So we've been having a very rough relationship since March. All along she has gaslighted me and played so well, that I've been blaming myself and trying to make changes for her. Well shit, found out last week, she has been cheating on me since March! And here I'm like an Idiot, even though I asked her that twice over the months, I never suspected she'd do that!

Well, I've been quite since I found out. Slowly started taking cash out of my accounts (may not be a good idea but IDC and these were my own accounts), retained the lawyer yesterday (retain only and not act or initiate first). I also ordered a few spy things (camera, GPS, voice recorder) again don't know if it's bad, but I wanted to know what's going on.

Also know who the guy is, and I'm actually shocked she's with someone like him. Just shows her class now. More worried, that I don't want my kids (4 and 2) to be with someone like that filth. Living with someone like that guy is going to affect their character and change the direction of their life and I'm just crushed thinking about it.

She's been having a nasty behavior towards me (with NO action or instigation from me) and blurted out Sunday that is going to all end and I'll see that soon. Well her behavior has completely flipped. Suddenly she's texting me, aksing why I didnt wish her for the first day of her job, etc erc. No more nastiness. She also knows I was looking for spy stuff (based on Amazon History which I deleted) as she said she thought she should spy on me know her way back from her new job (since it's close to where I work). She also knows I know they talk on WhatsApp, as just a half hour ago, she disabled the feature which shows when she was last online. Great palnning by her to get a new phone months back when her older phone was in spectacular condition just so I couldn't access the new phone and iPhone x doesn't snow notifications. Plus used WhatsApp for messages and calls so everything is hidden.

My question - I can't take this anymore and just need to confront and get it done with. Inspite of all of this, I wanted her back and was hanging on to that too. But don't think thats happening. I so wanted time to prep my family. I'm just going to confront her and get it done. What do you all advice as the next step?