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If you do it consistently you do get freckles that kind of join together. Mine keep changing shape though.
/r/askMRP01/06/20 06:47 AM
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Back to the entity structure: how do you firewall the R+D stage of a new business? Eg say you have Apocalypse Holdings and you raised 10mm to found Apocadildos, an Apocalypse Holdings company, then later 20mm for Apocahousing and 5mm for the not-for-profit Apocahobos. You have a multi-entity, probably with shared services for IT and HR but clearly different purposes. Then you hear about VR porn and decide to test new products/services in it with your existing resources which might include FTE’s/…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/20 05:47 AM
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Well another parallel to MRP is there are no special snowflakes: took me 30min to sketch several projects I could test on adwords and my whole industry is basically a gigantic mechanical Turk but I’ve always thought of RPA etc as something that happens in other industries. I definitely am weak on ideas/products and need to shore it up - I would quite enjoy decimating all my competitors. MITW thought it would be helpful. I saw that and thought I’d remind you in case others would benefit - I would…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 07:33 PM
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For part II, interested in more examples of how you use tools to actively manage teams as opposed to just a means to communicate. As much as I thought I got it, and did it, the example of recording something for training/SOPs is obvious, simple and transferable yet something I have never considered or even heard of before.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 06:08 PM
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An old Russian guy likened me to a "young Stalin" is that good? I've used Adwords to tests consumer products but never B2B stuff. Are there products/services/niches/values that particularly work here? Are there limits to the size of buyer you'd expect? I cold call and pitch industrial projects to CEO's and it is by far the longest pole in my tent purely due to the length of the cycle. Are there other channels you'd try? e.g. will my banner ad for "How can RPA revolutionize your nuclear powerplan…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 05:03 AM
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🤯
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 08:55 PM
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My own benchmark is moving past the craving to mentally replay events. Eating healthy, cutting out booze and caffeine and listing and scheduling everything from debt management to “meditate for 10min” definitely helps - moving on is literally just moving on.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/20 05:53 AM
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The aggregated capital of retail investors pouring into the indiscriminate, continuous and automated purchase of a single asset class over a period of decades. ​ Literally cannot go tits up.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 08:37 AM
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Can’t even imagine: I’m the best I’ve ever had.
/r/askMRP21/05/20 10:19 PM
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Was ready to be hired then... rona. And then you were just too perfect for the next role. Maybe your hamster could get a job? Just to bring in some income while you figure things out.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 10:10 PM
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You’re welcome to take them. Feel free to DM for loss porn.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 06:48 PM
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Funny thing is I got to pretty big numbers starting from scratch more than once but of those two examples: one started off of a six figure HR settlement, one off 300k from a novelty side gig. Both completely unexpected windfalls.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 03:05 PM
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I'd fallen back on my network as a "get out jail free card" a few times over the years. I have to say though, at a certain point (maybe seniority), I just stopped being able to slide into jobs and all the machiavllianism in the world failed to change that. Monetizing it like this was more of an exercise in transparency and humility by contrast. Made 300k that year though, which was more than any salary I was in the running for. So there are probably a few things to explore before identity fraud …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 12:48 PM
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Never lose money. Never forget rule No. 1. Never invest gamble money that you can't afford to lose. You forgot "can't go broke taking a profit". ​ While not wrong, I have to say that despite hearing all this stuff many times over the years and applying them >99% of the time, I still lost >$1mm gambling and more than I could afford on more than one occassion. I know a lot of guys like that, albeit to a lesser degree, but only two private investors (i.e. trading their own money) IRL that have had …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 12:04 PM
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global ops Schill moar. Try listing 100 businesses in your industry that use any form of international supply/service I.e all of them. Then list 100 foreign suppliers. Work through list one, contacting the highest level possible (no reason you can’t cold call board members) asking what problems they have or proposing solutions based on your experience. Call a few suppliers and offer to sell their solution for a commission. E.g. changes to environmental legislation necessitating new compliance me…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 05:05 AM
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What has my head spinning is this. do I tell his wife and blow up his life too? ​ Plus the 6 other posts. ​ Who the fuck cares. She's gone. Move on.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 03:38 PM
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used to row for Great Britain high SMV What are his teeth like though?
/r/askMRP02/12/19 06:06 PM
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I think you might have swallowed the TRP bible whole my dude. As well whatever other good books. ​ she sounds like an actual rape victim. Even the hint that an "actual rape" is somehow less plausible (but more audit able) than an imaginary sky god is both hilarious and retarded. ​ I am not religious but I am told there is a proposal for vetting the plausibility of rape claims is in the Torah (source - btw 10/10 read). The implication being that "rape": Actually happens; Sometimes doesn't happen;…
/r/askMRP27/11/19 11:25 AM
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Plus, she meal preps like a boss. If I would stop with the cheat meals, I would likely have sub 10% BF in less than 120 days. My wife started cooking a while back. Not quite legit meal prep but she knows the kcals and protons. ​ Big lifestyle gains for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 04:00 PM
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Let’s answer the real questions: Is she middle class? You dropped some nuggets about Mandy and her peer group that made me think of trailers, thick accents and likely methamphetamine and that it was a ultimately a dealbreaker for you - the well educated, upwardly mobile warrior poet. Can you take her home to meet your mom? More importantly what do you do for your arm thickness?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 10:51 PM
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I feel like you weigh less than you did a few month’s ago. But last week you were talking about putting on 24lbs over the next 12 months. Am I wrong? Do you still smoke? I’m now 12 months clear of the consequences of burning down my own livelihood (for the fourth or fifth time). You know intellectually you’ll endure... but the nuclear wasteland in between opportunities sucks at times. Still, speaking from back in the land of milk and honey: 10/10 would do again. Never forget.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 10:30 PM
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The “imaginary finish line” was ok. But likening it to “chasing a dragon” is what seems to have really caught people’s attention. “Good” to “great” mastery of the word picture. Outstanding. Genius really.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 10:11 PM
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Think of it this way: don't train to hit heavy weights for low reps or light weights for high reps. Train to hit heavy weights for high reps. ​ Check out Tom Platz squaring off with Fred Hatfield. ​ (Although... we all feel like this from time to time.) ​ And finally back to the context of this sub: your 1RM is not going to get you laid. ​ Traps, shoulders, chest. Skip leg day if you want.
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:03 PM
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The behind the neck press doesn't aggravate your shoulders? No. That was a BTN push press, so I would drop it on my traps after lockout and ended up with a good gouge in my neck from ones that missed the sweet spot over a few months. I still do strict, wide "Klokov" style ones occassionally though. No issues. Joints are very individual. The only thing I've ever done that aggravated mine was squatting wide, which was fashionable when I started. That's interesting though because it sounds like you…
/r/askMRP09/11/19 10:05 PM
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I have noticed that whenever a driver screams at me, flips me off, etc, they’re the ones who fucked up. 100% this. I never, ever get pissed off driving. But I drive like an elderly, Asian woman. Always have done. I get cut off from time to time and watch the person weaving away, phone in one hand, red faced, flirting with mortal danger so they can be first one to the next set of traffic lights. I just “tsk” and peer over my (imaginary) horned rimmed spectacles to check I’m still a good 10% below…
/r/askMRP09/11/19 09:06 AM
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All this anger, shame afterwards. Fear about what the therapist is going to think... Nobody spends any time thinking about you when you’re not around.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:30 PM
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I think I just live in a bad area where people drive poorly. I think I’m just unlucky I am always getting shit on by someone. 😢Unicorns don’t belong in the wild.😭 Are these bad drivers on their phones too? Who else is out to get you? Wake up dumbass. If you think like a victim, you act like a victim and people are going to treat you like one. Nobody gives a shit about you. Or me for that matter. It’s great.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:02 PM
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I abstain from commenting on this series because, while I don't agree with the content, I also lack the ability to deconstruct it in any meaningful way. Also, don't think I've made it all the way through an OP or really understood the difference between them. ​ Some food for thought in the comment sections this time though. Good discussion. ​ The role play post is one of the best written and best content posts I've read in a while. But not much to debate possible in it. Got my upvote though and …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/19 04:04 PM
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Ah you’re pretty much where I’m at now. I hit. About 190lbs/87kg/16%bf and started cutting. Combination of: nearing the end of an 18 week program (I will do the last 2 weeks in a deficit) strength flatlining from built up fatigue. Doesn’t mean I wouldn’t keep getting stronger/bigger - I just miss the strength mentally. Being burned out from too much food, time in the gym, and while I can still see my abs, I have a bit of lower back fat I don’t like. So when I think of: not having to eat so much,…
/r/askMRP08/11/19 06:44 AM
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No more than two steps from the same soapbox...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 05:49 PM
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My wife had a boob job. Breast reduction but it's a cosmetic surgery with full reshape. There's just no implant. ​ She always had big tits. "Jugs" really. She wanted the surgery as a teen but chickened out. We got together in her twenties and man she had the best rack. She lifted and dieted (not particularly hard but it doesn't take much to get a woman in great shape), while those enormous bosoms sat high and proud. The result: big tits, tiny waist and the kind of big ass only a short girl can g…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 09:50 AM
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Another good one about the signal/noise ratio: https://www.strongerbyscience.com/training-diet-simple-body-complex/ Also I often link the “bodies” exhibit which was what really opened up my own eyes to how limiting the typical engineering analogies are when considering training/dieting.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 08:28 PM
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go to a Halloween shop and buy a couple uniforms, like police, soldier, and doctor. dude would rock this.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 03:29 PM
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It's called eschewing the role of a "betabuxx" provider. See sidebar for more details.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 03:23 PM
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Doing 100 reps of a very, very light weight sucks but then so do rep maxes with near limit weights. Basically once you get decently strong, pretty much everything sucks. ​ Drop me a line if you want more and I'll shoot you over some stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 02:47 PM
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Just out of curiosity - why do you do 10 sets? Seems like a shitload. I despise training this way because I find it incredibly boring and time consuming. But it’s also very effective. Especially if you’re a habitual HIT Jedi like... a friend of mine. The classic is “German Volume Training” which is built around 10x10 and low rest but more recently “Deep Water” has been popular. You should check out write ups of the latter on r/weightroom worth keeping up your sleeve for further reference. I just…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 10:45 PM
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Its like using a faberge egg as a butt plug: you can humble brag about all you want but it’ll still sound dumb as fuck to others.
/r/askMRP05/11/19 07:20 PM
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Stephen Pinker is awesome. Need to check out his latest but I have read this: https://www.amazon.com/Factfulness-Reasons-World-Things-Better/dp/1250107814?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Recently in the same vein. The (late) author calls it “data therapy”. Although I spent a week in the non-Cancun-parts-of-Mexico immediately after reading it which tempered my enthusiasm somewhat.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 12:26 AM
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Let me break it down for ya chief: 30k ring You are a gay homosexual physically she’s higher but I give her money Your fiancée is a whore and you are her beta buxx carry 260 well You’re fat, have a fragile ego and the most attractive thing about you is your wallet. Which indeed your fiancée has rough sex with. Lose some weight, go to the gym, say no to princess peach once in a while. You have her so high on a pedestal you can’t even see who she’s fucking up there.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 09:46 PM
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Then you’ll surely beat my 650lb rack pulls.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 07:42 PM
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I bench more than you at 170lbs. “You are not in shape.”
/r/askMRP04/11/19 07:23 PM
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Tl;dr: broke, flake realises women capable of emotional desires. Weighs his value against men with goals. Buy a uniform.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 06:18 PM
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Tl;dr: fat salary man discovers women capable of physical attraction and weighs his value against: Athletic men Jacked men Jacked men in uniform Any rando his cock hungry fiancée stumbles across. Only one way to work out how you stack up: ask your mom what she thinks. Anything less than a rating of “her handsome prince”, consider dating someone fatter.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 05:38 PM
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Omega speed master ‘57. Basically a moon watch but with sapphire glass and vintage hands. Not really a watch guy either but wanted something a bit different from the blue/gold submariner which would be over represented any meeting I go to. I’ve sat next to a couple of Breguet’s though. Maybe one day. Think the only other watch I ever had was a Timex Indiglo but the strap broke about ten years ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 04:25 PM
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Other than the timing, I nailed all the other environmental stuff and got some good tips by DM in advance. Had movies, music, reading material, food and a starlight stroll round the yard. It was awesome and profound. It was just a lot. A lot more than I anticipated. I did a full trip report via DM. Will bump it over. Joe Rogan’s description is pretty spot on. I actually wanted to do DMT a few days later but I need some time before doing something like that again.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 04:13 PM
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Out of curiosity: what do you wear on your wrist?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 08:49 AM
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Mindset: I was in a bit of a hurry as I had work the next day and the schedule had me tripping until 0330 which is exactly what happened. Other than that I was relaxed and had set up some stuff to read, watch, eat, wander around in. So “mildly curious” I would say. I guess what I wanted was some kind of shock out of the gayest of all beta excesses: depression and existential crisis. Also, I’m a curious cat and if I get a notion in my head it kind of burrows away at me until I do it. So my answer…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 08:13 PM
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OYS Checking in after a while. ​ Last time I 'fessed up to being in my comfort zone and set out to up the ante a bit. ​ Since then I spent a few months striving to cast my net a bit further than the sidebar and one of the things I eventually got to was dropping two tabs of LSD which I did this weekend. I am not a big drugs guy but I am told what I experienced is known as "tripping balls". Honestly if I had a real understanding of how intense it would be I would probably not have done it. But I d…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 05:11 PM
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Couture? Man I thought I was a Victorian dandy relative to my peer group but you guys are showing me a whole new level.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 09:43 AM
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"abuse" and "neglect" are two distinct concepts. Probably some "abusive" parents that you and I would instantly vilify, congratulate themselves that they would never, ever be "neglectful" i.e. the kids all get fed on time etc. But it works both ways. ​ I mean... don't let one of your kids drown in the pool to make a point. That's all I'm saying. ​ You'll figure it out. I'm not worried. We're all gonna make it bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/19 02:48 PM
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The Balmoral in Edinburgh. Think the high street is quite good there too. I will check them out.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/19 10:33 PM
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Weird: I am going to the opera next weekend. Flying to UK for it and staying in a nice hotel. Any recommendations for an off the rack three quarter length coat?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/19 08:40 AM
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People always have that one poker tell week in, week out. Yours is the kids. Eating paint, falling, locked in rooms for hours, left out in the car. We’re all pro feral children here, so no one thing someone would call you out on. But over this year you’ve given out more little red flags than the Beijing Olympic committee. Someone else would make some shrewd comment about your upbringing but I am retarded. Is there something you want off your chest?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 09:18 PM
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The best revenge is living well.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 05:24 PM
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Thanks for the attempted lamp rub dude, actually I want to DM you some business questions.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 04:35 PM
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I’m not convinced DOMS is due to “muscle damage” or “micro tears” or whatever. I think it’s probably something to do with your nervous system and there’s some intriguing texts out there on how the brain determines which nervous system signals are “pain” that I am too stupid to fully understand but like to imagine are related. For context I’m natty as Greta Thurberg but can adapt to squatting heavy every day. 0 DOMS. However if I change program or take a week off, I’ll immediately get soreness ev…
/r/askMRP12/10/19 03:31 PM
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I won’t dogpile you but the underlying issue is you need to lead it. That’s where the thrill is produced - for both of you - being in control/being out of control, leading/following. Not saying demand 100% compliance out of the gate but try “steering” things 60-90% of the time. (Light) choking, spanking, hair pulling and doggy is easily thrown in and requires no preplanning. But I feel like getting comfortable with making some of your own noise and talking, with the goal of verbal play and instr…
/r/askMRP03/10/19 07:53 PM
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Pornhub has a category called "female friendly" or something (maybe erotic or romantic?). It's one of the standard ones. But any situational stuff with no crying or vomit is probably fine. Agree with Stone: women have no idea what arouses them. My wife loved watching porn one time. Like literally thought "This is it" in terms of arousal. 0 interest since then. One other time she wanted to see a particular celebs sex tape (might be an option) but that was just idle curiosity/figure envy. She will…
/r/askMRP03/10/19 05:14 PM
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Huh. I've had kangaroo a few times and never once wondered which bit I was eating.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 11:50 AM
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Articles: https://sci-fit.net/keto-study-collection/ https://leangains.com/low-carb-talibans/
/r/askMRP29/09/19 05:29 PM
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Press behind your balls, the "gouch" as I believe it's known. You should get a pretty good extra spurt and be bone dry. Started doing it about 15 years ago and all this drip humor passed me by.
/r/askMRP28/09/19 08:14 PM
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Google Frankl-the-uncle-Tom-Nazi-collaborator-and-apologist for a pinch of salt though.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 07:57 PM
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1) hold your breath from before you unrack 2) I switched from a false grip to a "bulldog" grip pressing. I can actually get the bar lower and more over the ulna bone like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/19 07:31 AM
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/u/00Pi Posting in OYS most weeks. Probably at the “gets worse before it gets better” stage but sounds like a totally different guy.
/r/askMRP19/09/19 04:35 PM
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Man I stalled hard at 225lbs. Which was frustrating as I have those stubby T. rex arms you hear so much about, I bulked hard and I could overhead press body weight. Tried everything, including goofing around with reverse grip benching. It’s a fun lift, you’d be surprised how much you can lift like this once you get used to it. Anyway after adapting to the reverse grip and working up to 235lbs, I would get DOMS... in my biceps. They’re not a prime mover obviously but play a role in stabilizing th…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/19 01:20 PM
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There’s many paths. I’ve been GM, MD, SVP, COO and freelance over the years earning from 100k or so mid-twenties to 250k and beyond in thirties and I have a high school education. Mainly in Europe but stints in US, ME and Asia too. At 35 I’d be looking for 200k plus 50% bonus, back in US. The old advice to network and switch job every 2-3 years always worked for me. That and because I dropped out of college at 17, I have 18 years of experience. Add 8 companies, 10 countries in the same vertical …
/r/TheRedPill12/09/19 05:05 PM
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I used to be big into self talk, habits etc then probably overcorrected towards the attitude of biological determinism - a MRPer described me in a PM as optimizing my physical existence. I think you need both: taking care of your meat machine and pure mental tools like self-talk and habit forming.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/19 06:59 AM
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Found this somewhere in the middle: I couldn’t see a way out of not answering these without making her more insecure. Learn to stay out of people's heads. Let people wonder what's going on in yours. Everything will get easier.
/r/askMRP06/09/19 12:48 PM
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After deadlifts my ass, erectors and upper abs are sore. That's it. ​ Don't get me wrong, everything else is engaged but the right type of training has just removed all the areas you list from being close to limit strength. ​ The answer is simply that you are very, very weak right now. ​ forearms, biceps, lats, traps, abs, and neck You feel your forearms because you have no grip. I have popeye forearms without any direct work but you should try pulling in straps and bring up your grip with stati…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 08:25 AM
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You hardly see great deadlifters who are not massive. Long arms help but most great deadlifters are pretty big. I'll take a wild guess this isn't you but look at lightweight powerlifters. Plenty of triple body weight deadlifts, plenty of tiny guys. ​ The point is, these psuedo-powerlifting routines are the new way to fuckaround. ​ The laundry list of exercises in these OP's, to build the muscles to deadlift more (wait wasn't deadlifting meant to do that?) Waste of time. "Getting a PT to show me …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 07:14 AM
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When all you do is iso moves its easy to become imbalanced. TIL deadlifting was the only compound move. 10% BF 34 inch waist Good one. Brad Pitt... not impressive really K fatty. I think, like the OP, the scramble to AMOG has scuffed out the line which clearly delineates to the rest of the world what is a hobby (like making model aircraft or antiquing) and what improves sexual options. I recently competed at a Highland Games - where I was literally criticized for looking like a bodybuilder - Sam…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 08:33 PM
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I doubt he’s quoting anyone. It’s a truism any non competitor with a decent deadlift will have encountered. It’s also been stated by many popular powerlifters, strongmen and coaches over the years. Reddit darling Greg Nuckols recommends trap bar DL, leg press and CGBP (or push press) as a “big three” for non competitors. The deadlift is how most people with jobs that require any kind of lifting should be lifting. It's what people mean when they give the safety advice of 'lift with your legs, not…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 05:05 AM
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This is the only decent advice in this thread. Aside from safety, the “70% technical” should be a clue it’s not a great mass builder. I managed to be completely DYEL all the way to a triple body weight DL because my bench sucked and I never did direct arm work. All it got me were internet points and spinal erectors that could stop a small caliber bullet. Hardly the best sexual strategy. first of a good series here. He covers everyone from Brad Pitt to Tom Hardy over the years. Not a deadlift men…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 04:46 AM
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I used my own ghetto NLP to quit smoking: every time I had the impulse, I visualized being completely nauseous in as much detail as possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 02:12 PM
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Go to r/fitness and read their wiki. It has recommended programs in it. Probably the two things you need to do are: Work out what your specific, measureable goals are; Work out how much time you can train each week. The perfect program will be informed by the answers to those questions. R/gainit is probably worth a look too as may be r/weakpots (the safe place for weak lifting). R/weightroom is good to get some exposure to people who are actually strong. Although I would not post there yet if I …
/r/askMRP02/09/19 08:23 PM
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I did 5/3/1 for 2 years. Various templates. Got very little out of it. Conversely I made massive gains with intensity/abbreviated based stuff like RPT. Never trained with percentages or periodization since. Some people are the other way about. Doesn’t matter what randos say about a program. You will have to kiss a few frogs to find out what works for you. Again: time. That being said I was probably in a similar spot in having no athletic background whatsoever and therefore “0” work capacity, GPP…
/r/askMRP02/09/19 07:45 PM
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You do not need to be fully recovered to get a training stimulus. You are not really training muscle so much as basic coordination in the very, very beginning. Probably you were gripping the bar in a slightly different position. The point is you don't know the right questions to ask. Just do a program for 6 months.
/r/askMRP02/09/19 03:49 PM
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55% of nothing is still nothing. You are obviously so weak as to not even be on a linear strength curve yet. All that can be inferred from those comments. Eat. Lift. Repeat. FFS eat at least a gram of protein per lb body weight like anyone who actually has success in the gym.
/r/askMRP02/09/19 02:58 PM
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90g of protein Why no PR this week? Lats are strong from previous history dancing Get real man. Do it properly or don’t do it all. If the former, check in in a couple of months.
/r/askMRP02/09/19 02:42 PM
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You’re fat and have oneitis.
/r/askMRP01/09/19 10:54 AM
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Think we have different opinions on which ones the noob.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/19 02:50 PM
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You need more pulling motions for the anterior delts and rotators Dips are slightly better than curls Take a look at the nSuns sub Someone developing a noob lifter bot?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/19 01:40 PM
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I have work events coming up with a private suite to a baseball game and free booze. Fuck. The week before that, company BBQ with booze. Fuck. I used to say drinking was essential in my career. Being seen to have a good time, being seen to be able to drink but not lose my head, being seen to be out late with clients and back in the office first thing... this was what gave you real credibility. It was very much part of the various cultures I grew up and worked in over the years. ​ Now I realize m…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 03:06 PM
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I'd love some advice/feedback/probing questions on any gaps in my thought process. I really don't know what your personal goals are or your appetite for risk but I, personally, would never take such a linear approach. Never met anyone that had success that way and at 33 you're rapidly solidifying the level of success you'll have for your remaining career. ​ When comparing the latent value of your time spent (over a 24 month period say) consider that for all your future roles, you most likely wou…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 01:52 PM
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relevant to the implied context.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 12:07 PM
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I used to rep 450lb deadlifts in the third floor of a rickety old apartment building. Might be easier to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission. That being said, I’ve had 3 home gyms and honestly enjoying being back in a tiny commercial gym right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 09:42 PM
2

I just play the “immigrant song” on repeat.
/r/askMRP20/08/19 09:31 PM
1

It’s a lot bro. But being brutally honest: where are the boundaries? You are entering the “trainwreck” zone. It’s only “all your fault” until you decide it’s not.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 09:03 PM
2

bumble What did you do for photos this time around?
/r/askMRP19/08/19 07:32 PM
2

/u/man_in_the_world had a recent exchange on “shitty comfort tests” or basically demands for “unconditional comfort” - I forget who with - that covered the topic. I know resolutions316 has made a lot of progress with it over his journey - might be worth checking out. People do more of what works. If you always give your wife a free pass every time she’s vulnerable, hysterical etc you’re going to end up with a pretty dysfunctional wife. You can choose to see it as a failure of leadership or an at…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/19 07:31 AM
4

A lot of trainers get people to flop around like a retard. It looks and feels like the client is doing... something. And maybe even most of the trainers believe in it after the two day seminar they got their certificate at. No athlete, bodybuilder or even Redditor trains like that. That is all I can type without mockery. Please visit the r/fitness wiki or hang out on r/weightroom for 30 seconds.
/r/askMRP16/08/19 04:01 PM
2

It’s all relative: his ex is a Redditor that likes cats.
/r/askMRP16/08/19 10:06 AM
2

Ghengis Khan got closest to “1” IRL (record for procreation with est. >1,000 children). He was happily married his whole life, as well as pursuing extra marital partners. I’d argue societal conditioning/tradition was minimal as he founded the society via a series of military coups and was an oath breaker to previous traditions. The marriage came first. Additional partners scaled with growing resources. Almost like he had two disparate drives to be managed simultaneously. A “dual strategy” if you…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/19 06:11 AM
2

Download bumble.
/r/askMRP15/08/19 05:57 PM
1

Just coming at this from another angle: I’m a pretty self contained guy. Physically and emotionally, I like to handle my shit, don’t like being dependent on others. To a pathological degree. So I do all the finances, earning and spending as well as my own chores, make my own meals, take my kids out on my own, if my wife’s being a bitch I just go out or read a book. On paper it was fine but I think in reality she was kind of like that employee you end up underutilizing because you’re planning on …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 06:36 PM
3

dude, really? Machines are the enemy. Everyone knows that. Especially the smith machine. What’s going on in work? Few breadcrumbs over these: starts off well, bit of family pressure due to travel but you like it, then asking for new projects, then looking for another job, now a “more focused” role.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 06:45 AM
1

Eh, I’ve seen your posts before. I think there’s a pattern.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 11:18 AM
3

I came close to divorcing my wife over her neediness and insanity. I really don’t recognize all these ball busting women who takeover lives and finances. You’re on the right track with starting to weather the storm but I think the next stage is some introspection on what is reasonable and what is not and finally holding her to that standard.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 09:57 AM
1

😯
/r/askMRP12/08/19 10:26 AM
1

Heh tried this. Seriously legit. Didn’t realize how chronically fatigued I was till I tried it. Made my 100 rep squat workout much easier too. Makes my fingers itch though. Are you doing 100mg ED?
/r/askMRP12/08/19 06:29 AM
2

If you want to get married: get married. I’d maybe sense check how things are going before kids. Up till then, it’s a pretty clean break. If it doesn’t work out, you can always get divorced so prepare the legal and financial groundwork for that BEFORE you get married.
/r/askMRP11/08/19 04:40 AM
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Been hopping on planes at a moment's notice for 18 years. 10 of those married. 4 with kids. Doesn't have to change anything - my three year old has lived in three countries so far - and honestly I need to slow down anyway. Big advantage of going the wife, kids and mortgage route is you can flip between corporate jobs all over the globe and/or take year long sabbaticals and you have a partner to assist with the logistics. It's really the difference between a movable home and living out of a suitc…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/19 08:26 AM
1

you can always stop if it's not having the effect you were hoping for. First time I've heard this sentiment. "on it for life" is the usual refrain.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/19 06:41 AM
1

I just need to be comfortable facing the consequences of my choice. The only consequence you can truly predict is the act of doing what you want. Your problem is not placing appropriate value on that first. ​ That and running a tape of your wife hen-pecking you (Poor woman hasn't even started yet). They don't tell people afraid of flying to fantasize about plane wrecks do they? ​ That being said. If you can't have fun on an 8 week vacation your employer wants you to take... you might have other …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 02:37 PM
2

I am just not there yet with wanting to put alcohol down completely, we are still kind of friends. For the record, I have nothing against D&A. I am experimenting with psychedelics personally, will probably be shooting myself full of steroids in the near future and it seems unlikely I will never, ever be drunk off my ass or high out of my mind again. ​ But I do know what it is like to have a mental itch you can't scratch and that not everyone has it. ​ You will never lean into, and get past, what…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 02:06 PM
1

I did. ​ It's easy to walk around in short, shorts reading pump-up books if you're already vain and self-obsessed. Addressing your own weak points should feel as nigh-impossible as a fat land whale would find getting down to the human-sized seatbelt on an airplane. ​ Ask yourself whether you're doing the easy stuff by day and gassing with your MRPies by night. ​ You think I like talking about my non-functional penis?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 01:02 PM
3

Every post you make has a reference to drugs and alcohol in it. ​ As well as a struggle against some unspecified malaise that plagues your life. ​ Coincidence?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 08:26 AM
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So, I can either take a leave I don't want to take or break a promise I made and set off a shitstorm. You have the right to change your mind motherfucker.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 07:03 AM
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I think despite it all you’ve got a Madonna/whore thing going on. I see you meeting a nice, well educated lady, that you haven’t peed on, and getting shacked up.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 04:34 AM
1

I think you’ve got more than a little white knight in you. Once you get out of your way and own your own thoughts, even the ugly ones, all this cover contract stuff will fall away.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 04:49 PM
4

recorded on video Digital DEERing. You must be a real hit with the ladies.
/r/askMRP06/08/19 03:58 PM
2

big one for me too. Like red said: “even if it’s you who is the problem: who cares?”. I agree with the extreme ownership crowd at times. But in the meantime we’re all dying one second at a time and that needs to be factored in too. They’re both overcorrections to end up somewhere in the middle. I’m not sure you personally need to be harder on yourself. Put more simply, my MIL says to my wife when she wants to better herself: “you’re already all the woman you’re ever going to be”. It’s meant as a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 03:44 PM
2

I also finally got round to shaving my own head. Miss the pro beard trims tho.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 03:28 PM
7

we've talked about her switching shifts as most of her friends have switched to days as they got older and married. Is she a sex worker?
/r/askMRP06/08/19 02:50 PM
3

Solid stuff bro. Don't beat yourself up too much though. I think you're at a turning point and the next one will be accepting you're not perfect and you don't need to be to want what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 02:37 PM
3

Played another show in Canada, immediately came down with Strep throat Never drink the water in Third World countries. (someone on here recommended, can't remember who). Me btw. #sexotter.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 02:19 PM
1

OYS All good except a broke, non-functional libido. I have to remind myself to bang my wife and have zero interest in any others. ​ Feel like I really did leave no stone unturned here, did all the supplements, and just finished two weeks dicking around with a CPAP thinking it might have been a sleep issue. ​ So now I've got the bloods, got a couple of doctors booked to look at them and am generally lurking on the testosterone and steroids subs. Still not cool with sharps in the home and still go…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 01:06 PM
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The big spoon is silent.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 03:31 PM
1

Lol straight to the point.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 11:39 AM
3

