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I’m working on rebuilding the relationship but believe me, I’ve been worried about his mom’s lifestyle choice and the influence of her partner imprinting this victim mentality and spoiled behavior upon him at exactly the wrong age.
/r/MGTOW229/07/21 03:02 AM
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Good job! My ex did (and continues) to the same even after the divorce. They want the kids for the paycheck and social proof. It’s typical behavior unfortunately for women to label their stbx as a monster with a substance abuse problem and claim abuse. Stay clean and keep protecting yourself. I wish that I’d found this forum and a couple others before the shit hit the fan with my ex.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 11:39 PM
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Get an attorney. Go full bore for full custody and settle for 50/50. Be very careful and protect yourself. Don’t drink. Don’t engage in arguments. Record everything. It may sound extreme, but you need to protect yourself. You’ll meet the real woman you married very soon (especially if you counter petition for full custody) and she is willing and capable of inflicting serious damage to your reputation, your finances and your relationships with your kids with 1 phone call to law enforcement. Start…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 10:58 PM
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Thanks brother
/r/MGTOW228/07/21 09:09 PM
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I am going through this with my 15 yr old son right now. His mom and her fiancé (a divorcee with 4 kids of her own) have absolutely brainwashed him. I’m not giving up on him, but it’s pathetic how two women have exploited the system and the natural process of a boy finding his own way and turned him (through gifts and spoiling) to disrespect his own family and his dad. Hopefully someday i can rebuild the relationship with my son, but for now he is very lost with two feminist lesbians steering hi…
/r/MGTOW228/07/21 07:58 PM
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You might be trying to hold her accountable for things she’s agreed to do, etc...just like you would have done while you were still married. You can’t win that game brother, so just stop playing - she doesn’t care. You’re expecting her to handle this situation like an adult - she’s not capable. Realize who you’re dealing with and - just let go. Let your attorney deal with her. Go for more walks. You’re gonna get through it!
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/21 03:36 AM
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Take this advice and use it or not. Here is what I’d tell my son - who’s in HS. First, some Fatherly advice. Some of the replies above are 100% correct. This situation won’t matter in the bigger picture of your life. Stay focused on your goals - the girl may be gone tomorrow. You still need to pursue your life, your own mission. Tune out all the noise and just - do you. Now, that sounds great but doesn’t really address the daily struggle you’re dealing with. So, the next round of advice may help…
/r/MGTOW10/11/20 05:10 AM
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You need to go date, experience will be your best teacher. You’re right that a lot of guys, myself included find RP after going through hard times or soul crushing divorce and child custody issues with women. There’s not many resources for men in those situations - but help around every corner for women - so, many guys stumble onto TRP while seeking answers to why their blue-pilled fantasy fortress just got a tactical nuke dropped on it. That being said, every single principle of TRP has proven …
/r/MGTOW202/11/20 07:46 AM
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“I have the best words” The balls to make that statement as POTUS... -Plus everything Vince Lombardi ever said.
/r/MGTOW228/10/20 04:22 AM
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Single Dad here (50/50 custody) I agree with the stereotype that is portrayed in this image. Men have to do everything right in order to get respect as single dad, while every single mom is assumed to be “a great mom”. Most of the “moms” are self-absorbed assholes who use their kids as props to join more groups and get more likes.
/r/MGTOW18/10/20 12:24 AM
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Pence definitely handled himself well in the VP debate. Harris is a clown and a liar. Her behavior was just obnoxious. The way she said “ya know, Joe and I...” so many times in such colloquial way, like they’re long lost pals - yet she implied he was a racist at the DNC primary. How many dicks would she suck to get the WH? As many as it takes.
/r/MGTOW10/10/20 05:04 AM
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Badass - that cleaver! What’s the weight on it? I’ve got several old high carbon steel knives from Germany that were passed down to me including one that’s called a lamb splitter - it’s heavy and about 14” long now but I think at some point the tip was broken so it was ground down to it’s shorter length. Great work and details on yours!
/r/MGTOW205/10/20 06:49 AM
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The “How” you leave doesn’t really matter. Personally, since it’s an LTR, I think it’s much better to be direct and end things like a man. Just tell her that you’ve grown apart and you need to focus on other areas of your life. Wish her the best with hers. Or, you could fuck her best friend in the ass and have her “accidentally” send your girlfriend the video. The point is - just leave this chick, she’s replaceable.
/r/MGTOW02/10/20 10:41 PM
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When she loses weight, she’ll cheat with some piece of shit with no emotional investment and leave you. You’re investing too much of yourself emotionally in this girl. She knows that no real man is going to put up with her appearance for a LTR. Her weight and appearance is a massive shit test. If you end things, she will start improving her appearance, just long enough to lock down the next guy and repeat the process, posting on social media how she’s “finally” happy and found someone who accept…
/r/MGTOW02/10/20 11:23 AM
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The whole idea for the photo was trashy. The girl went along with the herd and did something she knew could fuck up her relationship, didn’t address it with her fiance right away, and expected a pass once he found out. She only cares because she got caught - same as every other cheating bitch on the planet. Even if it’s their idea to leave the relationship - they never want to get caught actually having the affair. This isn’t an affair - but the boundaries she crossed with this dude and the dece…
/r/MGTOW28/09/20 04:01 AM
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‘I am NoT a smArt mAn JeNny...” But...Lt. Dan did just give me some of these Red Pills and I’m starting to see that Love is an illusion...and JeNny - you are a whore. Oscar Level Rep Pill. Bravo Forrest
/r/MGTOW25/09/20 09:40 PM
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I’ve thought about this exact thing recently. Wondered if I’ll ever get a random phone call someday. As a guy who got caught off guard by his ex wife - I would want to know. Find a way to do it anonymously if you have to - even if it leads to divorce, that’s not your fault or your goal. The blame falls on the wife. There are a lot of questions that I’ll never have answers to and that makes it hard to ever get closure. I wouldn’t have anything against the guy if he came forward like a man. Just b…
/r/MGTOW223/09/20 08:56 PM
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You made the right call. Beating some guy’s ass over a woman isn’t worth your freedom or the missed time with your son. It sounds like you’re doing the right thing for your son and putting him around a stable situation. My ex has faced almost zero consequences for her actions, other than the strained relations with my son. I don’t encourage that, but he knows the basics of what happened. My daughter is five so she doesn’t know much about what happened, just that mom and dad don’t live together a…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/20 04:19 AM
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If you’ve ever been with a squirter then you know the smell isn’t pleasant...feels great on your dick, but you don’t want to have your face down there when she starts blowing her juices all over the sheets...$5 says Cardi doesn’t wash her pussy before sex and probably doesn’t get WAP unless she’s getting choked or slapped in the face with dick.
/r/MGTOW23/09/20 03:51 AM
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Hey SL, doing great brother! Hope you are too. PM me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/20 03:28 AM
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We must be related bro. I wish I could track down the fuck who was sleeping with my ex-wife. Pretty sure he was married - lots of hotel meetups, etc. But at the end of the day, it was my ex wife’s fault. She went looking for it and I should have known better than to trust her. My ex went a step further by making DV claims against me - had me arrested twice. Never laid a hand on her in 20 yrs. Fought through all of it - I have 50/50 custody and I’m much closer with my kids than my ex. She’s recen…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/20 03:27 AM
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Agreed. I am that guy - only in TX.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/20 01:52 AM
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Yeah - I’m tired of hearing explanations and excuses how cheating whores using the system against their husbands are “brave”. My ex wife actually turned to me one day while we were going through “separation” two years ago and said “I’m a bad ass”. I looked at her and said “oh really? What exactly can you do that qualifies you as a bad ass?” I knew what she was referring to, but she couldn’t answer because sucking dicks in cheap hotel rooms while your husband is at work doesn’t make you a bad ass…
/r/MGTOW14/09/20 09:01 PM
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Do it brother, you’ve been through hell. My sorry ass excuse for an ex wife didn’t even bother to show her face in court. Put your ex in the rearview asap. Good luck tomorrow.
/r/MGTOW12/09/20 04:32 AM
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Solid. Great take.
/r/MGTOW210/09/20 01:08 AM
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My ex wife cheated before we married. We were young, I believed her story - which I know now was just more of her lies. I spent the next three years vetting her before we got married. I don’t believe she cheated during that time. Fast forward, two kids and 16 more years together, she cheated again. Left me two weeks after my Dad died. Pretty sure now there were more affairs during our years together. Just have an exit plan and protect yourself. Put some money away, keep some credit cards just in…
/r/MGTOW08/09/20 01:28 AM
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Amen brother. The old me was miserable and getting played but didn’t even realize it. I thought I was happy and that my wife would never leave lie or cheat. Total lock. People used to ask me for relationship advice. That old life was all an illusion. I’m killing the old me too every day now by challenging myself. New me doesn’t take any more shit or give excuses. Every time I do catch myself being a “nice guy” or other old BP habits - I do push ups until my head is right again.
/r/MGTOW06/09/20 10:40 PM
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All good brother - no offense taken. My comment was meant to be ironic and was made in jest. I don’t know why that dude got offended, but since I’m a mild autist anyway I’ve got too much going on to care. Glad you enjoyed it though. It took away from the point you made about your wage equalization in Canada. Does the same rule apply to women if they earn more than their husbands? I have mixed views on 50/50 custody. It can be hard on the kids and usually one parent is picking up more of the tab …
/r/MGTOW206/09/20 04:46 AM
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Clearly. My comment was in response to that guy’s attempt to call me out. Autism has many forms. I’m also protective of my son - and anybody who would mess with your nephew or any kid with autism is a coward and deserves whatever beating comes their way. Take care.
