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Please make a whole post about this; it's wasted in the comments
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/21 10:21 AM
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I don't know about US, but where I live it's pretty normal to be exclusive after a few dates. This doesn't mean you treat your month old relstionship as a one year relationship and make plans for vacations together. It shouldn't be dragged on for a few months
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/21 06:12 AM
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I still take Xanax to go to the dentist. Way too much work done since I was a kid. I also think us humans were built to endure fights and beasts, not surgeries and machines operating inside our bodies. No wonder we are anxious sbout them
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/21 04:27 PM
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There seems to be an issue with the comments so I am writing here instead of replying: There are many red flags here. You are a very y naive and trusting person. Talking about sex and masturbation is not your libido matching. If you have never seen him in video then he is most likely catfishing you. Do NOT meet him unless it's in broad daylight in the park. There are evil people out there who prey on innocent trusting women like you
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 05:13 PM
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He "said, "said" and "said", you know nothing about his personality so keep your expectations low. It's easy for anybody to be fluent and confident online, only for everything to crumble down when you are face to face. Meet him asap. You are very young and since you are in college, your oportunities to meet men irl are immense! You are unsure of him and LDRs are very difficult. If he hasn't suggested meeting and said "take it one step at a time", then I smell something fishy. Does any of you two…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 02:31 PM
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I'd recommend reading Marcus Aurelius' Meditations. It's very awe-inspiring and humbling to read how even the roman emperor doubted himself. You rationally know that you need to do what you want and value what you value, but you also need something to make that emotional click in you. I'll leave you with a quote: >It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own. If a god appeared to us—or a wise human being, even—and prohi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 11:51 AM
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I'm in that weird half of Europe so we have no cleaning corps, we just pay someone under the table hahaha
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/21 04:56 PM
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Afaik childcare business are small, not corporate.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/21 04:34 PM
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This is interesting, but I don't see many conspiracy discussions in here and I guess the mods and users would want to keep it clear of that. (not that I am not into conspiracies myself) There were many periods in history where the gender roles were swapped, prostitution was rampant, etc. so I doubt it's a great conspiracy. I wouldn't eliminate the posibility and I rather consider that a small organic movement was blow out of proportion by economic oportunists. For example I fully understand why …
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/21 03:16 PM
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So you admit that you are broke and that the custom around where you live is to date over a drink (not necessarily alcoholic), but you want the man to cover a restaurant meal? You need to curb your expectations. Say to the date you like before going out "hey, just so you know, i'm broke. Can't get a 5$ coffee broke, so perhaps we can just meet for a walk in the park?". Any decent man would just treat you to a soda or coffee (perhaps even more), but you also need to offer your time and attention …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 06:32 PM
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If you are in a foreign culture, then you need so subject to it. I can't exactly speak for Paris, but if you came to Romania expecting men to pay for a dinner date then you'd either get no date or get treated like a sugar baby. Is this what you want though? Because you ended your post by asking for a man to "support" you, who needs to be 30+ years to be able to have the big money you expect, but also must dutifuly wait for 2 months to get intimate with you. It's uhhh ... not a good plan. Are you…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 05:52 PM
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Here's my take on it. Plenty of people have bad experience with couples' counseling or therapists in general. Sugest to him that, if you can afford it, perhaps you could do something together that you agree is not wasteful, but would bring you closer ... like a trip or a restaurant date. People will be pissed off when you make fun of the situation because you are actively showing that you are not taking it seriously. Only use this sparingly and when you are sure that he is making something out o…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 03:37 PM
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If your relationship has reached blaming each other then I'd suggest going to some couples' counceling to slow down and take apart each issue. If he mentions divorce because he feels a need to be taken more seriously, then NOT taking him seriously by making jokes is probably really counterproductive
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 03:00 PM
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If somebody brings divorce in a conversation than maybe housework criticism is not your problem. Or did he say it ironically?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 02:25 PM
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Does he perhaps has to oversee subordinates at work? Is he in a domain focused on discipline? Some men have a hard time switching between their work mode and home mode. Also, housework is a domain where I see some men turning into complete nags! They are so focussed on speed and efficiency, while us women just do things the way we know (or our mothers taught us) and in our own rhythms. Your boyfriend might simply be in that efficiency and discipline driven mode and you'll need to make his mind c…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 01:39 PM
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Acts as proof of love belong in movies, not in relationships and certainly not in RP
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 03:42 PM
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I thought about writing a post on it, but I don't know if it would be well received, especially given that most of you are american and i so unfamiliar with the dating market there or american women in general
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 02:00 PM
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She doesn't necessarily have to go to bdsm fans or horndogs; there are plenty of reasons for which men may overlook such a flaw, especially in areas with high corruption and bad economy. There are men who have done shady stuff themselves out of poverty (like smuggling or selling weed) or have a job that pays well but is seen as icky (think truck drivers, sewer workers, etc). These aren't men who most people would say are HVM's, but actually can make great husbands and amazing lovers. Also, just …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 01:30 PM
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I work for an adult webcam studio and I can say that, contrary to what anybody would expect, the women there are the most based and redpilled I could find, even if nobody has ever heard of Red Pill or even Reddit. With that being said ... Do not stay in the industry for any moment longer than necessary. Get yourself out of the financial hole you are in and then find another job. Do not quit your studies or your productive hobbies. Let this whole sex work thing be a black spot in your cv and not …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 11:41 AM
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I think it's a bit counterproductive to rule out any woman whose love language is gift giving but hey, I'm not a wealthy man so I can't speak from experience
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 05:53 PM
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If your meetings with men do not translste into a relationship, it is because you lack something that men value (you do not seem to lack sweetness or empathy). The fact that your friends are getting engaged is irrelevant; they could all end up divorced by the time they are 30, so do not compare "achievements" with them. It's hard to say over the internet what it is that makes men not stick to you, since it can be a myriad of things! Do you have one wise and honest friend that can help you and co…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 03:58 PM
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Sure, but the standards of cleanliness and eating have also changed! Eating meat was something you'd only do on weekends if you were poor, while nowadays every meal has a bit of bacon or chicken. We never had an Industrial Revolution in Romania, so my grandparents grew up in villages without electricity, giving me a good insight on what pre 19th century life probably was in the Western world also. I ask grandpa about it and, apparenetly, in 1940s Romania nobody had a refridgerator or vacuum clea…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 05:02 AM
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I will play devil's advocate and be the conspiracy nut for you! There definetly was a conspiracy in the communist countries to abolish the housewife so that children will be raised equally by the state. No-fault divorce was basically invented and pushed by the USSR ("The first modern no-fault divorce law was enacted in Russia in December 1917 following the October Revolution of the same year. Regarding marriage as a bourgeois institution, the new government transferred divorce jurisdiction from …
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 03:37 AM
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work =/= job. I don't think people say "housewife" as in sitting around and watching soap opeeras, but as a woman who does not specialize in a trade In a rural society in pre-electricity times (which is most people for most of history) the houswork is so much (start the fire, kill and pluck the chicken, milk the cow) that you can't afford to have your wife specialized in a monetizable skill.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 03:19 AM
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Yes, you have noticed well. No, a coffee date is not enough, but generally dates here are over drinks, not movie & dinner, so you don't spend outrageous ammounts. Also I have noticed that some women here find "enduring" a man's rage and bad behaviour as a virtue which is just so counterproductive (same for old people vs youngsters). I recently came over this issue with my father in law and his wife on a vacation. The man yells, swears at other people in traffic, generally behaves however he want…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 05:25 AM
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First, there is no need for you to have very close friends at all times. A few superficial relationships from work can do for the moment. Second, can you describe the actual situations in which you have been called immature?
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 02:14 PM
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Gold diggers who date men who are only rich, with no value to sustain it (eg. They inherited dad's money or won the lottery) already have one foot out
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 02:11 PM
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Journalist Dan Alexe describes what he calls a "flirt line" dividing Europe in two. In the Western half, society is more egalitarian and flirting is done by both partners. In the Eastern half, society is more divided, but flirting falls under the duty of the man, who must impress, chase and pay for dates/flowers. It plays perfectly with the words "apply effort successfully to achieve their goals. ", because the conquering of the woman is in itself seen as a test if the man achieves a goal. I'd l…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 09:42 AM
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Well that is how I also see the situation here! She's not pregnant to even wonder about a fetus' abnormalities, yet he is so quick to issue an ultimatum. Can they really not have a few back and forth on the topic over, let's say, a month's period? Because there are so many reasons from both sides to bring up (ex. she can bring up the fact that handicaps can develop in a child post birth; he can bring up a close experience with a child with down's syndrome or something similar) which can definetl…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 06:38 AM
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Ahh, thank you! <3 I think it might a sampling error on my part, as my male friends or former partners perhaps aren't relevant to the male population in general. Perhaps it's a cultural difference, since you are in the US and I am in Eastern Europe. I've noticed some men who present attitudes like "pfft, why should I defend her? she has a mouth to speak" "lol why would I pay for her coffee?we both have jobs!" as a default when meeting a new woman. Also I think a lot of us fall into the trap of t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 06:32 AM
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I don't see this topic as comparable to monogamy, though yes it's bigger than socks, hahah. I'd rather compare it to prenups, for example. A partner who doesn't want a prenup for a hypothetical marriage in the future can definetly have their opinion changed through discussion. If not, it's a fair reason to split, but let's say op's fiance sees a post on facebook about a divorce, then quickly gives her a call and an sms with an ultimatum. Doesn't it seem like an overly emotional reaction?
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 04:59 AM
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"don’t go looking for men with innately chivalrous or protective or providing tendencies" I mean there's a difference between a man having a tendency for it and a man being educated (by oarents for example) to do it. But if a man doesn't even have an innate tendency for it I'd say that inspiring him is rather futile
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 04:54 AM
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It's good that you know yourself! Your mother wil find out somehow and, well, things aren't going to get easier for you further along the pregnancy or as you will be waking from hour to hour to breastfeed. Better rip off that bandaid now and just decide to either tell her yourself or let your dad slip it to her. As she will unfold her drama, remember that your status as "daughter of the family" has changed. You are now a mother in your own right! The stress and emotion of it are enough, so you a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/21 04:39 PM
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Do you have a reflex of pleasing your mother or calming her down? I ask because I see this happening in other people with controlling parents, for example if she would call you to say she is upset over you not telling her, do you spend 20 minutes on the phone to calm her down, even if you know it's not your job?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/21 06:29 AM
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Well, they would be splitting up about a topic. Nobody has cheated, nobody is pregnant, nobody has stolen money from their joint bank acccount, got drunk a ruined a wedding, etc. It's a man making a phone call one day suddenly and willing to say he will break the relationship over a hypothetical situation. Does this sound rational to you? To me it sounds like somebody having a little hysterical moment, which can be sat down, boken down and explained
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/21 05:55 AM
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Issuing an ultimatum via text on an imaginary future scenario is ... odd. Does he have disabled relatives or friends? I know that kids with disabled siblings often feel neglected. Regardless of the stance one has on elective abortion, I think you should tackle the issue of how you discuss such subject. Have a serious conversation with him and, before you talk about the pros and cons of the imaginary future scenario, ask him why is he so quick to make a decision? Why the ultimatum? Would any seri…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 07:17 PM
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Personally, I think it's counterproductive to think in terms of "switching" to finding a husband. I think all relationships should be approached optimistically, but without the automatic expectation that it ends in marriage. To further explain ... if you see a reason in a guy why you would 100% not marry him, then it's grounds enough to not be in a relationship with him from the get go. If you expect it to end in marriage from day one, then it only puts pressure on you. There are plenty of stori…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 05:17 AM
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I just think some of us confuse "communication" with "complaining". To give some personal examples, my fiance has the habit of leaving his used toothpicks everywhere, which is disgusting. Telling him (complaining) about it achieved nothing, so at a certain point, whenever I was tidying up, I just picked the used tooth pick off the desk and showed it to him. I continued to do this, to just say nothing and just bring him the dirty tooth picks when I found them and sometimes just leave them there. …
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 08:30 AM
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You're right, I framed it in a condescending manner (in my defence, when I wrote it, the comments only said how reverse age gaps are not a problem ) I could have simply said to OP that ,in my opinion, she needs to avoid long distance relationships, then read the articles in the sidebar and search for articles about reading men's intentions.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 06:48 PM
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So far he has proven nothing and only talked about himself. No man I've ever dated talked about himself, they just talk about what they like or what their opinions are. Keep your options open
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 06:41 PM
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Some men express themselves more openly than others. It's hard to tell from online interactions and without details. What exactly made you skeptical?
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 06:32 PM
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I just read a book by a therapist (which is not in English so I can't link it to you :( ) and in it she has a chapter about a type of emotional con-man, the "lover boy". There are evil soul-less men out there who can immitate empathy perfectly and tick all the boxes to make us like them (buzz words like "equality" and asking abouut our feelings, while also being gorgeous and rich), only to just use us and then cheat/lie/do whatever. Now only from your few words nobody can tell if this is the cas…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 06:21 PM
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Let approval be your motivation for hobbies! You won't be able to make your need for validation disappear, but you can transform it into something constructive. Seek to stand out for your mind, not your body. Pick up anything, even if it's fanfiction or a tumblr blog.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 06:11 PM
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I don't think there is very much encouraging or convincing needed, as life gets at you and as you age, you start to see why people did the the things they did in the past. Many people don't start as traditional but end up like that after marriage or simply living together. If you read forums, there are plenty of women who never picked up working after they've had a baby, as both partners simply liked it more that way. Some of us think that marriage and "holding down" is something that only women…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 07:12 AM
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Just say "yes" to evertyhing. Hang out with people who invite you somewhere even if they seem like a bad friendship match
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 01:52 PM
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I know I'm the pesimistic one, but this is a Red Pill sub, so I will be bluntly honest: You sound a emotionally immature. At 25 years old you should be able to read people's body language and intentions, not wonder if somebody likes you back. I think you should step aside and do some soul searching, socialize more and not head onto gray area territory. I say grey area because LDRs only work under certain circumstances and age gaps with the woman older are rare. I know that there are exceptions t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 12:24 PM
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Friendly reminder to not hunch. Lots of tall people I know have this tendency to lower their head, giving them a little hunch that is unhealthy
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/21 12:13 PM
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"To provide some backstory, he is quite traditional and we have talked about officially becoming boyfriend/girlfriend, but he wanted to get to know me more " The issue is not you not submitting in any way. shape or form, the issue is that you've been talking for at least a month yet you are not his girlfriend. For some reason he is not interested in committing, either in general or to you and you are just clinging to him
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/21 07:22 PM
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Jesus Christ, this sounds like hell! In my backwards country we have more safety nets for married men it seems
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/21 04:58 AM
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This is lovely; goes to show that women aren't housewives because they aren't capable of doing "better".
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/21 04:53 AM
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Yep, just spit it out in the first dates
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 05:58 PM
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Thank you <3
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 03:05 PM
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Well what is the alternative? You just stay like this no matter the consequences? The world is full of people who made bad choices due to growing up in a bad neighborhood, abusive or absent parents, etc. Also today's culture doesn't encourage us to mature early, so many women end up being slutty and attention seeking and many men end up lazy slobs and porn addicts. You are not alone, but are you willing to accept a partner who has come from a similarly bad start? Can you trust a man who, for exa…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 11:48 AM
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This is why I recommend giving OLD a chance; it doesn't hurt to just have a profile and respond do some messages
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 08:20 PM
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I don't know why I misread the "gone on 1 date" part
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 10:22 AM
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... does he have reason to worry that you are a catfish?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 05:33 AM
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By this comment I see that you know yourself very well:) RPW is about surrendering, opposed to modern culture, which is very individualistic, which encourages individuals to have it all their way everywhere all the time. Remember that your man is not your teacher who gives you a bad grade if you disagree, he's not your parent to ground you if you contradict him. Men as romantic partners actually will favour their loved one's opinions and wishes more than anybody else (and more than we do for men…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 05:12 PM
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I have an atheist friend who used to date a moderate christian. Now they are married and have a beautiful baby boy :) It is impossible to find a partner who is just as interested as you in the same subjects as you. Also, women tend to be more religious than men. You are of the same faith, you won't have problems. Do not be afraid of anything! If some situation in the future will require one of you to compromise, it's not the end of the world, not something that you won't be able to handle. It is…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 03:40 PM
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I will touch on something more specific that the others did not touch; there are certain psychological traits which made it so that women always ended up doing the cleaning and men doing the more technical aspects of the household chores. Men do not have as much attention to the detail, they focus on effiency rather than thoroughness and they want to innovate, but they lack patience. How does that translate into house chores? Men won't calculate what water temperature is needed for different fab…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 05:19 AM
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Self care is not about taking bubble baths, it's about self development and emotional stability. It's not for your own benefit, it's also for the benefit of those around you
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 02:47 PM
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A lot of people are just as lost as you; a lot of people wish to change the world because they deeply want affection and apreciation ... I'd give Peterson's advice to "clean your room". Your life and your house must be in order before you can claim to put the world in order before you. Self-care is not selfish, it is the base on which you can better the world, because your personal life will be an obstacle for your career if it's done wrong. Have you ever thought that women have children precise…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 05:22 AM
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He didn't set up any test, yet you still failed it. How? You complained. You could have just said you preffer cats, but you had to state how much work dogs are. You don't even have a dog and you already complained about it!! Of course the train of thought in his mind leads to children, because men do think ahead and when they look for a wife. If you complain about a dog you don't even own, how will you react to children? Won't you turn into a perpetual complainer? Cyncism. Nobody likes a cynic a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 08:30 AM
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The "food" industry has replaced the housewife and the kitchen Can we expand this into the supplements industry and even medicine? Back in the old-timey days, mothers and old women would know basic cures and therapies (like what type of tea makes you sleep well, what food is an aphrodisiac, what calms a bad cough) until we institutionalized medicine and only listened to The Science™. After laughing at the wackos who drank "flavoured leaf water", now we're all back to hemp oil, and there's an ind…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 08:17 AM
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I was speaking based on the idea that we are all animals and that we cannot stop wanting what we want. I avoid conflict at all costs at work or at home, but sometimes I do watch some 90-day fiancee clips and it relaxes me. Peraps it's good to have an outlet, if you can separate fiction and reality tv from life, or perhaps I am just an aberration
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 07:34 AM
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You will always have a deep desire to please your mother, but you need to accept that you never will. Keep your contact cold and rare. I too am an incurable escapist, but I use that for art and I suggest you try to that too!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 02:41 PM
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Hey! There are plenty of Youtube channels who break down abuse and therapy techniques which you can watch for free. Here's one example that I watched recently: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vnSiJOOdo30 . What you need to pay close attention to is to not become a self-fulfilling prophecy. When we feel worthless we often have a masochistic tendency to put ourselves in situations we know we are bound to lose. Focus more on building healthy and productive habits and lifestyle, and don't wonder too…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 01:23 PM
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Men who get offended by you taking safety measures are immature at best and malicious at worst!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 01:09 PM
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Men don't get "offended" like that. Please never ask yourself if you are rude for refusing somebody/not going somewhere/not getting into a place or car, because evil people bet on it. Good men aren't upset that a woman doesn't go somewhere with them or get into their car
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 05:35 AM
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I am lumping here all the men in the world; I'd say that men, generally speaking, would accept the advances of 80% of women who approach them (contrary to women who accecpt let's say 20%) because of various reasons that would make them undesirable in my book. First there are the f-boys and the liars who'd profit off of anyone in their vicinity, then there are the shy and immature ones who are so frightened with rejection that they can't just ask a woman out and why not, men who just settle, as y…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/21 03:03 PM
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Isn't it better to quench your thirst for drama from TV, than to start it at work or at home?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/21 11:52 AM
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Yep you can 100% stay positive and productive. Get the best job and keep it, date for relationships, not for sex, culture yourself, don't do drugs, don't drink too much. If you end up an emotionally stable and reliable person who's pleasant to be around, nobody will care about what your past or your parents and you won't care either
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/21 11:43 AM
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I don't agree that women should make the first move because one single reason: women are more selective, which means a man could accept a woman he's not really into just because he made the first move. Do you want to be pursued or accepted?
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 03:25 PM
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Thank you. Please don't feel damaged and unworthy, these feelings don't lead anywhere productive.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 04:41 PM
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I feel you, OP. Please don't downvote her, she is simply being honest with her train of thoughts. (tbh if all of your friends and family don't like this guy, there's probably something to it, but it's no guarante; best to keep the relationship going until after college and see where this man heads to. I've seen men who seemed lazy and uninterested in college, then completely flipped into very productive and high energy individuals the moment they had the reins to their life) Now to answer, you .…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 06:25 AM
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"talking [...] online in video calls. We have great chemistry" You don't know if you have great chemistry. The successful couples I know who have maintained long distance relationships are those who met each other IRL and then other situations have separated them (college, emigrating for work) and then they got back. I don't want to be a bummer, but I don't know anybody with a successful relationship which started online, despite it being theoretically possible. I am not saying this is a scam, b…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 06:08 AM
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I was thinking to just have a tiny ceremony with a family gathering in september or so. We really haven't thought about it since we don't like weddings anyway and both of our parents are divorced and spread around different cities/countries.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 06:43 AM
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I met my fiance on Tinder :) he was my first and only date
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 05:34 AM
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Omg, I went to one of those in high school too :) it was the highlight of the year!
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 05:33 AM
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This comment is 10/10; please make a youtube channel with boomer stickment talking exactly like this
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 05:45 PM
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Yeah, staying single since then (25 years) might have helped
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 05:34 PM
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I have a hunch she deeply regrets divorcing my dad.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 03:39 PM
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Thank you <3
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 03:36 PM
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Keep in mind the kind of feminism that was trendy in your mother's times, because it's the source of it. I also caught my mom commenting somewhere on facebook that "my daughter got herself a master", which is ridiculous given my fiance's kind nature. Mother - daughter animosity is ... weird
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 02:57 PM
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A good partner never compares you to other women or compliments them to your face. At the same time, you can't make a guy like voluptuous curves if he's into skinny teens; but you also can't make a guy like skinny teens if he likes curves. Men usually have types that they like, so don't take their distaste for your particular shape to heart (unless you are overweight or anorexic). A long term partner should be into the exact body type or facd type you are, imho
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 09:32 AM
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it can create connections with people that would otherwise not exist, like shared hobbies, interests, sense of humour Yup, it's like vetting for interesting people from the start, without needing to ask them if they have hobbies or interests
