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Simple solution: Don't get married. Totally unrelated to the sex problem. Marriage is not in your best interest and it is only going to get worse. If she starts having sex with you, great. Don't get married.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 11:39 PM
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Of course it is rape. Every sex doll you fuck, you are raping it. Remember the current definition of rape: Any physical or mental interaction with a woman that is non-consensual. Your doll can't consent, therefore you are raping it. Think of all those poor, abused fleshlights.
/r/MGTOW06/07/17 10:54 PM
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I feel sorry for her. She's so tall and society dictates that she must date only taller people. Her partner pool is shallow. Poor Ke$ha. Hahahahahahaha
/r/MGTOW06/07/17 10:50 PM
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You are playing with fire. Unless it is 100% accurate you will get burned. Gossypol is pseudoscience right now. And there's not a realistic way for you to test it on yourself. You gonna get your sperm tested multiple times at $100/pop? Either wrap your dick (which sucks, I agree!), don't have sex, fuck her ass, or get a vasectomy. I've been snipped and I have no regrets. Life is good.
/r/MGTOW06/07/17 10:49 PM
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Thanks for the post! life is seen for what it is: a game to be played. It's important to know that when we aren't in tune with this reality, when we are just coasting along and not actively playing the game, the game is still being played around us. As a passive pawn, we might make some progress or lose some ground, but it's just random noise. Playing the game with intention is how we work toward success. Don't let other people's actions and your reactivity move your pawn for you in the game of …
/r/TheRedPill24/05/16 05:14 PM
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If this is the conflict/harmony dynamic: Condescension: I am better than you and for you Contempt: I am better than you and against you Supplication: I am worse than you and for you Insolence: I am worse than you and against you What is left if we also reject the feminist concept of equality? I don't accept that men and women are equal, or capable of being equal, in everything. Men are better than women at many tasks, women are better than men at many tasks. And if I don't accept equality, what …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 04:41 PM
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It pisses me off too! It works everytime. Sure I use it to my advantage, who wouldn't? It's a tool in the toolbox. But I often wonder why the other women are so receptive but the wife isn't? The other women aren't responding to dread. It's AWALT and it fits the formula - mate attraction / retention. The wife goes into retention mode. The other women are in hypergamy mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 02:56 PM
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Why wait? Do it right now. Relationship is over. Send her a text message that says, "Our relationship is over. Do not ever contact me again." Then: Immediately block her contact. Delete her info off your phone. Get off Facebook (even if only for a month). Hit the gym. She's not your wife. You don't have kids together. This is over. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you and it is much brighter than what you have at this moment. If she somehow contacts you just say, "You are a cheater. I a…
/r/askMRP09/04/16 05:02 AM
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Yes, AWALT. They will all say that. It's insecurity on their part. The most common thing I've heard is "I don't like guys with that veiny bodybuilder look - it's disgusting!" Actually, that's maybe the truth but in reality you will not get there. Your lifting goal will be to get toned, in shape and fit, build substantial muscle, and reduce your BF to 12-15%. For most of our subscribers who are over 23% BF, getting to 18% would be a life-changing accomplishment. Show her a picture of a guy who is…
/r/askMRP29/03/16 04:17 PM
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I'm 2 years+ years in and still a beginner. Always learning.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 01:43 PM
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Do some front bar squats instead of having the bar behind your upper back. It's a great way to reinforce proper form. Just give it a try!
/r/askMRP17/11/15 06:32 AM
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Oh, are we playing the quiet game? I love this game! (As she storms out of the room...) Hide and seek too?! Best day ever!!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 01:52 PM
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I respect your input here and always have. You're a pro. will post daily til we are back on the rails. Please don't. Fix this then give us a summary.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 01:50 PM
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If you want to win a poker tournament, do you play with your cards face up on the table? You don't have to answer anything. In fact, this is good practice for you. If she pushes you very hard just tell her something straight forward, "Stop all this nonsense. It's annoying." Until then, keep deflecting with humor and a smile. Something like, "What have you been reading?" "50 Shades of Gray, have you read it?"
/r/askMRP16/11/15 01:44 PM
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Turn that negotiation into a game. You're doing great. There's a time and place for sexual escalation. The looking game is good prep for later activity. Y: "I promise I just want to look." H: "I'll only show you one breast." Y: "That's a ripoff! If you only show one breast, then I get to suck on it for 30 seconds." H: "No, it's only one breast and only looking." Y: "Both breasts, and I'll show you my dick." H: "Nope, one breast, only looking." Y: "Fine, but you have to shake it for me." H: Laugh…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 09:52 AM
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Forget it. Focus on now. You'll never be able to prove anything. You can't snoop by communicating with her friends without her finding out. If you appear to be jealous and butthurt you'll appear weak. For this to actually work you truly have to forget it. If you say you'll forget it but you let it keep eating at you, then you'll fail. If that's too hard then just assume she cheated, don't bring it up (she'll deny whether it's true or not), and divorce if you need to. This is would be different i…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 09:47 AM
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Congratulations! You are a single and free man now. Why do you need to give her space? This is space for you. Go enjoy yourself. You've got time now. You can lift, have an adventure. You don't have to check in with her and let her know what you're doing. Your wife is fucking other men or actively looking to fuck other men. Move on with your life.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 09:41 AM
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Massive shit test. She's preparing herself and you for the future of sex for the rest of your lives. On her terms, as a reward based on your behavior and your compliance. She wants to make sure her toolbox is functional before she commits. It's hard to "next" her at this point since you're engaged and planning to marry. Still, I'd start withdrawing and spending more time out alone or with your guy friends. Give yourself some time alone to consider if this marriage is something you really want. I…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 09:37 AM
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You have a long way to go. You absolutely need to start reading the sidebar material and lifting. I know you're busy at work, but we make time for the things that are important to us. We control our time, we don't allow our time to be controlled. This is an important step of leadership. Claiming time to improve yourself and rediscover your testicles is worth the effort. I suppose I am just hoping for and seeking a quick and easy path to correct course. Don't expect a quick fix. You're going to i…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 09:15 AM
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When I tell my dog to go into his kennel and he does it, he gets a treat. He doesn't really like the kennel. He whines a little, and he can't run around being the hyperactive dog I love to watch. But I feel like he is safer in there, especially when I'm not around or ready to play with him. He does all this just for the treat. And you know what? I don't even give him the whole treat. I just break off a bit of the jerky stick and save the rest for next time. You aren't doing anything wrong. She h…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 04:32 AM
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Your actions will have no affect on the woman you confronted. She is a bully who gains validation by treating people who can't defend themselves (i.e. could get fired) like shit. There are a lot of people like that. But what you did could have a positive impact for the rest the day for the other patrons, and a positive impact on the barista for the rest of her life. I'm not even going to mention the effect on how your wife feelz about you. Good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/15 05:00 PM
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ok and then I expect some understanding of what I'm dealing with in return This is the main problem and we've all been pointing it out. She never apologized. This wasn't an apology at all. Keep this in mind: Sex should be its own reward. Say to yourself, "I would rather have sex with someone who wants to do it for mutual satisfaction rather than an exchange for something else." The moment she says this, it should be a turn off.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/15 06:42 AM
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Is her fear based on a past accident, maybe when she was a kid? If she has a trauma induced anxiety while being a passenger, I think a lot of the other suggestions won't help. My advice is that you acknowledge it and suggest that she closes her eyes when she is frightened, instead of her saying something to you. Don't let her drive just to assuage her anxiety. You should definitely be driving.
/r/askMRP13/11/15 11:11 AM
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I would have responded, "Do you feel better now that you've gotten all that off your chest?" In my experience (I've been through this several times) this is just venting. Don't change anything in response. She gave you a list. Your response when she brings it up again is, "That was a long list! Let's take it a step at a time and deal with the most important item first." This will buy you more time, she'll calm down, most of it will blow over. As you proceed, don't give an inch for free. You will…
/r/askMRP11/11/15 05:25 AM
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You can't fix her. Always remember that. This kind of "opening up" will probably lead to more long talks about her. That's the path of the beta. The more you listen, the less she respects you as a man. Women talk with their girlfriends. Do you want to be her girlfriend or her boyfriend? Talking is part of a relationship. But there must be balance. Walk a fine line and pay attention to where you are.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 04:53 AM
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Not only can you, but you should. Just don't be an asshole.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 04:45 AM
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Don't take this kind of disrespect laying down. Call him out on it immediately. "Bro, why don't you be my wingman instead of a cockblocker?"
/r/askTRP11/11/15 04:32 AM
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Acta, non verba. Same with your male relationships. Men do. If you find yourself hanging out with your guy friends and all you do is talk, shake it up a bit. Do something active besides the gym. Physical activity and challenges bond men together. Talk doesn't. Make sure your problem doesn't swing the other way. Don't treat your male friends in a way you would not want them to treat you.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 04:30 AM
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"Geez you talk too much. Don't you have girlfriends to talk with? I need to find something around here to gag you with." (Unzip trousers suggestively) One thing I've learned from the sidebar materials: Women talk like this with their girlfriends. If she talks like this with you, she sees you as a girlfriend. She doesn't fuck her girlfriends. I've used exactly this a few times. It's a nice way of saying "shut up already". It works.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 03:53 AM
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Nothing is absolute. Don't think in terms of black and white. True. In most cases it's the woman who withdraws sex frequency. That's why we have MRP. In other cases there is a decrease that comes with years of familiarity. Before marriage you might want sex everyday, after 15 years maybe you only want it 2-3x per week. No. Sometimes you meet the right person quickly. Sometimes it's arranged (depending on culture). I personally suggest two strategies in this order: don't get married, date a ton b…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 06:57 AM
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Please give me an example of your 10 minute workout. I'm not outright disagreeing. With 4x/week do you rotate muscle groups, or hit all of them each time?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 06:48 AM
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30 minutes per week? You won't gain anything, you might not lose mass, but you probably will. There are no shortcuts. Fitness isn't about minimum commitments, half-assed efforts, and self bargaining. It's about your own vitality.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 05:06 PM
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Honestly, with honesty. Tell her your life is epic, you'd like to hang with her to "reconnect", bang her asap, and don't commit to anything monogamous. Don't even let it go that direction. Try to keep all your encounters with her "fun", not "meaningful", and keep busy outside of the times you are with her. When she asks you if you've seen other girls, how many, and about your sexual relations, just say "I've been out a few times." If she presses, say you don't feel comfortable talking about it.
/r/askTRP08/11/15 04:43 PM
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You impulsively broke up with her for 2 hours. You did not tell us why. I'm going to tell you why, the truth behind this based on her actions as described. She has been modifying her behavior to drive you to want to break up with her so that she doesn't have to be the "bad guy". She, of course, wants to be the victim. You fell for this ruse but too quickly realized your mistake. Your relationship has been over for a long time. You just didn't know it. She checked out a while ago. I'm not saying …
/r/askTRP08/11/15 04:04 AM
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Op, listen to this. I have struggled for years (10+) years to get what you're trying to get. I cut carbs and went to the gym twice a day (once for cardio, once for lifting). Nothing. I lost weight, but I never gained shape. And I quickly gained fat again. Then I looked into bulking and gave it a shot. Carefully managed the macros. I couldn't believe how much meat I ate during that first bulk. But it fucking worked. And then the fat started melting away and I wasn't even strict about carbs, altho…
/r/askTRP22/10/15 06:08 PM
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It's so easy to test (in the USA) without telling anyone, not even your wife. Order the kit online. It's two tubes and swabs. Swab your cheek, swab your kid's cheek, send the package back in. Results are emailed. Costs around $100 for peace of mind.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/15 11:03 AM
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I suggest using the wording of doing things "to you" rather than "with you" or "for you". It implies objectivity, which is antithetical to the idea of equal rights. But it works. It's the response action that matters, not the response words.