/r/MGTOW206/09/20 04:03 AM
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I’m in the “spectrum” and, so is my son - inherited through me. We joke about it all the time. We’re not victims, we’re specials. What exactly do mean by pogo stick? Were you implying that I was an autistic kid who bounced mindlessly on a pogo stick by himself while all the normals went about their normal life? Yeah - when I was 7 that was probably me. You sound like a retard.
/r/MGTOW206/09/20 01:47 AM
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Good that you stood your ground. Taking them back for ANY reason, even kicking the idea around for the hell of it - is a mistake. They moved on to live their “best life” - so just move the fuck on already. I get hit every few months with baseless shame tactics by my ex wife. The most recent was when she said “you’re a good Dad, but there’s a difference between a good Dad and good Father” Which is autistic for “I want you to feel bad that you don’t send me extra money to spend on “the kids”. My k…
/r/MGTOW205/09/20 11:51 PM
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If you think she has options, then she KNOWS she has options, and maybe that you don’t. You could work on your self-confidence because there was a lot of self-defeatist commentary going on in your post. You need to work on your logistics if you ran out of time for sex - or was that not the point of dating a chick known for hook ups? Her comment after the date was somewhat telling. She’s a single mom - trust nothing she says. Who cares? Take her out again, fuck her to sleep and make sure you don’…
/r/MGTOW203/09/20 05:55 AM
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Remember myself saying the same type of things when I was married. He probably meant it when he said that he wouldn’t trade for the world. He’s supposed to say that and there’s comfort in knowing he’s achieved the BP idealized dream. He’s done everything “right”. Reality sets in at some point by a negative experience, infidelity, general unhappiness or depression, divorce, etc - guy finds RP and after some struggle and plenty of rage he accepts that he had been telling himself a lie, living a li…
/r/MGTOW30/08/20 07:50 PM
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Thank you brother, it’s good to be back!
/r/MGTOW30/08/20 08:59 AM
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I’m trying to get into this. Got on WSB sub about two months ago and trying to learn as much as possible. How long have you been playing options?
/r/MGTOW29/08/20 07:51 PM
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What did you buy?
/r/MGTOW29/08/20 07:24 PM
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Glad to hear it! Same here. Just found out my cheating whore of an ex of 20yrs is now engaged to the lesbian gremlin looking bitch with 4 kids she’s living with for 6 months. Remember fellas, LOVE is LOVE. I’m slowly rekindling my LOVE of Money. I’m getting in the best shape of my life - slowly but surely and recovering financially at 42. Building friendships with other men, dream job and new career, and rebuilding my life around me and my two kids. Organized the 1st Annual Fathers & Sons Dinner…
/r/MGTOW29/08/20 05:15 PM
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Your messages earlier actually gave me some time to reflect and I’m sure that out of context my original post probably makes me look like an asshole. The kind of guy who’s bitter and wants to get in the way of his ex wife taking their kid to the doctor just to be a prick. So, I really sandbagged myself and the criticism was justified. The truth is, my ex wife and I were together for 20+ years, married for 16. I loved her, and I still have love for the woman I married, but the woman she became is…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/20 06:37 AM
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Ok. I don’t know if I have a tie-breaker written in to the final decree. That makes sense now, but I’ll need to go look it over again carefully. I’m going to reframe my thinking on this. I don’t believe that my thinking is irrational, but I’m not going to fight with her over a blood panel. It was a genuine question, thanks for clarifying. You’re correct that she still gets in my head - the shit that she’s put my family through, the impact to my kids is hard to forget. Going to try the runner ban…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/20 09:25 PM
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That’s extreme. Maybe my Munchausen syndrome suggestion was going a bit too far. You’re right that I’ve had about all I can stand of my ex wife. She used to be a great mom. I’m not sure she truly cares about either of the kids anymore and she seems to be suffering from some mental health issues. The kids are more like accessories for her now. She seems checked out, she is drinking and taking anti-depressants, lost in the fog of her new relationship. All of the kids involved - 6 total between the…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/20 09:11 PM
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I could be crazy, but I’m not stupid. There’s plenty of evidence for my ex acting out of character, including a family history of unstable behavior and addictions - mother, father, aunt and other siblings. What might come off as me painting my ex in a bad light, is mostly concern for my kids and trying get other guy’s take on the situation - even with limited information. It brings me no joy to bring up my ex wife’s behavior or her choices. She used to be a great Mom. I’ve watched her change sig…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/20 04:24 PM
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Little kids get body odor man. I was a coach for 6-11 yr olds for 5 years. It’s not an everyday thing, and the issue doesn’t happen while my daughter stays with me. I’m ok with Mom seeking the doctors advice. I’m not onboard with rushing to do tests and dragging kids to the doctor until there’s more evidence of an issue. Especially during a health pandemic. Risk vs. Reward. It gets “weird” when other guys white knight for women, go along with their OCD about kids medical care and try to call oth…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/20 03:04 PM
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Good question. It’s 50/50 joint custody. Shouldn’t that require consent from both parents? Obviously if there was a medical issue, or history of problems I wouldn’t be objecting. All I’m really asking of mom is to take a couple of small initial steps to see if we can correct the problem before we order blood draws and even visit the doctors office during a national health pandemic. Thoughts on this?
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/20 02:48 PM
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That’s crazy. Your kids must be going to the doctor non-stop. This is the type of thing I’m concerned about and could be developing in my ex-wife. She recently got engaged to a woman who has four kids. They’ve lived together for the last 6 months. My two kids part-time and the other four kids are there full-time. The other four kids have some medical issues, and are prescribed meds & see doctors regularly. I think this is feeding my ex wife’s compulsion to visit the doctor all the time with my k…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/20 07:13 AM
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I may have posted this before but here’s a lame ass story about who’s qualifying themselves as “goddesses” these days. Two recent divorcees - my cheating whore of an ex wife (40WF) and her lesbian partner (35WF) who just proposed - driving around in a minivan with 6 kids - yes 6 kids (2 of them are mine, 4 of them are some other dude’s) day drinking and listening to club music while all the kids have headphones in and play on their phones - referring to themselves in front of the kids as goddess…
/r/MGTOW28/08/20 06:32 AM
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I think my ex must have gone to the same seminar as yours! The term Joint Custody means to her - I do what I want, and let you know about it later. The main difference in my situation I think is that my ex seems to want to avoid the court at all cost. That could change, but I think it has to do with her narcissism and she hates spending money on anything except for herself.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/20 05:07 AM
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Ridiculous. Did you give consent for the blood draws, extra visits, etc? My ex hasn’t been diagnosed with anything officially, although I believe she is having mental health issues, maybe BPD. Her mom had some serious issues as well.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/20 04:36 AM
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Thanks brother! I’ve been in Austin for about 15 yrs. No shortage of beautiful women here, it has me hopeful for the future. I’ve got my attention on my career, kids, and self-development right now. I did therapy last year, but like you said it was so damn expensive and I wasn’t sure that I was actually getting what I needed for $200/hr. This new “coaching” I found looks much more promising. My ex wife was able to keep me spinning and constantly coming back too. I was constantly apologizing for …
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/20 05:52 PM
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It’s like when my son was 3-4yrs old and he was starting to get bossy and demanding, but still not fully potty trained. So I made a new house rule that still stands: No one who still shits in their pants gets to make rules in my house - ever! I’ve had my fair share of “near misses” at the grocery store too!
/r/MGTOW27/08/20 09:16 AM
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Rainman😂 glad she didn’t hit you! They are autistic as hell when they drive. At one point like 10-12 years ago I stopped letting my ex wife drive me anywhere because she was such an autistic shitty driver - even quick trips to the store. 17 hour road trips - i’d drive straight through. No way I could sleep anyhow with her behind the wheel. I never have the same reaction when a male coworker or friends drive me anywhere.
