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You got me there. I can’t imagine that either! If only your comment had been a recommendation. As an aside - Do you extend this obligation to yourself?
/r/RPChristians22/10/20 03:50 PM
2

Oh boy, imagine if Jesus was as condescending and conducted himself as self-righteously as you...
/r/RPChristians22/10/20 03:33 PM
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Reddit isn’t just a platform for seeking other opinions. No, I’m not. Nowhere on her post did she state she wasn’t trying to save herself for marriage.
/r/RPChristians22/10/20 03:12 PM
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It wasn’t a post asking for advice.
/r/RPChristians22/10/20 03:08 PM
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Your comment had little to do with the post. It doesn’t help that it sounds condescending. You can be downvoted for irrelevance to the subject. Downvoting does not mean people disagree with saving themselves for marriage.
/r/RPChristians22/10/20 03:06 PM
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What does lying to his wife and kids say about his character? Is that kind of character something you think you could build a healthy and long lasting relationship with? I would recommend putting yourself in his wife’s shoes. What if that was you? What makes you think it wouldn’t be you in another 20 years? You haven’t provided any details on the relationship with his wife and why he is cheating on her with you. So I am only going to assume this is a solipsistic man who is chasing his youth rath…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 05:18 PM
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I’m a guy so I’m not sure my perspective is one you’re looking for but thought I’d provide anyway. In my mind, it goes one of two ways: If you established from the beginning that you weren’t interested in him, he likely wrote you off as a romantic option and is pursuing other girls. Sometimes this can be hard to come back from, other times guys will reconsider if you’re honest and straightforward with them about your intentions and their had been mutual interest. Alternatively, he was never roma…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 08:59 PM
2

I just eat the beans. I’d feel like a beta if I grounded and brewed them.
/r/askTRP14/01/19 06:43 PM
3

I’m a man who enjoys reading both subs. I will admit that the male TRP sub is full of many guys who are incel, MGTOW or in the anger phase of realizing innate human nature. Hence the boorish attitudes towards women in general. My opinion is that TRP and RPW reflect two different sexual strategies. Men are biologically designed to impregnate many women whereas women are biologically designed to be impregnated by many fewer men. The realities of childbearing necessitate a need for a long term mate…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 07:34 PM
2

Who cares what they think. Don’t even have to give them an answer if you don’t want to. No answer would be better than your suggestion.
/r/askTRP07/01/19 03:35 AM
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Touch her everywhere but her pussy until she’s trying to thrust herself on you. Just manhandle her however you like.
/r/askTRP05/01/19 04:52 AM
2

You can reduce the nervousness by not placing unreasonable expectations on yourself. You're not going to be a master of game on your first date. Even if you don't lay these girls on the first date, there's always an opportunity to on the second. Once you get more experience going out, you'll have a much easier time escalating to sex. Remember that you're bringing these girls along to have fun with YOU, just enjoy the opportunity to grab coffee, practice your game and vet these girls.
/r/askTRP05/01/19 02:20 AM
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I'm going to disagree with the majority of comments here. This situation doesn't warrant irreversible action, such as demoting her or nexting her, YET. She MIGHT have deleted it and tried to hide it because she was concerned that an inappropriate message would manifest this very fear of impropriety in you. I wouldn't let a self fulfilling prophecy like this destroy the LTR yet. Would be extra vigilant for any other sign of cheating or potential cheating. If there is even one other suspicious sig…
/r/askTRP05/01/19 01:58 AM
1

The provided context is an example of the misguided attempt to make Alphaness everything to everyone. The Burger King Red Pill - Have It Your Way! The point was that there's a distinction between a natural Alpha and a Beta identifying as an Alpha, hence why there are so many posts on this reddit helping Beta males to present themselves as Alpha with women. I don't see an issue with either if both get you laid, but the OPs argument doesn't hold water on its own. That being said, my comment may ha…
/r/TheRedPill04/01/19 07:25 PM
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it's about a life perspective. There is nothing concrete about this statement. This is exactly the wishy-washy, family-friendly Red Pill that I wish could be purged You can take a few words and ignore the provided context if you'd like. Alphaness is actualizing the insatiable urge to shoot sperm into a willing female. Nothing more, nothing less. There is nothing concrete about this statement. What do you propose is the distinction between Alpha and Beta then? So if I'm a beta who finally gets lu…
/r/TheRedPill04/01/19 07:08 PM
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>That is why men feel compelled to get away after sex, while women want to bond. Don't believe this to be true. The male brain also releases Oxytocin following sex/orgasm, albeit in lower concentration than women. Oxytocin is the chemical in your brain responsible for pair bonding. > A monogamous LTR is wholly inconsistent with the Alpha sex drive because it requires a man to curtail the very thing that makes him Alpha in the first place. You're suggesting here that what makes an Alpha an Alpha …
/r/TheRedPill04/01/19 06:59 PM
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No it’s not. Slow passionate sex is not beta. You need variety in the bedroom. Always fucking the same way gets boring for both partners.
/r/askTRP03/01/19 09:29 PM
1

The real reason I’ve been hanging out with her so much is to actually test out RP theories to see if they work. Which they do. So you're saying you have successfully employed the theories and fucked her? I’ve just never been caught in this situation and not sure how to bring it up next time I see her. A girl lying? They do it all the time. It's one of the reasons you don't want to keep them around as friends. Again, if you're not planning to fuck her, get rid of her.
/r/askTRP03/01/19 05:42 AM
3

We’re not talking by any means, nor do I really want to You can be honest with us, clearly you do or you wouldn't have written this post. The evidence is here: she has feelings for me and wants to date me, but I never really act on it. ​ A hour later on her Instagram she posts a story of her on a date with another guy I am a bit confused as why she would lie about that? She lied because she didn't want it to seem like she was cancelling on you for someone who is willing to make their intentions …
/r/askTRP03/01/19 05:32 AM
1

I do the same. Whenever I exceed approx. 15% body fat I begin to cut. That figure drops to about 13% during the prime summer months.
/r/askTRP03/01/19 02:44 AM
1

My assessment is that there's a lack of respect on her part because you're not leading her or the household. >I frequently come home and find dirty dishes piled up, books and papers all over every surface, dirty floors, piles of clothes, etc. When I mention it, she says "We [meaning me and her] need to stick to a better cleaning schedule!" This is her giving you an opportunity to create a cleaning schedule for the house. There is work involved in being a leader, set the expectations for whoever …
/r/askTRP02/01/19 08:37 PM
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I would just take the loss on the $100 so you can be over and done with her, otherwise she’s going to stretch out getting her stuff back so that she can try and salvage this by continuing to guilt you, play the victim and infringe on your general happiness and wellbeing. Total hard next her by erasing her from your life. Tell her where and when to pick up her stuff if she wants it back.
/r/askTRP02/01/19 08:20 PM
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Yeah she’s clearly going out with 1 or more guys already and doesn’t want to lose you as an option in case the others fall through. Decline her offer if you have better plans. Soft next but leave open the possibility you could grab drinks or something low/no effort or expense on your part. Let her do the reach out though.
/r/askTRP02/01/19 08:03 PM
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Your welcome man, good luck!
/r/askTRP02/01/19 05:55 PM
2

Be unpredictable. Read the sex god method if you’re looking for some tips on how you can change up your approach. Every girl has their own fantasy/fantasies, try to figure hers out and play to that.
/r/askTRP02/01/19 05:46 PM
2

Either that or you’re too predictable in bed.
/r/askTRP02/01/19 05:45 PM
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Clearly these guys have something you don’t. Stop being critical of them, and the women for this, and look inward at what you need to fix about yourself.
/r/askTRP02/01/19 01:37 PM
2

It’s about how she feels . She’s not rejecting you here, she’s just saying she doesn’t want to feel like an option. I would bring something up about your interaction last night, or her, that sets her apart enough from the rest to feel secure but doesn’t suggest you’d only ever be interested in her.
/r/askTRP01/01/19 04:15 PM
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Not sure about the other 10 messages but you started selling yourself to her here which is unattractive. Worse, you were too blunt/direct with the sex line. You want to be indirect when you bring up sex, or the idea of sex, over text/messaging. In person is a bit different. If you want to throw a Hail Mary at this point you could try something like “would you prefer I lasted shorter?”, referencing her comment about lasting 12 messages.
/r/askTRP01/01/19 04:08 PM
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One one hand she feels uncomfortable because she likely has low self esteem. On the other, she’s attracted by the number of girls interested in you. Tread carefully, you need to indirectly convey that you want to see/meet her again just a little bit more than the other girls so she feels like she’s not 5th on the list.
/r/askTRP01/01/19 04:02 PM
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Rip her clothes off of her. It’s not particularly important what you start with. I have a personal preference for tops then bottoms. Women just want to know that you’re passionate about fucking them.
/r/askTRP01/01/19 01:52 AM
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Don’t know her friends but it really could end up being advantageous for you. Most girls aren’t as insecure as this, it sounds like she values you a lot higher than herself. If anything, I’d try giving her some comfort/security about the relationship between you two (whatever that is).
/r/askTRP31/12/18 10:57 PM
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Let her calm down on her own, you didn’t do anything wrong in this situation and she’s overreacting.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 10:51 PM
1

If i were you I’d ignore her requests and stop making your own of her. Then you revisit the topic by discussing what you appreciate in a girlfriend with her (I.e. doing favors like this for you because she wants to be attentive to your needs). Some girls are stubborn and won’t go along, at that point you have to make the decision on whether or not you’re willing to accept that flaw. The more feminine a girl is, the less likely she’ll (generally) be to ask or require favors in return.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 03:21 AM
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Focus on improving your life to the point where you don’t need to live at home and not women. Only women care about your living arrangement.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 03:17 AM
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More important than having something to tell herself is having something to tell her friends. Girls are far more cognizant of social perception than guys are and can be absolutely destroyed by their friend groups, or have their slutty behavior used against them in an argument. By coming up with a more innocuous reason for her to come over, you give her the “out” she needs with her friends so she can tell them it “just happened” or “one thing led to another.” Those examples you shared are great. …
/r/askTRP30/12/18 03:13 AM
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You let her preserve her reputation of not being a slut. Just tell her you guys will do something else at your place instead (don’t say “we won’t have sex”) and then fuck her when she’s there/doing whatever it is you come up with. What matters is how she FEELS, if she feels like she’s just being used for sex, she won’t be sticking around as long. If you invite her and she isn’t willing to have sex, then withdraw all attention/ignore and do your own thing at your place. If she doesn’t come around…
/r/askTRP30/12/18 03:06 AM
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You’ll get some beginner gains when you first start lifting, just work on doing increasingly heavy compound lifts/workouts (I.e. barbell Row, bench, deadlift, overhead Press, squat, Pull-up, etc.)
/r/askTRP30/12/18 03:03 AM
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Ignore, take away her attention. Not sure how long this has been going on for but it’s your job to set expectations.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 03:01 AM
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Real gains take time. Have to make sure your lifting heavy (low reps) and eating a caloric surplus. You’re not going to get massive arms in a matter of months, it’s not realistic.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 02:59 AM
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Sounds like she doesn’t respect you, need to fix that.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 02:55 AM
1