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/21 11:51 AM
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Yes, she is. Many people grow up emotionally stunted because they were thrown with nannies or grandparents or various childcare institutions. I also wouldn't think it fair to spend 8 hours of energy at work and only care for my supposed child in the evenings, after everything else drained me of energy. Next year! Not really. Most can't afford to stay at home and work as they are young to avoid financial disaster later in life I paint, write and read; sometimes sew or do various crafts Why would …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/21 11:49 AM
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Ehh ... if I asked my dad about relationships, he'd just advise me to find some beta that I can "train" to do what I want. Edit: I'm getting downvoted for what my dad told me?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 12:33 PM
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You shouldn't base your live around what one man says to you, since people have their particularities. Also, you shouldn't base your life on what people say, but rather what they do. Look at the successful marriages around you and see what the women do different than you
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 10:37 AM
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I think you're better off hanging out around here reading the wiki and the theory posts than asking a man you've never met who is of a bOuRgEoIsE fAmIlY
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 10:31 AM
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I don't think you can "learn" to be feminine by having it explained to you as much as can you learn by imitation. I'd rather suggest you watch old school movies or comedies who have lots of feminine characters (you know, in the times before female characters were shaped by ideologies) since teams of writers, a director and a good actress have all struggled to create a likeable character. From there, you can pick your favourite, or the one you identify with the most, and go with a "What would X s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 05:13 AM
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We had a dead bedroom situation and he was kind of passive in general. Now when people (especially women) hear about a man with a low libido, they treat is as a sort of unheard of anomaly with no cause or no treatment, like a kind of leprosy. Us women tend to gravitate into this hypergamous circlejerk where we all encourage each other to look for a man with more money/better looks/cooking skills. Nobody ever stops to tell us to lose weight/cook better/be more modest and even if they would, we'd …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 05:46 PM
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Be careful. All but one my friends encouraged me to dump my so or cheat on him. It would have been the mistake of my life.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 04:09 PM
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Exactly!. Like I'd take Aragorn over Legolas any day
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 04:05 PM
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Where I live, we have a saying which roughly translates to "a man only has to be less ugly than the devil", which I think sums it up perfectly. I am a photographer who's worked with male models, from tall skinny fashion boys to chiseled athletes and while I do like to look at them, they just ... don't bring up any sexual feelings in me? It's like yeah, they are pretty, but a man I want next to me needs to be a little rough on the edges, with a little extra fat, maybe some hair in the right place…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 11:01 AM
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Ahh, did belphegor get promoted as prince of hell?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 04:53 AM
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I also felt sorry for her until I figured that surely he has his peerks. I can imagine that nobbody in the neighborhood bothers them: kids not playing ball in front of the apaartment; jehovah's witnesses have him on a "do not knock list"; telemarketers permaanently deleted their numbers, etc
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 04:50 AM
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Just this month I was catching a train and this man was loudly swearing and cursing at something (like politicians and institutions in general) like a damn madman, next to his very quiet wife. He looked like a drunkard that would make you cross the street just to be sure! Anyway I had to get up in the train just behind him with my heavy bag and the pier was so low that you had to do a half split to climb the stairs. The second I put my foot up the stair the man turns around, calms himself 100 to…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 05:07 PM
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It was called "big five" but i don't remember anything else. I took it at a therapist's cabinet and I know the test was from a paid professional website, so you wouldn't be able to just take it online. Try asking a therapist if they can test you and interpret the results
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/21 08:02 PM
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I have sccored a 1/10 in agreeableness on my personality assessement. I feel you. First, keep in mind that you do not change and you do not put on an act. There is a difference betwen your personality and your behaviour. I recommend you try to maximize your interactions with women and minimize those with men. You know that saying that you are the average of the 5 people you hang out with, right? People rub off on you and if you have a group of guy friends you hang out with that treat you girls l…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/21 02:12 PM
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You can still be 100% technically right and your partner could still be 100% right to feel salty. Think of this: let's say you are both in good shape and don't eat junk food, a standard that everybody can agree is healthy and easy. Some time in the relationship, your boyfriend starts going to the gym every day, talks about his abs, reads fitness magazines and talks about meal prepping and supplements all the time. Wouldn't there be a looming fear in the back of your head that if he gets super ri…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/21 06:18 AM
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We need more wisdom from the antiquity in RP
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/21 05:54 PM
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Platonic friends do exist. You can be friends even with people you are attracted to, if everybody's already in a LTR and you're not a slave to your urges, but ... he had a crush on her and she is behaving inappropriately to him and she makes snarky comments at you. There is absolutely nothing productive coming out of this friendship and it should be beneath him
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 10:27 PM
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I side with you on this, this behaviour is supicious. I get it if he just had a slutty friend who just "acted like that lol", but the fact that he did have a crush on her changes things. At 27, he should not hang out with women who rejected him, that's what teenagers do. He might be completely oblivious to that girl's behaviour, as OP said that the girl does that to other men as well, so it wouldn't register to him ... but this woman spells T R O U B L E. You never know when things will escalate…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 10:23 PM
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These sorts of things differ from person to person and relationship to relationship. I think smothering begins when you bother him as he's playing video games/reading (basically anything that requires attention) or if you want to insert yourself into the outside activities he does with his boys (playing football or just a night out with the guys). At the start of my relationship I was very lovey dovey and he kept pushing me off ... turns out he was just extremely anxious/uncomfortable because it…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 05:23 PM
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It's a yello flag imo. Men simply are more dirt-blind than women. I don't know what it is, but they just don't seem to care. On the other hand, men should have an instinct to impress women, hence that joke of a roomate who made a fake tinder profile of a hot woman to trick his roommate into cleaning his room. By the time a man is 29, he should figure out that when a woman comes over, you tidy up a little bit to impress her! Perhaps he's the type of guy who never knew anything else but filth and …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 05:36 AM
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You don't need to have royal blood to be queen or have any other title by marriage in most cultures (at least european). The first example that comes to mind is Empress Theodora. Later in the European aristocracy it was quite common for men of noble blood to marry peasants or daughters of simple merchants to "freshen the blood", meaning to get rid of health defects due to inbreeding. Their origin did not affect their title or inheritance rights
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 08:51 PM
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Educating children is not some chore; you are shaping another human being, their values, behaviour and ability to succeed in life. In no way, shspe or form does that compare to being a stewardess. Also, pilots don't decide the destination ... it's pretty much down to the airline companies.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 08:46 PM
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Nah, I'd say most people who publish books do so because their ideas keep them restless until they express themselves
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 08:45 PM
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You are neither ignorant, nor shallow. I wouldn't say that society is male "dominated", given the ugly connotation of that word. I'd rather say that society has male as the "default". It's hard to come to terms with it because of all the feminism, but it's actually not grim at all. If you look at the history of humanity, especially of the commoners, it's quite easy to figure out why it is so. Until the last decades, women have had an average of 3 to 5 children, which means a lot of time of being…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 06:05 PM
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Good men are everywhere. They are at cafes with their friends, at walks on the beach, on social media, on christian dating sites. I wouldn't rule out bars if I were you, since a godly man wouldn't necessarily behave the same as a godly woman and not all bars are same. If he was to chill for a few hours with his work mates on an evening, where would he go? I also never ever drink when I hang out with my friends, you can just sip a soda at a chill place, just avoid rave parties or clubs famous for…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 03:39 AM
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For when you decide to go back dating, here's a guide for online dating apps https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/nc9x4l/my_ultimate_guide_to_rpw_online_dating/
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 03:27 AM
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Me too. I imagine history before laws and instutions existed and the moment when somebody snapped and said "look! Just one man and one woman so there's enough for everybody, okay??". Pre-nups are already a thing, so I imagine in the future somebody will invent some sort of indissoluble marriage or something. Anyway, in the words of PJW, "conservatism is the new counter culture". One day my friends won't look at me oddly when I say I don't believe in divorce
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 07:35 AM
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Well keep in mind they are a minority. Most men just want a good wife/girlfriend and to get on with their lives. You can also delve into the dark depths of female malevolence and find it hard to trust women, but being cynical and nihilistic doesn't really lead you anywhere
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 07:28 AM
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I feel terribly demoralized because for the first part of my life I was influenced heavily by feminist and marxist thought (I live in a post-communist country) and then as I reached adulthood I was hit by the back-swing for this thing I didn't even invent! When we draw the line and look at history, the most successful and stable societies practiced monogamous marriage. Sure, there were men who had loads of mistresses, dozens of wives or lived in the single life fine and dandy. There were also wo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 06:39 AM
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Even in polygamy, the first wife takes precedence in traditional societies; also, it was only the most successful men who couldd afford many wives; average Joes didn't get a harem of women. Polygamy doesn't work simply because we are 50% men and 50% women, we aren't domesticated herds of sheep where you have one ram impregnating all the females. To answer your question, I don't think any man "should" anything and there is no such thing as "having access to women". Some men seem to want many wome…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 05:41 AM
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This is because if they do give effective solutions, their audience won’t really be so outraged anymore and won’t come by in droves to watch their content and make them money This is so sad, because they have a big audience and therefore influence a lot of people. I also saw the episode with the onlyfans girls, where they invited the most entitled, dumb and shallow women they could find to make some rage bait. I also notice a lot of men on these channels and comments struggle to affirm loud and …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 05:06 AM
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We all have two eyes, two arms and two legs and in our post-industrialized society you can live as a single person. We don't *need* one another to feed and clothe ourselves, men can clean (always could) and women can have jobs (always could) but that's a pretty low bar. Yes, there is no one thing (apart from birth and lactation) that men can't do that women can. You don't need a wife to make you soap anymore, you can just buy it. There is no one thing that men can do that women can't with enough…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 04:38 AM
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always ended up dating women that my friends would consider unattractive because I would rather date someone that I could talk to about interesting things instead of just having to listen to vapid crap until until I could have sex with a 'hot girl' so many young women need to read that men like you do exist
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 03:52 AM
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I just imagined men today trying to be pleased by being fed some boiled turnips lol
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/21 11:48 AM
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We also have different standards of cleanness; before electricity and plumbing people just had a wooden outhouse and used a fountain to get drinking water. Now you have toilets and sinks to scrub clean every week
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/21 07:09 AM
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It's not exclusive to america or north american culture. Communism also put women in jobs and positions everywhere (from medicine and law to coal mines and construction sites), in an organized and completely non-organic manner. The soviets also promoted divorce as a tool to liberate women from abusive relationships. It's a worldwide phenomenon
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/21 05:10 PM
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Dead bedroom - we barely had sex. Basically he was disinterested, he lost erections and I was frustrated and unsatisfied. I though that I bared no fault because I was never critical of him in bed, when in fact I was a very critical person with everything else in general. I toned myself down, stopped my resentment and asked for what I wanted. I read "the Surrendered Wife" and applied the advice and gave up my demanding attitude (there is a biiig difference between wishing/ wanting and demanding).…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/21 08:52 AM
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Why did you start the relationship in the first place? What attracted you to him? I've had a dead bedroom situation in my relationship and now I have the best sex possible; I have tried to get my fiancee into the type of books and podcasts and shows that I like to no avail, but I realized at some point that I don't have to share my interests with him. I don't even have to share these interests with my friends, since there's always a youtube or reddit community to talk to; I need lots of alone ti…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/21 05:30 AM
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"Since I’m not a man, I can’t say anything about whether or not teasing is harmful in male social group dynamics." I am not saying it is bad or toxic at all.! Men bashing each other to provoke each other is 100% helpful and natural. I just think that if something is typical for male-to-male interactions, then it is perfectly fine if it doesn't translate well to the couple dynamic. I also think of how groups of friends behave when their girlfriends/wives are present vs when they are not. Men will…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 02:27 AM
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Not really. I've heard men complain that their woman is quarrelsome, ungrateful, emotionally unstable, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 06:14 PM
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Yes, I used to seek approval from men and I have overcome it, or to put it differently, until I turned it into something else. I simply developed my passions and interests until I was more interesting than I was pretty or available. Getting approval for what I said, for my artwork, at my job, by my teachers, etc has taken me away from only getting approval in a romantic or sexual way.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 05:13 PM
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Eh, we've been faulty forever
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 05:08 PM
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Nope, this sub does not encourage women to look for RP men
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 03:30 AM
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A shift of perspective will help you. It's not that women should do something to fix a relationship because it is their duty. They don't owe it morally ... but they are capable. It would be all fine and dandy if men didn't cheat or do anything bad, but nobody is perfect. You can behave in a relationship however you want and expect that your partner will behave just like you want, but that doesn't mean it will happen.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 03:29 AM
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One expert literarly says in there that they're concerned about spread through lipstick
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:30 PM
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There is no moral difference if both viruses are transmitted the same way and if most medical websites are incorrect about it. My experience with herpes 1 is consistent with surface transmission by unproperly washed cutlery or cups
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 12:43 PM
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I am not shaming women. This is an std-giving douchebag, not a stalker or rapist whom the population needs to know about. Airing your dirty laundry in public is trashy and online vigilantism is bad. This only puts gas on many other fires, like men who "expose" women who've done porn or sex work, because they think they are doing the right the thing. It doesn't matter how right op is and how much he deserves it. Posting this publicly will achieve nothing
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 07:42 AM
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This is extraordinarily trashy. Not only does it expose her as having sex with him, but it also opens up a useless conflict which he might retaliate to. OP will end up with the screenshot of this all over the internet
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 05:28 AM
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Most people have hsv1, which is oral and not a big deal. I got it from improperly washed coffee cups and many more people I know got it when they were kids and shared their soda bottles around. Hsv2 is genital and you get it 99% by unprotected sex, so they aren't really the same, morally and legally.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 05:25 AM
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You should make this into a post
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 06:38 PM
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Men know when they are asked "interview" questions. The slick and manipulative ones will rub their hands together because it is their time to shine, to blind side you with their sweet words and marvel at how well you've took their bait. The good ones will feel their dignity insulted because they don't like jumping through hoops ... they are looking for a life partner. ... and most important of all, there is no such thing as a deep revealing question. There is no cheat code for being a good judge…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 06:32 PM
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I don't know you, but I can judge what you chose to say and how you said it. It took a long time for me to realize that I was egoistical and selfish because nobody ever told me such a thing. Whenever I had relationship issues, all of my friends told me that I am a marvellous being who always deserves more and to be treated better. Now ask yourself why do you drop the men you dated in a heartbeat? Did you not objectify them in any way? Consider them inferior to you or to the man in this post? Why…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 09:51 AM
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Contrary to /u/rosesonthefloor , I don't recommend vetting out guys who aren't a few years older than you. Most of my aquiantances who now have gotten married and /or have children do so with guys who are the same age as them. Sure, there's that time when you just finish college and you don't know if he's going to turn into a provider or not, but at 21 most people think they will have it all and turn more traditional/conservative as life hits them. Keep in mind that a lot of men are conditioned …
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 05:01 AM
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Thanks for the endorsement :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 04:41 AM
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I will sound harsher than the others, but ... you sound selfish. You enjoy being friends with benefits. You enjoy him paying for your stuff. You just HAD to mention that his business is due to luck, not the man's own merits, but you surely love how that million dollar sounds!! It is clear that he is not happy with you and does not want a relationship with you, but your own words are that you don't want to "lose him", that you want to be "into his life". What you want is a lifetime together with …
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/21 06:41 PM
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Hey! I am engaged to the love of my life which I randomly met on Tinder one day :) And guess what ... I wrote an extensive guide for online dating: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/nc9x4l/my\_ultimate\_guide\_to\_rpw\_online\_dating/
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/21 06:27 PM
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Being a teacher requires a degree and skills; I am sure there are men who don't want to date burger flippers, but teaching has prestige
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 07:03 PM
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You shouldn't bend yourself backwards to sexually satisfy a boyfriend in your context. The pill has side effects and I wouldn't recommend women taking them unless prescribed by a doctor. Condoms are a device that has NO side effects. Besides, if the condom breaks, you can rush to get a plan B pill; if the contraceptive pill fails, you will find out about it too late. "He has been keen to be intimate together for some time" it's been 4 months and he's already been keen for "some time"?? If you we…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 05:43 AM
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In the big age-gap relationships I've heard of it's usually a man who wants a naive innocent little woman to take care of the house and children and then he pursues another woman outside of the marriage out of passion. It's a harsh truth, but this is what we deal with here.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 05:36 AM
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It's almost as if you are describing my mom. My parents divorced when I was 2 so I never got to experience what living with a couple looks like and always took her side. Many years later, she bought us this apartment me and my fiancee live in and we have been slowly furnishing and decorating it. When I was teen I was never allowed to do anything to my room (put up some shelves, maybe some wallpaper) and landlords around here don't allow you to do anything either. Naturally, when I moved I was so…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/21 05:17 AM
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OP is married and pregnant already so there isn't much to do about that; luckily, there are protections in place for broke mothers who are in the wrong situaton ... everybody here is over 18 and they can legally do whatever they want ... BUT It is rare that in a relationship situation one side bears 100% of the fault and the other has 0%; every relationship question in here is based around what and OP can do or improve or perhaps correct what they did to make them end up in a bad situation in th…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 05:44 PM
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Like another commenter said ... you sound immature for your age. You don't have to "promise" me anything. Be honest with yourself
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 04:50 PM
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I lnow that sometimes friends can be toxic, but if most your friends do not talk to you anymore, I doubt it's only because you got married. "but they were like no 19 is too young to be have kids you need to break up and get a divorce "... this does not sound like something a person would say. OP, you are not being honest here. You wrote this from an angle that puts you in a good light so that you'd get positive answers from us. Anyway, since you are pregnant already, hood luck with that and enjo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 03:52 PM
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First, I think you should stop contacting your dad and tell him exactly why. Then you need to recognize your bad thought patterns and correct them; if validation is what you seek (like I did), I got over it by gaining attention through positive things: humor, achievements, compared to unhealthy ways of gaining attention from men
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 07:53 AM
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A big chunk of that 20k will be spent on transport to and from work, office clothes, takeaway food for lunch, nannies for the kids, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 07:49 PM
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I think definetly this all highly relates to how long you've been together and how old you are, which you summed up perfectly in the last paragraph. If somethings bugs you 3 months in, it will only get worse, if something bugs you after 3 years then you'll get used to it and you are probably buggy too!
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 08:21 AM
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It's you who doesn't like the tattoos anymore. It's you who doesn't identify with them anymore. Some men don't like them, but a big enough chunk of men like them on women and have it themselves. Source: have 6 tattoos, never had problems dating.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 05:25 AM
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Pardon me if I sound like a critic, but I think you should be a little more specific in your details. Lots of women are very confused about what their worth is and what the natural limits of a relationship should be. Then I think you exaggerate a bit. My fiancee was always on the overweight side and he was timid with women; he has flaws just like everybody else. I think we should be aware that we will fall on hard times ourselves. One day the job or home stress will have us gain weight and not e…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 05:19 AM
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The red flags come from your behaviour, not the facts about your family! I am terribly sorry for your situation, but you must always introspect and figure out if your view on the world is skewed by your background (such as haaving abandonment issues). Since you ask yourself the question, you are probably very humble anyway and you don't need to worry; Men rather care more about nosy/stalker ex-boyfriends than they do about family.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 05:06 AM
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" I also stood my ground and did not back away from the conversation when he tried to say he was just joking", " I will take any continuation of this behavior as being intentionally hurtful and would not tolerate it." You seem to be very good at handling relationship conflict and this is a good demonstration of defending your dignity in a relationship
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 05:03 AM
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Hahah where I live lots of people consider H&M the good clothing
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 10:30 AM
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Yes ... but! If your natural hair is not extraordinarily healthy (the type that gets compliments), bleaching will fry it. If you use a straightening iron you will fry it. You also can't bleach at home. Blonde looks absolutely amazing on most women and the only reason I don't do it anymore is that I became allergic to it. Unnatural colors can also be pulled off by either going full punk (and you will limit your dating pool) or by the opposite, using minimal make up and very soft, neutral and femi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 06:03 AM
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I hate: -lip fillers. Maybe 10% of them are done right, while the rest look fake and damn vulgar. Trust me girl, your natural lips are fine Overcontouring. You are not tricking anybody into thinking your face is a different shape; you only manage to look slimy and I'll be afraid to touch your face
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 05:55 AM
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I snorted because I just dyed a chunk of blonde at the front of my hair 😆
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 05:52 AM
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Your frustration doesn't come out of thin air! There are plenty of men who throw their reason and dignity aside for a very beautiful woman. Take a good look at those types of couples and ask this question: will they be happy in 5 years? How about 10? A happy life and a happy marriage are not a rare gem, they are for regular people and therefore are achievable by us regular folks. Sure, it is frustrating to see a man chase a manipulative hottie, but by a certain age, most decent men are smarter t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 05:50 AM
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Then I guess my porcelain at home is some sort of fake lmao, I remember handling our statuettes with care so they don't fall
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/21 04:39 AM
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"Agreeableness" is one of the big five psychological characteristics and has little to do with disagreeing in political arguments :). " Agreeableness is a personality trait that can be described as cooperative, polite, kind, and friendly. People high in agreeableness are more trusting, affectionate, altruistic, and generally displaying more prosocial behaviors than others. ". It is a trait that is generally desired in women, but not so much in men.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 01:21 PM
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"Submissive" is just a bad word imho, men just like agreeable, non-confrontational women who do not burts under their own ego. (Now that phrase is long and quite non catchy, isn't it?). I love dressing-up and wearing heavy make up but never ever did that make mens' eyes glisten as much as when they hear me talk about a typically manly subject as the ones you describe! Lots of men are quite bored of women who just sit there and look pretty, so I guess you're not being in situations where you shin…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 08:34 AM
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But why do you disagree with girly clothing? I am asking because lots of women I know have this idea that they are somehow lesser than others and can't pull off certain styles, when they do. Besides, I wouldn't consider fashion advice to mean "submitting" in any way! Unless he's dressing you up like a stripper or video game character, he's merely suggesting outfits. You only see yourself from the front in the mirror, while other people see you on all sides so they might get a better idea of what…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 04:47 AM
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Is it screwed if you literally write that you've been a sahm? I think plenty of employers would interpret that as you being a responsable and caring person
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 04:44 AM
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You should give him a phone for safety reasons. Just get him one that can only make calls (like those old people phones) or put him on a plan that doesn't give him access to the internet. I had a phone since I was 10 yrs old back in 2003 and nothing bad happened; it was one that could only record audio and make calls and send sms. You can still keep him away from social media and apps that would have him text strangers, but keep him able to call you if ever he needs to call you or you need to lo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 06:52 AM
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Thanks, I would have thought it's a rp thing
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 04:03 PM
1