/r/MGTOW27/08/20 08:07 AM
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Good for you brother - keep it up. It’s psychological warfare. The only way to win is to think logically and show no emotion. Kids are perceptive and it sounds like your kids are seeing through her nonsense. I’m seeing the same results with my kids. I’ve got 50/50 custody and both kids are now coming to me asking questions generally along the lines of “why does mom do these things?” and other complaints about their mom and her new fiancé (another female with four kids). I usually try to brush it…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/20 07:51 AM
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No worries. My ex was/is a covert narcissist, a cheat and is still an alcoholic. I think she has other issues as well, and recently got engaged to a lesbian with four kids. We had a pretty normal life for 20 years - or so I thought. I was in the same boat though, she had me spinning in so many circles, so many lies. I knew at some level I was being lied to, and every time I would catch her, it would finally send me over the edge. Her new “wife” will figure out what a shiny turd she really is onc…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/20 05:53 AM
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Sounds like something my ex would resort to. She pulls the same type of sh*t in other ways. The pettiness is unbelievable. They can be worse than children - and at the same time they want “respect” and most are self-proclaimed “great moms”. She wants a reaction from you - don’t react. Breathe - realize you’re dealing with a child, and just relax. If I were you, I’d be reinforcing with your kids that they should call you “Dad”. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/20 04:31 AM
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I can definitely relate. After 20+ years together, I was no where close to being the man that I set out to be in this world. I sacrificed so much for my ex. I would explode sometimes, she could literally make me feel as though I was losing my mind. I wasn’t. Most of us weren’t, but we weren’t handling certain situations correctly. Looking back now, two years after our separation, I’m grateful for how I’ve changed. I have more purpose, I’m taking better care of myself, relationships with my kids …
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/20 04:19 AM
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You can petition the court to re-instate an email address for your son. Your ex should have access to it also. It’s written into my final decree that there will be access to email and phone communication with both parents. As for the pettiness of ex-wives regarding kids - I can’t help you, but believe me I’ve been there for two years. It’s pathetic and childish, but don’t fight with her just smile if you can and control your emotions. Document anything that seems out of line. She’s trying to sho…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/20 02:19 AM
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Divorce sucks the life out of you, initially. It hits you on whole different level as a man. Failure. It’s a brutal reckoning with yourself, and it takes time. It’s good that he has you around and that you’ve been RP’d because I’m sure many of the other men in his life are not. They’ll most likely be giving him the same old, tired “truisms” of the BP way of life. That can keep a man fresh out of divorce down for a long time. My suggestion to you is just be there for him, listen and offer some so…
/r/MGTOW23/08/20 05:20 AM
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Yeah - my ex is shitty. She is also now engaged to a lesbian. She and her soon to be “wife” have promised to make my son a supporter of feminism. Not really sure what else I would call it. Yes - its all very weird.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/20 09:53 PM
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My now ex wife just got engaged to a lesbian. At the end of the marriage (and during) she slept with men, women and couples. She settled with this chick because it was all about attention and the new chick is more of a simp than any man alive. She has 4 kids herself, and she spoils the shit out of my ex. Just to confirm your theory, if she met a guy who had a high net worth and was willing to take her tired 40 yr old ass in and spoil her - she’d be all about the dick again. It’s all for attentio…
/r/MGTOW17/08/20 12:43 AM
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First, Great job! Keep up the self-improvement and stay hungry about YOUR goals. You’ll forget about her soon and you’ll have another girl on your arm. The ex may want to come back when she gets dumped and sees that you’re pulling girls/women above her level. Don’t let her back into your life, just stay on your mission and enjoy being young, fit and don’t focus on women - but have fun. Don’t get anyone pregnant. Focus on your life, future career goals, hobbies and network. Good luck!
/r/MGTOW16/08/20 10:53 PM
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Thanks for that brother! Similarities are scary - these hoes are out of their damn minds. When they say water finds its level - it’s true, like toilets.
/r/MGTOW15/08/20 11:19 PM
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Just found out yesterday that my ex wife is engaged to her lesbian lover. My divorce was finalized in January. My ex is 40 years old pretending to be 20 with a recent tattoo and blue fingernails, two kids. Her soon to be ex-wife is 35 with four kids...both of them are post wall with no options, my ex possibly having more options - but not for any high value man in a long term relationship, more like one night stands or swingers. I give it 3-5 years or less. There will be fireworks, can’t wait fo…
/r/MGTOW15/08/20 09:47 PM
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Awesome Picture. Glad you’re loving it. Growing up I split time between Sarasota and Clearwater on the coast an hour south of Tampa. Moved out to TX 15 years ago - I miss the beach and afternoon rains every damn day.
/r/MGTOW212/08/20 11:57 AM
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I appreciate that brother, it was a very difficult thing to reconcile. I did get a tattoo with my brother’s ashes that I see on my arm everyday, but it was a huge loss considering that I’m the only namesake left, except for my son. I completely agree with you about not playing the game. It’s tough because I get urges and honestly grew up very BP, but every time there’s huge red flags to getting involved with women. The way I see it, if my ex could get away with so much shit, and put on this faca…
/r/MGTOW09/08/20 10:37 PM
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My brother committed suicide over some stupid bitch. He had other problems, but he shot himself directly after an argument with her - when the scene was cleaned up, her mom and sister came to help her get things from the apartment - they tried to steal his computer, tv, etc. When my ex wife left, she was having multiple affairs. My father died and two weeks later, she announced the separation. I found out about the affairs. She involved law enforcement to file DV charges - twice. With my family …
/r/MGTOW09/08/20 07:18 PM
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Sorry to hear about the troubles you’re going through right now. I’ve been through it also, and it fucking sucks. You’re getting squeezed and you can’t stop it, she keeps racking up the small wins against you, you miss your kids and your rage monster is begging to get turned loose. Trust me when I tell you to keep your fucking mouth shut when you deal with her - whenever you see her. Say little or nothing at all. Record the interactions to keep yourself from losing your temper. If your kids see …
/r/MGTOW208/08/20 05:25 AM
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Hahahaha - that one warms my heart also. If there’s one expression that really captures her essence - it’s Cum Dumpster.
/r/MGTOW24/07/20 02:04 AM
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Haha - yeah, that must be why she packed a beach bag full of lingerie, sex toys, make-up and change of clothes...she just must have forgotten the chess board.
/r/MGTOW23/07/20 07:12 PM
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Sad part is that not even 3 months earlier I had taken her to one of the nicest hotels in the area, $400/night, 5 star rated brazilian steak house, hired a babysitter for the night, took her brunch the next morning - probably dropped $800 for “date night” - meanwhile she was meeting some douchebag or a couple in a $65/night - Country Inn. After all the shit went down and I caught her - I changed her contact name in my iphone from “Baby Girl” to “Country Inn Skank” and left it like that until the…
/r/MGTOW23/07/20 07:06 PM
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After watching my cheating whore of an ex wife leaving a cheap hotel that afternoon... She walks in the house and in front of my kids I asked her, “so how was your day?” “oh...typical Monday”. That was about two years ago and just one small piece from the tip of her iceberg of lies. AWALT
/r/MGTOW23/07/20 07:41 AM
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First time I caught her a long time ago, prior to having kids... “This wasn’t about you, it has to do with my relationship with my Dad”. After 15+ years of marriage and two kids... “Our relationship has been bad for a long time” Me as a BP clown turning down multiple women’s advances over the years and outright invitations to fuck while I was still married... “You’re hot, but I’m married, I can’t do that to my wife and kids - it would break their heart.”
/r/MGTOW22/07/20 04:49 PM
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100% of the time. The cunt leaning over his bed while he’s giving her the green light to date as soon as he’s cold... is the BP gyno version of how a man is supposed to die with dignity - still putting his wife first. In reality, she started lining up options as soon as he was diagnosed terminal. Or, maybe he’s smiling because he’s RP and just got off the phone with his attorney, named his kids and dog the beneficiary of his estate...
/r/MGTOW11/07/20 02:37 AM
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Agreed. Taught the same lesson at 40. The last 20 years of my life was spent putting other people first - which is what I believed honorable men were supposed to do. I learned the hard way - and I’m grateful that I was finally snapped back to reality by the RP. It was hard, but saved my life. Focusing on yourself makes you more interesting and the less I participate for the sake of participation - the more people want to get to know what I’m about. Once you let your guard down, they stop giving …
/r/MGTOW07/07/20 06:59 PM
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The longer I was married, the more my wife resented ANY type of weakness - sickness. I had some fairly minor health issues going on for about the last 2 years of my marriage. IMO - mostly from the stress of dealing with the care of my dad who was dying. She had no real empathy for me, and although she faked it - I could tell that she looked down upon my dad, who had lost most of his mental faculties over the last 6 months of his life. My dad treated my wife as his own from the time we met, for 2…
/r/MGTOW07/07/20 05:15 AM
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Yes, Hillary. They VOTED.
/r/MGTOW29/06/20 09:29 PM
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I appreciate it. Two years out and doing much better - was day to day for a while. Your description was so fucking accurate, yet didn’t even scratch the surface - if you can believe that. Take care.
/r/MGTOW27/06/20 06:41 AM
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Holy shit - my ex wife to a “T”. A true covert narcissist.
/r/MGTOW27/06/20 04:13 AM
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Clowns trying to “fit in” while making themselves and their family a target for criminals and predators. Also, yard signs with the daughter’s name, class rank and “cheer” - WTF?
/r/MGTOW27/06/20 02:31 AM
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I was no angel...hell, I don’t even like being around myself half the time - but “abusive” - nah, I reject that bullshit 100%. There were times I should have done better, times my anger was actually over the top and the bitch made me crazy. (I walked the dog...a lot). My mouth always got me in trouble, she never used to mind, until new “friends” and her liberal family and facebook got involved in our marriage. She apparently realized we were “toxic” - I wonder if that was before or after she put…
/r/MGTOW27/06/20 12:49 AM
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Sorry to hear about that brother - fucking awful. My ex wife tried to put false DV charges on me - twice while she was cheating and trying to run cover on her whoring. Turns out - I was an abusive asshole for 15+ years of marriage even though I never cheated or laid a hand on her. If more of them got locked up, they’d stop involving johnny law every time they want to leave a relationship and cover their tracks. Hope you get past this and come back stronger than ever. Good luck bro.