/r/askMRP21/10/15 08:02 PM
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Don't even reply to the survey in the first place. Don't you have better things to do?
/r/askTRP21/10/15 07:52 PM
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She will often come back with this "other woman fantasy" because in her mind she doesn't see how you could actually think that fantasy about her. She's too plain, she's never like that, etc. The right response is to just call it like it is: "I guess you can't picture it yourself, but that fantasy is actually something I'd like to do - to you. I'll prove it, this is the hotel and the date we are going."
/r/askMRP21/10/15 07:45 PM
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thinking it all means something, instead of just living. This speaks volumes about what is wrong about so many things in the world.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 07:34 PM
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10k globe trotting is a far better use of money than 10k applied to a wedding. In fact, I'd recommend this exact trip premarital. You really get to know someone in this situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 07:20 PM
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Laugh. That's all. You are okay. When she brings it up later, laugh again. You are not dependent upon her approval. Some jokes bomb, some don't. Maybe your next one will be better.
/r/askMRP21/10/15 09:44 AM
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Clothes, hair, and accessories in particular. I like it when she looks nice and I want to encourage her to look better than "frumpy". She's not a HB in her 20s-30s anymore. She has offered to return to work, but I like having her at home. Financially, there's no need for her to work. Anyways, these are planned and managed expenses. I agree with you about the $50 here and there. That happens and even though it may be financially manageable, it is just irresponsible. For anyone who isn't married w…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 07:05 AM
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Some of your rebuttals are not realistic with a SAHM. I'm not complaining about being married or the costs associated with it. I was just giving an example to misguided op about $150. Although my costs may seem high, it's just money. I don't have a financial need to adjust anything and I don't really want to.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 05:19 AM
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Wow, I don't even know where to begin. I'll start with your example, health insurance. I pay $560/month for health insurance for my family. The portion for myself is covered by my company, making me responsible for the others. Kids plus dental make up $105 of that so I'm paying $455 just for my wife's health insurance. This is from a major corporation. I don't qualify for ACA. I have a big house with a mortgage. It's manageable for me, but would I have this home if I wasn't married? Nope. Clothe…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 07:25 PM
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I like Schwarzenegger's statement he put in /r/fitness a while ago, saying that the bodybuilders, crossfitters, runners, etc, should not argue about the best routine with a new person asking for advice. Everyone should encourage people who are getting started regardless of the fitness direction they take. Simply committing to fitness is the hardest step (the first step always is). If you are on a budget, take a look at "You Are Your Own Gym: The Bible of Bodyweight Fitness". Seriously, you can g…
/r/askTRP20/10/15 06:53 PM
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Man, why the hell is this even a question? As far as your wife is concerned, it never happened. Never admit anything, even if there is a fucking video. Go watch that video, "Wasn't me". Don't tell your married friends, don't tell anyone whom you don't absolutely trust (ergo no one). It was just a kiss. I don't care if you fucked her, you are an independent adult. If you have some form of guilt, get over it. You just kissed her. Your wife's main concern would be with your emotional infidelity. Ke…
/r/askMRP20/10/15 06:40 PM
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It's not the best sign, but it is a positive sign. And the way you handled the act itself sounds great. Sadly, I'm picturing her inebriated thoughts like, "A woman's got needs too." And you were there, safe, and she settled for what was easiest. On the bright side she did choose to settle for you... Keep up the good work. And don't say anything about the sex. Just keep your mouth shut and pretend it didn't happen. Then try it again soon.
/r/askMRP20/10/15 06:31 PM
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This is seriously fucked up way of looking at marriage. You are comparing your contribution of $150 to the services she provides in terms of cooking and cleaning. That's not how any of this works... But I'll roll with it: First, you can't get a house keeper in the States for $150 that will both cook and clean throughout the month. Second, marriage is far, far, far, far, far, far more expensive than $150/month. I pay AT&T $150/month and they fuck me constantly. A wife won't do that for you!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 06:26 PM
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Hey, I've been an electrical trade professional. There is nothing wrong with paying the professionals. However, I am reading between the lines of your post and it seems to me that you are particularly hung up on the difficulty with electrical home maintenance. It's because electrical and HVAC are very complex trades. It's possible to learn it yourself and applied learning is the best way. You've gotta get in there and work it out. If you don't have a multimeter and know how to use it, start ther…
/r/askMRP09/10/15 07:36 AM
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A lot of responses say to ignore those texts. Why don't you try this for a couple of months to see if it makes a difference? Completely ignore her negative comments. She is giving them to you because you are responding. Hopefully she'll stop or seriously cut back. Maybe she'll test you a year from now to see if you'll respond. She's seeing life negatively and thus she is complaining. These particular complaints indicate she's in a rut. A routine of monotony. She wants excitement in her life. You…
/r/askMRP09/10/15 07:15 AM
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My hobbies don't matter. Your hobbies matter. There was a great post a while ago about hobbies. Read the whole thing. The gist is this: learn the difference between hobbies & interests. Have some of both. With hobbies you need at least 3: Physical, Creative, and Mental. Some of these can overlap. I actually think more hobbies is better than 1-2, but you should be passionate about all of them and moreso about 1-2 of them. For physical, I enjoy hiking and light climbing. These are free. I like to …
/r/askMRP09/10/15 07:07 AM
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Being buried in debt is a confidence killer. You can act confident all you want but that burden won't relent until it is gone. You are owned by someone else when you have that much debt and no clear or near-term path to freedom. This should be your main priority. It requires change. As for the marriage, I suggest you take a bit of a break and plan an exit strategy. You don't necessarily need to exit (divorce) but the planning will help with a lot of the problems you are happening. Think about wh…
/r/askMRP09/10/15 06:57 AM
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In addition, these women we are married to absorb popular culture from articles like this. She may actually find this particular article...
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/15 07:38 AM
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This isn't about the dance class. She wants to break up and is looking for an excuse to blame you instead of herself. Someone else is involved. A dance class is perfectly normal. You are in a long distance relationship and not exclusive. Time to move on and stop wasting your time.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 06:07 AM
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First of all, she's not an 8. If there are ten more 8's in the group around you, she's a 6 or 7. In your whole school there are only five 8's and one 9. Get your hormones out of the way and take her off the pedestal you have her on. Find another girl and ask her to go out with you. Then find another girl and ask her to go out with you. Go out with each of them. Do it within the next 5 days. If this process scares you for fear of rejection, think of it like you are using the girls to achieve a re…
/r/askTRP01/10/15 07:55 AM
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But there's a certain persistent Chad in one of her classes that won't stop. He'll call her beautiful and stare at her constantly as well as compliment her in other ways. That's not a Chad. That's not Chad behavior. He's an orbiter. He's providing validation already, and she doesn't have to give anything in return. She might consider converting him if your SMV is lower than his. But he sounds pretty creepy.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 07:44 AM
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You can't combat that. Unless you are a sly, sneaky bastard. The best response is to say casually, "Yeah, coming from AMOG I'm not surprised he said that. You know how he is." And just not say anything else. If pressed, just say that you don't like to talk about people behind their backs. I wouldn't have been offended if someone said that about me. I'd Agree & Amplify.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 07:38 AM
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No. Don't stop laughing. Laughing is good for you and relieves stress. You always want her to know that when it comes to shit tests: you expected it, you are prepared for it, you aren't bothered by it, you know how to handle it. Even if you aren't. Think of it like a firefighter facing a blaze in a family home with people inside. A new firefighter will be unsure of himself. Do I fight the fire first? Get the people out? His low confidence will be noticeable to people around him and there will be…
/r/askMRP01/10/15 07:35 AM
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Chad McRipped-but-actually-a-cool-guy did not casually touch her back with no purpose. That was kino. And your wife has been giving him IOIs so expect him to do it again. Next time she comes home from the gym ask her, "How was the gym? You still flirting with Chad? Make any progress with that?" And smile the whole time because your frame is you know what's going on in her head and you don't give a shit or blame her that she's AWALT. Be upset with her for smoking some pole. Don't be upset because…
/r/askMRP01/10/15 07:27 AM
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Don't do this anymore. You can't unplug someone else. They have to find it on their own. If you point someone over here, STFU from that point onward. You are not an instructor. You are a student. I am a student. The reading list in the sidebar is the teacher. The anger stage is the teacher. Life is the teacher. Pain is the teacher.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 07:14 AM
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Back massage leading to grabbing the boobs is probably a covert contract. I'm rubbing her back so I'm entitled to touch her boobs. You will never be entitled to anything. This isn't even an alpha viewpoint. What you want is for her to want you to touch her boobs. For this to happen she has to be attracted to you, and she isn't. You'll make forward progress if you can keep your sexual intentions within the boundaries of a sexual situation (you can create this). Keep your sexual impulses outside o…
/r/askMRP01/10/15 07:09 AM
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What do you want to do for fun? Go do it. Her involvement is not required. If she comes along, that's great. You are doing this wrong if you are expecting her to plan activities.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 06:37 AM
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If you take a girl home and she's wearing matching bra and panties, it wasn't your idea to have sex. Same applies here. You passed this one with flying colors. Awesome job.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 06:26 AM
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That's not the main event. What happened is a sign of progress. I kept thinking as I was reading: everything is going as it should. This will blow over. It is hard for her to accept the changes. From her perspective she has lost some power but at the same time she is a little happier in the moment. It's confusing and it upsets her hamster.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 05:22 AM
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Boob jobs and vacations are temporary fixes. Permanent change requires the effort (discipline) to consciously and frequently reflect to see if you are back in your comfort zone (or created a new one) after you have made changes to leave it. I use a journal. Notice I said your comfort zone. You can't change him or force him out of his comfort zone. But since you are in close proximity, your actions will influence his. None of us can introduce other men to TRP, it just doesn't work. It's that whol…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 11:30 AM
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keep his belly full, his balls empty From her brief description it sounds like she's having trouble getting him to empty his balls for her. His lack of interest. You can't get someone who doesn't want to empty his balls to empty his balls by emptying his balls. That's circular logic. I think you have hit the two most important main points: Don't mother him. Give unsolicited BJs. (good BJs, not bad ones)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 11:14 AM
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Also, learn how to reply to comments in order. You're all over the place here and it's hard to follow you. Also go over to /r/redpillwomen.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 08:39 AM
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I wouldn't point you to /r/deadbedrooms just yet. That place is full of misery and it'll just pull you down. Leave the comfort zone, get out of your rut. 13 years is a long time and complacency is a natural consequence but it builds this kind of resentment you are talking about. Once it bubbles over you realize, "I've got a problem." It sucks how work and kids change things. It's a stage of life, a stage of marriage. In marriage we are "co-parents", "friends", and "lovers" all at the same time b…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 08:32 AM
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Drop the fucking patronizing tone. You haven't been here long if you posted what you did and expected to receive responses in the form of loving caresses and validation. Read more, lurk more, and post less. You should have seen this coming. It's better this way. Pain is a swift teacher. You think of yourself as hard but clearly you aren't. I don't take shit from her. I won't put up with this That's what they do. They give you shit. You don't have to put up with it. Go ahead and walk. In your sit…
/r/askMRP29/09/15 07:18 AM
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I'd like to throw around a 140 lb 5'10" soft body also. I have to find one first.