Mines pretty low bro and I’m symptomatic of low T. Dick has been broken for months and I generally want to blow my head off. You can work through it but it’s up hill sure. I tried everything for sleep, boron, IF etc for forever. And I mean everything. I’m pretty lean and jacked so it’s not a body comp issue. I’m likely to go straight to UGL but if I was in the US or maybe even UK and could get a specialist I’d have been there a year ago.
/r/askMRP04/08/19 05:57 PM
1

The first rule of fight club is: please, please don’t talk about CrossFit.
/r/askMRP04/08/19 06:09 AM
5

She made you get a tattoo? Sounds like a real shot caller prag.
/r/askMRP03/08/19 03:42 PM
1

I think the peeing is just poor sleep in general btw. ​ I've read production of urine slows in deep sleep. I'm not an expert on the science but anecdotally I can eat like 2lbs of greek yogurt and 2 pints of milk before bed and be fine. Or nothing and be peeing every couple of hours.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 12:12 PM
1

No but my normal routine is low exposure with low lights, very limited time on devices (which are filtered anyway) and reading on a non-backlit screen. My home is pretty much a bear cave by 7pm. I definitely notice the difference in circumstances where I do get a lot of exposure and my wife's sleep is shitty compared to mine. Conversely if we're in a cabin or something for the weekend and down to candle/firelight in the evening, you can't keep your eyes open.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 11:10 AM
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Planning on taking kids in 2020. Sicily worth the connection if you can get there. Rome is overrated, Milan is underrated. Venice is correctly rated (at awesome). Food is good everywhere. Driving sucks but trains are good - riding one through the alps could be the best part. ​ Be prepared to experience heat with no air-con, 4-5 hours of walking a day, and resorting to sucking dicks for protein if you don't take your own whey. ​ Prego.
/r/askMRP02/08/19 09:03 AM
1

Welcome back dude. My own quest for sleep is never ending. Using a CPAP now. Ear plugs are great but I tried tons of brands before finding these: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000V3PZB0/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_dt.qDb6YBP602 ​ Zero pain and very effective. ​ If you don't take ZMA or supplement Zinc and Magnesium, give it a try for sure. Cutting blue light and caffeine are big ticket items for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 08:40 AM
1

I always took it off for weightlifting, just stopped putting it back on. It didn't sit comfortably on my finger though. Possibly because I have skeletal hands. That reminds me: my wife has platinum rings but I got Palladium. She went nuts at the time even when I explained I didn't see the point in wasting money on something as meaningless as a wedding ring.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 07:40 AM
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Am I missing this as a comfort test of some sort? I don't think it is, because it's not directed at me and about her relationship with me. You answered your own question. Ignore, fog whatever. Just don't caretake or try and logic it away. Deprive the fire of oxygen and enjoy yourself. ​ Just back from a similar vacation. And guess what? There was a TON of drama. Everyone had a good time. For two weeks in the sun. Lots of laughs, lots of activities. ​ So far, so good. ​ I mean: if you make it to …
/r/askMRP02/08/19 07:27 AM
1

if no one follows the strategy (for whatever reason) is it still the strategy? also not convinced cavemen or apes had a great deal of abundance either. Far less I would think and far greater risks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 05:27 AM
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Curious if you really believe this? 99% of the minds anonymously puked out on sex subs are not trying to do achieve this. Not even close.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 04:54 PM
1

Figured out the squat safety bars dont keep you from losing complete range of motion For sure. Helps if you have an arch. I always bench like this, even in a commercial gym. ​ Either I'm going balls to the wall for reps and most spotters can't help but grab the bar. Or if I'm maxing out, no way I'd trust anyone I see in the gym not to fuck it up. ​ Also the bottom half of the teabag position is distracting.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 08:51 AM
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Women are conniving and manipulating. Because hypergamy. Now how can I conspire with you guys to get them to do what I want?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 07:53 AM
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She will also suffer from her pride and be unable to go for the throat and live on alimony from me, she would only want child support. This is also a pretty retarded attitude. You must have seen siblings after their parents died or something similar. Multi-generation vendettas have been formed over a fucking second hand car. Legal situations bring out the worst in people ESPECIALLY when they have no fucking clue. I'm sure your wife has an uncle who is a hot-shot lawyer anyway. Everyone does. ​ B…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 07:07 AM
1

My ex girlfriend (who’s a teacher) thinks that Kid1 may have an auditory-processing disorder. Hope you were in control of the birth control for the 30 seconds before this conversation.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 06:46 AM
3

Better answer. again a lot still hinges on other people/external things. But it is a better answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 07:47 PM
1

Figures - I am also very wise. You need to think on your answer bro. You’re describing what a Pharaoh would want to be entombed with but you should know better than them in that you can’t take it with you. . Try and find something in the middle you can enjoy.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 07:10 PM
1

I've been trying to follow your stuff recently but honestly everyone seems to get it except me. ​ What, specifically, would you say is the number one thing you want? ​ If it's less than 100 words, go ahead and give me number two as well. ​ Don't say frame because I will come to your home and stab you. Anyway to me it's more like a "means" than an "end" so if you were going to reply "frame", tell me what frame would get you instead. It's OK if the answer is "serenity" or something I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 06:31 PM
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I go to LA Fitness. You dont see my crying about not living next to Metroflex do you? I've always admired your quiet dignity on this subject.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 06:21 PM
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Sorry, you didn't hear me. I SAID: "FIND. A. WAY. TO. KEEP. MOVING. FORWARD."
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 10:45 AM
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"if you want to do something nice for me come over and insert sexual comment". Eh, I know a lot of mods and EC's recommend cringeworthy dad-joke-type-inuendo as the go-to but as someone with actual social skills, it's just something I would never do. ​ I don't think it's a deal breaker.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 10:17 AM
1

I forgot to add to my bullet points but I also said no more kids. That was a while back but in hindsight it was the end of the beginning. I second the stuff about the remaining anger but I’m probably more optimistic than some about you turning it around. We’re all gonna make it bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 05:29 AM
2

Kind of funny: I took mine off. She took hers off. I kept mine off. She put hers back on. Mine stayed off. I’m sure her hamster had a wild ride. I honestly haven’t given it any thought. It doesn’t mean anything. That’s the point.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 08:50 PM
2

For sure, just such a weird way of doing it. Reminds me of Never Split the Difference: author recommends breaking the ice by getting someone to say “no” early on as questions constructed to be overly agreeable actually make people defensive.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 08:12 PM
1

Agree. For the record I think there’s nothing wrong with your approach of diarising it as opposed to radio silence. As Red S said: easy to confuse extreme NGAF with strong frame but they’re not the same thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 07:06 PM
1

I agree I think you’re on the right track and what will be will be. I did flick through your original askMRPs when you mentioned them earlier btw. I don’t see a mess, I see one of the few guys running the program and just needed some hand holding. I think again there’s some counter intuitive stuff going on that’s causing some doubt.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 04:04 PM
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when do you stop playing your nice card everyday (aka reset)? You still reset. You're still nice. Probably the most sincerely kind I've ever been to my wife was when I explained her behavior was unacceptable and our marriage was ending as a result. Well... if not kind, there was less anger or frustration than there had been in a long time. ​ You say you're congruent, you say there's no cover contracts but you're still looking for a change based on your behavior. Maybe the natural drop of your pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 03:18 PM
2

I know my lifts are weak, we all gotta start somewhere, just need to take it week by week and avoid any more injuries. Given you're 33, you're somewhat behind the curve to begin with. Some people deadlift >500lbs in their first year of lifting. What do you think they were doing after 6 weeks? ​ It's not about your lifts, it's about not having a faggot mindset. ​ Although, sidenote: don't deadlift at all if it's a choice between that and your spine. Let's face it: you're never going to be a power…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:15 PM
3

I feel something big is coming. It’s like two tectonic plates butting up against each other, there’s minor foreshocks (these cycles), but something major must give soon. I removed: My wedding ring; My presence and; My affection. At this point for better results. I just like it when everyone's cards are on the table. ​ Of course after we did have a showdown she started working on a ton of external things to catch up and be comfortable in the relationship. Which goes to show from her point of view…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 01:53 PM
2

Right now I'm fine with my body fat from looks and don't need to worry about it. You should worry about it. In fact if you can only bench half your body weight: your weaksauce physique is like a burning building you should be racing to escape.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 01:26 PM
1

Good link - I will need to read that book for sure. I am sleep obsessed. Trying a CPAP for the last week. If you can get past waking up feeling like there's a facehugger orally raping you: it's a good night's sleep. You might want to check this out: https://www.elitefts.com/education/the-good-the-bad-and-the-ugly-of-using-the-ultimate-performance-enhancer/
/r/askMRP30/07/19 12:52 PM
1

Dunno dude. Maybe it's your writing but this seems like the inverse of ICM's situation. ​ My frame is now a man of fairness, yet resolve and kind, strong love. I gladly give my gifts to those who appreciate them. I am forgiving for minor first time mistakes. I am not forgiving when known boundaries or major infractions are crossed. Sounds like you're playing a role. ​ I have no idea how I ended up with a submissive wife. It still boggles my mind. As /u/InChargeMan wrote about in a post a recentl…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 12:45 PM
2

My wife has the strangest way of phrasing requests. She would say: "is that OK then? If you get me some water?" i.e. in her head she's already asked the question. The clarification of what it is is a complete after thought. It actually takes prompting on occasion. Peak solipsism.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 11:35 AM
4

I've found learning a language like Spanish easy because you're basically substituting words. But something like German can be a mind fuck because, while the vocabulary is very similar to English, the subject, object, verb order changes. So it's harder to "think" in it. ​ Example: Can I drink here? Becomes Kann ich hier trinken? in German ​ Even worse: Can I drink here later? Becomes Kann ich spater hier trinken? in German but Puedo beber acqui mas tarde? in Spanish ​ Totally different words in …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 09:57 AM
1

Melatonin needs to be taken at a specific time, else it doesn't work. When? I've heard two versions of this: an hour prior bed and more like 4-5 hours. Tried both but couldn't really pinpoint any difference myself. ​ That book is on my list but haven't gotten to it yet. Title reminds me of the other pop-biology classic: Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers. Also a good read.
/r/askMRP30/07/19 06:53 AM
5

The vast majority of posts in askMRP are useless, because they are basically something like "She. She. She. I said this. She did this. Then I said like. What should've I done better?" In most cases, what he said and what she did is totally irrelevant because the OP of these posts cannot even look at the right things. I agree but I think the value comes when the comments collectively (or sometimes individually) invert an example and demonstrate one or more of the following: The OP is not a snowfl…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/19 11:51 AM
5

Solid insight on a solid post.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/19 10:31 AM
7

There’s a couple of proven techniques to fall asleep: Breath out counting it, breath in counting it, hold counting it. You can google for some rhythm s but I think as long as it goes: long, shorter, shortest it’s fine. The second most proven one - apparently it’s taught in some militaries - is imagining you’re in a black hammock on a black beach on a black night. Sounds creepy to me but again, google it and give it a try. Be sure to ditch blue light as much as caffeine. They say 2 hours but I’d …
/r/askMRP28/07/19 08:22 PM
6

If you don’t use knee sleeves and wrist wraps - and possibly elbow sleeves - give them a try.
/r/askMRP27/07/19 01:56 PM
2

further reading
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/19 05:23 PM
1

Barring Gargarin from entering the US was the real alpha move.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/19 12:15 PM
5

How did you do? Score of around 30-50? Subpar to Novice Level? Sounds about right. You still don’t know what strength is but at least you know how weak you are. ​ Is it meant to be a number? I just made out the words: "DOMINATOR" ​ Flicker across the screen before the device exploded and the entire block went dark. Two pregnant women in the building spontaneously went into labor too. ​ Weird.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 12:06 PM
2

I think it's like lifting: not a bad thing to do but it doesn't lead to frame in and of itself. ​ The "elements of frame" series was pretty good. You can definitely have specific points of failure in terms of physical, mental, emotional and vision. ​ You may be looking at the mental aspect somewhat in isolation here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 12:01 PM
1

Guess the doc has checked it but this and the sleep thing sound like anemia. ​ ​ You might want to look into "snake juice" or Efferding's salt advice that I often reference. Might also be a factor given your dieting and high activity levels. I definitely think you're too fat for it to be net energy. ​ ​ Don't discount the small things: salt was a game changer for me while cutting.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 08:04 AM
1

Airbnb palaces can be had. I've been eyeing some of the ones in Thailand recently. Place is getting seriously gentrified.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 07:41 AM
2

Nah just a dude with a passport. Skipped the John Galt monologue too.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 06:23 PM
2

Reading 48 Laws of Power (Still… I’m fucking around with this and just need to plow through it – I dislike the structure of the chapters) Read it a couple of years back and hated it. Reads like clicking through random historical figures in Wikipedia.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 03:21 PM
2

My MIL is almost useless too. Fortunately her one use is in fact watching my kids. She ignores them while they watch TV, feeds them garbage and does weird shit like teach them to pray in an attempt to annoy me. I also have to fly to another country for this privilege. ​ Cost of doing business.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 03:16 PM
1

You'll be glad when the kids are out of the house and you're still a very young man. This is one of those "choose to be happy" moments. ​ Travelling international with kids is tough due to the cost multiplier. Unavoidable to a certain extent. But I would roadtrip the shit out of the continent and hit most of the national parks if stranded there for multiple years. ​ Dumping the kids is your winner here though. Don't feel like it has to be for long: once you do the family thing just take a Monday…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 01:53 PM
2

Does it rhyme with wreck?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 01:04 PM
15

Which one of you has BPD again?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 12:39 PM
1

Same one in the active sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 11:41 AM
1

Entrepreneurs in Cars: Guys, Girls & the 21 Convention Still a reference there my dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 10:01 AM
2

Djibouti anyone? Seriously good beaches though.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 06:10 AM
1

180lb. Doesn’t really matter how lean or fat it is imho.
/r/askMRP23/07/19 05:43 AM
1

Works for me 🤷‍♂️
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/19 05:58 PM
1

It's "about this community" in the top right on mobile. Three horizontal dots, then "community info" in the app IIRC
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/19 01:41 PM
3

One of the best attempts at curing this delusion I’ve seen.
/r/askMRP20/07/19 11:59 AM
6

Sob.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 09:11 PM
1

AWALT. I get it. Not what I’m saying. People are saying she actually did it. Yes that. She did.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 06:57 PM
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I agree. The only difference is that's what would have happened had I not see the text messages that were leading up to that. Man it is soooo important to you that all of reddit knows your unicorn was not sullied.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 06:51 PM
0

Only you know who you’re doing it for. I’ve seen worse in the comments section though so: lift, sidebar, STFU. I’d recommend the Rationale Male first.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 06:47 PM
8

Don’t know. Don’t care. Believe it or not: that is the answer you’re looking for.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 06:39 PM
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Saying “my wife is limerent” instead of “my wife is a cheating whore who sucks and fucks her co workers”. Having oneitis. Being a dancing monkey for someone else. Asking anons how your dance moves are and how you can improve them. Be glad I got there first.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 06:28 PM
2

I can hit 315lbs x 15. Pretty high but it’s really the only way to be sure.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 06:01 PM
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Lol. You made good progress so far. Although your deadlift is pretty lacklustre. This: https://symmetricstrength.com/ Is pretty good for setting goals. 1000lb club I.e. total of all three lifts is not too far off. I’d shoot for that.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 05:57 PM
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315lbs deadlift for you wife to stop fucking Chad 405lb wife will fuck you 450lbs your high school crush will call to say she was you and foolish but now recognizes you’re a god descended to walk amongst us in human form 495lbs you sublime and become a being composed purely of light.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 05:34 PM
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My wife lost weight. Now she goes to the gym 5 days a week, has one solid meal a day - and the rest shakes - to keep improving. She’s meeting a surgeon next week to arrange a breast reduction. She always wanted one but wanted to wait until kids were done.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 04:10 PM
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Good example and possibly general advice for you here. ​ That being said, the emphasis in that OP is the statement was made with no emotion. And that's what the guys are telling you here: you're not there yet. More than anything you need the absolute certainty that your current situation is soon to become the past state. That shit is real and unfakeable. ​ But you write like you still have a lot of frustration and therefore some level of anger going on. ​ You still have a few things to own and I…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/19 09:56 AM
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I've been to a couple of lap/table dancing clubs with my wife and friends. I find the US ones a bit depressing but there's some pretty touristy/iconic places in London, Paris, Hamburg, Prague etc. that are definitely worth rolling into a night out. ​ It's usually some fun and maybe an opportunity for my wife to see what men like first hand. ​ As to dread. I highly doubt it. But I remember a time at a table dancing place with a male/female couple dancing. Me and a male friend were howling and thr…
/r/askMRP19/07/19 07:28 AM
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One of them has to be the privilege of helping young men with special needs.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 07:10 AM
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It means you stop posting on r/askMRP every week. ​ I'm not saying that to be a dick bro but really you need to put in some work. ​ Why? Why is this not being a dick? ​ Personally I think the most unattractive thing going on here is your mindset. I know guys fatter than you that slay and actually in your previous thread I thought maybe you'd be one of them. But here you are again requesting cheat codes, the same casual way that you'd ask for extra dip on the fully loaded nachos you eat between s…
/r/askMRP19/07/19 07:01 AM
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Perfect answer right here bro.
/r/askMRP18/07/19 02:39 PM
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Pay a hobo to sit in your car reading this into your ear in a French accent. ​ EDIT: actually there is a free audiobook here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbtHZ3fsL2Y No French accent tho...
/r/askMRP18/07/19 01:02 PM
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I get the impression our minds work in a similar way. What worked for me was reading a lot of variations on a theme and just letting it percolate in the background as I did the external stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 07:52 AM
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Very cool. I'd throw on 40kg just to feel it out, then 60kg agw. ​ Few reps, staying well away from failure, during a warmup is a good intro for sure. If anything, it'll improve your work set - there's a good study that shows preceding a squat or DL with a move that forces bracing increases performance and I've always found it to be the case. ​ Let me know how it goes.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 06:52 AM
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You can definitely get all the benefits from other lifts if need be. Good recent comment here btw: https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ceixzx/welp_i_blew_out_my_back_lifting_what_now/eu354nt/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app Anyway your comment on back pain made me think of Jefferson deadlifts. Man I was messing around with these a while back and it was like flossing my spine. I didn’t have pain before but it felt GREAT after. Something better than the absence of pain. Asymmetric lift li…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 05:10 AM
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Good you figured out something that works for you - I’ve actually tried placing or rotating my feet asymmetrically myself. That being said, don’t feel like you must squat or deadlift if it becomes something holding you back.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 04:15 AM
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Honestly it’s easy. Just lazy not doing it before. I’ve got the “quit it” app with the date in it otherwise I probably wouldn’t remember precisely when I started. Quitting smoking years ago was far harder and I have tried and failed to quit coffee recently. The book is really good with mindset. Edit: app is called “Quit That!”. Just a free counter that tracks multiple quitting dates.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 04:37 PM
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It won’t have as much of an impact when you’re bigger. 164lb is still a sentient broomstick. You should end up 200lbs and able to see your abs through a tight t shirt.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 03:46 PM
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Wife again?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 03:25 PM
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Story checks out: just keeping you on your toes ;-) ​ Agree you'll be carrying 2-5lbs of bloat at anytime from long term bulking. My own weight has just settled 4lbs higher since I started bulking again a few days again. Nothing more than water retention and a little stomach content.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 02:25 PM
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No. Not a drop for 9 months. ​ No grand plan or anything but I figure I'll push through to 12 months 100% clean for bragging rights and adjust.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 02:18 PM
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Lol my wife is European, so she just thinks it's one of my many eccentricities.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 01:52 PM
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I’ve found that the more I identify and embrace my frame the less of a social chameleon I become. This is progress bro. ​ I didn’t realise how it had to be 100%. Helpful insight; it jibes with what I’ve read on the sidebar. These are "fake it till you make it thoughts". It's not the wrong thing to do. But I think you have to appreciate the end goal is a level beyond this. ​ It's been said a thousand times but frame is not something you "do": it's something you "are". There's some good write-ups …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 01:05 PM
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6’0, 162lbs Losing weight brah?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 09:03 AM
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Your plan to cut down drinking is to go out and drink alone... k. Try reading “This Naked Mind” its in the r/stopdrinking sidebar and worked for a lot of people.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 09:05 PM
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Most people stall hard at 225lbs before they find something that works and take off. I think if you’re coming from the 5x5 type thinking you need to put on your bodybuilder’s hat (or possibly sweatband). Don’t go full retard (never go full retard) but curls, close grip bench, dips and high rep cable extensions should be in there plus shoulder and upper back work. I hear chains and I’m picturing powerlifting going on. There’s a place for that but if you dissected your legs you’d find they’re far …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 08:43 PM
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Those same guys balanced shot loaded barbells on their feet to leg press. And did a pull over to floor press to try and hit their chest. Pretty sure they would have benched if they could’ve. Also if you think a Victoria era strongman was healthier than you, google the age they died at. Edit: I think Arthur Saxon was crushed by a car he tried to lift in a drunken bet. That’s a hell of a lifting injury.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 06:45 PM
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The breath control and row prior will help. I would never not superset benching with rows or pull ups these days. It sounds like weak triceps but at that weight its also weak everything. It is when I started hitting everything on those bullets and got up to 275lb fairly quickly. Programming is much of muchness but GSLP on TRT? I'd get on something with some balls. A lot of these cookie cutter routines work on legs because you can't go wrong but you'll need a mix of rep ranges and assistance to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 04:05 PM
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I've never been obsessed with a woman tho...
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 03:36 PM
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Took her to lunch today and after we said bye, we both turned and waved again when we got halfway down the street.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 03:15 PM
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This is tough love but I was also trying to ride the same two horses with one ass for a while. ​ I posted about stopping a while back which is precisely when shit tests, progress, backsliding and an overall actual power-struggle everyone else talks about started in earnest.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 02:59 PM
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What's your bench, bodyweight and what have you tried? I was going to hit you up and ask what your lifts are these days. I'm curious about the progress with TRT. Here's 20lbs for free: Hold your breath from BEFORE unracking, to as many reps as possible: Row (or at the very least stretch rear delts HARD) before benching. The first point really jacked up my repping power on every lift. Seriously I'll do like 5-6 heavy reps on any lift before taking a breath. ​ This is a good starting point if you'…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 01:39 PM
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I get that too. We have some parallels and aside from the idea of using a milestone, I think you're doing all you can do. I saw your comment on askMRP on the ebb and flow of response from your wife and think we both need to keep it in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 12:54 PM
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I would appreciate if you could highlight which parts make you want to commit suicide and explain why this is wrong. Otherwise, I cannot progress and fix the wrong behaviours. No.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 12:41 PM
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I feel like you, more than most, are trying to fix the engine while it's running. ​ Just throwing something out there: is there some kind of milestone you could use as a reset pivot point? A home move, a vacation, new job... stopping IVF. ​ Thousand foot rope thing never worked for me. More like marching off down a labyrinth and announcing that I'm headed down the next turn with or without her.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 12:28 PM
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2-4 drinks everyday. Usually at home, on the sofa.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 11:40 AM
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I continue to get living proofs of the effectiveness of the RP on my life. You're not applying RP yet and your post makes me want to suicide. ​ Someone else could read this on a Monday and seriously injure themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 10:01 AM
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A friend of mine said it’s the ‘long arms’ as I’m 6’4. Not sure if I believe that. I have short arms and can't bench for shit. But I've always been a DL monster. Go figure. ​ Personally I think it's more to do with the shape of your joints, sockets and (in the case of bench I would think) muscle inserts. There's a couple of good articles on this if of interest but I've mentioned before that this exhibit really changed my thinking about the whole thing. ​ Bunch of STEM Reddit nerds love to talk a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 09:59 AM
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OYS 25 Hey gays, just checking in in general. Time flies and I am 9 months teetotal. Starting before the holidays ,while it was still a conscious thing, was probably a smart move. Apart from the odd work dinner since then, there just haven’t been things that trigger the habit. Seemed unfair I had to give up my only vice but there just wasn’t anything else. Probably a lesson in there somewhere. Had a couple of DL9/10 type conversations over the last two months - albeit focused more on periodic cu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 08:42 AM
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Don't be fat though bro. And don't listen to the guys who tell you to lose a pound a week. ​ 5lbs a week. Minimum.
/r/askMRP16/07/19 07:51 AM
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Any advice on how to talk to my wife about that specifically? Don't. Just stop doing it. Every retard that thinks you can be addicted to porn, coffee or watching GoT and needs some super-special intervention to get by: needs to visit a halfway house for crackheads. ​ Stop being a faggot. Steps: Stop thinking (self-talking) like a faggot; Stop speaking (or typing) like a faggot; Stop acting like one. ​ For once I am deadly serious. ​ My overall question though is how to feel as a husband and dad …
/r/askMRP16/07/19 06:50 AM
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Is this $1MM of net worth in legit equity? Or is it $1MM in 30 years after you pay off your mortgage and cars? ​ It shouldn't be important but you seem to have a hamster that traveled back in time to prevent a real frame ever developing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 03:02 PM
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My comments were on maximizing cash flow. Amortizing a new car (or house for that matter): not the way to do it. The rates are low but all that indicates is an extremely high premium on the capital cost. Anyway, I did just drop back to say: don’t think dieting or whatever will fix this anymore than “leading by example”. I’m in the minority of starting off jacked. It’s been said a thousand times but if you’re worried about her reaction: you have no frame. And when you stop: you do. You should be …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 05:46 AM
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It's a similar situation. You mention "debt service" presumably this is car or house payments. Guess what? That's debt. I agree with WNS's comments re. FIRE but I also save about.... All of my income now. Why wouldn't I. Plenty of better things to spend money on than toys. Anyway I didn't comment to debate economics. I'm right on what could be a tipping point with a SAHM. I'll tell you what didn't work: Getting up at 5am to take the kids Working from home constantly to help Getting a nanny Quitt…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 04:33 PM
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An additional 100k of annual cash flow. 250k earning potential and broke over 150k and cash. Guess it depends on age but at 33 I’d beg my wife to take more cash now if it protected my future earnings. I go bankrupt on the reg though YMMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 07:25 AM
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I took my paternity leave in the middle of a high value project. Told them I’d leave as soon as she went into labor to maximize it. Every time my phone went in a boardroom, people jumped. They usually docked people’s pay slightly but I explained I’d prefer they kept me on full pay so they did. They have me a spot bonus after it too - just to cover their bases I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 06:22 PM
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One thing I’m not getting is: do you like where you’re at? Honestly it sounds like a shit job and situation for you too. I’ve mentioned before that I’ve lived in ten countries, dragging my wife to most of them. In the tenth right now. The eight was kind of like your current situation: I had real struggles at home (came home to my wife curled up in a ball crying more than once). I was also well paid, running a unique, high profile project in my industry. It was really a dream job on paper and lur…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 06:12 PM
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Ask your doctor to test you for a condition known as “autism”.
/r/askMRP13/07/19 12:45 PM
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I don’t get it. Why don’t you just get a divorce?
/r/askMRP13/07/19 09:47 AM
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It's definitely life experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 08:46 PM
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There’s individual answers to all these individual scenarios. Some things cost more than 50k. Sometimes you don’t have 50k (or don’t want to liquidate it) but can raise the debt provided a high income will dig you out on the other side. Sometimes it’s more useful to pay yourself than the strings or limitations imposed by an employer. Most importantly: sometimes you get one shot on a 100k salary but dozens on 250k. Don’t forget it’s not double the amount of expendable cash: it’s more like ten tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 08:21 PM
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Your 20k could have went on one high class escort or even better: 2,000 crack whores. But going back to my points: I think most people will find they don’t work as hard (or at least eat as much shit) at 200k as someone at 100k, I didn’t, and no where near as hard as I had to scrubbing pots and pans for minimum wage. I get people want “a challenge” too but maybe they didn’t go the pots and pans route. Added to that, your boss or client or whatever is far more likely have some people skills. There…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 06:40 PM
1

I find the color green always flatters and the size large always fits.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 04:54 PM
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I tell this quip pretty often -- and I'm going to tell you the same thing -- What's the difference between 250k and 150k a year? It's 100k, but if you're still flying commercial, what's the fucking point? I've seen you make this point a few times but there are several, real benefits: Lifestyle-wise a 250k job is almost always going to be far better; You can save for or rebuild your life in <12 months after decimating your finances in: An investment; A career change; A career break; A divorce. ​ …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 03:01 PM
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Recently dropped expensive gym membership to get finances back in control. Looking at alternatives - dumbbells and pushups at home till I find a better fit & commute. Main focus is weight loss and muscle growth You are getting your excuses mixed up here as well as deliberately moving away from your alleged focus. ​ Engineer making close to 6 figures, could probably get my PE license and make more by leaving current company, other sources with PEs tell me it didnt help them internally at all. Lea…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 02:46 PM
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a net worth of almost $1MM in a community property state I stand to lose a lot in divorce. Why? She's got 100% of your net worth now.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 01:23 PM
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Depending on your price point.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 07:36 AM
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Btw I made a post for the heavier gentleman here. ​ Up to you but I strongly believe you should be losing >5lbs a week at that size. Even 10lbs/week is achievable in the first couple of weeks. Sure it'll include a goodly amount of water weight. Who cares? Water has mass and you don't put it all back on in a smaller frame. ​ Check out "snake diet" as well as the links in that post.
/r/askMRP12/07/19 07:24 AM
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Eh, last few times I did that they either deleted their account or posted a virtual suicide note. ​ But in hindsight there's no mention of her being a shrew, just not wanting sex with a fat dude. Which is fair.
/r/askMRP12/07/19 06:48 AM
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I was going to mock you for being fat but reading all the way through sounds like you’re having a decent stab at it. Albeit obviously faking it to make it at this point. Just ride it out and either tease her about being a bitch or withdraw attention until you realize the world won’t end. Then maybe start going out and enjoying yourself instead.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 07:27 PM
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Read Taipan.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 04:05 PM
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I booked an overnight trip to a city that I wanted to visit myself. Which was prudent as she was being a bitch the day before. ​ I told her if she was going to be a bitch, she couldn't come on the trip and in view of this and overall performance: she should pack her shit up and be gone by the time I got back. But in that case I also wanted to book an extra night, so let me know. ​ We both went in the end. It was good but honestly one day was probably enough.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 03:38 PM
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Try reading the text of the OP here before drafting a post. Then proofread the OYS draft against the direction there and edit if necessary. ​ Really if you've read the sidebar, and are not a complete moron, you should be able to root out the basic tactical stuff and start working on some internal changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 09:34 AM
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He articulates points so well, it sometimes takes me a while to realise I don’t agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 02:44 PM
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Found it
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 01:05 PM
4

Don’t go from validation to flagellation whore.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 01:03 PM
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You’re 37 and can’t control when you jerk off? No wonder you can’t hold down a job or your waistline. Sometimes the solution to stopping being a faggot is just to stop thinking, speaking and acting like one.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 11:28 AM
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It’s a work in progress but a good one. For my part, I always had a strong/stoic/poker face vibe but never 100% commitment to being uncompromising and unambiguous about my own needs and wants - leaving the relationship up to other people. There was a post on TRP about four variations of holding/losing frame while winning/losing arguments that might be interesting - sorry can’t find link on mobile.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 11:20 AM
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Great post(s) OP. I also think on wider conditioning often but I seem to be the only dumbass who can't score LSD around here. /u/perseaus lol holy shit, I cannot fathom you being the same guy commenting in OP's first thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 09:35 PM
2

