives and ignoring the positives because at the moment you don’t like the way he makes you feel. Recognize that even in happy marriages there are things like this that make things feel bad. I know it’s tough to sit through those feelings but you are 24 and fiancé’s don’t pop out of the blue, especially as you age. You said he’s a good man. Stick with him. See if you can work these things out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/24 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Field report: successfully avoided pick up artist thanks to RPWThat’s kind of mean. I did my best. And I avoided the worst case scenario. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/24 05:36 PM |
| 3 | Field report: successfully avoided pick up artist thanks to RPWVirgin friend was a woman | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/24 08:30 PM |
| 9 | Field report: successfully avoided pick up artist thanks to RPWWhat other guy? There’s only one guy in the story | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/24 02:15 AM |
| 3 | Field report: successfully avoided pick up artist thanks to RPWI had esex with a dude recently who was like this. Sad. Wish you could have both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/24 10:56 PM |
| -4 | Nun Mode Goals Part 6Look for a partner sooner rather than later, school can wait and/or you can do at the same time. Really great work! I admire your discipline and commitment to your goals. Really wish I could apply that to my own nun mode, I’m really behind | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/24 09:00 PM |
| 0 | Has anyone here gotten someone to wait for marriage for them while having a high body count?I want to raise daughters who will wait for marriage. I feel ashamed of my past and want to correct it somehow. Plus it’s the right thing to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/24 02:30 AM |
| 1 | I am having a hard time swallowing the pill.It’s not that. The men’s perspective is still represented over here (some men are commenters) but without all the shaming and misogyny. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/24 06:27 PM |
| 6 | Has anyone here gotten someone to wait for marriage for them while having a high body count?I understand why it matters, but you didn’t answer my question in the post | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/24 05:07 AM |
| 3 | Is it time for nun mode?Someone on Twitter said that what we often think of as being forever only amounts to 3-7 years. So when we say, that will take forever, remember it will only take 3-7 years, or even less in your case — nun mode is only 1.5 years at the most. You’ll be 26 by then, still young enough to find a HVM. Speaking as a 26 year old, I wish I’d fully committed myself to nun mode at your age. I would have been so much farther along now than I am. Give it time. You need to heal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/24 01:32 AM |
| 3 | I've gotten Girl Game all wrong. (Reflecting on my Observations)What do you do if you’ve been had? Is it just over for you at that point? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/24 09:14 PM |
| 31 | I am having a hard time swallowing the pill.Certain concepts (like hypergamy, men having different strengths and weaknesses as women) are going to come up again but in a much softer and more digestible way. For example, here we acknowledge that monkey-branching is a real phenomenon but we don’t condemn all women as whores because of it. We only acknowledge that it is a possibility and a tendency in our relationships. You’ll find that here — a lot less condemning, a lot more understanding of the human condition. After all, that is the poin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 02:48 PM |
| 72 | I am having a hard time swallowing the pill.Yeah, just ignore the men’s side. Seriously. It’s not for us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 02:38 PM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]This is great! I’ll admit I’m a mixture of both the bad traits on either side… plus I hate grooming myself, lol. Hopefully things will turn up | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Reading: My ex texted me after 5 months of no contact. What does he want?How do you not hate men when it comes to stuff like this? It feels very hard to like or trust them when I just get used. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Updated Questions after Multiple talks and reading the sidebar.Why don’t you try rewarding him for telling the truth? No matter what he says, if it’s truthful, thank him for telling you the truth and perhaps find other ways to reward him (like a kiss on the cheek) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Updated Questions after Multiple talks and reading the sidebar.Maybe you make him feel so uncomfortable that he doesn’t feel comfortable telling the truth? Do you tend to blow up or get angry when things happen? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Updated Questions after Multiple talks and reading the sidebar.I’m not sure I understand. He lies about avoiding you, not fighting with you, and not hurting you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Updated Questions after Multiple talks and reading the sidebar.Why does he lie? What does he lie about? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Updated Questions after Multiple talks and reading the sidebar.Who is lying? Who says hurtful words? Who is passive aggressive and uses sarcasm? Do you want him to display more protectiveness and problem-solving? Have you told him this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Dating as a fat girlI really can’t. I just kept overeating. Before I wouldn’t overeat, and then I lost the weight. Now I do overeat and can’t stop overeating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 07:55 PM |