/r/askMRP26/09/15 10:56 AM
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All that stuff about the evening routine is bullshit. You make time for the things you want to do. She didn't want you to do all that stuff when she texted you. She wanted to fuck. Next time this happens, go home and before anything else, you fuck her. Make it about you and your needs. She is responsible for herself. The moment you get home give her a hug and whisper in her ear right in front of the kids, "The only thing that matters right now is sex. Go to the bedroom right now, I'll follow you…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 01:50 PM
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You're on the right track with this. Spend more time focusing on yourself and how you can make yourself happy. Do a hobby, build something, go hiking, call your family, spend a night a tent, etc. She doesn't need to be part of it. You will always be frustrated as long as you rely on someone else to make you happy. No one will. Not your wife and not your next wife. It's up to you. That's hard to accept, but it's the truth. Be brave.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 01:38 PM
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Those are paid and fake reviews! They are funny to read though.
/r/askMRP25/09/15 01:31 PM
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Honestly, I don't think my behavior changes with test. I grew up hearing about anger problems and aggression related to steroids. Maybe it's because people I know use anabolics only in periodic cycles around a carefully structured gym routine. I can't imagine how bad the harm would be from indefinite use. Also, I've never heard of anyone who uses steroids and doesn't also take stimulants. That's spot on.
/r/askMRP25/09/15 01:28 PM
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We have all been there or are still. My best advice is that it takes time. If you are where you feel you should be and you feel the same after a year, maybe you should look at options. You may not feel angry but what you've described is still part of the anger phase. I absolutely know what you are going through. After a while of this and realizing I could go either way with marriage, I started fucking around with her. I didn't flirt at all. It was more like gaming. Negging, disappearing, refusin…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 01:12 PM
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Your excuse for wanting a home gym is pathetic. What's the real reason? You don't want to go to the gym? You're embarrassed there? You don't go as often as you'd like because it's not convenient? You just feel like complaining about your wife and this is the topic you chose? There's nothing wrong with those reasons, but your reason seems really lame because you could change your routine to accomplish the same gains without that specific inconvenience. Put a gym in your home wherever you want it,…
/r/askMRP25/09/15 11:49 AM
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"Babe, sex is like your 3rd best thing." Don't tell her what #1 and #2 are, just STFU.
/r/askMRP25/09/15 11:40 AM
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There's a difference between doing something in secret and doing something for yourself and not telling other people. If you are only telling someone what you are doing so you can bask in their validation, you are doing it wrong. If you are truly doing something to improve yourself, you don't owe anyone an explanation. Most of the things you probably want to talk about you should find some guy friends and hang out with them to discuss it. She'll ask what's going on eventually. They always do. Th…
/r/askMRP25/09/15 11:38 AM
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Ottermode! (look it up) Bulk & cut, go for the obvious gains. Unless you are seeking strength for a particular reason, such as you need to lift pallets of steel for a job, you'll see better feedback from a shaping program rather than a strength program. As a tall guy it's important to fix those spindly arms. Work on your arms, forearms, shoulders, and chest. Don't neglect the legs of course, but you won't see the same type of gains there and frankly it's not what people notice first. Start with …
/r/askMRP25/09/15 11:30 AM
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6'10"? WTF
/r/askMRP25/09/15 11:12 AM
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Anabolics are basically just testosterone (or mimic it) taken in much higher doses than typical TRT (3-6x). I would not recommend "gaming your testosterone" related to RP behavior. It's irrelevant. Being alpha is psychological, based on the brainwashing you've received your entire life. Anabolics don't affect alpha behavior. There are "alpha-inducing side effects" which could be achieved without steroids. Anabolics have a huge impact on your gains in the gym. Your obvious gains seen in the mirro…
/r/askMRP25/09/15 11:09 AM
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Just keep reading and working on yourself. The answers you receive here can be brutal. In the long run, those have been the absolute best responses I've had - especially from teammates like /u/whinemoreplease. Don't take anything personal.
/r/askMRP25/09/15 10:36 AM
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We are a cool group of guys here too. When one us says something dumb or posts a novel, he gets ripped to shreds in a brutal and spectacular fashion. Through this process (and from befriending some Brits) I've learned that among male friendship we can and should be as direct as possible, and it's acceptable to be mean. If I have a male friend like you described, I see two choices. Either cut him out of my social circle or tell him what he's doing wrong (if it really is something wrong and not ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 07:55 AM
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She was keeping the ex in the wings "just in case". Hopefully she's not an alpha widow with this guy. I personally think he dodged a bullet.
/r/askTRP11/09/15 06:50 AM
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If the frame placement bothers you much, think of the lower steps of dread as establishing good habits for yourself, not related to her. You'll be a happier person for it and will benefit in all your social and professional relationships.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 06:45 AM
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Consciously planning dread is a bit of a problem, but there is no way to avoid the conscious effort in the beginning since you are aware of it. The first 5 steps are so subtle, really just establishing healthy and positive habits. You're not indicating that you are or will cheat/leave. It's just enough positive behavior modification to make her understand that you could actually have other options. Simple because it's true, and it works best when you understand it also. This is not an arms race …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 06:41 AM
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Take note new people, this is what you get on the program. It's worth the effort. It takes times - months and maybe years. And the best part: everyone wins, there are no losers.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 06:30 AM
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Just ignore the incident. You can't change it now. Don't apologize. Put more money away and your next trip should be a little less percentage. Maybe a shorter trip, cheaper destination, less gas, etc. When you think of it in terms of percentages you are on the way to financial security and success. The more you say "no", the more respect she will have for you. As your partner she will feel comfort in your boundaries related to your goals. She will respect you for having boundaries and not allowi…
/r/askMRP09/09/15 11:51 AM
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In this instance the classic game is exactly what you asked about: Creating a fake "run in" opportunity to meet a guy. I've had women do this to me and it was obvious. I've heard my nieces talk about doing it, helping each other with strategy. It's a game and they get frustrated if you don't understand the rules (which they won't tell you). In a more general concept this entire method of behavior is feminine. I don't think it's wrong for them, but I do think it is wrong for you as a man. Men cha…
/r/askTRP09/09/15 11:40 AM
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No. I spent some time looking but I can't find it now.
/r/askMRP09/09/15 11:28 AM
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You probably could have fucked her in the car while on the test drive (depending if the dealership salesperson was in the car with you, sometimes they give you a couple of hours on your own). This one is already in the bag. She's asking for tonight. You invited her for drinks. Those drinks should be at your place or hers. Have a good time.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 08:29 AM
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Does your LTR want to do it also? Have her talk with the 3rd wheel to get the ball rolling. She's a lesbian for fuck's sake. She'll respond better to your LTR than to you.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 08:25 AM
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Sounds like you did fine. If Thursday isn't "more fun" then you need to reassess your progress. Text her about Thursday with a pre-assumption that it's a go. "Band is at 9, need a ride?" Her statement of "I'm going to dip after this" was an invitation and you took it. Congrats on a good response.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 08:11 AM
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Be gentle on me. What the fuck is this? Are you a man or a child? Life is hard and the men around you who are not gentle about helping you are your best allies. Men don't learn very well through subtlety. Forget everything about porn when it comes to your first time. You cannot plan ahead for this event. If you have a checklist then you're an idiot and you'll be a horrible lover. You just have to do what comes naturally. I know you're thinking, "What exactly will come naturally?" That's my point…
/r/askTRP09/09/15 08:07 AM
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What you're describing is a classic game that girls play to show interest in a guy. It works well! For girls. Don't be a bitch about it. Go directly to the mall, right to her, and tell her, "Hi, I'm glad you're here today! Let's go on a date tonight. What time do you get off work?" If she says she is busy, you get one chance to reschedule for another time within a couple of days. If she's free then think of something do where you aren't eating the entire time. You could just stay in the mall and…
/r/askTRP09/09/15 07:49 AM
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The "oak" metaphor was introduced by /u/strategos_autokrator earlier this year (2015). Not sure about the "rock". The metaphor that a person is a "rock" for another person has been around thousands of years.
/r/askMRP09/09/15 07:38 AM
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You need to set some goals for yourself and stick with them regarding financial planning. You set boundaries as an alpha male. This is a mature act. What you did is just the opposite. You are childishly declaring that it doesn't matter if you are spending more than half your savings, you are going to have your fun and your wife better have fun too! In the first method, you'd be paternal. In the second, you're childish. When you are childish, it forces your wife to be maternal. If your wife feels…
/r/askMRP09/09/15 07:31 AM
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If she's fucking him... Otherwise she successfully demoted him to an orbiter.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 07:22 AM
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I had the same thing happen to me at a restaurant when my son was younger. I was obviously angry. I picked him up to take him outside. My wife came up to me very quickly and whispered "please don't spank him." I didn't say anything and went outside. We played around for a while, I chased him, we looked at interesting rocks... Then walked back in and obviously we were totally cool. Playing with him actually calmed us both down. She never said anything again and there were also very few tantrums a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 07:16 AM
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Is this an issue because one of you needs to stay with the kids? Does your gym have a child care area, perhaps it's not open at 6am? If this is the case then don't budge your schedule so you can be the SAHD while she works out. You've got the job and the tighter schedule. If she wants to go with you, let her go. See what she does while at the gym. Don't dictate a routine, give advice, etc during the first trip to the gym. Just observe. Do your own thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 07:00 AM
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It's not a big deal. You are still in control. If you decide to sit down and enjoy some fresh air, let her walk off. Plus you get to stare at her ass! If it really bothers you so much, use this to your favor. Tell her you like the view from behind and she should wear some tighter pants or no underwear.
/r/askTRP08/09/15 07:37 AM
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You can't look at how people interact and fully understand it unless you look at both the layers of "human reasoning" and "hormonal instinctiveness". As advanced as we are, we are still largely just animals that respond instinctively based on which hormones are produced by our endocrine systems. I've noticed during introspection that a lot of my actions and thought processes which I think are "reasoning" are just my brain's way of rationalizing feelings and impulses driven by a hormone release. …
/r/askTRP08/09/15 07:33 AM
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That won't work in the USA either. Common law marriage applies to cohabitation. The exact rules vary by state. I think it's one year of cohabitation in my state. But if you have a joint bank account the rules are worse...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/15 02:11 PM
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How much time are you in the gym lifting? Besides that, you should spend more time developing your friendships with other men. Not only will it help get your mind off your lack of pussy, but men in a group definitely know how to have fun and laugh. Be the kind of friend that creates activities. You'll expand your opportunities to meet more women also. Women are social beings. They operate well in groups. They like to see men who are having fun in groups. Your bros can wing for you.
/r/askTRP07/09/15 12:03 PM
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Don't respond and avoid her. She cares nothing for you. Her only concern is her next hit. Addiction to coke and other similar drugs is a 100% occupation. It is always in her head. She could be sucking your dick and I guarantee she's only thinking about coke. Look at it this way: It's not just that an addict will ditch your date to get a hit. An addict will sell your kidneys if it will help get a hit. That's where your value is compared to the drug.
/r/askTRP07/09/15 11:58 AM
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You need to read a lot more. You can't hate women for being women. I love trees because they are trees, and women are a whole lot more interesting and entertaining. Women think all men are the same and they still like us (in general). If you aren't interested in a LTR then don't pursue a LTR. It's that simple. You are in control of you. If you meet someone and decide for a LTR, maybe that needs some consideration. For your own sanity on this subject, just focus on right now. When it comes to rel…
/r/askTRP07/09/15 11:52 AM
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Conversation capability is a learned skill for many people. If you have trouble now, do some reading. The other books referenced in the comments are good. Life experience is the absolute best social lubricant. Read the post So you're a boring fuck... to find out how to make yourself more interesting. Having conversations with men is very different than having conversations with women. You should spend more time learning how to converse with men. With women you can ask small insightful questions …
/r/askTRP07/09/15 11:47 AM
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It has to do with abundance. But it's the opposite cause/effect than most people realize. Being a jerk doesn't mean the girls line up for a ride. It means that Chad knows what he wants, he makes it clear, and if he gets rejected he is onto the next option. Meanwhile the nice guy implies what he wants and hopes for an answer to his unstated request for sexual relations. So he waits 6-12 months before either scoring or deciding to move on with a broken heart (after she's been with CT). Chad's time…
/r/askTRP07/09/15 11:35 AM
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I read this as "dick-seeking robots on to the netflix" and I was thinking that sounds pretty awesome. Who doesn't want netflix and chill after sex?