Hey, where did you get this age rule of thumb? I was recently arguing with somebody who didn't believe a gap bigger than 10 years is at least a yellow flag, but couldn't really put my finger on it
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 02:54 PM
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Well how are you going to meet your future man if you don't interact with people? Not to mention that most careee opportunities are achieved through networking, rather than interviewing. Just say "yes" to invites and let it flow from there
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/21 04:21 AM
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The best step you took was to realize what kind of man you want .. " I only hope that I can eventually have a man with a job who is kindhearted, loyal and loving". Though it sometimes seems like good men are nowhere to be found, they are actually everywhere! You are on the right path and I see lots of older woman re-marrying or women who were teen moms find their love. Just make sure to stay social and whatever you do, do not fall into back into your bad habits. Don't drink, don't meet your exes…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 04:40 PM
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I have never ever heard of "the practice woman". It sounds like soomebody invented it when their ex moved on and found someone else
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 05:21 AM
3

First and foremost, remember that he proposed! He made that step (which is a BIG one for a man) which means that even though he is concerned about your past, it's not a game-changer for him. I'd like to add to the other comments the following: Inexperienced men are insecure when they have a more experienced SO because they sometimes wonder if you're not missing something that your exes had and he doesn't. As any person with insecurities, they will take the tiniest detail and turn it into some bi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 08:12 AM
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There are many many things that can lead to this. It's very i.important to NOT shield him from your feelings, as he might just think lack of sex doesn't bother you; or he might think it's just a little nuisance. It can be too much time together, it can be stress, it can be something else. You need to FACE it and discuss it. That's how me and my loved one got over a dead bedroom. Edit: just sitting around being a perfect wife might make it worse
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 05:13 PM
1

Arts are a craft that require technique, work and planning. It'd rather that get more appreciated than just coming up with ideas. Anyway, in today's post-modern conceptual qrt scene, you can make bank with stick figures. See Dan Perjovschi for refference
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/21 03:41 PM
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Haha, I know it's weird, but it feels like it's a second hand compliment. Think of the various discussions about how some people are book-smart and go into stem fields, while others are good at other things, like being creative! It just feels like being told you know how to dress instead of being told you are pretty
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 06:23 PM
23

It's normal to hate certain compliments, just remember that people mean well. I, for example, hate being told that I am creative
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 05:22 PM
2

Just say "yes" to any invitation you receive from colleagues or friends and build up from there
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 04:44 AM
1

I am NOT a feminist, stop calling me one. I am not projecting either, because I haven't found this sub only yesterday. Men do not like a woman who's never had a job in her life! Women do not appreciate their men if they haven't felt at least one day of hard work on themselves, which leads to nagging and fights. A woman who has never lived away from her parents will be overwherwhelmed by taking care of a child. Men don't care if their SO has a job when the relationship has already started, of cou…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 04:43 AM
2

23 is the perfect age for dating to get into a serious relationship. You should ask yourself why aren't you getting approached. Do you put yourself out in enough social situations? Is your appearance in order?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 07:35 PM
7

As long as they have a different cut from men's trousers, there is no reason to not wear them.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 07:31 PM
4

Intelligence is nothing without work discipline, ambition and responsibility, which are qualities you develop at a job and by supporting yourself and living by yourself. That's what men want around them, not a paper degree
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 07:28 PM
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Nope, it's the angle. I have a spot that makes me pee when you rub it too! Keep experimenting with the angle, speed, depth and you'll eventually have a vaginal orgasm (hint: try a slow spinning, corkscrew-like motion)
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 08:13 AM
2

Career =/= having a job to pay the bills before starting a family
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 04:55 PM
9

Unless you want a fundamentalist guy who wants 6 children right away with his young virgin bride, your strategy of just meeting a guy so you never work is BAD. Men do not respect a woman who's never had a full time job
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 04:48 AM
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Men don't care, in the way men don't care whether you do eyeliner or cut crease make up, buut ... it's about the effect it has on them :). Men want femininity and positivity
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 04:37 AM
2

All black is not flattering for most. Since I work in glamour photography I see how black tends to flatten the body and sometimes it's just a boring default. Bold colors like red are wayy better
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/21 04:18 PM
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I stopped overcompensating for men when I felt needed and appreciated in other areas of my life. As I started my career and made more friends, got my art appreciated etc, then I didn't need to do everything for my boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/21 04:13 PM
1

Wokeness is so annoying these days - men will see it as a plus Saying you're anti-woke is okay, it's more of a broad statement
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/21 10:17 AM
6

... Like does he want to see it once out of curiosity or is it sexual?
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/21 10:15 AM
1

It's not about luck, it's also about your ability to find like-minsed people, to vet for quality, etc. It's just my take that a person in that situation is suspicious. I'd rather take someone who's made bad decisions rather than someone with no experience at all.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/21 05:07 AM
0

Inexperience is not necessarily a problem. In fact, there are many people whose experience with past relationships affects them negatively in future ones. It's just that people naturally want to bond with people and have relationships, so it is odd to reach 30 and never "be in love" and have a relationship of at least a year. He's either a serial plate-spinner or there's something so wrong with him that women don't want relationships with him
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 12:55 PM
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We are strangers on the internet. We can never truly tell you the truth, but here is my take: all is solvable and people have bettered their relationship from a point similar to yours, EXCEPT coupled with weed addiction. It is a drug, it IS addictive and it IS a problem. Your feelings don't come out of nothing, as there is no smoke without fire
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 09:27 AM
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The point of the wedding band is that so we know who is married and who isn't. He doesn't want to signal people that he's married and you are reading too much into it
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 05:20 AM
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Big red flag. Are you so "special" that you think you will break his 30 year streak? I'd rather date a man who's divorced by the time he's 30.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 05:17 AM
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Only a certain small demographic of women go after millionaires and celebrities who have a Z E R O chance of ever being faithful. A man who is not the top 1% is not "average"
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 05:14 AM
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Get a hobby that involves patience and long bouts of focusing, like reading or painting
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 05:08 AM
3

Yes, I saved my relationship with one of these principles. We had a dead bedroom to the point where we just thought he had ED. I won't go much into detail about it because it's not the topic for it. Now these things do not help you if you are being manipulated or taken advantage of. You also aren't very specific about how your boundaries are being broken. Some people are just psychos who don't function like normal people so these principles just don't work on them. You can't train a cat to do co…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 05:07 AM
1

Yup I was thinking about those types of men. Edit: I mean there is nothing wrong with guys who say things like "swipe right if x, y, z", it's those who have already mapped out their future waifu's full personality and interests
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/21 06:00 AM
1

I know atheist married to christians and they seem to get along (the atheist compromises and goes on with the religious procession). Also people change their mind throughout their life and they usually do when meeting new people. If you are past 30 then I guess people don't change, but those in their 20s hardly want to be traditional or go to any church; they just turn differently as they age, so you might pass along really good people
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/21 05:57 AM
2

That one is SO good!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/21 05:54 AM
2

If you don't care so much about what you attract then go on and list your height; write anything in your bio, just don't leave it empty. Just list the things that you like ( eg "big foodie, love hiking"), put some quote from a book or a movie. It gives women the opportunity to see you got something in common and if not, at least they might be curious and ask you about it!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/21 05:53 AM
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None of what I wrote is set in stone; I just think that there's a general push for women to message first, ask on dates, etc, on the idea that men are "shy" or whatever.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/21 05:52 AM
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My opinion is that men shouldn't play into the height game. If you are so desperate to score a date that you list it, then you get what you asked for
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 04:02 PM
5

Sorry, what makes you say you'd have "no chance"?
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 03:47 PM
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Thanks, I love your comments in here so getting this compliment from you means a lot! As writing in your bio goes, I don't know what to tell you because I don't know what you are looking for. A LTR? Plates? > what's wrong with a guy putting his height in the bio? We all know majority of women prefer taller men Yes exactly, don't play into their silly height game. Do you want "most women"?
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 03:43 PM
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I met my fiancee on Tinder! Here's a guide: Write a catchy description of yourself and make sure at least one of your pictures shows you full body; do not face tune your pics, they can tell; do not use sexy pictures. Swipe left on men who have their height listed, who have too many fancy pictures of themselves, who have no description. They are there for empty hook-ups. Do NOT message first. Avoid men who open with a boring "hello, how are you?". Engage in conversation with ANY man who makes an …
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 06:24 AM
2

No dear, nobody is not cut for being a part of a "real family". Perhaps your issues are a little to nuanced for us strangers on the internet. Find a good therapist and talk about it in detail, the issue is often something very simple! In the meanwhile, try some meditation/yoga/gratitude practice to get your mood up
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/21 04:30 AM
1

There seems to not be much wrong with your lifestyle as described. perhaps you are nothered by a lack of meaning thst comes from somewhere else. How is your social life? Your hobbies and passions?
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 04:40 PM
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Don't put time and efort into men who drool over insta models and have lots of young hot women around them. He didn't do anything that could be considered cheatong, but these little things will just continue to bother you forever
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 07:51 AM
1

People in this sub will all say that it's a bad idea for the wife to work a demanding job in the first place. Then, I am not saying to do all the chores for your so if you are both working the same hours; I am saying we should forgive our men's little flaws because we also have litte flaws, because their qualities compensate for them and because harmony in the relationship is better than fixing something that mildly inconveniences us for 10 minutes
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 04:53 AM
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Do not move in with her; pick another roommate even if it's a random girl. Living with other women at this age is very important for your self-development Explicitly tell her why you don't like her relationship and make sure she understands that you are there for her if shit hits the fan. You never know what is between the two of them ... at 19 I was an emotional wreck and in an abusive relationship; what gave me the courage to leave him were my female roommates who occasionally told me that I d…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/21 05:56 AM
3

Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 07:07 PM
5

If he doesn't have strong feelings about it, then don't do the permanent thing.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 07:06 PM
3

Why don't you just ask him?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 05:40 PM
11

I've noticed this with my boss. When I tell him of a problem he just asks for a solution. Turns out that he says "yes" for whatever I propose, I guess he likes that I save him a headache
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 05:39 PM
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Hahah thank you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 02:12 PM
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I get you, this is why I didn't post on other dating or womens' subs, because EVERYTHING there is about how horrible men are, how abusive everything is, etc. It's just that some women here completely disregard themselves. The shrews knows how forgiving and thick skinned men are without me telling them hahah
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 12:54 PM
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I wrote this post after browsing "new" for a while and seeing women asking for help in very clear cut situations. I think I made it very clear that constant criticism is bad and unproductive, if not, then I need to polish my writing skills. I didn't want to sound like I'm ranting, I just feel like we are falling into the other extreme. If this post does not belong here, the mods can take it down anyway
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 12:27 PM
4

Yep I am so much calmer and clear-headed since I switched to part time. I don't even know how I had time for evertyhing before, and I don't even have children yet!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 09:44 AM
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The thin clear plastic is like a sigil, so taking it off imho is suggesting that it's not new, that perhaps you've received yourself, smelled it, didn't like it and decided to give it away, that maybe it's a tester, etc. Gifts should be wrapped and sealed, only with the price tag taken off.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 09:33 AM
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Yup. We tend to treat people like we want ourselves to be treated, which leads to misundrestandings between the sexes.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 09:14 AM
11

I think you are projecting a little
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 09:13 AM
6

Instagram is the worst. Everybody edits and photoshops to lengths you couldn't even imagine. If you feel the need to find inspiration and lovely images to fill up your time, I recommend Tumblr. It's full of blogs with classical art, modern art, quotes, historical blogs, cottage aesthetic blogs and anything you could ever imagine. You will be both humbled and empowered if you keep your mind focused on subjects that are not your body or your relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 05:35 AM
2

Your update spunds better than anyone would have expected!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 07:51 PM
4

Unless there are some issues which you are not telling us, it sounds like your husband does not respect you. You cook and clean, you do not rely in him for social interactions. Put your foot down and demand respect, don't beg for it, you are a lady. What would he do if you decided to just buzz off for two weeks because cooking and cleaning for him is too much of a headache??
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 07:46 AM
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I have an anxiety disorder and am freshly engaged to a loving man who has had anxiety disorders and seems to have inherited his father's anger issues. Here are two things I did to make him more calm. 1. Whenever he is angry at something I never ever counteract it by yelling back. I actively try to be sweet (which does NOT come naturally to me) and just pat his chest and tell him "yes honey, you are right"/"no need to push yourself, darling". 2. Whenever he is angry or critical of me I just put m…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 07:37 AM
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Ask him if he talks about you, your wife, as much as he talks about this male coworker of his. Perhaps that'll put things into perspective
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 02:45 PM
1

Look at freelancing websites, if not to actually work there, to at least see what people search for. You could do SEO, web-design, website maintanence, etc
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 04:48 AM
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8.... Women who need to validate their own "independent" lifestyle
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 04:39 PM
1

Why don't you start a sub? Name it wholesome RP!
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 04:32 AM
1

> Sure, but not everyone follows the same morals. This was my point and you still didn't respond to it. There are exceptions to absolutely everything in the world. My point is that too many people think they are an exception and that deviating from the norm is consequence-free. > This sounds like you projecting your values onto others. You can think that if you wish, I am just saying what I have noticed around me. Thinking that everything is relative, that every lifestyle is healthy long-term an…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 04:28 AM
6

Marriage doesn't have to mean ball and chain. Us women can manage on our own for a few days if our SO has a broken leg, so why can't we do the same if he wants to go on a trip? In five years he'll remember that concert/ski trip/fishing adventure, we won't remember that we had extra work for three days
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 04:11 PM
4

There is a moral base which everybody follows; also, morality is not some free-floating domain, it comes from utility and living in a society. Most people who say they don't want commitment think they can stomach future loneliness, but they won't. I've met men who travel the world and have a lifestyle incompatible with the idea of marriage; nobody can say what they do is "wrong", but some may say it will bite them in the ass. But MOST people who present themselves as non-commital are just copora…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 04:05 PM
3

Was his name Diogenes?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 01:33 PM
0

This isn't about a "should", as truly, marriage separates the committed from the non-commited; this is about character and morality. If you live a care free life then nobody will care back for you ... it's that simple.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 01:31 PM
3

Do not argue with manipulators, as they are never honest in what they say. Ignore and avoid them like the plague
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 06:04 AM
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Logic has nothing to do with it. Sure, there are some people who are made to be single and fleeting with a nomad lifestyle, but nowadays everybody thinks they're an exception! Teenagers and people in early twenties say they are not made for commitment or children and they are deluding themselves. This is not about "settling" either, it's about responsibility
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 06:01 AM
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Get female roommates! As you move out, it's your occasion to find out how to manage a household differently than your parents do, and to notice how other women act in intimacy. I learned to iron shirts and mop floors and sew from my roommate. I learned how to straighten my hair and have a beauty routine and have better hygiene from my roommates. You never know what you haven't been taught! Socialize and experiment as much as you can, because when everybody will have a job, your social life and f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 06:38 AM
5

Try Asos, they have plain simple things and do not focus on sexy stuff
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 02:16 PM
7

"Long time" means more than your partner is comfy, but trust me, as a woman you'd be mentally demolished if you got less sex thsn you wanted
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 07:34 AM
6

Yes. Good men are everywhere, they just don't have their values slapped on a label on their forehead. The rich douches I know only hanf out at "exclusivist" fancy clubs/restaurants, not at barbecues with their friends
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 10:09 AM
3

" He has accused me of thinking I’m better than others and having a large ego." This most likely has nothing to do with how much you earn but likely with how you talk, how you express your opinions, etc. You might not brag about your money or business in particular, but perhaps you have a superior attitude in orher areas
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 08:33 AM
1

Men like this are everywhere. In a bar, at a concert, at a barbecue with his friends, even on dating sites or Tinder
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 08:30 AM
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For how long have you guys been together?? If it is a new relationship, it spounds ok to charge you rent. If it is an old relationship snd he plans to marry you, he should take your decor into consideration and he should NOT charge you anything unless you co-own the home or something
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 06:57 PM
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As an atheist, I can say that many things "made by God" can be thoroughly explained by psychology, evolution and other domains. The cause of things does not matter. "I get a dopamine rush when X happens" and "I am happy when I do X so God intended it" apply to the same things in life, so an atheist and a christian can have the same principles and values
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 06:49 PM
1

Yep I think I need to change my face wash anyway, thx for the tip! I use a soft scrub now and never more often than once a week
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 09:57 AM
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Sorry,it reads as if it is not a list about yourself. If you want to make JP jokes say you search for your lobster hahah. Perhaps somebody doesn't know the refference and it will be a good icea breaker :). Also I had just watched this video before I got your reply, perhaps you should check it out https://youtu.be/uBdk16dbXBU
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 09:56 AM
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There might be some man out there whose face would lit up as soon as he reads your bio, but ... The fact that you list your perfect man as "red pilled", "crypto", "dissident", etc is just a list, which can be read just as shallow as those made by other women who list height requirements. Hard working family men do not sit around on forums to know what Red Pill is, some of them perhaps do not even use Youtube that much to have found out about Jordan Peterson. Your ideal man can share the same val…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 06:16 AM
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Check out the book "The Surrendered Wife" by Laura Doyle. Now of course it does not deal with mice specifically, but it suggest that when you want your man to man up about a certain issue (without emasculating him), just say you can't/don't know how to deal with it. Do not ever be tempted to tell him how to do it do not help him with instructions.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 04:56 PM
3

What about wearing sexy lingerie or dressing elegantly? Does he notice that?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 05:50 AM
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I think these sort of thoughts are a motherly instinct. Us women are more prone to negative emotions and are hard-wired to see patterns of behaviour that lead to disaster because we will need to keep our children safe. Another contributing factor is our modern life, the fact that we live in big disconnected cities. If you lived in a small town where all healthcare workers knew each other and their SOs, would you get those same lewd comments from them? In a tiny village, would anybody oggle at a …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 05:48 AM
1