I’m in Phoenix fairly often but live in Canada (Do like it down here, may relocate at some point). You’ll probably receive better advice from other women at RedPillWomen. It wasn’t initially clear to me that you would consider someone who wasn’t already established. You’ll want to work on making yourself approachable to guys. As a women, it’s your job to screen for the qualities you’re looking for. In terms of where to meet men, spend more time out in the world and doing the activities you enjoy…
/r/askTRP29/12/18 11:05 PM
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Successful men don’t congregate, they are, generally, wherever they have to be to best pursue their mission (usually work related, but could be the gym or a hobby). Most successful men don’t sit around the watering hole waiting to find women. It sounds like your Angling a guy who is in the top 1%. You’re most likely going to have to be in the top 5% of female attractiveness to attract a man like this, unless you have some other extraordinary quality. Based on your evaluation of yourself, you nee…
/r/askTRP29/12/18 10:50 PM
2

You can best handle it by not entertaining the idea of shitting where you eat. It doesn’t matter if you rarely see her during your working hours, she still has the ability to run to HR and tank your career if things go south.
/r/askTRP27/10/18 06:24 PM
1

It’s situation dependent, I can tell you how to wipe your ass but I can’t do it for you.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 10:01 PM
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First of all, don’t try making a move at work or wherever it is you’re volunteering. If she’s interested she’ll be open to hanging out in your free time, so ask her to do something. Then you follow the lessons in the sidebar when you have her isolated and escalate.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 09:17 PM
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If she rejects me, I will move onto gaming another girl. Oneitis. Should be gaming “other girls.” You’re over analyzing this situation, just make a move assuming attraction.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 09:08 PM
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Have you read the sidebar? Gauge her interest by her actions not her words. Words from a woman are meaningless. She clearly already has many dates/fuck sessions lined up over the next couple of weeks. She may be interested, but only if her other options don’t work out.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 06:48 PM
2

Evidently you did not read my clarification above and link to HumanSockPuppet’s guide. Not what I meant by my comment.
/r/askTRP01/08/18 07:47 PM
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That’s what I intended to say with my comment, clearly I didn’t convey that too well.
/r/askTRP01/08/18 02:10 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3pltm2/humansockpuppets_guide_to_managing_your_bitches/?st=JKA8ZT8I&sh=131c2dc7
/r/askTRP31/07/18 10:02 PM
1

No, a plate is meant for an LTR. You should be plating girls before you are engaging in FWB or LTR’s with them.
/r/askTRP31/07/18 09:45 PM
3

Use womanese: “I’m just not feeling the romantic connection” or “I’ve realized I’m not looking for any kind of relationship right now.” She’ll get the message. It’s not your problem that she was an easy lay.
/r/askTRP30/07/18 01:51 AM
1

This.
/r/askTRP28/07/18 02:16 PM
0

If she said she’s “busy” without offering alternative options then her interest is low. In which case I’d wait a week before even getting in contact with her again. If you get a similar response (or turned down) again, you need to soft next.
/r/askTRP27/07/18 05:53 PM
2

FYI, she’s only a potential plate until you’ve fucked her 2+ times without any commitment (I.e. no elaborate dates/‘BF’ or ‘BFF’ hangouts). You shouldn’t be seeing a plate more than twice a week (max) as you need time to game/see other plates.
/r/askTRP27/07/18 05:40 PM
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If (hypothetically) OP is a 5, he needs to be realistic in that he’s not going to be able to pull HB9’s. Obviously he needs to work on his SMV in this case, but some guys here are deluded into believe they should be aiming for HB8’s or 9’s when they’re 6s themselves.
/r/askTRP27/07/18 04:01 PM
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Don’t say “lmk if you’re down,” just assume she’s down. Also, too much chit-chat on Tinder and text. Be as direct and to the point as possible on logistics once you’ve established some initial rapport (3-5 tinder messages). I wouldn’t say you’ve necessarily missed your shot with this girl. Wait a week, if she doesn’t text in that time then set up a date at a specific place and time. If she agrees, great. If she says anything else without offering an alternative date/time, then soft next.
/r/askTRP27/07/18 02:15 PM
1

Usually slowly if it’s the first kiss. Just hold eye contact when there’s silence in the conversation and go for it.
/r/askTRP26/07/18 02:48 AM
12

Go ask r/NoFap.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 03:18 PM
3

You’re the man, it rests on you. Girls will want sex badly but still aren’t going to make moves on you (hence all the stories from guys who watched the entire movie with the girl without fucking her). They will reciprocate escalation to an extent but you’re still the one escalating.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 12:23 PM
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I'll give you it quick as I have a plate coming over but I think your response was okay; you probably should've just replied "okay" though (stick to the 2/3 rule). I'd say that there's not a lot of value in trying to game this girl any further, your time is going to be better spent on others. Sometime you need to strike when the iron's hot (i.e. yesterday), that may have been the case here. The good thing is you can learn from this experience to not invest much attention in flakey/indecisive gir…
/r/askTRP25/07/18 02:20 AM
2

First, probably shouldn't have asked and just told her to come over at 'blank' time. It's also not likely a test. I see two possibilities. One, she found sex elsewhere and has lost interest, or two, she didn't like the idea of your parents being home. My gut says it's more likely the former, which is trouble. All you can really do is respond with 'k.' If it is option two, you could tell her to come to 'insert place' at 'insert time' and make sure it could lead to fucking.
/r/askTRP25/07/18 01:53 AM
1

Cheers. Good luck man
/r/askTRP24/07/18 08:43 PM
2

Depends on the situation. If you’ve had sex already, it’s not as critical you meet them somewhere else first. But obviously take the lead in making any plans.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 08:42 PM
2

It’s fine to invest a bit more time into the hotter girl but I wouldn’t do anything that you wouldn’t consider doing with your other plate. You could also tell her to come see you in whatever town you’ll be in.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 08:27 PM
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If she’s invested enough it would definitely be a power move, but you’d also be sacrificing more ideal logistics so it’s up to you. Does your other plate make the trip to see you? Would use that as a gauge here.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 07:46 PM
2

I would create the expectation. If she isn’t willing to then her interest level is low, especially if you’ve already had sex. On the other hand, if you travel to her it doesn’t exactly scream abundance. If you’re going to visit her, you should have another reason to travel that distance besides seeing her.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 06:24 PM
3

Plates should be traveling to you if the sex is good enough.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 05:41 PM
9

Dominance. Everything else (including muscles) is a derivative of a dominant presence.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 05:40 PM
1

TL;dr but work on implementing some discipline into your life and interactions with others.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 04:13 PM
1

Here you go: guide to managing your bitches
/r/askTRP24/07/18 04:10 PM
5

Well played man
/r/askTRP24/07/18 02:33 AM
3

Cheers and good luck with the lay
/r/askTRP24/07/18 01:31 AM
15

Yes, don’t over-text her like you did before.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 01:27 AM
2

You can reject her if you want that’s not going to do much for you (if you do tell her you’re not looking for a relationship). I’d skip getting the drink altogether and just invite her wherever it is you can fuck her (park with some wine, car for a drive, etc.)
/r/askTRP24/07/18 01:20 AM
2

There’s no point in being overt about your intentions, girls don’t respond to that. That’s fine to start, but she’s not going to invite herself over so you’ll have to lead if she is looking for sex.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 01:06 AM
0

Why do you care other than to try and be a pussy by not going for it?
/r/askTRP24/07/18 12:59 AM
3

Your paragraphs before screamed of desperation. You’ve already sank enough time into her, if I were you I’d try the easy fuck and game other girls if she doesn’t bite. In my experience, 90% of the time a girl hits you up out of the blue like this it’s because she’s looking to get fucked.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 12:56 AM
3

Text back and invite her over.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 12:40 AM
1

She wouldn’t have told you in the first place if she’d of done it, and even if she did, wouldn’t tell you in a shit-eating way if she wasn’t looking for a response from you.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 10:03 PM
0

Shit test = failed
/r/askTRP23/07/18 09:47 PM
2

If it’s a first date and you’re not just trying to invite them over, then tell them what you’re going to be doing (drink, coffee, park, etc.) If you’re trying to jump to inviting them over then you have to tell them you’re going to do something that doesn’t involve sex so they have some plausible deniability. This method is going to be less successful (but also lower effort).
/r/askTRP22/07/18 07:37 PM
2

Women are just women. Once you realize that AWALT, you’ll be thanking your lucky stars that they’re all sluts.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 01:03 PM
4

Then just keep cutting, do some cardio/HIIT and do some weights just to get your form down. But don’t expect any significant gains if you’re cutting.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 11:32 PM
4

What’re you at right now? If you don’t have much noticeable fat but are at 15%-16% I’d start getting bigger now. You can cut back down to 12% after. If you’re skinny right now you’ll fill out anyway.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 11:25 PM
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Not eating enough clearly. If you’re not at eating a surplus you’re not gaining muscle. Also make sure you’re getting 8+ hours of sleep a night
/r/askTRP20/07/18 11:20 PM
3

Yes, don’t give them access.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 10:53 PM
5

It should be cultivated to negate the ‘fat is beautiful’ myth that society is perpetuating. I’m not about to being wasting my time and attention on girls I have no interest in.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 06:59 PM
2

The hot girls are generally nicer to talk to since fewer guys actually do talk to them. Some do put up a cold exterior before you actually begin a conversation though.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 06:41 PM
1

I could certainly be wrong. I’ve speculated that it could also be the validation/level of interest that’s provided by the kiss that makes them feel like they don’t need to have sex right away. It could be inconsequential, but in my experience, 85% of the time I’ve had first date sex has been when I didn’t escalate to a kiss before I had her home.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 05:21 PM
1

Using a kiss to gauge interest isn’t super effective as girls will still return it even if they don’t plan on seeing you again. If you’re going for a first date lay, my experience is that 85% of the time it happens when you haven’t kissed them prior to having them back home on your couch or bed. My theory is that kissing a girl releases a lot of the sexual tension she’s been building up on the date. If you let her cool down after (I.e. not escalate further to sex), you’re unlikely to get her bac…
/r/askTRP20/07/18 05:01 PM
2