Your 38" waist, you fat motherfucker.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 02:23 PM
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This comment is an unstructured, word-salad. ​ Editing your own comments prior to posting will help your thought process. It takes time but eventually it will help sift out why you are here and what you should do. ​ Try removing: Any reasons you are a unique snowflake; Any reasons you were/are/will be awesome; Any reference to your wife/kids/career; Any reference to medical conditions which restrict your lifting; Any reference to time constraints which restrict your lifting/day game etc. ​ And i…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 07:44 AM
1

keep going: you are on the right track.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 07:33 AM
1

Giving to many Fucks about other people's view of you, maybe relevant in say a boardroom type situation, where you are meant to know the answer. You won't thrive in a Boardroom unless you ask questions. All of which are going to feel stupid for your exact reason. Each one maybe a risk, but when sharks stop swimming: they die.
/r/askMRP27/06/19 07:08 AM
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I was going to say you never started by calling someone out. ​ But I see you're doing it another thread. ​ All is right again. ​ (tbf: asset backed debt I would think)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 03:47 PM
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I think one of the most confusing things about TRP is the insistence it's a "praxeology" not an "ideology" i.e. sharing notes on the science of influencing human behavior. ​ Even if you do take that statement to be 100% true, it is undeniable that some ideological elements are over-represented in the user base. ​ Voting for TRP Jesus Trump. Being fat. For example. ​ There are others. It also includes many converted feminists and even a few who remain closet-feminists. ​ So whether radicalizing s…
/r/askMRP26/06/19 10:20 AM
2

Extreme ownership is a garbage book for people that lived in their parent's basement - jerking off and reading Tom Clancy - until they found a mommy-wife. Obviously these fat man children will benefit but, for many, the 1 page of common sense buried under endless waffle and hyperbole will be redundant. ​ Your relationship is asexual and you need to POLARIZE it. Unless you are a fucking mess "leadership" is not going to shake up your marriage enough to do that. ​ I find, and have noticed, that wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 09:23 AM
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Good one for your reading list: ​ http://sharischreiber.com/do-you-love-to-be-needed/ ​ With the greatest respect to other contributors: you are a child of chaos/man of mayhem. I am sure your wife is under no illusions that you could do, say or fuck anything at any given time. ​ You're at dread level 99 dude. Not sure why you would see this as an issue. ​ I think you need to focus on what you want and start heading towards it. I don't know what it is but I can tell you it is in the direction tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 08:36 AM
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You can NGAF, stir up some shit but then react to the ensuing negative emotions. This is weak frame i.e. you are willing to "do the crime but not the time". ​ Conversely you can GAF but not react to negative emotions unwittingly stirred up. ​ This is "being autistic".
/r/askMRP25/06/19 07:56 AM
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I think the key, which many here throw out casually, is let her own her own feelings. MiTW says avoid unconditional comfort, Glover says don’t care take. /u/hornsofapathy talks about “listening without judgement”. I think they’re getting at the same thing. Whatever you do, if you take the bait and back off or start proposing solutions for her shit, you are firmly back in her frame. Took me a long time to get out of this habit. Really it’s why I came to MRP. But when you break it, it’s like takin…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/19 11:35 AM
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I think whisper’s “thing that you really want” post was close but what men really crave is dominance in all areas of their life. Unfortunately most don’t understand the difference between “dominance” and “control”. This comment within the context of the OP is a good illustration of the difference. Good discussion. Look forward to 12 months of “decided on a BDSM marriage am I doing it right?” in askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/19 07:31 AM
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Not quite what I’m saying: I think there is something to be said for competition anxiety creating genuine, biological arousal. I agree if she’s wearing a ball gag it’s likely a more sexually charged relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/19 07:05 AM
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I think for many people dread is going to result in some genuine, win win, desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/19 06:48 AM
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It’s interesting. This is probably my wife’s ideal relationship... not sure it’s mine though. Maybe my second wife. Although if it solves the thing with movies. Fuck: I tell my wife they don’t give me editor’s notes, she knows as much as I do. On theory I meant, have you got a suggested reading list of something? I get , and appreciate, it’s your creation regardless of label but ideas like a contract must have come from something specific.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/19 05:05 AM
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Guess I’m not sure I see the difference between what’s compelled by high dread and what’s compelled by an overt contract in marriage. Agree it works well in other areas, although I have suffered from being too direct/open in the past. Not everyone will get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/19 04:08 PM
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How long since D day? How deep did you go into the D/S theory? You previously mentioned focusing on overt/covert contracts everywhere (Guess I didn’t realize you meant it so literally). How does this affect other relationships? How do kids fit in? I.e. what considerations do you make to their perception of the relationship? EDIT: what is your definition of needs vs wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/19 07:36 AM
1

Sounds like the basis of a solid MAP. It doesn't matter how long it takes: just strike off there today. ​ Good luck man.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 09:26 AM
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Shifts will kill you. ​ You will never truly understand this until you get out and watch your peers disintegrate over the years. Shifts will kill you. Before they do, the denial of your basic biological needs will turn your life into a greyscale limbo the way a dead bedroom or substance addiction would. ​ Along with the food industry's treatment of animals, our children will look back on this as our greatest act of institutionalized inhumanity. ​ The highest rewarded jobs in the world are univer…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 08:18 AM
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I've always thought "dread" was an apt term in that it the connotations are a generalized apprehension/uncertainty as opposed to "fear" of something specific. ​ Kind of like the term "chronic unease" to describe a pro-active safety culture in industry. ​ But I think after DL8, "dread" really does become "fear". ​ I believe in order to get "the thing that you really want" you need fear. The stuff before it just produces willingness. ​ I know everyone wants it to be the other way about.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 07:38 AM
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start looking the part. The part is of a self actualized, charismatic, lovable man. Insert whatever masculine words into this box. It’s a mans individual box, labelled ‘masculine.’ Just make sure enthusiastic sex is in there somewhere. ​ Powerful nugget of advice right here.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 06:43 AM
2

Total is more important. I do lots of naps if my routine is screwed up.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 04:15 AM
1

God says no. Others disagree. Swings and roundabouts really.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 06:37 PM
2

Get to bed: Get your ass in bed at the right time; Try 6/7.5/9 hours prior planned wakeup - as sleep cycles average around 1.5 hour blocks - and adjust from there; If you can manage 9 hours for the first few nights, it can eliminate a latent deficit. Ideally close to the same time every-night; Don't eat/drink heavy meals 2+ hours prior; Don't drink alcohol; Small, low GI, snack immediately prior to falling asleep. Fall asleep: Zinc; Magnesium; Melatonin; Sunlight during day or Vitamin D suppleme…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 02:00 PM
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my mother - small village on a mountain in Europe, kept their own animals for food, her brother stole fruit from the neighbors so the family could eat. Same but with fields and hunting rabbits. Father's was worse. The dropped the religions but kept extreme family. I am lucky I didn't grow up in a survivalist's bunker. ​ Definitely left me with this: I never had problems saying no, and rarely felt guilty. I overextended myself because I thought it was important to do everything I could. ​ I hate …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 12:37 PM
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Get some sleep… seriously need to aim for a minimum of 6 hours a day The most insidious thing about sleep deprivation is your ability to rate how tired you are decreases in tandem with the tiredness. What I mean is, in sleep studies subjects perform progressively worse when deprived of sleep. But when asked to rate their own performance, they tend to report "adapting" and performing well again after an initial drop. ​ In reality their performance continues to drop in a linear manner. ​ The objec…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 09:43 AM
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It'll increase your pool of feedback: just ignore OYS or OP's that aren't formatted. There must be a ton of others who do too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 08:47 AM
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If you drop off I will genuinely miss your clarion calls to look for zebras not horses. You are on my sub list of secret MRP crushes. So I am going to do the same for you: I have usually gotten more than I deserved Fucking impostor much? ​ Been thinking about this a lot myself: I grew up in the lace curtain end of a cultural ghetto. Parents made good but both from real, no-running-water, poverty. Wife had a similar upbringing. Both sets (of parents) have been over to visit us recently to see our…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 08:45 AM
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Dread is really developing yourself and proving that you are high value. Even calling the process “dread” is just a perspective of the outcome. The trust you are looking to get from her is subconscious. Can she trust that you’re a high value man? You are wrong dude. ​ Fundamentally. ​ You lump together two distinct groups of external and internal indicators that require two distinctly different mindsets. ​ Being jacked, well dressed, high earning and owning your shit to a "T" will count for noth…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 07:32 AM
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You want people afraid of you when you walk in the room or what? I do. You look cuddly. ​ Kind of like a Turkish Cedric the Entertainer. ​ Stop eating between mouthfuls faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 06:18 AM
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I use hair clippers: zero for upper arms, abs, neck. “Number three”/9mm blade for chest, pubes. Even forearms. Hesitated on the last but it worked out well. Looks much better than either natural or gone IMO. It looks”normal” just much lighter than before. You’ll never get definition through that rug for sure. Too dark w/pale skin. It’ll make a big difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 03:50 PM
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I don't even mind touching it, because you're clearly not really a man. As long as you don't touch the balls: it's fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 02:16 PM
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Change your mindset, change your behavior. At the risk of semantics: I think you have these back-to-front. The fact you continually identify and laugh at your own behaviors shows the mindset is in there... somewhere. ​ By the way: your particular body hair is kind of gross. I would try trimming it down overall and completely off your ab area.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 02:13 PM
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Jesus. ​ Format. ​ The tag dumped this in my inbox and gave my eyes cancer and AIDS simultaneously.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 12:45 PM
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No worries. I speak multiple languages, very poorly, and get it. ​ The body of the post is all the standard insecurity and neediness. You address fix that and it creates "dread". The unspoken idea you have other options. ​ Lift. Sidebar. STFU. Work on Game/Social skills. ​ Follow the dread levels for guidance.
/r/askMRP18/06/19 12:32 PM
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But wouldn't that be negotiating for attraction which is useless? Yes. ​ Not sure you understand what dread is bro. ​ But I am sure you haven't read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP18/06/19 10:47 AM
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Anything I can do besides dread? Short answer is "no". ​ The longer answer would likely address these tidbits: first time I experience a serious relationship. Never had a romantic relationship last this long. my former (and maybe still partly) betaness Thanks to TRP and inexperience I am always a little on the paranoid side I always look for red flags Its still texting daily but less. it feels like she started to take me for granted. Maybe too much beta so I have to adjust now. decreased drive a…
/r/askMRP18/06/19 09:33 AM
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Trust is a double edged sword. ​ It's a yardstick for the upper beta, plow-horse you describe yet the opposite of dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 06:35 AM
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Then I'd receive a "get out of jail free" card. My wife likes anal too. It's all coming together. HMU.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 06:13 AM
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Please take my wife out next time you're in town.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/19 07:01 PM
1