You'd advise 16 year olds to date guys in their late 20s?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 08:01 PM
5

It's so refreshing to hear some things from a guy. Many are so inclined to say "yeah you should totally do kinky stuff for your man"; also the "he is not the one until he marries you". Surely lots of women say it, but it resounds more heavily when a man says it
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 06:57 PM
1

Because I need heavy things lifted and a partner to support me when I cannot work. People get married and keep relationships based on what is productive and good, not just on sentiment and instinct. Congrats to whoever gets and handles multiple women, as there are various cultures who support it. I wouldn't recommend it as a way of life though, and it seems most cultures are monogamous for good reasons. We're not exactly on separate sides here. All I'm saying is that op here is very young and da…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 06:21 PM
1

I understand all of this, but I disagree on an aspect of it. Us humans are not complete slavesto our base nature. We have culture and virtues. Our natures also have us want to hurt when we are hurt, to gorge ourselves on all the available food and so on. You are not a douche bag. Men's inclination to multiple partners does not excuse cheating, just as women's emotional needs do not excuse theirs
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 03:05 PM
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I'd probably start worrying at the 50+ mark. I think it's fine for a man to know that he is able to pull one night stands, Tinder hook ups or whatever. I'm also fine with other shady past behaviours that are non sexual. People sometimes hang out with the wrong crowd or have issues that lead to them doing destructive things. My boyfriend used to do drugs and other shady stuff, yet by the time I met him he rarely even got drunk and never even smoked weed even if his friends do it. People's sexual …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 04:39 PM
0

The point of the red pill is to look at objective reality of relationships, not to simply follow a pattern. I also worked full time and split chores until I got tired from years of doing it. Doing a game of ping pong with chores between which of us was less tired is not a sustainable solution for me and objectively talking, it also seems like a bad solution for most. Things change when people have children, as the mother's presence is crucial for them. There is no point in the mother working to …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 05:54 AM
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You improve for yourself, for your quality of life and for those you share your life with. After that, you improve for your so. You improve yourself as a person by finishing college, having and holding a job with good wotk ethic and good relationships. You improve yourself by moving out of your parents house and living on your own for a while. Getting engaged at 19 doesn't mean much but naive emotions
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 05:39 AM
1

No problem, but why did you delete the post?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 07:44 PM
1

I am sorry that I didn't tell you what you wanted to hear. The context of your relationship is not tangential, it is crucial. You want to need him less but that is not always possible. It sounds like your needs aren't met. You other post says that you lost your virginity to this man who you are sneaking with. You said it yourself that you feel that you wait for interactions with him! Which is the normal thing to feel. The problem here is that you do not need to be more independent, he needs to m…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 07:26 PM
1

I don't know your customs or rules, but wouldn't it be appropriate for a young couple to just take walks in public spaces? To interact with the parents at home? And you are mature people, not teenagers. If a 28yr old man doesn't have the courage to tell your family that he wants to marry you, but gladly enjoys renting airbnb's to spend the night with you, doesn't tell his own family that you are his gf, making you talk on the phone, well then ... it doesn't sound like a man who wants to marry yo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 06:49 PM
1

What do you mean by time alone? Does he need to just not talk to you on the phone all day? Or does it mean just not replying to your texts? How does it manifest? Has this relationship always been long distance or not?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 06:35 PM
21

For some reason, Black Sabbath gives me a great vibe as I'm cleaning
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 06:30 PM
1

Basically yes. You associated the macabre act with the unsolved mental issues. What I wanted to say was that people with mental issues often times look like normies (think how we discovered in the last decades that serial killers pass off everybody's radar); similarly, not everybody who is excentric or fascinated with the macabre is mentally disturbed. Also somebody's artistic personna is different from their private personna, meaning that you wouldn't expect somebody to dress and act at home th…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 04:43 AM
2

We have a saying that deals with these types of studies along the lines of "British reseaches have found that ... x"
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 04:30 AM
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Hindsight is 20/20. He surely remembers what you told him and will learn from his mistakes. Keep your head up!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 05:37 PM
1

By "ordinary" I meant non-celebrities. Ttaumatic childhood is not the norm by any means, but it exists out there in people who don't look like freaks. I think I worded my comment poorly
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 02:32 PM
2

That's why I didn't say "average", I said "many ordinary people". Non-celebrities assault and rape too
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 01:09 PM
2

Let us first see if your jealousy is warranted or not, or perhaps it is something else. How flirtatious is he with friends or waitresses? I mean is he being friendly/joking or does he go out of his way to talk to women? How much and how often does he watch those "yoga" videos? Does he have a habbit of following models on instagram/facebook, etc? Besides that, are you pleased with your body? Your sex life?
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 10:29 AM
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There are some "yoga" channels out there who are just soft porn, not the legit yoga instructors
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 10:26 AM
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I mean his act is outrageous because it is an artistic act; it's an exagerrated expression of angst/edginess/etc. Sure, he's not the most stable individual out there but he's not that much more unstable than many ordinary people out there
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 10:21 AM
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She is twenty, meaning she could have been underage when she did not want to sleep with them. The healthy approach is to leave, not cheat. If she was 40 and refused to sleep with her husband, this would have been different. We don't really have enough data to judge/justify the cheating
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 07:23 AM
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Make a journal of thoughts! (keep it secret from him). Each time you think or feel that fear coming up, note the thought with the date and hour and what exactly it was that triggered it. Keep at it for at least one month and then go back and read it all. Then you will most probably see how irrational you are and how silly your thoughts are. Continue until you find your fear easy to brush off
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 07:07 AM
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Not all. Some are just douche bags, especially very young ones. They cheat because they can
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 07:05 AM
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Age? Hobbies? Studies? I thought I was awkward and different too before I went to art school, then I just found myself between a bunch of ok people who also thought themselves as awkward and different
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 07:51 PM
1

Yes, it works. It's sad that the book gets negative reviews coming from women in abusive relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 05:13 AM
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We also had this issue and we got over it. There is light at the end of the tunnel! First it's important to understand that finishing quickly is actually natural (look at the loads of species of animals for which copulation is done in two moves). Antidepressants do affect sex life and many other things, so he will need to quit them at some point (they are only designed as temporary medication anyway, no same psychiatrist will have you on pills for life). Before you talk to him about this issue, …
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 05:11 AM
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That sounds like a decent idea.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 05:57 PM
3

Oh dear, he is the one who cooks and believe me, I have plenty of flaws! But thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 05:41 PM
3

I am so alien to skincare and each time I try to read about it on groups or wherever I feel like it's pseudo-scientifiic babble. Am I the only one who just washes, scrubs and moisturizes? Microabrasion is for scrubbing, right?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 12:26 PM
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What we see gives a lasting impression on us ... sometimes for the better, sometimes for worse. If people around the world had it as a custom for men/the husband to not be present, then there are probably good reasons for it. Sorry, didn't want to be pessimistic!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 12:24 PM
2

I won't stop! I admit that emitting a positive energy requires an effort and I have to do it more.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 12:21 PM
1

Thank you! We need more encouraging news around. I think the lockdowns might get us to all re-evaluate how we approach relationships. Sometimes I do get fed up with being next to my SO 24/7 and I need an hour or two alone to dance around the house or something, but it hasn't damaged the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 12:21 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 12:19 PM
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There's a book called "Why men love bitches", try and learn what you can from it. Being sweet and giving is an attitude for marriage/ltr, for men who are worth it, not for those who take you to three dates and call it a relationship!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 11:27 AM
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If your friends are happy in their relationships, then why do they tell you to NOT get into one? Something is off there. I probably want this too much and not for good reasons. You probably need to look at the reasons part
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 06:26 AM
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I have been in a similar situation, so I know how you feel. It's hard for a hard-working person who's used to juggling 3 projects at once to take a step back, but remember ... you are pregnant! If pregnant women and new mothers can't take a break then ... who can? It hasn't even been a hundred since women are supposed to "pull their weight" by earning money and now we have reached a horrible peak in which women over-work themselves into depression. The truth is that you need a woman to keep a ch…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 05:33 AM
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People with trust issues are often a self-fulfilling prophecy. You need to get out of your head for a little bit to judge yourself and your relationships more objectively. Can you afford a therapist? I got a year of therapy and it helped a lot when it came to judging my own irrational thoughts. Perhaps you are too distant, perhaps you are too clingy, perhaps you are overcompensating. It's hard for you to judge yourself right now and it's hard for internet strangers to judge you too. And how old …
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 05:10 AM
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He is being responsable with job prospects and you are being incredibly judgemental. As for his friends, he cannot change their behaviour. Do you have friends and jobs that you are so proud of? Re-evaluate your priorities
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/21 06:32 PM
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Do not move into a studio apartment, get a place with two rooms; if you can, don't work the same exact schedule so both of you have an hour or two alone now and then; get headphones so you don't bother each other with music/movies/video game sounds. Eventually, you will be do natural and comfy with each other so that you won't feel much need for alone time. Co-living is not as difficult as some people present it to be
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/21 06:30 PM
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I have a hunch that him telling you to grow your hair and to stop getting cosmetic procedures is not what the issue is here. Look at the guide for asking relationship advice in the sidebar. Snipping out two elements that bother you about a relationship is not a good way to get strangers to give an opinion
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 05:18 AM
3

Beware though of outdated health adivce in them
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 05:14 AM
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Why don,'t you buy some of those old books and magazines from used book stores?
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 09:24 AM
17

I am grateful for my father who has never given up trying to connect with me, despite my mother's attempts to make me hate him
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 07:11 AM
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This is NOT just an internet phenomenon and I got sucked into it while I was a teenager, so I also have a hunch on why it happens! Lots and lots of people have their parents divorced or live in signgle parent households because of other reasons (in the case of my country, parents emigrating is a huge problem) so they have no healthy models on how a relationship goes and no model of how an adult of the opposite sex or same sex as them behaves. I had gotten sucked into this sort of pickmeisha crow…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 04:48 AM
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Make sure tou open the windows to get fresh air and sunlight every day; make sure you never run out of necessities (trash bags, toothpaste, etc). Whenever you're bored with how the home looks try switching the furniture around
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 06:03 PM
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I get very cheesy lovey-dovey answers that no man would utter in public
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 05:12 PM
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They are irrational but you can explain them rationally. Laughter is not rational, but it is rational to say "this person's sense of humour brings great joy and value to my life". Does that make sense?
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 05:11 PM
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So this is why I've been getting random bans, huh
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 05:09 AM
3

Yes, getting sudden feelings of something "not right" or "heading in the wrong direction" is anxiety
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/21 05:19 PM
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Could you ellaborate on what those cultural and goal differences are? They are very relevant to the question. > I was advising him to take on another job to make more money and he became extremely volatile and defensive. Do not tell men what and how to do, they take it as a personal offense to their thinking and ability. Also, you describe yourself as a "broke"student while asking him to work more than he currently does. > lew it way out of proportion [...] As a means to divert attention from hi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 07:19 PM
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WEll, you can live with your wife and kid when you are 22. All you have to do is skip college and go on an oil rig on crab fishing. But is the age really the issue here? Big tax breaks to married couples I think this one is the best, because it iincentivises the people who want to be serious and start a family, not necessarily punishing those who do not want to do it. Make women gain very little from divorce I think it's a mistake to put 'women' and 'man' into law for anything that is not strict…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 05:50 AM
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What I mean by 'with children', I mean women who had given birth, now actually them with their kids. Sorry, must be a language barrier thing
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 03:43 PM
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I don't have children myself, but I work as a nude photographer, and I have seen bodies of various women, young and old, with children and without. I have seen women who have given biirth young (think 16 - 20) and they have almost NO signs on them. Their stomachs are flat, they have minimal or no stretch marks and some of them have breasts as perky as a normal teen. This is not a guarantee, though! Some women unfortunately bear some ugly signs of pregnancy and brestfeeding, no matter how young, …
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 09:57 AM
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Are you reffering to the birth itself or the esthetical aspect of it?
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 08:53 AM
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And the divorce rate for USA is at 40%! I am curious, how would you reform marriage laws or the societal aspect of it?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 07:20 PM
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Well I don't live in the West, I am in East Europe, so our laws aren't the same to give you an accurate answer. One example from our laws is that you get free health insurance if you are unemployed, but the wife is. Even so, they keep changing the civil code every few years, but historically it protected men from adultery and paternity fraud. Adulterous married women were punished by law and divorce settlements were different for adulterous women. I wouldn't know where that still applies today. …
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 04:27 PM
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First, it ruins the idea of marriage by implementing the idea that the two partners can just change their minds about it. Second, it's the reason why divorce is normalised and at sky high rates today, which leads to generations of children who are emotionally crippled by growing up with a single parent and that is something we heavily overlook. My mother divorced my father when I was two, basically robbing me of a male role model, leading to me having severe issues. Growing up without both paren…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 11:18 AM
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I'm not fully knowledgable of the laws, but I take not signing the papers as a red flag. If my partner is so afraid of divorce and doesn't trust that I will not leave him, then there is no point in continuing the relationship, no point in me crippling myself with pregnancy and child care a d wasting my best looking years. P.S. no fault divorce is a cancer upon society
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 08:13 AM
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Well laws and civil codes can always change or you could get pre-nups. There is no upside to not getting married either since most countries now recognise cohabitation and child support is paid by dna test, not married. Better just have a contract drawn up that both parties agree is fair, basically "i bet x that i will never ever leave you" and just get done with it
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 08:34 PM
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95% chance it's the pill. Women report lack of libido and imposibility of orgasm on soooo many types of meds, like SSRIs for example
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 07:27 PM
3

Yup, this sub was a slap in my face to how entitled I was
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 07:22 PM
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Well how do you define 'solid'? Don't you find there needs to be a line drawn somewhere to separate casual flings and partners commited for life? Marriage was first a societal practice and a religious ceremony before it was on paper
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 07:18 PM
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First there are the benefits for both sexes: a partner to help you in life whenever you are sick or busy; somebody who intimately knows you and inspires you and supports you. Then, men can't really carry or nurse children. Then, having a job and running a family household is impossible to squeeze in a 24 hour day. Sure, it's nice for a man to perpetually date young hot women, but the overwhelming majority of men are happier with one woman who offers both the romantic sexual aspects and the pract…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 06:00 PM
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Of course, marriage is much more than chores and looks, else men would just hire escorts and buy a roomba
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 05:52 PM
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I don't think this is 100% correct. Rebecca Lynn Pope for example (a pretty red pilled dating coach) said that men won't marry if they don't have a benefit for it and many others say the same
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 07:51 AM
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I think it's a bit too early and perhaps you should do this after you move in together. Doing the cleaning in your shared apartment is fine, but cleaning his apartment where he lives? Hmm... perhaps a bit too much! In the end though, you have to ask yourself if he fully compensates for it by equally fulfilling his manly duties. Paying for dates is one thing, but will he pay for a house? What will happen when both of you will be working full time?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 07:49 AM
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This is such a dangerous discourse that made me hate and blame my dad and idolize my mother without actually doing any thinking
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 07:01 AM
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I first noticed that the other subs about women's issues and relationships are heavily negative places who focus on complaining and entitlement. This is the only sub that is solution oriented and it is such a breath of fresh air! And I am an atheist/agnostic who has been raised by a progressive family!
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 05:21 AM
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Yes, I am calm and don't really argue with people. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 06:00 PM
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We still have sex 1-4x a day.... after 15 years. Brightens my day to read about people who are happy. I am so tired of people talking about how relationships turn boring and sour after X years, tired of being told how I'll be so miserable and grumpy after having kids, etc. We need more people like you to talk about their happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 05:35 AM
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I too have noticed a lot of posts from women/girls who are clearly in abusive relationships, however ... A sub full of mellow and traditional women all say in unison "this is abuse, you do not need to tolerate it, you need to expect x thing form a man" could be many times more effective than the other subs with relationship advice who just spew out generic "dump him, queen" advice.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 01:19 PM
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A 40 year old widow with a well-raised child (who has left the nest already) commands respect. A divorced woman in her 20s with a baby doesn't.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 08:25 AM
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Oh my, it gave me so much hope for myself and humanity! This is the single space I see where people are actually helpful, concerned with each others' issues instead of pointing fingers and shifting blame. I felt that I was lost, that there was no compass, and absolutely each place I sought advice from only told me to demand and to expect! Each time I have a female issue or I think about a subject which concerns femininity or women, all I see is complete nihilism, wallowing in self-pity, mysoginy…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 08:20 AM
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Okay this comment explains your point better. I need to mention that he cried *after* the fight was over, when only I was present. His ideas of family hierarchies are a bit off, because of his family history. In the meantime, I told him to make her leave, which he did, he checked her into a hotel. I had a talk with him and told him that he is a lion and this is his den, which he must protect. He must assume the mantle of the patriarch. I mean, he was confused on why I didn't throw her out and ma…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 08:11 AM
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In the meantime, he has told her to leave and checked her into a hotel. I don't judge him too harshly on this, since she seems very manipulative.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 07:47 AM
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As far as I can tell, us easterners are generally more mean to each other.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 07:45 AM
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Lol, none of us are in america, we are eastern europeans. She lives in west europe.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 02:03 PM
1

I found the article on google in the mean time. Thanks, it was very helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 04:12 PM
1

What is the grey rock method?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 03:57 PM
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You cannot control what you are attracted to, of course. It's harsh to judge a man for crying. He is responsable, strong, smart and protective, but he is human and is allowed to have a breakdown once in a while
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 12:41 PM
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You are too harsh. In the intimacy of his home, he can cry about anything.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 08:19 AM
1

Thank you for your input. Before I got to speak to him, he had already read the replies to my post and said he feels guilty, hahaha.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 07:18 AM
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> Is she on new meds? Or is she menopausal and the hormone shift is making her crazy I wouldn't know, but I remember my mother being verbally abusive when she was hitting menopause. This makes me afraid for how I will behave when I reach that age. > If you don't mind me asking.. what are you two actually arguing about that is getting so out of hand? This may be a case of no talking about politics, religion, or w/e to keep the peace. ​ Yes, I shouldn't have mentioned feminism and the "opression o…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 07:17 AM
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Yes, I refeer to him that way because the way I see it, she did not care about her behaviour causing problems in her son's relationship. And yes, he got overwhelmed with emotions because of her suddenly aggreesive attitude. It wasn't just an argument, she thought I was hinting at something (which I didn't) and just started berating me, refusing to accept my honest explanation or apology. Otherwise, he's not a nervous type of guy, not a momma's boy, just a plain dude.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 06:46 AM
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Thank you. He's tried to be the mediator, without taking sides. I cannot ask any more of him. Perhaps he should have been firmer, yet there is no need, since my idea of solving the issue is to just never see her again
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/21 11:43 PM
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You might get inflamation in your ovaries if you are extremely cold repeatedly. I also get told ti wear socks and slippers indoors but I don't (I hate it!!), and yet my uterus and ovaries are in perfect condition. Just dress up when you feel cold, nothing bad will happen to you if you get a little chilly
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 07:57 AM
1

She is not "changing" her body, she'd be toning her legs. It's not cosmetic surgery
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/21 12:10 AM
1

Perhaps they poking harmless jokes and you are too sensitive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/21 02:02 PM
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A lot of people are a self fulfilling prophecy and you soubd like one too. Quite a lot of us are like this, if we have been surrounded by bad examples. If therapy isn't an option for you, then grab a pen and paper and analyze your thought patterns. Each time you have a bad thought, write it down, along with the time it happened and the reason it was triggered ... be 100% honest and explicit with it. After a week or two, read your notes with a calm and critical mindset and you will notice where a…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/21 06:41 AM
1

I did not say that women are incapable of performing in a trade job, that's why I said "other jobs men can do".
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/21 06:24 AM
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And I can also say that men leave their busy wife at home with the children while they go screw the secretary. C'mon
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 07:17 PM
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We're small and weak, what's the point? To throw the violent stranger another punching bag?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 07:16 PM
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We don't have it, but we should. Out of 100 violentnut jobs, only 1 will be a woman, but they're still out there. I've heard stories of women being attacked/pick pocketed by other women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 06:47 PM
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It's not that we don't want our hands dirty, it's that we have zero chances in a fight with a man so what's the point
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 06:45 PM
4

That's not tragic, that's beautiful, you donut!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 06:23 PM
0

Yeah if you end up with bad men it's * somewhat * your fault. You don't need a man the way you need food or water, so there is little reason to compromise. Besides, if men find themselves constantly rejected, they start to ask themselves why, and so correct their behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 06:20 PM
2

Yeah it's legal or not a crime, but soliciting might be!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 06:15 PM
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Zac's dad bod is peak masculine body shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 06:14 PM
4