I’m just giving you my advice OP. It doesn’t take experience to avoid overthinking it. The key is to remember abundance. If you don’t go in believing you have other options, you’re going be awkward, anxious, and not have a very good time.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 02:26 PM
5

If you need to PM someone, you’re seriously overthinking this. Just go somewhere simple, do something simple, and enjoy yourself. You’re not going to be a master of this from the start.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 01:54 PM
1

You need practice. These principles don’t manifest themselves in behavior without application.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 01:03 PM
2

Follow the wisdom of the sidebar. Also, don’t kiss her or escalate beyond that unless you’re in a position to actually have sex with her at that point.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 12:58 PM
2

OP, your question is more suitable for r/RedPillWomen. That sub is focused on female sexual strategy, this one on male sexual strategy.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 12:25 PM
3

If you’re doing things right she won’t care that she’s disobeying her parents to spend time with you. If anything, that will enhance the feels.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 12:13 PM
3

Wrong sub It’s over, “I don’t want a relationship” means she doesn’t want one with YOU. The LJBF response is just a platitude, she’s not too interested in that either. You showed lack of abundance from the second you made plans to meet her and have now developed oneitis. Soft next.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/18 12:45 AM
2

Then get better at small talk by talking to more people.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 12:27 AM
2

Absolutely not. Tell her you like your current place, she’ll get the message.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 12:26 AM
2

I’d reach out. It’s odd she hasn’t already since girls will often smother you with attention after sex (especially if it’s good).
/r/askTRP19/07/18 06:31 PM
2

Context? Have you had sex? Most likely you reach out and ask her out.
/r/askTRP19/07/18 06:27 PM
35

You didn’t dread her, you rejected her and she moved on.
/r/askTRP19/07/18 04:18 PM
3

I’m happy, horny and tired This is an awful approach to talking to a girl. Her boyfriend is there Congratulations, you’re an orbiter (unless they’re looking for a threesome but that would be unlikely here).
/r/askTRP18/07/18 01:20 PM
3

Ignore until you’re ready to invite her out to something. Her investment obviously isn’t that high.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 11:50 PM
1

If they persist in asking questions it’s best to side-step the question itself and turn it into a game of them trying to find out (except they’re not going to find out unless they’re in front of you).
/r/askTRP13/07/18 06:13 PM
1

You shouldn’t have “overflowing conversation” with any girl over text. All you’re doing is destroying the mystery in her eyes and setting yourself up to say something that will be interpreted in a different context. Don’t ask if she’s still up for it, that gives her an easy out. Just re-affirm the date details (e.g. “see you at such and such at ‘insert time’.”)
/r/askTRP13/07/18 05:39 PM
1

You need to be more direct if you’re unsure of whether it’s actually happening. Obviously be prepared that she could flake but don’t assume it’s not happening because you haven’t talked since setting it up.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 04:59 PM
3

If she wasn’t actively/obviously trying to hide it, it can still very well be intentional. Girls can be both subtle and manipulative when they want to be.
/r/askTRP11/07/18 04:41 PM
11

She most likely did it with the explicit intention to try and dread you into wanting something exclusive or longer term with her. Best to just ignore it. If she’s continuously doing it and it bothers you that much, acknowledge it and tell her to not do so in your prescience without showing any emotion.
/r/askTRP11/07/18 04:32 PM
6

I’m 6’4”, you need to lower your weight if your form is poor. Pain in the knees is usually a result of poor form. Are you breaking parallel? Squats will work all of the muscles in your legs but you may also want to do some isolated calf work as well.
/r/askTRP11/07/18 03:00 PM
4

This doesn’t belong here. You have extreme Oneitis and need to drop this girl, she’s not interested in you anymore (if she ever were). “I don’t want a relationship” is woman-speak for “I don’t want a relationship WITH YOU.”
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 04:03 PM
6

Tell her to come back to your place to do something that doesn’t involve sec and gives her plausible deniability. If the date is going well, that’s all they’re looking for.
/r/askTRP09/07/18 02:34 PM
45

Yes, don’t go. She’s rejecting you.
/r/askTRP09/07/18 10:40 AM
4

Even if she were initially interested, you would’ve failed to maintain it in your conversation. Giving her an intentional cold stare is giving up your frame.
/r/RPChristians08/07/18 11:23 PM
6

At Starbucks, they’re instructed to make attempts to get to know their customers. If you ever get their survey requests you’ll notice that they ask you to evaluate whether or not the baristas made an attempt to “get to know you.” This is exactly what this was. Happens to me all the time with the male/female baristas; read nothing into it.
/r/RPChristians08/07/18 11:13 PM
6

It’s usually a good indicator of interest, they’re trying to qualify themselves to you.
/r/askTRP08/07/18 08:07 PM
1

You admit yourself that you are hamstering away your frame and not leading through failure to initiate texts. It sounds like you already know the answer.
/r/askTRP08/07/18 08:06 PM
2

Just look to u/vasiliyzaitzev and his posts inspiration (example: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3vxfyj/life_after_30_how_to_be_an_old_guy/?st=JJD8T57Y&sh=129d4b71).
/r/askTRP08/07/18 07:39 PM
3

First problem is that your conversations are all boring or the same as 98% of other guys. Second problem is that many girls on Tinder are validation/attention seeking and your SMV doesn’t stack up to the other guys she’s matched with.
/r/askTRP07/07/18 03:48 PM
3

Avoid any comments that could be construed in any non-business manner. Reporting it would be a huge risk as the reporting environment (especially right now) favors women and it would be very easy for her to flip the script on you.
/r/askTRP06/07/18 01:33 AM
1

It doesn’t, don’t listen to them
/r/askTRP05/07/18 04:15 PM
4

It has to come from within to hold frame and not come off as a phony. You have to confidently know/believe that you are superior to them and that you are doing them a favor by even allowing them to be in your presence/interact with you.
/r/askTRP03/07/18 07:55 PM
3

In the context of right or wrong, I would argue they are right.
/r/RPChristians03/07/18 03:47 PM
3

There is nothing immoral about the RedPill. Human nature and the sexual marketplace are not immoral.
/r/RPChristians03/07/18 01:46 PM
64

Stop losing frame. The girls aren’t interested in him because of his negging, they’re interested because he has strong frame (is alpha), attractive (tall and dark), and has social proof (a girlfriend). It’s evident from the examples you’ve cited that you aren’t holding any kind of frame and are simply falling into his.
/r/askTRP29/06/18 03:42 PM
1

Your post history says otherwise.
/r/askTRP28/06/18 07:22 PM
1

That is just hamstering, we are sexual beings first and foremost. Any other excuse is just hamstering.
/r/askTRP28/06/18 05:13 PM
5

All women “day game” all the time. Nearly everything they do is either directly or indirectly designed to draw attention and attraction from men.
/r/askTRP28/06/18 03:53 PM
59

Keep using condoms. Control the birth control. If she’s only on the pill, you should still be using them.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 01:52 PM
3

Nothing.
/r/askTRP15/06/18 11:24 AM
3

For one, you’ll lose out on the opportunity that she might reach out to you at some point if her other options fall through. Texting now just shows how desperate you are and is inherently problematic because obviously you have no abundance mindset.
/r/askTRP13/06/18 07:55 PM
5

She’s already got plans with at least one other guy but values you enough not to completely toss out the opportunity to see you if the others fall through. Soft next. If she does surface and you’re fine with the above, make sure it’s a date that’ll happen at a specified time and place (preferably sooner than later).
/r/askTRP13/06/18 07:36 PM
4

It depends on your confidence. It’s more intimidating than if she’s alone, but girls are also seldomly alone, and personally, I find it easier when they’re with mom than with friends. I would go so far as to say it’s easier to get a number though since the joke above will almost always create a positive impression which can be more difficult to establish in other situations.
/r/askTRP13/06/18 04:20 PM
6

As long as you’re respectful they’ll handle it well and sometimes even help you out. Just be pleasant and not overtly sexual and you’ll be fine.
/r/askTRP13/06/18 03:57 PM
7

I’ve actually had success saying something like “Hey, are you two sisters?” Of course they both laugh and then its pretty easy to ask for their daughters phone number. In these cases I will actually throw a compliment about their daughter to the mother. Just be a gentleman about the interaction.
/r/askTRP13/06/18 02:48 PM
1

This is a good point. Never stick to rules when unnecessary; doesn’t matter if it’s # of texts or # of reps.
/r/askTRP13/06/18 02:25 PM
8

It should only take 5 messages max to get their number then ask out.
/r/askTRP13/06/18 11:04 AM
1

You might as well do the tinder girl if you’re able to get to that point. Using the hooker skips the issue of getting to the point of escalating to sex.
/r/askTRP13/06/18 12:33 AM
1

It could be that she just wanted the attention/validation or a new orbiter. There’s little logic in trying to rationalize her actions and behaviors in cases like this. Just learn from it and move on.
/r/askTRP12/06/18 09:50 PM
1

Can’t speak to why exactly. It’s possible she was extending a last chance olive branch, so you might have had a shot but may have lost it at some point on the date.
/r/askTRP12/06/18 09:43 PM
2

You lost after you failed to fuck her on the first date. Did she not have condoms at her place? Seems unlikely... Even if you didn’t have condoms, that doesn’t stop her from giving oral. You failed to show you were chad by not escalating enough on the first date and she lost interest.
/r/askTRP12/06/18 09:27 PM
1

Yes, you just need to get used to your own sexuality as a man to become comfortable with it. When talking to girls, try to practice channeling those inner desires you have to fuck them into your outward body language, actions, and words. Best way to ease into cold approaches is to just start talking to anyone and everyone in public. Once you get used to striking up conversations with strangers, it’s not so hard to move onto girls you’re actually interested in.
/r/askTRP12/06/18 07:47 PM
3

I’m not a psychologist but your anxiety is deriving from your fear of judgement and rejection (I.e.: How will she respond if I become sexual with her? Will she reject my advances?). The only way to tackle these is to become comfortable with the source of the fear, your masculinity. I don’t mean internalize your thoughts, I mean externalize your interns desires. Do express your sexuality whenever you feel like it, chances are (especially in the case you cited) she’s WAITING for you to do just tha…
/r/askTRP12/06/18 05:00 PM
21

You’re scared of your own masculinity and fear that it is going to offend her. Stop this train of thought. Women want to have sex with men and commit to men because of their masculinity. Masculinity is sexual and the desire to have sex is inherent to it. You need to stop fearing your own sexual expression. If it’s a matter of not actually feeling sexual when you’re with her, then you may want to get your T-levels checked.
/r/askTRP12/06/18 04:34 PM
10