Coitus.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/19 06:20 PM
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What would be an example of refraining from enjoying the benefits? He means ejaculating in or on your ex.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/19 10:30 AM
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Increase my value to her.... This is the right answer in my heart. You literally could not increase your value to her. You need to start weighing hers. ​ More like shitty management. And you don't fire her without fixing your own shit and making clear the expectations. People will twist metaphors the way they want. Is there a poster in your place of work saying "Kind reminder: please don't steal and resell meds ladies!" or would that be absurd? ​ She knows what she did. You know she knows what s…
/r/askMRP17/06/19 06:26 AM
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I'm 6-2 Way to bury the lead.
/r/askMRP17/06/19 06:15 AM
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2 genders. Turns out it’s more like a spectrum.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 04:35 PM
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You’re doing the lord’s work sir.
/r/askMRP16/06/19 06:53 AM
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I think you answer a question many people didn’t know they had. The cheat codes are all in the comments section of the popular posts. The only problem is you need to read the side bar, post and comment yourself to read them in any kind of context. I think that’s why people wont make any progress just lurking.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/19 07:37 AM
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I added 90-120 minutes of tissue work and glute/ab strengthening I can try to multitask. I feel confident in telling you that this should be the least of your priorities. ​ Extensive, daily direct glute work should be the ceremonial golden cap placed proudly on the top of the mighty pyramid of a self actualized life. And even then it would only be brought out for state visits from Maslow himself. ​ Simplify. Cut down. Focus. ​ Also: shooting in the dark here but Just because your local gym PT la…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 10:07 AM
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I think 90% of my problems went away once I got back in a 9-5 routine. ​ Following the program hasn't helped. Taking this week off. Will get back to it next week where I left off adding drop sets, see if that shocks the system. I am going to share the secret of programming. Brace yourself: the only percentage that matters is the percentage of days you train in a year. If it's everyday, good. If you're doing two a days: even better. ​ That's actually a quote from John Broz and while I don't think…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/19 07:49 AM
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Different point of the spectrum but I think some of the takeaways from this are still relevant: ​ https://illimitablemen.com/2014/11/01/the-psychopathic-paradigm/
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/19 06:59 AM
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I am also known for “compartmentalizing” my emotions. Pretty sure it means you’re a psychopath. Congrats.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 06:28 PM
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Too many loose ends so far. Could pull a “Lost” and paint itself into a corner. But I think we’re glossing over the low key revelation that both wife and babysitter may be going to Hawaii (There’s no recaps but avid viewers are being drip fed breadcrumbs). If the brother turns up, we could be in for a dramatic finale on location.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 06:05 PM
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I don’t get it. Do you gamble? Abuse animals? Produce snuff movies? Most men under anywhere near this kind of pressure are either passed out in an opium den or swinging from a noose. You are hiding something bro. Maybe we’ll find out when the brother comes back into the story. How many episodes are left in this season?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 05:29 PM
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Do you take drugs and/or prescription meds?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 04:12 PM
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Bottling European. Like it. I read all that nerd stuff too, my son “bought” me this. for Father’s Day. It’s actually really good - might be up your street if you need a cheat sheet.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 03:36 PM
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To that end I signed up for coaching with GLO. I like his approach, which is more focused around reading difficult books and stimulating your own thought processes. Flicked through some of his posts the other day. Not sure I know wtf he's on about but I like it. ​ Curious, what's his reading list like? I like reading even more than lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 02:54 PM
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Reach's advice was good. Only problem is: you're not following it! ​ ​ I would cut out Muay Thai and cut lifting volume right down. You're doing way too much IMO and you will lose muscle wringing yourself out like this. ECA is just doubling down on it. ​ ​ I'd cut out any intensive cardio, replace it with LISS like a brisk walk and cut down to training main lifts plus an accessory 3 x a week. Like this. It allows you to lift with extremely high intensity at low calories. ​ ​ Don't calculate your…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 01:03 PM
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Lonely at the top bro. ​ Btw, what is your workout? Did you try cutting volume as Reach recommended? You seem to be struggling at these calories. Honestly I am uncompromising on sleep: I would immediately start shutting things down to get it back on track.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 08:05 AM
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wisdom, effectively If you find some, let me know. Since you're in the space, I'd love the feedback. Not my game at all but I shot you a retarded layman's perspective: you are sure to encounter them on your journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 07:51 AM
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You mean that they're not communicating when and what they want to contribute? Or are you saying that they're not communicating future projected entry points for different investors at higher valuations? The latter. likely they just don’t think about it. The last thing you want to do is blurt out “well if X happens, we’ll just raise more money”. I don’t want to be coy so will just state that the co-founder of [EDITED to protect the guilty] said this to me. First and last foray into a tech startu…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 08:56 PM
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I don’t invest in tech stuff. Just not my bag. With that caveat, I think a lot of pitches fail to communicate where my entry point likely is (as opposed to the exit, which is usually clear) in the grand scheme of things. I.e. are further funding rounds likely. If so, when and at what valuation? If it’s revisited at another phase of growth: fine but I am turned off by serial fund raisers who will try to prop their cash flow up indefinitely, diluting the original investors. From a pure risk perspe…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 06:04 PM
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There probably are legit scenarios for this but I can't imagine my wife getting up, ready and out before me. ​ Aside from that: this is the gold standard for family members excusing themselves.
/r/askMRP11/06/19 02:34 PM
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I realized I was pissed off at her behavior and was suppressing this. This was not done in an uncontrolled rage when I brought these up, but it certainly was not the ‘emotionless robot’ mode. I will not tolerate blatant disrespect and will end all future conversations immediately when that bridge is crossed; she can be pissed, she can be upset, but not disrespectful. I think this is a great step for you my dude. This was definitely an unnatural, MRP-framed, move for me. I came in pretty emotiona…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:44 PM
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remove time, attention, affection then presence /u/longroad_518 I was thinking about this the other day. Have you read BPP’s book? This nugget is pretty much what I got out of it. Probably the most challenging thing for me is keeping up game and kino while removing time and attention. The other way about just seems to come more naturally.
/r/askMRP10/06/19 01:05 PM
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Get a divorce. You’re welcome.
/r/askMRP10/06/19 11:58 AM
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Seriously underrated comment IMO. Without this, it’s just building a better beta.
/r/askMRP09/06/19 05:08 PM
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Few months back you were fat vegetarian who benched less than a plate and deadlifted less than two. Those are all extremely unattractive behaviors, it might take some more time to leave them in your rear view mirror.
/r/askMRP08/06/19 07:27 PM
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And they say prose pornography is dead. Nice word picture. I am 100% there.
/r/askMRP08/06/19 07:16 PM
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I don’t get it: does she have orbiters or does she speak to men once a month at a social gathering? Are you in Saudi Arabia?
/r/askMRP08/06/19 06:56 PM
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AMA Is the chick a fat goth? I’ll know if you’re lying.
/r/askMRP08/06/19 09:24 AM
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My wife gets an allowance and a shopping spree on her birthday. If she's in charge of groceries, there is invariably a receipt on the counter when I get home from work. Other than asking me to pay her student loans (to which I answered: "no") she has never once asked for or challenged me on any financial decision. This includes my taking us to the verge of bankruptcy on more than one occasion. ​ Never had to ask - the boundaries have always been clear. ​ Second point: there are a lot of financia…
/r/askMRP07/06/19 07:01 AM
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PSA: you ever want to smoke out a lurker, post a quote and wait for the "wulll akshually...".
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 06:23 AM
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We were all dreaming something bro. Still, Catholicism gave us the slut, so it's not all bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 05:59 PM
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Curious: if someone skipped every paragraph that contained the word mormon/LDS/church/religion... what relevant detail do you think they would miss?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 04:22 PM
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Found what I think is your original reply. Your third reply trying to convince an anonymous typist that you're not fat and weak. I've also seen some of your other posts. ​ You need to read this. ​ I re-read it myself from time to time and each time I do, things like this still give me a firm, open handed slap in the nuts: ​ Progress begins when the new guy realizes he's been brainwashed and is still brainwashed , and he wants to do the work to deprogram. ​ Credit /u/bobbyperu ​ At some point you…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 02:22 PM
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Are you saying that my BF is off? Or you think I’m lying about my numbers? The former: you are fatter than you think.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 12:28 PM
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Good stuff man, good luck. Shoot for 0.5lbs a week and you should keep it lean. At 5'9" I'd be inclined to keep going to 185lbs and cut back from there but YMMV. Get some solid strength goals too. Symmetricstrength is a good resource for setting them.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 05:37 PM
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I would totally title it "The Royal 'We'".
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 03:23 PM
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5'9'' - 165lbs Do you smoke? If so: stop. Hard to gain weight. ​ Also reading a book right now on Zen, with old Chinese and Japanese wisdom. I read a lot of stoics and whatnot when I was younger but I was always a closet asia-phile: Lao-tzu, Zhuangzi, Miyamoto Musashi etc. One of the defining points of my life was physically meeting, one-to-one, a high ranking Buddhist monk and member of the Tibetan government in exile. ​ It was defining because I watched him scrabble over western goodies like E…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 02:02 PM
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where she is going to get her first tattoo. Met a girl with a bee on her inner forearm the other day. Turns out she keeps bees in her garden and makes her own honey. Very cool. ​ Made a change from reading a takeaway menu off someone's neck.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 01:05 PM
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Basically, I took the tools of Fogging, Negative Assertion, etc... as metaphors or some shit, and didn't really get that they were literal tools to use when my wife throws a wobbler. Definitely very literal and you should be doing this stuff in all the contexts described. Funny, sometimes you'll see "how to win friends and influence people" recommended at the same time. But they do advocate two quite different approaches. ​ I read HTWFAIP many years ago and yeah, it's good. But there is a risk o…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 07:58 AM
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Bro this: DL: 205 x 12 BP: 195 x 12 SQ: 185 x 12 (current hypertrophy phase) and this: 5’10 185lb BF% 11% (Est.) Do not add up at all. Not even close. ​ But the thought process may explain issues like this: Work: What a shit show. I’m up to my eyes in work because I have to worthless co-workers who can’t be trusted. One works about 3 hours a day and the other is the most incompetent person I’ve ever worked with. Neither are being fired for whatever reason, but their work is being dropped on my s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 07:42 AM
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It's a good post but when i think about this dynamic I get something else I can't quite articulate too - maybe just that consistently being neutral/withdrawing can become something as bad as being butthurt. That's why I liked WISNIFG so much: I used to say my piece, then STFU/fog/negative assert. But those are almost defensive tools. To really dominate a situation you need to be more active - like negative inquiry, broken record, A+A. Really you're soliciting other people's views (or emotions), …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 05:55 PM
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Don't tell me your rival is a dirty old Frenchman. If so, don't think being a loser will put the brakes on. Learn the language bro. Even a little helps - the Rosetta stone app is good. And sign up for stuff you'll find ex-pats at. In a weird way I've made better and longer lasting friendships abroad: it can be easier to find people in the same boat. Much easier to meet women for the same reason - just walk up and ask if they speak English. A good "couple" to be mutual friends with is helpful. Es…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 03:45 PM
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I think she definitely has some narcissistic tendencies (more-so than AWALT) that she can't ever conceive of her being at fault. This has been pointed out to me by her ex-friends, my family, her family. Pretty sure this is AWALT bro. ​ I also read MiTW's advice, which seemed on point. I used to go full Spock if I don't get my way, probably still do in various contexts, but I realize it's closer to butthurt than I admitted.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 03:12 PM
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Moved to a new country at the end of 2017. Was supposed to be an adventure but I didn’t make the most of it and didn’t make it an adventure for my wife. We live in a new country with very little support network. I've lived in ten countries. Visited >40. Issues vary greatly depending on the place e.g. non-English speaking, Third World, countries like Canada and the US are always going to be challenging no matter how seasoned you are. ​ What, specifically, is your issue?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 03:04 PM
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after starting the EC stack. The last few months have been restless. There is nothing consciously on my mind that I can recognize. Fall asleep around 10:30-11:00. Wide awake around 2AM for a good 1-2 hours. Then continue to wake up. Sleeping pills do not help (falling asleep isn’t the issue). Doctor says there’s nothing that really will keep you asleep through the night. Anyone have this issue? Could be your calorie deficit. 3lbs a week is a decent clip. ECA is not going to help either. I sleep …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 01:58 PM
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Butted heads with my female line manager in September. There was a clear lack of consistency being applied to staff and I called her out on it. She pushed back hard and ended up calling in the union to fight against her giving me a written warning. Union advised against pushing. Things are now settled but have warning on file until December. Not actively looking for jobs unless a good one appears in my daily job alert email. ​ If it's significant that your boss is a feeemale and she treats you l…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 12:07 PM
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Why can’t you setup your freelance stuff during your current office hours? I attempted the home/Starbucks startup more than once and ended up going back to an office so I can get stuff done. I run all my business functions, calls and meetings from a client’s office. I do consultancy work for their corporate side and also run one of the businesses in their portfolio. Other than managing the people physically there for the latter, I don’t give the client any special priority just because they pay …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/19 11:06 AM
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Never done it successfully myself - just the places listed - had a couple of aborts due to all stalls taken though. I know people recommend ladies’ as cleaner but I think men’s is easier. Go in, wait if all clear and she follows. Did have a weird experience once where a girl wandered in looking for someone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 04:11 PM
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I would get a silent alarm and fix it at a time Instead of letting kids wake you. Ear plugs, eye mask will help for sure. Check out /u/hystericalbonding ‘s comment on timing of the supplements too. You might want to revisit the CPAP. The right pillow and whatnot can help. Honestly if you can address a snoring and apnea problem in the short term you will feel ten years younger. The rest of this will help but it’s moving deck chairs on the titanic. For sure fixed bedtime is not more important than…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 08:51 PM
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Thanks for the info on the metals. I’d heard that but wasn’t sure if worth dialing in. Sleep app alarm is meant to kick in when it detects you stirring or leave you to the end of a window if you’re still sleeping deeply... who knows. I like it for tracking though - I was waking up with a pulse of 75 at one point and pretty sure it was just overtraining in the gym. Back down to 60 now. I’m a little on the fence about long term melatonin. It definitely works for me and I figure 1mg can’t do too mu…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 08:32 PM
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Tiredness: you didn’t get that size eating 1850kcal a day and that means there is going to be a period of adaptation. Also I get Hb’s Rationale to focus on exclusion but you are going to feel like a bag of smashed assholes eating like that. Anyway... Sleep musts: Lose 70lbs Fixed wake up time Zinc Magnesium Ear plugs Eye mask Cut blue light pre bed No caffeine after noon. Also, at that size you might want to try an anti snore gum shield of nose plugs but really a sleep study with view to getting…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:36 PM
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Sex outside: pool, hot tub (UTI almost guaranteed), parks, national monuments, office, cable cars, roofs are all good IME. Dumpsters not so much. They didn’t have a washroom?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:06 PM
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Jesus I wish my wife had a golden vagina. You’re too hard on yourself bro. And your wife is fucking gaslighting you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 11:08 AM
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I found /u/imnotslash's bonus content a good reminder on incremental improvements and I made a several tweaks to my routine to squash a bit more into everyday: new gym bag with compartments, microfiber towel, gel pillow, restocked melatonin and sleep app with silent alarm to name a few. ​ My personal goal was career - as a multiple business owner trying to consolidate - and /u/itiswr1tten's take was interesting. My takeaway was that I've observed would-be entrepreneurs who will "underwrite" ever…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 09:46 AM
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There was always had a great deal of passive dread in my relationship. My wife was obsessed with the idea I would leave her at the altar in the first place and every year or so after she’d have some meltdown about “so and so is so pretty and nice and she’s in love with you and you should marry her” as well as the usual stuff about girls flirting with me. This was all her. I used to think it was unhealthy but in hindsight, it’s a fantasy. She is fantasising about how hawt her man is. Why would yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/19 07:25 PM
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“Everybody is selling something. Except pretentious nerds.” David Foster Wallace
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/19 05:30 AM
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That’s interesting - I hadn’t considered diving deeper but I might - he’s definitely on the fringes of RP. I’ve seen his stuff referenced going back years before the movie resurrected interest.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/19 05:31 PM
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haha, exactly. Rocks must mean a lot to him to transcend his attraction to her. ​ It fascinates me when you see stuff like Tim Burton's childhood halloween costume reposted. I think sometimes the further back the trail of breadcrumbs go, the stronger the mission is.
/r/askMRP24/05/19 12:35 PM
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If I can hold down a trained 265 lb gorilla, I can fuck up a normal dude no problem. Curious: I've seen a couple of specific techniques used over and over again in real life altercations and was wondering how BJJ would apply to them. ​ What would you do if the guy in question: Shot you; Stabbed you; Hit you with a beer bottle, ashtray or one of those poles that hold the ropes outside nightclubs? ​ Also, given 90% of the guys talking about BJJ are usually talking about a shoulder or knee injury p…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/19 12:21 PM
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I'm on the fence about the language. Something I've learned here is other people put a great deal of stock in very precise language. I live in a world where "it's not what you say, it's how" gets pushed to extremes and have learned something from that approach. ​ That being said, there is no way to describe what most people learn in High School with $10 words and not sound pompous. ​ Also all this stuff about MRA and divorce-rape is just noise to me but I liked the "positive masculinity", "high …
/r/askMRP24/05/19 09:13 AM
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increases prostate cancer life expectancy. some Bond villain shit right here.
/r/askMRP24/05/19 08:01 AM
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Great book but kudos to anyone that didn't need a dictionary and a highlighter. ​ No way I could have listened to it.
/r/askMRP24/05/19 07:58 AM
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Do you think that individual words and sentences encapsulate distinct, non-fungible, arguments? ​ Or do they just mean what you want them to mean?
/r/askMRP24/05/19 07:56 AM
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I think the risk of reading about missions is you can't help but get wrapped up in other people's ideas. ​ One of the most illustrative examples of mission would be the cheat meal subs in reddit like r/whoadude or some documentary about a fringe hobby on the History channel. ​ Example, I saw a trailer the other day for some rockclimbing biopic that blew my mind. Some young guy - early thirties, no more - attempting to climb up some huge sheer cliff in Yosemite. ​ I know on Reddit there's a risk …
/r/askMRP24/05/19 07:52 AM
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A friend of mine read that a while back. I had read it many years ago and had to ask them to confirm something important I couldn't reconcile with the actual life experience I had accumulated: ​ was it just me, or is that book complete garbage? ​ It's a beautifully written book about harrowing experiences. Which boils down to a philosophy of saying "it's all good". ​ After my friend confirmed this was the case, I was curious enough to research (read: Wikipedia) Frankl a little. Perhaps unsurpris…
/r/askMRP24/05/19 07:26 AM
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I like to think of it as it would appear in a military recruitment poster: "Be the best beta you can be" Or WWII propaganda style: "Your family needs YOU".
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 10:39 AM
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You'd like my kid, this: Are there monsters in your basement that must be chased away? Why the hell not? Oh my, there's a ransom note in the mailbox; your child's stuffed animal was kidnapped! Maybe you're a monster that can be frozen in place with flashlight beam, or your child's gaze, or temporarily paralyzed by striking you with a magic ball. Is exactly the sort of thing he comes up with on his own. He is very creative but he definitely gets it from his mother. ​ I will need to steal these ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 11:57 AM
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I’d be careful with the “cutie pies”. I am also an old flirt but I actually typed out “not just a pretty face” to a girl in an email the other day. A work email. That would have been a dumbass thing to do: an email is forever and bitches be crazy - everyone knows that. Got me thinking I am probably too free with my misogynistic complements in general. I changed it to: “not just a hatstand”. Can’t be too careful ;-)
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 06:24 PM
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Solid advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 06:02 PM
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they’re based off statistical bell curves dude. You’re lucky they didn’t explode. But have at it man. Prove the doubters wrong. See you next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 05:52 PM
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My T-numbers are low, can't recall exact details but whatever number they gave me was around 130. Seriously? If that's total T, you should get that shit checked bro. ​ You haven't explained what you meant by, "As to energy levels: a fat, weak guy like you should breeze by on those calories." Are they too high? They're signficantly lower than the spreadsheet you offered. They're not so low you'd blame it for low energy. That being said, I'd personally do 2000 a day or the calories I sent you. ​ I…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 02:56 PM
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That would mean I'm 180lbs lean, 258 x 0.7 = 180.6. Right? Eh, I doubt you have anywhere close to that much LBM. Bear in mind I'm 175lbs total bodyweight and I hit like 100lbs more per big lift. ​ I never recommend losing strength in a cut but fact is your lifts might go down because of the stability inherent in your current size. ​ There's way too much margin for error now. Just focus on getting to 230lbs BW. That would be a good milestone for you. ​ Set that as your three week goal. Get it don…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 02:42 PM
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Check out the links in my other comments today for the bodyfat calculator and strength standards website. Strength goals in tandem to your weight goals are key. I was like 135lbs until I was 25 so I sympathize. PM me for advice at anypoint. Weight lifting/gaining only. That or travel advice. I know fuck all about women - I am married.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 01:48 PM
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I need to look into supplements to help with fat loss and muscle building. I’m at a point where fat loss is very slow but I do not want to drop calories more as that impacts lifts and energy. Any thoughts here on how to jump start dropping these 5-6 lbs of fat I want to burn? Consider: Cycling calories; Dropping fat, upping protein; Caffeine pills; Yohimbie; ECA; LISS - regular 30-60 minute walks. You have more fat to lose than you think though. Check out my comments to slash and slams0n. I am t…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 01:33 PM
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Elaborate? You are lazy. You are fucking lazy man. You set low standards and consistently fail to achieve them. ​ I don't know if you need to get your T checked or start drinking coffee by the gallon but it bleeds into everything you post. That and the excuses. ​ I am going to red commando you: The Strongur link says I'm FAT which is about inline with whatever Navy Method calculator I had used. TRANSLATION: I choose to ignore objective fact. Facts are boring/not what I want to hear/lifting is ga…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 01:27 PM
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35 / 6' / 258lbs (-20) Cheating on me bro? Only 2lbs this week? Get it done man. Just get it done. ​ 23% BF (-7%) Navy Method Bullshit. Bull. Shit. ​ Another guy who thinks he's on track for a shredded 220lbs. That is not far off what Arnold competed at. ​ With those lifts, height and weight, you are >30% mos def. ​ You have a mountain to climb man. Accept it. Attack it. ​ Booze: I feel like a big, awkward, fucktard in social situations without the booze. People come up to say "Hi" with a smile …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 12:51 PM
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I believe that around 190lbs will be a BF of 10%; this is a guess based on those stupid scans. I don't care/need to know exact, I'll see it. If at 190 there's still work to do, then I'll keep going. Unless you're 8 feet tall then sorry: no. Not at those lifts. ​ You're 6'1" right? Really you'd be repping 225lbs and 315lbs for 10 on bench and squat respectively at a lean 190lbs. ​ At your current lifts, crazy as it might sound, you're likely to have to cut back to 160lbs to see abs. Realistically…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 12:27 PM
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more disappointed in the opposite sex Lol wut? How disappointed do you think any women reading the faggotry here and on TRP would feel? ​ Men are every bit as irrational as women. Re-read your OYS or anyone else's here for further evidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 12:07 PM
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Do invest the time reading and implementing the sidebar if you're going to do this. NMMNG, WISNIFG and Mark Manson's Models would help your anger stuff. ​ There's a lot of confusion on lifting and so you'll likely dick around with a bro-split and then "see the light" and start posting enthusiastically about some quasi-powerlifting meme routine. I'd recommend skipping the first part and following something like 5/3/1, reading all the books, and refusing to accept there is a better program out the…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 12:04 PM
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Yesterday a girl was giving me HEAVY IOI’s - constantly looking at me on the bus, looking at me when we were walking in same direction after bus, kept fixing her hair (I’m sure you guys know what I mean) every 30 seconds Pro-tip: don't follow women after they get off a bus. ​ Serious advice for an angry young TRP'er: socialize more. Like go to a pottery class or something to meet women. I met my wife in a bar - so I know it can happen - but apart from that I've always met women through a social …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 10:20 AM
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It would be pretty easy to doxx you just from the fact you are not a (literal) sheep in your neighborhood. The rest is just clarifying your address. ​ Consider cutting down on your stats if you want to remain anonymous. ​ We already know you're a snowflake.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 09:57 AM
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Good comment and linking what I think is the OP you refer to. ​ Tbh achieving "unobtainable" goals can be about the worst feeling ever. And the answer is as simple as - as you say - getting new ones but secondly realizing that it's part of the process and you're not "doing it wrong". ​ Failing to internalize the latter leads to agonizing over past choices and a detrimental level of craziness.
/r/askMRP21/05/19 07:01 AM
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Not really a lot said on “overt” contracts here. I just ask/give my wife chores to do and she does them. Honestly she seems relieved anytime I give her something to do. Assuming you OYS... have you tried just asking her to make your sandwiches?
/r/askMRP20/05/19 05:57 PM
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Looks good - just re-read "Cliff Notes I" actually. Looking forward to "MRP for the Man Who Has Everything" but Inchargeman might get there first.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 03:27 PM
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And I'm going to build a new vision, mission, plan and share that methodology (mechanics, execution, practical strategies) with the group. are you still planning this?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 02:04 PM
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At the risk of slut shaming: I think you know a girl has low self esteem when she has a mom that teaches her to cruise bars picking up guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/19 09:02 AM
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This type of one size fits all advice helps no one: I just thin everything down with the long blade of the clippers. Stops itching and the weird 5 o’clock shadow look after a couple of days. People need different approaches for their own ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 06:24 PM
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Pretty common in my fiefdom.
/r/askMRP17/05/19 11:32 AM
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I have a very short canned spiel I give to employees. I only care about two things: Do your job: ideally without needing me to tell you to do it. Get clear on your responsibilities so you know what your job is. Then let me know you're doing your job so that when I think to myself, "is that dude doing his job?", I don't have to think any further, the answer is "yes, he checked in this morning. Wow: that dude is really on top of his job." and Attention to detail: this drives everything. How you pr…
/r/askMRP17/05/19 09:00 AM
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he's a fat bastard, not the best looking, Jesus, you weren't kidding: face like a painter's radio. Good for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 07:35 AM
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First, ITT: so many feels and a veritable clash of titans. Probably the best comments thread I've ever read on MRP. /u/reach180 thanks for posting, warts and all, it would have been easy to pat yourself on the back and keep moving (I think). ​ Second, this: I started with most everything in my life going "according to plan" but had that itch in the back of my head saying that there is something beyond the matrix. Would be a good follow up.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 06:44 AM
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Hey thanks man: mine has been ordered and arriving tonight! I am a sleep obsessed, 0530 riser - I've tried just about everything except this and a CPAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 06:14 AM
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Too long between episodes. But I sympathize: I have no financial barriers to moving on and my wife is lazy as fuck too. The part of me that is maintaining the marriage thinks more comfort is needed (to complement the dread not offset it). Maybe things will look up when you’re rewarding good behavior. Nice OHP btw ;-)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 05:59 PM
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It's a net time saver for sure. The strength, for me, of the book is how practical/"how to" his approach to everything is. I've seen and developed stuff in the past that just doesn't work because there's no real process for executing it. ​ Tbh, even if I'd stumbled on the end-product myself I would likely have dismissed it as a waste of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 02:24 PM
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I did the "meh"/"kinda"/half-shrug-half-nod at this comment too. ​ But more because: maybe she's just given up? Laziness, defeatism. Who knows? ​ Reach has to be in the minority, even of alpha men, in being 9 foot of shredded awesomeness that perfect strangers would kill for (looking at his OHP to weight ratio, that would probably include at least one straight male). ​ The backstory linked is how obvious and chronic this is and how pervasive it has become in their every social interaction. ​ Ple…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 02:00 PM
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"oh shit" mode is exactly when you need to sit down for an hour and work out your priorities. If you look at my initial list, it was all easy to work through, the problem was most of it conflicted with each other. ​ Ex1 Cut to 8% bodyfat for beach vacation vs Increase total from 1300lbs to 1350lbs. ​ Given the beach vacation is forthcoming and improving my total is a long term, "nice to have". It is 100% obvious which one comes first. Yet I was still, not really bulking, not really dieting. ​ Ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 01:08 PM
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The book is key - I’m not doing the steps justice here. Phones are too distracting for me. In fact it’s one of Jones’ rules too. One of the first things I identified running through my regular routine was my reading had dropped off just from using an I phone after my kindle broke months ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 05:53 AM
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Definitely get the book: without running through the steps a few times, it’s just a giant list. I’ve tried that before and it never works. Go through the steps the first few times and it becomes a pretty quick and effective exercise.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 05:47 AM
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Everything: zinc, magnesium, melatonin, ear plugs, eye mask, valerian root. Mild anti depressant at one point but it made me too groggy the next day. But I was also sleeping on a shitty folding bed and recently moved, got a real bed and a memory foam mattress. That worked. Can’t outrun a shitty mattress.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:56 AM
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I had a look at anonymizing it but it's pretty much a blank sheet after that. ​ It's five tabs: "To do list": one column "home", one column "office"; "Mission": basically "travel, have fun, make money for aforementioned"; "Goal list": goals plus breakdown of A1 and A2; "Projects": project list and breakdown of two active ones; "Once A...'s": few categories then a list of key annual dates. Plus a post-it note and a ton of calendar invites.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 02:59 PM
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thanks?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 02:14 PM
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It is complex. It's not worth doing unless you have a ton going on. ​ I had to actually follow his execution steps the first few times. After that I just organized the document in step-by-step tabs and calendar appointments took care of the rest. ​ In your case I'd Just read "7 Habits of Highly Effective People". I read it about 19 and did fine with it to age 30 or so. Or the Check Method, that might be more applicable to you. ​ There was this more general post on habits recently too.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 02:05 PM
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These are goals that probably .05% of the population can obtain. Probably. I have no clue what the other 99.95% of the population want.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 01:44 PM
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Words that describe those who need exogenous hormones in order to display Male characteristics...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 03:32 PM
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I'm hoping I can pick the potassium up at the drug store or GNC. Do you drink it just on lift days? You should be able to get "no salt"/sodium substitute in the supermarket. ​ I lift early morning everyday and eat at night (not optimal, it's just what I like to do right now), so I just mix it in a 500ml protein shaker (no protein) and sip through lifting and later if I feel like it. You don't need much tbh, but I ran my self into the ground without it and it took a few days to get back on track.…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 02:45 PM
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I thought some serious calorie restriction was going to kill me in the gym. But I had an awesome workout last night regardless. u/rpeed was right, the weight does come off fast on a PSMF. I'm eating well under 1,000 calories a day, and have lost over 5lbs since Thursday. Well done getting on the pain train. Thursday is the right time to start too. ​ This is going to put you in the land of the living in a few weeks. That 1lb a week, "dieting" bullshit would take 18-24 months of compliance. Never …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 12:40 PM
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Strong base is key. I 'fessed up to some weakness after a couple of rereads.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 12:11 PM
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I was already doing once a week but just had too much shit going on. I do Mon/Thurs now. Monday's mainly business, Thursday mainly personal. Doesn't take much to kill it in both spheres. That and the two goal/project thing was all it took to get off to the races. ​ Fucking scary how quickly I'm knocking out goals now.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 12:07 PM
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She asked me to take 24 hours to think about the job offer. I told her I didn't need to. Aaayy, this is even better than the schadenfreude from the babysitter saga. Lol, when I read how much time and breathing room you thought you had months ago, I thought: "fuck this dude is going to take it right down to the wire.". ​ Well done man, as one anon to another: I am sincerely happy for you. ​ One day off (as in come down to one job) then back to the hustle!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 11:35 AM
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Not a new boner pill if that's what you were thinking...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 11:15 AM
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Lol Every-Three-Day time management system from Unchained Man. I am thinking about doing a post on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 11:12 AM
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Thanks man - I spend 90% of my time in a suit or gym gear so casual tends to drop off the radar. Also: I am cheap. ​ But I only wear tailored business wear, fitted locally (wherever I am), and made in Hong Kong. Check it out: https://www.raja-fashions.com/index.php/make-an-appointment They tour worldwide (one near you in a couple of days) and basic stuff is usually cheaper than off the rack. My basket tends to run pricey but it lasts a long time and they throw in a ton of extras for repeat busin…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 10:01 AM
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OYS 24 or so Things are going pretty well for me but I’ve been bashing a couple of other members of the class of ‘18 and want to check in. ​ Physical, cut down from about 180lbs to 173lbs at 5’9” which gives me an unflexed six pack, striated traps and obnoxious, separated quads which hang over my knees like an elephant’s testicles. This involved tanking my lifts and ruining the fit of my shirts, suits and jeans (from losing a ton of visceral fat and all of my ass) all for the sake of probably 1l…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 08:57 AM
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Not sure I agree that’s the one weird trick. I’ve never been afraid to walk away from a job or a woman. Never, ever, ever, ever. Never was, never will be. If the milk turns out to be sour: I’m not the kind of pussy to drink it. And I’ve got the employment and relationship gaps to prove it. There was more to it for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 05:10 AM
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Bro: it's a good narrative. ​ You still don't get it. You are the "don't see it" guy. ​ You know why I am harping on about this? It's my penance: my day job is making lists of people. Long lists. Actually, it'd be more accurate to say I start with everyone's name on the list and decide who comes off it. ​ I try and fire them in person but if it's more than 20-25 in a single day, or across multiple locations, then I have to delegate the actual talk and they'll never be more than names on a spread…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/19 07:33 AM
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I’m right here with you bro. Every Tuesday. It’s gonna be good.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 06:54 PM
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Sub “weaksauce” for “American”. Too many video games in your life by far anyway. Stop squatting less than 200lbs too. It’s not really a squat with less than 315. It’s more like, “not knowing how to lift”. Welcome and good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 06:09 PM
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One more thing bro: last time I said “fuck you” and struck out on my own. When I reached for my fuck you money. My own trading money. My wealth. My PROOF that it had all been worth it. It fucking evaporated before my eyes. Right when I needed it. Years of blood, sweat, tears, pain and triumph gone. Just like Litz’s pot of gold. So when I say you are NOT going to make it as a trader. Right now. I’m saying it to myself too. I’m not saying quit. I will go back to it too one day. But however much yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 04:29 PM
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Bro it’s a lot baggage. But I get it. I could have typed the same stuff. I dropped out of college at 17. Good money by 20. 6 figures at 26. VP at 28. C at 32. Unemployed for 4 of those 15 years (!). Quit spectacularly more than once. Went broke 3 times along the way. JUST out of bankruptcy. Made and lost hundreds of thousands of dollars of my own money in my own investments. And failed god knows how many businesses. Dragged myself and family over 10 countries in 10 years. You won’t out dumbass t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 03:51 PM