I have done camming myself and quit about a year and a half ago. I still work in the adult industry in photography, in a professional environment and I know exactly how you feel. All women are tempted to make money with their looks, so it's no wonder you have tried it too. We cannot exactly do construction work, go on a fishing boat or do other jobs which men can do when money is tight. Familes or societies treat young women like they are men, though we aren't, expecting the same financial indep…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 01:36 PM
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Very interesting. I always found that work relationships are similar to romantic ones in many ways. Also, I was expecting your post to be pessimistic, but it quite brightened my day!
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 01:29 PM
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Good news, it means you can pull off lots of sexy things without looking vulgar! You are also saved by never having a piece of clothing making you look manly. I was also frustrated by looking "cute", but I find ways to compensate it. My cute face means I look feminine even when I wear camo pants and combat boots. It also meant that I can wear smokey eyes and red lipstick without looking like I'm walking the streets. I know it's sometimes frustrating to look too young or innocent, but it's actual…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/20 05:45 AM
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https://www.forbes.com/sites/jennagoudreau/2012/02/13/monogamy-sexual-fidelity-marriage-relationships/?sh=2ad5dd00471d
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 07:16 PM
3

We like to think nowadays that we can do anything, break every social norm and disrupt any tradition. That's just an illusion. Individuals and societies are better off as monogamous and maried.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 07:58 AM
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I have the same issue. Guess what, men can love you an be satisfied without blowjobs. Imagine you lived in an era before porn and magazines like Cosmo, would "amazing blowjobs" be a relationship issue on your mind?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 07:14 PM
3

Not impossible, I have the same issue. At the dentist, they have to use child sized tools for me sometimes. It's not that a man can't fit, it's that it touches the teeth
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 07:10 PM
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This is why polygamy in its various forms was never widespread. Too many issues, not enough responsibility, not enough time.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 07:07 PM
2

There is a grain of truth there, there are women who have internalized misgyny or or display "pickmeisha" vibes, but ... I have already been accused of being a far right extremist twice, just for saying things that seem common sense for somebody like my mother or grandmother. Just try to pick your battles.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 06:50 PM
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This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with your SJW friends ... It's them who take it as being rude! I was a sjw/feminist/tumblrina when I was in college and I can tell that conflict was encouraged in communities. Whoever believes that, for example, women are opressed, will be very aggressive in calling out whatever sounds mysoginystic and so on. It's not you. To go a little further into this ... is it men or women who take it as you being rude?
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 07:43 AM
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Then stay away. If they blocked you, they have a good reason to do so, you may have done something that creeps them out
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 07:44 AM
3

Use white pen on black paper! My boyfriend bought me some black notebooks, a calligraphy pen and white ink for my writing and God damn it looks SO good and special! Also, black paper is usually thicker, cardboard-like so it doesn't get dog-ears so easily
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 07:15 AM
2

Nobody blocks you without a reason. You say you have never spoken to A, but perhaps it was known through your friends that you had a crush on him?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 07:12 AM
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If you are capable of having conversations, then you are perfectly capable to flirt! Social interactions are not something that can be taught like a science, what you need is ... practice! Try to be around people a lot (men, women, couples) and it will eventually rub off on you
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/20 01:05 PM
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It's certainly more than nothing, but it doesn't mean anything. He could be watching everybody's stories. If you don't ever speak, don't take it as a sure sign of anything
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 09:19 PM
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Afaik tubs are not bleached, they are painted over to make them white.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 04:15 PM
1

I have met many women who are just as you describe and I can wholeheartedly say that they have made a lasting impression on me, as a woman, and I remember each and every one of them. I can see how not only men are attracted to these women, but even me, as another woman, have a certain (non-sexual) attraction to them. There is a certain theatricality and boldness to it! It is as if these women act like there is always a camera and a microphone on them, like they are always a character, a movie st…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 09:17 AM
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Tip: get a pallette knife to scatch off anything you'd usually do with your nails
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 03:28 PM
2

Condoms! It is the contraceptive method which has NO side effects (except for a potential latex allergy ... which is quite rare). Plus, you can check right after if the condom breaks for a morning-after pill. If things like a pill or IUD fail, you find out way too late. We use Ritex condoms which seem to be very resistent and are extra-thin and are about 0.5$ a piece. Be wary of condoms with flavours or "heating"/"tingling" effects, as the substances used to achieve that might be harmful.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 11:31 AM
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Nope, you said that views resulted from trauma shouldn't change. All I'm saying is that is not being rational ... bud.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 08:03 PM
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"Changing traumatized views shouldn't be an option" ... uhm ... that's how you heal trauma, bud
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 04:25 PM
8

And what if he wakes up one day saying he doesn't love her anymore and leaves her alone with children? There are negative consequences for everything in life on all sides. Pre-nups are an option everywhere in the world
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 04:24 PM
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OP should just get a pre-nup then. I see this anti-marriage rhetoric coming from US so I guess your laws are a bit sketchy. Over where I live courts don't seem so biased, I know two women who have lost money in divorces
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 04:21 PM
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No need to mention that the assault was sexual in nature. If you mention somebody attacked you, people will usually not go into details about it
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 04:08 PM
9

Vaginas are made so that babies come out, it's normal to be able to slide two fingers in there. Where did you get your "loose vagina" information from? Your ex? If men approach you for hook ups but not relationships, then looks are 't your problem, it's the signals you are sending
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 04:02 PM
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"loose vagina (according to my ex, it feels like I've given several births through it" 100% chance this is not true, he told you that to insult you; "a scar on my stomach" men do not really care about that; "large, but a bit saggy breasts" 95% of large breasts are saggy, unless they are implants So how can you tell that the top 10% of men aren't attracted to you? And how old are you and how old are the men you are approaching? This may have absolutely nothing to do with your looks
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 06:39 AM
2

This sounds cruel, but it's true. You wouldn't put a recovering alcoholic with party animal friends
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 06:31 AM
2

" it really feels like he has criticism of everything I do, " because he does have criticism of everything you do. The fact that it turns into a fight is also counter-produtive. I think you should be honest with him and tell him what your issue with this is just like you are telling us strangers
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 05:18 PM
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Do NOT, please do NOT go to self defense classes, they are a massive scam. Various contact sports youtubers debunk these techniques (example https://youtu.be/G10uv57Romo ) and even tasers are bad. If you suspect you are being followed, run! Do not be afraid of looking like a fool. If you are attacked, scream as loud as you can without fear of being embarrassed.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 02:08 PM
4

Both IUDs and BC pills have possible side effects, while condoms have none! If they break, you can actually see it and get a morning-after pill, while if the other methods fail you won't find out in time. Condoms also protect agaibat STDs, while the others do not. If you worry about your partner not putting on the condom, then you haven't chosen a decent partner
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 02:04 PM
2

Haha thank you. Please watch Rebecca on Youtube, she has brutally honest but optimistic advice for women
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 11:09 AM
2

Yes, I have thick ankles and if I work out, my calves look quite muscular. The thing is that the way men look at our bodies is so so different than how we look at it ourselves. They actually look at our advantages first and do not really see our defects like this. Rebecca Pope talks about this here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WeQn2AfaVEc
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 08:41 AM
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Let me say that you sound like a very emotionally balanced person, despite your chaotic upbringing. Your partner also sounds like a man who can tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy attitudes, so ... regardless of what you do, it sounds like you two will be a success story :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 08:35 AM
2

It's quite common in Romania too. I mean if you have single friends who you think would make a great match why not make an introduction? Is it better to just let them struggle finding partners? Also, historically speaking, women have been the match makers since forever. I also guess it comes off as sleazy if a guy friend told me to meet his friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 03:17 PM
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I get the feeling that he TOLD YOU that you do not set boundaries as an excuse for his own lack of responsability
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 03:13 PM
1

Then perhaps perception on what is a chad and what is a beta male have changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 03:11 PM
1

She's a rich lady courted by a rich chad but she chooses poor artist Jack. That's what I took from it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 01:00 PM
2

DiCaprio wasn't a chad in that movie, imho
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 04:45 PM
6

I read it. Greaaaaat insights from the fetish world. Anyway, what I wanted to say was that our fantasies are slightly influenced by society and gender roles, in the sense that a woman who is surrounded by rough men would fantasize about a softer, well mannered man. Similarly, a man who is surrounded by well-dressed fancy women might find himself fantasizing about a disheveled punk rock chick. Does that make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 01:50 PM
4

I don't think it reached the popularity of 50 shades or its widespread social acceptance
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 01:44 PM
4

They surely get influenced! Romantic (non sexual) fantasies follow certain tropes and and so do the sexual ones. 20 years ago, women loved Titanic, nowadays they love 50 Shades of Grey, so I think it's safe to say that culture and societal norms somewhat dictate our fantasies. Though it's difficult to research people's sexual fantasies centuries ago, I think you can get a glimpse of trends in romance. However, certain things are immutable and our genders generally dictate how we relate to the ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 12:09 PM
3

I have an atheist friend who married his Christian girlfriend and since then they also had a child. I, for one, thought that I'd never date a mam without a college degree. There are exceptions to every rule, so ... what is that pattern you say you have?
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 08:31 AM
2

" Men aren’t going to want to be with me because of my annotated books or spontaneous vibe or whatever" you're wrong, men like women who are smart, passionate and entertaining
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 08:19 AM
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I'll second what TranslatedSky said. If you tell a man you are dating upfront "I want to be a sahm", it will be seen as a red flag. Let's be honest, us ladies see it as a red flag too if on the first date a man would say "you'll stay home after marriage, no discussion". And try to see if you haven't been looking in the tight places. What if your ideal, traditional man is a tough biker in leather or a dirty mechanic?
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 08:09 AM
0

Monogamy and marriage are not just societal norms, they are necessary for the survival of humans as individuals and as a species. Otherwise, they wouldn't have been omnipresent in all cultures (with few exceptions). People are "ok" with not being married because nowadays casual sex is convenient and lacks consequences; they are "ok" with it because finding someone worth their time and effort and actually putting un that effort is hard and requires responsibility. If you ignore these, you're prob…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 01:57 PM
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It's the guys' job to 'try'. Many women are contacted by exes either to try to date again or sometimes they just bump into one another. The problem is that you have just said "no", instead of blocking them on phone/social media. The simple fact that they are simply looking for you again can mean a lot of things, it's only relevant how you treat them
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 01:25 PM
3

True, true. I have a hunch that men who let themselves dominated by women also do it because it gets them off
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 12:06 PM
1

Us women are told to seize power and show those men!! It's nothing inherent in us, I have gone through a SJW phase too. Us young women grow up with single moms (thanks, divorce laws), without brothers (thanks, consumer culture who makes people have less children), with a constant stream of feminist media. It's no wonder we turn up to be aggressive, unmarriable shrews. Thank heavens for all the writers, speakers and youtubers who try to talk sense into people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 09:02 AM
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And why would women trust men who hold the balance of power? Do men and power mix well? There is the potential for abuse in both genders, this doesn't mean anything
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 08:35 AM
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I think there is a difference between "losing one's role" and "being intimidated". To give the opposite gender equivalent, one of my chores in the home I share with my bf is to clean the kitchen. Since he, a man, has a longer arm's reach and a bigger hand, he cleans it way faster than me. About two times I got distracted from my cleaning and I just found him sweeping it without being asked and I felt horrible. I felt that I did not pull my own weight in the home and relationship and felt that I …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 07:41 AM
1

There is a difference between there being exceptions and saying that there is no "real" need to have a partner
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 07:19 AM
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if you don’t find anyone you’re happy to settle down with, what’s a person to do? ... everything discussed on this sub?? Surrounding yourself with friends and having casual sex do not replace a meaningful relationship. I get that there are people who'll just die single and that's okay, but really now, nowadays everybody's an exception to this!
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 07:16 AM
4

Really? There are no psychological needs for humans to have a romantic partner?
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 08:07 PM
10

These two do not oppose each other. Dive deeper into what attraction is and how it can be maintained and also how stability appears and is maintained
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 11:40 AM
1

Then you do not have to change the subject! Men love a woman who can talk about an interest and they love a challenge. Just try to keep it playful and not try to make the man look stupid. Basically what everybody else said
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 03:29 PM
2

Appearing so to other women or to men? It's rather important
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 04:50 PM
1

Now we think clippind dogs' tails is not okay (and illegal) but clipping newborns' genitalia is fine. Boggles the mind
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 07:07 PM
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It is the norm since living expenses are impossible for a single person in many places. Such is life. Unless there is a serious disparity in income, I think rent and bills should be 50/50. Everything else should be open to discussion. (My bf pays for more groceries and Netflix because I spend tons on my hair and cosmetics, etc) The nasty part is where you argue over bills because one partner likes the home warmer, takes long showers or such.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 10:24 AM
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Yes, I am looking forward to having kids in the near future. Thank you for your kind words!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 08:43 AM
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Yes, yes we are. I am only now beginning to see how society has tried to "blue pill" me since I was a kid and I am not alone. Nobody around me stays home to take care of children, because women should be iNdEpEnDeNt and work as soon as possible (and I am lucky that in Romania parental leave is two years ... in France it is four months!!!). If you try to take care of your looks and be feminine, you're seen as dumb or shallow; when I had issues in my relationship I was encouraged to cheat on him; …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 07:42 AM
2

I decided to listen to the doc as I worked and it was very good. It always boggled my mind how circumcision is so socially acceptable in supposedly civilised places. Picture if they snipped baby girls' labia because it's ugly or "difficult" to wash. Ugh
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 09:33 PM
2

Please tell me what it's about so I know how I must mentally prepare myself Edit: what those last five minutes are about
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 09:29 PM
2

I think there is a sweetspot in early 20s where you can spot men of good character who don't tick off the "success" boxes yet. If women loved immature and unaccomplished men, they'd never grow up. Then there are women who wait for their thirties for their millionaire prince only to see all the good ones are already married
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 09:23 PM
2

Casual gamer. Dark souls 3, Bloodborne, Heroes of Migh and Magic 3
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 09:14 PM
2

It's all true! I had issues in my relationship (a dead bedroom, to be exact) and my female coworkers encouraged me to leave him (which I get it, maybe they thought I was looking for confirmation) and ... to CHEAT ON HIM! Then, when I posted to the dead bedrooms subreddit my success story, I got shit for saying that I improved my looks! People told me that it's his fault for not being attracted to me, even if I gained weight
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/11/20 08:07 AM
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Over here dates are over coffee/drinks and I find so weird that in western countries it is customary to get a full meal, which is expensive. If the date is over some hot chocolate or cocktails (something that hardly puts a dent in a budget), I think the man should pay 100%. I think it's fair to say that if the date costs more than your foundation, you should offer to pay your share.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 02:41 PM
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I'm sorry, but both of you feeling off means you're probably not a good fit
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 04:23 PM
1

I have a friend who moved to France and she was shocked to see how little effort women put into their looks
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 09:37 PM
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Your fiance sounds like an incredibly loving and high-energy man! You said it yourself, he knows a lot of couples who got divorced because the woman was a maid in the relationship and so he is trying to be better and not end up like them. Perhaps he is even copying something he had in his own home even! However, no matter how incredible he is, your concern and your feelings are valid. Just like men feel they are being effeminated (I hope that's the word), us women feel robbed of our femininnity …
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 08:14 AM
2

Difficult to say. Talk to a therapist or close ones who know both of you
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 07:16 PM
1

Is that supposed to hurt me?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 09:21 AM
3

Knee-high boots with ankle-length skirt! Don't let the wind blow directly onto your skin
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 07:41 AM
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If you want that dynamic, create it. Ask permission for things that are completely silly and out of place. Keep doing it until it seems somewhat normal. Have fun with it. Such good advice!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 07:40 AM
4

It 100% comes from your daddy issues since I am the same and my friends with absent fathers are the same. Remember that society nowadays pressures men into not being controlling or gealous of their girlfriends/wives, so you can't blame him! I think any man has a gealous/protective streak in him, but that comes and goes ... Perhaps it's his entourage? I feel like my boyfriend used to be more aggressive generally in the past when he used to hang out in bars with lots of guys, but he is much more l…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 07:39 AM
2

I had a similar talk with my boyfriend a few months ago. I told him that I want to get married and that is the finality of it and if he doesn't want to do it, then to let me be free to search for happiness.! He said he has some personal reasons for which he hasn't proposed yet (he doesn't "feel" man enough, issues with his family financials vs mine etc) and I just bluntly told him that if he says he sees me as 100% wife material, how is it fair to make me wait? He told me he felt relieved that I…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 07:30 AM
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Lots of people change their mind after they have children though
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 04:05 PM
2

It depends where you are, how your living situation is and the culture around. There is literally no way I could have not lived with my bf these past years. We were both happy to move in together quickly since we got to spend more time together. We just agreed that moving apart if we'd split is not such a tragedy to be averted. Actually, we can't fight or be upset with each other for too long since we are so close together! The downside is that marriage not only gets delayed, but it loses its me…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 07:26 AM
1

I am really curious, is this effective? I am starting to have so so many doubts about medical contraceptives
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 09:04 PM
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Ofc he does, but breaking a promise still makes him a douchebag
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 08:56 PM
1

Do they, though? I think most marry with a yolo mindset
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 08:54 PM
1

Ah, yes, nothing to lose, only your youth
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 08:53 PM
1

What is nfp?
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 08:51 PM
4

Do you have no close friends who could accomodate you? Also I am so sorry that the man ended up a douche bag! Try to care less about him as he does not care about you
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 08:45 PM
1

There is no such things as "feeling logic" lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/20 11:27 AM
1

I don't see that men have 'more control' over their feelings, they are just not predisposed to having negative feelings (which is what 'neuroticism' means). Given our tendency to feel much and the mood swings that PMS and our hormones give, I'd say women are much more equipped to handling their feelings. Further, I don't see why you put 'logic' and 'emotion' as being two things who oppose each other, they are simply different things.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/20 10:58 AM
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Well then why the hell refer to one as "logical" and the other "emotionsl"? I really see no basis in this
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/20 10:38 AM
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"So one could say that men experience the world rather through the logic attached to thoughts and concepts. Women rather experience the world through their emotions and the attached feelings. Even though women are not unable to logical thoughts our thinking is rather connected by associations and the related feelings which might seem or even be illogical" ​ This logic vs. emotion dichotomy I see as absolutely false. You either have the capacity to judge rationally or you don't. You either have e…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/20 06:24 AM
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It is your responibility to solve the issues that your broken family has given you and, guess what, most people overcome it and do not cling onto their daddy issues by their mid twenties. So who considers this a red flag? The manosphere? I mean a big chunk of people nowadays (if not most) come from single parent households so ... what stigma?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/20 11:31 AM
1

Sure, I was reffering to humanity since agriculture and sedentarisation. I find that relevant to this discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 06:38 AM
1

Fight people over? I mean people raised animals, worked the fields, did woodworking, stone work etc. That's skill, knowledge and hard work, not fighting other people. What I mean is, there were times and places(there still are) when you could have had the tastiest food in the village, or you could have been the best hunter, be able to build your own house out of wood or stone, etc. Now in the cities you depend on money and for that you just depend on a job
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 05:44 AM
2

Yes it's the thing that many various physical resources have been turned into only one: money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 05:16 AM
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Well money today IS everything, isnt it? I mean in the jungle tribes where everybody builds straw homes there is no need for money. In agricultural societities where you grow your own food you don't need to whip your wallet out every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 04:57 AM
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Well can we leave the romantic shit aside for one moment? Women don't want to marry and have relationships with unemployed men and men don't want relationships with sluts. Why the hell is this some wild revolutionary concept?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 04:55 AM
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Can you simply change your tone? It's natural to tell your SO to eat healthier if he doesn't, to dress better if he doesn't, etc. Us women sometimes lose our shit and start insulting, threatening our men that they will end up this and that, we turn into harpies (or we turn into our mothers). I got my man to improve his fashion sense and start paying attention to it by telling him how much manlier he looks in shirts intead of t-shirts. I need to keep his unhealthy eating habits in check, but I of…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/20 04:49 AM
1

When I met my boyfriend I was vastly experienced (BAD BAD choices in my teens) and he was almost a virgin (he was VERY anxious around women) and we are the exact same age. It matters what age you are talking about, because when we were 23 we were at the crossroads of ending the college life and starting to be full-blown adults. It can breed some resentment if the man doesn't like your past sleeping around or has any hunches that you will cheat or leave him; also, it can breed some frustration in…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 06:42 AM
2

I've been through the exact same thing, had a boyfriend who assaulted and abused me and I did not go to the police. Sometimes, some things are just not provable in a court of law or at a police station. You don't need to share this experience with anyone and you are not lying. To tell the story means that you first need to remember it, which means you have to re-live it in some manner. Listening to a story like this, if you are a friend or SO means they will empathise and feel a little bit of yo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 06:36 AM
1

Though my relationship isn't as long as yours, I've had bedroom issues and sexual anxiety in men CAN come in later in a relationship, no matter how good his performance is. Men will sometimes avert the issue, saying they have a problem with condoms, with the lights on or off, with the music etc. External or temporary solutions like pheromone sprays (who haven't been proven to work) will not solve your issues. Now me and my bf went to therapy, but if your issue isn't sever, you can probably solve…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 06:30 AM
1