/r/askTRP07/09/15 11:27 AM
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You don't owe her anything. Someone on here said the other day, "Sometimes sportfuckin' is just sportfuckin'!" OTOH you don't have to settle. It could be good practice for your strategy. She can be a plate and you can make sure she knows she is a plate. Your response "not looking for anything serious" is a great way to start that kind of relationship. I know what you mean about "good body, bad face". Have you considered turning her over?
/r/askTRP07/09/15 11:26 AM
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I am in full agreement. You ever see the movie "When Harry Met Sally?" That's the whole plot. In friendship with a woman you are an orbiter. And if you truly have no sexual interest in her (maybe she's seriously fat or otherwise a turn-off) then she'll be sexually interested in you instead. There's two steps to adopting this strategy (which is a great strategy for life). First, you need to handle the women you are already friends with. Second, you need to handle all the women you haven't met yet…
/r/askTRP07/09/15 11:18 AM
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Man you're 16. You have more testosterone than guys my age could obtain medically. Doesn't matter how skinny or fat you are, hit the gym. That's the number 1 priority. That'll take a long time. Do it for a year. For us old guys a year is like, "Yeah, I'll give it a go for at least a year." But for a 16 year old I understand that a year is like a fucking lifetime. It's worth it though! Here's my advice: Hit the gym. Go 3-5 times per week if possible. Study technique, watch some youtube vids for t…
/r/askTRP07/09/15 11:07 AM
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Have a direct conversation about this behavior. Tell him the difference between cockblocking vs. being a wingman. He's a guy. You can be direct. Tell him that he needs to start contributing to your sexual successes. Give him some pointers about how he can help. Make it constructive. Be a team. If he doesn't go along with you then he's a beta bitch who can't handle your success or he's gay and secretly in love with you. Some pointers you can give him: Assistance with pre-selection. "Dude, what's …
/r/askTRP07/09/15 10:56 AM
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This is an offshoot of the common wife statement we hear after the husband starts hitting the gym: "It's nice that you're doing this for me." Think, say, act such that your message is "This is all about me." There is no reason to justify self-improvement. Of course, there's no reason to provide justification for anything. You don't owe her an explanation and if you feel the need to justify yourself then you are submitting and not dominating. The crying is perfect because it comes from a place of…
/r/askMRP07/09/15 10:43 AM
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she knew I'd want to use it on her during sex and she didn't. Don't use it on her. Tell her to use it on herself during sex. If that doesn't work, tell her you want to watch her use it on herself. Besides all this, it's just not a big deal. Guys jerk off and typically hide it from their partners when and how often. So a woman wants to use a vibe. It's better for them than their fingers, gets the job done much quicker. My wife was against using it during sex too. I told her that when she uses it …
/r/askMRP07/09/15 10:34 AM
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This won't work. She'll be getting more action than you, simply due to the benefit of operating a vagina. She will be the first to break the "rules". You'll be out with the kids and she'll have someone over. She will constantly try to fish for info about your dating success, just to make sure hers is perceived as better. It's going to cost you as much as marriage does. And if any woman you are trying to bed finds out what you're doing they are going to RUN as far away as possible. Women will hap…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/15 09:55 AM
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There's no such thing as an "ironclad prenup", at least in the USA. Do your research and you'll see how easily they are shredded. Most of us are married. And quite a lot of us will also tell non-married people what they say at the main sub: Don't get married.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/15 09:47 AM
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If it gets you laid. In your case perhaps it is working well. For the newer men coming in here (like you) who "don't fully buy into it" I want to make the strategy clear: Don't reward bad behavior. If you are providing this act of comfort and you are not receiving what you want as comfort in return (be it sex or otherwise), then you are her orbiting friend and not her intimate lover. Women talk to their girlfriends.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 05:58 AM
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And /r/askMRP
/r/askTRP27/08/15 06:53 PM
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Damn I love this post. You realize that your space is YOUR space, vocalize it, no whining, and she operates within your frame. Sex is a huge part this journey, but these non sexual achievements are solid indicators of your overall personal growth.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 07:28 AM
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Haven't pushed anything yet because I like her. You have Oneitis. If you don't push things, you will be friend zoned. You said she has strong TRP traits. So why are you being beta in your (non)approach? Escalate immediately. If you crash and burn, there are plenty of other women available for you to "like". Next time she sends you the text, just respond back: Aww, thanks for your compliments! That's enough talk. Let's go out this Friday on the kind of date that ends with you putting your lips on…
/r/askTRP27/08/15 06:50 AM
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This is true with or without the tits. Given what her body had been through, I'd say make the purchase. No covert contracts about it though. "If I buy her new tits, she'll let me motorboat them everyday."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/15 08:59 PM
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Definitely. OP's situation sounds like monk mode is the right tool. Not a tool for more sex. A tool to get his head on straight and take his balls back from her. Also, when she says you work out too much, that's just as wonderful as when she calls you an asshole. Both are signs you're doing great.
/r/askMRP23/08/15 08:42 PM
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I don't know of any books that talk about fatherhood from TRP perspective, but I wish there was. It would basically say, "Don't raise a beta boy and don't raise a Disney princess girl." Rule #1: Be present. Rule #2: Lead by example with the kids' mother. It is perfectly fine to be flirty, cocky, and show PDA in front of the kids. This is the primary method parents teach their kids. Our words mean little. Kids always follow our actions. Rule #3: Talk with your kids with thought provoking question…
/r/askMRP23/08/15 08:33 PM
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A lot of them will respond positively. Various reasons: she likes you, you're safe, it's kinky/dangerous, you look good, etc. How you proceed depends on the kind of man you are and I certainly won't judge your choices. But for Christ's sake, don't fuck your wife's sister.
/r/askMRP23/08/15 08:25 PM
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Someone started using my gmail address as their random login to sites. I started getting a lot of spam and crap from the northwest. I unsubscribed and managed most of it. So you never know...
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/15 08:05 PM
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I had exactly the same thing happen to me last night also! AM, Duggar, Jared, etc. She was so "disgusted". Regarding the AM dump, before she could even mention anything taking the conversation from the news to a personal reference ("I hope your name isn't on that list.") I said, "Yeah, I already looked up every name I know! I looked up your name, my name, our families... nothing!"
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/15 05:27 AM
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I didn't need to get buy in from the wife or anyone. I never told her I did it.
/r/askMRP20/08/15 01:05 PM
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I disagree about enforcing your right to a paternity test up front. It's like chastising a child for breaking a glass you haven't even bought yet. When the baby is born, discreetly have a paternity test done. It's simple, done by mail, very inexpensive. That's the way I did it. I actually never had any cause to suspect anything. But I remember thinking, "There are going to be times in the future where I may have doubt or people might joke about the mailman, and I never want to have any uncertain…
/r/askMRP20/08/15 04:42 AM
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I'm going to be the voice this time you don't want to hear. Children are great. Very rewarding. Extremely challenging, but completely manageable. I believe women should have them younger than the current trend is moving (for planned pregnancies). It's healthier for the babies. Younger wives are less tired and exhausted. They recover more quickly. The expense is controllable. The actual cost of having a baby in the US under normal conditions is pretty high, typically $3-6k depending on your insur…
/r/askMRP20/08/15 04:35 AM
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I was referring to women in LTRs and marriage, for whom this drug is targeted. They don't need a hamster to justify having sex with the beta guy they are stuck with. They justify why they shouldn't have to. And when the time for duty comes around, they often get drunk.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/15 02:22 PM
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I delegate daily decision-making regarding the children to my wife. I've asked her to handle all the daily stuff and not bother me at work. Simple things like deviating from the activity schedule, what to make them for breakfast, handling sass, etc. It's okay to empower the First Officer with the confidence to handle the tasks within her span of control. I hear you about the sex. I can have sex with my wife whenever I want, within reason. It's not like my wife didn't want to the whole time. I ju…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 10:24 AM
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Congratulations on having sex! I'll add a not-so-positive spin on this. When this happens to me I feel like I'm being rewarded and trained for good behavior. She isn't turned on by the tools. She just has one less thing to worry about. Here's my simple tip to keep the sex in your frame. Next time finish the job and make her wait. "That's a tempting offer, but I really want to finish this project I'm working on." And when you are finished, don't display it proudly like a boy showing something he …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 08:13 PM
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When you say you are "making changes" you are looking for a response from her, something you can use for validation. Stop that. You don't need her for your validation. She needs you for that. Go get your validation from your personal successes and your male friends. Don't tell her "how things are going to be". Just act. If she bitches then you keep quiet, keep reading, and keep improving. This will take time. One month for every year of marriage to see a turnaround. There's no shortcut.
/r/askMRP17/08/15 07:55 PM
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Countpudyoola is right. After several discussions about this you have every right to prevent her from wasting your time. Time is money. If you make $50/hour, she spent 6 of your hours at the office on the things she purchased. That's not even counting taxes... The real kicker though is when you realize she isn't capable of appreciating that time you spent. So just realize it and take the steps to protect yourself. It doesn't make her a horrible person. It's entirely normal.
/r/askMRP17/08/15 07:51 PM
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I think you did just fine for an early attempt. She thinks you're an asshole for saying that. Being called an asshole can be a good outcome. I wouldn't have been that overt though. When I get that type of response I say, "Yeah, that's fine. I'm not really tired so I'm going to stay up." Then I disappear to my cave or I go out for a while. She'll realize that you came to bed for sex only, not to sleep. She'll ask you to stay and cuddle or something. But in a situation where you actually want sex,…
/r/askMRP17/08/15 07:31 PM
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Every woman will be the same. They do not appreciate the sacrifices of their mate. Women say the same thing to their girlfriends. "He doesn't appreciate all the things I do for him." Well, maybe if she does the things he finds valuable, he'd appreciate her for those things. How does she find out what he finds valuable? You tell her. Don't expect her to guess. It can be brutal or poetic. It just has to be said. Then if she's willing to start providing those things maybe she's worth keeping.
/r/askMRP17/08/15 07:19 PM
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Newcomers, read the books in the sidebar. We say it all the time, and it truly makes all the difference. Read them.