| -2 | Dating as a fat girlYeah but like, what should I do in it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Dating as a fat girlThat’s the point though, I can’t go that long without cheating, that’s why I need dating advice for dating as a fat girl | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Dating as a fat girlHow long? I can’t stand it. I’m so lonely, and worried about my eggs and about my attractiveness and future | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 02:15 AM |
| -4 | Dating as a fat girlYes, I failed, and this isn’t the only time I’ve lost weight and failed either. I’ve cycled through the same 40 lbs across multiple years | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 09:47 PM |
| 0 | Dating as a fat girlI tried losing weight but it didn’t work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 09:28 PM |
| -5 | Dating as a fat girlWhat am I supposed to use nun mode for, if not weight loss? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 08:59 PM |
| -6 | Dating as a fat girlI never said I didn’t know how to do it. I said I couldn’t. Knowing doesn’t mean anything | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 08:00 PM |
| -1 | Dating as a fat girlMy last ex was overweight but he still dumped me. I think I need to go fatter — maybe an obese man? Maybe an older man, too | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 07:47 PM |
| -10 | Dating as a fat girlI’m not joking though, I really can’t do it. I’ve tried already and failed so much and when I tried starting again I failed again. I can’t do this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 07:38 PM |
| 0 | Dating as a fat girlI don’t know. It just means I was too much for him. Men want comfort food and sex, not a bunch of emotional issues. Men dating you or having sex with you means nothing about their desire to commit to you. Men will literally stick their dick in a McChicken if it services them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Dating as a fat girlProbably because he thought I was too much work, that I was too fat and ugly for him, and that he thought he could do better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 07:31 PM |
| 3 | Dating as a fat girlNo, the other way around. But it was obviously a lie. Just read the comments on the other post, it explains it | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 07:27 PM |
| -18 | Dating as a fat girlI don’t really have much of a choice. I can’t lose weight — I’ve tried before and just gained it all back. I guess I could stay single, but I don’t really want to die alone. And I don’t want to date men of other races because I don’t want people to make fun of me, plus I think being interracial is traumatic for children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 07:26 PM |
| 3 | Dating as a fat girlHow do I know who I can and can’t attract? And the guy was just saying that because he thought he could do better | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Dating as a fat girlMy last boyfriend was Hispanic and even he didn’t want me. Plus I don’t want to be the butt of every joke | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 07:06 PM |
| 5 | Dating as a fat girlChange, as in change who I’m attracted to | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 07:05 PM |
| 1 | I'm too good for every guy I meet?Oof. I had a guy say this to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 06:55 PM |
| -2 | I'm too good for every guy I meet?Ugh, I’ve gotten this line before and I think it was because the guy was out of my league. Screw my league though. My league is full of fat ugly old men | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Book Club: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: Ch. 1: The *Im*proper Care and Feeding of HusbandsI think I might skip nun mode and just start dating again. Weight loss, which is my biggest issue, is too hard for me, and therapy I need to be in anyway | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/24 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Book Club: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: Ch. 1: The *Im*proper Care and Feeding of HusbandsI’m sorry, I had checked this book out from the library along with others as a part of my nun mode. I wanted to update the library on here with summaries of all the books I had read, similar to how u/JanuaryArya did with Fascinating Womanhood. I’m sorry if I came across as gauche. That was not my intention. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/24 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Book Club: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: Author’s Note and IntroductionI’ve never been married so not sure I could give you advice. You might read the sidebar Wiki and other posts on this subreddit, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/24 03:24 AM |
| -1 | Book Club: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: Ch. 1: The *Im*proper Care and Feeding of HusbandsWhile I appreciate your concern, I’m doing this for the subreddit. I know I’m not a selfish wife and that I’m not a sorry excuse for a human being without my (future, hypothetical) husband. That language was hyperbolic. Although if I do need to come into myself still, I hope I do it soon, I’m turning 27 in a few months… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/24 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Book Club: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: Author’s Note and IntroductionYeah she’s a little harsh. I try to think of it being like physics, our actions as women influence our husbands’ actions to create a new equation. If we don’t like the results of that equation, we can change it by changing our input. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 06:53 PM |