Like or post whatever you want! Do what you feel and what feels right, not what you think will be perceived a certain way by people. In order to live, we risk being judged by other people at every step of the way, but we must not let ourselves crippled by their judgement.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 05:59 AM
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A loooot of us were disagreeable idiots in high school! That's why teenagers have a reputation and nobody listens to them :) People change, you expect them to have changed since high school and so will people expect you to be different now. On the other hand, you were disagreeable and now you will face consequences. Do it, accept that bad behaviour has affected your relationships and live with it! It will make you stronger and better :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 05:51 AM
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I think your issues revolve around your fear about being judged! Being so insecure about your looks that you never take pictures of yourself is a red flag that you need to work on your self esteem. You also fear that people will judge you for something as little as re-opening your profile. Do you have any other signs of social anxiety? I only have facebook and I mainly post memes on it, because I like to make people laugh and my friends' list is full of people who do the same. I sometimes post o…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 05:36 AM
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"I am having a really difficult time juggling my job, school, and domestic duties. My fiancé has made it clear that he is frustrated with my inability to gracefully handle all the things" There is no way to balance these three things together and be "graceful" about it. I feel like your fiance is too pretentious, though it's really difficult for a stranger to give opinions, given that we don't know exactly how you divide chores and what your schedules are. A big chunk of this sub though is cente…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/20 03:04 PM
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This is quite normal here and I am all for it ! you don't need to drink alcohol and if something feels off it's much easier to leave an unfinished drink and go home instead of giving up a whole portion of food.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 01:54 PM
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You said yourself that this comes from issues you've had in the past and you already know that you are behaving irrationally ... which means you are already half way to solving the problem! I will suggest to you to keep a thought diary, as is the procedure in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is great for anxiety and anxiety-related issue. Here's what you can do: get a notebook and keep a thought diary. Whenever you have a thought like this, write it down along with the time and date, the even…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/20 06:43 AM
8

This is not a generic relationship advice sub
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/20 09:06 AM
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(which I would be sympathetic to if he was trying to correct the issue) There are plenty of reasons to be sympathetic, one being that lacking motivation and seeking escapism (alcohol, video games, etc) are simpthoms of depression. I don't think OP is being a doormat at all. Anyway as I was reading and watching history stuff, I've found quite a few examples (both real events and popular myths) where women were the ones to motivate men by being harsh and critical of them. I feel like we are someti…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/20 08:36 PM
5

A man's job is to provide and losing that turns him to depression; living with parents instead of having his own roof for himself and SO is a double downer. It's hard to get out of a bad loop of self-hatred, self-pity and apathy and I think you will achieve that by telling him what he needs to hear. How have you been broaching this subject with him? Did you, perhaps, not express your true thoughts to him out of a fear of hurting him? A man is a man when he is a responsable person and tip-toeing …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/20 04:45 PM
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I will need to ask for evidence to support your claim. Any woman wants a man who is reliable and capable for a LTR. Attractiveness needs to be there, but not at the level you assume
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 06:19 AM
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People have been getting married since prehistoric times, when marriage contracts weren't a thing. It mainly revolves around raising children, who can't be on their own until they turn 18 nowadays (let's say 14 - 15vin the old timey days), not to mention that any decent household takes 2 people to run it. Those being said, how did you reach the 3 -5 years number?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 05:52 AM
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You are projecting a little bit. Physical attractiveness is not the number 1 feature women look for in a relationship, it's the feature they look for hook ups. Being fit though is essential to human health before we even think of relationships. Too many men and women are comfortable with being slobs Also, I think the number 1 predictor of girls being promiscuous is not having a father in the home.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 05:45 AM
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No, I think we are misunderstanding each other. Ofc we separate each other, but take your own example here. Both me and Nicky Minaj are women, but our differences are greater than our similarities. My life is more similar to my boyfriend, who is a male, than to famous millionaire Nicky who is a woman. That's why I say that looking ONLY through the lens of female/male dimorphism to judge trends and culture is only looking at one side of multi-faceted issues
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 08:36 AM
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If you separate "men" and "women" in history you are using feminist ideology, because class and geographical differences between populations are just as relevant to our behaviour and culture as our sexual dimorphism. Then, to say that the "problem" lies with the demand and not the supply implies that whoever offers themselves for money is 100% innocent and a victim of circumstance. So if Nicky Minaj makes a video shaking her medically enhanced ass I cannot condemn her as cheesy because the poor …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 08:27 AM
1

Seeing "men" as a group of beneficiaries is a way of ideologically looking at history. But could you better ellaborate on what you want to say? Better than to misunderstand each other's poibts
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 07:50 AM
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Don't worry, it's just a cultural (not exclusively american) trend and as trends are usually one-dimensional and reactionary in nature, it will be followed by something expressly conservative. If you search a little bit theough history, you will find similar waves rising up and then dying, since they reach a boiling point. I mean I work in the adult industry and have always been fascinated by erotic arts and sensuality, I have shot nudes of my friends, of myself, etc yet when I see some of the m…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 07:23 AM
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But women have used their sexuality for their benefit since forever. There is also a difference between sexy and ostentatious
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 07:06 AM
1

I forgot where I've read it, but I remember an article stating that Engels wrote history through an identitarian perspective. It was therefore a precursor for all the identitarian discourses of the 20st century where history focused a lot of groups and opression, including mass opression of women
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 11:55 AM
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Yes improving someone would be great! But I should accept someone as he is, if he changes then that would be good but if he doesn’t then that should be fine. Plus, I cannot help someone to have a high self-esteem or make someone more masculine. You sound like you have a good healthy mindset! Lol it seems that older women have the same concepts 😂 Old women have experienced tougher times ... There are many areas and there were times when alcoholism was rampant, where domestic violence was just a d…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 01:32 PM
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It is not your duty to change somebody, but if you care about your SO, you will make efforts to improve him and he needs to put efforts and tell you where you are wrong. People don't change because other people tell them to do, but if they surround thesmelves with quality people, their quality will rub onto them. I see in your other comments that your marriage is next month and you don't have time to find another one. I wish you good luck, whatever you choose! I don't know where you live, but he…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 09:39 AM
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Cross-culture advice is hard to give. If I lived in an arranged marriage culture, I know for sure that my parents would have proceeded just like yours and would have found me a weak/submissive man. They wish best, but possibly don't know the best. It sounds like you know that you will be unhappy with this man, yet you have the freedom to break up. Can you not find a better arranged marriage through your extrnded family or family friends? Surely you have respectable and older people around you wh…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 06:00 AM
1

People turn more traditional as they age, so you only need to find a good man. In today's culture young men have been taught that women shouldn't be supported so many dudes your age will reject traditionalism. Just the same, us women have been brainwashed to aim to be empowered career women who listen to no man! If you read many stories here, you will find that many relationships take a traditional turn at a point where life's hardships begin. If you have a smart, capable and reasonable man next…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 05:47 AM
4

I get that if you're pretty and popular it's hard for a man to believe that you've been "behaving", but that question about threesomes is reaaalllyy odd. If disbelieveing you is not a pattern you've seen in him though, perhaps he's just being influenced by other people's experiences and is not a big deal.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 06:24 AM
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I think you have omitted the most pracrical reason of it all, the reason for which promiscuity has been a trait 'forgiven' only for men since the beginning of time: risk-taking behaviour! It is a trait that is valuable in men and unwanted in women. In any sexual encounter, the risk of pregnancy falls 100% on the woman, not to mention that in a modern one-night stand there is always the posibility that the man you've gone with might be some murderous weirdo and you'll end up as a case in Forensic…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 04:53 AM
9