/r/MGTOW26/06/20 03:52 AM
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Exactly. This is every Father’s Day of my married life for 14 yrs. Also - Me telling my kids “Dad’s don’t need a special day, every day is Father’s Day” - as I grill steaks. Occasionally there might have been sex or bj from my ex wife but it wasn’t a known quantity. A woman seeing her husband or baby daddy be a great dad doesn’t give them tingles like we were all led to believe in movies. They get jealous when the spotlight isn’t on them.
/r/MGTOW24/06/20 08:07 AM
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Sorry you went through this ordeal. I know what it feels like because it sounds like we married the same woman. In my case, 20 years, she’s cheating, my father is dying, I get falsely accused after a heated argument - even though she is the physically abusive party between the two of us. She wants to leave the marriage, but I had no idea what was going on behind the scenes. I was completely taken by surprise. (I’d consider myself a pretty astute motherfucker, no way she can get over on me after …
/r/MGTOW23/06/20 04:05 AM
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The expression on that little girls face...fear. That thing ate her other two siblings. what the actual fuck??
/r/MGTOW19/06/20 02:46 AM
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This sounds familiar...”I want to go to law school, or open my own studio some day, i’m passionate about art, i just dance for the money” - ref. every conversation with dancers I’ve had at strip clubs.
/r/MGTOW17/06/20 09:23 PM
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Agreed. Her fault. Finding a guy in my house - they write songs about that shit for a reason. Even though it’s the woman’s fault for bringing him to the house - guy should know better.
/r/MGTOW17/06/20 08:36 AM
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To be fair to this guy, he reacted much better than I would have. I’m glad that I wasn’t ever in that position. I never physically caught my ex wife other than photographing her leaving some shitty day rate hotel. I had a gps tracker on her vehicle and I followed, waited and snapped the pictures. I didn’t confront her when she left, but I waited for about 30 min to see if any guys left the hotel. My adrenaline was pumping the whole time. Nobody left the hotel, but she sent me a text after leavin…
/r/MGTOW17/06/20 04:45 AM
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Swap genders in either of these stories and guy goes to jail.
/r/MGTOW15/06/20 09:11 PM
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This happened in my marriage also. A series of bad friendships with single slutty girls or divorced women with axes to grind all try to influence married women. If the married woman plays the victim card - even in the slightest - the other women jump on it like the piranhas they are. If she’s easily influenced or mad about something, they’ll get her drunk and tell her “go for it” - the woman will do it just to prove she still “has it” in front of the other women. They are evil and don’t care abo…
/r/MGTOW15/06/20 02:29 AM
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Illegal in most states unless it’s joint property, i.e. both names on the title & registration. Check the laws where you live. Save the text messages and send to your attorney. Glad you got out - enjoy your freedom.
/r/MGTOW13/06/20 06:40 AM
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“Happy” is a feeling. Feelings are temporary. Relationships with women are meant to be temporary.
/r/MGTOW207/06/20 02:51 PM
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Live: Anal Love: Facial Laugh: Queif
/r/MGTOW06/06/20 08:25 AM
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That was on point and inspiring. Thank you.
/r/MGTOW02/06/20 10:15 PM
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Exerpts from my now ex-wife’s (39F) Tinder profile about a year ago... “Passionate about the water” - (take me to the lake so I can get drunk and have an excuse for acting like a 20’s something attention seeking party slut while I’m separated from my husband) “Adventurous” - (bisexual - rejected because of my age by the guys I want to date but now I’m open to any type of attention so I don’t feel rejected - also down for threesomes or orgies) Currently in a lesbian relationship. “Bold Personalit…
/r/MGTOW02/06/20 12:28 AM
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Hilarious bro that made me laugh!
/r/MGTOW31/05/20 11:28 AM
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Been in your shoes OP. You can’t turn this around bro. Even if you had a magic wand and a time machine, it only takes 1 phone call for her to fuck your life up again. My ex wife reminded me of that for a year after the first false DV arrest. This has nothing to do with “frame”. Move on - get the divorce finalized. You can’t hold frame when you crawl back to a woman who tried to ruin your life...and why would you want to? It’s over bro. I’m sorry. Walk with dignity. Fight for custody of your kids…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/20 10:30 AM
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I appreciate that brother. Fought hard to get 50/50 custody so I’m blessed in that I get to still spend a fair amount of time with my kids and help guide them toward more wholesome life choices. The topic of this post was about promiscuity and I’m living in my own little circle of hell because of my ex wife’s new “lifestyle” choices. Ex. My ex and her girlfriend have the two little girls in the house (my daughter and the other woman’s daughter) referring to each other as “special sisters”. Meanw…
/r/MGTOW222/05/20 08:20 PM
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Well said. My son just turned 14. He’s seen the fallout from divorce. Doubtful he’ll have kids anytime soon - I’ve already told him not until after 30. My daughter is 5. She’s the one I worry about, but I’m trying like hell to raise her right. Her mom is pushing make-up and fashion on her already. “Mom” is also now a lesbian, and she lives with her girlfriend and her children. So, two little girls, both 5 yrs old, living in the house with the other children (4 boys) now will be growing up watchi…
/r/MGTOW222/05/20 01:24 AM
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Taxi driver is Chad. The maid is actually her lesbian “wine friend”. Replace the clown with an iPad. I’ll put my parenting skills up against a modern woman’s any day of the week.
/r/MGTOW11/05/20 01:45 AM
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Would not recommend the repo situation you are suggesting. Add terms to the final decree that give her 30 days to re-finance the car note into her name once the decree is signed by the judge. Make the payments until your name is no longer on the note to avoid late payments or retaliatory non-payment by her. I did this. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/20 04:53 AM
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Heavy Alcohol Consumption - compulsion toward lying/cheating Overdone Makeup - insecurity/multiple personality Any haircut where part of the head is shaved - feminist Over the top and obnoxious laughing (maybe not a red flag - but personal preference) Dependence on Social Media - reads their own FB posts aloud to you along with the responses others have sent them. (I can actually feel my blood pressure rise when this happens) “Bi” - I’m convinced these newfound “all girls are bisexual” types (in…
/r/MGTOW02/05/20 04:39 PM
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Thanks man. I think she believed that she could screw me, take the kids, push a false narrative about what an asshole I was, and get everyone to look at her and tell her she was a strong and independent woman, blah, blah and all the other “positive and pro-woman” garbage they peddle to each other when they are planning to leave their husbands. In my ex’s case, she really pulled the wool over people’s heads but now as time has passed, her bad choices are becoming evident. The kids see her bullshi…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/20 08:52 PM
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Yeah, it’s crazy. My ex is a completely different person now. It’s like some alternate reality. The kids are happy, stable and getting a lot of positive reinforcement when they’re with me. No other women involved, they’ve met a couple of my friends but I don’t bring any women around while we’re together. The first day they show up they’re usually exhausted. Like they just need to decompress from the crazy shit they’ve been dealing with the previous week. Additionally, they need all the basics, l…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/20 02:19 AM
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Talk to a lawyer. Record the next incident. Call the Police the next time she is violent. Period. I live in TX and had to call CPS on my ex. CPS will come investigate and interview the kids if the incident is reported to Police and an arrest is made - but most likely they will not separate a mother from a child without iron-clad evidence of sexual abuse, or severe neglect. A woman striking their child does not usually initiate an investigation. So, first step would be to call Police. The Police …
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/20 06:07 AM
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LOL. Small victories.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/20 05:24 AM
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You did a good job keeping the conversation short and letting her know you had other priorities. Maybe she misses you, maybe she was just looking for a reaction. Maybe her new love interest isn’t paying her enough attention today so she came back to the well so she could get her “feels” and reinforcement from you. Maybe she got her period. All of the above - Who knows? My ex pulled the same bullshit, all while she was getting dicked down by the new clown. I know that its hard to navigate this st…
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/20 10:32 PM
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Attention. It’s a game. Endless games and bullshit is what their currency is during the separation. Ignore her and File for divorce - it’s not final, but it might get her to start taking things seriously, either way - file first. Don’t discuss your strategy for property division or anything else with her. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/20 03:33 AM
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Was this hypothetical? It was typed with quotation marks so I’m assuming it was copied and pasted from somewhere... So, this hoe is complaining about getting PAID to Masturbate? It’s not as if she’s out there working as a dancer or on the streets turning tricks. At least real hoes and strippers have to put in some fucking effort, there’s risk and I consider it a hell of a lot more honest than this onlyclowns.com bullshit. My first response to her question would be - “why not?” I mean seriously? …
/r/MGTOW20/04/20 01:13 AM
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Dealing with narcs is a whole different bag and i’m not an attorney. Your stbx sounds very controlling and like she takes pleasure in causing you distress over working too hard in order to just see your son. Document everything. All of the hoops she has made you jump through. A judge should see this type of behavior as detrimental to your son and highly manipulative. Some of it, you will have to live with, because when the child is not in your care the other party can do anything (especially if …
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/20 03:24 AM
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Jealous bitches. I watched this same bullshit play out with my now ex wife and my 3 yr old daughter - let me repeat my 3 yr old daughter, because she asked me “daddy, who is the most beautiful girl in the world - I said, you are baby - of course.” My ex gave this weird laugh and I could see the distain in her eyes. That’s sick but it’s absolutely true. 20+ years together, but jealous of her own daughter for having her Dad’s attention.