| 0 | Finding the RPW Woman: What My Harley Rides Taught Me About RelationshipsPlayed hot and cold? And I guess I have to be mindful to not be too into masculine hobbies… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Finding the RPW Woman: What My Harley Rides Taught Me About RelationshipsIt’s really interesting that the third, almost nonchalant one was the one you stuck with. I would think the second one would be your current girlfriend, considering how passionate about riding she was. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on telling a man about other men approaching you?Not knowing more context I don’t really think I can offer you advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 10:23 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on telling a man about other men approaching you?What are you hoping to accomplish by this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 10:17 PM |
| 34 | Thoughts on telling a man about other men approaching you?I wouldn’t. It seems like stoking jealousy for no good reason. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 10:14 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: 'Girl Game: The GFE'I remember years ago when I first got into RPW and I was reading Ian Ironwood’s posts. A classic. Love the guy and his aesthetic | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 07:02 PM |
| -1 | LDR relationshipHe offered to pay for her apartment/buy her an apartment, and make it so she doesn’t have to work if she doesn’t want to. Sounds like a good deal to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 07:53 PM |
| -4 | LDR relationshipI thought it was RP, she’s mid 20s and probably not gonna get another offer like this after all | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 07:21 PM |
| 2 | “A woman cannot date backwards..”If not by numerical rating, then how do you know if a guy is in your league? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 05:57 PM |
| 0 | “A woman cannot date backwards..”What if you’ve been sleeping with men much higher than your current value and now want to settle down? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 04:50 PM |
| -13 | “A woman cannot date backwards..”I disagree. I think I understand my league and am disappointed by it. I don’t think I can do better than men I have been with. What should I do? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 12:56 AM |
| -10 | “A woman cannot date backwards..”What if you’re in that position and have to settle for someone “below” your league? Are you doomed? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 12:26 AM |
| 3 | Update: I Ended the Engagement, But Things are Working OutI remember when I dated a Jewish guy and I wasn’t allowed to marry him because I would have to convert “for myself” first. Broke my heart. OP, since your fiancé is likely converting for you, will that be enough to satisfy the religious requirements of a Jewish marriage? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/24 07:27 PM |
| 10 | My mother screwed me. Where to go from here?The wiki has a lot of self-help resources for keeping a man. Maybe you would benefit from those? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/24 08:36 PM |
| 7 | "Women would rather share an alpha than settle for a beta" Does this extend to marriage?This doesn’t really address your question but I think you should take a break from red pill for a while. If it’s encouraging you to cheat on your partners or put yourself in compromising positions to prove your loyalty it’s not worth it, imo. Your heart will just get broken and it will be harder and harder to pick up the pieces of your self esteem and dignity. Red pill shouldn’t come at the expense of common sense. Not everything out of u/whisper’s mouth is gold. Your safety, sanity, and self-re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/24 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Looks or money when it comes to datingAsk? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Looks or money when it comes to datingI would say that if you like everything else about him then you should stick with it and try to get him to provide, if possible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Nun modeWhy would that help? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 03:09 AM |
| 2 | Nun modeI don’t want to be single though. And I’m going into my late twenties and am about to hit the wall. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 03:04 AM |
| 2 | Nun modeMy school is full of people way younger than me. I don’t know that I could make friends with them. The rest of the advice sounds great though! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 03:03 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: A Good Relationship Is Built In The BedroomGreat post! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: A Good Relationship Is Built In The BedroomWhen did you start having sex again after babies? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 10:37 PM |