Age is just a number. Treat her like you would any other girl you were going out with. There are 30 and 40 year olds dating 20-something’s, don’t sweat it.
/r/askTRP12/06/18 01:55 PM
1

She’s going to catch feelings, doesn’t mean you have to. If you want to keep plates interested they have to believe there is potential for commitment at some point. In most cases, they’re not going to give up sex if they don’t feel that opportunity exists. The benefit of women operating covertly/passively is that you can convey through your actions to her that there may be an opportunity for commitment without actually committing to it.
/r/askTRP12/06/18 01:24 PM
3

No, women don’t respond well to overt communication, they operate in the covert. You’ve chatted long enough, ask her out on an actual date. That should be covert enough to communicate your intentions aren’t solely pump and dump (even if they were) without promising her any more.
/r/askTRP12/06/18 01:18 PM
1

She’s saying that because all you’ve been talking about is sex so she feels like an object and wants more than a pump and dump. Doesn’t mean you have to commit and can’t plate.
/r/askTRP12/06/18 12:36 PM
3

Whether or not you should use a hooker depends on your frame of mind: If you’re concerned that you won’t perform well at sex: Don’t get a hooker. You very well may not be that great to begin with (this can depend though since sex is a rather natural instinct), but just focus on enjoying yourself and don’t worry about it. If you’re concerned that you won’t be able to escalate to sex because of your anxiety over being a virgin: Consider a hooker. For some guys, your virginity can become a mental b…
/r/askTRP12/06/18 12:02 PM
7

It helps because it shows you have a life, interests, passions, etc. Also makes you a more intriguing guy.
/r/askTRP11/06/18 11:28 PM
1

Anecdotally, I agree. From personal experience, it has been easier to escalate to sex on the first date of the kiss is part of that escalation. If the two events are independent, the odds of sex happening seem to drop.
/r/askTRP11/06/18 08:48 PM
10

so we’ll meet somewhere. Stop pussy footing around and tell her to meet you wherever it is you live because that’s clearly what you’re looking for. If she’s not prepared to do that, then you need to soft next because she’s not worth any further investment. You clearly don’t understand the intent of a soft next, it is to forget about her not to have her come crawling back.
/r/askTRP10/06/18 12:46 AM
1

I’m reluctant to reach out to her because I’m already at strike two. This is a stupid reason not to text her. You’re going to strike out more than you score, this is a fact of life and is not solely relevant to women.
/r/askTRP10/06/18 12:06 AM
4

Then you’re just wasting your own time and this subs. Who gives a shit what some 12 year old has to say about a YouTube video.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 11:51 PM
3

Then you need to find more feminine plates.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 11:43 PM
9

You need to work out your issues my friend. No one should be this upset about a normal bodily function. They try to laugh it off to avoid the embarrassment. Unless your plates are extremely comfortable with you, they don’t enjoy letting one out in your presence.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 11:33 PM
2

Stop relying on her for your own comfort and happiness and cut/delete all contacts if you have to.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 11:29 PM
6

You act and respond in a manner that conveys you get those types of compliments all the time. “Thanks” works.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 11:19 PM
2

Unlikely. I can’t count how many times girls I know or have plated have thrown responsibility to the wind to meet up. They’ll figure out a way to make it work if their interest is high enough. It’s possible there was some interest, but not enough.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 11:16 PM
2

I think you did fine but it’s clear she’s not interested. Exams or not, she’d make herself available at some point, even briefly, to see you if she truly wanted to.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 10:55 PM
1

Good luck brother, just remember that the squat cage is your friend, and hit those macros.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 10:53 PM
1

I did machines and free weight isolated work for years with poor results given all the time I invested (diet was poor and compound movements are critical) before getting more educated about lifting. So, I was by no means new to the gym when I did 5x5 but my posture didn’t improve until I began it.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 10:39 PM
3

Seconded.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 10:22 PM
1

I’m also 6’4” and was previously lanky before fixing diet and lifting. Deadlifts, squats, and other compound weightlifting with an Olympic barbell will really help improve your posture. Using exercises from (or just doing) the Stronglifts 5x5 will facilitate this. If you work in an office or sit a lot, it also helps to get a proper ergonomic chair with an effective lumbar support mechanism.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 09:59 PM
1

It’s not a matter of whether it’s necessary but whether she is actually attracted. IOIs don’t mean shit if the girl isn’t going to take his lead. Suggesting that she said no because of a simple dinner invite is just hamstering away reality.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 01:16 AM
2

Correct
/r/askTRP08/06/18 01:12 AM
1

He got stood up twice in a row, so no, she was not interested. Girls will go out of their way to see a guy they’re interested in. Not sure what planet you’re living on; it certainly can’t be Earth.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 12:59 AM
3

Yes. You’re way too outcome dependent with one girl. When you have many, you won’t care if one starts going cold.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 12:56 AM
8

No, you clearly have oneitis and a lack of abundance.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 12:53 AM
2

r/RedPillWomen is for you.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 12:00 AM
2

Why are you asking here?
/r/askTRP07/06/18 11:44 PM
4

What do you want to do? As long as you ask yourself that, you’ll avoid straying from your frame. If you want to go to the place suggested, then do it. If not, don’t.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 07:50 PM
3

I got stood up by her. She was never interested in you. You read he entire situation wrong and continued to orbit from this point on.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 07:47 PM
5

Stop hamstering and go bang girls.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 06:25 PM
1

The environment she grew up in will also impact her view of gender roles. If she’s from a traditional nuclear family, she may very well reflect many red pill traits, yet not be plugged into the movement directly. Personally, the women I’ve encountered who were most red-pilled (on a spectrum) were from traditional backgrounds with an alpha male provider as father and a stay-at-home mother.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 06:23 PM
2

I’m not saying you’re not ugly, but remember that people fill in the blanks with their imaginations. When she’s picturing you, she’s picturing an ideal man. Once you’ve built up that expectation in her - by no fault of your own by the way - there’s going to be disappointment if you don’t fit right into that mold (which is unlikely). It’s the same reason that lingerie is hotter than no lingerie for many guys. You take it off and you realize the tits weren’t as big as you imagined or the pussy not…
/r/askTRP07/06/18 06:19 PM
1

Why does it matter? If she is in fact red-pilled, then that’s great for you. If she doesn’t follow TRP but acts like she does, that’s also great for you.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 06:12 PM
14

By having more sex. That’s the unfortunate reality. But in my opinion, it takes actually having sex to realize that as great as it is, it’s not THAT great.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 06:09 PM
1

That just further proves my point. Kim Kardashian does not fit perfectly into the male ideal of beauty.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 01:21 AM
5

Because women and society are deluding themselves into believing that fat is beautiful, despite the fact that beauty standards are set by men who almost universally prefer fit/thin women.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 01:15 AM
1

AWALT =\= AWATS (All Women Are the Same). You’re probably not a branch she would/could realistically swing to so you’d have a more difficult time getting her to sleep with you. Withdraw attention and go from there.
/r/askTRP06/06/18 04:20 PM
21

Many girls are shy types. Shy types will actively avoid and ignore you if they are attracted to you. Just go and talk to them, but realize you’ll have to lead the interaction, especially at first.
/r/askTRP06/06/18 03:21 PM
6

It’s up to you to set boundaries. Whatever she can get away with, she will do. YOU have to decide what you are and aren’t comfortable with in an LTR. You can always let her go out for a GNO but have her come home to you.
/r/askTRP06/06/18 03:16 PM
1

You should have asked her out somewhere right off the bat. If you are just an orbiter, then this would’ve put the issue to bed. It’s better to just be rejected by this friend (who you don’t even see anymore) then continue to ponder your chances.
/r/askTRP06/06/18 03:12 PM
2

I’m going to give you, free of charge, Phoenixston’s 5 steps to freeing yourself from this disease: Read the sidebar again. Then read (at minimum) the first 5 pages of top posts on the official TRP subreddit. Then read the Rational Male and Book of Pook. Internalize the realities of the sexual marketplace and apply them to your own situation. This should have you seething with rage at your own idiocy. Hard next this woman. Cut all contact. Normally this wouldn’t be necessary, but in your case, i…
/r/askTRP06/06/18 03:05 PM
8

For the fapping: No, unless you have ED; then maybe. For the porn: Yes, best to avoid it.
/r/askTRP06/06/18 02:34 PM
26

“No.”
/r/askTRP05/06/18 01:46 AM
1

Well then you need to actually ask her out: “well, then join me for coffee at ‘insert place’ on ‘insert day’ at ‘insert time’.”
/r/askTRP04/06/18 11:13 PM
3

That is not “asking her on a date.”
/r/askTRP04/06/18 11:05 PM
1

What did you ask her exactly? If you have a time and place then you should say nothing, she’s not interested.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 10:49 PM
1

This.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 06:27 PM
2

Ditch the PUA garbage. It’s dull, boring, and repeated ad infinitum by every guy looking for a cookie cutter method to picking up girls. Find something in their profile or appearance and pick on that. Also, get rid of the shirtless mirror and selfie pics. If you’re going to use a shirtless pic, it has to look natural. Finally, don’t use online dating as your primary tool for gaming girls.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 06:25 PM
6

Tips/Advice: Don’t accept the premise of the question/statement. Re-frame the question/statement. Give her some plausible deniability so she doesn’t sound like a slut when she tells her friends (e.g similar type of reason you’d give if you went out first and wanted her to come home with you).
/r/askTRP04/06/18 03:14 PM
3

Do whichever you’d like, neither option is bad. I would frame the first option slightly differently though. Tell her you’d like to grab a drink before your event and invite her to join you.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 02:49 PM
5

Stop spending money on this girl that you’re not even having sex yet. Go for cheap dates like coffee, or better yet, go on free dates like a hike or visit to the park. Benefit of the latter options is that you can fuck her in either of those environments if the settings right.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 01:11 PM
6

Yes, because initially you’re losing a lot of water weight. 2 pounds a week is more than plenty. If you cut too much you’re going to experience loss in muscle/strength. You should be eating more than 1,000 calories a day, go for a 500 calorie deficit.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 12:32 PM
1

Why are you asking us and not a doctor? When it comes to your reproductive organs, don’t take advice from the internet.
/r/askTRP03/06/18 12:38 AM
1

If you didn’t make any move then RogerNorvell is right and it’s over for you.
/r/askTRP02/06/18 10:16 PM
1

I’m not saying provide her commitment, by no means do that. But you can reinforce the fact you enjoy spending time with her and want to see her again. The ease of doing this depends on the quality of her relationship with her current BF as well.
/r/askTRP02/06/18 10:15 PM
3

I disagree with some of the other posters. She “feels bad” because she fucked you but doesn’t know whether or not you’re willing to commit to her enough for her to leave her boyfriend. Not sure how you want to to play this but that’s the reason. Tl;dr She’s trying to swing to your branch.
/r/askTRP02/06/18 10:06 PM
2