/r/MGTOW16/04/20 02:48 AM
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No worries. Find someone who will listen to your concerns and don’t give up. Most people have no idea how to navigate this process until you go through it - including myself. Get a good attorney, tell them 50/50 or no fucking deal. Negotiate hard and be willing to settle, but not without 50/50 custody. Make it about the kids and their best interest. Don’t throw your ex under the bus to the court unless she’s committed some type of crime or put the kids life or safety at risk. That being said, th…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/20 01:36 AM
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I have 50/50 custody. My ex-wife (a textbook covert narc) took the state-suggested co-parenting class while we were separated. After completing the course, she tried dropping tidbits of her newfound knowledge on me like she had received an MBA in parenting. As of last week, she still needs help and advice from me because my kids (13 & 5) are acting out when they’re with her. (They have almost 0 issues while they’re with me - and are generally happy). I’ve finally reached the point where I cut he…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/20 06:09 AM
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Hang in there brother. I can relate to a lot of what you wrote here and what you’re going through. I’m officially divorced as of February, but it was a long 18+ months from the time my ex wife asked for separation. This whole idea of “finding themselves” and pulling the ripcord on the marriage - is total bullshit. After all the drama my ex put me through, the mental torture, the lies, arrests, the cheating, ripping our family apart - spending thousands of dollars just to miss out on half of my k…
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/20 02:56 PM
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My son is 13 - 8th grade. He & his buds talk about thots, hoes, simps, chads and lots of other lingo. Sometimes they don’t know exactly what it means but they get the main point. I stay out of it, but I keep an ear out so I know a little bit about what the current climate is like at his school. Currently they seem to dislike IG - mostly because they say its “for chicks to brag” - his words. They also think make-up sucks and make fun of girls who try too hard to look like their SAHM’s with their …
/r/MGTOW10/03/20 04:40 AM
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Sorry to hear about your situation brother. I’ve been there. The truth from what I’ve seen is that when they’re being “friendly” and over-communicating things are usually going well with the other party. When things aren’t going well, or there’s drama then they usually channel that back to you also. Don’t get sucked back in with texts, photos, etc. No contact (as limited as possible with kids) is the right call. Stick to email and respond only with direct communication about the kids or divorce …
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/20 03:34 AM
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Sorry for your loss brother. 10 yrs ago my younger brother shot himself after an argument with his then girlfriend. He had problems, but this happened directly after a fight. I never met or knew the girl. I had moved out of state a few years earlier, but I was traveling on business and was only 2 hours away from him when it happened. I got a tattoo with his ashes about a year later. There’s still an empty feeling inside, but i can tell you that It does get easier as time goes on. Having this ska…
/r/MGTOW23/02/20 02:09 AM
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My old man dated a little after mom died 20+ years ago but he was monk for almost all of those 20 years. He was also very BP when i was growing up. He let my mom do most everything when it came to raising the kids - something we had a lot of disagreements about once my son was born. In my stupidity over the years, I kept trying to encourage him to date and find a woman. He always pushed back and claimed all the women were too old. He was in his 60’s then and even women in their late 40’s were to…
/r/MGTOW22/02/20 10:21 PM
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It was most likely not the fact that you spoke up or expressed frustration during the recap of the meeting. Leaders can express emotion - either positive or negative - when the time comes for it. Those times are usually best reserved for motivation. Your team was most likely looking for your input after the call. Your reaction probably unsettled them. A better approach may have been to ask for feedback from the rest of the team after the call. You may have gained insight and been able to steer t…
/r/MGTOW19/02/20 03:52 AM
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Sorry to hear about your situation. Very similar to mine. My now ex was in the real estate industry also. Cheating is rampant. Lots of free time, lots of “events” with alcohol involved. Talk to your attorney ASAP. File first. Be extremely cautious of false domestic violence charges. That happened to me after almost 16 years of marriage. When they are willing to throw the marriage out with no reconciliation, counseling, etc - they are with someone else. I know how painful things seem right now - …
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/20 08:32 PM
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Good for you. I’m 42, and I wish that a resource like this RP, MGTOW, the Manosphere had been around when I was graduating HS. (I’m sure most men my age would agree) so you have a huge advantage right now. I am recently divorced. The total of the relationship was just over 20 yrs. the “love of my life”managed to nearly destroy my life in the divorce. I have two kids. 13 & 5. I don’t regret having children - they are the best part of my life. However, i made very significant sacrifices by getting…
/r/MGTOW17/02/20 03:22 AM
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Sorry to hear about your situation. Mine was similar. Like others have said - File First. Initial consultations are usually free - $500 can get the divorce petition filed. Everything else can and will be sorted out later, you can even change your mind on the divorce altogether (most likely you won’t) but - File First and ask for everything, drug tests, full custody, child support, everything. Start your negotiations there. This was the best advice that my attorney gave me - but I waited and trie…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/20 07:52 PM
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Agreed with most of the other suggestions, I.e. get rest, visit to the doctor, change in routine. On the business side, maybe an assistant to help help manage the daily task work so you can focus on the C-level decisions, managing growth and pace of operation that your comfortable with.
/r/MGTOW14/02/20 03:33 AM
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Congratulations brother. My divorce was just finalized a couple of weeks ago - just about two years in my case also. Welcome to the rest of your life as a free man! It’s bittersweet - but it does feel fucking great to come home with a Win and your kids after dealing with so much drama. Never again for me. Happy for you - best of luck to you and your family.
/r/MGTOW14/02/20 03:21 AM
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I felt this way for the first six months after finding out about my ex wife’s betrayal, the depth of it, and the death of my father all in May ‘18. Everything was gone, 20 + yrs of marriage, my wife as I knew her, my Dad, my home, my toys, my investments, my freedom. I focused every day on what I DID have - mainly my kids, and how I didn’t want to go out with that _____ having the upper hand. My brother committed suicide about 9 years ago, over a falling out / break-up with a chick he’d only bee…
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/20 12:14 AM
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I know how hard it is to lose your dog, especially while going through this process. My ex took the dog because she moved first - I was still in a hotel. She claimed to want to keep the dog, later changed her mind and my kids are heartbroken. She lied about the entire situation and my kids didn’t get a chance to say goodbye to their friend. It just came up again this weekend with my daughter, and frankly I miss the dog too. For what its worth, I have 15yrs experience training working dogs and K9…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/20 02:49 AM
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Same here brother. My ex just left for a swingers cruise...she planned to “travel” during her week with the kids and basically manipulated her way into having me keep the kids for 3 weeks in February so she can party. It’s sad because I saw right through what she was doing - and don’t get me wrong, I’m excited to have the kids for the next two weeks in a row. They were just with me for a week, went to her place for Friday night and she dropped them back off last night. I’m so disgusted by her th…
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/20 05:10 PM
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100%. Times have changed, women probably haven’t. To add on - How about I let myself go, looks, weight, attitude, language, cleaning, and constant complaints, etc,etc...but you and the kids should continue to accept me and “love” me and respect me. Que - the random new guy taking interest and suddenly, I’m “into” weight loss, exercise, nails, hair, waxes, and my new skanky “bad girl” friends I found so i can remember how to “feel” again - because I’m “valuable” again and he’s such a good listene…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 03:57 AM
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All too true. My ex started getting back on FB and hanging around a bunch of younger crowd, and divorced women. She claimed she needed FB to market her business and took a class on how to successfully market on FB. I think she actually wanted to know how FB worked so she could build her popularity and become some type of celebrity in her own mind. She got the attention she wanted - and all of those women she started hanging around were the definition of toxic and shallow. If all it takes is a li…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 02:35 AM
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Thank you, and yes I feel lucky to have reached the deal that I did. No plans to ever get married or go through this shit again. Trying to rebuild - slowly but surely!
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/20 04:33 AM
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God has been with me through this. Thank you brother - Me too!
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/20 04:30 AM
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Thank you brother. My Dad’s passing was extremely hard for me. He was sick (stroke) and declined rapidly over the last year. I was very distracted with his situation, care, etc and I guess that I was “neglecting” my ex wife during that time. She used this time to pursue her affairs . The separation happening two weeks after his passing overshadowed my father’s death and I wasn’t truly able to process everything that had just happened and grieve for him. The rug was pulled out from under me. I un…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/20 04:28 AM
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Yeah, that part didn’t really surprise me honestly. I’m most definitely not planning to get married again. The shit I’ve been through in the last 18 months has forced me to grow and all I want right now is to get to a place where I’m happy and totally unphased by her bullshit. Going no contact has helped tremendously. The DV charges are a nightmare and for a guy who’s worked hard to keep a squeaky clean record, it was a really low blow to my self esteem. I’ve got a lot of work to do on myself. N…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/20 04:17 AM
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Agreed. Its sad and pathetic. I’m sure that it will crash and burn. Right now it seems that she is living the good life - which for her means no rules. Most of us have seen how even a “girls night” with no rules usually ends. When you make that a lifestyle choice at 40...She really has no idea the damage she has done. Someday maybe she will.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/20 03:59 AM
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Best of luck to you next month. Know what you’ll settle for and what you won’t. You know her better than your attorney so take some time to think about your outcome logically. In my case, prolonging the process worked to my advantage. PM me if you want more details. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/20 03:52 AM
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Similar. I thought she had a drug problem, initially when I started tracking her on GPS. Still think she might have a drug problem. We were all told - don’t trust women, women lie, and all the other cautionary tales. You get married and build something you think is solid. They change their mind when things gets bumpy and some dude (and friends) tells them “you deserve happiness” and all the “feel good quotes” they spout when your spouse wants sympathy or a new dick. This thing hurt me, brought m…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 05:33 PM
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Working on it brother! One foot in front of the other. Appreciate the support. Head up - yup!