| 2 | to those struggling with relationship ocd, how do you handle it? I think it's going to sabotage my relationship :(Either commit to him or break up with him. Worrying does nothing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageI ended up leaving Islam. I got in a little too deep and was on the verge of accepting sharia law. Plus I didn’t like praying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:29 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with riskThat’s great but unfortunately that’s not possible for me anymore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:27 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with riskWhy the change in media consumption? And how long should I give myself to make these changes? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:27 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with riskHow does that stop men from wanting to pump and dump by the third date? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageI’ll look into it, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageI’m 26 and obese and ugly and so worried every day that I won’t find it | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageHow does it help with identity crises? I’ve been through three rounds already | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageI’m 26. My brain should be fixed by now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageWhat should I seek from a therapist? What state am I in? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageYeah, I ended up leaving. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageYeah, I ended up leaving. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageHow do you figure out who you are or what you want? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageWhat self work should I do? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageI left. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Guilt from past mistakes?? How to move onForgive yourself. Know that as you change your behavior that you’re no longer the same person that you were before. Keep trying and implementing what you’re learning in the book, and be gentle with yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 09:14 PM |
| 6 | Advice: should i let this guy go or try to stay aroundHe’s using you for sex. Leave | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 05:45 PM |
| 3 | How is life like for women who are post wall? Do men treat you different?I’m almost 27. I’m obese. I still haven’t finished school. What do I do? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 07:16 PM |
| 2 | My ex talked to me from a fake account after a psychotic episodeSpeaking as someone who went through something very similar, you have to let him go. Some people don’t want to be with us after finding out about our mental health conditions. This is one of those things. Stop texting him. Just let him go | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/24 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Unhealthy habitsYou need to either get married now or break up. Clock’s ticking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Struggling To Move On After Bad Breakup - Spiritual/Emotional Manipulation (?)To avoid getting taken advantage of like this again, you need to set firmer sexual standards for yourself. Men lie and will say anything. They don’t have morals and boundaries — they expect you to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Is tattoo removal dishonest?Ah. Well, mine is 13. A couple of LTRs, several threesomes, and a bunch of ONSs will do that to a girl. I was under the (mistaken) impression that experimenting with sex while I was young was important and that it would be good to attract a future husband who wouldn’t mind — repel all those nasty “insecure” men, lol Then there were a couple after RP — one I tried to get into dating me and another I did out of shame (for being a whore, ironically) And there you have it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 07:56 PM |
| 0 | Is tattoo removal dishonest?I was wondering that. I have a lot of guilt and shame over being “that girl” (I have a high body count and I get triggered easily when men say stuff about that) and when he told me that I kind of freaked out a little bit. Not that my tattoos are big or anything — the two are on my wrist, small, and then one on my ribcage, all easily coverable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 06:54 PM |
| 11 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsGoes without saying but current or past history of domestic violence, including verbal/psychological abuse | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 05:22 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with riskYes, I’ve talked to multiple psychiatrists. Some differing opinions, some say I have it, some don’t. In any case I don’t split or have abandonment issues so I don’t think I have it. And the rest of the symptoms…well. I’m stuck with | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 08:22 AM |
| 1 | Tigre's Nun Mode Part 4Sounds great! Good luck with everything! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Impending proposal - bringing up ring preferences?Congratulations/Mashallah on the proposal! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Looking for courses on Being Sexy and Supportive for My HusbandThe sidebar has a lot of great help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/24 12:30 AM |
| -1 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageWhat are these sanctioned marriage apps? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/24 03:43 AM |
| -14 | Dad disagrees about arranged marriageThe reason I can’t date a Muslim man is because dating is haram. Plus the Muslim men who are all willing to date are all non-observant or less-observant, and I want a fully observant man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/24 03:02 AM |
| 0 | How do you deal with riskThanks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/24 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Is nun mode worth it?This is so inspiring! Thank you! What actions did you take? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/24 06:52 PM |
| 4 | Is nun mode worth it?What did you do in nun mode? How long did it last? How did you finally start to lose weight? It feels like I always overeat everyday and I’ve lost the weight multiple times over and gained it all back. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/24 04:29 AM |
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