Half of the background is missing, why did you not close her (or at least try to) the last time you were out?
/r/askTRP02/06/18 10:00 PM
1

It’s not necessarily a bad idea, just be prepared if she already has plans. Ideally you should be doing whatever it is anyways, whether she’s able to make it or not.
/r/askTRP02/06/18 05:38 PM
7

You may not be putting them on a pedestal but you are probably repressing your masculinity for fear of being perceived as “creepy.” Don’t hide your sexuality around them and you’ll get better at it.
/r/askTRP02/06/18 03:06 PM
1

Your hamster really went into overdrive writing this post. Sure, there are some incels around here, but the majority of us do not hate women. If you took the time to actually digest the red pill rather than puke it up into this post, you’d realize it’s about understanding women not hating them.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/18 02:01 AM
3

It would make you look like a socially inexperienced and insecure beta.
/r/askTRP02/06/18 01:26 AM
3

Because she doesn’t care about the fact that you’re left hanging. They aren’t capable of empathizing with your feelings because their’s come first.
/r/askTRP02/06/18 01:20 AM
6

I can tell you are not well versed in Womanese. Women don’t communicate overtly, but being somewhat fluent in their native tongue, I can confidently tell you that she is not interested.
/r/askTRP02/06/18 01:17 AM
4

She’ll be more than happy to branch swing if she feels you could become her new boyfriend, but she doesn’t yet have that commitment from you and doesn’t want to be used as a pump and dump for nothing. You might have better luck inviting her on a date and then going back to your place.
/r/askTRP01/06/18 12:00 PM
1

If being direct and to the point is spergy to you, then so be it. The stats are just there to convey the fact that words still matter, but that non-verbal factors play a greater role in certain mediums of communication; the OPs is one such example. That disqualification tactic actually requires the girl to be interested. Moreover, what does she require plausible deniability for in this instance? He’s not inviting her over to his place.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 03:57 PM
1

Irrelevant. being sarcastic doesn’t negate the language. Tone (sarcasm in this case) is 38% of what you convey and words are 7%, doesn’t matter how they’re delivered.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 03:21 PM
3

You’re not presenting yourself as masculine enough. Fix that first.
/r/askTRP30/05/18 02:47 PM
8

talk about “life and stuff... as friends!” You just relegated yourself to being her beta orbiter, congrats.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 02:46 PM
12

Suggest you try r/RPchristians for better advice.
/r/askTRP30/05/18 01:12 PM
5

If you have proper compound exercise routines and aren’t already a hulk then 3 days a week is enough. What affects your gains is stunting muscle growth by over-lifting. 90% of your results are diet.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 07:45 PM
1

Have you played around with your caloric surplus? If not then you may need to eat more than you currently are. Would need stats rather than meal plan.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 07:43 PM
1

What does your diet and macros look like?
/r/askTRP29/05/18 07:37 PM
6

Do: Realize the importance of first impressions, work hard, ask questions and have solutions (this also applies to policies/practices), put yourself in other peoples shoes (view things from a diverse set of perspectives), and realize your place at work Don’t: go to your boss or others solely with problems, make your boss look bad, slack off, or let people walk all over you. There are many more...
/r/askTRP29/05/18 07:11 PM
7

No nice way of putting it; man up and put your own happiness first.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 07:04 PM
1

My opinion is that you are employing far too much conversation for an online dating platform. Being sexual on your messages can certainly work but the second she wasn’t that receptive to it you should’ve just jumped to asking for the number. Communication is only 7% words so it’s very difficult to “converse” all that effectively if you’re not face to face. That’s why you want to jump to the number and a meet up ASAP.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 05:55 PM
6

They’re stupid.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 05:52 PM
5

It’s also the reason, if any, she cooled on you.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 11:57 AM
7

No, inviting them over is not a problem.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 01:04 AM
2

You’re really over complicating this. First, it’s a rarity to get a girl to just come right over to your place if you’ve never met before, unless you’re of extreme SMV. Otherwise, from the female perspective, it’s extremely sketchy and risky. Just get them to do something low investment and fun for you that can lead to going back to your place. Then you fuck them and send them on their way. I text them just after they leave to tell them I enjoyed it and then disappear for a couple days. Second t…
/r/askTRP28/05/18 11:46 PM
1

Cheers.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 11:02 PM
9

I hope you’re trolling but fear you’re not. Don’t talk about this shit with anyone, especially girls.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 10:34 PM
1

Not familiar with Christian Troy.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 10:32 PM
6

AWALT, it’s just as biological as the natural male state.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 10:31 PM
3

Harvey Specter (at least in season 1/2) on Suits.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 10:28 PM
2

Yeah I assumed that went without saying. But if you’re serious about targeting a certain age range then their range is irrelevant.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 10:26 PM
3

I’d say 5 is as high as you want to go. You can also play around with the range/distance. If you want to go up a bit on the age spread then drop radius. You can always go back and expand the age range temporarily if you have extra time on your hands, just to swipe through the girls outside your usual range.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 10:17 PM
2

Provision.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 10:09 PM
4

Keep in mind the more strict your criteria, the more likely you are to be shown to girls (at least on tinder). Keep it as small as you’re comfortable with.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 10:08 PM
5

Just ignore her hamstering. What women say =/= reality.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 10:07 PM
1

Unless “perverted” is manifested in some sort of illegal thought or behavior then it’s usually just “sexual.” The other situation where it can cross a line is if the social environment doesn’t support it.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 05:56 PM
14

Women want men who are not afraid of their sexuality or expressing it.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 05:15 PM
1

I didn’t suggest you said that. Don’t think we’re going to agree on the true nature of an alpha male because no two are the same. Your specific characterization is of one who is on the extreme end of testosterone levels and disagreeableness with low intelligence and poor mental health. This ties into my point on the varying makeup of alpha males. There’s a difference between stupid risks and calculated risks. The latter leads to financial security but does require a degree of intellect. Your pre…
/r/askTRP28/05/18 02:36 PM
0

Yes they are. There are a myriad of studies showing that the traits associated with alpha behavior are positively correlated with earning potential and net worth. Your perception of the alpha male is akin to what you’d read in a textbook; drawn to the extremes and not consistent with reality or the real world. I do agree that lower testosterone men prefer relationships, that is consistent with the chemical effects of testosterone. But there’s more to life than just sex, that’s why you’ll see alp…
/r/askTRP28/05/18 02:16 PM
1

You’re referring to the sexual strategy of females over their lifetime. I’m not saying the sexual strategy is wrong, I’m saying that women prefer the alpha but will settle for the beta provider where necessary. There are alpha males who settle into LTRs, you do realize this?
/r/askTRP28/05/18 01:21 PM
2

That is applicable in a theoretical and purely primal context but not a practical one. Many alpha males do choose to settle down, it’s not purely a pump and dump strategy. Alpha males are also statistically better “providers” with respect to financial security. To suggest otherwise is to contend that LTRs are not possible. This isn’t to say that alpha’s in LTR’s are “provisioning” in the same manner as beta bucks.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 12:55 PM
7

Wrong. All women prefer an alpha male over a beta male. If they can’t get commitment from the alpha, that’s when they turn to the beta.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 11:53 AM
3

Never.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 07:31 PM
11

Did Billy confirm any of this? Because it’s possible she was fucking with you given you brought up “Billy” first.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 12:09 PM
2

This is applicable in a general sense but when it comes to direct friend groups it’s not going to lower your perceived SMV. People associate with those they deem of similar attractiveness/value. In this context, your gaming the slightly less attractive girl in the group is not going to disqualify you from the more attractive ones. If anything, your original evaluation of the situation was more correct.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 12:02 PM
5

Sounds like you’ve internalized PUA not TRP.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 01:57 AM
3

You need to learn to accept your masculinity. Men are sexual by nature but have been brought up to oppress their sexual desires. Learn to free yourself from this oppression and you’ll be far more successful.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 01:17 AM
3

This is exactly why you don’t hard next, even though that’s not what you really did here, if it’s just a rejection. Hard next is for serious breaches of TRP code.
/r/askTRP26/05/18 11:02 PM
5

Focus first on keeping your shoulders back, this should naturally improve any slouch you have in your lower back. Also, head more upwards/straightforward.
/r/askTRP26/05/18 03:06 PM
10

It’s beta as fuck. They may exchange favors for some validation but you’re not making their pussy tingle.
/r/askTRP26/05/18 03:03 PM
4

You are a troll who has tried to bait this sub in the past with the same story; most probably in an effort to discredit this group for the unendorsed views of some select incels. Yes, they are bad. Happy? TRP would never endorse this type of behavior.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 10:53 PM
3

Yes. I’ve had girls I’ve soft nexted come crawling back. I don’t let the original rejection bother me and see no value in a hard next. There is going to be a push-pull in any interaction but if she’s continuously feigning it then yes, withdraw attention.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 10:50 PM
6

It’s usually the latter, yes. But then it’s a soft next. Why cut-off all connection immediately in a situation like this? If you’re having to hard next in a situation like this then you need to work on your confidence and ego.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 10:39 PM
7

Hard next is for situations where the girl has hurt you irreversibly (e.g cheating in an LTR), not where she feigns disinterest. Sometimes she’ll say no because she thinks she has better options and then comes crawling back when horny.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 10:36 PM
15

Means they’re not interested. Soft next, sometimes they will reach out themselves when you drop interest.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 10:34 PM
3

Definitely not.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 10:33 PM
2

It works for me because I put little investment into it and can get enough leads to recruit new plates.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 07:51 PM
8

If all you’re doing is studying and working then you’re going to have a difficult time. I meet girls through participation in activities/sports of interest or hobbies. Also use dating apps like Tinder for backups when I do find time to properly go out.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 04:48 PM
15

Stop right now. Go read the sidebar. Do not pass go.
/r/askTRP24/05/18 12:22 PM
1

There are many reasons. Not least of which include you getting way too comfortable, financial/legal impacts (dependent on cohabitation laws in your legal jurisdiction), difficulties if things go south, inability to apply dread game (an important component of TRP), etc.
/r/askTRP22/05/18 12:03 PM
1

Women’s tests of your frame are designed to establish whether or not you’re a NATURAL alpha. That is who they desire. If your relationship starts with you being a beta, then the game is already over for you. If you are not a natural alpha, then the next best thing is an alpha mindset. But this only works on girls who don’t know that your true nature is beta.
/r/askTRP20/05/18 08:27 PM
1