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 05:25 PM
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Appreciate that. You answered it perfectly. The fight was worth it - for me. To win at least 50/50 custody and to not let that B have control over me with my kids for the foreseeable future. Worth it. In the end she actually gave up - was worn down by the fight and I know she could tell that I’d never give up until I had 50/50. Also, what i meant was that as men (if we are the ones who were served by our wives) I think we get rushed into quick decisions during the divorce process and slowing dow…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 03:41 PM
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Hey brother, good to hear from you. Yes - The pain was real. Yes - The fight was worth it. The kids and I are doing great - and we’re going to be OK. She took so much from me, there was no way I was giving her control over decisions with my kids for the rest of my days - I’d rather be tied to a tree and have my testicles gnawed off by small woodland creatures...
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 07:48 AM
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OP, My son is 13, my daughter just turned 5. My son knows about his mother’s cheating. He was witness to several arguments during our separation and recently found hard evidence of my stbx wife’s affair. Evidence that placed the timeline out a lot further than I realized. I knew she had been involved in a lot of shady things in the year prior to her filing for divorce, but what he found was evidence of a long-term relationship amongst other things. I was somewhat relieved that he found this on h…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/20 02:00 AM
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Quote two months ago from my cheating, lying narcissistic stbx wife - “I’m a VERY loyal person.” More recently - she called me yesterday about a parenting issue with my 13yr son and told me that she had to “explain what commitment means”. So asked her - “what does it mean to you? “ Conversation over.
/r/MGTOW05/12/19 11:12 AM
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Nice pic! Former FL Native (Sarasota) relocated in Texas - homesick for some real sandy beaches and Linesiders - although they do have an emerging population here in TX, I have yet to see one in person.
/r/MGTOW02/12/19 10:43 PM
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Same boat as you all. 42 with two kids. I have them 50/50 right now. Was let go from my job two months ago, and now working like a dog to just get by, side work, basically working 2.5 jobs and almost making what i did in my last position. OP - i had all that too. Beautiful home that i was remodeling, big shop building in the back yard, great neighbors, schools, a boat, truck, two kids and a dog. - WE had a great life. She blew that up - right after she watched me sell the boat, the truck, tools …
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/19 01:28 AM
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Sorry to hear what you’re going through. It’s terrible. I’ve been there and so have a lot of other guys - on this sub and probably countless more. Your situation feels unique right now because its fucking painful. The feeling that you can’t go home, that your little ones are there with her - a liar, feeding lies about you and your marriage to anyone who will listen and show her sympathy - even though you’re a great dad and a good husband too if you were staying to make it work for your kids. Tha…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/19 11:04 PM
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Same here, except we were together through our 20’s. It is actually more like teenager behavior, but she’s “all grown up” now with her own money and options and she’s free to whore around with anyone she wants. She seeks validation everywhere except the one place it should matter most. Same thing about the secrecy. She lies about anything, and I literally do not trust one word that comes out of her mouth unless it is verified through some other means. At the same time she puts up a big front abo…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/19 09:04 PM
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That’s awful man. My stbx was cheating before she decided she needed “space” and filed for divorce. I don’t know all the details, but I know it was men, women, swingers, multiple partners, hotels etc. Now, looking back I think she had multiple affairs, hook-ups with co-workers over the years prior. It makes me so fucking angry to think that these people were in my life and might have shaken my hand at a company xmas party or kids birthday. I don’t know if it’s worse to have the proof and know, o…
/r/MGTOW17/11/19 06:17 AM
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Thanks bro, the OP’s post really put a fire in me when i read it. I know exactly what he’s going through. I had been in so much turmoil and pain over the whole situation in my case - For close to 18 months. I was in a really bad place, the lowest moments of my life. I still have hard days, but its getting better. How they can put children - their “babies” through this shit - it should be criminal. Now, I just feel sorry for my stbxw - I don’t cut her any slack or feel sympathy but if this is how…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/19 04:08 AM
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The part that bothers me the most is that now - I don’t want her back, but I miss my kids so much it tears me apart - she just continues to say “oh, they’ll be fine”. Her classic blanket statement bullshit designed to not place any responsibility on her shoulders for the pain she has caused my kids or the shit show that is now our reality. I don’t know how we are all supposed to get over their ability to walk away like this except with time, the gym, maybe other women. But, the fact that we have…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/19 11:03 PM
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My stbx started doing this also while we were still under the same roof during separation and under the temp orders. What do your temp orders say? You’ll need to work something out with her directly if its outside whats stated in the temp orders. I would tell her what you’d like to see happen and remind her that you want to see your kids, for their best interest and yours. Be pleasant and see how she reacts. Do not have this conversation without recording it or documenting by text/email. Hopeful…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/19 06:37 AM
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The problem here is that she thinks she’s still the chick from 10 years ago, only with more “character”. She probably describes herself as more “honest” now and “up front” about her feelings because of all the “abuse” she’s endured. She’s a princess, and a “warrior”. All that noise is just a cover for her to say some insensitive shit that you’ll have to deal with until you snap. Then, when you raise your voice, she reverts to the playbook. When you try to leave and de-escalate, this “curvy” psyc…
/r/MGTOW01/11/19 12:45 AM
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I guess I didn’t see that part, someone leaving with the kid. Taking time to park your bike while a kid drowns...just, wow.
/r/MGTOW31/10/19 10:41 PM
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Agreed. I felt like a secret agent when the separation happened and I figured out about the affair. I’m still recording conversations, but occasionally I forget or get caught up in the moment. So far none of my “evidence “ has been used except when I called CPS. They investigated her based on pictures I had. The investigations ended with them doing nothing and believing her story. Its a one-sided dog and pony show. I’ve had dash cams in my work trucks and they are awesome.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/19 06:59 PM
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What about the mother or grandmother? Its almost as if she wanted this kid to fall through the rails. She made no real effort to keep the child from going through the rails. In a situation like this I would have demanded that my 5 year old hold my hand and warned her about going near the railing. I have two kids, 13 and 5. Even my 13 yr old would have showed more concern for his kid sister than the woman in this video. Then, absolutely zero effort as he was falling, no attempt to jump the rail o…
/r/MGTOW31/10/19 06:04 PM
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Agreed with what a previous poster wrote about the DV charges and that being a common tactic. Trust me, its not easy to beat and I was arrested twice on this shit. All she had to do was CRY and and the deputies said I was the “aggressor” so it was time to turn around and go to county. Six months of counseling in a county sponsored program. Second time was thrown out completely but I still went to county for the night. Anything happen to her for filing false charges? - not a chance. The system do…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/19 03:41 AM
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Great job staying connected with your son. It sounds like you had already done a great job along the way. My son is 13, and your post reminded me of our relationship. Similar amount of time married to his mom. Split under same circumstances. He saw and heard a lot of things go down at the end when we separated, way more than he should have been exposed to when he was transitioning through middle school. He handled most of it with more maturity than I even did at some points. Sounds like your son…
/r/MGTOW31/10/19 02:25 AM
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Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it, and doing my best to manage it every day and keep pushing for a better life for myself and my kids. Hard pills to swallow - I have a lot of lost time to make up for.
/r/MGTOW30/10/19 07:03 PM
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Yes, I like your response better. I’m going to use that next time 100%
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/19 02:06 PM
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I have experienced the same exact thing with my ex. You stated it very well. I could never put my finger on it. It happened during our marriage also. She has a huge problem with attention and seeks constant validation. Its on the extreme side of the scale. She also argues for sport. In many cases during our marriage it led to me apologizing, or thinking I had done wrong in the situation also. The biggest change in her personality lately has been her sudden shift to sensitivity. She used to be pr…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/19 07:22 AM
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Thank you. Body cam just sounds extreme, but then again so does jail time. She wants me to never speak my mind, keep quiet and act like we’re “besties” in public. If speaking in public constitutes abuse now then I’ll stick to emails.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/19 07:09 AM
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Very interesting. I think women have always been the same. We just serve their needs for that particular moment in time. It could be years, but then they have new “needs” and your not it. Once life becomes routine, we are content. On the other hand, they can never be content because they are empty and constantly need validation from outside sources. Sure, she was happy when she was the first chick on her block to get the newest model of minivan. She showed it off to all her friends while they bi…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/19 04:09 AM
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Good luck. I hope you can keep your family together. No vacations in 10+ years, that one is tough because she’ll see her friends posting on FB and living “the good life” which is mostly BS. Thats a problem you can fix, but this is marriage not fantasy island. They will always want what they don’t have. Just stay grounded and don’t overpromise. Make sure she understands it takes changes on both sides. She won’t respect you if you beg. Do your homework and find out if she’s talking to or sleeping …
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/19 03:19 PM
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Yes. Learned those also! But the more time went on, the less patience I had. I just came across TRP and MGTOW after my separation last year. The thing is, that subconsciously I think I was already coming to the realization that my ex didn’t really bring value to my life anymore. I “loved” her. We were married and I don’t think I would have left, at least while the kids were still at home. Several times when my son was young, I considered it, but never wanted to miss out on the time with him. Whe…
/r/MGTOW28/10/19 07:00 PM
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Thanks -I’ll check it out.