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OK, I'll start a PSMF next week after my meal prep is gone. Throw your food out. Throw. Your. Fucking. Food. Out. It's an investment in your health and sunk costs are one of the greatest motivators known to man. ​ But I've lost 4 inches off my waist while increasing my lifts over the last 10 weeks, dude. I'm not the same size. Fucking DEER moar fatty. You are 268lbs. You should be losing 5lbs a week. Minimum. ​ You need to not weigh more than 200lbs ASAP. ​ You can do it in a few weeks. Easily. …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 02:21 PM
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Finances are good We have some credit card debt car and student loans Have some hospital bills I lost my shit with a child who broke a plastic toy I couldn't afford and now I am PRAYING I don't have to deal with the consequences. GTFO
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 11:06 AM
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Good stuff bro. Going back to the original comment on chasing them up: sometimes you HAVE to do it some how. There are ways to do it without being needy. ​ I pushed my present client into our present deal. I fucking railroaded them. Busy man, places to go you see. Then I brought the commencement forward a month "for operational reasons". It did help but mainly I was 60 days from bankruptcy (I had used my last line of credit to buy a Rolex in time for the closing meeting). ​ It's not what you (ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 10:51 AM
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I gave you four weeks with predictable results: you are not losing weight. ​ Factor in water weight lost in week 1. Changing bowel content since then. And you're the same fucking size each week. ​ I wrote this for you. ​ In fact I , 100 pounds lighter than you, don't even eat the protein anymore. ​ You need to fix your fucked up habits. You need to over-correct. You need to do something radical. ​ Stop crying into your fucking ice cream and do something about it. ​ Nothing exceeds like excess.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 09:31 AM
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Plus 1. Great post. I used to re-read it pretty much once a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 09:18 AM
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Bro I called complacency the week before your meltdown. But I did you a disservice not pointing out what the obvious issue from day 1 was and still is: ​ You need to stop writing about your wife. ​ I give half a fuck about your success and travel, as I take pride in my own, but I give zero fucks about your wife and neither does anyone else. This OYS should have stopped at bullet point 4. ​ Know why? ​ You need to stop writing about your wife. ​ Thoughts follow actions. Your thoughts are a fuckin…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 08:46 AM
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/u/locustoforigin not sure if you deleted your reply (maybe because you DEER like a faggot?) but I can't reply directly; I wasn’t exclusively referring to jockos book. Addressing her silent treatment directly would likley be a waste of time. That book is for men, women dont need accountability. Im talking about taking ownership of outcomes regardless. I created this outcome, i chose her. I'm to blame because at the least i vetted poorly. ​ I'm not talking about the book either. I'm telling you t…
/r/askMRP09/05/19 08:22 AM
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Extreme ownership doesn’t mean “it’s all your fault”. It means you take responsibility for every aspect of your life. The difference is not subtle. In practice that means addressing the shortcomings of others directly. Not working harder and harder in the hope they’ll up their own game. That would be a covert contract which is in fact what you are describing. It’s at the start of the book. Immediately after the catchy title. Read the book.
/r/askMRP08/05/19 07:46 PM
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Probably the strength of WISNIFG is the exhaustive contexts. No stone left uncovered. No surprise your fitness dropped off without accountability. Maybe it’ll stick if it’s internal? I never pursued a sport but have been working out, for me, year round for ten years. Yeah don’t go down the “look at what a pussy I think I am” route. Red flags and bulls.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 04:11 PM
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Good going bro. Don’t want to bombard you with books but WISNIFG is a good read (or reread) just for embedding that instinctive mental process. Also, I quite liked to err on the side of negative in my first OYS, being naturally egotistical, but it can just become pointless self flagellation at a certain point. There’s too much lazy catharsis in that which saps the drive for action out. You’ll see it in other posters who seem to spin their wheels. You might want to edit your drafts (and get it in…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 03:23 PM
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Ha. I worked in a large corporation where a guy printed out some photos he'd found on the internet. ​ But he was working from home and it went to default printer: a busy communal printer back in megacorp HQ. ​ It was also child pornography. ​ I often wonder whether he was oblivious, until the cops turned up at his home, or if he had one of those moments where you realize a split second after clicking the wrong thing.
/r/askMRP08/05/19 02:57 PM
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RIP my workplace search history.
/r/askMRP08/05/19 02:18 PM
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One more from me bro: I read this and thought of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 12:22 PM
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Oh I typed all this for you my dude but these dastardly bullies caused you to delete it. ​ Hope it benefits you or another ENTP stoner: ​ What caught my eye was the Myers-Briggs test: I also (usually) test ENTP. Just wanted to say I think the Reddit subs seem to do it a serious disservice: ​ A) It is a management tool. It is not meant to enable some rando's life as a lovable eccentric. You should be shoring up the weaknesses it shows, not jerking off to how creative you think you are (not that y…
/r/askMRP08/05/19 08:00 AM
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I can't wait to fucking trip balls and see the aliens on DMT. Also on my list but I want to do it noooooowwwww
/r/askMRP08/05/19 06:06 AM
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dubious health benefits of drinking red wine, while their consumption of known healthy vegetables remains at an all-time-low. Red wine is good. Diet soda is bad. ​ Everyone got that?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 06:01 AM
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That’s the one! You might want to prioritize WISNIFG too: it’s a painful, monotonous read. But if you invest the time really drilling the language patterns in different contexts, it becomes more a way of structuring your thoughts than anything. Once you lose that defensiveness/emotional reaction to your SO (or whoever) everyday becomes a hamster safari. 9 times out of 10 observing someone else’s thought process can be quite amusing and that’s the seed from which real AA will grow.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 08:31 PM
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Good start. Mission I’ve noticed some people don’t so much discover some radical, new concept as rediscover a core value once they’ve dumped some of the mental baggage they’ve accumulated. I’m on mobile but /u/red_curious had a post on butthurt (anatomy of butthurt?) which you might want to check out. My gut is you might be in the “at risk” category who shoot for neutral emotion and come off as butthurt. Welcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 06:07 PM
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No worries man. If you can, try and get it to a place of genuine enthusiasm and optimism for how it’ll be going forward. That starts with internalizing that it is in fact possible (if not with her, someone else!). If there’s any doubt, hold off. Don’t dilute the message. Also babysitter once a week minimum. That’s your problem bro. No ones wife has a more irrational fear of leaving her kids than mine does. No ones. I will die in a ditch over that blanket statement. But we still do it. Hope that …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 03:16 PM
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I'm not great at unpacking things tactically tbh but my strategic goals are always to maintain: A) Clear expectations that she act as a girlfriend and B) The logistical space to do so. ​ How that boils down to real life: lots of flirting, dating, cuddling up by fire or TV, time and money for gym, makeup, hair etc. And "broadcasting" my clear views on the importance of it when we're talking about real life, fiction or just riffing about life, the universe and everything. ​ The latter is key for m…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 02:47 PM
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i've reached the stage in my life where i enjoy being a mother more than a GF Spot on - this is the precise thought I was grasping for. ​ handled well in any event Optimistic and enthusiastic frame is best frame. Been a while since I took a decision that felt right all the way to the core.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 12:55 PM
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From Babysitter’s perspective, my wife is trying to steal her baby. Your insane wife? The one who doesn't sleep? The one consumed by the desire for a child to replace the one you tragically lost? The one off her meds again? That one? ​ I can't even imagine what AWESOME details you are leaving out here. ​ I have a good idea of what my wife wants and what Babysitter wants. I still don’t entirely know what I want - other than a general desire to reach consensus and to do the “right” thing Well hell…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 11:23 AM
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OYS 23 Not really looking for feedback per se, mainly diarizing another event. My wife knows that I intend to stop trying for more kids imminently. But I guess she thought I would renege or (more likely) just hadn't thought about it at all. That is until it came up organically the other night and I really broke down how and why I was DONE with it. D. O. N. E. ​ Fucking hamster on deck! ​ First reaction was: "well I guess I'll have to get plastic surgery" followed by: "I'll get IVF" And a dozen o…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 10:24 AM
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Wow, 12 months already - your post was one of the first I saw come in live. ​ Liked the stuff on mission, similar thoughts here.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/19 06:39 AM
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Interesting. I’ve never been good with free styling though so I’m trying a total volume per week row in excel and trying to get it ticking up. Thanks again dude. Gonna give it a few weeks at maintenance calories now and see how it goes.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 05:52 PM
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It’s your HS girlfriend dude. Let it go. Read the sidebar starting with the Rationale Male. I bet 100% of guys here wished they had at 22.
/r/askMRP03/05/19 03:45 PM
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Good stuff thanks - although why anyone would shrug with less than 495 is beyond me. Cole’s stuff videos seemed a bit random and conflicting but easier to deconstruct reading it. I see you’re basically working through the same movements and mixing up exercises and rep ranges somewhat. That’s what I’ve been doing so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 03:36 PM
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I mean, congrats, but why brag about it to a bunch of married dudes?
/r/askMRP03/05/19 02:29 PM
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You wouldn't if you saw my lifts this morning. However I am drinking sodium + potassium now (no baking soda as yet) and can feel life being restored to my body. Think I found the problem. I'm at my goal weight/bf now anyway and want to get my lifts back up over the next few weeks. Still trying one set a day, everyday. Do you have a template or overall plan for yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 01:50 PM
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Found it. Yes in Europe atm. It's called Kalium here. TIL. Need to get baking soda now. I had been doing 48 hours dry, <10% bf. Probably pushing it a bit too far.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 01:01 PM
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Ok I’d basically been doing it dry. Even for 48 hours. Lazy - can’t find potassium here
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 11:09 AM
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Do you use "snake juice"? The fasting doesn't bother me but my lifts definitely drop. Wondering if it's dehydration.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 09:13 AM
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Bro I saw the previous dogpile and you earned it. Even skimming this, you are still blaming others for your problems. While objectively you must realize you could be doing better. Much better. You are responsible for 100% of the bullets SBIII has hit you with. ​ But I respect that you came back and posted your dirty linen and actually ordered the books. Plenty of guys flake those hurdles. ​ On the plus side. And it is a huge plus. If you read those books and do the work. You are going to have th…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 02:36 PM
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Quick drive-by to see how the babysitter is doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 01:34 PM
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A specific protocol. It’s usually seen as part of DC Training. I tried that years ago and kept the stretching. People credit it with taking away DOMS and improving hypertrophy but I just like that it eliminates my knots. Loaded stretches performed after a workout I.e. while you still have a pump. If you google it, you’ll find a few examples. It’s a short list to cover all body parts.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 01:33 PM
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Unchained Man has some exercises on brainstorming a mission. I skipped to the time management stuff which I found excellent (Credit /u/SBIII for the recent recommendation).
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 08:29 PM
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Massage is good. Deep tissue though - not 90min of tickling. However you should check out “extreme stretching” too. I was religious on regular massage. And the therapists would be aghast at the knots I developed from lifting. Particularly calves, triceps and traps. I even had a nerve issue with one it got that bad. Since I started extreme stretching, I haven’t bothered with massage at all anymore and all the knots are gone.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 08:21 PM
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If you’re getting injured while still at baby weights, consider giving CrossFit a break for a while. All the strong CFers I know have a regular lifting program on top of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 08:04 PM
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I still get that psychopath vibe. Are these negative emotions the only way you can feel connected to your wife? Are you causing all this mayhem because you suffer from chronic, cataclysmic boredom?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 07:54 PM
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Man I noticed this last week but you are killing it recently. Pressure has made you wise.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 07:42 PM
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Bro: stop writing about your wife. Lift. Sidebar. STFU. Your lifts still suck. You still smoke. You still weigh less than one of my turds and look like a broomstick. Do the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 07:23 PM
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OYS #? The Rpeed family on mission in the field this week: happy walpurgisnacht from the Harz mountains faggots!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 10:39 AM
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Excuses. I’ve had a minimum of two jobs for the last eighteen years. No one checks, no one cares. Half of bosses never read contracts themselves or understand what or why HR write them the way they do. Do what you want and don’t broadcast it. If you don’t want a second job, just say so.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/19 06:07 PM
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will require me to research more. One of these guys eh? ​ Many people love to jerk off to their optimal programs and squat depth. Yet few of them look like they lift. ​ Just lift until your eyes bleed and eat until you're stuffed.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 07:51 AM
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Interesting. I test top end for dark triad traits - except spitefulness - but have actually just had bloodwork come back with low cortisol. Like the guy falling out of the 30th floor said: so far, so good.
/r/askMRP24/04/19 07:16 PM
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Weird, I thought there would be lack of cortisol if anything: isn’t it characterized by high levels of risk taking? Is it linked somehow?
/r/askMRP24/04/19 06:55 PM
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Good test. Seems pretty spot on. Totally down for LSD/MDMA. Any other tips? Also, if you’re just a regular psychopath, you don’t necessarily have a higher risk of dementia so you?
/r/askMRP24/04/19 06:37 PM
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I read stone’s comment. Seems spot on: you’re oscillating between chad and boyfriend. So given that and given she is the centre of her own universe, I can’t see how she wouldn’t push for more of the boyfriend she sees regularly enough. I would think reverting to chad will get old but I concede the mind of a post divorce woman is beyond me. why can’t I keep the relationship where it is? Entropy fucker. You’re right: binary math is not the right comparison. But you need to input energy into any sy…
/r/askMRP24/04/19 06:10 PM
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No judgement but you may have ruined a pet theory of mine that the one thing uniting all the bros here is a huge, incurable streak of romanticism.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 01:52 PM
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315x10 on squats is impressive! I distinctly remember hitting 315x8 3 years ago, because my wife was in labor with our son at the time. So added a couple of reps a year. Probably exactly why I'm getting overtrained/burnt out: I only do 4 work sets a week. Guess there's only so much volume you can squash in there. The reps come from volume over the days/weeks. This is a good way to look at it for me. I've a good idea of what I could hit everyday for a week at a time. Need to take the focus off th…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 06:48 AM
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Heh, I was also curious if this would happen based off your previous posts. Its just math dude: she’s pushing for more than you’re willing to give. So you either concede and start the downward path or walk. Isn’t that how we all ended up here in the first place? For the record I think you could breath new life into it with manufactured drama but I wouldn’t want to do it either. But you did say you’ve been monogamous for a while. Maybe the competition anxiety is lower than you think right this mo…
/r/askMRP24/04/19 04:16 AM
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TIL I’m short 1, possibly 2 plans.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:50 PM
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I mean is her breaking up with her boyfriend meant to be related to her attraction to you? Doesn’t compute to me at all. Never heard of a woman that needed to do that to fuck a married man. Or is she clearing the deck for a relationship? Seems like too much, too soon given you’re married. So it can’t be related surely. Sure she didn’t get ditched then start texting? What I mean is: the definition of branch swinging is you don’t let go of one branch till you’ve got hold of the next.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:44 PM
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Ha same: my beautiful ass is melting away. Yeah what I meant was: say I’m repping out 315lbs, squatting with perfect form, after about 10, it gets ugly. But I can still go to like 15. More if I breath and brace. Although having said all that: I have been taped and the reps all look identical. Maybe they just feel ugly. I mean I guess it’s a judgement based off a combination of form, bar speed and literal failure.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 06:25 PM
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Im lucky in that I carry >12% well and can see my top two abs clearly right up until I’m well >15%. But fuck <12%, my waist just gets smaller and smaller (losing visceral fat I guess) and the pouch around my belly button clings on. Watched a ton of snake diet stuff btw. Shame there’s not that much content for people already lean with good lifts. I’d be interested in how some of the powerlifters did it. I’m lifting early morning right now but it’s not my preferred time to refeed. Got any guidance…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 05:43 PM
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Add more self love bro. It gets easier when you can see your abs. Impossible not to at a certain point.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:43 PM
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The Rational Male was depressing as fuck I don't get why people react like this. A full and frank exploration on why it really do be like that was a fucking load off my mind personally. And it's nice to see the highs and lows of your own love life are not unique at all. The closing thoughts on life as a high value man are pretty positive. ​ I think give it time and when it comes due for a re-read, you'll see it all in a different light.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:18 PM
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I'm not jumping ahead to Dread Level 5, I cannot fathom the rationale for this being 5 on a progressive ladder. Go for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:09 PM
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you are literally beating around the bush.... Lol. Tuesdays are the best.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:06 PM
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I dunno bro. One of these things is not like the other: ​ - she felt a deep connection when we were together - she cried the whole way home - she broke up with her boyfriend - she can't stop thinking about me - she wants me to come over and fuck her brains out ​ Sounds like there's strings in place already.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 02:11 PM
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OHP 1RM 124 lbs BP 1RM 165 lbs Squats 1RM 222 lbs DL 1RM 314 lbs Edit: Weight: 202 lbs Good time to get after it. ​ Clearly they were dragging me along. Lesson learned. Just waiting until their preferred candidate accepted (or they moved the chairs around internally). Standard practice. ​ I'm modifying my resume removing months keeping only years to hide employment gaps. No shame in this: a few months backpacking becomes an extra year in your last corporate gig so easily. ​ Searched indeed for s…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 01:57 PM
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Thanks man, giant tricorn hat starting to feel a little more comfortable everyday.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 01:17 PM
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weird I can still see it but maybe that's because I posted it. This is what I said: ​ Context: I have a three year old son. He is physically healthy, ahead on his developmental milestones and whatnot. And generally well behaved. But he rides roughshod over his mother. After navigating his terrible twos as a SAHD (alongside her as SAHM) and trying different things myself, I have concluded that he is a healthy boy with a narrow band of bad behavior: tantrums, laying on the ground refusing to walk …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 01:00 PM
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Good post, I have a very clear idea of what works for me personally in terms of contrast, patterns etc. but never really knew how to deconstruct it. Might check out that book. ​ I've recommended on MRP a few times and will do so again: https://www.raja-fashions.com/index.php/make-an-appointment Book a fitting in your nearest hotel, suits come from Hong Kong six weeks later. Fuck your location; I've been fitted in one country, adjusted in another and got the final version in a third. No reason at…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 11:45 AM
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OYS 22 I posted on askMRP about an ongoing challenge and just kept on going. Wife and I had a washup discussion over dinner the same night I posted and I was able to reiterate all the expectations. Bascially that she has a chronic case of WISNIFG. Wife stuck to her guns with our son a couple of times over the weekend and today was time for Kindergarten. ​ Got the first call when he wouldn't put his shoes on. Told her to carry him to the car if need be. ​ Got the second call that he was now at Ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 10:19 AM
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Yes for sure. It’s an NLP-type examination of the habit. Exactly what you’re describing.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/19 04:57 AM
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The thing I’ve noticed with DEERing in myself, others, Male, female, MRP and real life is that the fundamental issue is they’re rarely addressing the specific objection. Sometimes the dude is so far off base it’s funny - guy on here recently dismissed feedback as “you just called me a faggot” where that had literally not happened. Obviously, as others have said what is happening is the individual leaps to protecting their ego. But I think that’s because they’re taking everything as feedback on a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/19 07:51 AM
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No worries, btw that rebound is often the strongest point: you’re back in a surplus, you’d probably back off volume a bit and you lost the diminishing returns driven by the Repeated Bout Effect but you haven’t been bulking long enough to accumulate a lot of fatigue. Could be good for a bench PR. Good luck man.
/r/askMRP19/04/19 05:37 AM
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It usually takes me 3-4 weeks to start hitting PR’s again after a longish cut.
/r/askMRP19/04/19 05:26 AM
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Or you could just do this!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 01:35 PM
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So you went to a gym to run only? I think that is what did not compute at all for me. ​ But I'm not done: squat and deadlift are not OK. They are not. ​ Programs aside, what are your actual, specific strength goals? ​ It matters: when I started out, I worked up to DLing 225lbs for reps over a few weeks. Then just kind of stopped there. Pretty much because I knew "0" about lifting and assumed that was what the human body was capable of. After clicking through various strength standards and discov…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 01:25 PM
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Bro, nobody else has kicked you in the balls in a while and you sound complacent. ​ So, with the greatest respect: 225SQ (265 2-rep) / 240DL (265 4-rep) / 95 OHP / 165 BR / 135BP What. The. Fuck? ​ I know you were cutting. I know you were clueless. I know you are only now putting on weight. But you have been lifting since March 2018. If you have both arms and both legs, you should be lifting way more than this and it smacks of low effort. ​ Are you setting specific goals or just working out? ​ I…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 08:46 AM
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you never burned your ship at the shore. Oh man. Only practical point I ever got out of The Art of War. I had been raised on the concept of "Never burn your bridges". ​ Honestly it probably turned me into a lifelong kid with dynamite but I still want it on my headstone.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 06:40 AM
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I’ll check it out thanks man 💪🏻 🏖
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 08:46 PM
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Pffft: Mediterranean FTW! Thanks man have you got a link to the routine? Bored and burnt out at the gym right now and looking for something new.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 06:44 PM
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Like it. Unfortunately I can’t afford a new experiment right now: 2 x BIL’s to AMOG at a forthcoming beach vacation. Just can’t take the risk... that being said, I’m already 12% ish and a few weeks out so I would have time to bounce back a little before going. How many times a week are you working out?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 04:55 PM
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I think you're missing the part of DGAF, where you stop giving a fuck.
/r/askMRP17/04/19 12:41 PM
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how to deal with wife physically assaulting you? I tried 2 approaches - being a pussy bitch and even begging her on my knees to stop (makes me wanna puke when I remember how low I felt), that didn't work, I tried hitting her back after she wouldn't stop (she seemed to respond best to this, she would cry, calm down and apologized and but I know this is not healthy, and not normal and I don't wanna do that shit). Have you tried removing yourself and the child for safety, followed by an emergency r…
/r/askMRP17/04/19 12:39 PM
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"Dear MRP, I am super alpha, but I'm having this problem, blah blah blah"? You're not a MRP subscriber unless you were born with six testicles. ​ On the fear thing, I do have some thoughts from the other end of the spectrum. I love fear and I think that is just one more thing you can fake until you make it. My belief is that your described issue has its roots in a need to control things. Even the way you attempt to diarize it does. ​ The movie Fight Club, car crash scene is very well done and wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 10:38 AM
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I am a HUGE fan of anecdotal experience - including some of your own comments - but I'll be careful with this one: SBHG specifically has been linked to fasting, low insulin and hypo-caloric states. Seems to be disputed, like most studies, but given I've already been doing IF for years and recently did a ten day PSMF, I am going to hedge my bets for now. Curious, how do you structure your calorie intake when you do eat? You must still be getting a decent amount of protein and calories on a net ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 07:08 AM
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I did recommend it the other day but I’ve seen others do too. I think it fits a very specific niche of drinkers.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 08:05 PM
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You might want to check out This Naked Mind. The goto book on r/stopdrinking worth a read in general.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 07:41 PM
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CICO is just the concept, as with everything in life: execution is everything. MFP, planning and cycling meals, working around schedule and social events. Tracking and adjusting. That’s learning to count calories. Keto is usually an attempt to avoid all of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 07:07 PM
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Bro if you’re looking for a second opinion off the pic: you are indeed pretty fat. You know why I didn’t write a keto post? Because 100% of people posting about keto are fat. Count calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 06:08 PM
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I'm giving this its own section because I'm finding that my alcohol intake is tightly related to my general lack of effort. I rarely drink a lot in a sitting (3 drinks is rare), but I drink too often. My steady state is a drink or more likely two every night. I'm not interested in being a tee-totaler but I am interested in cutting out the drinks-every-day habit, partly for long-term health, but mostly because I get lazy when I drink. I’m not going to get on a soap box but I also was a 2 or 3 a d…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 05:59 PM
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How/when does this happen is a big question, though? Does it simply happen organically, as I observe my wife is no longer in need or dependent on my care? All I can say is it will likely not happen organically. My own major failing was not owning fatherhood from the get go. Same age, first kid and in the driving seat beforehand. /u/man_in_the_world made his first post on kids and his comments expanding on it for newborns would have been very helpful for me at that stage too. Actually I think onc…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 05:43 PM
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Why not tell those dudes video games are gay but you play poker/drag race/beat up strippers (or something else fun)? Having said that, sounds like a decent opener for the man with no friends: I don’t vidya myself but I would hang out and eat pizza and do whatever with the right dudes. That’s what normal folks do dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 05:01 PM
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I didn’t actually mean she wasn’t pregnant, I meant I wasn’t touching that one. But since you skipped sex Ed and crazy chicks 101: you CANNOT impregnate a women while wearing a rubber. A crazy chick will almost always respond with a phantom pregnancy. Stage 2 is threatening suicide. Stage 3 is a false rape allegation. Not 9 out of 10 times. 10 out of 10 times. You need to distance yourself. By miles. No contact. If she did have a semi-maculate conception (through a non porous rubber wall) you sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 03:34 PM
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I'm by no means an expert but often think of similar lines. Following is just my thoughts over the years: ​ Have a hard time making up my mind as I often see all sides of an argument No decision is ever perfect and most logical solutions have their virtues. I tend to just "pick one", even if it means altering later. Maybe the struggle actually comes from being afraid to change your mind. ​ "In battle make a decision. It it's a good one: even better." - Star Trek nerd. ​ Can find it difficult to …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 11:12 AM
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In case this isn't a troll, I'll bite off one of the smaller pieces: she’s pregnant Nope! Kid #2 ate fertilizer thinking it was candy No... I figured there was no point in being ageist Ah, here we go. More my speed. Dude this is probably more caretaking. a widower, has no kids or grandkids in the area and his dog just died, so he’s looking for a friend Yes it is more caretaking. ​ You are up to the same old tricks and re-branding it as MRP (really this applies across the board). ​ Grow up. Make …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 10:34 AM
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OYS 21 Got off my ass and got bloodwork done last week. SBHG is pretty high and may be diluting my natural tiger blood. I am trying a couple of "natural" things to reduce it before trying anything more radical. Can’t hurt. Shit I am trying: Vitamin D (continuing); Fish oil (restarted); Boron; Creatine (restarted - had stopped due to years of puffy face); Stinging nettle; Coleus Forskohii; DHEA; D Aspartic Acid; Tribulus; Maca; Removing some BPA sources; Cut down gym frequency and volume; Cut dow…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 10:05 AM
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Smells suspiciously like a hypothetical scenario I.e. pointless navel gazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/19 06:47 PM
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I think waiting until everyone has lost interest so that you can have the last word wash up is probably your best indication of fragile ego/passive aggression/controlling behavior yet. ​ Everyone here that thinks you are a faggot and a tool is entitled to their opinion. ​ You can't control what people think about you bro. You can only control your own behavior.
/r/askMRP15/04/19 08:41 AM
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Thanks but I think you missed the context.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/19 06:20 AM
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5’9” is the perfect height. My mom told me so. If you’re in denial with internet anons... you’ve no hope IRL. So I’m sure you’ll make more progress from here. I bulked from 135 to 210 at the same height. Milk, chocolate milk and ground beef with eggs cracked in are your friend. That being said, I have heard fasting, low calories and alkaline juices can create a more hostile environment for cancers. No clue but probably do some research before focusing on getting your weight up. If it is the way …
/r/askMRP13/04/19 07:25 AM
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Grass fed? No wonder you are poor. Save your money for things that matter.
/r/askMRP13/04/19 07:16 AM
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Man must hunt the buffalo and feed the tribe. Ground red meat is cheap. Get the fattier stuff and blot it to be extra frugal. Start there.
/r/askMRP12/04/19 05:49 PM
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Look I’m no SBIII but all this astrology and weed stuff plus the yoga user name and coy use of “exercising” makes me think you’re a soy eating, vegan fantasist who doesn’t lift. Likely fat. Certainly poorly groomed. The drugs, homeopathy, bipolar meds, arguments and wife locking her room makes me think you think you should check yourself in before you hurt someone bro.
/r/askMRP12/04/19 02:54 PM
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I'd probably go UGL over TRT tbh. Just more practical for me - I haven't had regular healthcare in... ever. That being said, it's a big step and I'll try the supplement stuff first. I'm only after the mood gains right now. ​ I'd always written off natural test boosters but Boron and Stinging Nettle look surprisingly promising for SHBG alone. Will give it a try and test again in 60 days. Will research proviron in parallel. ​ Thanks man. Appreciate all the pointers.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 06:57 AM
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I went during the monsoon and a civil war which cut down on other tourists. Khatmandu was under martial law and curfew (but there were clubs if you knew were to go). Maoist rebels controlled a great deal of the mountains. It was awesome. Started off jungle, some days were almost alpine, then the typical arid, Himalayan type plateaus, then after that rolling fields almost like the English countryside. No logic to it at all. Some days were almost vertical zig zags up steep ledges, one was an entir…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 07:03 PM
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Yeah same place does vitamin tests. But I supp the usual suspects: vitamin D, fish oil, magnesium, zinc and I quit drinking 6 months ago. So don’t think its dietary. Says stress is impacts it so training, job and frequent moves might be a factor. Although Cortisol came back 9ug/dl which is mid range. Proviron looks like something that may suppress it directly. An oral with no liver impact. And there’s a couple of homeopathic things. Seeing the doc tomorrow but highly doubt he’s ever heard of any…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 05:19 PM
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Thanks man. I’m 36 btw.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 04:12 PM
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Not really sure how to interpret some of this. Total testosterone - 7.06 ug/l = 700 ug/dL in freedom units Free 45.41 nmol/l? Index? Follicle Stimulating Hormone (FSH) 7.5 Luteotropic hormone (LH) 6.1 Sex Hormone Binding Globulin (SHBG) 54 nmol/l (seems pretty high) prolactin 4.7 ug/l TSH 1.55 mlU/l Estrogen 20 ng/l Cortisol 9 ug/l Edit: added cortisol.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 02:32 PM
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Annapurna without a doubt. Like being on a different continent each day.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 02:21 PM
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I did get estrogen too in the end. Results due 1700 CET. 😰 Hold my hand bros 😰
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 09:00 AM
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Sounds good but got it after attending the lab.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 08:58 AM
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So to be clear your LI has your old job on it? Man that’s good. For a second I thought you would say it said “looking for the next challenge”. AKA “I have leprosy”. Good luck man. You’ll get there. Keep your foot on the gas. You should be finding ways to hustle more everyday even as you get close.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 04:39 AM
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How much do you take? Lot of guys recommend 8000+. Although anything over 2000 seems to affect me negatively personally. But anyway you likely shoot higher than the RDA.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 07:11 PM
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Man you need to get out of the “six out of seven days”, “within 200 cals”, “cheat meals, “cheat days”, “diet break” mentality. Compliance is binary. If you have a social event, plan for it don’t wing it. PSMF from Friday to Friday would help. THIS Friday to NEXT Friday. Not toying with the idea of doing it at the end. You need to get out of your rut. Voiceover gig sounds good.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 06:59 PM
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I’m not a fan of hiking but always seem to end up doing it a lot: I’ve done the full Everest and Annapurna circuits, Inca trail, Torres del Paine, West Highland Way and a few others. Doing one in the Pyrenees in July and will do some rafting if there.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 03:53 PM
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Piggybacking a skin tip: ​ I used to get "blackheads" on my nose. Everyday. No amount of scrubbing used to remove them. Apparently it's genetic and there's a more correct term for it but lots of guys get it. ​ Anyway there was a Reddit LPT to change your pillow case every day (flip it over to half the washes needed) and your skin will improve. Use a clean towel if you don't have time to change the pillow case. ​ Fuck it works. Had clear skin ever since. Not just my nose pores but all over improv…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 02:53 PM
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Whelp, booked in for tomorrow. Results in 24 hours so will know soon thereafter. ​ List of stuff they will test is: testosterone Follicle Stimulating Hormone (FSH) Luteotropic hormone (LH) Sex Hormone Binding Globulin (SHBG) prolactin TSH ​ Does that look right? Seems weird they don't test for estrogen too. That's the number I always see quoted.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 12:33 PM
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I feel for you bro. Ten years ago I couldn't bench 135lbs and thought publicly masturbating to studies was the way forward too. ​ But there is no shortcut to being strong and, as someone here recently pointed out, the definition of empirical evidence is not limited to published studies. In fact, given the well known data quality issues of the latter in sports science (sample size, training age), you are far more likely to learn more from people with an actual physique than studies or "profession…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 09:13 AM
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Not sure how either of you know he has bad form. Sore back? Deadlifting? “Hmmm better deload and work on form.” That is the only retarded thing here. You can’t get strong like that. You don’t need to hit an arbitrary number for a belt either. Anything that increases your core stability, increases safety. Although ideally it should be somewhat loose to brace against as opposed to ultra tight and replacing the core itself. And if grip is a limiting factor when trying to train your back: how would …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 08:50 PM
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Belts, straps and lifting shoes have their place. Knee sleeves and wrist wraps are useful too.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 07:21 PM
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Well your T is higher than mine dude. Guess that means a 1300lb total is within reach at least. Maybe I’m reading it wrong but isn’t vitamin D low? You must be the only guy not supplementing it if you’re not already.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 06:25 PM
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It’s good you’re increasing your TEF and NEAT my dude. Guy that broke that down was some kind of genius. But it is all for naught if you don’t count calories. I am telling you you are hamstringing your lifting too. Try eating the same stuff everyday. Try turning the log into a plan: write what you’ll eat tomorrow in MFP and then procure it and eat it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 06:19 PM
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Interestingly, for you, after abandoning his life of comfort he tried abject poverty and self sacrifice first before deciding that held no greater meaning either.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 04:15 PM
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I get what you're saying dude. I really do. And I hope it works out for you. ​ But you flirt with proposing extreme ownership, pushed to irrational extremes, in the assertion that it will make all right with the world. I find that to be a real case of solipsism. ​ I think there needs to be some balance with "presenting-as-alpha" as a sexual strategy and MRP as a quest for the Ubermensch, The latter, the whole vision of "Alpha doesn't lie/sneak around", "Alpha is the unconditional leader", "Alpha…
/r/askMRP09/04/19 03:07 PM
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Still working on setting up adequate daycare. That’s another beast. The better daycares all have a year long waiting list, and nannies are a new territory for me. I never posted about this, as relocating is my day-to-day but I fought, and won, several battles to beat a year long waiting list and get my son into state-run daycare. In a non-English speaking, bureaucratic culture, with no access to funding and no legal entitlement. ​ It can be done. ​ Private daycare was the backup plan and nowhere…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 01:47 PM
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What boggles my mind is guys like OP that bounce in here like a bull in a china shop with what they think is a strong masculine frame... when in reality it's just another layer of ego that shields them from life. I remember another Jack10 comment where he explained he thought following canon TRP over a long enough time line would increasingly play out as bagging more and more dysfunctional, narcissistic women that you plain didn't like. Actually a similar notion is what has always turned me off …
/r/askMRP09/04/19 01:26 PM
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Then I missed my flight to Dublin, was being very fun and social with the rebooking agent, who bent some rules to get me on a different flight through London. Not being autistic apparently helps in life. Lol, I was not allowed to board a return flight from Heathrow once, due to some "VISA issue", so were a bunch of others. After ten minutes of being polite but persistent, dude called the gate and after a bit of back and forth, convinced them to let us on. Paused for a bit and said "nah: I'm not …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 12:27 PM