/r/askMRP17/08/15 07:04 PM
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That's passive-aggressive. Tell her directly, "Your car is blocking access for other people. This isn't safe. If you can't park it in a way that doesn't block access, I'll call the authorities and they'll tow it." Just make sure you are actually correct and not being a bitch because the car was 5cm into your walking path.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 06:44 PM
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When a woman dates a Chad it gives her external validation, not from Chad but from her peers. Chad may be an awesome dude, your fit best friend. I'm not putting down Chad. Maybe they are good for each other. But always remember that he's her Oscar award. When her friends ask about him, she has a prepared acceptance speech. If she's single or if she dates a fatass, she'll be the lowest social member of her peer group.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 06:38 PM
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Especially with the boy who won't give her validation. It's a challenge for her now. Also, we're going to need those nudes... for science.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 06:31 PM
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Wherever it is, go with a few friends and just have a good time. If she shows up, invite her to join your group. If not, then who cares? If she asks why you invited someone else you can talk straight, "You're flaky. I don't like to party alone. But I'm glad you showed up." Now you might not get her home because of this maneuver. Who cares if you are still having fun? Your outcome independence about a questionable possibility of a sexual apex on Friday will illustrate your solid frame. Then you c…
/r/askTRP17/08/15 06:27 PM
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Let me tell you about Father Jeff. He was one of my teachers, maybe 30 at the time. He was alpha as fuck. When he wasn't teaching or leading Mass, he was in the gym. 12% bodyfat. The women at Mass adored him. He could have had his pick of the congregation. My older sister worshiped him and talked about him when I would visit home. None of it mattered to him. Entirely Outcome Independent. The way he taught my seminary class was with this lesson: "Let's say you are here at point A and over here on…
/r/askTRP17/08/15 06:21 PM
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It is about becoming a better man. The idea is that we become the kind of man that women want to fuck. Not through trickery or being devious. Just by being an RP man, tingles are induced. Also, I come from MRP, not TRP. I've already made the first mistake (getting married) before many younger TRP subscribers were born. Above everything else I would offer as advice, this is the most important: Don't Ever Get Married.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 02:43 PM
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I didn't say not to play games. Golf, soccer, baseball, chess, swimming, scuba diving, climbing, etc etc, are awesome. My comment is about escapism. Activities we pursue which provide us a psychological reward for avoiding the real world and real life should be avoided or consumed in moderation. Reading fiction is fine, but if you come home from work or school every single day, go to your room, and read until bedtime, then you are avoiding reality. Same with playing Skyrim (my favorite game) for…
/r/askTRP14/08/15 02:34 PM
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RP is about being the best man you can be. That's it. It's not about women, it's not about sex. Those are results, not goals, of the journey. To become a man, you have to grow up. We put childish behaviors behind us. We do not validate ourselves as victims. Instead we take responsibility for all of our actions and resulting consequences. I don't want to be harsh, but time is more valuable than we realize. It should not be wasted on escapism. Live in this world, be a part of reality, obtain real …
/r/askTRP14/08/15 09:46 AM
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A lot of negging and teasing. Like all the time. And don't talk too much. She's a teenager, she'll talk like ALL the time anyways. Don't talk about yourself because one sensible word from you and she'll realize you have like almost nothing in common. Don't agree with all her bullshit. Understand that these things are like very serious to her, but from our perspective it seems like simple and shallow. Like music... OMG they think music SOUL DEFINING, meaning of life like stuff. We are like, "This…
/r/askTRP10/08/15 01:30 PM
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Both of my sisters had the tearing also. After years of the discomfort one of them had a surgery to correct it. She called it a bladder tuck but it sounded like a hernia surgery with mesh. Instant recovery, she said her life was a ton better. My other sister had it done a couple of months later and felt the same relief.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/15 05:49 AM
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I have read that taking testosterone supplements will permanently lower your t-cell count and if you stop taking them your body won't go back to the previous baseline. Is this true? I've been considering t-cell therapy but I don't want to be stuck with it for the rest of my life. One other thing I've read... Considered as "side ffect" by many men who use testosterone therapy is infidelity. I read about this in forums and I know 2 men who use testosterone injections. Many men (including the 2 I k…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/15 08:26 AM
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Sounds great! You told her to be quiet, you showed her you are handling it, and most importantly you assigned her a task that is within her span of control (the food). You aren't weak for being stressed out in difficult situations. You become weak by not controlling and managing yourself during those situations.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/15 06:29 AM
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I'm in the midst of dealing with this right now. She was looking over my shoulder at a post and I wasn't logged into reddit so my username was visible in the login window. She didn't say anything but I clearly saw this questioning look in her eyes when she noticed it's not the username she knows. That was yesterday. She hasn't been on reddit since. I expect she will be. I removed some questionable content but I left most of it up. I may change my username still. I value specific situational advi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 06:16 PM
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"I'm highly motivated when it comes to you." She's not special, of course. But she wants to feel that way.
/r/askTRP11/06/15 11:36 AM
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This is it right here. When sex is about to happen just take what you want and take it how you want it. It's better if you aren't a 2 pump chump... If you are then I don't know how to help you. For me, I usually start in the "boring mode" and start changing the situation after a moment. I can't stand the boring shit so I switch to "move to this position" or "lets go to this location". I have treated my wife slutty and rough. She clearly loves it at the time but she'll never talk about it outside…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/15 06:05 PM
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My wife complained that she was "sore" from having sex twice the previous day. My response was, "Is your jaw sore?". I didn't actually get a blowjob from that one, but I got a kick out of it and that look she gave me was priceless.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/15 05:56 PM
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I've been having candid conversations with my son (11) and daughter (7) about entitlement. Unfortunately my wife is completely inconsistent and doesn't see the value in explaining things to the kids. She does things for them or not completely depending on what she feels like at the time (AWALT). These are some of the statements I use with the children. I treat most requests (which is pretty much everything a child wants) as an opportunity for negotiation. I don't have "hard no's". If it's someth…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/15 05:47 PM
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I'd say this is great. You make changes in yourself to improve your life and take control of yourself. This is not an easy process, nor is it quick. She's had the reins for a long time. You've taken them back. Now she is being forced to change herself and she doesn't quite realize that yet. Just keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/15 03:18 AM
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That statement would apply to a lot of things in life, not just my wife! "I want something good to happen to me without any effort." Sounds feminine actually.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/15 01:08 AM
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The thing that bothers me the most now about my negativity regarding her "not initiating" is that it was entirely internal. At no point in the morning did I give her any indicators that I was interested. It was basically internal dialogue. I didn't make a contract, I didn't do or offer anything in exchange. I just thought it would be great if she did, and then I was disappointed when she didn't. Not sure why expected something might be different. I've changed, she hasn't, but I've only been arou…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/15 12:52 AM
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I've been home 2 nights, had sex 2 nights already. I need to get over this concept of me wanting her to initiate. I realized right away that I was thinking incorrectly. I have plenty of sex. I need to figure out what exactly I want out of sex and then determine what is something I can control and what I can't control. I'm going to keep enjoying myself and avoid thought processes where I allow my happiness to be influenced by having unspoken expectations of other people.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 04:07 PM
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I wasn't practicing anything. I was just being myself. I got a free donut. IT WAS JUST A DONUT!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 03:57 PM
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I know! I tied up that BP bitch and hid him in the closet. He tries to get out now and then.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 03:54 PM
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First, I want you to believe the following statement. Second, say the following to your wife. "Fortunately for me, I really don't care about your opinion on my career choices." Seriously dude, I'm impressed. I'm in IT and know these roles. You've made a big leap. You have a lot more potential opportunity in this technology sector. Spend some of your time in "learning mode" going over analytics and the application layer above your DB layer. It may not be directly useful in the beginning. But this…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 02:42 PM
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You aren't responsible for her happiness. Don't worry about it. She can tell you if she is unhappy. When your wife says "I have a problem and I think you can help me fix it", then you have somewhere to start. Without that, keep cruising.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 02:16 PM
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Keep it up. Get to the point where the growth status of your facial hair has absolutely nothing to do with your wife. Don't even think about her feelings regarding it. If you are consciously doing it as a flair item for garnering and measuring female response then do it for women in general rather than a woman in specific. If you have a rocking beard and women notice you positively, you don't have to a say thing. Your wife's attitude with adjust directly from noticing the other attention you rec…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 02:19 PM
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These are interesting indicators but I generally agree with all the other comments. I have no interest in tracking anything more than her period so that I know when to lessen my asshole side and so that I know when to expect blood on my dick. Captain, don't take it too harshly. You know how we are as a group of comrades. We rip each other to shreds. That's what friends are for.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 02:09 PM
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I know we have the reading list on the sidebar. For all these new men joining and asking the same question we should add something basic to the FAQ. For example: Just swallowed the red pill? Follow these steps! Understand this is not a fast process. There is no quick fix. If you've been married 10+ years, it will take at least one year for you to regrow your testicles. Read MMSLP by Athol Kay. This explains the MAP. You will understand why we lift and why it takes so long. Read NMMNG. This will …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 05:23 AM
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If you give up power you won't get it back ever in the same proportion. Pregnancy is like marriage, indoctrinated as an entitlement for women. Remember that it is a biological function and women have been doing it since the beginning of life without the entitlements they receive now. If she tries to make you a servant, encourage her to be stronger. Don't treat her any differently. Say, "You're just pregnant, not crippled. Women have been doing this for over 100,000 years." My only concession wou…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/15 09:36 AM
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I'm turn on this one. You aren't happy and you don't have kids. It's an easy exit strategy. However, my wife used to be extremely lazy and it drove me fucking crazy. When we had our son all that changed. I think she realized, "Crap I'm a grown up now, I should clean this place up a little." She is neater now. Not perfect, but more than enough to satisfy me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/15 08:16 PM
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You are doing excellent fulfilling the role just by doing it. I wish there were more male teachers at the lower grade levels. There are two in my son's school. 4th and 5th. Each grade has 6 classes. Nearly every parent, mom and dad, request the male teachers, regardless if their kids are boys or girls. Just being a leader of children and a male is a huge leap for early masculinity understanding. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/15 04:20 PM
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Basically yes. Look at the Bodyweight Bible, You Are Your Own Gym. Applied correctly it is excellent. There are no gyms where I'm living now so I had to switch to this. I've actually seen better physical results than when I was at my gym in the States. But that's also because there are no processed foods where I live, so I have plenty of fresh meat and vegetables everyday. Diet is just as important. Not just for weight loss but for mass gain.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/15 08:22 AM
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No responses to her are going to work. By the time she gives you this rejection you've already fucked up and you need to vacate. We've got too much to do this wekeend Don't let her dictate your schedule. Go out of your way to make plans to do something by yourself. Hopefully the gym, but it could be a hobby also. Or going out with a buddy. You don't have to let her know until last minute or until that moment when she lays her plans over yours and expects your capitulation. There are two of us in…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/15 06:16 PM
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I want to suggest something else is going on. She said divorce. Told you. Then got serious and saw a divorce attorney. The attorney told her the facts and that her best strategy to minimize loss is to be better prepared. So she tells you she changed her mind. But really, she's doing the same thing you are doing. This may not be what is going on, but you should look around at what's going on with her to see if it might be.
/r/askTRP22/05/15 10:45 AM
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Biggest thing that changed this for me was reading the section called "The Bedroom Technician" from the book "Sex God Method". That was me. 30-90 second chump. So I followed the advice. The results were immediate. 5+ minutes stamina, easy. I can probably go as long as I want now. Read it. Stop giving her any consideration and special preference in bed. You don't owe her anything. She is responsible for her own satisfaction. I'm not saying to stop eating pussy or contributing to her orgasms. But …
/r/askTRP22/05/15 10:40 AM
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I really like your initial responses. You obviously weren't ready for the discussion so you completely deflected it, vacated, and gave yourself time to collect your thoughts and prepare. Now give us the follow up!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/15 04:19 AM
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Good point about the tingles. He already told us what she said, "is this because we aren't having sex anymore." Her first thoughts were of sex. She's thinking of sex. He didn't even have to bring it up. This is an opportunity for sexual escalation as a response.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/15 03:46 AM
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Regarding the impulsive ass/boob grab. If it is negatively received maybe use "You realize I have a quota to achieve right?"