/r/MGTOW28/10/19 02:24 PM
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Had to laugh when I read your sandwich comment. I had to teach my stbx the same thing! I used to say, how many times have you been to deli or even Subway for fuck’s sake? Its not that hard. Also had to teach her how to shake hands and conduct a presentation when she started working in a sales based role in finance. After investing heavily in her career and teaching her like a teenage girl how to clean, take care of a home, car and all the other life lessons of 16+ yrs of marriage - she’s the one…
/r/MGTOW28/10/19 05:44 AM
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I appreciate the kind words and support and anybody who was willing to read through that post! It’s been two weeks since that event happened, but I’m still angry that she could put us through that again. The kids, especially my 13 yr old son were very upset by the whole thing. They didnt deserve to be let down like that that again. That was my fault for allowing it, so I take ownership of that. She keeps claiming that she isn’t doing any of this to hurt me or the kids, that this is her decision …
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/19 04:39 AM
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Agreed with your point on projecting low SMV and recovering afterward. Two years out of work is not good for a man’s mental state - regardless if you have decent savings. His wife should show respect but AWALT and any woman who sees a dude out of work for two years is at minimum going to doubt him, spend too much time around him and shit test & nag this poor fucker to death or until he snaps and ends up going to jail - and she’ll take the kid and half his savings with her. My point was - if she’…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/19 04:40 AM
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Not sure what you’re currently doing about your job search, but I would recommend solving that piece of the puzzle first. Throw all your efforts in. I recently - 5 weeks ago was laid off. I had a week where I said “screw it” and just enjoyed my kids that week. I lost my company truck along with my position and that has presented a huge problem. I’m still paying for a $30k vehicle that I can’t use due to the pending divorce. An ongoing divorce complicates everything in your life, especially if yo…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/19 11:46 PM
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Thanks brother, much appreciated.
/r/MGTOW23/10/19 03:52 PM
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I’ll take your word for it and yes my German grandparents both immigrated to the US just before WW2. I’m sure that this epidemic in women has affects all cultures and nationalities. I live in Austin, TX which has become a liberal shithole in the last 12 years. That being said it, it is a very diverse city and since the wool has been pulled from my eyes from TRP and MGTOW, I see the same patterns and problems throughout the entire spectrum of the local female population here and it makes me sick.…
/r/MGTOW23/10/19 03:50 PM
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Awesome job man! Good on you to continue recording and don’t forget to photo log things that are out of sorts. At least if she gets creative and tries to orchestrate some type of false DV incident, you will evidence. Keep recording and keep your distance. Make sure your audio and photos are getting backed up to the cloud and always know the location of your phone. My ex tried to steal my phone at one point in a very orchestrated event and a friend of mine told me that his ex “accidentally” put h…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/19 04:57 AM
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No shit brother. Love that comment. When all the BS went down in my divorce and finding out about her affairs - my first thought was that I wished my 4’9” German Grandmother had been around to beat my ex’s sorry ass and show her what family is about. That was a real woman - old school, stayed faithful to my Grandfather while he was overseas building hydro-electric plants in India,Brazil, and Panama. Home for 9 months out of the year for 25 years. Took care of the home by herself, managed the fin…
/r/MGTOW23/10/19 03:23 AM
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Then you have rights to the house. If you pay utility bills, its your residence. Still check the laws in your state. You could try calling the local authorities, the same department (sheriff or police) that she would call to initiate a disturbance call. Ask them about the law and know your rights ahead of time. Talk to a lawyer for free before you do anything. I can’t stress this enough - do not drink alcohol at the house, or when you are around her. Record anytime she makes a scene in front of …
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/19 08:14 PM
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My STBX did the same with my son. She tried to paint me as an abusive guy. Had me falsely arrested, while my son, his friends and my daughter were home. Filed a temporary order or protection that banned me from the schools and my home. This was the second time in less than two years. Charges were later dropped. Had to leave the house, nearly lost my job. Its a long story...main reason I always say file first, don’t react, record everything you can. It’s honestly so unnatural to a man (at least i…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/19 11:44 PM
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Take the gloves off. File first. I’m not sure what led up to your wife’s decision, but it doesn’t matter. Just file first and then STFU. Document the financials. Don’t engage with her and if you can, record every conversation/interaction. Have your lawyer take an aggressive stance and go for everything you can, full custody, support, the house, everything - you can always concede some of these things later. It works to your advantage later and looks good the court.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/19 05:54 PM
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Document everything. Photos are great. They can be marked up for clarity and are time stamped. It will feel strange to record her and take photos, but you have to document everything you can. Very little else will help you, short of her throwing a huge fit and committing an act of violence against you. If that happens, call the authorities and tell them about the situation. Tell them that you believe she is a danger to herself and the kids. That may still not be enough, but if you dont want to m…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/19 08:00 AM
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Haha. No worries. Some of it was worth it...sitting where I am now, trying to rebuild my life at 42, being so invested in my kids lives and now having to miss out on half of that, and passing up opportunities that I’ll never get back for another person’s happiness - not worth it. Will never get married again. Funny part is that the ex looked at me funny on Monday when I told her I would never marry again, she was encouraging me to try and find someone “who makes me smile” and that for me is now …
/r/MGTOW16/10/19 08:35 PM
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Thanks for that suggestion, I’ll look into that App. I don’t know if she’ll try this again, but if she does I’ll be more prepared to say NO. I’m really glad to hear that someone else thinks her suggestion of this open family concept is garbage. At the time, I thought it was BS. Then after thinking about the kids, I thought maybe that Might work. But, it goes against what I believe is right for the kids. I think its confusing, will only complicate things down the road, and would be some huge leap…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 03:43 PM
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Yes. She checks all of the boxes on the narc checklist actually. Its sad because she and I always had a great connection because I understood how she was. She wants a deep connection, but she isn’t able to get there so she seeks validation constantly, now especially through sex and uses alcohol to numb the rest. The alcohol also makes her problem worse. If you cut them off how do you handle the co-parenting? I’m having a hard time with that. She believes we should all be able to get together lik…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 02:18 PM
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I can totally relate. My ex left last year, I was 41. She left, had an affair, random hookups and threesomes with people at hotels. I caught her doing this 2 weeks after my old man died. We had been together over 20 years, two kids. She is now seeing some fucker in a long term relationship which i found out last week. This past weekend she decides that she’s done, coming back, wants to reconcile, make it official. She’s all-in. It was my week with the kids. We haven’t been around each other in a…
/r/MGTOW16/10/19 10:57 AM
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Agreed. 100%. I got that message on Monday. I had already spent a year basically cutting her out of my life and 6 weeks ago we started to re-connect a little bit. It messed with my head then at the time. Then she called and showed up and said all the right things I guess, it was a stupid move on my part. It was hard because I know its what my kids want, and I wanted to believe her too. It was weakness on my part. When she changed her mind on Monday, I felt nothing. I was not heartbroken, just so…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 04:05 AM
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Haha - classic line I’m stealing that bro. Yeah, set the filters above 35 and its a pretty lousy showing. A lot of sarcastic, cringy profile info too. You get one or two lookers but they come with baggage and a lot miles on that ride. My STBX wife is 39 and she told me recently shes always carded at the liquor store, like that was a determination of her youthful looks. I told her it’s the law - she said, “yeah...but still”. They think they’re hot post 30 with two kids because of marketing and be…
/r/MGTOW16/10/19 01:21 AM
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Yeah, thanks for that feedback. I thought the same thing - she cheated on me, now she’s cheating on the other guy. Maybe he cheated on her, and she figured hey - what the hell. She’s so out of her damn mind theres no telling. I also had that feeling things may not be going so well financially for her. (They aren’t fantastic on my end either) but she has a job where she can earn over $100k. she spends most of it on herself. She kept brining up the fact that she wanted to be “taken care of” and ot…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 12:04 AM
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Thanks, I appreciate the kind words. I’m trying like hell to keep life normal for them.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/19 11:29 PM
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Thank you for this. You’re right, it’s pathetic. I see the women on dating sites and the older ones at the bars. I found my ex on a dating site and she looked like a club groupie $&”@. I know my situation isn’t unique. my ex in particular always had problems with seeking attention. When she couldn’t be the absolute center of my attention anymore, she went looking elsewhere. After all the years together, I swear that she was even jealous of the attention I gave my daughter. It was subtle, but I n…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/19 06:08 AM
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100%. I needed to hear this message. The lies and bullshit seem endless, zero remorse other than a few forced statements. I believe the only remorse is truly that she got caught. I don’t feel like I know her anymore, but after almost 21 years its been hard to let go. Her actions resemble those of a bratty, rebellious teenage girl. Wild fingernails, heavy makeup, over the top jewelry, even though she works a professional job. Lots of signals that shes easy and seeking attention wherever she can g…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/19 05:15 PM
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Good point. I need to get back to my life, and re-focus my attention on more positive things. She really isn’t someone I want to know anymore. There is zero trust and even her parenting does not impress me. She continues to act as though nothing happened and life just moves on - no consequences. I find her to be pretty obnoxious now that we’re separated. She is very manipulative and no matter what she says to me I know its all about her being needy and opportunistic. All the advice here is very …
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/19 08:14 PM
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Yes. Agreed. I was - had been doing a great fucking job of no contact for months and only recently in the last month maybe 6 weeks I was trying to “own it” get over her and move on. It was a mistake to change directions on this. There’s been way too much contact recently and you’re right she’s just toying around with me like its a game. She might sense some changes in me since ive been working on myself and starting to get out and date again but its just more of her never-ending loop cycle of BS…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/19 06:29 AM