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OYS 20 ​ My dick was broken this week. ​ I was feeling a burnt to a crisp from training so took a week off the gym. My plan had been to ramp things up prior to backing off and starting a summer cut. Unfortunately, it was probably too little, too late. Broke dick all week. Some morning wood today, so we still have a pulse at least. Went to the gym this morning after ten days off, and could still barely lift 75% of normal weights. So I started my summer cut a little early and have dialed gym back …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 10:19 AM
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I enjoyed your comments here dude. In fact your thinking seems to have evolved from your previous posts on this subject. Inspired me to track down another Jack10 quote I've been looking for, for a while, and turns out it's actually the one above the one you linked: ​ Theater gals be crazy. ​ Context: my wife was an actress when we met, as were many of my ex's, and I used to wear taming the crazy like a badge of honor with my friends. In hindsight, it was probably an advanced level scarcity menta…
/r/askMRP09/04/19 08:06 AM
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I love Uber. I would gladly never own a car again and use it full time. But anecdotally and from a few close calls, it's just not safe as the primary mode of transport for a woman. ​ There's probably a lesson in there too.
/r/askMRP09/04/19 07:18 AM
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Ill look out for it. In theory you can’t miss but in reality, with that much weight to lose, my concern would be you grind away for months, get bored of the process and “take a break” and/or radically changing your approach. That’s why a PSMF with hard stop date can help.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 06:46 PM
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You do you bro. I will tell you two things from experience: When you’re well overweight, losing it rapidly has so many benefits you will wake up feeling like a newborn baby compared to the day before; You will have more time than you know what to do with. For business, for family, for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 06:00 PM
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What's her number?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 03:18 PM
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This is the go to book for drinkers on the quit drinking Reddit: ​ https://www.amazon.com/This-Naked-Mind-Discover-Happiness/dp/0525537236/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=this+naked+mind&qid=1554735806&s=gateway&sr=8-1 ​ Worked for me. I don't miss drinking. I miss wanting to drink now. ​ As for the fat. Prime candidate for this big guy: ​ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/b6yn4l/60_dod_week_2_diet_part_3_fast_and_painful/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x ​ Keto is just another way to fuck a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 03:05 PM
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Re: gym. Sounds like you’re doing too much while dieting. It shouldn’t be a stimulus for fat loss. What are you doing in there for these sessions?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/19 07:20 AM
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Re: tailor. Checkout Raja Fashions. Get measured up in your nearest city, clothes come from Hong Kong a few weeks later. Finest clothes in the world for a reasonable price. Lead time is 6+ weeks but I’ve always found that the case with local tailors too. Although for casual clothes like jeans, I find it’s more a matter of trying different styles.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/19 07:19 AM
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Have you read the sidebar? Specifically the Rational Male? Still playing video games? Still have an infection tanking your T? Still no Male friends? Still sleeping 5 hours a night? Poor? Overworked? I think addressing any of those is a good first step. Other than that, I would add drinking 3 gallons of water a day is retarded and dilute your bodies stores of sodium and potassium which can cause all manner of mental and physical issues.
/r/askMRP07/04/19 05:09 AM
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Aren’t you the guy that works 80 hours a week and doesn’t sleep? And just moved home? External factors are a thing bro.
/r/askMRP06/04/19 08:08 PM
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I lived on my own and worked from 18. Girls used to comment on how clean my place was but I guess it was compared to college student stuff. I fucking hate cleaning. I tidy up after myself but honestly I’ve probably cleaned the way you describe once in my life. Can’t remember when but I must have done it to decide never to do it again. Low maintenance stuff and no dog, never seemed necessary. My wife moved in with me at 26 and had never picked up after herself in her life. I used to get a big blu…
/r/askMRP05/04/19 09:03 PM
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Secondarily, it's pathetic that you can only hit on women that can't tell you to fuck off and get away. They can't leave. Other way about. I need to start locking my office door.
/r/askMRP05/04/19 06:58 PM
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Heh. You/he got me.
/r/askMRP05/04/19 06:52 PM
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Serious question: why? Guys here talk about fucking their neighbors, church group etc why are co-workers so different? Yes, I have a work crush.
/r/askMRP05/04/19 05:53 PM
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Is the red/purple face you see a lot in gear users just high blood pressure?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/19 05:50 PM
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Safer than a referendum
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 08:14 PM
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It’s only Thursday bro, so he’s probably only one day in.
/r/askMRP04/04/19 06:12 PM
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Not really, no. It’s nothing more than extreme calorie restriction, moderated with a minimal protein intake to offset muscle catabolism. No attempt to harness ketosis or whatever therefore no emphasis on fats. Fats are essential of course. I find you can survive a few days without them. So eggs and most meats would be poor choices.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 03:53 PM
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Updated T2 monologue FTW.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 02:31 PM
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Jesus: fuck keto, fuck sugar. Did you read the content? Count calories. Eat protein. If you cant afford protein, learn math and work out the cost per serving of whey and ground meat is cheaper than eating wood shavings.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 07:50 PM
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It’s been big since the 19th century: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Salisbury Supporting studies are invariably cherry picked tests on diabetics which omit water weight lost. Robust statistical analysis shows no benefits for fat loss. Medical benefits are for epilepsy. It is a religious mania for some reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 07:10 PM
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Very helpful again. I need to research this angle more - I just assumed it was a no-no. From what I’ve seen there are good and bad places within Europe. The only private clinic I’ve found so far was 3k EUR for bloodwork and consult. But the local doc is taking cash for it now, just took some digging, might get a script that way too.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 06:32 PM
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Question on travelling... how? Can you check in all your “makings” with a copy of the script? What about international? This is almost as big an issue as being on it for life for me as I relocate frequently. Maybe a surplus would help me get setup in another place. I am just picturing having to do all this shit again in Chinese or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 05:57 PM
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Really helpful, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 03:41 PM
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Sure you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 02:44 PM
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Honestly I nearly stopped reading at this: I wouldn’t say that I look particularly bony or emaciated Which is false. ​ But I then made it to this: I have good muscle definition And checked out completely. ​ The gist of the rest is that both you and your wife are physically unattractive. ​ I don't always care for the "it's all your fault" bandwagon but CLEARLY your wife is reflecting your total lack of any physique/self discipline/self awareness/self respect/ability to dwell in reality. ​ Pick on…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 02:30 PM
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I encouraged my wife to read it. ​ The results were HILARIOUS. I'm not sure she read past the part about "Broken recording" but she is now the terror of every merchant in this city.
/r/askMRP03/04/19 02:18 PM
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Shitty self administered pin prick test showed my T was 400. If it’s relatively low off of some kind of credible test, I’d probably just order gear online. Not 100% sold on being on it for life as yet. But I am in Europe as a non resident, so even ordering bloodwork is difficult. Found a doc who agreed to do a blood test this week, so making slow progress. How did they start you off - did you need to do clomid first? And gels and whatnot?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 01:12 PM
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oops.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 09:42 AM
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I think part of the fun is people project what they want into fiction. Personally I did not "get" either Mad Men or Breaking Bad as success stories but: ​ This food for thought. ​ Was what made me enjoy BB and see it through: this PoV makes his monologue to Skylar at the end authentic and poignant (to me). Same with the critique of Dick Whitman I referenced - I turned up several Google but couldn't track down the actual one I read. ​ Similarly, the best finale I've seen was Marlow in The Wire. H…
/r/askMRP03/04/19 08:20 AM
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Opinions vary. Example: mine is "no it won't" and a meta analysis of factual findings bear this out.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 07:45 AM
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Checkout this post from the MRP sidebar too. Definitely something else I wish I'd read sooner.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 07:44 AM
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Lol, I’m working on it. I have tiny bones and a fast metabolism. Going to do a protein shake every day in addition to my regular diet. Hogwash. ​ See Part 1 of my epic three part series which some (me), are referring to as "a triumph". ​ First an appeal to your ego: coat check girl wasn't a lesbian. She just doesn't dig your Andy Serkis look. ​ Now here is Part 4. Just for you: At 5'7", you will need to weigh 155lbs to not look sick; A better lean weight would be 170lbs; We're all built differen…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 07:25 AM
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We’re probably saying the same thing but I’m trying to point to the difference between empathy and maintaining appearances. I think the latter is more likely this particular dude’s issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 05:49 AM
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Heh, someone “looked at her the wrong way” in Salem once. All of NE made the list that day.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 08:37 PM
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That’s good. But great execution needs to be the minimum expectation. Always will be. Don’t forget it’s playing the numbers game that brings in the leads. But it does sounds like you stretched yourself in your job hunt. Good stuff man. Keep watering the network.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 08:21 PM
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Jesus Christ skeletor: fuck off with your functional fitness. If you can feel bone on ANY part of your body, eat whatever is within arms length. Including your personal trainer and his certificate that took him a whole two hours to earn. You need to not weigh less than 155lbs ASAP. Lifting weights is not rocket science. Use a fucking leg press dumb ass and start eating.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 07:30 PM
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Sounds like you’re digging up good career leads bro. I hope this leads to something exciting for you. Don’t be afraid to take something that stretches you and figure out how to do it once you’re there.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 07:17 PM
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Must be a European thing: my wife has left a trail of blacklisted grocery store/supermarkets across the world. All boycotts not bans so far but it is obviously an emotive issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 07:03 PM
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I’ve never seen or listened to Joe Rogan but I looked into DMT on Dorian Yates’ amazing recommendation. Can’t find a source for it in mainland Europe unfortunately but I visit Amsterdam occasionally so will try there.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:55 PM
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I quit drinking about six months ago. Big change for Mrs R since we used to split a bottle of wine every night and go out for drinks every weekend. Or so I thought. But from day 2 to present day, I don’t recall her mentioning it once. I guess I kind of thought I’d automatically have to take up kayaking or something but we do the same stuff together, I just have water. Don’t know if that helps.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:26 PM
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Nice. I wimped out of peyote last trip and regretted it immediately after
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:14 PM
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Don Draper was brought up as a good example on MRP recently but there was a good Manosphere analysis - I forget where - about the fact Mad Men is really about Dick Whitman, a paper alpha with no frame. Walter White was dissected in a similar way. Those are kind of, “how not to do it” examples.
/r/askMRP02/04/19 05:56 PM
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The taxi driver was the RP hero of that movie. Entrepreneurial, Machiavellian and made a bee line for the chick with three tits.
/r/askMRP02/04/19 05:51 PM
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Unfortunately for me, I’m not, nor have I ever been, into business or entrepreneurial endeavors. I lack the creativity and drive of most entrepreneurs and the education of a business person. But if you scratch the surface behind job titles, you'll find a lot of people do too. If anything, coming from another angle can be a blessing. ​ Personally, IRL mentoring was key for me and I used to pester anyone and everyone I came across for advice. Asking questions about your natural, genuine interests …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 01:57 PM
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- Stop smoking (Failed this week) – my birthday is coming up next weekend. I don’t want to smoke anymore. I also want to have fun on my birthday. How you gonna eat big sucking on those teats like a baby? Try this: Don't wait for an arbitrary date, don't wait to finish a pack. Just stop; Plan to sleep 10+ hours for the following three days; That should be you over the hump; Anytime you think of smoking, make yourself feel nauseous. Honestly I find the sleep thing is really underrated for beating …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 12:48 PM
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I started my career as an industrial mechanic about eight and a half months ago. I make pretty decent money and my boss seems to like me. I do as much as I can and detest being lazy. The idea of not contributing to whatever goal(s) my boss establishes in the morning is revolting to me. Obviously there’s room to grow and there’s room to improve, so I’m just working on getting my hands on whatever I can to gain more experience. I've worked with quite a few ex-military guys and, while I definitely …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 12:28 PM
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OYS 19 ​ Still freelance but, pending a notary attending, I'll also be the COO of an additional two companies this week. Earning a fixed income of $250k a year plus whatever I make with my own company. In that respect, I am meeting with officials for a high value government project later this week. Close to moving into a nice house. Son in school, wife nearly back to writing and painting and 7 weeks of annual vacation mapped out. ​ Didn't have time to do my half squats today but I did curl in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 10:35 AM
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I had hoped to make my first mission something more noble and less solipsistic - something related to my kids, perhaps - but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that I can’t escape myself. Only by focusing on self-improvement, will I ever be truly ready to work on my relationships and build a life of value. I think you're on the right track bro. You seem like a self-obsessed psychopath, trying to cure the curse of boredom, laziness and self-entitlement through next level caretaking.…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 10:03 AM
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go buy some nicotine gum and pop one in Everytime you get hungry. I mentioned this as an appetite supressant in Part 3 but I believe it also increases BMR so it would be equally valid in Part 2. ​ Personally I hate the taste and the "high". Seems to give me instant jitters in a way that coffee doesn't but definitely worth an experiment in case you're wired the other way around. Agree it crushes your appetite.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/19 12:59 PM
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Savage but fair.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 10:35 AM
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OK done.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/19 07:55 AM
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So DNP? Good luck man.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/19 07:23 AM
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Tried it, found it needlessly complex.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/19 06:04 AM
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Curious, is she Asian?
/r/askMRP30/03/19 02:35 PM
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I’ve read this a couple of times but I honestly don’t know what you’re getting at. Are you saying the psychological aspect needs addressed first?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/19 12:58 PM
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It’s easy to be “thin”, it takes the same effort as being “fat”. To be lean and muscular, you will really have to count calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/19 12:38 PM
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Just want to add dudes: for me this is not about crash dieting, it is about changing your habits. But sometimes that means clearing out the old ones. If you do check out Velocity Diet, or whatever results, you’ll find over and over people reporting going from having no control over their eating to developing a “food is fuel” attitude. If you are overweight and looking for the reset switch on your brain. This is it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/19 06:26 AM
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What are your height and lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/19 06:03 AM
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I can give you some pointers if you post your height, weight and lifts. PM if you like.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 09:18 PM
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For pure fat loss: no need for that much fat. Just protein is fine. Replace the fat with more stimulants!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 08:07 PM
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I maximize the anabolic window in the only way you can: I eat constantly, year round and only fast to cut, which takes 4-6weeks max. So it’s not a major concern for me. What I’m saying is: don’t get fat in the first place and we shouldn’t lose sight of the value of that. But to answer the question: My priority post workout is simple sugars and salt. Glycogen supercompensation peaks quickly but protein synthesis is elevated for 24 hours. Logic suggests that’s when it’s most valuable I.e. over tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 08:01 PM
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Actually this is exactly what I habitually do: light clothes by day and workout in a hooded sweatshirt for the opposite effect (and to keep sweat off equipment). Only issue I find is that <12% bf I actually do feel uncomfortably cold very quickly. Don’t know if that’s caused by low calories or literally the lack of fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 07:01 PM
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Totally agree and somewhat similar when people stall they either: Take a break (The infamous “diet break”); or Change everything (hmm keto isn’t working, I’ll try Eat stop eat!). One of the most effective mindset shifts I had was to make the smallest change to start things moving again. Usually simply lowering calories by 5% i.e. 100kcal a day. Embrace the plateau and lean into it!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 06:53 PM
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JA’s comment is spot on and in your case I would recommend trying a week. I did it most recently to drop from pushing 15% (which I consider close enough to fat) after months of bulking, back to 12%. Lifting 6 days a week. No strength loss and got a ton done. Only problem is I eat lunch with friends most days and had to reveal my eccentricities to them. It is not actually that painful either but it’s a pain socially. I would recommend you start on a Friday evening or Saturday morning when motivat…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 06:43 PM
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3 parter posted if you want to sticky
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 05:11 PM
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Counting calories in no way precludes any food choices. ​ This approach can and should be used even if you are a zealot keto dieter. Same for paleo, slow carb. Whatever Oprah recommended to you last. ​ Pizza and beer, for example, are somewhat less desirable inclusions to a cut, due to their low protein content and TEF but still perfectly doable within a calorie controlled framework. ​ I have cut with both. ​ For the record, I do think all calories are created equal. But I think of my TDEE as fl…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 04:54 PM
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I thought the dates might be off but hadn't had time to check. Fortunately I thought I'd get a jump on my homework and was cleaning it up now. I was just logging in to put up a draft but I'll do the full post.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 02:10 PM
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Robert Smith Had to Google it but it's that guy from South Park.
/r/askMRP29/03/19 07:37 AM
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I used to race motorcycles with this man. He even did some 1099 shit over the years for me. Great UN*X guy. I mean I always suspected he was very metrosexual but he has been married, has kids, etc. This is a man who loves Tool, Black Sabbath, a total metal head, etc. A man who survived cancer. Twice. Matt Krok and that Jenner dude got their dicks cut off. The only two I've met IRL were spec ops types. The armchair psychologist in me wonders if they were overcompensating before or they nurtured t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 08:18 AM
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It’s almost like it was the short version. The “gist” of you will.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 05:01 AM
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STFU takes practice. Not everything here needs answered for starters. Nobody cares about your three minute old epiphany or your childhood trauma for example. Just what you are going to DO. All your responses are how you are not doing anything but very much enjoying the chat. When you take it to real life, STFU just means you need to STOP and THINK about what is going to come out of your mouth next. Take your time, ask for clarification if necessary and say what is required. Then STFU again. Rins…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 09:35 PM
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To paraphrase Austin powers: “you just told him baby”. If you take every piece of bait here, you are going to go round and round in circles. Learn to “STFU” mentally. Learn to extract the value without DEERing. Learn to NGAF about anything else. Once you do, you will realize people are shooting from the hip 100% of the time. You didn’t even have an overbearing mother dummy. Until then I would stay away from car salesmen IRL if I were you. Anyway this also reminds me of the jack10 comment that “y…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 06:51 PM
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but could be that you were over-communicating details, not leaving enough blank space for her hamster to feel in whatever drama she sees fit. Pretty sure this is a major factor: the nuts, bolts and nihilism involved from my point of view are no doubt quite unattractive. And boring. Now that hamster can run free. cryptic first statement I want to keep my doxx risk low so I can leave my posts up. But briefly, my wife is an academic, from a large family of academics, so being with “hawt business gu…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 05:39 PM
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I think there's a nuance I'm not communicating well. But I can tell you I was jacked and successful to begin with and talked all day about it. Still ended up here.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 03:28 PM
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Lol, I could think of hand gestures that would suffice here.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 02:29 PM
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OYS 18 - Leadership is Gay edition So this week I finally came across an opportunity I’d been waiting on for a couple of months now and my first ever wife dit. ​ Marriage Mrs R often brags about how ambitious I am, collects my business cards to admire the job titles, cheers/boos along to my war stories and occasionally surprises me with a handmade good luck card for a big pitch or something. \Note she has simple tastes and her weekly allowance has never actually changed throughout this, she just…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 11:25 AM
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Seems like good brogress to me... up to a point. Doing basic stuff like moving beds around and scheduling vacations felt like total Rambo stuff to me, being used to living in parallel to my wife, but it took us out of a rut in a matter of weeks. ​ Couple of things brotato: You are giving yourself a mountain to climb with a 3 hour commute. You need to think long and hard about the cost/benefit of both the facility and your current residence; This (other) couple's therapy thing is AMAZING. My favo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 10:15 AM
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Different dude but I have autism and a record of every set/rep/weight lifted for about ten years. ​ I used to be a big warmup guy and discovered by accident I deadlift more without it. Like literally no warmup. FWIW I asked a 700lb DL'er about this once and he concurred. He did a couple of singles up to 450lb and then just went for it. ​ If I was maxing out I would do: DL: I hedge my bets a little and go 225>315>405 for doubles before work sets; Squatting: I do 3 or 4 sets with 225lbs with no ra…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 08:49 AM
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Since this kind of dilutes the message of the OP: Your three month transformation is labelled a 2 year journey; To me, you look exactly like someone who has never touched a weight. You're in better than average shape bud. But most people can get to a gym and most people would see exponentially better results there.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 08:20 AM
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I don’t do CrossFit bro. I just go for the open gym and train powerbuilding type stuff. I find it easier than PL watch when travelling internationally and you are far, far more likely to find a rack and a platform in most of the world this way. South America, Europe, Japan, even third world countries like India or Canada. Plus usually you can drop in for free if you’re one off visiting.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 06:18 AM
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gym in Europe Try South East Asia! CrossFit gyms FTW when travelling. Full of other travellers too. Right now I am in Europe where there are apparently no platforms or commercial gyms open before 9am. I pay 150 EUR for a CrossFit box with an open gym from 6-8am. I’m catching up on 2000’s era rap though. The true golden age of music.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/19 04:40 PM
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There’s a good “East meets West” discussion on the same concepts in “The Art of Happiness” co-written by the Dalai Lama and Howard Cutler. From the Wikipedia summary: Psychiatrist Howard Cutler followed the Dalai Lama around on this tour. Cutler, as well as many of his patients, believed that happiness was “ill defined, elusive, and ungraspable” (14). He also noted that the word ‘happy’ was derived from the term luck or chance (14). His stance on happiness changed after spending some time with t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/19 08:52 AM
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Career: I have milestones coming up in the ongoing struggle to found an engineering company from deal origination to delivery. I am implementing habits to manage my time and the emotional turmoil more effectively. I will be relying on others for support but not validation. In the meantime I will continue to evade bankruptcy, be jacked, stylish and regularly bathed. But I will not take up cologne as I do not want to smell like a Persian cab driver. I will also be cutting to the striated buttocks …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 04:44 PM
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Lots of stuff on the human condition bro. But maybe you just need to wait two weeks for the word. Easy (and good) for everyone around you to be prematurely celebrating. They have someone to support. But I know I would need the piece of paper.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 05:31 AM
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I like talking shop!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 02:54 PM
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You're on the right track bro. But at the weight you have on the bar, your major risk of injury is a failure to brace not rounding or a weakness in your core. WARNING: I am going to rant but I truly believe that this limp dicked, academic approach to lifting is the cause of, not the cure to injuries. ​ "Stabilizers", "Core", "functional" and even "Form" are bro-science concepts IMHO. The point of lifting is to get stronger. "Getting stronger" has 100% carryover. ​ Consider this: I have pulled 50…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 01:29 PM
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No time like the present bro. ​ TRP always boils down to success through trial and error. I say get out there and see if you can improve your circumstances. And if not, I am sure you will quickly learn what you need to do. ​ Some IRL feedback is likely just what you need.
/r/askMRP21/03/19 08:14 AM
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Why is your DL so low dude? If you can squat 405lbs below parallel you should be able to pull >450lbs surely?
/r/askMRP20/03/19 09:19 PM
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I fucked my shit up for a while trying to squat way wide and sit waaaay back, as was the rage back in 2010. Now I squat low bar, feet ultra narrow, hands ultra wide. Works for me. Nuckols had some diagrams of different hip sockets and an article on all forms being beautiful which are a good argument against seeking "perfect form" from a textbook. But really this show opened my eyes to the uniqueness and asymmetry of human bodies. ​ Paul Carter has a guide to figuring it out in a precise but some…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 02:23 PM
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Good post. My wife said to me: "that is how you talk to your employees, not me!" the other day. ​ Very tempting to reply "if you worked for me, you would be out on the fucking street." but laughing it off is far more effective.
/r/askMRP20/03/19 08:45 AM
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Yes, the infamous name. Intensemuscle.com was the official home. And modded not unlike MRP. But it might have moved. Dozens of stickied posts and EC’s there if you track it down. The creator Dante Trudel has some great anecdotal views. Although his speculation on the underlying mechanisms is sometimes a bit out there. I throw it in very occasionally but I’d likely gravitate that way full time if I become more concerned about injury. Fantastic content regardless. Extreme stretching is life for ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 09:39 PM
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No worries man, good luck. Have you looked into something like DC Training? You’d use lower weight due to rest pause and tempo which would take some strain off your joints and the rotation of exercises required by it is a good way to avoid injuries. Apart from that, a tall guy like you might just be better off leg pressing. Just sayin’. Tons of stuff on the DC forums on avoiding injuries too. Edit: “tall” guy. A lot of guys much over 6’ seem to struggle with injuries squatting.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 08:39 PM
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What sport did you do in college? Unless it was table tennis, there is something seriously off with your lifts. Don’t obsess about form when you’re squatting less than body weight. If both your feet are on the ground, it’s fine. Apart from anything else, the leverages actually shift dramatically once the weight on the bar outweighs you and all you are doing is drilling poor form. Same for the other lifts, you should be able to stand up holding 315lbs in your hands for example. Given this is the …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 07:47 PM
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Might do bro. But read WISNIFG if you haven’t: there are literal scripts in it for people dealing with family. I’ve seen that sub before btw and it seems like and invitation to victim puke. That never works. My wife’s folks are textbook narcissists (maybe that’s why she married me?!) but she got nowhere until adopting a little praxeology.
/r/askMRP19/03/19 07:23 PM
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That’s the point though bro, you are not ready to move up Maslow’s hierarchy. I quit a high paid job to live off a small fortune and two businesses that all collapsed under me. I got a gig I didn’t think I needed right before shit really went south (infinite shoutouts to brother chuck). Sure my ego got in my way but if you think your position is any more stable you are tripping balls man. Reread the saga you are writing. Having sandwich fillers and milk in the fridge this week is not permission …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 05:29 PM
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1st gen Irish mom. Proficient in wooden spoon and slipper. ​ There are still serious white women.
/r/askMRP19/03/19 03:34 PM
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i wrote this piece in my journal to cement in my head that i help others in order to match my actions to my values, not appease anyone else. i purposely left out my context, stats, etc from this post. what no one here knows is that my mission is to serve a particular issue i’m passionate about. I posted something similar to help me move past some careerism that had crept in, in recent years. Felt good putting the raw ideas and statement of intent out there but I am finding it is an ongoing proce…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 03:31 PM
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Interesting stuff bro. I am also fighting for my right to party abroad, albeit with wife in tow. ​ Maybe I've got some tips here: Lifted 5x this last week while on the road. The hotel gym was adequate for pussy shit, but there were no barbells. I had planned and decided to go to a much better gym down the road – it was really good. Smart move and, outside of the US, deadlift platforms are rare even in commercial gyms so worth a double check. If you can: google and email the local Crossfit box an…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 02:16 PM
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It is a challenge to write about something other than your wounded birds, when you don't have anything else. But you just do it the same as everyone else. It's like cleaning out your garage: start anywhere and start grinding away. Read NMMNG and do the exercises. Quit affairs, drinking, drugs whatever other vices you are hiding away for now and focus your energy on adulting. Maybe open up a little on your childlike worldview and poor impulse control. ​ Get a job. ​ Maybe it's my blue collar root…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 12:10 PM
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Haha, well put both.
/r/askMRP19/03/19 11:43 AM
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OYS 17 Trucking on with internal shit: ego, the copernican principle, generally not being a snowflake and wrestling with impulsiveness. ​ Lifestyle Delivered promised arrangements for house viewings and working through them this week. This is always a fantastic process as it brings out my wife’s nesting drive, shit testing, craziness and is one of the few arenas where family leadership was ever challenging before kids. Very hard to show leadership without eventual challenges. This will be our te…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 11:32 AM
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Very good. Two perfect grandparents, one sibling with mutual respect. One that needs to remain on low contact. That is just how it is going to be. No contact prepares everyone for new behaviours. But like people say wrt wives: avoidance only gets you so far. You have to stand your ground eventually to set the new dynamic. I am an assertive motherfucker but I got a lot out of WISNIFG anyway. It’s not “tricks”, it’s a thought process. Drilling the techniques takes the emotion out of exchanges. The…
/r/askMRP19/03/19 06:08 AM
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Go zero contact for 3-18 months, low contact thereafter and treat every interaction like a WISNIFG script. I had to do this a few years ago with much of my family. Zero explanation before, during or after it. It works. It will scare you how easy it is.
/r/askMRP19/03/19 04:42 AM
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Yes but they probably won’t. Most people have a limited number of “no’s”. This is all in WISNIFG!
/r/askMRP18/03/19 04:42 AM
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Email the dude, then the team leader, then the manager, then the director, then the VP, then the COO. Use LinkedIn. Google “find email addresses” or just type [email protected]. That captures all the first points. Act like a crazy. 100% of corporations will pay out to loose cannons who won’t stop emailing. Don’t waste your time phoning call centers to listen to a multiple choice script. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
/r/askMRP17/03/19 07:09 PM
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Check out the front page of reddit: there’s almost always a “X tried to charge me Y for Z (as per their terms) facist bastards, right? RIGHT?”, gilded x 4, thousands of upvoted.
/r/askMRP17/03/19 05:58 PM
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Face to face is best but I would much rather argue charges via email than phone. Much easier face to face as few people challenge more than 2 x “no’s”. So a lot of people fall apart at the third. But there is no pressure on a phone system. That’s why companies use it. Very hard to fight a hold signal. Push for an email address and/or use voilanorbert and LinkedIn to start cc’ing the whole company. Get a reply and then start putting media outlets in cc with a click bait subject “Dear AMEX why do …
/r/askMRP17/03/19 05:47 PM
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Generally in customer service: anyone can do anything at any time. But you do need to pick your battles or you will be exhausted. If it is important to you, just do some basic fact checking before you get into these situations: which company has the obligation/duty of care, google benchmark pricing etc. Then stick to your guns. Never Split the Difference is a popular book on negotiating. You might want to check it out.
/r/askMRP17/03/19 05:30 PM
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Check out the “Pattaya Skydiving Club” phenomena. This shit is no joke; http://www.khaosodenglish.com/news/crimecourtscalamity/2016/03/24/1458792504/ In South East Asia all the ex pats I know are likely one of at least three active participants in their marriages. Only seen it transplanted to the West a couple of times but at least one worked out the same.
/r/askMRP17/03/19 09:30 AM
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It’s a mindset bro, I can dig it. In what way does this vary from your original thought process? Also, when can I expect my dick pic?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/19 08:35 AM
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I think the very act of declaring it shows it’s an consciously adopted rational egoism approach. The disorders you name tend to be inate, irrational and act against the individuals long term interests. I’d be more interested in how much OP struggled to get there and what, if any, day to day calibration is still required.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/19 08:34 AM
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No offence bro but it sounds more like WISNIFG than anything else. Once you’ve told someone what you’re offering in a clear and unambiguous way, the rest should just be clarifying where necessary. I respect anyone who runs the show but I’m curious if it was a charity move to begin with?
/r/askMRP16/03/19 01:21 PM
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Agree on both the physical points and the overall law of diminishing returns. My wife hates the thought of violence. The end. Sure maybe there is some visceral reaction in her lizard brain but everything else outweighs it by far. Verbal assertion she hears plenty of and was either never interested or it got old real quick.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/19 01:16 PM
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interesting, your OYS is starting to shed the bravado you were filleted on last week There's been a drop off in recent external pressures which helps. Got clear of bankruptcy last week for example and the thing with my son before really did shake rock me to my core. The role of ego as a beta coping measure might make a half-decent post one day. ​ Anyway: I can honestly say I am relieved to authentically identify as a beta. Light-bulb moment for sure. Hope to start making real progress now. ​ get…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 02:43 PM
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There is definitely far less of a drive to "beta-ize" men in some cultures. And things like AWALT/Oneitis/AF-BB are part of the accepted fabric of many. Several South American countries spring to mind in fact. But I have never been to Colombia specifically. ​ But the nuts and bolts of the RP sexual strategy works across the globe. ​ AWALT.
/r/askMRP15/03/19 09:47 AM
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i've lost track of my own metaphor, to what you referring about in my wife's sniper rifle. Assuming kids. A husband's divorce option is a hand grenade held amidst his family. The wife's is more like a sniper rifle aimed at his chest. ​ It's apt as my family's ties are over three countries - mine, hers and current residence - and I've woken up to the realities of custody and an ex-wife who won't simply disappear when I divorce. So the collateral damage would be significant i.e. we are unlikely to…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 07:15 PM
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I agree with the sentiment: you should never really ream someone unless you are prepared for it to get physical. That is just the reality of an intense confrontation in or out of the work place. ​ There is a time to let that play out. There is also a time to use measured words in the presence of a HR rep and with security outside the door holding a cardboard box. ​ Either way you need to acknowledge the risk. Maybe this dude DNGAF. Or maybe he had hung up and was gaming his wife. ​ Or maybe this…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 10:06 AM
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Funny I was just thinking “in battle make a decision. If it’s a good one, even better” Klingon proverb. I never watched it though so not sure how the episode played out...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 04:51 PM
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Interesting, thanks for the details.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 03:56 PM
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i struggle with this too You are a case study in snippets bro: I kind of "get it" six months in but as a lurker flicking through EC progress reports, I probably thought your wife sounded like quite the catch. ​ The rest I agree with but I also need to be honest that I saw my wife's sniper rifle (using your metaphor) and just plain didn't like the view. And I am not sure that is ever going to change. In the meantime I am letting a window for a relatively clean exit close. ​ So bottom line: yes I …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 03:18 PM
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My biggest weakness has long been my temper - something I share with my Dad. I’ve worked very hard on controlling this, and my “angry” incidences are much fewer and farther between now. Not perfect, but better. The main thing I got out of NMMNG was the "toxic shame" idea didn't apply to sex for me but in a weird way it applied to feeling anger. And the idea of acknowledging it helped more than trying to repress it. ​ Curious about what you are doing here?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 12:43 PM
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All I want to say is: "getting on Bumble" while out of town, and in reality also meaning taking off the ring, flirting for reelz IRL, carrying a condom etc, would be a different experience from enjoying feminine energy. ​ No sarcasm intended. I got stuff out of WotSM too. And you do not have to close but it is different. ​ Now I hold my hands up, admit I am getting out of my wheelhouse and withdraw. ​ I just don't want my shitty writing to preclude what might be a useful experiment.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 11:38 AM
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I don't get how anyone could make a useful judgement of your wife based on your comments. My own OYS was on the up on Mrs R for once (Sun). Cooled somewhat (Mon). And this morning (Wed) she woke me at 5am with a drama of her own making and the whole thing would have been different... really I try and avoid the whole issue as at least one of us would read like we had bpd. ​ But anyway your response is pure Oneitis. And add Cap'n Save-a-hoe. ​ Sorry bro: I am right there with you. ​ I do know you …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 10:07 AM