If you’ve read the sidebar and fully digested the red pill then you’d know that you had no shot from the beginning once you displayed to her that you were a beta pussy with her, as you admit to in your post. The second you acted as a beta bucks you got thrown into the “nothing more than friends”/ beta orbiter category. Just because you start to act differently or more alpha, does not mean you can change her perception of you. Read The Rational Male, you’ll better understand the important of esta…
/r/askTRP20/05/18 08:18 PM
3

You’re cognitive dissonance is off the charts here man. You really need to stop rationalizing away all the evidence that is being provided to you. You went on a walk with her. How is that not providing your time and company? You could be spending that time bettering yourself or going out with a girl who you might actually have a shot at fucking. It’s evident you care, and that you care too much, else you’d have forgotten about this oneitis a long time ago and not spent your (valuable) time writi…
/r/askTRP20/05/18 08:01 PM
3

You haven’t been able to distinguish that fact in this instance though. You are her orbiter. You are providing her your time, company, buying her gifts, etc. and not even fucking her. You’re hamstering yourself into believing that you’re not orbiting this girl and have a shot. You do not. Unfortunately, I think it’s going to take you getting hurt to realize that. Not all orbiters are the same. I’ve been here in my past and have learnt from mistakes. You will too.
/r/askTRP20/05/18 07:52 PM
3

Women don’t explicitly seek validation, it’s a product of their nature. She wanted to go on a hike/walk and didn’t want to do so alone, so she selected one of her orbiters, you in this case, to join her. Applying logic to a woman’s actions is a useless endeavor as a man, they don’t operate in the same headspace as you. Women will do shit like this to keep you in the orbit, it doesn’t mean she has any sexual interest in you. Go pursue other women who you can be an alpha for, why are you so hesita…
/r/askTRP20/05/18 07:38 PM
3

It’s a mistake in this case because you yourself admit that you’ve been a blue pulled beta in the past. Women are looking for a true alpha not a beta who acts like one. The chances of you now persuading her that you’ve been a true alpha “all along” are nill. It’s a generic answer because this is a generic situation at heart. You validated her by demonstrating that you were willing to take her lead in asking you out. You’re sacrificing YOUR time (even if you don’t see it this way) to go on a walk…
/r/askTRP20/05/18 07:20 PM
7

You have zero chances with this girl no matter what moves you try to make. Kissing her then would’ve been a mistake. All you are to her is a source of validation, her pussy is not getting moist for you no matter what you do in this situation because she knows you’re a blue pilled beta. This is some serious Oneitis, dump this girl now and move onto one of the other 3 billion women out there.
/r/askTRP20/05/18 07:06 PM
10

If your world crumbles when a girl leaves you out of her own volition then you have a serious disease of Oneitis. Do not even attempt to game her in your current state of mind. Also, you don’t LTR before you plate.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 01:20 PM
2

Not sure why you’re deleting your comment to my initial query but I’ll respond anyways: It sounds like you’re interested in an LTR rather than spinning plates. Because all my friends are doing it” is a terrible reason to “settle down.” If the girl is truly LTR worthy then fine. But if you’re only 26 then you are way too young to be making huge life investments and decisions, you’re not even reaching peak SMV until you’re into your 30s. Ask yourself, what are you gaining from being in an LTR? Are…
/r/askTRP17/05/18 01:04 PM
5

Define “serious.” What exactly do you mean by this? There’s no ideal time to go back to being BP’d.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 12:43 PM
1

The post has been edited.
/r/askTRP15/05/18 04:27 PM
3

You can start by stopping and not gaming people you work with.
/r/askTRP15/05/18 01:36 PM
3

No
/r/askTRP12/05/18 07:31 PM
4

No, treat them no differently. Just be prepared for more tests.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 06:04 PM
1

Your frame is your world and reality. If you’re inviting a girl into your frame (I.e. you want to plate/LTR her) then you’re allowing her to enter your world/reality. In your reality, you’re in charge. Frame isn’t limited to women, however. Your frame moves with you, to work, school, etc. So in regards to your question, if you like keeping your password secret, then you wouldn’t give it out to someone (man or woman) of they’re truly within your frame.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 03:37 AM
2

Only if you want to seem needy and your goal is her pussy drying up.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 01:10 AM
3

Sticking to a script is never going to work. Dates are situational and gaming a girl can depend on several factors including your own personality. Trying to copy what someone else says and does on dates is going to hurt more than it will benefit you.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 12:49 AM
5

I never really ask for either. Just invite them out, if you’ve led up to that point correctly then your intentions will be as obvious as inviting her over to your place.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 12:36 AM
5

I would, would you rather get high or starve? Personally I’d choose to avoid the latter at all cost. That’s a fine solution to save some money but involves reducing your pussy supply. If you’re fine with that then I don’t see a problem.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 12:23 AM
5

Plus I need money for weed. Stop blowing your money on drugs you can’t afford and you won’t have these issues. money to date. Go out on dates that don’t involve spending money (or very little and you only pay for yourself).
/r/askTRP11/05/18 12:19 AM
1

If you're interested in her, stop and engage. If not, move on with your life. It helps if you smile with your eyes when making eye contact, feel free to actually smile if you're interested. Maintaining eye contact is just maintaining dominance. As a man, that's your imperative when coming across a woman.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 11:10 PM
7

This. You're falling into her frame otherwise.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 09:25 PM
1

There may be something else you could bring up, I don’t know enough about your particular situation but in general that process sounds good. Don’t say “goodbye” though just say you’ll snap her and leave. And try to avoid planning out your interactions. I used to do the same when I was younger and it just makes things really awkward when things inevitably don’t go in the direction you conceived.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:35 PM
1

If you don’t know her name then ask her for it, that’s not a bad intro. Definitely just use SC to setup a hangout if that’s what you’re into. Bringing up the Cupcake Wars is a better idea in my opinion. Tell her you missed it and ask how it was. Then get her SC or number after. Definitely don’t bring up anything that she wouldn’t 100% expect you to know about her.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:07 PM
15

Women do receive physical pleasure from sex but what most really get off on is the feeling of being desired by a high valued male (e.g. validation). That’s why so many are into rough sex and manhandling. They LOVE the feeling of having a guy who can’t keep his hands off of them.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 01:00 PM
7

It’s really your call. If you have abundance in your life then you wouldn’t do it because the risks just aren’t worth it when you could be fucking a similarly attractive woman without kids.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 12:49 PM
1

Just say “Hey ‘insert name,” it’ll make you sound way more confident than stretching out words. I know SC and social media in general are really popular now for teenagers/very young adults, but I would suggest this is not a good medium to actually hook up with a girl. All your doing is investing your time and attention which gives her the validation she would otherwise need to get from you through sex. You need to determine what your true goals/intentions are here. Is it to just flirt with this …
/r/askTRP09/05/18 12:47 PM
12

No it doesn’t. If she wanted to fuck you then she’d of figured out a way to do it without humiliating you at your place of work. This is NOT “I want to fuck you” behavior.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:58 AM
2

What did you text her? This is probably an example of why you don’t text for any other reason than to set up dates. Most likely she was initially interested and then lost interest when you were texting and is now using the boyfriend excuse.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:54 AM
4

There is this girl I really like, huge crush. Here's your first problem cough oneitis cough She picked her head back up and our eyes connected These all sound like IOIs, just ask her out. I'd tell you to stop being a pussy but you're only in HS. Does she like me? Stupid question. Assume attraction from all girls. If so, how do I approach her? Say hi, introduce yourself (if you haven't already), make light small talk, say you want to hang out sometime and ask for phone number. I don't mind puttin…
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:45 AM
11

Maybe the gym isn't the best place to game. It's not. In general, it's a bad idea to game girls at any place you frequent (home, work, gym, etc.)
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:28 AM
7

Why do you care what beta bullshit they're doing for these girls? Why do you care about the girls? If you're not considering shitting where you eat then I don't see the problem here? Unless you don't like having them take up space on the couch (assuming it's in a common room) in which case you need to tell your roommates you're not okay with it.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:26 AM
6

Why are you texting her for any reason other than to set up a date so you can actually fuck her instead of giving her the validation of sex without even fucking her.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:18 AM
179

We told you not to shit where you eat when you posted about this last week and now you’re finally seeing why. Be real glad you didn’t pin her up against the wall like you suggested you were going to do. Expect a deserved ass beating and a few months of hell until your lease is up.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 03:30 PM
2

So I work with this girl. Didn’t have to read any further, don’t pursue. It’s an even worse proposition for HR if there is such an age difference.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 01:05 PM
2

It doesn’t matter whether she is or not, it’s a bad idea to bring up peoples insecurities to them in such a blatant way, man or woman. If you’re going to do it you have to be carefully subtle about it. Of course she downplayed it, AWALT.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 01:02 PM
3

You’re never going to get a women to apologize so just forget about that now. You’re responsible for this situation if you accused her of being insecure and then brought up her ex. Of course she’s not going to have a positive reaction and will get pissed off. Just ignore her next time.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 12:57 PM
4

Go to a thrift store, get button down shirts that you can also roll the sleeves up on it you like, some darker and fitting jeans or chinos, and a pair of oxford or captor shoes.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 12:12 PM
5

Are you actually interested in her or did you do this to be nice? If the former than I'd just tell her she's welcome, ghost for awhile, and then ask her out. You'll be the cringe nice guy if she thinks you bought her the champagne so she'd go out with you. And she'd be right if that was the intention.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 03:40 AM
1

This is likely a shit test or a test of your intentions. It's possible she's not sure whether this is a date or a friendly chat so this is your opportunity to make that clear if you didn't when you asked her out.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 01:59 AM
1

Confidence alone =\= alpha. What about the guy sitting and doing work at the library/coffee shop? Or eating dinner? There are many situations where you just can’t tell. You can hazard a guess initially, but it’s not that difficult to put up an alpha facade. Just look at all the guys on this subreddit who admit to losing frame despite the initial attraction they received from their alpha actions.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 10:39 PM
1

Is that new to you? There are many physically attractive beta guys. It's not obvious to a girl (in many settings) which men are alpha and which are beta from appearance alone.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 10:32 PM
1

In your view, what qualifies as reasonable ? Up to 3 months unless subject to exception in extreme cases what makes you say so ? The fact you've been in a monk mode for 2 years. It doesn't take that long to do introspection and digest much of the material here. Beyond 3 months you should be out there putting all this into practice. Is there a difference between a compliment and an accessory ? I think most people us "accessory" in the same sense. I use compliment in the most generous sense. Perso…
/r/askTRP07/05/18 10:02 PM
6