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 09:52 PM
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It's progress. Not huge progress. It's a small step. Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 09:50 PM
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I'm not sure why this is here... When new people come here asking for advice we tell them to read the sidebar material first. If someone wants help with lifting exercises, go to the gym or /r/fitness. You can tell someone how to lift all you want. 99% of them won't even start. Lets keep the focus on why to lift, not how.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 09:48 PM
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Just cause I'm not doing anything doesn't mean that time is free. I'm going to borrow this.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 12:26 PM
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If you want to fuck her, fuck her. If you don't, don't. If you don't find her attractive at all, don't fuck/turn the lights off/turn her over. Why do the numbers really matter if it's just sex and you want to get your dick wet with her? If you are talking about a relationship then forget it. You already have doubts and that's the worst way to start a relationship.
/r/askTRP21/05/15 06:58 AM
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I am with you about lack of sleep. It wears on you after a week or so. Fortunately it only takes 1-2 days to catch up.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 06:50 AM
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Your precious time can include relaxation. You deserve some time free of responsibilities. This is a completely valid expectation. You don't need to explain or justify. I do suggest planning ahead though so you are more capable of maintaining your state. When I've been in this situation I have told my wife, "I can't do that, I have other plans." Of course she asks what it is. I say, "Absolutely nothing. And if I end up doing something, then I'm not doing nothing and that fucks up my plans."
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 06:49 AM
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It is going to take many of these engagements to "fit in", but you will. Think about the Hollywood meme of a man in group therapy who doesn't participate in circle discussion. But after many visits he finally says one or two words and is accepted. You've been in the female social circle for a long time. It takes a while to figure out how to integrate into the male social circle. Ultimately it is more rewarding. You can fuck up and be forgiven very easily since we don't harbor grudges or resentme…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 06:32 AM
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Since no one has said it yet... Don't get married. All these things you are fearing: the framing, the plans, oneitis, the expectations you have for failure (before you're even married)... They scream that you aren't ready. Maybe you won't ever be ready. That's perfectly okay. I can guarantee you this: Right now you don't have any marital problems to fix. But no matter how you frame and no matter how golden the horn is on your unicorn, after you get married there will be marital problems to fix. …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 06:26 AM
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It doesn't matter. He can present the exact same breakfast request every single day without variance and she will selectively interpret it as "her choice" or "his demand" depending on how she feels that morning.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 06:00 AM
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From the sidebar material, when dealing with women using cleaning (or anything commoditized) as a source of resentment. You can say, "I'd rather have a relationship where sex is based on mutual attraction rather than one where I trade my labor in exchange for sex." It's a harsh truth, but still a nicer way of saying, "If you are going to reward me with sex for the services I provide around here, that means you are a whore." Which is what she'll hear no matter how you say it. Of course, she will …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 05:49 AM
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I have one word for you: Don't change.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 07:55 PM
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Since you've unplugged, do you think your experience here would have made you react differently in the startup against that sr. mgmt guy? I have found that my RP alpha views are very strong in the workplace and it shows very well with the level of respect given to me now.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 07:55 PM
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The truth is harsh. I want to thank everyone who has been brutally honest with me as I've contributed. I felt like deleting posts. I decided not to. I am who I am and that criticism is still valuable now. Unplugging isn't easy. The journey is painful. It is not fast. It requires sacrifice.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 07:53 PM
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My forearms were sore for a few days after the first time. It's designed for the biceps, but it's turned out to be the absolute best routine I've found for my forearms too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 07:39 PM
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That's what I'm wondering. The point in unplugging when we realize that the solution begins internally and happiness is our own responsibility - that is a heavy weight and a lot of work. I think many men might think it's not worth the effort. It is hard to break out of comfort zones. Results don't come quick.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 11:49 AM
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What was omitted?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 11:44 AM
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My own anger comes and goes like this, and it has been almost two years. I recognize it and apply it thoughtfully. When it feels uncapped I'm heading to the gym. The problem with the old captain hasn't gone away. You came here for a reason. Her behavior is predictable. If you revert to the old captain, she will revert also and you will eventually rediscover the dissatisfaction which led you to this point. Keep moving forward. Direct the anger toward useful purposes, not at your wife. This isn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 10:55 AM
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You are responsible for the physical safety of your wife, your children, and probably any other women and children who are currently under your care (mother, sister, friends, etc). Men have a great instinctive understanding of physically threatening situations. Trust your instinct. Train your wife and children to act, not think, when you are acting in the interest of their safety. I had lunch with a woman friend at a local mall last weekend. Normally this is a very safe mall and we go there ofte…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 07:42 AM
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Women are strange. Apparently not to you. You knew exactly what to expect, you took precautions, you handled yourself well. It seems that on the contrary, she is entirely predictable to you. Excellent work!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 07:26 AM
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Heavy weights is definitely the most important. It builds faster, releases tension, increases t-cell, and is an good outlet for anger. Specific physique features are important also. Arms and shoulders are one of the easiest to develop and are quickly appreciated by women ^as ^long ^as ^everything ^isn't ^hidden ^under ^inches ^of ^adipose... I highly recommend reading this post about biceps. I added it to my lifting routine and I'm amazed.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 07:22 AM
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Define "orbiter": /or-bit-her/ The male in the type of relationship where the female gains provisioning and validation from the male and demands the male have no sexual expectation. What you are describing is textbook orbiter / BP. WTF are you thinking? This is the wrong approach in many ways. You should always have the expectation for sex in a marriage if you desire to have sex (with her). An exception may be when you are married to a cow and have no desire for sex. You cannot turn off the expe…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 07:15 AM
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Good work on your improvement! A two week trip for reflection is honestly not enough time. Do NOT make any rash decisions. You have plenty of time. Your relationships post-divorce will be exciting. You can be 60 and feel the angst emotions you felt as a teenager. But in the end, AWALT. If you plan to settle down again later you will have to deal with that. Maybe you will start with a better frame. But it may not be worth the divorce and reinvestment in wife 2.0. It takes a lot of effort and you'…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/15 09:25 AM
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Chris Rock has a great comedy spiel about listening to a woman complain about work. You don't have to say anything except what you said, "Punch her in the leg!" Except Chris rock says "I told you that bitch was crazy." There is a fine line between listening as her BFF (girlfriend) and listening as her AF. Don't respond like her girlfriend. And I don't recommend ignoring or walking out on the conversation. But put a limit on it, otherwise she could run her mouth for hours. A girlfriend will respo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 07:19 AM
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You are absolutely right about just "shut up". There are many RP techniques in the sidebar materials. C&F, amused mastery, fogging, etc. These certainly work but the average novice is unplugging with a lot of anger. The problem with the RP tactics is their effectiveness is reduced if you do not truly have OI and an IDGAF attitude. Try to be C&F or AM while you are internally angry about the situation and you are likely to play the tactic horribly. The easiest thing for any novice (and intermedia…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 07:04 AM
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Congrats on your first flirt success! The temptation is normal and it went away. It'll be back when you see her again. There is a good chance she'll see you and approach you next time. Think about the testicular seizure (male tingles) that you had when she returned your kino. Now realize that she had a higher tingle response than you. She will want that again from you. As for the poker face, that will go away after your approach strategy grows. I don't mention anything to my wife anymore. That w…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 06:39 AM
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I'm going to echo what everyone what is saying: this is all about you. A lot of us have been or are in the same situation. First of all, realize that all women have insecurities. Even the hottest woman won't want you to gaze at her pussy because one lip is slightly larger than the other, or she has a tiny mole on her breast. Your wife could lose all the weight and something will still bother her. You deal with this by just ignoring it. Focus on yourself. In the bed, focus on yourself. Tell her w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/15 12:09 PM
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SGM is a quick read, which is great because you will definitely re-read it after first applying it to your sex life.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/15 11:50 AM
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I've been traveling (90%, months at a time) enough to realize that validation of missing you is a falsehood. She doesn't miss you. She misses the comfort and ease that you provide her. She misses the free time she has to give up while you are away. For me, I was unhappy at first. Now it doesn't bother me. I realize it is just the natural order of things, especially when children are involved. Men>women>children It's her actions when you get home that make the difference. And OP, your wife's acti…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/15 09:36 PM
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I'm glad to see you've reached this insight. It's absolutely true. No one gives a crap about you, except for you. Humans are a social species but as men we are truly alone. Anger at others for this reason serves no purpose, you cannot be angry with a stone for being made of stone. Take this realization and remember it everyday like a mantra. You will find true happiness with it. And remember that if you come across people who seem to care about your feelings, dreams, hopes, and goals... they hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 05:34 PM
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It sounds like he didn't do any chores-for-reward. He did stuff that needed to be done, irrelevant of the approval situation from his wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 05:06 PM
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Just the opposite. Ejaculation decreases testosterone. Studies have shown it maxes out around 5 days with no ejaculation though. So if you don't for a month it's not a constant increase. Lifting increases T also, as does eating meat. Not by huge amounts though although it is possible to tell a difference, at least to myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 05:16 AM
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This is a great comment and a good concept. You do it for yourself, as we know male relationships are essential to masculinity. But at the same time you gently aid him without trying to force the pill down his throat.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 05:04 AM
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Thanks for clarifying with the edit. At first I thought, WTF is the matter with you? Dread is supposed to be covert, not overt (take it from me, I learned the hard way). Leaving the house in the evening is not the only way to run the dread program. Dread means you imply from your actions that you realize you do not require her validation (in whatever form you seek it from her). Dread means that she infers from your actions that you have options and whatever she's providing (validation) you can p…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/15 12:11 PM
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Closest I ever got was yesterday. It strikes me as odd that after a couple of years since swallowing TRP, there are still situations that strike harshly as RP truth and put me into the anger phase all over again.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/15 10:25 AM
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Wow. I'm stunned by this and the other posts. You are completely out of control. You are beyond anger and well into rage. Your problem is you, not your wife. Take a break from engaging her (for her own sake, she can't change the past), maybe for a couple of weeks. Focus on your life, your interests, your friends. Don't talk about her, try not to think about her.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 09:18 AM
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The best thing that happened in my bedroom was when I stopped worrying about her orgasm. It's her responsibility. Seriously just stop giving a fuck about it. Don't be a pussy technician. Make sure you have a vibrator of some type available. Since I stopped worrying about her orgasm two things have happened: She orgasms more often. But she directly asks me to use the vibrator on her or she uses it herself. Or else she wants to do it in one of the positions she can orgasm in, which is awesome beca…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 09:10 AM
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Nice idea. "What are you doing for me for our anniversary?" "Well I've got a few great ideas but I can't do all of them. I'd like to know what you're doing for me before I choose." Might be a winning strategy. And always said with my smirk and cocky funny. She'll think I might be lieing. That's okay.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 03:40 PM
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I read SGM, it's been working pretty well. We definitely aren't lacking in the bedroom (although we were for a long time until about three years ago). And the quality is pretty good, no starfish. I'm just stuck with some issues of fine tuning at this point, plus learning how to encapsulate my display of desire for maximum effect. I didn't read the books in order. Now I'm on Pook. Good stuff. I think my wife will be happiest just because I'm staying. I was planning on returning to work the week b…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 03:33 PM
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Well, either a woman has forgone the CC or gave up the CC (depending on age at marriage). That's their sacrifice. And we are supposed to thank them, apparently.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 03:27 PM
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Fiona. A cute, chubby Fiona. Definitely not donkey, although she does like waffles. Maybe that's what I'll do. Waffles.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 03:22 PM
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Don't go dark if you have quality posts to share with us. Also let us know if you fucked or fucked up last night (not too much detail though).
