Is nun mode worth it?

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2024-08-02T23:45:08+00:00

Self improvement is always worth it, if you actually improve yourself.

CountTheBees · 2024-08-03T04:16:38+00:00

Nun mode to me is about confronting things that are stopping you from living your best life. So first you have to answer, what actual problems or setbacks are you experiencing that are keeping you single?

Do you have any unprocessed trauma from childhood? Weight is correlated with ACEs.

The stuff I did in nun mode was invaluable for my self esteem, my sense of purpose, and my sense of belonging and worth. I had to prove to myself I was someone who could do many things, scary things, and win. Someone who was worthy of the attention and love of good men. I was desperate just to not be alone anymore and crushing on everyone who talked to me, but at the same time I'd keep my guard up and not be vulnerable with anyone, so those men often didn't know I liked them or understood that I was just desperate and we were very incompatible.

So I knew that I was falling for the wrong types of men, and was not in a good headspace for a relationship, which is why I entered nun mode. But the self improvement stuff happened at the same time and helped my sense of self esteem and helped me understand when it was happening and when I shouldn't settle.

FastLifePineapple · 2024-08-03T04:42:59+00:00

Yes, nun mode is worth it.

I have a bias though because I wrote the current edition for RPW.

Nun Mode (part 1, part 2, field report compilations).

One of the major keystones for nun mode is that you're able to sustain self-improvement as a 'way of life'. Or when you've hit and locked in the threshold of constantly working on becoming a better version of yourself every day.

passifluora · 2024-08-05T13:54:49+00:00

Yes. Just think about it: wouldn't you want someone you date to be excited to be part of your life? If not, they could be with anyone willing to slot into theirs. What does "being part of your life" mean? Does it stand on its own or has it been a series of shared lives with irrelevant men?

AutoModerator · 2024-08-02T22:58:27+00:00

Title: Is nun mode worth it?

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Full text: Today I was going back through my phone and realized I’ve been on this app since I was 23. I’m 26 now and still unmarried and still haven’t gone into nun mode. While I have made some changes — I moved out, I lost weight (gained it all back though) grew out my hair — I still feel mentally and emotionally in the same place. Stuck.

I have a date tomorrow and a call the day after. I think I’m still gonna go but if people could just use this post to share their stories about how nun mode helped them that would be really great. I feel like it would be so much work and it wouldn’t change anything.

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amityjeanklein · 2024-08-03T18:26:57+00:00

YES!!! Nun-mode was a life changer for me. I did about a year and a half of no dating, focusing on myself, and just trying to foster a connection between myself and the life I wanted. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. I now have the best skin/hair routine and health, I no longer struggle with ED tendencies, I like myself… And right as I was starting to feel like I was ready to put myself back out there with intention, I met the man I’m currently with and probably wouldn’t have such a happy and healthy relationship without the work I put in. I always recommend nun-mode in some capacity because clearly things aren’t working as they currently are, so why not try something different, y’know?

ETA: Just for context, I did nun-mode from 22-24 and met my partner right before I turned 25. I’ll be 26 in a few months.

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Title	Is nun mode worth it?
Author	MathematicianMean273
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Comments	16
Date	August 2, 2024 10:58 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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