So he thinks you are a liar? That's not right
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 04:39 AM
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I can speak from the perspective of the former left wing crazy sjw college girl! Guess what, it calms down through time ... marxism speaks to those who have felt their lives unjustly affected by poverty or sexism, but as she will grow and get out of her bubble her views will change. She will see that those who cry out injustice all day will have achieved nothing, while the ones who quietly worked and didn't complain will be achievers; she will see that being a career driven woman will not be all…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 05:01 AM
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There are exceptions to rules, there are low value men, there are high value men and so on. Generally speaking, men don't like women who just sit around and have no interests and activities
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 06:37 PM
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So what is your point, I don't understand?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 04:34 PM
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For those of us who have an unfortunate background, life only starts to get better at 18! I know it's very difficult to see an optimistic future, but nowbis the point when you just start to build your life. Men around your age are not serious, so focus on studying something (not college necessarily), get a job and move out on your own. I have been constantly told that adult life with bills and responsibilities wil be horrendous, when in fact I LOVED the freedom from my family and I enjoyed settl…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 01:38 PM
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Thank you! Take your supposed promotion as a compliment, managerial skills are soooo rare!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 01:30 PM
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Yes it does, a guy can 'like' someone superficially and not ever get into a serious relationship
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 05:50 AM
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His "leadership" implies you accepting his cheating and mistreatment for the rest of your relationship until he finds somebody more convenient to do this to, since he said that he doesn't care if you leave
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 04:49 AM
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What about her? No decent man wants a woman with no accomplishments
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 04:44 AM
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I'd say dates 3 - 6? About a month? Regardless of how long and sturdy the relationship seems to be or not, I find it a matter of respect to stop dating or talking to multiple people and just pick one pretty quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 04:45 AM
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Because it would free up time and energy for me to: Take over the cooking, which he currently does, freeing up his time and relieveing him of the responsibility Properly sanitize our home apart from the relatively superficial cleaning I do now; also organize all of our stuff and get rid of the mini-clutters we have right now Make a budget and stick to it, also meal-planning and grocery shopping, so we do not waste money on take away, so we do not waste ingredients like we do now and so that we a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 07:13 PM
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If you have figured out what your issue is then you are already on the right road. I am sorry that you cannot trust therapists, but you can read therapy books about these sorts of anxieties and its solving therapies yourself if you are proeficient in English. If you're interested, PM me and I'll ask around for book recommendations on those subjects.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 06:04 PM
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My heart grows when I read success stories, especially that people around me seem to only fight and complain. It's such a relief to find a solution-focused sub like this one
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 12:24 PM
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I am so happy that women are at the front if the thrifting and diy-ing counted culture! Also I am happy that where I live farmers' markets and small shops never died. I have been able to not set foot in a supermarket in years and I only go to the mall twice a year
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 12:17 PM
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Thank you! I never looked at this as being a consumerist issue, so that's food for thought.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 09:30 AM
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some men are much more gold-diggerish than women, expecting women to even own a house when they don't, etc. This is nothing new, some men have married for money since the idea of the dowry appeared. I mean, hell, one of the mandatory lectures here in school is a classic novel about a peasant whose dilemma is whether to marry the rich girl for lands or to marry the pretty girl he's in love with. I think most of us would love to find someone who would be happy with that. It's the fact that it's di…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 08:10 AM
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Couples' Therapy is not a last resort, it's a way to get an honest and objective view over your relationship if you think something is not working. It's just as you don't need to go to individual therapy only when you are insane/depressed/have panic attacks.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 08:22 PM
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Swimsuits are swimsuits and he's being insecure and controlling. Men are going to look at you no matter what you wear and it is their fault, not yours ... he needs to understand that. On the topic of your toxic ex boyfriends, you should stop contacting them for your own sake.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 04:45 PM
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Do you love him? Does he love you? Are you 100% sure he will be faithful to you and marry you? Have you had a talk with him about his emotional immaturity or do you magically expect him to know where he is wrong? Are you attracted to him and is he attracted to you? There are many questions to answer here regarding a relationship, apart from the things you have mentioned. Remember that we are only strangers on the internet
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 07:47 AM
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Men are going to be bothered if you regularly keep contact with former partners. It's also normal for him to be bothered if men tell you you are beautiful on social media often. Men can smell it when somebody is around you to get a chance to get in your pants. On the other hand, it's absurd to announce him whenever somebody of the opposite sex tells you "hi", but ... What do you mean when you say you had difficulty in keeping boundaries in the past? And what kind of photos do you post on social …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 05:19 AM
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People have flaws and nobody will be perfect. The things that you listed to be bothering you are nitpicking ... if your sex life is fine, but you mostly initiate then it's not a real problem. If he says "why don't you just leave" in anger it's fine, it would have been a problem if he called you a bitch/stupid/general insulting names. Either you are not realistic or he has some other flaws that you did not mention. Then how important is this school for you? Does the out of state one offer you a s…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 05:12 AM
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Most markets and trading? If you have more info, please give it to me! Afaik women were historically responsable for shopping and caring for the home (since they'd intimately know the children, the home, etc), but a lot of trading implied traveling outside the city/village, which was difficult for a woman. then move on because it's just not something he would care enough about to bother mentioning. Yup, most men really do not care about decor, a good chunk of them do not care about what the dest…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 03:08 PM
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Perhaps he does not care as much about the things she decides on? Afaik in present day home buying is mostly female-led and it's a far stretch to say that most of those relationships are female led. Or take for example the tradition in a lot of patriarchal cultures for the wife to control the finances in the household.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 12:31 PM
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Yeah but they wear them on stage, not irl
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 03:55 PM
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So regardless of what we consider a 'manly' woman, we both agree it's equally sexually repulsive to men just as feminine men are to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 03:53 PM
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With pleasure! I hope you find what you need and want in life :(
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 03:52 PM
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I disagree; there are enough women who wear baggy clothes and have short hair, while I have yet to meet a man who wears yoga pants
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 02:10 PM
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Most people where and when? In the world? In your country? In your age group? In our current decade or century? Most people doing something is only relevant if you look at enough parameters to determine what it means. If it feels like "settling" (aka feelings of resentment towards the other due to lack of qualities), then you're not a fit, regardless of how many people do it. I think what would fit in having too high standards when it comes to relationships are women who want a man to have x amm…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 01:23 PM
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You expressly mentioned make up and yoga pants, which are HARD gender norms. They are equally harmful, thinking the female equivalent of that would be not shaving any body hair and working as a trucker
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 11:46 AM
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The only unrealistic thing is to expect a man to stop mid show to kiss you in front of the cameras. You ask if one should set the bar too high, I say the bar is too low if your man does not give you at least one reason to be proud of him. But all of this comes only in a long committed relationship, after deep knowledge of the other and deep bonding. You are never going to simply meet someone who looks at you like that. Colbert speaks like that of a wife, not a date.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 11:44 AM
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He does not take too much initiative in other aspects as well I feel like this is the issue, not just the special days
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 07:03 PM
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Living on your own, be it alone or with roommates, makes you grow as a person in many ways. I think it's perfectly fine to post-pone that until after college, but moving from your family straight to your hypothetical future husband might pose you some difficulties. You are right, it's not fair that your parents aren't teaching you those skills, they are basically keeping you reliant on them. Wait until you are done with your studies, get employed and only then have a talk with them. You need to …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 07:00 PM
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I meant older than 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 04:19 PM
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By expressing your feelings, I meant does it show on your face? Because talking about them for half an hour is annoying, while a silent shift in mood is natural and gets the point across. It's so hard to understand this man and your situation, I mean ... "didn't have much of a response"? I think there might be some greater issue about communication there.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 04:18 PM
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Because they want the money, the bad boy glamour and they see it as a hustle, rebellion, etc. Older women tend to stay away because they are wiser
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 06:43 AM
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I would like to go against the grain and say that people do "change", meaning that they will compromise and learn. He needs to understand that you need him to express his care and love for you in certain ways, and these special events are one of those ways. There are plenty of people who don't celebrate Christmas, plnety of people who don't care about birthdays, but they must care about at least one of them. I'd say it is not nagging if you bring up this problem three times per year (ex. b day, …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 05:18 AM
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Doesn't matter what diabetes smell like, there still are dozens of conditions which simply do not show, so my point stands
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 03:59 PM
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I used to be biased against men without college education, since that was a thing very important to my family, the friends around me, etc. I used to have second thoughts when I was dating my boyfriend too, because he dropped out of college after two weeks, so I completely feel you. Break down what values you seek in a man and you might find that a guy who nicely sits at a desk to study for three/four years to get a paper is not what you want. A man who takes the reins into his own hands and carv…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 10:52 AM
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NO! Lying to people about their flaws will prevent them from working on them, especially when they damn ask about it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 10:42 AM
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fat unhealthy I think OP specifically meant FAT because simply having diabetes or heart disease doesn;t affect your initial attractieness
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 10:34 AM
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Personally, I find that 10 times more evil and 10 times more harmful to humanity, so whatever women orbit those kinds of men are spineless harpies to me (tho they are not stupid) Also thx for explaining
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 08:20 AM
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Wouldn't men just say yes to every girl who is moderately attractive and then use many of them for sex? That is exactly what happens, especially un young people
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 07:19 AM
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Try /r/normalnudes (NSFW of course). There are simple non erotic pictures of human bodies ranging from a 0 to a 10. It's a breath of fresh air where you can see natural, unphotoshopped bodies. You'll see that chest size is not that relevant in the great scale of looks
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 06:48 PM
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People send explicit messages because they want to satisfy themselves. It's a thing that is inappropriate after a second date, even though there is nothing physically happening. Personally, I think over-explaining things takes the fun out of everything, so I think you should simply reply something like " uhm ... not cool". Perhaps he is just a misguided man who thinks texting explicitly is alright, but I am inclined to say that a 28 year old man sending smut to his date sounds like a pushy disre…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 02:26 PM
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Thanks for reading!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 10:24 AM
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Only one thing there is one kind of love and it fades but comes back too You cannot say this as an absolute, otherwise there wouldn't be so many languages on earth who have more words for it, languages in which you literally could not translate "one kind of love".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 09:28 AM
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See my other comment (the long one) please
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 09:12 AM
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I ireally hate that English has only one word for "love", so for the sake of the argument I will use "superficial love" and "deep love". You are right, people can reach "deep love" through an arranged marriage, if the two work together, collaborate and share experiences, respectful, etc. When I said love is bi-directional, I meant THIS kind of love, the deep one that comes from two people living together. You cannot feel deep love for somebody who beats you, cheats on you, etc. Deep love only co…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:49 AM
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Nope love isnt a bidirectional thing . How many one sided love should I show? I do not call that love, I call it infatuation. concept you have was created by Cristians to make people fall for the religon trap. Give proof for that, please You are wrong You are setting off on a wrong foot if you came here to this sub to just tell people they are wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:41 AM
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What does insider trading mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:27 AM
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Please use your head , ITS JUST A FEELING Using your head also means knowing what makes you feel good and what doesn't. There is no such thing as "just a feeling", as humans are deeply emotional creatures who need to feel fulfillment, purpose, acceptance, pride, value and who need to know what to do to avoid feeling unmotivated, resentful, frustrated and insignificant. The phsyical world around us provides us with TOOLS and does not represent a purpose in of itself
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:04 AM
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"I can love a PS4 , and this love and the love with my gf is same" Love is a bi-directional concept. The PS4 is an object who does not love you back and who you cannot bond with. Love is more than that feeling of "being in love" you get at the beginning, it's a deep bond you have with somebody who shares your views, your tastes, your humor, whom you have shared experience with. Marrying for the rush while ignoring practical aspects of your partner is just as unwise as marrying someone because of…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:00 AM
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There's no glass half-full, I've met a woman who is married to a drug dealer (and I mean drug DEALER, not some guy who occasionally sells weed to his friends) and guess what ... she joined the adult industry so she could make money to afford to feed her baby, who was staying with the mother in law, because their house was raided by their authorities, their belongings confiscated, their bank accounts seized and the husband ended up in prison for drug dealing. But at least she still had some Gucci…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 07:07 AM
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My numbers might be off because I live in East Europe and I don't even know exactly the bubble I live in (I earn double the minimum wage, yet some people would say I don't earn enough so I really don't know what class I'm even in), but here 500$ is the price of an engagement ring. Precious jewelry (=gold or gemstones) is an expensive gift to be received as a collective gift from a whole family or from a very long-time boyfriend who can afford it without much sacrifice. Since women work full-time…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 06:57 AM
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Yup I used to be like "oh noez RP misogynists" but then I figured I should just listen to their complaints. I used to think that women are great and that the "females" they speak of in the manosphere don't exist, until my boyfriend told me with 100% honesty what dating before me was and ... boy, oh boy, they sound so similar. ​ I still think that long term relationships and marriage make both men and women happy, yet how could I tell that to a man who's only met women who have no interests or ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 06:48 AM
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with good personalities ​ ended up with guys who have money and/or sell drugs Their personalities don't seem so great
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 06:04 AM
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Whoa, where you guys live an expensive date costs 500$? With that money here you can pay for a full weekend get-away! Anyway, science says that you are happier in the long run if you spend your money on experiences rather than objects ( https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2014/10/buy-experiences/381132/ that is one article aboyt it), but I can't figure how ONE NIGHT is worth that money. On the other hand, whoever has 500$ to spend around will buy a console anyway, so if I was gifted a P…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 06:02 AM
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A long penis will panfully hit the cervix, not to mention that if the guy has to hold back his thrusts the two bodies will not mash against each other, which substract from the pleasure. You can do without girth too, if the penis is curved for example (look up G-spot sex toys, they all have a curve to them) and my first orgasm was with a dude who seemed laughably small. I think the size queens simply see the big ones as some sort of status symbol, like a shiny new car or idk, I honestly don't un…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 05:51 AM
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Was it some sexual innuendo or what is it something like "I'd do x to you"?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 05:43 AM
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But that's not what being opressed means, grr!!! Opression is when you have things imposed on you, when you can't speak for yourself, when you are barred access from education, money, etc. Did those people really think that telling you to drink and sleep around will liberate you from ... something? I guess I shouldn't be surprised
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 05:37 AM
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Did they literally tell you "you are better wearing something revealing" or perhaps you are interpreting things as more blunt than they actually are? Your wording makes it sound like you see things in black and white, when they are actually grey and nuanced. I imagine it's difficult to come from a family whose views are very different from the rest of the world around you and this will stay the same for as long as you live where you live. Keep in mind that people generally want what is best for …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 10:21 PM
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You can try telling them that you simply do not want to talk about the subject. Keep in mind that women from a liberal country take "my religion tells me to cover up" as a sign that it is something that is imposed on you, not something that you actively chose. Also, your post is a bit vague ... are those girls telling you that you don't need to wear a headscarf and cover head to toe in mid summer or are they trying to get you to try drinks and being promiscuous? There is a difference between tox…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 09:53 PM
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from my point of view its women who are the "shitty" gender. However because I have never dated men I think empathizing with women and at least trying to see things from their perspective would in turn, help me understand what I can do better in my relationships This gives me hope in humanity. Thank you, /u/Magnusdongus42069
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 07:27 PM
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Please tell me what "OLD" means because I can't find that anywhere Edit: thanks guys!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 07:24 PM
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There are many causes to this, and I can list a few reasons that I see: Modern media is absolutely polarising, turning people against each other and not enouraging thoughtful and nuanced conversation or collaboration between sides Modern feminism has focused on equality of outcome instead of equality of opportunity; it has lost itself into details, sought to not only erase gender roles but to demean women who do not reject them; it gave voice to a misandrists, ending up demonizing men as a whole…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 07:22 PM
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All women can spin plates. RPW is about building and maintaining marriage and there is no slaving about it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 04:04 PM
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RPW is something else, not that. Anyway, no matter how frequent, that is still trash behaviour. Whoever spins 5 guys at the same time (be it because they can or because they can't make up their mind) is beneath you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 03:53 PM
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That's simply trash behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 12:34 PM
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Submission/Dominance Nope Close almost codependent dynamics Noooope Dependance or reliance upon one another Reliance yes, dependance, no Specific emphasis on one fitting ones role normally feminine or masculine Yes, for practical reasons The general current in society is that as a woman, you OWE it to the world and to yourself to break gender roles. I feel a lot of pressure to be a career woman, to see men as disposable and to move on if I see the slightest incompatibility, to not put effort int…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 05:41 AM
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female sexual autonomy up until the last 150 years was pretty much nil Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 06:45 PM
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A limited genetic pool is bad for the offspring. You generally do not want a small portion of dudes impregnating all the women, or you'll see entire generations wiped out by hereditary deffects, conditions brought from people having children with close relatives, etc. I mean if most cultures worldwide practice something, there is usually a very practical reason for it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 06:44 PM
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he fought for majority custody apparently to get welfare support for having an extra child in his home Amazing, what some people do She mainly plays games on her phone and talks to people on her phone, which as I said, has been confiscated Hopefully, boredom will make her take interest into something productive. Good luck!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 02:08 PM
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She needs a specialist ... her mother won't be able to follow her alone forever. Unfortunately, exposure to sexual acts leads to this, lacking a father in the home leads to this, etc, but talking about it after the fact is pointless. What other things would help are if the girl would be exposed to healthy communities, hobbies and activities, something that would give meaning to her life and bring her appreciation. Is the girl interested in any arts or crafts?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 01:18 PM
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To solve the problem, you need to get to the cause. Research what leads to hypersexuality in teens, as perhaps the girl lacks appreciation, purpose, perhaps she is seeking attention or has been exposed to something she shouldn't have been exposed to. I don't think you should throw out therapy just because she is rebellious. Source: was a hypersexual teen
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 10:37 AM
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Yes I've seen a talk with Christina Hoff Summers who said that feminists can actually make a difference for women in Saudi Arabia. Apple (and some other company I can't remember) make an app that enables husbands to track their wife's phone and they get an ALERT if their wife tries to go over the border ... And that feminists in the west only need to put pressure on those western companies to disrupt this service. The other feminist on the panel was arguing that she cannot possibly know what wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 06:22 AM
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Half? Do people cringe at HALF of weddings they go to? Yes they do . I've made divorce bet with my coworkers, I've cringed at proposals, I cringe at relationships. To be frank, I think there are a lof of people who think that getting married will magically make their relationship lasting and wipe out all of the misunderstandings; I also think that those people throwing themseles head first at marriages are like the boy who cried wolf. I think that is what leads to people saying "you chose wrong"…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 06:09 AM
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If you want to get or give automatic "leave him now" advice, r/relationship_advice is available BUUURN!
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 05:53 AM
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I will give a different reason (though it doesn't make up for all of it): betaboys for who the chase after women is scary. Reddit is absolutely full of threads saying that women should not be afraid to make the first move or send the first message, that young men are sometimes shy and women have to pry them out of their shell, etc. It completely denies the fact that most men would accept ANY woman who approaches them or chases after them. Examples: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/drf…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 05:48 AM
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Even though we differ (you're a mgtow, I'm from around rpw), I wanna thank you for mentioning (in the comments of some thread) that women get blamed for their assaults in the middle east (a thing which is 100% legit and more people should talk about); also for speaking against Marxism.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 05:39 AM
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Then when you meet someone, I think you can simply say that you don't want to talk about your reasons. Simple as that! :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 07:19 PM
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I think if you simply say that you grew up in an envirnment of gangs and teen pregnancy, making you go the complete opposite way in your youth is enough. Personally, if somebody tells me something vague, like " I was just focused on something else" it rings a bell of suspicion
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 06:38 PM
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Your text is so oddly beautiful
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 03:16 PM
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An turbulent sexual past tends to not be a good indication of responsibility, nor honesty Yup, completely agree there's a reason modern divorce rates are around 40-50% And most are initiated by women! I used to think that was the case because mEn aRe tRaSh, abusive, etc, and women are finally leaving because divorce is not stigmatized anymore. For some time though, I started to realize that lots of women are, in fact, delusional, hypergamous, unfaithful and see men as disposable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 06:30 AM
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Do you believe a male with those kind of conditions has many sexual-relationship options? He can pull off hooking up with women who are better looking than me. He is tall, good looking and when he is not anxious he is very charismatic, the life of the party. hrowing away a consistent sexual option just to fuck an extremely desperate (provided his own conditions) slut a few times would be incredibly stupid. Not really. My sex driver is higher than his. Really, I don't get how you can make assumpt…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 06:08 AM
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we need to find a way to make the avg. man attractive to the avg. woman What an Orwellesque thing to say
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 05:41 AM
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I don't doubt it, all the evidence I have of the contrary is purely anecdotal, but I can't really pick one of the three options, as I feel there are more reasons for that. I am in a four year relationship, because he did not care that I used to be a slut in my home town when I was a teen, just like I didn't care that when we met he was on anxiety meds, had no college degree and earned minimum wage. Four years later, we never cheated, we are thinking about marriage and we're the type to be up at …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 05:37 AM
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Not always. Some men simply don't care, especially if the past is far away in time and space, or if they have some equally shady shit in their past too. My point is that women should stick to those men who don't care instead of trying to beg or force most of them to eMpAtHiZe with us poor women who are tempted by the evil society.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 05:13 AM
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In Cognitive Behavioural Therapy you learn to replace your worrysome thoughts with other thoughts which soothe you. Sometimes simply saying "this is irrational" doesn't work! For example, I respond well if I ridicule my anxiety, something along the lines of "Yeah, sure, he didn't text back because he's with five hot strippers at a bachelor party!". You need to find something that works for you! The first step in this is to keep a thought diary. Make a table and note ALL of your anxious thoughts,…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 05:09 AM
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I used to ride the CC in my teens and I do attribute 10% of the blame to sex-obsessed society, but after a certain point I knocked that shit off. The same can be said of overweight people, who can't be 100% blamed for giving in to habits of fast food and sedentary life style, yet after a certain threshold of age or emotional stability, there is no excuse. Yes, lots of things are tempting, but we need to restrain ourselves even if it not easy. I'd say lots of men are quite forgiving of high body …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 04:59 AM
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I see you take three things and you interweave them: a state, corporations and gender norms. They are truly overlapping to some degree, but they are separate issues. For example, communism massively forced women to get jobs, while in a capitalist environment the pay gets lowered because a two-income house will produce two lower income workers, rather than only one worker who asks for pay high enough to raise the family. we want a middle ground where a single person can provide for a family regar…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 04:41 AM
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Yeah the trend here is for thick eyelashes, but even the natural looking ones sometimes look off, especially without make-up. For example I was hate-watching the movie 465 days and the main protagonist has eyelash extensions and they felt very distracting to me.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 04:33 AM
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most social stigma surrounding cheating has mostly been eliminated for women I know, I know, I was talking to my female coworkers once about the problems I had in a relationship, more specifically a dead bedroom. Their advice? "Cheat on him lol". But I think this is only a temporary state, or most certainly applying only to young, unmarried women. I mean the historical double standard of the woman being more harshly punished for adultery has a very practical reason for: the woman risks getting p…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 04:30 AM
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Ofc, us women never ever do anything wrong, we are havenly creatures without sin! ​ Anyway, I wrote that with cheating men in mind, since they could theoretically go to prostitues, yet they still cheat with normal women. Why is that if not to seek some sort of validation? (leaving aside cases of men who cheat because of a dead bedroom)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 04:26 AM
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are not going to change because they are in love with someone Of course, change comes with emotional maturity and responsibility
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 08:29 PM
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Because married men buy houses more often than bachelors?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 07:52 PM
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Faithfulness comes from self discipline, not just because we emotionally bond with our mates. Also a lot of people don't just cheat for the thrill of sex alone, but to seek validation, get revenge, etc. In that regard, I think attention seeking behaviour is more of a red flag of a cheater rather than having casual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 07:47 PM
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In the bubble I live in I am surrounded by women who get surgery, lip fillers, hair extensions, eyelash extensions and acrylic nails. It pains me to say this, but 80% of them looked better before them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 07:08 PM
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Thank you for the video, but I am not American, so what I can say is this: where I live there are laws related to how much you can work, health insurance is mandatory, etc; nothing about this contradicts the idea of 'capitalism'; also, afaik America was capitalist when Boomers were born too, when only 20% of women had jobs, right? Sorry, not sorry, I really hate Marx being quoted and people just dumping every evil on "capitalism", since I come from a former communist country and I know how disas…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 06:49 PM
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Very good article, thank you for linking it! I have an objection to it, though, about why some people end up in certain types of jobs instead of making money independently. The musician in the article would have probably made it if he put 75% of all of his effort into soulless self-promotion instead of following his actual passion. But the stress of that is not worth the time and emotional labour. I, for example, am a photographer and I prefer being employed by a company rather than freelance, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 06:14 AM
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No psychotic boss yelling at her, no backstabbing women trying to get her fired, no creepy dude at the office asking for a date. No crazy customers I really hate how this has become 75% of the stress at work, while only the remaining 25% of it is the actual work. Thank Heavens that since switching to remote work, my boyfriend saw all the stress and the drama I have to deal with and supports me switching to part time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 05:25 AM
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​ A lot of people condemn non-traditional ideologies because they see it as society being ruined. For example; the breakdown of the nuclear family, women being more career focused, hookup culture, women fucking around and having high n counts. A lot of people only think of it as individual freedom (I used to think that way too). However, if this way of life produces less children, it will leave a society with an old population that has to be sustained by a smaller young population. Eventually, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 05:14 AM
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I grew up without my father and I have the same problem. I'd say it's alright to fake it till you make it. While I cannot advise you on how to make close female friends, I can advise you on how to get along with female colleagues or work mates. Focus on relaxing, smile a lot, make meaningless small talk, make jokes and make sure to always use a compliment! Example: find a random item of clothing on the other woman that you at least mildly like; tell her it's really nice, ask her where she bought…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 05:45 PM
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It doesn't sound bad, there are people whose sexualities do not develop because of certain issues or some people are simply asexual, since why I asked. But before we get to that ... how old are you two? It's quite normal for people to develop fully untl they are 25 (at least for women). Whatever the cause might be for him ( as everybody else said ... TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT) , you need to ask yourself if your sex drive will remain absent or if it will spring to life at some point.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 07:31 PM
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Hold on ... why is YOUR sex drive dormant?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:39 PM
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Bodies are beautiful in all shapes and sizes as long as your muscles are toned and fat is below a certain percentage. Some people simply have wider hips, some have wider shoulders, some have short legs and others have long arms, but it does not matter much. Eat healthy, run and do some yoga for good posture, do some squats to tone your bottom, hydrate your skin and dress for your body type! Everything else is overanalyzing
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 05:45 AM
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How are the dating apps in your area or culture? I met my boyfriend on Tinder because here it is often used by people exactly so they can get out of their bubble, not for hook-ups, while dating websites are for old people. Ask your friends about the best dating apps! They are a good occasion to fiilter out people, because you can talk to them 2-3 days and decide if going on a date with them is actually worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 05:41 AM
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Definetly age in women is similar to height in men, as they are also out of their control. My argument, though, was that OP did not mention RMV and that "unflattering" is not the same as "unattractive". The word "unflattering" has a certain connotation to it, hinting that it is something complementary that does not "fit well" with a certain person. A dress is "unflattering", meaning it is ill fitting and does not put the woman's best features forward, while also hinting that another dress would!…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 05:35 AM