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 06:30 AM
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This kind of personal admission thread should go into the "Own Your Shit Weekly" sticky. Everyone who is getting good bedroom activity will have other issues since no one is perfect. For myself, I've got an abundance of bedroom activity but the "issues" are how I'm working on myself mentally to get TRP mentality throughout the scope of my life. Work, fatherhood, marriage, friendships, family, etc. My two biggest challenges are that I come off as an asshole a lot of the time (need to do more cock…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 06:26 AM
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Scenario 2 Women talk a lot with their friends. They have discussions with friends about "this article I read", "my favorite vampire show", or "this bitch I work with". Women don't fuck their friends. Don't be your wife's friend. Shut Up and then Shut the Fuck Up<sup>TM</sup> Wonderful advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 07:50 AM
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I follow the ketogenic diet (/r/keto). We don't track calories, we track crabs. The time spans are different. I started recording my BF% (Jackson Pollock 5 point) and muscle measurements a couple of years ago. I'm only mentioning the weight loss from Feb 1 of this year. That's because since I started this international job in April 2014, I stopped following my low-carb diet and I gained nearly 20 lbs. I decided on Feb 1 to get back into the low-carb intake routine. EDIT: Crabs are delicious and …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/15 06:06 AM
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Wrecked. Breaking old habits is difficult.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/15 04:27 AM
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"Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved." I believe it has nothing to do with her actual feelings. Since I consciously stopped saying "I love you" first, it has revealed the status quo for the first time in 17 years: I've always said it first. It's only been about 2 weeks. Let's see what 2 months brings.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/15 04:26 AM
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Based on your last bullet point, I have a problem. Not sure how to deal with it. If I don't say it first, it doesn't get said. Maybe I should just wait a bit longer and be less lovey-dovey.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 10:50 PM
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Best advice here. Texting for logistics only. If we need to talk we use Skype video. Similar situation though... I didn't have a particular purpose for calling her so I didn't. She called me today. First time I talked with her in 3 days.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 10:46 PM
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I definitely need to develop more friendships and spend time with friends. I have plenty of friends here that I hang out with everyday, but unfortunately most of them are women. Not helping the situation much...
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 10:39 PM
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I'm slightly less than her frequency now, although my response time is quicker. My main goal is to just not initiate text conversations as often. I feel like she should come to me more often with it instead of me chasing her down. Instead, I'm realizing that she's apparently not that interested in texting me. Maybe it's a needed wake up call for me to realize I'm too coddling.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 10:36 PM
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I am a lifting fanatic. I love lifting. Gym 4 days per week, usual 45-60 minutes of solid lifting. Weight 97.9kg to 93.2kg since Feb 1 (6'4"). One year progress on biceps: 13" to 14.5", other parts are similar (I track it in MFP using myotape). Deadlift is my least favorite and healthiest exercise. This is because I can't lift much because of lower spine surgery, but the deadlift makes my back feel great (no pain as long as I keep deadlifting regularly). One year progress on bench is 125lbs up t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 10:29 PM
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Can you give a couple more examples of ways to express emotions without vomiting them? How do you make her feel loved without saying it? I know it's not by mowing the grass or doing the dishes!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 09:23 PM
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BPP made a good point. You told us that you drank quite a bit then gave this chick a ride home. So you were drunk/buzzed driving at night with a chick who was polishing your knob. Don't drink and drive.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 09:19 PM
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Next time my wife is lazy about the trimming, I'm going down there and I'll do my best Chewbacca roar. When she flips out and asks what the fuck that's about, I'll just tell her I'm talking to the Wookie between her legs.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 09:11 PM
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The maxim about female attire is: "Men dress nice to impress other women. Women dress nice to impress other women." Making it personal is a message of affection and respect. If my wife wears a low cut shirt, I love it but I realize it's not just for my benefit. (If she wears sexy panties, yeah that's for my benefit.) If the OP's SO doesn't care if she wears sweats or other poor fashion choices, maybe he wants her to cover up because he thinks she is male-attention seeking. That's not how it work…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/15 07:02 AM
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I agree with you. I'm guilty of this as are many others who are still somewhat new. "Lurk more, read more", "Comments are welcome, shitty posts aren't". If new members want to post, it should be about a real-world failure FR type event where everyone can provide constructive feedback to help the new person. Examples of bad posts are: "I'm new here and I don't know where to get started." (sidebar materials) "Holy crap it all works I finally fucked her ass!" (basically just a pornographic FR) "[Me…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/15 06:53 AM
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This still doesn't explain when he gets more blowjobs. If she says no and you go all SGM on her, then she's being rewarded for not sucking the dick. I don't have the answer and I'd like to know how this could play out in the long run toward obtaining more oral. In my case she sucks it whenever I want it. But she doesn't yet do it on her own. I think I'm pretty early on with the SGM (since about last November with large gaps of time between visits). Eventually after enough instances of sex where …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 05:27 AM
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Seriously it is. It's like I don't want to do it, but I just do. Almost like an addictive substance.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/15 07:50 PM
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I text my wife too much. I looked at our history and the word count is probably 10:1. I initiate text conversations 4 out of 5 times. She is all thumbs and can't type fast so I think that has something to do with the word count. Last week after my texting fiasco I needed to really think about how I text with her. I started thinking, this is what we preach about texting... we text less to force her to come into our frame and for subtle dread effect. Maybe she's doing it to me! So I didn't text he…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/15 01:36 AM
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Of course she could mow. She did it all of last year. It's a riding mower! But she doesn't want to use the weed-eater. I understand that since she is small and I bought a big one. That was my chore. Anyways, I'm not concerned about the money. It's the principle behind smart spending. This is something that surprised me after I married her. I was impressed before marriage because she made so little money but she had her own apartment, car, modest savings, and zero debt. I figured she could manage…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/15 01:14 AM
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I put her in charge of the bills, not the spending. She doesn't spend anything without asking me first. I'm not pretentious about it. She feels it is the right thing to do. I told her she pays the main 5 monthly bills each month without talking to me about it. She also knows I have a separate account and she does not have access to it. This lawn thing is the first time we've run across this issue where a financial decision needs to be made by her but it should have been done by me. But I'm not g…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/15 01:05 AM
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My wife does the cocoon thing with the sheets too. I told her it bothers me because of the barrier. She said she was cold. I told her to share the cocoon. Now she always shares the cocoon. Until it gets too hot and I bail out.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 06:00 PM
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Continue working on yourself. This is not about other people, this is about you. Becoming a stronger, more capable physical person is about you and your personal power. The way your wife is treating you is something she learned. Who did she learn it from? Without a doubt: her mother. Now her mother is dieing, and is either in pain or on narcotics (hospice is good with narcotics) so she has very little barriers when talking with your wife. Your wife may come to her senses afterward, or she won't.…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 09:54 PM
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Absolutely, but my wife has this damn Saturday morning thing. Maybe it's her way of coping? I don't really like it much, it feels too obligated. I mean, I do it of course because it's sex... We usually hook up often during week, but if it's been a few days she reverts to Saturday morning sex. I just don't get it at all. It's usually really vanilla too, compared to other times of the week. Maybe she needs comfort sex or reassurance sex... she doesn't even care if she gets off on these occasions.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 09:10 PM
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Dread. It works wonders. Just make sure you keep it covert (not like I've done a few times). If she has this reluctance, you should probably communicate about specific acts beforehand. Women freak out easily. My suggestion is to take it to the next level in conversation. And NO ASKING. Just factual statements. "Look honey, I know you are unsure about putting my balls in your mouth. But that's besides the point. You need to lighten up about your asshole."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 09:03 PM
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Lurk more, read the sidebar. Take notes. Look, I know if you started going to the gym 4-6 weeks ago, you are feeling great and seeing results. That's the way men are physically, we gain quickly. But she isn't seeing the results. Once you are in the anger phase with rage over your wife, and then you slowly get over it after weeks-months... then you start another anger phase over the feminine social imperative. It's a long process and until you realize it isn't about sex at all (that's why we star…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 08:41 PM
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It's a bed. Did you at least have sex on it yet? Add that to the discussion. It's a bunk bed. There are two beds I presume...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 07:17 PM
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Correct. Who gives a crap about furniture layout? If it serves the purpose then great, as long as it doesn't drain the bank account. It's not your home office or cave. The only thing I worry about is their finickiness concerning furniture decisions (and pretty much all their decisions). I put a stop to too-frequent furniture replacement years ago. "Are you sure this is the couch you can live with for 10 years? That's how long you're going to have it."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 07:15 PM
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I've been exactly here. If you agree to go to therapy (this is not a requirement!) then either you overrule her decision about which therapist or you go to the therapist the first time and then say you will continue to go only if you can see a different therapist. You don't have to give reasons. "I don't like him." is all that is required. Because that's all that would matter if the roles were reversed. If the therapist is a good therapist he/she will call her out on her controlling bullshit. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 07:07 PM
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Safe to be a slut with you despite what society says b/c she trusts you I'd like more information about this point. How do you introduce the safety aspect? Direct talking? Slowly building trust by accepting and encouraging increasingly slutty behavior? Express my satisfaction after a kinky escapade - either right away or the next day?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/15 07:55 AM
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Just had the talk by video chat. Went well. She did most of the talking. With the help of all these comments I figured out that I was a complete dick. My actions were angry and vindictive. The dread is already at max, more is unnecessary. She was a wreck. Couldn't sleep at night. I've never seen her like that. I'm going to keep my texts to necessary info, planning, kid status, etc. Face to face video chat for personal discussions. It's the closest communication method I have in my situation. Als…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/15 06:00 AM
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Seriously, thanks for the constructive feedback. This is exactly what I'm going to do. I'm just going to drop the subject. Although many of the feedback comments here were brutal, they were helpful. We've already determined the dread is high simply because of this work situation. Why did I pull this stunt? You saw the FR from last weekend and how I felt after that. This new "dread" is just me punishing her for that, even though I already realize my resentment from that is because of a CC. I stil…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 05:35 AM
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I wish I could say "Make sure I'm too exhausted all weekend", but we're 8500 miles apart for two more months. I could say "It would be nice if you could make sure I was exhausted all weekend." But I don't want to sound like I'm too weak to say no, I would rather sound strong enough to say yes. I know it feels good to be found attractive. Great response. I should have made a bigger deal out of this. Something like, "Yeah, it's nice for a change" or "Yeah, that doesn't happen too often." A subtle …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 08:35 PM
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I don't want to totally ignore her before the weekend since I usually check in on my kids. But over the weekend I can avoid communication no problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 08:29 PM
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I'm thinking of not even checking in over the weekend. Maybe I could send a picture during the outdoor activity of me with my friends and of course CG will be right next to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 08:27 PM
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Any ideas related to this situation? I suspect I'll end up going for the weekend. Maybe nothing will happen, maybe it will. She'll be freaking out while I'm there, I just know it. So I'll also have room to respond afterward. Keep in mind this all by text and I won't actually see her physically for two months. I will video skype with her often though.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 08:26 PM
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Reading over this, I can see I'm still avoiding confrontation and conflict. Why am I so worried about her emotional state? I need to stop making her so comfortable.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 08:24 PM
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Every now and then, throw in a date night with NO expectations. I really like this concept. Not because of what it signals to her but for myself it is a reminder that going out just for going out can be fun. It is self-training regarding Covert Contracts. Honestly I don't think I've done this in years. I should think of something I just want to do for the fun of it that I know she would be interested in, then invite her to come with.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 06:40 AM
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What she's doing is a shit test, and your response is obviously the right response since you have her uneasy. I wouldn't change a thing. I wish you would make life with you comfortable. "I'm not responsible for your comfort. I couldn't be even if I tried. Your comfort level is entirely inside of you." Your actions are either out of spite or selfishness. "Nothing I'm doing is out of spite. I'm working toward being happier in my everyday life. I realize I can't rely on anyone but myself to manage …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 06:27 AM