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Agreed. Thank you all for the encouragement. These women, they are ridiculous attention vampires, especially the recently separated/divorced and honestly its pretty sad. I mean have some fucking class at least when your with my kids. She thinks that she’s still in her 20’s - shes 39 yrs old. I know she is doing things, dropping little breadcrumbs to suggest the door is “still open” if only I had the balls to go open it...thats garbage. She left, she lied, she cheated, she quit - I already told h…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/19 03:39 AM
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That was perfect. Funny how they use the exact 180 degree argument whenever it suits them, for example: Controlling - if you give them a lot of rope (like I did) then they use the excuse “you never cared enough to check up on me” thats why I got on FB and dude convinced me that you were toxic so I started blowing him after work. So - we’re either too controlling or not controlling enough and either way it’s “toxic”. Classic. Females have more loopholes than the tax code, but men are expected to …
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/19 04:38 AM
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Does the Protective Order cover physical contact with your daughter or just your proximity to physical locations like home, school, etc? Could you have family or a friend bring her to a restaurant or park and meet her on neutral ground? If you can’t see her make sure she gets your gifts, a card or something from you. My daughter turns 5 soon, and this is a rough situation. Document your efforts and do whatever you can.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/19 04:16 AM
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All of this. Plus, never have a life-changing event like a death of a loved one, the loss of job or status. Men usually understand that’s real life, and tough shit happens all time, especially in a marriage. But women see it differently, so they seek out attention and get it from random dudes, co-workers, guys and female friends hitting them up on social media during these times feeding their egos with a sense of entitlement. They justify their cheating with new age rationalizations and alcohol.…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/19 01:59 AM
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Thats great that you got the protective order reduced. Mine was 30 days. Make sure you have your paperwork stating the release date “on your person” when you go to your kid’s schools, back home, etc. Dropping your son off on his birthday to go to the beach...my ex was dropping my kids off with me at the motel so she could “decompress” at the lake with swingers. Its crazy how so many stories are similar. I think women are given a field manual for this shit! You may have made mistakes in the past …
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/19 03:20 AM
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Good that you haven’t been drinking! In my case, the STBX called the Sheriff’s Dept. on me, claimed I “shoved” her in front of 4 kids while my 4 yr old daughter sat on my lap. She claimed it caused “extreme pain”. The deputy gave me the option to leave. I half-heartedly called some friends, no one answered. I asked if I could stay since nothing happened. The deputy thought her story was not truthful. Deputy asked his sergeant by radio if I could stay, and the answer was NO and they took me to ja…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/19 02:35 AM
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This is very similar to my situation. You need to start documenting everything. Take pictures of everything, all the alcohol in the house or garbage after she has other people in the house. Evidence of the affair, which it sounds like you already have. If she ever gets physical with you again, call 911. Period. Stay sober whenever you are around her. Don’t go home if you have been drinking. Don’t engage in arguments, even though you want to - it will only make your problems worse. Call a good at…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/19 01:16 AM
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Pretty hard NO for me at this point. ALL the things I didn’t do in pursuit of MY best life. Huge, life-long regrets, which I had reconciled over the years by thinking, “hey - the marriage worked out so you were justified.” Choosing an easy road in order to stay with someone who I knew at some level, fundamentally was not aligned with my own ethos. The truth right now is that I was fucking blind and stupid - and that has been the largest hurdle to overcome in my recovery which is still ongoing at…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/19 07:25 AM
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Right on. He changed my whole world view.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/19 02:30 AM
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I agree - they’re all walking disasters. The fact is they don’t give a shit about family the way we do, nothing is sacred. Taking kids from a loving and devoted father because they aren’t getting treated like a princess anymore. Thats not normal, adult behavior. We can do better. If you haven’t yet read the rational male - I would recommend it because it helped me greatly. Its wordy but i read it over a weekend. Its changed the entire way I view my life as a male. Also, the red pill subreddit fo…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/19 04:50 PM
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It doesn’t stop. Been over a year in my case. It’s like lining up to get kicked in nuts every day, and then learning to live with it. You have to accept it, sit with it and own it. Own it, don’t let it own you. There’s no easy day. It’s impossible to dismiss the emotions, they’re real and they’re raw. The gym helps, hobbies help, but there is a void. Your boys will want to know their Dad is in their corner, that you fight for them. They want a relationship with you and always will. Let that driv…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/19 04:46 AM
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My daughter is 4 and my son just turned 13. I have my kids 50/50 but the divorce is still not finalized. Our home was sold. I have my own place and STBX does also. My daughter has adjusted over the last year. My son has also adjusted. He knows most of the details, not explicit details obviously but he knows that his mother was having an affair because she got so sloppy with her attempts to hide everything. Toward the end of us living together, she was just “going out” on nights that would have b…
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/19 09:29 PM
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Talk to an attorney. Protect your rights to your kids and get your finances together. A lot of others have been where you are - myself included. You will be OK. Your kids are young, they won’t understand right now, but you may be able to keep custody and your hone if you file first and collect evidence of her behavior. Your marriage may be over, but if you’re trying to save it then you’re playing it wrong brother. You have to show her that you don’t give two fuks about her. Show her that you’ve …
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/19 05:19 AM
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Thanks for sharing. I agree and I also see me ex’s manipulation, all the lies and the subtle stringing along that I know is just an act. What I also realized is that she never wanted to see me be successful. I grew up believing that a good woman stands behind her man. She played games, and undermined my decisions that led me to doubt myself. Overall that hurt the marriage and my self esteem. On the flip side, we invested heavily into her career, which played out well - for her. I don’t feel bad …
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/19 03:57 PM
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I think this is hardest part. The dreams that you had for the family as a whole, missing key moments with the kids. Its painful and there’s that little voice that says, “maybe” - that little voice is the past and he needs to STFU! My divorce isn’t final yet, its dragged out a bit due to the house being sold, moving, trying to re-establish communications and division of assets- which is mostly debt in my case. Another little parting gift from her that I’ll be working to pay off for the next few y…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/19 02:06 AM
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Thats just crazy and from the way she’s handling things I doubt things will end in a civil way once the orders are filed. She could be setting you up to lose your temper (although it would be completely understandable.) in order to file charges against you. Don’t touch her or be in the same room with her without recording. This shit escalates very quickly. Nothing like what you described went that far in my case, there is no way she would have had the balls to pull that BS...involving my kids. t…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/19 07:26 AM
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Don’t move out. You can spend less time at home, but don’t move yourself or your things out. Don’t drink in the house or around her. Assume she is or already has been recording things, taking pics, gathering whatever she can to swing the pendulum in her direction. Control your emotions. Go run, hit the gym, go hang with friends. If you drink don’t come home until your sober - 100%. If things get heated, walk away. Record your conversations and if it’s possible to gather evidence of an ongoing af…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/19 12:11 AM
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It’s unbelievable when you’re going through it. My STBX did the same thing. The other women she’s listening to or guy she’s banging on the side is giving her a free pass to the “fun” she was missing out on. The sad part is that even though you both care for your son, she is so pre-occupied with the new messages coming at her that she puts the life you had in the rear view mirror and keeps driving. Dont give up any rights to your son without a fight. You don’t want her to have control over you in…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/19 07:35 PM
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I kept most of my the details of my STBX’s cheating/lying/scandalous behavior to myself and couple of friends & co-workers at the time who could tell I was going through something, but were not really sure what was wrong with me. I was doing a decent job keeping my business private, but I pretty much lost my chit after closing on the sale of our home. While I was signing, I just blurted out “this is dumbest f’n real estate decision in the history of my family - and probably the free f’n world”. …
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/19 03:25 AM
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I was trying different things with FaceTime. I did try reading to her and she liked that a lot. I think that I could/should do more of that. Not sure if the STBX will go along with it since my daughter is still sleeping in the STBX’s room while she stays there - great advice though and I have a public library right in my neighborhood. With my son, I’ve haven’t tried setting a specific time - at least not yet. I definitely miss him, and my daughter too, but is it reasonable to “force” accountabil…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/19 05:58 AM
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Agreed with the last comment and just be Extremely cautious. From your post things sound amicable, but that can change on a dime when the process starts to drag out. Protect yourself, record conversations, don’t drink around her, or at all. If you do, spend the night with friends or family. Keep your conversations short. If things do drag out with the sale of the house, she’ll see you as an obstacle to starting her new life. Once they have decided to take it this far, they are committed to seein…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/19 06:07 AM
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I appreciate the nod to keep plugging away at it. Somehow a little bit every day seems to get better, then worse, then better. The little things that shouldn’t get in the way - somehow they do and it just muddies up the water in my pool. Life seemingly should be great right now, but the fallout from this divorce just seems to add a lot of weight to all the bad decisions I made over the 20 years. She seems to have moved on fully without a care in the world like it was the best decision she ever m…
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/19 02:01 AM
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