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It took me AGES to figure that I can tuck my shirt or just tuck half of my shirt and my family gave me horrible fashion advice. Until I was old enough to go obsessively thrifting with my friends, my family dressed me in horrible home-knitted sweaters, untapered jeans a size too big and super-padded bras. I feel you
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 05:23 AM
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If I may, I think that "age" does not fit in with the rest of your list. Age affects one's SMV, but outside of the sexual context, I don't think this natural process (which 100% of us go through) is unflattering. The rest of the lists seems to fit any other context, as a woman who would be a teacher/employee/etc would definetly lose respect for wearing too much make-up, not smiling, not respecting time, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 12:30 PM
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I find ill-fitting clothes to be the most common culprit. A pretty face, an enchanting voice and a beautiful smile don't matter much if your pants are so tight that they squeeze a muffin top.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 10:28 AM
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Colored hair, tattoos, piercings, etc, which fall into alternative fashion are not necessarily unflattering, just very polarising. The issue is touched in this video, which I find very interesting: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qLNwa_hoz4w&t=1261s&ab_channel=Boyinaband
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 10:25 AM
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The secret is to constantly rotate through ringtones.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 05:04 PM
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Change your alarm tone with the ringtone. It makes me JUMP out of bed.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 03:33 PM
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I've had a similar issue and it seems that men's lowering sex drive in a relationships is more common than people think. You need to make him understand that this really is an issue, that you are not pretentious and marital duties get that name for a reason. Don't sweep it under the rug. We, as a couple, have got over this with a few sessions of couples' therapy. It's important that he understand this issue and goes with you voluntarily, not dragged by you. Also, therapy doesn't magically solve …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 03:02 PM
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Yes! Look, I know some therapists are super subjective and some even try to push an agenda, but nobody goes to college for 3 years of psychology to tell people to bE pOsiTivE aNd gRaTeFuL. I went to therapy for many reasons, one were my childhood/teenage issues (which left untreated lead me to develop a panic disorder) and another was my dead bedroom. Nothing about it is being positive, it was first to learn about why I see the world the way I do, what influenced me to think what I think, leadin…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 05:20 AM
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Not in all Eastern Europe. I guess there's a difference between different orthodoxies too. Here all the morale and the preaching focuses around forgiveness and humility, which men don't take a liking too. Church is seen as a thing for old women. I cannot remember one single man in my age group mentioning going to church ever. It is also worth noting that religious people in the urban areas have quite the disliking for the religious institutions (because of corruption, hypocrisy, tax evasion, no …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:52 AM
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Uhm, no? That's not what therapy is.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 05:34 PM
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How did I address my old issues or the couple issues? The rest of your reply I don't fully understand, perhaps you could reword it (not native English speaker here)
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 02:23 PM
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I don't think it's right to generalize counselours. You do have a point though, it is a natural state to have when you are young and haven't accomplished anything. Sometimes, though, it may be a sign of something else. I, for example, was constantly told that I was just a moody teenager, when in fact I was not, I had issues that needed to be addressed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 09:06 AM
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I second /u/ilooovepink s response, because I had similar issues and we got over them. There are lots of reasons for men to have esteem issues and a therapist is the right person to speak to. I'd also strongly advise you to not coddle him or shield him from valid criticism, because he might feel even more emasculated. Be careul though, some men are strong willed and turn their life around and thrive, while others wallow in self pity forever and there is nothing you can do. You can't save someone…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 04:37 AM
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Nope, I do not take *zero* responsability, but there is a "why" to absolutely everything that people do in life. There are some reasons for which I was a wreck in my teenage years, yet after a certain point it was my responsability to fix them and grow up as a person. I went through gradual change, I did not pretend to be anything that I am not and if I somehow do not deserve my boyfriend, he is free to leave and find somebody more suitable. I've never hidden my past and he accepted me just like…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 05:14 PM
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Thank you for your kind reply :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 01:43 PM
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With shame, I have to admit that I used to be exactly THAT type of woman who'd hook up with strangers and barhop all day. Since then I moved town and changed my entourage, I focused on my studies, then on my work and, slowly, all the issues that made me behave that way were gone. I very naturally just stopped being interested in party culture and sought meaningful relationships. Perhaps some see me as a hypocrite for it ... but what also changed was that I stopped demanding things from the world…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 01:29 PM
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This depends on so many factors, but it's possible, yet it will not be the same type of friendship as it is between women or between men. As long as they are both in happy relationships and some character traits make them romantically incompatible, I don't see why a man and a woman cannot talk and bond with each other in a platonic way.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 07:13 PM
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Well if it's a medical case like that, the doctors would obviously recommend the surgery. I was born through C-section too, because I was coming out feet first.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 02:32 PM
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Some sources say that natural birth is not actually more risky than a C section "Generally considered safe, C-sections do have more risks than vaginal births." https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/c-sections.html Of course, we can talk and talk, but medics know more and perhaps we are inclined to one or another because we fear different things
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 12:36 PM
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C section vs natural birth is quite the discussion. Here in Romania they do more C-sections than necessary. From the women I have talked to, it seems that the pain of natural birth is more worth it (because it is short) than the painful recovery from a C-section
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 12:11 PM
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Ohhh that changes things a lot. I think there's a language barrier :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 05:55 PM
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Some of the articles aren't bad, they seem like quite the reality check.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 05:38 PM
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I don't want to rain on your parade either, but it's odd you say that your relationship was based on his looks. Keep in mind that superficial qualities are considered superficial for a reason. Good luck and enjoy living together!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 05:31 PM
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Every opinionated sub will have trolls or people conducting "social experiments". Look at what has happened to AITA, where so many posts are fakes meant to see reactions or push some agenda.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 12:41 PM
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You don't have to be 100% attracted to your SO all the time, that is not the issue, it's about respect and how he speaks to you. I gained weight and my boyfriend told me that I gained weight, he did not tell me that he sees himself with somebody thinner. He did not tell me that I am fat, and never has he used words like flab. Your husband literally told you that he does not see himself with a woman 'like you'. You have all rights to be upset! I am sorry to say that I don't know how you can solve…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 10:50 AM
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Strong narcissism because she wants her husband to not insult her looks?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 10:39 AM
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"objectively not the type of girl he would've imagined himself with" naming some instagram models like amanda cerny instead. What kind of man says this to his wife?? There are men out there who marry women who are not good looking, because they compensate with other features, but what kind of man VOICES this to his significant other? How would he felt like if you compared him physically to other men? What if you told him he is not the "type" of man you would see yourself with? People who respect…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 10:35 AM
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- Use coffee grounds for scrubbing your skin - You can replace the expensive eyeliner brush and eyebrow brush with very cheap alternatives from the art supply store, which are most of the times made from natural hair too ( they'd look like this: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Miniature-Brushes-Detailing-Painting-Watercolor/dp/B07S4K75LS/ref=sr_1_32?dchild=1&keywords=flat+brush+painting&qid=1599370857&sr=8-32 ) - Ask a fellow make-up artist, if possible, of the worth of the cost of some products; I've …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 05:56 AM
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Yoga is good for another thing that is overlooked: posture!! Good posture is a sign of confidence and health
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 05:34 AM
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Why does it matter where his revenue comes from? It does not erase his teaching career. Then I've recently heard of his work on finding evidence that experiments on mice in pharmaceurical tests are not accurate; he tried to attract attention of the pharmaceutical companies that their tests are not accurate for human safety. So I say it's unfair to say he is not interested in scientific improvement... And all of this is besides the point anyway, because I only used him as an example of a man who …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 05:21 PM
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It's people in bad faith who claim that men are superior to women, science does not. No scientists say that we are hunter gatherers either, just that some traits in us are remnants from those times. Also, it does not deny culture in any way... I just listened to a talk of two evolutionary biologists (Bret Weinstein & Heather hayes) in which they said that in their research, they had found only 2 trades which were exclusively male, meaning the rest of it is due to cultural gender roles. I think y…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 04:53 PM
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Science is based on the scientific method and even though people use it to advance ideologies, the science itself just shows its findings and pretends nothing more. Science does not deny cultural influence, it's that some people use scientific findings to deny culture. What exactly in ep do you find to not be backed up by statistics? How do people use it now to justify misogyny?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 03:27 PM
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These subs discuss ideas, findings and strategies, they are not ideologies. The metaphor of the red pill is to accept harsh truths and it has helped me in my current relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 02:34 PM
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In your darkest hour, remember that sadness is just as temporary as joy. No matter how hard it is, it will pass.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 10:47 AM
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he never really took an interest in my life because he never asked much about me. I always felt that we only ever talked about him. This, coupled with him accusing you of branch swinging (when you say you never dated and this was your first relationship) I find very relevant. Sounds emotionally immature and there are men around your age which are so much better. Don't get back with him, the "I will change" means he will be nice to you for two weeks or two months and then he will fall back on exa…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 06:32 AM
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How old are you two? What are your backgrounds? How irresponsable was he, exactly? What hurtful things did he say to you? Your story is not quite detailed for strangers to give meaningful opinions
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 04:02 PM
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The simple act of sex is overrated. A healthy and satisfying sex life with your partner is another thing
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 03:56 PM
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Upcycling means repurposing fabric or material. I applaud you for donating to charity, but if at 32 years old you do not know how to clean, then you are lacking a serious life skill. If at your age you have only lived with your parents and you have not managed a household with a fixed budget (even if it only means living with some roommates for a few months), then you will have serious problems later in life. I don't want to come off as condescending, but there are some basics of being a wife th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:53 AM
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Keep in mind that being a housewife is so much more than laundry and cooking. It's budgeting, upcycling, repairing, deep cleaning and sanitizing, all of that without children. It's not about you 'feeling' like a woman, it's work. That being said, women have been shamed for less. In a facebook group some women complained that it's not fair that feminine upkeep is so expensive. I replied that being a man is also expensive, because they compensate by buying gifts and paying for dates. The replies I…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 06:41 AM
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Before social media, people didn't use to be so polarized arouns such subjects and they all got along just fine. I have a hunch that she is probably caught in this outrage culture that is like a cult, where you are supposed to 'cancel' your friends and where whoever opposes you is an enemy. Sometimes friends to grow apart, but if I were you, I'd send her a message to say that what she did was not nice and not fair. She disavowed you because of some political beliefs, not because of something you…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 06:30 AM
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I am so glad that you decided to do all of that! I didn't even know about that normal nudes sub, but it seems it's a godsent. So many women are conditioned to think they are monsters, when in reality they are just a normal woman with a normal body. Be careful what degree you look for! There are a lot of private institutions who offer 'degrees' in certain language that are not officially recognised. If you can, ask a translator or interpreter what papers are needed to work in the field and find o…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 06:20 AM
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It has never been the case that women didn't work I feel like because we never learn about the history of common people and the household (like we learn about wars and treaties, etc) we have a skewed view on what it has meant to be a wife, historically. A woman didn't just cook a chicken stew, she had to behead the chicken, pluck it, eviscerate it and then cook it. There was a time when there were no sanitary products, no disposable products, no specialised cleaning products that you could buy, …
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 06:13 AM
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That is not a recipe, but I have seen quite a few women with long blonde hair who become dull as soon as you hide it all under a cap
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 09:34 PM
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I am honestly at a loss because your laws are so different than ours. I'd just say that a marriage is something you sign on paper and also a "rite" (aka the wedding party, however you make it); it's also refferring to yourself as husband and wife, etc. I am not saying you should pick x or y, I just think you should ponder on what the reasons are for rejecting the norm and find if your reasons for that are healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 11:10 AM
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People leave you alone when you say "they all fail anywyay" because it is more common and accepted nowadays for some to stay single, and that's alright. Two people shouldn't be forced or coerced into marriage. Then you think marriage is a tradition that no loner applies to you, yet you want to get a home with this man and have children and stay commited to each other ... which is what marriage is. The wedding is, esentially, a rite, along with all that comes with it. You don't have to go by the …
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 05:48 AM
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Well this new info about him changes things a lot! Doesn't sound like looking for loopholes. So if you find wedding days unnecessary and expensive, but you could always have something small and original, if you know you don't have to get married in a church, why avoid a marriage and choose a replacement of it? Because of what the failure of marriage implies?
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 08:30 PM
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This is my very personal opinion on this: I spot two red flags. One with you: you say you don't want to get married because you haven't seen any successful marriages. You judge the way you want to shape your future by other's failures in shaping their own. Sometimes we live in a bubble and we tend to flock to people with similar situations with us and so the examples around us are not the most rellevant. That being said, do you not want to get married because of some principles or simply because…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 07:14 PM
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How much has your sex life improved? I've had issues with that with my bf and it made me resent him to a whole nother level. I, too, started to dream about other relationships in general. Now that we are over it, we love each other more than ever. But please go see a therapist, I think you need an objective eye to look at it
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 06:55 PM
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Yes, I'd think this is cheating on it; also you say he has 'prospects' but does not yet have achievements
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 08:53 AM
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Yeah, that's why I say we need new words.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 04:43 PM
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Well, when you put it this way, all my arguments truly fail. Thank you for taking your time!
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 04:30 PM
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No offense, but your post comes across as a bit of a self-ego-stroke, and I don't even think you are aware you're doing it. Might want to mention it to your therapist Oh I am definitely a little histrionic and come off often as arrogant, I take no offense. most people crave leadership, which isn't domination Yes they do, I am sort of confused about the usage of the terms 'dominant' and 'submissive' ? It's like I feel the need to use other words instead of them, but I can't find any neither in En…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 04:09 PM
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Oh, your language skills would make you a good hotel receptionist and a good observation is that you are "forced" to look your best.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 09:50 AM
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She's also inspired me for a lot of aspects for this sort of romance book I am writing too, just like this sub did. I was raking my brains to try and break down flirting so I can come up with some dialogue and nothing I read at first helped. Something to give it chemistry and make it as spicy as real life was missing ... and then it came to me: shit tests! Good Lord, why don't more people talk about these? Such an important part of us that makes for flirting and keeping a relationship young is o…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 07:08 AM
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My parents divorced when I was 2 and my bf's parents had an ugly divorce when he was 18. We were veeeery troubled teens (we joked that it would never have worked out if we met when we were younger and are so happy we ve met when we were both 23). I really don't think we are doomed. I only know one woman who grew up with happy, loving, parents and each time I see her she dates some shady guy 20 years older than her (even when she was a minor). Last time we've talked she had a LDR with a rich fore…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 06:44 AM
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I know my opinion is not popular, but here is my reason why I actually support moving in before marriage in a RENTED place. Perhaps I am paranoid or selfish, but I find that a good way to check on what kind of husband he will be, not showing him what kind of wife I'd be. There are ways to know that without moving in, of course, but for me, only by living together I have seen how he reacts to a broken appliance, to a house flood and even to a robbery! There still is a lot to the future (buying an…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 06:37 AM
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Yes also about art, which is my domain! I love her talks and the fact that what she does and says is actually empowering.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 06:19 AM
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My dear, I am sorry that I am so frank, but it's the way I show concern. Our bodies differ from each other as much as our faces do. Some of us have firm peaky breasts, some of us have droopy ones; some are wide-set, some have misaligned nipples and so on. There are and always will be millions of women out there who will have more beautiful features than you, but if you read this sub you will find that it doesn't matter that much. Make an effort to get out of your own mind for a little bit and re…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 06:16 AM
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I'm sorry I come off as dismissive, but it's a very hot issue for me. I work in the adult industry and I see an abundance of young women with average or even pretty breasts who think that they are saggy or small. I know I come off as knowing better than her, but judging by age and weight, something makes me think that her breasts are fine and that this is all in her head, not to mention that she herself said is struggling with self esteem issues and her post history also shows that
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 08:07 PM
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I am sorry but you seem to really have some self-esteem issues. How many naked women have you seen in your life? And I mean women of all ages, young, old, women who have breast-fed, women who had lost 30kg or more, etc. Whose breasts are you comparing yours to?
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 07:43 PM
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There is absolutely no way your breasts are saggy for a 7 kg weight loss at twenty
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 07:35 PM
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All bras make breasts look different. If they had no effect on their look and jiggliness, we wouldn't be wearing them
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 07:08 PM
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You definetly had a very emotional reaction and it was unnecessary. However ... unless you had a weight loss of 50kg or have breastfed, how saggy could your breasts be at your young age, really? Both men and us women have been conditioned by mass media, social media, fashion trends (such as the push up bra) and so on, to believe that breasts are two solid and symmetrical semispheres, which does not really match reality. It's not his fault that he was put off by the image, but I see no point in y…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 07:06 PM
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I don’t deny I sometimes wonder why a man’s ego can be so fragile. Well if I am to relay what I read in Camille Paglia's "Sexual Personae", it's because men have no definite physiological moment of becoming a man (while us women do ... it's when we start menstruating), so they need to define their own manhood, their worth, by external factors, by the things they make, do, by what and how they speak, etc. So if you are insulting something of that, it demolishes them as a man. Entire continents ha…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 05:55 PM
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following his "rules" of not wearing shorts skirts to work for instance, shows respect. I still find the idea of 'rules' to be odd, but it's perhaps because in my relationship there is no need to impose any. Since the two of us have been together I don't dress sexy at work, I don't have nights out with the girls, I don't post revealing pictures, etc. Not because he asks me to, I simply don't need or want to do those things anymore. > Women shit test and communicate covertly, Oh boy, I shit test …
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 05:37 PM
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Not because I’m weak, but because I push him to do so much stuff he’d otherwise be way too lazy to do. Yes, exactly! And I have noticed it in men who are not partners either. I recently saw my boss wearing some lila pants that just looked amazing on him (compared to the very dark jeans and suit pants he usually wears) and each time I see him now he only wears those.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 05:13 PM
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The submissive guy? Haha, he's long since been taken in a LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 05:12 PM
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I targeted men specifically because men find it harder to seek help through therapy. I'm not saying in any way that there are no women out there who have issues, it's just a rarer occurrence that women are sent to therapy by their SO. I am really sorry for those men who turn into submissive boyfriends, I find it that there is a trend of blaming men for all sorts of issues and blaming them specifically for their masculine traits, even if they are positive.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 04:11 PM
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I assume they have problems and issues because all people do. Yes, I really don't understand what you meant with arguments.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 03:34 PM
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Sorry, I have a hard time understanding your arguments (perhaps it's a language barrier). I fail to see how going to therapy is in any way a compromise. I think men tend to ignore their own problems and issues because they need to appear strong, which is a great quality (it makes people around not worry), but it has a downside when it overcomes rationality, so men sometimes ignore important healthy symptoms or ignore seeking help to not appear weak. You can sort of view it as a compromise, that …
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 03:07 PM
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Thank you for the clarification, that explains what I had in mind exactly. I am so happy that I re-found this sub, as I cannot discuss these facts anywhere else. Each female subreddit that I open is only filled with complains, victimizing and laying blame, while I scroll here and what I find are discussions, solutions and discoveries. I (and many others, ofc) need a place of positivity and constructive advice.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 12:41 PM
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Marriage is the norm and was the norm world-wide since antiquity (if not pre-history). Even if there is divorce nowadays, the act of marriage is the moment in which the relationship is declared to be the one for life. It doesn't matter if it is legal or religious, it's a sort of rite of passage for the couple. If a man refuses to marry it means that he is with one foot out, it means that he does not want to take on the responsibility of a life-long commitment. The modern co-living without marria…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 11:43 AM
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It depends on the item and the whole look, as some things "feel" more naked than others. I look more vulgar in a short skirt than I look with cleavage for some reason, so I often wear low tops and it does not register as "sexy" on anybody's radar. I got honks and calls even when wearing a loose, knee length skirt, but my B cups in my low cut shirts never attract anybody's attention
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 11:34 AM
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I haven't really had that much exposure to this sort of behaviour when growing up, which makes me think it is something innate and not necessarily learned. I grew up with a single mom who didn't date and with grandparents who were simply indifferent to each other. When I say that my partner is not weak and that I devour men, I didn't mean it to that certain extreme you are refferencing. To give an example, I dated a really submissive man once. He was a big, bearded buff dude with a heart of gold…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 11:24 AM
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I feel like "dominant" and "leader" express very different things. My boyfriend, for example, is a very protective and assertive man, has a very imposing presence and so on, but I would never call him dominant in relation to me. It feels right when he takes initiative, when he makes plans and take decisions, but never does it feel like he imposes anything on me. Does that sound right?
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 11:11 AM
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Yes, "soft power" seem to be the words I needed. Those being said, I somehow find the "dominant man" and "submissive woman" don't exactly sound right in combination to everything else discussed here and it's confusing me.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 11:04 AM
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Yes, it's somewhat the illusion of dominance. I find that us women do not care for leadership roles, having the last word, etc, but I would not call that "submissive". I was talking to my therapist about these issues and she, as a specialist, would also not name that as aubmissive behaviour either.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 08:18 AM
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Well, decisions in a relationship should be made after careful consideration and weighing of the options, so I think there are not many times in life when two sides cannot reach a consensus. I get the idea that men should have the say in situations like those, since most times men out-earn their spouse, but I for one find that it does not reflect reality. It's just an example I gave, but I think that women have the ability to make men do stuff in a way that they don't, so we should take that int…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 07:39 AM
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Sorry if my response comes a little late, but I have the same problem. Actually, we had such a horrible sex life that we ended up almost breaking up, we went to therapy and all that, but now we bounced back! That being said, is he physically active and eating right? An unhealthy lifestyle leads to a decline in sex drive
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 06:35 AM
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Isn't the whole idea behind the metaphor of the red pill to see the bitter truth? What I understand from trp is that you use the things that men would react positively to, not just some recipe to be a pretty feminine creature for no reason. An I wrong?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 08:00 PM
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"There is no better validation for guys than being able to f*ck many women no-strings-attached; holding a harem of women who are his" Yes there is better validation. Running your own successful business. Getting a book published. Having a fulfilling hobby. Banging chicks is good validation for young men in their 20s and for ones with certain insecurities. Sure, flirting and casual relationships are fun, but there is nothing to envy there.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 06:54 PM
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You have two ways. One, when he doesn't let you speak just tell him exactly how you wrote here. Two, make jokes about it. After 5-6 jokes about him talking a lot, he might start to question it
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/19 03:39 PM
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Have you tried telling him about it? People can't fix their deffects unless somebody points them out to them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/19 03:30 PM
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Ex bf lost about 100 pounds in 6 months with keto diet and has loads of loose skin
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 07:23 PM
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This looks like some thing you two can compromise on easily. It wouldn't hurt him to use his words now and again
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/19 05:04 AM
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The fact that he works for a downpayment on a house instead of dreaming about blowing money on expensive vacation or clubs is really great if him and shows he is a responsable man. However, working 7 days out of 7 will take a toll on him, not just on you. I think that after 6 months of all that work he'll start to feel a lot of build up exhaustion and he'll see what you meant. As for the signs of affection he shows, I think you didn't give us enough details or examples to get an opinion from str…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/19 04:46 AM
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Men are prone to just "toughen up" and self medicate, because it is hard for them to go to a psychiatrist or therapist because it makes them feel weak. The way you spoke to him was very good and loving, but do not put your hopes into this. I have dated 2 men with mental issues and I have to say they both lied to themselves and could not accept that they have a problem. Please insist on him going to therapy, not just take meds. Please insist on him to give up weed because, although usually harmle…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/19 06:34 AM
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What do you mean when you say you 'submit' to your man?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 01:35 PM
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You need to re-evaluate your life and your values. Instead of wanting a man who has certain personal qualities like being honest, creative, protective or whatever is your type, you dream of a man of a certain age or race. First of all, that's shallow, second of all, what is it about ALL the males of your age and your race that is so beneath you?
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 05:06 AM
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I see 2 main reasons for which you can leave your spouse: 1. Relationship with them is uncomfortable: emotional abuse, lack of feelings, lack of sex, anything about them and the relationship that makes you feel bad on a day to day basis. Generally, you'll feel when something's not right. 2. They have a different plan for the future: you want to become a homeowner while he wants to keep renting forever, you want no children vs he wants to have 3, etc. Generally people are able to compromise and t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 05:18 AM
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You can't stream games or anything else that is not your live cam feed on camsites, except for MFC
/r/PussyPassDenied03/08/19 08:59 PM
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The stars earn a good leaving, but most ... not so much
/r/PussyPassDenied03/08/19 08:54 PM
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I lost my virginity pretty young and fast because I intentionally wanted it to be irrelevant. I don't regret it at all. I've been through bad relationships after that and I would have regretted keeping it for an abuser or an idiot. Now I've been in a healthy relationship since I was 23 and I'm glad I'm not a virgin. It would not have helped me at all. I got past the awkward fumbling in bed before I met him so sex life with him was enjoyable at the beginning. I sincerely think that virginity is a…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 05:22 AM
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Depends where you live, here we have no normal dating apps. Tinder for young people and 'matrimonial' websites for the 45+ basically
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 06:49 PM
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Hey, don't pick on Tinder too much, that's how I found my boyfriend of 3 years :). I think it's an ok way to chat with people who don't go out of the house too much
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 11:28 AM
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If he doesn't give you any other sign of cheating/wanting to leave/whatever, then stop worrying about that woman! Also It's great that you are self-aware of your anxiety! Now, there will ALWAYS be a better looking, tinier and funnier woman than you out there in the world and you have to live with that. Does that mean they hold more value in his eyes than you? Nope. Now see a therapist, meditate and control your behavior even though your thoughts are not in order. Hot women don't make a good man …
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 07:35 PM
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The first thing I noticed is you said "they try to get in your pants, you give in because you like them" and the thing is, many women do not know themselves sexually. When you just "put out" instead of enjoying the intimacy, it shows! And I can see how this can put a man off. I would also add that visibly trying to get a man to commit, when he is clearly undecided, makez him feel constrained. Men want to feel free! Men want to feel that they are the ones who decide to pick you exclusively, out o…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 06:25 PM
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You have a BIG insecurity problem and maybe some anxiety, which you need to sort out for yourself. I'm saying this because the facts are all there, yet this incident with this woman obsesses you and you catastrophise it. Also, you are being controlling and pushy, and that never has a positive effect on the relationship! When you give another female this much attention and you manifest jealousy, you are signaling that you consider her a valid rival. If you give her no special attention it will sh…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 06:15 PM
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I'm pretty sure self-defence classes are for everyone, they're just marketed towards women because we are weaker, shorter, and don't play fight as much when we're children
/r/MensRights21/06/19 04:27 PM
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Depends on what kind of sarcasm and dark humor you have, does it happen to be the insulting type? If not, just say it with a smile on your face and make sure your body language is not aggressive. You don't have to give up parts of your personality for this, just a little fine tuning
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 05:36 AM
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Can you show us the graph?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 05:17 AM
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Robes, my friend!! I rotate 2 thin, short satin ones and a thick long one (sort of like a kimono) I got from my grandmother. Is it cold inside? Wear some pajamas underneath! Is it too hot inside? Oops, no underwear underneath!
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 08:34 AM
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The thing is, you had experimented all of this before settling back to natural. She sounds like she didn't get to
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 08:23 PM
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Going from light brunette to strawberry blonde is not a huge difference. You didn't get a pixie cut, shave ofc the side of your head or went bleach blonde with pink highlights! You should love yourself and your looks first, and his opinion comes second. It is normal to consult yourself on look issues with your long term partner, but can you imagine your future with him?? The only people I ever met who controlled such type of actions were abusive or had severe personality issues
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 08:20 PM
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"No where in her post did she say anything about him "making her feel guilty" .... You mean like OP said she feels very bad about her decision after he told her all of this?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 08:15 PM
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On a similar note, sometimes with my long term boyfriend we decide to ditch the bedroom and sleep together on the livingroom couch. It brings back the student-living-in-a-studio-apartment vibe!
/r/TheRedPill13/05/19 11:06 AM
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Maybe I'm exaggerating, but this should be illegal, just like falsifying any medical document.
/r/MensRights21/05/18 12:36 PM
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