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Keep it clean bro: no drinking, no smoking meth. You don’t sound like you have the time to get high on the reg but seriously a vice can be the straw that breaks the camel’s back. Do not add one into the mix.
/r/askMRP13/03/19 05:30 AM
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Haberdashers
/r/askMRP13/03/19 04:49 AM
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I am beginning to wonder if my wife is playing the long game here to beta-tize me into not liking it. I don't know for sure. I need to think deeply on this, but I'm starting to consider that my hating my ego about this job is a result of her attempt to just beta me. Fuck - that's confusing as FUCK. Lol. I think my wife played off my cues. Maybe you bitch about travelling to make her feel better? Regardless, I doubt there's a plan. My wife just loves drama of any kind. You never really see people…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 03:47 PM
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Lol sorry man I loved this comment but mistakenly remembered it being to you: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/aiktnw/own_your_shit_weekly_january_22_2019/eeug9gc Both you guys overlap with me in different ways. Anyway: no idea of the specifics of your equity arrangement but I know people who have not got what they were banking on. Not accusing you of anything but don't talk yourself into staying if you don't haven't stress tested the likelihood of cash-in-the-bank. It might be L…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 01:31 PM
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My wife came to me and showed me that she had purchased some audiobooks on being a stepmother. This is a HUGE step in the right direction. She proudly showed them off to me. I encouraged her. I plan to say nothing else about them. I know that you know she will probably not listen to them. But still: she probably wont. I’m became a Global C-Level dude at 35 years old which is impressive in my mind and it feeds my ego. My title feeds my ego. My work feeds my ego. My wife says a lot of stupid shit …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 11:52 AM
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General update So, owned up to some ugly shit last week. This week was more of a return to the land of the living and reconnecting with the rest of my blue blooded beta boring beta problems. ​ Lifestyle Started a house hunt for a more permanent place to stay. We have relocated frequently and are now in Europe. I have been guilty of losing interest over time and viewing the whole thing as a temporary concession to wife while I plot the next move. This time I tabled the issue, we both agreed bulle…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 11:17 AM
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I did tell her the situation when my boss made it official. She asked my plans. I told her. After going over previous readings it made sense not to shut her out but let her know the situation and affirm I'm in control. She responded positively. Makes sense to me. It is 100% on you to deliver. So this is 100% congruent. As long as you deliver. ​ Keep grinding man. Don't let up till you're in the new seat and the new paycheck is in your account. Even better, when you've passed your probationary pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 10:19 AM
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Blue Pill Professor/ Saving a Low Sex Marriage. It’s an ebook on Amazon. Sounds like you caught it early. So go slow and have fun with it. You can still be besties.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/19 07:29 AM
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How is sex frequency and quality though? My wife also had a difficult miscarriage - couple of guys have discussed similar scenarios recently - it was tough but we got through it and became real besties afterwards. I mean I dropped flirting, softened on shit tests. We achieved real BFF status. Blue pill FTW. Couple of years later, when the sex and passion had dried up and we had kids to deal with, I was suddenly not OK with being roomies with my BFF. You might want to try BPP’s book. He has a pre…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/19 07:16 AM
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Very cool thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/19 05:59 AM
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Cognitive biases are a good market effect to compare to a RP journey.
/r/askMRP07/03/19 06:53 PM
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Weird: I’ve read that JoH post before but actually find your take more helpful. I like Jack’s posts. But sometimes really can’t see what makes it different from blue pill sometimes. You obviously saw it more clearly here.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/19 01:45 PM
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I’ve seen a couple of references. Don’t think I ever saw an actual post though, I will need to dig one out for comparison some day.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 07:56 PM
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I agree with that direction and it should be doable now. We had been running our styles in parallel for a while but it broke down when I was away for a couple of two week trips. Tantrums had become the rule 24/7. Allah Kareem is one of the stock responses, meaning god is kind (AFAIK). Seemed appropriate. I am also more used to joking about it though.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 07:44 PM
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I think we’re talking different ends of the spectrum (Allah Kareem) but full disclosure: no way my wife would have gone for it either. Most tantrums happened with her and she already thought saying “no” was abuse. I had 0 track record at the outset.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 08:47 AM
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I tried something like your triangle recently. And I’ve been able to pick him up for a while now. The issue was between thrashing, hitting and biting it would have been impossible to do earlier without him hurting himself. It is still too early to have it as a go to. But in general I’d picked up a a lot of ideas like this and have been working towards it. I will not be raising my voice again for obvious reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 08:29 AM
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OK I get it - that position is also how I do the bicep one. Been on this bus a couple of years, I notice a lot of aesthetic improvement.
/r/askMRP05/03/19 08:50 PM
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I love extreme stretching. But I can never get a stretch with this one. Is there a trick to the bar height or your hand spacing?
/r/askMRP05/03/19 08:08 PM
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You're probably right. I should stick to the positive stuff. My concern was boundaries but I need to learn some new strategies to make them clear. EDIT: reason I came back to this one is we just said "bye" to mom who is going on GNO trip. I think my previous comments stand but it is me and the kids for a few days, so not a good time to be wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 08:02 PM
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If I ever saw you shake your kid IRL I would drop your ass so fast your wouldn't know what hit you. I would have said the exact same thing to someone before it. Probably still would.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 07:47 PM
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Interesting take. The societal difference is what I am referring to too. I live in mainland Europe right now but I’ve lived in London before. I’ve noticed a couple of Brit EC’s and wondered specifically how they bridge the gap. Totally off topic: I have spent time in Canada too and they call it a stroller AFAIK. I think I am at the end point you describe. But the specific tasks that earn right now are cynical and do not work for what it is intended to do. I am sure you get optimistic coroners. B…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 05:58 PM
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Not UK but I am at a different point on the bell curve for sure. Reading Rationale Male - in full for the first time - just now and there is a cultural gap and no global or even pan American SMP IMHO. Good input, thanks. I get a lot of the way there myself by posting and rereading later. Hence my retarded style. That and being a retard.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 04:53 PM
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You have led by example At the risk of DEERing, this was my first ever voice raising with him. Probably the second time I have raised my voice in several years. The previous being the wife one I mentioned. ​ AKA "I wasn't myself." Bullshit. you are always yourself. This thread is literally called own your shit. Fair comment. I thought a lot about this before writing it. Just like a codependent guy needs to go to extremes to break free before he can come back and develop healthy intimate relation…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 04:29 PM
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Moral relativist checking in.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 03:24 PM
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make sure FO is on board with "we don't negotiate with terrorist" game plan. This part has worked well. We had a previous exchange on her style which was no rules plus periodic "Nice gal" style blow ups screaming at him, calling him abnormal and whatnot. She has 100% stopped this now and even does her own discipline stuff. That has been another transformation and it has been surreal. i will also point out that the "i'm not getting my way, must destroy everything" apple did not roll far from the …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 03:22 PM
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I think reconciling that with seeing the good in people is the square peg I am trying to find the comprehension slot for.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 02:44 PM
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i have thought this applied to you on several past post. True confession: I had to discipline myself to chose a dumb user name over an "Warlock-blooded-flying-red-pill-wolf" type thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 02:25 PM
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Lol. That reads glib but, taking the context into account, is one of the most insightful things I have ever read.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 01:31 PM
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on the tantrums, how old is this kid? Three. He was always a "screamer". It gained new wings with walking and talking. I thought it was just the no boundary mommy discipline. Then started to think I was burying my head in the sand and something was wrong. But over the last few months of (non-physical) daddy discipline, it has virtually stopped. I am also far more active with burning off his energy, which I think contributes. It was tapering off before this "incident". And continued after. But pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 01:27 PM
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i'd say this at the root of a lot of your problems. Way too early to declare victory but I really have developed a completely different understanding of frame over the last 12 months. Specifically the role of emotions over the last two or three months. I basically thought everything was faking it till you made it. And fuck. When you walk out of your professional identity. Then check out of your marriage. Pretty scary how little is left. My new take on the necessary evils of putting food on the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 01:01 PM
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I agree: from experience. I got smacked around when I was a kid. Left me with nothing but the lasting impression that my dad was a weak man. ​ I fucked up, I have no intention of repeating it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 12:51 PM
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Marriage Due to the legalities of where we were married and the details of our finances, I have control over the final cash and prizes in case of divorce. Losing access to my son is also not a deal-breaker for me and I would happily live abroad for a clean break. So there is a fairly low barrier to exit here. I had recognized I would just end up with a younger shrew in the past however I think I am past that now. Anecdote: we had a "perfect" weekend. Went out together, no kids, all day and into …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 10:50 AM
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OYS 14 - Fee Fees Edition Background After about 20 years of suck, culminating in a humiliating early lesson in AWALT/Oneitis, started living some basic internal Game and spent 15 years pursuing a mission to see the world. Latterly with wife in tow. Had a lot of fun. Had kids, ended up a drunk captain and headed back into suck. A stint in Corporateland had enabled the latter half of my mission and adventures and a couple of year’s back I dropped it, ostensibly to pursue passion projects but incl…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 10:49 AM
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100% this. First post is, “I am playing politics for promotion”, this one is “I am in line for promotion” + “offender is x grades above me”. You have been caught out being a sneaky bastard OP. Sometimes this is just the cost of doing business but STFU anyway and think on how to act on this information in future.
/r/askMRP05/03/19 06:22 AM
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Agreed. Focusing on the wife = doing something different for the wife = trying to control her. And realistically, if you are a faggot at home, you just don’t realise where else you do it yet. But extended family FTW. Im sure we all hear needle scrape on the same old record. I practice not singing along now. There’s a reason people fight at the holidays! Btw I was looking for link for your comment on stock trading/Grimms fairy tale pot of gold. Life changing for another gambler. I need to add tha…
/r/askMRP03/03/19 06:55 PM
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I’m definitely a walker. Used to do it instead of a lunch break. Lost discipline with it between kids and a switch to self employment. Guess I just need to go back to it and do the work. I’m adding a line or two about my mood etc to my workout log as journaling for dummies. Btw one of the biggest changes I’ve had going from lurking to participating is exposure to a totally different set of contributors. I really appreciate that you randomly pop in to break things down in a clear, concise way.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/19 06:48 PM
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Sounds like you handled a difficult situation well. Be wary of over correcting on the comfort side by care taking or whatever. And also it is probably not the last time you will have to visit sleeping arrangements- OxyContin is a hell of a drug. I think I saw WotSM recommended, a reread of NMMNG may be in order too.
/r/askMRP03/03/19 06:38 AM
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I dunno guys: I used to spend 30min or so a day walking or whatever to straighten my head a bit. I definitely don’t do it as much now but I don’t think it was giving me much emotional control before - that was the time I was using to shut everything off. I would love to think weed, LSD or DMT is the easy answer but I would end up a meth head within 90 days.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/19 06:27 AM
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I lost $300k in about 11 months while reconnecting sexually with my wife. No joke. I also did not feel fully actualised.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/19 11:36 AM
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Fuck THIS is the shit that matters. This is what I mean when is say that companies move with a laser like focus on the financial incentives of management or that there are often unknown-Unknown’s in their motivation. But I am an operating partner. Not an accountant. You should do an full and exhaustive post on the detail of this from an accountant’s view. Most guys here describing their employment are like the blind men grabbing parts of an elephant and arguing about what the whole thing is. I i…
/r/askMRP02/03/19 08:00 AM
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I knew it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 09:35 PM
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First off, this is awesome. But second off, I’ve seen a dozen attempts to take someone indirectly out fail. A common theme might be a lot ended up far more overt in reality than what you describe here. Although I am sure everyone thought on the same lines. But I have also seen people completely misread the wider political landscape and end up burned. If your boss is a useless tool and you go after him, you risk the unknown-unknown: a merger or sale or something that just makes the guy bulletproo…
/r/askMRP01/03/19 09:00 PM
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Not sure if I’m in the total minority here or people neglect it, but I find it far more productive to focus on frame with people other than my wife. E.g. kids, business partners, parents, my bitch sister. Yes even faggots here. There are other people that know the right buttons to push. My dad used to drive me fucking nuts for example. Addressing that and keeping it addressed did more for my frame than dealing with my moody wife.
/r/askMRP01/03/19 06:49 PM
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The book thinking fast and slow is a good read on the subject. I am struggling with this. Might give it a try - I have a copy, never got round to reading it. Fuck it, I might try "Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers" too.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 03:05 PM
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But literally: did you just sit and ruminate about it to get there? Or did you journal or something? Reach180 mentions cleaning. Maybe I should do that. I got to the gym but don’t really think of anything except lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 02:39 PM
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Makes sense. I was doing pretty controlled dead stops at the time, I can see how touch and go sets would also be punishing on the area around the inner axis. I always wondered why it’s not totally standard.
/r/askMRP01/03/19 02:31 PM
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Out of curiosity: what exactly happens? Do they crack? ​ I've noticed a couple of cracked bumpers at Crossfit gyms. ​ Is it an Olympic lifting thing or does it just happen as a matter of course? I had been using two bumpers and two or three iron plates per side with no consideration of this at all.
/r/askMRP01/03/19 01:54 PM
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You understand something by experiencing it. How do you allow yourself to be angry without losing control? Like just get a little angry and practice? ​ I know you've mentioned the gym before but I'm not really an angry lifter. I find it draining and I lift less. ​ Do you really think you can leave it all there? Do you do something to consciously turn it "off" when you leave? Or do aim to go there re actively when you're pissed? Do you know who/what will trigger you in advance and prepare accordi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 11:06 AM
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I think I've got your points 1 and 3 on lock. But are you able to dig into 2? ​ I have drafted a return to weekly OYS focusing on emotions and interested in what, specifically you did to analyse yours. ​ I have been a big reading/philosophy/self help/meditation mark for years but I think I need to take it a bit further.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 09:52 AM
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Cheap rack. ​ Cheaper plates. Second hand if possible ​ Spend money on a decent barbell. Rogue power bar or similar if possible. ​ Extra credit: a pair or two of standard diameter bumper plates can allow you to dead lift at the correct height and save on matting, while opening up options to get other plates with an Olympic inner diameter (the hole) and various outer diameters.). ​ You can get an Olympic diameter dumbbell handle to take your regular plates. ​ Check out r/homegym ​
/r/askMRP01/03/19 09:45 AM
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Bro, my hot take is you painted yourself into a corner over an extended time period. Now you're doing the right thing but it's too late, your boss is a prick etc. ​ This is why you must have a bug out fund of cash and options before you rock the boat. That is the only way to be OI when you are playing with your livelihood. ​ If you didn't need options before, you fucking need them now. ​ That being said, if all it's going to cost you is a four hour commute, get some fucking audio-books and take …
/r/askMRP01/03/19 09:38 AM
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The foldaway wall mounted? I think that would work if you’re very confident with the mounting and fittings. Pretty sure it’s the same gauge and idea as the infinity rigs, just on a hinge, and those are the rock solid ones you get in many CrossFit gyms. But I haven’t used the foldaway specifically. Monster lite squat stand is good for those weights too though. For sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 07:52 PM
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A cheap, made in China, type squat stand design usually gets pretty shaky at about 315lbs. sandbags or plates on storage spikes help. Cheap half racks aren’t much better. But the main thing is the length of the safeties. I don’t mind racking 405lbs+ on an ultra cheap, rickety stand but I am not going to bench alone with 3-4 inch safety bars again. I got a squat rack like that last time for $100, did both for a year and it was doable. But I would not max out alone. Stuck to 405ish and 225ish work…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 07:14 PM
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recomp You are better off cutting and bulking. You'll see this on the leangains sub anytime anyone asks for advice. See my new flair for more details. ​ But yeah you're likely to put on 0.5lbs of muscle a week max. And that's after you get past all the CNS adaptations and early form issues and start working some muscle. ​ That's about a 250kcal surplus a day. Pretty small and achieving it and no more is really no different from counting calories to cut.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 11:59 AM
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Replying to your final edit bro. ​ I hope you learn from this. But honestly I am just unpacking my own shit. ​ I've lived in 3 different states, 5 different countries and been in dozens more. 3 stints of zero income. Poor, well-off, poor, rich, broke. I've read my stoics and my Tao, met interesting people and fucked women that are not my wife. I am a serial addict, gambler, artist, entrepreneur and in every way a dumb motherfucker who has chased every color of dragon to the ends of the fucking e…
/r/askMRP28/02/19 11:34 AM
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Buffet. Scrooge McDuck without the fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 04:25 PM
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Interesting - outside of Reddit I don't know many people that lifted or "sported" long enough to get accumulate much hard mileage. ​
/r/askMRP27/02/19 03:03 PM
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I firmly believe that I’d see the results even with a terrible program, followed diligently. It is not always that simple man. But it's not a bad attitude to have in the beginning.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 02:22 PM
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I agree personally. But there is a deep seated cultural bias to medical attitudes. On this sub. Everywhere. ​ Random aside. Check out point 30. ​ This changed my attitude to stuff that does need surgery. Anything looks detached, I'm headed straight to the doc.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:19 PM
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Food for thought bro: ​ SQ 300 DL 305 You are your own judge but from a beginner this often means you're Mr half rep McGee. ​ Also 315lbs is the minimum an adult male with both arms and both legs should be able to hold and stand up straight with. But you are on the spectrum now at least. ​ OHP 135 BP 215 These are the real DYEL numbers. This is the classic 5x5 "T-Rex mode" in development. I really think the cost/benefit of direct arm work, in assisting the main lifts, is understated here. ​ I we…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 02:09 PM
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Look bro, as I mentioned I'm coming from a similar place. And fuck there are a ton of comments that hit home recently. /u/persaeus makes a great general observation here. Bitter food for thought but I hope you caught it. ​ We had a good exchange about how to lead your wife out of depression in general. But my own experience has been that if anything, you'll be the emotional mess here. I went full robot mode, which is nothing more than the other side of whining, and cut off anything other than ne…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 01:48 PM
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Bro I'm another guy whose dealt with many relocation/career change situations in the past. Before and after kids. Always by choice but at different degrees of risk vs financial security. ​ Your family needs unwavering confidence that you will provide consistently before expecting them to move and stay moved for you. ​ The more hits you take, the more fans desert. Your wife was likely your second last fan. And given she is overtly communicating she is leaving you: you are down to one. You. ​ Real…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 10:33 AM
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This is inbound bro-science but try a week or two of aggressive and frequent soft tissue work for rehab on the cheap. Weighted stretches - provided no pain; Deep tissue massages; Rolling a lacrosse ball all over and around the joint; Grinding out any knots with the ball or a theracane; Combine with working weight up slowly. ​ All my own "snap", "crackle" or "pop" mystery injuries have been cured this way and a lot of others I've heard of. Some of them were pretty debilitating. ​ Disclaimer: do n…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 09:07 AM
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What is your current and/or recent training programs? I mean what does a whole year look like, high level? ​ I've caught a few snippets about how you bring up weakpoints. But also some stuff that sounds more like a generic powerlifting routine. Curious how it all fits together and what if any special consideration you make for gear.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 08:29 AM
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Just be careful you’re not rushing to get back on a meme train: if you do not intend to compete in power lifting, why would you risk your back for one second squatting or dead lifting? If your form is that bad, why waste time correcting it? Ever looked into DC training? Very effective, lot of machine work, cycling exercises - which is key in avoiding several kinds of injury - intensity multipliers so you can use less weight. The creator pretty much insists on a deadlift variation in there but he…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 06:03 AM
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I’m chasing it and adjusting accordingly but it’s more me being overextended than them not paying. They pay early because I stay on top of them. Last month was better than the one before. Come Friday I’ll be set for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 05:46 AM
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I think the problem is my point is a couple sentences long. I just appended some ideas on how you do keep things moving when you're not LARPing your life away. ​ I kind of get what people are reading now.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 10:44 PM
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What is your current deal with lifting? ​ Injury? ​ You never have to deadlift or squat if you don't want to. But what's the point of going into the gym and dicking around?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 10:25 PM
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Recently I read a post here where a person commentated that they are all about intensity and I need to improve that in my gym time - I’m not walking around with fuckarounditis but I’m barely breaking a sweat - I’m going to start increasing the intensity through some cardio at the end, no resting unless absolutely required and working through my lift set ups quicker to keep warm. ​ I think 5x5, Madcow, Texas Method and similar "beginner" routines really fall down on this if you aren't already wel…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 10:11 PM
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I assumed you would understand that skydiving = leadership and thus not feel compelled to one-up me with braggadocio about driving flying the plane. Just being glib dude. Don't overthink it. ​ I don't follow your amendment but if you think I'm claiming to be a god amongst leaders, my writing sucks a hobo's taint. ​ I'm reading a lot of "Me lead. Me alpha." or "You no lead. You no alpha.". ​ And not a lot about what purpose it serves. ​ But you do you brotatoes.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 09:25 PM
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I'm saying it's easy to observe in the wild everyday for free. But I'm getting lazy with replies.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 09:11 PM
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I get where you're going bro but your own retort is pretty thin other than the classic ad hominem attack. ​ Wrote this stone cold sober at work while "leading" a company. Only piece of work I did today was be introduced to a financier the Board pin their own "strategy" on. He's an old thief like me so we'll chew it over later. ​ Skydive all you want. I'm driving the plane.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 08:16 PM
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For the second point I would challenge you to remember this post next time you interact with a company. If it’s not just a clever username you’ll see the same effect in hospital management, insurance and gp’s prescriptions. See if you could explain the leadership behaviours/strategy as random, motivated solely by the individual KPI’s or in any case irrelevant to the stated goal of the business. Even if they are actually well meaning. If they can consistently be explained the other way, what’s th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 07:57 PM
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Wierd. He must have pussied out. What a queer.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 07:01 PM
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This dude is advocating creating chaos at his workplace to mask the fact that he doesnt do any work. ​ No, not at all. ​ People are more commonly getting their work done in an environment perceived as chaotic. You're just trying to nudge the activity in a certain direction. The typical, JD's, Gantt charts and whatnot are commonly misapplied and stifle a great deal of productive day to day activity. ​ Agile tools are better but very few people apply them effectively. Really Agile is trying to bot…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 06:59 PM
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I wrote in sperg for weeks and maybe over corrected to stream of consciousness. I should try and get it shorter somehow.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 05:03 PM
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Ego is a concern. Money was a necessary evil last couple of months - I’m coming out of an “easy come, easy go” situation. Leveraged of course. Actually I spent last night discussing doing the same thing again. Probably a timely warning. Thanks bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 04:49 PM
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Exactly and the business goes on.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 04:38 PM
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I thought you were the wordy one? ​ But to answer the point, yes but also nothing about any of this is particularly alpha. The style I describe is just window dressing on a very effective approach for an amorphous business where policy and strategy is a breeze blowing across a desert. ​ This describes 99% of businesses, 99% of the time. ​ Honestly I liked the way I said it better.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 04:16 PM
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People like Oppenheimer and Feynman changed the course of history by leading the development of the atomic bomb. They didn't get super wealthy from that endevour, but their vision changed the lives of every human on this planet. ​ I hear what you're saying but again this specific narrative is a little warped. My understanding is they were under various forms of compulsion, plenty of earlier choices refused to be involved, that the solution did not in fact come from their leadership but in spite …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 03:51 PM
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hate the presentation and formatting. ​ What do you suggest? I'm not convinced on the bullet points and whatnot. I feel like it would impose distracting emphasis on details when trying to outline a general principle. ​ Perhaps I just lack those leadership communication skills...
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 03:23 PM
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But I have also dedicated my life to earning money at other people's expense. ​ What would you offer? ​ Use your leadership skills to convince me to work for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 03:07 PM
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executive planning/organization I think you're trying to shoehorn management in here. That is even easier and more mundane. ​ But what you're capable of accomplishing as a leader greatly exceeds your potential as an individual. Isn't that the main goal of this sub and an RP man... to operate at his maximum potential? ​ Financial potential? You can easily leverage other people or capital without relying on leadership. I have hundreds of people contributing to my invoices and thousands to investme…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 03:06 PM
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what do you do with people that don't give two fucks whether you fire them or not. ​ What's wrong with just firing them? ​ I've dealt with guys like this. But they always cry on the way out. Angels With Dirty Faces. And all the other hard cases get as meek as anyone else when they're gone. ​ If it's a technical issue replacing them: you need to improve your Linkedin-fu. I by-passed a large HR department and external recruiters once to recruit a whole ops team via Linkedin. The recruiter tools ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 01:56 PM
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Real talk bro: work will not set you free. ​ All the statements you're making? Ancient history. ​ You ARE a salesman whether you like it or not. You are selling Slash Inc. ​ I put you onto that book as a starting point because of the emphasis on "prospecting". ​ Both were requests to submit me for jobs I actually wanted to do (I'm seeking a career change). Yet, I responded to neither. This says your head was not in the right place. At all. I hope it is getting there now. ​ You are not an alchemi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 01:31 PM
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OYS 13 Dread: 1, 2, 4, 5 check. Improving 3. I have very little life outside of work, gym and childcare so rely heavily on this. Revisiting and refining some PUA ideas from my long ago single days. Sidebar: read - WotSM, NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MAP, MMSLP, Pook, Zen and the Art... Reading - Rationale Male, SGM. ​ Financial: waiting on invoices is a bitch. Spiritual: riding high on a non-stop wave of euphoria. Lifestyle: all good, summer is getting here. Mental: top notch. Physical: dropped my volume…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 11:42 AM
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I like all this my dude. You are a faggot but we are all faggots on this day. Got some hot tips for ya: Read Rationale Male and all of Pook. Try and internalise the EMOTIONAL stuff. I think this will be new ground for you. Way of the Superior Man and even Sex God Method go there too; Work on your abundance: eye fuck some women with a smile all day (try not to be too creepy), get on tinder and bumble. Do some flirting IRL. Just start anywhere even if it’s a blurry selfie on tinder and keep correc…
/r/askMRP24/02/19 07:02 PM
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That’s actually exactly what I would attempt to do. I’m sure mine would add value but either way I’d like to hear (read) yours too. If there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s: “He who rides he tiger, fears to dismount.”
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/19 02:25 PM
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Very cool man. Worth a post in any case.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 04:47 PM
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Read it, love it, aim to top it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 06:21 AM
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I’m new but would be happy to contribute. Maybe you want to help edit out my ego first... Career: I’m an exec living off the Dark Triad and very little else. Don’t manage people, don’t make things. Blown up and reinvented my career 4 times and counting. Keep coming back stronger. I’ve got some ideas and some resources that have served me very well over the years. Apply it to your own “real” job and it might add some horsepower. Lifting: late bloomer, natty with decent lifts. Tried every program …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 09:11 PM
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Well done on having a specific goal and vision btw. ​ This is the difference between getting somewhere and LARPing about "losing weight".
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 01:02 PM
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I broke the last two fat guys so I will be extra gentle here: good luck man. I mean that. And you are on the right track. You are going to make it. We're all going to make it brah. But "keto", "paleo", "intermittent fasting" are all exclusion diets. Calories in/calories out is king. You need to learn to count. There's a guide here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3e3qc4/you_are_what_you_eat/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=usertext&utm_name=marriedredpill&utm_content=t5_32dvh Keep …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 12:24 PM
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If you don't get why someone said something, spend time considering whether it's that person wrong - or you Let me break it down for you faggot: ​ SSRIs are in fact overprescribed, especially in the USA My question is: so what? When does does OP recommend or not recommend SSRI's? To be honest I found his stance to be so non-committal as to not be worth mentioning in at all. ​ Women are, in fact, more prone to depression, especially after having children, I could go into details but this is not a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 12:17 PM
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Emotionally kind ​ Bubbling cauldron of rage in my case. ​ I was the king of my own self, until she became depressed. ​ Bro I agree with you. But I don't agree with you. ​ Yes I was failing the shit test and getting sucked in. ​ But I already was the fucking Captain. I had just started chasing my tail trying to make a "First Officer". ​ Then I thought, who gives a fuck what the crew do if they're not in the way? The only vacancy that matters is "Cabin Boy". ​ Now I am coming back from Married-MG…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 10:42 AM
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I'm belaboring this but the problem is when the crisis is in someone's head, it doesn't go away. I think we risk confusing clinical depression and "Ennui". ​ Cards on the table here: my wife is French and the latter is a national past-time. ​ I have also lived in several other countries and recognize that a cultural bias to medical treatment is ingrained in everyone from birth. The movie "What Dreams May Come" a different cultural perspective on mental illness writ large. ​ Anyway. ​ Scenario 1 …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 09:12 AM
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I think if you ask waitresses to discipline your kids, MRP might well be the place for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 07:41 AM
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There's a nuance to all this even for the guys that think you can lead a woman out of some form of long term depression. ​ I can't think of a more apt metaphor for being in the woman's frame than white knighting into hell and back for her. ​ That was essentially the part that wasn't working for me. ​ And this: ​ After owning your shit, being the leader, and rescuing her from Hell you can always drop her off at the nearest port. Everyone safe? Everyone secure? Good, now get the fuck off my ship m…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 10:18 PM
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Many words here. In what way do any of them support, contradict or add depth to the discussion in this thread? ​ This reads like a reddit bot programmed to spit out random statements when "depression" is mentioned.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 08:23 PM
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I saw that movie. Dude’s got oneitis bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 08:14 PM
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Is it number 2 on this list?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 06:24 PM
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I was replying to your comment reply but will do it here to add to the discussion: ​ I went all the way back to the start for me. When I first met my wife: it was lust at first sight. ​ Moody intellectual. Painter. Actress. Sexy accent. Shy. Repressed and horny as fuck. ​ I found all that incredibly sexy. ​ Man she shit tested me but I fucking LOVED myself even more then than I do now. I thought I was the MAN. And the universe had handed me this girl to do my every bidding. She got the "dog bowl…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 06:19 PM
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Wow. This is exactly what I was trying to articulate an hour ago. I think there’s a danger of being reductionist here but there’s good shit here and I also want to see where this takes me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 04:58 PM
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I wasn't saying she IS post-partum. The point was that active dread is not universally appropriate. I don't think active dread should be used on your wife, given her anxiety disorder. It seems like you're going to make her life miserable, which is obviously unattractive. ​ I have a view on this. It's not fully formed but I've been thinking about it and want to type it out. ​ I did not have a DB when I came here. I just thought my wife was a crazy bitch. My wife is anxious as fuck. And I don't li…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 03:33 PM
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I'm aware I'm a skinny fuck. I've been a skinny fuck my whole life. I eat 3300 calories a day and gain 1lb a week. I'm not human. If I miss a single day of 3300 calories I will not gain that week. You like being a skinny twink. Admit it. ​ I am 5'9"/180lbs and eat 3500 a day to maintain. It is completely normal. Especially if you drink coffee and walk further than your car in a day. I was 135lbs well into my twenties and ate myself up to 210lbs and back then looped the loop a few times. It is ea…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 02:41 PM
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Still burying that lead? Red Areas from Mindful Attraction Plan What are they?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 01:08 PM
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I'm not getting into this whole thing but some nut punches to try and get you on your way: ​ Career Last week I went away on Business. It was incredible and I gained 2-3 mentors who are executives within the organization and know the owner very well. One guy is the number 1 in the sales org chart and told me he will help me in any way he can and we are getting lunch next time he comes back up to my state. Another guy is a VP and reports directly to the owner as well. He recently just got his VP …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 09:53 AM
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More here btw: https://www.reddit.com/r/weightroom/comments/89snua/heres_41_pages_of_notes_ive_taken_from_22/ Just bear in mind he is feeding you with a fire hose and 90% of this is likely unnecessary for the time being.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 08:55 AM
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Ever met a guy that wants to bench more. But doesn't want to gain weight, won't up his frequency and can't max out because no spotter? ​ Do not set a goal and then immediately throw a bunch of restrictions on how you will get there. ​ Can’t leave the state. You CAN leave the state. You choose not to. This shit is important. ​ limited on options if this fails because of my location. They still have hotdog carts where you are. Taxis. Hotel owners. Airplane pilots. There are a thousand things you c…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 08:53 AM
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Yes: realise it’s not a thing. “Sociopath” is literally not a clinical condition. It’s a word pretentious spergs use to boost their egos. You are really a social retard. Try doing an OYS like you normally do. Then EDIT it. Fucking SLEEP on it for 24 hours before editing again and then publish it. You are just looking for instant gratification. It wouldn’t surprise me if you post this shit on Facebook too. How many likes did you get? Take out all the narrative about how awesome you are and all th…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 06:42 AM
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Yeah pretty much what I did and do.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 06:33 AM
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You probably won’t hit 300 reps on the first day, even with a light weight - remember it’s not supposed to burn or anything - but that’s a good thing. Means your conditioning sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 06:32 AM
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Let him stay: egotistical sociopaths are underrepresented here. I will admit to recognising my own weaknesses in these posts. Albeit in a looking at a funhouse mirror while smoking crack kind of way. Interested to see what transpires.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 10:51 PM
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reconnected with one woman Digging through the trash bro? It's a step up from nothing but abundance is getting a ton of likes on Tinder, plenty of eye fucks on the train and one or two flirty conversations with a total stranger each day. You will not find a sense of abundance in your existing comfort zone.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 08:33 PM
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Been getting back into reading comic books, mostly via Marvel Unlimited. Say what you will, but comic books are a source of pure, unadulterated joy for me, and I need more of that in my life. I love anything that gets me pumped for the gym. Like good Marvel cover art. And I have a Punisher tank for deadlifting. ​ But fuck, I saw the Punisher Netflix show the other day and he is the most Blue Pill character ever conceived. RP really does ruin everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 08:29 PM
1