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We've been married a long time (over 15 years), so I'm not too quick on have doubts about the future of our relationship based on the events of the past visit. This is definitely a departure from her usual demeanor. I still haven't figured out what is going on but I know something isn't right. I wish I could discuss her anxiety with her in person because I'll be more likely to get an answer than a remote chat. I was a PE pussy technician since we started having sex 16-17 years ago. Only in the l…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 04:48 AM
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She takes no medication besides BC. She has always had reservations around sex, I don't think this is recent. Looking back, I think as I've upped my dominance in the last 12-18 months, she has upped her anxiety. I suppose I do want to know, but I have no idea how to find out. If she hasn't told me after nearly 20 years, why would she tell me now? Of course, maybe I just need to ask the right question.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 04:33 PM
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Do you think if I have sex with someone I should tell my wife? I thought dread was about the threat of this kind of action. Not the action itself.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 04:29 PM
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I wouldn't have sex with anyone around me just for the dread effect. I feel like the dread is already on maximum and like you say, she isn't responding to it. If I do have sex with someone it'd be for my own reasons and I don't plan tell her. I've never cheated before, but I've also never had this much opportunity. I also don't really want a divorce. She's an exceptionally good wife in most regards. My complaints seem so minor compared to many other guys' situations but it's something that has b…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 04:26 PM
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Yeah and she doesn't seem to mind. She knows the reasons and she complains but not too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 04:03 PM
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Yeah, but none of these problems are unique to the trip. It has always been this way. That's why I swallowed the pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 04:02 PM
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Yeah, but I used that one a couple of months ago in a similar situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 04:01 PM
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I've been wondering the exact same thing. She is extremely sexually reserved. I think she has an anxiety complex. I asked her directly about this while on the trip. She said it's her upbringing and how her parents handled sex and displayed affection. After that she said that I am already so dominant in every aspect of our lives that she doesn't want me to be dominant in bed also. I honestly don't believe this reasoning at all. Parents' influence on sex usually has the opposite affect. And as for…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 03:59 PM
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Honestly? I'm not positive that I won't fuck her. I can't even foresee how that would change the dynamic between my wife and I.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 03:48 PM
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Great advice. I know she thinks I'm captive. Maybe she really thinks I'm captive and won't stray or maybe she doesn't care if I stray. Maybe she thinks she has me by the balls in some way. I do absolutely avoid conflict and confrontation. I can usually de-escalate any situation. It's basically what I do for a living. This is something I can work on with her remotely, so I'll work on it now. I need to figure out how I can make her think I'm not captive without actually fucking around. I've though…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 03:42 PM
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I advise you don't play the sexting game. If she starts it, then participate with leading questions. Things like: M: Wear the red panties. What color panties will you wear for me? Pretty much whatever she responds with, neg it. F: The red ones with the lace. ;) M: You won't wear them for long! Eh, those are old. What else is hidden in the drawer? Sexting should be her fantasy, not yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 08:13 AM
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Excellent analogy. Also applies to saving yourself. Until you are rock bottom (deeper than you think), you can't truly make the changes to save yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 07:45 AM
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In your situation, it is already time to call it quits. The cheating and erratic behavior are not acceptable or normal. We adhere to the philosophy of AWALT. This applies to the basic conditions of AF/BB, solipsism, hamstering, etc. Your wife's behavior is moderately psychotic. Get your affairs in order. Remain detached from your anger. Develop an exit strategy. Divorce and child support are not the end of the world. Based on your description, it is likely even with these fees for ending your co…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 07:42 AM
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The anger goes much deeper than you realize and surfaces the more you learn. I'm almost 3 years into my MAP and about 1 year post-pill. The anger I have right now is far more than I've felt before in various "waves" caused by increased levels of awareness and education. The difference is that when I have anger now, it is self-directed. I do not blame women, I do not blame my wife. Only I am accountable for my emotions and the only blame for failures has been my own lack of understanding or adher…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 07:35 AM
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Jesus Christ it's like a fucking soap opera. Don't stop now I'm hooked.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 05:36 PM
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I assume this means the leakage when she stands up afterward. Still a ridiculous excuse. She can use a towel or something that's what most women do.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 11:03 AM
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You have a looooong way to go buddy. Stop responding to her at work. None. Just work and socialize with your co-workers. Don't answer the phone, don't respond to text messages. If she isn't going to cook for you, then try going out after work for a bite without telling her. This is a little dread. When she starts the fight, say "How could you possibly think I'd want to come home to this situation?" Then leave again for minimum 3 hours.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 03:30 AM
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Unfortunately, yes. It will only get worse. That she finds this acceptable now is a bad sign of things to come. Even if she starts doing it more often when you tell her you are leaving, don't fall for it. After the contract is signed, she will revert. Never tell yourself, "Sex isn't that important. I shouldn't be making such a big deal out of it." Marriage is a long time.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 03:17 AM
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Sometimes hard to throw around a fatty. What about saying, "If you're just going to lay there I may as well tie you up." It adds mental kink without much energy expenditure. Being fat doesn't necessarily make a bad lover. In my college days I went hogging a few times and those girls were awesome in the sack. Just don't look too closely.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 03:06 AM
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I like this method of dealing with it also! The new position is a perfectly reasonable thing. She will make excuses like, "You know I don't like it that way." or "It's uncomfortable that way." Then when you quit unfinished it will send a strong message that what you want is good sex, not an orgasm.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 02:56 AM
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The main point of the roommate thing is for you to not chase down sex and not be resentful about sex. I recommend no porn masturbation either. That builds resentment. If she offers to have sex with you and you really feel the need to accept, then if you are outside of the bedroom tell her, "Yes let's do it right here (on the floor, counter, sofa)."
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 02:43 AM
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I think she gets it. Last time I was home we were in bed and she asked me, "Do women hit on you over there?" I responded, "I'm not interested in other women." Well then of course we had sex. I could see her brain going nuts into dread. After the sex she said, "You didn't actually answer me. Do women hit on you?" I responded, "Yeah." I really hesitate to mention any attraction from EG. I spend a lot of time with EG. She's my neighbor and we have dinner together nearly everyday. My wife asks more …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 07:06 PM
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No sex is better than bad sex. Roommate her for 30 solid days. Don't initiate sex, don't touch her sexually, don't talk about sex, and don't compliment her. Just do activities for you. Lift, jog, work, cook, knit or whatever you like to do. This is not a punishment for her! This is a period for you to self-reflect in abstinence. Smile and laugh often. If she asks about why you aren't seeking sex, only say "I figured I'd cool it for a while." Seriously try to talk as little as possible about your…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 06:59 PM
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This is why she wants the nose job. She has already hit the wall, her SMV is in decline and she feels it. If her nose was truly a deal killer she would have had it done in her teens. This is the hamster. And she won't pass you in SMV. Beware that cosmetic surgery right near the wall can be an addiction. First the nose. Then the eyelids. Regular botox wrinkle maintenance. None of it works because she can't stop aging. I appreciate natural older women who accept age gracefully and keep in shape.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 04:44 PM
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Her: You need a hobby. You: I agree. I've been thinking of taking up dating.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 04:33 PM
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I started reading Mastery yesterday and came to the same conclusion. I looked at the contents and thought, "What? Nothing about sex or relationships?" I then had the epiphany: self mastery and power are actually the important parts of this journey. The relationship tactics and dominance are secondary. I stopped reading it though because it felt heavy and I need to return to it with more of an open mind and more time for reflection. It's not the kind of book you read during a break. Same for the …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 04:29 PM
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I need to quit drinking so much. I drink only 2 nights per week. On the days I drink I tend to get hammered. I've been told I don't act weird or obnoxious. I revert to quietness and I remember everything. But it bothers me because I would like to be able to have just 1-2 glasses and make that last the entire evening (i.e. social drinking). I'll make a directed effort to practice moderated consumption as a social behavior. This actually fucked with my game management last night...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 10:27 AM
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I completely agree. Don't ever take physical action against a woman, especially your wife, unless your life truly depends on it. Everyone in your life and the courts will take her side. Early in my marriage (15+ years ago) my wife smacked my arm because of something I said. I told her basically what I recommended about self-defense. About 2 years later she did it again because of something I said. It never hurt of course. She did it almost as a reflex and I was shocked that I had been hit. I ask…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/15 11:59 AM
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Excellent frame management! I'm picturing her for the entire vacation with a head full of conflicted emotions. Meanwhile you went into the situation with understanding and resolve and you had a good time. It's tough in tight quarters with little ones to find time for sexual relations.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/15 06:07 AM
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Physical violence from the wife is unacceptable. Say with a straight face, completely stoic and non-angry, that violent physical aggression will be responded to with overpowering physical defense. There is no need to make a threat, just state that you have a right to self-defense. Children throw things when they are angry, so you must treat her like a child. I suggest you tell her to sleep in another room or if she refuses then you sleep elsewhere for a little while. If she asks why, tell her yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/15 06:02 AM
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I was on the fence about how to respond to a sex offer during a cool down period. I've read here that we should never turn down sex if she brings it to the table willingly I absolutely agree that turning down such an offer is good for dread. A "wife duty" sex offer is usually very low quality: no libido, no tingles, mostly starfishing and complaining. Bang her like you paid for it That's great advice!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/15 12:54 PM
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I thought the same thing. I thought the title should have had a [9] beside it!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/15 07:52 AM
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What I like best about this is your bullet list. I've been listing in my head the specific named strategies we use to consciously transition into the RP life and leadership role and I wanted document them. Having a list helps during reflection. My concern is... 6 weeks? I hope it stays positive for you. Like others have said, I expect there are landmines. And if that happens it's definitely your fault! This change is internal and her role is... well AWALT. I've worked on my transition for almost…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/15 07:49 AM
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You've got your stuff straight, good! If this happened to me, my father-in-law would be laughing at his daughter for fucking up. He doesn't take shit from anyone and he'd love the way you handled it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 02:48 PM
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You had a good strategy and results. My only concern is for the parents. It is important to maintain a good relationship with the parent-in-laws. I would be concerned they think you are either disrespecting them or disrespecting their daughter. How do you think they interpreted your departure?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 08:33 AM
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Thank you for your feedback. This sounds similar to what I see with my wife. Her moods are very stable. I assume any need for lube is more likely associated with age rather than the pill, but this isn't a problem since the lubrication process can be fun. It will be challenging to measure the desire level monthly within a small spectrum. As an analogy, without the pill it is like a week of food with 1 gram of salt and the next week with 2 grams of salt. With the pill it is like a month of food wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 08:17 AM
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I agree with vox_veritas. This is probably not an MRP issue. Your wife may have guilt issues regarding receiving gifts. If it is so important to you that she accepts your gift then you need to check yourself for approval seeking behavior. How exactly does she make you feel awful? Does she say or do anything to make you feel awful? Or do you feel awful because you feel guilty that the gift exchange isn't equal in value? Gift giving doesn't have to be equal. My advice is to let it go. If she won't…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 10:07 PM
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DREAD (always), but besides that: I keep hitting the same situation and keep getting it wrong You keep hitting this situation because you keep doing the same thing. Do a big game change for you: Roommate her for 30 solid days. Don't initiate sex, don't touch her sexually, don't talk about sex, don't get caught staring at her tits, don't boner-spoon her, don't compliment her appearance, and don't jerk off everyday. Just do activities for you. Lift, jog, work, cook, knit or whatever you like to do…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 09:41 PM
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My best friend my entire life has always been a complete asshole to people. I've always respected him for only caring about himself. He has a serious IDGAF attitude about what other people think. We live in different countries now so we usually communicate by email and hang out twice a year. He has been married almost 20 years. I started talking with him two weeks ago about RP philosophy. I never said RP. I just talked about concepts from the sidebar, hypergamy, AF/BB. I didn't use those terms, …
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