2 years is a ridiculously long time to not be interacting with and fucking girls. Respectfully, I think you’ve used the opportunity to be a “monk” as a crutch to avoid having to face the realities of dealing with women in your life. As for the inter-gender dynamics, women are a compliment to your life and should be nothing more. You shouldn’t be doing anything with them you otherwise wouldn’t want to do so the % of your life that they “consume” is irrelevant.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 08:48 PM
8

Get a job or find some kind of income generating activity.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 08:45 PM
14

Should’ve agreed and amplified. You know for next time.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 08:44 PM
11

If she doesn’t give you her number when prompted or doesn’t agree to go out when asked (or flakes). If she tries to stall on either of the above then you have your answer.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 08:43 PM
1

It sounds like you still have a serious case of Oneitis and that many of the social interactions you’re engaging in - all good in the absence of this girl - are aimed at attracting this one girl. Normally I’d say soft next her, but for your own personal sanity I’m going to recommend a hard next on this one. You are way too invested.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 08:00 PM
1

Have some self confidence and accept the fact you’re not going to be an expert in your field yet and your employer doesn’t/shouldn’t expect you to know everything until they’ve invested in some training for you. If you were hired in the first place, they must have felt you were competent enough to take on the responsibilities of the job. You really fucked up here. Why would you not ask for help if you were struggling? At least continue working until you find something more enjoyable.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 07:50 PM
2

Now there is this one girl Don’t Oneitis over this. Ask her out, if she says no, next.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 07:43 PM
3

Yes No, not for you. No. Women are not the choosers. Men choose who they want to approach and if one doesn’t want to be a part of his life then he’ll choose another. Women like when guys they’re interested in approach them. The women saying otherwise are the same ones who bitch and wonder why the hot beta guy doesn’t approach them. If you have strong game there’s a good chance it won’t matter whether they were interested in you on physical appearance alone.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 06:51 PM
4

You're the man, so be a man and escalate with her. If you want to touch her or kiss her then just go for it. She isn't going to take the lead and since you did nothing, no sex for either of you. She probably spent an hour after being mind-fucked and wondering why you didn't escalate given a solo invite to ones home is generally a subtle invite to fuck. Women enjoy sex too. Not nearly as much as men, but they will still fuck with no strings attached and without intent for commitment. Again, your …
/r/askTRP07/05/18 04:09 AM
7

My gut feeling tells me, I live with this girl, she seems into me, I need to just come home and pin her to a wall or something. Am i delusional? Not if you're looking to move out (at a financial loss) or lose any and all enjoyment of your home. P.S I don't have oneitis for this girl Bullshit. You wouldn't consider doing something as stupid as this if you didn't have oneitis for this chick. What makes her pussy any more valuable than the next girl? Having one other plate doesn't eliminate your ab…
/r/askTRP07/05/18 03:59 AM
37

The problem is that saying “I don’t know my height” is going to sound dishonest because everyone knows how tall they are. She’s going to end up filling in the blanks with her imagination between now and the date (if she doesn’t flake), which isn’t ideal. You probably should’ve made a joke or something suggesting you were taller than her (which is her primary concern).
/r/askTRP07/05/18 12:23 AM
13

As long as you’re not getting the car for the purposes of attracting women, it depends on what type of car it is. A Porsche conveys different status than a Kia.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 12:15 AM
0

I feel this comes down to the nature of hypergamy and why women who’ve ridden the carousel are looked down upon while guys with high n-counts are glorified. In a non-hypergamous world, both men and women would want partners with low n-counts. Men are not hypergamous. Hence, they desire women with low n-counts. However, women in their hypergamy are perpetuating this “unequal” dynamic by preferring the men who are desired by a greater number of women. Naturally, these men will have fucked many mor…
/r/askTRP06/05/18 11:58 PM
7

Lift and do cardio, but most importantly, build a solid nutrition plan and stick to it. The cardio will help with 10% of your total fat loss. Lifting will give you some beginner gains which will increase your metabolism (only marginally). The other 90% will be from maintaining a healthy diet.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 11:27 PM
3

Me too.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 11:24 PM
0

Either you tried to escalate and got a pity hug, meaning she’s not interested in you sexually, or you didn’t escalate and she thinks you’re a beta. Either way, it’s time to move on.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 11:23 PM
10

No, but you probably should’ve handled it a bit differently, no changing that now. Demote to plate if she’s currently anything more and treat her accordingly. If she lied once she will do it again. She’s Just going to be more subtle about it next time (if she isn’t already).
/r/askTRP06/05/18 08:09 PM
1

If you’re invested in her than you’re in her frame which just makes you yet another beta. If you’re committed to shitting where you eat, then you need to just ask her out. If she’s actually interested and giving true signals of interest than she’ll oblige.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 04:59 PM
1

My suggestion? Don’t try and date girls you work with, it’s not worth the potentially awkward situation or risk of losing your job. You already sound over invested in her having written all of this; you should move on and talk to girls you don’t work with.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 04:38 PM
1

I’d find out where she is by asking. I wouldn’t even consider driving 30 miles. Would you drive 30 miles if you had many options/plates? That’s the mindset you have to make these types of decisions with.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:22 PM
2

The part about her friend? I’m genuinely curious as the OP’s description is sloppy and could be interpreted in a couple of ways.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:00 PM
1

Hard next is for girls who intentionally wrong you to the point where they are toxic in your life. That doesn’t seem to be the case here.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 03:39 AM
1

Not everything is teasing, but it always does come down to producing different emotions in a girl. Teasing is one means of getting there if things go stale. Just don't overdo it or tease them about something they'll be self conscious about and you should be fine (e.g. make sure any "tease" is so ridiculous it's not really believable). 60 miles is absolute insanity if you've never met before. There's a very real (and very likely) chance you're not going to fuck on the first date being so new to t…
/r/askTRP06/05/18 03:38 AM
4

Teeth normally darken/yellow with age but whitening toothpaste can help a little. Otherwise, there are options available at the dentist but I wouldn't say any would be worth it. Go to an orthodontist to fix the crookedness.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:38 AM
9

No, they're probably just not interested in meeting and are only looking for your validation.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:30 AM
0

“Phone number?”
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:04 AM
1

Well then something else is off or the girls aren't attracted/giving true IOIs to begin with.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 12:34 AM
1

Well it's difficult to respond based on that. All I could say is try toning it down and see if that makes a difference.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 12:32 AM
1

You need to give us more context on your interactions. It's difficult to turn someone off being "too confident."
/r/askTRP06/05/18 12:28 AM
30

So you make plans, tell your GF to invite her friend to transit from another city, then blow off your plans and expect your GF to just blow off her friend who travelled all that way? You’re being a douche - not a Chad - to your GF. You should’ve just let your GF go out with her friend or join them yourself. Your expectations are whack.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 11:16 PM
3

Meditate.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 11:11 PM
2

It’s option 2, she’s not interested. What can you do to not fuck up? Soft next.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 08:58 PM
2

All women have the propensity to be sluts for the right guy, so her comment was pure BS. Ask her out and try again.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 06:26 PM
3

Start doing things for yourself. It took me getting out into the real world before I realized that no one else is going to be watching out for you, let alone giving a shit about you. Truly accept that everyone is self-interested and you’ll no longer seek validation.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 06:24 PM
1

Never hesitate to change the topic to those things you’re interested in if you want. You’re there to enjoy the conversation and she’s coming along for the ride. Ask if she’s ever tried any, talk about stories, etc. if they resist b/c of bugs or something then I’d be teasing them about that. As for the touch, that’s it exactly. You don’t have to overdo it either, leave her wanting more back at your place.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 05:45 PM
1

Well then start by finding a hobby or something interesting you enjoy. As for the touch, you’re really overthinking it. You have to be natural about it; if you follow a script it’s going to be awkward. I know because I used to be the same. Treat her body like it’s yours to touch, because you have to approach the interaction with the mentality that you’re entitled to touch her body. With that being said, don’t just jump straight to the thigh or other erogenous zones.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 05:25 PM
-1

Listen, I’m not going to spend my time explaining myself. If people want to see the evidence, they can use Google. If you want to feign intellectual superiority, then that’s your prerogative. It’s evident that NoFap is a religious experience for you. I wouldn’t attempt to explain atheism to a die-hard Christian just as I’m not going to attempt it with you. Best of luck with your beliefs.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 03:50 PM
1

I actually have. But that doesn’t change the fact that personal anecdotes =\= empirical evidence. I’ve read the literature on neurological functions of the brain and biological chemistry, hence why I am confident in my assertion. Your stories won’t be changing that.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 03:43 PM
11

This guy isn’t your friend. Stop using him as a conduit for your relationship with your manager and speak with the manager directly.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 03:40 PM
0

I don’t owe you an explanation. It’s a question not an essay request. By all means, share your evidence based studies and facts with us.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 03:37 PM
2

No, to make that particular subject more interesting to you or redirect the conversation.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 02:32 PM
3

You tease and/or neg.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 02:14 PM
6

I would keep doing it, just make sure she actually understands your expectations.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 02:12 PM
6

She’s trying to resist falling into your frame when there is disagreement.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 02:04 PM
8

Many here will suggest that looks are only a tiny fraction of ones overall SMV (e.g. 10%). Personally, I believe this is bullshit. I’m far more inclined to agree with Rollo Tomassi in that looks are significantly more important than many state. If you don’t have looks, then you absolutely need to be strong in social proof/status and game. PUAs have tried to claim that looks don’t matter so that they can sell you on their shitty products.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 02:02 PM
1

Step 1) stop making excuses and start working out. If you need to start with going on walks or doing push-ups on the floor then so be it. Step 2) Get a hobby. Find something you enjoy doing and get good at it. Spend what free time you have on it. Step 3) improve your self-perception. Read more, do some self authoring, see a psychologist, etc. Value yourself and you’ll start to value your time and not waste it a way on unproductive activities.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 01:57 PM
1

With?
/r/askTRP05/05/18 01:42 PM
2

Yes - points of clarification on sidebar material or unique scenarios (to name a couple) are reasonable. Your question isn’t really unique.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 01:22 PM
8

The science on NoFap is pretty clear, NoFap is a placebo. What you’re seeing as “benefits” is just confirmation bias at work. What you may find is that as you hold off on masturbating, you become hornier and may be more likely to approach, but the effect on your T-levels is insignificant.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 01:18 PM
6

Stop trying to put yourself into her shoes, I’m sure you have your own.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 01:12 PM
3

Follow her actions not words. Just because she said “sex,” doesn’t mean you’re getting any. As the other guy said, get to setting up the date and go from there. P.S. if her profile is only face shots then there’s a 99% chance she’s a land whale. So just be aware of that.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 01:10 PM
2