Am I suppose to just keep talk to minimal and logistics and not engage if she displays verbal disrespect? Personally I give very few fucks for verbal disrespect from my wife or anyone else. Sticks and stones and all that. So my starting point was already STFU and/or exit and calling her out more felt forced and unnecessary. ​ But there do need to be boundaries: not in front of the kids is obvious, no raised voices etc. There should be no go areas that you will state clearly. ​ Interested to hear…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 08:18 PM
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my wife turns down almost any overtly dominant sexual stuff, but I like ramping up the emotional intensity and she gets into it as well. Still always the same positions and no blow jobs. I vacillate back and forth on whether I should 1.) accept that; after all, you can't change people, or 2.) push the issue, simply change things up of my own accord, etc. Easy enough for things like doggy, harder to do for things like blowjobs. Controlling the emotion IS dominance. But your goal should be immersi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 07:52 PM
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Straight line is a good first: it’s an easy read and covers a lot of ground. I actually like it as a teaching tool as it and I are very visual. You can literally draw the main concepts from book on a napkin. If you’ve watched Wolf of Wall Street there’s some good call backs to it which stop it being too dry. Good luck man it will be worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 06:42 PM
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Which brings me to my other weakness: I hate networking. I fucking hate it. To me it feels pretentious, fake as fuck, and basically a sales job. And if I was good at sales then I'd be a fucking salesman. Just give me a task and get out of my way. I haven't even spoken to my recruiter since I started here (at least her and I have a past, she knows how I am). ​ "Sales" is a subset of intra-species communication and an extremely valuable life skill. God knows half of all salesmen can't do it... ​ I…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 05:44 PM
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My point is about personal identity, time, mortality. Dare I say mission? Chuck Palahniuk/David Fincher does it all quite elegantly - bear in mind that scene is literally a man challenging himself. ​ But going back to rule zero: living your life around a cube farm is going to dry out every vagina in a three mile radius. I would get your head into a fun vacation if I were you. ​ I've caught plenty of flak from poorly aimed mortars (or whatever flak comes from) myself. But I've also been called ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 04:20 PM
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Sounds like poor work capacity. ​ Eating and sleeping more works to a point. But increasing work capacity is underrated. ​ You will eventually hit a brick wall, hard, without it. ​ Simple methods are timing rest periods, timed giant sets for assistance work and more importantly adding hard conditioning blocks and/or something like a 300 rep warmup. I alternate the last two because I find conditioning quite hard to get excited about at 6am before a max effort workout. ​ Or hop on gear.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 03:53 PM
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I am one person that is never forgotten. I've left some very lasting impressions everywhere I've worked. Comes from pushing the bounds of what is socially acceptable yet always dancing on the right side. ​ This is frankly chilling. ​ As a great philosopher once said: "don't you ever get to thinking you're irreplaceable". ​ I meet people I worked with years ago and they remember me. In that moment. Of course they do: we shared intimate experiences both professionally and personally. We are all hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 01:00 PM
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What is your weight loss "plan": What is your goal? What weight loss rate are you targeting? How will you hit that each week? Where are the risks (to hitting it)? Where are the opportunities? What do you know about dieting and what is unclear?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 12:06 PM
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Driving on the other side of the road should be a real interesting challenge. ​ Be careful at roundabouts. The whole thing is easy af but I've came close to getting T-boned at a roundabout more than once. Brain can't seem to adapt to that part. ​ I have failed in the past to meet a few of the challenges associated with travel (accommodation mix ups, being conned out of my money etc.). ​ Rite of passage man. Paying $200 for a drink stopped me from being one of those guys who has to pay to get dow…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 12:00 PM
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This sucks man. And I would never wish it on anyone. But honestly it can be a hugely beneficial experience if you let it. ​ ​ There are few quicker ways of learning AWALT, Oneitis is a sickness and most importantly that it is not OK to be a faggot. ​ ​ Read up on divorces and ideally try not to leave the marital home. ​ ​ I fully endorse Rambo behavior over inaction though so personally I would kick her out and fix myself after. You will have to weigh up if managing collateral damage is more imp…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 08:07 AM
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Your points are all valid however IF someone was actually already lean, increasing NEAT is 100% desirable over cutting calories at a certain point. Walking, drinking a ton of caffeine, standing while watching TV, even chewing 0 kcal gum can add up to a 300-500 kcal deficit. This is useful to throw into a cut as it stops calories getting ridiculously low and therefore makes strength retention a little easier. I think people need to make more of a distinction between “dieting” and “cutting”. The f…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/19 10:12 PM
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Easy done: I bulked up to 210lbs at my peak. Good numbers. Big shoulders, arms. No gut and good see my abs in good lighting. Figured I must be 15% since no ab definition I.e. 10-15lbs to lose. Yeah. Ended up 155lbs. A lot of it was visceral fat. So my waist size plummeted but abs didn’t really get defined until 160lbs ish.
/r/askMRP18/02/19 09:11 AM
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Weird: I’ve found the opposite. The pills are a North American phenomenon to me. Perhaps even truly Canadian. There are parallels to other cultures but much is lost in translation.
/r/askMRP17/02/19 09:17 AM
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Plus everyone thinks they’re 15% already. 5’9”, 250lbs, 200lb bench, 135lb squat (knee issues), prolly about 15% bf now. Said just about every OYS ever.
/r/askMRP16/02/19 10:01 AM
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Ever read this one? https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7vp39q/an_anatomy_of_butthurt_and_the_impact_on_frame/?st=JS79OY0L&sh=78dac730 I only saw it yesterday but recognised a lot. I started off mainly in the “neutral emotion” category. But moving my comfort zone to the “positive emotion” end was a game changer. You probably do it in other contexts. I just make far fewer exceptions now. Tbh I enjoy the conflict now.
/r/askMRP16/02/19 09:44 AM
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I spilled more than enough in my previous comment but one thing that was a game changer: my wife was always like “baby is so hard”, “parenting is so hard”. “Isn’t it? Isn’t it?”. But actually I kinda thought, maybe it wasn’t? Or shouldn’t be? So I started saying “no”. “He’s fine when I have him”. “I like parenting”. “I enjoy our time together”. “Feels good to do x, y, z”. “I believe a, b, c about parenting”. “It would be better parenting to do this” (danger zone!). Clear and unambiguous statemen…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 10:01 PM
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I might be off man but your attitude is just like mine was. So let me just recap my own experience: My kid slept poorly, so I took him at 5am and let her sleep. Everyday. I took him most of the weekend. I rushed home from work to take him. It wasn’t enough so I stopped working to be a SAHD and we moved back home to a big house near family. That’s when things really went downhill. I ended up doing way more than 50% of the work and getting more and more shit for it. We were both fucking miserable.…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 09:51 PM
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Came here to fat shame but see it has been done to my satisfaction. Just to be reiterate: all your comments wrt to physical appearance, past, present and future are gay. Your disgusting physique is a burning building you should be racing to escape from. I sincerely hope your obviously comfortable and obviously slutty wife is not already having an affair. On the plus side: working out is awesome and personally I would kill for this to be my main issue.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 08:25 PM
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Dude reread the comments from your “withdrawing attention...” post. It is all there. Stop hiding behind the breastmilk and take control of the parenting. And stop being so fat.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 08:20 PM
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I could have done so much more at 9 months old. Leaving it to mom was the biggest mistake I made. Everything else I’ve cleaned up pales in comparison but maybe you’re not making the same one. You don’t make 110k bro. Gross income is vanity, net cash is sanity. Flawed logic like that is exactly my point. But sounds like you’re relatively ok. As someone who’s been unemployed 3 times as an adult, I like a year’s expenses in my go bag. Something to watch - its an area your leadership gets judged on.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 07:21 PM
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I know it man. I was on about $200k at 28 I think. About $50k in the bank. Took a haircut to $150k salary but had $500k by 35. Now I’m broke again. Cash is king fuckers.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 06:53 PM
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Real talk bro: if 75k is your only income, you might well be poor. If you don’t have significant equity aside from that: you will likely remain poor. If you don’t have a cash buffer for bills: you are in fact dangerously poor and shouldn’t be spending 2k on a gym. I earn $250k and struggled to pay bills last month. We can all do better. 15% bf is fat. 20% is nauseating. Do not expect to get fucked. Check my post history for more fat shaming and rapid fat loss advice. I put in the time playing wi…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 06:26 PM
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If your wife is calling you out on your finances, something is wrong. How much of the parenting do you own? If the answer isn’t “100% of it” something is wrong. Is she really a single mom claiming child support within a shared home? If you have 15lbs to lose you are fat by any measure. And that’s if you’re the 1 in 10 who has a realistic view of how much they need to lose. Kill your ego man. Something is wrong.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 06:03 PM
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This was my wife’s line. I told her to get her ass to the doc who said nothing was physically wrong. Then I thought I’d get my own house in order before pulling the pin on a divorce and: A) addressed some “minor” gaps in dread and B) read and applied sex god method. No pain now and dtf. Guess I wasn’t as shit hot as I thought 🤷‍♂️ You admitted you are fat and poor and have some issue with meals so try fixing those first. Shooting from the hip: anyone would resent some fat fuck spending $2k a yea…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 05:38 PM
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Keep going to the gym. Come back and take the baby for a bit. Take the baby to your own moms (or whatever) on a weekly basis. Take the baby for a weekend away if you can. Keep your own counsel on sleep training, discipline etc. and lead on it. Expect a lot of “are you saying I’m a bad mom?” but remember you hold the ace card: replying “yes”... use wisely but do use it if you have a parenting main event.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 04:46 PM
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Makes sense. Head hunters are useful when legit. I saw later you do government work btw. Not my particular cesspool but I know that if you’ve got a transferable security clearance, try and get it renewed/extended before moving if at all possible and of course, never mention travel expense policies other than to talk about how strictly you follow them!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 08:18 PM
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Agree on your educational focus. ​ There are whole countries where education was based on a push into computer science, then the same jobs ended up outsourced due to a change in policy 20 years later. The one constant was that sinks kept getting blocked and in ten years nobody local could fix one. ​ So I lean to skills that will always remain valuable like communication, sales, project management. Oh, and plumbing. ​ "it's difficult to make predictions. Especially about the future.". ​ Personall…
/r/askMRP13/02/19 04:17 PM
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Finally got the resume updated when a local recruiter contacted me about another contract position. No details yet but he has it so, we'll see what happens. I had a flick through your post history but couldn't really get a feel for the background. Just some random thoughts here: ​ Recruiters Be aware many are ambulance chasing and trying to connect candidates to publicly advertised jobs; You will cost an employer 15-30% more than a guy who walked in off the street and that can be a factor in pen…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 09:25 AM
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Ever check your T? Mine’s on the low end of normal and I feel like that’s why a few bumps in sleep, diet, stress etc knock me into those kind of symptoms. Agree you can easily overdo melatonin. Lowest dose you can get away with is best.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 09:46 PM
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My wife CONSTANTLY gets mad at the kids. She screams, loses her temper, and says mean things to the kids EVERY. SINGLE. WEEK. When she does, she feels bad, and we talk about it. I ALWAYS give her my support - because I know the kids are very trying. They can be absolute dicks, and it's 100% normal to get run ragged and lose it sometimes. Anger is completely normal, and I know she does her best to make things better after the fact. I did do this. Support her I mean. But I withdrew it with good re…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 07:17 PM
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Tons of brain fog every single day, super low qualitative rating of my mood, got very little done. How is your sleep? I'm probably in the minority of consistently getting my 8 hours. My issue is purely sleep quality. A couple of days of a drop off and these are my symptoms. You generally only realise after you fix it. If you don't already, try some sleep hygiene, vitamin D, zinc, magnesium (you should be taking these anyway) and maybe melatonin (oh melatonin, how I love thee).
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 07:08 PM
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Few things jump out at me brotato: ​ I would note that I’m far exceeding my target loss at this point, Note to who? I don't care. Sounds like there's a scoreboard somewhere and that means hamstering. ​ I think a fat body is a burning building you should be racing to escape but what do you think and does that tie back to your goal? ​ fully understanding that it will slow down eventually. Why? You're fat so >1.5lbs should be easy down to 180lbs BW. ​ I’ve done every diet under the sun and I get th…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 06:42 PM
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It equates to 19 lbs per 3 months (at my starting weight of 265). So about 1.5lbs a week, which is pretty solid. Only thing I would advise from experience is that at that height/weight, 3-5lbs a week is definitely achievable. I've used this and approaches like it in the past and 10/10 would recommend. I once did 25lbs in four weeks IIRC. And if you google "Velocity Diet" you'll likely see a lot of guys who followed something similar pushed by Biotest a few years back. It needn't be anymore than …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 03:50 PM
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Simple clean eating, calorie restricted with sufficient protein. Track everything. Walk as much as possible. Good progress in fat loss and consistent since start of 2019. ​ What kind of fat loss rate are you targeting?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:12 PM
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I agree that I see it a bit like a guilt free vice which is why I never really had the motivation to stop. ​ ​ You got it man. Be honest with yourself. When you want to quit, you'll quit. I certainly recommend finding out why YOU should quit but reviewing the logical case is nothing more than hamstering: don't feed the hamster logic. ​ ​ You might try "This Naked Mind", which is on the sidebar of r/stopdrinking. It walks you through all the reasons YOU might be drinking. I guess this is some kin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 11:14 AM
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Hey bro first off: I am an expert on quitting things. AMA. Smoking, drinking, drugs, porn, gambling, diets etc. No problem. The only question is what I'll be quitting next. ​ ​ Personally I think if you enjoy a vice guilt-free, then have at it. However I've found in my case I've always been conflicted on my list and later found I'm compensating for something which didn't take Freud to figure out after a little introspection. ​ ​ I smoked for many years, tried and failed to quit for health reason…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 09:55 AM
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Excuse my hyperbole. No to both. I got frustrated with home life, told my boss to fuck off and burnt down all other forms of security. The time before I got bored of corporateland and ended up living on a beach in Thailand for a year. I had fun but at this point in my life, I would rather own them as “meltdowns” and seek not to recreate it. Suicide terrifies me more than anything. Because I’ve never felt suicidal but I worry some set of external circumstances would make me. No idea where it come…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 10:25 PM
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Good advice. I need to decrease my reddit frequency but your commentary in OYS and your original posts have really opened my eyes to some things that were just not on my radar.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 09:49 PM
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“Divorce Brings it all Full Circle” should be in the sidebar. Unedited it is a masterpiece with the wisdom of Solomon and the cadence of beat poetry. No homo.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 04:48 PM
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Day to day is fine. But I lost my job and $300k a couple of years back due to a meltdown and still have a ways to rebuild. It was also not my first (meltdown). So my focus is developing a stronger frame and sense of mission through being intentional with a MAP and reading more of the high level stuff in the sidebar. I am getting my dick wet but that will likely slow down or even stop if I blow my brains out. Gonna check in, in a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 04:19 PM
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OYS 12 Stats: security edit. Dread: 1, 2, 4, 5 check. Weak 3. I have no life outside of work, gym and childcare so rely heavily on this. No real "PUA" as in 6 or 7 but I always flirt as in 8. Sidebar: read - NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MAP, MMSLP, Pook, Zen and the Art... Reading - WotSM, SGM. ​ MAP Milestone Update: SMV seems to have sky-rocketed since internalising IDNGAF/OI/AM and thereby shoring up a weakness in passing shit tests. This is reflected in both LTR and IOI’s/cold-approaches from randos.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 11:50 AM
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I often demonstrate that brute force can overcome a lack of skill to produce 0.25 seconds of a front lever. There is probably a lesson in there somewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/19 03:46 PM
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I have a generous nature and tend to assume the best in people - god help you if this was a real attempt to sell something.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/19 12:28 PM
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And check out SPIN selling and it’s upstart grandson Straight Line Selling... I’m bored af at a park btw but I see a passable mom now.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/19 12:07 PM
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Every market sucks. All the time. You didn’t see me roll my eyes. So would have been easier to connect the dots on a lost sale in person. I presume this post is a combination of boredom and fishing but I would max out your IRL network. Then hire or partner with a couple of guys and max out there’s.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/19 12:00 PM
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As an independent person of business myself: it’s a bit of a weak hook for a public forum. Kind of like randomly shooting a flare into the sky. I do all my work, deals, significant investments etc through a network of likeminded people IRL. I’m not IT but I have dabbled in e-commerce (B2B and B2C). It’s always struck me people run the risk of cutting themselves off from real feedback and flit from one product (or service) to the next looking for something that will sell itself. If you think it’s…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/19 11:29 AM
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Non linear rep schemes like ladders and whatnot are good for getting some volume in on body weight stuff. Eg If you do 1, then 2, then 3, then 4 pressups and so on up to 10. Then do the ladder back down, you’ve done 100 press-ups pretty painlessly. Or you could pick a number, 30 say, for chin ups. And try and do it in less sets each session until you’re maybe 12/10/8. Then up your goal to 50. Or do 1 push-up, 1 pull up, 1 lunge and add a rep to each everyday for 30 days. I think the challenge is…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 09:58 PM
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Ha, I tested this pretty much word for word a couple of times with my son and found it very effective.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 12:32 PM
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Ha, it was not deliberate on my part - more “but I already do that?!”. As has also been said for 5 years: it is different when you internalize it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 04:39 PM
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Conjugate is a Russian inspired method training strength, speed and hypertrophy concurrently. Popularized by Westside Barbell et al. Progressive overload is systematically adding weight. This article provides a popular illustration of why everything is important and an approach to addressing them in balance: http://swoleateveryheight.blogspot.com/2012/11/the-gzcl-method-for-powerlifting.html?m=1 Good luck brotato.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 02:30 PM
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OYS 11 Stats: security edit Dread: 1, 2, 4, 5 check. Weak 3. I have no life outside of work, gym and childcare so rely heavily on this. No real "PUA" as in 6 or 7 but I always flirt as in 8. Sidebar: Read - NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MAP, MMSLP, Zen and the Art... Reading - nothing this week. MAP Update: current gig coming up for renegotiation, manning the phone for alternatives. ​ Family: pretty good week. Working on son’s discipline, while being mindful there is a lot of change going on right now. My…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 01:49 PM
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Real talk bro: go cold turkey from CrossFit. A) it’s meth to fuckaround addicts and; B) the jacked CF’ers always use structured strength programs. Like Einstein said to the cowboy: “you can’t ride infinite horses with a finite ass”. Also, as we agreed, you’re not accurately judging your own progress. Yet. Do not look in a mirror until you can squat double body weight, deadlift 2.5 and bench 1.5+. And don’t neglect bodybuilding. When you “fail” on 3 reps of some light bullshit and force yourself …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 06:48 AM
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I’m probably more towards 15% Over 15% man. For sure. Not a million miles off the number itself but body fat tends to work in ranges visually: <10% every digit is its own class, 10-12% looks the same, 12-15% looks the same, >15% looks fat. You fat. my diet is perfect Sunday-Friday afternoon. Still pretty good on the weekends besides eating out and having a few beers(2-6 per weekend). I prefer to track calories and weigh year round. I still eat a proportion of "cheat" type food (and used to drink…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/19 04:00 PM
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Bro I thought I’d check out your own OYS and give you a hand: Take a couple of shirtless photos and put them away for a week. Then look at them (gives time for ego goggles to come off). Do a navy body fat formula test without sucking in your waist. Get a DEXA if need be. Put your numbers in this: http://www.strongur.io/body_fat_calculator/ Do all of those and the numbers won’t add up. You are fatter than you think you are. You have less muscle than you think you have. You are not where you shoul…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/19 03:55 PM
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I always made it about me, which I see as a common failure in the poorer posts, but I also consciously reset a while back and did a few things: I accepted my ego was getting in the way; I reread WISNIFG and NMMNG; I did the exercises in the latter; I reread the OYS OP and challenged myself to follow it to a “T”; If my gut is to bury something, I make a point of putting it in; The end result can be a little stream of consciousness but I am making progress and the call outs and feedback hit closer…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/19 03:35 PM
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Those both have good nuggets in them but they are also the financial equivalent of bro-science.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 05:26 PM
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Touche. Btw I was hoping you would chime in on T. Will going from 450 to 1000 solve all my problems?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 11:28 AM
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is this because you find significant fault with her (i.e. a child, can't own her shit, crazy, etc.), she's not meeting your "needs", or her mission doesn't fit into your mission? I'm aware I err on the side of not talking about my LTR at all. That is partly narcissism and partly as the full context is probably FR length. But briefly a random one sided sample of her faults would be: There is a loss of physical attraction on my side. It's not gone but it is lower She has zero libido and never has …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 11:24 AM
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Thanks and I do appreciate this is basic stuff - it is probably compounded somewhat by not being clear on what I want myself and having been gaslit in the past. E.g. sometimes I do not want breakfast. I want her to pack her shit up and leave. It’s not really an anger thing. I do think I’m past that. But it’s too early to call it a rationale thing. And on the “do you love me?”’s, I have priors for allowing myself to be drawn deep into gaslight theatre starting from an innocuous question. I do thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 09:56 PM
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I get this. Also I see a lot of people compound the short sleeves thing by wearing white running shoes. Maybe because they’re easy to slip off and get into safety shoes? If that’s the case, better to wear laceless/loafer type shoes and I’ve worn and seen polo shirts worn to plenty of offices/plants. Stretch/blend materials with no visible branding can look pretty acceptable in a workplace. Obviously a lot of military/police type uniforms have moved this way over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 09:39 PM
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Hurt more than a form check.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 06:06 PM
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The question isn't "what are your feelings?" like an angsty teenage girl. The question is "how do I win?". I am a consultant. And as I'm sure everyone in a corporation must have experienced, it's pretty easy to win as a consultant by sowing discord and taking zero responsibility for anything. The current trend is to hire entire "interim management" teams take over companies for three months for the sole purpose of leaving a list of names to lay off. So while it is easy to scream "alpha moar!" he…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 11:09 AM
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This is true. Although the record I am a consultant brought in for a corporate project. They are supposed to have leadership. As it turns out I have been deputized and yes, I do resent having to manage someone else’s reports purely because they cannot. But all that being said, I am here now. I highly doubt I will be leaving with a recommendation to promote Mr Jacques. He is too unlikeable. But it is pretty weak and hypocritical to get so triggered by someone.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 06:37 AM
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Interesting. The guy does trigger me. I went out to battle to defend someone else and told him what I now expected from him as a result on the same day. Just can’t get excited about leading Mr Jacques the same way. Probably some of his behaviour does mirror my self image in some way. Perhaps I have a fat, pompous beurocrat waiting to burst out of me. Anyway, I always wish other posters tried a thought experiment of accepting they may be the faggot in a situation. So I will accept it here. I laid…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 10:31 PM
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Good stuff there. I had read that JoH post but not the others. I am probably guilty of an element of all the sins mentioned overall. And yes there is probably an element of sadism to the whole thing. There are many parallels to leadership in the workplace. I had to relent and communicate a precise vision of success to my team today. But I had been having so much fun causing chaos and division. I think I’m going to go with: “you can be a wonderful wife and mother when you want to be.” in a lighth…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 07:30 PM
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I won’t bash you but I bulked from 140 to 210 in a year or so. Cut to 160 in a matter of weeks and have been going up and down In a less retarded way between 175 and 190 like clockwork for years. I usually eat 3500kcal a day but I’ve ate more and “0” for extended periods of time. It does take time to develop the habit. But it is easy. As to how you look: I’ve been both a skeleton and strongfat. You will look very, very good in the mirror at both of those. But only to yourself. Trust objective nu…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 06:02 PM
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> Stats: 36 yo, 6’0, 149lbs (-1.0lb), 12.5% BF > Lifts : SL5x5: 215SQ (265 2-rep max) / 225DL / 70 OHP / 165 BR / 125BP ​ From the body of your text it seems like you're leaning out and seeing some results. ​ However, while I'm sure you've heard this before: you must be a stick. At that height with a 1000lb total on the big three, you would still look pretty DYEL but it is a start and you should be able to simply eat your way there in a few months. ​ I'm sure you're probably looking for a leaner…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 02:44 PM
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OYS 10 ​ Stats: security edit Sidebar: Read - NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MAP, MMSLP, Zen and the Art... Reading - Language books, SGM and Bang. MAP Update: in Europe overseeing a subsidiary. ​ Family: wife and son joined me in Europe. Son’s behavior going well. Discipline seems to have been maintained during my absence(!). Wife started potty training him too(!!). He instigated the latter with her but I’m still calling it a win. Presented my wife with a lengthy list of options on childcare. It is shark …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 11:53 AM
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Engineers wear short sleeved shirts. They can’t help themselves. Bonus points for some obnoxious checked pattern and pens in pocket. Lots of good stuff here too: I get my shoes resoled. Although I would say I’m not convinced on the value of leather stitched on vs rubber glued on. I still do it, because attention to detail, but it’s a pain and they wear very quickly. I also love contrast stitching and linings. That’s my own “pop” on an otherwise standard issue suit. Never read that book, or any s…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/19 08:45 AM
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Style, to me, is not so much about being formal as it is about creating a deliberate, head to toe, look that is recreated consistently. Case in point: white collar life is almost a bell curve where formality peaks at middle management and tapers off a either end of seniority. At Board level I've always found things like ties drop off but clothing and grooming quality, fit and consistency are a given. You can pick those guys out at a conference of other people dressed more formally. How do you ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 10:27 PM
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On the lifting: I am not a coach and I don't know your athletic background. But personally if I saw someone start lifting at 60, doing 5x5 or any of the popular psuedo-powerlifting/big three tip programs, I would be asking myself: ​ ​ Why bother learning the Big Three? Do they realize how long people plateau on these for purely technical reasons? Do they know the purported "hormonal boosts" given by squatting are in all likelihood total horseshit? Do they have the work capacity to gain muscle by…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 12:18 PM
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Good luck. Few points for those interested: Check out a couple of magazines before you go and commit to a style. They can make anything and everything under the sun and you will be completely overwhelmed with styles and fabrics during a first fitting; Keep it simple and go for a two button comfort fit if it's your first time around. Semi-comfort if you are in good shape; Do not dismiss shirts. A tailored shirt is key to a good overall look and gymrats best friend; Again keeping it simple, a basi…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 10:42 AM
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I’ve been to the yacht club at Monaco a couple of times. It’s probably more like $1M a trip there. Even for the smaller ones. But there’s a lot of boats, so someone is doing it. My watch probably costs me $1k every time I actually check the time on it and not my cell. Some part of your life needs to be separated from calculating the compounded savings generated by an instance of buying burger vs steak over your remaining years.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 07:05 AM
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I generally use percentages; I’ve “blown up” at big numbers before. On the other hand it is an achievement when you can easily handle what drove you nuts before. I think I could handle $10M these days but the key would be diversifying it to a greater extent.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 06:53 AM
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Raja fashions are in Minneapolis early Feb: https://www.raja-fashions.com/index.php/bookings/index/index/id/230 They’re the top travelling HK tailor and in overall second place to Mr Sam’s in HK.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 08:11 PM
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Tip on suits: google a Hong Kong tailor who takes trips to your city. They take measurements and photos and send off to get hand stitched on Nathan Road, HK where they make the best suits in the world. You can go to the same tailor as Obama or Prince Charles for a fraction of the price charged by a western company. This was so popular a few years ago there were round trip packages from the UK to HK just to get measured up and fly back and it was still cheaper than Saville Row. Only gripe I have …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 11:55 AM
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Let me breakdown the financial plan a little more: High level Income: Consultancy fees, success fees, recruitment fees, referral fees, salary, bonus, directorship in startups. Expenditure: We live frugally although will soon add private schooling. I recognize I am in the minority but I need to spend more money on myself. Savings: 50% cash, cash equivalents i.e. cash, certain classes of bonds. Tempting to put home equity in here but that would defeat the point. 50% investment portfolio. Portfolio…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 08:31 AM
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Yes I need to change my approach. I will give it some thought on how to frame it. But I do think it’s more addressing mental weakness than lack of skill or experience. Having thought on our exchange last week I had something of an epiphany that a lot of what’s driven me in the past is validation I.e. seeing a big number on paper. While living quite frugally.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 06:58 AM
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OYS 9 ​ Stats: security edit ​ Finished a 7 day PSMF and resuming the perma-bulk. ​ Sidebar: Read - NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MAP, MMSLP, Zen and the Art... Reading - Language books, SGM and Bang. ​ MAP Update: in Europe consulting. ​ Two weeks of working on abundance, inspired by /u/red-sfpluss's epic poem. Living a single life with wife and son back home. Looking for new sources of revenue, full time work, personal fulfillment and sex. Tried to avoid LARP'ing and/or ego-tripping and keep to actual a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 12:08 PM
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I think most people would be. But $5k is also a number I’m ok with.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/19 11:53 AM
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Just noticed today is day 90 on booze, so milestone achieved. Honestly it is very easy for me as I am in another country and immersed in work. I have not eaten solid food in 5 days either. Harnessing autism for good, lol. Stock market trading is a specialized discipline that takes a lot of time and effort to learn. Just like becoming a professional poker player. A 10,000 hour skill. The jury is out on this one for me. For background: I've been trading since 2008. No forex, no indices, no crypto.…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 10:42 AM
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Let go of invisible friends ​ ​ At best it is a warped way of her trying to "win" the breakup. In which case take the ego boost and walk. At worst, you are both in the wrong head space to even consider it. 0% chance of it working at all. ​ ​ Say "yeah", re-ghost her and you can ,likely enjoy a bi-annual booty call with an old friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 07:36 AM
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behind-the-neck-push-press is where it’s at. Especially when stressed. Don’t stop until you see vertebrae.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/19 06:24 PM
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Your form sucks - specifically there's no lat engagement or lockout - but I am not here for that as I personally deadlift with a completely rounded back and DNGAF. Form is overrated as it can easily get in the way of lifting more weight. ​ What I would say is try gripping the bar low in your fingers, as opposed to digging it deep in your palm (which is what it looks like you are doing). It wants to sit in that position anyway and will be trying to roll over your calluses down there throughout th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/19 09:38 AM
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OYS 8 ​ Stats: security edit ​ Currrently doing a PSMF until I can see all my abs again. ​ Sidebar: Read - NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MAP, MMSLP, Zen and the Art... Reading - Language books, SGM and Day Bang. Next - Bang. ​ MAP Update: in Europe consulting. ​ Working on dat der abundance: cruising IRL/Bumble/Tinder and getting more aggressive on consultancy work. My client is desperate for more sources of revenue, other consultants and FTE's. I've offered all three but at additional fees to my day rate…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/19 09:25 AM
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First time I simply made an effort to breath heavier and right into her ear. Yes, even this was progress and the instant response encouraged me into a bit of grunting. Second time I made a conscious decision to say at least one sentence. I think it was “you are so sexy” or something equally lame. Third time, all of above plus pushed her upright while she was on top and said “I like to look at you”. Then the switch flicked and I found myself saying all sorts of shit that was going through my head…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/18 02:44 PM
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Good post. I am coming from a similar place and digesting this new same realisation. I mentioned in a recent OYS that I expected little from SGM but was blown away by the emotion part. Applying it immediately took me absolutely out of my comfort zone and got instant results. It’s actually given me renewed enthusiasm for seeking the relationship my wife and I could have, instead of daydreaming about bumble. Every time you uncover/get past a hang up, it is amazing to look back on how long it has h…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 05:29 PM
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OYS 7 ​ Stats: security edit ​ Sidebar: Read - NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MAP, MMSLP, Zen and the Art... Reading - Language books, SGM and Day Bang. Next - Bang. ​ MAP Update: in Europe consulting, heading back for Christmas shortly. ​ Work going well, I have been dragged fully into the chaos of an operation. I enjoy it but it can quickly become a 24/7 commitment. Positive feedback from my employers/client. ​ Family: ​ A very "British" main event. ​ Last few days have been "Europe is fantastic... love …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 07:54 AM
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She did try therapy a while a couple of times for this and general anxiety issues but it didn’t really take. Both therapists really seemed to think she would be fine with breathing exercises - which I think 100% of people need anyway. She was robbed twice as a teenager: once at knifepoint, once at gunpoint and her mom is a bitch. It’s a difficult subject to tackle in anyway without inadvertently gaslighting her.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/18 04:49 PM
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you’re People in glass houses... I am sure there’s no medical issue. My wife is a bit of a drama queen and my son is a bit of a brat. There are very few issues when myself or family look after him - I must make him sound worse than he is - it is more my wife’s parenting style that’s the issue. She treats him as a cross between a teddy bear and Faberge egg then gets very frustrated at actual real life toddler antics... followed quickly by anger, screaming and finally depression. I’ve been stricte…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/18 03:17 PM
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OYS 6 ​ Stats: security edit ​ Sidebar: Read - NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MAP, MMSLP, Zen and the Art... Reading - SGM and Day Bang. Next - Bang. ​ MAP Update: in Europe consulting, making money, having fun. ​ Work going OK. Was introduced to CEO and Chairman of my client's major client as there is a permanent opportunity there. If anyone is in any doubt: reputation really is everything. These guys knew my entire backstory both from my present employers, who sold me very aggressively, and the market. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 08:08 AM
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Thanks man. I did actually get a family planner but it was tiny. Not the huge chart I expected. I’ll trial going digital for a month. Wasn’t my first choice but practical given frequent travelling over the next few months.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 08:33 PM
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OYS 5 ​ Stats: security edit ​ Sidebar: Read - NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MAP, MMSLP, Zen and the Art... Reading - Bang. Next - Day Bang, Can't find SGM! ​ MAP Update: in Europe consulting, making money, having fun. ​ Major RP truths were revealed this week, more in family update. ​ I re-read NMMNG doing the exercises for realz this time. Very, very important. It's been said before but if you are skimming it, go back and do it properly. I had dismissed a great deal of it as stuff I already knew but the…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 04:47 PM
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Yeah we tried Ferber before cry it out. And we do a solid eat, bath, bed routine. It’s all good now except for him sleeping in the bed. The craziness is just how we ended up here.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/18 08:13 PM
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Is the point of this and your previous posts to find the one guy who is going to tell you what you want to hear?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 10:32 PM
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This changes everything: don’t walk out. Run.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 10:03 PM
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As I said, he is well behaved during the day. I’ve worked with mentally ill kids - autism and more - and I just don’t see it. Plus he just had a development check and passed with flying colours. I let the sleep thing go too long when he was a newborn then, after a reasonable run, enabled this arrangement for too long. And I do think he is an asshole at 3am. As I’m writing and rewriting this exact comment, I realise it does actually make sense to get him the fuck into his own bed tonight and be p…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 07:12 PM
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No guilt here, just expediency. The beds come with a corporate serviced apartment, I had already vetoed buying a double bed actually - he has a kids bed we got and should be trying again if it wasn’t for the current opportunity. He never slept as a baby so we eventually did the hardcore “cry it out” thing through screaming, vomiting etc... all that good stuff. We tamed him eventually but the problem was he would wake at 5am and has an unlimited capacity for screaming and hysterics at that time i…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 06:11 PM
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Indeed. Actually I am even more of a faggot than I spelled out so far: she’s been talking about getting him in his own bed (every time I go through a wave of awesomeness really) and I haven’t really pressed it. The recovery plan now is there are two double beds in the next apartment, she’ll lay down and get him to sleep in one, we’ll sleep in the other and when he starts screaming the house down at 5am she’ll go to his room. I fully admit to being a gay, homosexual here and being essentially cuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 05:04 PM
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OYS 4 Stats: security edit Sidebar: Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP, MMSLP. Next - SGM, Bang. Update: secured several months of work to project manage a merger. “0” income was an issue, this is monthly retainer plus success fee. Various positive meetings on startup but still no material progress - I may be guilty of hoping someone else is going to solve issues for me. Read MMSLP which I thought was pretty BP but inspired me to clean some shit up around the house at least. Family: trying to add a bit …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 03:28 PM
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OYS 3 Stats: security edit Sidebar: Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP. Next - SGM, Bang. Update: after getting more active looking for opportunities, turned up one solid position, one potential partnership, one potential buyer for zero revenue business. Some other bullshit from headhunters that will come to nothing. Potential partner seems a bit sneaky. Pushed back on him and get the sense he’s used my CV to close some deals already. Got the fucker on the ropes now. Highly doubt we’ll work closely toge…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 11:16 AM
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Try reading “this naked mind”. I decided to cut down drinking, read it and ended up having no desire to drink at all. Made me think hard about some other things I’d been doing - mainly out of boredom/disconnection - too.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 10:51 AM
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Physical exam? MRI? Ultrasound? Vaginismus or deeper pain? There are specialists in chronic pelvic pain. Often the issue is referred pain from muscles, joints, and ligaments. Yoga can be useful. First doc sent her to a specialist. She does yoga and Pilates and doesn’t think it’s muscular. I think it’s a lack of arousal but maybe I am oversimplifying. Too many fucks given. She did seem to lose enthusiasm just as I started acknowledging it... but I just like talking about training ha. That book I’…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 10:29 PM
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You’re right and I wasn’t hustling as hard as I could have been. The startup things isn’t going to happen overnight and there’s no reason not to do more now. One week of emails/calls was enough to sit down with two CEO’s and a Chairman. There are good opportunities on the table which previously I had been turning my nose up at.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 09:46 PM
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Wow another good read I haven’t seen before - I’m not the professor of RP lore i thought I was. Pretty spot on and I need to chew it over more.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 03:41 PM
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I read this after a significant delay and appreciate the response. You are right: I am not providing value in terms of direction to our lives. I’m back in the latest OYS for more tales of autism.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 03:03 PM
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Delayed response but that JoH post was a good read / haven’t seen it before. That is actually how I’ve always treated my wife’s moods - manager shrugging off the silky employee. However on her side, she has a more extreme temper. My mother generously calls it “artistic”. So example, I cook dinner most nights. Otherwise we’d be eating noodles and ketchup. Fine but she never puts her plate away and I come back in and clear every up, so the dishes later. So I’m thinking, ok leadership time: “listen…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 02:51 PM
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OYS 2 Security edit Back again after 2 months. Physical First off, I quit drinking alcohol 30 days ago. Previously I split a bottle of wine with my wife every night and often threw on a couple of beers too. Can’t say I notice a difference physically, weight was not a factor as I counted the calories, however the sudden movement in many areas of my life - combined with something of a loss of what to do for a good time - tells the tale of what a big part of my life it was. So I’ve decided to remai…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 01:59 PM
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First OYS Security edit Physical Just to get this out of the way: I train year round and have since I got married, generally cutting and bulking between 10-15% bf. In 2014 I leaned out at 70kg, this year it’s 80kg. I will keep growing until I die. Backstory I like travelling. I dropped out of college and got a blue collar job that let me work all over the world. Been based in 7 countries and visited a dozen more. Over the years me and the industry grew up. I was Director at 28 and COO at 34. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/18 09:10 PM
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