You need to read the sidebar again and the first 5 pages of all time top posts on r/TheRedPill. Many people commenting on asktrp give terrible advice because they haven't read the sidebar, any of the literature, have no experience, and have yet to internalize the RedPill. If your interest is jazz, then talk about it! I'm not saying don't communicate verbally, I'm saying you need to balance it with non-verbal methods as well. This only applies to in-person. Online and text messaging are awful med…
/r/askTRP05/05/18 02:36 AM
0

First of all, you should not be having conversations on tinder or via text. Jump right to getting the phone number. Once you have that, set up a date. Less is more. There is no value to you in conversing with a girl over Tinder, only to stroke her ego and provide her validation when she has no intention of ever meeting you. Second, less is still more in person. Use actions as well as words when on dates. This means escalate using touch and body language. You can do some standard Q&A, but tease o…
/r/askTRP05/05/18 02:20 AM
2

There are too many factors at play to just follow a script and have it be effective. If your SMV is a 10 then you could say “let’s fuck” and get results. That’s not going to work for a 6.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 12:43 AM
3

Are you fucking your male friends?
/r/askTRP05/05/18 12:30 AM
10

Next. Why the hell are you spending 2-3 weeks texting her?
/r/askTRP04/05/18 11:32 PM
-2

“Come over and show me tonight.”
/r/askTRP04/05/18 10:00 PM
117

She feels like she’s being manipulated because her female hamster brain can’t rationalize how a man could act in such a way to make her want to continually drop her panties on such a subliminal level. Keep doing what you’re doing.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 09:57 PM
13

Be very careful you’re not over investing here as this sounds like symptoms of oneitis. As for the date, pick a time and a place that suits you.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 07:48 PM
2

The problem with your post is that it’s predicated on a notion that everyone in the community is a natural alpha. By and large, this is not the case. The “successful” alphas you allude to are naturals, they don’t need to concern themselves with RedPill theory because they already embody its teachings in matters of degree. For the many who aren’t natural alphas, remaining active in this community is a means to building upon an alpha mindset they may struggle to maintain.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 07:42 PM
4

You lose.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 06:56 PM
1

IDGAF is an attitude not a set of actions. It’s about doing whatever you want to do for the sole reason that you want to do it. Naturally, that will vary by individuals. Look to Corey Worthington if you want an ultimate example.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 06:45 PM
5

I’m of the view that no publicity is bad publicity.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 06:01 PM
2

Nothing is going to make A come running back faster than the perception that B and C are both interested in you.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 05:42 PM
0

If I ask out a 7 I better not get a 5.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 05:40 PM
4

This is all just a giant hamster cop out. Get lean and get huge. That means cutting and then going on a healthy bulking diet to gain real size, not size that is a derivative of fat. Why would you not want to be healthy? Having a belly overhang is not healthy. You’re not even doing it for bitches, you’re doing it for yourself.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 05:22 PM
5

I too wonder this. Must be modified if she’s that fat.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 05:17 PM
17

I think she is also scared because in her mind she thinks she might have fucked a beta This is exactly her concern. Not sure that you have many options here. If she won’t let it go you might have to next if you can’t keep spinning her.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 02:15 PM
1

Lose the herd mentality and avoid setting up dates far in advance of meeting them.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 02:10 PM
3

Do what will make you happy. Not enough context to tell whether there’s a real problem or you’re just insecure about it. Would be careful to avoid LTR’s with high n-counts and daddy problems though.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 02:00 PM
4

Girls don’t like rejection and will avoid even picking a day because they don’t want the day they choose to not work for you. You need to tell them where and when. They’re fickle creatures.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 01:44 PM
3

This particular subreddit (along with r/TheRedPill) doesn't concern recommendations for women. Try r/RedPillWomen if you're looking for that. In terms of my own personal recommendation, I'd say make the choice that you would be comfortable living with if your plan of gaining long term commitment and children at a young age does not come to fruition. Generally being educated (an indicator of intelligence) is attractive to many high SMV men. I would personally choose the nurse over the cashier any…
/r/askTRP04/05/18 12:31 AM
6

No.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 08:53 PM
1

When you said you couldn’t take her because it would be an inconvenience. Yes, just ask her out. The idea is to not give away your longer term intentions for the relationship (e.g. whether she’s a plate, potential LTR down the road, etc.) and to remain somewhat mysterious, but you still have to balance that with actually expressing interest through your actions if you want to fuck her. In other words, speak with actions not words.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 08:11 PM
1

Only say that if you’re planning on buying a one-way ticket to LJBF land at the train station. What you said before is the right thing to do. It sounds like you’re progressing backwards into BP territory.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 07:40 PM
2

In what world does asking someone out sound needy? If she’s giving IOIs and is actually interested then she’ll be overjoyed that you asked her out and won’t give a shit if it came out of nowhere. No. Be a man and make your intention (to ask her out) clear. Asking for a date shows that you’re confident and aren’t interested in wasting time beating around the bush.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 07:37 PM
5

Pick out something about their appearance to talk about, ask them how they’re doing or if anything interesting has happened today, make a comment about whatever it is you or they’re doing, etc... Just get better at small talk so that you can get a phone number from them.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 06:42 PM
1

He needs an ego check. If he’s not a direct report then ignore him or say “no, I think you should try “blank” instead” if he’s making BS requests. Need more context though.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 06:18 PM
3

Just take her out for something easier.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 06:10 PM
1

Of course I’m not going to date someone I don’t find attractive.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 06:09 PM
2

I would lose a large amount of weight because it would improve my health, wellbeing, and success. An attractive girl may just be a product of all of that. I sure as hell am not going to lose weight for a woman.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 06:06 PM
1

If your life happiness is predicated on an attractive girl then you’re in for a miserable existence.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 06:02 PM
1

Read the fucking sidebar. Then read it again.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 05:55 PM
1

Maybe, you won’t know for sure until you follow through with #2. Ask her out on a date that would be construed as such and follow the methods in the sidebar to escalate and determine interest. If you get rejected then just move on to the next one. No need to say anything more than “okay” and forget about her.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 05:30 PM
5

They do it because it’s as close as they’re going to get to the pussy.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 02:12 PM
2

In my experience you can’t, at least in any way that is worth pursuing. Why waste your efforts trying to change one girls opinion about you when there are many others whose opinions of you have yet to be formed? To pursue the one is the very definition of oneitis.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 02:09 PM
1

You’re hamstering. I’m sure this party will have many other girls, if your intentions are to truly test your game then you’d test it on them. If you’ve absorbed the literature you’ll know that women do their best to determine whether a guy is naturally alpha/red pilled. This girl you’re talking about will know that’s not the case.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 02:05 PM
1

It sounds like you still have Oneitis for this girl. If you’ve truly swallowed the pill then you’ll forget about her and game different girls.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 01:58 PM
1

No.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 01:05 PM
48

While I agree that accepting your competitive nature, and in general the traits that are inherent to you as a male is masculine, I don’t believe that it’s in the male nature to “seek out” conflict. To do so would lead to chaos, which is undesirable to mankind and society at large. Rather, I think it is masculine to recognize and not be afraid of conflict. To understand that conflict is a natural product of competition, which as you state is inherently masculine.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 01:54 AM
2

If you care about your reputation or job, this.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 12:18 AM
11

Don’t do this.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 11:43 PM
3

Sounds like you sort of fell into her frame by complying with the request. I’ve been in this situation before and made that mistake too since it doesn’t sound unduly unreasonable. The problem is this is often validation seeking behavior. I’ve just started ignoring saying something like “what’s your number, I’d like to get to know you over “blank”.” Or I’ll give them my number and tell them to text me if they want to get to know each other.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 11:41 PM
3

I had selective mutism when I was young so I can relate. Up until university I was deathly afraid of speaking in front of or to groups. The trick is to just go way out of your comfort zone. I ended up putting myself in a position where I had to speak in front of a couple thousand plus people and that was extremely beneficial looking back. If you try - and even if you fail - you’ll get better and realize how ridiculous your own anxiety is.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 10:59 PM
1

Don’t put pussy or sex on a pedestal and you shouldn’t have any major issues when your first lay rolls around. I was in a similar predicament, you won’t have problems with the right mindset. Besides, a lot of hot girls are still terrible at sex in college.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 10:54 PM
1

I mean don’t use tinder as a tool to build attraction with girls. Just use it to get phone numbers and set up dates.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 10:42 PM
5

Depends on your reaction to the IOIs....
/r/askTRP02/05/18 10:37 PM
3

You don’t need to get to know them before asking them out. Just get the number and ask on date.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 10:36 PM
1

First, don’t ask her when she’s free to go. Tell her where and when. Second, stop trying to create interest via Tinder conversation.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 10:34 PM
1

Read the sidebar material. It’s there for a reason. No ones going to be able to distill all the Red Pill content into a single response.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/18 10:14 PM
6

She didn’t turn him into a beta bucks, he did it to himself.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 05:48 PM
4

Step 1: Stop wasting time wondering if they’re interested and assume attraction. Step 2: Grow some balls and go introduce yourself to the group. Single out the girl you’re interested in.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 02:34 PM
1

Yeah I’d say something like that instead. Sell her on studying or “learning” more at your place instead. She might not have responded to the last comment because you’re kind of putting pressure on her for perform. If she’s not the best at sex she might be insecure about that. You don’t want to make them feel performance anxiety.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 12:46 PM
2

Don’t feel bad, you didn’t cheat and she has no right to expect that you don’t see anyone else. Especially given you’ve only seen” each other a couple times. If seeing someone else makes her insecure enough to lash out, that’s her problem not yours.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 12:41 PM
1

This is also a great opportunity to do a study date if you’re in the same class. Benefit being it’ll help you do well too.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:42 PM
3

Schedule permitting, I try and plan the second within 5-7 days and text a couple days after the first to set up. I don’t think you need to hold yourself to any golden rule so long as you have a fulfilling life and aren’t inconveniencing yourself to go out on dates.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:40 PM
1

Listen to what they do not what they say, AWALT. Read the sidebar again if you have to.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 03:37 AM
3

It sounds like you’re still putting the pussy up on the pedestal. Trust me, it’s not worth beating yourself up over.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 07:48 PM
5

Your post only shows what little understanding you have of this movement and the broader Red Pill movement. I don’t personally subscribe to MGTOW but following this sub for a little while I can tell that you know nothing. Consequently, I could relate to and accept coherent criticisms of this movement, but to make any you need to educate yourself. For now, your post is just pure immature drivel.
/r/MGTOW30/04/18 07:44 PM
1

Scars will take 4-6 months to heal. Don't touch the acne if you get it. If you can, go on a 3-5 month bout of accutane (you'll need a prescription) if you never want to have acne again.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 04:09 AM
1

Cognitive dissonance at work.
/r/askTRP28/04/18 10:58 PM
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